Red Ice TV - Holly MidLife - Life Tips For Women

00:00:00.000 welcome holly midlife from canada thanks for being here

00:00:18.360 hello thank you so much for having me i really appreciate it it's funny because someone

00:00:24.020 recommended your channel to me and you definitely have some excellent life tips for women but you're 1.00

00:00:28.980 also curious about about a lot of various topics and i could also read between the lines and some

00:00:34.300 of your videos and i was like yeah this is a good one there was something new though on your channel

00:00:39.060 that i had never heard about rando nodding now it sounds like sounds a little woo woo but i think

00:00:45.380 there's something to it have you had any rando nodding adventures recently uh so rando nodding

00:00:51.860 it is if you go deeply into it there is a lot of woo woo about it um if you're into like the the

00:01:01.120 paranormal and all that stuff and um the you know the the basis behind the secret and everything like

00:01:07.380 that essentially uh it was just something fun that my daughter had seen on tiktok and she um she said

00:01:15.420 let's give it a try and so essentially what it is is it's a random point generator so it gives you

00:01:21.840 a location to go visit that's within a certain distance so you can set it as a driving distance

00:01:28.560 a walking distance and we chose walking because we were trying to get out of the house during the

00:01:33.100 whole lockdown situation and uh we we had a lot of great rando nod adventures and it took us to places

00:01:40.160 that we had never seen before and essentially the the theory behind it is it gets you out of your

00:01:45.820 reality tunnel and i mean i see it as it gets it gets you out of your daily routines because when you

00:01:52.180 go for a walk you tend to always go the same places what this did was just get us to discover different

00:01:58.420 places in our city in our neighborhood and i mean we did have some coincidental things happen

00:02:05.160 that i thought was really interesting and that's what kept me doing it but uh just it's one of those

00:02:10.260 those tiktok trends that uh my kid my youngest uh i like it though it's kind of fun and sometimes yeah

00:02:16.440 exactly it's good to switch up your usual routine you know drive a different way go to a different park

00:02:21.480 you know it gets other neural pathways firing in your brain so you're just not on like robot mode all

00:02:27.500 the time right so that sounds like a lot of fun so you're you're almost 50 so what we're going to

00:02:34.780 talk about uh is you know women's issues i think this is a great show for women just things that 1.00

00:02:39.700 you've learned you know i'm in my 40s as well there's a lot that i've learned and i wish that i

00:02:44.140 knew some of these things when i was 25 right there isn't always those women in your life telling you

00:02:50.600 these things and uh so let us be those women who are telling some of these younger women things

00:02:55.740 and we're going to get into that but also i think some tips for women who are midlife because we can't 0.81

00:03:00.680 forget about the older gals too your life is not over at 50 or your life is not your life is just

00:03:05.680 beginning again in a different way in your 40s but would you say that you're very different uh from

00:03:11.420 say 25 has the core of you changed uh you know to who you are has it stayed stayed strong you're

00:03:19.140 approaching 50 now it's a it's a two-level answer because the the core of me has not changed

00:03:27.720 i'm still the same uh personality still the same person that i was however i just feel closer to my

00:03:37.140 my 50s i am a lot more confident in who that person is so it's a yes and no it's i'm a very stubborn

00:03:47.720 person but i've learned to use that stubbornness to my advantage and not to my detriment i think that

00:03:53.740 would be the major lesson that i've learned from 25 yeah i think for me is yeah i knew who my core

00:04:00.620 was but having i didn't quite understand or harness it yet you kind of have to refine your strengths and

00:04:07.400 kind of work on your weaknesses and that takes it takes a lifetime there's people still working on

00:04:12.320 their weaknesses when they're 80 years old now would you say there were defining moments in your

00:04:16.720 life that changed you for the better or made you embrace who you are um i would say yes like it's

00:04:25.800 certainly the the birth of my my children 100 that changes you as as as a woman you you are now no

00:04:35.200 longer just an individual you are now a person that is eternally tied to another human being and

00:04:41.100 responsible for them and i did have my kids fairly young and it did make me grow up very very fast so

00:04:50.220 that was a base fundamental change for me um but then also a lot of the the tragedies that i've gone

00:04:57.280 through in my life uh they've shaped my resolve in uh who i am and what i need to focus on um but then

00:05:05.120 of course there's always you know the death of a thousand cuts there's the the little mistakes that

00:05:10.140 you make day to day that lead you down a path that instead of learning the lessons from them i

00:05:17.180 didn't and just continue to make the same mistakes over and over again and uh learning from that has

00:05:24.200 been a foundation of who i am today but i wouldn't say that that was a definitive moment in my life so

00:05:31.260 yeah exactly i would say the definitive moment you're right marriage and kids that definitely did a big

00:05:37.180 one for me and they they say that nothing makes a woman uh conservative like having children right

00:05:43.540 and i found that that i found that to be true as well you start prioritizing different things right

00:05:49.100 away it just changes your world it just kind of something else kicks in maybe that's why the system

00:05:54.180 doesn't want women having kids when they're younger so they could just be liberal and just you know 0.91

00:05:59.040 miss those fertile years and then just become a wine aunt a liberal wine aunt in their old age

00:06:04.820 i think too when it comes to finding who you are you have to separate what other people have

00:06:09.940 projected onto you you know we listen too much to what we think other people think of us right

00:06:15.260 telling us who we are but no one knows you like you or why you behave the way that you do but one

00:06:21.540 thing's for sure it's a process and you have to work it's uh developing yourself if you really want

00:06:26.920 to because i find that there's some people that they just don't care but for me i find the older i get

00:06:31.880 the more i want to be refined and be all that i can be did you did you have that experience as well

00:06:37.160 like once you hit i don't know your late 30s you're like oh my god i'm approaching 40 but you're you're

00:06:43.340 happy and who you are you're a confident woman you like i wish i had that brain when i was 25 but you

00:06:49.980 can't force that you know you can't force life experience some things just do happen with age right

00:06:55.480 yeah you it's funny because the the lesson the lessons that my parents tried to teach me when i

00:07:01.540 was was a young woman was learn from other people's mistakes and you you try to do that but there is no

00:07:09.700 greater lesson than than life making the mistakes burning your hand on the hot stove that teaches you

00:07:16.200 real quick not to touch it and it was interesting what you said about the as women we tend to want to

00:07:25.220 take on what or what we project out to the world as a part of our personality and i find that as you

00:07:31.200 get older as a woman as as women get older we we start to develop that um mindset of i don't give an 0.99

00:07:40.400 f what people think of me and sometimes that power can be used for good and sometimes that power uh tends

00:07:47.360 to make them turn into crazy wine moms um but but harnessing harnessing that that letting go of what 1.00

00:07:55.540 other people think of you because remember when you were in high school and you wore the wrong color 1.00

00:08:00.580 jeans or you you did your hair with the wrong part or something stupid teenage girl like that 1.00

00:08:06.140 it was absolutely devastating to you and your identity as a young girl and then as you move into your 0.99

00:08:14.160 20s your focus turns to what are the boys finding attractive about me and you start to orient yourself

00:08:21.760 in that way and then as you get older you start to lose that power of the young woman and now it's 0.97

00:08:28.920 like okay well who the hell am i and then that's when that break happens well it happened for me

00:08:33.660 was you know i really i should really stop caring about what people think of me and how am i going to do

00:08:40.480 this constructively and i don't know if it was divine intervention or something but that was when

00:08:46.340 uh my love of philosophy started to develop and that's when i discovered you know the teachings of

00:08:53.620 all the different great philosophers the socratic method of questioning things um renee descartes uh the

00:09:00.200 apple the apple basket experiment taking apart your entire belief structure and then putting back into the

00:09:07.700 the basket the things that are serving you and then discarding the things that actually aren't serving

00:09:14.000 you and not they're hindering you from becoming the person that you're you truly are meant to be

00:09:19.340 um it's it's really interesting when you start to kind of dive into your your beliefs the ones that

00:09:25.900 you're carrying over through different parts of your life uh some of the things just just don't work

00:09:31.420 anymore but i notice women tend to hold on to a lot of them and it makes them very miserable and very 0.99

00:09:36.760 unhappy as we age oh yeah definitely no it's true you have to find your way and you also

00:09:41.700 you know as you pull away from your parents maybe you have some of their belief system or

00:09:46.340 religion like i grew up in religion i'm not a christian anymore but i grew up in a christian

00:09:52.600 household you know i went through my journey my process and uh also looking into philosophy i was

00:09:57.720 definitely into carl jung learning about him and the whole shadow self side of you which i thought

00:10:02.700 was really powerful because there's a saying that your greatest strength can become your greatest

00:10:06.980 weakness right and your weaknesses can become your greatest strength i think that you'll probably say

00:10:12.020 that that's been true for you i've found that that's true because the thing about weakness is

00:10:16.280 really it's just unrealized potential that you haven't learned about yet whereas the things you

00:10:21.580 think are your strength can like you're saying maybe being too mouthy or something can limit you

00:10:26.460 without realizing it you know there's i think that there's more to tap into that creates a wiser

00:10:34.580 balanced you but you have to be conscious of what those are and it takes time to learn who you are and

00:10:41.660 it's true in your 20s you kind of don't think about those things more because you're thinking about

00:10:45.260 got to get that guy you want to get that guy maybe you want to start a family you have this and that

00:10:49.600 i think once you're kind of uh over 30 start thinking about those things and uh you know

00:10:55.400 you're more introspective what do you think oh yeah well 100 like thinking about my what i consider

00:11:03.120 one of my greatest strengths is absolutely definitely one of my greatest weaknesses i am stubborn and

00:11:09.840 patient to a fault and i'm very very slow to anger and i i always perceive that as a very very good

00:11:19.040 thing now i still believe that it is however throughout my life it's it's put me in situations

00:11:25.200 where i have stubbornly tried to prove people um wrong of what they think of me and

00:11:34.960 that stubbornness has kept me in situations that i should have exited a long time ago or i shouldn't

00:11:41.040 have wasted that time on that relationship or i shouldn't have wasted that time in that job because

00:11:46.400 it just wasn't the right place for me and um if i would have been a little quicker to react and a

00:11:52.160 little less stubborn in trying to prove myself i think that uh things would have gone a lot easier

00:11:58.400 for me but then questioning that you have to think well was that a life lesson that i needed to learn

00:12:04.000 so i can get to the place where i am now where i'm still stubborn i'm still strong-headed but i can now

00:12:12.160 recognize okay this is actually starting to damage me or damage my family or damage something and it's

00:12:18.400 like okay now it's time to walk away now it's time to to get angry yeah not be so uh agreeable and try

00:12:26.320 to get along with everyone sometimes there's a lot of women fall into that i used to be like that too 1.00

00:12:31.600 almost too nice and a lot of women can become doormats like that or get pushed around or maybe you know they 1.00

00:12:39.040 need to learn to say no more often to certain people that they shouldn't waste their time with

00:12:43.680 you know i see a lot of young girls do that because there are a lot of young girls that 1.00

00:12:47.040 they're nice but they're just kind of blowing around in the wind they're not really sure you

00:12:51.760 know where the grounding is and they get they get taken advantage of you know but then when you're

00:12:56.160 older you're like looking at some of those women like just say no walk away he's a slime bag or 1.00

00:13:01.200 you know like we can see we can see it coming across the street you know yeah whereas something happens in

00:13:06.640 your youth it's like you just don't see some of those things i don't know what it is you know

00:13:12.160 well with that i think that we should share you had some great tips um in one of your videos for

00:13:17.440 younger women later we're going to get into some tips for midlife gals too so in your old wise age 1.00

00:13:22.720 please and i don't think you're old what are things that you have learned that you would like

00:13:26.720 to share with with younger women what would you like them to know well i think the number one thing

00:13:32.160 um that that i've learned in in my life because of course i was an avid feminist and i was all about 1.00

00:13:40.640 freedom of uh expression and uh the the whole free love movement and how you're you know sex is power

00:13:48.480 and and all of that and that that mindset is very very damaging to young women and i have been

00:13:57.360 pleasantly surprised seeing the there is a bit of a shift in young women's mentalities with 1.00

00:14:05.760 moving away from that whole hookup culture thing and starting to realize exactly how damaging it is

00:14:12.560 and i've seen it come more to the mainstream where women are starting to throw out that idea of maybe 1.00

00:14:18.880 this isn't something that a woman should be doing just throwing her her sexuality to the wind and letting 1.00

00:14:24.720 anybody hop on for a ride essentially putting it nicely and one of my my quotes in my videos is 0.99

00:14:32.080 garbage in garbage out so if you're if you're offering yourself up to a garbage person to use 0.97

00:14:38.000 you and treat you like a piece of garbage maybe that's not the right path to take and maybe our 1.00

00:14:44.640 grandmothers were correct with the the saying why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free 1.00

00:14:49.680 you know become that that young woman that a young man wants to take home to meet his mother

00:14:56.480 to meet his grandmother uh be that become that young woman that a young man would be proud of to have

00:15:04.560 in his life uh not just that young woman that he calls up at three in the morning when he's got an itch

00:15:10.080 that he needs to scratch right he doesn't care about you he only cares about one very small part of

00:15:16.080 you and if you allow him he's going to use that you know the the easy accessibility with the complete

00:15:23.040 unyoking of accountability when it comes to free and unfettered availability of sex yeah that's right

00:15:30.400 and and you had said too in your video that this is a a new norm right in modern culture i mean

00:15:35.360 historically this wasn't a thing we evolved based on sure biological needs the impulse to sustain life

00:15:41.440 before things got really comfortable but yes your body is your temple it's not a toilet or a dumpster

00:15:48.160 whoever you think is kind of okay at the at the time and i love one of the comments you made about 0.94

00:15:53.600 these women who think they're smashing the patriarchy by being uh sluts they even write 1.00

00:15:58.640 slut across their chest it's like okay you're just providing this free and constant flow of uh 0.99

00:16:04.320 sex without a commitment i don't know how that's empowering but it's it's great for the guys you know 0.99

00:16:08.400 you're just you're getting exactly you're giving away for free but you you said something important

00:16:12.880 there giving away your power maybe talk more about that your um sensuality uh sexuality how that leads 0.99

00:16:19.680 to women not being happy well it's it's the common trope the the common thread that i see in all of

00:16:27.760 these young women or older women coming out and talking about how they they were instructed and told by

00:16:35.520 the feminist movement that they can be just like men and they can have sex just like men and they can have 0.96

00:16:44.000 casual sex just like men well i believe that women are built differently when it comes to intimate 1.00

00:16:52.560 relationships and it comes down to just the mechanics of having intercourse it's you are essentially

00:17:01.520 allowing someone to enter your being for lack of a better term and you are allowing that person to

00:17:10.080 leave a piece of them inside you and based on this this whole concept um if you're allowing someone to to do that

00:17:22.560 to you it takes away the intimacy it takes away the love and caring it takes away everything that a young

00:17:30.640 woman um should hold and cherish and keep um keep close to your your chest right uh it's it's really

00:17:42.000 upsetting when you you you read these stories of these young women that have body counts in the hundreds 0.98

00:17:48.640 and how crazy pleased and happy they are about it but then later you can see in their their timelines

00:17:56.320 how absolutely miserable they are and they keep banging on the same drum that's making them miserable

00:18:02.640 and they figure okay if we just bang harder it's something it's going to get better we're going to get to

00:18:08.160 that place where women are fully empowered and like i'm going back to my ancestors and going back to 0.99

00:18:15.920 to the roots and i learned the phrase like women control the access to sex men control the access

00:18:26.640 to a relationship and what we've done as a society is we've completely taken away the power that women 1.00

00:18:35.600 have when it comes to the access to sex like there there is nothing more powerful in the world

00:18:42.720 that can stop a room or stop a man's thought or a man's thought and it's his tracks is is than a

00:18:49.840 beautiful young woman and that power if it's if it's just given away to whoever desires her then she no 1.00

00:18:59.920 longer has that power um the i do believe also that this whole sexual revolution that's come to fruition to

00:19:10.560 the point where it is now is not only damaging to young women it's now becoming very damaging to young

00:19:16.640 men and you can see that in the rates of of marriage and young men that are just deciding to walk away

00:19:22.880 and live their own lives and focus on themselves and focus on their careers and focus on their you know

00:19:28.960 their family their parents um and now we have young women that are asking well where are all the good guys

00:19:35.760 where did all the good guys go and it's like well those good guys have uh either gotten married to

00:19:43.120 a lovely young lady or those guys just don't want to have anything to do with somebody that

00:19:49.760 has given it all away for free exactly it's they viewed as dirty and gross because it is i hate to

00:19:58.960 put that label on people that dirty gross used but when it comes down to the the base

00:20:07.680 the base level of it like i think back to when i was a kid and i was in high school

00:20:11.680 there there was always the that one girl that all the guys knew that would put out yeah and 1.00

00:20:22.080 all a lot of the girls were jealous because that girl got all of the boys attention 1.00

00:20:29.120 but that girl was never never taken out on dates that girl never went to prom that girl never got taken

00:20:37.040 to or taken bad language that that young lady was never invited home to to meet the young man's uh

00:20:46.080 parents the she never got a boyfriend and if she did it was just until she you know put out and then 0.97

00:20:53.280 she was quickly cast aside i think we're in a situation right now where pretty much every young lady is

00:21:01.040 that girl i know i said i was gonna say i noticed that in high school just watching

00:21:06.080 man just going out to to events or whatever and you see what you know the the young kids dress like 0.96

00:21:12.640 now the teenage girls i was just telling some of my friends i was like that's how the the slut when i 1.00

00:21:18.240 was going to school in high school used to dress now they're all dressing like the slut like with this 1.00

00:21:24.800 ghetto trash culture now they're all doing that so now what stands out is the woman that's more 0.99

00:21:31.600 beautiful and wholesome and actually dressed in a classy way it's outrageous yeah you gotta you 0.95

00:21:39.280 gotta leave some mystery that's why like back in the day there there was burlesque

00:21:46.720 and burlesque was very sexy it was very provocative because you never actually got to see anything yeah

00:21:53.200 exactly it was always that hint of of what might be behind the the covers right it was very titillating

00:22:00.800 but now there's there's the gentleman's clubs where you get to see everything you can basically do a

00:22:09.040 gynecological exam on this young lady and there's nothing sexy about that there's nothing titillating about 1.00

00:22:15.920 that no there isn't yeah and you know that these women are secretly they just they want prince charming 1.00

00:22:23.600 to come they just want to marry a guy who's going to take care of them so they're screeching loud about 0.98

00:22:28.480 you know female empowerment and you know i'm i'm free to be a slut and it's my choice and i'm happier 0.83

00:22:35.120 but you know they're not because on a biological level it's like it's impossible to be happy like that

00:22:40.800 where no guy wants to marry you and protect you and you know provide a nice safe cozy house for you 0.98

00:22:48.160 and like no you're miserable we know it so what do you think the solution is because you know yes sex 0.90

00:22:54.240 is ultimately to make life but it's also for enjoyment right but the first purpose is making

00:23:00.640 babies right and a lot of these women are taking value away from that by constantly giving it up to 1.00

00:23:06.400 strangers and now they don't even have babies and you know the sex that they're having is probably not 0.87

00:23:10.560 that great either so what do you think this counter response is to hookup culture what's the

00:23:15.680 healthier alternative that people should be telling their girls about because you know they're going

00:23:20.480 to want to try it at some point like teenagers right so what is the the healthy approach someone's

00:23:26.400 raising a teenage girl like what do you say well then see that's that's the delicate balance that you

00:23:32.160 have to you have to do right like our my parents the the boomers right the boomers were raised in the

00:23:38.560 60s the summer you know the actual summer of love where it was this great amazing thing that women

00:23:46.320 were being unyoked from from the stodgy old ideas of sex and it was free love and all that stuff and

00:23:54.400 they did all the crazy drugs and they lived in the 60s and then when they started raising young girls

00:24:01.760 they took a look and went oh i saw i see how damaging that is i'm gonna make this all illegal

00:24:07.520 i'm gonna ban it all we're not gonna talk about it we're gonna push hard on the no and all that did

00:24:13.840 was make it even more enticing and more interesting and oh let's you know let's see what they're talking

00:24:20.000 about because i see pictures of mom and her her hip huggers going to these these crazy parties and my my

00:24:27.040 mom used to roller skate at studio 54 whatever the story is um i'm gonna do that but i'm gonna

00:24:33.120 do it better i'm gonna do it harder and i'm gonna do it faster um i think now we we are sitting here

00:24:40.640 looking at okay well that didn't work twice so how do we talk to young women about this well we need

00:24:47.520 to talk to young women about the the value that they they truly do hold and the power that they truly

00:24:53.600 do possess and how to um to put it into their terms how to use that power to for it for its good

00:25:04.080 right to drive them further in life to get them to where they need to go and to understand that when

00:25:10.800 someone desires you that does not mean that they hold you to a high esteem uh a man can desire any

00:25:19.680 woman but does that mean that he holds her to a high esteem and if you act in a way where you

00:25:26.240 demand that respect and you demand that um elevation of your your character then you'll be treated as

00:25:34.320 such now what do we do from here uh all we can do is just take care of our daughters and teach our

00:25:40.800 daughters the the lessons of the past and be very open and frank that you know when you have those the

00:25:48.560 sex talks right the the value of what it means to be a little more conservative with your your

00:25:57.840 sexuality but sex is to be enjoyed and sex is fun and women enjoy it just as much as men do when

00:26:05.760 it's in the confounds of a loving relationship and has that intimate tie to it right so it's it's you get

00:26:14.960 to that that point where there's that healthy balance of let's not try to lock all the women 1.00

00:26:21.680 up and you know put them in chastity bills because yeah they don't know what to do but explain to them 1.00

00:26:29.120 why sex can be enjoy enjoyed and how it can be enjoyed and the appropriate power use of power i guess

00:26:39.360 we can say that's right you have to you have to motivate the reason not just don't do it because

00:26:44.640 i said so right uh or don't do it because our belief says you can't yeah i i feel that that

00:26:50.480 approach doesn't work you have to really really educate them really empower them with the truth and

00:26:57.600 and the education and i feel like a lot of parents they aren't doing that because maybe they they

00:27:02.560 themselves don't even really fully understand maybe it's just something that they kind of unconsciously

00:27:08.080 pick up on like oh yeah it's it's wrong you don't want your teen daughter sleeping around or whatever 0.67

00:27:12.000 but they can't even really put the words together of why and present that for their children but they

00:27:17.200 need to because it's one of the most important things is how we raise our children right that's

00:27:20.880 going to determine the future and especially for especially for women i think women have been

00:27:25.840 a number has been done on women specifically and the more liberal we get just the worse that it's getting

00:27:31.760 for women so something isn't working um what do you think about as far as like female liberation 0.95

00:27:39.120 and all that stuff do you think that that was um a subversive agenda or was there some truth there

00:27:47.440 yeah this is like but i've been thinking about this for for about 24 hours now straight like

00:27:54.320 and of course i i have this uh conspiracy theory mind right like so so do i how how would you

00:28:03.440 control a society what's what is what's the thing that what's the thing that holds a society together

00:28:13.280 that makes a society essentially ungovernable and that's the family unit and so how would you

00:28:21.360 break up the family unit to make people more dependent on the the powers that be well you can't go after

00:28:30.240 the men because the men are strong and the men will fight back it's in it's in their nature to protect

00:28:36.880 things um you would go after the women now as a woman i know this 100 uh we are more susceptible to 0.99

00:28:46.000 messaging and we are more susceptible to in-group acceptance and that's just just a part of our

00:28:52.880 our biology it's a part of who we are um so to slowly trickle in those ideas that fundamentally would

00:29:00.400 break apart that the family values i guess you can say or the the the structure of the strong family you

00:29:08.560 would go after the women and once you go after the women of course they're going to start changing the 1.00

00:29:16.000 tides and they're going to start moving things and in a certain direction that essentially is going to

00:29:21.520 end up being very destructive towards the family unit right so i i do i do believe that the the early

00:29:32.160 feminists that the first wave feminists they they were about equality and they were about making 1.00

00:29:42.320 things better for women i think they came from a good place because we were coming out of a phase where 1.00

00:29:48.720 women were uh held back and women were controlled and women were treated as property essentially and all 0.58

00:29:59.120 that all they did in in that first wave was to say hey we're humans too and treat us like humans we're

00:30:06.480 not property and that's it and but then from that if you've looked into the history of um feminism 1.00

00:30:15.600 single wave that's come from that it starts to morph into this evil ugly creature of instead of

00:30:23.200 let's elevate everybody so everyone can benefit from all of the great things that everyone can offer

00:30:28.880 it now has become we need to crush and destroy everything that is not us so that's where the man hate

00:30:38.000 started and that's where the women going on their own started and that's where i don't have children 1.00

00:30:44.880 started they're just a burden and taking away everything that fundamentally makes a woman fulfilled 1.00

00:30:52.800 yeah and it also would i would say during the the even the first wave uh where it originally started

00:30:59.680 was a lot of upper class women who were just bored like they were bored you know because most other 1.00

00:31:07.120 women were too busy just trying to survive just getting done whatever the household needed to get done i 1.00

00:31:12.800 don't think those husbands viewed them as property and treated them like crap and all that stuff i feel 0.51

00:31:17.920 like it was a lot a lot of these things have been fantasized you know and it's just become mythologized 0.73

00:31:24.320 in this way that these men were these great beasts back then and this is how they treated all women and 0.99

00:31:29.600 stuff whereas i mean i i always look at it like i want to get into this whole discussion about trad wife

00:31:35.600 versus modern woman but what era of woman are you talking about right because we've been through all

00:31:41.680 kinds of things like are you going to judge a viking woman versus a 1950s or upper middle class 1920s

00:31:49.200 woman like they've been dealing with different things in different decades and i feel like

00:31:53.520 around this time there was a lot of subversive forces in america and in europe and i feel like they

00:32:00.560 were getting their fingers in there because they knew like you said the family units and the the woman is 0.68

00:32:06.720 so important in the family like she can create chaos and instability you know and she's the one 0.95

00:32:12.720 who has the babies right um so i do feel i have studied and i've looked into it and in the different

00:32:18.880 foundations who have founded these things and some of the the females who were leading some of these 0.56

00:32:24.000 movements and i look at their communist background or their uh hatred already towards european uh even like

00:32:32.880 nationalism and things so to me i i definitely feel is more subversive i think there were some women 0.90

00:32:38.720 that probably were treated like crap by their by their husbands for sure uh but i think that generally 0.69

00:32:44.160 men uh they meant well they were trying to to protect protect their women you know yeah no 100% 0.97

00:32:52.400 like i looking into the the anti-suffragette movement the women who uh were not interested in 0.99

00:33:03.680 getting the vote it's very it's very interesting when you look into that history because as as a young

00:33:09.840 woman going through school learning all about the the brave women that got us the vote and got those

00:33:16.000 evil awful men to give us a voice etc etc well looking in looking into the suffragette movement um 0.58

00:33:25.360 you have to kind of dig a little bit deeper and see that the majority the overwhelming majority of women

00:33:32.080 women were not interested in the um in the dealings of that's right yeah the the direct 1.00

00:33:39.040 quote is they they didn't have time to care about what what men were doing because they were dealing 1.00

00:33:47.200 with more important things like raising the future generation and to them that was the the single

00:33:54.720 most important thing to be doing yeah absolutely yeah i agree 100 and it's just look look at it

00:34:02.480 today it's the same thing is happening like these movements that are supposedly these big movements

00:34:06.320 and stuff the majority of people don't actually support these things and don't even really give a

00:34:10.640 shit about a lot of these things but they just push it in the media so they make it seem like it's 0.84

00:34:14.960 much bigger and more important than it is and that's how i feel like with the the suffragette 0.98

00:34:19.600 movement because to me looking back to like as far as the right to vote and stuff they had one vote

00:34:24.480 per household i think that that's a brilliant idea you vote as a family unit i mean i wouldn't want to

00:34:30.320 vote different from my husband and i wouldn't be married to him if we were going to vote differently

00:34:34.080 you know what i mean i think some of those things were structured to protect the family unit in a

00:34:38.880 way and now that has been uh that has been sabotaged oh yeah now i think like people shouldn't even

00:34:44.400 be able to vote under 25 honestly and there should be other requirements too like owning a business

00:34:49.440 do you have a family like you know it's out of control you look at it this way uh if if with looking

00:34:56.240 back at the the suffragette movement and and the vote being one family one household um you can't 0.72

00:35:03.120 tell me that women back then weren't exactly the same as we are now when it comes to how our 0.97

00:35:11.440 households are run like you can't tell me that they didn't uh see the the school board or something

00:35:17.520 happened with the sewage or the water collection and they didn't go talk to their husband and say

00:35:22.880 hey i noticed that uh this isn't happening in our neighborhood uh which candidate do you think

00:35:29.280 is going to help us with that and then they have that open discussion in their household 1.00

00:35:33.600 and then say okay well i think that we should vote for joe instead of fred because joe is saying

00:35:39.360 he's going to help us with this and then the husband goes yeah that's a great idea they come

00:35:42.960 to a consensus and then the man went and voted yeah exactly right exactly you also said another good

00:35:49.520 thing there when it comes to things that are traditional there are certain things i think women 0.95

00:35:54.880 just always have cared about all throughout time and we'll get into this with trad wise versus the

00:36:00.080 modern woman and one of those things is running the household and overseeing the children it doesn't 1.00

00:36:04.560 matter if it was uh some old mud hut versus a palace like the women are going to be caring about 1.00

00:36:11.600 the kids they're gonna look at how things are run in the household like there are certain timeless

00:36:16.640 principles and i think women have mostly been concerned about those things that's their priority all 1.00

00:36:21.200 the women i know i mean generally being uh political minded is more like masculine brain 1.00

00:36:27.440 and a lot of women just don't care about politics i mean nowadays the only reason why i do is because 1.00

00:36:32.000 i'm forced to because i feel like i need to get involved to protect the future of my children

00:36:37.920 because i see what's coming you know i mean that's the only reason why i'm here and i'm out here doing

00:36:42.240 these things i think otherwise i would be just doing girly things in the house with the kids you know

00:36:47.680 but let's discuss this whole thoughts on the trad wife versus the the modern woman sometimes we get

00:36:53.440 the extremes out there i made a video called the truth about trad wives and you touched on a lot of

00:36:59.040 the same things i think we really come from the same place on this a trad wife isn't a new concept it's

00:37:05.920 an old concept i think is being reworked into this new liberal kind of soft era that we're in and i also

00:37:13.040 had mentioned in this video like what era are we talking about like i brought up before trad wife

00:37:18.160 in the viking era of like the women that had to do things that weren't always traditionally feminine 1.00

00:37:25.120 they just did what needed to be done right as a family unit versus the 1950s the golden age when the

00:37:30.960 woman can stay home and the guy goes to work and she can wear these sexy high heels when he comes back 1.00

00:37:36.000 and everything is good they have martinis together you know i mean we're not in that period now like a lot

00:37:40.560 of women they have to work unfortunately because it's hard and each era has their different struggles 0.98

00:37:47.040 i come from a view that a couple they just need to do what needs to get done and you you are going

00:37:52.880 to know who's better suited to do what it's not always going to fit into maybe the traditional category

00:37:58.000 but the obvious big ones they always do so what do you think about this this this whole trad trad wife

00:38:03.840 thing versus the modern woman and is the trad wife thing really the answer answer for to everything 0.98

00:38:09.760 for miserable women well that's i i i actually did the same the same sort of video like questioning 0.77

00:38:16.640 okay when you say trad wife what are you talking about and and i didn't go back to the vikings but i

00:38:22.880 went back to say the first nations people and the indigenous people and we had the same you know

00:38:31.280 family units we had the the mothers grandmothers staying back at the village the men going out to hunt and

00:38:37.120 fight uh women were sometimes uh had to step up and do some of the hunting and do some of the 1.00

00:38:45.840 the fire wood prep and you can't tell me that the women didn't just sit at home uh with a martini 1.00

00:38:52.800 and laid back and wait until the the men came home if the men ever came home or if their men ever came

00:38:59.520 home because hunting back then was very dangerous so you can't tell me that that she didn't go out and

00:39:05.040 harvest wood and she didn't go out and hunt small game and she didn't you know kill and strip and prep 1.00

00:39:11.680 dinner to keep her babies alive so you have to you have to look at okay well what what's traditional

00:39:19.040 what's trad and when you you hear the the modern modern people talking about the trad right wife they

00:39:27.200 always look at that age the 1950s yeah where life was extremely comfortable and extremely um easy and

00:39:39.200 what happened to those women like they were going to the doctor with the the housewife blues and the 1.00

00:39:48.080 melancholy of having to stay home but everything had been stripped from them they dishwashers were invented

00:39:56.240 so that didn't take time the food procurement became super easy and they would just you know go

00:40:03.200 to the grocery store and that would be their exciting thing that they did for the day um to me that that

00:40:09.600 kind of life just sounds completely horrendous and a nightmare like you look at what happened during

00:40:16.960 the lockdowns and how many people went crazy we we had we had income we had mining coming in and we had

00:40:23.920 all this time on our hands well did everyone just suddenly become super blissful and super happy

00:40:30.000 because they could do whatever they wanted whenever they wanted because they didn't have to go to work

00:40:34.640 no people were miserable people started drinking people started self-medicating and the same thing

00:40:39.920 happened to the the housewives in the 50s they started self-medicating they started taking different

00:40:46.000 mothers little helpers that are a lot stronger than just uh you know a box of wine every afternoon 1.00

00:40:52.560 and you know i look at that that period of time it's like no i don't want to have

00:40:59.680 a man go out and work and take care of me and then me just sit there and do absolutely nothing

00:41:05.280 yeah you need a purpose that's the thing i feel like us as as a people we started losing a purpose

00:41:10.560 around this time you know materialism really came in as well there was another good point i forgot but uh

00:41:17.360 as far as like the the feminist stuff a lot of women were going in the workforce i think that was 1.00

00:41:21.680 a big part of the agenda taxing them getting them to become a slave to another man like that's not a 0.83

00:41:27.360 solution either right dropping your kids off in school all day or daycare and the government raising

00:41:32.480 them so you had women doing that but then you also had women sitting home who were just yeah they 1.00

00:41:38.480 were bored they needed a purpose they needed something to do something to live for their kids were gone

00:41:43.600 they weren't even homeschooling them right they dropped them off at school and once all the

00:41:49.440 vacuuming was done then what you know it's like they didn't know they didn't know what else to do

00:41:55.200 yeah they like you said like the everything that gives a woman purpose in that time of time period of our

00:42:04.240 history every single thing that gives a woman purpose it was institutionalized it was streamlined

00:42:12.000 it was provided for them so like you said not a homeschooling got that bad rap of that's just

00:42:18.880 what the the the weirdo kids were like they weren't going to be socialized properly and they weren't

00:42:25.120 going to be taught properly because the government knows best for you so take your kids ship them off

00:42:30.800 to the school well okay that takes rearing children out of it it and that that's one of the greatest

00:42:37.840 joys in a woman's life is to take care of of her babies and like just something that you said there

00:42:45.360 when women in in my country they were starting to go back to work a lot of a lot of women had spent 1.00

00:42:56.000 that time home with their children taking care of their children kids weren't going to school so they

00:43:00.880 were essentially homeschooling and they saw the the joy and purpose that that brought back into their

00:43:08.480 lives just by being forced to stay at home and there are a lot of women that discovered new ways of 1.00

00:43:16.240 bringing in income that kept them at home and they weren't going back to work and there was this huge

00:43:23.440 push this huge advertising push and societal push to get the women back into the workplace and the push 0.94

00:43:32.080 was oh well we got we have to have subsidized daycare because these poor women can't afford it 1.00

00:43:37.040 but a lot of women discovered hey you know what i'm saving thousands of dollars a year by just staying 1.00

00:43:44.080 home with my kids orienting my lifestyle so i can stay home with my kid do something part-time that does

00:43:50.560 bring in a little bit of income to supplement and just be a mom yeah and there's a lot of women that 1.00

00:43:57.840 can do that now and have a small little internet business i have lots of friends that do that

00:44:03.040 something that they love a little creative outlet or something because i mean i love

00:44:07.920 children i love being around my children but i also need some kind of creative outlet like there's

00:44:12.160 just going to be those women you know that that need a little something extra on the side but now with 1.00

00:44:16.960 the invention of technology and the internet like we can do some of those things and also i think

00:44:23.040 it's very important now like what i said where we are politically i think since the post-world

00:44:28.240 war ii era has just gone downhill in america like crazy but um now we can actually have a voice and and

00:44:34.800 you know get involved and right from the right from our living room right women are recording selfie 1.00

00:44:39.920 videos with their kids playing in the background and i think that that can is still you can still be a

00:44:44.800 trad wife and do those things and in fact i think we need women to get involved in this 1.00

00:44:49.600 era of just like crazy feminism and stuff to be the the counterweight and also thinking in terms 1.00

00:44:55.280 of a future for our children your grandchildren where are things going like i feel that we need

00:45:00.720 to get involved as much as i wish we didn't have to that none of us had to worry about those things

00:45:06.320 i wish all i had to worry about was my hair and my nails and keeping the house clean but

00:45:09.840 you know it's just not the time that we live in unfortunately yeah it's a it's it's funny to see

00:45:15.680 the the government's um the the powers that be panic when they discovered that they were losing 50

00:45:23.760 of the tax paying workforce and there were a lot of women that didn't want to go back 1.00

00:45:28.240 to work because they they found their purpose in staying home and so you see the big the big push

00:45:34.400 through the the media and everything like that of oh we need to get women back to work women are 1.00

00:45:40.080 being oppressed again and but a lot of i do see a lot of women did see through that and say no you know

00:45:48.000 what i'm just gonna stay home i'm not gonna go back because we sold our second car we've reoriented

00:45:54.080 our lives and we've um we've seen how much money we were pouring into the daycare system

00:46:00.400 and we can actually stay home we can afford it because when we do the budget my job was only

00:46:09.440 barely paying for for the daycare and me being able to work whereas if i don't work we save thousands

00:46:16.560 of dollars a month of me driving me having to buy clothes the extra you know coffee in the morning even

00:46:24.080 the um owning that second car to get to the office like all of that women kind of woke up and that 1.00

00:46:31.360 makes me really happy that people are like oh crap we've been lied to we can actually stay home we

00:46:37.360 actually can't afford it we don't need two incomes yeah it's happening i see i see that uh pendulum

00:46:43.440 swinging and i did want to get into a few more tips for young girls i think that we should continue

00:46:48.960 we'll take a little break and continue because i do want to there's some more things i want to ask you

00:46:53.120 because i think it's a great conversation but you had some more tips like limiting the sun

00:46:58.400 little things like that maybe do you remember any more of those tips in your videos i wrote some of

00:47:03.040 them down in case you didn't yeah so like the the thing thing that i was taught when i was in my 20s

00:47:09.760 was treat your skin as you're 10 years older than you actually are and that includes shade sunscreen

00:47:17.040 because shade sunscreen and your diet and water consumption ages you so if you treat yourself like

00:47:24.160 you're 10 years older than you are you're going to take a little bit better care of yourself

00:47:28.640 and sunscreen absolutely is your friend i mean you can go down that rabbit hole of the things that are

00:47:34.240 actually in sunscreen zinc oxide just pure zinc oxide there's good organic products out there i think

00:47:40.400 you're on the same page there's a lot there's a lot of things that you can make yourself with natural

00:47:47.040 products that does that do protect you from the sun however if you are going to be an extreme exposure

00:47:54.800 and you that's not going to offer you the protection from getting burned sometimes the the

00:48:00.960 chemical stuff might be necessary to prevent what the the damage that could be done and sparingly and

00:48:09.040 very very infrequently it can be used but shade big hat stay out of the sun girls because you'll end 0.99

00:48:16.720 up with a much nicer complexion absolutely i think i think it's important also eating an organic diet is

00:48:23.360 very important paleo diet for me big advocate of that replacing all those chemical laden products

00:48:28.960 and makeup i know there's a lot of girls that suffer from infertility problems i think all of these 1.00

00:48:33.120 things contribute the products that you're putting on um the the crap that you're eating i always 0.73

00:48:38.320 recommend people going to a naturopath also birth control pills like i i have a problem with birth

00:48:44.880 control pills what's in it there's a lot of yucky stuff i mean learning your fertility cycle and the

00:48:50.160 window of when you are fertile and just you don't have a kid don't have sex on those days i mean 0.55

00:48:56.800 i don't know why they don't teach women these things anymore there's all these women who are 1.00

00:48:59.680 screeching about you know wanting to kill their baby and stuff but no one's teaching them about

00:49:03.840 basic fertility and your cycles and when you're most fertile it's like we've totally become out

00:49:10.160 of touch with that it's like this knowledge is just not even being talked about anymore it's crazy

00:49:15.600 yeah it's it's it's interesting because i i remember talking with my mother when i was pregnant with my

00:49:20.960 first child and i made the decision that i was going to nurse my babies i was going to make a go

00:49:26.400 of it i was going to breastfeed and my mom was mortified because she had me in the 70s and in the 1.00

00:49:32.240 70s the science like the the scientists they know the better nutrition and they know that it's it's

00:49:39.680 it's it's cleaner mom's got that too yep yeah you know what i mean like it and so she was mortified so 0.99

00:49:46.640 i i breastfed my children and it was the absolute best thing i could have ever done for my kids for

00:49:53.040 myself even selfishly um so thinking about that right and then you talked about the the birth control

00:50:00.160 pill i had um gone on it when i was very young because you know i didn't want to get pregnant and

00:50:07.200 i wanted to have unfettered sex without the responsibility of having a baby and it it affected

00:50:15.840 me in such a way that it changed who i was as a person and i wasn't aware of it but going looking

00:50:27.440 back with you know you always have 20 20 vision looking back on how much it did affect me and how

00:50:34.320 much it changed my the way my even my brain worked and the way my hormones hormone balance hormone balance

00:50:41.840 with everything like i i started dealing with severe depression and and all of that horrible stuff

00:50:50.800 the other thing was i started gaining weight so because you know you're back in that time where

00:50:55.920 i was very very vain about my my physicality well no one wants to be bloated and fat either so

00:51:04.560 i i realized it was the pill and i decided no i don't want to take this anymore it's making fat

00:51:10.240 and then i started coming out of the brain fog and out of the um what i was going through and it was

00:51:17.200 oh crap i think that's what was making me ill and when i did talk to my doctor he at least was a really

00:51:23.520 good doctor and said yeah there are some women that do have you know mental issues with it with with 1.00

00:51:29.360 birth control and that was my wonder you're screwing with your your home hormonal balance your chemistry 0.80

00:51:34.960 like yeah it's not it's not her fault for being acting crazy and erratic like that it's like you're

00:51:40.320 basically putting bad poisons in there you know yeah like the uh when you look at uh when women are 1.00

00:51:47.120 getting engaged to their their fiancés their the advice is for them to go off the birth control pill for

00:51:54.080 a year before they get married now why is that so that they can get pregnant well and also and also so they 0.98

00:52:01.760 can uh act like a normal woman well the studies that i've read into it it basically it changes 0.81

00:52:09.360 your hormones so much that you are as a woman are unable to pick up pheromones from your your 1.00

00:52:15.600 pop your partner oh that's right i do remember that research right yeah that's huge a lot of women they 1.00

00:52:21.200 they're on the pill on the pill on the pill they get married they decide okay we're going to start

00:52:24.960 having a baby now i'm going to go off of my birth control they go off of the birth control their

00:52:30.160 their body starts to reset become more natural and they cannot stand being around their husband oh

00:52:38.320 my gosh the just and it's it's some of it it's the way he smells just makes her physically sick

00:52:46.000 some cases there are some cases where she just isn't attracted to him anymore doesn't see him in

00:52:52.480 that same light that she did before and there there's that link to it so a lot of doctors are

00:53:00.000 saying hey before you get married maybe go off the pill for a year and use other forms of contraception

00:53:08.640 before you make that decision that this is going to be the man that you're going to be with for the

00:53:12.000 rest of your life that's huge fact how how compatible you actually are with this person wow that's

00:53:20.080 amazing i also remember there was a study just triggered in my brain here uh that women were 1.00

00:53:25.120 attracted to softer kind of more feminine men too on the pill i remember that i remember we talked about

00:53:31.600 this years ago so yeah there's something to that you know so that's another tip another pro tip right

00:53:38.160 there i would say another thing that i've learned is surround yourself by like-minded females uh politically 1.00

00:53:45.120 socially spiritually that's very important so that she can support each other and have like a true

00:53:50.720 sisterhood you know not not this fake bogus one but a true sisterhood um also i think you had said

00:53:57.520 this but find your talents your passion develop it like your youth is is a time to do this right that is

00:54:04.480 that your 20s are for that right yeah yeah absolutely you're your youth is a time and this is this

00:54:12.160 both for for men and for women but especially women is to enjoy your youth and your your beauty and to

00:54:19.760 enjoy the power of what it is to be a pretty young woman but also in that time don't revel in the fact

00:54:26.320 that you are a beautiful young woman develop other parts of your personality develop your skills develop

00:54:33.120 your talents find what you're good at find what what brings you joy and then start to work on that 0.98

00:54:42.080 build that solid foundation so when your you know your face starts to slide a little bit and your butt 0.69

00:54:51.520 you still have value and in yourself and you still feel a sense of purpose and a sense of worth because

00:54:59.280 the worst thing is a a pretty young woman that grows up to be a beautiful older woman that then starts to 1.00

00:55:07.920 panic because she's losing her her physical her physical prime right it's there are primes for women 1.00

00:55:16.080 in every phase of life there isn't just one single prime but when you lose your sexual prime it's for

00:55:23.200 some women it's it's very very devastating and they either desperately try to grasp onto it by

00:55:30.240 augmenting and fixing and doing everything they can and ending up looking like a i have some pictures

00:55:38.160 maria shriver have you seen her face we were my husband just sent this the other day did you see

00:55:43.840 that article holy cow and i was going to bring that out for tips for like midlife women but there's 1.00

00:55:50.160 women in their 20s who are doing these fillers and botox and surgery just don't do that that those are 1.00

00:55:56.560 poisons like botox is a poison okay these fillers are full of poison and they backfire so you may

00:56:03.360 think that it's going to look great now and i look so fresh but how does does maria shriver look fresh to

00:56:08.880 you oh she looks like stephen tyler stephen tyler or a klingon you know or like beauty and the beast like

00:56:17.440 the beast i hate i hate i hate to horrible laugh at another woman's appearance but when she's she's 0.97

00:56:28.400 i'm more like just yeah yeah i know i know makes it hard but yeah like just if you develop your insides

00:56:37.760 just as much as you're taking care of your outsides then you you end up with a strong self a strong

00:56:43.600 holistic sense of self and you there's nothing wrong with being a beautiful young woman there's

00:56:49.520 nothing wrong with taking good care of yourself there's nothing wrong with anti-aging and and

00:56:55.600 trying to stay as as youthful as you possibly can into your older ages there's nothing wrong with that

00:57:02.240 however there are certain aspects of aging that you do have to embrace because nature it's gonna happen

00:57:10.400 whether you want it or not happens to everybody yes it happens to everybody and if you're lucky to

00:57:19.600 get to that age like i i believe that aging is a privilege that is afforded to the very few

00:57:30.640 thanks henrik you put them on the screen

00:57:34.640 it's it's a privilege that's it that's offered to to the very few and not a lot of people do get to

00:57:40.000 live to get the the silver hair and the lines and to eventually you know turn into that little old

00:57:46.640 lady in the wheelchair with with a gallon of of experience and stories and incredible things that 0.99

00:57:55.360 she's done in her life there's you know why can't why can't we celebrate that anymore um like that's

00:58:01.920 that's the process that i would yeah a lot was i stopped dying my hair partially because the the

00:58:08.640 horrible chemicals like i learned all about the horrible chemicals subjecting myself to constantly

00:58:16.320 but also you know no one was going to see me for a little bit so why dye my hair but then the

00:58:25.440 the empowerment of actually being 100 who i am without the artificial anything you get me this is me

00:58:35.840 right yeah yeah it makes me happier no absolutely and i think that's another important tip you had

00:58:42.720 said learning for younger women it's really important to learn from older women listen to

00:58:47.920 their stories and me in my life i like to surround myself by women of various ages and i like to bring

00:58:54.800 together i i oftentimes host you know women's get-togethers and stuff and i like to have a wide age range i

00:59:02.080 think it's very important to do that i think in our old villages you know we used to have that where

00:59:06.480 the women would come together and tell stories and you're at a different decade in your life and you

00:59:10.720 can share those experiences and all that but i think that that's really important and sometimes

00:59:15.840 a woman needs to learn from someone who an older woman who isn't her mom because sometimes 1.00

00:59:20.080 she'll hear it differently from a woman who's outside the family right yeah well traditionally when 1.00

00:59:26.000 we're talking about trad wife or anything like that um traditionally in the village there was always the

00:59:32.240 the old silver-haired very wise crone who the new young couples who are getting married would go visit 0.96

00:59:42.080 and go meet and she would talk to them about what's to come next and talk to them about their sexuality

00:59:49.840 talk to them about babies in some societies it was to teach them how to do it i don't know if i agree

00:59:56.560 with that but yeah just just having that just having that older older woman in your life as a young woman 1.00

01:00:06.320 to steer you right and to show you that aging is not scary you're not done and things things can be

01:00:14.320 awesome as you get older as well don't put all your value into into your youth no it's a great time

01:00:20.400 when you just stop giving a damn the same way it's like it's fun you know turning 40 is actually fun

01:00:28.240 so don't worry about that some other things i want to jot down before we take a break uh listen to your

01:00:32.960 gut feelings i just did i just did a video about that we're going to release that that's one of the big

01:00:37.920 lessons i've learned in life always listen to your gut instinct because it knows so many times when we we

01:00:43.920 we were like darn it i knew it i had that first inclination i didn't listen and then you went down

01:00:49.680 this pathway that you never should have gone and all the drama and all that right i also say today

01:00:54.480 especially ignore whatever the media tv netflix magazines tell you to do just do the complete opposite

01:01:01.280 of what they tell you to do and another one i would say is important is to be proud of your your heritage

01:01:08.000 your ancestors your culture don't let anyone crap all over it like they're trying to do today

01:01:13.760 and i think you alluded to this also but get married younger if possible not everyone finds

01:01:19.840 the true love you know early on but get married younger start a family you did when you were

01:01:25.280 younger everything else can still happen later you can still have other interests and do other things

01:01:30.160 later your life isn't like oh that's it it's all over because i got married and had kids i hate when

01:01:34.800 when people are told that um the other thing is i know you're gonna have input here but the other thing is

01:01:39.520 when it comes to the one you know who the one is that man in your life like you shouldn't second

01:01:44.960 guess it so many women write me and say how do i know he's the one and i would say well when i met

01:01:50.160 my husband the second the second that i saw him i was like this is the guy that i'm gonna marry like

01:01:54.080 i didn't have any doubt about it whereas in the past there were guys who wanted to get married or you

01:01:59.040 i don't know is this right no if you feel that any second guessing like that's not the guy for you

01:02:04.160 right yeah yeah it's it's it's interesting the to if i could sit back and sit down and talk with my

01:02:15.120 younger self and tell her the you know this this way you followed your your gut this this is going to

01:02:23.040 be right and this way you follow your you didn't follow your gut and you ended up in a really bad

01:02:29.120 situation like that that's that's something that that women have that men don't necessarily have 1.00

01:02:36.880 is that incredible intuition and i don't know if it's because we can see into the future if it's

01:02:44.640 woo woo if i've heard all kinds of theories about it but i just i think it's because women are so 1.00

01:02:50.560 attuned to others behaviors and attuned to uh the social language that we can see potential outcomes

01:03:00.800 a lot easier than than uh our counterparts can and if we really tune into that and we really listen and

01:03:08.160 we really listen to our gut and take note of our our intuition and don't ignore it take heat then i 0.98

01:03:15.760 think women's lives would be a lot better and like you said turn off your damn tv and put your phone 1.00

01:03:21.360 down and start getting to know yourself as yourself instead of getting to know yourself through a 0.99

01:03:28.640 through a screen yep no you're right in in historically and in mythology it's the seer the fortune teller

01:03:35.840 the prophetess there's something there is something about that that women are a creative force were 0.94

01:03:40.960 tapped into the unconscious the collective unconscious in a way we we birthed life through

01:03:46.320 us you know we we i think you talked about this in one of your videos about that theory that the

01:03:52.160 feminine represents you know chaos right and the masculine is most likely order right uh women are 1.00

01:03:58.240 a creative force men are like the enabler that help bring things into reality i think these are some

01:04:03.840 of the dynamics of the masculine and the feminine and there's a whole spiritual metaphysical

01:04:08.400 uh aspect to that and i find i have always been intuitive i know a lot of my lady friends are

01:04:15.040 intuitive like they'll they'll text me and i'll say i was just literally just thinking about you

01:04:19.920 that happens all the time with the the women in my circle that i'm really close with like we pick up 1.00

01:04:24.400 on each other like this crazy telepathic thing and i find the older i get because i've been working

01:04:30.640 on that more that gut feeling and that intuition it's becoming like razor sharp like i can pick up on

01:04:36.000 things i could just sit there like yoda and just feel things all day and be like oh this is going

01:04:39.920 to happen this is going to happen this is going to happen and that's that's one of the things i've

01:04:42.880 loved about getting older actually i don't know if you also have that ability like you've worked

01:04:47.600 kind of fine-tuned some of that a little bit yeah it's it's interesting when you walk into a new

01:04:53.040 situation and you meet a person and they just make you prickle like there's just something not right

01:04:59.040 and then years later you discover that they were really not a good person and you knew it and you

01:05:08.000 told people and you let them know and they're just like oh you're just being crazy but then it had

01:05:14.480 whatever happens happens years later and they're like oh you were right crap yeah like i knew it 0.92

01:05:22.080 damn it i knew it you know yeah and it takes it takes uh working on that practice it's like a 0.96

01:05:28.240 muscle you know what i mean you have to actually use it to develop it and to keep it otherwise it 0.99

01:05:32.880 just kind of goes dormant yeah well if you don't use it you lose it right yeah exactly well i think

01:05:40.320 this is a good place to take a break i want to come back and we talk about some tips for middle-aged

01:05:44.080 women and then maybe pick some of your favorite because you did a series on this 1.00

01:05:47.840 12 tips for life based on jordan peterson's 12 tips for life but we can put a little female spin 1.00

01:05:54.480 on it so we'll take a break here and then we'll see everyone on the other side

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01:06:06.160 holly discussing more important words of wisdom for women but it can apply to guys too and pro tips

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Red Ice TV - August 27, 2022

Holly MidLife - Life Tips For Women

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