Miss Understood No. 36 — You Are The Gatekeeper of Your Sexuality
Summary
In this week's episode, we discuss Lizzo's minimal clothing, porn, and Amrata's hypocrisy for calling herself a feminist while dating Brad Pitt, who allegedly abused his wife and kids. We also unpack all the trendy labels the kids are identifying with these days.
Transcript
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Hello and welcome to Misunderstood, the show for all you culturally and politically misunderstood
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In this week's episode, we discuss Lizzo, who often sports minimal clothing while complaining
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We also address the claim that porn may be making people dumber, and call out Amrata's
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hypocrisy for calling herself a feminist while dating Brad Pitt, who allegedly abused his
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We also unpack all the trendy labels the kids are identifying with these days.
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But first, our patented culture shock moment of the work.
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Recently, uh, did a video about how Herm wants to be a moth one day?
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So Ulta Beauty, as some of you may know, I think it's more popular in America.
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Anyway, they hired Dylan to be their, the face of, like, a spokesperson for the company.
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It's interestingly enough, two males talking about female products.
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And that's why the narrative still has a long way to go.
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Because when I was grieving Boy Dylan, I didn't know those things were even accessible to me.
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Like, just looking, the visuals of that is just a lot for me.
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It's just, like, two gents sitting at a table wearing a ton of makeup being like, I can absolutely be a mother.
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But even Bruce Jenner's kids, oh, I guess Caitlyn Jenner's kids, call Caitlyn dad.
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And whoever gives Dylan a baby will have a mom, too.
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But what a slap in the face to all of us women folk who want to buy beauty products from this company.
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And it's like, you literally are making fun of women.
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Even though, I do use Anastasia Beverly Hills eyebrow gel.
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And that's one of the brands that is represented on RuPaul's Drag Race.
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And I would say, what better, like, endorsement than having a man turn into a woman before your very eyes.
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And it's like, wow, if that dude can look pretty with this makeup, I surely can pull something together.
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No, I mean, I don't mind if guys want to wear makeup.
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It is funny to see two men sit there and being like, mm-hmm.
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And it's like, the industry is catered toward women for the most part.
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So I just think it's kind of laughable that this is a marketing ploy.
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Lizzo says racism is why Roe v. Wade was overturned and black women are hyper-sexualized all the time.
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So I don't know who watched that Kanye West interview on Tucker Carlson last week or two weeks ago.
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But on the racism Roe v. Wade topic, I think it's important to point out that it is true what Kanye West said that in New York, more black babies are aborted than are born.
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So when you talk about Black Lives Matter, we all know that these people are not including the unborn in that.
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But like, what is less racist than trying to save black babies from being murdered in the womb?
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And we've talked about this on the show before, but we know that Planned Parenthood, which, you know, they are basically the reason behind so many abortions in the United States, that organization came to be because of eugenics.
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Margaret Sanger was a white supremacist who wanted to get rid of people who were not white.
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So, I mean, a racist up, like it's racist roots in the organization.
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I don't know how overturning that is at all racist.
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Apparently, Lizzo donated $500,000 to Planned Parenthood and the National Network of Abortion Funds after Roe v. Wade was overturned.
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Not just because she's trying to fund abortions, but it's like, you know that by giving money to Planned Parenthood in a state that has now made abortion illegal, that doesn't change anything.
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And then on the hyper-sexualized part, it's, I mean.
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It's rich because you're on stage twerking, wearing next to nothing, and then you're confused about why people might be hyper-sexualizing you.
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I think that women need to be the gatekeepers of their own sexuality.
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So, like, if I want to be sexualized, I will be sexualized.
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And if I don't want to be sexualized, I will dress like Nat and Kat.
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And you can tell because of these giant sleeves and this high collar.
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Like, it's not hard to choose not to be sexualized.
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If I want to be sexualized, we would do the show naked.
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And it's funny, though, because she complains about how, as a fat black woman, this country's never gone forward.
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And it's, like, kind of rich when you say that as you walk onto your, you know, private plane wearing next to nothing.
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I mean, you've been afforded so many privileges because you're American.
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America is, like, they call it the American dream for a reason.
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So, I mean, I don't get how you get to sit here and complain about how hard your life's been when you're literally one of the most famous people on Earth.
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And I think that there's a lot there, but it's just very ironic.
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But, like, moving on to the next one, it really follows what Nat was just saying.
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Because Lizzo talks about how she's not making money for, sorry, not making music for white people.
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And it's just interesting because she says, the thing is, when a black artist reaches a certain level of popularity, it's going to be predominantly white crowd.
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Yeah, Lizzo, because literally only 14% of the population of America, according to a 2018 census, is African American.
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So, unless you only want 14% of the population of America to listen to your music, you're going to have to appeal to white people as well.
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And what a slap in the face to any person, any white person who supports her music.
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I mean, like, if you're an American, she's an American.
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Like, I don't understand why people pull this card.
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And it's kind of racist to exclude a certain demographic.
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From wanting to listen to and appreciate your music.
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I think, isn't it kind of a step forward that people of all backgrounds want to listen to your music as a black woman?
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Imagine what she would say if only black people listened to her music.
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It's just like what that guy, Billy Eichner, said about that gay movie Bros.
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That white, straight people weren't going to see it because of homophobia.
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But not if they're black because I'm not black so you're not making the music for me.
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I'm not allowed to enjoy the music that you make from your lived experience because you
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And you don't choose your skin color, but you do choose who you want to listen to and
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And she's literally spitting in the face of any white person who's ever bought a ticket
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Yeah, and it's like as human beings, we can connect with other human beings.
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Like where you come from doesn't necessarily matter.
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I think we can all find common ground regardless of our ethnicity, our sex, our age, or whatever.
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And if you can't, there's something wrong with you.
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And then she also kind of, obviously, there was controversy because a while back she was
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given founding father James Madison's 200-year-old crystal flute to play in Washington,
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D.C. And she believes that her comment regarding all that is that there's still so much progress
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to be made for black women in America because her playing that flute courted some controversy.
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And it's like, I think people were mad because you were playing like a priceless instrument
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Yes, it's just like when Kim Kardashian wore Marilyn Monroe's dress.
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It wasn't like, oh, where's the racism in that?
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It was just like, please don't destroy a piece of history.
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Yeah, please don't drop it, Lizzo, while you're twerking.
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And if it does for some people, those people are just racist and they make up a very small
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percentage of humanity and no one really cares about them.
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And then, of course, she goes on to say that she wears skimpy outfits on stage to be political
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Yes, so that's why it's so funny that these two articles are like, they were both recently
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published because it's like, and she addresses it too.
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So she says, when it's sexual, it's mine, the rapper says.
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But when it's sexualized, someone is doing it to me or taking it from me.
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Black women are hypersexualized all the time and masculinized simultaneously.
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So it's like, I put on a clown nose and clown makeup and a clown wig and I walk around
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I'm like, don't you, don't you take this from me?
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And then she also goes on to say that twerking is a black woman thing.
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It's like, imagine if I said something about this being a white person only thing.
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Everyone would try to cancel me because there's no such thing as a black person thing or a white
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There are, there are like, you know, some sad white girls twerking out there where it's
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I just think it's racist to say that one thing is a black person thing and another
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We should be allowed to participate in things outside what society deems is culturally appropriate.
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And what about black women who can't twerk or don't want to twerk?
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She also says, in my eyes, to have me, a full figure dancer wearing leotards, showing and
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celebrating curves and being Olympian in strength and endurance and flexibility, yada, yada,
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It's just like, well, I really want my life to be as hard as Lizzo's.
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Statistics show that the average age of porn exposure is 13 years old, an age we all
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Studies on porn and mental health are still relatively new venture, but already we're
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seeing evidence of the dangerous side effects that partner pornography.
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They go on to say, research shows that pornography increases dopamine in the human
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brain the same way that other addictive substances do.
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Like these substances, your brain grows immune to the amount it's accustomed to and
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therefore needs higher, heavier doses of the same source to maintain the dopamine
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You have to keep upping it and watching grosser and grosser stuff.
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I think it's important to note here at the very, like later in the article, they say,
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children have an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex, which provides poor impulsive decision
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In adults, deteriorated prefrontal cortex is called hyperfrontality, a fancy way of saying
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the part of your brain that helps make moral decisions and controls urges is eroding away.
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Porn use has shown to decrease the amount of gray area in your prefrontal cortex, decreasing
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your ability to make rational decisions and moral justifications.
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I think what's kind of interesting in a bad way, a scary interesting, is that if kids
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are being exposed to this at such a young age, and let's say they develop an addiction,
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that means that the generation to come who is addicted to this is going to be really freaking
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And that's a little scary, as they are the future and hope of our society.
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So even in an adult brain, if you're deteriorating your prefrontal cortex, you're basically reverting
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But what happens when it's an actual child's brain?
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Like they say, yeah, the average age of a porn exposure is 13 years old.
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So if you're not even, you don't even have a developed prefrontal cortex yet, and you're
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Yeah, it's just really scary to think of the long term implications of this.
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I mean, we've talked, we had a whole episode kind of talking about porn and just how detrimental
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But I think there's just so much stupidity in the world that we don't need any more of
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So even just putting aside like any ethical arguments or arguments on porn, like just the
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fact that it's going to mess up your brain is a good reason to avoid it.
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But like, it's the kids who don't care about that.
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And they're the ones who are going to consume porn and it's going to be the most detrimental
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Speaking of more hyper-sexualization, Scarlett Johansson recalls being hyper-sexualized as
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So she says, I kind of became objectified and pigeonholed in this way where I felt like I wasn't getting
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offers for work for things that I wanted to do.
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I remember thinking to myself, I think people think I'm 40 years old.
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I somehow stopped being something that was desirable and something.
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It somehow stopped being something that was desirable and something I was fighting against.
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So basically everyone just thought she was a lot older than she actually was because
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she, I guess her, she's been acting since she was a kid, but her breakout role was in
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Lost in Translation where she was playing a 22 year old at only 17.
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I never saw the movie, but I remember seeing the commercials and stuff and I was like,
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And she, I mean, Americans to me always look older than they actually are, but I mean,
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But I do agree with her, like, and especially because a lot of, like, she's been known to
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be kind of a sex symbol in Hollywood and it's kind of not her fault in the way because so
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many female roles have always just been sexual.
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There hasn't really been much diversity for women in Hollywood until now, I guess.
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Like, it's really, like, the field is leveling out a little bit for men and women, but.
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I think for me, my favorite role she ever did was A Marriage Story.
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And she was not sexualized in that movie at all.
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But, no, it's a great movie and, like, the point is, is now things are starting to change.
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But Hollywood has been a gross place since its inception.
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And it's, like, it's not, like, oh, you're in Hollywood so you deserve it.
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But it's, like, when you enter into Hollywood as a young, beautiful actress, like.
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Well, and it's funny because of the double standard as well.
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I mean, women have to be sexy and slender and perfect.
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And wrinkled, and they get older and older, but the women keep getting younger and younger.
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And we're expected to believe that they actually, these characters are supposed to be in love.
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Like, in Lost in Translation with Bill Murray and Scarlett Johansson, who's literally a teenager.
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It's, like, she would never date him in real life.
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No, and I didn't see this movie, but there's a new movie with Ben Affleck and Anna DeArmas.
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Yeah, I mean, it's good that the pendulum is swinging.
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I think women have just always been put in a box for some reason in Hollywood, and hopefully
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Speaking of people in Hollywood who were sexualized, it's actually much, much worse than
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Paris Hilton claims she was sexually abused at boarding school as a teenager.
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Um, so, some people may be aware already of all of her allegations against Provo Canyon
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School, which was a boarding school, um, that she was sent to, to, it was also more than
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It was, like, a, like, a reforming school, sort of.
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Yeah, um, certain things like not letting her talk to her parents and emotionally and
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I've heard those allegations before, but what I didn't hear was this story that she claims
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she was woken up, uh, she, her and other girls were repeatedly woken up in the middle
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of the night by a male staff member, taken to a medical facility, put on a table, and
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had cervical checks done on them by someone who was not a doctor at all, against their
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That's, like, something from literally, like, an American horror story.
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Well, and what's even scarier is, you know, they, they take away your phone if you try
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You're just trapped in this, like, prison, and you can't even call your mom and dad
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Yeah, and there's gaslighting going on as well, because they would say, like, oh, no,
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But it's, like, as she grew up, Paris Hilton was, like, that was sexual abuse.
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I did not, you don't need multiple cervical checks as a young girl.
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Yeah, you don't need, you don't need that at all.
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Actually, until you're an adult or sexually active.
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Um, I mean, I'm really appreciative of her for coming out about this, because, I mean,
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Hollywood, we've talked about this before, and society in general just hates kids.
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So if she's coming out in defense of kids and trying to combat them being sexualized,
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So I appreciate her coming out in their defense, because no one wants to in 2022.
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Yeah, which I'm sure has been very painful for her.
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I mean, she did, she talked about this on her show, Paris in Love, which is about her,
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uh, leading up to her wedding, which she got married last year.
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And even just, like, having to deal with this with her mom, who kind of seemed to be in
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So, I mean, good for her, and I think it speaks to the importance of communicating with
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Like, parents need to keep close tabs on their kids.
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Absolutely, and especially because this is not an isolated incident.
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It's hundreds of people are coming out talking about this particular school and other similar
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facilities that are, like, military schools or reforming schools for kids.
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So, it's, like, that's not normal behavior, but it is happening on a wide scale, and the
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fact that someone as famous as Paris Hilton is talking about it, maybe we can, exactly,
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like, not just said, like, protect children in the future and talk about this openly.
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And, again, just reiterating what you just said, like, communicate with your children,
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Like, if you're not able to contact your child at school, find out why.
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Because maybe something terrible is happening to them.
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Yeah, and I'm not saying, like, be a helicopter parent.
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Yeah, like, if your kid's going through something or dealing with something, it is on you as
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a parent, I think, to be there and to try to help them manage that or, you know, pull
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So, promoting pedophilia and restricting free speech, the dark side of Reddit.
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So, for those of you who don't know, it was founded in 2005 by a pair of college roommates.
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Reddit was created to be the front page of the internet where users could share and view
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text posts, images, and links about anything and everything.
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And I don't use Reddit, but it's anonymous, right?
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And it's really easy to create, like, a burner account.
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So, people will often post things that are, like, oh, I have a, I want to talk about sexual
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So, over the, over time, the site evolved to become more organized and accessible than
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the typical general image board that it started as with an update in 2008 that gave users
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the ability to create communities known as subreddits dedicated to anything, no matter
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And then, since then, there's been quite a few controversies.
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Um, so, in 2011, the site was reportedly allowing subreddits dedicated to sharing pictures of
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underage girls, and it took months of controversy around the former and the emergence of the
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So, the subreddits are, are jailbait and are preteen girls.
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So, it took a long time for site admins to take action around removing these subreddits
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and changing their policy to ban suggestive or sexual content featuring minors.
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What is so interesting about that is that those moderators, they're not the exact same
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people, but there are moderators on these subreddits who manage the-
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It took them months to take away pictures of underage girls, but they will ban you for-
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Like, unless you're on a specifically conservative-
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And let's not forget that the Donald was one of the biggest, most popular subreddits
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And people attribute a lot of Trump's success to the success of the Donald subreddit, and
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And I literally never saw anything racist on there.
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I know that there are things that are both post on that, and probably somewhere like 4chan
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or QAnon later on, but through my experience, I didn't see-
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It was very lib-bashing, but none of it was racist.
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But you'll shut that down in a second, but it'll take you months to shut down actual
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There's another example of a girl whose boyfriend posted revenge porn of her when they were like
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And again, she had to go through all these hoops to try to prove that it was like, I guess,
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But yet, if you call someone a groomer, you're out.
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Like, we've talked about this on the show before.
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You're not allowed to call a spade a spade, but if there's revenge porn of an underage
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It's icky, and it's such a shame that the internet, it's come to this on the internet.
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I mean, I am in favor of regulating actually harmful content.
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Like, I don't want to- I don't think pedophiles should be allowed online.
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They should be allowed online, because you never know who they are, but you shouldn't be allowed
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And, like, no sexually explicit content of children, nothing like that, or, you know-
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There needs to be boundaries, but, like, Reddit, like, come on.
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If you're going to keep all this nasty stuff about, you know, pedos online, then maybe
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you should keep the conservative content, too, then.
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Like, it's just so funny that you can't Reddit ban the word groomers, but you can literally
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I mean, I'm sure subreddit is a great opportunity for creeps to come in and inspire your children
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to transition, because that's what's going to make them happy.
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I don't think you should let your kids on Reddit.
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No, it's hypocritical of Reddit, and it's hypocritical of our next topic.
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Emily Ratajkowski is called out for criticizing men who abuse women while reportedly dating
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Currently, Angelina Jolie is filing charges against Brad Pitt for allegedly mentally and
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Like, she's saying that Brad Pitt choked one of the children and struck another in the
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Additionally, it says that Pitt poured beer on Jolie and poured beer and red wine on the
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It's interesting and really changes my mind about Brad Pitt.
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But, bringing back Emily Ratajkowski, she has been calling out male abusers online in
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this post-MeToo movement and how can men do better and yada, yada, yada.
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But then people are like, fans of hers are like, aren't you dating Brad Pitt?
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But, I mean, at least be a little more subtle about it then.
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Or, like, maybe because there's an ongoing litigation, like, maybe don't talk about some
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of the exact things that are happening in that online because you know people are going
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Like, maybe just wait until that's over and he's been proven innocent, if that's what's
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going to happen, to be like, hey guys, like, A, falsely accusing men of this and that is
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wrong, and B, like, actually abusing men who are abusing women is wrong.
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Like, there's a time and a place for that message, and I agree with her.
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And, like, there is a huge problem, like, with men, especially in Hollywood, like, sexualizing
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women and taking advantage of women and making them do certain things for certain roles.
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Fine, call him out, but it's just like, I think.
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Do you have some information for us on the Brad Pitt thing, Emily, or not?
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Well, I mean, and we don't even, their relationship status is not official either, but I think it's
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Like, because it's fine if you want to date Brad.
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Like, but it's like, you can't throw stones at other people if you want to date someone
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Like, if you have good, like, it's just like when Amber Heard was accusing Johnny Depp
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of et cetera or whatever, um, his ex-wife, Kate Moss, came to his defense.
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It's not like you have to shut up about the topic, but it's like, do you have information
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Like, maybe come and say, like, no, there's absolutely no way that's true.
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I mean, if they're just starting to date, she wouldn't really know, would she?
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I guess so, but not a great time to enter a relationship when someone's about to enter
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I mean, maybe you just, maybe she knows that he's, uh, like, hitting the tabloids are after
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him right now and she just wants more attention.
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Sorry to say, but she kind of loves being in the news.
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Three female celebrities have come out as bisexual just this past week.
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So, it all started when a bisexual TikToker asked her audience if you identify as bisexual.
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Shay Mitchell responded with a video of her laying down on, you guessed it, a green velvet
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Emily Ratajkowski decided to hop on the trend by showing off her similar couch in her newest
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Um, I think a green velvet couch sounds gorgeous.
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Yeah, I don't get what that has to do with your sexuality.
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I don't, I, I, yeah, please write it in the comments.
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But, and then Madonna raised even more questions when she posted a rather bizarre video on her
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The 65-year-old's video read, if I miss, I'm gay.
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The material girl singer then proceeds to throw a pair of pink undies in the trash, but misses.
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Okay, but my favorite thing about all of these people is that they all have children and they've
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Well, I think that, I saw online that people were saying Shay Mitchell has always been like
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But I'm not so old that I know the next one because people are saying that Madonna has been
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She did kiss Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera on stage years ago.
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Um, so those two, like two of the three may have had a history in the past.
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They both are like, those two have had a history of being sexually ambiguous in the past.
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But Emily Ratajkowski, I don't, you're dating Brad Pitt, but you're bisexual.
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And you have a daughter or, sorry, son, newly separated.
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I don't know about, she's just, my thing is she's, she's just, she's pulling a Demi Lovato
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and she wants to be in the news because maybe, I don't know.
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She's still beautiful, of course, but like me as a model, once you start reaching a certain
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You either have to host a reality show about fashion or you were kind of done for.
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So you're trying to stay in the, well, it's just a way for people to like, people use
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these labels and they apply them to their lives so that they can stay cool and trendy.
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And it's a way, I mean, being a victim or being a part of the oppressed class is so
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Um, so these people do it to gain points, to get, to get clout.
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But did you see this part of the article where they saying, according to a Gallup survey,
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With women being more likely than men to have a preference for both genders.
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But do you think they genuinely are bisexual though?
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It's just like, it's just like, I don't want to get graphic here, but like women are more
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sexual, like more likely to be sexual with other women in a non-sexual way.
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I used to cuddle with my friends in high school.
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Like I could be like, oh, I'm gay because we used to cuddle.
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Like, but you're not sexually attracted to your friends.
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Girls will make out with other girls in front of guys for attention.
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Like that doesn't make you a lesbian or bisexual.
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There are actual bisexual and lesbian women who will be like, you're doing that for attention.
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You're doing that because you're young or whatever.
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Like linking arms when you're like, boys don't do that kind of stuff.
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It's, I mean, you can't, you just can't do that.
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And it's embarrassing for someone, Emily Ratajkowski's age.
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I don't know how old she is, but I know she's probably in her thirties or approaching
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It's like, it kind of reminded me of something else though.
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You know how everyone always talks about like, especially Teen Vogue.
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They always talk about how it's so hard for LGBTQ people to come out and all this stuff
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As if it's like the easiest thing in the world.
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It's like, yeah, maybe it was difficult a few years ago, but goodness gracious.
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Right now it's like just getting a new car, like going to the dentist.
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What young people of Latin American descent think of these terms?
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So it says the exact origins of Latinx are unclear, but it's been used online since the early 2000s.
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The term which bucks the gender traditions of Spanish language has become particularly popular among queer Latin Americans.
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I just think it's funny where they're like, it's like there's no better way to celebrate Latin culture than to throw away one of the oldest traditions that they have, which is their language.
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In a 2020 survey, the Pew Research Center found that Latinx is used by just 3% of Latin Americans in the U.S.
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Some feel it contorts the Spanish language, while others don't believe in adopting a term that's fairly difficult to pronounce in Spanish.
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Others may be hesitant to use a term that embraces gender fluidity, though polls show that most Latin Americans in the U.S. are accepting of LGBTQ people.
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So literally Latin people are not using these terms.
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There's like three Latin people in the world who are using these terms.
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So I'm like, oh, demisexual probably means some BS.
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So this, um, article is around, like, follows a column called Down to Find Out, which is some
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Um, so here's one of the questions that was written in.
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A lot of my friends at college are okay with having casual sex, but I really don't enjoy
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hooking up unless I have strong feelings for a guy.
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Um, so basically, so, okay, so the actual definition of demisexual according to some
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So apparently some random person on the internet created this term, and it means someone who
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can only experience sexual attraction or desire after an emotional bond has been formed.
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So they had, they've turned, they've coined the term slut to describe the opposite, but
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You can, you only want to have sex with someone that you like?
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We talked about this when we talked about that, our author, Louise Perry, and her book
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Uh, she wrote a book, basically, about the sexual revolution and how it's all a scam,
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but basically, like, women are told by society that casual sex is satisfying and empowering,
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and a lot of women are now realizing that, oh, that actually defies my nature.
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Exactly, and it's because our society has to put everybody into a box, which is so limiting
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and sad, and I, I, oh, it just drives me nuts, but it's like, no, man, these women are just
00:38:25.940
So, basically, you're only half a sexual being if you're not DTF anybody that you come
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I think it means that there's a lot that we need to unpack here.
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Because I didn't even realize that I'm part of the community, you guys.
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Or are they going to get rid of you because you're now, like.
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I should have thought this through before coming out on the show.
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Anyway, I just think it's funny because they talk about how there needs to be a deep
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And it's like, that's called having standards, too.
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Like, it's okay to not want to bone every person you meet or see.
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Because you're not willing to just, yeah, throw down with anyone in the street.
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This makes me a little bit sad that people think they need to slap a label on it.
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You're actually saving yourself a lot of heartbreak and harm as a young person.
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Congratulations to Kat for coming out as demisexual.
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