Miss Understood No. 16 — The Loner Pandemic
Summary
In this episode, we discuss the potential link between fatherlessness and mass shootings and millennial burnout. We also discuss bugs and why schools in Wales should serve them in their lunches to make them more adventurous and fearless.
Transcript
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Hello and welcome to Misunderstood, the show for all you culturally and politically misunderstood
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ladies or gents. We are your hosts. I'm Kat. And I'm Nat. And today we're going to talk about
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the potential link between fatherlessness and mass shootings and discuss millennial
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burnout. But first, we're going to start things off with our patented culture shock moment
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of the week. Take it away, Kat. So guess what's for lunch, guys? It's bugs. Let them eat bugs.
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Oh, yummy. So this article is from our very own Rebel News written up by Lewis Brackpoo.
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Lewis Brackpoo. This is a story about a couple of schools in Wales in the UK who are starting
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to serve the kids bugs in their lunches so that they can acquire a taste for the alternative
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protein. Okay. Why do you think they're testing this crap on kids? Do you think it's because
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they're like more likely to be fearless and experimental? Like, or, oh, I think it's because
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they can't do it. It's not like they can get in their car and go and buy themselves a slice
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of pizza. Yeah. Well, that's disgusting. Let's just test more on our children. Well, I was
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thinking it's funny because there's always like that one kid who eats bugs. Yeah. But
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it's like that kid's weird. Yeah. Why are we trying to make that normal? We're going to be
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weird now, I guess. Next thing you know, they're going to be like boogers. Why they're nutritional
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and good for the environment. Yeah. And I'm out. I am out. Bye bye. Yeah. That's nasty. Don't feed
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your kids bugs. Don't do it. We will judge you. We will. We absolutely will. I am. Yeah. Speaking
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of fathers. Yeah. JK, JK, JK. Yeah. Can we pull up a tweet that we saw last week from Matt
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Walsh? This is about the tragic shooting that took place in Texas on May 24th, where an 18
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year old male slaughtered 21 innocent individuals, 19 of which were beautiful children. So he
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has a, he had a really good take. And then we just like to talk about that. Yeah. The tweet
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reads, start with a boy, take away his father, sit him in front of a screen all day, feed him
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porn, feed him an endless stream of content, give him no moral formation, no guidance, no
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companionship, give him drugs, isolate him. So a lot of people are calling for very, very
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strict gun control in the wake of the shooting. We're not going to really talk about that so
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much. There's, there is a lot to unpack there as well. And that's a nuanced topic. I think
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there is a new topic and we, and maybe we'll talk about guns another day. I think there's
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a lot to talk about. Yeah. Well, we can always talk about these here. Um, but I really like
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both of us saw this tweet and actually, and I think you saw it and sent it to me, but it's,
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it's a really interesting take because we don't, we always thought, we always hear from, you
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know, certain people about gun control when, when mass shootings happen, but guns have been
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around. And I heard this actually from Tim Dillon on my drive in this morning, he was talking
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about it as well. Uh, guns have been around for a long time and yet the number of mass
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shootings has gone steadily up and people will say, well, there's like more magazines. Yeah.
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Yeah. You can still kill people with any kind of gun. You can kill people with a knife. So,
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um, why are there more mass shootings now than ever in history? Yeah. I would like to know.
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Yeah. Uh, yeah. I think, I think a lot of people too like to play the whole mental health card.
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And while I do think there's an argument to be had actually, uh, study studies show that mass
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shooters, you know, don't just suddenly break. They typically decide. And I have some stats on
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this. Sorry. One second. In 2018, a deep investigation of 63 rampage, rampage shooters
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conducted by experts with the FBI's behavioral analysis unit showed that only a quarter of the
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offenders were known to have been professionally diagnosed with a mental illness of any kind.
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So basically blaming mental illness kind of inflicts the stigma on people who actually have a mental
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illness. Yeah. And many, many of which do not commit violent crime. Yeah, definitely. And I think
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what's more important, I think than pointing fingers even at people is we should be more equipped to be
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able to tell the warning signs of someone who may mimic or, you know, mirror symptoms of someone who's
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about to go shoot up. Yeah. Well, especially because this guy was posting about wanting to shoot up an
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elementary school on Facebook. Now, right. It was the same day. So it didn't give like people a lot of time
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to react, but still social media is pretty instant. People could have reported like you can report a tweet
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if it offends you. Yeah. How many people reported his Facebook posting? I'm going to go shoot up an
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elementary school. Probably not. So one person actually did tell the FBI in advance. So that is
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something you guys should look into a girl on. I think it was Twitch or they were playing video games or
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something. He basically admitted to her and she was like, oh, I don't know if it was her for that
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was the Buffalo shooting, though. There have been two shootings recently. But anyway, the point is,
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in both of those cases, the police actually were made aware of these troubling sort of notions about
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these people. So and also like just, you know, there's lots of things in this Matt Walsh tweet.
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And the main one, I think, is the fatherlessness thing. Yeah. I did a little research and it turns out
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there is a huge correlation between fatherlessness and violent crime. Yeah. Huge correlation.
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What was on this? Sorry. Oh, no, I was just going to say when 25 percent of children in America are
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growing up in single parent households, like that's the odds are not great. Right. And so when we're
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looking for a causation for why there's more mass shootings now than 50 years ago when they still had
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rifles and automatic weapons. Yeah. Maybe we can look at fatherlessness as one of the things,
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because that's also increasing. I found this this website called fathers dot com. Oh, cool. Super
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cute. But they had an article about the consequences of fatherlessness. And there's just like a couple
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of things here. You have a higher likelihood of living in poverty, dramatically higher risk of drug
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or alcohol abuse, higher likelihood of behavioral problems, lower GPA and an increased risk of engaging
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in crime and delinquency and also of having juvenile sex. So crime is the big boy there. Yeah. And Obama
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talked about this, too, a while ago. We've actually mentioned that quote, I think, on the show before
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about fatherlessness and the implications that that has on society. Specifically, I think young men.
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Yeah. You know, because young men, I think when you grow when a child's growing up, they want to be like
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the person raising them. That is the same sex as them. I think you're like, oh, I want to be like
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mommy and wear her shoes or I want to be like daddy and wash the car. I don't know. Yeah. Well,
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I was reading this thing about how different parents, like different genders, engage in different
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kinds of play with their kids. So a mother will engage in certain type of play. But a father generally
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engages in a more physical play like wrestling and stuff. And that allows the child, the young boy,
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to exercise his body in a way that he learns the how to use his body and his limitations and his
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strength. And his father gives him like a sense of be like, I don't know what I'm trying to say,
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like a sense of confidence and for sure and belonging and purpose as a boy, as a man. Exactly. So when
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the young boy goes out into the world, having not had that experience, he wants the world to see
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I'm a man. I'm important here with character. Here I am. And he might take it in a negative direction
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where he will become involved in gangs or do something. I mean, this is obviously a rare example,
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but in its rarity, it's so it affects so many people. Yeah. So there is like obviously what we're
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not saying that if you don't have a father, you're no, no one is a monolith. And we know, of course not.
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We've repeated that a million times on the show. I think the issue is when you're raised by a single
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parent. And again, this is not this is not always the case. No one is a monolith. There are amazing
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single parents out there. But mom or single mom or single dad, let's say, have to work to make a
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living for the family. And they're not around as much, which leaves a child to their own devices,
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which means they're going to go down that rabbit hole on the Internet. They're going to watch porn.
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They're going to they're going to get into trouble because no one's there to stop them. Right. And I think
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that's the biggest issue in society as a whole, period, because we know that the nuclear family is the
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the basis for a strong, highly functioning and fruitful society. Right. So when you take that
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away, you're going to have these isolated children who are alienated. You know, when if we're talking
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about fatherlessness, the son can't go. What male figure do they have to confide in? They take to
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the Internet. How does dad react to anger? How does he deal with stress? And when he's confronted,
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like if you don't have an example, you might just go to television and movies and whatever else.
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And you see, oh, violence, sex, whatever, drugs. It's like we need. I think there is a stat
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that says like the less amount of parental time you have, the more likely you are to engage in
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these. Like it's not just men who are more likely to engage in adolescent sex or behavioral issues.
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It's women as well. Yeah, of course. And it's you might have a single parent who dedicates all of
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the time that they have sparingly to you and to guiding you. And that's amazing. And you're going
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to be fine. Absolutely. No, absolutely. And I think it's important to say, you know, I don't think
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that people are born murderers. Like, I think that's the point. I mean, I think, OK, some people are
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probably is like, you know, like, you know, there are some there's some there's some wild
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people out there. But I think for the most part, you're created. Right. And your surroundings
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are it's like the nature versus nurture aspect of things. And I think that, you know, a lot of
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these kids, too, like they start to feel alienated young and then they are bullied in school, let's
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say, because apparently being bullied has a huge impact on like these types of loner shooters,
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for example, people who have been, you know, harassed by family members or abused, things
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like that. That's another thing with the fatherlessness. It's not just engaging in adolescent
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sex. It's being the victim of sexual violence. Right. So if you don't have a parent around
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to watch you, you're more likely to have like, oh, this random babysitter or mom's boyfriend
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and that's when kids are abused. Right. Likely. So that definitely, definitely lends to this
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kind of psychotic break. Right. Because it's childhood trauma that they don't know how to
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deal with because they don't have anyone to go to. And and apparently, according to the
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Atlantic, there was a study of 15 school shootings from 1995 to 2001, which found that acute or
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chronic rejection in the form of ostracism, bullying and or romantic rejection was present
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in all but two of the incidents. So that's a huge, huge. That's a lot. So what what do we
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do? Like what's what's the solution here? Because obviously fatherlessness is something
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conservatives are. We always talk about it. But how do we actually change things? How
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do we prevent these tragedies from occurring? Because I think most people on the right and
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the left want the same thing at the end of the day. We just want less violence. Exactly.
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We don't want innocent blood shed. No sane person wants that. Yeah. But I just like I just
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wonder what is actually a healthy solution to this? What do you do you have any thoughts on
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that? Well, one of the things that I wrote down was from Peterson, actually Jordan Peterson
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in his book, 12 Rules for Life. One of his rules is rule six, set your house in perfect
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order before you criticize the world. And in that chapter, he discusses the psychology
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of mass shooters, specifically the Columbine shooters. Right. And he has a quote here. It
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says mass murderers believe that the suffering attendant upon existence justifies judgment and
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revenge as the Columbine boys so clearly indicated. One of the things that one of those guys said
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himself was in his like manifesto or something. Right. He said the human race isn't worth fighting
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for. It's only worth killing. And that is like the darkest form of depression that you can
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have. And I think it's like so to extrapolate, like did this kid who killed all these actual
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children? Did he hate the children? Probably not. He he hates the world. He's so depressed.
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He hated the world. He probably hates himself. Yeah. Because he's part of the world. So for
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me, I think the answer to go back to your question would be like you need to find things about the
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world to love. And we need to share those things with with these people and bring out the like
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for me, things that I love is like seeing people do good. Like when I go to church and I see
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volunteers like they have, you know, Bible study for kids and people are volunteering their time.
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And not just that you don't have to be religious, but like people who donate their time to help
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elderly people, serving others, serving others. And, you know, to be silly about it, like I can
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be in a really, really bad mood, but I'll see like a dog walking down the street wagging his tail.
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And I'm like, oh, for me, that brings me joy. And I'm like, OK, the world I can be in a really
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sour mood, but the world isn't so bad in that moment. So I feel like these these people,
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they need to have the glass, the fogginess like dissipated and see needs to be enlightened.
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Yeah. I do think that's a spiritual thing. Yeah. And that's that's a hard one. That is tough.
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Yeah. I like and, you know, the root of fatherlessness and single parent households,
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for the most part, is like secularism. It's sin. Right. And that's part of the reason why I think
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there's such a clear attack on the nuclear family in general. I also think something actionable that
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would be fruitful is like we mentioned earlier, just to know, like the warning signs, like what
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is this? If you're a teacher, for example, what's the student like? How are they interacting with
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other kids? Are they are they mouthy? Are they like are they are they personally not taking care
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of themselves? Are they like stalking kids? You know, and I think like does this person like how
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do they speak about things or do they speak violently? Do they want to be famous? Because a lot of these
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shooters want fame. That's what I was going to say in one of these articles. It was from Evie and it's
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everything we know about the school shooter. Yeah, we're not. We've decided like we don't think
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that we should share his picture, share his name, because it goes back to this exact point where a
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lot of these people, they can't. So in America, fame is such a huge part of the culture and everyone
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wants to be tick tock famous or Instagram famous. And yeah, if you feel like you're such a loner,
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a loser, an idiot that you're never going to be famous for anything like that, maybe infamy is a lot
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easier of a way to get on the newspaper. And I think it's I think as a society, we have a
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moral obligation not to give them that infamy. I agree. Don't talk like talk about the tragedy.
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Talk about what we can do next time. Highlight the victims. Victims. Exactly. And what we can do to
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prevent this, what people did in the moment, like that guy who left his barbershop and went and saved
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his own child and a bunch of other kids and his wife. Yeah, true heroes. Exactly. Talk about them.
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But don't talk about this monster, because I had sympathy for him before he picked up that gun.
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Yeah. As a young boy who was bullied and who had ostracized, ostracized, didn't have his father
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in his life. I had I have sympathy for that. But as soon as you took the lives of any children,
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you lost that for me. Yeah. And justice must be served. Right. Yes, absolutely. And again, Peterson.
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Blah, blah, blah, blah. Yeah. So Peterson tweeted last week, he tweeted the following,
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we have to agree to never publicize the names of school shooters and other publicly seeking mass
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murderers. This is not a gun or even a mental health issue. And obviously that can be argued.
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Yeah, for sure. It's an issue of malevolent narcissists weaponizing mass media. Stop
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publishing their names and the problem will end. Maybe it won't end completely, but I bet it would
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be like 70 percent less like we we. And again, I was listening to Tim Dillon talk about this and
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he brought up a really good point. It's like how many people watch like serial killer documentaries
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like I have. I went. I'm too scared, but yeah. Good. Good for you. No, it's just because I went
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through a phase where I was like obsessed with true crime. And it's like and even when I'm watching
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them, I'm like this is like it's disturbing. It's disturbing. It's disturbing. But also we're
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glamorizing. That's a really good point. We glorify these people. We we we make them immortal
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and we do documentaries and then we have, oh, this famous person playing them in a movie like that's
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who doesn't want a famous person to play you in a movie. Yeah. But it's messed up that we do it for
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mass murders because we have we profit off of it. Yes. Like, you know, it's a million dollar
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and just billion dollar. It's Hollywood, baby. Yeah. And we should stop. We really should. It's true.
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And all we have other stories to tell. No, that's a great point. I think all these actors who are
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rah rah rah gun control, you need to stop being in these types of films and productions looks at
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that. Yeah. Because like, you know, the media and we're part of the media, obviously, but that's
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why we're choosing not to talk about him specifically. But like the media has a part to
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play in this. Yeah. Every time you post this picture and every time you say his name, you're
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making you're forming the next one. Arguably, that's that's a really good point. Yeah, we that
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needs to change. I think I think that's and some countries have laws about it. That's good. I don't
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know the ones off the top of my head, but I can I can look it up and put it in. But
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it's a thing. It's a psychological argument. And I think we should probably like if we're
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going to if we're going to start talking about ways to fix the problem, we should we should
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consider all the options. And that's definitely one of them. Just stop talking about the names
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and showing the pictures and don't do any biopics about them. Yeah. Stop. They're monsters.
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We don't want to talk about monsters. We can talk about their victims. Yeah, I agree.
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I agree. And and let's talk about some actual solutions that are productive for everyone.
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And that, of course, honor and glorify these innocent children who were murdered for no
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reason. So that was fun. Yeah, I was late. I was really late. Yeah. Well, you had we
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had to talk about it. Yeah, we had to talk about it. I would just like to correct something
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I said I did find it in my notes. We have a lot of notes. We do a lot of research for
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this show. But I weekend apparently a girl did. It was this shooter that the girl called
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the FBI on. OK, so that's also a whole nother doing that. Yeah, definitely. And it's crazy
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that they didn't do anything about it. I think there's a whole nother discussion to be had
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there because that's happened with the Buffalo shooter as well. Yeah. Well, I know that Tim
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what's his name, Dylan? No. Oh, Tim. Tim Cass guy. Tim Pool. OK. He has had the SWAT called on him
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multiple times because people don't like him. So there is probably some sort of precedent where
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it's like, OK, if it's one lone person calling, like, don't send the whole squad because people
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do prank each other. It's called SWATing. Yeah. So so I'm not saying that they were right not to do
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anything about it, but they're probably like how many phone calls a day do they get of people that are
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just BSing and wasting their time. So but then again, it's like, look him up on Facebook. Yeah.
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As soon as you get that call, be like, oh, you know what? Do you just he's 18. He just bought
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two guns. Oh, yeah. Talks about hating people. He he threatens people at Wendy's like that's on
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record that he was, you know, pull up their online search history. The fact that we have social media
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and you can check me out, government. Yeah. Nothing you'll know. Nothing will be erased.
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It's there forever. Exactly. And you'll notice me not threatening people. You'll see that.
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Like you can you can scratch my name off that list. Yay.
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Yay. Nice. Anyways. OK, well, that was really fun. We're going to move on because we want to make
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these episodes easy breezy, beautiful cover girl. Yeah. So now we're going to talk about
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millennials. Millennials. And the burnout and the burnout. OK, so I mean, it's funny because when you
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first sent this article over, I was like, ha ha ha ha. Yeah. Because it's BuzzFeed. Yeah. And it was
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written by an obvious progressive. Yeah. For sure. Yeah. But I actually kind of agreed with a lot of
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the points they made as a millennial. So it's from BuzzFeed. So. Yes. They so they kind of here's
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just a quote that they had were spoiled, entitled lazy and failures at what's to come. What's come to
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be known as adulting a word invented by millennials as a catchall for the tasks of self-sufficient
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existence? Um, yeah, it's kind of true. OK, there's like this huge narrative around millennials
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being lazy. And for a while, even I was kind of caught up in that. I was like, you know, maybe
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millennials. You're not lazy. Well, I do. Again, no one's a model. She gets up at six and runs every
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morning. Well, you know. But I know you mean. We live in this world where we tell ourselves,
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like, oh, I'm a millennial. I can't do it. I can't do adulting. Yeah. I've got to change a tire.
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That's a fact. So. Yeah. But that's all right. Because you can hire someone else to. Someone else
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can do it. Um, but I mean, there's a like, it's funny because like the boomer generation, I think
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it is a Gen X is our parents are no Gen X. Then boomers are before Gen X. OK, yeah. So is spite. Sorry.
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Gen X is Spice Girls. OK, great. Good to know. So those kind of people, they kind of look down on
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millennials and they're like, oh, you guys are so lazy. But I always this always bugs me because I think
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about it. I'm like, well, who raised us? Yeah. Like whose fault is it? Yeah. And also we can't
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pay our rent with like two days of work. Yeah. Mom and dad. Like that's the thing. Like no one thinks
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about the fact that we're the most educated and yet we have the least opportunity to buy houses.
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We're all we all work multiple jobs or, you know, kill ourselves to make rent and to pay our bills and
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stuff. And then living with roommates in your 30s. Exactly. And then also we were encouraged by our
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parents and teachers to go to university to get women's studies degrees without having to
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worry about paying for it. And you're like, well, of course, we're all miserable progressives.
00:21:05.000
Yeah. Like we don't have a shot. Yeah. Especially now with just inflation. Goodness gracious. Imagine
00:21:09.860
buying a home now. I remember my mom telling me that when she was my age and this was a couple
00:21:14.340
years ago. So like I was about 30 at the time. She was like, yeah, I made about what you make now.
00:21:18.580
And my rent was three hundred dollars a month. She was in Toronto. She lived in Toronto. Honestly,
00:21:23.460
even when I moved here, I was paying like seven hundred bucks a month and I worked like four jobs because
00:21:27.520
at the time that wasn't. Yeah. I mean, it was it was a lot at the time. And I had to. Yeah. I had
00:21:32.460
to work four jobs to pay my rent and not fall behind and pay off my stupid theater student loans.
00:21:37.440
Should have listened to my mom and dad. Stupid philosophy. Yeah. But, you know, like I think
00:21:42.160
millennials hustle and I think that there are these lazy snowflakes that exist. But I don't know. I think
00:21:49.560
the burnout is a real thing because even with the pandemic, we all were working from home when we
00:21:54.320
weren't working at Rebel and you're constantly on your phone, like checking your notifications,
00:21:59.880
you're getting emails at all hours of the day and stuff. And it's like you can't escape work
00:22:03.560
because work's on your phone. Yes. And the fact that you're working at home, they know you're like,
00:22:06.880
oh, you don't have anywhere to be. Yeah. You can be dinners already pandemic. And you're like,
00:22:10.860
no, I have a life. Never ending workday is what I found at my job. No, absolutely. And it's one of
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the things they talk about how in this article is how like a vacation and stuff is not going to cure you
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from this burnout because it's kind of just like it's embedded into our nature. Like if we're not
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working all the time, we're not working hard enough, for example, exactly. And relaxation just
00:22:33.200
isn't relaxing. Yeah. And you're like, I could be doing more. And like you can go on a vacation,
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but, you know, you spent you saved up all year for that. Yeah. And that you're going to be saving
00:22:41.180
up all year for another one. And you're missing work and you're probably stressing your bosses
00:22:44.360
emailing you while you're on vacation. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. Yes. Yeah. It happens all the time.
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And so employers, our parents didn't go through that. Yeah. They didn't have email on their phone.
00:22:54.120
They didn't have social media. They didn't even have cell phones. They were like, oh, I'm going to,
00:22:57.160
I'm going to splurge and spend $500 for a week in, in Cancun. It's like, nice. That's dinner. Yeah.
00:23:03.520
Like that's one dinner. Yeah. No, but like it's, it's unreasonable. And also I, one of the things that
00:23:09.840
I noticed with this article was I kind of felt like a lot of the things that this article, this author was
00:23:15.520
talking about kind of things that everyone deals with. Yeah. As a human. Yeah. Exactly. So
00:23:20.940
one of the quotes is like a friend admitted that he's absorbed hundreds of dollars in clothes that
00:23:25.540
don't fit because he couldn't manage to return them. That's me. Yeah. That is a millennial
00:23:29.920
thing. That's I can't, I know for, I have millennial friends who are like, oh, I have one friend who's
00:23:34.580
like, she buys too much on purpose and returns half of it. Cause she's like, I do that smart. I is so
00:23:39.660
good for you. Like I make Sebastian return it. I literally have never returned anything that I
00:23:45.140
bought. One time I tried to Walmart. I bought a hammock. It came in the wrong color. I tried to
00:23:49.360
return it and they, I did it all the shipping. I handed it to the person that took it back.
00:23:53.280
And then they're like, oh, we never received the item. Oh no. So Walmart has 63 of my dollars.
00:23:58.960
Okay. And I'm over it, but I wonder what that is with inflation. Yeah. They owe me so much. Yeah.
00:24:04.560
Um, but also I was thinking, cause they talk about these lists, you know, you have like, um, this,
00:24:09.740
this is funny. She said, none of the tasks that were that hard, getting knives sharpened,
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taking boots to the cobbler, registering my dog for new license, sending someone a signed copy of
00:24:17.920
my book, humble brag, um, scheduling an appointment, yada, yada. Um, I can relate. No, I'm kidding.
00:24:23.580
So the point is, is like, these are all normal things. And even my dad, who's a boomer is like,
00:24:28.720
oh, I've had a list of 19 things and I get like one done. Yeah. And then it just builds up and it's like,
00:24:34.020
okay, that's not a millennial thing. It's a human thing. Do you have too much to do?
00:24:37.340
Well, do you think it's like, I was going to say, like, we have, there aren't enough hours in the
00:24:41.800
day in a way you're, you're 12 hours in and then you come home and you want to do errands, but you're
00:24:45.520
just so drained. Oh yeah. Or nothing's open anymore because for some reason, the pandemic
00:24:49.840
enabled every business to close at like 6 PM. That's another thing where you're like, ah,
00:24:54.120
the end of the day, I can go and do my bidding. It's like, everything's closed. Yeah. Even the bank,
00:24:58.900
the bank closes at four. I know. You're like, any government thing. You're like,
00:25:03.760
oh, I need to change my life. Yeah. I need to go and get in my passport thing. I need to take
00:25:07.120
time off work. And we're lucky because we have a job where we can like, like be like, Hey, I need
00:25:11.780
to go out for an hour. There's flexibility for sure. There are jobs that are not like that at all.
00:25:15.820
They're like, no, you're on the, you're on the call. You're on this. You're in line. You're
00:25:19.680
standing behind a counter. You can't just take time off to do that. You literally have to take like a
00:25:23.120
full day off. It's so ridiculous. So it's not just millennials that are, are losers. It's a society.
00:25:28.800
We ask way too much of everything of people. And we want things that we saw our parents have. We
00:25:33.580
want to buy a house. Good luck. Well, that's a great point too, because we've talked about this
00:25:37.400
before in the show, you know, the self-love movement. Okay. Well, I need to do this to
00:25:40.060
better myself, to feel better, to relax and all this, but those things also cost money. So it's
00:25:44.060
a very lucrative business. Well, that's, that's why it's so funny. Like that's a great point. Like
00:25:47.880
when, when people are like the media or articles are online, help you unwind, help you unwind by this
00:25:53.580
mini fridge for your face cream. It's like self-love, self-care. It's like, okay, I don't
00:25:58.640
have $150 for a fricking mini refrigerator for beside my bed for my night cream, which also costs
00:26:04.820
a hundred and a million dollars. Cause we have to stay young forever. We look at us. Yeah.
00:26:09.740
Is that a, no, it's not a recall. No, I'm just kidding. Yeah. I mean, so, I mean, I think what
00:26:14.360
needs to happen with these generational divides is that we need to understand where each other is
00:26:19.380
coming from and the state of the world and the state of the world for sure, because it is,
00:26:23.020
I mean, I'm not complaining. I know I'm very blessed and, and stuff, but you know, things,
00:26:28.360
it gets tricky. It gets tricky being a millennial who's worked very hard to get to where you are.
00:26:33.240
And you're like, I am exhausted for some reason. Yeah. Well, actually one of the things that Pierre
00:26:37.680
Polyev was saying on his podcast with Jordan Peterson was that one of his constituents in,
00:26:43.440
where is he called Carlton? Carlton. Yeah. Um, one of his constituents, his, so this guy,
00:26:48.760
um, works the same job that his mother worked when he was, when she was his age and she, with that
00:26:54.380
money, it was like a, not the best job, but it's a job she could feed her family. She paid the rent
00:26:59.100
on their, the mortgage on their home. This guy, he, he can't afford to buy a house. He works the exact
00:27:03.420
same job, but it's like, that's a, he can't afford any of the things that his mother could afford
00:27:07.180
doing me. He literally is the exact same position. And it's like, whether or not Pierre Polyev can fix
00:27:12.240
that, I'm not sure, but it's, it's a fact of life that we work just as hard, if not harder for less.
00:27:18.220
Yeah. No, that's literally a statistic. So look it up people. Um, and again, we don't want to
00:27:23.460
complain here, but I think it's important to highlight that everybody's tired. Yeah. We're
00:27:28.440
tired. Tired. Yeah. I think that's why there's so many coffee shops. Yeah. And so many new makeup
00:27:33.660
lines, skincare lines. Like you need, you need to cover those bags. Everything's about covering up
00:27:37.760
your bag. It's like, can we just fix the world so that we're not all like drain? Like, like you need
00:27:42.640
coffee. You need a, you need a little pick me up. You need some concealer. Like why don't we examine
00:27:47.880
what's happening in the world? I don't know what the answer is. Well, okay. Maybe there is an answer
00:27:54.020
though. Maybe these conservative politicians who are currently campaigning to become the leader of
00:27:58.760
the conservative party, let's say, maybe it's time for y'all to say, Hey, maybe I should try to make
00:28:03.000
life actually easier. And in a productive non-socialist way for millennials to be able to
00:28:07.900
be successful. Maybe it's, maybe it is a politic, maybe it is a political issue. Maybe it is like,
00:28:13.700
I don't know. Maybe. Yeah. I mean, it kind of goes against my personal like philosophy of like
00:28:18.920
freedom. Yeah. But there are sometimes needs for government. Yeah. No, it's true. And I,
00:28:25.120
and I think, you know, so many of our generation votes like NDP are liberal. And I think it's
00:28:29.740
because they've worked so hard that they feel like they just, they're owed something. And
00:28:33.420
you're not technically ever owed anything in life. Like the things you get are a privilege,
00:28:38.540
but I think like, it would be nice if people who work their asses off every day were able to buy
00:28:43.840
themselves a home. And maybe this is why people aren't having kids because it's like, I can't
00:28:47.200
afford a home. So why would I have a baby? There is a thing where like the more education and higher,
00:28:52.040
um, job you have, like higher position you have, the less likely you are to have children or you're
00:28:56.740
going to have fewer children. Right. That's a thing. Yeah. It's not a good thing. It's not a good
00:29:02.340
thing. And so, and we need to, Bill Gates doesn't want us to y'all, but we need to start reproducing.
00:29:06.660
So let's get, let's make things cheaper for millennials. Maybe having a little bottle of
00:29:10.580
wine with dinner tonight. Nice. That costs money though. Yeah. Buy domestic. If you would like to
00:29:16.620
buy us wine. No, I'm just kidding. Okay. Well, I think that's the show. Hopefully the, the end of
00:29:21.780
that wasn't, uh, too much of us complaining. Cause I don't know. Yeah. We're not complaining. We're not
00:29:26.620
complaining. It's just a real, it's a real problem. And it's not just going to affect millennials.
00:29:30.180
It's going to, it's going to trickle down to zoomers and everyone below them. It's like,
00:29:35.080
don't be surprised when millennials vote for progressives who offer them free things. And
00:29:39.400
of course nothing is free. Yeah. But you pay for it with your tax. Even, even Steve Bannon said this
00:29:44.820
once, like you really can't blame them for being flaming commies. That's, that's not, that's not a
00:29:49.360
direct quote, by the way. It's, uh, it's paraphrasing. A lot of creative license was taken in this
00:29:54.800
moment. Anyway. Okay. Well, that's the shirt. That's the shirt. Thank you guys for watching. As
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