Miss Understood No. 28 — Feminists: Just Shut Up
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the retirement of Anthony Fauci, the work-from-home revolution, Serena Williams' retirement from tennis, and Mindy Kaling's promotion of single motherhood. Plus, we talk about how working from home negatively impacts women more than men.
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Hello and welcome to Misunderstood, the show for all you culturally and politically misunderstood
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ladies or gents. We are your hosts. I'm Kathy. And I'm Nathie. And today we're going to talk
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about the latest feminist news to hit the scene. For example, did you know working from home negatively
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impacts women more than men? Allegedly. Plus, Serena Williams is retiring from tennis because
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she has a uterus. And Mindy Kaling is promoting single motherhood. Yikes. But first, our patented
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culture shock moment of the week will take it away, Kathy. Well, well, Nathie. Nathie. Um, apparently,
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and people aren't talking about this, but apparently Anthony Fauci, the good Lord himself,
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I shouldn't say that. Our Lord and Savior, Anthony Fauci. Anthony Fauci is retiring. In Fauci,
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we trusted, I guess, because he's retiring. Wow. This is nice to me. From NIAID and as the chief
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medical dude at the secretary of the White House. Yeah. So, uh, he's, so he's gonzo at the end of
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the year. Yeah. And I guess he's been working for like 38 years. I'm sure it wasn't to make
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money. I'm sure it was to help the nation. Yes. I'm sure he wasn't corrupted at all and had no
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interests of his own. I'm sure the response to the COVID-19 pandemic was, uh, out of the goodness
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of his heart. He didn't make a lot of money or anything throughout the pandemic. No, and I'm sure
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he didn't fuel the AIDS, uh, fears in the 80s by telling people they could get, catch AIDS by close
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contact with another human being. So we're obviously losing one of America's- One of the best. One of
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the greats. The greatest, um, medical authorities in America and- Eddie's soldier. I'm- I'm actually
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really sad because the COVID-19 pandemic was so fun for all of us, wasn't it? Wasn't it so fun for you
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when you lost your jobs, when, when you were forced to get a vaccine you didn't want, when you closed your
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business, when your kids were stuck at home? When your family stopped talking to you and your
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friends disowned you? Oh, the divorce? The divorce is- The divorce is- The opioid crisis. Yeah. Oh my
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goodness. Well, what a fun time. And I guess hopefully now that you're gone, we'll never have
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to relive it again. But your legacy will live on, Fauci. Watch the person who replaces him be much worse.
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Come back, Fauci. Fauci, come back. All right. Anyway. You shall be missed. Yeah, we are really, um,
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broken up about it. We're, clearly we're in distress. These are real tears. Um, this is an
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interesting one. Let's, uh, let's jump right into it then. So apparently the work from home
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revolution is also a trap for women. Women. For women. Just one woman. Yeah, just one. Just
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she's having a rough time. It's the author. She's having a rough go. Did you work from home at all
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during the COVID-19 pandemic? Yes, I did. Yes, I did too. And did you feel like it was a trap?
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Um, no. I adopted my beautiful dog, Beatrice. I got happy. And bonded with her. Yeah. Right? It
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was so much easier raising a dog. It was the best time to bond with my dog. So beautiful. And now she
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cries when I leave the house. So I think maybe it was too much. So something that she needs to work
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through, but it was a positive thing overall. Yeah. Um, so basically this article just talks
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about how, although there are, you know, positives to working from home, it specifically negatively
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targets women. Women of color, Natasha. Oh my gosh. Yes. This is a good one. Yeah. So here's
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a good one. This is a fun quote. And you sent me this quote. Please read the quote. And it's a funny
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one. Okay. Women of color love not being exhausted from working in close physical proximity with
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white people and their microaggressions. That's racist. Um, another one was, um, they like
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being able to use their own bathrooms. Yeah. Um, are we allowed to use our own bathrooms or
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are they putting biological males in them? Yeah. So now women care about bathrooms. Yeah.
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Now we care about bathrooms. Now we're so concerned about sharing a bathroom. Another one is women
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like making their own lunches without others commentaries on them. What? You're that sensitive
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about food. If you're sensitive about food, like you're, what you're eating, like you maybe
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should talk to someone. Like who is this fragile dove who gets bent out of shape when someone's
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like, Oh, is that a sandwich? Kathy? Like it's not, it's not that bad. But so this article
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starts off with saying how great working from home is for all these reasons, like microaggressions
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and their own bathroom. Yeah. My favorite part of working from home was avoiding those things
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as well. Yes. So, um, yeah. And it's, so there's this other quote, it's like there's
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one significant catch in this working from home utopia that additional flexibility opens
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up a space and that space is quickly filled with responsibilities that were once equally
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distributed between partners in a relationship, but also between citizens and society in which
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they are a part. Okay. No. Yeah. No, that's, we could pretty well just stop talking.
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Wrong. No. Um, it's, sorry. Well, I think it's just interesting because what if like you're a
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woman who goes to the office? I'm non-binary, so I'm going to have to try and, okay, I'm a woman.
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Imagine you're a woman. So you're a woman. Yeah. You go to the office. You have kids. Okay. Your
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husband works remotely. So do, do the responsibilities fall on you still? Of course.
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Even when you're out of the home? Yeah. Or perhaps it's your husband who picks up slack while
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you're out commuting. No, no man has ever cooked a meal as far as I'm concerned. I'm not married to
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a man who cooks all of my meals. No. Bless him. Bless his heart. Bless his heart. Yeah. And they
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talk about equity in a marriage, like, and it's like, but you guys are a partnership. Like you're
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supposed to be a partnership. There are, I think, certain instances in a relationship where someone
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does, you know, carry a bit more weight, but I think it evens out. Like pregnant belly, like a big old
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pregnant belly. Exactly. Maybe a woman carries that weight. Well, exactly. But then that means that
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your husband or whomever would be picking up the slack in other areas. Yeah. Maybe, right?
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Like if it's financially, that's one way. If it's not financially, then perhaps he does
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more housework. Maybe he spends more time with the kids. Like I know people who are the woman
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is the breadwinner of the family and the husband deals with the children because that's what he's
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good at. There are stay at home dads. Yeah. So, and it's, I think this article is sort of ignoring
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biology a bit because the study found that even when the father was unemployed and the mother was
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employed, the mother still did more of the unpaid care work. But what the heck is unpaid care work?
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Being a mom? Like that's such a cold and weird way to describe your life. They always talk about
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it like that. And they, and that comes up later with the Serena Williams stuff, but it's always like,
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it's not fair that a woman has to do this and that, and that she has to like be a mom. It's like,
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first of all, you don't have to be a mom. No one is forcing it. If they are, call the police
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immediately. Yeah. That's illegal. Okay. But B, if you're choosing to be a mom, which is a privilege,
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not a right, embrace it. Yeah. It is paid in love and gratitude and love and like little baby
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squeaks and giggles. And you're, you've created a human being, like a productive, hopefully functioning
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human being that's going to pay for your retirement home one day, hopefully. Yeah. Push you around in a
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wheelchair. Like to think of being a motherhood is unpaid labor. It's just so backwards. It's so
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clinical. It's, it's horrible. Yeah. It's just, it's so weird. It's your child. Yeah. And I mean,
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obviously there are elements of this article that I actually do agree with. Um, but the biggest
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kind of trigger point, not trigger point, the biggest like triggered. Yeah. I'm so triggered by
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this article, but the biggest thing that made me like discredit it is that they use words like
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she session and microaggression and just like the worst sort of things that everyone hates about
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women. They are embodying that. And it's like, how are women supposed to be taken seriously when
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people write about this crap? Like, you know, I just don't, I just don't get it. I don't get it
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either, Natasha. And, um, there, they also talk about the fact that, um, 20, so 75% of heterosexual
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marriages is the man makes more money and the woman does more housework or whatever. Right.
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But it's like, okay, 75% is big, but 25% is a quarter. Yeah. So that means a quarter of the
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time. It's the opposite. Right. And that's not a, something to, that's significant. That's
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significant. Yeah. The whole thing is like, it's a trap for women. Like who's the trapper? And it's
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like, are the women who are choosing to do this trapped? Yeah. Like, am I, am I trapped because I
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like a clean sink? Exactly. No, no. Like it kind of seems like they're putting all women in a box,
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but it's so funny because feminism is all about how women can do anything. And it's like, well,
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what if I just want to clean the damn toilet? Okay. I don't. No one wants to clean the toilet,
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but I'm, I'm going to do it a little better than my husband. It has to happen though.
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It does have to happen. Yeah. They also talk about how there's a 10% disparity between like,
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as people are starting to go back to work after the pandemic, uh, more men are returning to work
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and it's only a disparity of 10%. So, and they're like, see, men are just trying to get out of
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housework. And I'm like, I bear, I really don't think that your husband is going to commute to
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work and deal with trouser pants and like communal bathrooms just to get out of like cleaning the sink
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or whatever. It's so stupid. It's absolutely ridiculous because nobody likes commuting.
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Yeah. No one likes so exhausting and stressful and it can be dangerous depending on the weather. Like
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I'm pretty sure these men would rather work from home. And some, I know, like I had a boss once who
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said coming to work was like his time, right? Like he spent, he, when he goes home, it's,
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he's involved with his family. Exactly. But when he goes to work, he can focus on work and he doesn't
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have to like, it's not like he can't think about his family, but it's like he can focus and it's
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like, there's a separation there and he enjoyed that. And like, maybe as a woman, maybe it's harder
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to make that separation and you're still worried about what's going on at home because of biology.
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So it's like, it's easier just to be at home. Yeah. But it's like, and also maybe men are just not
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scared of COVID. Have we considered that? Maybe less men are frigging terrified of COVID and are
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not using it as an excuse not to go back to work because they're like, I don't feel safe. Yeah.
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No, it's so true. Unless they live in Toronto, then they're all scared. Well, obviously.
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When one of the things they talked about was like this Deloitte 2022 women at work survey
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in which 53% of the 5,000 women surveyed reported higher levels of stress than a year ago,
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a whopping 46% felt burned out and 33% had taken time off to deal with their mental health.
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Among women actively looking for a new job, 40% of women cited burnout as their main reason. But,
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and I think actually working from home during the pandemic was a bit exhausting because you never
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felt like you left work and I, and then you, you had a never ending work day. Exactly. And then you
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get off work and you have to do with your children who are also probably at home, but that is not
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exclusive to women. Like burnout is a, I think that's such a huge millennial thing in general.
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I know half the stuff in this article could absolutely be applied to men.
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Right. Exactly. And we've talked about work burnout before, especially as millennials. And I think
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it's something that I, everyone, again, like you can't put people in a box. I think everyone can
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experience this depending on where you work and how your bosses respect your free time and stuff
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like that. But it's such a, it's such a larger conversation than just women. Like it really is
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humans. And it's a, it's a huge issue that I, I actually really sympathize with this because I,
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I think burnout is so legitimate and I don't think people talk about it enough, but hello,
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like this is a bigger conversation. It's not about moms. Yeah. And it's like all the research
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that they did basically just like backed up their, their already determined like consensus.
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Yeah. Like it just affirmed their bias. Exactly. Yeah. And it's like, you, like I've said,
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you can apply all of these things to men and some men prefer to be at home and some men prefer to be
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at the office and same goes for women and it's okay. And yes, like if you are the kind of woman
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who comes home from working a full day at work and your husband has been at home and he's not done
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anything, that can be very frustrating. Yeah, it can. For sure. Yeah. I sure, I'm sure that happens
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both ways. Oh yeah. And you, that's a, that's a conversation to have inside your own marriage and
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like to, to look at, you know, priorities and responsibilities between the sexes. And like,
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sometimes one person is the breadwinner and the other person picks up the slack in other areas.
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Like those are individual, like, like circumstances. And it's not something that can just be like
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defined by like, oh, women are being trapped. It's like, oh, give me a break. That's a good,
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that kind of inspires this next thought I have where it's kind of, it seems like we're in competition
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with each other. Like you're not supposed to be in competition with your spouse. Yeah, exactly.
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Like you're not supposed to be in competition with your spouse. You guys are equals. You're
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equals. Like you just said, it's a partnership. Exactly. So you're going to have to pick up the
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slack here and there, but I think it should even out in the end. And if it doesn't, then you're
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right. That's something you should address more seriously. I don't know. Yeah. Not every
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relationship works nicely and it doesn't, it's not an equal. And some women are coming home to a
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mess after working a full day and their husband's a bum. Like that stinks. Yeah. That'd be so
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exhausting. But that, that's not the majority of relationships and that's not what they're even
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talking about here. They're talking, they're making like a broad brushstroke about like men
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in general, like love to go to the office and leave their, like this quote, or in some cases
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they're subconsciously or subconsciously choosing to distance themselves from the possibility of doing
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more unpaid domestic labor. Like come on. Unpaid domestic labor. Like it's, you build a home
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together. It shouldn't, like, it's not supposed to be this like, like exhausting and miserable.
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No. And you know, like, I know myself where I'm like, we need to reorganize the plastic bags.
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There's different types of plastic. Like a man is like, I'm cool with having disorganized plastic
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bags under the sink, but I'm like, I want them to be organized so that when I open the sink,
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it's not bags flying everywhere. It's like, that's my per, like for, for him, he's not trying to get
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out of that unpaid domestic labor. He just doesn't want to, it's just not important to him at all.
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Yeah. And it's okay. But he'll care about something that's complimentary to that, but
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different that you don't want to do. And anyway, make money. I can't. Yeah. Like make money.
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That's why she needs your e-transfers. Please send me an e-transfer.
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Speaking of money, should we move on to our next one? Yes. Let's move on before my face explodes.
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Yes. It's going to happen. I guess one last thought on that article though, is you making
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women look bad. Yeah. It's, it's the subtle bigotry of low expectations and cut it out.
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Cut it out. Cut it out. We can do it all. We can do whatever we want. Okay. So shut up. All right.
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All right. Bryce Dallas Howard says she was paid quote, so much less than Chris Pratt for Jurassic
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World until he advocated for equal pay. Okay. Do you see, do you see it in the title there, Nat?
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She was paid so much less than Chris Pratt until who advocated for equal pay? I think it was a
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biological male. It was him. It was Chris Pratt. It was a man. Like, so I think it's wrong. Like,
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okay, I'm going to back up a little bit before I dig into this. In this article, it mentions that
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Ellen Pompeo said that she- From Grey's Anatomy. Yeah. She almost quit Grey's Anatomy when she found
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out Patrick Dempsey was getting paid twice as much as her. That is effed up. The show is called
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Grey's Anatomy and she plays Meredith Grey. The, the- But- Okay, fine. Fine. I don't watch the show,
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but like, but, um, what? Did they negotiate? Well, yes. That's the thing. Their wage. Hilarious.
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Like, we've talked about the wage gap before. Women are less likely to demand more money or
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negotiate more money. That's my first thought. And my second thought on this is in the case of Bryce
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Dallas Howard, even though I actually think she's an incredible actress, uh, people don't know her.
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They know Chris Pratt. Like, he's super famous. Yeah. So he's bound to make the movie more money
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because of that, right? Like, and, and it's horrible and it might be sexist, but if she quit,
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they would replace her with another woman. Yeah. That's a good, that's a good point. It's unfortunate.
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I'm not saying it's right. It happens all the time. Like, James Bond stays the same. The girl
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changes every time. Yeah. Mission Impossible, Tom Cruise, he stays the same. The girl changes every time.
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But it's not fair, but it's the way it is. So like, you need to advocate for yourself. Yes. You
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need to make yourself irreplaceable. And as a woman that can be hard, especially in Hollywood where
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your beauty fades and the male just keeps getting older and somehow that's okay. It's disgusting.
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It's disgusting. Sexist industry. It's horrifying. And I get that. But like Nat just mentioned,
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Patrick Dempsey probably negotiated his salary better than Ellen Pompeo and Chris Pratt definitely
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negotiated his salary better than Bryce Dallas Howard because he, in this thing, he says
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to her, you don't have to do a thing. I will take care of it. And it's like, he's playing
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this, he's being the hero in real life. Yeah. And it's like, Bryce, you, like, you're making
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yourself seem pathetic by being like, I don't make enough money, but like, I don't know what
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you do. And then the man comes in and like, fixes it for you. It's like, well, that's, that's
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why he gets more money than you. Plus, isn't Bryce Dallas Howard a child of nepotism? I'm pretty
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sure she came to Hollywood with some help. Don't know if Chris Pratt did. Pretty sure,
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pretty sure he's self-made. Maybe. I don't know. Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. But yeah,
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that is another thing. That is another element to consider though. That's like, I, half of these
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people were born into this life. It's hard to pity you when you willingly enter a career in
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Hollywood and you're like, oh, they treat women so bad. It's like, yeah, they have for
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like a million years. Like, like what else is new? Yeah. Like you, you chose to go into
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an industry that is going to sexualize you and, um, what's the word I'm looking for?
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Just mistreat you and disrespect you. Yeah. And also a Hollywood producer is not going to
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pay a penny more than they need to. No business will, including producers, will pay a penny more
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than they need to. Absolutely need to. So if Chris Pratt is the star of the franchise and
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he's going to get the audience. And yeah, they're like, oh, I'm going to go see.
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No one says I'm going to go see that new Bryce Dallas Howard movie. No, because she doesn't
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have the pull, even though she has talent. She's talented. It's just the way it is. And
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it sucks. But you chose to be in a terrible industry. It's terrible. And if you're going
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to be in that industry as a woman, you need to learn to negotiate like a man, unfortunately.
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And it sucks. Like, why should you have to be beautiful and sensitive and a good actress
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and also a negotiator? That sucks. Yeah. I don't want to tell you. I don't want to tell you either.
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But it's the way it is because he went in and he negotiated for you and now you're enjoying
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the benefits of that. And so you should thank him. Yeah. You should just thank him and not
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thank him. Speak to the news about it. He can kill dinosaurs and negotiate for better wages
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for you. And he's like pretty hot. He's very hot. Anyway. Anyways. Speaking of more sexism.
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Yeah. Serena Williams on why she's retiring now. I definitely don't want to be pregnant again
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as an athlete. I feel her. Yes. Well, okay. In her defense. Yeah. Before we get into the article.
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Before we rip her apart. The birth of her daughter in 2017 was very traumatic and it led to multiple
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surgeries and a near death scare. So kill me now. Right. And I think it's because she was quite a bit
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older when she had her first kid. Okay. She's like 41. I'm going to I'm going to cry. You're
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very young. Okay. 17. Okay. Okay. She's going to be fine. She's very healthy. You're you're also not
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a tank like her. Well, that's you'd think that someone like an athlete would just be able to
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like shoot it out like a tennis ball. So she's saying ta-ta to tennis after seven Wimbledon and
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seven Australia Open title six US Open trophies and three French Open crowns. Williams,
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who's 40 is officially retiring from the sport she announced last week. It's pretty impressive
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that she's so good still at 40. She's one of the greatest players. Like that's pretty crazy. And
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she came from nothing like you should watch the Will Smith movie. What's it called King Richard?
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Yeah, honestly so good. And it's all about her and her sister and her dad and Will Smith actually
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deserved his Oscar. I'm sorry. Don't slap me though. That's okay. Yeah. But I don't know 40 is
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pretty old for an athlete. Yeah, it is. You know, it's old for a male athlete. So we could
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tinfoil had it and say like, oh, maybe she's actually just retiring and she doesn't want to
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concede that she's too old for the game. But it's like she hasn't been losing lately. So that seems
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not that I follow tennis that closely, but I haven't seen like, oh, Serena Williams like
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loses again. So yeah, I'm thinking that might not be it. But I think there's something to be said
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about the fact that like, when a male athlete retires, it's usually because he's too old,
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or he's injured, right? Because he doesn't, he doesn't want to play anymore. But for a female,
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she's literally retiring because she wants to give birth again. And, and you could look at it
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two ways. The first way and how she's probably looking at it and how the left will look at it
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is like, that's not fair. Yeah, that's not fair that she has to give up her career to have a baby.
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We're also just not have a baby. Yeah, I would argue the other way to look at it is like,
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well, that's a privilege. Like I've mentioned earlier, like having a baby is a privilege,
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not a right. And she doesn't have to do it. She's doing it. She could also adopt. Yes,
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exactly. There are ways that she could bring more life into her family. A puppy. Exactly. And,
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and it's a, it's one of the most beautiful things she can do. And the fact that she can be a huge,
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the biggest female tennis star in the world ever, and also a mother is awesome. Like we,
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they'd say like, you can look at it like, oh, that sucks that she has to. It's like,
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or you can be like, how amazing is it that she did both things? No, I totally agree. And she,
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she came from nothing. Like she hustled, her family worked their ass off to get her to where
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she is. And I think it's like, she has like a net worth of, oh gosh, it's like hundreds of
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millions of dollars. She's married to some hitting a ball with a thing. Yeah. So $260 million net worth.
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And it's like, you've accomplished so much. Like, I think if you're going to be exiting this field,
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you need to go out on a high horse and say, look at all the things I've done. Yeah. I came from
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nothing. I've done enough. And I'm also a mom to your point. And I'm married and I have a huge net
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worth. And you, you also paved the way for other little black girls in tennis. Like she's,
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she's literally an icon. She's an icon. I don't particularly like the way she plays. She's like,
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she gets it done. She gets it done. She could take you, she could wrap you up into a ball. She could
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kill me. Like she's scary. Yeah. Um, I just think it's such a weird way to look at it. It's like,
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Oh, she has, Oh, it sucks. She has to quit. It's like, yeah. Well, she's being a responsible,
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loving mother. Yeah. Like I think children need their parents. And I think you're doing the right
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thing. Your kid didn't ask to be born. You brought it into the world. You should be a supportive and
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loving and present parent. And I don't know if she'd been playing for decades as well. It's like,
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maybe it's time to let someone else win. Like she's kind of being a gatekeeper. Yeah,
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a little bit. I mean, the thing is, if you're the goat, you're the goat. You don't need to
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retire just to let some loser come in second place. Like, but I will say that this highlights
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the biological differences between men and women. We need some sort of like alarm.
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Biological differences between men. Like, uh, she has to quote, give up her tennis career to give
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birth to a child. And you know, who's never going to have to do that? Uh, Leah Thomas. Leah Thomas.
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But we'll never have to do that. I think the way she describes it though,
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makes it seem as though she resents her kid a little. Yeah. That's, that's the problem with
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the whole take. And her kid's going to grow up and see all of this in the media. Like,
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cause she was for, she did a, a Vogue cover and that's where this. No one will see that. Yeah.
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No one reads Vogue. Okay. No one does read Vogue. But one of the things she said, uh, that would
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really was so interesting is she says the only person I've really, um, gone there with, like talked
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about this with is her therapist. And it's like, so you can't talk to your loving parents,
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but you can tell Vogue that the only people you can talk to, even though you're literally
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telling the entire world right now. So it's like, do you really need my sympathy? Because
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I don't make $260 million. I don't feel bad for you. And she already has a kid and she's,
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she's married to a tech guy. Yeah. Seems. Yeah. I don't know which guy, but he's rich. A Reddit guy.
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So rich. Yeah. So it's like, boo hoo. And you have, and you think you're probably going to have
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another kid. Like that's a privilege. Again, that's like a gift from God. So like, I don't feel bad for you.
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You're a winner. You're a huge star. Your life is amazing. You have an amazing legacy. You're
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choosing to retire before you tear an Achilles to have another baby to raise with your millions
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of dollars. Yeah. Plus his millions. Possible billions. So shut up. You're good. You're doing
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great girl. Yeah. I don't want to hear any more complaining from you. And she can still like,
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she can still play tennis. Yeah. She like, she can teach high level athletes. She can coach and she
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can get like her advertising deals. Like none of that's going away. Yeah. You're fine. And
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you don't have to have the kid keep playing if you want to. My goodness. You know what?
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The real reason she didn't tell her dad is because he would have been like, get your head
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in the game. Serena. Does he say that in the movie? No. Oh, but that's from High School
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Musical. Okay. It's all. Yeah. That's, that's where Nat's sports knowledge starts and stops.
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It starts and stops at High School Musical. Troy Bolton's pretty. Anyway. Okay. Okay. We'll move on from
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that. But Matt Walsh tweeted. Yeah. In true lib fashion, Serena Williams plays the victim
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card and bizarrely says it's not fair that women have to do the physical labor of having
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babies. And it's like, it's like, what, like, what do you mean fair? I think it's, I like
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the way he summarizes it. I don't always agree with him, but. I always agree with every single
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thing. Yeah. Because he's Matt Walsh. I'm just kidding. We are humans. That's a really
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healthy. We are humans. She's a really healthy relationship with pundits. I would like to point
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out. Yeah. They're gods. Yeah. I would like to point out that it's not fair that men have
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the highest mortality rate at workplace incidences and that men are the number one victims of
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murders and that men have, are the only ones that get drafted into war and that, I have another
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one here. Oh yeah. They have to kill spiders. Ooh. Yeah. It's not fair. Ooh. It's not fair.
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It's not fair. You know what else isn't fair? Life, Serena. And I don't have $260 million
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to help make me get through my crappy life. If you would like to even out the playing field,
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please send. Please donate. 200 and. Well, we'll take a million. Just a million. Each. We'll
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take 100 million. We'll take 100. We'll split it. We'll split it though. And we'll be generous
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with each other. And then we'll start complaining too. We'll be like, it's not fair. We want to
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relate to you. So send us money, Serena. Please help us relate to you, Serena. All right.
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Okay. All right. Speaking of relatable, what's more relatable than an actress who's worth like
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$30 million, $35 million telling people to pay for their college age daughters to freeze their eggs so
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that they can focus on their careers and then, and then be single moms when they grow up.
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That's so relatable. I think. So relatable. Um, so Mindy Kaling, the writer, actress, and creator
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promoted single motherhood in an interview released this month, adding her hope that parents should
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pay for their college daughters to freeze their egg. She had her eggs frozen and became a single
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mother in her late thirties. And she's currently single with two children. I would like to point
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out two fatherless children. Yeah. I'd also like to point out that she has nannies. I think I would
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assume because she is a millionaire and she is a producer and actor, no expert. But if I were a single mom
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and I had millions of dollars, a mansion, a pool, Botox, a chef, probably nannies, a driver,
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a driver. I think being a single mom would be flipping wonderful. I think it would be. Yeah.
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It's so tone deaf of her to be like girls, everyone. She says every 19, I wish every 19 year old girl
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would come home from college and that the gift instead of buying them jewelry or vacation or whatever
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is their parents would, would take them to freeze their eggs. First of all,
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not everyone comes home from college to a bunch of gifts, Mindy. Yeah. Just because I did,
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because my parents were like, wow, you graduated. Oh my God. You did it. Yeah. I was extremely
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privileged. Most people are not most like a lot of people either can't go to college or they have to
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put themselves through college by working a bunch of jobs and there, there's no gifts waiting for them.
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You're the 1%. Yeah. So I would like you to shoot up. Yeah. Shoot her. And it's like,
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she talks about how kids are the best part of her life, but it's like, what, but is,
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is the way you've done things the best for your kids? Cause it kind of feels like they were just
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like puppies that you decided to order and then you picked them up when you were ready for them.
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Exactly. That's like problem. It's like, it's all about like me, like when my life is ready for you
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to be in it, then I can have children. It's like, okay. Without a dad,
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without a dad, mind you. So, so you don't need to have a father in your life. No. And
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I think like, this is, goes back to our earlier point. Like, can't women do it all? Like,
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can't we go to school, have a job, have kids, be married? Yeah. It's like cutting our legs off.
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Like you can't have a good career ladies. If you bother with children and all that. And like,
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and like a husband and love, like it's so much better. We know this statistically. We've talked
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about fatherlessness before on the show. Statistically kids have a way better chance
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at not becoming drug addicts, not becoming violent, graduating from school, getting a good job
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and having a stable family of their own if they have a father in the house. So she's literally saying
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to all the, every 19 year old girl, don't worry about all of that. Just go and get your career,
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climb your way up the ladder, pay your income tax. And then when you're 40 and you have millions of
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dollars. And no partner. And no partner to help you. Then you can start raising your, your kids.
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It's just the most egregious thing. Come on. And also I read an article about a woman who
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did that. She froze her eggs, did her career. And then none of her eggs were viable when she was
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ready for them because that is also a, and honestly, I'm glad it didn't happen to Mindy
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Kaling. Cause I honestly think she'd be a great mom. Yeah. She's hilarious. I love her. I love her
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too. I really do love the Mindy project and she was hilarious on The Office. It's my favorite show
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ever. She's so funny. She's great. I think she'd be a great fun mom. So I'm glad that she has her
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kids, but this woman was not so lucky and her eggs were not viable when she was ready for them.
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And she said in the article, it was like, it was like for a major, it wasn't even for like a,
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it was for a major news publication. I forget, but I'll try and find it. But she said, I regret
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this. I wish I had just had kids when I could have. And now I have nothing except a long career.
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Yeah. And there's obviously this huge, I don't know, weird narrative that they're trying to like
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make it seem like kids are going to ruin your life. Yeah. And it's, I don't know if there's like a
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agenda there, like depopulation and all that stuff. I don't know what the, what the reason
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is, but it's like having kids is literally what we're born to do. We're born to get married,
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have kids and reproduce. Like I'm talking like Elon here. Yikes. But, but it's like,
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it's true. Neither, neither I have children yet, but so maybe, well, you're on your way.
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I know. Maybe once my baby comes out, I'll be like, they're right.
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Yeah. No, of course. My life is over. But it's a beautiful thing. And they're,
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they don't want us to have that in a normal and functioning way for some reason. And I just don't
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get it. And also your life is kind of not yours forever. Like if you want to just vacation and
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party and shop. That's hella boring. It sounds like whatever to each their own. That's fine. But
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like the way I see it personally, for me, it's like when I have my kid, maybe they will ruin my life as
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it is now. I will start a new one. It's going to disrupt your life. Exactly. I will,
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my, I will be reborn as a new person and that new life will be a lot harder and I'll get a lot less
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sleep. So in a sense, they're ruining my life, but I'm like, I'm bringing them into the world. Like
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their, their life is the important life now. And like, that's a beautiful, beautiful thing. And
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like, again, I say this now, I say this now. Yeah. But I think, I mean, seven, I've been married for
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three years, three and a half years. And now we're kind of like, we're kind of bored. It's
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like, what's next? Like, we don't, I don't want to. There's only so many, there's only so many
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restaurants. Yeah. And so many trips you can go on and you're like, eh, like, I think you're right.
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Like we don't. Have a baby. Yeah. You know, but it's like, there's something kids, having kids is
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obviously fulfilling in some way. In some way. And children are a gift. I'll let you know. Yeah. I
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might be gifting my baby to you. But to that point, it's not, I'll take her or him, but it's not to say
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that like having, like parents, being a parent isn't difficult. We, of course it's hard. Of
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course. It's going to, it's going to ruin your life as it is right now. You will, like on Saturday,
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I slept until 10 a.m. That's over. Like if I want to be like, I'm, my life is ruined. I can't
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sleep until 10 a.m. and I can't stay up until 2 a.m. watching horror movies. Like, yeah. Yeah.
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But it's going to be interesting and fun. It's going to be amazing. It's going to be a ride.
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Little feet. And your kid's going to have a great dad. So. Yeah. Sorry, Mindy. Sorry. You
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suck. Yeah. No, you don't. It's just a bad, it's just. It's a really bad take. But it's
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a bad take and it's tone deaf and it's such a, it's such a celebrity thing. It's such a
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privileged thing to say. It's such a privileged thing to say. And a secular thing to say.
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And it's just, it's not working for me. No, it's not working. Anyway, this has been a lot
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of. It's been fun. A lot of fun. A lot of girl talk. What are our takeaways? Our biggest
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takeaways are that feminism is a plague. It's a plague. It's a plague. It's like the
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Should we ask Fauci how to combat this vicious virus? Yeah, I think he would say that it's
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highly transmissible and that you should wear three masks to avoid it. Do you think there's
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a feminist vaccine? Oh my God, yes. I don't know what it is, but. I think there is one,
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