The Skill of Leadership, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO157
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about how to become a great leader and a great manager of people, and why this skill is so rare and why it's so important to have it in your life. Being a good leader starts with setting an example, and it starts with showing people how shit should be done, because when you show people how it's done, they will naturally rise to that level of excellence, because they will also respect the shit out of you.
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what's up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
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motherfucking ceo guys as you know uh we've taken a few weeks off um it's been a busy time of year
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for me i had you know priorities here at work and in my actual companies that i actually run
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um you know believe it or not i don't just post shit on instagram and and uh motivational shit
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and then claim to be an entrepreneur i actually am an entrepreneur and the goal here guys is to
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help you become the entrepreneur of you to help you become the motherfucking ceo of your life
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all right that's why we started this that's why it's called a project i'm here to help you learn
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the skills that you are going to need to know and master to become great at any area of your life
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all right we kind of ride that fine line of business and also personal development and those things go
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hand in hand which is actually what i want to talk to you about today okay i know it's thursday thunder
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i know it's usually uh just straight motivation today but i want to talk to you about a very
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very very important skill and the reality of learning that skill okay the skill i'm going to talk to you
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about guys is the difference between being an average person who makes between 40 and 80 thousand dollars a
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year and then moving from that that earning bracket to the six-figure earning bracket or seven-figure
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earning bracket or beyond okay when you develop this skill you are essentially creating something
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within yourself that is going to allow you to progress it's very very difficult i would say it's the
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hardest skill to learn i would say it's also the skill that's going to take the longest to learn
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all right and that skill that i'm talking about right now guys is leadership that skill is the
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management of other people okay you could go out and you can run a business and you could have a
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storefront and you can you know maybe earn uh you know 70 80 90 thousand dollars a year by yourself
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you're going to work like a fucking dog but you could probably do it okay you could do that on the
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internet you could go out and you could figure out how to you know sell some products online do some
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amazon stores do some ebay stores do some different things you could create a company and you can make
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you know high sub 100 000 a year but guys that's not a lot of money okay it's just not you guys might
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think it is because you're not earning it right now but i promise you you are going to spend
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at whatever level you earn at and when you get to 100 you're going to feel just as broke as you feel
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now when you're not making anything because you're going to spend the money on dumb shit that's just the
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reality very few people understand how to manage money but that is a different subject the subject that
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we're going to talk about right now guys is how to become a leader and how to become an effective
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manager of people okay we've talked about this at length on previous podcasts but i just want to
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give you a short realization of why this skill is so rare and why it's so important okay guys to be a
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great leader to be a great manager of people it starts with you you have to execute at 100 percent
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levels all the time your people the people who you have underneath you that are helping you scale
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and grow your business they are going to judge you on your weakest moment they aren't going to judge you
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on the 98 times you did something perfect they're going to judge you on the two times you took the play
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off they're going to look at that two times they took the play off and they're going to say well that's
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the level i need to execute at and so the level of execution is going to naturally dilute because
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they are going to judge you on what your weakest moment is all right guys being a great leader starts
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with setting an example vince lombardi said it best i can't say it any better nobody else can say it any
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better he said leading by example isn't the best way to lead it's the only way to lead and that is the
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truth okay so you have to start with yourself if you want to become a great leader if you want to
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become a great manager of people it's not about sitting behind your desk with your feet up pointing
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fingers telling people how shit should be done it's about getting off your ass and showing people how
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it's done there's a big difference because when you show people how it's done and you show people how to
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do it consistently and effectively over the course of time they will naturally rise to that level they
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will also respect the shit out of you because they understand that you know what it takes but i see far
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too many people out there guys looking at leadership as if it's some sort of thing that is optional and i
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guess it is optional if you want to be broke your whole life and feel like shit and not move up in your
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company but when you are within an organization and you want to set yourself apart from everybody else
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becoming a great leader and great manager of people is the number one skill that can set you above
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and have you earning more money the quicker that you master it now how do you master it well the best way
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to master leadership guys and becoming a great manager of people is by doing it all right so you
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might not have anybody behind you right now you might not have anybody to manage right now you might
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not you might be on the same level as everybody else you might the bottom level that doesn't mean you
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can't be a leader you don't have to have permission to be a leader or a manager you just have to take
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control you have to be the person who comes in who rises above everybody else's bullshit who sets
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the standard for performance and shows every single person in the organization how much further you're
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willing to go to contribute to doing excellent at everything that you do nobody does that it's super
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rare and it's super valuable but the reality is most people won't put the effort in they'll they'll do
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what they did in high school and junior high and grade school you know when when uh they want to sit
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with the cool kids in the back of the class because uh you know it's cool instead of actually learning
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what needs to happen or getting up in front of the class and showing them how to do the math problem
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or leading by you know getting smarter and getting good grades they want to sit with the cool kids and
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that's why most of the cool kids end up being pieces of shit their whole life think about that
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this is not something that you can passively think about it's something that you need to take absolute
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control over you need to go to amazon you need to buy every fucking leadership book that you can
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you need to you need to read every single management book that you can you need to take notes on all those
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books and you need to take control of the situation you are in right now you might have 10 other people
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that are on your level that doesn't mean you can't be the leader we all know people who walk
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in are natural leaders why are they natural leaders because they don't give a fuck what anybody else
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thinks and they come in and they do their shit and they do it better than everybody else and everybody
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else says yeah that's the guy and guess what the guy gets he gets opportunity he gets bigger paycheck
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he gets to move up he gets to build a career he gets a better car he gets a better house he gets a
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better fucking life than everybody else and that all starts with learning how to be a leader and
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learning how to be a great manager of people but guys this is not a skill that anybody's going to
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come teach you this is not a skill that anybody has the time to come teach you i don't have the time to
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sit with my employees and go through step by step by step by step by step on how to become an awesome
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manager of people i just don't it's up to you to take responsibility for your own personal development
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to go out there and do the homework to become a fucking expert on the subject and guys when i say
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go to amazon and read every fucking book don't email me and say what books do you recommend i just told you
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read every fucking book get all the books that you can't afford on leadership and all the books that
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you can't afford on management and even if you can't afford them put them on your fucking credit
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card and then read the motherfuckers because you know what that credit card debt will pay off tenfold
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the quicker you master that skill you know what put yourself in debt to learn this skill because it
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creates leverage on you to actually follow through i can't stress this enough guys everybody is always
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emailing me asking me the same shit how do i stand out what's the biggest thing i need to concentrate
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on is it learning this or is it learning that or is it learning this i'm giving you the answer right
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now learn to be a fucking great manager learn to be a great leader and if you do those two things and
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you concentrate on those two things and you take responsibility for becoming a fucking expert
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at those two things you will write your own checks for the rest of your life and that matter that's even
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if you're in an organization if you have somebody who is an awesome leader who is an awesome manager of
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people and they come to you and they are your best fucking person and they come to you and they say
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hey andy you know what i need to get paid more man i got i got this coming up i got that coming up i've been
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working as hard as i can you know that i did this this this and this you know i feel like i'm
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contributing here here and here let's let's figure out something here on the pay on the compensation
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side you know what i'm gonna say i'm gonna say absolutely brother let's fucking talk about that
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because i can't lose that guy he's a true asset to the company he's somebody that i cannot afford to
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lose and too many of you guys who are in an employment situation don't understand that you are the one
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that's actually in control of your of your compensation not your company you are the one
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that has to go around and try to figure out how to stand out how to contribute how to add value you are
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the person who has to take responsibility for doing that and then you leverage the company against those
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skills you don't wait you don't put in your 20 years or your 10 years or your 15 years or whatever
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you think it is you go out and you become great at leading and managing people and and whatever
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skills you develop and like i know a lot of you guys right now you're saying well i don't want to
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be a manager of people well i'm gonna tell you right now if you don't learn how to effectively manage
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people your income will always be limited and it will likely be limited between the 40 and 60
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thousand dollar range forever so if you if you don't want to learn those skills expect to make that the
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rest of your life even in high paying sales jobs it's not one guy who's selling it's one guy who's
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selling and training other people to go sell on his behalf whatever excuse you think it is whatever
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thing you're coming up with in your brain to say well i don't need to learn that skill you're fucking wrong
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you need to learn the skill you need to become a master at it and if you become a master of it
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you will write your own checks i guarantee it but guys nobody's going to teach it to you
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nobody's going to come to you and say hey let me sit down with you for 200 hours and go through all
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the shit that i know about leadership and management you're going to have to take it upon yourself
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and a lot of you guys are thinking well i'm not a natural born leader well good neither was i
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i wasn't either i wasn't always the captain of my fucking sports teams i wasn't always the leader
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i wasn't always the guy that got up and said hey we need to do this this and this and this
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i learned that shit i'm an introvert believe it or not i don't like fucking talking in front of people
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believe it or not those are skills i had to learn those are things that dude i got a d in public
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speaking in college i wasn't naturally a good speaker i wasn't i wasn't just you know put up on
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stage with the biggest names in the fucking world one day because i was you know i practiced that
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shit i learned that shit i read about that shit i educated myself on that shit and guys the great
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thing about right now is that we've never had more time to to and more ability to educate ourselves on
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the skills that actually matter you know a management course in business is fucking bullshit in college
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okay but you can go read five or six seven eight books and probably go teach the motherfucking
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teacher how to be a manager quit relying on other people to dictate you what your skill set is going
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to be that's the bottom line start taking responsibility take control become the guy who is the guy
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that everybody points at and says that's the fucking guy and guys you take control of your life
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because if you don't take control of your life and you don't take control of your income even if
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you're inside of a of another company and i'm not talking about going and starting your own business
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because that's not for everybody that's only for seven percent of the people by statistic
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seven percent of the people are entrepreneurs 93 percent of the people are people who work for other
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people that means 93 percent of you so i'm giving you the fucking tools to become valuable and high
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paid in your organization become a great leader become a great manager take it fucking serious
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and you will be invaluable to wherever you are for the rest of your life
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quit putting it on anybody else quit looking for anybody to teach you
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quit asking people to hold your fucking hand and take it fucking serious