The Power Of Perspective, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO1
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In the first episode of The MFCEO Project, Andy Priscilla and his co-host, Vaughn Kohler, talk about how they met, how they became best friends, and how Andy almost died in a car accident.
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Hey guys, what's up? This is Andy Priscilla and you're listening to the MFCEO Project
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podcast. 16 years ago, me and my business partner Chris started a company called Supplement
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Superstores with $12,000 we earned from striping the stripes on parking lots and now we do
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annually over $100 million a year in business. You're listening to the first episode of the
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MFCEO Project and I started this podcast basically for three reasons. One, to mentor people who don't
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have mentors. I feel like there's a lack of quality mentors out there and it's something I
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want to do to give back. Two, I wanted to motivate people in a real authentic way. You're not going
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to hear a bunch of Care Bear bullshit and rainbows and butterflies and cupcakes. You're going to hear
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the reality of business, the reality of motivation and some of you aren't going to fucking like it.
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So let's get that out of the way. And number three, I've got a passion for motivating and helping
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people. You know, I've been very fortunate in my life. I've been surrounded by good people.
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I'm very, very blessed in the way that my life goes and I want to give back as much as I can. So my
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main motivation here is to help you guys realize what it takes to A, be successful, B, stay self-motivated
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and see hopefully for you to give back to others as well. Joining me in the studio today is my co-host
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and good friend, Vaughn Kohler. Say hi, Vaughn. Hey, everybody. Vaughn, why don't you tell them a
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little bit about why you're here and how we met and how we became such good friends? All right. Well,
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before I do that, I'm going to add a fourth reason that you're doing the podcast and that is because
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a crap ton of people asked you to do it. And so we're sort of responding to that public outcry.
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So that's always a good thing. I met Andy, gosh, it was almost two years ago. I was working as the
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editor and writer of a St. Louis area men's magazine. It was more of like a GQ for the St.
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Louis area. And I'll be honest with you, when I was assigned to write about him, I heard that he was
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involved in the fitness industry and was this incredibly successful guy at, I don't know,
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not even, I don't know how old I thought you were at the time, but I knew you were in your early 30s.
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So I kind of made some assumptions that you were kind of a prick.
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Yeah. Well, you're right about that. I mean, let's be honest.
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Right, right. So I just thought I'd meet this guy and he'd be full of himself and yeah,
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not very fun to interview. But I was wrong. We spent the first,
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God, probably it was 20 minutes talking about, do you remember?
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We were talking about Bulldogs, yeah. And actually it was kind of sad because I think you're-
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My American Bulldog, Oscar, who I'd have for seven years is basically my little right-hand dude,
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Yeah. So I knew you were a good dude if you liked dogs.
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But really, as I started asking you questions and learning more about your companies and what you'd achieved,
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you told a story that, wow, it just was amazing. Compelling story. And it was something traumatic
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that happened to you. And I think that, you know, as we thought about doing this podcast,
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I thought, what a better way to start the whole MFCEO project than to tell your personal story
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and kind of what you learned from that. And why don't we start with you telling that story?
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You know, people that first meet me in person, oftentimes the first question that they have
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that they might be afraid to ask is, what happened to your face? Because I've got several scars on my
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face. I've got nerve damage in my face. And, you know, there was a time where I wouldn't tell people
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what happened because I was embarrassed of it because I felt like they judged me. But so I would tell them
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I got in a car accident or something like that, just quick and easy. But basically what happened was,
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you know, I was coming home from a bar in Springfield, Missouri, 2003. I was walking home
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with a good buddy of mine and a neighbor who's a friend of mine as well. And she's Mexican and she's
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very dark. And we were walking home and this kid yelled out the window. And, you know, I'm just going
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to say what he said. You know, he said, hey, you know, where'd you get your nigger girlfriend? And, you
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know, I wasn't going to allow him to say that shit. And basically we ended up getting into a fight. He
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pulled out a knife and he stabbed me in the face three times and in the back once. Looking back on it, I
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mean, it was just, I handled it completely wrong. But the reality is, is, is I said, you know, hey,
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I'm gonna call the cops. And he, um, I started to walk away, which is where I really screwed up.
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And I was walking towards the rear of his car on the driver's side. And, um, I didn't hear him,
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but he had got on out of his car and he came up behind me and stabbed me right in the side of,
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uh, in the side of my face. And basically, um, at the last minute I heard him come behind me and I
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turned my head to the right to where my chin was basically pinned to my shoulder. And instead of
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stabbing me in the throat, he stabbed me right in the side of my jawbone. Um, and you know, I,
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I didn't realize that I had been stabbed. I turned around and I punched him and we got in a fight and
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I didn't still didn't realize that he was stabbing me. I thought he was punching me. And, uh, cause it
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happened like so fast. I, there was a couple things that he had done prior to that. Um, one of them
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beating a kid with a baseball bat like three weeks earlier and the cops didn't prosecute him. Um,
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they were waiting to press charges. Had they pressed charges, you know, this whole thing
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wouldn't have happened, but you know, that's all here or there. And, and, you know, uh, the good
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thing was, is, is, you know, he stabbed me. And, uh, I, when I finally realized that, that,
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that I was being stabbed, um, was I started choking on my own blood and because I was bleeding so much in
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my face and I was trying to breathe, I was breathing it in. And, uh, so I like, I started choking on my
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own blood and I fell down on the ground and I remember him looking at me and like the, his face,
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like it was like, Holy fuck. Like I, like almost like he didn't realize what he just did and he ran.
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But the good thing I was getting ready to say a second ago was that there was a cop. Um, his name
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was Neil McCamus. I still remember his name. Uh, he's, he was actually became a pretty good buddy of
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ours, of mine and Chris's, my business partner. Um, but I haven't seen him in a long time, but anyhow,
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he, uh, he was watching the whole, uh, the whole thing unfold from like the next parking lot over.
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So there was like a street in between where we were and you know, it happened so fast. There's
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nothing he could have done, but he saw the whole thing. The guy got in his car, drove away. Uh, Neil
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went and pulled him over. They got the knife and basically the case went to court. Um, you know,
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because of everything, having that witness and everything. But, um, but yeah, man, you know,
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I, I, I basically, I fell down on the curb. Uh, I started, I was breathing in my own blood,
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you know, because the cop had seen what happened. The ambulance was on its way. Uh, when the ambulance
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got there, you know, I was, I didn't realize how bad it was. Um, and I basically told him,
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you know, that I didn't want service or, uh, I refused, uh, yeah, I refused attention. And you
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know, then a couple of my buddies had walked up because I was literally right down the street
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from where I worked and they're like, dude, you got to go. And, and, uh, my, my, I, the last thing I
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remember is being in the ambulance cause blood was just pouring out. Um, and the last thing I remember
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is being in the ambulance and, and, and the, the girl in the ambulance, like telling the driver
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that she couldn't stop the bleeding and didn't know what to do. And then I fucking passed out.
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So anyway, so I went to the hospital. Um, I ended up getting 160 stitches. Uh, most of them in my face,
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um, ended up with total nerve damage on my left side, your right side. If you're looking at me,
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uh, of my face where I, I really can't feel anything on that side of face. I can't move my face.
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And, uh, you know, long story short, he ended up getting some prison time. Um, he got 40 years,
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he got paroled after three. I remember going to Bass Pro and looking at shotguns and, uh, the,
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the day or two after it happened and my face was swelled up like the size of a softball
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and the guy in the gun store and Chris was with me, the guy in the gun store was a fucking asshole
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and he wouldn't even talk to me. And when I did get him to talk to me, he was a fucking dick.
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And, uh, and I still remember that and I couldn't, you know, I couldn't, I didn't really realize what
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was going on. And then I started noticing it more and more. Like, you know, I go to the grocery store
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and the, and the checkers wouldn't look me in the face or, uh, you know, I talked to somebody and
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look at the ground and do what it was happening was people, people didn't want to look at me
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because they felt like they were staring, you know, because dude, my face was swollen for six months
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and the, you know, it doesn't look bad now until you get close and look at it. Like in pictures
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and shit that people see on Instagram or whatever, Facebook, they don't really notice it. But when
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you see me in person, it's pretty obvious that there's something going on. And, uh, you know,
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I, I had to go through basically this like social rejection that I wasn't prepared for and nobody
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really told me to expect. And, uh, you know, I went from being a normal dude and, uh, to being
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somebody that like people didn't talk to. And I was in retail, man, I was talking to customers every
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day on our first retail store and, you know, fuck every single person that came in that, you know,
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most of them were pretty considerate and like said, man, dude, you know what happened? They ask it a
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polite way. And then like some people were just rude and they say like, dude, what the fuck happened to
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your face? And you know, that dude, it beat me up, man. You know, uh, I went through a lot of mental
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shit. You know, I went through, uh, feeling really sorry for myself and thinking that my life was over,
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you know, no girl's ever going to fucking want to date me. And, um, you know, and dude, because it
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consequently, you know, I think that like actually pushed people away from me. So it was like a self
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fulfilling prophecy, looking back. Um, and so I kind of isolated myself in that way. And, you know,
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I, I started getting into drinking real hard. I started getting into smoking weed. Um, and, uh,
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more than, more than I had in the past, I had, I kind of picked that habit up in high school and,
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and, uh, you know, I didn't really grow out of it until I was about 25, but, um, I got to where I was
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relying on things to make me feel better. And I, I, dude, I got depressed, man, you know, and I, I
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didn't really have any goals. I didn't, it's the same story you hear from anybody who's gone through
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something traumatic. Um, you know, we hear this from guys who have been in the military now, you
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know, with their, their PTSD and things like that. Like, dude, it's, it's, uh, it's a fucking weird
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thing because like you end up isolating yourself based off your own insecurities. It's not that other
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people are judging you. It's that you're judging you more harshly than what they are. And so, um,
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I was walking through the grocery store. This is like a year and a half after it happened. And,
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and, you know, my face was still pretty bad. Uh, it took a long time to like really even actually
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kind of look normal. Um, you know, and now clearly, you know, I've turned into the good
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looking motherfucker that I am. But the reality is, is that, you know, I was down on myself, man.
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And like, I, you know, I thought every day about killing myself. I mean, that's, that's really
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the honest to God's truth. Uh, and, uh, you know, it took like there, I was very fortunate
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and I feel that like this happened for a reason, but I was walking through a price cutter grocery
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store and, um, I was like going through getting groceries and stuff. And I came to the end of an
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aisle and I bumped somebody's cart coming around the other corner, like coming towards me in the
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aisle. And I was like, you know, I didn't, when you're in the grocery store, I mean, how often do you
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really look at somebody's face? You know, I was kind of like, Oh, sorry, blah, blah, blah. And I
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looked up and, uh, it was like this, I couldn't really tell if it was like a man or a woman because
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the, her face was burned so bad that like, I couldn't even see like, or tell if it was a man
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or a woman. And I'm like, Oh, I'm so sorry. And I looked away, you know, um, the same shit that
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had been happening to me. And she looks at me and she goes, man, what happened to your
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face? And like, I remember like just dying laughing and like she was laughing and she
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obviously got the fact that like people do that shit, you know, like, and, and, uh, and
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we had a conversation for like 10 minutes, man, that honestly changed my whole life. Um, and
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put things into perspective because here I have this, this woman who, who, um, she ended
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up what she had been in was a plane crash. And, uh, um, she lived through the plane crash
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when everybody else died. And, uh, it was like a small plane, like the four people died
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and she lived and, um, she got burned beat, you know, terribly. And basically, you know,
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she told me her story and we talked and she knew what I was going through. And we talked
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about that and dude, I walked out of that store fucking cured. You know what I'm saying?
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And that's whenever I, that's when I started taking business serious because I realized how
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quickly things can change, you know? And I stopped saying, dude, you know, Oh, I got this
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face and nobody fucking loves me and all this other bullshit that you tell yourself. And I
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said, dude, you know what? Fuck this, you know, I'm fucking do this. And, and, uh, and, and
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I did it and, and, and we're doing it. This whole thing is what's taught me that there's
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always two sides to every coin. And, you know, the thing is now is like, that's how people
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remember me. So I started figuring out that like, when I went to these trade shows, like
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I go to the Arnold classic or the Olympia or these Europa shows, um, that I go to every
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year, you know, when nobody really knew who we were, people remember me because they remember
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me as like the dude with the scars on his face. And dude, that's, I mean, that's cool.
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You know, uh, it's, it's something that, you know, I, I took that was a huge thing that most
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people would, including me had that not happened to me would, would curl up in a ball and let life
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just fucking destroy you. And I turn it into something that like, it's like a calling card
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now. I mean, to the point where like, dude, I own a fucking Lamborghini and the life's place
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has Scarface on it. That's how much I've accepted that as me.
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Well, like I said, Andy, I, I, uh, don't like it that you got stabbed, but it's every
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time I hear that story, it's just, it's awesome. And, uh, just the way you responded to it is
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awesome. So one of the things that we talked about doing in the MFCEO project for the podcast
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is not just telling really good stories that motivate people, but also giving people practical
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Yeah. I mean, I feel like people, first off, I feel like it's necessary to realize that if
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you really want to have an awesome life, if you really want to be successful, you have
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to develop the perspective of finding the good. Now, I don't mean that in terms of, you
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know, fairytale, fluffy, you know, uh, cottontail rabbit stuff. I mean, like, look, there's going
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to be bad shit that happens. There's going to be things that happen to all of us. There's
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going to be adversity. There's going to be things that we can't necessarily control. There's
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going to be situations that are going to piss you off and frustrate you and really make
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you want to quit. But the difference between people that are successful and people
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that aren't successful in life are that the people that are successful, look at these
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situations that cause tremendous amount of heartache, headache, and pain. And they find
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the lessons in those situations and use them to their advantage. You know, the people who
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fail, the people who end up sitting on a bar stool a Tuesday afternoon talking about how
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great they could have been. Those are the people that look at everything that happens to
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them. And they say, man, I got totally fucked. I got totally screwed by life. And that guy over
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there who's doing well, he got lucky and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And you know,
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the rest of the story because reality is, is that's what everybody tells.
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Now, I know you don't feel this way. So I want to, I want to clarify something and you
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can, you can flesh this out a little bit, but you're not saying that successful people
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say, Oh, yay, I got stabbed. You're saying what?
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No, you're going to be fucking upset at first, you know, but, but when those feelings start
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to creep in and say, man, you know, this sucks, you've got to be able to say, okay,
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and stop yourself and develop the ability to stop yourself at that time and say, okay,
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well, what did I learn here? What did I learn about? I mean, and there's things that are
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really, really hard to, to develop or come up with something that's good out of situations.
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I mean, you know, when somebody dies or a car accident happens or, you know, people get
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cancer there, I mean, there's fucking horrible things that happen. And, uh, you know, a lot
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of times it's really hard to like develop the perspective to find good. And honestly,
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there is some things that just are bad. Um, you know, you look at like, I mean, as an
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example, I mean, one, one thing that, that I look at and I can never find anything good
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is whenever you see these like sexual predators molesting children, right? I mean, what fucking
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good can you, can you really come of that? I mean, those guys, you know, in my opinion,
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deserve a fucking death penalty, like instantly, but, and there's bad shit, but the reality is,
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is most of the stuff that happens to you, I would say 99, 98% of it, you can learn a lesson
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from how to get better. Even when someone does pass away, you know, maybe that should treat,
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teach you how to, how to treat the people that you love now and that you don't take for granted.
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You know what I mean? I mean, I know I've had that happen to me before where things have,
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you know, I wish I had done X, Y, and Z while they were here. You know, I mean,
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there's a lot of lessons to be learned. And if you can develop the ability to instead,
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um, you know, when, you know, when sales tank or when some, a sales strategy doesn't work out or
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marketing strategy doesn't work out, I mean, that's minor shit. You should be able to bank
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that shit and learn from it on a consistent basis. And, you know, successful people do that and,
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and unsuccessful people go in the corner and cry and say, why me? Like a little bitch.
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I do think it's interesting too, that, you know, you told the story and, and you did say it was
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like a, what, at least a good year or two before you got over it. And so, right. And that's, you
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know, some people have to go to therapists and all this other shit to like get over things. And the
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reality is, is dude, it is what it is. And you've got to come to terms with it, you know, and the
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sooner you can come to terms with it. And if that takes a year, sometimes it does take time. I mean,
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that's the reality. But if you come to terms with it on your own and you say, all right,
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this is what it is. And this is what I'm going to do now. That's a successful mindset. You know,
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unsuccessful mindset is, well, that happened and it ruined my life. I can never be anything
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because I fucking look like masks now. You know what I'm saying? I mean, dude, you know,
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it all comes down to your perspective and it comes down to how you choose to see things. And the great
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thing about developing that mindset is that when bad shit does happen, you don't get upset about it
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anymore. So what happens is instead of getting pissed off and upset and crying about the bad
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things that happen, you automatically look at those and say, all right, that happened. A, I'm not going
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to do that again. And B, here's what I learned. And that's something that all successful people do
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and all unsuccessful people do not do. So, you know, developing the strength to have the mindset
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that of learning everything that you can from the setbacks that you have is a tremendous tool
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and advantage that you have over other people. So, you know, you have to be able to find
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the lessons and the things that really disturb you and the things that frustrate you and the
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things that cause you pain, because those things are in your life for a reason. They're there to
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teach you. That's what their purpose is. If, if you can learn from those things, you're better off
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than 98% of the people. Cause most of the people out there are going to take that. They're going to
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take a big kick in the balls and they're going to go sit in the corner and cry. And they're going to say,
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why did you kick me in the balls? Well, dude, fucking life does that. That's the reality.
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You get kicked in the balls. It's going to happen. Expect it.
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Now you were talking about developing a strength for, for seeing the good, even when bad things
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happen. And, and, and obviously you've talked about developing that ability, but I've, I've also
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heard you say that really isn't about necessarily an ability, but as just making a choice. And I think
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that's your second takeaway is, is, is that seeing this good in bad is really ultimately about
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making a choice. Oh, absolutely. It's a, it's a conscious choice. You know, like what I just
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said a minute ago, eventually it becomes an automatic, but when you first start that process,
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you know, I had to have it pointed out to me like, Hey, here's the good things that could
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happen from this. You know that when you have that pointed out to you at first, you know,
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it's kind of like an epiphany. You're like, Oh, you know, yeah, that actually is a good point.
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I think everybody's had that happen to them. You know, you're upset about something,
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you go to a friend and your friend says, you know, well, at least you learn this and you're
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like, fuck, I didn't think about it like that. So that's kind of how it starts. And that's
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what I'm telling you. So whatever it is, it's frustrating you in your life, whatever it is,
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you're having problems with whatever, what is that teaching you? What is it? What is that
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there for? That's there for a reason to teach you a lesson that's going to help you progress
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further, longer down the road. And that has to be understood. You know what I mean? And so you
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have to decide that, Hey, all right, the X event has happened. It upset me. It hurt. It caused me a
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lot of pain, but I'm going to choose to believe that that happened for a reason. And that reason
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is to teach me so that I don't touch that hot stove again. Um, you know, basically adversity is
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all in your life for a reason. It's to make you stronger. You know, people that are strong,
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will get stronger from adversity. People that are weak will quit and that's it.
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So, uh, you know, it's just the public speaker in me. So I'm going to recap a little bit of what
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you're saying. So that you basically said the number one takeaway is successful people do this.
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They, they find the good in the bad. That's, that's the first one. The second one is it's really not
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ultimately about developing an ability or strength. It's about making that conscious choice to find the
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good. What, what would be a third or fourth takeaway? Well, I think the, I think the third
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takeaway is, is that, you know, once you develop that skill on a regular basis, it becomes automatic
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and you become exponentially more powerful because it's not a, it's not a conscious decision anymore.
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It's just what you are. You know, when bad things happen, you automatically say, all right,
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I did this. You don't look at it as like some, like this act of, of God that is there to punish
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you. You start looking at it as like, all right, good. I'm not going to make that mistake again.
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And we can move forward. And instead of it costing me a thousand dollars today, like it did today.
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You know, I'm glad it happened because it would cost me $10 million, 10 years from now,
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you know, and that's what you have to look at. At least a business sense, life sense is the same
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thing. You know, if you're having trouble with your girlfriend and you know, you're having
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relationship issues or something and you're, let's say you're a young man and you know, you guys
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don't get along and this and this and this and this dude, be lucky that you, instead of getting upset,
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it didn't work out, be, be glad that you didn't fucking marry her. And it ends up costing you
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half your shit when you're 30 years old and you're miserable, you know, or 40 or whatever. I mean,
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you got to admit some of that is a product of getting older and learning that. I mean,
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I'm ashamed to say I took almost seven years to get over a girl.
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Dude, I think we've all been there. I mean, let's be real. I mean, whether guy or girl listening,
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let's, let's be honest with ourselves. And none of us are, none of us are that Rico Suave where we
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haven't been hurt pretty bad by a relationship situation.
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But you know, it's kind of crazy because when you're in that situation, you just assume,
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oh, there's no way that it's going to be better. And how dumb is that?
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Yeah. No matter how bad you hurt and how much you think it's not going to be better next time,
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And that's, it's just the way the life works, man. You know why? Because you subconsciously learn
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those lessons and you don't fucking go out with somebody like that again.
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I mean, whether you want to admit it or not, you're just, as soon as that person starts showing
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those characteristics, you're like, you're out next time. You're like, fuck that.
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Yeah. So we're on the very first episode of the MFCEO project. You thought you were just
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going to get great advice about entrepreneurialism and motivation, but you're also getting love
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Sure. So anything else you want to take inventory of the, of the quote unquote bad shit that's
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happening to you right now. Take inventory of the things that you're frustrated about. And instead
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of being frustrated, take a piece of paper out and write down physically, like, what can I learn
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from this? What is the upside? And how can I use this to my advantage? And it changes your
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perspective. Instead of being frustrated, now you're like, okay, it basically like takes a weight
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off of your shoulder. So try doing that, see how it makes you feel. And when you're in a positive
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mindset and you have that pressure off of you, it's a lot easier to do the things you need to do
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I like it. That's your, that's your homework for the school of MFCEO. All right. Listen,
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as we do the MFCEO project podcast, I know that Andy wants to hear from you. So if you have
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questions for him, or if you want to give a shout out, follow him on Instagram at Andy Frisella.
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That's F-R-I-S-E-L-L-A, Andy Frisella. And you can follow me if you want. I'm a whole lot less
00:25:41.280
interesting than Andy is. It's just at Vaughn Kohler. You can also visit our website, www.themfceo.com.
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And there'll be a place where you can ask Andy questions.
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Guys, bring me your questions. You know, I get asked a lot on Instagram. It's hard to respond there
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because honestly, it just is a fucking pain in the ass typing on the phone. I'd rather answer your
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questions here through the podcast. So if you have questions about, you know, your business,
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different aspects of business, any, any aspects of how to perceive motivation or any, basically
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anything, you know, just hit us up with an email and we'll try to get to it here on the show.
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All right, guys, thanks for listening to the first episode of the MFCEO project. We're going to try
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to bring you some fresh advice, none of this stuffy suit and tie stuff that you're going to get
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anywhere else. Um, thanks for checking us out this first, first, uh, episode of the MFCEO project.
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