Real Coffee with Scott Adams - Episode 1232 Scott Adams： Nashville, Narcissism, Congress Sucks, And Coffee. Join Me.

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00:01:13.520 There was a big explosion in Nashville. Allegedly, some camper pulled up to an AT&T building and some other buildings.

00:01:23.860 And may or may not have warned people, and then it blew up.

00:01:29.280 Do you know what we know about that story?

00:01:32.240 Something blew up.

00:01:34.360 Do you know what else we know about that story?

00:01:38.120 Nothing.

00:01:39.680 Pretty much nothing.

00:01:41.480 Something blew up.

00:01:43.020 We're in the fog of war.

00:01:44.400 It doesn't appear to be a traditional terrorist, because it seems designed to not kill people,

00:01:53.820 but rather either send a message or damage a building.

00:01:57.600 Some people are theorizing it's because of the AT&T assets in there,

00:02:01.960 and maybe it's because there's some NSA surveillance or something about the Georgia elections.

00:02:07.440 I don't think any of that's true.

00:02:10.600 My guess is that should we ever figure out what happened and why,

00:02:17.200 it's going to be something you never heard of.

00:02:21.200 That's what I think.

00:02:22.640 Because if it were something you'd heard of,

00:02:25.720 it would look more familiar, or somebody would be taking credit for it.

00:02:30.280 If it were ISIS, ISIS would be taking credit.

00:02:33.060 That if it were intended to kill people, they would have done it somewhere else.

00:02:37.880 So whatever this is, it's probably going to be something new.

00:02:43.920 It's either an individual crazy person,

00:02:46.820 or it's somebody trying to get revenge on one person,

00:02:51.000 or maybe it's covering up some other crime.

00:02:55.500 But whatever it is, it's going to be something we haven't seen.

00:02:58.960 So we'll just wait and see if we ever figure that out.

00:03:03.060 There's a little fake news on Fox News site today.

00:03:08.380 And let me tell you what their headline sentence says.

00:03:13.340 And I'll tell you why it's fake news.

00:03:15.360 It says that it's an article on vitamin D.

00:03:19.820 And in the subtitle to the headline, it says,

00:03:23.980 Additional studies also revealed...

00:03:26.900 Actually, I think this might have been in the body of it.

00:03:28.980 It's that additional studies also revealed that 9 out of 10 COVID-19 deaths

00:03:34.460 could have been prevented if people had adequate vitamin D levels.

00:03:40.940 So this is from a Fox 26 report.

00:03:44.400 Listen to this sentence carefully.

00:03:46.940 All right?

00:03:47.580 Because the exact words matter a lot in this sentence.

00:03:51.480 So additional studies, which, by the way, are not linked to.

00:03:57.380 So it's an article which makes a claim that's based on studies.

00:04:02.340 Doesn't link to them.

00:04:03.840 Okay?

00:04:04.020 That's your first red flag.

00:04:05.600 Right?

00:04:06.380 And it says, it revealed that 9 out of 10 COVID deaths could have been prevented.

00:04:12.380 Could have been.

00:04:13.200 So it's softened by could have been.

00:04:14.820 If people had adequate vitamin D levels.

00:04:18.160 How do you read that?

00:04:19.680 The way I think you read it is that if you took vitamin D supplements

00:04:24.620 and got your vitamin D levels up enough,

00:04:27.740 that you would have no risk of COVID-19 death, anyway.

00:04:31.820 You'd have risk of the virus, not death.

00:04:34.180 Isn't that what it seems to be saying?

00:04:37.740 But let me tell you a different interpretation.

00:04:40.540 And then I'll read the sentence again and see if you can see it.

00:04:43.040 The other interpretation is that people who happen to have low vitamin D

00:04:49.120 because they're sick or old, which is why you have low vitamin D.

00:04:56.180 So one of the main reasons you would have low vitamin D is that you're ill from some other thing.

00:05:02.460 Now, if you're ill from some other thing to the degree that your vitamin D levels are low,

00:05:08.120 or maybe that's just a coincidence that comes with those other things,

00:05:11.960 all vitamin D would be is an indicator.

00:05:15.420 It wouldn't be a cause of anything, or the lack of it wouldn't be a cause of anything.

00:05:20.840 It would just be an indicator that somebody has low health.

00:05:26.380 So if people had adequate vitamin D levels,

00:05:30.380 they could avoid hospitalization is almost certainly a true statement, but misleading.

00:05:37.320 If they had vitamin D levels that were good,

00:05:41.340 they wouldn't have comorbidities, or at least as many comorbidities,

00:05:45.600 or the type that would lower your vitamin D.

00:05:48.360 So all it's telling you is they have a health problem, probably.

00:05:52.540 Now, there was one study in Spain with 76 patients,

00:05:55.900 and I think that was a little complicated by the fact that they were also taking hydroxychloroquine,

00:06:01.200 according to the study.

00:06:02.020 So one study, 76 patients, doesn't tell you enough.

00:06:08.680 I still think that vitamin D is likely to be important.

00:06:14.480 In other words, I think the fake story is likely to be true by coincidence,

00:06:21.240 or unrelated to why they think it's true.

00:06:25.800 It might be true anyway,

00:06:26.740 but the claim that they're making is just complete BS.

00:06:32.120 There's a correlation that they found.

00:06:34.060 They have not found a causation.

00:06:36.360 But that said,

00:06:37.780 I feel like there's a good enough chance there's a causation, too,

00:06:42.400 that I take vitamin D.

00:06:43.800 I would recommend it.

00:06:44.840 I think you should, just for good...

00:06:46.740 You know, it's good for you anyway,

00:06:48.100 so there's no downside if you don't take too much.

00:06:50.760 Somebody asked me why the Dilbert comic doesn't have any non-white people.

00:07:00.820 Is that a good question in 2020?

00:07:03.340 Seems like a good question, right?

00:07:05.560 Hey, Scott, what is your Dilbert comic?

00:07:10.060 In 2020, when the world is far, you know, it's completely diverse,

00:07:15.760 why don't you have more non-white people in your comic?

00:07:18.760 Well, now there's one.

00:07:20.460 Ashok, the intern, is Indian American.

00:07:23.840 But the criticism is still valid.

00:07:28.020 And let me explain why.

00:07:29.940 There's an obvious functional reason that there can't be.

00:07:34.960 And it goes like this.

00:07:36.820 In the United States in 2020,

00:07:39.440 and this has been true my whole career, but it's true today,

00:07:43.160 in 2020, you can't have an entertainment vehicle

00:07:47.940 in which a white creator makes fun of people who are not white.

00:07:52.860 That's not a thing.

00:07:54.540 Do you think I can make a comic

00:07:56.300 where I made fun of people who were anything except people like me?

00:08:01.860 No.

00:08:03.200 Nobody can make that comic.

00:08:05.200 There's no such thing as a white person

00:08:06.740 who's mocking black people or Hispanic people or anybody else

00:08:10.620 in an entertainment form and getting away with it.

00:08:14.480 You can't do that.

00:08:16.640 So if somebody's asked me,

00:08:18.280 why don't I have diversity in the comic?

00:08:20.160 I would love to.

00:08:21.560 I'd love to.

00:08:22.540 I would love that the Dilbert comic

00:08:24.280 would more closely, you know,

00:08:26.740 look like the actual public.

00:08:28.560 I'm completely on board with the fact

00:08:32.900 that there should not be

00:08:34.420 a comic strip with a cast of characters

00:08:37.460 that are almost entirely white.

00:08:40.540 Do you think I like that?

00:08:42.620 Why would I?

00:08:43.760 Why would I like that?

00:08:45.400 I'm intentionally trying to make the comic

00:08:47.340 look like real life,

00:08:48.760 and that doesn't look anything like real life.

00:08:51.400 Not even close.

00:08:52.800 So of course I would like them to be diverse.

00:08:55.260 But I don't have that option.

00:08:57.960 I don't have that option.

00:08:59.660 The Dilbert comic would disappear one day

00:09:01.980 after I put some other characters in there.

00:09:05.660 Now I know what people who are not cartoonists are saying,

00:09:08.860 Scott, I think you're being a little,

00:09:13.300 you know, maybe too sensitive or too cautious.

00:09:16.840 Other movies do it.

00:09:18.780 TV shows do it.

00:09:20.920 Other people do it.

00:09:23.200 No, they don't.

00:09:23.860 No, they don't.

00:09:26.380 They don't do it.

00:09:27.800 You might think they do,

00:09:29.220 but you won't find it.

00:09:31.020 Give me an example.

00:09:32.740 You can't find it.

00:09:33.900 There's no movie written by white people

00:09:37.020 with, let's say, a white director

00:09:38.500 and a white writer

00:09:39.760 mocking people of other ethnicities.

00:09:43.380 Unless they also have a writer

00:09:45.780 who might represent those other groups,

00:09:49.040 they're probably not doing it.

00:09:50.660 Somebody's saying South Park.

00:09:55.420 So I would say South Park would be

00:09:57.440 the exception that proves the rule.

00:10:01.120 So here's what you can do

00:10:02.700 if you're the exception that proves the rule.

00:10:06.000 If you create a property

00:10:07.920 that by its design

00:10:10.060 is the thing that makes fun of everything

00:10:11.780 you're not supposed to make fun of,

00:10:13.700 well, then you can do it.

00:10:15.780 Yeah.

00:10:16.180 So South Park is by its design

00:10:18.020 the thing that makes fun of everything.

00:10:19.820 And it especially makes fun of all the things

00:10:21.900 you're not supposed to make fun of.

00:10:24.480 If I made that property,

00:10:26.100 which is not what Dilbert is.

00:10:27.620 Dilbert's about the workplace and blah, blah, blah.

00:10:29.680 But if I made that property,

00:10:30.960 I could do that too.

00:10:32.500 I would say Family Guy was a little bit like that.

00:10:36.040 Although I think you couldn't write

00:10:37.560 most of the Family Guy stuff in 2020.

00:10:40.500 I don't know for sure,

00:10:42.660 but I'll bet one of the reasons

00:10:44.040 that Family Guy isn't as big a deal

00:10:47.800 is because you just can't do the same jokes

00:10:49.500 that you used to be able to do.

00:10:51.100 But again,

00:10:51.980 if your property is about that,

00:10:54.840 then you can do it, sure.

00:10:57.060 But you have to be about that

00:10:58.560 to get away with it.

00:11:03.340 Jerry Seinfeld?

00:11:04.940 I don't think that's an example

00:11:06.420 of what you're trying to say.

00:11:08.280 All right.

00:11:08.500 So, yeah, even in The Simpsons,

00:11:11.840 they had to get rid of their Apu,

00:11:14.880 the 7-Eleven guy.

00:11:18.300 So, that's enough about that.

00:11:22.680 Have you noticed that I have not waded in

00:11:25.400 on the big controversy

00:11:27.480 of how many genders there are?

00:11:32.260 Have you noticed it's sort of conspicuous?

00:11:34.940 You know, I talk about pretty much

00:11:36.260 most of the headlines.

00:11:37.100 But I stay away from that topic completely.

00:11:41.740 Now, there are two reasons for that.

00:11:43.100 One, I'm very pro-LGBTQ

00:11:46.840 and all people being whatever they want to be.

00:11:50.840 Right?

00:11:51.220 So, I'm completely on board

00:11:52.920 with human beings being human beings.

00:11:56.700 I don't know how you could be against that.

00:11:59.640 Right?

00:12:00.340 And I don't require that they all be like me.

00:12:03.560 I require that they not hurt me.

00:12:05.980 Right?

00:12:06.620 I would really like them to be on my team.

00:12:09.960 But I don't require them to be like me.

00:12:12.620 That's crazy.

00:12:13.980 So, here's my only thing I'll say

00:12:16.280 about the whole how many genders are there.

00:12:18.780 If you and I agree

00:12:21.540 that there is such a thing as a person,

00:12:25.400 doesn't matter who we're talking about,

00:12:27.140 just let's say there is a person

00:12:28.800 who is born with male genital parts,

00:12:33.420 but considers themselves,

00:12:34.980 since they were a kid and all through adulthood,

00:12:37.780 considers themselves female mentally,

00:12:41.560 and let's say emotionally,

00:12:42.740 if we both agree that that person exists,

00:12:47.140 and clearly they do,

00:12:49.020 likewise there are people born with female parts

00:12:53.100 that in their mind they have felt male all their life,

00:12:57.700 if we believe that they exist

00:12:59.320 and that I just describe them accurately,

00:13:02.700 we're done.

00:13:05.140 We're done.

00:13:06.680 Somebody's saying it's a mental disorder.

00:13:09.120 Is it?

00:13:09.640 Isn't it only a mental disorder if it's a problem?

00:13:15.600 Right?

00:13:16.240 If it's not a problem,

00:13:17.660 I don't know how it's a mental disorder.

00:13:19.740 Then it's just a difference.

00:13:21.420 A difference without a problem

00:13:23.240 is just a difference.

00:13:27.300 So, where is the source of this mental problem?

00:13:30.940 If you say it's a mental problem

00:13:32.520 because those people don't fit well

00:13:35.260 into the mechanisms of society,

00:13:37.320 I would say, well, maybe that's a problem

00:13:40.280 with the mechanisms of society.

00:13:42.900 Maybe it's a problem

00:13:43.900 that we don't have private bathrooms

00:13:46.160 and public places.

00:13:48.060 Maybe it's not a problem

00:13:48.960 with the person being different

00:13:50.100 because we're all different in different ways.

00:13:52.460 So, that's pretty much my entire opinion

00:13:54.560 on the topic.

00:13:56.000 If you're arguing about the words,

00:13:59.300 about whether somebody is a male

00:14:01.320 or they really are a woman,

00:14:04.280 that's not a real argument.

00:14:05.460 If we can describe exactly what they are,

00:14:08.640 what difference does the label mean?

00:14:11.500 That's just not a real argument.

00:14:13.360 Now, there are real arguments

00:14:14.500 about what you do in a practical sense.

00:14:17.060 There are lots of practical decisions

00:14:18.920 that you have to make.

00:14:19.700 Yeah, about kids and schools

00:14:21.460 and bathrooms and stuff.

00:14:23.380 So, a lot of it is just a practical decision

00:14:25.600 based on what resources you have

00:14:27.580 and how far you can go

00:14:29.440 to accommodate individuals.

00:14:30.800 Those are all good arguments.

00:14:31.840 But to simply label it a mental illness

00:14:35.560 when it's a difference,

00:14:37.860 I feel that doesn't add anything

00:14:39.220 and it's not helpful.

00:14:43.540 James Hamblin tweets

00:14:45.380 that there's a dangerous trend

00:14:47.260 of reporting when somebody gets

00:14:48.960 the virus vaccination.

00:14:51.260 If they have any kind of reaction to it,

00:14:54.180 like an allergic reaction,

00:14:55.760 it becomes a national story.

00:14:58.300 Now, what happens

00:14:59.200 when the rarest of possibilities,

00:15:02.080 which is an adverse reaction

00:15:03.640 to the vaccine,

00:15:04.620 rare, rare, rare,

00:15:05.720 what happens when the news

00:15:07.240 focuses on the rare?

00:15:11.000 Well, it makes you think

00:15:11.960 the vaccine is pretty dangerous

00:15:13.460 because the only stories you see

00:15:15.000 are about problems.

00:15:17.660 So, I had predicted

00:15:19.580 that this would happen.

00:15:20.740 It is guaranteed

00:15:21.680 that there will be both

00:15:23.300 reactions in some people

00:15:25.700 because there always are

00:15:26.700 to vaccines,

00:15:27.780 but also there will be times

00:15:29.780 when people have

00:15:30.560 coincidental problems

00:15:31.980 immediately after the vaccination.

00:15:34.680 Because there are people

00:15:35.520 who get suddenly sick

00:15:36.960 all the time

00:15:38.420 for lots of different reasons.

00:15:40.200 Some of those people

00:15:41.440 are going to get suddenly sick

00:15:43.740 or even suddenly die

00:15:45.000 right after they got a vaccination.

00:15:47.240 It's going to be national news.

00:15:49.560 You should ignore all of it.

00:15:54.080 I'm starting to soften up

00:15:55.920 a little bit

00:15:56.420 on an opinion I had recently

00:15:59.020 about the Republicans

00:16:00.960 and about Trump

00:16:01.860 looking to kill this

00:16:05.160 defense spending bill,

00:16:06.620 the $740 billion,

00:16:08.340 whatever it is.

00:16:09.500 And Trump was tweeting today

00:16:11.040 that he doesn't like it

00:16:13.180 because it's a gift

00:16:14.240 to China, Russia, and big tech.

00:16:16.600 He says it fails to terminate

00:16:18.900 the Section 230

00:16:20.440 that's internationally dangerous.

00:16:22.880 And he said it won't allow us

00:16:24.460 to bring our troops back home

00:16:25.740 where they belong.

00:16:26.620 It renames and destroys

00:16:27.640 forts and national monuments

00:16:28.780 and makes 5G almost impossible.

00:16:32.500 And I said,

00:16:33.780 what?

00:16:36.580 What?

00:16:37.180 Are you telling me

00:16:38.460 that somewhere buried

00:16:40.720 in this defense bill,

00:16:42.000 and we all know

00:16:42.840 that there's a whole bunch

00:16:43.580 of stuff,

00:16:44.800 random stuff,

00:16:45.540 buried there,

00:16:46.580 but are you telling me

00:16:47.320 there's something in that bill?

00:16:48.760 And I don't know if it's true

00:16:49.880 or if it's hyperbole or what,

00:16:52.000 but seriously?

00:16:54.180 There's something in the bill

00:16:55.500 that would make 5G

00:16:57.060 almost impossible?

00:17:00.100 Fact check that for me,

00:17:01.520 will you?

00:17:02.480 If there's something in the bill

00:17:04.020 that would make 5G

00:17:05.520 almost impossible,

00:17:07.100 that's the end of the story.

00:17:10.440 You get that, right?

00:17:12.320 If that claim is true,

00:17:14.080 and I don't know,

00:17:14.900 I mean,

00:17:15.140 it's a political claim,

00:17:16.320 so I'm not going to say

00:17:17.020 it's true just because

00:17:17.880 I saw it in a tweet,

00:17:19.860 but if it's true,

00:17:21.780 if it's true,

00:17:23.800 oh yeah,

00:17:24.220 we have to kill that bill.

00:17:25.680 There's no doubt about it.

00:17:26.880 Because 5G

00:17:28.940 is so critical

00:17:32.160 to the future

00:17:33.120 of our economy,

00:17:35.680 of our security,

00:17:37.600 of everything.

00:17:39.040 If that's really there,

00:17:40.880 there's no doubt about it

00:17:41.860 that it has to be vetoed.

00:17:43.980 So if it's true

00:17:45.160 that the Republicans

00:17:47.020 were onto this

00:17:48.320 and they said

00:17:49.700 that they have other reasons

00:17:51.360 they want to veto it,

00:17:52.180 but if this is one of them,

00:17:54.180 I'm on board

00:17:56.080 with the veto.

00:17:57.480 Now I've said that

00:17:58.440 it's crazy stupid

00:18:01.240 to veto cash

00:18:02.740 to people who need it.

00:18:04.200 It puts a boot

00:18:05.000 on the poorest people

00:18:06.000 in the country.

00:18:07.400 You do it on Christmas.

00:18:08.720 It's just wrong.

00:18:09.860 It's wrong on so many levels

00:18:11.520 to get to this point

00:18:13.640 and then even have to

00:18:15.020 try to beat this thing

00:18:17.120 at the last minute.

00:18:19.340 But under the condition

00:18:23.300 that it's true,

00:18:24.700 and I need a fact check

00:18:25.660 on this,

00:18:26.080 but if it's true

00:18:26.840 that this is making 5G

00:18:29.060 almost impossible,

00:18:31.140 you do have to hurt

00:18:33.380 the poor to kill it.

00:18:36.800 That's an adult decision

00:18:38.140 and it's awful.

00:18:40.420 It's complete incompetence,

00:18:42.440 maybe evil,

00:18:43.900 that we're even in a position

00:18:45.180 where we have to make

00:18:45.940 that kind of a decision.

00:18:47.760 But here we are.

00:18:50.260 Unfortunately,

00:18:50.900 we can't go back in time.

00:18:51.980 Here we are.

00:18:52.460 If we have to make

00:18:53.740 the decision

00:18:54.340 of putting our boot

00:18:56.140 on the neck

00:18:57.300 of poor people

00:18:58.900 or disadvantaged people

00:18:59.980 in this country,

00:19:01.480 just about the worst thing

00:19:02.720 you could think of doing,

00:19:04.680 but the alternative

00:19:06.120 is this 5G thing,

00:19:09.560 the 5G thing is so big

00:19:11.220 that it would also

00:19:12.840 put a boot

00:19:13.480 on the people

00:19:14.620 in the bad situation.

00:19:16.260 It would just do it later.

00:19:17.020 So I do think

00:19:20.620 that at some point

00:19:21.620 some politician

00:19:22.640 somewhere

00:19:23.320 had to draw the line

00:19:25.160 and say,

00:19:25.760 all right,

00:19:26.080 we just have to stop

00:19:27.220 doing stuff like this,

00:19:29.220 putting a bunch

00:19:29.760 of bad stuff

00:19:30.560 with the good stuff

00:19:31.840 so it gets through.

00:19:33.420 And

00:19:33.680 maybe this is the place.

00:19:37.460 You know,

00:19:37.860 so this is the part

00:19:38.960 where I'm softening

00:19:39.740 because I said

00:19:40.480 it was literally

00:19:41.080 the worst time

00:19:42.700 to take a stand.

00:19:45.840 Maybe it's the only time

00:19:47.220 you can do it.

00:19:48.800 Maybe it's the only time

00:19:49.720 you get enough attention

00:19:50.660 is when it's

00:19:51.560 the worst time.

00:19:53.100 But maybe it just

00:19:53.980 had to be done

00:19:54.700 eventually,

00:19:55.780 whether it was

00:19:56.300 on this

00:19:57.180 or something else.

00:19:57.880 So I'd say

00:20:00.720 I'm a little bit

00:20:01.720 moved by the argument

00:20:03.740 that the Republicans

00:20:05.180 may have a better

00:20:06.420 ethical and moral case

00:20:09.500 than my first reading

00:20:11.340 indicated.

00:20:12.740 And by the way,

00:20:13.340 this is for those of you

00:20:14.280 who say,

00:20:15.440 Scott,

00:20:15.920 you never change your mind

00:20:17.200 based on

00:20:17.860 any new facts.

00:20:22.260 But you're watching it.

00:20:23.560 I mean,

00:20:23.780 you're watching me

00:20:24.460 change my mind

00:20:25.300 in real time

00:20:26.200 based on facts.

00:20:27.880 So next time

00:20:28.900 you tell me

00:20:29.260 I don't do that,

00:20:29.940 remember this.

00:20:31.880 So I thought

00:20:32.680 the news would be

00:20:33.320 kind of quiet

00:20:33.900 so I decided

00:20:34.640 to cause some

00:20:35.620 trouble myself.

00:20:38.380 I'm not proud

00:20:39.360 of that,

00:20:39.940 but something I do.

00:20:43.860 So I tweeted

00:20:45.640 that I'm really tired

00:20:47.640 of seeing this word

00:20:48.660 narcissism used

00:20:49.840 in politics,

00:20:50.800 but I also think

00:20:51.860 it's BS

00:20:53.580 in scientific terms

00:20:56.000 as well.

00:20:56.440 And with your indulgence,

00:20:59.440 I would like to talk

00:21:00.280 about the BS

00:21:01.380 which is narcissism

00:21:02.820 and the psychology

00:21:05.260 industry in general.

00:21:07.140 So I'd like to debunk

00:21:08.200 them a little bit.

00:21:08.920 And here's how I started

00:21:09.800 with this tweet,

00:21:10.600 which I knew

00:21:11.360 would draw fire,

00:21:13.140 and it was drawing fire

00:21:14.300 that I kind of wanted.

00:21:15.680 I wanted to see

00:21:16.240 what the argument was.

00:21:17.460 So I said,

00:21:18.080 narcissism is a junk

00:21:19.480 science idea

00:21:20.520 that comes from people

00:21:21.920 with low self-esteem

00:21:23.080 who want to believe

00:21:24.000 people with strong

00:21:24.980 self-esteem

00:21:25.720 are the defective

00:21:27.080 ones.

00:21:28.620 Does that sound

00:21:29.520 provocative enough yet?

00:21:31.620 He goes,

00:21:32.080 that's why there seems

00:21:32.760 to be a so-called

00:21:33.420 epidemic of narcissism

00:21:34.960 going on.

00:21:35.480 So it turns out

00:21:36.360 there is actually

00:21:37.540 an epidemic

00:21:38.340 of narcissism.

00:21:39.900 That's a real thing.

00:21:41.360 So the psychologists

00:21:42.460 have believed

00:21:43.300 that this is a real thing,

00:21:44.600 this narcissism,

00:21:45.700 but now it's way worse.

00:21:48.680 So suddenly,

00:21:49.880 in just the last,

00:21:50.820 I don't know what years

00:21:52.000 we're talking about,

00:21:52.700 let's say 10 years,

00:21:54.060 I think in the last

00:21:54.960 10 years,

00:21:56.240 the amount of diagnosed

00:21:57.600 or supposed narcissism

00:21:59.880 in this country,

00:22:01.080 and maybe the world,

00:22:01.860 but this country,

00:22:02.840 has gone from like,

00:22:04.520 you know,

00:22:04.860 1 to 15.

00:22:06.760 You know,

00:22:07.040 it's like 1% to 15%

00:22:09.200 of the population.

00:22:10.400 It's like,

00:22:11.100 there's narcissism

00:22:12.260 everywhere.

00:22:13.020 It's an outbreak

00:22:14.260 of narcissism.

00:22:15.660 Now that's your first

00:22:16.520 red flag, right?

00:22:18.600 Isn't it a red flag?

00:22:20.620 Because it wasn't

00:22:21.540 that much maybe

00:22:23.120 that changed

00:22:23.940 in society,

00:22:25.540 but suddenly

00:22:26.120 there are way more

00:22:27.000 narcissists?

00:22:28.580 Doesn't it feel like

00:22:29.620 this is an observer problem?

00:22:31.920 That's what I think it is.

00:22:33.580 Here's what I mean

00:22:34.440 by an observer problem.

00:22:36.880 An observer simply

00:22:38.000 believes that something

00:22:40.080 is happening

00:22:40.720 and it isn't.

00:22:42.960 So there's no problem

00:22:44.000 with the thing

00:22:44.620 they're observing.

00:22:45.480 The thing they're observing

00:22:46.340 is just fine.

00:22:47.120 It's a problem

00:22:48.940 with the observer

00:22:49.660 who believes

00:22:50.280 there's some big problem.

00:22:51.960 Let me give you

00:22:52.460 another example.

00:22:53.740 When people call

00:22:54.560 other people racists,

00:22:56.920 what's wrong with that?

00:22:59.680 Well,

00:23:00.380 there's an embedded

00:23:01.720 assumption

00:23:02.400 when you call

00:23:03.280 somebody a racist.

00:23:05.080 Most of the time,

00:23:06.040 the embedded assumption

00:23:07.060 is that the person

00:23:08.020 who's doing the accusing

00:23:09.080 isn't a racist.

00:23:12.260 Right?

00:23:13.180 I mean,

00:23:13.500 why would you

00:23:14.100 be a racist

00:23:15.120 and then accuse

00:23:16.880 somebody of being

00:23:17.620 a racist?

00:23:18.860 Like,

00:23:19.140 that wouldn't make

00:23:19.660 any sense.

00:23:20.720 So,

00:23:22.140 you know,

00:23:22.580 except some weird

00:23:24.160 situation.

00:23:25.280 But people who believe

00:23:27.360 that you're a racist

00:23:28.920 are under the impression

00:23:30.660 that they're not.

00:23:33.260 And here's the problem.

00:23:35.400 You can't not be.

00:23:37.300 That's not one of the options.

00:23:38.960 It's just not one of the options.

00:23:40.820 Because,

00:23:41.300 I've said this before,

00:23:42.160 your brain is a pattern

00:23:43.620 recognition machine.

00:23:44.980 You can't turn that off.

00:23:46.520 There's no button

00:23:47.140 on your brain that says,

00:23:48.140 turn off pattern recognition.

00:23:50.920 Can't be done.

00:23:52.680 Nobody's wise enough,

00:23:54.000 smart enough.

00:23:54.900 And if you could turn it off,

00:23:56.980 well,

00:23:57.220 you'd be dead pretty quickly.

00:23:58.840 Because pattern recognition

00:24:00.260 is the basic

00:24:01.540 operating system

00:24:03.420 of your brain.

00:24:04.500 It's just not very good.

00:24:06.880 It is your operating system.

00:24:08.520 It's just,

00:24:08.940 it's buggy.

00:24:09.540 So the way that you get

00:24:11.240 bias and racism

00:24:13.200 and all the problems

00:24:14.320 that come with that

00:24:15.140 pattern recognition

00:24:15.940 is because we're all

00:24:17.280 bad at it.

00:24:18.300 It's not like you're

00:24:19.380 bad at it

00:24:19.960 and I'm good at it.

00:24:21.920 You're bad at it

00:24:23.040 and I'm bad at it.

00:24:25.300 Because we're humans.

00:24:26.680 If you're a human,

00:24:27.600 you're bad at

00:24:28.100 pattern recognition.

00:24:29.340 That's built in.

00:24:31.200 Sometimes you're right

00:24:32.420 and that's what fools you

00:24:33.940 into thinking you're right

00:24:34.900 on the other times.

00:24:36.060 But you're all bad

00:24:36.760 at pattern recognition.

00:24:37.860 I'm bad,

00:24:38.300 you're bad.

00:24:39.000 So if you're a racist

00:24:40.580 and you're accusing

00:24:41.300 somebody else

00:24:41.920 of being a racist,

00:24:43.140 you're just being bad

00:24:44.900 at pattern recognition

00:24:46.020 because you are one too,

00:24:49.020 maybe in little different ways,

00:24:50.940 maybe you don't say

00:24:51.640 things out loud,

00:24:53.000 maybe you think them,

00:24:55.020 but you are.

00:24:57.500 So that's an observer problem.

00:24:59.620 The problem is not

00:25:00.400 that there is a person

00:25:01.260 who is a racist or not.

00:25:02.560 The problem is

00:25:03.120 that the observer

00:25:03.840 imagines a world

00:25:05.600 where there exists

00:25:06.680 racist and,

00:25:09.100 here's the imaginary part,

00:25:10.560 non-racist.

00:25:11.900 They're just people

00:25:12.560 who are racist

00:25:13.040 about different things

00:25:14.040 in different ways.

00:25:15.120 That's about it.

00:25:17.860 All right.

00:25:18.260 But,

00:25:18.640 that said,

00:25:21.080 while I believe

00:25:21.780 that we are biologically

00:25:23.000 inclined to racism,

00:25:25.940 if you want to be

00:25:26.860 a good person

00:25:27.580 in the world,

00:25:28.560 you will do

00:25:29.280 what you can

00:25:29.940 to use your

00:25:30.540 higher sense of reason

00:25:32.780 to tamp down

00:25:34.080 whatever natural

00:25:35.040 impulses you have

00:25:36.440 from your bad

00:25:37.040 pattern recognition.

00:25:38.840 So,

00:25:39.320 we would all like

00:25:40.340 to try to overcome

00:25:41.820 our pattern recognition,

00:25:43.300 but it's not really a thing.

00:25:44.580 You can't really overcome it.

00:25:46.540 All right.

00:25:49.760 Let's talk about

00:25:51.160 some of the definitions

00:25:52.880 of narcissism.

00:25:55.060 So,

00:25:55.480 Scott Barry Kaufman,

00:25:56.700 who's a humanistic psychologist,

00:25:59.600 came in to mock me

00:26:01.320 on Twitter

00:26:01.760 for my thought

00:26:02.840 that narcissism

00:26:03.780 is not real,

00:26:04.480 and he said,

00:26:05.500 narcissism and healthy

00:26:06.740 self-esteem

00:26:07.660 are very different

00:26:08.540 from each other.

00:26:09.820 All right.

00:26:10.160 Number one,

00:26:11.780 when somebody like me

00:26:13.080 makes a tweet like this

00:26:15.160 where I say,

00:26:16.320 narcissism is a

00:26:17.440 junk science idea

00:26:18.480 that comes from

00:26:19.680 people with low

00:26:20.480 self-esteem

00:26:21.260 who want to believe

00:26:22.560 people with strong

00:26:23.820 self-esteem

00:26:24.540 are the defective ones,

00:26:26.260 did you read that

00:26:27.240 as being literally

00:26:28.560 exactly covering everything?

00:26:31.320 When you read a tweet

00:26:33.320 about a big topic,

00:26:35.880 do you think the tweet

00:26:36.720 is intended to be complete?

00:26:39.260 That's not really

00:26:40.260 how tweets work.

00:26:41.780 Tweets are oversimplifications.

00:26:43.840 All right.

00:26:44.440 It's an oversimplification

00:26:45.780 with the purpose

00:26:46.820 of being provocative.

00:26:48.280 And the fact that

00:26:49.180 I oversimplified it

00:26:50.360 intentionally

00:26:51.000 is what causes

00:26:52.740 the provocative part.

00:26:54.300 All right.

00:26:55.660 So,

00:26:57.100 Scott Barry Kaufman's

00:26:58.800 first comment

00:26:59.420 is just sort of,

00:27:00.560 I don't know,

00:27:01.440 low reading comprehension

00:27:02.700 if he thinks

00:27:03.860 that the only thing

00:27:04.720 I think

00:27:05.180 is that

00:27:06.360 having

00:27:08.080 a healthy

00:27:10.100 self-esteem

00:27:10.780 is the same

00:27:11.280 as narcissism

00:27:12.100 because I don't think

00:27:13.140 that.

00:27:14.300 I'll tell you

00:27:15.060 what I do think

00:27:15.820 as we go on here

00:27:16.900 but no,

00:27:17.740 he's misinterpreting it

00:27:19.200 because he thinks

00:27:19.740 it's a literal

00:27:20.980 complete statement

00:27:22.000 which you don't do

00:27:23.100 on Twitter.

00:27:24.880 And then he says,

00:27:26.260 also,

00:27:27.320 I love it

00:27:28.020 when non-scientists

00:27:29.260 dismiss an entire

00:27:30.340 area of study

00:27:31.260 as junk science.

00:27:33.520 Okay then,

00:27:34.580 we'll stop

00:27:35.220 doing the science

00:27:36.340 and just defer

00:27:37.380 to your wisdom

00:27:38.200 because you know

00:27:39.360 everything.

00:27:40.800 So this was

00:27:41.580 what he tweeted

00:27:42.220 back to me

00:27:43.000 while defending

00:27:44.600 that narcissism

00:27:47.140 is a real thing.

00:27:48.620 And I thought

00:27:49.100 to myself,

00:27:50.180 I feel as if

00:27:51.760 one of the

00:27:52.940 symptoms of

00:27:53.940 narcissism

00:27:54.820 is

00:27:55.360 everything

00:27:56.960 in this tweet.

00:27:59.380 Do you notice

00:28:00.240 the first problem?

00:28:02.300 I'm the observer

00:28:03.400 now, right?

00:28:04.760 As the observer,

00:28:06.320 I'm going to look

00:28:07.420 at this statement

00:28:08.100 by Scott Barry

00:28:09.040 Kaufman,

00:28:09.600 a man I've never

00:28:10.460 met,

00:28:11.200 never been in

00:28:11.900 the same room.

00:28:12.920 But as an observer,

00:28:14.720 I observe the

00:28:15.680 symptoms of

00:28:16.380 narcissism

00:28:17.100 clearly in this tweet.

00:28:19.260 So,

00:28:20.260 is he a narcissist?

00:28:21.120 Because I've

00:28:22.540 observed the

00:28:23.180 symptoms?

00:28:25.940 Let's go on.

00:28:27.940 So,

00:28:28.360 he thinks,

00:28:29.300 well,

00:28:31.280 so,

00:28:31.940 let's give you

00:28:34.620 the quiz.

00:28:35.480 Let's find out

00:28:36.280 if you are

00:28:37.320 a narcissist.

00:28:38.620 Take the quiz

00:28:39.200 with me.

00:28:39.620 I'll tell you

00:28:40.020 what the symptoms

00:28:40.860 are.

00:28:41.720 Now,

00:28:42.040 you keep track

00:28:42.820 of how many

00:28:43.740 of these symptoms

00:28:44.340 you have,

00:28:45.460 and I'll do

00:28:46.020 the same,

00:28:46.460 all right?

00:28:47.100 This is from

00:28:47.840 the Mayo Clinic.

00:28:49.440 It says,

00:28:50.040 a narcissistic

00:28:50.980 personality disorder.

00:28:52.960 And some people

00:28:53.620 on Twitter

00:28:54.600 wanted me to know

00:28:55.480 that there's a

00:28:56.040 difference between

00:28:56.960 calling somebody

00:28:58.240 a narcissist

00:28:58.820 on Twitter,

00:28:59.760 which is sort

00:29:00.540 of a general

00:29:01.360 insult,

00:29:02.460 versus the real

00:29:03.420 clinical

00:29:04.100 narcissistic

00:29:05.740 personality disorder.

00:29:07.860 And so,

00:29:08.280 some people

00:29:08.800 were willing

00:29:09.280 to agree

00:29:10.300 with me

00:29:10.880 so far as,

00:29:12.360 yeah,

00:29:12.580 we overuse

00:29:13.600 the word,

00:29:15.000 but at the

00:29:15.540 same time

00:29:16.020 we overuse

00:29:16.680 the word,

00:29:17.160 it can be

00:29:17.620 true that

00:29:18.600 there's a

00:29:19.000 legitimate

00:29:19.520 clinical diagnosis.

00:29:21.740 It's a real

00:29:22.040 thing.

00:29:22.800 To which I

00:29:23.660 say,

00:29:24.900 nope,

00:29:25.740 it's not a

00:29:26.540 real thing

00:29:26.860 in the clinic

00:29:27.300 either.

00:29:28.440 Now,

00:29:29.160 I might be

00:29:29.840 right,

00:29:30.740 I might be

00:29:31.640 wrong,

00:29:32.500 but my claim

00:29:33.200 is it doesn't

00:29:33.920 exist in the

00:29:34.560 clinic,

00:29:35.400 doesn't exist

00:29:36.120 in science,

00:29:37.200 doesn't exist

00:29:38.080 anywhere.

00:29:39.840 It's just a

00:29:40.560 completely made-up

00:29:41.600 thing that has

00:29:43.540 no use,

00:29:44.940 no function,

00:29:46.420 no nothing.

00:29:47.360 It's just an

00:29:47.940 empty idea.

00:29:50.440 All right,

00:29:50.680 so,

00:29:51.380 let's see

00:29:51.960 what the

00:29:53.100 Mayo Clinic

00:29:53.760 says about it.

00:29:54.620 It says,

00:29:55.000 narcissistic

00:29:55.720 personality

00:29:56.220 disorder,

00:29:57.720 blah,

00:29:57.900 blah,

00:29:58.040 blah,

00:29:58.200 is a

00:29:58.600 mental

00:29:58.860 condition.

00:30:00.780 What is

00:30:01.720 not a

00:30:02.180 mental

00:30:02.400 condition?

00:30:03.860 So,

00:30:04.180 everything

00:30:04.480 your brain

00:30:05.040 does is

00:30:05.720 sort of a

00:30:06.340 mental

00:30:06.540 condition,

00:30:07.300 okay,

00:30:07.780 in which

00:30:08.360 people have

00:30:08.880 an inflated

00:30:09.540 sense of

00:30:10.100 their own

00:30:10.380 importance.

00:30:11.740 Do you

00:30:11.980 see the

00:30:12.280 problem

00:30:12.580 already?

00:30:13.540 people have

00:30:15.080 an inflated

00:30:15.820 sense of

00:30:16.420 their own

00:30:16.740 importance

00:30:17.300 according to

00:30:19.960 the observer.

00:30:22.820 Do you see

00:30:23.560 it yet?

00:30:24.500 It's an

00:30:25.060 observer

00:30:25.380 problem.

00:30:26.840 If you

00:30:27.440 tell me I

00:30:28.040 have an

00:30:28.320 inflated

00:30:28.820 sense of

00:30:29.620 my own

00:30:30.000 importance,

00:30:30.940 why the

00:30:31.780 fuck are

00:30:32.220 you the

00:30:32.500 one who

00:30:32.760 is right?

00:30:34.320 Why can't

00:30:35.180 I be

00:30:35.460 right?

00:30:36.540 Why isn't

00:30:37.160 my inflated

00:30:38.600 sense of

00:30:39.140 my own

00:30:39.500 importance

00:30:40.000 perfectly

00:30:41.440 accurate?

00:30:43.160 Who are

00:30:43.760 you to

00:30:44.100 tell me

00:30:44.520 that my

00:30:45.540 importance

00:30:45.940 is less

00:30:46.680 than my

00:30:47.780 own belief

00:30:48.380 of my

00:30:48.700 importance?

00:30:49.420 I might

00:30:49.880 be right,

00:30:50.860 I might

00:30:51.540 be wrong,

00:30:52.620 but why

00:30:53.680 are you

00:30:54.160 more right

00:30:54.840 than I

00:30:55.380 am about

00:30:56.100 my

00:30:56.420 importance?

00:30:58.340 Do you

00:30:58.900 see it

00:30:59.160 yet?

00:30:59.880 Now,

00:31:00.120 we'll keep

00:31:00.920 going,

00:31:01.500 and you're

00:31:01.800 going to

00:31:01.880 see this

00:31:02.240 observer

00:31:02.680 problem over

00:31:03.420 and over

00:31:03.700 again,

00:31:03.980 right?

00:31:04.140 this is

00:31:07.200 also from

00:31:07.660 the Mayo

00:31:07.940 Clinic,

00:31:09.040 says that

00:31:09.620 you have

00:31:09.980 a deep

00:31:10.440 need for

00:31:11.040 excessive

00:31:11.740 attention

00:31:12.500 and admiration.

00:31:14.240 Who says

00:31:15.200 it's excessive?

00:31:17.540 You're

00:31:18.180 observing me

00:31:18.900 right now

00:31:19.500 live streaming

00:31:20.960 to the

00:31:21.300 world in

00:31:22.400 front of

00:31:23.000 two major

00:31:23.640 platforms

00:31:24.260 because why

00:31:26.160 am I live

00:31:26.880 streaming and

00:31:27.540 you're watching?

00:31:28.960 Well,

00:31:29.280 I'm live

00:31:29.920 streaming and

00:31:30.640 you're watching

00:31:31.220 because I

00:31:32.740 believe that

00:31:34.120 what I'm

00:31:35.060 producing is

00:31:36.500 worthy of

00:31:37.580 being watched.

00:31:39.800 Okay?

00:31:40.500 But if I

00:31:41.440 believe that

00:31:42.080 the thing I'm

00:31:43.100 doing is

00:31:43.600 worthy of,

00:31:44.600 to use the

00:31:45.620 Mayo Clinic's

00:31:46.420 words,

00:31:47.580 it's worthy

00:31:48.140 of attention

00:31:48.820 and,

00:31:49.940 well,

00:31:50.220 I wouldn't

00:31:50.480 say admiration.

00:31:52.480 That's kind

00:31:53.320 of mind

00:31:53.700 reading,

00:31:54.140 isn't it?

00:31:55.180 If somebody

00:31:55.900 said that

00:31:56.500 because I'm

00:31:57.720 doing this,

00:31:58.300 I clearly

00:31:58.760 am chasing

00:32:00.060 attention all

00:32:00.820 the time.

00:32:01.240 I do it

00:32:01.520 in public.

00:32:03.020 Most of

00:32:03.800 what I

00:32:04.160 do is

00:32:04.660 to get

00:32:05.160 attention.

00:32:06.300 And I

00:32:06.620 don't do

00:32:06.960 it in any

00:32:09.100 opaque way.

00:32:09.820 I do it

00:32:10.100 transparently.

00:32:11.120 I'm

00:32:11.480 transparently

00:32:12.160 trying to

00:32:12.680 get lots

00:32:13.100 of attention

00:32:13.600 because I

00:32:14.520 like it,

00:32:15.400 because it

00:32:15.940 has a

00:32:16.280 value.

00:32:17.340 It's a

00:32:17.900 value,

00:32:18.260 I think,

00:32:18.620 to you.

00:32:19.860 It would

00:32:20.420 definitely be

00:32:20.940 a value

00:32:21.300 to me.

00:32:22.860 So who

00:32:23.960 gets to

00:32:24.420 tell me that

00:32:24.900 was excessive?

00:32:26.300 Is my

00:32:27.040 need for

00:32:28.280 attention

00:32:28.780 excessive?

00:32:30.060 Well, the

00:32:31.740 observer says

00:32:32.580 so, maybe.

00:32:34.860 But why

00:32:35.600 is the

00:32:35.960 observer

00:32:36.340 right?

00:32:39.040 Why can't

00:32:39.840 the observer

00:32:40.420 be somewhat

00:32:41.780 of a mind

00:32:42.680 reader in

00:32:43.140 this case?

00:32:43.960 Because what

00:32:44.400 makes it

00:32:44.800 excessive?

00:32:45.920 If it

00:32:46.560 works and

00:32:47.280 it has a

00:32:47.700 function and

00:32:48.340 it's part of

00:32:48.760 a strategy

00:32:49.380 and a plan,

00:32:50.400 it's part of

00:32:50.960 my business

00:32:51.580 model,

00:32:53.020 who says

00:32:54.240 it's excessive?

00:32:55.000 That's an

00:32:55.320 opinion.

00:32:56.060 All right?

00:32:56.220 Let's go

00:32:56.920 on.

00:32:58.660 Another

00:32:59.060 sign of

00:33:00.260 narcissists

00:33:01.060 is that

00:33:01.360 they have

00:33:01.620 troubled

00:33:02.000 relationships.

00:33:04.600 What?

00:33:06.220 Troubled

00:33:06.820 relationships?

00:33:08.820 Can you

00:33:09.680 name anybody

00:33:10.580 who doesn't

00:33:11.300 have troubled

00:33:12.240 relationships?

00:33:14.120 Do you

00:33:14.520 notice what's

00:33:15.040 going on

00:33:15.460 now?

00:33:16.420 Now they're

00:33:16.800 just throwing

00:33:17.300 some BS

00:33:18.040 on the

00:33:18.420 pile,

00:33:18.980 because there's

00:33:19.420 nobody who

00:33:19.940 doesn't have

00:33:20.340 troubled

00:33:20.740 relationships.

00:33:22.140 In fact,

00:33:22.840 every mental

00:33:23.500 condition in

00:33:25.140 the world

00:33:25.680 causes

00:33:26.740 troubled

00:33:28.060 relationships.

00:33:29.840 All right,

00:33:30.080 let's go

00:33:30.440 on.

00:33:31.700 How about

00:33:32.300 a lack

00:33:32.860 of empathy

00:33:33.440 for others?

00:33:36.400 Let me

00:33:37.120 measure all

00:33:38.260 of your

00:33:38.580 empathy

00:33:38.980 now.

00:33:40.580 Okay?

00:33:41.980 See,

00:33:42.700 I'm seeing

00:33:44.200 Brian

00:33:45.160 with a

00:33:46.440 Y.

00:33:47.320 I'm looking

00:33:47.860 into your

00:33:48.300 mind now.

00:33:49.840 Yeah,

00:33:50.280 not much

00:33:50.780 empathy in

00:33:51.280 there,

00:33:51.500 Brian.

00:33:52.440 I'm sorry

00:33:52.960 about you.

00:33:53.660 Let me do

00:33:54.020 another one.

00:33:55.680 Havoc,

00:33:57.020 user

00:33:57.440 Havoc,

00:33:58.560 reading your

00:33:59.320 empathy.

00:33:59.780 Oh,

00:33:59.900 you're good.

00:34:00.500 Actually,

00:34:00.860 you have

00:34:01.060 lots of

00:34:01.380 empathy.

00:34:02.680 Now,

00:34:03.220 do somebody

00:34:03.760 else.

00:34:05.660 Okay.

00:34:06.660 Joe,

00:34:07.640 I'm reading

00:34:08.240 your mind

00:34:08.700 now.

00:34:09.620 No,

00:34:10.320 I'm sorry.

00:34:11.140 You don't

00:34:11.420 have not

00:34:13.720 enough empathy

00:34:14.400 in there.

00:34:15.580 You see the

00:34:16.040 problem again?

00:34:16.740 It's an

00:34:17.120 observer problem.

00:34:18.440 How the

00:34:18.800 hell do I

00:34:19.620 know how

00:34:19.960 much empathy

00:34:20.480 you have?

00:34:21.720 Moreover,

00:34:22.880 how many

00:34:23.340 different

00:34:23.880 conditions

00:34:24.640 create a

00:34:25.740 lack of

00:34:26.180 empathy

00:34:26.580 according to

00:34:27.360 other people?

00:34:29.080 All of

00:34:29.680 them.

00:34:30.380 If you're

00:34:30.800 an alcoholic,

00:34:31.740 do you

00:34:32.160 exhibit a

00:34:32.760 lack of

00:34:33.160 empathy for

00:34:33.740 other people?

00:34:34.800 Yes.

00:34:35.600 If you're

00:34:36.260 on this

00:34:36.680 spectrum,

00:34:37.400 do you

00:34:37.700 exhibit a

00:34:38.340 lack of

00:34:38.720 empathy for

00:34:39.340 other people?

00:34:40.980 Yes.

00:34:41.900 If you're

00:34:42.460 a CEO,

00:34:43.360 do you

00:34:43.600 exhibit a

00:34:44.180 lack of

00:34:44.600 empathy for

00:34:45.280 your employees?

00:34:46.660 I hope so,

00:34:47.760 because if you

00:34:48.340 don't,

00:34:48.660 you'd be a

00:34:48.960 bad CEO.

00:34:49.500 You have

00:34:50.680 to do

00:34:51.000 things that

00:34:51.480 are bad

00:34:51.840 to them

00:34:52.280 to run

00:34:53.720 the business,

00:34:54.460 hoping there's

00:34:55.100 a greater

00:34:55.720 good that

00:34:56.280 helps everybody

00:34:57.020 in the long

00:34:57.460 run, as

00:34:58.320 capitalism does.

00:35:01.560 All right.

00:35:02.400 So,

00:35:02.800 imagining that

00:35:03.940 you can see

00:35:04.780 someone else's

00:35:05.740 amount of

00:35:06.400 empathy is

00:35:07.660 mind-reading,

00:35:08.400 and it's

00:35:08.640 frankly crazy.

00:35:10.740 And I don't

00:35:11.220 know how you

00:35:11.600 could be a

00:35:11.980 professional and

00:35:13.220 think you

00:35:13.680 could determine

00:35:14.260 someone else's

00:35:15.140 degree of

00:35:16.800 empathy, or

00:35:17.600 if it's the

00:35:18.140 right amount.

00:35:18.680 that's purely

00:35:19.880 an observer

00:35:20.440 problem.

00:35:21.520 They've

00:35:21.820 compared your

00:35:22.500 empathy to

00:35:24.000 their own.

00:35:25.600 Right?

00:35:26.340 That's exactly

00:35:27.220 what happened.

00:35:28.120 They imagined

00:35:28.800 how much

00:35:29.320 empathy they

00:35:29.900 had, and

00:35:31.160 they said,

00:35:31.540 well, that's

00:35:31.820 the normal

00:35:32.320 amount.

00:35:33.340 Then they

00:35:33.980 read your

00:35:34.460 mind, because

00:35:35.080 they can't

00:35:35.440 possibly know

00:35:36.040 how much

00:35:36.360 empathy you

00:35:36.860 have, and

00:35:37.660 they determined,

00:35:39.180 ah, yeah,

00:35:40.660 compared to

00:35:41.200 mine, you

00:35:42.780 don't have

00:35:43.400 enough, so

00:35:44.720 therefore you

00:35:45.240 have a mental

00:35:45.680 disorder.

00:35:46.160 It's

00:35:47.420 crazy.

00:35:48.400 It's

00:35:48.640 absolutely

00:35:49.120 crazy that

00:35:50.320 we put up

00:35:50.880 with this

00:35:51.500 kind of

00:35:52.260 bogus

00:35:52.920 science.

00:35:54.200 All right,

00:35:54.340 how about

00:35:54.600 this?

00:35:56.760 That behind

00:35:57.720 their, these

00:35:58.360 are definition

00:35:59.360 of a

00:35:59.720 narcissist, again,

00:36:00.560 if you're just

00:36:00.900 joining me,

00:36:01.940 behind their

00:36:02.540 mask of

00:36:03.120 extreme

00:36:03.620 confidence

00:36:04.420 lies a

00:36:05.840 fragile self-esteem

00:36:07.120 that's vulnerable

00:36:08.480 to the

00:36:09.060 slightest

00:36:09.440 criticism.

00:36:10.260 criticism.

00:36:11.800 So, do

00:36:13.580 you know

00:36:13.940 anybody who

00:36:14.580 is vulnerable

00:36:15.220 to the

00:36:15.900 slightest

00:36:16.300 criticism?

00:36:18.860 You know,

00:36:19.140 there's a

00:36:19.520 category of

00:36:20.560 people that,

00:36:22.400 I don't know

00:36:22.880 if you've

00:36:23.160 met any of

00:36:23.620 these, and

00:36:24.680 I don't know

00:36:25.060 if this is

00:36:25.480 actually a

00:36:26.020 psychological

00:36:26.560 designation or

00:36:27.680 what, but

00:36:28.460 there's an

00:36:28.800 entire category

00:36:29.660 of people,

00:36:30.180 and there are

00:36:30.340 a lot of

00:36:30.740 them, who

00:36:31.920 are, almost

00:36:33.420 to a person

00:36:34.060 in that

00:36:34.380 group, quite

00:36:36.360 vulnerable to

00:36:38.340 the slightest

00:36:38.940 criticism.

00:36:40.260 They're called

00:36:41.100 women.

00:36:42.460 Have you

00:36:42.800 heard of

00:36:43.040 them?

00:36:44.060 They're

00:36:44.360 everywhere.

00:36:45.140 If you go

00:36:45.420 outside,

00:36:46.300 pretty much

00:36:47.640 half of

00:36:48.300 everybody in

00:36:48.780 the world

00:36:49.240 is a

00:36:50.200 woman.

00:36:51.680 Have you

00:36:52.000 ever met

00:36:52.540 a woman

00:36:53.040 who is

00:36:55.060 not

00:36:55.480 vulnerable

00:36:56.520 to the

00:36:57.900 slightest

00:36:58.320 criticism?

00:37:00.540 No, you

00:37:01.340 haven't.

00:37:02.080 No, you

00:37:02.800 haven't.

00:37:03.680 You've

00:37:04.160 never met

00:37:04.680 a woman

00:37:05.100 who is

00:37:07.060 invulnerable

00:37:08.020 to

00:37:08.780 criticism,

00:37:09.540 even a

00:37:09.880 slight

00:37:10.080 one's.

00:37:11.580 Now, is

00:37:12.600 that because

00:37:13.080 women are

00:37:13.820 weak and

00:37:15.160 can't take

00:37:15.740 criticism?

00:37:16.960 Well, there's

00:37:17.660 another group

00:37:18.220 of people,

00:37:18.820 and there's

00:37:19.080 a lot of

00:37:19.580 them, who

00:37:20.600 are very

00:37:21.620 sensitive to

00:37:24.620 criticism.

00:37:25.780 They're not

00:37:26.180 women.

00:37:27.180 It's another

00:37:27.640 group.

00:37:28.920 And they

00:37:29.960 don't like it

00:37:30.620 when they get

00:37:31.120 criticized, and

00:37:31.860 it bugs

00:37:32.380 them.

00:37:33.600 Do you

00:37:33.800 know what

00:37:34.000 they're

00:37:34.140 called?

00:37:35.700 Men.

00:37:36.920 Men.

00:37:37.820 Have you

00:37:38.140 ever met

00:37:38.460 a man

00:37:38.840 that liked

00:37:40.440 criticism?

00:37:42.460 I get a

00:37:43.400 lot of

00:37:43.680 it.

00:37:44.960 I don't

00:37:45.500 like it,

00:37:47.640 but I

00:37:48.060 find you

00:37:48.960 get used

00:37:49.780 to it,

00:37:50.140 and then

00:37:50.320 you can

00:37:51.320 just deal

00:37:52.120 with it

00:37:52.380 easily.

00:37:53.380 So I

00:37:54.040 would say

00:37:54.420 that dealing

00:37:55.120 with

00:37:55.440 criticism

00:37:56.020 has more

00:37:57.820 to do

00:37:58.140 with

00:37:58.300 practice.

00:37:59.600 I've

00:37:59.880 simply had

00:38:00.340 more

00:38:00.580 practice

00:38:01.080 dealing

00:38:01.460 with

00:38:01.680 criticism

00:38:02.220 than

00:38:02.520 other

00:38:02.740 people,

00:38:03.140 so it

00:38:03.340 probably

00:38:03.540 bothers me

00:38:04.080 less.

00:38:04.400 is it

00:38:05.320 because I'm

00:38:05.800 awesome?

00:38:06.920 Is it

00:38:07.180 because I'm

00:38:07.560 the only

00:38:07.900 person here

00:38:08.540 who doesn't

00:38:09.000 have a

00:38:09.320 mental

00:38:09.580 problem,

00:38:10.400 and the

00:38:10.740 rest of

00:38:11.120 you,

00:38:11.400 you're

00:38:11.480 all bothered

00:38:11.900 by

00:38:12.140 criticism

00:38:12.600 more than

00:38:13.120 I am,

00:38:13.600 so sorry,

00:38:16.040 I'm the

00:38:16.440 only one

00:38:16.860 here who's

00:38:17.340 not a

00:38:17.760 narcissist.

00:38:19.880 All the

00:38:20.340 rest of

00:38:20.760 you clearly

00:38:21.440 meet the

00:38:21.880 definition of

00:38:22.520 being bothered

00:38:23.040 by slight

00:38:24.200 criticism.

00:38:25.720 Wait,

00:38:26.500 who gets

00:38:27.040 to decide

00:38:28.140 what is a

00:38:28.720 slight

00:38:29.120 criticism?

00:38:31.240 Oh,

00:38:31.920 you see it

00:38:32.360 again?

00:38:33.500 Bothered

00:38:33.980 by slight

00:38:35.360 criticisms?

00:38:37.760 Who gets

00:38:38.460 to decide

00:38:39.000 how big

00:38:39.380 the

00:38:39.540 criticism

00:38:39.940 is?

00:38:41.080 The

00:38:41.540 observer.

00:38:42.740 That's

00:38:42.980 right.

00:38:43.520 The

00:38:43.660 observer

00:38:44.180 gets to

00:38:44.720 decide

00:38:45.160 that,

00:38:45.480 oh,

00:38:45.600 that was

00:38:45.840 a slight

00:38:46.320 criticism.

00:38:49.120 Would

00:38:49.580 the observer

00:38:50.100 think the

00:38:50.640 same thing

00:38:51.100 if they

00:38:51.400 had been

00:38:51.660 on the

00:38:51.960 other

00:38:52.160 end of

00:38:52.460 that

00:38:52.640 slight

00:38:53.520 criticism?

00:38:54.540 There's

00:38:54.980 nobody

00:38:55.340 who doesn't

00:38:55.800 get bothered

00:38:56.280 by

00:38:56.560 criticism.

00:38:57.320 It's

00:38:57.460 built

00:38:57.680 into

00:38:57.920 us.

00:38:59.660 Now,

00:39:00.080 I know

00:39:00.260 you're

00:39:00.500 going to

00:39:00.580 say it's

00:39:00.880 a matter

00:39:01.180 of

00:39:01.420 degree,

00:39:01.900 and then

00:39:02.760 I'm

00:39:03.000 going to

00:39:03.180 say,

00:39:03.460 well,

00:39:03.560 that's

00:39:03.760 a matter

00:39:04.040 of

00:39:04.180 opinion.

00:39:05.820 The

00:39:06.400 degree

00:39:06.740 is

00:39:07.000 kind

00:39:07.360 of

00:39:07.460 an

00:39:07.580 opinion.

00:39:09.040 How

00:39:09.540 about

00:39:09.720 this?

00:39:14.280 Let's

00:39:14.840 see,

00:39:15.360 a narcissist,

00:39:16.960 you have

00:39:18.280 problems

00:39:18.700 with your

00:39:20.400 relationships,

00:39:21.720 problems

00:39:22.040 at work,

00:39:23.240 school,

00:39:23.840 and in

00:39:24.060 your financial

00:39:24.660 affairs.

00:39:25.700 Does that

00:39:26.360 describe

00:39:26.900 anybody

00:39:27.560 else?

00:39:28.700 You

00:39:28.940 just

00:39:29.180 describe

00:39:29.640 almost

00:39:29.960 everybody

00:39:30.460 I

00:39:30.680 know.

00:39:31.940 There

00:39:32.140 are

00:39:32.260 very

00:39:32.520 few

00:39:32.820 people

00:39:33.140 who

00:39:33.320 don't

00:39:33.600 have

00:39:34.000 problems

00:39:35.620 in

00:39:36.000 their

00:39:36.160 life,

00:39:36.860 problems

00:39:37.180 in

00:39:37.420 their

00:39:37.540 relationships,

00:39:38.480 problems

00:39:38.820 at work,

00:39:39.620 problems

00:39:39.840 at school,

00:39:40.640 problems

00:39:40.860 in their

00:39:41.200 financial

00:39:41.580 field.

00:39:42.020 It's

00:39:42.200 pretty much

00:39:42.660 everybody,

00:39:43.380 and it's

00:39:43.760 for all

00:39:44.040 different

00:39:44.340 reasons.

00:39:46.420 Every

00:39:46.980 kind of

00:39:47.580 mental

00:39:48.040 problem

00:39:48.500 can cause

00:39:49.180 all these

00:39:49.560 same

00:39:49.780 problems.

00:39:52.300 Let's

00:39:52.860 see,

00:39:53.060 what

00:39:53.140 else?

00:39:55.180 This is

00:39:56.020 also from

00:39:56.580 Mayo Clinic.

00:39:57.180 People

00:39:57.680 with

00:39:57.980 narcissistic

00:39:58.820 personality

00:39:59.260 disorder

00:39:59.800 may be

00:40:00.780 generally

00:40:01.220 unhappy

00:40:01.860 and

00:40:02.160 disappointed

00:40:02.760 when

00:40:03.740 they're

00:40:03.920 not

00:40:04.140 given

00:40:04.420 the

00:40:04.660 special

00:40:05.140 favors

00:40:05.660 or

00:40:05.940 admiration

00:40:06.540 they

00:40:07.420 believe

00:40:07.800 they

00:40:08.100 deserve.

00:40:09.480 They

00:40:09.940 believe

00:40:10.320 they

00:40:10.580 deserve?

00:40:12.080 How do

00:40:12.460 you know

00:40:12.660 what they

00:40:14.520 believe

00:40:14.840 they

00:40:15.040 deserve?

00:40:16.420 Are

00:40:16.720 you

00:40:17.060 a

00:40:17.700 mind

00:40:18.120 reader?

00:40:19.920 All

00:40:20.300 right?

00:40:20.700 If you

00:40:21.640 asked

00:40:22.140 somebody

00:40:23.500 that you

00:40:23.860 thought

00:40:24.080 was a

00:40:24.420 narcissist

00:40:24.860 who had

00:40:25.960 entered a

00:40:26.520 contest

00:40:27.060 and lost

00:40:27.860 to somebody

00:40:29.500 who was

00:40:29.760 just better

00:40:30.260 at the

00:40:30.520 contest,

00:40:31.020 let's say

00:40:31.300 they hit

00:40:31.620 the target

00:40:32.040 more,

00:40:32.760 do you

00:40:33.000 think the

00:40:33.340 narcissist

00:40:33.760 would say,

00:40:35.180 no,

00:40:35.440 I'm the

00:40:36.080 best one

00:40:36.540 here,

00:40:36.820 I just

00:40:37.080 lose all

00:40:37.500 the

00:40:37.640 contests?

00:40:39.340 I mean,

00:40:40.020 I don't

00:40:40.900 know what

00:40:41.160 that would

00:40:41.500 be,

00:40:41.820 but,

00:40:43.080 anyway,

00:40:45.860 so it's

00:40:46.080 all the

00:40:46.340 observer

00:40:46.640 effect,

00:40:47.980 and they

00:40:48.420 may find

00:40:48.860 their

00:40:49.100 relationships

00:40:49.760 unfulfilling,

00:40:51.020 that's like

00:40:51.700 everybody.

00:40:52.500 All right,

00:40:52.720 so here's

00:40:53.060 another

00:40:54.060 list from

00:40:55.220 somebody

00:40:55.760 else.

00:40:56.380 Now,

00:40:56.540 the other

00:40:56.780 problem with

00:40:57.140 this narcissistic

00:40:58.080 stuff is

00:40:58.980 that you

00:40:59.220 can find

00:40:59.820 different

00:41:00.680 lists all

00:41:01.600 over the

00:41:01.920 place,

00:41:02.960 and if

00:41:03.560 you can't

00:41:04.040 even define

00:41:04.720 it with

00:41:05.100 one definition,

00:41:06.180 you know

00:41:06.600 it's made

00:41:07.080 up,

00:41:07.420 right?

00:41:07.720 You know

00:41:08.260 it's not

00:41:08.560 a real

00:41:08.920 thing,

00:41:09.280 if everybody's

00:41:10.420 got a

00:41:10.680 little bit

00:41:11.040 different

00:41:11.340 definition

00:41:11.840 of it,

00:41:12.260 that's a

00:41:12.780 big red

00:41:13.160 flag.

00:41:14.120 So here's

00:41:14.440 some more.

00:41:15.480 They exaggerate

00:41:16.200 their achievements

00:41:16.800 and talents.

00:41:18.760 You're a

00:41:19.160 narcissist,

00:41:20.080 or this is

00:41:20.780 one sign

00:41:21.260 of it,

00:41:21.900 if you

00:41:22.900 exaggerate

00:41:23.620 your achievements

00:41:24.240 and talents.

00:41:25.520 Do you

00:41:25.740 know who

00:41:26.060 else exaggerates

00:41:27.620 their achievements

00:41:28.380 and talents?

00:41:30.060 Everybody with

00:41:31.000 a job.

00:41:33.220 Also,

00:41:33.660 everybody dating,

00:41:34.960 if they're

00:41:35.340 doing it right.

00:41:37.080 Exaggerating

00:41:37.740 your accomplishments

00:41:38.480 is what your

00:41:39.180 co-workers do

00:41:39.980 to get a raise.

00:41:41.940 I exaggerate

00:41:42.980 my accomplishments

00:41:44.680 when I'm in

00:41:46.160 the context

00:41:46.740 of the

00:41:47.640 corporation

00:41:48.180 and people

00:41:49.240 don't know

00:41:49.780 what my

00:41:50.120 accomplishments

00:41:50.560 are.

00:41:50.960 Now,

00:41:51.900 in my

00:41:52.220 current

00:41:52.580 role,

00:41:54.020 I don't

00:41:54.480 feel

00:41:54.860 necessarily

00:41:55.540 that I

00:41:55.960 need to

00:41:56.340 exaggerate

00:41:56.960 my

00:41:57.160 accomplishments

00:41:57.700 because I

00:41:58.340 do things

00:41:58.760 publicly.

00:42:00.000 So if I

00:42:00.920 accomplish

00:42:01.240 anything,

00:42:01.900 people are

00:42:02.240 going to

00:42:02.440 notice because

00:42:03.000 it's public.

00:42:04.160 But is

00:42:06.940 that a

00:42:07.440 flaw?

00:42:08.420 Whose idea

00:42:09.080 is it that

00:42:09.640 it's a flaw

00:42:10.340 to exaggerate

00:42:11.280 your achievements

00:42:11.860 and talents?

00:42:13.000 Because it

00:42:13.480 feels like,

00:42:13.980 to me,

00:42:14.500 that would

00:42:15.080 more often

00:42:15.660 be good

00:42:16.140 than bad.

00:42:17.340 In other

00:42:17.640 words,

00:42:17.840 you would

00:42:18.120 get a

00:42:18.440 good

00:42:18.780 outcome

00:42:19.500 from

00:42:20.460 exaggerating

00:42:21.180 your

00:42:21.400 achievements

00:42:21.760 and

00:42:21.980 talents.

00:42:23.120 When I

00:42:23.960 decided to

00:42:24.560 become a

00:42:25.060 cartoonist

00:42:25.800 with zero

00:42:27.360 experience in

00:42:29.340 cartooning,

00:42:30.360 was I,

00:42:31.380 even in my

00:42:32.120 own mind,

00:42:32.980 exaggerating

00:42:33.740 my talents?

00:42:35.320 Of course I

00:42:36.220 was.

00:42:37.460 To good

00:42:38.060 effect.

00:42:39.040 I

00:42:39.260 exaggerated

00:42:39.880 in my

00:42:40.480 own mind.

00:42:42.040 I had

00:42:42.420 overconfidence

00:42:43.380 for something

00:42:45.100 I had no

00:42:45.660 experience in

00:42:46.420 and had no

00:42:47.040 reason to

00:42:47.500 believe that

00:42:47.980 I should

00:42:48.440 succeed in

00:42:49.060 it,

00:42:49.440 but it

00:42:49.840 was a

00:42:50.140 really

00:42:50.340 useful

00:42:51.040 fiction.

00:42:52.660 So it's

00:42:53.120 a useful

00:42:53.560 fiction to

00:42:54.140 tell yourself

00:42:54.620 you can

00:42:54.960 do things

00:42:55.520 that you

00:42:56.260 don't know

00:42:56.600 if you

00:42:56.820 can do,

00:42:57.680 but it's

00:42:58.160 useful

00:42:58.640 fiction.

00:42:59.680 So I

00:43:00.020 would say

00:43:00.280 that's a

00:43:00.720 healthy

00:43:01.060 person.

00:43:01.560 Here's

00:43:01.720 some more.

00:43:02.720 They're

00:43:02.880 master

00:43:03.340 manipulators.

00:43:04.840 Says

00:43:05.100 who?

00:43:06.340 Says

00:43:06.660 who?

00:43:07.660 Have you

00:43:07.980 ever been

00:43:08.340 in a

00:43:08.820 bad

00:43:09.560 relationship

00:43:10.140 where you

00:43:10.720 were not

00:43:11.220 called a

00:43:11.700 manipulator?

00:43:13.080 Is that

00:43:13.420 even possible?

00:43:14.940 Has

00:43:15.160 anybody ever

00:43:15.940 been in

00:43:16.380 any kind

00:43:17.000 of a

00:43:17.460 bad

00:43:18.040 relationship,

00:43:18.940 say the

00:43:19.280 end of

00:43:19.720 a marriage

00:43:20.320 or whatever,

00:43:21.280 where you

00:43:21.960 were not

00:43:22.480 accused of,

00:43:23.560 you were

00:43:23.960 accusing each

00:43:24.500 other probably

00:43:25.060 of manipulating

00:43:25.700 each other.

00:43:26.660 So manipulating

00:43:27.280 people is so

00:43:28.220 universal.

00:43:29.580 It's what

00:43:30.120 addicts do,

00:43:31.220 it's what your

00:43:31.640 boss does,

00:43:32.440 your co-workers,

00:43:33.460 your lovers.

00:43:34.740 It's kind of

00:43:35.340 universal.

00:43:36.720 People manipulating

00:43:37.600 each other.

00:43:38.720 So if it's

00:43:40.040 generic and

00:43:40.840 universal,

00:43:41.600 what's it doing

00:43:42.340 in this definition?

00:43:43.940 How about they

00:43:44.500 don't recognize or

00:43:45.460 accept your

00:43:46.040 feelings?

00:43:47.840 How in the

00:43:48.660 world do you

00:43:49.200 know somebody

00:43:49.860 doesn't recognize

00:43:50.880 or accept your

00:43:52.120 feelings?

00:43:53.100 I don't feel like

00:43:54.160 that's even a

00:43:54.800 thing, really.

00:43:56.640 It's mind

00:43:57.420 reading.

00:43:58.080 It's the

00:43:58.680 observer problem.

00:44:00.080 If the

00:44:00.500 observer can't

00:44:01.440 determine that

00:44:02.700 you've accepted

00:44:03.500 their feelings,

00:44:04.760 they say you

00:44:05.320 haven't accepted

00:44:05.940 their feelings,

00:44:06.500 but they can't

00:44:06.860 read your mind.

00:44:07.940 They don't know

00:44:08.440 what you're

00:44:08.760 accepting or

00:44:09.440 not accepting.

00:44:11.100 Who doesn't

00:44:12.020 accept feelings?

00:44:12.900 If you observe

00:44:14.440 somebody has

00:44:15.020 feelings, you're

00:44:15.920 done.

00:44:16.700 I observe you

00:44:17.460 have a feeling.

00:44:18.780 I might not

00:44:19.440 think you should

00:44:20.020 have that

00:44:20.400 feeling, but I

00:44:22.500 don't feel like

00:44:23.200 there's anything

00:44:24.460 here.

00:44:24.820 It's like an

00:44:25.160 empty statement.

00:44:28.040 Everybody,

00:44:29.380 that way.

00:44:30.700 They are

00:44:31.320 arrogant.

00:44:33.780 If arrogant

00:44:34.860 is one of the

00:44:36.900 things that says

00:44:38.380 you're a

00:44:38.900 narcissist, that

00:44:40.600 would be everyone

00:44:41.400 on Twitter, because

00:44:43.340 I don't see

00:44:43.820 anybody on

00:44:44.540 Twitter who

00:44:45.560 doesn't act

00:44:46.220 arrogant.

00:44:47.160 Are they all

00:44:47.580 narcissists?

00:44:49.100 Again, it's one

00:44:49.880 of these universal

00:44:51.040 things.

00:44:52.120 If you put me in

00:44:52.840 a certain topic, I

00:44:53.900 might act arrogant

00:44:55.140 because I think I

00:44:56.340 know something about

00:44:57.060 that topic.

00:44:57.960 If you just move

00:44:58.800 me to another

00:44:59.380 topic where I

00:45:00.700 don't know

00:45:01.040 anything and I

00:45:02.260 don't have any

00:45:02.780 instinct about

00:45:03.940 it, I don't

00:45:05.920 think, I don't

00:45:07.080 look arrogant in

00:45:07.800 that case.

00:45:08.540 So really, it's

00:45:09.180 just about what

00:45:09.760 context you're in.

00:45:10.740 And the

00:45:11.640 observer problem.

00:45:12.680 How about

00:45:12.920 this?

00:45:13.680 They require

00:45:14.220 constant admiration

00:45:15.480 and adoration and

00:45:17.560 need to be the

00:45:18.160 center of attention.

00:45:19.800 Well, that

00:45:20.200 describes me.

00:45:22.540 Doesn't it

00:45:23.320 describe you?

00:45:24.700 How many of

00:45:25.520 you would say,

00:45:26.500 I like

00:45:28.160 admiration.

00:45:29.560 Is there

00:45:29.860 somebody here who

00:45:30.520 doesn't want to

00:45:31.000 be admired?

00:45:32.400 Is there

00:45:32.900 anybody here who

00:45:34.400 doesn't like to

00:45:35.760 be adored?

00:45:37.220 I mean, if you

00:45:38.200 had a preference,

00:45:39.000 if you could

00:45:40.280 choose to be

00:45:40.920 ignored and

00:45:41.660 reviled, or

00:45:43.520 admired and

00:45:44.460 adored, shouldn't

00:45:46.680 you pick the

00:45:47.260 admired and

00:45:47.840 adored one?

00:45:48.920 How is that the

00:45:50.440 mental illness?

00:45:51.860 I would think that

00:45:52.920 wanting to be

00:45:53.580 admired and

00:45:54.260 adored is a

00:45:55.560 sign of excellent

00:45:56.600 mental health.

00:45:58.040 But it's literally

00:45:59.040 on the list of

00:45:59.880 mental illness.

00:46:01.260 The thing that I

00:46:02.300 would strive for.

00:46:03.280 does it hurt you

00:46:06.120 that I, I'll

00:46:08.880 use the word

00:46:09.480 require, but

00:46:10.280 that's mind

00:46:10.800 reading.

00:46:11.280 I don't require

00:46:12.080 it.

00:46:12.900 I prefer it.

00:46:14.520 Can a

00:46:15.180 psychologist tell

00:46:16.120 me if I

00:46:16.680 require constant

00:46:19.100 admiration and

00:46:20.140 adoration, or do

00:46:21.540 I just prefer it

00:46:22.760 so I work toward

00:46:24.420 an end in which

00:46:25.220 I've done

00:46:25.620 something good

00:46:26.320 enough for the

00:46:27.520 world, in which

00:46:28.860 the natural

00:46:29.600 outcome of that

00:46:30.420 would be I would

00:46:31.160 give some, you

00:46:31.940 know, people would

00:46:32.680 like me for it

00:46:33.320 or something.

00:46:34.360 What's wrong

00:46:35.000 with that?

00:46:36.360 Shouldn't I

00:46:36.960 want to be that

00:46:37.860 person who's

00:46:39.260 working hard to

00:46:40.260 make something so

00:46:41.200 good in the world

00:46:42.000 that I'll be

00:46:42.620 admired?

00:46:43.680 You want to

00:46:44.420 turn that off?

00:46:45.920 I think you

00:46:46.660 want to turn that

00:46:47.280 up.

00:46:48.140 You don't want to

00:46:48.640 turn that down.

00:46:50.100 Let's have more

00:46:50.860 of that.

00:46:52.040 You know, if

00:46:52.520 everybody in the

00:46:53.280 world were working

00:46:54.160 hard to be

00:46:54.860 admired, I think

00:46:57.320 we'd have a

00:46:57.720 better world.

00:46:58.980 It's not worse.

00:47:00.620 All right, how

00:47:00.920 about this?

00:47:01.820 They take

00:47:02.320 advantage of

00:47:03.000 others.

00:47:05.060 Who doesn't

00:47:05.960 do that?

00:47:07.740 They take

00:47:08.520 advantage of

00:47:09.080 others.

00:47:09.460 It's a matter

00:47:09.980 of degree,

00:47:10.960 right?

00:47:12.020 Everybody

00:47:12.540 works, lives

00:47:14.260 in a world

00:47:14.840 in which

00:47:15.340 somebody else's

00:47:16.460 actions affect

00:47:17.360 you, and so

00:47:18.500 you want to

00:47:18.920 influence their

00:47:19.580 actions so

00:47:20.280 their actions

00:47:20.840 affect you in

00:47:21.620 the best possible

00:47:22.340 way.

00:47:23.440 Isn't that

00:47:23.820 everybody?

00:47:25.140 That's literally

00:47:25.700 everybody.

00:47:26.500 That's everybody

00:47:27.060 all the

00:47:27.480 time.

00:47:29.860 But if you

00:47:30.900 word it as

00:47:31.580 taking advantage,

00:47:32.920 suddenly it

00:47:34.360 sounds like a

00:47:34.940 mental illness.

00:47:36.120 How about I

00:47:36.640 reword taking

00:47:37.780 advantage of

00:47:38.480 others into

00:47:39.780 you're a

00:47:41.980 social person?

00:47:44.980 It's the same

00:47:45.560 thing.

00:47:46.200 If you live in

00:47:47.220 a social situation

00:47:48.600 and you're a

00:47:49.260 social person,

00:47:50.180 you are taking

00:47:51.320 advantage of

00:47:51.980 others, and

00:47:53.060 they are

00:47:53.540 sometimes taking

00:47:54.420 advantage of

00:47:55.100 you, and

00:47:56.060 when you sum

00:47:57.180 it all up

00:47:57.760 together, it

00:47:58.280 works really

00:47:58.760 well.

00:48:01.200 It's an

00:48:01.840 opinion from

00:48:02.560 the observer

00:48:03.200 that somebody

00:48:04.460 has taken

00:48:04.900 advantage of

00:48:05.520 someone.

00:48:06.460 Now, obviously,

00:48:07.460 if it's abusive,

00:48:09.440 that's something

00:48:09.900 else.

00:48:11.000 They believe

00:48:11.720 they are

00:48:12.080 superior.

00:48:13.460 Do they?

00:48:14.660 Do you think

00:48:15.340 that you could

00:48:16.040 find anybody

00:48:16.720 who has been

00:48:17.360 diagnosed by

00:48:18.420 an actual

00:48:19.060 psychologist,

00:48:21.020 let's say a

00:48:21.660 psychiatrist,

00:48:22.480 let's say the

00:48:22.920 highest level of

00:48:23.760 training, and

00:48:24.880 they diagnose

00:48:25.620 somebody as

00:48:26.460 a narcissist?

00:48:28.120 And then, do

00:48:28.560 you think that

00:48:29.140 if I went and

00:48:29.760 talked to that

00:48:30.320 narcissist privately

00:48:31.860 and I said,

00:48:33.000 hey, narcissist,

00:48:34.120 do you believe

00:48:34.900 you are superior

00:48:35.760 to other people?

00:48:37.560 Do you think

00:48:38.300 that narcissist

00:48:38.920 would say, yeah,

00:48:39.920 you know, I

00:48:41.420 do.

00:48:42.400 I do think I'm

00:48:43.420 superior to other

00:48:44.140 people.

00:48:44.960 Now, suppose I

00:48:45.700 did say that.

00:48:46.960 Here's my

00:48:47.500 follow-up question.

00:48:48.980 Well, do you

00:48:49.420 believe that you

00:48:49.960 could play

00:48:50.360 basketball better

00:48:51.600 than an NBA

00:48:53.560 player?

00:48:54.880 What would

00:48:55.320 they say?

00:48:56.220 Would the

00:48:56.760 narcissist say,

00:48:58.080 yeah, as a

00:48:58.540 matter of fact,

00:48:59.040 I've never

00:48:59.440 played basketball,

00:49:00.400 but I could

00:49:01.140 play better than

00:49:01.900 Michael Jordan?

00:49:03.640 Would they?

00:49:04.860 No, they

00:49:05.460 wouldn't.

00:49:06.600 They'd say, I

00:49:07.740 wouldn't be good

00:49:08.260 at basketball for

00:49:10.240 a variety of

00:49:10.760 reasons.

00:49:11.560 I might be good

00:49:12.200 at some other

00:49:12.640 things.

00:49:13.900 But if you

00:49:14.320 said to them,

00:49:15.720 and let's hear

00:49:17.740 your singing.

00:49:18.540 Are you the

00:49:18.840 best singer in

00:49:19.540 the world?

00:49:20.020 You're superior

00:49:20.620 to everybody,

00:49:21.340 and you're

00:49:21.620 singing?

00:49:22.120 Would the

00:49:23.140 narcissist say,

00:49:23.940 yeah, I've

00:49:24.820 never sang, but

00:49:26.240 I'm pretty sure

00:49:26.820 I would be.

00:49:27.820 No, they

00:49:28.280 wouldn't.

00:49:29.700 They wouldn't.

00:49:30.980 There's literally

00:49:32.040 no one in the

00:49:34.140 whole planet who

00:49:35.800 meets this

00:49:36.480 definition, and

00:49:37.260 they believe they

00:49:37.960 are superior.

00:49:38.980 They're only people

00:49:39.620 who believe they're

00:49:40.200 good at some

00:49:40.680 things.

00:49:41.400 That's it.

00:49:42.360 There's nobody

00:49:43.000 who believes they're

00:49:43.620 better at everybody

00:49:44.800 and everything.

00:49:45.420 And if they

00:49:47.420 were, narcissism

00:49:48.580 wouldn't be the

00:49:49.060 problem.

00:49:49.440 They would just

00:49:49.760 be flat out,

00:49:50.640 you know, super

00:49:51.280 crazy.

00:49:53.160 And then it gets

00:49:54.000 into weird stuff

00:49:54.880 about where they

00:49:56.600 come up with the

00:49:57.280 reason that you're

00:49:58.220 this narcissist.

00:49:59.580 This is where it

00:50:00.280 gets really bad

00:50:01.200 shit crazy, all

00:50:02.060 right?

00:50:02.640 Here are the

00:50:03.260 official reasons

00:50:05.660 that you might be

00:50:07.020 a narcissist,

00:50:07.840 okay?

00:50:08.840 So it's not

00:50:09.680 fully understood

00:50:10.380 how a person

00:50:11.000 becomes a

00:50:11.560 narcissist.

00:50:13.000 Duh.

00:50:13.440 If it's not

00:50:15.100 fully understood,

00:50:16.460 that's another

00:50:17.820 red flag,

00:50:18.520 all right?

00:50:20.320 But the claim

00:50:21.240 is that they

00:50:21.640 have these

00:50:21.940 common background

00:50:23.040 influences, so

00:50:24.220 that maybe that's

00:50:24.920 not a coincidence.

00:50:26.220 And they say

00:50:26.820 that that common

00:50:27.460 influence is

00:50:28.160 usually a parent

00:50:29.120 who gives them

00:50:30.480 excessive pampering

00:50:31.640 or excessive

00:50:32.620 criticism in

00:50:34.060 childhood years.

00:50:36.860 Or they might

00:50:37.600 come from a

00:50:38.160 broken home,

00:50:38.820 etc.

00:50:39.340 To me, that

00:50:40.140 all looks like

00:50:40.680 false correlation

00:50:41.520 because I

00:50:42.440 imagine there

00:50:42.920 are lots of

00:50:43.340 things that

00:50:43.700 are correlated.

00:50:44.880 That's all I

00:50:45.460 see there.

00:50:46.580 They substituted

00:50:48.280 lack of love

00:50:49.580 and support

00:50:50.100 from a parent

00:50:50.840 by overemphasizing

00:50:52.680 their own worth.

00:50:53.660 None of that

00:50:54.300 sounds real.

00:50:55.700 It doesn't even

00:50:56.460 sound a little

00:50:57.060 bit real.

00:50:57.560 It's just, it

00:50:58.300 sounds like

00:50:58.680 stoned people

00:50:59.600 talking.

00:51:00.680 There is so

00:51:01.220 little science

00:51:02.160 in this that

00:51:03.620 it's laughable.

00:51:04.740 Now let me

00:51:05.220 summarize it

00:51:06.720 this way.

00:51:08.760 My claim is

00:51:09.600 that narcissism

00:51:10.420 as a diagnosis

00:51:11.260 is a made

00:51:12.620 up, useless

00:51:13.780 grab bag

00:51:16.040 of a word

00:51:16.740 with no

00:51:18.080 functional

00:51:19.020 purpose.

00:51:20.580 And I'm

00:51:20.800 going to prove

00:51:21.720 it by doing

00:51:22.800 the same thing.

00:51:23.620 Okay?

00:51:25.760 And I'm going

00:51:26.480 to invent a

00:51:27.620 mental illness

00:51:28.740 called

00:51:29.120 Adam's disease.

00:51:31.500 Now I want you

00:51:32.760 to see if you

00:51:33.280 have a bad

00:51:34.160 case of

00:51:34.580 Adam's disease.

00:51:35.460 I'm going to

00:51:35.720 list the

00:51:36.160 symptoms.

00:51:37.160 Now you

00:51:37.500 don't have

00:51:37.900 to have

00:51:38.140 all of

00:51:38.700 the symptoms

00:51:39.240 in order to

00:51:40.860 say you

00:51:41.140 have the

00:51:41.420 disease.

00:51:41.900 If you

00:51:42.120 had say

00:51:42.500 four out

00:51:42.920 of five

00:51:43.400 or even

00:51:44.640 three out

00:51:45.120 of five

00:51:45.460 you'd

00:51:45.700 probably

00:51:45.880 still be

00:51:46.520 suffering

00:51:47.200 from

00:51:47.540 Adam's

00:51:48.060 mental

00:51:48.960 disease.

00:51:49.700 So see

00:51:50.000 if you

00:51:50.200 have these

00:51:50.480 symptoms.

00:51:51.600 Are you

00:51:51.920 obsessed

00:51:52.460 with showing

00:51:53.360 your knowledge

00:51:54.100 to other

00:51:54.620 people?

00:51:56.120 Are you

00:51:56.400 obsessed

00:51:56.980 with showing

00:51:58.420 your knowledge

00:51:59.140 to other

00:51:59.640 people?

00:52:00.880 For example

00:52:01.480 at work

00:52:02.280 if you have

00:52:03.660 some knowledge

00:52:04.340 and it's

00:52:05.520 needed for

00:52:06.100 your business

00:52:06.920 do you

00:52:07.900 present your

00:52:08.880 knowledge

00:52:09.360 to other

00:52:10.560 people?

00:52:11.320 I'll bet

00:52:11.580 you do.

00:52:12.740 If you get

00:52:13.600 an argument

00:52:14.040 with your

00:52:14.620 spouse or

00:52:15.400 lover and

00:52:16.700 there's a

00:52:17.260 fact that

00:52:18.500 is important

00:52:19.020 to the

00:52:19.420 conversation

00:52:20.000 do you

00:52:20.340 bring it

00:52:20.660 up?

00:52:21.480 I'll bet

00:52:21.820 you do.

00:52:22.920 I'll bet

00:52:23.240 you're

00:52:23.420 obsessed

00:52:23.860 with facts.

00:52:25.480 Do you

00:52:25.920 know why

00:52:26.300 I say

00:52:26.620 you're

00:52:26.800 obsessed?

00:52:27.900 It's

00:52:28.440 the observer

00:52:28.980 problem.

00:52:30.420 You might

00:52:30.940 say I

00:52:32.520 use facts

00:52:33.540 because

00:52:34.060 facts are

00:52:34.660 kind of

00:52:35.020 important

00:52:35.500 for

00:52:35.820 thinking

00:52:36.340 and I

00:52:37.440 do

00:52:37.800 display

00:52:38.440 my

00:52:38.820 knowledge

00:52:39.380 because

00:52:39.840 everybody

00:52:40.660 does?

00:52:43.140 Sure

00:52:43.820 but I

00:52:44.820 think

00:52:45.180 I think

00:52:47.200 you're

00:52:47.380 obsessed

00:52:47.720 with it.

00:52:48.600 I think

00:52:49.200 that you

00:52:49.440 have an

00:52:49.780 unhealthy

00:52:50.260 obsession

00:52:50.940 with

00:52:51.920 showing

00:52:52.240 your

00:52:52.500 knowledge

00:52:52.900 and how

00:52:53.800 do I

00:52:54.160 prove

00:52:54.540 that?

00:52:55.300 Because

00:52:55.620 compared

00:52:55.980 to me

00:52:56.500 compared

00:52:57.820 to me

00:52:58.300 because I

00:52:59.500 define

00:52:59.940 myself as

00:53:00.460 normal

00:53:00.780 but you

00:53:01.560 look a

00:53:02.040 little

00:53:02.180 obsessed

00:53:02.740 without

00:53:03.200 showing

00:53:03.980 your

00:53:04.220 knowledge

00:53:04.620 thing.

00:53:05.300 Sure

00:53:05.440 we do

00:53:05.920 the same

00:53:06.360 thing.

00:53:07.260 I

00:53:07.380 show

00:53:07.620 my

00:53:07.860 knowledge

00:53:08.120 to

00:53:08.360 people

00:53:08.620 you

00:53:08.900 show

00:53:09.160 your

00:53:09.340 knowledge

00:53:09.620 to

00:53:09.820 people

00:53:10.020 in about

00:53:10.380 the same

00:53:10.760 amount

00:53:11.160 but I

00:53:12.320 feel like

00:53:12.940 I just

00:53:13.360 do it

00:53:13.700 when it's

00:53:14.220 necessary

00:53:14.980 but you

00:53:15.980 do it

00:53:16.280 because you're

00:53:16.660 obsessed.

00:53:17.260 You know

00:53:17.420 why?

00:53:17.620 Because I

00:53:17.840 can read

00:53:18.160 your mind.

00:53:18.840 Oh I'm

00:53:19.400 reading your

00:53:19.780 mind.

00:53:20.580 Yeah you're

00:53:21.300 obsessed by

00:53:22.000 it.

00:53:22.240 I just

00:53:22.600 do it

00:53:23.080 but you're

00:53:23.720 obsessed.

00:53:25.120 How about

00:53:25.380 this?

00:53:25.920 Symptom

00:53:26.200 number

00:53:26.440 two.

00:53:26.980 You don't

00:53:27.200 always

00:53:28.160 sleep well.

00:53:29.960 Is there

00:53:30.160 anybody here

00:53:30.700 who has

00:53:30.980 ever had

00:53:31.420 trouble

00:53:32.220 sleeping?

00:53:33.460 Yeah.

00:53:34.200 That is

00:53:34.800 one good

00:53:35.460 sign of

00:53:36.200 Adam's

00:53:37.180 disease.

00:53:39.000 How about

00:53:39.380 this?

00:53:39.780 Do you

00:53:40.460 often think

00:53:41.140 that you

00:53:41.560 are right

00:53:42.220 and that

00:53:42.980 others are

00:53:43.660 wrong?

00:53:44.440 Has that

00:53:44.780 ever

00:53:45.000 happened to

00:53:45.400 you?

00:53:45.840 Do you

00:53:46.020 ever feel

00:53:46.420 that you're

00:53:46.820 right on

00:53:47.840 a topic

00:53:48.300 and somebody

00:53:49.200 else is

00:53:49.560 wrong?

00:53:50.240 If you

00:53:50.940 do that

00:53:51.920 doesn't

00:53:52.320 seem healthy

00:53:52.880 to me.

00:53:53.880 That feels

00:53:54.660 like a

00:53:55.020 symptoms of

00:53:55.820 Adam's

00:53:56.580 mental

00:53:56.860 illness.

00:53:57.940 How about

00:53:58.560 this?

00:53:59.300 Do you

00:53:59.680 sometimes think

00:54:00.400 you have

00:54:00.700 skills that

00:54:01.340 other people

00:54:01.820 don't have?

00:54:02.860 Maybe

00:54:03.140 because they've

00:54:03.760 never tried

00:54:04.240 to do

00:54:04.560 those things.

00:54:05.960 Do you

00:54:06.300 think that?

00:54:07.560 That's a

00:54:08.180 little sketchy

00:54:09.700 isn't it?

00:54:10.240 That you

00:54:10.540 think you

00:54:10.860 have some

00:54:11.160 skills that

00:54:12.740 other people

00:54:13.240 have less

00:54:13.740 of those

00:54:14.160 skills?

00:54:14.820 A little

00:54:15.280 bit arrogant.

00:54:16.420 A little

00:54:16.760 bit arrogant.

00:54:18.160 Yeah.

00:54:18.660 I don't

00:54:19.040 think that's

00:54:19.460 good mental

00:54:19.920 health.

00:54:21.120 Do you

00:54:21.320 ever pursue

00:54:22.100 your self

00:54:22.760 interest even

00:54:24.280 at the

00:54:24.740 expense of

00:54:25.400 others?

00:54:26.920 Do you?

00:54:27.580 Do you

00:54:27.920 pursue your

00:54:28.480 self interest

00:54:29.200 at the

00:54:30.120 expense of

00:54:30.880 other people

00:54:31.320 like you

00:54:31.680 don't even

00:54:32.040 care about

00:54:32.500 them?

00:54:33.160 For example,

00:54:33.860 have you

00:54:34.140 ever accepted

00:54:34.940 a promotion

00:54:35.780 at work?

00:54:37.520 Because if

00:54:37.920 you have,

00:54:39.240 I feel like

00:54:40.500 you put

00:54:40.940 yourself above

00:54:41.680 all the

00:54:42.440 other co-workers.

00:54:44.060 Oh, you're

00:54:44.560 so special

00:54:45.300 that you

00:54:46.520 would accept

00:54:47.160 a promotion

00:54:48.660 given to you

00:54:49.380 by your

00:54:49.720 boss.

00:54:50.280 Because why?

00:54:51.540 Because why?

00:54:52.080 You think

00:54:52.480 you're special.

00:54:53.020 if you

00:54:54.460 didn't think

00:54:54.900 you're special,

00:54:55.600 you'd say,

00:54:56.180 hey boss,

00:54:57.860 maybe other

00:54:58.700 people are

00:54:59.120 more qualified.

00:55:00.600 Maybe someone

00:55:02.260 else should

00:55:02.640 have it.

00:55:03.040 Because if

00:55:03.400 you get that

00:55:04.120 promotion,

00:55:05.100 no one else

00:55:06.120 can get it.

00:55:07.500 You are

00:55:08.220 being purely

00:55:09.180 selfish if you

00:55:10.500 get that

00:55:10.960 promotion.

00:55:12.240 Because there's

00:55:12.840 only one.

00:55:14.100 If you get

00:55:14.680 it, somebody

00:55:15.260 else didn't

00:55:15.780 get it.

00:55:16.140 Why do you

00:55:16.480 think you

00:55:16.840 deserve it?

00:55:18.260 You suffer

00:55:20.280 of Adam's

00:55:21.500 mental illness.

00:55:25.120 How about

00:55:25.720 this?

00:55:28.300 Do you

00:55:29.020 accept my

00:55:29.980 feelings?

00:55:30.700 Or do you

00:55:31.180 not accept

00:55:31.800 my feelings?

00:55:33.500 I don't

00:55:34.080 think you

00:55:34.420 accept my

00:55:34.960 feelings.

00:55:35.720 And I feel

00:55:36.080 that that's

00:55:36.480 a sign of

00:55:36.940 mental illness

00:55:37.620 on your

00:55:37.960 part.

00:55:39.120 Why can't

00:55:39.540 you accept

00:55:39.940 my feelings?

00:55:40.480 I'll give

00:55:40.780 you an

00:55:40.980 example.

00:55:41.940 I feel

00:55:42.600 that you

00:55:43.020 should sell

00:55:44.340 all of your

00:55:44.840 possessions and

00:55:46.340 then take

00:55:46.720 the money

00:55:47.120 that you

00:55:47.460 got from

00:55:47.900 it and

00:55:48.260 give it

00:55:48.600 to me.

00:55:50.900 What?

00:55:53.620 What?

00:55:55.000 I feel

00:55:55.760 like you're

00:55:56.860 attacking me

00:55:57.440 now.

00:55:58.120 Hold on.

00:55:59.500 All I

00:56:00.080 said was

00:56:00.540 you should

00:56:00.880 sell all

00:56:01.340 your

00:56:01.500 possessions,

00:56:02.780 take the

00:56:03.160 money that

00:56:03.580 you get

00:56:03.820 from them

00:56:04.140 and give

00:56:04.420 it all

00:56:04.660 to me.

00:56:05.440 And I

00:56:05.760 don't feel

00:56:06.220 like you're

00:56:06.600 valuing my

00:56:07.560 feelings here.

00:56:09.220 Because I

00:56:09.840 really,

00:56:10.340 really feel

00:56:10.820 strongly about

00:56:11.560 this and

00:56:12.460 you're acting

00:56:12.860 like that

00:56:13.260 doesn't even

00:56:13.740 matter to

00:56:14.480 you.

00:56:14.720 that's

00:56:16.860 mental

00:56:17.980 illness.

00:56:19.860 Isn't it?

00:56:21.100 As the

00:56:21.740 observer,

00:56:22.400 don't I

00:56:22.720 get to

00:56:23.040 say that

00:56:23.440 your reaction

00:56:24.060 to things

00:56:24.620 is inappropriate?

00:56:26.720 Because after

00:56:27.700 all, I'm

00:56:28.060 the psychologist.

00:56:29.480 So I get

00:56:30.000 to decide

00:56:30.480 that your

00:56:31.060 behavior is

00:56:31.980 abnormal and

00:56:32.620 mine is

00:56:32.940 not.

00:56:34.260 So there's

00:56:36.080 my example.

00:56:36.740 You could

00:56:37.080 take any

00:56:38.280 grab bag of

00:56:39.500 symptoms,

00:56:40.540 put a

00:56:41.020 name on

00:56:41.500 it,

00:56:41.860 and say

00:56:42.260 if you

00:56:42.740 have four

00:56:44.580 of these

00:56:45.400 six symptoms,

00:56:47.840 you've got

00:56:48.200 a mental

00:56:49.260 illness.

00:56:50.360 And most

00:56:51.140 of the

00:56:51.480 world will

00:56:52.020 have four

00:56:52.520 of those

00:56:52.860 six symptoms

00:56:53.540 as long

00:56:54.440 as you're

00:56:54.860 the one

00:56:55.180 who gets

00:56:55.520 to decide

00:56:56.180 how weird

00:56:56.660 it is.

00:56:57.840 That's it.

00:56:59.620 All right.

00:57:00.760 So are

00:57:03.720 there people

00:57:04.280 who literally

00:57:05.320 fit the

00:57:06.280 clinical

00:57:06.740 definition

00:57:07.360 of narcissism

00:57:09.100 and they're

00:57:10.420 so bad

00:57:11.040 that they

00:57:11.400 actually think

00:57:12.240 they're better

00:57:12.660 than other

00:57:13.600 people and

00:57:14.260 literally believe

00:57:15.600 that other

00:57:16.000 people don't

00:57:16.520 matter?

00:57:17.300 I doubt it.

00:57:18.720 I doubt it.

00:57:22.300 Somebody says,

00:57:23.260 wow,

00:57:23.640 over-explained.

00:57:25.200 You know,

00:57:25.480 the difficulty

00:57:26.460 with any

00:57:27.400 kind of a

00:57:27.960 public anything

00:57:29.160 is that

00:57:30.320 everybody has

00:57:30.900 a different

00:57:31.340 appetite for

00:57:32.520 everything,

00:57:34.060 really.

00:57:34.820 So it is

00:57:35.700 not possible

00:57:36.340 to make you

00:57:36.840 all happy.

00:57:37.360 with a

00:57:37.700 live stream.

00:57:39.280 But because

00:57:40.140 I have a

00:57:41.340 bad case

00:57:41.960 of Adam's

00:57:42.820 mental illness,

00:57:44.080 I'm still

00:57:45.060 okay with

00:57:45.580 the fact

00:57:46.000 that some

00:57:46.840 of you

00:57:47.120 like this

00:57:47.720 and some

00:57:48.660 of you

00:57:48.940 do not.

00:57:50.100 I don't

00:57:50.600 think that's

00:57:51.040 normal.

00:57:54.300 All right.

00:57:56.560 Oh,

00:57:57.100 well,

00:57:57.280 some of you

00:57:57.700 are enjoying

00:57:58.180 this.

00:57:58.720 So some

00:58:00.620 of you say

00:58:01.080 I'm beating

00:58:01.540 a dead horse

00:58:02.160 and some

00:58:02.760 are enjoying

00:58:03.200 it,

00:58:04.520 which is

00:58:05.020 pretty much

00:58:06.820 the same

00:58:07.560 as everything.

00:58:08.300 All right,

00:58:08.580 that's all

00:58:08.920 for now.

00:58:09.780 Let's go

00:58:10.420 forth and

00:58:10.900 have a good

00:58:11.480 day and

00:58:12.140 we'll talk

00:58:12.720 about that

00:58:13.220 later.

00:58:14.100 See you

00:58:14.460 later.

00:58:16.880 All right,

00:58:17.480 all of you

00:58:18.260 on,

00:58:20.360 somebody's

00:58:21.240 telling me

00:58:21.580 that Adam

00:58:22.060 Schiff was

00:58:22.580 arrested.

00:58:23.140 That can't

00:58:23.500 be true.

00:58:24.720 I'm going

00:58:25.220 to say that

00:58:25.680 that doesn't

00:58:26.240 sound like

00:58:26.720 a real

00:58:27.240 story.

00:58:28.180 All right,

00:58:32.220 all right,

00:58:33.040 that's all

00:58:33.340 for now.

00:58:33.740 I'll talk

00:58:34.040 to you

00:58:34.280 tomorrow.

Real Coffee with Scott Adams - December 26, 2020

Episode 1232 Scott Adams： Nashville, Narcissism, Congress Sucks, And Coffee. Join Me.

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