REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The Power Of Perspective, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO1

00:00:00.000 Hey guys, what's up? This is Andy Priscilla and you're listening to the MFCEO Project

00:00:13.300 podcast. 16 years ago, me and my business partner Chris started a company called Supplement

00:00:19.620 Superstores with $12,000 we earned from striping the stripes on parking lots and now we do

00:00:26.660 annually over $100 million a year in business. You're listening to the first episode of the

00:00:32.660 MFCEO Project and I started this podcast basically for three reasons. One, to mentor people who don't

00:00:39.240 have mentors. I feel like there's a lack of quality mentors out there and it's something I

00:00:43.600 want to do to give back. Two, I wanted to motivate people in a real authentic way. You're not going

00:00:48.520 to hear a bunch of Care Bear bullshit and rainbows and butterflies and cupcakes. You're going to hear 0.99

00:00:53.360 the reality of business, the reality of motivation and some of you aren't going to fucking like it. 0.96

00:00:58.060 So let's get that out of the way. And number three, I've got a passion for motivating and helping 0.81

00:01:02.520 people. You know, I've been very fortunate in my life. I've been surrounded by good people.

00:01:06.360 I'm very, very blessed in the way that my life goes and I want to give back as much as I can. So my

00:01:11.560 main motivation here is to help you guys realize what it takes to A, be successful, B, stay self-motivated

00:01:19.100 and see hopefully for you to give back to others as well. Joining me in the studio today is my co-host

00:01:24.080 and good friend, Vaughn Kohler. Say hi, Vaughn. Hey, everybody. Vaughn, why don't you tell them a

00:01:28.680 little bit about why you're here and how we met and how we became such good friends? All right. Well,

00:01:34.540 before I do that, I'm going to add a fourth reason that you're doing the podcast and that is because

00:01:39.240 a crap ton of people asked you to do it. And so we're sort of responding to that public outcry.

00:01:45.900 So that's always a good thing. I met Andy, gosh, it was almost two years ago. I was working as the

00:01:52.820 editor and writer of a St. Louis area men's magazine. It was more of like a GQ for the St.

00:02:00.020 Louis area. And I'll be honest with you, when I was assigned to write about him, I heard that he was

00:02:04.920 involved in the fitness industry and was this incredibly successful guy at, I don't know,

00:02:11.360 not even, I don't know how old I thought you were at the time, but I knew you were in your early 30s. 0.90

00:02:15.120 So I kind of made some assumptions that you were kind of a prick. 0.93

00:02:18.520 Yeah. Well, you're right about that. I mean, let's be honest. 0.90

00:02:21.500 Well, I just-

00:02:23.040 Key words being kind of.

00:02:23.920 Right, right. So I just thought I'd meet this guy and he'd be full of himself and yeah,

00:02:30.800 not very fun to interview. But I was wrong. We spent the first,

00:02:36.380 God, probably it was 20 minutes talking about, do you remember?

00:02:39.900 Yeah, Bulldogs, I think.

00:02:40.900 We were talking about Bulldogs, yeah. And actually it was kind of sad because I think you're-

00:02:45.100 My American Bulldog, Oscar, who I'd have for seven years is basically my little right-hand dude,

00:02:49.980 had just passed away.

00:02:51.280 Yeah.

00:02:51.620 So I was going through a real rough time.

00:02:53.320 Yeah. So I knew you were a good dude if you liked dogs.

00:02:57.580 But really, as I started asking you questions and learning more about your companies and what you'd achieved,

00:03:02.600 you told a story that, wow, it just was amazing. Compelling story. And it was something traumatic

00:03:11.140 that happened to you. And I think that, you know, as we thought about doing this podcast,

00:03:16.300 I thought, what a better way to start the whole MFCEO project than to tell your personal story

00:03:22.900 and kind of what you learned from that. And why don't we start with you telling that story?

00:03:27.580 You know, people that first meet me in person, oftentimes the first question that they have

00:03:35.280 that they might be afraid to ask is, what happened to your face? Because I've got several scars on my

00:03:41.040 face. I've got nerve damage in my face. And, you know, there was a time where I wouldn't tell people

00:03:46.300 what happened because I was embarrassed of it because I felt like they judged me. But so I would tell them

00:03:51.020 I got in a car accident or something like that, just quick and easy. But basically what happened was,

00:03:56.140 you know, I was coming home from a bar in Springfield, Missouri, 2003. I was walking home

00:04:04.860 with a good buddy of mine and a neighbor who's a friend of mine as well. And she's Mexican and she's 1.00

00:04:13.920 very dark. And we were walking home and this kid yelled out the window. And, you know, I'm just going

00:04:21.620 to say what he said. You know, he said, hey, you know, where'd you get your nigger girlfriend? And, you 1.00

00:04:27.560 know, I wasn't going to allow him to say that shit. And basically we ended up getting into a fight. He 1.00

00:04:34.340 pulled out a knife and he stabbed me in the face three times and in the back once. Looking back on it, I

00:04:40.060 mean, it was just, I handled it completely wrong. But the reality is, is, is I said, you know, hey,

00:04:45.420 I'm gonna call the cops. And he, um, I started to walk away, which is where I really screwed up.

00:04:52.240 And I was walking towards the rear of his car on the driver's side. And, um, I didn't hear him,

00:04:58.720 but he had got on out of his car and he came up behind me and stabbed me right in the side of,

00:05:02.880 uh, in the side of my face. And basically, um, at the last minute I heard him come behind me and I

00:05:09.340 turned my head to the right to where my chin was basically pinned to my shoulder. And instead of

00:05:14.200 stabbing me in the throat, he stabbed me right in the side of my jawbone. Um, and you know, I,

00:05:21.900 I didn't realize that I had been stabbed. I turned around and I punched him and we got in a fight and

00:05:26.840 I didn't still didn't realize that he was stabbing me. I thought he was punching me. And, uh, cause it

00:05:30.840 happened like so fast. I, there was a couple things that he had done prior to that. Um, one of them

00:05:35.640 beating a kid with a baseball bat like three weeks earlier and the cops didn't prosecute him. Um,

00:05:41.720 they were waiting to press charges. Had they pressed charges, you know, this whole thing

00:05:45.640 wouldn't have happened, but you know, that's all here or there. And, and, you know, uh, the good

00:05:50.980 thing was, is, is, you know, he stabbed me. And, uh, I, when I finally realized that, that,

00:05:57.440 that I was being stabbed, um, was I started choking on my own blood and because I was bleeding so much in

00:06:04.620 my face and I was trying to breathe, I was breathing it in. And, uh, so I like, I started choking on my

00:06:09.720 own blood and I fell down on the ground and I remember him looking at me and like the, his face, 0.99

00:06:16.160 like it was like, Holy fuck. Like I, like almost like he didn't realize what he just did and he ran. 0.99

00:06:21.360 But the good thing I was getting ready to say a second ago was that there was a cop. Um, his name

00:06:26.540 was Neil McCamus. I still remember his name. Uh, he's, he was actually became a pretty good buddy of

00:06:31.420 ours, of mine and Chris's, my business partner. Um, but I haven't seen him in a long time, but anyhow,

00:06:37.280 he, uh, he was watching the whole, uh, the whole thing unfold from like the next parking lot over.

00:06:45.380 So there was like a street in between where we were and you know, it happened so fast. There's

00:06:50.820 nothing he could have done, but he saw the whole thing. The guy got in his car, drove away. Uh, Neil

00:06:55.200 went and pulled him over. They got the knife and basically the case went to court. Um, you know,

00:07:01.520 because of everything, having that witness and everything. But, um, but yeah, man, you know,

00:07:06.540 I, I, I basically, I fell down on the curb. Uh, I started, I was breathing in my own blood,

00:07:11.220 you know, because the cop had seen what happened. The ambulance was on its way. Uh, when the ambulance

00:07:18.140 got there, you know, I was, I didn't realize how bad it was. Um, and I basically told him,

00:07:23.440 you know, that I didn't want service or, uh, I refused, uh, yeah, I refused attention. And you

00:07:30.960 know, then a couple of my buddies had walked up because I was literally right down the street

00:07:36.140 from where I worked and they're like, dude, you got to go. And, and, uh, my, my, I, the last thing I

00:07:42.800 remember is being in the ambulance cause blood was just pouring out. Um, and the last thing I remember

00:07:49.060 is being in the ambulance and, and, and the, the girl in the ambulance, like telling the driver

00:07:54.480 that she couldn't stop the bleeding and didn't know what to do. And then I fucking passed out. 0.98

00:07:58.380 So anyway, so I went to the hospital. Um, I ended up getting 160 stitches. Uh, most of them in my face, 0.98

00:08:05.980 um, ended up with total nerve damage on my left side, your right side. If you're looking at me,

00:08:12.760 uh, of my face where I, I really can't feel anything on that side of face. I can't move my face.

00:08:19.060 And, uh, you know, long story short, he ended up getting some prison time. Um, he got 40 years,

00:08:24.820 he got paroled after three. I remember going to Bass Pro and looking at shotguns and, uh, the,

00:08:31.060 the day or two after it happened and my face was swelled up like the size of a softball 1.00

00:08:34.780 and the guy in the gun store and Chris was with me, the guy in the gun store was a fucking asshole 1.00

00:08:40.800 and he wouldn't even talk to me. And when I did get him to talk to me, he was a fucking dick. 1.00

00:08:45.140 And, uh, and I still remember that and I couldn't, you know, I couldn't, I didn't really realize what 1.00

00:08:50.860 was going on. And then I started noticing it more and more. Like, you know, I go to the grocery store

00:08:55.860 and the, and the checkers wouldn't look me in the face or, uh, you know, I talked to somebody and

00:09:00.920 look at the ground and do what it was happening was people, people didn't want to look at me

00:09:05.600 because they felt like they were staring, you know, because dude, my face was swollen for six months

00:09:09.360 and the, you know, it doesn't look bad now until you get close and look at it. Like in pictures

00:09:16.400 and shit that people see on Instagram or whatever, Facebook, they don't really notice it. But when 0.97

00:09:20.700 you see me in person, it's pretty obvious that there's something going on. And, uh, you know,

00:09:25.620 I, I had to go through basically this like social rejection that I wasn't prepared for and nobody

00:09:32.200 really told me to expect. And, uh, you know, I went from being a normal dude and, uh, to being

00:09:39.420 somebody that like people didn't talk to. And I was in retail, man, I was talking to customers every

00:09:44.540 day on our first retail store and, you know, fuck every single person that came in that, you know, 0.95

00:09:50.500 most of them were pretty considerate and like said, man, dude, you know what happened? They ask it a 0.99

00:09:55.500 polite way. And then like some people were just rude and they say like, dude, what the fuck happened to 0.98

00:09:59.120 your face? And you know, that dude, it beat me up, man. You know, uh, I went through a lot of mental 0.99

00:10:08.780 shit. You know, I went through, uh, feeling really sorry for myself and thinking that my life was over, 0.98

00:10:14.400 you know, no girl's ever going to fucking want to date me. And, um, you know, and dude, because it 0.86

00:10:20.100 consequently, you know, I think that like actually pushed people away from me. So it was like a self

00:10:23.920 fulfilling prophecy, looking back. Um, and so I kind of isolated myself in that way. And, you know,

00:10:30.840 I, I started getting into drinking real hard. I started getting into smoking weed. Um, and, uh,

00:10:37.640 more than, more than I had in the past, I had, I kind of picked that habit up in high school and,

00:10:42.760 and, uh, you know, I didn't really grow out of it until I was about 25, but, um, I got to where I was

00:10:48.500 relying on things to make me feel better. And I, I, dude, I got depressed, man, you know, and I, I

00:10:54.820 didn't really have any goals. I didn't, it's the same story you hear from anybody who's gone through

00:10:58.100 something traumatic. Um, you know, we hear this from guys who have been in the military now, you

00:11:02.440 know, with their, their PTSD and things like that. Like, dude, it's, it's, uh, it's a fucking weird 0.83

00:11:08.080 thing because like you end up isolating yourself based off your own insecurities. It's not that other

00:11:13.100 people are judging you. It's that you're judging you more harshly than what they are. And so, um,

00:11:20.360 I was walking through the grocery store. This is like a year and a half after it happened. And,

00:11:23.960 and, you know, my face was still pretty bad. Uh, it took a long time to like really even actually

00:11:27.960 kind of look normal. Um, you know, and now clearly, you know, I've turned into the good

00:11:33.580 looking motherfucker that I am. But the reality is, is that, you know, I was down on myself, man. 0.97

00:11:38.580 And like, I, you know, I thought every day about killing myself. I mean, that's, that's really

00:11:41.880 the honest to God's truth. Uh, and, uh, you know, it took like there, I was very fortunate

00:11:49.380 and I feel that like this happened for a reason, but I was walking through a price cutter grocery

00:11:54.040 store and, um, I was like going through getting groceries and stuff. And I came to the end of an

00:12:01.300 aisle and I bumped somebody's cart coming around the other corner, like coming towards me in the

00:12:05.920 aisle. And I was like, you know, I didn't, when you're in the grocery store, I mean, how often do you

00:12:10.020 really look at somebody's face? You know, I was kind of like, Oh, sorry, blah, blah, blah. And I

00:12:13.780 looked up and, uh, it was like this, I couldn't really tell if it was like a man or a woman because

00:12:20.900 the, her face was burned so bad that like, I couldn't even see like, or tell if it was a man

00:12:28.100 or a woman. And I'm like, Oh, I'm so sorry. And I looked away, you know, um, the same shit that 0.99

00:12:35.220 had been happening to me. And she looks at me and she goes, man, what happened to your 0.98

00:12:39.720 face? And like, I remember like just dying laughing and like she was laughing and she

00:12:46.500 obviously got the fact that like people do that shit, you know, like, and, and, uh, and 0.99

00:12:54.200 we had a conversation for like 10 minutes, man, that honestly changed my whole life. Um, and 0.99

00:12:58.840 put things into perspective because here I have this, this woman who, who, um, she ended 1.00

00:13:04.620 up what she had been in was a plane crash. And, uh, um, she lived through the plane crash

00:13:10.380 when everybody else died. And, uh, it was like a small plane, like the four people died

00:13:15.180 and she lived and, um, she got burned beat, you know, terribly. And basically, you know,

00:13:21.600 she told me her story and we talked and she knew what I was going through. And we talked

00:13:26.760 about that and dude, I walked out of that store fucking cured. You know what I'm saying? 0.99

00:13:31.320 And that's whenever I, that's when I started taking business serious because I realized how

00:13:36.520 quickly things can change, you know? And I stopped saying, dude, you know, Oh, I got this

00:13:43.120 face and nobody fucking loves me and all this other bullshit that you tell yourself. And I 0.99

00:13:47.560 said, dude, you know what? Fuck this, you know, I'm fucking do this. And, and, uh, and, and 1.00

00:13:51.780 I did it and, and, and we're doing it. This whole thing is what's taught me that there's

00:13:55.660 always two sides to every coin. And, you know, the thing is now is like, that's how people

00:14:03.800 remember me. So I started figuring out that like, when I went to these trade shows, like

00:14:08.300 I go to the Arnold classic or the Olympia or these Europa shows, um, that I go to every

00:14:13.820 year, you know, when nobody really knew who we were, people remember me because they remember

00:14:17.560 me as like the dude with the scars on his face. And dude, that's, I mean, that's cool.

00:14:22.900 You know, uh, it's, it's something that, you know, I, I took that was a huge thing that most

00:14:29.080 people would, including me had that not happened to me would, would curl up in a ball and let life 0.98

00:14:34.000 just fucking destroy you. And I turn it into something that like, it's like a calling card 0.94

00:14:38.160 now. I mean, to the point where like, dude, I own a fucking Lamborghini and the life's place 0.99

00:14:41.540 has Scarface on it. That's how much I've accepted that as me. 0.99

00:14:46.480 Well, like I said, Andy, I, I, uh, don't like it that you got stabbed, but it's every

00:14:52.000 time I hear that story, it's just, it's awesome. And, uh, just the way you responded to it is

00:14:56.140 awesome. So one of the things that we talked about doing in the MFCEO project for the podcast

00:15:01.780 is not just telling really good stories that motivate people, but also giving people practical

00:15:07.140 takeaways.

00:15:08.200 Yeah. I mean, I feel like people, first off, I feel like it's necessary to realize that if

00:15:15.880 you really want to have an awesome life, if you really want to be successful, you have

00:15:19.420 to develop the perspective of finding the good. Now, I don't mean that in terms of, you

00:15:24.460 know, fairytale, fluffy, you know, uh, cottontail rabbit stuff. I mean, like, look, there's going

00:15:30.600 to be bad shit that happens. There's going to be things that happen to all of us. There's 0.99

00:15:33.440 going to be adversity. There's going to be things that we can't necessarily control. There's

00:15:37.940 going to be situations that are going to piss you off and frustrate you and really make 0.70

00:15:42.000 you want to quit. But the difference between people that are successful and people

00:15:45.860 that aren't successful in life are that the people that are successful, look at these

00:15:50.140 situations that cause tremendous amount of heartache, headache, and pain. And they find

00:15:55.460 the lessons in those situations and use them to their advantage. You know, the people who

00:15:59.760 fail, the people who end up sitting on a bar stool a Tuesday afternoon talking about how

00:16:04.280 great they could have been. Those are the people that look at everything that happens to

00:16:07.300 them. And they say, man, I got totally fucked. I got totally screwed by life. And that guy over 1.00

00:16:13.980 there who's doing well, he got lucky and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And you know,

00:16:18.040 the rest of the story because reality is, is that's what everybody tells.

00:16:21.540 Now, I know you don't feel this way. So I want to, I want to clarify something and you

00:16:25.400 can, you can flesh this out a little bit, but you're not saying that successful people

00:16:29.880 say, Oh, yay, I got stabbed. You're saying what?

00:16:33.940 No, you're going to be fucking upset at first, you know, but, but when those feelings start 0.97

00:16:37.880 to creep in and say, man, you know, this sucks, you've got to be able to say, okay, 0.96

00:16:42.940 and stop yourself and develop the ability to stop yourself at that time and say, okay,

00:16:48.780 well, what did I learn here? What did I learn about? I mean, and there's things that are

00:16:53.080 really, really hard to, to develop or come up with something that's good out of situations.

00:16:59.480 I mean, you know, when somebody dies or a car accident happens or, you know, people get 0.77

00:17:04.780 cancer there, I mean, there's fucking horrible things that happen. And, uh, you know, a lot 0.91

00:17:10.120 of times it's really hard to like develop the perspective to find good. And honestly,

00:17:14.040 there is some things that just are bad. Um, you know, you look at like, I mean, as an

00:17:22.140 example, I mean, one, one thing that, that I look at and I can never find anything good

00:17:26.500 is whenever you see these like sexual predators molesting children, right? I mean, what fucking 1.00

00:17:30.660 good can you, can you really come of that? I mean, those guys, you know, in my opinion, 0.99

00:17:35.400 deserve a fucking death penalty, like instantly, but, and there's bad shit, but the reality is, 1.00

00:17:40.940 is most of the stuff that happens to you, I would say 99, 98% of it, you can learn a lesson 1.00

00:17:46.880 from how to get better. Even when someone does pass away, you know, maybe that should treat,

00:17:51.620 teach you how to, how to treat the people that you love now and that you don't take for granted.

00:17:55.760 You know what I mean? I mean, I know I've had that happen to me before where things have,

00:17:59.040 you know, I wish I had done X, Y, and Z while they were here. You know, I mean,

00:18:03.640 there's a lot of lessons to be learned. And if you can develop the ability to instead,

00:18:08.440 um, you know, when, you know, when sales tank or when some, a sales strategy doesn't work out or 0.97

00:18:14.940 marketing strategy doesn't work out, I mean, that's minor shit. You should be able to bank 0.97

00:18:18.380 that shit and learn from it on a consistent basis. And, you know, successful people do that and, 1.00

00:18:23.820 and unsuccessful people go in the corner and cry and say, why me? Like a little bitch. 1.00

00:18:28.180 I do think it's interesting too, that, you know, you told the story and, and you did say it was 0.99

00:18:33.220 like a, what, at least a good year or two before you got over it. And so, right. And that's, you

00:18:38.620 know, some people have to go to therapists and all this other shit to like get over things. And the 0.95

00:18:44.120 reality is, is dude, it is what it is. And you've got to come to terms with it, you know, and the

00:18:48.820 sooner you can come to terms with it. And if that takes a year, sometimes it does take time. I mean,

00:18:53.080 that's the reality. But if you come to terms with it on your own and you say, all right,

00:18:56.600 this is what it is. And this is what I'm going to do now. That's a successful mindset. You know,

00:19:01.280 unsuccessful mindset is, well, that happened and it ruined my life. I can never be anything

00:19:06.440 because I fucking look like masks now. You know what I'm saying? I mean, dude, you know, 0.98

00:19:12.740 it all comes down to your perspective and it comes down to how you choose to see things. And the great

00:19:19.420 thing about developing that mindset is that when bad shit does happen, you don't get upset about it 0.98

00:19:25.460 anymore. So what happens is instead of getting pissed off and upset and crying about the bad 0.96

00:19:30.900 things that happen, you automatically look at those and say, all right, that happened. A, I'm not going

00:19:35.320 to do that again. And B, here's what I learned. And that's something that all successful people do

00:19:40.460 and all unsuccessful people do not do. So, you know, developing the strength to have the mindset

00:19:46.140 that of learning everything that you can from the setbacks that you have is a tremendous tool

00:19:51.620 and advantage that you have over other people. So, you know, you have to be able to find

00:19:56.900 the lessons and the things that really disturb you and the things that frustrate you and the

00:20:01.800 things that cause you pain, because those things are in your life for a reason. They're there to

00:20:06.080 teach you. That's what their purpose is. If, if you can learn from those things, you're better off

00:20:12.380 than 98% of the people. Cause most of the people out there are going to take that. They're going to

00:20:16.500 take a big kick in the balls and they're going to go sit in the corner and cry. And they're going to say, 0.99

00:20:20.000 why did you kick me in the balls? Well, dude, fucking life does that. That's the reality. 1.00

00:20:24.320 You get kicked in the balls. It's going to happen. Expect it. 1.00

00:20:28.320 Now you were talking about developing a strength for, for seeing the good, even when bad things

00:20:32.980 happen. And, and, and obviously you've talked about developing that ability, but I've, I've also

00:20:37.560 heard you say that really isn't about necessarily an ability, but as just making a choice. And I think

00:20:43.260 that's your second takeaway is, is, is that seeing this good in bad is really ultimately about

00:20:49.160 making a choice. Oh, absolutely. It's a, it's a conscious choice. You know, like what I just

00:20:53.800 said a minute ago, eventually it becomes an automatic, but when you first start that process,

00:20:59.560 you know, I had to have it pointed out to me like, Hey, here's the good things that could

00:21:04.180 happen from this. You know that when you have that pointed out to you at first, you know,

00:21:10.260 it's kind of like an epiphany. You're like, Oh, you know, yeah, that actually is a good point.

00:21:14.460 I think everybody's had that happen to them. You know, you're upset about something,

00:21:16.900 you go to a friend and your friend says, you know, well, at least you learn this and you're 0.99

00:21:23.660 like, fuck, I didn't think about it like that. So that's kind of how it starts. And that's 0.98

00:21:27.960 what I'm telling you. So whatever it is, it's frustrating you in your life, whatever it is,

00:21:31.700 you're having problems with whatever, what is that teaching you? What is it? What is that

00:21:36.040 there for? That's there for a reason to teach you a lesson that's going to help you progress

00:21:40.160 further, longer down the road. And that has to be understood. You know what I mean? And so you

00:21:44.960 have to decide that, Hey, all right, the X event has happened. It upset me. It hurt. It caused me a

00:21:51.260 lot of pain, but I'm going to choose to believe that that happened for a reason. And that reason

00:21:57.540 is to teach me so that I don't touch that hot stove again. Um, you know, basically adversity is

00:22:05.080 all in your life for a reason. It's to make you stronger. You know, people that are strong,

00:22:10.420 will get stronger from adversity. People that are weak will quit and that's it.

00:22:15.640 So, uh, you know, it's just the public speaker in me. So I'm going to recap a little bit of what

00:22:19.500 you're saying. So that you basically said the number one takeaway is successful people do this.

00:22:24.620 They, they find the good in the bad. That's, that's the first one. The second one is it's really not

00:22:30.160 ultimately about developing an ability or strength. It's about making that conscious choice to find the

00:22:35.100 good. What, what would be a third or fourth takeaway? Well, I think the, I think the third

00:22:39.500 takeaway is, is that, you know, once you develop that skill on a regular basis, it becomes automatic

00:22:45.020 and you become exponentially more powerful because it's not a, it's not a conscious decision anymore.

00:22:51.000 It's just what you are. You know, when bad things happen, you automatically say, all right,

00:22:55.120 I did this. You don't look at it as like some, like this act of, of God that is there to punish

00:22:59.880 you. You start looking at it as like, all right, good. I'm not going to make that mistake again.

00:23:03.700 And we can move forward. And instead of it costing me a thousand dollars today, like it did today.

00:23:08.720 You know, I'm glad it happened because it would cost me $10 million, 10 years from now,

00:23:12.680 you know, and that's what you have to look at. At least a business sense, life sense is the same

00:23:17.580 thing. You know, if you're having trouble with your girlfriend and you know, you're having

00:23:21.620 relationship issues or something and you're, let's say you're a young man and you know, you guys

00:23:28.160 don't get along and this and this and this and this dude, be lucky that you, instead of getting upset, 0.99

00:23:32.220 it didn't work out, be, be glad that you didn't fucking marry her. And it ends up costing you 0.99

00:23:36.200 half your shit when you're 30 years old and you're miserable, you know, or 40 or whatever. I mean, 1.00

00:23:41.340 you got to admit some of that is a product of getting older and learning that. I mean,

00:23:45.300 I'm ashamed to say I took almost seven years to get over a girl. 0.91

00:23:48.460 Dude, I think we've all been there. I mean, let's be real. I mean, whether guy or girl listening,

00:23:52.660 let's, let's be honest with ourselves. And none of us are, none of us are that Rico Suave where we

00:23:57.040 haven't been hurt pretty bad by a relationship situation.

00:23:59.660 But you know, it's kind of crazy because when you're in that situation, you just assume,

00:24:02.940 oh, there's no way that it's going to be better. And how dumb is that? 0.97

00:24:06.780 It's always better. 0.99

00:24:07.200 It's always better.

00:24:07.920 It's always better.

00:24:08.900 Yeah. No matter how bad you hurt and how much you think it's not going to be better next time,

00:24:14.060 it's always better the next time.

00:24:15.420 Right.

00:24:15.640 And that's, it's just the way the life works, man. You know why? Because you subconsciously learn

00:24:20.500 those lessons and you don't fucking go out with somebody like that again. 0.99

00:24:22.920 Right. 0.95

00:24:23.400 I mean, whether you want to admit it or not, you're just, as soon as that person starts showing

00:24:26.700 those characteristics, you're like, you're out next time. You're like, fuck that. 1.00

00:24:29.980 Yeah. So we're on the very first episode of the MFCEO project. You thought you were just 1.00

00:24:34.160 going to get great advice about entrepreneurialism and motivation, but you're also getting love

00:24:40.060 advice.

00:24:40.640 Oh, yeah.

00:24:41.480 Dr. Love, number one or two here.

00:24:43.160 Sure. So anything else you want to take inventory of the, of the quote unquote bad shit that's 0.99

00:24:48.180 happening to you right now. Take inventory of the things that you're frustrated about. And instead 0.97

00:24:52.320 of being frustrated, take a piece of paper out and write down physically, like, what can I learn

00:24:58.940 from this? What is the upside? And how can I use this to my advantage? And it changes your

00:25:03.620 perspective. Instead of being frustrated, now you're like, okay, it basically like takes a weight

00:25:08.780 off of your shoulder. So try doing that, see how it makes you feel. And when you're in a positive

00:25:13.460 mindset and you have that pressure off of you, it's a lot easier to do the things you need to do

00:25:16.480 because you're not dwelling on the negative.

00:25:18.060 Yeah.

00:25:18.300 You know?

00:25:18.640 I like it. That's your, that's your homework for the school of MFCEO. All right. Listen,

00:25:24.940 as we do the MFCEO project podcast, I know that Andy wants to hear from you. So if you have

00:25:29.140 questions for him, or if you want to give a shout out, follow him on Instagram at Andy Frisella.

00:25:34.880 That's F-R-I-S-E-L-L-A, Andy Frisella. And you can follow me if you want. I'm a whole lot less

00:25:41.280 interesting than Andy is. It's just at Vaughn Kohler. You can also visit our website, www.themfceo.com.

00:25:49.160 And there'll be a place where you can ask Andy questions.

00:25:51.700 Guys, bring me your questions. You know, I get asked a lot on Instagram. It's hard to respond there

00:25:56.560 because honestly, it just is a fucking pain in the ass typing on the phone. I'd rather answer your 0.99

00:26:01.640 questions here through the podcast. So if you have questions about, you know, your business,

00:26:06.560 different aspects of business, any, any aspects of how to perceive motivation or any, basically

00:26:13.460 anything, you know, just hit us up with an email and we'll try to get to it here on the show.

00:26:17.780 All right, guys, thanks for listening to the first episode of the MFCEO project. We're going to try

00:26:22.560 to bring you some fresh advice, none of this stuffy suit and tie stuff that you're going to get

00:26:28.340 anywhere else. Um, thanks for checking us out this first, first, uh, episode of the MFCEO project.

00:26:33.340 If you, uh, if you thought it was good, you know, tell your friends and then, uh, we'll talk to you

00:26:37.640 next time. See ya.

00:26:58.340 Bye.

00:26:59.340 Bye.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 09, 2015

The Power Of Perspective, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO1

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