Real Coffee with Scott Adams - January 19, 2020


Episode 792 Scott Adams Part 2of2： Some New Reality Filters to Ease Anxiety


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In this episode, I talk about how I deal with the loss of a pet and how I reframe it so that I don't spend the next two years worrying about what I'm going to do when my beloved pet dies.

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00:00:00.360 I know what you want to talk about.
00:00:03.320 Yesterday, at the end of my Periscope,
00:00:08.500 I ran, those of you who are here,
00:00:11.200 I ran you through an exercise
00:00:12.440 to reduce your anxiety in life,
00:00:17.320 whatever the source of your anxiety is,
00:00:19.460 whether it's an actual mental problem,
00:00:21.840 something temporary, something you're worrying about.
00:00:24.760 And I wanted to reinforce that.
00:00:27.620 So I'm going to give you a little bit of reinforcement on top of that.
00:00:30.900 This is a cumulative process.
00:00:33.340 The first time you're exposed to it,
00:00:36.100 you might not have a deep feeling of change.
00:00:41.400 Some of you actually did.
00:00:43.400 I heard from a lot of people yesterday
00:00:45.420 who told me that the exercise immediately released their anxiety.
00:00:51.420 Now, I assume that's temporary.
00:00:52.960 But if you can find a way to temporarily release your anxiety,
00:00:58.240 do it as often as you can,
00:01:01.100 because that's how you get to eventually, you know,
00:01:03.620 a place where you have a stable lack of anxiety.
00:01:06.920 I'm going to give you some more tricks and tips on this in a moment.
00:01:10.940 But I did want to tell you that, based on the feedback,
00:01:14.460 it was completely successful.
00:01:16.600 Now, completely successful doesn't mean it worked with every person,
00:01:19.860 because I told you it wouldn't.
00:01:21.240 You're all different.
00:01:22.880 But completely successful in that a lot of people said it changed something.
00:01:28.580 It changed something deeply meaningful to them.
00:01:33.120 So I'm going to do it again.
00:01:37.680 And the big thing I introduced,
00:01:39.600 and by the way, I cut out just the part of my periscope from yesterday
00:01:44.660 and made a separate clip that's just the last part of the periscope,
00:01:48.740 so you can just see the anxiety solution technique.
00:01:54.960 So that's on YouTube right now.
00:01:56.660 Just search Real Coffee with Scott Adams on YouTube.
00:01:59.720 It'll pop right up.
00:02:00.460 So just look at the quick one, if that's all you want.
00:02:05.380 What I talked about on that,
00:02:06.960 and it won't make as much sense unless you saw the other video,
00:02:09.900 so I saved this for the end.
00:02:11.700 If you need to see it in order, see that first, come back to this.
00:02:16.600 I talked about seeing the world through different filters.
00:02:20.680 And I'm going to give you some more filters
00:02:22.100 so you get, let's say, a deeper understanding of how this concept works.
00:02:27.620 One of the things that people ask me about is,
00:02:31.760 how do you deal with the fact that you know you're going to have some bad news in the future?
00:02:36.780 You don't know the details,
00:02:38.200 but you know, for example, that somebody's going to die before you do.
00:02:44.540 You know that there will be various problems in life.
00:02:48.600 And I'm going to give you a technique that I use.
00:02:52.700 I've had a lot of pets, and I've had a lot of pets who passed.
00:02:57.520 And I get very attached to my pets.
00:03:00.580 And so when a cat dies, for example, it's a big deal.
00:03:04.000 I had a cat for 19 years.
00:03:06.020 It was my constant workplace companion.
00:03:09.420 And when she passed, it was a big deal.
00:03:11.540 I have now a dog, most of you know Snickers,
00:03:16.080 who's at that age where if she's got another two years in her,
00:03:21.700 I hope she has more,
00:03:23.400 but average for that breed would be a couple more years.
00:03:27.740 She seems to be perfectly healthy now.
00:03:30.540 But here's how I deal with the fact that when she passes,
00:03:34.500 it will be like losing a limb.
00:03:37.360 I've heard that analogy before.
00:03:40.540 I've heard people who won't get a second dog after the first one
00:03:44.680 because the trauma of losing it is so extreme
00:03:48.980 that they can't go through it again.
00:03:51.840 I see a lot of you talking about the pain.
00:03:54.600 And you see on social media people posting their painful situation
00:03:59.840 if they have an animal that's about ready to pass.
00:04:02.740 So let me tell you the filter I put on this.
00:04:04.640 If you focus on the loss and the badness of it,
00:04:11.340 you will feel anxiety and you will feel bad.
00:04:14.840 But you do have the risk.
00:04:17.280 You have the option of reframing this.
00:04:20.180 And let me tell you how I reframe it for my pets
00:04:22.840 and how I reframe it for Snickers
00:04:25.840 so that I don't spend the next two years
00:04:28.880 worrying about how I'm going to feel
00:04:30.260 when her natural life comes to an end.
00:04:33.860 And here's how I reframe it.
00:04:36.160 I reframe it as a privilege
00:04:38.840 and an honor.
00:04:43.300 For me, the ability to be there at the end of her life,
00:04:46.880 my dog, Snickers,
00:04:48.560 is going to be an honor.
00:04:51.120 It's going to be a privilege.
00:04:52.380 And I wouldn't have it any other way.
00:04:56.140 And when I think of it that way,
00:04:58.580 it changes how I process it.
00:05:01.680 Now, I know I'm going to feel terrible when the day comes.
00:05:05.260 But until then, I'm just honored.
00:05:08.600 I actually feel a sense of duty at a very deep level
00:05:13.980 and commitment.
00:05:17.060 And I felt the same way with my cats
00:05:19.060 in their final moments of life.
00:05:23.280 I felt honored that I could be part of it.
00:05:27.120 So I give you that.
00:05:28.840 Let me give you a couple other filters. 0.93
00:05:34.400 Have you ever worried that there's something big
00:05:37.560 that you need to do
00:05:38.500 that is really giving you anxiety?
00:05:40.820 Let's say you're trying to buy a house,
00:05:43.080 but you've never done that.
00:05:44.360 You're like,
00:05:44.640 how do people buy a house?
00:05:46.180 How do they afford it?
00:05:47.040 How do they work out all the details
00:05:49.100 and the repairs and the contracts and all this?
00:05:51.920 Or are you thinking about moving?
00:05:54.020 And you think,
00:05:54.640 how do people do this?
00:05:55.940 Like, moving is,
00:05:57.240 let's say, to another state.
00:05:58.860 It's a big deal.
00:06:00.340 You think about getting married.
00:06:01.800 You think about having families.
00:06:03.120 You think about,
00:06:03.960 and any one of these things you think about,
00:06:07.340 they seem, like, really hard.
00:06:09.740 If you've never done those things,
00:06:11.400 they seem really hard.
00:06:12.720 Here's the filter I put on that.
00:06:14.300 There are a lot of idiots in the world,
00:06:18.140 and they can do all of those things.
00:06:20.680 The world is built for people of average capabilities.
00:06:26.580 So if you're average or above average,
00:06:29.020 and most of you are probably above average,
00:06:30.760 if you're listening to this Periscope especially,
00:06:33.300 and just tell yourself,
00:06:35.360 there are millions and millions of idiots
00:06:37.760 who figured out how to buy a house.
00:06:39.460 Millions of idiots who learned how to move to another state.
00:06:43.340 Millions and millions of idiots who had kids, 0.73
00:06:46.060 got married,
00:06:47.820 you know, changed jobs.
00:06:49.520 Millions of idiots learned to do a job
00:06:51.420 that you wish you were smart enough to do.
00:06:53.880 Guess what?
00:06:54.280 You are.
00:06:54.900 You are smart enough to do it.
00:06:56.660 Because millions of idiots did it.
00:06:59.000 The million idiot filter on life
00:07:01.660 immediately removes your anxiety
00:07:04.520 about things you haven't done before.
00:07:06.680 Now, if the only people who had done the thing you want to do
00:07:10.620 were geniuses,
00:07:12.680 well, I guess you should worry about that.
00:07:15.760 You know, unless you're a genius.
00:07:16.980 Like, well, the only people who can pull this off
00:07:18.940 are geniuses.
00:07:20.800 Do you know how many people pulled off buying a house?
00:07:25.920 Not just the smart ones.
00:07:28.000 All right?
00:07:28.840 So that's a filter I like to use.
00:07:30.680 It immediately makes me feel comfortable
00:07:32.900 because almost anybody can do these things
00:07:37.700 that look scary.
00:07:40.100 Here's another one.
00:07:41.040 You've heard this one before.
00:07:42.020 The Adams Law of Slow-Moving Disasters.
00:07:46.740 Throughout history,
00:07:47.900 when humans can see a problem coming from far away,
00:07:51.720 we have a 100% track record of solving it.
00:07:55.000 For example,
00:07:56.040 we're all going to run out of food
00:07:57.680 because our population is growing.
00:07:59.740 Well, we figured out birth control.
00:08:02.020 We figured out fertilizer.
00:08:03.880 We figured out better farming methods.
00:08:06.320 We got food.
00:08:07.760 We're going to run out of water
00:08:09.320 because, well,
00:08:10.820 it turns out we drilled for more water.
00:08:12.420 We built more canals.
00:08:13.460 We figured out how to get water to everybody.
00:08:15.920 We're certainly going to run out of oil.
00:08:18.120 And then, well, no,
00:08:19.060 we figured out how to frack.
00:08:20.420 We figured out how to make windmills and stuff.
00:08:24.520 So, if you're looking at something such as
00:08:28.460 the threat of climate science,
00:08:32.040 I think a lot of you on this periscope
00:08:33.920 are not worried about it,
00:08:35.260 but let's say you are.
00:08:36.880 Remind yourself that society is genius
00:08:41.540 as solving problems it sees coming from far distance.
00:08:46.240 This will be no exception.
00:08:48.900 Whatever problems come from climate change
00:08:51.280 could be little,
00:08:53.280 could be a lot.
00:08:54.700 I'm no scientist,
00:08:56.360 and I don't believe anybody
00:08:57.220 can really predict that stuff.
00:08:59.040 But no matter what you think about it,
00:09:01.280 the worst-case scenario
00:09:02.820 is that it is a problem,
00:09:04.620 but we're really, really good
00:09:06.520 at solving this stuff.
00:09:08.000 We have companies coming online
00:09:09.360 that can scrub CO2 out of the air
00:09:11.720 if it ever becomes necessary.
00:09:13.960 And then others, if you say,
00:09:15.160 wait, we can't be scrubbing the CO2
00:09:17.600 out of the air
00:09:18.140 because it's plant food.
00:09:19.800 It's plant food.
00:09:20.660 Dude, you'll destroy the Earth
00:09:22.260 by scrubbing all the CO2 out of the air.
00:09:24.620 No, you won't.
00:09:25.300 You'll just unplug them.
00:09:27.040 If you get too much CO2,
00:09:29.500 just unplug it.
00:09:31.500 So don't worry about these big problems
00:09:34.300 that we can see coming from miles away.
00:09:37.640 Those are the ones we solve every time.
00:09:40.540 The ones you need to worry about
00:09:42.040 are the ones that came out of nowhere.
00:09:44.060 You know, you didn't see it coming.
00:09:46.380 So we're very consistent about that.
00:09:48.400 All right, here's another one.
00:09:49.240 Sometimes when I feel really down,
00:09:53.500 and it happens,
00:09:55.120 I have to admit,
00:09:56.060 it hasn't happened in a long time.
00:09:57.860 But in my past,
00:09:59.160 there have been times
00:09:59.780 when I just felt beaten down by life
00:10:01.760 and sometimes you just don't want
00:10:04.720 to wake up the next day.
00:10:06.580 Here's a filter that I put on my life
00:10:09.640 that I find really useful.
00:10:11.620 Curiosity.
00:10:14.760 It turns out that we humans
00:10:16.480 are really motivated by curiosity.
00:10:20.640 Some more than others.
00:10:22.220 It's the reason that a good author
00:10:24.140 will put at the end of a chapter
00:10:27.380 a little mystery.
00:10:28.560 It's like,
00:10:29.000 and then someone knocked at the door
00:10:30.680 and it's the next chapter
00:10:32.320 and you're like,
00:10:32.760 ah,
00:10:33.580 I've got to read a whole other chapter
00:10:34.960 about another character
00:10:35.960 before I find out
00:10:36.860 who was knocking at that door.
00:10:37.940 It turns out that curiosity
00:10:42.700 is a tremendous motivator for people.
00:10:45.940 And here's a filter I put on things
00:10:47.500 when I'm feeling depressed and down
00:10:49.440 and I just,
00:10:50.700 you know,
00:10:51.180 my purpose for life
00:10:52.760 seems to be extinguished temporarily.
00:10:55.240 I say this,
00:10:56.640 I wonder how this is going to turn out.
00:11:01.400 And I just treat it as a curiosity.
00:11:03.680 What if I'm just watching this life
00:11:06.820 like a spectator?
00:11:08.720 I also use the,
00:11:10.240 I combine this with the
00:11:11.560 no free will filter.
00:11:14.300 Now,
00:11:14.840 I believe that we don't have free will
00:11:16.360 because I think physics,
00:11:17.860 the laws of physics
00:11:18.680 don't stop when you get to your skull.
00:11:21.220 Whatever's happening inside your skull
00:11:22.920 is also subject to the laws of physics.
00:11:25.780 So whatever causes and effects
00:11:27.660 are coming into your head,
00:11:29.180 you know,
00:11:29.720 there's only one thing
00:11:30.620 that's going to come out of that
00:11:31.580 because of the structure
00:11:32.600 and the exactness
00:11:34.100 of your brain
00:11:35.740 and its architecture.
00:11:37.320 So sometimes
00:11:38.020 when things are not going my way,
00:11:40.300 I just sit back and say,
00:11:41.740 what if I just watch?
00:11:45.420 Now,
00:11:45.940 I still do all the things
00:11:47.160 that I would do.
00:11:48.060 I still brush my teeth,
00:11:49.560 go to work,
00:11:50.500 get in my car.
00:11:51.300 I still do everything.
00:11:52.640 But instead of saying,
00:11:53.900 I'm deciding to do this,
00:11:56.140 I say,
00:11:57.240 I'm not deciding to do this.
00:11:59.800 I don't have free will.
00:12:01.200 I'm actually a spectator
00:12:03.620 in my own life.
00:12:04.840 I'm just watching.
00:12:06.020 I'm watching myself brush my teeth.
00:12:07.960 I'm watching myself go to work.
00:12:10.560 I'm just watching.
00:12:11.920 And I wonder,
00:12:13.120 how does this game end?
00:12:16.440 What happens tomorrow?
00:12:18.700 Given this current situation,
00:12:20.720 where am I going to be next week?
00:12:23.680 And what you'll find
00:12:25.160 is that can immediately
00:12:26.320 take you out of your depression
00:12:27.820 and into a mode of curiosity
00:12:30.440 and a mode of just feeling
00:12:32.900 like you're a spectator
00:12:34.120 and you don't have to have
00:12:35.580 great stress
00:12:37.200 because things aren't going
00:12:39.080 the way you wanted them to go.
00:12:41.080 Instead,
00:12:41.660 you can say,
00:12:42.280 well,
00:12:43.020 they were going to go that way.
00:12:45.220 There's no free will.
00:12:46.400 I'm just along for the ride.
00:12:48.580 I wonder how it turns out.
00:12:51.040 Now,
00:12:51.580 until you try it,
00:12:52.680 you might not believe
00:12:53.540 that that will take you
00:12:54.800 into a different mindset.
00:12:55.940 But my experience is that it does.
00:12:58.840 Here's another filter on life.
00:13:00.820 God.
00:13:01.560 I told you that
00:13:02.440 one of the reasons
00:13:03.340 that hallucinogens
00:13:05.100 might be so effective
00:13:06.620 for curing a whole range
00:13:08.120 of mental problems,
00:13:09.380 most of them anxiety-related,
00:13:10.920 I think,
00:13:12.000 is that it takes your ego,
00:13:14.300 the hallucinogens
00:13:15.520 take your ego
00:13:16.460 out of your worldview.
00:13:19.220 And once you feel
00:13:20.020 that you personally
00:13:21.320 are not that important
00:13:22.320 or that you're just
00:13:23.220 part of the whole,
00:13:24.360 then you stop worrying
00:13:26.640 so much
00:13:27.620 about what you
00:13:29.480 and your ego
00:13:30.100 are going to experience
00:13:31.180 tomorrow
00:13:31.660 because you're just
00:13:32.720 not that important.
00:13:34.340 You're not the main reason
00:13:35.740 of the universe.
00:13:37.160 It's just little you
00:13:38.320 and you'll be fine.
00:13:40.920 And another way
00:13:41.660 to get there
00:13:42.200 is by belief
00:13:43.540 in a higher power,
00:13:45.020 belief in a God
00:13:45.960 of one type or another
00:13:47.200 because the God model,
00:13:50.240 the way most people
00:13:51.220 practice it,
00:13:51.940 is that God is great
00:13:53.860 and you're not.
00:13:56.160 It kind of puts you
00:13:57.240 in your place.
00:13:59.040 Believing in religion 0.98
00:14:00.040 puts you in your place.
00:14:02.320 It takes your big old ego,
00:14:04.140 well, I'm pretty special,
00:14:05.900 and it just says,
00:14:07.500 no, you're not.
00:14:09.780 God is special.
00:14:12.300 You're just a follower.
00:14:15.320 Yes.
00:14:15.900 It teaches you humility
00:14:17.180 by giving you
00:14:18.440 a contrast
00:14:18.940 to something
00:14:20.200 that needs
00:14:22.300 no humility.
00:14:23.760 An omnipotent power,
00:14:26.060 humility would make
00:14:27.020 no sense at all
00:14:27.860 because it would
00:14:28.360 just be a lie.
00:14:30.060 So when you compare yourself,
00:14:31.440 and contrast
00:14:31.880 is one of the great
00:14:32.840 principles
00:14:33.460 of managing
00:14:35.040 your psychological state
00:14:36.780 and persuasion
00:14:37.540 and everything else,
00:14:38.380 anytime there's
00:14:38.960 a contrast,
00:14:40.280 it helps focus you
00:14:41.900 and understand
00:14:43.180 things in their place.
00:14:44.360 So believing
00:14:46.500 there's a God
00:14:47.340 who is great
00:14:48.940 puts you
00:14:51.580 in your place.
00:14:53.120 So I think
00:14:53.460 that could be
00:14:53.860 a good filter.
00:14:54.580 And here,
00:14:55.160 oh, somebody just said
00:14:56.680 exactly what I was
00:14:57.460 going to say next.
00:14:58.960 Alcoholics Anonymous
00:14:59.940 uses this technique.
00:15:02.320 So if you go
00:15:03.060 into an AA meeting
00:15:04.460 to try to quit
00:15:05.920 alcohol or drugs,
00:15:07.580 there's a drug version
00:15:08.440 of it,
00:15:09.500 they recommend
00:15:11.040 that you
00:15:12.180 sort of put yourselves
00:15:13.460 in the hands
00:15:15.100 of a higher power.
00:15:16.440 Now, they're not
00:15:16.900 too specific about
00:15:18.000 you don't have
00:15:18.480 to be a Christian,
00:15:19.500 you don't have
00:15:19.840 to be a specific
00:15:20.640 kind of belief,
00:15:22.020 but whatever you believe
00:15:23.700 is a higher power.
00:15:26.720 If you're not
00:15:27.700 a believer,
00:15:28.340 you can say,
00:15:28.820 well, the higher power
00:15:29.820 is physics,
00:15:30.840 I don't have free will,
00:15:32.620 I just release myself
00:15:33.940 to free will.
00:15:35.660 Or if you believe
00:15:36.640 in a God,
00:15:37.220 you say,
00:15:37.760 I just release myself
00:15:38.880 and let sort of
00:15:40.200 God work through me.
00:15:41.560 Now, that's a filter.
00:15:42.440 We don't need
00:15:44.000 to decide
00:15:45.180 whose religion
00:15:45.920 is right
00:15:46.480 or if God
00:15:47.940 even exists.
00:15:48.920 You don't need to.
00:15:49.860 It's a filter
00:15:50.560 that works.
00:15:51.920 Because the
00:15:52.500 Alcoholic Anonymous
00:15:53.580 process,
00:15:55.480 apparently,
00:15:56.520 from everything
00:15:57.120 I've learned,
00:15:57.680 is one of the few
00:15:58.380 things that does work.
00:16:00.120 And I think
00:16:00.580 that the active
00:16:01.400 part of the process
00:16:02.900 is removing
00:16:04.160 your ego
00:16:05.040 by putting yourselves
00:16:07.460 in the hand
00:16:07.900 of a higher power.
00:16:09.180 The other thing
00:16:09.980 that that does
00:16:10.900 to remove your ego
00:16:11.940 is that part
00:16:12.740 of the process,
00:16:13.500 part of the steps,
00:16:14.840 and again,
00:16:15.440 if somebody knows
00:16:16.000 more about this
00:16:16.640 than I do,
00:16:17.280 just chime in.
00:16:18.540 But part of it
00:16:19.220 is essentially
00:16:21.280 apologizing to all
00:16:22.500 the people you hurt,
00:16:24.360 which again,
00:16:26.240 is ego.
00:16:27.980 It's all ego.
00:16:29.380 If you go into
00:16:30.240 any kind of
00:16:32.280 a rehab situation,
00:16:34.300 you give up
00:16:35.500 sort of all
00:16:37.000 the other parts
00:16:37.680 of your life,
00:16:39.000 you're stripped
00:16:39.580 down to just
00:16:40.460 your biological
00:16:41.240 entity,
00:16:42.620 you're put
00:16:43.100 in your place,
00:16:44.380 your ego
00:16:44.960 is removed,
00:16:46.800 or at least
00:16:47.480 reduced.
00:16:49.320 So that's one
00:16:50.160 filter,
00:16:50.840 belief in the
00:16:51.300 higher power.
00:16:52.120 Here's another
00:16:52.640 filter,
00:16:53.860 optimism.
00:16:55.400 The way you
00:16:56.640 should see
00:16:57.080 optimism,
00:16:57.900 in other words,
00:16:58.460 simply just telling
00:16:59.260 yourself that
00:17:00.000 there are some
00:17:00.520 good things ahead,
00:17:01.740 because you can
00:17:02.300 dwell on the
00:17:03.100 bad stuff,
00:17:04.100 and it can
00:17:05.200 change your
00:17:05.620 whole mental
00:17:06.080 state,
00:17:06.800 or you can
00:17:08.360 do what
00:17:08.960 Tony Robbins
00:17:09.960 suggests in
00:17:10.800 his own way,
00:17:11.700 and I'm going
00:17:12.320 to suggest in
00:17:13.080 my own way.
00:17:14.180 Same idea.
00:17:16.080 That your brain
00:17:16.860 is only capable
00:17:17.700 of thinking about
00:17:18.800 so much in
00:17:20.180 any single
00:17:21.460 time.
00:17:22.360 We're not real
00:17:23.120 good multitaskers.
00:17:26.160 If your brain
00:17:26.980 is focused on
00:17:27.780 one thing,
00:17:28.960 it doesn't have
00:17:29.960 much left
00:17:30.780 for other things.
00:17:32.180 You can find
00:17:32.900 out if there's
00:17:33.400 a train coming
00:17:34.080 at you while
00:17:34.560 you're doing
00:17:34.880 your taxes,
00:17:35.360 but mostly
00:17:36.500 you have a
00:17:37.820 certain amount
00:17:38.240 of shelf
00:17:38.680 space,
00:17:39.180 I call it,
00:17:39.740 in your brain.
00:17:41.120 You have
00:17:41.760 some control,
00:17:42.900 actually a lot
00:17:43.480 of control,
00:17:44.420 over what's
00:17:45.660 on the shelf.
00:17:47.280 If you don't
00:17:48.200 take control
00:17:48.860 of it,
00:17:49.480 and you just
00:17:49.980 say,
00:17:50.260 well,
00:17:50.440 I'm just
00:17:50.740 going to
00:17:50.940 wake up
00:17:51.240 today and
00:17:51.760 go on
00:17:52.700 with my
00:17:53.060 life.
00:17:53.720 All I'm
00:17:54.120 going to
00:17:54.280 do today
00:17:54.700 is whatever
00:17:55.260 comes up,
00:17:55.960 I'll do
00:17:56.220 my tasks,
00:17:56.940 I'll do
00:17:57.140 my job,
00:17:58.320 I'll know
00:17:58.980 what I'm
00:17:59.220 supposed to
00:17:59.560 do.
00:18:00.400 Your shelf
00:18:01.100 space will
00:18:01.680 fill up
00:18:02.240 without
00:18:03.760 your control.
00:18:05.020 It will
00:18:05.280 just fill
00:18:05.780 up with
00:18:06.160 whatever
00:18:06.500 thoughts
00:18:06.980 were going
00:18:07.320 to bubble
00:18:07.640 up.
00:18:08.620 What kind
00:18:08.960 of thoughts
00:18:09.460 tend to
00:18:09.940 bubble up
00:18:10.420 if you
00:18:10.740 don't manage
00:18:11.360 your shelf
00:18:11.800 space?
00:18:12.780 The good
00:18:13.280 ones?
00:18:14.820 Now,
00:18:16.560 you can
00:18:17.260 probably
00:18:17.540 confirm this
00:18:18.180 from your
00:18:18.540 own experience.
00:18:19.800 If you are
00:18:20.720 idle and you
00:18:21.500 don't have
00:18:21.760 much to
00:18:22.160 think about,
00:18:23.460 do you
00:18:23.960 automatically
00:18:24.780 drift into
00:18:25.580 happy thoughts?
00:18:26.700 Sometimes.
00:18:27.020 But far
00:18:28.760 more often,
00:18:29.740 the negative
00:18:30.200 is what
00:18:30.840 bubbles up
00:18:32.180 because we're
00:18:33.100 designed that
00:18:33.800 way.
00:18:34.720 Humans are
00:18:35.360 designed to
00:18:36.240 find problems
00:18:37.160 and then
00:18:38.400 fix them.
00:18:39.260 We're not
00:18:39.720 designed to
00:18:40.620 dwell on
00:18:41.200 things that
00:18:41.660 are going
00:18:42.040 well.
00:18:43.260 Look around
00:18:43.800 your atmosphere
00:18:44.420 or your
00:18:45.540 environment.
00:18:46.780 How much
00:18:47.240 of your
00:18:47.600 environment are
00:18:48.280 you actively
00:18:48.960 processing?
00:18:50.560 Very little
00:18:51.340 of it because
00:18:52.360 it's going
00:18:52.800 well.
00:18:53.440 I've got a
00:18:54.000 table over
00:18:54.540 there that's
00:18:54.980 not bothering
00:18:55.500 me at all.
00:18:56.000 It requires
00:18:57.440 no attention
00:18:58.040 at all.
00:18:58.800 It's not
00:18:59.180 my consciousness.
00:19:00.920 So,
00:19:01.680 actively
00:19:02.840 learn to
00:19:04.540 fantasize
00:19:05.520 and imagine
00:19:06.240 positive
00:19:07.020 outcomes
00:19:07.560 in a variety
00:19:08.460 of ways
00:19:09.460 so that
00:19:10.620 whenever you
00:19:11.160 feel your
00:19:11.640 shelf space
00:19:12.180 is starting
00:19:12.640 to get a
00:19:13.440 little room
00:19:13.860 in it,
00:19:14.900 fill it.
00:19:16.160 Fill it
00:19:16.900 consciously,
00:19:17.700 directly,
00:19:18.780 intentionally.
00:19:19.900 Fill it.
00:19:20.840 Never let
00:19:21.460 your shelf
00:19:21.960 space fill
00:19:23.280 itself.
00:19:23.920 You control
00:19:24.520 that.
00:19:24.820 You get
00:19:26.080 to think
00:19:26.480 about what
00:19:26.880 you want
00:19:27.180 to think.
00:19:27.660 I mean,
00:19:27.900 if you have
00:19:28.160 some terrible
00:19:28.720 tragedy,
00:19:29.380 it's going
00:19:29.600 to be hard
00:19:29.860 to keep
00:19:30.140 it out of
00:19:30.400 your head.
00:19:31.080 But for
00:19:31.400 most of
00:19:31.800 us,
00:19:32.140 our just
00:19:32.480 daily life,
00:19:33.820 you can
00:19:34.260 fill that
00:19:34.680 thing with
00:19:35.040 anything you
00:19:35.520 want.
00:19:36.320 In my
00:19:36.740 20s,
00:19:37.620 trying to
00:19:38.860 crowd out
00:19:39.640 bad memories
00:19:40.780 of my
00:19:41.200 childhood,
00:19:41.780 which was
00:19:42.100 pretty horrific,
00:19:43.700 I would
00:19:45.120 fill it
00:19:45.640 with work.
00:19:46.840 So I would
00:19:47.300 just work
00:19:47.920 myself to
00:19:48.600 exhaustion,
00:19:49.760 fall asleep,
00:19:50.600 and then get
00:19:51.220 up early in
00:19:52.080 the morning and
00:19:52.500 work myself to
00:19:53.340 exhaustion again.
00:19:54.120 And it
00:19:55.120 really worked.
00:19:56.760 Now, not
00:19:57.260 everybody can
00:19:57.920 work themselves
00:19:58.920 to exhaustion
00:19:59.580 for year after
00:20:00.340 year, but I
00:20:01.520 filled my shelf
00:20:02.960 space, and
00:20:03.980 whenever I felt
00:20:04.720 it starting to
00:20:05.940 fill on its
00:20:06.520 own, I would
00:20:07.260 very actively
00:20:08.120 crowd it out
00:20:09.680 with optimism.
00:20:11.700 You see
00:20:12.380 President Trump
00:20:13.220 operating on
00:20:13.940 this principle,
00:20:14.760 and he got
00:20:15.180 it, he came
00:20:16.820 to it honestly,
00:20:17.860 and really
00:20:18.260 exactly the same
00:20:19.100 way I did,
00:20:19.600 through the
00:20:20.980 impact of
00:20:22.420 Norman Vincent
00:20:24.320 Peale, who
00:20:25.080 wrote the book
00:20:25.900 The Power of
00:20:26.400 Positive Thinking.
00:20:28.100 Coincidentally,
00:20:29.300 or not, was
00:20:30.460 the Trump
00:20:31.260 family pastor
00:20:32.980 or minister,
00:20:33.820 I forget which
00:20:34.360 is the right
00:20:34.740 word, at
00:20:35.600 their family
00:20:36.220 church, where
00:20:37.220 they went to
00:20:37.620 church, they
00:20:38.080 saw the king
00:20:39.280 of positive
00:20:39.940 thinking, the
00:20:40.640 most famous
00:20:41.220 positive thinking
00:20:42.280 promoter in the
00:20:43.980 United States
00:20:44.560 ever, and you
00:20:46.040 see Trump do
00:20:46.740 it all the
00:20:47.060 time.
00:20:47.940 He's very
00:20:48.900 much filling
00:20:49.620 his shelf
00:20:51.220 space with
00:20:51.720 optimism, and
00:20:52.640 ours too.
00:20:55.260 Here's another
00:20:56.220 technique.
00:20:59.060 If you want
00:20:59.920 to work on
00:21:00.360 your ego, put
00:21:01.660 yourself in
00:21:02.160 situations in
00:21:03.020 which you
00:21:03.380 embarrass yourself
00:21:04.320 often, and
00:21:05.540 survive.
00:21:06.880 How many times
00:21:07.800 have you seen
00:21:08.360 me embarrass
00:21:09.120 myself right
00:21:10.260 here on
00:21:10.920 Periscope, and
00:21:12.060 then the next
00:21:12.540 day, well, I'm
00:21:13.160 back again.
00:21:14.440 Here's my
00:21:14.900 coffee.
00:21:15.620 Tastes good.
00:21:16.740 Have you
00:21:17.400 ever seen
00:21:17.940 embarrassment
00:21:18.540 change my
00:21:19.460 behavior or
00:21:20.240 even my
00:21:20.640 attitude?
00:21:22.120 Probably not.
00:21:24.200 And I
00:21:24.760 wasn't always
00:21:25.220 that way.
00:21:25.760 I used to
00:21:26.160 be easily
00:21:27.320 embarrassed, and
00:21:29.040 it would ruin
00:21:29.580 my whole day,
00:21:30.340 ruin my week,
00:21:31.240 ruin my month.
00:21:32.680 The feeling of
00:21:33.620 embarrassment is
00:21:34.280 like, oh, I'm
00:21:35.500 reliving it in
00:21:36.240 my mind, that
00:21:37.040 time I did
00:21:37.600 that.
00:21:38.440 But how many
00:21:38.880 times have you
00:21:39.400 seen me have
00:21:39.960 to blow my 0.93
00:21:41.420 nose on camera
00:21:42.300 because I just
00:21:44.100 had to?
00:21:45.080 How many
00:21:45.540 times I was
00:21:47.720 re-watching one
00:21:48.640 of my
00:21:48.880 Periscopes.
00:21:49.740 I watched
00:21:50.360 some of them
00:21:50.820 just to see
00:21:51.300 what I'm
00:21:52.000 doing, to
00:21:52.380 make sure I'm
00:21:52.760 doing what I
00:21:53.820 want to be
00:21:54.140 doing.
00:21:55.160 And I'm
00:21:56.240 replaying it, and
00:21:56.960 I realized that
00:21:57.600 I went in this
00:21:58.460 extended discussion
00:22:00.240 of Iraq, but I
00:22:04.360 kept referring to
00:22:05.200 it as Iran.
00:22:06.660 And when I
00:22:07.140 watched it, I
00:22:07.620 was like, oh, I
00:22:09.380 can't believe I
00:22:10.140 had this extended
00:22:10.920 discussion of the
00:22:11.940 wrong country, just
00:22:12.880 because my
00:22:13.540 mind mixed up
00:22:14.780 the words.
00:22:15.960 My first
00:22:16.500 thought was just
00:22:18.100 sort of a flash
00:22:19.260 of anger.
00:22:20.380 I was just mad
00:22:21.080 that it happened,
00:22:21.980 so sort of mad
00:22:22.620 at myself.
00:22:23.720 But I never
00:22:24.520 once felt
00:22:26.560 embarrassed, not
00:22:28.260 even a little.
00:22:29.140 And it takes a
00:22:29.720 lot of practice
00:22:30.320 to get there.
00:22:31.560 So I recommend
00:22:33.020 putting yourself in
00:22:34.320 situations, maybe
00:22:35.440 join Toastmasters
00:22:36.700 where you have to
00:22:37.340 talk in front of
00:22:38.000 people, do
00:22:39.040 something that's
00:22:39.680 outside of your
00:22:40.200 comfort zone, just
00:22:41.440 embarrass yourself.
00:22:42.880 And then find
00:22:43.600 out, just track
00:22:44.740 it, wake up the
00:22:45.740 next day, hey, food
00:22:48.280 tastes the same, they
00:22:49.620 have the same
00:22:50.080 friends, nothing
00:22:51.680 really changed.
00:22:52.860 So the
00:22:53.500 embarrassment
00:22:53.960 filter is a
00:22:55.260 good one.
00:22:55.660 Just practice
00:22:56.280 embarrassing yourself
00:22:57.620 until it just
00:22:58.320 doesn't feel like
00:22:59.780 painful anymore.
00:23:00.940 It's very doable.
00:23:03.740 Here's another
00:23:04.500 filter that's more
00:23:05.300 similar to the
00:23:09.160 one that I talked
00:23:09.820 about in my prior
00:23:11.140 Periscope.
00:23:12.880 Every now and
00:23:13.880 then, I like to
00:23:15.120 imagine that I'm
00:23:15.980 in a video game.
00:23:17.140 That's very much
00:23:17.800 what I was telling
00:23:18.500 you to visualize.
00:23:19.780 Visualize that
00:23:20.440 you're sort of in
00:23:21.340 a virtual reality
00:23:23.360 rendered environment.
00:23:25.640 What that does is
00:23:26.400 it puts you in the
00:23:27.140 moment because you're
00:23:28.280 forced to think
00:23:29.660 about your
00:23:30.100 immediate situation
00:23:31.380 because you're
00:23:32.300 imagining it
00:23:33.180 rendered.
00:23:34.260 And that takes
00:23:34.740 your ego out of
00:23:35.900 things because you're
00:23:36.880 not focusing on
00:23:38.180 yourself and your
00:23:38.880 needs for a while.
00:23:40.220 So it helped a lot
00:23:40.940 of people relax.
00:23:42.000 But here's another
00:23:42.640 way I think of it.
00:23:45.440 There are days
00:23:46.300 when I say to
00:23:46.860 myself, today was
00:23:48.320 just like a video
00:23:49.220 game.
00:23:50.200 And I feel like I
00:23:51.640 captured a
00:23:53.120 resource or I
00:23:54.340 learned something
00:23:55.060 that allowed me to
00:23:56.000 go up to the next
00:23:56.860 level of the game.
00:23:58.840 And here are a few
00:23:59.760 levels which I
00:24:00.820 would like to
00:24:01.780 suggest that some
00:24:03.220 of you have already
00:24:03.880 passed through.
00:24:05.800 One of those
00:24:06.560 levels toward the
00:24:07.320 bottom is
00:24:07.920 understanding that
00:24:08.860 people are
00:24:09.460 fundamentally
00:24:10.180 irrational.
00:24:11.860 Now I wrote my
00:24:12.560 book, Win Bigley,
00:24:13.540 to reinforce that
00:24:14.720 idea.
00:24:15.520 If you are going
00:24:16.360 through life thinking
00:24:17.260 that other people
00:24:18.140 are rational, you
00:24:20.100 will be frustrated
00:24:21.060 and unhappy every
00:24:22.340 day because people
00:24:23.680 are not rational.
00:24:24.880 And if you try to
00:24:25.600 imagine that they
00:24:26.380 are, your
00:24:27.680 understanding of
00:24:28.720 what should happen
00:24:29.400 next won't match
00:24:30.960 what happens next
00:24:32.000 because you'll say,
00:24:33.420 well, here are my
00:24:34.040 ten good reasons
00:24:34.840 why you should
00:24:35.340 agree with me.
00:24:36.700 And then you
00:24:37.660 think, well, now
00:24:38.680 you'll agree with
00:24:39.260 me.
00:24:40.120 But then you
00:24:40.940 don't because we're
00:24:42.360 irrational.
00:24:43.640 So expecting
00:24:44.560 people to act
00:24:45.520 rationally is a
00:24:47.120 formula for stress
00:24:48.240 and anxiety.
00:24:49.780 So the first time
00:24:51.140 that you move up a
00:24:51.940 level in this,
00:24:52.920 let's call it the
00:24:54.000 video game of life,
00:24:55.460 you can't move up a
00:24:56.660 level until you get
00:24:57.860 that.
00:24:58.720 And you really have
00:24:59.580 to get it.
00:25:00.420 And I don't mean
00:25:01.120 saying that sometimes
00:25:02.120 other people are
00:25:03.220 irrational.
00:25:04.380 I mean that it's
00:25:05.260 the base code of
00:25:06.620 our existence.
00:25:07.860 It's our operating
00:25:08.840 system.
00:25:09.960 We operate on
00:25:10.760 confirmation bias
00:25:11.740 and a subjective
00:25:13.600 kind of reality.
00:25:15.860 Which leads me to
00:25:16.880 the next level.
00:25:18.040 It's one thing to
00:25:18.820 say that people are
00:25:19.620 irrational, but it's
00:25:21.400 next level in terms
00:25:23.260 of a video game.
00:25:24.180 It's next level
00:25:24.860 thinking to say
00:25:26.440 that maybe our
00:25:27.860 entire reality is
00:25:29.180 subjective.
00:25:30.120 Which doesn't mean
00:25:31.160 there isn't something
00:25:32.000 real, but
00:25:33.840 understanding that
00:25:34.820 our human evolution
00:25:36.340 was never directed
00:25:38.660 at giving us
00:25:39.540 understanding of
00:25:40.380 reality.
00:25:41.260 We did not
00:25:42.280 evolve, or at least
00:25:43.660 there's no reason
00:25:44.280 to believe we
00:25:44.980 evolved, to
00:25:46.180 understand the
00:25:47.040 nature of reality.
00:25:48.760 It wasn't
00:25:49.220 important.
00:25:50.480 A clam can
00:25:52.020 reproduce without
00:25:53.100 understanding reality.
00:25:54.960 A cat can
00:25:56.200 reproduce without
00:25:57.120 understanding nearly
00:25:58.140 as much as we
00:25:58.860 understand.
00:25:59.980 Understanding reality
00:26:01.300 and really
00:26:02.040 understanding it.
00:26:03.760 Completely
00:26:04.320 optional, and
00:26:05.940 maybe even
00:26:06.520 unproductive, for
00:26:08.580 evolution.
00:26:09.540 We did not
00:26:10.120 evolve with that
00:26:10.840 capability.
00:26:11.900 Indeed, you can
00:26:12.540 see that we don't
00:26:13.140 have it.
00:26:13.560 Just observe how
00:26:15.020 people act.
00:26:16.660 Once you realize
00:26:18.000 that we're all in a
00:26:18.980 different movie, that
00:26:20.360 we're looking at the
00:26:21.140 same document and
00:26:22.180 seeing a different
00:26:22.760 reality, you've got a
00:26:24.340 different religion than
00:26:25.640 somebody else, once
00:26:27.220 you understand how
00:26:28.520 subjective our
00:26:29.880 experience is, you
00:26:32.620 move up to the
00:26:33.280 next level.
00:26:34.960 So the first
00:26:35.920 level is
00:26:36.820 understanding that
00:26:37.560 people are
00:26:38.260 fundamentally
00:26:38.880 irrational, and
00:26:40.360 the level after
00:26:41.000 that is that
00:26:42.300 that irrationality is
00:26:44.100 related to the
00:26:44.800 fact that we're
00:26:45.820 not even seeing
00:26:46.560 the same world.
00:26:48.120 We exist in it, and
00:26:49.300 we interact, but we
00:26:50.220 keep getting confused
00:26:51.240 and tense in our
00:26:52.640 interactions because we
00:26:53.640 don't understand why
00:26:54.420 you're not seeing
00:26:55.020 what I'm seeing.
00:26:56.280 And the reason is
00:26:57.120 different realities.
00:26:58.520 And then here's
00:27:01.400 the next level
00:27:02.820 above that, because
00:27:04.280 I believe a lot of
00:27:05.020 you have already
00:27:05.560 passed through those
00:27:06.360 two levels.
00:27:07.660 The level above that
00:27:09.080 is to understand that
00:27:10.400 your brain is
00:27:11.740 programmable, and
00:27:13.860 not just a little
00:27:14.620 bit.
00:27:15.060 You all know that
00:27:15.820 you can learn
00:27:16.440 something, and
00:27:17.220 that's, in a sense,
00:27:18.200 that's programming
00:27:18.860 your brain, but
00:27:20.160 it's much deeper
00:27:20.820 than that.
00:27:21.840 You can fundamentally
00:27:23.200 change your
00:27:24.280 preferences.
00:27:26.040 Yes, you can
00:27:26.980 change your
00:27:28.120 preferences.
00:27:29.320 I have
00:27:29.880 experimented with
00:27:30.720 this over the
00:27:31.240 years.
00:27:31.540 I'm not going to
00:27:31.940 give you examples
00:27:32.540 because I don't
00:27:33.060 want to get into
00:27:33.460 the details, but I
00:27:34.880 have actually
00:27:35.860 experimented trying
00:27:37.620 to like something I
00:27:38.760 didn't like and to
00:27:40.880 see if I could do
00:27:41.600 it until I loved it.
00:27:44.540 And I've also
00:27:45.300 experimented taking
00:27:46.460 something I loved,
00:27:47.880 let's say eating
00:27:48.860 Snickers candy bars,
00:27:51.460 and turning it into
00:27:52.640 something I didn't
00:27:53.420 like, and I can
00:27:54.980 succeed.
00:27:55.540 It's completely
00:27:57.620 doable.
00:27:58.620 You can rewire your
00:28:00.460 preferences.
00:28:02.140 Now, you have to
00:28:02.960 understand that.
00:28:03.960 If you think the
00:28:04.860 only thing you can
00:28:05.500 do is add memories,
00:28:07.440 or maybe you can
00:28:08.320 add a little skill,
00:28:10.020 you don't get to go
00:28:11.260 to the next level.
00:28:12.580 You have to
00:28:13.280 understand that you
00:28:13.980 can change your
00:28:14.920 basic personality if
00:28:17.380 you know how to do
00:28:18.160 it.
00:28:19.360 That's the highest
00:28:20.220 level.
00:28:21.580 I've done it a
00:28:22.540 whole number of
00:28:23.080 times.
00:28:23.500 I've watched other
00:28:24.060 people do it.
00:28:26.860 So, and it takes a
00:28:28.820 little trial and
00:28:29.660 error to do it.
00:28:31.220 But what we're
00:28:31.820 talking about today is
00:28:32.960 exactly that.
00:28:33.860 It's reprogramming
00:28:34.780 your brain.
00:28:35.920 Let me give you my
00:28:36.840 favorite example of
00:28:37.880 programming a brain.
00:28:39.960 I've been watching
00:28:40.940 Christina, my
00:28:42.140 fiancé,
00:28:44.580 learn, well, not
00:28:45.980 learning, but
00:28:46.580 recovering her
00:28:49.380 piano skills from
00:28:50.780 when she was
00:28:51.220 younger.
00:28:51.560 She took piano
00:28:52.160 lessons when she
00:28:52.860 was younger.
00:28:54.080 And I've watched
00:28:54.820 her recently go
00:28:55.640 from somebody who
00:28:57.340 had some basic
00:28:58.920 piano skills and
00:29:00.080 knew how to play
00:29:00.800 the piano, better
00:29:01.980 than most people,
00:29:02.820 but just sort of a
00:29:04.080 good piano player,
00:29:06.860 to the last two
00:29:08.140 weeks, she learned
00:29:09.220 one of the most
00:29:09.740 complicated Chopin,
00:29:13.340 what would you
00:29:15.440 call it?
00:29:15.840 pieces that you've
00:29:18.580 ever heard in your
00:29:19.240 life.
00:29:19.940 And if you don't
00:29:20.640 play the piano,
00:29:21.420 Chopin apparently is
00:29:22.760 extra hard.
00:29:24.280 Extra hard in terms
00:29:25.460 of where your
00:29:25.960 fingers go at what
00:29:26.920 time is just really
00:29:28.340 hard.
00:29:29.180 If you hear somebody
00:29:30.220 playing the piano on
00:29:31.320 say a rock song,
00:29:33.020 they're doing
00:29:33.460 something called an
00:29:34.560 accompaniment.
00:29:35.440 By the way, I just
00:29:36.060 learned this.
00:29:37.140 So if somebody is
00:29:38.340 playing an
00:29:38.980 accompaniment with
00:29:40.400 other instruments and
00:29:41.500 a singer in a band,
00:29:43.240 that's relatively easy
00:29:44.800 piano playing.
00:29:45.540 because that's
00:29:46.120 sort of bing-ba-ding-ding-ding, 0.93
00:29:48.200 bing-ba-ding-ding-ding, 1.00
00:29:49.460 you know, somewhat
00:29:50.380 simple patterns.
00:29:51.700 That's all you need to
00:29:52.800 accompany a band.
00:29:54.060 If you're a solo
00:29:55.420 artist and you're
00:29:56.760 playing Chopin, both
00:29:58.600 of your hands are
00:29:59.340 operating completely
00:30:00.380 independently, each of
00:30:02.220 your fingers is
00:30:03.240 operating independently,
00:30:04.740 and you're putting
00:30:05.560 together hundreds,
00:30:08.720 thousands, I don't
00:30:09.720 know how many notes
00:30:10.380 there are in a Chopin
00:30:12.580 piece, thousands, but
00:30:16.100 at least as many
00:30:16.940 hundreds, right?
00:30:18.360 And I'm walking by,
00:30:20.580 you know, and I'm
00:30:21.220 hearing her practice,
00:30:22.580 and just in the last
00:30:23.800 few weeks, she got to
00:30:25.280 the point where she's 0.99
00:30:26.460 memorized the entire
00:30:27.520 piece, and now she's 1.00
00:30:28.440 just, you know, honing
00:30:29.820 it.
00:30:30.020 And I think to
00:30:32.080 myself, what the
00:30:34.120 heck happened inside
00:30:35.520 her actual physical
00:30:36.920 brain?
00:30:38.120 She rewired her brain 0.93
00:30:40.140 in two weeks.
00:30:41.560 I mean, a pretty
00:30:42.820 substantial rewiring,
00:30:44.980 because none of the
00:30:46.160 skills that she is
00:30:47.540 demonstrating at a
00:30:49.600 near virtuoso level
00:30:51.140 didn't exist two weeks
00:30:53.460 ago.
00:30:54.580 Yeah, it's all, we
00:30:56.080 call it muscle memory,
00:30:57.160 but of course it's in
00:30:58.360 the brain, it's not in
00:30:59.340 your muscles.
00:31:00.020 Um, and so when you
00:31:02.800 see people fundamentally
00:31:04.700 rewiring, I mean,
00:31:06.500 something insanely
00:31:08.120 impressive, in two
00:31:10.140 weeks, you know, she
00:31:12.300 practiced a lot, but
00:31:13.220 it's just two weeks,
00:31:15.160 you start to realize
00:31:16.800 how programmable your
00:31:18.460 brain is.
00:31:19.580 So everybody who's
00:31:20.580 got a loop in their
00:31:23.260 brain that's not
00:31:24.560 working, you might be
00:31:26.180 able to reprogram that,
00:31:27.320 and I have lots of
00:31:28.120 experience of doing it
00:31:29.200 myself.
00:31:29.980 Now let me give you a
00:31:31.340 fun analogy.
00:31:33.920 If you're a computer
00:31:35.060 programmer, do you
00:31:36.500 ever write programming
00:31:38.420 code for a computer in
00:31:40.060 zeros and ones?
00:31:41.560 Do you sit down and
00:31:42.400 say, all right, I'm
00:31:43.480 going to write a
00:31:43.940 program, zero, zero,
00:31:45.580 zero, zero, one,
00:31:46.780 one, one, one, zero,
00:31:47.820 zero, zero, zero,
00:31:48.220 and then one, one, one,
00:31:49.640 one, one, zero, zero?
00:31:50.780 Well, no, you don't.
00:31:53.380 Now, there may be special
00:31:54.660 cases where somebody's
00:31:56.520 doing some deep
00:31:57.160 engineering and they are
00:31:58.420 actually looking at the
00:31:59.280 zeros and ones, but that's
00:32:00.800 not typically the way you
00:32:01.940 write a program.
00:32:03.360 The way you write a
00:32:04.360 program is with something
00:32:05.700 that's analogous to, but
00:32:07.920 different from a language,
00:32:10.020 like an English language or
00:32:11.560 a French or Spanish or
00:32:13.880 whatever, you have words
00:32:16.000 with letters, and you use
00:32:18.700 some numbers too, but
00:32:19.680 brackets and words, and
00:32:21.740 they stand for something
00:32:22.800 that the computer
00:32:24.800 translates into zeros and
00:32:26.400 ones.
00:32:27.480 Here's my analogy.
00:32:30.120 When you hear language or
00:32:33.840 you have experiences, the
00:32:36.580 language and the
00:32:37.480 experiences of just
00:32:38.420 hearing things in the
00:32:39.860 spoken word is being
00:32:42.020 translated into your brain
00:32:43.560 into the equivalent of
00:32:45.260 zeros and ones.
00:32:46.260 Now, your brain doesn't
00:32:47.120 work on zeros and ones.
00:32:48.520 It works on, you know,
00:32:50.000 connections that get
00:32:51.060 strengthened and built and
00:32:52.820 some are emphasized and
00:32:55.220 de-emphasized and stuff.
00:32:57.080 But the point is that
00:32:59.260 when the programmer is
00:33:01.120 writing the program, they
00:33:02.260 don't see the zeros and
00:33:03.660 ones.
00:33:04.080 They don't know exactly what
00:33:05.360 the zeros and ones are
00:33:06.340 doing.
00:33:06.640 They just know what the
00:33:07.360 outcome will be.
00:33:09.380 When a hypnotist or
00:33:11.200 somebody doing what I'm
00:33:12.800 doing, taking you
00:33:13.520 through a guided
00:33:14.040 visualization, I'm having
00:33:15.860 you imagine something that
00:33:17.140 you're imagining in
00:33:18.480 pictures and you're
00:33:20.240 hearing in words.
00:33:22.360 But these are symbolic
00:33:23.940 tools that are actually
00:33:26.340 rewiring your brain.
00:33:28.500 So when you hear me just
00:33:30.160 talking and you say, how
00:33:33.180 can you rewire my brain just
00:33:35.240 by talking?
00:33:37.180 Well, the answer is it's the
00:33:38.680 same way a programmer can
00:33:40.380 program a computer without
00:33:42.360 knowing what zeros and ones
00:33:43.780 are happening.
00:33:45.060 I don't know which
00:33:46.080 neurons are firing.
00:33:47.900 I don't know which
00:33:48.460 connections are being made.
00:33:50.080 But through trial and
00:33:51.120 error and experience, I can
00:33:53.980 make general assumptions
00:33:55.440 that effectively become the
00:33:57.660 user interface for your
00:33:58.720 brain.
00:33:59.980 So, find the user interface
00:34:02.820 for your brain.
00:34:04.060 brain, you're getting
00:34:05.900 close.
00:34:07.080 You've gone up two
00:34:08.080 levels.
00:34:09.480 You're on the cusp, maybe
00:34:11.420 some of you are there, of
00:34:13.060 reaching the next level in
00:34:14.680 the game where you can
00:34:15.920 intentionally reprogram your
00:34:20.160 own brain.
00:34:22.080 And then level after that is
00:34:23.880 you can reprogram other
00:34:25.120 people's brains.
00:34:25.760 So, check out the
00:34:27.560 anxiety, let me ask you
00:34:29.660 here, how many people on
00:34:31.080 here experienced the
00:34:34.380 anxiety exercise, the
00:34:36.720 anti-anxiety exercise I
00:34:38.540 did, and tell me what
00:34:39.900 experience you had.
00:34:41.740 How many of you experienced
00:34:43.940 something like a reduction
00:34:45.520 of anxiety?
00:34:48.300 It's going to take a while
00:34:49.420 for the comments to catch
00:34:50.660 up.
00:34:51.740 So, I'll stall until,
00:34:55.120 all right, so I'll read you
00:34:56.080 the comments as they come
00:34:57.000 in.
00:34:57.560 It helped me, nothing but I
00:34:59.980 tried, made me feel sad.
00:35:01.940 Remember I said everybody
00:35:02.840 will have a different
00:35:03.460 experience.
00:35:04.520 There's a yes, a yes, I
00:35:06.020 did, I tried it, nothing
00:35:07.160 happened, and a body
00:35:08.500 experience.
00:35:09.740 Some people will have
00:35:10.560 that.
00:35:11.520 No change, no change.
00:35:13.940 Somebody said, freed my
00:35:15.080 brain, thumbs up.
00:35:17.320 Yep, I did.
00:35:19.380 Me, totally relaxed.
00:35:21.180 No, yes, yes, it
00:35:22.860 helped.
00:35:23.860 Somebody said it didn't
00:35:24.800 help.
00:35:25.360 Yes, no.
00:35:27.220 Yeah, on YouTube is where
00:35:28.440 you'll find the stored
00:35:30.400 thing.
00:35:31.840 A calming, I definitely
00:35:32.880 did, I felt like it, I
00:35:34.640 felt like it was being in
00:35:35.700 denial.
00:35:36.580 It was very unusual.
00:35:38.480 It reframed things,
00:35:39.700 definite reduction, good,
00:35:41.760 good reminder, no change,
00:35:44.100 definitely relief, me, no,
00:35:45.800 husband, yes, felt like
00:35:47.880 floating, et cetera.
00:35:48.860 All right, here's, remember
00:35:52.220 what I told you, actually
00:35:54.140 this is actually more of a
00:35:55.420 response than I was
00:35:56.140 actually expecting, but
00:35:58.080 remember that this is
00:35:59.860 cumulative.
00:36:01.460 So in the example of, there
00:36:02.860 was a, there was a
00:36:03.640 husband-wife where I think
00:36:06.540 the husband felt something
00:36:07.620 and the wife didn't. 1.00
00:36:08.780 Remember, you're all at a
00:36:09.800 different starting place.
00:36:11.660 It could be that the
00:36:12.780 people who found, who
00:36:13.920 felt something profound
00:36:15.280 were right at the cusp of
00:36:18.200 moving up to the next
00:36:19.080 level and just easily
00:36:20.100 moved to the next level.
00:36:22.420 Could be that some of you
00:36:24.580 need a little more
00:36:25.960 understanding of frames.
00:36:28.260 And that's what I did for
00:36:29.240 you today.
00:36:30.100 So you'll find that this
00:36:31.900 needs to be reinforced.
00:36:33.800 But the more I reinforce it
00:36:35.740 for you, the closer you're
00:36:37.300 going to get to feeling
00:36:38.740 something like that.
00:36:40.280 But of course, everybody's
00:36:41.380 different.
00:36:41.600 We should not expect that
00:36:42.840 any solution, medical or
00:36:45.320 physical or otherwise,
00:36:46.480 will work the same way for
00:36:47.600 other people.
00:36:50.700 All right.
00:36:51.120 And here, and let me do it
00:36:52.880 for you again right now.
00:36:55.200 Find a place on your
00:36:56.600 floor, wherever you are.
00:36:59.580 Look at the floor and
00:37:00.980 wherever the floor is the
00:37:02.480 largest area.
00:37:04.020 Now, it doesn't have to be,
00:37:05.280 you know, you don't have to
00:37:06.140 get it right.
00:37:07.160 But just look at what it
00:37:08.340 looks to you, in your
00:37:09.700 opinion, like the largest
00:37:10.820 floor area you can see.
00:37:13.400 And now imagine, using
00:37:15.460 yesterday's technique, that
00:37:17.560 it's rendered.
00:37:19.400 It's not real.
00:37:21.180 You're in a video game.
00:37:23.020 You're at a level.
00:37:24.540 And everything here is
00:37:27.300 artificial.
00:37:29.860 Just think about that
00:37:30.980 today.
00:37:31.480 I'll let you do that on
00:37:32.780 your own.
00:37:33.960 And when you feel in the
00:37:36.260 moment, because this
00:37:37.860 exercise will just bring you
00:37:39.160 to the moment, you'll feel
00:37:40.360 your environment moving
00:37:42.640 in between being what you
00:37:44.240 thought was real and what
00:37:45.800 you can easily imagine is
00:37:47.060 not.
00:37:48.120 And that will keep you in
00:37:49.260 the moment.
00:37:49.920 It will reduce the effect
00:37:51.440 of your ego tapping on
00:37:52.980 your shoulder.
00:37:53.820 And it will calm you.
00:37:55.320 The more you exercise your
00:37:58.120 ability to calm yourself,
00:37:59.980 the better you'll be.
00:38:01.100 And that's all for today.
00:38:04.340 you'll become more
00:38:09.320 Owler in New Zealand Mhm DJ.
00:38:10.960 Fantastic fan.
00:38:11.780 Beautiful.
00:38:12.780 Cheers.
00:38:13.100 Cheers.
00:38:13.540 Cheers.
00:38:13.880 Cheers.
00:38:14.360 Cheers.
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00:38:15.280 Cheers.
00:38:15.440 Cheers.
00:38:24.680 Cheers.
00:38:24.720 Cheers.
00:38:24.840 Cheers.
00:38:25.300 Yeah.
00:38:25.440 Cheers.
00:38:25.700 Cheers.
00:38:25.820 Cheers.
00:38:25.840 Cheers.
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00:38:26.300 Cheers.
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