Rebel News Podcast - Miss Understood No. 34 — Let's Talk About Sex

00:00:00.000 Hello and welcome to Misunderstood, a show for all you culturally and politically misunderstood

00:00:23.600 lady, gent, or non-binary person. We're your hosts. I'm Kat. And I'm Nat. And today let's talk about

00:00:32.380 sex baby in the confines of marriage of course and maybe divorce and some infidelity too. We also

00:00:39.120 tackle several other topics including the women life freedom protests erupting in Iran, euthanasia

00:00:44.920 laws in Canada, Hollywood's continued effort to romanticize murderers and conscription requirements

00:00:50.460 in Russia. Fun. Really fun. Really fun. But first our patented culture shock moment of the

00:00:56.060 work. Turkey to work, huh? Turkey to worker. Okay, so Judd Apatow's new gay romantic comedy 0.97

00:01:07.120 came out last Friday. It's called Bros. And apparently it cost $22 million to make and

00:01:14.060 it only made $4 million in its first weekend, which is real bad. And the writer and lead

00:01:22.060 actor Billy Eichner is blaming straight people, obviously, for the flop, which is really interesting

00:01:30.820 because you make a movie for a small fringe minority of people, fringe minority, and then

00:01:36.960 get mad when the larger public doesn't have an interest in it. What he really needs to do

00:01:42.040 is survey every single gay person in America and ask them if they saw it because I'm pretty 0.50

00:01:46.900 sure they didn't either. Yeah. Frankly. I'm pretty sure nobody goes to the movies to see

00:01:51.820 anything other than Marvel movies. Exactly. And even those I don't understand why people

00:01:56.080 go to see them. Me either. They're really bad. But they do. But sometimes things are just

00:02:01.000 bad. Like, I'm sorry. And well, he's saying that it's not. He's saying he got really great

00:02:05.700 reviews and he sat in the back. By his mom, probably. Yeah. You know? Yeah. I'm sure there

00:02:11.280 are people who enjoy this kind of thing. He's like, it's an amazing movie and it didn't

00:02:14.120 make money because you people are bigoted. It's like... Is it, though? And I bet at the

00:02:19.020 same time he's also anti-capitalist, but he's like, why didn't it make any capital? And you're

00:02:23.600 like, squeeze me, honey. I mean, there's nothing wrong with making these kinds of films.

00:02:27.820 Oh, absolutely not. I believe that film should reflect all kinds of people and life and relationships.

00:02:34.660 Give us a picture of a life that isn't ours. I think that's great. It doesn't have to look

00:02:38.020 exactly like me, but like... Absolutely. It should be... It should draw you in. Yeah.

00:02:41.760 And if it doesn't draw you in, it's not necessarily bigotry. No, it's not. And there

00:02:45.260 are other LGBTQ, ABCDEFG movies that are really good that did do really well. So I'm sorry.

00:02:51.720 You can't blame a certain group of people for your movie's failings. Like, it just probably

00:02:56.980 actually sucks. Like, I'm serious. Like, that's probably what it is. And it's a tough pill to swallow 0.95

00:03:03.440 as an artist. And I can appreciate that you care enough about the film that you're offended,

00:03:07.820 but don't place blame on other people. Yeah. And rom-coms are hard. Yeah. Like,

00:03:12.620 they don't really exist in 2022. It's true. When's the last good rom-com?

00:03:17.420 I can't really think. Forgetting Sarah Marshall. Like, this... Judd Apatow main...

00:03:21.500 Yeah, and he's a great... He's a great director and writer. He's great. But like,

00:03:25.300 when's the last time you loved a Judd Apatow romantic comedy? I can't even think of one

00:03:29.960 in recent years that I've seen or heard of. So, you know...

00:03:34.620 So, sorry about that. America has spoken. Sorry about it. America has spoken. Okay.

00:03:39.720 Speaking of Americans, a gift from God, Candace Cameron Bure, America's sweetheart,

00:03:45.560 champions the joy of married sex and calls it a blessing to be celebrated. So she's basically

00:03:50.600 just touting the joy of married life as she celebrates 26 years with her husband and former

00:03:55.540 NHL player. What does she know about marriage? People who have, like, years of marriage experience

00:04:01.980 know the least about marriage. So always ask your single friends for marriage advice. 0.99

00:04:07.580 Exactly. Okay. They have no ulterior motives.

00:04:10.080 Married. What a bore. I know. And she seems... They seem like they're very happy.

00:04:15.360 Mm-hmm. Which is refreshing. Yeah. So here's a quote from her. She says,

00:04:21.280 sex is obviously important. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's a good quote. 1.00

00:04:29.100 She said that she hates how sex within marriage gets such a bad rap. While acknowledging that

00:04:33.260 rough patches happen, she ultimately believes sex is a gift from God to be within the constraints

00:04:38.400 of marriage and that should be celebrated in a huge part of marriage. Which is such a nice...

00:04:43.280 It's so nice. It's so refreshing, to be honest. It's so refreshing. And I think a lot of people

00:04:48.220 have sex outside of marriage and we're not here to condemn anyone, but we do talk about on the show

00:04:53.060 how the sexual revolution has actually been quite detrimental for women. And the reason sex is better 1.00

00:04:58.820 in marriage, beyond just the fact that you have time to get to know each other's bodies,

00:05:03.300 is that there's more security. So if you get pregnant, you have support.

00:05:07.740 That happened to me. Exactly. While we were married. Yeah, but you guys were in a serious

00:05:11.700 relationship too, though. So if you're not a Christian and you're in a serious relationship,

00:05:14.520 I think we could... That's fair. You know, at least you have some security in your life.

00:05:19.760 I mean, STDs, you can get those by having sex with strangers. Yikes. Or you can just have bad, 0.94

00:05:24.020 awkward sex. Awkward sex. Horrible. Horrible. You know, maybe you go to his house and the mattress 1.00

00:05:28.380 and the... It's gross. And it's on the floor. Yeah. Like, you just never know what you're walking into. 0.86

00:05:33.400 Yeah. And then you never hear from him again. And then you never hear from him again. And that comes with

00:05:37.680 emotional stress too. And that's not nice. It must be hard, you know, for women to navigate this... 0.98

00:05:44.700 I don't know. I think that there should be more encouragement for people to take sex seriously.

00:05:51.840 Yes. Because it is better. Sex is better. Well, of course it is. Because, like, the first time you

00:05:56.500 have sex with anyone is always terrible and awkward. Yeah. Because you don't know each other. You don't 0.60

00:05:59.340 know each other's hearts and you don't know each other's bodies. Unless you're, like, wasted.

00:06:02.460 Yeah. And then you don't remember anything. Which is terrible. Which is terrible. Yeah.

00:06:05.600 But, like, what could be better than having sex with someone who, like, not only knows 0.99

00:06:10.340 your body, but knows you. And loves you. And loves you. Yeah. Like, love, that's, like, 0.97

00:06:15.580 the best thing ever. Yeah. It literally... Like, you're literally the closest to someone when

00:06:21.660 you're having sex with them. Yeah. So it'd be nice to have that sort of connection beyond

00:06:26.680 the physical aspect of it. Yeah. And not to be weird and gross here, but it's, like,

00:06:30.520 petting someone else's dog is great. You're like, oh, this is a cute dog that I saw on the

00:06:34.360 street. But, like, petting your own dog? You're just like... You're like, put your whole head

00:06:38.600 inside my mouth. Again, sorry about that. Sorry about the analogy, timing-wise. Yeah. But it's just, 0.99

00:06:43.640 it's better when you know the person. Absolutely. And you know their heart. And that's why God... That's the way God intended it.

00:06:48.960 And when God creates something, and we actually fulfill, like, what he wanted for us and achieve

00:06:56.300 what he wanted, it's gonna be better. That's... It's gonna be great, guys. He knows what he's

00:06:59.480 doing, guys. He's God. He's sort of perfect. He's basically perfect. Almost like he knows what he's

00:07:03.840 doing. Yeah. Yeah. It's almost like he knows what he's doing. So anyway, very refreshing take from

00:07:08.640 Candice Cameron Bure. I thought it was brr. Maybe it is. I have never heard it. You know what? No, we're

00:07:14.460 going with Bure. It's much classier. It's just a little more elegant. She's a classy gal. Yeah. Also, 0.99

00:07:18.800 she says that humor plays a big part in their relationship. Yes. And I would be like, ding,

00:07:22.180 ding, ding. Yes, please. I totally agree. 100%. Humor is my love language. I hate people who aren't

00:07:27.500 funny. No. Like, I actually, I know, like, we're not supposed to hate people, but I hate you if you're

00:07:31.900 not just kidding. No, I'm just kidding. No, but like, have you ever been on a date with someone who you

00:07:36.040 thought would be awesome? And they're so not funny. And then they're not funny, and you're like, oh. Yeah.

00:07:41.900 That's... It's not gonna work out. No. It's never gonna work out. It's not gonna work out. No. And one aspect of humor in a

00:07:46.960 marriage that is kind of interesting is just being able to, like, laugh things off. Because

00:07:50.660 when my husband and I get in a fight, it normally doesn't last very long, because by the end of it,

00:07:54.880 we're laughing. Yeah. So... That's how I break tension as well. Yeah. Yeah. Or, and it's like,

00:07:59.640 even though you're pissed off at them and you don't want to laugh, you can't help it. Yeah. Because

00:08:03.400 you're like, I'm being so serious. Yeah, exactly. I'm mad. And then it's like, all right, well,

00:08:07.380 we're good. And it's just, it's... That's the best. To be able to entertain yourselves is also very,

00:08:11.820 very good in a marriage. Yeah. And you don't want to be the only funny person. Exactly. That's not

00:08:16.720 funny. Okay. Well, that was very refreshing. Thanks, Candace. Thanks, girl. A.K.A. DJ Tanner.

00:08:21.700 Yeah. Glad it worked out for her. Glad it worked out. All right. Okay. Didn't work out for others,

00:08:26.680 though. Yeah. Nope. And this is seven pieces of dating advice from divorce lawyers who have seen it

00:08:32.260 all. Yes. So... Yikes. Approximately half of married couples end up severing ties and parting ways.

00:08:37.560 That's a huge... That's huge. Yikes, guys. I'm looking at you. Just kidding. Yeah.

00:08:41.160 That means one in two. Yeah. That's really... So... One of us, guys. Just kidding. Pray for us. Just

00:08:47.580 kidding. Yeah. Thanks. It's going to be okay. We're going to be fine. So some of the advice,

00:08:50.500 really get to know them. So get down to the nitty gritty. I think it's important to ask those tough

00:08:55.240 questions right out the gate. Yeah. Like, don't tiptoe. Don't tiptoe. Just ask them. This one thing

00:09:01.800 says you can tell a lot about a person by how they talk about their family. If they're like, I hate those

00:09:06.300 bitches. Yeah. You're like, hmm, do I want to be one of those bitches that you hate one day? It's so true. 1.00

00:09:11.060 It's not. And like, even the way they talk about their mom, like, is it a little weird? Or is he

00:09:15.700 respectful? Yeah. But you don't... And some people have terrible moms. Yeah. Like some... It's so true. 0.50

00:09:20.920 We've talked about toxic moms just because they don't have a great relationship with their parents 1.00

00:09:24.060 doesn't mean that they're a bad person. No, absolutely. It's just how do they reflect on it?

00:09:27.100 How do they talk about it? It's so true. Are they like, I've healed from that trauma. I'm ready to move on

00:09:31.680 with someone else. Or are they going to bring that trauma into this relationship? Good to know. Yeah. It's true.

00:09:35.400 I mean, this is one of the reasons I was drawn to Seb because one of the first times we hung out,

00:09:39.120 he asked me about my family, which I thought was really sweet because it's such an intimate thing

00:09:43.800 talking about your own family because families are complicated as you kind of just alluded to. I know

00:09:48.320 they are. Yeah. So it's a personal question and it's nice to hear that someone was interested in

00:09:54.560 that. So I don't know. Guys, maybe ask a girl about her family next time you're on a date. That's

00:09:58.440 really sweet. Seb is... He's a sweet guy. Other than Pepe, he's... He's right up there. He's up there

00:10:03.500 with Pepe. He's really up there. My dog. Yeah. All right. Next one. Communicate effectively. So this

00:10:08.260 is like obvious, but so hard. It's so difficult. It's not easy. It's one of... Apparently communication

00:10:14.640 is the number one thing that causes divorce, like lack of proper communication. But it's like,

00:10:19.500 okay, just fix your communication. Yeah. That's not so easy. No. But one of my favorite books on the

00:10:24.680 topic is The Five Languages of Love or what's it called? The Five Love Languages. Yes. Okay.

00:10:29.000 Written by Barry D. Chapman. It's great. And it also comes with a quiz. That's fun. So you can find

00:10:35.320 out what your love language is. Interactive. And then you can find out what your partner's love

00:10:40.340 language is and you can always make sure to use it. That's cool. Yeah. Because you have to learn

00:10:45.260 how to love people the way they need to be loved. Yeah. And not how you want to be loved because

00:10:49.820 we're different people. Absolutely. And that's the beauty of marriage. It's two different people

00:10:53.300 coming together as one and that can come with tension. That's why I also think it's important

00:10:57.220 on the communication level is to marry someone you've been in a fight with. Because I think

00:11:00.840 how you can repair and rebuild from that fight will not only help you prevent future fights,

00:11:05.640 but like it gives you resilience that you're able, you know, you can work through things

00:11:09.080 no matter what. And fighting is just another form of communication. Like obviously we're not

00:11:12.220 talking about getting nasty. Yeah. Which, and fighting dirty. Which can happen. Yeah. Yeah.

00:11:17.320 But like. Avoid it if you can. But like having a dispute in a marriage is going to happen.

00:11:21.780 And so like, exactly. Like how do we get out of this? How, how do you fight? How do I fight?

00:11:25.680 Like what do you, what do you like to do when you're not feeling so good? Like for me,

00:11:29.360 I like to be smothered in love, but my husband needs a little bit of space. Yeah. And at first

00:11:34.900 like, I'd be like, Hey, we're fighting. Like, let me get it. And it's like, no, you know what?

00:11:38.720 He needs back. He needs a little space. And then he'll come to me when he's ready. And like

00:11:42.180 learning that. Yeah. Proved fruitful. Yeah. And I mean, every day is you're learning in a marriage.

00:11:48.920 I think like no day is like the other. Um, but you know, you got to take it in stride.

00:11:54.920 You got to take it, take it in stride. Okay. What's next? Know what real commitment means.

00:11:59.960 Um, don't get married if you're not ready to be married. I think this is one of the main reasons

00:12:05.020 people get divorced in a, like in a tangent, in a tangible sense, because I don't think people

00:12:09.440 really internalize or think about for better, for worse, for richer, for poor and sickness and health

00:12:14.700 when they're dating because they're not actually in that situation. It's hard to,

00:12:18.900 it's hard to think into the future, you know? Um, and like things are usually pretty peachy at the

00:12:25.500 beginning of a marriage or not marriage at the beginning of a relationship or at the beginning

00:12:29.820 of an engagement. And like when it hits the fan, like it really usually hits. Yeah. And if you're

00:12:36.060 going to be married, like I've often said this, that I feel like a lot of people get married because

00:12:41.540 they're like, they want a wedding. Yeah. They want a party. They want to have their friends there.

00:12:44.740 They want the dress. They want the, the ring, the ring. They want all that stuff. But it's like,

00:12:48.280 okay, but that is secondary to the marriage, which is a lifelong commitment. Yeah. And people take it.

00:12:53.820 They're like, I even like, sorry, mom throwing you under the bus. Like I asked my mom when she

00:12:58.580 married my dad, who they're now divorced. I asked her like, did you think it was forever? And she was

00:13:02.560 like, I never really thought about it. And I was like, red flag, red flag, red flag. Like, yeah,

00:13:08.640 it's forever. That's the idea. And if it doesn't work out, like that's, you know, my parents have

00:13:13.360 been divorced. I'm not going to like, like it's happened. Yeah. But you don't want it to happen.

00:13:18.920 That's the whole point of getting married. You don't do it thinking, oh, we can just get divorced. 0.83

00:13:22.380 Like, of course you can. You can also poison yourself. But it should be like your last resort. 0.82

00:13:26.920 By eating bad shrimp. Yeah. You don't want to do that. Don't do either. Actually. Don't do either.

00:13:30.620 Well, and that's something that I've noticed among Christians. Christians tend to idolize marriage.

00:13:34.480 And I get it because a lot of Christians want to wait to have sex before marriage. So they kind of 0.99

00:13:39.160 let their goody bits talk for them. But it's better to wait because it's better to wait for the right

00:13:44.760 person than to be in a bad marriage. Because like once you're in it, you're in it.

00:13:49.320 To want to get married young. I think that's another thing. It's like, oh, I want to be pretty bride or

00:13:52.920 whatever. Pretty groom. Like I want to be young when I get married. It's like, okay, but are you ready to

00:13:56.660 actually be married? Yeah. And make that commitment. I don't know.

00:14:00.960 Yeah. We don't know the answer fully. We'll find out in 50 years. We'll find out in a few years.

00:14:04.880 Yeah. Okay. What's next? Your significant other won't change, but stick with them if they do.

00:14:10.700 That's a big one. This is a big one. Ladies. Yeah. You can't fix him. You can't fix him. You can't 1.00

00:14:15.980 change him. And this is why it's important, I think, to marry someone who shares your values,

00:14:20.280 especially as a Christian, because you are not going to convert him, ladies. It's very unlikely. 1.00

00:14:24.380 You're not going to change his style either. You're not going to. It is what it is.

00:14:27.300 And he's always going to be messy. Yeah. So if that's going to kill you, like, sorry.

00:14:32.680 Yeah. I think people can change. Yeah. And I know I've changed a lot since Sebastian and I started

00:14:40.380 dating even, and even in the last few years of our marriage. But, and so I do think it's important

00:14:45.380 to be open. Yeah. People change. Yeah. But don't expect them to change how you want them to. Don't

00:14:48.820 get into a relationship with someone thinking, oh, you could be so good if X, Y, and Z. It's like,

00:14:53.660 that's not going to happen. Yeah. It's, it's so true. No. Um, so, you know, take, take marriage

00:14:58.700 seriously, y'all. This is a big one. Talk about finances before you need to. Yeah. Transparency.

00:15:04.960 Finances. I feel like communication and finances are, I mean, I feel like it's communication about

00:15:09.920 finances that causes, this is just like my personal take. No, I agree. That cause most divorces. I think

00:15:15.320 so too. If you don't know what exactly. And I, again, I talk about this all the time, but I read Reddit

00:15:21.120 and it's just like relationship. I just, I'm just like, it's fun. It's lawyerism for me.

00:15:24.700 No, it's great. Um, I'm reading like all of these, all of these things. It's like, oh,

00:15:28.340 my husband had this, has this addiction or this, like it's a sex addiction or he has this separate

00:15:34.220 account where he has a gambling addiction or whatever it is. It's like, or, or I have crazy 0.51

00:15:38.580 credit card debt and he doesn't know about it. It's like, that's terrifying. Yeah. You're kind of

00:15:42.960 backing someone into a corner. If you're in a tough financial situation and then you marry them and then

00:15:47.260 they soon realize that you have incurred all this debt over time that they now have to help you pay

00:15:51.780 off. It's not fair. It's not fair. And like my financial situation is a lot worse than my husband

00:15:56.080 when we got married. And, but he was well aware of it. Like we got mine too. We have different

00:16:00.400 philosophies on, on money. I'm like, oh, I got money. I'm going to go shopping. Terrible. Terrible.

00:16:04.660 Me too. But he's like, oh, I have money. I'm going to save it. And then, you know, and I'm like,

00:16:08.800 okay, I'm trying to learn that and I'm working on it. But it's like, to keep that from him

00:16:12.720 would have been a sin for us. I think it's unfair. Imagine he found out later and he's like,

00:16:17.480 who the heck are you? Because it's a lie. You know what you were getting into, bucko. 0.95

00:16:21.180 Omitting things is a lie, guys. It's, you know, don't do it. Don't do it. And then of course,

00:16:27.620 there is dating is easy. Marriage is hard, which we've kind of already talked about.

00:16:32.400 I mean, it goes without saying you spend years, hopefully with this person, there's going to be

00:16:38.880 ups and downs along the way. It's going to be difficult. And I think even throwing kids into

00:16:43.180 the mix makes it even more complicated. And you guys are going to experience this soon, but

00:16:47.400 you've way less time for yourself. And you're kind of just dedicating your whole life to this little

00:16:52.260 creature. The stakes are raised. Yeah, absolutely. You raise the stakes. And it's like, well, when you

00:16:56.520 thought, oh, maybe we can just get divorced if it doesn't work out. Now you have this child that 1.00

00:16:59.960 will link you together forever. Yeah. And who needs you guys to stay together. You can never fully

00:17:03.600 divorce. You cannot. Yeah. So you might as well just work it out. Just work it out.

00:17:06.920 Yep. And then finally, we have know what you're fighting for. And I think hopefully, you know,

00:17:13.260 you fight for each other every day. Yeah. Because that's what marriage is. It's about getting up and

00:17:17.160 fighting for each other every day. Yeah. But I think this is like when the obstacles and distractions

00:17:23.540 of life come into play, remember why you got married in the first place. Because marriage is a

00:17:29.520 fight. Like it shouldn't be fighting each other. You're fighting the world. You're fighting all the

00:17:32.440 things that are going to get in the way and maybe pull you apart from each other. But like, remember

00:17:36.140 what you love about this person. Even when there's annoying things, you're like, I love

00:17:40.200 this person because of all these things that are still in my mind. And that's what I'm fighting

00:17:44.080 for every day. It's so true. And I think Allie Beth Stuckey said something about how you both

00:17:49.740 want the same thing at the end of the day. Like no one wants to come home and live in an environment

00:17:53.460 where you're both miserable and you're both fighting. You guys want to live amicably and in peace.

00:17:58.080 So work together to achieve that. Yeah. You want to stay together. Exactly. Exactly. And live in

00:18:04.020 harmony. Exactly. That's the goal. And if you restate your goal to each other, even when things

00:18:08.760 are tough, I think that, again, I've only been married for a month. She really knows a lot though.

00:18:13.500 I am an expert. No, but they're like, I mean, you've been in a relationship for a while and I,

00:18:20.060 yeah, obviously marriage does come with new experiences and stuff, but you know what you're

00:18:25.460 talking about. We'll figure it out. I've been married for three and a half years and I'm an

00:18:28.900 expert. She's an expert. Wow. That's a lifetime. That's a lifetime. And she's only seven years old.

00:18:33.340 And I'm only seven. Anyway. So moving on, moving on. Well, okay. So we just kind of talked about

00:18:40.900 this where in marriage you're going to argue, but George Clooney says that his, he and wife Amal

00:18:45.760 Clooney have never had an argument. It's just been easy. I think they just don't talk to each other.

00:18:50.560 Someone, someone lying. Okay. Do not talk to each other. That's the best way

00:18:55.220 to avoid an argument is to avoid each other's presence. I mean, I guess a life of luxury,

00:18:59.760 fame and wealth could be why. Yeah. If you're not going to fight about money, maybe you're

00:19:03.260 not going to fight them at all. Yeah. It just seems a little like a tracking passion in a

00:19:07.680 way, almost like, you know, maybe they seem to be on the same page. Like they both, they

00:19:15.400 had a joint interview with some, something voters. Yeah. One of those things. Yeah. One of

00:19:19.820 those things. And they both were like, yeah, like we're on the same page and there's

00:19:23.600 no hostility. So they married themselves. Yeah. Yeah. And that's fine. It sounds cute,

00:19:28.240 but I think maybe it's just a semantical thing where they're like, she's never thrown a pot

00:19:31.880 at my head. It's like, okay, have you had a dis, cause she's a lawyer. Yeah. So I find

00:19:37.480 it really hard to find, to think about a lawyer, not having a disagreement. They're kind of

00:19:41.580 argumentative for a living. Exactly. Where you're like, they have children too. Yeah. So it's

00:19:47.360 like, Oh, where should the kids go to school? Like, should we pull them out of school

00:19:50.660 for this funeral or what? Like things that are serious that happen in life. It's like

00:19:54.140 little everyday things. Mom says no, dad says yes. Like that's an argument. You don't need

00:19:57.960 to be yelling and screaming and throwing hot water in each other's faces. No. Let's not

00:20:01.200 do that. Please don't do that. Let's not do that. But a dispute, a disagreement, a debate

00:20:06.100 is an argument. Yeah. You don't have to be screaming about it. It's just like, we've never had an

00:20:09.720 argument. Like you, I think it's just semantics or you're a liar or you just avoid each other's

00:20:13.660 presence altogether. Yeah. So all three of those are terrible things and we wish you all the

00:20:17.940 best. Um, yeah. Yes. Okay. Well, yeah. Uh, just on that too, he says that basically

00:20:24.320 it does start with love. Um, and that that's sort of the whole secret to it. And I agree

00:20:31.380 like you do need love, but love is not all you need in marriage. You need so many more

00:20:36.160 things, especially in like a biblical marriage. You need respect. You need God, all these things

00:20:41.860 like love is not enough. Love is not enough sometimes. So I just think that's kind of naive

00:20:46.980 of him to save for a 61 year old man. I don't know. Well, this is his first like long-term

00:20:51.240 relationship. That's true. And I do wish them the best. Oh yeah. And they seem cute. They're

00:20:54.800 cute. They've been married longer than I have. So maybe they know something I don't know. I'm

00:20:58.840 willing to accept that possibility. It just seems silly to tell people, like, it's sort of like

00:21:03.800 Kim Kardashian saying she has no gray hair. Yeah. At 41. Diet. Yeah. You obviously like, you don't

00:21:10.440 need to be holier than thou or unrelatable to everyone else. It's like, it's okay. People prefer it when

00:21:15.480 you're actually honest about these kinds of things, about your life, about your shortcomings.

00:21:20.300 I like to know that Kim Kardashian flosses or something. No. She has people for that. She 1.00

00:21:26.620 has someone else do that. But you know what I mean. Okay. Yeah. Just be normal, George.

00:21:30.860 Okay. Get it together, George. Get it together. All right. Next one. All right. Are you guilty

00:21:35.740 of accidental cheating? Tracy Cox reveals how woke culture has blurred the lines on what counts

00:21:40.160 as infidelity and how to avoid getting yourself in hot water. Yeah. This is interesting. It

00:21:45.640 is interesting. And the whole point of the article is that, like, things have shifted in the

00:21:49.820 past, like, couple decades where back in the day it was like, there's clear lines. It's

00:21:54.160 like, you don't go and have sex with another woman when you're married. Like, that's infidelity.

00:21:58.120 But now with the internet and, like, with, like, the normalization of polygamy. Yeah. Yeah,

00:22:04.180 exactly. And, like, my truth. And just, like, having social media things and, like, dinners.

00:22:09.900 And rooting everything in emotion, I think, is part of it, too. Yeah, like, what feels good

00:22:13.060 to me. It's like, oh, what's technically cheating. Yeah. But there's a couple of things

00:22:17.380 here. And I wanted to ask Nat if she thinks they're cheating or not. Okay. Okay. So.

00:22:21.840 This is interesting. Okay. Going to a strip club. 1.00

00:22:23.620 Um. So, in a biblical sense, yes. Because Proverbs 6.25 says, do not lust in your heart

00:22:31.180 after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. If your right eye causes you

00:22:35.720 to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. Matthew 29. So, I mean, anything to me that could get

00:22:41.000 you aroused is probably cheating. See, I would say it's not cheating. Going to a strip club,

00:22:46.140 that's just jokes. Yeah, I think it could be as well. I think it depends, maybe. Yes.

00:22:50.260 Well, that leads us to the second one. I don't know if married men should be looking 1.00

00:22:53.880 at other naked women. Like, you wouldn't like it. But there's so many naked women everywhere. 1.00

00:22:57.920 Like, you go walk down the street and there's a Victoria's Secret billboard. What's different

00:23:01.200 about that? I think it's because you're paying for it, first of all, and you're seeking it

00:23:05.720 on your own. True. And I also think, um, oh, what was I going to say? Something amazing,

00:23:11.300 I'm sure. Sorry. Give me a second. Uh. Oh, yeah. I also think that if you found your husband's

00:23:17.740 phone and you realize that he was only following chicks like Emily Ratajanowski or whatever

00:23:22.120 her name is, can never pronounce it, never will. Sorry, guys. She's great boobs, though. 1.00

00:23:25.180 Yeah, but if you're. And we know that because she shows them all the time. Because she shows 0.97

00:23:27.560 them all the time. But if your husband or boyfriend was constantly looking at those kinds of girls 1.00

00:23:31.580 all day long, that was who he was following. It's kind of, like, I think as a woman, I would

00:23:35.500 feel really uncomfortable. I would feel uncomfortable, for sure. And so it's like, how is it different

00:23:38.840 if he's going to watch women take off their clothes? Well, okay. Is he going to a strip 0.54

00:23:42.560 club, like, once every several years for, like, a friend's bachelor party? Yeah. Not cheating. If

00:23:49.520 he's like, oh, it's Friday night hitting the strip club, it's like, you have problems. Yeah. I mean,

00:23:54.040 but then it's also, like, the death of singleness is why a lot of men do that kind of stuff for their

00:23:59.960 bachelor party. And it's like, but you shouldn't be sad about losing your singleness either. So it's

00:24:06.000 like, I don't know. Like, I think it's, I do think it's wrong, but I also, yeah. Okay. Well,

00:24:11.680 that's, so she says yes. I say no. But the next one is having a private lap dance. Yes. Yeah.

00:24:17.740 On Dope. She's trying to arouse your man. And you're going into a private, anything private is

00:24:23.200 cheating. Once it's, like, that's the difference, I think, to me, is, like, you're surrounded by

00:24:27.000 other people. There's waiters and there's security staff. There's more accountability. It's like,

00:24:31.000 this isn't, this, while you're might being aroused in a public strip club, like, in a, in a group

00:24:36.220 setting, having a private, like, just having a private conversation, a private dinner, private

00:24:40.780 rendezvous, those are cheating. They're different. Yeah. Especially if your partner doesn't know

00:24:45.780 about it, I think. Yes. Like, that's, that's another thing. Are you lying to your wife or your

00:24:49.780 husband that you're going to a strip club? Like, that, if you're lying about it, it's cheating

00:24:53.780 because what are you lying about? Yeah. Yeah. Some of the other ones were, like, dirty dancing,

00:24:58.840 cheating. That's just awkward. Yeah. Like, having, like, a, a rub, an obsession with another

00:25:03.460 person is cheating. I find that weird. Yeah. Um, having a private dinner with someone who

00:25:06.940 obviously fancies you. Yeah, because it's, like, why do you need attention from another

00:25:10.540 man? What if it's, like, okay, yeah, I was gonna say, like, what if it's a work thing?

00:25:14.420 Yeah, if you're all out together. But then, yeah, but that, this is saying private. So, it's, like,

00:25:17.760 once it's private, it's, like, you don't need to put yourself in a situation with someone

00:25:20.800 where you know what they want at the end of the night is not what you want. Yeah. Um, if you're,

00:25:25.240 like, trying to get a job or something, it's, like, do you want that job? Right. Do you really want that?

00:25:28.720 It leaves room for you to be tempted, and we're all fallible, fallible beings, and it's best not

00:25:35.860 to put yourself in situations where you might be weak and make a poor decision. Yeah. Like,

00:25:39.820 just try to avoid those kinds of situations, I think. Um, the last one, though, is eyeing up other

00:25:44.620 people when your partner is with you. Yeah. What's different about being alone and when your partner

00:25:49.480 is with you? But I would say no, because I think it's healthy to look at other people. Don't lust. I think

00:25:54.880 lusting is different. Yeah. Like, wanting it. Yeah. Being, like, ooh, I wish I could have her.

00:25:59.780 It's, like, yeah. Okay. But just, I point out beautiful women all the time because I'm, like,

00:26:03.540 wow, she's so beautiful. Yeah. I think it just happens naturally. Yeah. Like, we're drawn to

00:26:08.540 people. We're people. So, of course, we're going to look at other people. Yeah, it's, like, art. Like,

00:26:11.520 a really beautiful face is, like, a piece of art. And it's, like, no, don't look at it. Don't look at it.

00:26:16.260 But if you're, like, is he going to follow her home? Like, that's different. Yeah. No, exactly.

00:26:20.500 I think there's a line. I think it's different when you're in person, again, than if your boyfriend

00:26:25.820 or husband is following a bunch of chicks on social media. I find that to be really creepy. It's super

00:26:29.620 creepy. Yeah. I don't know why. I just think it's, because it's in the, it's his, like, it's private.

00:26:34.300 Yeah. Like, he's on the toilet just looking at naked chicks. And you're, like, ah, no thanks. Like, 0.99

00:26:38.500 it's, yeah. Like, I don't, I wouldn't mind if Sebastian was checking out another chick. He probably

00:26:42.840 wouldn't. Only chicks that look exactly like me. Yeah. That's honestly, can I tell that story

00:26:46.860 where, like, we were at a party, um, I don't know, like, last, two summers ago. And we were

00:26:51.980 all talking about our celebrity crushes. And I came to, to Seb. And I was, like, Seb, who's

00:26:55.920 your celebrity crush? And he was, like, anyone who looks like Matt. And we're, like, aw, you

00:26:59.620 bastard. We all feel, we all look so bad now. He's so cute. Who's the prettiest one? Who's 0.99

00:27:04.260 the prettiest girl? Margot Robbie. Yes. No, I'm just kidding. I don't look like, I look nothing

00:27:08.160 like her. But so cute. Yeah. Yeah. He's a nice guy. What a gem. And then here I am being, like,

00:27:12.320 Timothee Chalamet, he's so hot. And he looks nothing like Sebastian. I know. I'm like,

00:27:16.300 Adam Driver. Yeah, I know. I mean. I know I'm the worst. Sorry, honey. Okay. Love you. Sorry,

00:27:21.240 sweetums. Okay. All right. Yeah, it's interesting. There's a, there's, there's a few things to think

00:27:26.100 about when it comes to cheating. But I do think our culture does encourage it. I think you know

00:27:30.520 when you're cheating. Yeah, exactly. Like, if you feel that guilt and that sort of conviction

00:27:34.840 about it, maybe avoid those kinds of situations. I think it's, yeah. Yeah. Great. Moving on.

00:27:40.180 Um, here's an article from the New York Post. I'm leaving my boyfriend. So we went on a breakup

00:27:44.580 vacation together. Yes. So the article reads, she said, me and my boyfriend are breaking up in two

00:27:49.960 weeks. Uh, we went on a beautiful breakup weekend getaway. We cuddled in this spot reminiscing. We

00:27:55.360 talked about all our fears, our plans for healing and what we hope for our futures. So it's like they

00:28:00.420 planned their breakup or she just moving or something like a nightmare to me. Yeah. I mean,

00:28:06.100 it's cool if you can end on good terms, but it's like, yeah, I drag it out. Yeah. Just

00:28:09.880 cut the cord. Yeah. Talk to your girlfriend. Like, again, I'm not judging because if that

00:28:15.520 works for them, I just personally think that would be my nightmare and I would be second

00:28:19.440 guessing the whole thing the whole time and I'd be like falling more in love. And then

00:28:23.700 it's going to be harder to say goodbye. It's going to be harder to say goodbye. Anyway,

00:28:26.340 I don't know. Just cut the cord. Just cut that bandaid. Alrighty. Let's talk about Iran. Yeah. 1.00

00:28:31.340 This is going to be fun. This is going to be really fun. Okay. Woo. Sure. Um, as you

00:28:36.200 know, there are protests happening in Iran and if you don't know, go on Twitter. Yeah.

00:28:41.300 Get out of the house. Yes. Um, basically, uh, on September 16th, Massa Amini, a 22 year

00:28:48.640 old Iranian woman of Kurdish ethnicity was arrested by Iran's morality. Police are violating

00:28:52.900 the law that requires women to wear hijab while Amini was in police custody. Shocking images

00:28:57.580 surfaced, surfaced of her in a hospital, but apparently bruised, um, and battered. And

00:29:01.740 hours later, she was dead. And this is what, uh, caused an uproar and rightfully so. Um,

00:29:10.760 I think how fragile, this is not new. We all know what happens in Islamic regimes and that's 1.00

00:29:16.420 why, uh, I have no problem being called an Islamophobe when people ask, like, when I say

00:29:22.040 things like this, but like how fragile are the men there that they can't look at a woman's

00:29:26.240 hair that grows naturally from the top of her head. Yeah. Like, sorry that you're such

00:29:30.340 a frigging pervert and a, and a rapist that you can't look at a woman's head without being 1.00

00:29:34.520 aroused. Like that's on you. Keep it in your pants. That's on you, buddy. Yeah. Keep it 1.00

00:29:37.920 in your pants. Um, and so apparently though, in another article, um, predating the revolution

00:29:46.020 that kind of is why all this is happening in Iran, uh, pictures of Iran used to look like

00:29:51.400 glimpses into the future. Yeah. So under the Shah's rule, women gained an increase in 0.96

00:29:56.840 protection, protections and rights, including the right to vote. The minimum age of marriage 0.98

00:30:00.440 was raised from 13 to 18 and women were granted the right to request a divorce and to fight for 0.64

00:30:04.420 the custody of their child. Women even held high positions of power, such as serving in parliament 0.88

00:30:09.460 or on councils and a considerable number of women attended university and were part of the 0.99

00:30:13.380 workforce and education was free for both boys and girls. And then following the revolution,

00:30:18.460 19, it was 1979. 1979. Yeah. The government control was seized by revolutionary leader

00:30:23.620 Ayatollah Ruola Khomeini. Sorry guys. Nailed that. And Iran was soon under fundamentalist Islamic 0.85

00:30:31.620 rule, which is why it became mandatory for women and girls to wear the hijab. Um, mandatory. 0.99

00:30:38.400 And that's the thing. Mandatory. When you, like, I will not criticize a woman in the Western world

00:30:43.240 for choosing to wear hijab because that's just like, you should have a right to choose.

00:30:47.120 Right. To choose how you want to dress and how you want to have a relationship with your

00:30:50.660 God. Yeah. That's cool. However, people get upset because if I'm like, oh, mandatory hijab

00:30:56.220 is horrible. They're like, well, it's, they don't have to. It's like, yeah, literally they

00:30:58.740 have to. It's mandatory hijab. That's, that's. You hear that so much from like these influencers

00:31:02.980 and Hollywood people and progressives talking about how it's, it's empowering for them.

00:31:08.200 And I'm like, it's empowering here. Yeah. Maybe here if it's empowering to wear what

00:31:12.080 you feel like has, makes you a more religious pious person. That's. It's like that's between

00:31:17.300 you and your religion. Yeah, absolutely. But when people, I'm so sick of people saying

00:31:21.260 it's not mandatory. This is why this whole revolution is happening. It's so disgusting.

00:31:25.740 Even your, you are, you hate toxic masculinity, but it's okay when it's happening in the Islamic 1.00

00:31:32.260 world. Yeah. No girlfriend. And it's so funny how we hear Americans screaming about the reversal

00:31:37.580 of Roe v. Wade. They have literally no rights. And it's like these women actually have no 1.00

00:31:41.760 rights. The hijab thing is just scratching the surface because there's also. Yeah. That's

00:31:46.320 just the, it's the visual cue. Yeah. It's the easiest way to, to see that. But there's

00:31:51.020 so many things that they're not allowed to do. Yeah. There are other discriminatory laws

00:31:55.440 in place, such as men are considered the head of the house. So they can, they're the only 0.99

00:31:58.940 people who can determine where a family will live. They're entitled to custody. Um, they

00:32:03.340 make all relevant legal decisions. Um, they, women must meet all of their husband's sexual 1.00

00:32:08.440 needs. Uh, if they're victims of domestic violence, they must prove that the abuse was so severe

00:32:13.680 that it was intolerable. Um, young girls. And you're, and you're asking a group of men to 0.87

00:32:18.560 make that judgment for you. Exactly. Yeah. I'm sure there's no corruption there. Yeah. There's

00:32:22.080 child marriages. Um, the list really goes on. It goes on and on and on. Yeah. Oh, this

00:32:27.360 is a fun one too. Women have to marry a Muslim man, but a Muslim man can marry anyone outside 0.98

00:32:32.360 his faith. Just, just lots of just egregious. Yeah. You want to talk inequality? Yeah. Like

00:32:37.540 it's, and then you have someone like Jennifer Lawrence who's complaining about making $2 million 1.00

00:32:42.940 less than Leonardo DiCaprio on her movie because of her vagina. And it's like, sure, maybe that's 1.00

00:32:49.140 inequality, but like. And inequalities do exist in the Western world. For sure. No, for sure.

00:32:53.900 And it's not like we can't talk about it just because it's worse somewhere else. But like, it

00:32:57.740 really shines a light on how, well, how lucky we are. Yeah. How lucky we are here. We're so

00:33:03.200 privileged. And how we really need to stand up for women all over the world and not just look at

00:33:08.600 ourselves and be like, what did I lose today? Because I can't afford my baby. Like these women 1.00

00:33:14.400 are literally, like when you say something like they have to satisfy all their husband's sexual urges

00:33:20.620 or whatever. That's rape. Yeah. That's rape. That's legalized rape. It doesn't sound pleasurable. 0.92

00:33:25.280 It does not sound pleasurable at all. Yeah. And apparently by 1983, women who were unveiled

00:33:29.840 in public were subject to 74 lashes by law. And in 1995, failure to veil became an imprisonable

00:33:36.560 offense. So like these, it's, they're already in prison. Like this is, this sounds like prison. Yeah.

00:33:43.840 Like, and you know, what's interesting is, um, our prime minister, Justin Trudeau fully supports the

00:33:51.240 revolution happening in Iran right now as he should. Yeah. But when his people are fighting 0.86

00:33:56.980 for freedom peacefully, he, he locks them down and takes away their, freezes their bank accounts and

00:34:02.860 tramples them with horses. And I've seen people on the internet say, Oh, it's different because

00:34:06.740 someone didn't die. Well, that's good. Yeah. Like that's great. Thank God. Someone didn't die. Do

00:34:13.700 you want someone, do you want someone who's unvaccinated to have been shot before you care

00:34:17.800 about them? You know, you could argue that people did die because of the lockdown restrictions that

00:34:22.720 Trudeau imposed on us, but you could, and other things, you absolutely could argue that, but you're 0.83

00:34:27.700 saying you would only get behind this movement if a bullet is put in someone's brain. Yeah, that's

00:34:32.540 messed up. It is messed up. That is so messed up. It is. Jeepers. Yeah. Jeepers is, it's just

00:34:38.280 Jeepers. It's just funny that he's taking action to, now he's imposing sanctions on Iran because of 0.99

00:34:45.700 this. And it's like, man, you really don't care about your own country. No, you really don't. No.

00:34:50.740 And like, we already knew that, but it's just like, because it makes him look bad. It's inconvenient for

00:34:55.460 him. So our freedom doesn't matter at all. And it actually does matter because being a pin 0.90

00:35:02.300 cushion for an experimental vaccine that may or may not kill you, we'll cut that, that is,

00:35:08.980 it's your human right not to be infringed upon like that. And it's a woman's human right to walk 1.00

00:35:14.580 around and have a job and show her head if she feels like she wants to do that. Yeah. We're born

00:35:20.340 free. We should be born free. Yeah. Within alienable rights. Yes. All humans on earth should be born free.

00:35:26.260 And that's not the way it is. And people forget that because we live in our little Western bubble and we

00:35:30.180 forget that women, all women in Africa suffer female genital mutilation. Like let's put it in

00:35:36.100 perspective, ladies. Yeah. Let's, let's just, let's look beyond our borders sometimes, you know,

00:35:41.200 I think it'll give you a nice little dose of perspective. Yeah. And also just like this article

00:35:45.560 talks about how putting sanctions on Iran actually only hurts the Iranian people more than it hurts

00:35:50.240 the regime because it causes inflation. I'm not an economist, so I'm not actually like,

00:35:54.300 this is salon.com. I don't know. I would like to have more research. Yeah. Yeah. To know exactly

00:36:01.700 how sanctions do economically affect a country. I'm not privy. I'm not exactly super comfortable

00:36:08.040 talking about that part of it, but that's what the article is about. And it kind of makes sense if

00:36:12.220 you make things harder to import into a country than things that are made domestically. Like when you

00:36:18.740 take away supply, uh, demand goes up and prices go up. So what we're seeing are in our own country.

00:36:24.000 So it makes sense with supply chain. Yes. Everything. Okay. All right, guys, let's move

00:36:29.140 on. That was fun. Let's talk about youth in Asia. No, I'm not talking about teens in the continent of

00:36:34.100 Asia. I'm talking about talking about Japanese teenagers. Yeah, no, no, not those guys, but God 0.99

00:36:39.760 bless you all. Yeah. Um, so this article is interesting, uh, is choosing death too easy in Canada. Okay.

00:36:46.220 Canada changed its assisted death law, permitting people with chronic conditions and physical

00:36:50.720 disabilities to commit suicide, even if they're not terminally ill. Um, and we're among 12 countries

00:36:56.260 in several American States where assisted death is permitted in certain circumstances. Um, interesting

00:37:02.360 though, that December through December of 2021, 31,664 Canadians have received assisted deaths. And of

00:37:10.840 those 224 who died last year were not terminally ill. And I think, um, they're, they're recently adding

00:37:19.300 a new law. They're pushing even further saying that you can have, um, it doesn't even have to be about

00:37:25.000 pain. Yeah. It can just be about having a mental disability feeling. Yeah. Basically, which is kind 0.83

00:37:30.040 of interesting because we talked about that climate guy who was applying for medically assisted suicide.

00:37:34.720 And now because he's scared of the environment, he might, he might be able to do this. Yeah.

00:37:39.260 Because he could say he's mentally ill because he might be. Yeah. Um, he probably, he definitely 1.00

00:37:43.520 has issues, but I don't think you need to die, buddy. Yeah. I think, I, I don't think that the

00:37:49.400 government should stop someone from dying if they want to die. And I do think, I think that if you want

00:37:54.480 to take your own life, doing it privately is like this person says in their interview, this woman who 0.68

00:38:01.240 is on the list, who's going to be, um, killed, killed. Yeah. Uh, she said some, I have it written 0.82

00:38:08.740 down, but I can't find it right now. Uh, she says something about how it's a lot more traumatic for

00:38:11.860 your family to find you having committed suicide than to be there in a, like a clinical situation

00:38:16.500 and having getting to say goodbye to you. It's still traumatic on them, but it's less traumatic.

00:38:21.820 And I w I would think that makes some sense. So I don't think that the government should stop

00:38:26.440 people from dying if they want to die. However, there are so many complications. I think it's

00:38:32.220 such a slippery slope though, because it went from, okay, you're terminally ill. Let's cut

00:38:36.140 the cord, you know, pull the plug or whatever. Now it's like mental illness. Okay. Now what's 0.99

00:38:40.360 next? They're going to lower the age because if kids are allowed to choose their gender and 0.56

00:38:43.800 mutilate their bodies, of course they should be allowed to get assist medically assisted suicide.

00:38:47.060 That's the thing. Like at what, at what age do you cut this off? Where do you draw the line?

00:38:51.380 Because what if a kid is, is a terminally ill? So then you make it so that children can, okay,

00:38:56.240 what if the kid is just mentally ill? Okay. Well, what if they just want to die because 0.69

00:38:59.360 of the climate? Like that is where there's, it's going to become, there's a lot of blurred

00:39:03.600 lines, I think. And it's going to, I don't, I just don't think, I don't know. I don't think

00:39:07.380 that doctors or the government should play God. And my biggest issue with this is, especially

00:39:11.900 on the mental disorder note, is that people can often work through mental disorders. Like

00:39:16.100 the last thing these people need is to be killed. They need the love and support of their

00:39:19.400 family. Maybe they need professional help. Like, I just think it's such a cop out for

00:39:24.000 people to not be able to at least try to work through some of these issues. But especially

00:39:28.840 in the case of the man that we talked about with the climate stuff, like he has a wife

00:39:33.640 and kids. Yeah. Like it's just so irresponsible. However, though, yes, it is. But so is, so

00:39:39.280 is suicide. So my theory is now you and I have to pay for it. Yes. However, however, they

00:39:46.660 might be taxing us more money by going through like attempts of self-harm and going to the

00:39:54.080 hospital and drinking alcohol and like be having, they could have more of a financial drain

00:39:58.680 on society alive. I'd rather that though. Maybe for sure. But like if someone's going

00:40:04.200 to want to kill themselves, my theory is that's already selfish. That's already a horrible thing

00:40:09.240 to do to your family. They're going to find a way to do it. And so if you do it in a,

00:40:13.720 it's just like those, those safe injection sites, like someone, you shouldn't do heroin,

00:40:18.820 but if you're going to do it, you should at least get clean heroin and have a doctor there

00:40:22.100 in case you have a heart attack. Safe injection sites have only incentivized

00:40:24.800 the issue more. And actually most people go to those injection sites and then they overdose

00:40:28.940 and then they leave and go die anyway. So it's like, I just don't, I just don't like it when

00:40:33.540 the government gets involved in these kinds of things. And I don't know, we're supposed to go to

00:40:37.500 the hospital to be cured and seek treatment. And I just think this is, ideally you, you seek

00:40:43.140 treatment and you, and you have your family. Like we need to gather around our friends and families

00:40:47.740 and especially as Christians, like if someone is suffering, like we need to help our brothers

00:40:51.360 and sisters feel loved and not want to die. But if that is not an option and they're so far gone

00:40:57.360 that they want to die, like hanging from the rafters is a lot more disturbing for your family.

00:41:00.940 Yeah. I don't, I don't think, I just don't think like we should devalue life at all. Like I just

00:41:07.120 think like we should try to fight for life to the end. And you know, I mean like we know that what

00:41:12.080 God says about people, um, first of all, Exodus 2013, you shall not murder. Psalm 139, 13, where

00:41:19.000 you formed my inward parts, you knit me together in my mother's room, womb. Matthew 6, 26, look at the

00:41:24.140 birds of the air. They neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns. And yet your heavenly father feeds

00:41:28.580 them. Are you not of more value than they like, there's just so like God values their life. Like

00:41:33.340 even if they're suffering. And I, I, I know it's easy for us to be like, kind of talk about this

00:41:38.300 because we're not experiencing what some of these people are going through. And, but like, for example,

00:41:42.800 one of these guys within a month, he submitted a request to be euthanized and was killed. And, uh,

00:41:49.460 his application for euthanasia listed only one health condition and it was hearing loss. And it's like,

00:41:54.080 I'm not trying to minimize that, but it's like, I think, I don't think that your life is over

00:41:58.220 because you lost your hearing. I'm sorry. And in that case, the family said he wasn't taking

00:42:02.280 medication for his mental illness. He wasn't using his hearing aid properly. Um, and they were

00:42:07.560 stopped from intervening in this at all. And they basically said like the, they just killed,

00:42:13.120 like the government just killed my family member, which they got, they were completely shut out of

00:42:18.720 the process altogether because he knows best, but it's like, well, he might not be mentally sound.

00:42:23.180 He can't serve trial. Right. Yeah. So why should he get to make that decision? That's where like,

00:42:28.300 I, on one side, I feel like it's a principle, almost like a libertarian principle. Like if I

00:42:33.140 want to die, I should get to die. And if I want to, if the government can help me make that less messy

00:42:36.900 and less dangerous than they should, but also there's, it, it comes with so many complications

00:42:43.220 that it's like, Ooh, it's a tough one. It's a tough one. Yeah. Especially cause this other article

00:42:48.280 goes on to say, Canadian patients are not required to have exhausted all treatment alternatives before

00:42:53.440 seeking euthanasia as in the case in Belgium and the Netherlands. And it's like, I think you should

00:42:57.820 have to, I think if we're going to say, okay, yes, this is a thing that our society accepts,

00:43:02.780 you should have to exhaust all the resources available to you because there are so many

00:43:07.040 resources available in Canada. It's going to say, especially in Canada, we're so privileged guys.

00:43:11.820 Like it's, so I just, I don't know. I think it's such a slippery slope. It'll be interesting to see

00:43:16.080 what, I mean, how this goes. I mean, I just, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know either.

00:43:22.780 I just think it's a slippery slope as is everything.

00:43:26.880 What do we do? I don't know. Just, it's a tough one. It's a tough one. It is really tough. Yeah.

00:43:33.240 Yeah. Yeah. Speaking of murderers. Yeah. Speaking of murder and mayhem.

00:43:38.240 Apparently they're sexy now, according to Hollywood. Yeah. Um, this article from Vice,

00:43:42.700 which I'm actually like based Vice, very based. Um, the Jeffrey Dahmer story stopped feeling

00:43:47.580 sorry for serial killers. Yes. Yes. We've talked about this before. We've literally talked about

00:43:52.740 this. Um, I forget what the context was, but. Probably the Texas shooting. Oh, it was the Texas

00:43:57.720 shooting. Let's not, we shouldn't be showing people's, the faces of serial killers. We shouldn't

00:44:03.560 be talking about their names. We should like, it's important for maybe like forensic students

00:44:09.880 to learn about crimes, but we don't need to glamorize them and make Netflix shows about

00:44:14.800 them and how it costs like cast hot actors to play them. Yeah. And now you have young people.

00:44:19.680 There was all these Twitter comments about how like, Oh, I wish I could have talked to him.

00:44:24.080 Oh, like he's just so lonely. That's why he did this. They're like Hollywood is romanticizing

00:44:29.180 murderers and it's causing people to sympathize with them, which is first of all, super disrespectful

00:44:34.160 to their victims. Gross. And also it's just, it's just, and I feel like it causes more murder. 0.98

00:44:39.940 It inspires more. It's like, we talked about this with the shooting because most of the time when

00:44:43.900 people commit these egregious acts, it's because they want to be, they want to be famous. They want

00:44:49.560 to live forever. Yeah. And how, what better way to be like, if you can't do it, like we've said this

00:44:54.220 before, if you can't do it through like being a good citizen and, or producing something and being

00:44:59.760 a businessman or a famous actor or whatever it is that you think is the tops, you're, you can do it

00:45:04.140 this way and you can just slaughter a bunch of people and now you're infamous forever. And that's

00:45:07.760 look, we, we should not have that in our society. No, we shouldn't. Just for those who don't know much 0.64

00:45:12.880 about the show, it's Netflix's latest series and it's a shiny Hollywood retelling of the gruesome

00:45:18.320 and vile serial murders Jeffrey Dahmer committed over a decade in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Just as a,

00:45:24.360 for those who don't know. I tried to watch 30, like I got 30 seconds into it because I like true

00:45:29.120 crime, which is, you know, messed up on its own. But, um, I was like, oh, instead of just watching

00:45:33.280 Star Trek and Seinfeld again and again and again, I'll watch something new. Everyone's talking about

00:45:36.880 it. And within the first 30 seconds, this guy's cleaning off a really bloody knife. And I was like,

00:45:42.160 you know what? I'm good. I'm good on that. And maybe I'm a prude. I'm not a prude though.

00:45:47.000 No, no. I, I think the, I find we've talked about this before, but I have seen Jurassic Park.

00:45:52.020 They just take it too far. A lot of times with the violence too. It's so realistic.

00:45:55.440 And then the glamorization. Yeah. Like, oh, he's cleaning off his knife. Like look at the blood

00:46:00.080 flowing in the sink. It's like that's somewhat that happened to someone and that was their blood.

00:46:04.740 Yeah. That was someone's child's blood. And I think it just speaks to how degenerate our society is

00:46:10.580 that we are in a place where we sympathize with these people and we make excuses for these people.

00:46:15.160 It's like, oh, he had a tough life. That's why he killed all these people. It's like,

00:46:18.300 I don't know. I, I do. I understand that people have rough.

00:46:21.160 For sure. No, it's, it's a fact that people, well, serial killers are often abused as children,

00:46:25.720 but you're, you're accountable for your actions. You must be held to account. Like, I'm sorry.

00:46:30.140 And instead of making movies, glamorizing like killers from the past, why don't we use the

00:46:35.440 resources that Hollywood has and focus on helping children today, not become serial killers in the future.

00:46:41.200 That'd be nice. Maybe some positive, like maybe some Christian stories to inspire faith and love

00:46:48.760 and humanity. I don't know. And it's funny, just really quickly on that, uh, Hollywood always

00:46:54.320 preaches about the importance of guns, gun laws and, you know, restricting access to firearms. And

00:46:59.240 yet they make violent, violent films like this who involve, which involve murder and like guns in

00:47:05.280 other instances. And it's like, you guys are hypocrites. Like don't be in these kinds of movies. 0.99

00:47:09.080 Then if you can't point fingers at everyone who's pro second amendment and then make these kinds of

00:47:14.180 films for money, like it just doesn't make sense to me. It does not. Anyway, it does not. Okay.

00:47:20.580 Hollywood sucks. Speaking of a murderer, Russia, um, I'm talking about you, Putin, uh, escaping Russia's 1.00

00:47:28.740 military draft is an act of self-defense. This article comes from the Mises Institute. Um, we're going to

00:47:34.420 rush through this because this episode is going long, but it's a great one. Um, but basically the

00:47:39.900 moral argument here by this author is that there are countries in, so the Russia has, um, started

00:47:47.300 enlisting people in a draft, young men specifically to fight in the war in Ukraine. Do we know the age?

00:47:53.420 I don't know. I don't know either. Anyway, I don't know. Young, probably 18. Um, now thousands and

00:47:59.480 thousands of young men are fleeing the country to avoid the draft and other European countries are

00:48:04.620 closing their borders to prevent an influx of refugees. Um, and they also think that they should 1.00

00:48:09.820 be held responsible for what Russia is doing. So this, um, author argues that it's a humanitarian

00:48:15.400 thing to allow people to dodge the draft. And I would agree with that. Yeah. I mean, I think if you

00:48:20.860 don't believe in the cause, you shouldn't have to fight for it. Exactly. Yeah. And I think if you

00:48:26.500 have to draft people to fight in a war that is so unpopular within your country that you don't have

00:48:31.460 enough soldiers to fight in it, maybe you shouldn't be fighting in that war. Yeah. Maybe it's time to

00:48:35.060 step, step it back a little bit. Um, and as a woman, we're safe from the draft. Yeah. As of now.

00:48:41.040 Another right that women have. Yeah. That men don't have. Heller. Yeah. Like when the ship starts 1.00

00:48:45.660 going down, they don't get to go in the lifeboat. And when the, they'll just start identifying.

00:48:49.060 Sirens of war. Yeah. As women now. Well, we saw that, didn't we? Well, we saw during the, at the beginning of, um, 1.00

00:48:55.100 the Russian invasion into the Ukraine, we saw a trans man. Woman. No, it was a trans man. Yes,

00:49:02.540 a trans man. It was a woman who identifies as a man. You're right. And she wanted to avoid 1.00

00:49:06.460 a potential draft in the future, which she was probably right to do, or he, whatever you want

00:49:10.880 to call her. Herm. Herm. So she, he started identifying back as a woman so that they could

00:49:15.600 escape Russia. Um, that's interesting. Nice. That's interesting. Very convenient. Very convenient. 0.92

00:49:21.100 Um, yeah, I would just say like conscription is terrifying and I'm, I would be absolutely

00:49:25.360 mortified if my husband had to go, not mortified, like horrified and terrified. And I would say

00:49:30.560 like, let's pack up our stuff in a bag and move to another country that is not going to 1.00

00:49:35.540 make you die for a stupid war that you don't care about. I also wonder though, I don't have 1.00

00:49:41.200 a strong opinion on this. I'm, I think I'm of the same mindset as, as you, but does it also

00:49:47.000 kind of speak to how men are kind of also weaker? And so they aren't really able to fight

00:49:54.180 in a war the same way, maybe in world war one and two, they would have been like, I'm going

00:49:59.100 to go fight for my country. Like the love of country just like, isn't like, I bet if you

00:50:03.220 asked Americans the same question, a lot of them would be like, no, I think it would depend

00:50:07.980 on the war. I think if your country was being invaded, you would say, Oh yeah. Like I want

00:50:12.980 to, I want my wife and child to be safe. I will volunteer, but it's like, Oh, we're

00:50:17.520 invading a country. Yeah. No, I don't know the answer. I just, I just wonder like if

00:50:22.800 that, no, but you're right. Like men it's yeah. They're not the men of our grandparents

00:50:27.480 generation. That's for dang sure. Anyway, I pray for these men who are forced to go

00:50:32.940 to a war. And let's hope that many of them can escape Russia. Okay. Yes. All right. 0.86

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Rebel News Podcast - October 04, 2022

Miss Understood No. 34 — Let's Talk About Sex

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