You Always Have a Choice, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO273
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Summary
In this episode of Thursday Thunder, I talk about a recent case of a man who is serving a life sentence for a horrific crime he committed in Honduras. It got me to thinking about what it would be like to grow up in a poverty-stricken country like Honduras and how it could have shaped who I am today.
Transcript
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I can stack them hunts to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
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Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
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What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
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Guys, if this is your first time listening, welcome.
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This is called the MFCEO Project because this is a project. This is a mission. This is a movement.
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It is not your typical podcast where we just interview the same old motherfuckers every single day and hear the same old stories and all this other shit.
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This is, this was and is a very purposeful mission, which is to correct the last 25 years of failed parenting strategies, okay?
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It's to help young people, and when I say young people, I mean young in entrepreneurship and success in business
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understand what it really takes to be successful.
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We do usually two to three podcasts, sometimes Tuesday, almost always Thursday, and then Sunday, all right?
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So today is Thursday Thunder, and it's a short, little, quick hit just to get you thinking about some things.
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And what I want to talk to you guys about today is something that got me thinking.
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I was reading the other day about this really bad dude down in Honduras, okay?
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This guy apparently ruled everybody by fear. He intimidated everybody.
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He brutalized people, and I mean to the extreme.
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He would hack little kids up in front of their parents, and then he'd light parents on fire
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just to make an example for people who thought about going against him.
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And as I'm reading this, obviously I'm thinking what all of you would think reading this, okay?
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I'm thinking what is wrong with these fucking people, okay?
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If you listened to last Sunday, you know that I'm sick of this shit just like you guys are, okay?
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But I started reading the comments, and, you know, the comments were what you would expect, right?
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But one comment really got my attention, and it said this.
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Honduras says, Honduras has been a poverty-stricken nation for years.
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I'm not saying what he did wasn't terrible, but he probably had a really horrible childhood
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And as the saying goes, hurt people hurt people.
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Now, when I read that, part of me wanted to just destroy this person, okay?
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You know, it's typical, you know, lunatic, liberal, idealist bullshit making excuses for people
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But the truth of the matter is, I took a minute, and instead of jumping all over this comment,
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You know, I thought about what it would be like to grow up in that kind of poverty.
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And I thought what it would be like to grow up with that kind of violence, okay?
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Growing up in craziness and chaos and instability.
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And guys, that would be fucking hard, all right?
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And that has to mess with the kind of person you are and the kind of person you become
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beyond what any of you could really understand.
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But what about the Jews in the concentration camps?
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People who lost their whole fucking families when they got out and then went back to live
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their lives, got married, started families, and built businesses that made the world a better
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What about the black people in the 40s and 50s and 60s whose family members were lynched
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by white people because of the color of their skin, and instead of hating white people, they
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went out and made friends, got involved in the community, and then worked together to teach
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What about the guy who was bullied when he was a little kid instead of, you know, like I
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said on Sunday, going and shooting up a bunch of people in his school, he grows up to become
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a mentor, a coach, a friend to people who were also bullied, okay?
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For every single person that has really shitty things happening to them and has used it as
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an excuse to become a miserable person, and in this case, a fucking evil monster, there
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are 100 other people who had terrible things happen to them and evil done to them, and they
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responded by doing and becoming the opposite of what those actions were.
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I don't care what hard things have happened to you.
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You don't have to just pass the shit on that was passed on to you, okay?
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You don't have to excuse your terrible behavior by saying, oh, you know what?
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I got fucked over, so fuck you, because that's what weak people do.
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You have a will and a heart and a mind that can choose to do the right thing, and not just
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choose to do the right thing, but choose to take the negative things that have been put
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on you with no fault of your own and turn them into good, okay?
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We have the ability and the freedom to make the choice to be the person who rises above
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Does it make it harder when you grow up in a shit family?
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But what the fuck kind of life are you going to have if all you want to do is hurt the
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Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't hold on to that shit and use it, okay?
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A lot of guys right now, it's popular to say, oh, well, why are you going to keep doing
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this because three or four guys made fun of you in high school?
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People, they act like they rise above it, okay?
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It's okay to hang on to that shit if it helps you produce good things, okay?
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And a lot of people will tell you, and you know people like this, it's not my fault.
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The circumstances did this, and a lot of people will duck and use the circumstances
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of what it is they grew up in as an excuse instead of making the choice to be positive
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And the truth of the matter is most people that are out there right now are not thinking
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Most people, and a lot of you people who are listening to this, think that it's not
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You think it's your destiny to be miserable and make other people miserable, okay?
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Some people were blessed by God, and some people got fucked, and that's how you see it, and
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you see yourself as the person that got fucked, but what you don't see is that you aren't locked
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You are free to use your emotions, your experiences, all the things that have happened to you to
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You are free to actually become a great person.
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You are free to become the kind of person that other people who have gone through the shit
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that you have gone through will end up looking up to and thanking and being grateful for because
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you exist and you taught them there was another way.
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People do not make the choice to turn good things out of bad things, and that's why most
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of the people that you talk to are miserable, but you guys, first off, have to be aware of the choice,
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and second of all, you have to make the fucking choice, and the reality is if you keep making the choice
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day after day after day after day, to take what it was, to take the bad circumstances,
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to take the things that frustrate you, to take the things that make you angry,
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to take the things that have happened to you, and turn them into good, productive things,
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if you continue to do that day in and day out for the course of your life, there is no way
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I know a lot of you guys are thinking, well, how is there no way that I cannot be successful?
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People are attracted to people who seem to have that superhuman ability to persevere.
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Look at any speaker you've went and saw that you really, truly loved.
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All of these things had a story of perseverance.
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We as humans cannot help but to be inspired by people who have everything going against them
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And when people are attracted to you because you have that quality in real life,
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Getting people to hear you, to see you, to stand out amongst every other 300 million people in this country
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or 7 billion people on the globe is the hardest part.
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You know how you can stand out quicker than anybody?
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It's by taking all the shit that everybody else complains about
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And I'll see you in that section El Customer 1 rally in самолет lettering area
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