What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do, Part 1, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO74
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What to do when you don't know what to do right? Is it possible to be an entrepreneur when you just don't have a plan for your life, a business idea, or a purpose for your existence? In this episode, Andy and Vaughn discuss the practicality of this question and how to deal with it.
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what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am
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the motherfucking ceo guys if this is your first time welcome just to be clear you don't have to
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be an actual ceo you don't have to own a business you don't have to do anything this podcast is
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about business it's about life it's about bringing uh the idea of you being in control and being the
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ceo actually the motherfucking ceo of your own life we are all our own person we are all in control and
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this is about raising awareness to that fact that you have to take responsibility for your life
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basically it's about being a badass motherfucker so before we get started i'd like to introduce my
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host my co-host vaughn the impaler pastor vaughn some of you guys know him as uh vaughn diesel
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what's up dude i'm gonna start calling you top 20 or no really i'm gonna start calling you top rated
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top rated top rated yeah that's my new nickname for you you know why of course yeah yeah yeah so those
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of you who don't know this kelsey you know this right oh yeah andy was recently named one of the
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top 20 influencers motivational influencers yeah i think i saw an article about the entire milky way
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yeah yeah so that was pretty cool yeah it was awesome yeah it was very cool go team yeah there
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were some people on there that i'd never heard of in my life but um there were also gary was on
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there obviously yeah so it was it was cool it was good company got some good friends on there and
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and uh it was it was it was an honor for sure yeah it was neat so but anyhow um guys today we're
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going to talk about something that we get a lot of questions about we we get this question over and
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over and over and over again and it and it always has some version uh of this you know hey andy
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dear andy mr andy i'm passionate i'm hard working but i just don't know what to do i don't have a
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business idea i don't have a plan for my life i'm i'm just aimless i'm purposeless and it's killing
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me and we get 50 fucking emails a day that say some version of that okay so today what we're going
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to talk about is what to do when you don't know what to do right all right we get this question so
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much and and it's like it's a very frustrating question for me because on one hand i want to say
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dude if you can't figure out what to fucking do you're not a fucking entrepreneur go to fucking
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school get your degree go get your 50 fucking k a year and shut the fuck up because entrepreneurship
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has become such a overhyped over uh you know pursued thing in today's society you know everybody
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everybody that has a motherfucking cell phone thinks they're an entrepreneur okay maybe but in reality
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are you because entrepreneurship at its core is a skill that some people are more developed at than
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others and some people honestly just aren't built to be entrepreneurs so if you can't come up with a
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fucking idea you know part of me says well maybe you're not an entrepreneur but then there's the other
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group of people there's the group of people who are legitimate entrepreneurs and what i feel like
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they might be doing is over analyzing the situation to the point where they do nothing uh because being
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an entrepreneur you're going to go through things in your journey uh that aren't going to work you know
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you're going to fail um and i feel like a lot of people avoid even taking that first step because
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they're afraid that they're going to pick something that's going to fail and not being afraid to fail and
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being being okay with trying many different things is part of the entrepreneur journey which is part of
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the deal and i feel like people want the fucking reward without you know the blood and the guts that
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comes with it and it just doesn't happen guys it's not going to happen but we're going to get
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we're going to get into the practicality of this question for the people who are potential
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entrepreneurs but i say again you might not be an entrepreneur okay just because it's cool right now
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to be an entrepreneur doesn't mean you're a fucking entrepreneur because a lot of people most people
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aren't most people don't have what it takes most people don't have the gut most people don't have the
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ability to persist most people don't have the ability to be self-motivated self-starting they just
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don't and you might think it's you but it may not be you and so that takes you analyzing yourself
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there's nothing wrong with somebody who's not an entrepreneur but this podcast is about being an
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entrepreneur okay so first things first let me answer your i don't know what to do with a point
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not not a not a um a question all right or a point to talk about but this is a direct point that you need
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to think about and you need to realize that whatever it is you're doing today whether it's flipping burgers
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at mcdonald's or whether it's picking up garbage or whether it's uh working in a warehouse or whether
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it's uh working at starbucks it doesn't fucking matter you have the ability today to go out and
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cultivate the habits and and and sharpen the habits that you're going to need to be successful as an
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entrepreneur whether you have a business going whether you have uh you know no idea it doesn't matter
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every day is an opportunity to improve your personal skill set and your personal skill set would
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be things like taking initiative on things that need to be done it would be things like being
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disciplined to do your job perfectly every single opportunity you get a chance to do it okay we're
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talking about creating habits going the extra mile for customers creating wow factor uh we could go on
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and on and on here but the point is is that just because you don't have a business now doesn't mean
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that you shouldn't be working at whatever it is that you're doing to create the habits that you're
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going to need to successfully run that business and i think that's a point that is greatly and grossly
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overlooked by people who are not in business yet absolutely i just i just came across a uh a quote by
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alexander wolcott who was a really famous commentator in the 1930s he said there's no such thing in
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anyone's life as an unimportant day and every day that we live there are critical tasks that that
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we need to do and so we don't wait for those important moments in our life we can literally
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like you said whether you're flipping burgers or doing whatever there's always you're doing
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with perfection you're doing with pride you take pride in how the lettuce looks on the motherfucking
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burger how much mustard you put on it is the fry or the fries crispy all right you take pride in that
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shit yeah that's that is a habit is going to carry over from where you are to where you want to be
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and not only carry over but it's going to take you where you want to be yeah can i just build on that
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too i think a lot of people overlook too uh you know the fact that they don't have to have the
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end-all business that they're going to end up doing right in the beginning right like dude it could take
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you could do something very very small just to cultivate those habits that you're talking about
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on the side yes a lot of people always think oh i have to have this idea now on what i'm going to do
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yeah ultimately but dude you could be like an apparel company is a great example a lot of people
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do them on the side just to learn the ins and outs and you know what and you might not even
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end up doing an apparel company but the lessons that you learn trying that are what ultimately matter
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and the the pro and here this brings me to another point before we even get into the fucking points
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a lot of people think that business is about having a fucking office having a personal assistant
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driving around in a bmw and being fucking boss daddy that ain't what it is all right business is
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about getting shit done selling something getting some fucking money for that shit okay and building
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relationships too because you don't know you don't know where those relationships are ultimately
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going to take you either dude 100 percent you know there's a number of values that we could talk
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about here i call them core values and that's a whole like two hour long podcast which actually
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is a pretty good idea we should do like a we should do like a core value special like a podcast marathon
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yeah dude like two hours straight of just core values yeah and uh and dude but understanding that
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what you're doing is cultivating the habits that are going to carry you through now is something
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that you have to take seriously no matter if you're 14 years old mowing fucking grass
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right these are where these things start right so there's a famous writer who said one time
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how do i know what i think until i've seen what i've written and i thought of that when when you
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know you mentioned that we were going to cover this topic what to do when you don't know what to do
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and you say hey vaughn figure out what i actually think about this and so of course i'm the one who has
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to go back and look at all of your your posts and different things and kind of pull everything together
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so are you cool with me just kind of firing off your yeah bullet points yeah all right all right
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cool i don't want to you know i don't want to you know i i'd rather just riff on shit man yeah you
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know i feel like it's just better product yeah absolutely okay so what to do when you don't know
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what to do first thing you say is well bottom line is what do you have to do basically to stay alive
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and be a contributing member of society i mean you know like what bills do you have to pay that sort
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of thing that's what i get from you am i understanding that correctly like that's the
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first thing just make sure what you got to do i mean look you got to survive okay and you have to
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pay bills you've got to eat you've got to you've got to have a place to sleep you know and you've
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got to be if you're going to be an entrepreneur you've got to be creative with those things sometimes
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dude i lived in the back of my fucking retail store when we started i couldn't afford a place to
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fucking sleep so we slept there you know those are sacrifices that you make um you know and this is
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going to be different for everybody you know you might be the young guy with no family and not have
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a lot of bills i didn't have a lot of bills when we started our business you know and for that reason
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we were able to do a lot of things that other people and competitors won't when you're competing
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against a competitor that has a shitload of bills and their cash flow is not that great you're a
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tremendous advantage when you don't have bills right you have to you have to realize that um but you
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know you have to meet your obligations for survival first and foremost and most people never get past
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this point they they they worry they they freak out they get concerned about what am i going to do
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to live dude you're going to have to fucking downsize your shit right all right if you're just
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beginning you're you're lucky because it's not going to take anything for you to feel like uh you're
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downsizing you're just going to go do it but let's say you're 30 years old and you're used to making
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60 70 80 grand a year in or 100 grand a year but you want more right right let's say it doesn't matter
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what you're making let's just say you want more you want to start a company guess what you're
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gonna have to fucking downsize your house you're gonna have to downsize your bills you're gonna
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have to drive a fucking shit of your car you're gonna have to make sacrifices right just the way
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it is you're gonna have to be uncomfortable nobody likes doing that and that dude that point keeps
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people from ever taking that step you're comfortable going to your uh your neighborhood
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watering hole and having beers four nights a week and hanging out with your bros and spending you
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know that extra 500 bucks entertaining yourself uh and you don't want to lose that so you don't
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ever step up or you could spend you know five thousand dollars a night and it won't fucking
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matter right this point really needs to be teased out and parsed though because that you know there's
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going to be the asterisk hole who's that who uses those people i know but let's just let's just play
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the game for a second many people are going to hear you say this first point and go you're right
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andy and i'm taking responsibility for my obligations and that's why i can't live the life that i want to
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live i can't do do what i need to do because yeah but that's i can't leave this life that's the
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that's the bullshit side of that answer right the real answer is no you cut all that shit out that
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you that makes you happy right now you fucking bite the bullet you do what needs to be done to better
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yourself you take the next three to five years invest it in yourself and then you come out a hundred
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times better and that's fulfilling an obligation to your responsibilities right your kids your family
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the things that really matter in life right do you remember do you remember the guy that used
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to be the offensive coordinator and then he was the he was actually the coach of the rams and mike
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martz remember that dude well i i heard the story of him that the way that he got in the nfl he actually
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had a day job and he wanted so badly to be in the nfl and coach that he approached the then you know
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los angeles rams now they're back but uh he basically said i'll work for free like i but what he did
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was and his wife had to agree to it but she was cool and she worked you know but he worked for free
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and worked all these other jobs and they basically had a terrible life i mean you know how you define
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that in the beginning yeah it was hard it's always and then he ended up becoming a super bowl super
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bowl coach one of the best offensive coordinators and it's i think that's what we're talking about
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right you've got to be willing to sacrifice take a step you got to take some steps back yeah you know
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and people are people aren't even willing to hear that conversation sometimes right you know what i mean
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like i'd meet with guys less often than i used to because i just value my time more right but with
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people who are wanting to start a business and they say hey you know can i have lunch with you or this
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or that and i'll do that sometimes still and the first thing we talk about is you know the reality
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of that struggle and so many people are just like i can see it in their fucking face like they're not
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willing to do it right you know what i mean and i know within five minutes that they're not going to
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do what it takes right they're they're today's comforts are more important than to them than
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tomorrow's return on that investment right you know right it really is a balance it's it's uh
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knowing that you need to sacrifice but also not being the kind of guy that's going to say well i'm
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gonna i'm gonna i think one of the keys to being a successful entrepreneur over the long haul is and
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gary vaynerchuk and i have talked about this a number of times we both agree on it we don't agree
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on everything um which is what makes the relationship great uh but you know we do agree
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on this like i would be willing 100 will and people don't get this about me they see me driving
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a lamborghini and rolls and flying around on fucking private jets and shit they they don't realize that
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i would be 100 willing to go back to sleeping in the back of that fucking store if i had to to win
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you know what i'm saying and that's my baseline right like the survival right and people i think
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entrepreneurs that are truly successful on a large scale all have that quality they're all willing
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to lose everything and go back to fucking zero to win and i i think that's a great thing for me
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personally because i know a lot of my competitors they don't realize that about me they think oh he's
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fucking flossing hard and driving all these big cars and doing all this shit and they don't realize
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that shit don't mean nothing to me well this makes me think a lot of uh cotter mcgregor like his story
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and how he does things you know like everyone whenever he lost everyone expected him to you know
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kind of be the cry baby rich boy he was like no i'll take it yeah i'm coming back harder you know
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and if you kind of backtrack his life story and all the struggles that him and his girlfriend went
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through if you're looking for a story that kind of relates to um having immense amount of struggle
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and having to go through those obstacles to get where you want to get he's it oh dude there's no
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question i mean look anybody who's successful in anything is willing to sacrifice that and and the
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toys and the prize and the money and all the shit that comes with being successful that's not what
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that's not what defines people you know it just doesn't and successful people understand that it's it's a
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it's a common misjudgment i think of of people to look at success quote unquote i'm raising my hands
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in quotes successful people and think that like all that shit is what makes them tick it has nothing
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to do with it you know what i mean i don't give a fuck about it yeah i will go back tomorrow sleeping
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in a fucking piss stain mattress in the back of my store if it means us winning right when's the last
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time you took a paycheck andy i dude i haven't taken a paycheck for since 2014 september i think that
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means i would classify that not because not because of not because of uh me not not being able to it's
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because i take the money and put it back in our company you're reinvesting in yourself so and people
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don't you know they don't get that like bottom we're trying to create a fucking multi-billion dollar
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business you know what i mean and most financial advisors will tell you to reinvest 33 percent and it's
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like you're investing 100 yeah i've got enough money in my personal savings to live however i want
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yeah so it's irrelevant to me i want to create careers and jobs and uh you know opportunities
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for the people who have helped me get to that point right and that's going to take us getting
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to a a b not a fucking m you know what i mean or an hm you know so it's uh it's reality but
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okay so so you got to do what you got to do to survive do what you got to survive and i and i
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would i would be willing to go back there no matter what at any time you know what i mean get real
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fucking comfortable at that level because that's the reality of most of your life you know what i
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mean uh if i lose in business guess what i'm gonna be doing i'm gonna be back to doing that right
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you know because i sure as fuck ain't going to work for somebody else right so right point number two
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which you've repeated i think a hundred billion times but we'll repeat it again for people until
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they get it into their heads ask yourself what do you like to do what interests you you know that's
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like a hot button right you know everybody likes to talk about their passion they like to talk about
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because passion's like right right next to entrepreneurship is like the phrase follow your
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passion and people are so misunderstood and confused about what that fucking means you know it doesn't
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mean like if your passion is fucking uh you know call of duty to sit in your underwear in your
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basement and play call of fucking duty right you know what i mean um there this is like you have to
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have like some some uh awareness about what this actually means um but what but what does interest you
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because a lot of people will say that they'll you know you'll bring this point to them what are you
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interested in and they'll they'll say this i'm interested in making a lot of money and you know
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what i said that shit for a long time but you know how much money i made when i said that fucking none
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okay so until i found a purpose and a passion within my mission to make money i never made any because you
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don't just make money money comes to you as a result of delivering something of value and value doesn't mean
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a fucking two for one coupon out of the fucking sunday paper all right value means something that's
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valuable all right when you give somebody something that's valuable and worth more than what you ask for
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in return it's an easy sale it's it's not even a sale it's it's an it's an easy transaction okay
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people are willing to pay for things if they feel like the value of what they receive is greater than
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the money that they have to give is common sense it's a trade it's bartering it's it's nothing more
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than that you know what i mean but but entrepreneurship has gotten to a point where it's so much like how
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can i give the least and get the most and people are smarter than they ever have been you know we have
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more educated consumers we have more people that understand business we have uh more transparency more
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information and we have more uh finely tuned bullshit detector than we've ever had before
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so companies that use that strategy how do we give the least and get the most are getting weeded out by
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companies who give the most and ask little in return and that's just the reality of business it was a lot
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easier to make a lot of fucking money 30 fucking years ago if you were an unethical person you know
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what i mean uh but but the truth of it is is that you know ethics are a direct reflection of how much
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money you make because if you deliver great value you're going to get a lot of money in return so
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you know how do you find something that is going to uh make quote unquote make you money um you need
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to replace that thought with how am i going to earn money by delivering value all right earn not make
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you don't fucking make money right federal reserve makes money you earn that money right okay so
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people will say well do what you're passionate about and then you know people will take it as
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what i said you know oh i'm gonna do nothing i'm passionate about watching fucking night of living
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dead on fucking netflix you know or whatever and and you've got to be we're talking about a real
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thing here you know these sarcastic motherfuckers out there that are quote unquote the millennials
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that think they're gonna flip the switch at 35 years old and be fucking wealthy you know i had a
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conversation at lunch today it was so funny it was like i love these people who say like
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oh i'm not about money i'm about family well guess what motherfucker having a family costs a lot of
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fucking money yes it does you know what i'm saying yeah and it's just not to mention you don't care
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about that family that much if you're not wanting to provide more for them dude it's just a total
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lack of understanding of life you know what i mean money is fucking important i don't care who you
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are i don't care what you say it's very fucking important all right it's just one of 50 excuses
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they have of why they're not making exactly so they can sit on their ass right so find your
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interests all right that's a good place to start what do you like to do i got into this business
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my business people like how'd you get into something business well i fucking lifted weights
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and i fucking took protein shakes and so i got interested in it that's as simple of an answer as
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i can give you know i'm gonna tell you because i've seen like 17 companies pop up since we started
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the podcast trying to do what we do all right it's fucking hard it takes a long time and the
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business has changed the opportunity to grow a brand now is totally different than it was
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19 years ago when i started right the market's saturated there's no barrier to entry and if
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you're not established good fucking luck okay that's just the reality and i know the 17 brands
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that listen to me are listening right now and they're pissed off but dude it's the truth good luck
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i love that you said it was hard though because it's really fucking hard right which is why it's
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so important that you're doing something that you have some sort of enjoyment because if you don't
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like it dude if you don't have the interest in whatever it is you you're not going to make a lot
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of money in it for at least three or four years probably right so the interest is what drives you
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from quitting you know it's what keeps you going it's what it's the passion for doing the work
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that ultimately is what you know like for us like when we weren't making any money we got rewarded in
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other ways like people will come in and they would lose like 100 fucking pounds well that's rewarding
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work you know like when you see somebody and then six months later they're down 80 pounds that's set
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and they're telling you how it saved their life and this and that there's a reward in that right
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you know what i mean and what you know for me the first 10 years of business i focused on making
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money as opposed to focusing on creating those results when i switched my focus to creating those
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results guess what happened we made money right okay so um you know finding something you're
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interested in people will say well dude i'm i'm interested in uh and i always use the excuse
00:24:05.640
of butterflies because i can't think of anything like least less interesting i can't tell you how many
00:24:10.320
emails we've gotten of butterfly stores people send us links all the time yeah well dude but the thing is
00:24:16.100
like it's a real thing like or like dude we're we got bulldogs right you would not believe the amount
00:24:20.780
of people that make a living selling bulldog shit like blankets pictures uh collars coffee mugs it's a
00:24:27.940
cult dude it is and but anything's like that and that's the that's the point people don't dig enough
00:24:33.380
into their interest to figure that out and with the internet today it's very it's very very realistic
00:24:40.560
to create a living doing something that you're passionate about in a very very small niche
00:24:46.700
market you know uh so you have to ask yourself what are you interested in can i give an example
00:24:52.040
yeah uh well it was when i moved back to st louis you know my brother and i we started that little
00:24:58.520
video game controller video game controller it was custom airbrushed uh the margins on it sucked right
00:25:04.360
so we ended up you know going to those midnight releases where you know people for like call of
00:25:10.340
duty or battlefield line up hundreds of people uh for these releases and we we ended up doing them
00:25:15.480
so often like people would eventually look forward to us coming and then game stop eventually reached
00:25:21.940
out to us and said hey we'll pay you guys come out here so you know it's just one of those i knew
00:25:26.760
what they they took they took xbox controllers and custom painted them for people i mean so talk about a
00:25:33.900
niche for fun right so that's awesome yeah there's opportunity everywhere but most people talk
00:25:40.500
themselves out of it you know by saying oh well that would never work because there's not enough
00:25:44.700
people to do this well there might not be enough people for you to make a trillion dollars doing it
00:25:49.080
but the the chances are there's probably enough people interested that you could make a living and
00:25:54.420
make a better living than what you're making now and enjoy it more well and think about the other
00:25:59.960
skills that you learn in that because we eventually turned into a promotion company right so like that
00:26:06.800
teaches you about a whole different side of you know business right so that could have turned into
00:26:11.480
something bigger right than just video games right right for sure all right so what to do when you
00:26:18.120
don't know what to do take care of your baseline needs ask yourself what do i like what interests me
00:26:23.940
and the third one is what are you good at it's a simple question man but everybody has special skills
00:26:32.740
that we're good at all right um you could develop skills all right for me i've always been good at
00:26:40.140
talking to people i've always been good at sales you know i started selling things when i was eight
00:26:47.960
years old all right so it's a natural skill that i was good at so having a retail store where i talk to
00:26:53.360
people face to face and and dealt with them in a sales atmosphere was a natural skill for me um
00:26:59.240
most people will tell you i'm not good at anything or they'll tell you the opposite i can do anything
00:27:05.320
you can't do anything all right you can read all the little motivational memes you want and all these
00:27:10.620
positive the fucking i call a motivational puke all right that on the on instagram you know the overly
00:27:18.960
positive fucking motivational pages that that puke fucking vibes at you or whatever the fuck they
00:27:25.420
think they do i'm puking reality at you motherfucker you're not good at everything right period all right
00:27:31.760
you're not going to be good at everything you are going to struggle at more at most things you're going
00:27:36.900
to struggle so you have to be very and this is where self-awareness another motivational puke word
00:27:42.500
that i get tired of fucking hearing because i see it misused every fucking day this is where self-awareness
00:27:47.820
comes into play looking at yourself in the mirror figuratively and saying what am i good at and
00:27:55.940
what am i not good at and being able to dissect those things okay i am good with people i am bad
00:28:03.360
at technology i am good at selling or i could could be good at selling or i'm this or that or whatever
00:28:10.100
and you need to dissect your own skill set dude if you're a fucking nfl team and you're looking at the
00:28:15.440
roster what do you do you look at the roster you say this guy can't catch the motherfucking ball he's
00:28:20.300
the fastest motherfucker on the team you know what we're gonna put him on defense right right that's
00:28:25.520
how decisions are made you need to look at yourself and be able to make those same decisions so most
00:28:30.120
people can't do that right and that's why self-awareness is a skill that you have to be able to
00:28:36.640
develop to even fucking start anything right in regards to this podcast and good doesn't mean
00:28:43.780
necessarily elite no i'm not lebron james but we're all better at certain things than than other things
00:28:50.420
right like like i'm a naturally good writer i'm naturally good at it i i got fucking f's in school
00:28:57.380
but i can write like a motherfucker absolutely you know what i mean yeah i can also talk
00:29:01.860
all right so i'm good at those things guess what it turns into something for you right you know what
00:29:08.220
i mean what what are you naturally good at vaughn well writing and connecting with people right and
00:29:13.400
what do you do for a living i'm a writer exactly yeah you know most people fall into what they're
00:29:18.740
naturally good at anyway and i enjoy it going back to our first point right yeah or second but what i
00:29:24.120
what i just said most people fall into what they're naturally good at anyway so how far ahead can you
00:29:29.140
get by actually knowing what you're good at because you dissected yourself instead of passively falling
00:29:38.440
okay so those are some pretty basic basic questions to ask yourself what do i like what interests me and
00:29:54.860
what am i good at but the other question that i think goes along with something you say again and
00:29:59.400
again and again about being a problem solver is the question is there a need in the world that i'd
00:30:04.480
like to help me is there something wrong with the world that i'd like to help make right i mean dude
00:30:11.520
this is the this is i think most people miss this a hundred percent you know why because i think most
00:30:17.880
people are inclined to whine and cry and bitch instead of being inclined to solve a fucking problem
00:30:23.660
all right all entrepreneurs are great problem solvers maybe you think there needs to be more cable tv
00:30:32.780
options okay maybe you're concerned with the 19 million refugees in the world all right what what makes
00:30:39.760
you annoyed what pisses you off what do you think needs to be different those are the opportunities
00:30:45.120
that you need to pursue and the ones that you're passionate about changing all right when i go to a
00:30:51.500
restaurant i could barely enjoy myself because i am service oriented to a point that it's obsessive
00:30:57.880
all right and if any of the guys that work for me will tell you the same fucking thing they they work
00:31:03.680
here for if you work here for six months you will not be able to go to a restaurant and enjoy yourself
00:31:08.060
because you will see how terrible and how bad most restaurants service are and how much opportunity
00:31:17.880
they miss to make a huge impact with their customers they just don't fucking care and
00:31:23.600
it drives me insane so i'm passionate about service i'm passionate about creating loyalty
00:31:29.560
i'm passionate about being loyal all right those things piss me off when i see them not happening
00:31:35.280
so what do i do i become the best person i can at that inside my own model to the point where dude
00:31:43.940
our service fucking shits on everybody else's and anybody who fucking wants to compare bring it on
00:31:50.200
because i know that's a fucking fact all right we we know what the fuck we're doing and and the reason
00:31:56.640
we know what the fuck we're doing is because i have picked apart every fucking business from 20 years ago
00:32:02.740
every fucking transaction that i've had it's not a transaction it's an opportunity to learn you know
00:32:09.380
what i mean and i care about that shit and i and i have instilled those values in our company in our
00:32:15.580
people and they care about that shit and that's why what we do works now it could be other things for
00:32:22.580
you you know like i said it could be um you know the 19 million refugees you could have a different
00:32:28.640
sort of passion that pisses you off but the problems and the opportunities are linked together
00:32:35.500
and that's what you have to understand is that when you get mad about something or irritated
00:32:40.560
instead of getting irritated or mad why don't you think about what it would take to solve that
00:32:45.060
and then you have an idea right i think what's amazing is that everybody's always talking about
00:32:52.620
you know follow your passion follow what you love you're actually saying yeah okay that's part of it
00:32:56.900
but the other part of it is follow what you hate follow what makes you angry i think there's
00:33:01.220
opportunities in both yeah you know some people pick to go down a road they're like
00:33:05.180
passionate about some people pick things that annoy the fuck out of them and i think the bigger i think
00:33:12.660
the biggest entrepreneurs in the world do the latter rather than the former for example look at elon
00:33:18.760
musk elon musk isn't trying to create businesses he's trying to create products that solve issues
00:33:24.920
right that he's passionate about all right he's one of the most successful entrepreneurs ever
00:33:30.020
created paypal now he's got tesla spacex these are big problems in the world that he's trying to solve
00:33:36.820
and there's opportunity in those issues every day most people just get so annoyed and so wrapped up
00:33:43.940
because we live in a culture of complaining as opposed to solving issues that they can't see the
00:33:49.860
fucking opportunity that's right in front of their face so i think people do both i think the better
00:33:56.460
entrepreneurs focus on the problems to be solved i think there's bigger opportunities there i think
00:34:02.060
if you want to make a living you can focus on your passion if you want to make a fucking empire you
00:34:05.380
focus on solving big problems that's a great statement so number five is actually one of my
00:34:11.740
favorites because when people say andy i don't know what to do i just don't know what to do that's
00:34:16.840
such a passive mentality and i think everything about this this podcast and this whole brand is
00:34:21.800
be active take initiative and one of the things that that i know you say again and again is if you
00:34:27.000
don't know what you like or what you're good at or what needs to what problems needs to be solved
00:34:32.820
start exploring well if you don't know what if you don't know that you're good at riding a bike
00:34:38.320
are you are you going to at least try to ride the bike right you know what i mean right people most
00:34:43.660
people won't most people will assume they're not going to be good at it so they do nothing
00:34:47.260
and they let life and and the expectation of society consume them guide them and direct them
00:34:54.600
into a life that they never even intended to build for themselves because they were afraid to figure
00:35:01.000
out if they were good at something or if they were bad at something it's okay to be bad at shit and if
00:35:06.500
you're not actively willing to be bad at things you're not going to be a very successful entrepreneur
00:35:12.520
right it's just impossible it's part of the process and we talk about this dude it's it's so
00:35:18.760
overplayed in in the motivational world right now about you know i never lose i i only win or i learn
00:35:27.560
but it's true right and that's how you have to look at it so when you're somebody who doesn't know
00:35:35.120
what you're good at dude go out and do shit right get off the fucking couch get away from your
00:35:40.280
motherfucking phone go out and try some shit see if you're good at it right you know what i mean
00:35:45.160
it's really simple and true confessions i i'm i mean i'm guilty as charged there are a lot of
00:35:50.280
things in life that i i feel like i know myself pretty well that i'll just say well i know i
00:35:55.840
wouldn't enjoy doing that or i know i wouldn't be good at that but but you really have to tell that
00:36:01.180
mind that thought in your mind to shut up and just and just plow forward because you really don't
00:36:06.100
know until you do something it's 100 true and older people are extremely guilty of that yes
00:36:11.360
younger people are way more likely to try the new thing older people you know 40 50 60 you're like oh
00:36:19.640
you know i already know from all my my worldly experience first of all how much ego does it take
00:36:25.180
to fucking think that right all right let's be real they're big fucking egos that they have from being
00:36:31.060
old this is why old people do whatever the fuck they want you know and they know quote unquote know
00:36:35.400
everything won't let them fucking do anything so what do they get they get the same shit they've
00:36:41.280
always been getting right absolutely and and a point i really need to stress is that so many people
00:36:47.840
sit around waiting for passion before they act and i think it's the exact opposite is that you act
00:36:55.040
and that action creates passion you act you commit to something and if it's the right thing if if you're
00:37:01.980
meant to do it then that passion will come as a result of the action but it's like i mean it's
00:37:07.120
kind of a cheesy analogy but even no you could you could 100 create momentum in any area you're looking
00:37:15.400
to create it through action right 100 right but it's just so many i mean i i was going to use the
00:37:20.460
example of marriage i mean you just don't sit around waiting to feel nice warm thoughts toward your
00:37:24.220
toward your wife in order for you to do something that that you know serves her you just got to do it
00:37:30.040
and then the emotions will come later you know what i'm saying well yeah but but most people
00:37:35.220
quit marriage before they get to that point right so we could talk about that whole as a whole thing
00:37:40.640
relationships are disposable nowadays right so when when they stop feeling the the the beginning
00:37:46.120
infatuation of like oh i just want to like bang this person's brains out 24 7 a day it's for real
00:37:52.760
and they're like oh i don't love them anymore honestly i'm the kind of person i can't wait to get past
00:37:57.400
that stage because i'm like is this good or not you know i'm like anybody could fake it for the
00:38:01.580
first fucking six months yeah right you know what i mean because you don't show your true colors anyway
00:38:05.480
and but but people don't know the difference they confuse infatuation with love totally two different
00:38:11.080
things and that's sitting around for that passion and that's a really good point that i like that
00:38:15.120
you've made another podcast too is that something you can use your passion but it doesn't have to be
00:38:20.320
your ultimate passion it can just be something you're interested in it can just be a problem that you see
00:38:24.920
yeah it doesn't have to be the end all be all right you know but you and in the fun and to further
00:38:30.360
that point you can use the let's say the c passion to ultimately serve the a passion yeah look at bill
00:38:37.360
gates all right you know what i'm saying yeah he's bill gates has created a company based on technology
00:38:44.160
right and his ultimate goal in life is to to solve these other worldly issues philanthropy yeah and he's
00:38:50.180
used the it was a mode of transportation to get to yeah yeah point a to point b yeah absolutely um
00:38:56.180
and vaughn to build to build back on uh like staying active and continue moving forward i see a lot of
00:39:02.460
people and talk to a lot of people that have an idea but they let these stupid little problems like
00:39:07.740
the branding of it or right whatever have you man here's at the end of the day successful people
00:39:14.620
find fucking solutions to problems unsuccessful people only see the problems they don't ever see
00:39:22.120
the solution right and they let they'll they'll figure out every little way like what you're saying
00:39:26.720
to stop them from having to do it and that's why i don't waste time with like meeting with people
00:39:32.540
or consulting people or doing the shit that i used to do because dude what i found is you're
00:39:38.680
gonna fucking make it or you aren't hiring me ain't gonna make a difference right you know it's usually
00:39:44.000
their first question is oh i can't think of a company name it's like that doesn't matter what
00:39:48.360
could you be doing in the meantime why don't you write down what your company stands for because
00:39:52.520
that's what's going to propel you you know what though in fairness to those people gary vandercheck
00:39:56.820
is the only person i i paid attention this whole that whole narrative for a long time gary is the only
00:40:01.640
person that finally came out and said your name just have a good product have a good service don't but
00:40:07.420
but there were a lot of so-called experts out there saying you got to market research your names and
00:40:12.100
you got those are people trying to justify value and sell something that doesn't exist
00:40:16.840
they're trying like dude i had this lady one time come in my store and tell me she's gonna hire
00:40:21.960
hire me or she wanted me to hire her to help fucking uh like set up the store properly and
00:40:30.840
paint the walls the right color visually like yeah like trick how about you know what we stop trying
00:40:37.000
to trick the consumer to buy shit and we're just so fucking good that you want to come to us
00:40:41.260
how about that what an idea yeah yes yeah okay so next uh next point i know the my gosh another whole
00:40:49.960
podcast could be on this but just start changing the way you think i mean that's that that's that
00:40:55.800
whole concept is in almost everything i'm just gonna hit this up real quick because i could hit
00:41:00.200
on this forever but dude most people like i said a minute ago see only the problems they complain
00:41:05.900
they bitch they whine they consume negative things all day long look at what you observe on facebook
00:41:12.220
look at what you observe on instagram most of it's negative okay most of it's not positive listen to
00:41:17.960
what people say to you through the day i would bet that over 50 of the things that go in your ear
00:41:23.300
during the day are gossip they're wasted information it's things that are negative and things that you
00:41:29.500
don't need to move forward so you have to consciously take control of how you're thinking
00:41:33.600
two ways and and there's there's you know there's things that we could talk about here like the law of
00:41:40.320
attraction um you know visualization blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah i'm going to tell you for
00:41:46.620
sake of summarizing this point the two things that helped me change the way i think the most
00:41:52.060
all right one was i associated my i start my day with thoughts of gratitude okay i think about all
00:42:02.240
the things good that i have i think about all the people i have i think about all the opportunities i
00:42:07.420
have and i'm thankful for those things and that's how i start every single day and what i did was i tied
00:42:14.000
that process to brushing my teeth so that when i brush my teeth i automatically start to go through this
00:42:20.140
process all right it only takes you know two minutes to do but here's the thing when you start
00:42:26.740
your day being thankful it's very hard to feel frustrated moving forward try to feel good about
00:42:32.820
all the things in your life and be pissed off at the same time it doesn't work it's impossible so
00:42:38.040
that automatically got me in a rhythm to start my day the right way you know what i mean i didn't wake
00:42:44.200
up frustrated because like dude when you're not making any money and you owe all this money and your
00:42:48.820
business sucks and everything quote unquote sucks it's easy to get in the rhythm of everything sucks
00:42:54.300
all the fucking time and let those negative thoughts drown you so you have to train yourself to actively
00:43:02.020
be in control of those thoughts so being grateful for you know what i did have uh changed my life
00:43:09.440
100 i started doing that in like 2007 three years later as you know i was a millionaire period um
00:43:16.700
the other thing i did in 2007 was i started visualizing uh before i went to bed okay so
00:43:25.000
the last thing i did before i go to bed was to envision myself living the life that i want now
00:43:31.260
this doesn't mean think about how you're going to get there you have 18 hours a day to think about that
00:43:38.040
i'm talking about think about the result that you want and it can be material it can be
00:43:43.700
i for me it was i would drive up to the airport in my lamborghini i would click the door open
00:43:49.960
all right the door everybody know lamborghinis have vertical doors so i could see the door go up in
00:43:54.660
great detail i would see the private plane i would get out i would walk over to the private plane i would
00:44:00.100
visualize people clapping for me okay and cheering and shit like that like in very very detailed
00:44:07.400
visualization all right this is a 2007 i had no fucking money i owed 70 000 on my credit cards
00:44:14.540
our company wasn't doing shit or i had no reason to believe this shit was going to happen but look at
00:44:19.820
my life now okay this is what i fucking do all right the clapping thing i fucking speak for part of my
00:44:27.100
living right what what the fuck then would have given me any indication that that's something that
00:44:34.940
would have actually happened i didn't even fucking think about being a speaker or being having a
00:44:41.140
podcast or being a personality that wasn't even on my radar it just happened because i visualized
00:44:46.840
this shit so much that the universe brought it into be reality it's the truth and people that don't buy
00:44:53.340
into this dude you're missing a fucking boat because it's just the way it is but i'm not gonna
00:44:58.960
we could do a whole nother podcast on that because i have a number of tools to talk about with that
00:45:04.060
more than just quote unquote the secret because the secret is like it's like a coloring book for the
00:45:09.220
fucking law of attraction you know um there's just better tools for you to get into right um we can
00:45:16.140
hit on that later but so speaking of a whole nother podcast we are on 0.6 of 12 points and i know
00:45:22.200
that uh you have a very important meeting in about 15 minutes so i'm thinking maybe we do a two-parter
00:45:27.300
yeah that's yeah okay so let me let me yeah to close out the two this part the law of attraction
00:45:33.340
there's a book called the law of attraction by michael losier all right um it's a really ugly book
00:45:40.660
the guy did a terrible job designing the cover it's got like a fucking goofy looking like stupid
00:45:46.300
rainbow on the front like it's just stupid looking did it draw your attention listen no it didn't i i i
00:45:51.700
actually read it off a recommendation of another book that i like and they recommended it in that
00:45:55.820
book but dude if you're listening your book is ugly as fuck and you need to change it but on the other
00:46:02.020
hand it's probably the most relevant and valuable book that i've ever read on the law of attraction
00:46:07.020
and how to actually utilize it so vaughn will put the link in the show notes to that book um the name
00:46:15.240
of the book is actually the law of attraction yeah okay i mean dude you'll know that when you see the
00:46:18.860
cover you're gonna be like dude that's some other shit i read it yeah it's pretty it's good though
00:46:23.000
right it is good it's great because it teaches you how to use it not just tells you about this magical
00:46:28.460
thing that exists all right but i'm gonna tell you right now i don't give a fuck how smart you think
00:46:34.420
you are because i'm a smart motherfucker and i people tell me this shit and i read this shit and
00:46:40.200
i'm like yeah right this is fucking bullshit i personally believe that the law of attraction
00:46:45.500
i i i per and you i don't care if people think i'm crazy or not you know people say oh you only
00:46:51.160
use 10 of your brain i think somewhere in that 90 that we don't use there's some sort of metaphysical
00:46:57.240
fucking purpose for our brains because dude i'm gonna tell you the good or the bad has been
00:47:02.560
manifested out of my thoughts my entire life and when you look back and realize and understand this
00:47:08.600
process you will 100 understand that everything that you have in your life you brought into it with
00:47:14.860
your thoughts to the point where i'm so finely tuned on this i have to be really fucking careful
00:47:20.600
what i think about because dude it will come in quick all right and people right now i know they're
00:47:25.340
like they're thinking oh it's so corny uh believe whatever the fuck you want yeah all i know is that
00:47:31.880
in 2007 when i started this shit i was broke i owed almost 100 grand and now i'm not broke and i'm
00:47:39.080
doing everything i fucking thought about every fucking thing with no reason to believe that well people
00:47:44.520
think that your mental health is fluffy it's not fluffy it's a real thing you have to train your
00:47:51.580
brain because it is very powerful because there's probably a lot of people here nobody here is into
00:47:56.040
the fluff that's listening to this probably so i'm telling you as being the king of no fluff like you
00:48:02.920
need to fucking read this shit it's not fluff it's skill it's real you need to have it yes it is a skill
00:48:07.120
it's a finely tuned way to think if you struggle with self-discipline you need to read this book
00:48:12.740
because self-discipline is your brain's power that is your strength from the mental side
00:48:18.560
and i'm i'm actually smirking because i made the mistake of looking it up and you're absolutely
00:48:23.320
right the front cover the front cover is just terrible i mean it's it's it's bad it's got to be
00:48:29.100
the ugliest book i've ever seen it's bad like when i got the book like it's so ugly that you're gonna
00:48:35.400
get the book you take the cover off are you fucking sure like is this the book i like it i want a t-shirt
00:48:40.480
with that on of course you do so you can wear it with your coral scope that you used to look through
00:48:44.740
when you're a little dude it's just terrible yeah but clearly he's i mean it's and it's hey man look
00:48:50.440
i've read 100 books on law of attraction that's the best one because it's short it's simple it's to
00:48:56.220
the point and it'll keep your attention for the two hours it takes you to read it yeah and it'll
00:49:00.700
teach you enough to get it going yeah so guys before we close and and before andy wraps up i
00:49:07.080
very very important thing that i really want you to listen to what i have to say here in the next
00:49:11.600
we'll say three to six months we have two very very important things coming up and i can't go into
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detail but we've got a reveal of something that we're doing that's going to be here in time for
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christmas and then we've got after that probably by uh st patrick's day is that or we'll say spring
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break there'll be another big thing going on that i can't that i can't tell you exactly what it is but
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what i do want to really strongly encourage you is if you have not already signed up to get the
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going to be sending out some very very important information that i think you guys are going to be
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really excited about which that sounds really cheesy but hey man you know i'm i'm the king of
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no fluff you're the king of cheese yeah exactly but there's also an exciting thing we can tell you
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guys is that merchandise will be coming to the store very very soon so shameless plug um kind of
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check into that because over i guess the next couple of weeks we're going to be plugging that in pretty
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quickly so but we definitely want you to sign up to get all the information that's going to be
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forthcoming here in the next month or two so so guys just to recap real quick before we get out
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you know all right point number one what do you got to do to survive point number two what interests
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me point number three what am i naturally good at that other people aren't point number four
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what problems do i see in the world what need would i like to help meet point number five
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if you don't know what you like you've got to go out and figure it out so that means you have to get
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off the fucking couch and you got to go do shit and point number six you've got to start changing the
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way that you think um we have a number of other points this will be a two-part podcast like vaughn
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said guys take this shit to heart this is reality this is the truth this is not some fucking
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bullshit meme on instagram you can use these tools you need to put them in play all right and guys do
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