Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - August 28, 2024


Ep 1059 ｜ After Tragedy, I Can’t Feel God. What Do I Do？ ｜ Q&A


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In this episode of Relatable, Allie answers some of your questions about politics and why she doesn t see herself ever running for office. She also talks about why she thinks Kamala Harris is going to win the 2020 election.

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00:00:00.700 How do I deal with a friend who is deconstructing their faith?
00:00:05.140 How do I get my politically apathetic friends to be engaged in politics?
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00:00:30.000 Hey guys, welcome to Relatable.
00:00:38.040 Today I am answering some of your wonderful questions.
00:00:41.860 So we're just going to get right into it.
00:00:46.560 Do you ever see yourself becoming a politician?
00:00:51.520 Someone asked.
00:00:52.380 I've been asked this several times and the answer is no.
00:00:56.120 I don't see myself becoming a politician, wanting to run for office.
00:01:01.700 I just don't think so.
00:01:04.840 I really like what I do and I actually think that I have more of an ability to make change
00:01:11.840 and to play a role in changing culture and changing minds and to make things happen and
00:01:18.460 actually have more influence in what I do and it's a lot more fun and it's a lot more flexible
00:01:24.420 and I get to wear whatever I want and live wherever I want.
00:01:29.740 So it would have to be like an absolute clear calling and I just don't see that happening.
00:01:39.180 I guess you never know, but I don't see it happening.
00:01:42.060 Now, press secretary, that's not something that I would probably say no to.
00:01:49.940 It depends on who the president was and all of that and what stage of life that I'm in
00:01:56.380 and all that good stuff, but that is probably as close as I would get to the political realm.
00:02:03.860 Do I actually think that Kamala is attracting the majority of voters?
00:02:09.960 I think she can't.
00:02:12.060 Now, I saw someone make the point recently that she could not have lasted in like an
00:02:17.800 18-month campaign the way that Biden tried to, the way that Trump has had to, that there's
00:02:23.600 just no way that she could have lasted that long because there's so much material against
00:02:27.820 her.
00:02:28.680 And so this was just such an effective strategy for Team Kamala to be able to come in and
00:02:34.360 save the day, to take the wind out of the sails after the Trump attempted assassination,
00:02:38.580 and to just garner as much energy as possible and hope and pray that that pushes her through
00:02:43.700 to Election Day.
00:02:45.320 Remember, when she ran for president back in 2020, I mean, she barely got, what, 1% of
00:02:50.240 the vote?
00:02:51.280 It was, I mean, it was embarrassing.
00:02:53.440 It was terrible.
00:02:54.020 She was not an attractive candidate.
00:02:55.540 They have changed that completely over the past few years and especially over the past few
00:02:59.800 weeks.
00:03:00.160 Can she win?
00:03:01.820 She can absolutely win.
00:03:04.160 And it helps us not at all to be in denial about that.
00:03:08.000 For some reason, there are people on the Trump side who get mad when I say that.
00:03:13.140 Why would you get mad?
00:03:14.880 I'm trying to take things seriously because I really want to win this election against
00:03:19.160 Kamala Harris.
00:03:20.120 And we will not win if we don't take it seriously.
00:03:23.440 There's got to be a feelings shift here.
00:03:25.600 There's got to be a vibe shift here.
00:03:27.960 She's got so much material against her. 0.69
00:03:30.300 And we have to repeat those things over and over again.
00:03:32.760 She is anti-fracking.
00:03:33.900 She is pro-socialist health care.
00:03:35.280 She's the most rabidly pro-abortion politician that we've ever seen. 1.00
00:03:38.400 Like, there's so much out there policy-wise, personality-wise.
00:03:42.280 Go, go, go, go, go, go.
00:03:43.640 Time is of the essence.
00:03:47.200 Let's see.
00:03:47.860 Dream guest on the podcast.
00:03:50.080 It's got to be Thomas Sowell.
00:03:51.400 I mean, he's pushing 100, so I don't think that's going to happen.
00:03:56.100 But I would love to have Thomas Sowell on the podcast.
00:03:59.300 That is absolutely my dream.
00:04:02.280 I've had so many awesome people on that at this point.
00:04:06.460 I'm like, who could I even get?
00:04:08.600 That would be bigger and better than the people that I've had.
00:04:12.000 I mean, it'd be fun to have some celebrities, I guess, that are kind of like Christians in 1.00
00:04:17.480 Hollywood.
00:04:18.080 Now, there are plenty of people I haven't had on that I would love to have on.
00:04:22.680 But like a reach guest, I feel like I've had most of the ones that I that I want.
00:04:29.000 But we've got a few on our list that we're that we're going for.
00:04:32.400 What is my favorite cereal?
00:04:35.580 Well, typically, it's like granola.
00:04:37.320 I really like granola and I like almond milk.
00:04:41.640 And I know that some of you are going to be like, almond milk.
00:04:44.200 No, you just need to drink raw milk.
00:04:45.960 Look, we get raw milk.
00:04:47.500 But I don't like milk, even raw milk.
00:04:50.060 And some of you are like, oh, no, you just you'll like raw milk if you don't like regular.
00:04:53.940 No, I don't like milk.
00:04:55.280 I don't.
00:04:55.980 But I like almond milk.
00:04:57.100 OK, I don't know.
00:04:57.800 It's just a taste.
00:04:58.700 And, you know, I get the you really have to be careful about the kind of almond milk
00:05:02.120 that you get, because a lot of it has like fake ingredients in there.
00:05:05.340 You got to get the kind that's just filtered water and almonds.
00:05:08.720 And so that's what I have.
00:05:10.000 And then I also like I'll eat my magic spoon cereal.
00:05:14.220 And that's like I like that because that's like low carb and high protein and put some
00:05:19.340 peanut butter in there.
00:05:20.540 And it's like a healthier version of, for example, like what was it, Reese's Puffs?
00:05:27.760 Were those the cereal?
00:05:28.820 Like, I can't believe we ate that stuff growing up.
00:05:33.360 But Reese's Puffs cereal is so good.
00:05:35.360 I also used to have like the Rice Krispie cereal, but never by itself, like probably a
00:05:42.000 good cup of sugar.
00:05:44.220 Pour it in there.
00:05:45.860 It all sinks to the bottom.
00:05:46.980 And then your last bites of cereal are literally just spoonfuls of sugar.
00:05:51.980 That's the kind of cereal that I preferred growing up.
00:05:54.220 But now I can have a healthier version when I have like my cocoa flavored magic spoon and
00:06:02.660 some almond milk and then some yummy peanut butter in there.
00:06:07.320 So that's that's what I would say.
00:06:09.200 That's that's a good combo.
00:06:10.720 Is my husband crunchy?
00:06:12.680 For those of you who don't know what crunchy is, like more on the natural side, I would
00:06:17.660 say yes.
00:06:18.480 Yes, he is.
00:06:19.360 And he has gotten more so recently.
00:06:21.880 He is crunchier than me, who is what what is it?
00:06:27.080 Scrunchy.
00:06:27.640 I'm scrunchy.
00:06:28.400 I'm somewhere in between silky and crunchy.
00:06:30.760 Like I definitely do things that are more on the that are completely on the natural side.
00:06:35.260 And then I still do things that are not considered that.
00:06:38.740 But he is much crunchier than I am.
00:06:41.300 He really cares about everything, like the the water that we drink, which I do, too, but
00:06:48.320 he cares about it even more anti-plastic.
00:06:52.380 We have not used a nonstick pan in forever.
00:06:56.100 He really cares about like all the material of all of our clothes and our sheets and all
00:07:02.300 of that stuff.
00:07:03.440 We have air purifiers throughout our home.
00:07:06.620 Um, yeah, he he really cares, I would say, even more than I do about all of that, about
00:07:13.780 health and wellness and stuff, which I appreciate because I get to benefit from that.
00:07:19.140 Uh, what are my favorite pair of shoes?
00:07:22.100 Uh, right now my favorite pair of shoes are some, I guess you would you call them espadrilles
00:07:28.160 because they're not really wedges.
00:07:29.720 They're kind of like the same height all throughout and they're actually Velcro on the top.
00:07:34.240 They're black and white and I really love them because they are super comfy and they
00:07:39.480 kind of make my outfit look fancier while feeling like I'm wearing tennis shoes.
00:07:44.360 Um, so I would say those are my favorite shoes right now.
00:07:47.500 Thanks for asking.
00:07:48.500 Um, what advice do I have for getting my mom friends interested in politics slash policy? 1.00
00:07:56.140 Great question.
00:07:58.300 Great question.
00:07:59.120 I think that you just have to have conversations with them about it.
00:08:01.880 Like if you're together, um, watching a show and, or you're together getting coffee, I think
00:08:08.620 you just have to bring it up, especially if you're like in a Bible study situation because
00:08:13.340 the Bible and politics intersect so much in this election season.
00:08:17.180 I think you just have to start asking them questions or see if they'll read a book that
00:08:21.320 you recommend or see if they'll listen to this podcast, maybe start them out with an episode
00:08:28.140 that it's not explicitly political.
00:08:30.160 Maybe it's an interview that I've done, um, that is especially compelling that can make
00:08:35.380 them think about an issue through like an anecdote storytelling kind of way.
00:08:41.000 Some, you know, a lot of people obviously like my monologues, but some people are better
00:08:46.100 convinced and their attention is better grabbed through those kinds of like interviews and
00:08:50.240 stories.
00:08:50.820 And so maybe that's where I would start.
00:08:53.240 I'm also working on some tools for everyone this election season, because I've got my book
00:08:58.200 coming out on October 15th and it talks all about these issues.
00:09:03.480 And I thought about that woman, that Christian woman who I really want to under, I want her 1.00
00:09:08.580 to understand, uh, politics a lot more.
00:09:11.420 And so I wrote it not only for her, partly for her, but also just for you.
00:09:15.800 So you can have the equipment to get her involved, to get her understanding, engaged, caring about
00:09:20.800 those things without feeling anxious or worked up or like she has to be sucked into the news
00:09:25.140 all the time.
00:09:26.180 Um, also I actually think that this is probably a good starter to this book, because we do talk
00:09:31.840 about politics and culture in it, but again, it's not explicitly political.
00:09:35.320 Like it's not saying neither of my books is saying you have to go vote Republican, but
00:09:39.340 it does talk about the issues primarily from a theological and philosophical perspective.
00:09:45.080 And this, I think that they will, first of all, they'll, they'll be able to read it really
00:09:49.160 quickly or they can listen to it.
00:09:50.580 I've got it in the audio version and it's just really easy to read.
00:09:54.320 And I think it talks about the big culture war issues that we have in a way that is, um,
00:10:01.260 really just understandable from a Christian perspective.
00:10:04.680 That's my book.
00:10:05.300 You're not enough.
00:10:05.840 And that's okay.
00:10:06.460 It's available everywhere.
00:10:07.640 We link it in the description.
00:10:09.080 You can find it there.
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00:11:20.220 Uh, thoughts on the carnivore diet.
00:11:27.340 You know, I don't have anything wrong with it.
00:11:29.500 Of course, I'm not a health, I'm not a health expert.
00:11:32.060 Like if I were to choose carnivore or vegan, I would of course choose carnivore.
00:11:36.660 Um, cause I really like steak.
00:11:38.380 I really like meat.
00:11:39.240 I think it's really good for you.
00:11:40.680 And you get a lot of vitamins and minerals and, um, nutrients and good fats and protein
00:11:50.360 from meat.
00:11:51.380 And I think it's really good for your brain, really good for your muscles, really good for
00:11:54.480 your body.
00:11:55.600 Uh, some meat is better than others.
00:11:57.580 Uh, some animals are better than others for meat.
00:12:00.420 And there's a lot that goes into that and I won't get into every single detail cause I
00:12:05.660 was trying to do carnivore for a little bit, but it was hard to do.
00:12:09.820 It's hard to do while I'm nursing.
00:12:11.560 Um, I do think that I need some like sourdough bread sometimes for that purpose.
00:12:17.100 So I haven't done carnivore, uh, while I've been nursing, but I think it works for a lot
00:12:21.700 of people.
00:12:22.400 I think it cuts down on inflammation and even helps people immunity wise for other people
00:12:26.700 that might not work.
00:12:27.660 Um, I think there are probably a lot of different kinds of eating plans that work for different
00:12:34.640 kinds of people and some are better than others.
00:12:37.600 Sure.
00:12:38.160 Just objectively, but really it seems like for different individuals, different things
00:12:44.080 work, or maybe it's more accurate to say for different groups of people, different things,
00:12:47.580 uh, work.
00:12:48.620 But I think meat is one of God's gifts to us.
00:12:52.960 Um, let's see how to deal with a hostile work environment.
00:12:57.880 They gossip about me because I'm conservative.
00:13:02.120 Well, blessed are you when you are persecuted for righteousness's sake.
00:13:07.780 Let me clarify that.
00:13:09.080 I'm not saying that being conservative is the same thing as being Christian, but I'm
00:13:14.760 assuming, I'm guessing that it is probably actually your faith and you standing for Christian
00:13:21.480 principles that they are ridiculing.
00:13:23.640 And they are probably considering those just conservative or traditional or bigoted when
00:13:29.160 really you're just being a Christian, believing in the definition that God created of marriage,
00:13:33.820 of gender, of the definition of life inside the womb.
00:13:37.060 We call those things political or conservative in the political sense, but really you're just
00:13:41.040 being a Christian and sticking to the Bible.
00:13:43.380 Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm assuming that's, that is what they are ridiculing you for.
00:13:47.760 And if so, like, blessed are you when you are persecuted for righteousness's sake.
00:13:52.340 And, and so you can continue to be a light.
00:13:54.940 You can continue to be loving.
00:13:56.140 If it's something that really is so hostile that it's prohibiting you from doing your job,
00:14:00.640 then you need to go to HR and say that you are being discriminated against, uh, because
00:14:05.840 of your religious beliefs.
00:14:07.940 And, uh, because of that, it's created a hostile work environment.
00:14:12.480 Those buzzwords are probably going to scare them and they're probably going to do something
00:14:15.520 about it.
00:14:16.220 I would say that that could be an approach to take, uh, while also just being the light
00:14:21.000 of Christ, continuing to be the hardest working, the most honest, um, and the most enthusiastic
00:14:30.020 employee there and never returning their gossip and their slander in kind.
00:14:35.820 It may not seem like it is, um, like it is worth it to take the high road, but number
00:14:43.880 one, God sees you and cares and is well pleased with that.
00:14:48.640 Um, and then number two, you never know what seeds your good behavior, your kindness, your
00:14:55.480 obedience is planted in the hearts of those people who hate you now and how God will water
00:14:59.880 that and give that growth.
00:15:01.120 It can be such a testimony.
00:15:04.400 Um, my pastor's wife is now the new pastor of the church after her husband died.
00:15:08.740 What should I do?
00:15:09.860 Switch churches.
00:15:12.140 If you were in ice cream flavor, what would you be and why?
00:15:16.280 Hmm.
00:15:17.260 Uh, birthday cake.
00:15:18.460 I don't know because I like it.
00:15:20.640 I didn't know other reason.
00:15:21.660 And I don't know if it has anything to do with my personality.
00:15:25.020 I don't know.
00:15:25.520 Lots of fun surprises in there.
00:15:27.580 I just like birthday cake ice cream.
00:15:29.700 I think it tastes good.
00:15:31.620 Thoughts on separate youth groups, Sunday school classes for kids during church.
00:15:35.220 Yeah, it's a good question.
00:15:36.300 You know, different churches do things different ways.
00:15:37.940 I was raised in the Baptist church, still go to a Baptist church now.
00:15:40.780 And so we do the like, you know, kids Sunday school and the adult Sunday school too.
00:15:46.400 And then main service.
00:15:48.020 And sometimes kids come into the main service, but most of the time they stay in kids church.
00:15:52.620 And I would say typically Presbyterian churches do it a little bit differently.
00:15:57.220 They don't have Sunday school class for all ages for both hours every Sunday.
00:16:04.140 Like sometimes kids will go to Sunday school class for one hour.
00:16:07.360 They'll go to the main service with their parents or some churches will do it to where
00:16:11.280 they have like a nursery and kids church until age six.
00:16:15.460 And then after that, the kids are expected to go into service with their parents.
00:16:19.340 I remember growing up only going to Sunday school for one hour.
00:16:23.280 And I, you know, now that I think about it, my church probably does that too.
00:16:26.480 After a certain age, I think it's only one hour.
00:16:29.220 And then you go into the main service with your kids.
00:16:33.380 My kids are all young right now.
00:16:34.800 So I think it's great when people bring their kids into church though.
00:16:38.680 I really do.
00:16:39.340 Even in those hard ages, two, three, four, those are tough ages to get your kid to sit
00:16:45.260 there.
00:16:45.560 But I think it's good for them to learn.
00:16:48.820 But I also think it's great for kids to be in an environment where they are learning in
00:16:56.480 a fun way, in an engaging way, in a way that makes sense to them, the principles and the
00:17:01.540 stories of the Bible.
00:17:03.000 So I really think that there can be benefits to both.
00:17:06.420 And I think it's really just a choice of a parent.
00:17:09.020 And of course, either way, the parent cannot just delegate their responsibility to be the
00:17:14.840 primary faith trainer of their child to Sunday school.
00:17:18.020 You can't do that.
00:17:19.540 It still has to be you, number one.
00:17:21.580 But Sunday school, I think, can be a good help with that.
00:17:24.280 Um, would you like to have dinner?
00:17:26.720 Who would you like to have dinner with on the left?
00:17:29.260 This person says aside from AOC, because I always say AOC, because I really think I could
00:17:33.520 like get her to just stop. 0.90
00:17:36.380 Um, let's see on the left.
00:17:39.360 It would probably be like probably Kamala Harris at this point. 1.00
00:17:44.760 Like, I really just want to like psychoanalyze these people, dig deep into these people, know
00:17:49.000 what makes them tick.
00:17:50.280 For Kamala Harris, it's power. 1.00
00:17:51.640 I know that we've seen that since Willie Brown.
00:17:53.520 So I don't think it's that deep there.
00:17:55.440 But like, I'd really just kind of like want to push on that.
00:17:59.720 Um, probably anyone on the left who like calls himself a Christian, uh, and still pushes
00:18:06.000 progressive policies, I would like to talk to them.
00:18:08.980 Um, so yeah, probably Kamala at this point.
00:18:12.900 How to navigate friendships with people in different life stages?
00:18:15.440 I'm a mom and my friends are not.
00:18:17.200 You know, that's really hard.
00:18:18.280 I was married first of my friends.
00:18:19.760 I was, I believe mom first of my friends and there was definitely a learning curve there.
00:18:27.380 And there was definitely like, I would say a difficult year or two.
00:18:32.060 It's gotten better as like, I have gotten more in different friends who are even like a little
00:18:39.820 ahead of me in life or in the same stage in life.
00:18:42.680 Um, but then also as other friends have become moms, that's become easier.
00:18:46.720 But I do have friends that are either ahead of me, like they've got more kids than me,
00:18:51.440 they're older than me.
00:18:52.120 And then I do have friends who are single, um, and obviously they don't have, they don't
00:18:57.480 have kids and it's just a matter.
00:18:59.220 It's not the same.
00:19:00.180 Like, it's not the same.
00:19:01.280 I will say that.
00:19:02.180 Like the friendship is not the same.
00:19:04.120 It can't really be.
00:19:05.860 Um, at least for me, maybe some people, for some people it can, it can be, but life just
00:19:10.740 pulls you in two different directions.
00:19:11.800 You spend time differently.
00:19:12.880 Your schedules are different.
00:19:13.780 And I think that's okay.
00:19:15.100 I think it just takes more effort.
00:19:17.160 It takes more commitment to say, okay, we're going to get dinner once a month or we're going
00:19:21.680 to still text about the things that we do agree on.
00:19:24.020 But it's also okay if you shift and if you find some new friends, that doesn't mean you
00:19:29.600 should abandon your old friends just because they don't have kids, but it is going to be
00:19:33.780 different and that's okay.
00:19:34.860 You don't have to pretend to have the same schedule and the same life and wants and all
00:19:39.620 of that as when you were single or when you didn't have kids because you do and mom
00:19:45.300 life is different.
00:19:46.320 And so try to find some friends in your same life stage.
00:19:51.680 All right.
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00:21:11.960 If you could have anyone for president, who would it be?
00:21:19.500 That's a good question.
00:21:21.000 Honestly, honestly, like I really do think Ron DeSantis would be a great president one day.
00:21:29.140 I really do.
00:21:30.220 Um, I think he was just and is just such a great governor of Florida.
00:21:35.520 I think he's a really effective leader.
00:21:37.520 I think he would be a great president one day.
00:21:40.480 So and maybe one day it'll happen.
00:21:42.500 I would be all for that.
00:21:45.000 Um, how do I deal with a friend who is deconstructing?
00:21:50.360 Well, um, I think that you have to try to maintain the relationship and you have to try
00:21:57.840 to have honest conversations with her where you start from a place of curiosity, where
00:22:03.460 you ask her why she believes the things that she does, how she got there.
00:22:10.020 Ask her about some of the stuff that she's reading and listening to.
00:22:12.840 I think that'll help you understand where she's getting her arguments.
00:22:15.820 Maybe you already know something that happened in her life that you can speak into, but I
00:22:21.740 would, if you're strong in your faith anyway, I would offer to read and listen to some of
00:22:27.780 the things that she's reading and listening to and ask if she'll do the same and just ask
00:22:33.800 her some questions.
00:22:34.820 Read Tactics by Greg Kokel.
00:22:37.140 That's a really good one to have persuasive conversations with someone without feeling
00:22:41.820 like you have to win every single conversation and argument.
00:22:45.560 You're just pushing the ball down the field just a little bit every time by asking really
00:22:49.380 good questions and making them think.
00:22:51.380 Try to maintain the friendship.
00:22:52.580 Try to maintain the trust.
00:22:54.240 You don't have to share Bible verses with them every day.
00:22:56.460 You can.
00:22:57.100 The word of God does not return void.
00:22:58.900 So that's fine.
00:23:00.520 But also, I would also just keep this in mind that as you try to maintain that friendship
00:23:08.520 as much as you can, don't compromise your faith.
00:23:12.780 Okay?
00:23:13.000 Don't compromise your faith.
00:23:14.160 Don't be tolerant of the heresies that she might start saying.
00:23:19.180 Don't, in the name of like empathy and love, start affirming some of the deconstructing
00:23:27.220 narratives she is telling you just because you think that that place of understanding
00:23:30.860 is going to help maintain your friendship.
00:23:32.660 If that starts happening where you feel pressured to start saying and affirming and agreeing things
00:23:38.200 with things, tolerating things that you know are not true and that are simple, then that
00:23:43.520 might not be a good friendship for you right now.
00:23:46.100 You can love that person from afar.
00:23:47.880 You can pray for them.
00:23:48.960 But like friendship at all costs, I don't think is biblical.
00:23:53.360 Like you have to think about your own mind, your own heart, your own faith as well.
00:23:59.460 Do what you can to be at peace with her and to love her.
00:24:03.220 But if at the end of the day, like she will not allow you to stand strong in your faith
00:24:10.460 without you feeling bad or pressured or whatever, then I would take a break from that friendship.
00:24:17.260 After multiple tragedies, I found myself, this person says, stepping away from the church
00:24:21.940 due to anger, frustration, and hurt.
00:24:23.620 I still believe in God, but every Christian and pastor I've spoken to has just said,
00:24:28.180 trust in God.
00:24:28.980 His ways are always the right ways.
00:24:30.660 He knows better than us.
00:24:32.040 Go to him and he will comfort you.
00:24:33.420 I have a hard time believing that in the midst of multiple tragedies.
00:24:37.240 Thoughts on how to find answers.
00:24:39.600 You know, there was a time in college where I was dealing with a lot of insecurity and
00:24:49.260 I just really hated how I looked.
00:24:51.080 I hated my body.
00:24:52.920 I was, I ended up after a while having an eating disorder just because I was really seeking
00:24:59.200 a lot of affirmation and attention and approval based on how I looked.
00:25:03.700 Just a very, like, I would have said that I was a strong Christian at the time.
00:25:09.080 I was reading my Bible, but I still was just seeking a lot of the things of the world.
00:25:15.680 And I wanted affirmation beyond what the Bible said that I was valuable.
00:25:23.640 Like I could read Psalm 139 and read that I was fearfully and wonderfully made.
00:25:29.120 I could read John 3, 16 and read that God loves me.
00:25:33.320 But I remember thinking like that wasn't enough for me at the time, which is a really sad place
00:25:39.660 to be.
00:25:40.360 But I remember thinking that like I wanted more.
00:25:42.420 I wanted different.
00:25:43.220 I wanted something outside of that.
00:25:46.400 And by the grace of God, he pulled me out of that season and made me realize just the
00:25:53.200 error of that, of that thinking.
00:25:55.340 But the truth is, is that was wrong thinking.
00:25:59.480 Like I was wrong to think that way, to think that the gospel wasn't enough, that the cross
00:26:05.300 wasn't a sufficient signifier of his love for me.
00:26:09.240 And so as hard as it might be to hear right now in the midst of tragedy, which is a testing
00:26:16.260 of your faith.
00:26:17.460 I mean, James 1 actually says that we are supposed to be joyful when we go through trials of many
00:26:22.620 kinds because the testing of our faith produces perseverance and character.
00:26:28.340 And so it's these trials that are meant to press your faith.
00:26:31.640 They're meant to stretch you.
00:26:33.420 They're meant to test you.
00:26:35.920 And so the fact that you feel strain on your faith right now, yeah, that comes with tragedy.
00:26:39.520 That comes with trials.
00:26:40.560 So know that, that that's normal.
00:26:42.080 You're not strange for feeling that way.
00:26:44.660 But these people in your life are right to direct you to scripture and your thinking
00:26:51.620 is wrong, that that's not enough.
00:26:54.920 It's understandable.
00:26:56.640 I've, I've, I've been there in a different way.
00:26:58.560 I'm not saying I've been through all the city, all the same things you have.
00:27:01.600 Um, but no matter what you have gone through, that is the right answer to go to the word
00:27:09.340 and to pray and to renew yourself in the spirit of your mind with the truth of God's word.
00:27:15.340 And do not judge God's power and the power of his word by how you feel in the moment.
00:27:20.900 Okay.
00:27:21.340 It's not a, it's not like a magic wand.
00:27:23.600 It's not an incantation.
00:27:25.060 It's not a spell.
00:27:26.540 Like this is working out your faith with fear and trembling.
00:27:29.620 That is what faith is, that even when it feels hard, even when it doesn't feel good,
00:27:35.020 even when you want to turn away, you keep turning to God because despite how you feel,
00:27:39.860 you know that he is better.
00:27:42.500 Like that is, that's what builds our faith.
00:27:45.100 And when the next, when you do that, when you say, I'm going to keep going to this Bible
00:27:49.240 preaching church, I'm going to keep showing up at Bible study.
00:27:51.900 I'm going to keep reading God's word.
00:27:53.380 I'm going to keep worshiping.
00:27:54.520 I'm going to keep, uh, praying.
00:27:56.820 I'm going to keep thanking God every single day.
00:28:00.160 I'm going to keep preaching the gospel to myself.
00:28:03.160 When you do that, when you use those tools that God has graciously given us, um, to understand
00:28:09.880 him and get through hard times, the next time something hard happens, you will have already
00:28:14.740 exercised those muscles and they will be ready to be used.
00:28:18.660 Um, so it might just be time for humility a little bit to realize like, oh, those people
00:28:25.920 were right.
00:28:26.740 I don't think they're being dismissive of you.
00:28:28.800 I think that they are telling you what is true.
00:28:31.720 You should ask yourself, what are you looking to hear?
00:28:35.220 What do you want to hear from people?
00:28:37.420 Are you just looking for someone to validate your pain?
00:28:41.040 That's fine.
00:28:41.880 Like your pain is probably extremely justified, but are you looking for someone to authenticate
00:28:49.160 your doubts?
00:28:50.100 Are you looking for someone to say, yeah, you should be shaking your fist at God or no,
00:28:54.960 you know what?
00:28:55.360 You shouldn't trust God or you know what?
00:28:57.740 You have every right to walk away from God right now.
00:29:00.840 And maybe God doesn't care about you.
00:29:02.720 Is that what you want to hear?
00:29:03.720 Because Christians aren't going to tell you that because it's not true. 0.99
00:29:06.440 Go read the book of Job.
00:29:07.800 You can see how God feels about us shaking our fist and questioning him.
00:29:13.760 I know a lot of people will tell you to have all of your big feelings and shake your fist
00:29:17.620 at God and all of those things, but I don't think that's the way to go.
00:29:23.220 I just don't.
00:29:24.540 So I would say your Christian friends are right to give you the advice that they have.
00:29:32.200 Let's see.
00:29:32.980 Anything big on my bucket list?
00:29:34.860 There are so many places that I want to go.
00:29:38.140 There are so many states that I haven't been to.
00:29:40.400 Maybe not so many.
00:29:41.720 I've probably been to more than the average person, but there's a ton of states that I
00:29:46.820 still want to go to.
00:29:49.760 And I truly think America is like the most beautiful country in the world.
00:29:54.220 We don't have the same history as some other countries just because we're not as old as
00:29:58.240 Europe, but we have some of the best scenery and the most fun things to do in the world.
00:30:03.400 So I want to go to all 50 states and I also want to go to Greece.
00:30:09.660 I've always wanted to go to Greece for a really long time and to follow the journeys of Paul.
00:30:14.900 My parents did that recently.
00:30:16.960 Did not take me.
00:30:18.680 Very rude.
00:30:19.240 Um, so I would like to do that.
00:30:23.000 And there's a lot of things.
00:30:24.580 There's a lot of places I would like to go, um, in Europe.
00:30:27.760 So I guess my bucket list has to do with traveling.
00:30:31.740 Um, yeah, I, I'm not like a huge travel person.
00:30:35.660 Like I like being home, but yeah, there's a lot of things I would like to see.
00:30:40.880 I do.
00:30:41.120 I don't mind traveling.
00:30:42.340 That's for sure.
00:30:45.460 Let's see.
00:30:46.380 What non-Christian group do I enjoy engaging with the most?
00:30:51.520 Hmm.
00:30:52.400 That's tough because they all have their challenges.
00:30:55.480 They all have their challenges, but honestly, probably the, probably the person who believes
00:31:01.720 that they're Christian, but really just holds on to like every secular dogma and every left
00:31:07.640 wing mantra, um, probably those people.
00:31:11.060 Cause it's easier to kind of get to a place of commonality and really talk about why we
00:31:16.480 believe what we believe.
00:31:21.820 Okay.
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00:32:09.980 How do I biblically honor my unbelieving mother who has some narcissistic traits?
00:32:16.900 Uh, well, I think that you can respect her and be kind to her and never returned her narcissism
00:32:22.500 and kind or be snappy or sassy with her.
00:32:24.940 That doesn't mean you have to be best friends with her.
00:32:26.420 It doesn't mean you have to talk to her every day.
00:32:27.820 It doesn't mean that you need to allow her to use these narcissistic traits to influence
00:32:33.080 your children.
00:32:34.820 So that's what I would say.
00:32:36.300 She's still your mom.
00:32:37.200 She's always going to be your mom.
00:32:38.440 We are called to honor our father and mother.
00:32:40.200 And so you can honor her without being best friends with her, without talking to her all
00:32:45.460 of the time, but let her know you care for her.
00:32:48.080 You will need to be caring for her more tangibly, um, the older she gets.
00:32:53.200 And I would say everyone has narcissistic traits to a certain degree because everyone
00:32:57.720 just cares about the self so much.
00:32:59.620 But maybe you mean in like very intense ways, you can pray for her and maybe even try to get
00:33:06.280 her to do a Bible study with you because it sounds like just like everyone, she really
00:33:10.280 needs Jesus.
00:33:13.080 Um, okay.
00:33:14.440 If you and your husband were dog breeds, what would you be? 0.97
00:33:18.160 You know, we've thought about this.
00:33:20.460 I would be the kind of dog I would be as a cat.
00:33:23.760 I would be a cat.
00:33:24.980 I'm not a dog breed.
00:33:26.260 I'm definitely a cat.
00:33:28.180 Um, my husband, I think, um, an Australian shepherd.
00:33:33.620 I, I think, I think that's what we decided like friendly, but, and with like a lot of
00:33:42.460 energy, he always has to be moving.
00:33:44.880 He likes to run and, um, yeah, I forget the other reasons why he said Australian shepherd,
00:33:52.920 but that's what, that's what we're going to be.
00:33:54.900 I'm just, um, a house cat.
00:33:57.420 I don't know how else to say that.
00:33:59.000 Um, should husbands be able to dictate what their wife wears for modesty standards? 0.99
00:34:08.020 Oh, I don't like that language. 1.00
00:34:12.460 Should your husband dictate what your wife wears? 0.99
00:34:15.320 See that to me, the reason I don't like that is because that sounds more of like a father
00:34:20.060 daughter relationship than a husband wife relationship in which the two are one flesh 0.55
00:34:25.780 and the husband loves and trusts his wife and the wife loves and submits to her husband 0.63
00:34:32.180 and respects her husband because yes, wives are called to submit to their husbands.
00:34:36.420 And I do think if a husband said, uh, that's a little too low or that's a little too short
00:34:42.940 or that's a little too tight.
00:34:43.960 I do think a wife should, she respects her husband.
00:34:46.820 She honors her husband.
00:34:47.720 I think she'd say, oh yeah, you're totally right.
00:34:50.660 Um, I'm, I'm going to change.
00:34:52.580 Uh, I, I, I do think that that's how it should go.
00:34:55.920 Now, should the husband be like, okay, this is your wardrobe.
00:34:59.900 This is all you can wear.
00:35:01.700 And I get to say what you get to wear on a daily basis.
00:35:05.140 You can only wear this.
00:35:06.160 You can only wear that.
00:35:09.080 I, I don't think that that would be a sign of a healthy and godly relationship.
00:35:15.640 Um, Christian woman though, you should want to be modest, not just for the sake of honoring 1.00
00:35:22.800 your husband, um, but because God calls us to modesty.
00:35:26.760 Now, primarily in the biblical context, that means humility, but that will come with it.
00:35:33.400 Some like tangible standards for what we wear, because if we're talking about humility and
00:35:39.240 how we don ourselves, that means when we get dressed, we are getting dressed, not to draw
00:35:44.960 eyes to ourselves in the form of our body, but to adorn our body in a way that is dignified
00:35:54.060 and that honors God, that is not trying to get people to covet or to lust.
00:36:03.080 Now, I'm not saying that we have control over other people's thoughts and other people's 0.99
00:36:07.880 feelings, but I, I think a lot of women like play dumb on this. 1.00
00:36:12.100 Like they don't know what modesty is. 0.98
00:36:13.980 Like they don't know what constitutes as like modest, dignified dress.
00:36:19.200 Like we all know, we all know what it looks like to be modest and what it doesn't.
00:36:26.620 Um, and so I would say, don yourself in humility and in dignity.
00:36:31.640 And if your husband is to the point to where he, it's like ridiculous standards to where
00:36:39.300 it just doesn't even make sense. 0.58
00:36:41.120 It's not like he's just trying to help a sister out and be like, yeah, your pants are
00:36:44.160 see-through.
00:36:44.920 You need to change.
00:36:45.960 But it's to the point to where it is like this weird micromanaging thing that looks a
00:36:50.000 lot more like Islam than Christianity. 0.50
00:36:52.680 I would be concerned about spiritually what's going on there.
00:36:56.360 And I would look for, I would look for the help and the wisdom of an older Christian
00:37:01.520 woman and maybe her husband who can speak into this situation.
00:37:05.180 That'd be troubling.
00:37:06.400 But as far as it depends on you, be at peace with him and submit to him as long as it does
00:37:11.420 not, um, cause you to sin and husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church.
00:37:17.900 That's Ephesians five and gave himself up for her.
00:37:20.840 That is a self-sacrificial love really should never resemble a like father, daughter, weird
00:37:27.400 relationship.
00:37:32.440 All right.
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00:38:32.500 How do we as Christians balance constitutional freedom of religion with wanting our values
00:38:42.100 to be represented and displayed through society and government systems?
00:38:46.940 Well, remember the separation of state and church is not the separation of God and law.
00:38:56.960 Like there is always going to be a belief system that is ingrained in each and every law that
00:39:03.280 we have.
00:39:03.960 Every law is based on what we believe about right and wrong.
00:39:09.900 And so the question is only ever what belief system does this come from?
00:39:15.200 The founders obviously understood that because even as they wrote the first amendment, which
00:39:20.120 does not have separation of church and state in there, but it does have freedom of religion
00:39:24.540 that the state is not going to establish your religion and force you to go to that church.
00:39:28.460 They also wrote the Declaration of Independence that says that we were created with certain
00:39:34.280 inalienable rights.
00:39:36.380 We were given these inalienable rights by God.
00:39:39.460 That's why they are inalienable and inherent, why they transcend state power, because they were
00:39:45.520 given to us by a transcendent God whose power is bigger than the government's because he
00:39:51.260 predates the government.
00:39:52.820 And so they recognize that even as the state should not establish a religion, that that
00:40:00.880 does not mean that God is out of the public square or that God is not seen in any of our
00:40:06.400 legal documents or that our laws can be devoid of a belief system.
00:40:10.200 That's just completely incoherent.
00:40:11.980 It's illogical.
00:40:12.720 They cannot be.
00:40:13.720 I mean, we see the religion of secular progressivism on display.
00:40:18.420 Um, we see their flags, we see their mantras, we see their philosophies everywhere ingrained
00:40:26.940 into public school curriculum and academia, in our laws and our policies and our regulations
00:40:32.580 all over the public square.
00:40:34.840 We are forced to see it and to tolerate it and even to celebrate it and to affirm their
00:40:40.720 lies.
00:40:41.360 And so what that shows us is that there's always going to be a predominant religion,
00:40:46.480 a predominant belief system.
00:40:48.900 And if that's the case, it may as well be the belief system that has led to the greatest
00:40:53.100 freedom and human flourishing in all of human existence, which is Christianity.
00:40:56.760 That does not mean that the state is establishing a specific Christian church that people have to
00:41:04.060 go to worship.
00:41:05.340 It doesn't mean that people have to bow down to God.
00:41:07.400 It does not mean that people have to read the Bible or believe the things that we believe.
00:41:12.400 It's not a theocracy.
00:41:13.720 It's acknowledging that there will always be a dominating belief system and that Christianity 0.99
00:41:19.920 has always been the best one, the best foundation, the best spirit behind all of our laws.
00:41:26.900 And we would do well to continue to have that.
00:41:29.580 And look, you Christian, you Christian conservative, you were told that you are the only one that cannot
00:41:34.600 bring your worldview into the public sphere.
00:41:37.180 You have to check it at the door before you bake the cake, before you design the website,
00:41:41.500 before you make the floral arrangement, before you vote, before you teach, before you talk.
00:41:47.440 But the secular progressive is never told that.
00:41:49.600 The liberal so-called Christian is never told that.
00:41:52.340 The Buddhist is never told that.
00:41:53.720 They get to bring the full force of their worldview into every place in the public sphere, even
00:41:58.560 into the workplace.
00:41:59.860 But when the Christian conservative does it, they're a Christian nationalist and a theocrat.
00:42:03.520 They'll be manipulated and gaslit by that.
00:42:05.460 Just as they have every right to bring their belief system and their full ideas to the table,
00:42:10.160 so do you.
00:42:11.780 And there's a reason why they don't want you to, because Christian, conservative Christianity,
00:42:16.960 which really just Christianity is the biggest obstacle for tyranny 0.80
00:42:23.780 and the biggest spoil on the back of dictators and always has been.
00:42:27.820 And that's why they want you to compartmentalize your faith, even as they tell every other belief
00:42:32.980 system to allow their faith to inform how they vote and how they act.
00:42:38.300 All right.
00:42:38.780 That's all we've got time for today.
00:42:40.040 See you guys back here soon.
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