REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Two Things You Can Do Right Now To Be Happier and More Successful, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO267

00:00:00.360 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:04.860 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.420 What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am the

00:00:18.900 motherfucking CEO. Guys, today is Thursday Thunder and I'm happy to be back from Russia. 0.99

00:00:26.060 From those of you that were following me on Instagram stories and thought I was in Russia

00:00:30.160 because I told you I was in Russia. But the truth is I was actually in Denver. And you're

00:00:36.880 probably wondering why the fuck I said I was in Russia. Well, I just like to fuck with people 1.00

00:00:41.400 sometimes. And I took off and I posted when I was taking off on my story. And then I posted 0.99

00:00:48.200 like two hours later landing at Denver where there was snow. And I got like 30 DMs from

00:00:56.600 people saying, dude, where is that? Russia? And I'm like, what the fuck? How the fuck do

00:01:01.220 you get in Russia for two fucking hours on the plane? So I decided that this would be a good 1.00

00:01:06.480 time to just fuck with everybody. So I pretended for a couple of days that I was in Russia, which 0.99

00:01:11.700 I wasn't. But I will say this. I did enjoy my time in Denver. What a beautiful city that

00:01:18.600 is. 300 plus days of sunshine a year. I had a great time. I did some business, got to see

00:01:28.460 a little bit of the city, see a little bit of the mountains. But it was awesome, man.

00:01:32.820 You guys in Denver, you guys are truly, truly blessed to live in a city like that.

00:01:38.040 Now, with that being said, something happened when I was in Denver that really, it happens

00:01:46.780 a lot, but this really stuck with me. I was having a conversation at the hotel I was at

00:01:53.280 with one of the guys who was a bellhop at the door. Really cool dude. He was there every

00:01:59.780 day I was there and we had a little conversation. And we finally, on the last day that I was there,

00:02:06.480 he's like, well, what do you do? And I told him what I did. And he told me about a little

00:02:13.940 bit about what he did. And then he told me he had a podcast and was, you know, doing all

00:02:20.680 these things. I'm like, oh, dude, I have a podcast too. And he's like, oh, really? Which

00:02:25.180 is it? And I told him about it and he looked it up and he was like, holy shit, man. You're 0.99

00:02:28.460 like the number one business podcast, which by the way, thank you guys for making us the number

00:02:33.760 one business podcast. That was pretty cool. But he was blown away. And he, we started

00:02:41.040 talking and he started telling me how, you know, man, I wish I could get my podcast up

00:02:45.140 there. You know, you must be just really good and really talented at speaking. I struggle

00:02:49.460 with this and I struggle. And we had this conversation and it was short, but it got me thinking. And

00:02:54.540 what I started thinking about was this, you know, one of the biggest things that I've struggled

00:03:01.800 with over the course of my life. And it's, it doesn't matter where I was. Um, and I want

00:03:08.220 to say this because I want you guys to understand that this isn't just you, it's all of us. But

00:03:14.260 one of the biggest things that I've struggled with, no matter if I was in the beginning of

00:03:19.520 business, if I was, you know, playing sports in high school, if I was, uh, you know, where

00:03:24.640 I'm at now, it doesn't matter. I've still always felt this way and it can serve you, but

00:03:30.480 it can also hurt you. Um, and I'll explain that here in a second, but here's the thing,

00:03:35.600 all of us, no matter who you are, we all on the inside have that little voice that tells

00:03:44.060 us that everyone else is more talented, that everyone else is more gifted, that everyone

00:03:51.480 else is smarter and more capable than we are. And we're, we're very good at justifying

00:03:59.260 that as truth because we look at people who have massive success, whether that be, you

00:04:06.060 know, monetary success or, you know, they've got a top podcast or whatever they've, whatever

00:04:11.140 they are good at. We just look at these people and we think, man, they've got some shit that 0.99

00:04:16.000 I don't have. And I do that too. I do that. I still do it. I still do it. And that I think 1.00

00:04:22.920 it serves me. I know it serves me at this point in my life because I have gotten pretty

00:04:27.420 good. So I still assume I'm not very good, which keeps me hungry. But in the beginning,

00:04:32.520 when you're not successful, having that voice and not understanding that it's normal to have

00:04:39.720 that voice is very detrimental to success. And it's something that I think a lot of you

00:04:45.760 guys really struggle with. You struggle with your own dialogue internally with how you relate

00:04:54.440 to other people, because we're constantly measuring ourselves against other people, whether it's

00:04:59.640 right or wrong. I happen to think it's very right, but you know, all the, you know, it's

00:05:05.600 popular now to say that that's not okay. Don't compare yourself to anyone but yourself. Come

00:05:11.660 on, dude. That's like, fuck. That might be true once you get to a certain level, but in 1.00

00:05:17.740 the beginning, guess what? A very good indicator of how you're doing at life is to look around

00:05:22.260 and fucking see what everybody else is doing. That's just the truth. Okay. This shit is competition. 0.99

00:05:27.140 All right. And eventually when you develop some skills and you get better and you get stronger 1.00

00:05:32.620 and you get smarter and you get more skills, yes, you can start to evaluate yourself, um,

00:05:39.860 more mostly against yourself. And that's, that's true. I mean, that's where I'm at in life right

00:05:45.080 now. Like I don't really look at other people and think like, Oh, you know, I'm going to compete

00:05:48.860 against that person as much as I did when I was younger. Now I just think like, dude, am I getting

00:05:53.400 better or am I staying the same and getting worse? Uh, and by the way, staying the same and getting

00:05:58.680 worse are the same thing because we're on a moving scale. And if you're not getting better,

00:06:02.620 you are getting worse. All right. So I always, you know, try to maintain, um, a very honest

00:06:08.100 look at myself and I know when I'm not moving forward and I know when I am moving forward,

00:06:12.780 but the thing that, you know, in the beginning, the truth is, is like, dude, you, it's, it's

00:06:19.700 a very honest, true measuring stick to compare yourself against your peers. And, you know, for

00:06:26.660 people to say that, you know, you shouldn't do that. I just don't buy into that stuff. Um, I

00:06:31.420 think a lot of people, and I know you guys know this too. A lot of the things that are

00:06:34.900 said out there right now are said to make you feel good. And the truth is you shouldn't

00:06:39.020 feel good until you earn feeling good. Um, but that's neither here nor there really.

00:06:43.900 The truth of this is this, you have to quit selling yourself short and you have to quit

00:06:48.560 looking at everybody else and saying, man, that guy's got more skills than me, more talent

00:06:52.480 than me, more opportunity than me, because we can do that our whole lives. Cause there's no

00:06:59.420 actual way to measure that shit. Right? So, you know, unless we're doing a physical sport 1.00

00:07:05.400 where like this dude can run a 40 and four, three, and you know, you're never going to

00:07:10.100 break five seconds. That's just a fucking fact. Uh, that guy's got more talent than you, 0.99

00:07:14.900 but the, but the truth is he probably worked a lot harder to get that too. In most cases.

00:07:19.260 Um, but we as a society, cause I was talking to this dude and he was smart, like real smart.

00:07:26.940 I could tell he was smart and he had good charisma, good energy. Like one of those people

00:07:30.820 that you instantly liked. And, um, I could tell he had it, but he didn't believe he had

00:07:38.320 it because he's looking at other people who have done what he's trying to do and he's

00:07:42.000 discounting his own abilities. And guys, that is such a dangerous trap to fall into. You

00:07:47.100 know, humility is a great thing, but not when it's like to the point where you're telling

00:07:52.440 yourself, you don't have what it takes. The rest of the world is going to tell you, you

00:07:57.140 don't have what it takes. You don't have to tell yourself that too. And quite honestly,

00:08:01.420 it's just not true. You guys don't truly understand how close many, many, many times

00:08:09.860 I was to just being a regular dude out there working construction. And by the way, if that's

00:08:15.660 you total respect, dude, because that's, that's real shit. I appreciate people that work, uh, 0.96

00:08:21.540 for a living like that, but I'm using it as a contrast to where I'm at now. And guys,

00:08:26.700 there were so many times where things, you know, I could have made a decision to go this

00:08:30.920 way and I could have made a decision to do, to not do these things or to just quit. And

00:08:36.360 I would have been that. And you guys would never fucking hear from me. Right. And that's, 0.99

00:08:40.780 that's the difference. You know, a lot of people look at like an average person and they

00:08:46.240 look at people who have massive success and they think there's these huge oceans of disparity

00:08:52.420 when it comes to skills and talents and smarts. And there's not, it's a few decisions that you're

00:08:59.700 going to make. It comes down to a very few decisions, decisions when you're, you're in the decision

00:09:05.420 usually is you telling yourself, you know what? I don't think I have what it takes to be a public

00:09:13.060 speaker. And, you know, and then your other, you agrees with it and you could have ended up being

00:09:18.820 the greatest public speaker that ever lived. Okay. I don't know what it, I don't think I have what it

00:09:24.180 takes to build a multimillion dollar business. And then you agree with it. And then you decide to

00:09:30.580 just, you know, go work at McDonald's and guys, that's the difference. It's these little bitty,

00:09:36.440 tiny decisions that come down to an argument with our internal self that ultimately decide what

00:09:42.760 path we're going to be on. And the thing you guys have to understand is that the best people in

00:09:48.580 the world, the best people in the world still have this. They still look around, they still look at

00:09:56.940 other people and they think, man, that guy really has a gift, you know? And I think it's, I think

00:10:02.700 it's interesting because the truly, truly high level successful people all do this shit and the 0.99

00:10:09.360 pretenders, the pretend successful people think they're the fucking best. Okay. And that's why 0.99

00:10:14.120 they never get any better. All right. So guys, when you think about yourself and you, and you look at

00:10:18.820 other people, you cannot look at them and say, he's more talented. He's more gifted. He's smarter.

00:10:24.520 He's more capable. You have to look at them and understand that maybe that guy is just making better

00:10:30.140 decisions with himself. Maybe that person is just not listening to that inner voice. Maybe that person

00:10:36.020 is just not letting that inner voice take them down a notch, so to speak, and put them where everybody

00:10:43.060 else is. Okay. And this goes hand in hand with another thing that has affected me my whole life

00:10:48.340 and I've struggled with is this guys, a huge mistake that you're going to make is assuming that everyone

00:10:55.040 else thinks like you think. I see this all the time, especially with leaders, leaders when they're

00:11:02.580 running a company, oftentimes lead by what they think, not by how their individual employees

00:11:09.240 think. And I'm going to tell you right now, if you want to be successful at a much, much, much faster

00:11:17.300 rate, you need to realize right now that there are people that think really an innumerable amount of

00:11:24.760 different ways than you. And most of your employees, I bet you probably have one employee, maybe that kind of

00:11:32.240 things like you, but you've been running your company. You've been conducting yourself as a

00:11:37.040 manager. You've been conducting yourself as a leader, as if all of them understand the same shit 0.99

00:11:42.200 that you see. And we all see the world from a different worldview. We all grew up in different 0.99

00:11:48.920 circumstances. We all had different experiences happen. We all respond to different kinds of

00:11:54.460 conversation or stimulus. Okay. And to be successful in business, you don't have to be an expert at

00:12:02.800 communicating in all these different ways. You can get miles and miles and miles and miles ahead

00:12:08.760 of your competition by just understanding this. Not everybody thinks the way you think and understanding

00:12:16.800 it about your customers and also understanding it about your employees. Okay. So you need to really,

00:12:23.460 I mean, dude, I'm telling you, you are miles ahead of everybody else by just accepting that one point.

00:12:29.620 I think I just figured that out maybe like two, three years ago. Okay. So I'm still trying to figure

00:12:37.080 out as a leader, how to communicate as a marketer, how to communicate to my customers in ways that matter

00:12:45.120 to them in ways that they respond to. And this goes for your employees and your customers. And guys,

00:12:50.260 I'm going to tell you right now, the biggest mistake that's going to hold you back in business

00:12:54.040 is going to be to assume that everybody thinks just like you. This is why when you go to the

00:12:59.280 fucking mall or you go to the grocery store and you see some dumb ass going down the wrong way, 1.00

00:13:04.880 you know, like, dude, when you go down the fucking grocery aisle, I'm sorry. To me, 1.00

00:13:08.740 it's just like traffic. If you're going, if you're going the right, you stay to the right.

00:13:12.600 All right. And maybe if you're on one of the other countries where they drive on the left,

00:13:16.580 you drive down the fucking aisle on the left. And then I always go to the grocery store and I see 0.98

00:13:21.180 someone coming down the aisle the wrong way. And I'm looking at him like, dude, you must be the

00:13:25.520 dumbest motherfucker on the face of the earth. That's what I think. And then I stopped myself 1.00

00:13:29.920 and I'm like, maybe this dude's from Europe. I don't fucking know. But the point is, is that 0.98

00:13:35.940 your life will not, you will not only become a better leader, you will become a happier person by

00:13:40.480 just understanding and accepting that people don't think like you. And if you're in marketing,

00:13:45.440 this is a must understand if you want to break into the eight, nine figure range. I mean, dude,

00:13:50.720 you can do seven figures marketing to people that think just like you. Okay. But if you want to

00:13:55.840 build a big brand, you want to build a big company, which I hope you do, you're going to have to

00:14:00.260 understand and attract people from all different kinds of communications. So here's the thing, guys,

00:14:07.000 I'm just offering you these two bits here on Thursday. And it's not, it wasn't even really

00:14:11.120 thunder. This is like more like Thursday thoughts. We'll just call it that. But here's the deal.

00:14:15.720 One, stop selling yourself short on everybody, you know, having things in more abundance than you.

00:14:23.280 It's just not true. It's a cop out. You know, it's a cop out and you need to catch yourself when

00:14:28.360 you're telling yourself that. Two, and by the way, here's a, here's a pro tip on that. When you do

00:14:33.500 that, when you look at someone and you say, fuck dude, I really appreciate this about them and they're 0.99

00:14:37.520 so good and I don't have this. What do you think you should do? I would automatically go do something 0.99

00:14:44.440 that would improve that skill at that moment. Like maybe you meet somebody who knows a lot

00:14:50.220 about, you know, something you're interested in. You're like, Oh, that guy's so smart about

00:14:54.400 that. Well, or maybe the motherfucker just read a little bit about it. So what did you do? 1.00

00:14:58.320 Go into Google and start reading about that and up your game in that level. Okay. And you can do

00:15:02.100 this with anything. Um, but for the first thing is quit thinking that everybody, uh, you know,

00:15:10.280 has more than you cause they fucking don't. Every single person out there that is massively 0.94

00:15:17.940 successful still doubts their skillset at some point. And honestly, as you become successful,

00:15:22.860 it starts to serve you. But when you're younger and you're in the entrepreneurship journey,

00:15:26.220 it's going to hurt you. Okay. So you need to understand that your skills are, um, assets

00:15:32.460 that you can develop just like other people have developed them. All right. Just got to put in

00:15:37.900 the work. You can't tell yourself, Oh, I don't have that. And then just fucking quit. That's how

00:15:42.320 everybody ends up in a place they don't want to be. All right. And two, the other thing is,

00:15:46.920 is quit assuming that everybody thinks like you quit assuming that everybody sees things the way you

00:15:51.640 see them. And you know what, when people, you know, say things online or say things to you that

00:15:57.180 you don't agree with, you don't have to fucking argue with them. That's a good opportunity for you 0.96

00:16:01.080 to train yourself and say, Hey, you know what? That person clearly grew up in a different way,

00:16:06.360 had developed a different worldview than I do. And maybe try to understand it a little bit,

00:16:11.600 because when you start to understand where other people are coming from, it makes it a lot easier to 0.99

00:16:16.040 manage, be, be happy and see sell shit to them. Okay. So that's that. All right. One, 0.99

00:16:24.640 you have enough shit. You have enough skills. You have enough ability. You have enough 1.00

00:16:28.260 of everything you need. You just got to develop those things. And to learn to be patient and listen

00:16:35.260 and understand different worldviews. It's going to make your life better. It's going to make you

00:16:39.340 happier. It's going to make you stronger and it's going to make you more money.

00:16:46.040 I'm sorry.

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 18, 2018

Two Things You Can Do Right Now To Be Happier and More Successful, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO267

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