Real Coffee with Scott Adams - Episode 1797 Scott Adams： The Biggest Problem With Conservative Thinking About Fatherhood

00:00:00.720 And welcome to the highlight of civilization.

00:00:05.040 You know it doesn't get any better than this.

00:00:07.820 And for some of you, I'm going to kick off your day just right.

00:00:12.880 Yeah.

00:00:13.880 I'm going to tell you a meme joke that I just saw on the Locals platform.

00:00:18.400 In the comments section on Locals, they can post memes, unlike on YouTube.

00:00:24.420 And as soon as I signed out, one of the memes went by.

00:00:28.020 And the meme was, the best thing about conservative women, no penis.

00:00:37.340 I just lost it. I've been laughing for 10 minutes.

00:00:40.960 So that's a good dating tip for conservative men.

00:00:46.840 Conservative men, if you're heterosexual and you'd like a good dating outcome,

00:00:53.160 stick to a conservative woman.

00:00:55.120 Because at least you'll get one thing totally right.

00:00:59.360 No penis.

00:01:00.760 And that's a good start.

00:01:02.140 I mean, there are lots of other things you have to get right.

00:01:04.580 You know, you want to have the same goals in life and like the same things.

00:01:08.440 But if you can start off and your base for your dating success is dating a woman who doesn't have a penis,

00:01:17.160 you are going to be way ahead as a conservative heterosexual.

00:01:21.040 So that's my tip for you.

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00:01:44.280 Oh, that's so good.

00:01:52.200 So you know how I like to pick apart liberal thinking?

00:01:57.660 I do that a lot.

00:01:59.380 Specifically, I usually rail against the fact that lefties,

00:02:04.280 people on the left,

00:02:06.260 like to build systems that couldn't possibly work

00:02:09.060 because they don't take into account human motivation.

00:02:12.920 You've heard me say that too many times, right?

00:02:16.980 Consistently, people on the left,

00:02:18.640 they always leave out that human motivation variable,

00:02:21.280 the biggest one.

00:02:22.260 It's the biggest variable.

00:02:23.640 They leave that one out.

00:02:25.080 But today I'm going to be doing something similar

00:02:28.180 with conservative thinking.

00:02:31.940 There is a conservative blind spot that is destroying the country.

00:02:37.900 Destroying the country.

00:02:38.820 And I don't think you see it.

00:02:44.160 And I think it takes somebody who doesn't live in that space full time

00:02:48.240 to just step outside and say,

00:02:50.960 you can't see what I'm seeing.

00:02:52.740 Well, let me tell you what I'm seeing.

00:02:55.760 Some of you are going to have a tough time with this live stream.

00:02:58.800 We're going to start out with some easy topics first.

00:03:01.380 But when I get to that,

00:03:03.040 it's going to be a little painful for some of you

00:03:05.420 because you're going to see your entire life philosophy

00:03:08.460 just destroyed right in front of you.

00:03:10.960 Now, it's not about God.

00:03:12.320 Don't worry.

00:03:12.960 I'm not going to mess with your religion.

00:03:16.020 That stays intact.

00:03:17.520 And I'm not going to mess with any of your ethical, moral stands.

00:03:21.780 Your moral, ethical stands will all be intact

00:03:24.260 as well as your religious beliefs.

00:03:26.260 But there's a gigantic logic blind spot.

00:03:30.700 A logic blind spot.

00:03:32.120 And you've been duped by some persuasion that you don't see.

00:03:35.920 And I'm going to fix that later.

00:03:37.620 And some of you are going to have a tough time with this.

00:03:40.420 You're going to have a mental situation

00:03:42.460 that's just not comfortable for you.

00:03:44.660 But others are going to have a feeling

00:03:46.940 that you're seeing things clearly for the first time.

00:03:51.080 It's going to be weird.

00:03:52.520 Yeah, we'll get to it.

00:03:53.240 But first, we're going to wait for some people to come in,

00:03:56.020 talk about some other things.

00:03:57.880 So this is anecdotal.

00:03:59.400 But I feel like if you collect enough of these anecdotals,

00:04:03.800 they might add up to something.

00:04:05.660 So as you know, I had COVID over a month ago.

00:04:08.940 And then I got to experience some version of long COVID.

00:04:13.220 I thought I had been over it like a week ago

00:04:16.960 because my mental state was back to ideal.

00:04:20.800 So I had brain fog for a long time.

00:04:23.880 But then when it went back, it was perfectly good.

00:04:26.220 It feels like it's the same as always.

00:04:29.060 However, I also thought that maybe I didn't exercise enough

00:04:33.040 during that time.

00:04:34.140 Or maybe I'd gotten old kind of quickly.

00:04:39.220 Because I was having real trouble just walking upstairs.

00:04:44.160 Just walking upstairs.

00:04:45.480 And it lasted for weeks.

00:04:48.860 And I was mistakenly under the impression

00:04:50.880 that maybe just my fitness had taken a hit.

00:04:54.520 Maybe age had caught up with me.

00:04:56.380 I feel like I had pushed it off too long.

00:04:59.320 And like, ah, finally.

00:05:01.040 But what it was was my entire body hurt

00:05:04.020 and ached so much.

00:05:06.680 And I was all so twisted up

00:05:07.920 that just walking upstairs was actually,

00:05:10.520 in one case, I actually bailed.

00:05:12.420 I actually couldn't do it.

00:05:13.520 There was actually a time in the last two weeks

00:05:15.920 where I didn't use the stairs because I couldn't.

00:05:20.240 True story.

00:05:21.880 Today, I can run up and down the stairs

00:05:24.300 just like it's flat ground.

00:05:27.040 Like, there's no difference between the stairs

00:05:28.620 and a flat space right now.

00:05:30.820 Now, I didn't realize

00:05:31.960 that that probably was the long COVID.

00:05:35.520 I mean, I'm not a doctor.

00:05:37.080 And it's just an anecdote.

00:05:38.280 It doesn't mean it'll apply to you.

00:05:39.500 But it kicked my fucking ass for a month.

00:05:44.980 And now we hear that having a prior infection,

00:05:48.500 no matter how recently,

00:05:51.100 does not protect you from the next one.

00:05:54.860 How many months in the next year

00:05:57.100 am I going to lose?

00:05:58.320 Complete months of quality of life.

00:06:01.640 Apparently, I could lose two or three more months

00:06:03.800 in the coming year

00:06:04.660 because I could get Omicron two or three more times,

00:06:08.820 according to the science.

00:06:10.180 And each of those times,

00:06:11.360 I would lose a fucking month.

00:06:14.200 That's a lot of time to lose.

00:06:16.160 I don't want that last month back.

00:06:17.740 Believe me, that sucked.

00:06:19.680 So just be aware

00:06:21.020 that if you have a way to avoid it,

00:06:22.700 go ahead and avoid it.

00:06:25.740 Michael Schellenberger has a long tweet thread

00:06:27.800 that's just, like, shocking.

00:06:30.400 It's just shocking.

00:06:31.840 I don't know what to make of it.

00:06:33.400 But, you know,

00:06:33.880 Biden released a bunch of our

00:06:35.460 strategic petroleum reserves.

00:06:38.440 So I guess the United States

00:06:39.640 has some big place

00:06:41.680 they store a bunch of oil

00:06:42.980 in case there's an emergency.

00:06:44.800 And this was enough of an emergency

00:06:46.660 that they release some

00:06:47.740 to lower gas prices.

00:06:50.560 But it turns out,

00:06:51.460 as Michael Schellenberger reports here,

00:06:54.460 and I think Reuters reported it,

00:06:56.220 and Michael's wrapping it up

00:06:57.860 in a nice thread,

00:06:59.300 that over five million barrels

00:07:01.480 of that oil went to China

00:07:02.760 and other nations.

00:07:07.200 Wait, what?

00:07:09.220 That's right.

00:07:09.960 We released oil

00:07:11.520 from the National,

00:07:14.420 the Strategic Petroleum Reserves

00:07:16.500 and five million barrels

00:07:18.820 went to other countries.

00:07:21.180 That feels like,

00:07:22.600 including China,

00:07:23.780 and that feels like

00:07:24.580 not what that was intended to do.

00:07:26.820 And then, of course,

00:07:27.540 there's, you know,

00:07:28.460 reports that it didn't work,

00:07:29.960 and some people say

00:07:30.800 it worked a little bit,

00:07:32.300 but it didn't work enough

00:07:33.180 to make much difference.

00:07:35.580 I think the level

00:07:36.820 of incompetence here is insane.

00:07:38.960 But here's the thing.

00:07:39.920 You shouldn't be surprised

00:07:41.260 if oil goes on the market

00:07:43.740 and goes anywhere.

00:07:46.840 Because if you've never

00:07:47.800 heard this word before,

00:07:49.540 let me make you smarter.

00:07:52.160 Fungible.

00:07:53.340 How many people

00:07:54.160 don't know what that word means?

00:07:55.620 You hear it sometimes,

00:07:56.840 but it's one of those things

00:07:57.620 you hear and you go,

00:07:58.640 I don't know what that meant.

00:08:00.380 You had to look it up.

00:08:02.320 Fungible.

00:08:02.720 Oil is considered fungible,

00:08:05.880 as are other things,

00:08:07.320 because oil looks the same.

00:08:09.860 And if I release some oil

00:08:11.660 on the market,

00:08:12.560 it doesn't matter

00:08:13.460 if you buy it

00:08:14.420 or you buy it.

00:08:16.200 It's just oil.

00:08:17.720 And I don't know

00:08:18.480 where it came from

00:08:19.280 and who's selling it.

00:08:20.260 It's just oil.

00:08:21.960 So it starts out

00:08:22.880 as somebody's oil,

00:08:24.800 but the moment it goes

00:08:26.100 on the free market,

00:08:26.920 it's just oil.

00:08:28.380 And it turns out

00:08:29.280 that if you release

00:08:30.640 a bunch of oil,

00:08:32.720 in a short period of time,

00:08:34.920 the only thing

00:08:35.960 that can happen

00:08:36.600 is that people

00:08:37.800 buying oil

00:08:38.580 bid for it

00:08:39.320 and then buy it.

00:08:40.600 That's the only thing

00:08:41.260 that can happen.

00:08:42.540 People who want oil

00:08:43.640 say, hey,

00:08:44.120 there's some more oil.

00:08:45.340 What's the price?

00:08:46.760 Here's how much I'd pay.

00:08:48.280 Oh, somebody paid more.

00:08:49.620 I guess somebody else

00:08:50.340 got that oil.

00:08:51.440 That's it.

00:08:52.440 So there wasn't really

00:08:53.420 any chance

00:08:54.480 that releasing oil

00:08:55.460 wouldn't make some of it

00:08:56.620 go to China.

00:08:57.800 It's just fungible.

00:08:59.200 It's just going somewhere

00:09:00.780 and you can't really

00:09:01.660 track oil.

00:09:03.720 At least you can't

00:09:04.740 track it in a way

00:09:06.120 that you could control it

00:09:07.120 in that sense

00:09:07.940 and you wouldn't

00:09:08.620 if you wanted to.

00:09:09.820 I guess the United States

00:09:10.720 and China are both

00:09:11.580 working on these

00:09:12.220 high-powered

00:09:12.800 microwave cruise missiles.

00:09:16.060 Does anything sound

00:09:17.420 scarier than a

00:09:19.660 microwave cruise missile?

00:09:21.940 Apparently,

00:09:22.640 these will be

00:09:23.380 fired into

00:09:24.340 the enemy's territory

00:09:26.120 and then the microwave

00:09:27.960 will knock out

00:09:29.260 all their electronics,

00:09:30.880 I guess not killing

00:09:32.100 the people.

00:09:32.880 So it kills

00:09:33.300 the electronics.

00:09:34.380 So it'd be like

00:09:34.840 a low version

00:09:36.820 of an EMT

00:09:38.040 or something.

00:09:39.720 Now,

00:09:41.460 EMP,

00:09:42.500 not EMT.

00:09:45.100 Yeah,

00:09:45.880 it's like a

00:09:47.080 poor man's

00:09:47.840 EMP,

00:09:48.360 I guess,

00:09:49.000 although it's

00:09:49.400 pretty expensive.

00:09:50.620 And it's a long-range

00:09:51.820 standoff weapon.

00:09:53.120 So we could basically

00:09:54.040 lob one of these

00:09:55.000 into some high-tech

00:09:57.240 military unit

00:09:59.100 unit and it would

00:10:00.120 just shut down

00:10:00.700 all their electronics.

00:10:04.000 And I think

00:10:04.680 this is one of the

00:10:05.320 things that will be

00:10:05.800 knocking down drones,

00:10:07.820 you know,

00:10:08.420 something like this.

00:10:10.000 But I don't really

00:10:10.700 have a take on this

00:10:11.840 other than

00:10:12.560 could we have

00:10:14.340 any more evidence

00:10:15.300 that war doesn't work?

00:10:17.380 I don't think

00:10:18.260 we could have

00:10:18.740 any more evidence

00:10:19.500 that we already have

00:10:20.300 that war just doesn't work.

00:10:22.600 Like,

00:10:22.880 who does it?

00:10:23.480 At what point

00:10:25.060 do we realize

00:10:25.640 it just doesn't work?

00:10:27.800 If you start a war,

00:10:29.980 you're going to get

00:10:30.680 annihilated

00:10:31.460 as well as

00:10:33.020 whoever you're

00:10:33.520 attacking probably.

00:10:34.600 It's like everybody

00:10:35.260 loses now.

00:10:36.360 That's different

00:10:36.960 than how it used to be.

00:10:40.840 Rasmussen has a new poll,

00:10:42.520 shocking,

00:10:43.260 of course,

00:10:44.300 in that

00:10:44.800 about half of the people

00:10:46.560 in the country

00:10:47.020 believe the elections

00:10:49.200 are not credible

00:10:49.960 or at least

00:10:51.540 not guaranteed

00:10:52.420 to be fair.

00:10:53.480 All right,

00:10:54.360 so here's what

00:10:54.920 Rasmussen says about it,

00:10:56.900 about election integrity.

00:10:58.300 50% of the people

00:10:59.500 they polled

00:10:59.940 think cheating

00:11:00.680 is likely

00:11:01.380 in the midterms.

00:11:03.520 Likely.

00:11:06.140 50%.

00:11:06.700 Likely.

00:11:10.660 What?

00:11:12.300 50% say it's likely.

00:11:15.420 Now,

00:11:16.080 I feel like

00:11:16.680 people probably

00:11:18.120 interpret the question

00:11:19.020 differently.

00:11:19.980 So that's part of it.

00:11:21.120 Certainly,

00:11:21.820 everybody should have said

00:11:22.840 there might be

00:11:23.340 some.

00:11:24.400 It's a big country,

00:11:25.540 50 states.

00:11:26.720 There's going to be

00:11:27.220 some cheating.

00:11:28.500 Right?

00:11:28.800 I don't think there's,

00:11:29.560 even the people

00:11:30.120 who think that the elections

00:11:31.060 are good enough,

00:11:32.460 and that's plenty of people,

00:11:33.920 even they would say,

00:11:34.900 well,

00:11:35.280 you know,

00:11:35.520 here and there,

00:11:36.680 there might be a smattering

00:11:37.840 of cheating,

00:11:38.480 but it's not going to

00:11:38.980 make any difference.

00:11:40.640 So,

00:11:41.360 it's not clear

00:11:42.300 how people thought

00:11:43.200 they were answering

00:11:43.780 the question.

00:11:44.320 Were they saying,

00:11:45.340 yes,

00:11:45.500 there will be a smattering

00:11:46.400 of it,

00:11:46.960 or yes,

00:11:47.760 it will change

00:11:48.600 the outcome

00:11:49.120 of the election?

00:11:49.640 We don't know

00:11:50.200 what they were

00:11:50.520 thinking when they

00:11:51.120 answered it,

00:11:51.920 so beware of that.

00:11:53.880 And a majority fear

00:11:55.120 of the upcoming

00:11:55.560 midterm elections

00:11:56.500 could be tainted,

00:11:57.520 right?

00:11:58.120 Of course.

00:11:59.460 Fear is always

00:12:00.560 appropriate,

00:12:01.440 in that case.

00:12:02.200 And 52%

00:12:06.200 of likely U.S. voters

00:12:07.240 believe it is

00:12:08.700 at least somewhat likely

00:12:10.480 that cheating

00:12:11.600 affected the outcome

00:12:12.660 of the 2020 election.

00:12:15.440 Now,

00:12:16.060 isn't it interesting

00:12:16.800 that you could get

00:12:17.500 banned from Twitter

00:12:18.480 for saying something

00:12:20.180 that a majority

00:12:20.920 of Americans

00:12:21.640 believe is true,

00:12:23.120 or are leaning toward?

00:12:26.840 Interesting.

00:12:27.960 You could get banned

00:12:29.000 from social media

00:12:30.380 for the majority

00:12:31.980 opinion in this country.

00:12:33.800 The majority opinion.

00:12:37.060 You know,

00:12:37.680 everybody understands

00:12:38.620 that you could get

00:12:39.280 banned for a minority

00:12:40.340 opinion.

00:12:41.260 You know,

00:12:41.440 you've said something

00:12:42.100 so awful

00:12:43.440 that the majority

00:12:44.500 of people wouldn't

00:12:45.200 have anything

00:12:45.640 to do with it.

00:12:47.080 But now you could

00:12:47.780 get banned

00:12:48.120 for the majority

00:12:48.860 opinion,

00:12:49.640 the common opinion.

00:12:51.960 What the hell

00:12:52.840 is social media

00:12:53.940 for if you get

00:12:55.320 banned for the

00:12:55.960 most common opinion

00:12:56.820 that people have?

00:12:59.200 All right.

00:13:00.380 Yes,

00:13:01.560 and I saw

00:13:02.080 in the comments

00:13:02.740 you reminded me

00:13:04.260 to say,

00:13:05.260 so Alex Berenson

00:13:06.940 is back on Twitter.

00:13:09.120 So we don't know

00:13:10.060 the facts of it

00:13:10.840 because I guess

00:13:11.540 Twitter and Berenson's

00:13:13.740 legal people

00:13:14.500 signed some kind

00:13:15.320 of a non-disclosure

00:13:16.140 agreement

00:13:16.640 to not say

00:13:17.940 what the deal was.

00:13:19.700 But apparently

00:13:20.300 he was successful

00:13:21.500 in making his case

00:13:23.660 that he should not

00:13:24.380 have been banned

00:13:24.920 and he's

00:13:25.420 back on Twitter.

00:13:27.120 somebody says,

00:13:29.860 sorry, Scott,

00:13:30.560 you wanted him

00:13:31.080 banned forever.

00:13:32.300 No, you mind

00:13:33.760 reader.

00:13:35.540 I never said that.

00:13:37.780 That's not even

00:13:38.480 close to my opinion.

00:13:41.760 You know,

00:13:42.160 have I ever said

00:13:43.280 that somebody

00:13:43.660 should be banned

00:13:44.380 for their opinions

00:13:45.240 on social media?

00:13:46.860 That could not be

00:13:47.840 closer to the opposite

00:13:48.900 of my opinion.

00:13:50.500 Now,

00:13:51.180 I've been telling you

00:13:52.800 lately that there's

00:13:54.040 something that's

00:13:54.540 happened in society

00:13:55.600 that's really different.

00:13:57.800 Do you remember

00:13:58.180 when we would just

00:13:59.060 disagree on stuff

00:14:00.160 and we would see

00:14:01.320 different movies?

00:14:02.900 You know,

00:14:03.180 for several years

00:14:04.080 I would say,

00:14:05.080 hey,

00:14:05.260 we're looking at

00:14:05.820 the same stuff

00:14:06.460 but this seems like

00:14:07.280 we're seeing

00:14:07.660 different movies.

00:14:08.980 We're in a new phase

00:14:10.380 beyond that.

00:14:12.140 We've gone beyond

00:14:13.040 seeing different movies.

00:14:14.880 Now,

00:14:15.880 people see the thing

00:14:17.200 as the opposite

00:14:18.140 of the thing.

00:14:20.320 Here was an example.

00:14:21.260 I'm probably

00:14:23.000 one of the most

00:14:23.740 outspoken free speech

00:14:25.340 people in the

00:14:26.540 public domain.

00:14:28.060 Not once

00:14:28.780 have I ever said

00:14:29.580 somebody's opinion

00:14:30.400 should be squelched.

00:14:31.500 I've always said

00:14:32.120 the opposite.

00:14:33.500 And here there was

00:14:34.240 a comment even

00:14:34.940 on a subscription

00:14:35.780 service.

00:14:37.120 A service that

00:14:37.800 somebody's paying

00:14:39.000 actually to see

00:14:39.760 my opinion,

00:14:40.360 extra opinion.

00:14:41.900 And somebody

00:14:42.640 who's paying

00:14:43.140 and really paying

00:14:43.820 attention thinks

00:14:45.160 that my opinion

00:14:45.760 is the exact opposite

00:14:46.940 of my actual opinion.

00:14:48.560 We can't tell

00:14:50.880 the difference

00:14:51.360 between a thing

00:14:52.160 and the opposite

00:14:53.260 of the thing.

00:14:54.080 And that's going

00:14:54.560 to be a theme

00:14:55.040 that you'll see

00:14:55.640 for the rest

00:14:56.300 of this live stream.

00:14:57.600 There are people

00:14:58.200 who are absolutely

00:14:59.020 sure they're looking

00:15:00.760 at a thing

00:15:01.220 and seeing the

00:15:01.700 opposite of the thing.

00:15:02.440 That's different

00:15:03.020 than seeing

00:15:03.900 a different movie.

00:15:05.360 A different movie

00:15:06.180 isn't necessarily

00:15:06.820 the opposite.

00:15:08.460 It's not yes,

00:15:09.180 it's no.

00:15:10.240 A different movie

00:15:10.960 is just a different

00:15:11.640 narrative.

00:15:12.800 You know,

00:15:13.020 two narratives

00:15:13.700 can fit one set

00:15:14.540 of facts.

00:15:15.080 One might be right,

00:15:15.920 one might be wrong,

00:15:17.020 but it's a narrative

00:15:18.040 fitting facts.

00:15:18.900 That's where we were.

00:15:20.560 We actually have

00:15:21.540 gone beyond that.

00:15:23.200 We're all the way

00:15:24.160 to we can't tell

00:15:25.060 the difference

00:15:25.540 between a thing

00:15:26.460 and the opposite

00:15:27.920 of that thing,

00:15:29.200 of that very thing.

00:15:30.940 Also,

00:15:31.240 you'll get more examples

00:15:32.060 and then it'll

00:15:32.620 blow you away.

00:15:34.320 All right.

00:15:37.440 So a lot of people

00:15:38.420 don't trust the vote.

00:15:39.420 But here's my main point.

00:15:41.360 Do we have

00:15:42.520 any other situation

00:15:43.760 in which the majority

00:15:45.520 of the country

00:15:46.140 thinks a system

00:15:47.260 is broken

00:15:47.860 and it couldn't

00:15:49.520 be that hard

00:15:50.140 to fix it

00:15:50.800 and yet there's

00:15:51.980 no effort whatsoever

00:15:53.020 by any politician

00:15:54.380 to fix it.

00:15:55.640 Now by fix it,

00:15:56.580 I don't mean

00:15:57.140 to make it accurate

00:15:58.420 because I don't have

00:16:00.000 any inside information

00:16:01.120 about how accurate

00:16:02.140 it is.

00:16:03.000 How would I know?

00:16:04.220 What I mean is

00:16:05.100 fix it so that

00:16:05.940 half of the country

00:16:06.640 doesn't think

00:16:07.240 it's broken.

00:16:08.580 It might be

00:16:09.220 just information.

00:16:10.520 Could be.

00:16:11.260 Maybe we just

00:16:11.860 need to be better

00:16:12.620 informed and then

00:16:13.440 we would trust it.

00:16:14.440 Maybe.

00:16:14.640 But probably

00:16:16.640 it has something

00:16:17.820 to do with the fact

00:16:18.560 it was designed

00:16:19.320 so you can't audit it.

00:16:21.700 Let me say it again

00:16:22.800 since it might be

00:16:24.080 the last moment

00:16:24.760 I'm ever on social media.

00:16:26.680 If a system

00:16:27.580 is designed

00:16:28.160 so you can't

00:16:28.960 check the result

00:16:29.840 and the outcome

00:16:31.980 of the result

00:16:32.480 is really valuable

00:16:33.560 to some people,

00:16:35.160 it really,

00:16:35.960 really matters

00:16:36.380 what the outcome is

00:16:37.360 and you can't check

00:16:38.720 after the fact

00:16:39.700 to see if it was

00:16:40.280 done right.

00:16:40.980 What's going to happen

00:16:41.820 in that case?

00:16:43.220 Every time.

00:16:44.920 Every time

00:16:45.840 there's going

00:16:47.500 to be cheating.

00:16:48.680 You don't know when.

00:16:50.180 Might not be

00:16:50.780 on day one.

00:16:51.980 Maybe it didn't

00:16:52.540 happen in 2020.

00:16:53.900 How would I know?

00:16:55.180 But you can guarantee

00:16:56.520 it will happen.

00:16:58.000 The system is

00:16:58.680 designed

00:16:59.660 to make it happen.

00:17:01.680 Let me say that

00:17:02.440 in the strongest

00:17:03.160 possible way.

00:17:04.600 Our systems

00:17:05.360 are designed

00:17:06.020 to make cheating

00:17:07.340 happen.

00:17:08.400 Why?

00:17:09.500 Because that's

00:17:10.540 what human motivation

00:17:11.540 would get you

00:17:12.300 with the system

00:17:13.440 as designed.

00:17:14.820 Human motivation

00:17:15.680 says that when

00:17:16.740 people can cheat

00:17:17.940 and there's a big

00:17:18.560 payoff and they're

00:17:19.660 not going to get

00:17:20.200 caught or they think

00:17:21.080 there's a good chance

00:17:21.820 they won't get caught,

00:17:23.040 there's bad behavior

00:17:24.320 every time.

00:17:25.860 There's no exception

00:17:26.620 to that.

00:17:27.640 Sometimes you have

00:17:28.180 to wait a few days.

00:17:29.800 It doesn't happen

00:17:30.340 on day one

00:17:30.940 every time.

00:17:31.820 But you guarantee

00:17:33.060 it happens.

00:17:34.340 We actually have

00:17:35.140 an election system

00:17:36.100 which by its design,

00:17:38.540 and what I mean is

00:17:39.280 since you can't audit

00:17:40.240 the electronic parts,

00:17:42.020 you can only audit

00:17:42.880 the counting

00:17:43.840 the ballot parts

00:17:44.740 and some of the

00:17:45.940 local stuff.

00:17:46.860 But once it gets

00:17:47.580 into the digital

00:17:48.440 pathway,

00:17:50.340 you're done.

00:17:51.340 You can't see that.

00:17:52.100 That's all invisible.

00:17:53.300 You can't follow

00:17:54.120 your vote all the way

00:17:54.940 to the final database.

00:17:56.880 Now, under that

00:17:57.600 situation,

00:17:58.880 is that a system

00:17:59.840 that is designed

00:18:00.740 to give us

00:18:01.420 accurate outcomes

00:18:02.520 or is that

00:18:03.780 a system

00:18:04.480 designed

00:18:05.180 by intention

00:18:06.720 to guarantee

00:18:08.900 cheating?

00:18:10.040 Which is it?

00:18:12.580 Engineers?

00:18:13.540 Do I have any

00:18:14.360 engineers who are

00:18:15.480 watching?

00:18:15.700 Of course I do.

00:18:17.120 Just the engineers,

00:18:18.220 please.

00:18:19.120 If you're not

00:18:20.060 an engineer,

00:18:20.980 I'm going to ask you

00:18:21.560 to stand down

00:18:22.240 for a minute.

00:18:23.320 Just the engineers.

00:18:24.860 Is the election

00:18:25.680 system designed

00:18:26.680 to guarantee

00:18:27.420 cheating

00:18:27.840 or to prevent it?

00:18:30.300 Which is it

00:18:31.000 designed to do?

00:18:32.000 Engineers only.

00:18:35.200 Guarantee.

00:18:36.320 Right.

00:18:37.840 All right.

00:18:38.460 I believe that

00:18:39.200 if I were to present

00:18:40.340 what I just did

00:18:41.620 to a room full

00:18:42.760 of engineers,

00:18:43.840 how many people

00:18:45.240 in the room full

00:18:46.120 of engineers

00:18:46.720 would say that

00:18:48.020 this is a system

00:18:49.120 designed to guarantee

00:18:50.360 cheating?

00:18:51.120 What percentage

00:18:51.940 of engineers

00:18:52.480 would agree

00:18:52.980 with that statement?

00:18:56.100 100%.

00:18:56.740 100 fucking percent.

00:19:00.500 Right?

00:19:00.660 Now, if you're

00:19:02.300 not an engineer

00:19:03.100 and you've got

00:19:04.560 an opinion

00:19:05.620 about the integrity

00:19:07.320 of the election

00:19:08.040 system,

00:19:09.180 well, then you're

00:19:09.820 a fucking idiot

00:19:10.640 unless you're agreeing

00:19:12.500 with the engineers.

00:19:14.580 Trust the engineers.

00:19:17.120 This one's

00:19:17.920 a no-brainer.

00:19:19.580 This would be like

00:19:20.540 asking a doctor

00:19:21.480 the following question.

00:19:23.120 I'm no doctor,

00:19:24.040 so I have to ask you

00:19:24.640 this question.

00:19:25.040 If you took

00:19:26.260 a gigantic

00:19:27.060 railroad spike

00:19:28.200 and you drove it

00:19:30.120 through the head

00:19:30.620 of a living person

00:19:31.520 until it came

00:19:32.200 out the other end,

00:19:33.700 would that cause

00:19:34.900 any damage

00:19:35.640 to the person,

00:19:36.280 possibly death?

00:19:37.840 And the doctor

00:19:38.680 would say,

00:19:39.200 you know,

00:19:39.600 that's actually

00:19:40.160 an easy one.

00:19:41.560 I'm pretty sure

00:19:42.180 if you asked

00:19:42.660 any doctor

00:19:43.340 that question,

00:19:43.960 we'd give you

00:19:44.320 the same answer.

00:19:44.940 That would be

00:19:45.340 very painful,

00:19:46.540 probably lead to death.

00:19:49.080 Would any doctor

00:19:50.160 ever get that

00:19:50.720 question wrong?

00:19:51.340 If you drove

00:19:53.300 a spike

00:19:54.340 through somebody's

00:19:54.980 head,

00:19:55.300 would it hurt them?

00:19:56.160 No,

00:19:56.360 they would get

00:19:56.660 that right every time.

00:19:57.980 Do you think

00:19:58.360 any engineer

00:19:59.120 is going to get

00:19:59.640 this question wrong?

00:20:00.760 If you design

00:20:01.700 a system

00:20:02.220 that can't be

00:20:02.940 audited

00:20:03.340 and the people

00:20:04.360 involved really,

00:20:05.320 really have a good

00:20:06.000 reason to cheat

00:20:06.720 and they have

00:20:07.640 access to it,

00:20:09.240 is cheating

00:20:09.680 going to happen?

00:20:10.800 And is it designed

00:20:11.740 to guarantee it?

00:20:13.320 No engineer

00:20:13.980 gets that question

00:20:14.740 wrong.

00:20:15.660 You might.

00:20:16.660 You might,

00:20:17.420 if you're not

00:20:17.800 an engineer.

00:20:18.400 You might get

00:20:18.860 that wrong.

00:20:19.400 And by the way,

00:20:20.160 that wouldn't

00:20:21.160 even be on you.

00:20:22.800 Because you're

00:20:23.580 not trained

00:20:23.980 to be an engineer,

00:20:24.680 right?

00:20:26.140 Right?

00:20:27.720 It makes a difference.

00:20:29.680 It makes a difference.

00:20:31.380 The people

00:20:31.780 trained to

00:20:33.300 design a system

00:20:34.240 are the ones

00:20:34.900 you want to talk to.

00:20:36.180 How do we do?

00:20:37.640 You're trained

00:20:38.360 to design a system.

00:20:39.480 Here's a system.

00:20:40.200 How does it look?

00:20:41.360 Don't ask yourself,

00:20:43.340 you know,

00:20:43.560 if you're an English

00:20:44.180 major.

00:20:45.600 You know,

00:20:45.900 don't ask your

00:20:46.700 partner who's

00:20:47.900 the history major.

00:20:48.980 They're not going

00:20:49.340 to help you.

00:20:49.720 Ask an engineer,

00:20:52.200 right?

00:20:52.660 And we act like

00:20:53.680 engineers don't exist

00:20:54.760 or something.

00:20:55.960 I think engineers

00:20:57.140 are the most

00:20:57.740 ignored group

00:20:59.380 of people

00:20:59.860 in society

00:21:01.200 because they have

00:21:02.320 the most value

00:21:03.300 to add

00:21:03.900 because of the

00:21:04.680 thinking part.

00:21:06.080 They can think.

00:21:07.320 They're really

00:21:08.000 clear thinkers

00:21:08.820 and we ignore them

00:21:10.420 like they don't count

00:21:11.200 when we talk

00:21:12.260 about political stuff.

00:21:13.660 You should pay

00:21:14.560 attention to the engineers.

00:21:15.560 All right.

00:21:17.580 Well,

00:21:18.260 apparently I was

00:21:19.160 trending on

00:21:19.940 Twitter twice

00:21:21.020 yesterday

00:21:21.400 for two different

00:21:22.620 but related thoughts.

00:21:24.940 Here's the part

00:21:25.740 where things are

00:21:26.480 going to get

00:21:26.820 uncomfortable

00:21:27.320 for some of you.

00:21:29.280 Anybody want

00:21:29.840 to stick around

00:21:30.360 for that?

00:21:31.440 It's going to get

00:21:31.980 uncomfortable.

00:21:32.800 I mean that.

00:21:33.520 Like,

00:21:33.720 that's not just

00:21:34.260 a weird teaser.

00:21:35.220 It's going to get

00:21:35.820 uncomfortable.

00:21:36.980 Here it comes.

00:21:38.720 Now,

00:21:39.020 the people on Locals,

00:21:40.040 I trust you.

00:21:41.160 The reason you

00:21:41.740 subscribed is that

00:21:42.720 you like a little

00:21:43.920 edgier,

00:21:45.000 uncomfortable stuff.

00:21:46.220 On YouTube,

00:21:46.960 it's going to be

00:21:47.380 a different experience

00:21:48.220 if you just

00:21:48.860 wandered in here.

00:21:50.180 You're not going

00:21:50.960 to like it.

00:21:52.600 So that's your warning.

00:21:54.160 Go away now.

00:21:55.780 All right.

00:21:58.360 I'm going to explain

00:21:59.360 to you the problem

00:22:00.740 with conservative

00:22:01.780 thought about parenting.

00:22:07.460 It goes like this.

00:22:12.300 Now,

00:22:12.780 if anybody's new

00:22:14.040 to me or my

00:22:14.640 live stream,

00:22:15.300 let me give you

00:22:15.700 some background.

00:22:17.240 I often refer

00:22:19.160 to myself as

00:22:20.080 left of Bernie,

00:22:21.600 partly because

00:22:22.220 that's not real.

00:22:23.300 There's nothing

00:22:23.700 left of Bernie.

00:22:24.820 In a few cases,

00:22:25.700 I actually literally

00:22:26.660 am left of Bernie,

00:22:27.800 but those are

00:22:28.580 just exceptions.

00:22:30.160 So,

00:22:31.220 I identify most

00:22:33.120 with conservatives

00:22:34.040 because they're

00:22:36.560 better at designing

00:22:37.400 systems that

00:22:39.280 understand human

00:22:40.440 motivation.

00:22:40.960 and the economics

00:22:42.420 and the business

00:22:43.120 major in me

00:22:44.160 says,

00:22:45.220 well,

00:22:45.360 you have to

00:22:45.960 include those

00:22:46.740 in your plan

00:22:47.480 because they're

00:22:48.720 so important.

00:22:50.420 So,

00:22:51.400 I'm very compatible

00:22:52.360 with conservative

00:22:53.540 thought on most

00:22:54.460 things.

00:22:55.660 There is one thing

00:22:56.720 that conservatives

00:22:57.360 get completely wrong

00:22:58.980 and it's a logic

00:23:00.200 problem.

00:23:01.340 You think it's

00:23:02.520 not a logic

00:23:03.160 problem and

00:23:04.100 that's the

00:23:04.740 illusion.

00:23:05.700 So,

00:23:07.260 let me set it

00:23:08.320 up for you.

00:23:09.420 We will not

00:23:10.100 be talking about

00:23:10.900 your moral,

00:23:12.080 ethical,

00:23:12.720 or religious

00:23:13.340 standing.

00:23:15.720 I have no

00:23:16.520 complaints with

00:23:17.100 any of that.

00:23:17.820 That's all good.

00:23:18.920 Keep that

00:23:19.360 exactly the way

00:23:20.100 it is.

00:23:20.760 So,

00:23:20.960 keep your moral,

00:23:21.880 ethical,

00:23:22.540 religious beliefs.

00:23:23.560 They will not

00:23:24.060 be assaulted

00:23:25.180 in any way.

00:23:26.640 Okay?

00:23:27.680 I'm only going

00:23:28.800 after the logic

00:23:29.560 because,

00:23:31.360 can I ask you,

00:23:32.160 is there any

00:23:32.660 conservative here

00:23:33.740 who is opposed

00:23:35.280 to thinking

00:23:35.980 better about

00:23:36.800 a topic?

00:23:38.360 Nobody,

00:23:38.820 right?

00:23:39.260 You would only

00:23:39.900 be opposed,

00:23:40.540 I think,

00:23:41.540 I think you

00:23:42.080 would only be

00:23:42.540 opposed to

00:23:43.000 something that

00:23:43.580 went against

00:23:44.640 your most

00:23:45.620 important ethical

00:23:46.720 moral standings.

00:23:48.580 And we won't

00:23:49.020 be doing any

00:23:49.520 of that.

00:23:50.480 None of that.

00:23:51.380 Because that I

00:23:51.860 respect.

00:23:52.940 Okay?

00:23:53.740 So,

00:23:54.260 here's what I

00:23:54.820 view as the

00:23:55.600 conservative

00:23:56.120 worldview.

00:23:57.640 And this is

00:23:58.340 relevant to

00:23:59.360 teen addiction

00:24:01.180 and the

00:24:02.500 younger male

00:24:03.320 teen shooters.

00:24:04.540 So,

00:24:04.680 that's the

00:24:04.960 context.

00:24:05.600 Okay?

00:24:06.460 We're going to

00:24:07.060 limit it to

00:24:07.600 that context

00:24:08.260 for now.

00:24:09.240 And I would

00:24:09.900 say the

00:24:10.200 conservative says

00:24:11.140 if this is

00:24:12.140 you,

00:24:12.580 and you is

00:24:13.140 just any

00:24:13.820 person who

00:24:14.380 might be a

00:24:15.020 parent someday.

00:24:16.180 You're just

00:24:16.560 an adult in

00:24:18.020 the world.

00:24:18.580 This is you.

00:24:19.860 And the

00:24:20.240 conservative

00:24:20.580 thought is

00:24:21.180 that there

00:24:21.480 are many

00:24:21.760 books and

00:24:22.340 organizations and

00:24:23.380 maybe you

00:24:23.760 can listen to

00:24:24.300 Christ and

00:24:25.300 you can get

00:24:25.720 advice.

00:24:26.660 And if you

00:24:27.080 look for these

00:24:27.640 sources,

00:24:28.640 you could be

00:24:29.280 part of a

00:24:30.260 great two

00:24:31.300 parents situation

00:24:32.260 and that

00:24:33.860 the statistics

00:24:34.920 and all

00:24:35.700 common sense

00:24:36.440 and all

00:24:36.940 experience are

00:24:38.120 all compatible

00:24:38.680 with the fact

00:24:39.320 that that gets

00:24:39.940 you good

00:24:40.640 outcomes.

00:24:41.880 Now, I

00:24:42.840 quickly, quickly

00:24:44.080 want to add

00:24:45.020 a caveat.

00:24:46.480 Because this is

00:24:47.100 the part of me

00:24:47.580 that's left of

00:24:48.260 Bernie.

00:24:49.600 This is my

00:24:50.400 opinion.

00:24:51.740 This is only

00:24:52.360 one way to do

00:24:53.100 it.

00:24:54.000 Probably the

00:24:54.620 best way.

00:24:55.800 Probably the

00:24:56.260 best way.

00:24:57.480 So, will you

00:24:58.300 agree with me if

00:24:59.140 I say it's the

00:24:59.900 best way?

00:25:00.420 I don't lose

00:25:02.060 you if I say

00:25:02.540 that, right?

00:25:03.480 If you're a

00:25:04.160 conservative and

00:25:05.560 I agree with you

00:25:06.320 on the biggest

00:25:06.960 point, this is

00:25:07.800 the best way.

00:25:09.640 Statistically.

00:25:10.780 But I would

00:25:11.440 like you to

00:25:12.040 agree with the

00:25:12.600 following point,

00:25:13.280 if you will.

00:25:14.160 Like, we'll

00:25:15.220 negotiate a little

00:25:16.280 bit here.

00:25:17.100 All right?

00:25:17.460 So, I'm going to

00:25:18.000 agree with you on

00:25:18.700 this.

00:25:19.160 Absolutely.

00:25:20.560 Statistically, the

00:25:21.180 best way to go.

00:25:22.560 I need you to

00:25:23.460 agree on this.

00:25:24.780 Plenty of

00:25:25.240 exceptions.

00:25:26.740 Right?

00:25:27.200 Can I get you to

00:25:28.140 say that?

00:25:29.200 Plenty of

00:25:29.760 exceptions.

00:25:30.140 Here would be

00:25:31.340 an exception.

00:25:33.060 And not so

00:25:33.620 much to the

00:25:34.120 great parent

00:25:34.680 role.

00:25:35.340 You can't

00:25:36.120 really beat

00:25:36.620 two great

00:25:37.680 parents.

00:25:38.960 That's

00:25:39.340 unbeatable.

00:25:40.600 But it's

00:25:41.780 hard to get.

00:25:43.040 So, suppose

00:25:43.500 you had one

00:25:44.220 good parent and

00:25:44.960 one bad

00:25:45.400 parent.

00:25:46.000 Would that

00:25:46.480 always be

00:25:47.240 better than

00:25:48.800 one single

00:25:49.480 parent who's a

00:25:50.240 superstar?

00:25:51.260 And maybe

00:25:51.680 with help.

00:25:52.860 Not always.

00:25:54.000 Right?

00:25:54.460 And I'm not

00:25:55.320 doing anything

00:25:55.780 about gender.

00:25:56.880 You know, that's

00:25:57.400 a situation I

00:25:58.960 think we could

00:25:59.360 just leave out

00:25:59.920 of it.

00:26:00.720 Frankly, I don't

00:26:01.400 even think gender

00:26:02.080 has anything to

00:26:02.660 do with this.

00:26:04.640 Now, I know

00:26:05.160 maybe you do, but

00:26:06.300 I'm saying two

00:26:07.360 strong role models

00:26:08.380 probably get you a

00:26:09.440 good outcome as

00:26:10.180 well.

00:26:10.800 So, if you'll let

00:26:12.360 me agree with

00:26:13.060 you that this

00:26:14.480 would be the

00:26:15.000 optimal situation,

00:26:17.060 can you agree

00:26:17.780 with me that

00:26:18.480 there would be

00:26:18.820 exceptions?

00:26:20.240 There would be

00:26:20.820 somebody who

00:26:21.400 could make it

00:26:21.860 work with a

00:26:22.700 different model.

00:26:23.920 May not be

00:26:24.720 preferred.

00:26:25.120 might not be

00:26:26.580 your first

00:26:26.980 choice, but

00:26:27.480 they can make

00:26:27.880 it work.

00:26:30.300 All right.

00:26:31.860 Do you see the

00:26:32.980 logic problem?

00:26:34.200 I'm going to ask

00:26:34.940 you first to see

00:26:35.680 if you see it.

00:26:36.480 Do you see the

00:26:37.180 logic problem?

00:26:38.380 Not the

00:26:39.820 philosophical

00:26:40.320 problem, the

00:26:41.680 logic problem.

00:26:42.500 Does anybody

00:26:42.760 see it?

00:26:45.540 It assumes two

00:26:46.500 parents?

00:26:47.000 No.

00:26:47.500 That's just a

00:26:48.740 goal.

00:26:49.080 So, a goal

00:26:51.560 doesn't assume

00:26:52.180 anything.

00:26:52.600 It just says,

00:26:53.200 we'd like to

00:26:53.620 get there,

00:26:53.980 right?

00:26:54.600 What is the

00:26:55.540 problem with

00:26:56.140 the logic?

00:26:57.800 I'm not talking

00:26:58.640 about your

00:26:58.980 motivation, your

00:27:00.720 religious belief,

00:27:01.940 nothing about

00:27:02.520 that, just the

00:27:03.340 logic.

00:27:05.160 All right, here's

00:27:05.620 the problem.

00:27:08.060 There's no way to

00:27:08.880 get from here to

00:27:09.540 there.

00:27:11.960 You're making me

00:27:12.920 think past the

00:27:13.740 sale.

00:27:14.780 The sale is that

00:27:16.180 you can get from

00:27:16.980 here to there.

00:27:19.080 But here's the

00:27:19.780 problem.

00:27:20.600 All of this

00:27:21.140 stuff, it

00:27:22.380 already exists, and

00:27:24.180 we're not there.

00:27:25.320 If you could get

00:27:26.260 people from here to

00:27:27.560 there, and all it

00:27:29.220 would take is the

00:27:30.180 things that already

00:27:30.900 exist, the problem

00:27:32.480 is already solved.

00:27:34.340 Do you see the

00:27:34.840 problem?

00:27:35.900 So, conservative

00:27:36.860 thought is thinking

00:27:38.400 past the sale.

00:27:40.620 Literally a

00:27:41.400 persuasion slash

00:27:43.160 logic problem.

00:27:44.960 If you can't solve

00:27:46.100 this problem of how

00:27:47.140 do you get somebody

00:27:48.040 to buy into

00:27:49.500 this, then you

00:27:51.300 have nothing.

00:27:52.860 So what this is,

00:27:54.000 is literally

00:27:55.020 nothing.

00:27:56.860 But conservatives

00:27:57.600 say, I think we're

00:27:58.760 done here because we

00:27:59.800 have a workable

00:28:00.700 plan.

00:28:01.580 The workable plan is

00:28:03.100 to promote two

00:28:04.220 parent households.

00:28:05.960 There are resources

00:28:07.100 to help you do it.

00:28:08.440 There's nothing else

00:28:09.280 that needs to be

00:28:09.820 done.

00:28:10.200 There must be

00:28:10.620 something wrong

00:28:11.200 with your character

00:28:11.960 or your motivation

00:28:12.880 if you're not doing

00:28:14.260 it.

00:28:15.400 Now here's what's

00:28:16.020 wrong with that.

00:28:17.340 The myth, first

00:28:20.560 of all, how do

00:28:22.860 you get these two

00:28:23.480 good parents?

00:28:25.860 Let me give you,

00:28:27.300 the best way I can

00:28:28.320 explain this is with

00:28:29.460 an analogy.

00:28:30.700 Now I want you to

00:28:31.720 disagree with the

00:28:32.460 analogy because that's

00:28:33.840 what we do.

00:28:35.020 But it's the only way

00:28:35.940 to make the point.

00:28:36.540 So analogies are good

00:28:39.380 for making a novel

00:28:40.820 point, but they're

00:28:42.100 not good for telling

00:28:43.600 you what's going on

00:28:44.480 with your stupid

00:28:45.140 situation.

00:28:46.780 So here's the

00:28:47.380 analogy.

00:28:48.680 In order to save

00:28:49.620 gas, you should

00:28:52.000 flap your arms

00:28:52.860 really hard and fly

00:28:53.900 instead.

00:28:55.380 So you would save

00:28:56.400 a lot of gas prices

00:28:57.520 by just flapping

00:28:58.620 your arms and

00:28:59.120 flying.

00:28:59.400 What is wrong

00:29:00.300 with that prescription?

00:29:02.020 Do you see any

00:29:02.440 logical problem with

00:29:03.440 it?

00:29:04.220 It's making you think

00:29:05.080 past the sale.

00:29:06.680 You can't flap

00:29:07.720 your arms and

00:29:08.580 fly.

00:29:09.840 But conservative

00:29:10.620 thought takes you

00:29:11.520 past the sale and

00:29:12.480 says, why are you

00:29:13.700 paying for gas when

00:29:15.240 you can flap your

00:29:15.940 arms and fly?

00:29:17.220 And then I say, but

00:29:18.540 you can't flap your

00:29:19.500 arms and fly.

00:29:20.580 And then the

00:29:21.100 conservatives say,

00:29:22.520 dude, all you have

00:29:24.880 to do is take

00:29:25.560 advantage of the

00:29:26.300 many resources that

00:29:27.380 teach you how to

00:29:27.980 flap your arms and

00:29:28.760 fly.

00:29:29.800 And then I say,

00:29:31.060 if any of those

00:29:32.340 resources worked,

00:29:34.340 wouldn't everybody

00:29:35.240 be flapping their

00:29:36.060 arms and flying?

00:29:37.520 Because that seems

00:29:38.220 like that would be

00:29:38.940 like something

00:29:39.540 everybody would want

00:29:40.540 to do.

00:29:41.760 Now you're saying

00:29:42.680 that the analogy

00:29:43.540 doesn't work because

00:29:44.480 the analogy doesn't

00:29:45.260 fit, right?

00:29:45.860 Well, then you're on

00:29:46.380 the wrong page.

00:29:47.700 Here's what you're

00:29:48.300 supposed to take from

00:29:48.980 the analogy.

00:29:50.580 If it's not possible

00:29:52.080 to do it, it's not

00:29:53.820 really a path to a

00:29:55.420 solution.

00:29:56.920 It's wishful thinking.

00:29:58.520 It's literally

00:29:59.340 imaginary.

00:29:59.900 All right, let me

00:30:01.880 give you another

00:30:03.380 entry into it.

00:30:04.660 I'm going to take

00:30:05.080 several attack

00:30:06.480 points, okay, until

00:30:07.500 one of them gets

00:30:08.560 through.

00:30:10.140 Here's the first

00:30:10.940 attack point.

00:30:13.000 You imagine there's

00:30:14.100 a single woman.

00:30:16.060 She has unprotected

00:30:17.560 sex with a man she

00:30:19.000 barely knows because

00:30:20.200 they were both drunk.

00:30:22.500 The woman decides to

00:30:23.780 keep the baby.

00:30:24.300 Now, so what's

00:30:29.940 her path?

00:30:31.700 Does she say to

00:30:32.760 the man who slept

00:30:34.280 with her once and

00:30:35.140 doesn't even like her

00:30:36.040 and barely knows her

00:30:36.860 name, does she say,

00:30:38.440 hold on, we've

00:30:39.840 created a problem

00:30:40.580 here where if we

00:30:41.400 keep going, we're

00:30:42.120 going to have a one

00:30:42.700 parent situation and

00:30:43.740 we know that's not

00:30:44.480 optimal.

00:30:45.360 So can I fix that by

00:30:47.340 suggesting, single

00:30:49.420 person who had sex

00:30:50.680 with me once, that

00:30:51.760 maybe you should read

00:30:52.480 some books on

00:30:53.060 fatherhood.

00:30:54.300 Go seek some help

00:30:56.260 from some

00:30:56.620 organizations, possibly

00:30:57.940 seek help from

00:30:58.980 Christ, and get

00:31:00.240 some good advice, and

00:31:02.020 then you can solve

00:31:03.320 the societal problem

00:31:04.460 by finding out a way

00:31:06.320 to be a good husband

00:31:07.100 and staying with me

00:31:08.160 and we'll live

00:31:08.840 forever in

00:31:09.360 happiness.

00:31:11.820 What?

00:31:14.440 How is that ever

00:31:15.480 going to work?

00:31:17.140 The conservative

00:31:18.740 view is built

00:31:19.740 totally on an

00:31:21.320 illusion.

00:31:22.260 The illusion that

00:31:23.220 you can take any

00:31:23.940 two people and

00:31:24.840 if you train

00:31:25.660 them up

00:31:25.980 right, they'll

00:31:26.460 have a happy

00:31:26.980 marriage and the

00:31:27.640 kid will be

00:31:27.980 good.

00:31:28.940 No, it's the

00:31:30.280 people.

00:31:31.480 The problem

00:31:32.340 with marriage is

00:31:33.980 the people.

00:31:35.960 And you can't

00:31:36.480 fix that.

00:31:37.800 You can't.

00:31:38.680 How about

00:31:39.180 murder?

00:31:40.660 You know, can we

00:31:41.200 get rid of murder

00:31:42.000 by writing books

00:31:43.240 about how you

00:31:43.860 shouldn't murder

00:31:44.380 anybody?

00:31:45.780 How about other

00:31:46.480 problems?

00:31:46.880 How about drug

00:31:47.360 addiction?

00:31:48.520 Can we get rid of

00:31:49.240 drug addiction by

00:31:50.060 writing a book that

00:31:50.860 says if you get

00:31:51.640 drug addicted, it'll

00:31:52.560 be bad for you?

00:31:53.940 How's that

00:31:54.320 working?

00:31:55.220 No, you can't

00:31:56.140 educate people to

00:31:57.100 become different

00:31:57.740 people.

00:31:58.640 And you can't

00:31:59.360 make people who

00:32:00.100 shouldn't be

00:32:00.640 married be happily

00:32:02.660 married.

00:32:04.100 The people who

00:32:04.940 decide not to stay

00:32:06.060 together, don't they

00:32:07.020 have reasons?

00:32:08.360 You act like there's

00:32:09.240 no reasons.

00:32:10.480 When somebody

00:32:11.140 doesn't stay with

00:32:11.840 a spouse, it's

00:32:12.580 because the spouse

00:32:13.620 is beating them,

00:32:14.600 one is an

00:32:14.940 alcoholic, doesn't

00:32:16.380 have a job, is a

00:32:17.960 bad role model.

00:32:19.720 You can't fix

00:32:20.520 that.

00:32:22.300 You can't fix

00:32:23.260 that by telling

00:32:23.860 them to read a

00:32:24.560 book.

00:32:25.600 Do you know

00:32:26.040 anybody who

00:32:26.700 ever took an

00:32:27.260 unhappy marriage

00:32:28.080 and turned it

00:32:28.640 into a good one

00:32:29.380 by reading a

00:32:30.060 book?

00:32:31.120 Well, maybe you

00:32:31.740 think you know

00:32:32.180 one.

00:32:33.280 All right, let

00:32:33.740 me tell you the

00:32:34.420 most absolutely

00:32:35.620 maddening illusion

00:32:37.920 that conservatives

00:32:39.640 have.

00:32:41.220 Maddening.

00:32:42.200 It goes like

00:32:42.900 this.

00:32:44.680 I showed tough

00:32:46.000 love to my

00:32:46.740 children, and they

00:32:48.240 turned out great.

00:32:50.080 Therefore, the

00:32:51.180 method I used to

00:32:52.140 parent is one that

00:32:53.540 can be generalized to

00:32:54.720 other kids in other

00:32:56.040 situations, because my

00:32:57.780 method clearly

00:32:58.540 worked.

00:33:00.400 How many of you

00:33:01.380 believe that?

00:33:02.640 How many of you

00:33:03.400 believe that there

00:33:05.860 are plenty of

00:33:06.440 examples of people

00:33:07.500 who did good

00:33:08.280 parenting, they did

00:33:09.360 the right things, and

00:33:10.080 they got a good

00:33:10.660 outcome with their

00:33:11.320 kid, therefore, good

00:33:13.220 parenting can fix

00:33:14.340 your kid as well?

00:33:15.640 How many?

00:33:16.020 Yeah, do you know

00:33:20.840 how many people told

00:33:21.900 me today on Twitter

00:33:23.320 that all you needed

00:33:25.420 to do for helping

00:33:27.040 your drug-addicted

00:33:28.360 kid is to seek

00:33:29.300 help?

00:33:30.680 Seek help.

00:33:32.120 That's the

00:33:32.580 conservative depth

00:33:33.800 of thinking on

00:33:34.840 addiction.

00:33:35.900 If you had maybe

00:33:36.820 loved your child

00:33:37.640 better and sought

00:33:39.060 help, well, you'd be

00:33:41.340 okay now.

00:33:42.600 There is no help.

00:33:43.920 That was the point

00:33:45.640 of my tweet thread

00:33:46.400 that got a lot of

00:33:47.240 attention.

00:33:47.980 There is no help.

00:33:48.860 If your teen is

00:33:49.720 troubled and male,

00:33:51.380 there's no services,

00:33:53.080 there's no therapist

00:33:54.300 who could make a

00:33:55.960 difference.

00:33:56.920 There's no anything.

00:33:58.740 There's nothing.

00:33:59.820 And somebody said to

00:34:01.620 me, well, therefore,

00:34:02.540 are you recommending

00:34:03.340 that we give up?

00:34:06.500 Did you hear that?

00:34:08.860 Or lose hope?

00:34:10.460 And I say no,

00:34:11.780 because you know why?

00:34:12.560 Well, any individual

00:34:14.160 kid can still break

00:34:15.340 through.

00:34:16.620 Any individual kid

00:34:18.480 can still break

00:34:19.780 through.

00:34:20.080 So you always have

00:34:20.580 hope, because you

00:34:21.600 don't know if your

00:34:22.160 kid is one of those

00:34:22.920 kids.

00:34:24.920 So you always have

00:34:25.820 hope, and you

00:34:27.640 should always do

00:34:28.240 whatever you can.

00:34:29.600 But the main thing

00:34:32.080 that's going on is

00:34:33.180 how you manage the

00:34:34.120 kid, having an

00:34:35.560 illusion, and you

00:34:36.760 are fucking the

00:34:37.680 whole world.

00:34:39.380 Let me say it

00:34:40.140 again.

00:34:40.680 It's not just a

00:34:41.440 harmless little

00:34:41.980 illusion.

00:34:42.440 It's not a

00:34:42.840 difference of

00:34:43.300 agreement.

00:34:44.220 The conservative

00:34:45.060 view that good

00:34:47.380 parenting fixes

00:34:48.200 things, like most

00:34:49.260 of the time, is

00:34:50.720 just fucking the

00:34:51.860 world, because it's

00:34:52.600 completely based on

00:34:53.980 a hallucination.

00:34:55.680 It's based on

00:34:56.660 anecdotal thinking.

00:34:58.280 I know somebody who

00:34:59.280 parented well.

00:35:00.060 They got a good

00:35:00.620 outcome.

00:35:01.780 Therefore, parenting

00:35:03.180 works.

00:35:04.100 No.

00:35:04.720 You never had a

00:35:05.640 kid who was a

00:35:06.240 problem kid.

00:35:07.580 It's always the

00:35:08.680 kid.

00:35:09.020 You can't change

00:35:11.080 kids.

00:35:13.480 Have you noticed

00:35:14.400 that there are

00:35:15.840 kids who are

00:35:16.880 raised exactly the

00:35:18.200 same way, same

00:35:18.920 parents, same

00:35:19.600 family, same

00:35:20.240 town, same

00:35:21.220 school, and they

00:35:22.340 turn out completely

00:35:23.280 differently?

00:35:24.360 Have you seen any

00:35:25.120 families where one

00:35:26.000 of them is a

00:35:26.640 criminal and one

00:35:27.440 of them is a

00:35:28.260 priest?

00:35:29.240 Yes.

00:35:30.060 Yes, you have.

00:35:31.860 Okay, that's a bad

00:35:32.780 example.

00:35:33.180 Right.

00:35:35.880 Every bit of

00:35:37.020 science and

00:35:37.580 evidence is

00:35:38.780 screaming at us

00:35:39.840 that the parenting

00:35:40.700 isn't a big deal.

00:35:42.600 It's screaming at

00:35:43.500 you that the

00:35:44.140 differences in the

00:35:45.200 individual are

00:35:46.140 everything.

00:35:47.560 Now, that

00:35:48.720 difference in the

00:35:49.440 individual, which is

00:35:50.360 being ignored by

00:35:51.320 conservatives, is

00:35:53.600 the same as when

00:35:55.760 the people on the

00:35:56.560 left ignore human

00:35:57.720 motivation.

00:35:58.820 It's a blind

00:35:59.680 spot, and it

00:36:00.880 makes everything

00:36:01.540 that you think

00:36:02.120 after that blind

00:36:03.000 spot nonsense.

00:36:05.040 Right?

00:36:05.540 So, my problem, the

00:36:06.980 reason that I'm

00:36:07.520 neither a Democrat

00:36:08.980 nor a Republican is

00:36:10.620 that you're operating

00:36:11.340 on different

00:36:12.040 illusions.

00:36:13.180 And I can't buy

00:36:13.880 into a preferred

00:36:14.860 illusion.

00:36:15.960 I mean, not one

00:36:16.760 that doesn't work.

00:36:17.840 I like illusions

00:36:18.560 that work, for

00:36:19.360 example.

00:36:22.240 So, here's the

00:36:23.080 other thing.

00:36:23.500 You can't fix a dad

00:36:25.780 by giving him a

00:36:26.600 fucking book.

00:36:28.480 You just have to

00:36:29.400 get over that.

00:36:30.520 There's no evidence

00:36:31.520 that's ever

00:36:32.000 worked.

00:36:32.560 There's no evidence

00:36:33.220 that ever will

00:36:33.740 work.

00:36:34.920 None.

00:36:36.020 Now, I will give

00:36:36.880 you the edge cases.

00:36:38.120 I will give you

00:36:38.680 the edge cases.

00:36:39.500 There are people

00:36:40.080 who don't know

00:36:40.600 how to parent, and

00:36:41.320 they learn a little

00:36:41.960 bit better, and

00:36:42.460 they get better, and

00:36:43.220 that's good.

00:36:44.040 So, everybody should

00:36:44.800 try to get better.

00:36:46.140 But if you think

00:36:47.040 that you can just

00:36:47.900 say, well, we

00:36:48.840 already have the

00:36:49.380 solution, and you

00:36:50.080 walk away, you're

00:36:51.240 the fucking problem.

00:36:52.880 You're the fucking

00:36:53.800 problem.

00:36:54.440 Because you think

00:36:55.060 it's already solved.

00:36:56.640 All people have to

00:36:57.840 do is try harder, be

00:36:59.220 better parents, read a

00:37:00.420 book, trust Christ.

00:37:02.680 No, these are

00:37:03.500 absolute magical

00:37:05.300 thinking solutions.

00:37:07.060 You can't do any

00:37:08.140 of that stuff.

00:37:09.060 If any of that

00:37:10.040 stuff worked, people

00:37:12.500 would do it.

00:37:13.880 But you have this

00:37:14.740 magic...

00:37:15.300 Not you.

00:37:16.160 So let me not make

00:37:17.020 this personal.

00:37:18.300 There are people who

00:37:19.060 have the magical

00:37:19.760 belief that you can

00:37:20.620 fix a defective

00:37:21.660 father with a book or

00:37:23.380 an organization or

00:37:24.280 Christ.

00:37:24.620 And I'm going to

00:37:25.600 give you, yes, you

00:37:26.440 can in the edge

00:37:27.140 cases, but it's

00:37:28.140 nowhere near the

00:37:28.980 big solution.

00:37:30.520 And sure, you

00:37:31.280 should try.

00:37:32.260 And sure, you

00:37:32.660 should always have

00:37:33.120 hope.

00:37:34.820 All right?

00:37:36.420 Somebody says, I

00:37:37.160 think you're

00:37:37.480 confusing conservative

00:37:38.580 with a control

00:37:39.700 freak.

00:37:41.160 No, I don't think

00:37:41.940 I am.

00:37:43.080 But I hear what

00:37:44.000 you're saying.

00:37:45.720 All right?

00:37:48.320 All right, let me

00:37:49.060 give you some of the

00:37:50.120 bad thinking that I

00:37:51.140 got when I talked

00:37:52.180 about this.

00:37:54.020 And the reason I'm

00:37:55.080 making a big deal

00:37:55.760 about this is that

00:37:56.780 I'm going to give

00:37:58.100 you another analogy.

00:37:59.160 You know how

00:37:59.720 nuclear power was

00:38:01.220 considered too

00:38:02.240 dangerous and not

00:38:04.300 really a solution to

00:38:05.240 anything for decades?

00:38:07.520 And it turns out

00:38:08.220 that that was all

00:38:08.840 an illusion.

00:38:10.420 Nuclear power was

00:38:11.580 the solution for

00:38:12.440 climate change.

00:38:13.500 It is safer than

00:38:14.760 the other alternatives.

00:38:16.000 And most of the

00:38:16.720 problems have been

00:38:17.220 solved.

00:38:18.500 So you saw me

00:38:19.800 going crazy on

00:38:21.100 persuading people

00:38:23.820 to believe that

00:38:24.900 nuclear power is

00:38:25.920 now the best

00:38:26.540 solution.

00:38:27.160 And now that's

00:38:27.780 the case, right?

00:38:28.860 So you saw both

00:38:29.900 the left, well

00:38:31.280 actually mostly the

00:38:32.040 left, you saw the

00:38:33.240 left finally get

00:38:35.400 past their illusion.

00:38:38.160 Their illusion was

00:38:39.240 nuclear was bad,

00:38:40.520 and now they have

00:38:41.500 actually overcome

00:38:42.960 that.

00:38:44.240 Do you know how

00:38:44.840 big a deal it is

00:38:45.720 that the left has

00:38:46.760 overcome an illusion?

00:38:48.940 The illusion about

00:38:49.740 nuclear power?

00:38:50.420 It probably changes

00:38:52.160 the world.

00:38:53.760 I mean, it's really,

00:38:54.900 really big.

00:38:55.660 Because if we didn't

00:38:56.620 get past that, we

00:38:57.560 weren't in trouble.

00:38:59.300 But we did.

00:39:00.380 It looks like we're

00:39:01.000 past it.

00:39:02.260 So nuclear is good

00:39:03.120 now.

00:39:03.940 I'm going to do the

00:39:04.820 same thing, or try

00:39:05.660 to, with this myth

00:39:06.920 of the good parent

00:39:07.760 solving your problems.

00:39:09.500 If you can drop

00:39:10.440 that myth, you open

00:39:12.760 up new possibilities

00:39:14.180 for maybe finding

00:39:15.140 something that works.

00:39:16.500 I don't know what

00:39:17.020 that is yet.

00:39:17.540 I'm just telling you

00:39:18.820 that you have to

00:39:19.540 drop an illusion

00:39:20.280 before you can even

00:39:21.080 see the field.

00:39:22.420 You've got to get

00:39:23.120 rid of the illusion

00:39:23.780 of the effective

00:39:24.620 parent.

00:39:26.420 Again, there are

00:39:27.680 no absolutes here.

00:39:29.120 Better parenting

00:39:29.720 is better.

00:39:31.200 Right?

00:39:31.680 So somebody's going

00:39:32.480 to go away and say,

00:39:34.200 Scott says the way

00:39:35.360 you parent doesn't

00:39:36.020 make any difference.

00:39:37.080 No.

00:39:37.780 No.

00:39:39.160 No.

00:39:39.960 I'm not saying

00:39:40.440 that.

00:39:41.000 But I know some

00:39:41.600 people are going

00:39:42.040 to say that.

00:39:43.040 No, I'm saying it's

00:39:43.740 not the solution.

00:39:44.560 It's better to parent

00:39:46.420 better.

00:39:47.140 It just isn't going

00:39:47.800 to solve anything.

00:39:50.300 Scott's cognitive

00:39:51.180 dissonance on display.

00:39:53.900 Well, let me test this.

00:39:56.260 If I'm the one

00:39:57.300 who has cognitive

00:39:58.140 dissonance,

00:39:58.820 how do you explain

00:39:59.780 that kids who are

00:40:02.440 raised exactly the

00:40:03.400 same way can turn

00:40:04.500 out completely different?

00:40:05.500 If you can explain

00:40:07.400 that with something

00:40:09.060 that doesn't sound

00:40:09.780 like nonsense,

00:40:11.200 then you would be

00:40:11.860 right that I would

00:40:13.260 be the one in

00:40:13.820 cognitive dissonance.

00:40:14.760 But that's your

00:40:15.180 challenge.

00:40:16.240 Now, you have to

00:40:16.760 give me one like that

00:40:17.800 in order to test me.

00:40:19.680 So give me the test

00:40:20.940 like that.

00:40:22.620 And then you can see

00:40:23.340 which one of us

00:40:23.980 has cognitive dissonance.

00:40:25.020 It's pretty easy,

00:40:25.640 this is.

00:40:26.500 Pretty easy.

00:40:29.180 All right.

00:40:30.280 Free will, of course,

00:40:31.440 is an illusion.

00:40:32.200 So if you thought

00:40:33.220 that it was free will

00:40:34.160 or any of those things,

00:40:36.320 those are also based

00:40:37.020 on hallucinations.

00:40:38.560 All right.

00:40:42.040 Here's the problem.

00:40:42.840 I once knew this

00:40:44.980 troubled teenager

00:40:45.760 who ate a ham sandwich

00:40:46.980 and within a year

00:40:49.160 of eating the ham sandwich

00:40:50.200 had turned his life around.

00:40:53.000 Is that evidence

00:40:54.120 that the ham sandwich

00:40:55.300 changed this kid's behavior?

00:40:58.700 Or is it evidence

00:40:59.840 that some people

00:41:00.540 just figured it out?

00:41:02.440 It's evidence

00:41:03.280 that some people

00:41:03.980 just figured it out.

00:41:05.680 So many of you

00:41:06.740 had stories for me

00:41:08.280 about your troubled youth

00:41:09.980 who you did X or Y

00:41:12.440 and whatever X and Y was,

00:41:14.800 it turned that kid around

00:41:16.120 and therefore

00:41:17.020 doing X and Y works.

00:41:19.380 No, it doesn't.

00:41:20.640 It's the ham sandwich.

00:41:22.320 All you know

00:41:23.160 is that you did something

00:41:24.040 and then something happened.

00:41:25.380 That's all you know.

00:41:26.540 You don't know

00:41:27.000 that that's what worked.

00:41:28.320 But you think you do.

00:41:29.640 And that illusion

00:41:30.760 is what is blinding you

00:41:32.660 to the possibility

00:41:33.880 that there might be

00:41:34.620 some way to fix this problem.

00:41:35.800 And it's definitely not

00:41:37.860 the belief

00:41:39.800 that 90% of what you do

00:41:41.440 parenting

00:41:42.480 makes a difference.

00:41:43.820 You need to reverse that.

00:41:45.760 If you think

00:41:46.360 it's 90% about

00:41:47.460 how you parent

00:41:48.140 and 10% about

00:41:49.080 the genes of the kid,

00:41:50.300 you are completely wrong.

00:41:52.480 Reverse it.

00:41:53.560 It's about 90% genes

00:41:55.260 and about 10% parenting.

00:41:57.260 That 10% parenting

00:41:58.560 is going to get you

00:41:59.300 the following benefits

00:42:00.460 if you do it right.

00:42:02.980 Punctuality, maybe.

00:42:05.800 Good manners, maybe.

00:42:09.660 A preference for hard work, maybe.

00:42:12.460 There are definitely

00:42:13.040 some things you can get

00:42:13.980 from good parenting.

00:42:15.540 And loving your spouse, maybe.

00:42:18.320 So am I saying

00:42:19.320 that you can't get

00:42:20.000 anything good

00:42:20.600 from good parenting?

00:42:21.400 You can get

00:42:21.820 all kinds of great stuff.

00:42:23.640 Yeah, the feeling of security,

00:42:25.540 all kinds of great stuff.

00:42:27.260 But it's in the 10%

00:42:28.580 in terms of how much

00:42:29.740 it's going to affect

00:42:30.340 their long-term outcomes.

00:42:35.800 Are we 90 seconds or less

00:42:37.420 from Scott going

00:42:38.140 full eugenics?

00:42:40.000 Does that make sense?

00:42:41.440 Now, what I'm going to do

00:42:42.680 is I'm going to point out

00:42:43.900 some of the bad thinking here

00:42:45.940 as my argument

00:42:48.780 for how this is triggering

00:42:50.340 cognitive dissonance

00:42:51.580 in some of you.

00:42:52.680 Now, one of the comments here

00:42:53.740 was that I'm very close

00:42:55.960 to eugenics.

00:42:58.220 Did anything I say

00:42:59.740 suggest that I'm, like,

00:43:01.960 on the precipice of eugenics?

00:43:03.860 No.

00:43:06.000 No.

00:43:07.160 All right.

00:43:10.200 So here are some

00:43:11.400 of the good thinking

00:43:12.880 from other people.

00:43:17.640 So here's some advice I got,

00:43:20.700 and I won't even tell you who.

00:43:21.940 Well, no, somebody named John.

00:43:23.200 Let's just say that.

00:43:24.640 And this tweet,

00:43:25.740 I think this describes

00:43:27.000 a dominant conservative thought.

00:43:29.240 See if you agree

00:43:30.440 with this person's comment.

00:43:32.120 So this is somebody

00:43:32.720 disagreeing with me.

00:43:33.660 on Twitter.

00:43:34.300 See if you buy into this.

00:43:36.300 Says you, meaning me,

00:43:38.040 you understand the problem

00:43:39.300 but not a solution.

00:43:41.660 That is correct.

00:43:43.020 That's what I'm saying.

00:43:44.400 I understand the problem

00:43:45.400 and that nobody has a solution.

00:43:46.920 So that part's good.

00:43:48.200 If you want to raise a child,

00:43:49.480 he says,

00:43:50.400 to become a good man,

00:43:52.160 be a good man.

00:43:53.280 All right.

00:43:53.480 So that's the proposition.

00:43:55.160 That you can turn a child

00:43:56.440 into a boy,

00:43:57.900 into a good man,

00:43:58.680 by being a good man.

00:44:01.180 What's the evidence for that?

00:44:03.480 All right.

00:44:03.780 We'll keep going.

00:44:04.940 Your son will watch you

00:44:06.040 his whole life.

00:44:06.900 You want him to treat women

00:44:08.040 with respect?

00:44:09.400 Treat his mother

00:44:09.920 with respect.

00:44:10.900 You want him to be

00:44:11.840 a hard worker?

00:44:13.620 Blah, blah, blah.

00:44:14.040 You show him

00:44:14.640 by going to work every day.

00:44:16.700 You want him to stay

00:44:17.560 away from drug use?

00:44:18.620 You stay away from drug use.

00:44:20.260 You want him to have

00:44:21.020 a good marriage

00:44:21.660 with your wife?

00:44:22.920 Show him what a good marriage

00:44:24.020 looks like.

00:44:25.100 In essence,

00:44:25.720 be a good person

00:44:26.540 every day of his life

00:44:27.540 and he will be too.

00:44:30.260 Make sure your children

00:44:31.800 know you love your wife

00:44:33.020 and vice versa.

00:44:34.480 Show them what that means,

00:44:35.840 the good and the bad,

00:44:36.820 and in between every day.

00:44:38.340 This has a lasting effect

00:44:39.920 on them.

00:44:41.040 They will pick up

00:44:41.640 the habits of the people

00:44:42.600 they spend time with.

00:44:43.600 Your bad behavior

00:44:44.340 will become theirs.

00:44:45.900 So basically,

00:44:47.480 the summary of that

00:44:48.100 is that a bad dad

00:44:51.020 could become a good one

00:44:54.140 by just modeling

00:44:55.760 this good behavior.

00:44:57.520 How practical

00:44:58.600 is any of that?

00:45:01.700 So let's say

00:45:03.580 there's a drug addict

00:45:04.980 who bangs a woman

00:45:06.660 and then leaves.

00:45:08.400 She has a baby.

00:45:10.040 Was that meth addict

00:45:11.720 supposed to come in

00:45:14.640 and model all these

00:45:15.560 good behaviors

00:45:16.320 and really show love

00:45:17.860 to the woman

00:45:18.340 whose last name

00:45:19.140 he doesn't even know

00:45:20.080 and pretend to be

00:45:22.720 a good husband?

00:45:23.940 None of that's real.

00:45:25.880 None of that's real.

00:45:27.220 I mean,

00:45:27.620 you start with any

00:45:28.360 real world situation

00:45:29.740 and you can't imagine

00:45:30.800 how any of this

00:45:31.480 could work.

00:45:32.640 So the leap of imagination

00:45:35.860 it takes

00:45:36.680 to go all the way

00:45:38.140 from good parenting

00:45:40.180 is a good thing

00:45:41.000 and to imagine

00:45:41.700 that therefore

00:45:42.300 you can create

00:45:43.240 good parents

00:45:44.060 that's thinking

00:45:45.800 past the sale.

00:45:47.260 So let me say it again

00:45:47.880 going back to the first point.

00:45:50.120 The sale

00:45:50.700 is can you create

00:45:53.440 good parents

00:45:54.140 who would do

00:45:55.860 better than bad parents.

00:45:57.360 That's the sale.

00:45:58.860 And the conservatives

00:45:59.480 think all the way

00:46:00.260 past that.

00:46:00.880 That's the part

00:46:01.760 nobody can figure out.

00:46:03.040 They go all the way

00:46:03.760 past it to

00:46:04.400 it would be good

00:46:05.060 to have two parents

00:46:05.860 so we're done here

00:46:07.200 because there are books

00:46:08.540 on how to do it.

00:46:11.300 Your whole argument

00:46:12.380 is a straw man.

00:46:14.040 No it isn't.

00:46:15.580 No it isn't.

00:46:17.560 Is the straw man

00:46:18.660 that conservatives

00:46:19.340 think that

00:46:20.060 having a strong

00:46:21.880 two parent

00:46:22.620 household

00:46:23.480 is better?

00:46:24.240 That's not a

00:46:24.980 fucking straw man.

00:46:26.500 That is exactly

00:46:27.600 what conservatives

00:46:28.420 think.

00:46:29.380 Good lord

00:46:29.980 what is wrong

00:46:30.700 with you?

00:46:34.180 Alright.

00:46:35.560 Do I have any

00:46:36.640 personal bias

00:46:39.480 in this story?

00:46:41.440 Yes I do.

00:46:42.980 And I'm going to

00:46:43.500 tell you my

00:46:43.980 personal bias

00:46:44.880 so that you can see

00:46:46.720 probably

00:46:47.740 one of the reasons

00:46:48.560 that I'm more

00:46:49.520 let's say

00:46:50.080 engaged in this

00:46:51.080 than other things.

00:46:51.920 You ready?

00:46:53.640 Here's a story

00:46:54.400 I've never told before.

00:46:55.980 Well I don't know.

00:46:56.940 Maybe I've told it

00:46:57.560 in general form

00:46:58.760 to some people.

00:47:01.480 My grandmother

00:47:02.460 used to

00:47:03.160 babysit for me.

00:47:04.480 So it was common

00:47:05.700 if my parents

00:47:06.400 were busy

00:47:07.620 I would be

00:47:08.380 with my grandmother

00:47:09.060 for the day

00:47:09.660 when I was

00:47:10.220 a little kid.

00:47:11.480 My grandmother

00:47:12.300 was a poorly

00:47:14.280 educated woman

00:47:15.120 and she believed

00:47:17.400 among other things

00:47:18.180 that if you were

00:47:18.760 born left handed

00:47:19.780 it might be

00:47:21.080 the sign of the devil

00:47:21.920 and so when her son

00:47:23.840 my uncle

00:47:24.480 was born left handed

00:47:25.520 she punished him

00:47:28.140 until he used

00:47:28.780 his right hand

00:47:29.520 for general tasks

00:47:31.340 which he ended up doing.

00:47:32.740 and she also believed

00:47:36.300 that all behavior

00:47:37.860 problems of children

00:47:38.860 could be solved

00:47:40.320 by enough punishment.

00:47:42.800 So in other words

00:47:43.420 if a child wasn't

00:47:44.280 doing what you wanted

00:47:45.240 the only reason

00:47:46.940 is because you had not

00:47:48.000 amped up

00:47:48.920 the punishment enough.

00:47:50.680 So any behavior

00:47:52.480 could be fixed

00:47:53.180 by the right amount

00:47:54.300 of equal punishment.

00:47:55.280 Now

00:47:57.100 the problem was

00:47:59.040 that I had

00:48:00.120 a health problem

00:48:01.080 which she

00:48:03.080 in her

00:48:03.660 incredible ignorance

00:48:05.820 interpreted

00:48:07.740 as a behavior problem.

00:48:10.560 Let me say it again.

00:48:11.620 I had a health problem

00:48:12.580 that I couldn't control.

00:48:14.560 It's resolved now

00:48:15.480 so you don't have to worry

00:48:16.380 about it.

00:48:16.720 I'm not going to get into it.

00:48:17.940 It was a health problem

00:48:18.920 and she believed

00:48:20.800 it was a behavior problem.

00:48:22.700 Do you know

00:48:22.980 what she did

00:48:23.700 when her punishments

00:48:26.020 of me

00:48:26.480 were not sufficient

00:48:27.980 to change my behavior

00:48:29.240 because it wasn't

00:48:30.200 something I had

00:48:31.040 any control over?

00:48:32.280 Do you know

00:48:32.620 what she did?

00:48:33.860 She increased

00:48:34.560 the punishment.

00:48:36.800 Yeah.

00:48:37.600 And do you know

00:48:38.260 what happened?

00:48:38.900 No it wasn't bedwetting

00:48:39.880 but good guess.

00:48:41.180 Good guess.

00:48:42.360 So it wasn't bedwetting

00:48:43.560 but if you want

00:48:44.380 to use that

00:48:44.840 as your model

00:48:45.500 that would be

00:48:47.180 a good one.

00:48:48.000 Because I don't think

00:48:49.060 anybody intentionally

00:48:49.940 wets the bed.

00:48:51.460 So it wasn't that

00:48:52.900 but that's a good one.

00:48:55.420 Now what happened

00:48:56.500 when the new level

00:48:58.300 of punishment

00:48:59.200 wasn't enough either?

00:49:00.840 What did she do?

00:49:02.660 She ramped it up.

00:49:04.160 She ramped it up.

00:49:05.880 So my childhood experience

00:49:08.080 was literally being

00:49:09.700 trapped in a house

00:49:10.780 with a torturer

00:49:12.680 because she believed

00:49:14.880 as you believe

00:49:15.500 many of you

00:49:16.100 not all of you

00:49:17.040 but she believed

00:49:18.000 as all conservatives

00:49:18.940 believe.

00:49:19.460 She was conservative.

00:49:20.860 She believed

00:49:21.520 that good parenting

00:49:23.080 could fix my problems.

00:49:26.240 So my genetic problem

00:49:28.100 she tried to fix

00:49:30.520 by punishment.

00:49:32.720 And that's the model

00:49:34.800 that you have.

00:49:36.240 The conservative model

00:49:37.380 is that my grandmother's

00:49:38.700 method should have worked.

00:49:40.840 She just didn't apply

00:49:42.420 enough pressure.

00:49:43.280 But sometimes the problem

00:49:48.040 is organic

00:49:48.760 as it was in my case.

00:49:50.580 There was no choice

00:49:51.520 involved in anything

00:49:52.460 I did there.

00:49:53.780 So if you have a kid

00:49:55.080 who is an addict

00:49:55.860 is an addict

00:49:58.100 just like everybody else.

00:50:00.560 What do you say

00:50:01.060 conservatives?

00:50:02.240 Is somebody

00:50:02.760 who is an addict

00:50:03.620 genetically

00:50:04.600 just like everybody else?

00:50:06.440 Or do they have

00:50:07.720 like a thing

00:50:08.660 that you can't see

00:50:09.620 that makes

00:50:10.780 their behavior

00:50:11.680 look like

00:50:13.300 it's a choice?

00:50:15.640 Well,

00:50:16.320 if you didn't

00:50:16.960 understand anything

00:50:17.800 about people

00:50:18.780 and addiction

00:50:19.720 you would say

00:50:20.440 to yourself

00:50:20.920 that person

00:50:22.000 is choosing

00:50:22.520 to do those drugs

00:50:23.820 and I think

00:50:24.860 I can punish them

00:50:25.820 out of it.

00:50:27.180 How's that going to work?

00:50:28.920 It won't.

00:50:30.380 So the moment

00:50:31.200 you believe

00:50:31.940 that punishment

00:50:33.120 can correct

00:50:34.120 a fucking

00:50:35.100 genetic problem

00:50:36.540 you have a really

00:50:39.060 broken philosophy

00:50:40.160 of life.

00:50:42.080 Once you understand

00:50:43.240 by the way

00:50:47.020 we're going to get

00:50:47.640 to the other comments

00:50:48.440 there's somebody

00:50:49.120 here who says

00:50:49.760 I should be

00:50:50.300 investigated

00:50:50.880 for killing my son.

00:50:53.040 The reason

00:50:53.520 I was trending

00:50:54.700 on Twitter

00:50:55.560 is that people

00:50:56.800 like Keith Olbermann

00:50:57.920 and I think

00:50:59.560 some other people

00:51:01.400 they came in

00:51:02.520 and they read

00:51:03.040 my tweet

00:51:03.660 and they interpreted

00:51:05.540 it as

00:51:06.180 I wanted to kill

00:51:07.200 my own son

00:51:07.900 or that I did

00:51:09.460 kill my own son

00:51:10.340 or that I let him

00:51:11.340 die with some

00:51:12.260 neglect or something.

00:51:13.700 Now do you imagine

00:51:14.540 that I actually tweeted

00:51:15.540 anything that said that?

00:51:18.760 This is where

00:51:19.500 that really thing

00:51:20.260 comes in.

00:51:21.100 So you haven't seen

00:51:21.740 my tweet threads

00:51:22.440 perhaps

00:51:22.860 but you've seen

00:51:23.460 the comments

00:51:24.000 about them.

00:51:25.740 Just ask yourself

00:51:26.760 really?

00:51:28.600 Really?

00:51:29.620 Do you think

00:51:30.060 that I tweeted

00:51:30.740 in public

00:51:31.340 something about

00:51:32.960 being happy

00:51:33.880 and Eddie

00:51:35.180 here says

00:51:36.000 you kind of did.

00:51:37.860 He goes

00:51:38.300 you kind of did.

00:51:40.080 No I didn't.

00:51:41.920 And that never

00:51:42.880 happened.

00:51:43.920 You actually

00:51:44.720 are having

00:51:45.640 a hallucination.

00:51:47.440 Go read it again.

00:51:48.320 It's in public.

00:51:49.160 I mean

00:51:49.380 I don't have to

00:51:50.460 make a case.

00:51:51.080 Just go read it again.

00:51:52.560 See what it says

00:51:53.380 and if you have

00:51:54.840 problems reading it

00:51:55.660 ask a friend.

00:51:57.120 The reason it has

00:51:58.060 I don't know

00:51:58.520 some thousands

00:51:59.220 of retweets

00:52:00.060 is because

00:52:00.980 there were

00:52:01.380 thousands of people

00:52:02.200 who read it

00:52:02.680 correctly.

00:52:03.800 There's not one

00:52:04.700 person who would

00:52:05.400 have retweeted it

00:52:06.240 if I was celebrating

00:52:07.740 the death of my

00:52:08.520 child.

00:52:10.280 Nobody would have

00:52:11.060 retweeted that.

00:52:12.540 So ask yourself

00:52:13.460 why is everybody

00:52:14.100 retweeting it

00:52:14.840 if you think

00:52:15.520 I'm saying

00:52:16.060 I'm celebrating

00:52:16.760 the death

00:52:17.300 of my child.

00:52:17.820 The problem's

00:52:20.740 on your end.

00:52:22.300 Clearly

00:52:22.740 the problem's

00:52:23.680 on your end.

00:52:24.560 Nobody would

00:52:25.220 tweet that.

00:52:25.800 Nobody did.

00:52:27.880 All right.

00:52:31.340 Let me tell you

00:52:32.020 some of the

00:52:32.400 other things.

00:52:35.720 Here's what

00:52:36.280 somebody else

00:52:36.840 thought I tweeted.

00:52:38.060 This is Craig

00:52:38.720 Rosniecki.

00:52:39.980 This is how he

00:52:40.640 interpreted my tweet

00:52:41.540 this morning.

00:52:42.060 He says

00:52:42.160 what you're

00:52:42.960 contending here

00:52:43.720 is that killing

00:52:44.440 teenage males

00:52:45.400 who are subjectively

00:52:47.100 deemed dangerous

00:52:48.180 in quotes

00:52:48.680 and have yet

00:52:49.620 to commit a crime

00:52:50.700 would serve

00:52:51.180 the greater good.

00:52:52.280 So here's somebody

00:52:53.000 who literally

00:52:53.540 thinks I tweeted

00:52:54.440 this opinion

00:52:55.180 that killing

00:52:56.380 a teenage male

00:52:57.300 before they did

00:52:58.140 anything wrong

00:52:59.040 would be good

00:53:00.060 for society

00:53:00.720 just because

00:53:01.360 they might be

00:53:01.940 dangerous later.

00:53:03.560 Really?

00:53:05.380 Really?

00:53:06.980 Does somebody

00:53:07.780 think that I tweeted

00:53:08.600 that opinion?

00:53:09.900 That killing

00:53:10.620 people before

00:53:11.420 they commit a crime

00:53:12.460 would be good

00:53:14.120 for society?

00:53:16.000 Craig does.

00:53:17.580 Craig thinks

00:53:18.100 I actually

00:53:18.560 tweeted that.

00:53:19.960 Now,

00:53:20.440 can you see

00:53:21.080 the problem?

00:53:22.320 That's cognitive

00:53:23.000 dissonance.

00:53:24.000 So Craig is

00:53:25.000 literally hallucinating

00:53:26.480 some opinion

00:53:27.120 that nobody

00:53:27.620 would have.

00:53:28.560 It's not only

00:53:29.440 an opinion

00:53:29.760 I don't have,

00:53:31.180 nobody would

00:53:31.720 have that opinion.

00:53:32.980 Why would you

00:53:33.480 think anybody

00:53:33.940 would have

00:53:34.240 that opinion?

00:53:35.400 That should have

00:53:35.760 been the tip-off.

00:53:36.900 Nobody would

00:53:37.500 have that opinion.

00:53:41.580 So basically,

00:53:43.140 if I said

00:53:43.560 something in a tweet

00:53:44.360 any time this week

00:53:45.340 that shocked

00:53:45.880 or offended you,

00:53:47.640 here's what I

00:53:48.240 can guarantee.

00:53:49.040 If you were

00:53:49.440 shocked or offended

00:53:50.200 by anything I

00:53:50.920 tweeted,

00:53:52.100 either you

00:53:53.200 didn't understand

00:53:53.940 it or you're

00:53:56.180 Keith Olbermann.

00:53:57.420 There are two

00:53:57.760 possibilities.

00:53:58.860 Now, Keith,

00:53:59.300 as you know,

00:53:59.640 is my mascot.

00:54:01.060 And so when I

00:54:01.560 say anything that

00:54:02.200 trends or is

00:54:02.820 provocative,

00:54:04.340 Keith likes to

00:54:05.280 come over and

00:54:06.100 misinterpret it

00:54:07.740 and then get

00:54:08.260 worked up,

00:54:09.280 which is part of

00:54:09.840 the fun.

00:54:10.400 He's like a

00:54:10.880 core jester.

00:54:11.380 So I'm always

00:54:12.980 happy to see

00:54:13.540 him.

00:54:18.420 Let's see.

00:54:19.280 It's more

00:54:19.540 bad thinking.

00:54:23.640 Here's another

00:54:24.340 example.

00:54:26.800 Here's some

00:54:27.460 advice I got.

00:54:28.760 So how to fix

00:54:29.860 this whole dad

00:54:30.800 problem.

00:54:31.420 So here's some

00:54:32.160 conservative advice

00:54:33.200 in a tweet.

00:54:34.480 Somebody said,

00:54:35.380 it is a spiritual

00:54:36.120 issue.

00:54:37.160 Requires the

00:54:37.880 repentance of

00:54:38.640 individual hearts

00:54:39.580 that eventually

00:54:40.340 multiplies through

00:54:41.720 society.

00:54:43.580 Okay.

00:54:44.640 So then what

00:54:47.860 do I do?

00:54:49.140 Okay, hold on.

00:54:49.700 Let me read it

00:54:50.080 again.

00:54:50.780 It's a spiritual

00:54:51.480 issue.

00:54:52.280 It requires

00:54:52.840 repentance of

00:54:54.040 individual hearts

00:54:54.980 that eventually

00:54:55.640 multiplies through

00:54:56.700 society.

00:54:58.140 So what do I do

00:55:00.060 differently?

00:55:02.080 How does that

00:55:02.720 help me?

00:55:03.860 All right,

00:55:04.080 here's another

00:55:04.460 one.

00:55:06.780 Somebody said,

00:55:07.580 I don't know

00:55:07.900 how we can fix

00:55:08.740 it, but we can

00:55:09.540 encourage engaged

00:55:10.580 fatherhood and

00:55:11.360 discourage

00:55:12.020 abandonment

00:55:12.820 through policy.

00:55:14.120 Yeah, we can

00:55:14.960 have policies that

00:55:15.860 don't make it

00:55:16.400 easy and

00:55:17.560 economical to

00:55:18.500 leave.

00:55:19.600 We could do

00:55:20.120 that.

00:55:20.900 So if I

00:55:21.480 understand this,

00:55:22.360 if you fixed

00:55:23.120 our policies to

00:55:24.120 make it easier

00:55:25.960 to stay together

00:55:26.740 and harder to

00:55:27.500 leave, we

00:55:28.720 could create a

00:55:30.460 situation where

00:55:31.060 people who

00:55:32.000 desperately don't

00:55:33.020 want to be

00:55:33.440 married have to

00:55:35.300 stay together.

00:55:35.960 together, that

00:55:38.340 should work

00:55:38.740 out, right?

00:55:39.880 Wouldn't you

00:55:40.400 love to be a

00:55:41.060 kid of two

00:55:41.980 parents who

00:55:42.520 desperately don't

00:55:43.640 want to be

00:55:44.400 together?

00:55:45.140 Hate each

00:55:45.720 other's fucking

00:55:46.320 guts at this

00:55:47.320 point, with

00:55:48.240 good reason,

00:55:48.980 because they

00:55:49.320 were bullshitty

00:55:49.880 to each other,

00:55:50.700 but they stayed

00:55:51.980 together anyway.

00:55:53.780 So I think

00:55:54.700 that'll be good,

00:55:56.040 good for the

00:55:56.760 kid.

00:55:58.180 Do you see

00:55:58.740 any problems?

00:56:00.600 No.

00:56:01.400 This is the

00:56:02.160 quality of a

00:56:02.920 lot of

00:56:03.180 conservative

00:56:03.620 thought.

00:56:04.540 You can just

00:56:05.200 encourage people

00:56:06.560 to stay

00:56:06.960 together.

00:56:08.200 Why the

00:56:08.920 fuck would

00:56:09.760 you want to

00:56:10.220 do that?

00:56:11.240 Is that the

00:56:11.740 only way you

00:56:12.340 can make this

00:56:12.880 worse?

00:56:13.540 The only way

00:56:14.360 you can make

00:56:14.780 it worse is

00:56:15.380 keeping that

00:56:16.000 fucking father

00:56:16.680 in the house.

00:56:17.960 The guy who

00:56:18.620 left, I don't

00:56:19.960 think mom wanted

00:56:20.840 him.

00:56:22.240 I don't think

00:56:23.300 anybody wanted

00:56:24.040 him.

00:56:24.640 There's a reason

00:56:25.280 he left.

00:56:26.140 He's a lever.

00:56:27.560 The fact that

00:56:28.240 he left probably

00:56:29.520 shows you something

00:56:30.440 about what would

00:56:31.240 happen if he

00:56:31.940 stayed.

00:56:34.600 To imagine

00:56:36.080 that you can

00:56:36.800 fix a problem

00:56:37.640 by putting

00:56:38.440 horrible role

00:56:39.520 models really

00:56:40.340 close to your

00:56:41.100 kid does not

00:56:42.940 seem like good

00:56:43.820 thinking.

00:56:44.840 That is not a

00:56:45.940 philosophical

00:56:46.580 preference.

00:56:48.660 That's just

00:56:49.320 illogical.

00:56:50.720 It doesn't think

00:56:51.560 through what

00:56:52.180 happens if the

00:56:52.900 guy stays.

00:56:54.120 If the guy

00:56:54.720 stays, what,

00:56:56.840 abuse?

00:56:57.860 Bad role

00:56:58.860 model?

00:56:59.140 All right,

00:57:00.260 here's some

00:57:00.560 more bad

00:57:01.140 thinking.

00:57:03.580 As the

00:57:04.200 father of an

00:57:04.740 adolescent son

00:57:05.480 who struggles

00:57:06.060 with substance

00:57:06.680 abuse and

00:57:07.260 self-harm, I

00:57:08.460 appreciate your

00:57:09.100 wise message that

00:57:10.160 there is no

00:57:10.740 hope.

00:57:11.500 What?

00:57:13.120 He's being

00:57:13.720 sarcastic.

00:57:14.520 It's good that

00:57:15.080 there is someone

00:57:15.580 as smart as you

00:57:16.460 to set us

00:57:17.080 straight.

00:57:18.180 So he's saying

00:57:18.700 he has a son

00:57:19.460 with things and

00:57:20.760 he believes that

00:57:21.460 what I said is

00:57:22.140 there's no hope.

00:57:23.120 No.

00:57:24.360 There's tons of

00:57:25.280 hope.

00:57:25.580 You know what

00:57:25.840 the hope is?

00:57:26.980 The hope is

00:57:27.800 that your kid

00:57:28.300 has good genes

00:57:29.160 and that he's

00:57:30.640 going through a

00:57:31.140 rough patch.

00:57:32.500 It's very, very

00:57:33.500 common for young

00:57:34.400 men to go

00:57:34.980 through a rough

00:57:35.540 patch.

00:57:36.600 Anybody?

00:57:37.340 Is there anybody

00:57:37.840 who was a young

00:57:38.500 man who went

00:57:39.720 through a rough

00:57:40.300 patch and then

00:57:41.320 worked it out?

00:57:42.620 Any of you?

00:57:43.940 Any conservatives

00:57:44.880 here who went

00:57:45.540 through a rough

00:57:46.000 patch and then

00:57:46.580 worked it out?

00:57:48.140 Yes.

00:57:48.540 So would you

00:57:50.200 lose hope knowing

00:57:51.520 that, I mean,

00:57:52.320 there are yeses

00:57:53.380 streaming through here,

00:57:54.280 right?

00:57:54.900 Men and women,

00:57:55.800 right?

00:57:55.960 It's not limited

00:57:56.740 to men.

00:57:57.340 Of course,

00:57:57.760 it's the most

00:57:58.160 common thing.

00:57:59.200 Why would I tell

00:57:59.880 somebody to lose

00:58:00.680 hope when it's

00:58:02.120 extremely common

00:58:03.180 for people going

00:58:04.780 through a rough

00:58:05.300 patch to get

00:58:06.500 out of it?

00:58:07.820 But do you know,

00:58:08.760 you can usually

00:58:09.520 tell which people

00:58:10.360 those are.

00:58:11.640 Not always.

00:58:13.600 But there are

00:58:14.240 people you look

00:58:14.920 at and you say,

00:58:15.580 okay, that one's

00:58:16.200 not going to get

00:58:16.760 out of it.

00:58:17.900 But there are

00:58:18.320 other ones you

00:58:18.820 say, I think

00:58:19.600 that one could.

00:58:20.940 I feel like this

00:58:21.620 one's just going

00:58:22.160 through a rough

00:58:22.640 patch.

00:58:23.040 But, you know,

00:58:24.280 if you get this

00:58:24.820 one through it,

00:58:25.320 I think they

00:58:25.680 can make it

00:58:26.140 work.

00:58:26.700 There are

00:58:26.940 others you

00:58:27.360 know they

00:58:27.700 can't.

00:58:29.260 You know,

00:58:29.640 but you can

00:58:30.040 hope.

00:58:30.840 So yes,

00:58:31.320 there's always

00:58:31.660 hope.

00:58:32.660 I'm never

00:58:33.160 going to be

00:58:33.440 the one to

00:58:33.800 tell you

00:58:34.060 not.

00:58:34.380 There's no

00:58:34.680 hope.

00:58:36.740 All right.

00:58:41.260 So I guess

00:58:42.060 that's,

00:58:42.600 all right.

00:58:48.680 I guess that's

00:58:49.400 my main point.

00:58:50.000 Those of you

00:58:51.320 who are parents

00:58:52.100 and you're

00:58:53.800 good at it

00:58:54.400 and you also

00:58:56.340 got good

00:58:56.820 results,

00:58:58.540 shut the

00:58:59.320 fuck up.

00:59:00.400 You're ruining

00:59:00.920 everything.

00:59:02.160 Let me say it

00:59:02.580 again.

00:59:03.260 Those of you

00:59:03.840 who are really

00:59:04.300 good parents

00:59:04.920 and you did

00:59:06.360 all the right

00:59:06.760 things and you

00:59:07.280 got a good

00:59:07.660 outcome with

00:59:08.200 your parents,

00:59:08.900 you need to

00:59:09.700 shut the fuck

00:59:10.400 up because

00:59:11.780 you're ruining

00:59:12.680 everything.

00:59:13.660 Because you're

00:59:14.640 operating under

00:59:15.280 the illusion

00:59:15.820 that you got

00:59:17.000 good outcomes

00:59:17.740 because you're

00:59:18.380 good parenting.

00:59:19.000 you're so

00:59:20.260 wrong.

00:59:21.440 You're so

00:59:21.920 wrong.

00:59:22.820 Your good

00:59:23.160 parenting helped

00:59:23.920 and I applaud

00:59:24.980 you for it.

00:59:25.800 And I'm very

00:59:27.460 impressed by

00:59:29.160 anybody who's

00:59:29.660 good at it

00:59:30.120 because I'm

00:59:30.420 not.

00:59:30.840 I wouldn't

00:59:31.440 say that I'm

00:59:31.880 good at it.

00:59:33.340 So I'm

00:59:35.180 very impressed

00:59:35.720 with good

00:59:36.100 parenting.

00:59:37.360 But stop

00:59:38.100 telling us

00:59:39.080 that's what

00:59:39.980 worked.

00:59:40.920 That's not

00:59:41.440 what worked.

00:59:42.500 What worked

00:59:43.220 is you got

00:59:43.760 lucky.

00:59:45.340 You got

00:59:45.720 lucky.

00:59:46.940 You had two

00:59:47.460 kids and they

00:59:47.940 both worked

00:59:48.440 down.

00:59:49.020 What would

00:59:49.380 you have

00:59:49.640 said if

00:59:50.140 you treated

00:59:50.560 two kids

00:59:51.080 exactly the

00:59:51.760 same and

00:59:52.140 one of them

00:59:52.460 became a

00:59:52.920 criminal and

00:59:53.560 a drug addict

00:59:54.240 and the

00:59:54.520 other one

00:59:54.840 did not?

00:59:55.900 What would

00:59:56.220 you say

00:59:56.500 then,

00:59:56.800 good parents?

00:59:57.820 Would you

00:59:58.180 say then,

00:59:59.160 you only

00:59:59.620 parented one

01:00:00.300 of them

01:00:00.540 well?

01:00:01.720 Is that

01:00:02.020 what you'd

01:00:02.300 say?

01:00:03.460 No.

01:00:05.040 You would

01:00:05.600 change your

01:00:06.080 opinion to

01:00:06.600 my opinion

01:00:07.200 if you had

01:00:07.920 that experience.

01:00:09.360 Your opinion

01:00:09.920 would immediately

01:00:10.700 change to,

01:00:11.800 oh shit,

01:00:12.320 it doesn't

01:00:12.680 matter what I

01:00:13.200 do.

01:00:14.420 Would it?

01:00:15.360 Just think

01:00:15.760 about it.

01:00:16.740 You're a

01:00:17.100 great parent,

01:00:18.020 one of your

01:00:18.680 kids turns

01:00:19.140 out great,

01:00:19.700 the other

01:00:19.940 one doesn't,

01:00:20.480 and you're

01:00:20.720 treating them

01:00:21.120 the same,

01:00:21.800 as far as

01:00:22.160 you can tell.

01:00:23.420 You would

01:00:23.960 immediately

01:00:24.480 change your

01:00:25.260 opinion about

01:00:26.020 the importance

01:00:26.580 of parenting

01:00:27.420 because you

01:00:28.460 would see it

01:00:28.880 with your

01:00:29.140 own eyes.

01:00:29.760 I'm doing

01:00:30.100 everything right,

01:00:30.920 but it's not

01:00:31.380 working.

01:00:32.620 So all of

01:00:33.380 you parents

01:00:34.000 who have

01:00:35.600 two good

01:00:36.300 kids, let's

01:00:36.880 say, just

01:00:37.300 an example,

01:00:38.380 and you did

01:00:39.000 good parenting

01:00:39.640 and they turned

01:00:40.740 out great,

01:00:41.520 shut the fuck

01:00:42.520 up.

01:00:42.840 You're ruining

01:00:43.280 the country.

01:00:44.300 You're the

01:00:44.740 reason we're

01:00:45.160 not looking

01:00:45.560 for other

01:00:45.940 solutions.

01:00:47.160 You are

01:00:47.780 causing an

01:00:48.640 illusion to

01:00:49.920 fall over the

01:00:50.680 eyes of other

01:00:51.400 people to make

01:00:52.480 them think that

01:00:53.600 God, all I have

01:00:54.680 to do is this

01:00:55.220 easy stuff.

01:00:56.220 All I have to

01:00:56.900 do is this

01:00:57.300 easy stuff and

01:00:57.920 I'll get good

01:00:58.460 results just like

01:00:59.560 these good

01:00:59.980 parents.

01:01:00.800 No, you good

01:01:02.180 parents, shut

01:01:03.660 the fuck up.

01:01:05.500 You're destroying

01:01:06.640 the country by

01:01:09.400 your illusion that

01:01:11.160 what you did

01:01:12.020 got you the

01:01:13.680 right.

01:01:14.760 Now, the

01:01:15.420 cognitive

01:01:15.820 dissonance is

01:01:16.560 pretty strong

01:01:17.140 over on

01:01:17.660 YouTube.

01:01:18.580 This is an

01:01:19.160 interesting

01:01:19.460 difference.

01:01:20.440 You can't see

01:01:21.240 both platforms,

01:01:22.160 but I get to

01:01:22.620 see the comments

01:01:23.260 on both.

01:01:24.840 On the

01:01:26.840 subscription

01:01:27.320 service, this

01:01:28.800 is a population

01:01:30.340 of people who

01:01:31.260 have a higher

01:01:32.400 level of

01:01:33.580 critical thinking.

01:01:35.260 And the

01:01:35.580 reason I know

01:01:36.100 that is it's

01:01:36.860 what we talk

01:01:37.400 about every

01:01:37.820 day.

01:01:38.360 They're literally

01:01:39.040 in class for

01:01:40.960 critical thinking.

01:01:42.700 And so when I

01:01:43.340 give this point,

01:01:44.200 I look at the

01:01:44.840 comments on

01:01:45.380 locals and

01:01:45.920 mostly they're

01:01:46.460 agreeing because

01:01:47.720 they've studied

01:01:49.280 critical thinking

01:01:50.180 enough to get

01:01:51.420 there.

01:01:52.240 On YouTube, I

01:01:54.360 see John just

01:01:55.120 yelling wrong

01:01:55.920 in all caps.

01:01:58.880 So John, let's

01:02:00.160 take John.

01:02:01.000 John, you're

01:02:02.420 yelling wrong

01:02:03.080 in all caps.

01:02:04.540 Give me a

01:02:05.640 one-sentence

01:02:06.400 reason.

01:02:06.800 It doesn't have

01:02:07.240 to be complete,

01:02:08.380 but just give me

01:02:09.100 like a sense of

01:02:10.180 what I got wrong.

01:02:10.760 I'm just like

01:02:11.440 what's the part

01:02:12.580 I got wrong?

01:02:13.560 John?

01:02:14.860 Because otherwise

01:02:15.720 you're just

01:02:16.240 experiencing cognitive

01:02:17.500 dissonance and

01:02:18.420 you're proving it.

01:02:19.760 Well, John got

01:02:20.280 really quiet.

01:02:22.000 I'm asking you,

01:02:23.080 you're on.

01:02:23.880 John, the floor

01:02:24.900 is yours.

01:02:25.960 I'm wrong about

01:02:26.880 all of it.

01:02:28.020 Just tell me

01:02:28.560 what part.

01:02:29.160 One sentence.

01:02:30.060 It's easy.

01:02:31.080 Just go ahead.

01:02:32.080 Oh, John went

01:02:32.740 away.

01:02:34.040 John disappeared.

01:02:35.360 When John had

01:02:36.320 to actually explain

01:02:37.360 his opinion in

01:02:38.340 public, he

01:02:39.640 disappeared.

01:02:40.760 John, John,

01:02:43.860 John.

01:02:45.280 So somebody's

01:02:46.180 saying that it's

01:02:46.780 90% about genes

01:02:48.240 is dead wrong.

01:02:49.260 Well, let me make

01:02:50.120 the argument about

01:02:50.820 90% about genes.

01:02:54.520 That's the reason

01:02:55.460 that two kids

01:02:56.620 turn out differently,

01:02:57.880 different genes.

01:02:59.500 Right?

01:03:00.140 Now, if you have

01:03:01.140 an answer to how

01:03:02.080 that can happen,

01:03:03.440 same parenting,

01:03:04.480 two different outcomes,

01:03:05.200 if you have an

01:03:06.120 answer to that,

01:03:08.220 John just

01:03:09.960 answered twice.

01:03:12.200 All right.

01:03:12.660 Let's see.

01:03:15.400 John, John

01:03:16.260 answered twice.

01:03:17.740 Let's see where he is.

01:03:18.520 There's so many

01:03:18.840 comments here.

01:03:19.380 I have to go back.

01:03:21.380 You are blaming

01:03:22.040 conservatives.

01:03:22.840 That's not a reason,

01:03:23.880 John.

01:03:24.220 Okay, John,

01:03:27.120 that's not a reason.

01:03:28.560 I'm blaming

01:03:29.160 conservatives.

01:03:29.780 That's not a reason

01:03:30.880 or an argument.

01:03:33.380 Okay.

01:03:34.160 John is just

01:03:35.100 in cognitive

01:03:35.580 distance.

01:03:36.500 So he believes

01:03:37.400 he's giving me

01:03:38.000 answers, but he's

01:03:38.780 just, like,

01:03:40.200 saying words.

01:03:44.420 Have you noticed

01:03:45.180 that presidents

01:03:45.740 always take credit

01:03:46.720 for what happens

01:03:47.620 that's good,

01:03:48.840 and they always

01:03:49.420 blame the other guy

01:03:50.220 for what happened

01:03:51.000 bad?

01:03:51.340 You know none

01:03:52.460 of that's real,

01:03:53.080 right?

01:03:54.060 You know that

01:03:55.060 Biden isn't

01:03:56.720 exactly responsible

01:03:58.480 for all of the

01:03:59.680 inflation.

01:04:00.400 He didn't help.

01:04:02.400 But, you know,

01:04:03.020 we accept that

01:04:04.060 the people in charge

01:04:05.220 are causing

01:04:05.780 all the outcomes.

01:04:06.940 That's not real.

01:04:07.960 You know that's

01:04:08.480 not real.

01:04:12.440 Well, I told you

01:04:13.320 this would be

01:04:13.780 an uncomfortable

01:04:14.320 show.

01:04:15.320 Now, let me

01:04:15.940 ask this question.

01:04:17.900 Is there anybody

01:04:18.800 here who

01:04:19.680 watched this

01:04:20.800 who had a

01:04:21.620 traditional

01:04:22.140 conservative view

01:04:23.260 when I started

01:04:24.120 and at this

01:04:25.800 point is asking

01:04:26.620 themselves,

01:04:27.460 holy shit,

01:04:28.600 did I get

01:04:29.020 everything wrong

01:04:29.800 and the parenting

01:04:30.540 doesn't make

01:04:31.120 that much difference?

01:04:32.460 Is anybody

01:04:32.860 asking themselves

01:04:33.620 that question?

01:04:39.280 It's a stream

01:04:40.440 of no's.

01:04:41.680 Nope, nope,

01:04:42.240 nope.

01:04:42.600 A few yeses.

01:04:44.140 That's about

01:04:44.780 what I'd expect.

01:04:48.120 A little bit.

01:04:49.600 All right.

01:04:50.800 This is like

01:04:51.680 day one

01:04:52.180 of convincing

01:04:52.800 people that

01:04:53.480 nuclear power

01:04:54.240 is a good

01:04:54.680 idea.

01:04:55.920 A day one,

01:04:56.580 you don't get

01:04:57.240 much impact.

01:04:58.880 On YouTube,

01:04:59.920 it all knows.

01:05:01.500 Best show ever.

01:05:07.220 Interesting.

01:05:07.900 If one of my

01:05:08.480 kids turns out

01:05:09.280 to be a mass

01:05:09.860 shooter or a

01:05:10.320 drug addict,

01:05:10.860 I will take

01:05:11.340 responsibility for it

01:05:12.900 as their parents.

01:05:14.180 But responsibility

01:05:14.820 is not even

01:05:15.940 the topic,

01:05:16.360 is it?

01:05:16.700 See,

01:05:18.520 that's another

01:05:19.280 thinking,

01:05:21.260 like a logic

01:05:21.960 hiccup.

01:05:23.340 Nobody was

01:05:23.960 talking about

01:05:24.440 responsibility.

01:05:26.520 It wasn't

01:05:26.980 even the topic.

01:05:30.620 Can bad

01:05:31.520 parenting destroy

01:05:32.400 a kid?

01:05:32.800 Of course.

01:05:34.620 Of course.

01:05:35.400 Here's what I

01:05:36.080 think.

01:05:36.620 There are plenty

01:05:37.140 of people who

01:05:37.800 made it through

01:05:38.660 bad situations.

01:05:39.620 But I think

01:05:41.260 it's the kid.

01:05:42.780 It's the kid.

01:05:43.520 And let me

01:05:52.600 ask you this.

01:05:53.140 How many of

01:05:53.700 you have

01:05:54.260 children that

01:05:56.440 turned out

01:05:56.880 completely different

01:05:57.760 but were

01:05:58.180 parented the

01:05:58.780 same?

01:05:59.180 Let me ask you

01:05:59.720 that question.

01:06:00.300 Because that's

01:06:00.620 the key

01:06:00.860 question.

01:06:01.900 In the

01:06:02.460 comments,

01:06:02.820 how many of

01:06:03.540 you have

01:06:03.800 children where

01:06:04.880 you parent

01:06:05.340 them the

01:06:05.760 same and

01:06:06.300 they turned

01:06:06.740 out differently?

01:06:08.580 Yes, yes,

01:06:09.560 yes, yes.

01:06:10.640 How is that

01:06:11.580 not the end

01:06:12.200 of the

01:06:12.420 conversation?

01:06:14.120 Seriously.

01:06:15.840 Because when

01:06:16.860 I asked you

01:06:17.340 if I'd

01:06:17.780 convinced anybody,

01:06:19.380 I got mostly

01:06:20.160 no's.

01:06:21.160 But when I

01:06:21.680 asked you,

01:06:22.160 have you

01:06:22.360 raised parents

01:06:22.980 and learned

01:06:23.420 for yourself

01:06:24.020 with your

01:06:24.440 own eyes

01:06:24.980 that the

01:06:25.920 same treatment

01:06:26.460 gets you

01:06:26.840 different

01:06:27.140 outcomes,

01:06:28.440 it's mostly

01:06:29.520 yes's.

01:06:30.580 How do you

01:06:30.940 explain that?

01:06:32.000 If you know

01:06:32.900 that parenting

01:06:33.520 doesn't get you

01:06:34.500 the same

01:06:34.980 outcome,

01:06:36.400 how do you

01:06:37.540 think that

01:06:37.900 parenting gets

01:06:38.580 you the same

01:06:39.080 outcome?

01:06:40.000 Because you

01:06:40.560 know it

01:06:40.860 doesn't.

01:06:41.860 How can you

01:06:42.620 say two

01:06:43.000 things that

01:06:43.400 you know

01:06:43.680 are to

01:06:44.020 be opposite

01:06:44.520 and many

01:06:45.420 people I

01:06:45.840 think said

01:06:46.180 them in

01:06:46.420 the last

01:06:46.700 five minutes?

01:06:51.740 You'll

01:06:52.180 always raise

01:06:52.760 your second

01:06:53.260 child

01:06:53.580 differently?

01:06:54.220 Hmm, not

01:06:55.320 different in

01:06:55.960 the ways that

01:06:56.540 matter.

01:06:57.420 I see what

01:06:58.000 you're saying.

01:06:58.860 Somebody's

01:06:59.300 saying that

01:06:59.600 you raised

01:07:00.060 the second

01:07:00.520 child differently

01:07:01.220 than the first

01:07:01.800 and I think

01:07:02.240 that's a

01:07:02.940 thing and I

01:07:04.060 can see that

01:07:04.520 that would

01:07:04.780 have some

01:07:05.120 small differences

01:07:05.880 but I don't

01:07:06.780 think it makes

01:07:07.200 one of them

01:07:07.600 a drug

01:07:07.940 addict.

01:07:09.220 That seems

01:07:10.180 like a bridge

01:07:11.320 too far.

01:07:18.880 Somebody says

01:07:19.700 we all got

01:07:20.160 parented the

01:07:20.820 same, that's

01:07:21.240 why we're all

01:07:21.640 drug addicts.

01:07:22.840 No, you're

01:07:23.360 mostly likely

01:07:24.120 drug addicts

01:07:24.800 because your

01:07:25.220 parents had

01:07:25.800 those genes.

01:07:27.040 If you know

01:07:27.700 somebody whose

01:07:28.260 parents both

01:07:29.480 have the

01:07:30.000 alcoholic gene,

01:07:31.160 do you know

01:07:32.720 anybody like that?

01:07:33.420 Both parents

01:07:34.300 and both of

01:07:35.520 their family

01:07:35.960 members, they're

01:07:37.080 all alcoholics.

01:07:38.900 Are you going

01:07:39.320 to make that

01:07:39.700 go away with

01:07:40.200 good parenting?

01:07:42.920 No.

01:07:44.280 Now, unfortunately,

01:07:45.720 if they got

01:07:46.460 the gene and

01:07:48.540 they have access

01:07:49.100 to alcohol, it's

01:07:50.640 going to go in

01:07:51.040 that direction.

01:07:53.020 Right.

01:07:53.680 Alcoholism is

01:07:54.340 about genetics.

01:07:56.360 You truly don't

01:07:57.040 understand our

01:07:57.700 framing, says

01:07:58.420 Greg.

01:08:01.720 Greg, I don't

01:08:02.520 think everybody's

01:08:03.200 framing it the

01:08:03.700 same, but say

01:08:04.720 more about that.

01:08:06.220 So that's the

01:08:06.960 kind of comment

01:08:08.820 that I consider

01:08:09.740 additive.

01:08:10.380 It's incomplete,

01:08:12.120 but it's

01:08:12.660 additive.

01:08:13.520 So somebody's

01:08:14.780 saying, I don't

01:08:15.280 understand the

01:08:16.620 conservative

01:08:17.100 framing.

01:08:18.480 So that's a

01:08:18.960 good start.

01:08:25.700 Where are you

01:08:26.420 going with that?

01:08:30.620 Different

01:08:31.020 friends, sets,

01:08:31.820 and experiences.

01:08:32.700 Right.

01:08:32.820 Which would

01:08:33.380 also argue that

01:08:34.180 it's not the

01:08:34.720 parenting.

01:08:36.100 So if, let's

01:08:37.120 say, your kids

01:08:37.860 also have

01:08:38.420 different friends

01:08:39.120 and the friends

01:08:39.780 are a big

01:08:40.440 influence, which

01:08:41.140 of course they

01:08:41.620 are, that would

01:08:42.100 be one reason

01:08:42.620 for a different

01:08:43.100 outcome.

01:08:43.960 But again, the

01:08:44.560 point is it

01:08:45.100 wasn't the

01:08:45.520 parents.

01:08:46.560 That's my

01:08:47.020 point.

01:08:47.380 It wasn't the

01:08:47.840 parents.

01:08:49.840 All right.

01:08:50.200 I guess that,

01:08:51.180 I don't, oh, you're

01:08:53.000 framing this as a

01:08:53.800 conservative problem.

01:08:55.680 Oh, okay, let me

01:08:56.440 address that.

01:08:56.900 So the issue is

01:08:58.700 that I'm framing

01:08:59.280 it as a

01:08:59.800 conservative

01:09:00.200 problem.

01:09:04.060 Here's the

01:09:05.660 slight nuance

01:09:06.640 that I think

01:09:07.260 can get you on

01:09:07.940 my side, John.

01:09:09.920 I'm not saying

01:09:10.940 that only

01:09:11.580 conservatives have

01:09:13.020 this blind spot.

01:09:14.020 I'm saying

01:09:15.820 that the

01:09:16.420 conservatives

01:09:17.240 focusing on

01:09:18.480 this blinds

01:09:20.040 us to the

01:09:20.680 possibility that

01:09:21.620 there might be

01:09:22.040 some way to

01:09:22.600 solve it that

01:09:23.260 we haven't

01:09:23.560 thought about.

01:09:24.580 In other

01:09:24.900 words, it

01:09:25.200 makes us focus

01:09:26.360 on something

01:09:27.520 that looks like

01:09:28.200 a solution

01:09:28.780 when in fact

01:09:30.200 it's not.

01:09:31.160 Now the part

01:09:31.720 that's unique

01:09:32.460 to conservatives

01:09:33.160 is that they

01:09:34.040 talk about it.

01:09:35.840 So what is

01:09:36.720 not unique to

01:09:37.540 conservatives is

01:09:38.400 that they're in

01:09:38.820 this situation.

01:09:40.820 Everybody could

01:09:41.560 be in this

01:09:41.940 situation.

01:09:43.340 What's different

01:09:43.900 is that the

01:09:44.640 conservatives,

01:09:45.600 and I think

01:09:45.900 you'd agree

01:09:46.220 with this,

01:09:46.780 as a political

01:09:47.860 point is one

01:09:49.740 of their main

01:09:50.120 points.

01:09:51.240 But the left

01:09:52.320 does not make

01:09:53.040 it a main

01:09:53.460 point to have

01:09:54.060 two parents.

01:09:56.060 Is that okay?

01:09:57.460 Does that fix

01:09:58.180 the framing?

01:09:59.340 The framing is

01:09:59.960 just who's

01:10:00.320 focusing on it.

01:10:01.400 I think you'd

01:10:02.200 agree on that.

01:10:06.160 What are the

01:10:06.840 other solutions?

01:10:10.800 I don't know.

01:10:12.340 But I'll tell

01:10:12.860 you the process

01:10:13.820 for finding

01:10:14.380 a better

01:10:14.720 solution.

01:10:15.820 The process

01:10:16.480 first would be

01:10:17.200 to understand

01:10:18.020 the limits

01:10:19.320 of what

01:10:19.880 parenting can

01:10:20.720 do compared

01:10:21.400 to your genes

01:10:22.680 and their

01:10:23.140 other outside

01:10:23.860 experience.

01:10:24.900 We should

01:10:25.320 understand what

01:10:26.120 the limits

01:10:26.540 of that are.

01:10:26.980 That's very

01:10:27.280 big.

01:10:27.640 So education

01:10:28.240 on that

01:10:28.820 point.

01:10:29.980 Secondly,

01:10:30.860 A-B test.

01:10:32.220 This is my

01:10:32.660 answer for

01:10:33.040 everything.

01:10:34.060 And this is

01:10:34.560 the perfect

01:10:34.980 situation.

01:10:36.600 And one of the

01:10:37.220 things I would

01:10:37.660 test would be

01:10:38.580 group parenting.

01:10:40.980 Group parenting.

01:10:42.060 So that's

01:10:43.280 something that

01:10:43.780 accidentally

01:10:44.400 happened in

01:10:45.160 my life in

01:10:45.920 my first

01:10:46.380 marriage.

01:10:47.560 Just by

01:10:48.060 complete

01:10:48.700 coincidence,

01:10:50.420 the two

01:10:50.860 stepkids had

01:10:52.580 friends who

01:10:53.840 there were two

01:10:54.500 in the family

01:10:55.420 that were the

01:10:55.940 same ages and

01:10:56.620 same genders.

01:10:58.040 And so there

01:10:58.480 were, I think,

01:10:59.100 four or so

01:11:00.160 families that

01:11:01.760 had kids that

01:11:02.700 were the same

01:11:03.060 age, best

01:11:03.660 friends, same

01:11:04.700 genders, and

01:11:05.780 so you could

01:11:07.020 all take turns

01:11:07.680 being parents.

01:11:09.320 So one day

01:11:10.080 they'd all be

01:11:10.600 at my house

01:11:11.220 and I was

01:11:11.980 the parent.

01:11:13.160 Next day they'd

01:11:13.920 all be at

01:11:14.520 Quinn's house

01:11:16.040 and he's the

01:11:16.660 parent.

01:11:17.760 And so the

01:11:18.740 kids would get

01:11:19.440 complete role

01:11:20.900 models from a

01:11:22.180 variety of

01:11:22.680 people.

01:11:23.420 And I would

01:11:23.940 actually ask my

01:11:26.120 own stepkids,

01:11:28.040 like, who do

01:11:28.460 they see as

01:11:29.020 really strong

01:11:30.660 parents?

01:11:31.460 And they would

01:11:31.900 name somebody.

01:11:32.980 They'd say,

01:11:33.340 oh yeah, they'd

01:11:34.740 usually say my

01:11:35.600 friend Quinn,

01:11:36.120 actually, if

01:11:37.620 you listen to

01:11:38.060 this Quinn, by

01:11:38.840 the way, that's

01:11:39.220 the first time

01:11:39.680 you heard that,

01:11:41.660 the kids would

01:11:42.440 actually say,

01:11:42.960 oh yeah, Quinn

01:11:44.200 is great, like

01:11:45.300 best dad.

01:11:47.400 But I don't

01:11:47.960 think that he

01:11:48.440 would have made

01:11:48.780 a difference

01:11:49.200 with my

01:11:50.300 stepkid.

01:11:52.120 And I do

01:11:52.760 think he's a

01:11:53.300 great dad.

01:11:53.900 I think he

01:11:54.240 does as well

01:11:55.640 as it can be

01:11:56.160 done, at least

01:11:57.300 as far as I

01:11:57.820 can observe.

01:12:00.600 All right.

01:12:03.020 I feel like I

01:12:04.140 got to the

01:12:06.020 end of that

01:12:06.460 point.

01:12:08.200 Now, let me

01:12:10.200 ask you this

01:12:10.660 question.

01:12:11.760 Do you think

01:12:12.500 that I've made

01:12:13.600 a case that

01:12:14.460 there's an

01:12:15.140 illusion there

01:12:15.940 about genes

01:12:16.680 versus parental

01:12:17.700 influence, without

01:12:19.280 degrading the

01:12:20.300 fact that the

01:12:20.860 parental influence

01:12:21.600 is very

01:12:22.000 important?

01:12:22.880 Very important.

01:12:23.960 I'm totally

01:12:24.540 with you on

01:12:25.060 that.

01:12:25.820 It just isn't

01:12:26.620 the big thing.

01:12:29.120 All right.

01:12:29.660 So, if I've

01:12:31.500 made that point,

01:12:33.000 then maybe that

01:12:33.700 could free you up

01:12:34.460 to at least

01:12:34.860 consider we

01:12:35.640 should try

01:12:36.080 some other

01:12:36.500 things.

01:12:37.800 And I think

01:12:38.180 the other

01:12:38.620 things are

01:12:39.180 going to have

01:12:39.500 to do more

01:12:40.100 with bringing

01:12:40.720 more people

01:12:41.320 into it.

01:12:42.540 It could be

01:12:43.300 something about

01:12:43.900 how to fix

01:12:44.420 schools.

01:12:46.220 Because it's

01:12:47.100 my observation

01:12:48.320 that schools

01:12:49.060 socialize your

01:12:50.140 kid more than

01:12:50.960 parents.

01:12:53.300 It'd be hard

01:12:54.000 to measure that.

01:12:54.740 I guess it

01:12:55.020 depends what

01:12:55.480 age you're

01:12:55.980 talking about,

01:12:56.560 et cetera.

01:12:57.100 At the

01:12:57.600 youngest age,

01:12:58.240 it's the

01:12:58.460 parents only.

01:12:59.820 At some point,

01:13:00.640 it's the school

01:13:01.320 almost only

01:13:02.240 by the time

01:13:03.340 they're teenagers.

01:13:04.640 So, if you

01:13:05.380 were to fix

01:13:05.780 the school

01:13:06.220 system,

01:13:07.600 so let's

01:13:08.220 say it

01:13:08.560 could plug

01:13:09.680 in some

01:13:10.160 of the

01:13:10.380 blocks of

01:13:11.080 whatever

01:13:12.280 resources are

01:13:13.200 needed or

01:13:13.700 education,

01:13:14.340 that would

01:13:14.560 help.

01:13:15.280 So, there

01:13:15.620 are lots

01:13:15.860 of things

01:13:16.140 you could

01:13:16.400 try, but

01:13:17.740 you're not

01:13:18.080 going to

01:13:18.280 know if

01:13:18.560 they work

01:13:19.000 until you

01:13:19.400 try them.

01:13:20.060 So, I

01:13:20.340 say, try

01:13:20.880 a bunch

01:13:21.160 of stuff,

01:13:23.020 record your

01:13:23.860 observations,

01:13:24.700 see what

01:13:24.960 works.

01:13:26.420 Don't look

01:13:27.960 to me to

01:13:28.380 have answers.

01:13:29.400 I can

01:13:29.700 only tell

01:13:30.060 you processes

01:13:30.760 for finding

01:13:31.360 answers, which

01:13:32.120 is good.

01:13:33.780 Yeah, I

01:13:34.160 think the

01:13:34.900 whole it

01:13:35.260 takes the

01:13:35.620 village thing

01:13:36.120 was right

01:13:36.520 on point.

01:13:37.700 And I

01:13:37.920 think that

01:13:38.400 we just, I

01:13:39.400 mean, it

01:13:39.580 wasn't really

01:13:39.960 implemented in

01:13:40.720 any useful

01:13:41.240 way.

01:13:42.260 Is that a

01:13:42.760 nanny state?

01:13:43.400 I would say

01:13:43.740 the opposite.

01:13:45.040 Opposite.

01:13:45.820 It would be

01:13:46.200 more like

01:13:46.780 individuals getting

01:13:48.400 together for

01:13:49.100 mutual benefit.

01:13:51.220 And it

01:13:52.000 does seem

01:13:52.440 to me that

01:13:52.980 families getting

01:13:55.040 together for

01:13:55.600 mutual benefit is

01:13:56.540 exactly what I

01:13:57.460 did.

01:13:57.680 So like the

01:13:58.780 experience I

01:13:59.480 described was

01:14:00.340 exactly that.

01:14:01.140 A bunch of

01:14:01.500 families coordinated

01:14:03.220 their activities

01:14:04.080 for the benefit

01:14:05.100 of all involved.

01:14:06.580 And I

01:14:06.860 thought it was

01:14:07.200 awesome.

01:14:08.140 It was a

01:14:08.480 great way to

01:14:08.980 live.

01:14:09.940 And I don't

01:14:10.440 know, I'm

01:14:11.860 pretty sure you

01:14:12.480 can reproduce

01:14:12.960 it.

01:14:14.120 All you have

01:14:14.540 to do is do

01:14:15.120 a little

01:14:15.360 matchmaking to

01:14:16.580 create what

01:14:17.700 happened to

01:14:18.120 me accidentally.

01:14:21.840 That can

01:14:22.400 only work

01:14:22.820 organically?

01:14:24.420 Yeah, but

01:14:25.300 somebody would

01:14:26.120 have said that

01:14:26.560 about online

01:14:27.240 dating at

01:14:27.820 one point

01:14:28.240 too.

01:14:29.620 You know,

01:14:29.920 you imagine

01:14:30.600 the online

01:14:31.220 dating, let's

01:14:31.900 say the first

01:14:32.420 day anybody

01:14:32.940 invented it,

01:14:34.060 people would

01:14:34.660 say, that's

01:14:35.140 not going to

01:14:35.540 work.

01:14:36.260 I need to

01:14:36.760 meet people

01:14:37.240 in person

01:14:37.700 in the

01:14:37.920 organic way.

01:14:38.960 But online

01:14:39.580 dating does

01:14:40.100 work.

01:14:40.720 People get

01:14:41.180 married and

01:14:41.640 they like it.

01:14:42.560 So you

01:14:42.980 could certainly

01:14:43.460 match families

01:14:45.360 with some

01:14:46.400 kind of an

01:14:46.840 online app.

01:14:47.600 Scott equals

01:14:54.360 Hillary Clinton.

01:14:56.640 In that

01:14:57.280 one way, in

01:14:58.580 that one way

01:14:59.120 that I think

01:14:59.620 that bringing

01:15:00.360 in outside

01:15:00.920 resources to

01:15:02.060 help a

01:15:02.400 family that

01:15:02.860 doesn't have

01:15:03.300 all the

01:15:03.540 resources they

01:15:04.160 need, actually

01:15:05.980 how is that

01:15:07.040 not conservative?

01:15:09.340 Somebody just

01:15:09.860 blamed me of

01:15:10.340 being Hillary

01:15:10.760 Clinton and

01:15:11.440 it just

01:15:11.860 occurred to

01:15:12.400 me that I'm

01:15:13.500 expressing the

01:15:14.560 most conservative

01:15:15.420 thing anybody

01:15:16.080 could ever

01:15:16.480 say.

01:15:18.280 Like deal

01:15:20.820 with your

01:15:21.120 neighbors and

01:15:21.720 be good to

01:15:22.400 each other.

01:15:23.360 Try to help

01:15:23.820 out your

01:15:24.140 neighbor.

01:15:24.820 Your neighbor

01:15:25.160 tries to

01:15:25.540 help out

01:15:25.840 you.

01:15:26.820 Is that

01:15:27.120 communist?

01:15:29.400 If your

01:15:30.000 friends help

01:15:30.540 you put up

01:15:31.120 a barn, are

01:15:32.360 you communists?

01:15:33.720 Because you're

01:15:34.220 going to help

01:15:34.480 them, right?

01:15:35.720 Like they help

01:15:36.300 you put up

01:15:36.700 your barn, maybe

01:15:37.640 you help them

01:15:38.180 when they need

01:15:38.620 to put up a

01:15:39.100 barn.

01:15:39.740 Is that

01:15:40.060 communist or

01:15:40.900 is that

01:15:41.140 Christian?

01:15:42.180 That feels

01:15:42.620 conservative to

01:15:43.400 me.

01:15:43.580 So just

01:15:45.880 because Hillary

01:15:46.540 Clinton said

01:15:47.520 you need a

01:15:48.040 village, that

01:15:48.500 doesn't make

01:15:48.920 it wrong.

01:15:50.380 Doesn't make

01:15:51.000 it wrong.

01:15:54.780 All right.

01:16:00.980 It's

01:16:01.460 distributed

01:16:01.980 versus

01:16:02.460 centralized.

01:16:03.700 Yeah, I

01:16:04.000 guess that

01:16:04.280 makes a

01:16:04.580 difference.

01:16:06.060 All right.

01:16:07.740 Did you

01:16:08.380 check out the

01:16:08.940 abortion jokes

01:16:09.820 on Drudge

01:16:10.540 Report?

01:16:11.300 Abortion

01:16:11.780 jokes?

01:16:13.580 I wish I

01:16:14.100 had not

01:16:14.440 read that

01:16:14.860 comment.

01:16:17.580 You know,

01:16:18.220 as a

01:16:19.480 professional

01:16:19.960 humorist, I

01:16:20.660 don't have

01:16:20.980 too many

01:16:21.620 guardrails on

01:16:23.380 what I think

01:16:24.020 is funny.

01:16:25.440 If you do

01:16:25.980 it professionally,

01:16:27.260 you get tired

01:16:28.100 of G-rated

01:16:29.580 material and

01:16:30.200 you want

01:16:30.480 something edgy.

01:16:31.920 And the

01:16:32.980 edgier the

01:16:33.600 better.

01:16:34.540 But I don't

01:16:35.200 think I

01:16:36.620 could ever

01:16:37.000 laugh at an

01:16:37.780 abortion joke.

01:16:39.440 That's just

01:16:39.860 me.

01:16:40.500 I mean, if

01:16:40.820 you want to,

01:16:41.480 I'm not going

01:16:41.960 to complain

01:16:42.320 about it.

01:16:44.140 Somebody

01:16:44.440 says, check

01:16:44.920 it out.

01:16:45.280 Are they

01:16:45.560 actually

01:16:45.820 funny?

01:16:47.680 They're

01:16:48.140 actually

01:16:48.360 funny?

01:16:54.180 Well, maybe.

01:16:56.140 All right.

01:16:56.860 The jokes

01:16:57.340 are not

01:16:57.660 on Drudge.

01:16:58.420 They're, I

01:16:59.420 don't know.

01:17:03.060 Now I

01:17:03.640 like you

01:17:04.020 even more.

01:17:04.960 Well, thank

01:17:05.480 you.

01:17:07.180 I laugh

01:17:07.860 about Holocaust

01:17:08.460 jokes.

01:17:09.040 Somebody

01:17:09.180 says, no,

01:17:10.360 too soon.

01:17:11.180 Too soon.

01:17:11.720 John says,

01:17:16.700 in all

01:17:17.080 capital letters,

01:17:18.000 if Scott

01:17:18.460 couldn't

01:17:18.860 properly

01:17:19.360 parent, no

01:17:20.020 one can.

01:17:21.280 John, I

01:17:21.920 would like to

01:17:22.340 call you out

01:17:22.940 as exhibit A

01:17:24.040 of what's

01:17:26.420 destroying the

01:17:27.200 country.

01:17:28.260 It's you,

01:17:28.760 John.

01:17:29.640 It's the

01:17:30.260 people who

01:17:30.720 say that

01:17:31.420 good parenting,

01:17:32.540 that'll fix

01:17:34.080 everything.

01:17:35.260 You are

01:17:35.980 the problem.

01:17:36.540 evil genes

01:17:40.840 is a book.

01:17:41.600 I guess that

01:17:42.080 teaches you

01:17:42.640 that some

01:17:43.040 people are

01:17:43.460 just unfixable,

01:17:44.400 right?

01:17:46.440 What age

01:17:47.080 were your

01:17:47.460 kids?

01:17:47.940 I don't

01:17:48.400 want to

01:17:48.600 talk about

01:17:49.100 that.

01:17:53.800 Elon Musk

01:17:54.600 doesn't

01:17:55.060 pass the

01:17:55.700 Aaronos?

01:17:57.480 I don't

01:17:58.280 know.

01:17:59.180 I'm still

01:17:59.740 plus on

01:18:00.600 Elon Musk.

01:18:01.560 I haven't

01:18:01.840 seen anything

01:18:02.300 that would

01:18:02.520 change that.

01:18:05.340 Your

01:18:05.940 traditional

01:18:06.440 conservative

01:18:06.940 view is

01:18:07.440 misinformed.

01:18:09.120 Does

01:18:09.300 anybody

01:18:09.580 think that

01:18:10.200 I

01:18:10.540 misstated

01:18:11.620 conservative

01:18:12.960 opinion about

01:18:13.980 the value

01:18:15.280 of the

01:18:15.840 two-parent

01:18:17.040 home?

01:18:18.460 Did I

01:18:19.040 misstate

01:18:19.460 conservative

01:18:19.960 opinion?

01:18:21.080 Somebody

01:18:21.520 says yes

01:18:22.080 a little

01:18:22.380 bit.

01:18:22.720 What would

01:18:23.240 you add

01:18:24.880 to it

01:18:25.220 or change?

01:18:26.560 Yes,

01:18:27.020 you always

01:18:27.380 do.

01:18:28.020 What would

01:18:28.380 you add

01:18:28.740 to it

01:18:29.000 or change?

01:18:29.620 For those

01:18:30.040 of you

01:18:30.880 who say

01:18:31.080 it's

01:18:31.240 misstated.

01:18:33.380 You

01:18:33.500 may now

01:18:34.440 conflating

01:18:41.640 nuclear

01:18:42.040 no,

01:18:42.380 I'm not

01:18:42.580 conflating

01:18:43.100 them.

01:18:44.980 Too

01:18:45.220 binary?

01:18:46.000 No,

01:18:46.280 it's not

01:18:46.580 binary.

01:18:47.100 I never

01:18:47.400 presented it

01:18:48.040 as binary.

01:18:48.760 I always

01:18:49.060 presented it

01:18:49.660 as a

01:18:49.960 spectrum.

01:18:50.980 That would

01:18:51.300 be on

01:18:51.580 you,

01:18:51.860 not on

01:18:52.160 me.

01:18:56.140 The

01:18:56.660 100%

01:18:57.220 person

01:18:57.540 90.

01:18:59.980 Public

01:19:00.540 eye

01:19:00.800 conservatives

01:19:01.320 with

01:19:01.780 normies.

01:19:04.060 Biological

01:19:04.620 doubt.

01:19:05.180 Dads have

01:19:05.600 profound

01:19:06.020 influence.

01:19:07.260 Of course

01:19:07.620 they do.

01:19:08.280 I'm not

01:19:08.640 disagreeing.

01:19:13.520 You

01:19:14.080 conflate

01:19:14.520 abusive

01:19:14.980 punishment

01:19:15.500 with

01:19:18.640 conservative

01:19:19.180 ideas of

01:19:19.960 good

01:19:20.120 parenting.

01:19:20.500 No,

01:19:21.460 I didn't.

01:19:22.280 I didn't

01:19:22.660 do that.

01:19:24.240 So,

01:19:25.700 who would

01:19:26.840 do that?

01:19:27.360 Who would

01:19:27.660 do that?

01:19:28.600 Well,

01:19:28.800 just ask me,

01:19:29.480 really?

01:19:30.320 Really?

01:19:31.420 Did I say

01:19:32.880 that abusive

01:19:33.540 parenting and

01:19:34.380 parenting were

01:19:35.100 sort of the

01:19:35.960 same thing?

01:19:36.520 Of course

01:19:36.860 not.

01:19:37.940 Nobody

01:19:38.320 did that.

01:19:39.400 I'm saying

01:19:40.080 abusive

01:19:40.520 parenting

01:19:40.920 exists,

01:19:41.980 that's all,

01:19:42.720 and you

01:19:43.140 don't disagree

01:19:43.680 with it.

01:19:44.020 So,

01:19:44.740 I'm going

01:19:45.280 to conclude

01:19:45.800 that what

01:19:46.240 you think

01:19:46.660 is me

01:19:47.120 not

01:19:47.400 understanding

01:19:47.920 conservantism

01:19:48.780 is you

01:19:49.120 not

01:19:49.340 understanding

01:19:49.840 what I

01:19:50.180 said.

01:19:52.720 You did.

01:19:56.020 I

01:19:56.580 conflated

01:19:57.140 abusive

01:19:57.840 parenting

01:19:58.300 with just

01:19:58.980 good

01:19:59.260 parenting.

01:19:59.860 You

01:20:00.060 thought you

01:20:00.480 actually

01:20:00.800 saw that.

01:20:02.540 Did you?

01:20:03.580 Because I

01:20:04.020 talked about

01:20:04.560 people who

01:20:05.240 are good

01:20:05.540 parents,

01:20:06.660 and I

01:20:07.000 talked about

01:20:07.480 people who

01:20:07.960 are bad

01:20:08.320 parents.

01:20:09.240 Is that

01:20:09.640 conflating them?

01:20:10.320 Now,

01:20:13.100 the grandmother

01:20:14.160 story,

01:20:16.300 all right,

01:20:16.860 here's the

01:20:17.340 problem.

01:20:18.880 Let me give

01:20:19.500 you a general

01:20:20.460 statement for

01:20:21.380 understanding me

01:20:22.320 and everybody

01:20:23.100 else.

01:20:24.560 You must go

01:20:25.460 through life

01:20:26.060 very confused

01:20:27.100 if you think

01:20:27.660 people are

01:20:28.100 talking in

01:20:28.660 absolutes,

01:20:29.720 because you

01:20:30.080 heard it that

01:20:30.540 way.

01:20:31.000 If you heard

01:20:31.840 something as

01:20:32.400 an absolute,

01:20:33.660 that's not

01:20:34.960 on me.

01:20:36.680 Let me say

01:20:37.100 that again.

01:20:38.260 If you

01:20:38.720 thought I

01:20:39.220 said something

01:20:39.720 as an

01:20:40.100 absolute,

01:20:41.500 that's not

01:20:41.960 on me,

01:20:42.680 because I

01:20:43.040 don't speak

01:20:43.440 that way,

01:20:44.240 and never

01:20:44.660 have and

01:20:45.060 never will.

01:20:46.200 There are

01:20:46.580 no absolutes.

01:20:47.820 So if

01:20:48.220 your complaint

01:20:48.880 is that I

01:20:50.000 said that

01:20:50.540 all parenting

01:20:52.520 is abusive,

01:20:53.720 if you

01:20:54.080 think you

01:20:54.580 heard that,

01:20:55.380 that's

01:20:55.780 completely

01:20:56.160 on you.

01:20:57.500 Nobody

01:20:57.860 would say

01:20:58.280 that.

01:20:59.860 Literally

01:21:00.340 nobody would

01:21:00.980 say that,

01:21:01.680 and I

01:21:02.080 certainly

01:21:02.360 didn't.

01:21:03.840 But I

01:21:04.560 did make

01:21:04.960 a point

01:21:05.420 that there

01:21:07.720 are some

01:21:08.020 parents who

01:21:08.480 are very

01:21:08.740 bad and

01:21:09.200 they can't

01:21:09.540 tell the

01:21:09.820 difference

01:21:10.100 between a

01:21:12.120 behavior

01:21:12.440 problem

01:21:12.940 and

01:21:13.320 something

01:21:14.060 else.

01:21:16.940 Yeah,

01:21:17.220 don't believe

01:21:17.720 your lying

01:21:18.180 ears.

01:21:21.940 You're

01:21:22.460 making,

01:21:24.100 they're making

01:21:24.800 you respond

01:21:25.280 to the lowest

01:21:25.800 common denominator.

01:21:26.940 Yeah.

01:21:30.000 You chose

01:21:30.820 a village.

01:21:31.400 Okay.

01:21:34.020 You claimed

01:21:34.920 more punishment

01:21:35.720 is the

01:21:36.240 conservative

01:21:36.740 strategy.

01:21:37.280 Nope.

01:21:38.200 Nope.

01:21:38.780 No,

01:21:39.100 that is

01:21:39.420 your

01:21:40.080 imagination.

01:21:41.680 I claimed

01:21:42.260 that there

01:21:42.640 was one

01:21:43.080 person

01:21:43.520 with that

01:21:45.660 thought.

01:21:46.600 If you

01:21:47.140 thought that

01:21:48.300 I said

01:21:48.760 every

01:21:49.080 conservative

01:21:49.640 is like

01:21:50.100 my

01:21:50.300 grandmother,

01:21:50.760 that's

01:21:50.980 completely

01:21:51.400 on you.

01:21:52.840 Completely

01:21:53.320 on you.

01:21:54.020 No,

01:21:54.240 it's not

01:21:54.540 inferred.

01:21:55.400 Here's why

01:21:55.840 it's not

01:21:56.180 inferred.

01:21:57.300 It's never

01:21:58.000 inferred.

01:21:58.900 It can't be

01:21:59.520 inferred.

01:22:00.060 It's not

01:22:00.400 inferred by me.

01:22:01.540 It's not

01:22:01.900 inferred by the

01:22:02.520 next person

01:22:03.080 you hear

01:22:03.340 talking.

01:22:04.360 Nobody

01:22:04.660 ever

01:22:05.240 infers

01:22:05.760 absolute.

01:22:07.020 If you

01:22:07.340 believe

01:22:07.680 somebody

01:22:08.080 in

01:22:08.340 right

01:22:09.500 land

01:22:09.760 bane

01:22:10.020 that

01:22:10.200 says

01:22:10.460 you

01:22:10.620 did.

01:22:11.260 No,

01:22:11.660 if you

01:22:12.040 believe

01:22:12.880 that

01:22:13.260 anybody

01:22:13.560 else

01:22:14.120 is

01:22:14.400 talking

01:22:14.720 in

01:22:14.920 absolutes,

01:22:15.820 especially

01:22:16.180 me,

01:22:17.180 you have

01:22:18.200 a problem

01:22:18.640 and you

01:22:19.020 need to

01:22:19.340 deal

01:22:19.480 with it.

01:22:20.100 It's

01:22:20.340 not my

01:22:20.780 problem.

01:22:22.520 There is

01:22:23.460 no way

01:22:24.180 that you

01:22:25.940 should

01:22:26.160 interpret

01:22:26.700 anything

01:22:27.760 like this

01:22:28.420 conversation

01:22:29.040 in

01:22:29.400 absolute

01:22:29.840 sense.

01:22:31.460 That's

01:22:31.980 all on

01:22:32.580 you.

01:22:33.100 I'm

01:22:33.340 sorry.

01:22:33.660 It's

01:22:34.060 all

01:22:34.340 on

01:22:34.560 you.

01:22:39.620 Did

01:22:40.100 your

01:22:40.260 parents

01:22:40.580 know

01:22:40.820 about

01:22:41.040 your

01:22:41.200 bad

01:22:41.620 grandmother?

01:22:43.080 Not

01:22:43.560 until

01:22:43.840 later.

01:22:46.360 When

01:22:46.840 you're

01:22:47.020 real

01:22:47.180 little,

01:22:47.660 you

01:22:47.740 know,

01:22:47.860 when

01:22:47.940 you're

01:22:48.100 five

01:22:48.340 years

01:22:48.560 old,

01:22:49.700 you

01:22:50.240 just

01:22:50.480 think

01:22:50.740 anything's

01:22:51.240 normal.

01:22:51.900 You

01:22:52.000 don't

01:22:52.140 know

01:22:52.320 what

01:22:52.460 to

01:22:52.580 do

01:22:52.680 about

01:22:52.900 it.

01:22:56.620 All

01:22:57.060 right.

01:22:57.480 I

01:22:57.840 think

01:22:58.040 I'm

01:22:58.180 being

01:22:58.360 addicted

01:22:58.700 to

01:22:58.940 your

01:22:59.100 disagreement,

01:22:59.960 so

01:23:00.060 that's

01:23:00.220 not

01:23:00.380 good.

01:23:01.840 What

01:23:02.200 was

01:23:02.380 the

01:23:02.540 purpose

01:23:02.820 of

01:23:03.000 the

01:23:03.120 grandmother

01:23:03.440 story?

01:23:04.280 The

01:23:04.800 purpose

01:23:05.080 of

01:23:05.260 the

01:23:05.360 grandmother

01:23:05.660 story,

01:23:06.780 which

01:23:07.100 apparently

01:23:07.440 got lost

01:23:08.080 on some

01:23:08.580 people,

01:23:09.400 the purpose

01:23:09.860 of the

01:23:10.180 grandmother

01:23:10.560 story is

01:23:11.560 that she

01:23:11.920 couldn't tell

01:23:12.500 the difference

01:23:13.160 between what

01:23:14.580 was my

01:23:15.100 genetic

01:23:15.560 makeup and

01:23:16.440 what was

01:23:16.820 my choice.

01:23:18.600 She

01:23:19.020 couldn't tell

01:23:19.720 between my

01:23:20.780 choice and

01:23:21.640 my genetic

01:23:22.160 makeup.

01:23:22.560 and that

01:23:23.860 is the

01:23:25.120 problem

01:23:25.420 that

01:23:25.680 conservatives

01:23:26.140 in general

01:23:26.860 have.

01:23:27.940 Not

01:23:28.180 everyone

01:23:28.900 will

01:23:32.260 thank you

01:23:32.760 Wilma.

01:23:34.820 You

01:23:35.340 claimed your

01:23:35.880 grandmother

01:23:36.240 adopted a

01:23:37.100 conservative

01:23:37.560 strategy.

01:23:38.520 That is a

01:23:39.080 conservative

01:23:39.440 strategy.

01:23:41.460 Did you

01:23:42.140 think it

01:23:42.480 was

01:23:42.680 universal?

01:23:45.020 Did you

01:23:45.680 think it

01:23:45.960 was

01:23:46.080 absolute?

01:23:48.860 Because

01:23:49.380 that's on

01:23:49.860 you.

01:23:50.060 it is

01:23:51.680 absolutely

01:23:52.360 a

01:23:52.680 conservative

01:23:53.100 strategy

01:23:53.660 that you

01:23:55.100 meet bad

01:23:55.760 behavior with

01:23:56.540 punishment.

01:23:57.660 Is that

01:23:58.080 wrong?

01:23:59.380 It's not a

01:24:00.100 conservative

01:24:00.480 strategy to

01:24:01.440 punish bad

01:24:02.060 behavior?

01:24:03.200 Did that

01:24:04.040 change?

01:24:06.100 Somebody

01:24:06.660 said no

01:24:07.080 it isn't.

01:24:07.900 Come on.

01:24:09.680 Are you

01:24:10.120 just arguing

01:24:10.680 just to

01:24:11.060 argue?

01:24:12.720 Seriously,

01:24:13.560 it is not

01:24:14.080 a conservative

01:24:14.740 strategy to

01:24:16.600 have penalties

01:24:19.020 for wrongdoing.

01:24:20.060 okay, you're

01:24:21.880 not being

01:24:22.200 serious now.

01:24:23.780 You're not

01:24:24.260 being serious.

01:24:25.380 Of course

01:24:25.920 it is.

01:24:26.800 Of course

01:24:27.280 it is.

01:24:28.640 Jesus

01:24:29.040 Christ.

01:24:31.700 An

01:24:31.900 example?

01:24:32.540 An

01:24:32.700 example is

01:24:33.280 raising

01:24:33.580 children.

01:24:35.040 It is a

01:24:35.560 conservative

01:24:36.040 belief that

01:24:37.120 if they do

01:24:37.540 bad things,

01:24:38.200 you give

01:24:38.520 them

01:24:38.680 consequences.

01:24:39.880 You act

01:24:40.380 like that's

01:24:41.300 not a

01:24:41.720 thing anymore

01:24:42.300 or something.

01:24:43.020 Oh my

01:24:43.320 God.

01:24:44.260 I think

01:24:44.860 we're just

01:24:45.220 in

01:24:45.500 cognitive

01:24:45.860 dissonance

01:24:46.360 at this

01:24:46.700 point.

01:24:46.980 We can't

01:24:47.280 fix this.

01:24:47.720 do

01:24:52.360 Democrats

01:24:53.380 punish bad

01:24:54.160 behavior?

01:24:55.780 And the

01:24:56.080 answer is

01:24:56.740 no.

01:25:00.120 Now,

01:25:00.800 when I

01:25:01.120 said that,

01:25:01.640 did you

01:25:01.920 say that's

01:25:02.460 an absolute?

01:25:03.340 He's saying

01:25:03.760 that there's

01:25:04.320 no,

01:25:04.660 there's no

01:25:05.120 cause.

01:25:05.540 No,

01:25:06.400 it's never

01:25:06.940 a fucking

01:25:07.360 absolute.

01:25:08.520 It's never

01:25:09.000 an absolute.

01:25:10.580 We're talking

01:25:11.420 in general.

01:25:12.780 Every conversation

01:25:13.700 you have about

01:25:14.540 conservatives

01:25:15.140 versus liberals

01:25:16.860 is always

01:25:17.840 in fucking

01:25:18.600 general.

01:25:19.920 Right?

01:25:20.360 Yeah,

01:25:20.780 you know

01:25:21.180 a guy.

01:25:22.000 You know

01:25:22.380 a guy

01:25:22.760 who's not

01:25:23.160 like that.

01:25:23.880 It doesn't.

01:25:24.480 That's not

01:25:24.840 the,

01:25:25.480 you're not

01:25:25.980 helping.

01:25:27.160 That's not

01:25:27.800 helping.

01:25:29.020 That you

01:25:29.320 know a guy

01:25:29.940 who's an

01:25:30.280 exception.

01:25:33.880 Let me

01:25:34.460 ask you

01:25:34.760 this.

01:25:35.500 Who's in

01:25:36.120 favor of

01:25:36.800 letting people

01:25:37.380 out of

01:25:37.700 jail?

01:25:39.460 More

01:25:39.940 Democrats

01:25:40.460 than

01:25:40.880 Republicans,

01:25:42.580 right?

01:25:43.000 It's a

01:25:43.360 generality.

01:25:43.920 Who's in

01:25:45.460 favor of

01:25:45.920 letting kids

01:25:46.480 just make

01:25:47.140 their own

01:25:47.460 decisions

01:25:47.880 and be

01:25:48.580 free-range

01:25:49.240 chickens?

01:25:50.560 Is it

01:25:50.980 in general

01:25:51.740 more the

01:25:52.280 left or

01:25:53.100 in general

01:25:53.760 more the

01:25:54.160 right?

01:25:54.820 It's in

01:25:55.340 general

01:25:55.860 the left.

01:25:57.040 If you

01:25:57.760 can't deal

01:25:58.360 with

01:25:58.780 generalities

01:25:59.720 and you

01:26:00.960 insist that

01:26:01.720 I'm talking

01:26:02.180 in absolutes

01:26:03.040 so you can

01:26:03.560 find some

01:26:04.060 fucking

01:26:04.500 problem to

01:26:05.140 complain about,

01:26:06.520 do not

01:26:07.100 be part of

01:26:07.780 the solution

01:26:08.300 because you

01:26:08.820 don't have

01:26:09.240 the skills.

01:26:10.560 If you

01:26:11.020 can't

01:26:11.320 understand

01:26:11.760 that people

01:26:12.220 almost never

01:26:13.240 talk in

01:26:13.920 absolutes

01:26:14.620 and that's

01:26:16.340 what's

01:26:16.520 hanging you

01:26:16.900 up?

01:26:17.780 Well,

01:26:18.000 that's an

01:26:18.280 absolute.

01:26:19.340 His

01:26:19.560 grandmother

01:26:20.000 represents

01:26:20.940 all

01:26:21.420 conservatives.

01:26:23.900 No.

01:26:31.540 The

01:26:32.100 modest

01:26:32.400 proposal,

01:26:33.060 yeah.

01:26:34.380 All right.

01:26:35.960 So,

01:26:36.660 you had a

01:26:37.120 grandma.

01:26:37.740 That's funny.

01:26:39.620 Well,

01:26:39.940 thank you.

01:26:40.920 I'm right

01:26:41.520 about this

01:26:41.960 one.

01:26:46.280 All right.

01:26:49.680 The

01:26:50.160 strategy

01:26:50.540 wasn't

01:26:50.940 flawed.

01:26:51.480 Your

01:26:51.640 grandmother

01:26:52.080 was.

01:26:54.820 All right.

01:26:56.200 Here's

01:26:56.680 the problem.

01:26:58.020 Could my

01:26:58.660 grandmother

01:26:59.100 have been

01:26:59.700 smart enough

01:27:00.320 to know

01:27:00.920 what was

01:27:02.460 a genetic

01:27:02.960 problem

01:27:03.380 and what

01:27:03.880 was a

01:27:04.220 behavioral

01:27:04.600 problem?

01:27:05.760 Because

01:27:06.300 nobody else

01:27:06.820 knew.

01:27:07.840 Nobody else

01:27:08.380 knew.

01:27:09.200 I mean,

01:27:09.480 it looked like

01:27:09.940 a behavioral

01:27:10.300 problem.

01:27:11.020 I'll have

01:27:11.660 to admit

01:27:12.240 that.

01:27:12.720 It looked

01:27:13.040 like it.

01:27:15.300 So,

01:27:15.920 no.

01:27:16.640 That wasn't

01:27:17.140 even a

01:27:18.440 problem with

01:27:18.900 my grandmother.

01:27:20.600 Really.

01:27:23.960 All right.

01:27:24.860 That is all

01:27:25.700 I have

01:27:26.220 today,

01:27:26.660 I believe.

01:27:28.940 I've

01:27:29.420 cursed enough

01:27:30.280 and I

01:27:30.720 have made

01:27:32.180 my point.

01:27:35.880 Now,

01:27:36.380 given that

01:27:36.820 you watch

01:27:37.260 this live

01:27:37.760 stream to

01:27:38.240 be challenged,

01:27:39.820 which is

01:27:40.580 why it

01:27:40.940 doesn't have

01:27:41.320 a million

01:27:41.680 viewers,

01:27:43.260 it would be

01:27:43.960 easy to have

01:27:44.380 a million

01:27:44.700 viewers.

01:27:45.360 Do you know

01:27:45.540 how easy it

01:27:46.020 would be for

01:27:46.500 me to have

01:27:46.840 millions of

01:27:47.640 viewers?

01:27:48.600 It would be

01:27:48.840 easy.

01:27:49.180 I would just

01:27:49.480 say what

01:27:50.260 one side

01:27:50.760 believed.

01:27:51.940 I would just

01:27:52.340 keep telling

01:27:52.840 them what

01:27:53.120 they wanted

01:27:53.460 to hear.

01:27:53.960 It's easy.

01:27:55.140 I mean,

01:27:55.340 anybody can

01:27:55.860 be,

01:27:56.860 I'm not

01:27:57.220 going to

01:27:57.420 name names.

01:27:58.400 I was going

01:27:58.980 to name names

01:27:59.640 of some

01:28:00.600 of your

01:28:00.880 favorite

01:28:01.180 people who

01:28:02.460 are making

01:28:02.820 a lot of

01:28:03.240 money and

01:28:03.700 doing great

01:28:04.480 by saying

01:28:05.300 all the

01:28:05.620 obvious stuff.

01:28:06.640 I could do

01:28:07.100 that,

01:28:07.940 but it

01:28:08.840 doesn't feel

01:28:09.260 like it

01:28:09.540 adds value.

01:28:12.560 All right.

01:28:13.520 And I'm

01:28:14.260 going to end

01:28:14.720 by now.

01:28:16.080 And YouTube,

01:28:16.960 I'll talk to

01:28:17.300 you tomorrow.

Real Coffee with Scott Adams - July 07, 2022

Episode 1797 Scott Adams： The Biggest Problem With Conservative Thinking About Fatherhood

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