Miss Understood No. 15 — Stop Dragging Kids Into This
Summary
In this week's episode, we discuss the new trend that is Drag Kids, y'all! We discuss whether or not kids should be allowed to dress up and play me too as kids, the new show Generation Drag, and why we think it's a bad idea.
Transcript
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and welcome to misunderstood the show for the misunderstood lady or gent we are your hosts
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i'm nat and i'm kat today we're going to talk about the new trend that is drag kids y'all eating
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disorders and body image but first it's time for our patented culture shock moment of the week
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let's take it away nat yeah so discovery plus they just announced a new show called generation drag
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which follows five teen queens sorry five teen drag queens to document their drag journey as they
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quote find their identities so we're just gonna play you a little clip from that to start things
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off and just get things real nice and disturbing welcome to the pink palace my lovely friend
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i first discovered drag at 13. i didn't know what it was but i knew i wanted it put on the wig and the
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makeup and i'm someone completely different i'm so pretty my drag name is vanessa shimmer and she is
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just a force you cannot reckon with how do i parent a child that wants to do drag i never expected drag
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to be a part of our lives oh my god these are so cute these are problems i never thought i had to
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prepare for what i love about drag is the glitz and the glam my name is noah and i'm transgender
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have you talked to mom and dad about the pictures what do you think of taking those photos down
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the constant reminder that they had to pretend i was a boy do you think a mom would ever want to watch
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do drag how do i explain this to my child that she doesn't fully accept nabella making friends has
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been a hard thing for me to do when i'm becoming nemo whoa become more confident let me make sure you
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are appropriately fluffed this transition has been difficult for them but they try and that's all you
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can ask for it's important for kids to understand that they're not alone so my mom started draguton kids
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and their families are coming from all over the country where we get to be our true self oh god
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this is happening this is a place of love and support because we need that in this world
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this is me and you better like it so critics feel the show is grooming kids um can see it yeah and
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howard lee the president of tlc streaming and network originals touted the teenage drag stars commitments
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to being true to themselves and recognizing the importance of living authentically yeah because
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kids kids can authentic authentically be themselves pre-puberty right yeah i mean well kids are like
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being a child and authentic is almost synonymous unless you have something like like you don't know
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who you are going to be when you grow up like you said like before puberty but you're at least like
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being a child should be about being authentic all the time and just like living and like when i was a
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a kid i would just like jump in the lake with my shoes on like yeah you don't think about like
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you're free spirited exactly so yeah while i like and i'm gonna say the same thing throughout this
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entire episode i think kids should be allowed to dress up and play me too exploration of course
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but adults um using that to profit and posting it on the internet and posting it on television
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is disgusting i think yeah like these parents are literally exploiting their kids and it's like okay
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if your child wants to express themselves in a certain way i mean i'm all for it but like let
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your kid audition for theater musical theater i don't know you know join the arts do dance or
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something you don't need to dress up with a lot of makeup in dresses to make yourself i don't i don't
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know i just it doesn't really it doesn't make sense for me like i think that there are so many other
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options for you as a child as a parent yeah especially because drag again like i'm going to say this
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probably a couple times but drag is for adults and it's mostly adults who do it it's mostly adult
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gay men who do it so like why would you put your child in a situation where there's like basically
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no other children and they have to grow up so much faster and they're not going to have any peers
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they're just going to be hanging out with a bunch of adults who are not their parents right and i mean
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as you said it's all right if you're a consenting adult and you want to do if you want to dress up like
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a woman whatever man like live your life but this show is kind of normalizing gender bending to me
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like it's not healthy for a child who doesn't fully understand their own you know gender yet
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or sex or other people's sex and gender yet to be exploring these things but because when you're a
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kid like you're supposed to just be exploring yourself you know and discovering the world oh
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that's a boy that's a girl like throwing this confusion into the mix is pure evil i think like
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i really think it's evil yeah and profiting off of it yeah like why does tyra banks need to make more
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money from television doesn't she have enough going on yeah and why like just go back to america's
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next top model or something you know but she'll probably be like okay and i'll do it with children
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it's like just leave kids out of media exactly like it we know what being in the limelight does
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to children we know from and we'll talk about that more yeah like child actors and child stars yeah it's
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a it's a problem it creates mental health issues except for that one that we talked about who was in
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disney who's like grew up to be pretty normal but he was like the guy who was on disney and he was
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like all the my female coal stars oh yeah coal sprouts yeah so like he was probably the exception
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where he's like he seems okay maybe yeah all the other ones are messed up yeah great throw your kid
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into that dragon's den or whatever lion's den yeah no absolutely um so there's been obviously some
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backlash um and i think it's warranted uh frankly and there's there's another article that i think we
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should pull up uh that's called letting an eight-year-old be a drag queen isn't progressive
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it's child abuse so this i think a lot of you probably are aware of desmond is amazing or desi
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i hadn't heard of this person okay yeah so they went viral a few years ago and we'll kind of get
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more into who this child is um but this article was written a few years ago about this person and one
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other drag kid so um this is just a quote from it that i'd like to read if that's okay um so what
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concerned onlookers likely mean is that children who are encouraged to embrace their opposite gender
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or who are encouraged to dress in drag when they are not sexually developed or even coherent about
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sexuality may grow up to be profoundly confused about their sexuality and gender um yeah so i think
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that's i really think that basically sums up my thoughts on this entire segment frankly like i just
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think it's you're it's wrong to confuse kids yeah before they have any understanding of the world yeah
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and i also think and we've touched on like pageant moms before but like gay or straight trans or not
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putting a kid in a bunch of makeup and propping them up and taking sultry photos of them yeah making
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them more mature yeah so people could be like oh well why don't you criticize pageant moms we do yeah
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we literally do it's like it's weird adults who want to live vicariously through their children
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because they weren't successful or beautiful or whatever yeah and you see it even without pageant you see
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it with dance moms you see it with hockey dads and using your child to live vicariously to have
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success that you didn't have in your own life is messed up on its own yeah but but this is like so
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sexual it's it drag is a sexual art form in it in of itself yeah so putting a child in that is just
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super messed up and like like the drag queen who was like yes queen it's like why don't you just find
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another person to prop up instead of a child like pick any others there's 18 year olds and up who
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want to be drag queens who want to be the face of your new line or whatever like go for it use them
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why do you have to use the kid because you know it's controversial well especially because like kids
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can't consent to this stuff they really can't because if the child is too young to have sex they're
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too young to partake in things that are sexual or exploitative in any way um and i think another
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thing that's really important to note here is that when a kid does something let's say little
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desmond who is so desmond naples known as desmond uh is amazing is one of the kids listed in this
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article and they began dressing in women's clothes at two according to metro and one of the things
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desmond says is i always get a positive reaction people will clap and will be smiling when i'm done
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i also do public speaking to give speeches and i always get a good reaction to that too so the point
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i'm trying to make is when little desi dresses up in girls clothes and mommy goes you look so pretty
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desi that's affirming him and that's what kids they aim to please they aim to please the superiors in
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their life so you are planting a seed that oh i get praise when i do this so i'm going to continue to
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do it and it's grooming it's wrong yeah and the fact that they're like oh adults love it yeah yeah
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creepy adults yeah that like creepy adults also have child pornography on their computers yeah that
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doesn't mean it's a good thing to do and yeah it makes me think like just what about a kid who
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has an affinity for playing with toy guns like well that's who they authentically are let's send them
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to war yeah exactly let's give them a real one yeah like because that's what they're into as a
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five six year old like that's who they are no that's crazy you wouldn't do that and this is this
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could be just as life damaging yeah i i agree and this desmond is amazing has also received a lot of
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the parents have received a lot of backlash because this child is has been seen dancing at literal
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gay nightclubs like who's watching this child it's adult gay men yeah i'm like and this is nothing
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against the gay community but it's creepy for a child to be in that situation or setting it would
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full stop it would be creepy for a little girl to be dancing in an adult nightclub with heterosexual
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people exactly extremely inappropriate and extremely creepy and we would never do that we would never do
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that because some adults like children like we have to protect children even if let's assume there's no
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pedos in the audience which you can't you can't assume yeah it's still not good for the kid to be
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indoctrinated into that like limelight hollywood-esque world where you know to talk to the next article
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that we're going to talk about maybe it's not the next one but one of these is about um uh eating
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disorders anorexia and bulimia which affects gay men and women more than the average population so it's
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like so you're just gonna put your kid in that world and give them body dysmorphia if not full-blown
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gender dysmorph or gender dysphoria yeah absolutely no that's a great point also like
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how many drag kids are there in this world in the world this seems like a very isolating thing for a
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child to be subjected to like so now your kid's gonna grow up being this weirdo who does drag
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surrounded by a bunch of gay men their whole life without any real friends like that's not
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that's not productive for them they need to be around kids their own age being weirdos like
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i don't i just don't get why in 2022 like this is where where it is for children like this is
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what's considered allegedly normal by our society like kids should just be getting dirty and like
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playing in the whatever yeah yeah like yeah oh yeah but you know what i mean like they should just be
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kids like and we need to preserve their innocence and i just think parents have just really screwed up
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yeah well remember a couple weeks ago we were talking about how when you erase the definition of a
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woman it it hurts women and then you mentioned like what happens if you erase the definition of
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a child yeah it's like this is sort of that slippery slope thank goodness they're still throwing drag kid
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on it sure like when is that line going to be blurred yeah they're already dancing in nightclubs it's like
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yeah it's not good it ain't good yeah and i i think too like it's one thing to let your kid
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play dress up and put on nail polish but it's a whole new thing to affirm a biological male child
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that like that they look pretty like it's just it's not right when they are in women's clothes
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or girls or post it online because these kids are so young yeah and they can't have social media
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accounts of their own yeah obviously adults who are posting for them who are like it maybe it's
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parents maybe it's not maybe it's older friends but like a child can't consent to their photo being
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shared like that exactly you know and it's exactly i just think it's really sick and i mean walt hire is
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someone who is who was a trans woman who detransitioned and this is what happened to him as a
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kid his grandma would dress him up in girls dresses affirm him and then he grew up with all this confusion
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and gender dysphoria and then he transitioned and detransitioned and you can learn more about him at
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sexchangeregret.com but like this is what happens this is how you groom kids and it's i don't know how
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many times i can say this but it's so evil it's just so belligerent and disgusting and like
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demonic even like let's just preserve their innocence let's just preserve their innocence
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yeah well like you just said you a kid can't consent to sex and like the example i used about
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war a kid can't consent to going to war they're not allowed to vote they're not allowed to get
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piercings like but this is okay yeah this is fine when they're when their soft little sponge brains
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are still developing you're like you're going to affirm them and say oh you're so pretty well what about
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how they look without the makeup on you ever say to to boy desmond desmond you look very good today
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you look handsome you look like a smart young strong boy like maybe they are but like if you
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are giving them way more affirmation when they're in drag than they are regularly maybe that's why
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they want to get in drag in the first place because a lot of drag queens come like i love watching
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rupaul's drag race like i'm probably well i don't think i'm the only one at rebel but i might be
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one of two so you know for someone on the conservative side it's like not the most common um
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um interest i've been to drag shows really surprisingly okay so i love drag it for me
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brought me out of uh a time where i was very depressed and i didn't feel beautiful and i was
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like if these men can cinch their weights and put on all this makeup and feel confident and beautiful
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why can't i yeah on a daily basis so for me it was extremely uplifting and i really it makes me laugh
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but it's dirty it's super dirty raunchy it's raunchy sometimes i'm like oh man yeah because
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it's adult content yeah and that's what it needs to remain okay yeah yeah yeah i forget what my point
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was but it's raunchy it's for adults and having children watching this like you know the article
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about um about desmond he mentions that um what got him into it was that his mom was watching rupaul's
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drag race and he was playing and he dropped what he was doing to go watch it well what like
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his mom shouldn't have been watching rupaul's drag race but the kid there i agree watch it when he's
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in bed yeah like it's not a normal thing to expose your child to it's it's messed up it is messed up
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yeah and i i just wonder if it's like exploiting your child like this and pushing them into this sort
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of i guess identity class or group of people is it going to confuse their gender identity when they're
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that young and they're exposed to this and maybe this is part of the big agenda to just confuse the
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hell out of kids but like i don't know like we've seen the stats like most kids who identify as trans
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when they're younger de-transition or change their mind or grow out of their gender dysphoria so i don't
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know maybe we should talk about this next yeah well i remember my point really quickly it's that a lot
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of the contestants on rupaul's drag race like a majority of them had terrible childhoods not all
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right and as as the seasons progress you see more and more people with supportive families but a lot
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of them have emotional issues stemmed from terrible parents who didn't um love them for who they were
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so having a kid that that who's that young who's already feeling like they need to put on all this
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makeup and yeah this glossy exterior it's like so what how are you treating your kid they should feel
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loved and beautiful and smart and like my parents when i was a kid they were like you can do anything
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you want maybe too much but like she turned out great yeah too great no but um it's just like your
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kid shouldn't need that facade at that young yeah maybe if they have a terribly troubled childhood and
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maybe that's just gonna be who they are anyways even if they have a super happy family but it's it's
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usually people who don't have that and so they find their family within the drag community so like
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what's what's going on in desmond's house yeah he needs this so young it's sad yeah and i think
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like the mother is seems to be very defensive when anyone calls her out on this maybe being a
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little inappropriate it's like well if you're that defensive there's something sus going on mom
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yeah okay um and we've seen this before too where kids feel you know unsafe in a household or they
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don't feel like they can connect with people so they find these you know forums online we've talked
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about tumblr a lot being very dangerous for young girls and as we've seen these girls and young kids
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are exploited to these ideologies they you know mutilate their body they they take hormones and then
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they grow out of it or change their mind or regret it and i just don't think it's worth the risk
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it's not worth the risk not at that age no your breasts are like as a woman like your breasts are
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developing and you're putting them in binders which i was as i was doing the research for this episode
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i didn't know but it kind of makes sense that like just putting your boobs in a binder very
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unhealthy it's really unhealthy yeah you can constrict your breathing it can it can physically
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damage your skin yeah do all sorts of stuff and it can make your if you want to have a double
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mastectomy in the future um if that's what you choose it can make that procedure not available to
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you as an option for whatever reason i don't know um so it's weird it's weird to put a kid
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in drag and to bind them up and to put fake penises in their little underwear like it's just
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it's all so weird and it's becoming so normal and i don't like it no and i think that it's become this
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way because people conservatives and christians have just been too silent about it we we were too
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silent when things start this the slippery slope we just started going down and we were like oh it's
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gonna be okay i need to be loving and accepting and it's like no we should have stopped it from the
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start and now it's it's it might almost be too late yeah so it's really time for us to like pick
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up this fight because i think the ones that weren't accepting of it were labeled as bigots yeah exactly
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and like you don't want to be a bigot i don't want to be a bigot i certainly don't but it's like okay
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well maybe bigotry is not what it should be called yeah called protecting kids i just don't think that
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that word means anything anymore frankly um yeah let's just maybe quickly touch on this evie article
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um so up to 95 of trans kids outgrow gender dysphoria with no medical intervention oh surprise
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surprise so according to gallup 16 of gen z now identify as lgbt while 9.1 of millennials
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do uh 1.8 of gen z identify as trans which is more than double the combined percentage of gen x boomers
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and traditionalists that identify as trans so there's clearly something in the water folks
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it's called public school no yeah it's called chloride or that yeah um i just think it's
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interesting that like the the crazy increase in people who identify as gay or lesbian or transgender
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has increased so much it's like so either they're actually increasing at a way more than natural
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evolution like he would evolve over millions of years right or thousands oh like it's not it's not
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two yeah it's like a long time so for that for the generational gap between these numbers to go up
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that significantly something's either it's a cultural shift wrong yeah like the water like maybe alex jones
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was right about the frogs or i meant that more figuratively figuratively but maybe it is literally the
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water yeah or they're not yeah we're just we're just pushing this agenda on young children and
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they're like oh that sounds fun like we've talked about this before with um the thing that's called
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the thing yeah cognitive something cognitive development the thing that were you like young girls are um
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they're part of groups and they they cognitive dissonance no well figure it out i'll post an article
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and cut all this out oh like social contagion yes that's the one we nailed it so good yeah nailed it
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um i definitely think it's a it's it's definitely um political agenda cultural agenda to do this to
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our children as we've talked about with crt being in partnership with um queer theory like there's there's
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definitely a clear-cut agenda i just can't see it any other way it's not the way god made us god did
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not make us be gender confused like you know he calls men like he created men and women called it
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good like that is how it's written there's really no argue you can't argue that like if you know unless
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you're not a christian i guess but like i'd say you're wrong yeah so um i also thought that in this
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article they pointed out something very interesting which is like a lot of um kids might be expressing
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feelings of body dysmorphia and then being misdiagnosed as uh gender dysphoric so um the
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difference is gender dysphoria refers to an internal conflict with an individual between the gender
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they identify as and the one that they were given at birth uh their their sex at birth but body dysmorphia
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defines a sense of anxiety around your body or a particular body part wherein the person with the
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condition may believe that some part or all of their body is defective or wrong so right i think
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maybe you agree i have definitely experienced body dysmorphia oh yeah i'm like i think most women
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cores they're so big and then my friend's like what yeah no one sees that but you like when i look at
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you i see a beautiful girl but like sometimes like you know i don't know what you see when you look in
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the mirror maybe an ogre so clearly there's something going on in your brain right so think about how
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probably i would guess i'm just going to make this number up like 90 of women have body dysmorphia oh for
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sure so it's like oh my god like this my eyebrows or whatever it is and you're like all i see is
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someone very beautiful in front of me so it's like so maybe people are getting misdiagnosed and
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they're and they're like oh hey mom i feel wrong inside my body yeah i didn't i don't have big
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boobies but when i was a kid like i loved playing sports and jumping on a trampoline so i can imagine had
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i developed earlier yeah i would have been like i hate this yeah it stops me from playing hockey i can't
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wear the chest guard especially when other classmates are not developing at the same pace
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as you right there's always that one kid that just has that growth spurt and you're like dang susan so
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i can imagine hating my body if that was the case yeah for me and sports and whatever and maybe someone
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would have been like oh you hate your boobies because you're really a boy it's like no because
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i want to play sports and they're annoying but like you grow into it you grow out of that like you figure
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out a right bra for you and you can still like get some support yeah it works no for sure and okay you
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kind of touched on this earlier but do you think that all the people who are like encouraging these
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kids to do drag to mutilate their bodies and encourage them to transition before they are
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you know fully developed do you think it's just that they are projecting their own insecurities
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on these kids like they just want them to be actually miserable and confused because it's just
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such an extremely abusive and manipulative thing for these people to do but and they don't like they
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don't like the teacher that's telling the student to transition does not love that student more than
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their parents no yeah like it's they're just also it's parents who do it too yeah which i think is
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a projection thing like i think as you kind of called out earlier there there must be just this
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weird thing where kids are just like their parents sorry are projecting their insecurities on them
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absolutely you know i see it all the time all the time when your parent gets too angry that you didn't
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win that soccer game or your mom is like you didn't do the right dance or yeah you're not pretty
00:24:02.000
enough yeah or whatever yeah well we know moms can be critical so it's not that they're i don't think
00:24:08.080
that most of these people are necessarily evil or trying to hurt their kids i think that they think
00:24:13.920
that they're trying to make them better and trying to vicariously live through them and that
00:24:17.440
can be just as dangerous yeah like maybe i don't want to be who you want me to be mom but it's like
00:24:21.760
like you said kids love acceptance and they will they will move in the direction of whatever the adults are
00:24:26.480
clapping for yeah absolutely that adults do it too but it's way more dangerous when it's a kid
00:24:31.120
yeah no a thousand percent so i guess this article is based off of a study by the american college of
00:24:38.080
pediatricians and as the headline reads 80 to 95 percent of gender dysphoric children accepted their
00:24:43.840
biological sex by working with a therapist and i just read the conclusion of this study which i think
00:24:48.480
is important if you don't mind me reading so uh the treatment of g gender dysphoria in childhood with
00:24:55.360
hormones effectively amounts to mass experimentation on and sterilization of youth who are cognitively
00:25:01.360
incapable of providing informed consent there is a serious ethical problem with allowing irreversible
00:25:06.800
life-changing procedures to be performed on minors who are too young to give valid consent themselves
00:25:12.400
adolescents cannot understand the magnitude of such decisions so it's funny how like a culture
00:25:17.920
that's so keen on consent and like you know all this doesn't matter if it's a kid let's just experiment
00:25:24.080
on them like it's just it's funny and we talked about this last week even how kids are just
00:25:28.800
unconsenting subjects to this crap and it's not fair it ain't fair it's not and i'm mad about it i'm
00:25:34.960
mad too yeah gosh how i don't know how we're supposed to fix it i think the best way to fix it is to not
00:25:42.640
worry about being labeled a bigot and a turf and keep talking about it yeah go to church bring your kids
00:25:48.400
to church a thousand percent because like the bible says if god is for us who can be against us so even
00:25:53.360
if like you're getting like beaten up on social media you know or whatever people start to abandon
00:25:58.960
you in your life because you're standing up for the truth you can rest assured knowing that you're
00:26:02.800
standing up for the truth and you're right you know yeah that's that that's the only advice i got
00:26:07.920
that's good advice anyway should we should we talk about health yeah i mean it ties into this
00:26:17.760
conversation nicely because a lot of these kids are going to have uh severe health problems physically
00:26:23.680
if not mentally mentally it's not physically so yeah good point messed up so um all right
00:26:30.400
nope okay there we go all right well this article is about sophie turner from game of thrones
00:26:35.920
yes who played lady sansa um she reveals the best advice she received from her companion while
00:26:41.440
in the throes of an eating disorder so she describes her companion as a live-in therapist which she must
00:26:47.440
be nice yeah to afford that right which she needed for several reasons um mostly her eating disorder when
00:26:54.720
she was working on game of thrones because she was 15 when she started that yeah so young but also i i think
00:27:00.480
you may have might have sent me the article she also had um issues from all the con the adult content
00:27:07.440
subject matter that they were filming on game of thrones because her character was particularly abused
00:27:11.840
so she was like she had to um disassociate from the content and as soon as the camera stopped rolling
00:27:18.640
she had to like sing and dance and like play and then she said she's definitely gonna have trauma long term
00:27:22.640
from what she went through yeah filming that as a young child so anyways that's a side note but this is
00:27:27.440
specifically about her eating disorder um it's i'm glad she had help yeah she was there yeah she's
00:27:34.800
lucky that she could have that level of help you know that that is a great privilege but i mean yeah
00:27:39.760
so she i think one of the things that really kind of sprung this on was the fact that she started to
00:27:43.760
get weird comments and criticisms on social media about her appearance and we talk about social media a
00:27:48.880
lot on the show um but it's like it's fair because like grown adults can't even handle those
00:27:53.680
criticisms so how can we expect a teenager in the public eye to to cope with that like it's difficult
00:27:58.800
i mean i have a hard time reading some of your mean comments sometimes no one says anything
00:28:03.280
mean but i mean i don't take it personally because i don't really care like yeah like if you had a
00:28:12.320
profile picture in your on your youtube or whatever chances are you're not more gorgeous than that
00:28:16.720
but um one of the things that her companion told her that sophie says was very helpful for her was
00:28:23.120
that this is a quote from her companion you know no one actually cares i know you think this but
00:28:27.200
nobody else is thinking it you're not that important which is kind of mean it's like you're not that
00:28:30.960
important but it's true it's like that's so true that's what we were saying about body dysmorphia when
00:28:36.000
i look in the mirror and i'm like oh my god like this nostril is bigger than this one or like my ears for
00:28:40.640
instance that i freaking hate they're like they're fine yeah well i don't see it that way but you're like no
00:28:45.680
one cares about you that much that they're like ew her ears are too weird or whatever but it kind
00:28:50.400
of just stems from our culture which is like this self-love thing it's like it just keeps you solely
00:28:55.200
fixated on yourself and it's like it's so self-centered and you know like people are too busy worrying about
00:29:00.480
their own lives to give a crap about your ears or my double chin or whatever you know and i think one
00:29:05.680
of the things that i just thought of about this article is that like in general we just need to
00:29:09.680
normalize like weight fluctuations in teens too because like i've had weight fluctuations like
00:29:15.680
young girls like she was 16 when she started the show of course her body's gonna change like that's
00:29:19.600
normal like it's just normal we need to not like criticize young girls for gaining or losing weight
00:29:25.760
unless it's extreme and they're in danger yeah and then you take them to the hospital like i was
00:29:30.560
straight up ugly in high school me too thank god honestly thank god that plastic surgery no just kidding
00:29:36.720
thank god social media wasn't oh i know it wasn't it wasn't as prevalent when we were growing up
00:29:41.040
i got uh facebook for the first time when i was in grade 12. right oh by then i had already kind of
00:29:46.880
become hot so yeah so i was fine but um these kids are growing up now and they're like going through their
00:29:52.640
awkward teen chubby phase where they get their like i got my eyebrows waxed once and they were like
00:29:57.280
way too thin and it was horrible or pimples like pimples yeah oh my god yeah like awkward bras awkward
00:30:03.760
outfits that you're like oh like i'm dressing like a kid but like i'm a teenager and it's like
00:30:08.800
awkward and your parents are still buying you kids stuff and you feel just so awkward it's the
00:30:12.240
worst time it's literally the worst yeah and so to have be in the eye of the public like sophie was
00:30:18.960
and to have literally like people if people are trolling us like we're literally nobody yeah it was
00:30:24.400
on game of thrones which is one of the most popular shows of all time yeah ever and she was a beautiful
00:30:28.800
like she's gorgeous she's so beautiful so for people to be like criticizing her and then how is
00:30:34.480
she supposed to deal with that it's awful but it's just jealous trolls yeah that's the thing it's the
00:30:38.800
same thing with like these weirdos projecting their crap on kids that's what that's what's going on here
00:30:43.920
in the world there's if you're insecure just shut your mouth like go work on yourself honestly like
00:30:50.000
go find jesus because you're not doing anything fruitful for the world by criticizing someone
00:30:55.600
especially taking the actual time to comment yeah especially a teenager you creep yeah like
00:31:00.640
it's just so ridiculous those people are not watching our show you are watching our show no
00:31:06.960
our viewers are nice people yeah they're lovely we love you guys thank you for your support um
00:31:12.080
but yeah i don't know i i just think like when people are in the spotlight at that young of age
00:31:17.520
of an age it just puts so much pressure on them to be thin and i think there needs to be more
00:31:22.400
of a normalization of just like your body is your body too you know and not like obviously
00:31:28.080
there's a line where it's like you're too skinny you're too yeah you know and you're like you're
00:31:32.400
you need intervention because you have a problem but it's like those are extremes that most people
00:31:37.040
aren't falling in yeah category and let's just normalize the rest of us yeah you know yeah we look
00:31:42.320
great we look fine i also think it's weird that like sophie turner was 15 when she started on game
00:31:48.160
of thrones which is like you know not so young you're three years away from me yeah but not like
00:31:52.480
an olsen no so i think it's so weird like i was watching some show the other day and there was like
00:31:56.720
a newborn in it and i was like who's baby is that like i hope it's someone on set who's like
00:32:02.400
i just gave birth to this i work on the show i know everybody here i trust everybody here but
00:32:06.720
is it like are people giving their kids up to hollywood for the chance that their kid can make
00:32:12.800
money like it's super creepy and like we need them for the plot but it's like we're sacrificing
00:32:17.760
these children for our entertainment and not caring if they grow up messed up and letting a creepy
00:32:22.880
dirty actor hold them those people are filthy like who knows where they've been yeah it's super weird
00:32:28.960
like i think didn't will smith use his own kid in one of his movies yeah the pursuit of happiness yeah
00:32:34.800
okay at least he's like when his like at least will could hold his kid and be like okay we're gonna do
00:32:39.840
and kiss his kid yeah kiss your head like that's normal for him but it's like most of the time it's
00:32:44.720
not the actual dad in the scene with you yeah like and where are the parents they're just like oh i'm so
00:32:50.720
proud of like my two-year-old boy and they're doing like emotionally intense scenes like adult subject
00:32:58.000
matter it's weird it is weird why do we can we not just like not we should just i just think no kid
00:33:04.400
should be in entertainment and i that's actually funny because sophie actually touched on that in her
00:33:08.080
interview she said she doesn't want her child to professionally do anything until she's 18 and
00:33:12.400
she doesn't believe in becoming a nepotism child which i really appreciate that's such a good take
00:33:17.520
yeah i was like such a good take because like you know you need to take kids need that pressure
00:33:22.960
alleviated you know you don't need to become an actor because mommy and daddy are and just in general
00:33:28.320
kids should just not be in entertainment i really just think that we could do without them yeah we don't
00:33:34.000
need them you could say like oh i have children but you don't need to show them or if you do maybe
00:33:38.480
they're people's kids that work on the production and they're they're around all the time they know
00:33:42.480
everybody and but i still even it's weird to have like kids like you said can't consent to most things
00:33:48.880
but they can consent to being in these weird scenes on tv just for like yeah the season because it's so
00:33:54.560
important for the plot what about even like kids in horror films like they don't know what they're
00:33:58.960
doing and now they have to now in retrospect they're like dang it i played that creepy demon
00:34:03.840
child and that's on my resume forever and sophie turner here is saying like yes i'm going to be
00:34:08.240
traumatized from the things that i like some of the scenes that she was in were like really
00:34:12.000
traumatized yeah it's a gruesome show for sure um why did you need to be so young and that's why you
00:34:17.120
know when um my sister and i used to not used to be an actor too like we know that they they often use
00:34:23.040
like 20 year olds to play high school kids and at the time i was like why is that well it's because
00:34:27.360
you don't want actual 16 year olds doing sex scenes and and having like conversations about
00:34:31.440
abortion and death and suicide it's gross and weird and they should be protected from that
00:34:35.520
it is gross but do you also think it's kind of creepy that consenting adult like adults are doing
00:34:40.400
things then they're dressed up as teens and it's like so it kind of makes it seem like oh i'm young
00:34:45.520
and i can do this but this is normal but it's like no these are actually adults doing this like so
00:34:50.720
there is like i agree with you but there's also like there i think hollywood's just really freaking
00:34:54.880
creepy just really creepy i watch nature documentaries we should just watch nature
00:34:59.520
or the bible series that you're watching on youtube you know they're so good they're
00:35:02.960
collection on yeah you can watch all the movies for free they're great but no like and i mean
00:35:08.480
just a personal anecdote i once auditioned for a movie and i had to give birth and i was like 15 years
00:35:15.440
old and they were like all right let's do it and i did it and then they're like can you relax a
00:35:20.320
little more i was like i'm giving birth to strangers i'm six like i'm 15 years old like
00:35:26.480
didn't get the part yeah but it's for the best i once quit a show because well it was a movie it
00:35:31.840
was a short film and i i was like 20 something but i had to make out with someone and i was like
00:35:37.280
i thought that it was fake kissing because i had never done it before and they're like it's not fake i
00:35:42.320
have a boyfriend like i was like oh i have to make out with this dude and and there's a camera
00:35:49.280
in my face and i i did it for the rehearsal and then the next day was like oh i have mono and i
00:35:53.040
can't be in the show and they probably all have to get tested you thought they were fake i thought
00:35:59.520
it was like no no you need to tongue each other and i was like ew yeah are you serious you don't
00:36:05.360
know where their mouth's been that's why i said actors are filthy kissing is very intimate i don't
00:36:09.040
it is some rando yeah it's gross like maybe i'm for like creepy pervy directors by the way they're
00:36:14.080
all these male creepy executive producers and they're like oh can you do this nude scene for
00:36:19.280
free and you're like no i can't literally they're like partial nudity yeah and it's no money you don't
00:36:24.240
get paid yeah cool and i was like there's gonna be a hundred other girls who will do it and if i
00:36:29.040
don't say yes i'm out so i was like i'm out i just quit i quit acting i was i was like i'm done yeah
00:36:33.680
so here i am here we are and um those that was our personal anecdote for the day um i'm good i have
00:36:39.600
more pause for an ad break no i'm just kidding okay so let's move on to maybe our next one about
00:36:47.040
victoria beckham this is a really good this is another based take i liked it i appreciated it
00:36:53.040
she is a very elegant lady she's gorgeous so she says the goal to be really skinny is an old-fashioned
00:36:59.920
attitude that shouldn't be an aspiration for young women so i guess she has a fashion line
00:37:07.680
and um it's very expensive i cannot afford it i literally want the dress that she's describing
00:37:11.920
yeah that tight knit dress yeah i know it's great 50 pounds that's it if someone could send if you want
00:37:17.280
to buy us some stuff we will take it e-transfers to misunderstood at rebel news um so i guess she
00:37:24.400
launched a new new jersey dresses and stuff and she got a lot of inspiration from time spent in miami as
00:37:29.520
she hinging she's a conservative um with her family where she noticed a lot of really curvy women
00:37:34.320
really own it there and she just appreciated their beauty and like how they show off their bodies with
00:37:39.440
confidence which i really appreciate because you know she's she's from like the 90s where everyone
00:37:44.560
was like hero and super skinny yeah and so it's nice to see her have this more healthy approach um and
00:37:51.520
to not you know put the same pressure that was on her on young women yeah that's what i really appreciate
00:37:55.760
about it i do think it's like the wording that she used was like it was i mean she said something
00:38:04.080
about like it's not all about being super skinny she's like you want to have boobs and a butt and
00:38:08.320
it's like okay well that's also putting people in a box yeah not everyone has like when you say like
00:38:14.160
accept all body types like some women are they don't have like curvy hips and giant yeah and giant
00:38:20.560
butts we're not kim kardashian exactly well she's not even kim kardashian no like like so it's while
00:38:26.640
it's helpful to expand the definition yeah what's beautiful and sexy and in vogue it's still super
00:38:33.040
limited to having a perfect proportion yeah i wonder if she just misspoke because she also did say that
00:38:38.480
she's happy that her daughter can witness women who are comfortable with their natural figure okay that's
00:38:43.840
so but i do agree like we just the thing is like just we just need to abolish extremes when it comes to
00:38:49.200
um voyeurism when as it pertains to the female body you know i just no extremes no don't put women in
00:38:56.720
a box and she is so influential yeah that it's really refreshing to hear someone like her who has a
00:39:02.240
fashion brand talk about this because maybe she's going to and i think she has already with these new
00:39:06.880
jersey dresses it sounds like new jersey yeah they're new jersey dresses and they're jersey dresses that's
00:39:12.400
cute yeah yeah but um i think it's interesting because she might actually make clothes that fit different
00:39:18.080
shapes yeah instead of like because you know like club monaco like i love club monaco clothing but
00:39:22.240
they are made for like tall super skinny giraffes yeah giraffe ladies and i'm like i can't it's not
00:39:27.760
it doesn't fit i'm like a stump you know it's not gonna work i'm literally like an elephant in my clothes
00:39:32.560
like i'm like so you'll see um so it's nice that she's gonna maybe take into consideration different
00:39:42.160
body shapes and types when designing clothes yeah like you know because like as we said like you don't
00:39:48.000
have to be a size here to be beautiful women's bodies vary um but you know yeah i just think balance
00:39:55.280
just a balanced approach we need to see that more from people who have influence i think yes you know
00:39:59.840
we're talking to you kim we're talking to you kim and maybe we're talking to you a little bit too
00:40:05.120
jordan yeah jordan peterson jordan peterson yeah this was uh i think last week or this this is this week
00:40:11.440
early last week it's been a long week it's been a week you guys oh it will be last week when the
00:40:15.680
show comes out yeah we're doing this early last this is last week right jordan peterson widely mocked
00:40:21.200
after calling sexy swimsuit cover authoritarian it's a big word yeah so this is um i i love jordan
00:40:29.760
peterson but just he's great yeah just because you love someone doesn't mean that you have to
00:40:34.560
agree with them or defend them all the time yeah you shouldn't agree with anyone 100 ever definitely
00:40:39.840
if you are you're not doing your research exactly just like the same thing when people say like trump
00:40:44.880
people it's like you're just going to defend everything he does or biden you're just going
00:40:47.680
to defend like let's not do that it's wrong you have to be able to see things more nuance exactly yeah
00:40:53.280
he's speaking like he's speaking for everyone and that's what's wrong with it it's like yeah beauty is
00:40:58.480
subjective it is and like for me i was like men are not the arbiter of what is it isn't beautiful
00:41:04.320
and like who the hell are you jordan peterson to tell me what's beautiful like you're not like
00:41:08.880
george clooney like i'm sorry like stop like i hate i'm sick of these ugly men pointing fingers at
00:41:14.000
what's who it is and isn't beautiful like you have no right to tell me your people or other women like
00:41:19.200
it yeah it doesn't mean that others won't and that other women won't look at her and say wow she's
00:41:23.600
beautiful because the the model is beautiful like she's plus size like her face is great she's still
00:41:29.680
like so be like so beauty is subjective but but peterson would argue and i would agree there are
00:41:35.280
still objective standards of beauty that people look to like facial symmetry and like curvature of
00:41:40.560
your of your silhouette absolutely but this girl still falls into that category beautiful she's not a blob
00:41:46.880
no she's beautiful i guess maybe i understand some backlash because it is like a sports magazine
00:41:53.440
so but but even so like women of all sizes are athletic yeah like usually girls who play sports
00:41:59.600
aren't the ones who are on sports illustrated absolutely yeah i mean kim kardashian recently
00:42:03.760
exactly i bet she can't even throw a rubber ball no like probably not so so maybe this girl like yeah so
00:42:10.160
i was thinking the same thing but it's like this the magazine is not called like fitness pro yeah like
00:42:15.840
we're like abs galore yeah exactly like she shouldn't be on abs galore because she's not
00:42:20.720
she's not super ripped but like we need to start that magazine and we will not be on it um sports
00:42:27.920
illustrated sports like she could be any sort of athlete like it's true she could be shot put for
00:42:34.240
all you all know okay like those girls aren't like stick thin with giant boobs wearing a thong on the beach
00:42:39.200
like weird and okay what about the fact though that men who are ugly get to still remain
00:42:45.760
on the news in film and all this stuff and no one cares but women are the only ones who have to be
00:42:50.240
slender and beautiful and you know just objectively conventionally gorgeous like i don't like this
00:42:56.560
standard and i i may seem a little like feminist of us but like i it just really irks me that men get
00:43:02.880
to do this but like if we do it it's like oh it doesn't matter because he's a man who cares yeah you
00:43:06.960
know yeah i don't know no i totally agree with you it irks me it irks it's irking and i really i mean is it
00:43:14.400
authoritarian maybe it could be if you know it was someone who was like very very obese like 700
00:43:21.200
pounds yeah like tess holiday you know and they're like this is not even authoritarian it's like a
00:43:24.640
crazy leftist yeah we're trying to it's normalize modern where it's like like you're trying to
00:43:30.720
completely abolish the definition of what beauty is like i'm sorry tess she's super fat yeah so fat
00:43:37.200
and no she is though she's like unhealthy like there's no way her organs are not but she is
00:43:42.320
anorexic so you've got to be sorry but like this woman is not even close yeah not even in the same
00:43:48.560
hemisphere so yeah and i mean as we were talking about like anorexia do you think that like when we
00:43:53.120
talk about women's bodies like this like this kind of negativity towards this uh model what's her name
00:43:58.160
new me something you mean you knew me anyway it doesn't matter uh but talking about a beautiful
00:44:06.880
woman like that don't you think that makes other women compare themselves to this person like well
00:44:10.560
i don't sorry thank you well i don't look like this so maybe i'm ugly so i need to change myself
00:44:15.200
i maybe oh i'm that weight but everyone thinks this is ugly maybe i need to be anorexic like helpful
00:44:20.400
jordan it's not like helpful obviously we are pro-health take feeding your body well exercising you know
00:44:27.040
whatever she doesn't look unhealthy she doesn't look unhealthy though that's the thing like sorry
00:44:31.520
that she hasn't she has some body fat on her like that doesn't necessarily make her unhealthy like
00:44:36.400
she's not obese she's not anorexic like she a lot of women fall into that yeah category like true
00:44:43.200
i think if like have you ever seen those photos though of like the 1970s like what the average
00:44:48.160
person looks like everyone's super shredded yeah like i do think that people like i know for a fact
00:44:52.960
that the average bmi has gone up significantly which is a problem it is a problem so i see the
00:44:58.240
point in like let's not normalize obesity but this is not obese like it's she's just not no so sorry
00:45:04.160
she's not sorry jordan so uh you know just think before you tweet well he's not going to be tweeting
00:45:09.040
anymore because he's a soy boy who left sorry i do really like you jordan but like bad take okay well
00:45:15.200
he's been super spicy on twitter lately which i think has been great but when you're that spicy and
00:45:19.360
off the cuff on twitter you're bound to f up yeah and he did so that's the price you pay like when
00:45:25.280
you don't think before you tweet yeah the price you pay it's great people won't get mad people
00:45:29.920
won't get mad people won't get mad and you know what just take it with a grain of salt jordan it's
00:45:34.640
not the big no it's not that big video okay it's really not like you're a married man you don't need
00:45:38.240
to be attracted to it anyways yeah that's true good point anyway anyways i think that's the show
00:45:43.120
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