REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 03, 2018


Two Things You Can Do Right Now To Be Happy, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO250


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

171.11914

Word Count

1,896

Sentence Count

173

Misogynist Sentences

2

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary

In this episode of the MFCEO Project, we talk about how to be truly happy and how to get there. We talk about the importance of being happy in all areas of your life, whether that be your business, your career, your personal relationships, your fitness, or your personal life.


Transcript

00:00:00.380 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.600 What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO.
00:00:19.640 Guys, today is Friday fire and I've got a good Friday message for you about how to be truly happy.
00:00:27.800 Not how all the gurus and fluffballs and fucking weirdos out there tell you to be happy.
00:00:32.680 I'm going to tell you how to be really happy. But before I get to that, if this is your first time listening, welcome.
00:00:39.840 This is an entrepreneurship podcast. Yes, it is also a personal development podcast.
00:00:46.100 Yes, it is also sometimes we just fuck around podcast.
00:00:49.540 But, our goal here, our overlying goal, is to make you the motherfucking CEO of you.
00:00:59.760 Alright? This isn't, you have to own a business podcast.
00:01:03.640 You have to be obsessed with money podcast.
00:01:06.560 Now yeah, we talk about a lot of that shit.
00:01:08.660 Alright? Because it is entrepreneurship based.
00:01:10.460 But the truth is, is entrepreneurship is more of a mentality and a culture than it is about actually being something.
00:01:18.140 And developing that mentality is what's going to cause you to excel in all areas of your life.
00:01:25.440 Whether that be your business, your career.
00:01:28.160 Doesn't mean you have to own the business.
00:01:29.620 You could be working inside of a company and be an entrepreneur.
00:01:32.020 Your personal relationships, your fitness, all the things that make up excellence in your life are going to benefit from what we talk about on this show.
00:01:42.740 Now, we don't run a million ads on the show.
00:01:44.980 You're going to notice that.
00:01:45.940 Most of these other motherfuckers run 20 minutes of ads.
00:01:48.940 And the reason they do that is because they get paid a lot of fucking money to do so.
00:01:52.920 Most of the podcasts that are of this caliber, the guys are making 2, 3, 4 million dollars a year just off the ads.
00:01:58.260 I don't do that for a reason because I don't want to waste your time.
00:02:03.440 Alright?
00:02:04.060 But what I do ask is I ask that if you get value out of this podcast, out of this episode, that you share it.
00:02:12.100 Alright?
00:02:12.480 And that could be through a conversation.
00:02:13.980 It could be through telling someone.
00:02:15.500 It could be through making a post on social medias.
00:02:18.200 It could be doing a lot of different things.
00:02:20.100 But what I ask is that you take a few minutes and tell some of your like-minded buddies that, hey, you guys need to be on to this podcast.
00:02:29.740 Alright?
00:02:30.080 That's how we grow.
00:02:31.300 And we've grown tremendously over the years because we have very loyal following.
00:02:35.560 A lot of people think that when I ask for a referral, I'm talking about one referral over the course of 280 episodes or whatever we've had so far.
00:02:42.640 No, I'm asking for one referral per episode when you listen.
00:02:46.080 And so, I know for sure it's a very small fee to ask because every single episode, you're going to learn something that will greatly improve one aspect of your life.
00:02:56.840 And today, we're going to talk about being happy.
00:03:00.840 Now, if you look on the internet, you're going to hear all this shit about self-love and accepting yourself and letting yourself off the hook and forgiving yourself and all this other shit.
00:03:13.680 And does that shit have some validity?
00:03:15.440 Sometimes it does.
00:03:17.060 But here's the truth about being happy.
00:03:19.480 You got to fucking earn it.
00:03:21.180 Alright?
00:03:21.660 And if you ask people who are unhappy why they're unhappy, most of the time they can't tell you.
00:03:30.480 Most of the time they're going to tell you that it's an external force.
00:03:34.120 It's their boss being a jerk.
00:03:35.940 It's their spouse giving them a hard time.
00:03:38.520 It's their friends being mean to them.
00:03:40.980 It's life's not fair.
00:03:42.240 And they're going to throw it on something.
00:03:43.740 But the truth is, it's like anything good in life.
00:03:47.400 Anything.
00:03:48.540 You have to fucking earn it.
00:03:51.000 Alright?
00:03:51.640 Now, you've heard me say this before when we talk about self-esteem, confidence, and all this shit.
00:03:57.120 Because you got the fucking self-lovers out there right now that try to tell you, oh, you should just be happy and you should just have self-esteem and you should just have confidence.
00:04:06.680 No.
00:04:07.400 That's not the way it works.
00:04:09.260 And that's why no matter how much positive affirmation bullshit you shove down your ears, you never feel any fucking better.
00:04:17.160 Alright?
00:04:18.600 Having self-esteem, having self-worth, having confidence, they come from doing things that you're supposed to do.
00:04:26.960 They come from upholding the things you're supposed to do.
00:04:31.020 So, what I want to talk about today, we talk about this on other podcasts, so I'm not going to get into that part of it because I've talked about it a lot.
00:04:38.180 Now, I'm going to talk about two things that can greatly affect your happiness in a positive way.
00:04:47.160 Alright?
00:04:48.260 There's two things that you need to do if you want to be happy.
00:04:52.900 Alright?
00:04:53.220 If you're sitting there and you're not happy and you're frustrated and you're angry and you're looking around trying to figure out what's wrong, I'm going to give you a couple clues for you to figure it out.
00:05:02.340 Number one, you're not challenging yourself enough.
00:05:06.600 You're not demanding enough of yourself.
00:05:09.120 You're probably bored.
00:05:11.340 Alright?
00:05:11.880 That could be in every area of your life.
00:05:14.640 You could be in your fitness and you're not doing your workouts.
00:05:17.740 You're not working out hard.
00:05:19.300 You're doing lazy people shit.
00:05:21.100 Alright?
00:05:21.580 You're going in, you're working out with no purpose, no intensity.
00:05:24.660 You're not following your nutrition.
00:05:26.340 You're not following the things that you know you should do.
00:05:28.960 Alright?
00:05:29.280 It could be in your business.
00:05:30.620 You're not fucking working hard.
00:05:32.520 Alright?
00:05:33.560 I'm sure when people ask if you work hard, you tell them, yeah.
00:05:36.280 But the truth is, your heart knows and your brain knows if you're spending six hours on fucking Instagram a day instead of doing the shit that you're supposed to be doing.
00:05:45.940 So, the first thing that's going to make you unhappy is when you're not demanding enough of yourself.
00:05:51.140 And the reason that's going to make you unhappy is because you know in your heart, in your soul, in your brain, that you are capable of much more.
00:06:00.940 And when you're not challenging yourself the way that you should be, you're going to feel dead inside.
00:06:07.600 You're going to feel empty inside.
00:06:09.700 You're going to feel frustrated.
00:06:11.360 You're going to feel angry.
00:06:12.760 You're going to hate yourself.
00:06:14.360 You're going to feel depressed.
00:06:16.080 And the reason that you feel that way is because you're not pushing yourself as hard as you should be.
00:06:22.800 Which is counterproductive to what all the feel-gooders out there are telling you.
00:06:27.320 They're telling you, oh, feel good about yourself.
00:06:30.320 Oh, you know what?
00:06:31.220 You're human.
00:06:32.240 Oh, you know what?
00:06:33.840 You should feel good.
00:06:34.920 Oh, take a break.
00:06:36.020 Fuck that.
00:06:37.040 The reason that you feel like shit is because you've taken a break your whole fucking life.
00:06:42.580 That's the truth.
00:06:43.940 Alright?
00:06:44.180 So that's the first thing.
00:06:45.840 If you want to get happy, start demanding enough of yourself.
00:06:49.700 Start forcing yourself.
00:06:51.520 Start pushing yourself.
00:06:53.200 Start challenging yourself to do the things you know you're capable of doing.
00:06:59.360 Stop trying to slide by on the least possible effort.
00:07:04.120 Stop trying to slide by on the least possible work.
00:07:08.580 Those are the reasons that you're not happy right now, okay?
00:07:11.240 And the second reason that you're not happy and that you need to fix is that when you live a life that's not congruent with what your core beliefs are of right or wrong, you're going to feel unhappy.
00:07:27.660 Alright?
00:07:28.180 What do I mean by that?
00:07:29.540 Well, what I mean by that is this.
00:07:31.800 You in your heart, and we all have different sets of core beliefs,
00:07:35.680 but you in your heart and your soul have a set of core values or beliefs that you believe about the world and yourself.
00:07:45.460 Alright?
00:07:46.100 You know what's right or wrong.
00:07:48.340 You know what you're capable of.
00:07:50.460 You know what you should be doing.
00:07:52.440 And when you don't do those things, you're going to feel shitty inside.
00:07:57.040 You're going to feel angry.
00:07:58.540 You're going to feel frustrated.
00:08:00.140 You're going to feel depressed.
00:08:01.620 You're going to feel unfulfilled.
00:08:03.920 That's just the reality.
00:08:05.680 Okay?
00:08:06.500 If you want to be happy, you've got to learn to live in congruency with what your true core beliefs are inside.
00:08:14.920 Alright?
00:08:15.600 You can't expect to think that, you know, that you should be working as hard as you can and you know that's the right thing you do,
00:08:25.900 but you sit on the couch and watch TV or you'd half-ass your work or you do half-ass projects or you put it off onto other people.
00:08:35.260 You can't expect to live both those lives and feel happy.
00:08:38.700 And I believe this is the reason most people aren't happy.
00:08:43.020 You can't believe that it's not okay to cheat on your spouse and then go out and cheat on your spouse and then expect to feel fucking good in your heart.
00:08:54.660 You have to live congruent with what your values are.
00:08:59.580 You have to live congruent with what you believe is right and wrong.
00:09:03.040 And when you're not doing that, you're going to feel like shit.
00:09:06.420 Okay?
00:09:06.680 So, how do we fix these things?
00:09:09.540 Well, the first one's easy, right?
00:09:11.140 Start fucking challenging yourself.
00:09:12.940 Start pushing yourself.
00:09:14.300 Start challenging yourself to do things that you know you're supposed to do.
00:09:18.860 Start challenging yourself to do things you know are going to be hard and doing them.
00:09:24.940 Okay?
00:09:25.380 That's going to make you feel proud.
00:09:27.020 That's going to make you feel good.
00:09:28.180 The second one, you're going to have to spend some time examining what your core values are, what your core beliefs are, what you feel is truly right and wrong.
00:09:39.140 And then, the hard part is going to be you adjusting your lifestyle to align with that.
00:09:45.700 Okay?
00:09:46.000 But once you do, you're going to feel better.
00:09:49.000 You're going to feel happier.
00:09:50.420 You're going to feel more confident.
00:09:52.140 You're going to have more self-esteem when you do these two different things.
00:09:56.560 All right?
00:09:56.920 So, guys, if you want to be happy, all right, challenge yourself.
00:10:01.560 Demand more of yourself.
00:10:03.520 If you want to be happy, live a life that's congruent with what you believe is right and wrong.
00:10:09.600 Don't violate those core values.
00:10:11.520 When you violate them, you're going to feel bad.
00:10:13.920 All right?
00:10:14.760 So, guys, that's my podcast for today.
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00:10:24.160 All right, guys?
00:10:24.740 I got something new coming for you, too, man.
00:10:26.900 I'm going to start doing something on Sundays, I think.
00:10:28.760 A little Sunday sermon.
00:10:30.300 Me and Vaughn are talking about something.
00:10:31.740 So, maybe keep an eye out for that.
00:10:33.600 All right, guys?
00:10:34.680 Thank you for all the support.
00:10:36.240 Love you guys.
00:10:37.320 I'll talk to you soon.
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