Real Coffee with Scott Adams - Episode 3022 CWSA 11⧸18⧸25

00:00:00.000 i have no idea what to expect today we got every kind of technical problem you can imagine

00:00:07.240 the x platform is down i hear locals is down but i'm not sure because here it looks like it's

00:00:14.160 working looks like rumble is working and locals is working and youtube is youtube working hard to

00:00:23.780 know so everybody's streaming here and we're going to make something of this day which is uh

00:00:30.300 not getting off with a best start oh you know what i have to do i've got to print my notes

00:00:37.940 hold on uno minutes be right back

00:00:45.000 all right i'm going to print those notes i like it or not today is mostly a rolling disaster

00:00:53.440 but you're going to like it you might even love it i'm back so what we're going to do today

00:01:01.300 is some reframes because the news is all boring and terrible yeah fighting snakes what

00:01:14.020 all right here's what we're going to do people

00:01:20.340 i'm going to scoot over there and grab my notes because i do have a few

00:01:25.720 and then i'll be right back don't do anything while i'm gone

00:01:30.360 i swear i'll be right back

00:01:33.880 all right all right so i think we got enough people here

00:01:49.240 we'll we'll make sure something happens something's gonna happen i don't know what

00:01:57.640 good morning everybody and welcome to the highlight of human civilization it's called coffee with scott

00:02:06.020 adams and you've never had a better time but if you'd like to take a chance on elevating this

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00:02:42.260 all right if you're just signing on this morning there's some kind of massive

00:02:50.100 cloud problem that's taking down x for most of the morning i thought it was taking down locals

00:02:56.620 i tried to do the pre-show but it glitched me out i couldn't get on but when i just logged on it looks

00:03:04.860 like looks like locals might be working all right so here's what i thought i would do

00:03:11.740 something like a hundred thousand people are going to sign on here expecting to see my regular show

00:03:18.920 do you think they're going to see it i i had no ability to prepare because i use x as my

00:03:26.920 you know 80 of all my preparation goes through x directly or indirectly so i decided that what i

00:03:34.840 do is we'll do some reframes but i'm also going to demonstrate something just so you can see it

00:03:41.380 live and what i'm going to demonstrate is uh what to do when all of your plans have been destroyed and

00:03:50.540 you have to do something in public so i'm now entering the scariest thing that an adult can do

00:03:58.040 it's very much like uh you're going to a test and you you forgot to study or you're going in for the

00:04:05.780 last day of school and you forgot your assignment so you get to watch while you see if i can navigate

00:04:14.020 this situation will it be easy no it will not be easy can i do it well i don't know we'll see

00:04:22.480 but i think it i think it's fair to say that most people would have a nightmare showing up unprepared

00:04:28.480 for a test that's what i'm doing right now i'm going to show you how to survive it easy really

00:04:34.660 so here's the first trick for surviving when everything goes wrong your audience doesn't

00:04:43.860 know what you were planning to do so they can't tell it went wrong they just know maybe it's not what

00:04:50.960 you did yesterday so if you can pull it off try to sell it as normal i was thinking today uh how

00:05:01.360 talented the uh conservative podcast world is you know i was trying to think how many people

00:05:08.480 who have podcasts who have conservative audiences how many of them could just sign on and do an hour of

00:05:16.480 content without preparation and the answer is about a lot of them but a lot of them could uh benny johnson

00:05:24.480 do that probably could megan kelly do that definitely uh could uh all the people who are the main hosts

00:05:32.880 of fox news do that yeah greg jesse kennedy they could all do that if they had to um victor davis

00:05:40.880 hansen sure so it does seem like some people are just born to do this maybe i'm in that category

00:05:48.880 because i feel comfortable doing it all right is anybody yet horrified because you're thinking to

00:05:56.080 yourself i'd hate to be him right now because he's going to do a whole show with no preparation

00:06:02.000 oh i got a stories i got i got plans yeah it's not completely without preparation so i've told you

00:06:10.480 many times i took the dale carnegie course when i was in my 20s and it teaches you how to navigate this

00:06:17.360 exact situation and by exact i mean you had to do some kind of public presentation podcast or anything

00:06:25.680 else and things went wrong you're actually trained to do that so i'm doing what i'm trained to do so

00:06:33.440 if it looks easy to me that's not natural skill training i'm just used to it i also don't have

00:06:41.440 any normal sense of embarrassment so i'm not worried about things going wrong at all because i don't have

00:06:49.360 any sense of embarrassment and most of you would understand i mean if if everything went terribly wrong

00:06:55.920 you'd all understand right it wouldn't be a big deal and uh we'll see here's a here's another trick

00:07:04.160 for public presentations you may have heard me say this one before but it applies really well right now

00:07:10.960 that in order to be interesting in a public sense you have to create the well you don't have to but it's

00:07:18.800 really handy if you can create the illusion that you're in danger or somebody's in danger so danger

00:07:27.440 is what gets people's attention because it's a busy world you know we got we have stuff to look at

00:07:33.280 can't look at everything all at the same time so what i'm doing is creating a sense of danger

00:07:40.320 uh a small danger the danger is that i would embarrass myself or humiliate myself by not being prepared

00:07:49.120 nope no problem yet um so yesterday interesting thing happened you probably want to know about it

00:07:58.000 so carrie lake was nice enough to put a very nice message on x uh wishing me well you know with my

00:08:05.680 health challenges and then elon musk and then she said something like we love you to me uh meaning the

00:08:13.680 audience loves me and uh then one of the people in the comments was elon musk and he said we do

00:08:23.600 what so basically i woke up to elon musk telling me he loves me now i love him too so the feeling is

00:08:31.600 quite is quite mutual but uh what you're wondering is does it feel better when the most uh successful

00:08:40.400 and richest man in the world tells you he loves you versus the average person and the answer is oh yeah

00:08:48.240 it's way better yeah it's just so much better way way better

00:08:53.760 it's funny because i'm joking but not really i mean if you had a choice of being uh if somebody

00:09:04.080 telling you they love you uh wouldn't it be cool if they were an awesome person yeah it'd be a little

00:09:10.640 bit better i mean it would be great no matter who it was but it's a little bit better anyway so i enjoyed

00:09:19.360 that today thank you elon all right um let's see what else is going on you know some of you are waking

00:09:28.720 up and saying scott i have ocd and you're ruining my routine uh i come here to find out the news

00:09:36.560 well luckily for you i have prepared the what i call it the evergreen news

00:09:42.000 news so this is the news that just never changes uh in science news eating makes you gain weight

00:09:50.400 psychedelic mushrooms make you less depressed according to the scientists who came up with

00:09:56.800 the idea of getting themselves psychedelic mushrooms and getting paid for it smartest scientists ever

00:10:03.120 um also in the news ai is still not uh able to do advanced general intelligence still can't do it

00:10:12.080 advanced general intelligence and we don't know how to make it do it we don't know how to get there

00:10:17.600 uh in other news some new group of rich people just pulled together a trillion dollars

00:10:23.120 to invest in ai that is still not able to do advanced general intelligence and we don't know how to

00:10:29.200 make it do that okay maybe tomorrow uh meanwhile americans kids american kids are getting fatter and 0.95

00:10:37.120 stupider no one has a plan for health care that would work the epstein files probably won't ever be 0.97

00:10:43.280 released hamas doesn't want to disarm fentanyl still coming in from china the federal budget's still 0.99

00:10:49.840 out of control trump thinks there's too much crime in cities and trump said something or did something

00:10:57.840 authoritarian yeah you did not see that coming and uh other surprises in the news adam schiff is

00:11:05.520 accused of lying there's a new photo of a uap but we couldn't get a clear photo of it

00:11:12.160 so that catches you up on all the news did i leave anything out no this episode is brought to

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00:11:47.440 well here's an update on the simulation one of the one of the ways i know we live in a simulation

00:11:53.040 or at least i do i don't know about you is that i clearly have themes that would make no sense if

00:12:00.400 it were random one of the themes is i have continuous water leaks in my life now those of

00:12:07.200 you who've been following me for a long time are laughing because you know that it's true

00:12:11.200 and i even predict them i tell you well i got this one fixed there's gonna be another water leak

00:12:17.280 problem it always is so yesterday for example uh i was in my lazy boy chair and i reclined the lazy boy

00:12:32.880 uh which was a bad move because i got my catheter bag stuck in the lazy boy

00:12:39.040 and it yanked a full bag of urine off the off the hose and started just draining it now the good

00:12:50.400 news is caught it before it got to the chair because the chair had cushions on it because don't ask

00:12:58.320 because i've got a leg that's oozing uh so it already had waterproofing on it from my leg in general

00:13:05.200 but uh so we cleaned that up got that all cleaned up um and this is one of those situations where you

00:13:12.960 like being the the disabled guy because i just got to sit there and say you know you might have missed

00:13:20.080 some over there i think you missed some over there so it turns out if you're not the one cleaning it up

00:13:27.520 not that big a deal not that big a deal then later that night i fell asleep also in the

00:13:34.720 lazy boy and gary the cat i woke up maybe 2 30 in the morning and gary the cat had found a nice little

00:13:42.880 nest in my arm and oh it was so cute gary was just soft and fuzzy and he loved me and he was just

00:13:53.520 right in that crook of the arm and then i thought you know what would be good is i feel a little parched

00:13:59.760 so i'd like to take a sip of water so i reached over carefully so as not to disturb gary took my water

00:14:07.520 and then very carefully tried to unscrew the cap but apparently the unscrewing of the cap

00:14:15.040 made some kind of a noise couldn't have been that loud maybe something like this

00:14:19.200 and that was just enough to send gary into a full cattywampus blizzard of arms and legs and tail

00:14:34.480 and i'm like oh god no it's a hurricane of cat parts and uh when it settled down uh

00:14:41.520 uh i'm gonna settle down i had a bottle of water all over me and no cat so i don't know how you are

00:14:49.440 doing how are you doing anyway um you probably want an update uh i'm gonna read some uh reframes when we

00:15:02.560 get to it so today will be special change your lives anyway some of you want my cancer updates

00:15:11.520 um here's some words that you might want to know if you're talking to somebody else

00:15:17.600 about what's what at least in cancer treatment in my case so dr pat sun xiang is uh he's got these and

00:15:27.120 well he's got something called the uh bio shield technology which uh i already have in me there

00:15:34.960 will be more of it coming uh maybe i'll get some nk and t cells those would be helping my immunity

00:15:41.360 but then separately there's there's this thing called pluvicto that i have one of the upcoming

00:15:47.840 what will be a total of six um six doses over six weeks so that's just in the process at the moment

00:15:55.360 i'm weirdly pain free and i don't want to trust that yet because you know the whole goal is to get

00:16:03.520 pain free so at the moment no pain i have no pain relievers well actually i do but not very strong

00:16:12.000 and uh it never made a difference before so i'm pretty sure that's not making a big difference

00:16:16.400 anyway uh but i do have some uh terrible wounds on my legs

00:16:27.680 for some cancery reason i don't know but those are pretty bad but those those are being treated no

00:16:33.600 problem all right so let's go to my book refrain your brain i decided what i would do is i'd read

00:16:41.520 some reframes out of the section on social life does anybody here need a better social life you

00:16:50.640 want me to reframe it for you so i've got a whole uh a whole bunch of reframes that will help your

00:16:57.360 social life all right let's do these um some of these you've heard but they're all they're all worth

00:17:04.160 hearing more than once because it'll just really pack it in there so the usual frame is people will tell

00:17:10.400 you to be yourself you ever hear that do you ever have somebody in your life who'll say well scott

00:17:17.200 the secret the secret to success is you should be yourself to which i say um shouldn't i be a

00:17:26.480 better version of myself if i'm just myself i'm not am i not going to be a little bit suboptimal

00:17:36.400 are you telling me that doing whatever i feel like is somehow going to be giving me a good life

00:17:44.560 i don't think it works like that at all no you should not try to be yourself you should always

00:17:51.120 strive to be some improved better version of whatever you think is the best you can be

00:17:56.800 and you should be shooting for that gives you something to do much better uh much better system to

00:18:03.280 continuously be chasing the better version of you and you never get there that's the key you never get

00:18:09.120 there all right uh youtube is live streaming yes it is all right here's another one these are social

00:18:20.640 life reframes from my book reframe your brain changing lives everywhere um this one's similar but you can

00:18:30.480 pick which one you like the usual frame would be you should learn to love yourself as you are

00:18:36.560 should you do that should you really love yourself as you are well if it's unchangeable then yes

00:18:42.720 why not you have something that can't be changed um but you should be glad your brain is pestering you to

00:18:50.480 improve so if you have a brain that keeps saying you should be doing more um a lot of people complain about

00:18:58.080 that because they think oh man i'm always feeling inadequate i'm feeling like i'm not doing enough

00:19:06.480 well maybe you're not and maybe this is exactly what should be happening maybe maybe your brain

00:19:15.040 should be telling you why don't you do a little more you know try a little harder that might be the

00:19:21.360 healthiest situation you could be in so don't be mad if your brain is pestering you to improve you should

00:19:27.920 thank it um do you ever see somebody who needs your advice

00:19:35.280 it's really hard to give advice isn't it have you ever noticed that you almost can't give advice

00:19:41.520 and the reason is nobody wants to feel like you know more than they do especially a peer

00:19:47.120 you know they never want to say you know uh if you just do what i tell you to do then your life

00:19:53.920 will be good that's not really people aren't comfortable with that not at all so instead of

00:19:59.840 giving people advice which they will just automatically reject you give them information

00:20:07.520 or maybe empathy or maybe there's something specific they need help organizing their thoughts

00:20:14.880 but don't ever put it in the form of you know if i were you my advice it's better to just give them

00:20:22.480 information that they don't have you know such as you know did you know this website has this

00:20:28.080 information that's not really advice that's just telling them something telling people something works

00:20:35.120 that's good all right how about this one uh here's what i learned

00:20:43.280 many years ago when i worked at a resort people would come in and they would complain and we were

00:20:51.200 taught to take on a work order like a physical piece of paper a work order and and write down the

00:20:57.840 complaints right in front of them because that would make them feel like they're you know doing more

00:21:04.320 so we take off the work the work order write down what they said

00:21:12.400 and then we were actually told this by our boss i'm not making this up

00:21:17.040 that depending on the complaint it might not be something you could fix

00:21:22.000 some people you know guests at the hotel would complain about things like

00:21:26.800 uh they need a certain different mattress or something and there's just basically there's no way to

00:21:32.160 make that happen so instead of making it happen we were taught to write it down as if we were going

00:21:39.120 to make it happen and then throw it away after they leave

00:21:44.800 and the thinking behind this uh is that what people really wanted was to be heard

00:21:52.480 now they would also like their little complaint to be fixed but even bigger than that they want to make

00:21:57.760 sure they complained you heard it and they felt powerful because you know some action happened

00:22:05.360 as far as they know so yeah so it was purely a theatrical situation all right um people who

00:22:14.880 complain don't want solutions sometimes they just like complaining that's the reframe

00:22:18.880 did you ever meet somebody who had a strong personality did you ever ever hear anybody uh describe that way

00:22:29.520 oh uh i'm going to introduce you to beth beth has a well beth has a how do i say this a strong personality 0.97

00:22:40.640 run run run from beth you do not want to be around people with strong personalities

00:22:48.240 because that's just a way to hide the fact that somebody's hard to deal with somebody might be a little

00:22:54.000 bit toxic if you know what i mean strong personality indeed you're toxic

00:23:00.080 i've told you before that if you have a compliment in mind that's almost immoral to withhold it

00:23:10.000 so that's sort of a reframe you've heard this one before but it's worth doing again

00:23:15.760 um giving somebody a compliment just automatically puts them on your side till the end of time so it's

00:23:24.560 good for them if it's a sincere compliment and it's good for you so why wouldn't you do it as much

00:23:30.960 as you could well you don't want to be like a weirdo over complimenter but it's hard to get there

00:23:38.560 to be an over a complimenter because when somebody is receiving the compliment they never feel like it's

00:23:44.560 too much so just pour it on just pour on the compliments now i do that in my my personal life

00:23:53.280 but the rule is it has to be real like you actually have to mean it it doesn't count if you just

00:23:59.760 oh what would be a good compliment that doesn't count it should be something you're thinking and

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00:24:36.320 all right about this uh no one seems to find me attractive or no one wants to date me or nobody

00:24:47.760 wants to marry me um the reframe of that is you just haven't met enough people you could take anyone

00:24:54.480 in the world and just introduce them to people over and over again and eventually

00:25:00.800 they'd find somebody they fell in love with it's just sort of a numbers game so there's no such thing

00:25:08.480 as not being able to find somebody who likes you there's only such a thing as i've not yet met enough

00:25:14.320 people because if you meet enough people the numbers are on your side sooner or later you're going to meet

00:25:20.640 somebody you like and vice versa um here's one i need to this would be the usual frame i need to go find

00:25:32.800 someone to be my romantic partner have you ever had that thought that you need to go out and find

00:25:40.720 yourself a romantic partner and you're actually thinking of it that way you're not just thinking

00:25:45.600 oh whatever happens happens but you're thinking i'm gonna go find myself a romantic partner that's

00:25:51.120 what i need well that's the old way of thinking of it uh it would be better to say you need to signal

00:25:57.440 your genetic advantage to attract a romantic partner what i mean by that is if you can somehow signal

00:26:06.480 that you're better than most people at some task some skill could be mental it could be physical

00:26:14.400 you're either the best at a sport you're the best at chess you're the best at making money you're the

00:26:20.400 best at just knowing things so there are a million things you could be the best at or just you know

00:26:26.960 one of the best wherever you are and instead of trying to turn somebody into your romantic partner which

00:26:35.200 is weird and creepy all you do is you just live your life but you make sure that other people notice

00:26:41.280 that as you're living your life you're doing something really well then people want to mate

00:26:47.440 with you you have to look like you have at least one genetic some kind of oddity or advantage it

00:26:56.480 doesn't matter what it is it could be mental it could be physical it could be attractiveness

00:27:01.520 you gotta have at least one thing that people look at and go oh that's that's kind of special

00:27:07.200 and if you do not have even one thing in your life not even one thing that you do better than

00:27:17.280 other people nothing well then you you develop that usually all you need to be to do you know all you need

00:27:24.880 to do to be one of the best at anything now this is an exaggeration of course but you get the point

00:27:31.360 is to do it more than other people you can be the best tennis player you know by playing more tennis

00:27:39.280 than the people you know you just do it for a long time and then pretty soon you're the best

00:27:45.040 tennis player you know so look for something where you can be the impressive one no matter what that is

00:27:51.920 all right um here is one sometimes uh your partner or your mate let's say your romantic partner

00:28:06.640 will ask you to share in the decision and what are you thinking when that happens oh no no my partner

00:28:16.000 wants to blame me when we pick the wrong restaurant or something no i don't want to share in these decisions

00:28:22.880 but instead of uh saying that you need a decision say you need a co-pilot to share the blame

00:28:31.280 i think it's funnier if you just say hey i need somebody to share the blame

00:28:35.520 so what restaurant you want to go to

00:28:39.120 no i think that would be funny now this one's just for fun all right um

00:28:44.560 a lot of people used to think that marriage was about finding your soul mate how many of you think

00:28:53.840 that well some of you think you did find your soul mate and so you would say yes that's exactly what

00:28:59.840 it is and if you were as awesome as me you would have found yours too um but i would say that marriage

00:29:06.800 is not about finding a soul mate i think marriage is about finding love with someone who values promises

00:29:13.920 it's not obvious why that works is it i'm gonna leave that one there and that that'll be your homework

00:29:30.880 just think about it all right um

00:29:47.840 uh some other soul mates once

00:29:55.440 oh here's one that i heard from a friend i'm not sure where it came from

00:29:59.200 oh i think it came from dr seuss

00:30:00.800 but it's a good one if you're in a relationship that ends instead of crying about your relationship

00:30:09.280 ending wouldn't it be better to smile because it happened so don't cry about it ending be happy

00:30:19.120 that it ever happened that one i use all the time i think you can convince yourself to be happy that

00:30:27.040 something happened um let's see here's one for dealing with your team that i've never seen work

00:30:41.600 so so maybe this one's a bad idea but you could try it at home if you tried it at home and it doesn't

00:30:46.400 work or it does work let me know but here's the idea so this would be for a team um

00:30:53.680 um so the usual frame is you tell your teen they can't understand the reason

00:31:00.880 for what you're telling them did you ever tell your kid because i said so

00:31:06.640 and that's considered good parenting right because i said so why do i have to go to bed at midnight

00:31:13.840 because i said so um that's fine but if you've got one of those teens who's ultra rational to the 0.98

00:31:20.800 point of being a pain in the ass and some of you do and they want to debate you here's the ultimate 0.99

00:31:27.760 teenager debate kill shot it goes like this um a parent is able to guide a young brain 0.99

00:31:37.440 they're not capable of understanding adult reasons now you'd want to put that in your own words but the

00:31:42.880 idea is that the teenage brain is incomplete so no adult over the age of 25 should have a debate

00:31:55.200 with somebody who's under 25 because the under 25s don't even have a developed brain 1.00

00:32:00.080 what would be the point of that so the point of the adult guiding the younger person is that the

00:32:07.840 adult has a mature brain so if i disagree with a team i don't say you're wrong i'm right because

00:32:15.440 that's just a fight you say ah that's probably what i would have thought before my brain was mature

00:32:22.400 you see the difference yeah that's probably what i would have thought before my brain was mature

00:32:27.280 oh i thought that when i was your age too but my job as the adult is to navigate you through

00:32:34.720 a place where your brain is not yet developed enough to handle the situation so whenever you and i

00:32:43.600 disagree about what you should be doing next the smart play is to listen to me because i've been there

00:32:50.400 before the the worst play is to listen to yourself because we don't know about you but i've done all those

00:33:00.640 things you yeah you haven't so listen to the more mature brain try that more the more mature brain

00:33:07.440 approach see how that works it won't work i'm still waiting for the one person that works with

00:33:13.600 mostly other words other ones will work with everybody but that one's pretty specific all right um

00:33:20.960 um oh here's one what if uh what if people treat you poorly um and you find out there's not much you

00:33:30.880 can do about it what do you do about that people treat you poorly and you're thinking there's not

00:33:37.280 much you can do about it well here's the reframe the reframe is that you cause people to treat you the

00:33:45.760 way they do people people don't treat you the way they do for their own reasons there's something you

00:33:53.760 project could be your look could be your mannerism could be the situation that you appeared in but um

00:34:03.440 you you largely cause people to treat you the way they treat you and this is something you don't notice

00:34:09.840 since you reach a certain age because when you're young it's really hard to get anybody to treat you

00:34:15.680 well because adults just don't care and other teenagers you know they have no special respect for

00:34:22.960 you you're just another kid so um anyway just just assume that uh the way you act causes people to see

00:34:34.000 you the way they see you and when they see you the way they see you that's how they decide how to act

00:34:40.160 so you can you can basically hypnotize them just by who you are and how you act

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00:35:05.440 all right

00:35:12.640 um how about this one oh this one i used the other day this is a brilliant one uh the old

00:35:20.000 reframe is that the boss is in charge obviously right the boss by definition of being a boss

00:35:27.760 the boss is clearly in charge but if you think that it leaves some opportunities on the table

00:35:35.360 so i i prefer a reframe instead of the bosses in charge it's more true to say

00:35:41.440 the person with the best ideas is always in charge because if the boss doesn't have any good ideas

00:35:49.200 where are they going to get one from somebody else

00:35:52.000 if you're the person who has a good idea people are going to do what you want them to do because

00:35:58.640 you're the only one with a good idea so don't think in terms of power all the time sometimes you

00:36:04.320 have to think in terms of having the best idea having the most useful solution being the person that

00:36:12.240 they want to invite to be on the projects think in those terms

00:36:18.480 then there's the basket case theory the theory that most people look like they have their act together

00:36:27.520 and you think to yourself hmm i wish i were like that person they have their act together

00:36:33.840 but they don't know that i don't no that's not what's happened

00:36:40.800 i can almost guarantee you that other people do not have their act together they might act like they do

00:36:48.560 but that is just an act so the basket case theory is that everyone's a basket case once you get to know

00:36:54.560 them the only people who are not basket cases are people you just don't know well enough but if he did

00:37:03.200 you'd know basket case all right um here's a really important one that i try to live by

00:37:12.640 i tried not to judge people by their mistakes have you heard me say that before don't judge people by

00:37:19.760 their mistakes and boy is that hard not to do instead judge them by how they respond to their

00:37:28.000 mistake do they crack something do they change something do they apologize do they make it make

00:37:33.360 it right because that's the person i want if you're looking for people who don't make mistakes well good

00:37:39.600 luck you're not you're not going to do too well with that but what if you find people who

00:37:45.200 do do make mistakes like everybody but they're really good at dealing with a mistake well that's gold

00:37:54.240 that is what you want all right two more

00:38:00.400 um

00:38:03.520 i'm gonna skip that one oh here's one the usual frame you've heard this before it's an old saying

00:38:10.160 that uh small acts of kindness can go a long way small acts of kindness um i would reframe this

00:38:20.960 to say that there are no small acts of kindness any act of kindness will seem huge

00:38:27.840 to the recipient it only seems small to you and that ladies and gentlemen

00:38:33.280 is most of but not all the reframes in the social life chapter

00:38:41.840 of reframe your brain

00:38:47.280 now if you're just checking in you may have found that x wasn't working today or

00:38:53.520 maybe something else wasn't working i don't know what else is working

00:38:56.000 well a few things are working looks like rumbles working and i don't know did locals disappear

00:39:02.320 locals looks like it might be working and youtube is working the best 4.5 000

00:39:10.000 all right so if you're just joining we're doing an experiment in which i see if i can do a show

00:39:17.600 without any preparation because the internet was broken so i didn't get to prepare

00:39:22.400 um and so i learned from my dale carnegie course how to always have something ready

00:39:31.680 you notice how i always had something ready in this case the reframes were just sort of a natural

00:39:36.480 thing you could do but i could have taken questions i could have said oh today we're only going to talk

00:39:42.640 about you know all the things in the epstein file except that's boring so but in general you should always

00:39:50.160 have a backup uh presentation so if your regular presentation gets lost the digital file gets

00:39:57.040 lost whatever happens you can just stand up in front of a bunch of people and do a presentation

00:40:05.360 so will you see how easily i can do it yeah yeah you see how effortless this is and it's only because

00:40:14.000 a practice it's a practice it's not effortless because i have some natural skill it's effortless

00:40:19.440 because i've done it most of my adult life and the more you practice the easier it is

00:40:26.640 all right ladies and gentlemen it's a 7 40 and i'm going to assume that longer is not better in this

00:40:36.880 particular case so we're going to wind down uh we'll see you tomorrow uh when we figure out who

00:40:45.600 cares about the epstein files and all those other things and uh i hope this was at least a little bit

00:40:51.600 entertaining to you i hope you learned that no matter how scary it is you can figure out how to make it

00:40:57.200 work you can always figure out how to make it work you don't need to be that prepared you can make most

00:41:04.560 things work if you just jump in and make it work that's just what i'm doing right here so i'm trying

00:41:10.000 to trying to model it as i do it and i will see you all tomorrow i don't think i can go private on locals

00:41:20.720 let me see i'll try to go private i look at locals but i might just disappear

00:41:24.880 oh no that didn't work wow

00:41:36.000 okay i i don't know what happened when i clicked that so it doesn't look like i can go

00:41:40.640 private so i guess i'll just see you all tomorrow tomorrow

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Real Coffee with Scott Adams - November 19, 2025

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