Ep 1140 ｜ What Christian Men Look For in a Woman ｜ Guest： Timothy Stuckey (Chief Relatabro)
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Today we have a very special Valentine s Day episode with my husband, Chief Relatable. We are answering your relationship questions and so much more! This episode is brought to you by our friends at Good Ranchers! Go to GoodRanchers.org/relatable to sign up for a FREE 5-day trial!
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Today, we have a very special Valentine's Day episode with my husband, Chief Relatable.
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We are answering your relationship questions and so much more.
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This episode is brought to you by our friends at Good Ranchers.
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Happy Thursday and happy almost Valentine's Day to celebrate the Day of Love.
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I am hosting my love, Chief Relatable, on the show today, Timothy.
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Those of you who have been following the show for a long time, you will recognize him.
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And you may even remember the episode that we did together five years ago.
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I believe it was five years ago when I was pregnant with our oldest.
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And we haven't been on together since then, but he's a big part of the show.
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And I know that you all have been excited about this.
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We have questions to answer, but we will kind of start with just sharing our story and how
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And some of you probably already know the story, but a lot of you out there don't.
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So do you want to start with where we first met?
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So a little background, we were living in Athens, Georgia at the time.
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As has been documented, we didn't go to the same college.
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I went to the University of Georgia, but we were both in Athens after school and it was
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a great place to live, but it's kind of odd that you would both be after graduation from
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college, living in a college town and having not gone to the same school and then you would
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And so we were, we were working out at the gym that we were both going to at the time
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and it was, it was just great just to see her and to kind of, we hit it off right away
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and started talking and one thing led to another, led to dating and, and then to here we are
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There's more details within there, but yeah, a little bit of the story.
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We were, um, it, what you're saying is it's unique because a lot of people who are living
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in Athens are either like students, they're like grad students.
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There's just not a lot of people like working professionally in the college town, but we
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were both working and we met at, it wasn't like an LA fitness type gym.
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Not that there's anything wrong with meeting at that kind of gym, but it was a gym that
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had classes and it was kind of like a CrossFit type gym.
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We just started chatting, chatting in class, but then we started chatting after class in the
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parking lot, we just like stand in the parking lot outside of each other's cars.
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And then one night we were talking and talking.
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We like, we weren't texting or anything outside of this, weren't going on dates.
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We just started talking and we were talking longer and longer.
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And I think after that time I was like, okay, this has been four hours.
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And so that's whenever I got your phone number and it was like, we're going to set up a date.
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And so after that we did, we started going on official dates after that.
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And I actually knew before we even went on our date, I think it was the night that we talked
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from like 6 PM when class was over to 10, just like standing outside of my car.
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Who even knows everything we were talking about, but I left a voicemail, I think for my friend
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who's also named Allie and I said, I know the man that I'm going to marry.
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And she thought that I was crazy at the time because we weren't even dating yet, but I just,
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And that's a question that we have is like, how do you know that the person is the one?
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Well, a couple of things and going back on your story there, I mean, there's a few things
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I remember the conversations, they were, they were good and they were interesting, but
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it was a lot along the lines of like, what type of books do you like?
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And those are the things that kind of just sparks in your mind and in your heart.
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This person is someone that I want to be with and want to spend more and more time with.
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And so the fact that those conversations weren't just surface level, they were, you know,
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for lack of a better word, deep, you know, they were, they were good conversations.
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And I remember also there were fun, like trying to get you to like some music that I was into
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and might've swung and missed, you know, some of those songs you probably didn't think were
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But like, you know, we had a good time being around each other and just talking about things
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And fortunately, a lot of our interests aligned.
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And, and I think just when you know, you know, it is kind of a trite saying, but it is true.
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When you have so many things lined up, you don't need to overthink it.
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And I just know that the way things are going is different than, you know, any person that
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And, uh, it was very clear with you, clear and obvious.
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And then we were both in a situation where, I mean, we weren't, you know, we were just
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So young still, you know, very young by a lot of the standards of the world, uh, to be thinking
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But we were both certain that we wanted to get married.
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Now, whether it was going to be to each other, we were still figuring that out because we
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were dating, but, uh, it became clear quickly, but we were both ready in the sense that we
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We're not just dating because this is what you do in this stage of life.
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And like, let's go see, you know, what kind of fun we can have.
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We were wanting to have fun, but wanting for the ultimate goal of finding your spouse.
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And I think you have to pair the mindset of knowing that you are ready personally to
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This person, I can see their heart and their desire for the Lord.
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Their awesome response to another Christian university caving, taking back their celebration
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of an, uh, alumnus who joined the Trump administration.
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Hillsdale college said, nope, we are not going to retract our congratulations of this person
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They're unapologetically pro-America, pro-Constitution.
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And you can see that in everything they do, including their curriculum.
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We know that the university system, unfortunately, even, uh, professing Christian universities that
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they so often espouse far left progressive values.
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And you might even be skeptical about sending your child to college at all.
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But if you want to make sure that you send your kids to a college that is actually continuing
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to instill in your child, the principles with which you raised them, then you need to check
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Also, they have 40 online free courses for you to take.
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So this would be a really great way for you to check them out and see what they're about
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He's been a big part of my faith journey and they have this course that is just about C.S.
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They also have introduction to Aristotle's ethics, how to lead a good life.
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They've got a course on the stories in the book of Genesis.
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I just remember before I met Timothy, when people would say, oh, when you know, you know,
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like I would talk to married couples in their 20s or I had some families who mentored me
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And when I was like trying to figure out how do you know the person that you're supposed
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And I was like, that's so frustrating because I have like all of this on paper and I'm thinking
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about this about my life and I just don't know.
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But then I met Timothy and I was like, oh, oh, I get it now.
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And I understand if you're listening to this and you're dating or you're single and you're
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thinking, well, that is really frustrating because you're not putting anything.
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You're not giving me like a tangible checklist.
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Of course, Christian, strong Christian growing in their faith.
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You, I think it's important to know like what their family background is, what their
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How do they handle different, you know, things in their life?
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There are a lot of different things that I think that you can look at.
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They're not the only thing that matters, but they do matter and they're important.
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And I think that that clicking, whatever you want to call it, whether it's the Holy Spirit
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discernment or whether it's just like this knowledge, this love for this attraction for
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I think the combination of the checklist of, is this a righteous person walking with the
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Lord and the attraction and the clicking, I think both of those things are really important.
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Some people would say that the emotion, the clicking, it doesn't really matter.
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But gosh, I am so thankful that I found the person that I just like click with.
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And I would just personally, I would encourage people not to settle for the person that you're
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thinking in the back of your mind, like, oh, they're great on paper.
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Why don't I feel like this is my future spouse?
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My personal perspective is that you shouldn't be with that person because there's something
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You don't want to force yourself to love someone.
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And so it is something that you do need to take seriously and that you do need to really
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And then on the other side, do we enjoy each other?
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Like marriage is hard, especially we're almost at our 10-year mark.
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And, you know, you get five, six, seven years in.
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Outside of, obviously, our covenantal marriage, like we have that, that we are with each other
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But at the end of the day, do you like the person or not?
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Like we have three kids and we love, genuinely love being parents and like spending time
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But everyone knows those baby and toddler years are hard, especially when you're adjusting
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to less sleep and more responsibility and more noise.
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Like we sometimes look back and we think about the time, like right before we had kids, you
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had a work schedule where you didn't have to work on Wednesdays for some reason.
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And we would literally just like take our dog and walk to the neighborhood pool with like
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And we were probably stressed and probably thought we had so much going on.
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But so many, I mean, so many different seasons.
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I would never wish to go back to that season, even though it was like beautiful at the time.
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And we did so much like that we just loved and had fun with.
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And now that we work together full time, I would say that's added another level of appreciation.
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And it goes back to something that both of our parents have told us.
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In context of having kids is to enjoy each season of life.
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So enjoy each season of life that your kids are.
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The newborn stage, toddler stage, and then we haven't gotten here yet.
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My parents tell me, you know, we're still having fun with the fact that y'all are adults
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We love, you know, every season of kid, of having every season of a kid's life.
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And you can do fun things like walk down to your favorite restaurant at 8 p.m. on a Thursday or go to, you know, the pool in the middle of the day on a Wednesday because your job schedule is flexible that day.
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Like I had whenever I had those Wednesdays off.
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So those are fun things that you can do kind of carefree.
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But then you have the joy of welcoming your children into the world and bringing them along for the ride, too.
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And every stage of marriage is something that you can cherish.
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But we have joy in it because we have the ultimate joy in Christ.
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And then we can have the joy in doing it together with each other.
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And that reminds me of something else about when you know, you know.
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When you're ready to get married, you don't need to overthink that either.
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It's like if you were both stable, if you were both adults, if you were both in Christ, then that's a good time for you to get started and for you to get going.
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You don't have to wait until you're further along in your career.
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You don't have to wait until something else happens.
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And I think that's a big thing of what we did, too, is that we just kind of got started.
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Like, we were just out of our first jobs and out of college.
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You would probably laugh if you knew what our salaries were.
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I mean, we were basically glorified college students.
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I mean, our apartment was in the middle of college students.
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Like, I think that you're thinking our laundry room was by the kitchen.
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No, our washer and dryer were right next to our refrigerator.
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And we decided that would be a good time to get a cat.
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So doing that part of life together, just taking on the challenges together, I think only made it even better.
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Because now we're taking on this new challenge, this new endeavor of running our own business and raising kids.
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Our lives have changed so much since we first got started.
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Neither of us were doing the thing that we wanted to do long term.
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But neither of us knew what we wanted to do long term.
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I didn't, you know, I started my blog, Conservative Millennial, in, I guess, 2015.
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So, and I had no even inkling of what it would look like.
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And, you know, you didn't want to do mortgages forever.
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And we just kind of like, I don't know, we just went for it.
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And then when you decided to apply for jobs that moved us to a new city, I had no idea what I was going to do.
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And so there were a lot of leaps of faith over the past 10 years.
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And I think moving out and doing what we did to take a job somewhere else, to get us into a bigger city with more opportunities was a leap of faith.
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And during that time, I was able to work and to have that job, which was a great job and a great company for me to have at the time.
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And it allowed you to be able to kind of explore, you know, what does this look like for me to make videos and to write?
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Yeah, you didn't have a job formally, you know, while we were doing that.
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And that was a great season to where I could just do that and I could focus on getting, you know, all my whatever I needed to get done, whether it was licenses or continuing education or other, you know, things going.
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And you were able to just figure out, you know, what this would look like.
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She was very generous to allow us and our cat, Rachel McAdams, who has since passed.
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She could be living her best life with a new family.
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But, yeah, we lived with my brother at the time.
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So, another just like very, very different time in our lives.
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And that was the time that I, through so many different just providential moments, got led to the blaze at the time.
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And I was exploring that while you were working.
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But, yeah, it's just hard to believe that that was what, like nine years ago we were living with my brother, no kids, still trying to figure out what we're going to do.
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And, you know, it doesn't feel like that long ago.
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But at the same time, it feels like multiple lifetimes ago.
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But I think you and I might have differing opinions on this.
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So we dated for four months and we were engaged for five months, right?
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I think we first saw each other, maybe met each other in August of 2014, got married September 2015.
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And so I used to always say, yeah, you know what?
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When you know, you know, just go ahead and get married.
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I don't think that people should be engaged for a long time, especially if you're Christians,
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Like, I don't think you should put yourself through that.
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While I do not regret how we did it as individuals, I would not go back and change that because
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And we like were so ready to get engaged and get married.
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However, like in principle, in principle, if I were just to give blanket advice to someone
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and I don't know all of their circumstances, I think my general, general rule, okay?
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And the internet does not like in principle or in general because they'll be like, but
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You've probably heard this from plenty of people before, but I feel like within Christian
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I think one year, see how they are in different circumstances.
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How do they deal with frustration, with disappointment, with rejection in different ways?
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Um, I think that in principle, it is really good to see those different facets of a person
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And I think in general, a year is probably a good timeframe for that.
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Well, I haven't thought about it too much, but my first thought would be, um, thinking about
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the people would be like, oh no, don't say in general or don't get specific.
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So I'd be like, okay, well, if it's not a full year, it's probably okay.
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You know, it depends on the actual circumstance of the couple.
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Maybe you're in your mid thirties or your forties or whenever it is.
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And you know, you know, and y'all are both ready to get started making a family and doing
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I wouldn't wait some arbitrarily number of, of months.
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Uh, not that that's arbitrary necessarily, but I would say, you know, if you are, if you
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are certain you've already, you know, you've already played the game out in your head,
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Maybe, maybe that's not the case, but yeah, sure.
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If you're younger and you were, you were still trying to figure each other out, your frontal
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Maybe you do want to take a little bit more time and to understand this person through
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different seasons and through different, different moments and how they do, uh, handle,
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So I think there's going to be some wisdom in that too.
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I love this question because I've said this before and I'm sure they would love to hear
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what you think is the phrase, if he wanted to, he would always true when it comes to
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Um, again, we're talking about always and saying all these things, I can't speak to
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every particular circumstance, but I do think, I know for me personally that I could not,
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you know, I really, we maxed out the amount of time that I could go like not married to
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And if he's not ready to commit, then he might not want to ever commit.
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So I do think there's some validity to that in a way that, you know, it's been, it's been
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years you are, you know, living your life, whether it's together or whether it's, I don't
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know your exact circumstance, but, uh, if he was ready to go, he would, he would be ready
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Now that might not be you personally, that might be his personal situation.
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Maybe he is still, you know, maybe he's trying to put together some things with starting
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a business or has a certain, you know, level of his job.
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Now I do think still there's some validity to just doing it together.
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Uh, but maybe he is trying to line some things up to make sure that he can be the husband
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Um, but I do think there is some validity to, if he was ready to, if he was ready to be
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So that's the answer in like the bigger ultimate question of committing.
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Like if he wanted to, he would commit, I say like, again, in general, that is true.
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If he wants to be married to you, everything else can fall into place, but he knows that
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And he's, he knows he's got to make that happen before everything else.
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Like the, um, if he wanted to text you back quickly, he would.
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If he wanted to show you thoughtful romance on Valentine's day, he would, I say, if he,
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if he really wanted to, he would do those things.
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He's not thinking, you know, maybe he just wasn't thinking, or maybe she didn't lay out
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Do you think I should give the benefit of the doubt more to, to guys who maybe aren't
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Like if he wanted to sweep you off your feet, then he would like, like if he really genuinely
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I mean, I was very thoughtful in the things, or I think I was thoughtful.
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I tried to be thoughtful because I wanted to impress you.
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If he was trying to impress you, then he would, men have a way of getting the things that
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they want and what they really have set their minds to.
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And I do think that if you are trying to get something that you want, like if you're trying
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to get a spouse, a wife, then you're kind of, you're going to go pursue it and you're
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And I do think that men have a unique way, a particular way of getting the things that
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they want, whether it's conscious or subconscious.
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So yeah, if he wanted to, now maybe his, maybe he's just not thinking correctly.
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He's like, oh, this is what she actually wants.
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She wants me to be kind of, you know, wait, play hard to get and all this stuff.
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Then I do think you've kind of been worked by the culture.
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I think women want to be pursued and go do it, man.
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And you should also, as a woman, like be pursuable.
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I do think, and this kind of leads to another question.
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I think there is, even in today's girl boss culture, and obviously I am a like strong
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And yeah, I would say, you can tell me from a guy's perspective, that there is a softness
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that men are looking for in the girls they want to marry.
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The girls have to be like, you know, just wallflowers or a doormat.
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But they're looking for a bit of gentleness, a bit of softness, a bit of just like femininity
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I would say like, I think that like girl boss, harsh, I don't need no man, but secretly I
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That could possibly put guys in like a really difficult position.
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He might be like physically attracted to a girl and want to pursue her, but she's put
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And I want to be clear that I think it goes, I think there's two types that can go that
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way with maybe this girl boss attitude of like, I don't need anybody.
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There's also the timidity factor too, of like you are shut down in general.
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Maybe it's not just to men, maybe it's to everyone.
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Maybe you are quiet and more timid and putting off, whether you intend to or not, an attitude
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And I think now, whenever I was pursuing you, you were, that you had that feminine playfulness
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almost, you know, you were like, you were open to having conversation and that would be
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your personality because you're open to having conversation with anyone, whether it was
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But you were friendly and there is a friendliness of, you know, I think that women have in particular
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Yeah, it's a little flirtatious, but you're friendly and you're open to having conversation
00:27:40.480
I think for a lot of people, for all people, having an openness to having conversation with
00:27:46.220
But in particular, whenever you're trying to be, you know, whether it's pursued by a man
00:27:50.340
in this particular instance, like you were, you were agreeable to having a conversation
00:27:54.460
And I think that was the first step into me being like, oh, I can now pursue her.
00:27:58.800
It doesn't mean that you were, you know, that you were taking the lead that you were trying
00:28:05.180
But you were in general open to, you know, being friendly.
00:28:09.880
Remembered that my birthday was over the weekend.
00:28:12.240
Little things like that, that do add up to allowing a man to feel like he has the permission
00:28:20.320
to really pursue you in a full, you know, throated way.
00:28:24.620
Like I'm actually going to go and pursue this woman for an intention of dating and then potentially
00:28:29.880
So, yeah, yeah, I do think that there is a, um, the standoffishness, um, does not play
00:28:38.060
A man doesn't want to, um, not that you're feeling rejection necessarily, but it's just,
00:28:43.960
it's, it's not something that you would want to go and pursue something that is clearly
00:28:50.760
I, I think that's like a good point if I can, if I do say so myself about how to like show
00:28:58.060
your interest in a guy without becoming the pursuer is like when I remembered your birthday,
00:29:05.540
he had told me like, you know, just like an offhand remark, I think a couple of weeks
00:29:16.060
And, you know, we didn't talk about it, but then the Monday after I knew it, you know,
00:29:22.320
And the Monday after his birthday, I said, oh, like how was going home to your family?
00:29:27.420
And he was flattered that I remembered his birthday.
00:29:30.540
And that was just like my way of saying, hey, like our conversations are important to
00:29:36.300
I, they're not just something that I am, you know, doing subconsciously because I'm friendly
00:29:41.800
with everyone, but I remember remembering what you're saying because I'm interested in
00:29:46.940
I think little things like that open guys up to saying, oh, like, okay, this person really
00:29:54.200
It gives permission, like it gives permission to the man in that instance, without you being
00:29:59.880
So it's not allowing you, you weren't the one taking now the lead role there, but you
00:30:03.760
were giving me permission basically to, to enter into that.
00:30:07.120
Cause now I'm seeing, oh, what I say has weight, what I say, you know, she hears and she responds
00:30:14.760
Um, and so now I can go and continue to try to have more conversations.
00:30:18.500
I think there was a question basically of like, is it okay for a woman to pursue a man?
00:30:23.160
And I think what we're answering here and what I'm answering is, is it depends on what
00:30:29.260
Like you weren't pursuing me in that instance, but you were open to giving me hints that I
00:30:37.040
Now I have permission basically to go and try to do this.
00:30:40.560
Not that, you know, it's more of like, there's a confidence to a man that now this is going
00:30:46.320
to potentially go somewhere and now I'm going to go do that.
00:30:49.680
And so it's not you taking the lead and trying to get me.
00:30:58.900
And so I think there are certain ways that you can let a man know that things are working
00:31:03.320
and for him to keep going without, without being the one that's pursuing and without,
00:31:07.060
you know, hitting him upside the head and being like, Hey dummy, come ask me out.
00:31:11.620
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Uh, who has the bigger sweet tooth between the two of you?
00:33:49.200
I was going to say like who needs sweets like in more frequently, but like me, yeah, it is
00:33:54.580
I think I could eat more sweets at one time than you, but doubt, but yeah, you probably
00:34:00.640
No, you're more of like, you want to snack on chips, chips and salsa and more.
00:34:05.260
And then get in like a, a bad loop of like piece of chocolate chips, chocolate chips.
00:34:10.060
Hey, we don't need to talk bad about ourselves right now.
00:34:13.740
No, but I have more of a weakness of a sweet tooth.
00:34:18.040
I literally have it passed down to me from my grandmother who was appalled.
00:34:22.780
My mom always tells the story that she was appalled when my mom told her that my brother
00:34:35.560
So sweet tooth, get it from my grandma and my dad.
00:34:47.320
I'm trying to find another like shorter, shorter question.
00:34:52.900
Um, what books are you reading right now besides Toxic Empathy, which you just always have
00:35:01.960
Um, one book that you got me, uh, I believe it was, it was like Christmas or no, I just
00:35:08.420
asked you to pick up a book at Barnes and Noble because you were there with one of our kids.
00:35:11.380
He said, pick up a book that looks interesting to me.
00:35:13.360
And you picked up Shelby Foote's first, the first, uh, book in his little civil war anthology
00:35:20.440
Now I've taken a little pause for a few weeks on it, but I did, I have read a pretty good
00:35:28.600
You know, I'm at that age that every man gets where you start, you know, reading about
00:35:33.240
some war, whether it's the civil Vietnam, World War II.
00:35:51.040
There's a lot of questions about me in here, just as a heads up.
00:35:56.520
Um, I was proud of that whenever we were booking the venue and walking out on stage and I was
00:36:06.020
The question was specific besides birth and marriage.
00:36:10.320
So walking out on stage whenever it was empty, uh, we were just touring the venue spot and
00:36:18.120
Um, so that, uh, made me very proud being able to walk out on that stage, see, you know,
00:36:23.620
audience full of women that were all there live.
00:36:25.960
It was one thing I know you get a ton of viewers and listeners and very proud of the
00:36:30.280
show too, but to see it all live that people come physically to, to gather, uh, that was
00:36:37.100
what I've been most proud of is share the arrows and can't wait for this year.
00:36:43.100
Um, what is it like having, this says, I don't like using this word, but this says famous,
00:36:51.720
What is it like having a wife that has a podcast?
00:36:56.820
And that gets recognized whenever we go out sometimes.
00:36:58.960
So I would say it is, you get really good at, uh, taking pictures.
00:37:04.480
At least I think I'm decent at it now because I've had so much practice.
00:37:07.300
So, you know, just letting people line up and it's always really nice whenever people
00:37:17.000
Sometimes they want to take a picture with you.
00:37:19.340
Remember that time that you were traveling by yourself without me and someone recognized
00:37:22.640
you as chief related bro and asked to take a picture with you.
00:37:25.400
I do remember that time and I don't think I took the picture and I'm sorry to that person.
00:37:30.840
Uh, I think going back, maybe I would change the, and maybe take the picture, but I was
00:37:36.780
My flight had been delayed and I was ready to get home and I'm sorry.
00:37:44.160
And it's not like, obviously it's not like everywhere I go, I get swarmed with people.
00:37:48.440
It's not that, but I would say I multiple times a week.
00:37:54.400
If I'm in an area that's obviously a more conservative area, it happens a lot.
00:37:59.160
Like you said the other day on your show about the Nate Bragazzi show, like that was, that
00:38:04.360
I felt like I was like the opener and that there were people lined up to, to see me and
00:38:10.880
Um, but yeah, if obviously if I'm like in New York city, it doesn't happen as much.
00:38:21.220
I mean, girls are so sweet and they are so cute and whenever they want to dress up, just
00:38:27.320
dress them up, like get a bunch of princess dresses and a bunch of costume jewelry and
00:38:31.960
just, and a bunch of fake makeup and a bunch of fake makeup and just let them go and have
00:38:35.540
your wife, you know, like doll them up in the makeup and all that.
00:38:39.640
And then you just go out and tell them how beautiful they are.
00:38:45.020
Whenever they always want me, especially our middle, she just loves me putting makeup on
00:38:52.500
And the first person they want to see them is daddy.
00:38:58.560
And they just want to show, they just like want to, want to show daddy that they're in
00:39:02.540
a princess dress and they walk out all bashful.
00:39:06.060
It sounds like a caricature of what it's like having like girls, but that is what our life
00:39:10.700
So just enjoy that, uh, get really good at just compliments, um, in ways that a three
00:39:16.700
year old can understand that you're just so impressed.
00:39:20.280
Um, that would be my, my first advice is that, uh, they're going to be just beautiful little
00:39:26.680
We have, and you know, we have a lot of nephews and genuinely all of our nieces and nephews
00:39:33.180
are just like great kids and just like their parents are awesome and they're just all great
00:39:41.460
Um, you know, our nephews are like, you know, they're boys, they're more rambunctious.
00:39:47.740
And when I'm around my nephews, I'm like, wow, this is really different.
00:39:52.520
The noise level, the smell, the everything, everything is so different than having girls.
00:39:59.400
And like, there's so many like pros for both and so much different kinds of fun for both.
00:40:06.300
But like our house is just like a very typical girl house.
00:40:09.300
And he was like, maybe one day we'll also have a boy, but like you were made to be a
00:40:20.540
What is your favorite memory with me besides getting married and besides the birth of our
00:40:29.080
I really, really look back very fondly at now it's obvious to be like, Oh, newlywed was
00:40:36.220
But like the fact that we were in, um, we were in Athens, Georgia, it's a college town
00:40:43.140
Like we had responsibilities and we took them seriously, but basically like we were in college
00:40:48.360
still in a fun way of like being able to walk randomly to our favorite restaurants and to,
00:40:57.820
That was a really fun and sweet time and very unique.
00:41:01.560
I don't think a lot of people do get the opportunity to live in a college town as not as awesome
00:41:06.720
as Athens and to be married to, um, you know, at, to the brand new wife.
00:41:12.160
Like that's a really sweet, precious time that we had.
00:41:18.400
I think of a lot of our kind of just the travel and the, and the trips that we took.
00:41:21.780
We also took a trip to San Francisco before we had, uh, our oldest and it was actually
00:41:28.920
like when we got home, you found out you were pregnant.
00:41:32.480
Well, actually I was thinking of the time we went to San Francisco before that with granddaddy.
00:41:37.500
Uh, you back, you used to go to San Francisco and it wasn't just like complete degeneracy
00:41:42.360
and literal, you know, human waste on the street.
00:41:46.660
Um, and so it was a great place and a great city.
00:41:53.740
Uh, but yeah, that trip, the trip with the grenade was good.
00:41:55.860
And the second trip also was very good, uh, just because it was, it was fun.
00:42:00.080
I remember going down to where the Giants play, uh, baseball and just walking around like
00:42:05.080
there was no game or anything going on that day,
00:42:06.960
but just kind of hanging out around, uh, around there was just a lot of, a lot of fun.
00:42:14.040
And like, we didn't go on any fancy trips or anything because we didn't have any money,
00:42:21.980
And obviously having kids is something to look forward to and it's not something to put
00:42:25.860
off, but just know that if you're married now and you don't have kids, you have like
00:42:31.120
get as much sleep as you can do as much as you can.
00:42:35.820
You don't have to go on a trip to Europe or maybe you can afford to do that and you should.
00:42:40.160
But like get those memories in, lay a really good foundation before you have kids.
00:42:45.380
Um, because it'll be a little bit not, I mean, it's not like you won't have fun.
00:42:49.320
It's not like you won't have adventures, but it'll be a little bit before you have that
00:42:55.980
They're going to be great, but you know, either your kids are going to be with you or you're
00:42:59.480
going to be thinking about them, which is great.
00:43:02.000
Um, but you're still going to be having something going on in your head, uh, about them because
00:43:07.480
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00:43:15.200
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00:44:56.520
Okay, what are your thoughts on the, so Luca, this is a real question that we got, is the
00:45:16.540
Like Timothy wants to turn on a documentary or he's like, you know, I want to start watching
00:45:21.100
this guy on like YouTube or like, oh, let's start learning about fly fishing.
00:45:29.980
Like I can get, I can get into and interested in like anything.
00:45:34.520
That probably also helped my game when we were dating too.
00:45:38.780
But I was like really interested in learning about, I'm like not really a basketball fan
00:45:44.900
But I knew people were super disappointed that this guy named Luca, I hear he's tall
00:45:50.700
He got traded from the Mavs and people were like, why the heck would the Mavs trade him?
00:45:56.880
So like, can you tell us what you think about that?
00:46:03.200
And backing up a little bit too, just about, you know, being interested and all that.
00:46:08.280
You are, somebody asked like, what's one of the traits that you like the most about
00:46:11.700
And it is genuinely like your curiosity, like you will sit down and be interested.
00:46:16.940
Like I might be interested in what I'm interested in, but I'm not interested in things necessarily
00:46:22.200
Like you are, like you will find something you don't know and just take it and be like,
00:46:27.300
Whether it's like watching some dude teach you how to, you know, do exercises and meal
00:46:35.320
Wait, remember when I tried to learn the banjo the other night without a banjo?
00:46:45.540
You intervened at that point because I was trying to like air guitar the banjo and you
00:46:55.760
So it's even to a fault sometimes, my interest, my errant interest.
00:46:59.540
So I do appreciate that about you and how you are interested, even in sports, even in
00:47:14.680
I like college basketball, but I don't really watch a ton of the NBA.
00:47:18.480
But, you know, the local team and you're trying to watch the Mavs.
00:47:26.340
Like, how do you trade away a top five player in the NBA in his prime?
00:47:32.320
He's been in the league for five years and he's made the all NBA team.
00:47:34.820
All NBA means that you're the best player at your position and you're literally one
00:47:40.760
And he's made that every year that he's been in the league.
00:47:42.780
And you just don't get a player like that and get rid of them.
00:47:46.400
You build your franchise around that type of player.
00:47:50.300
And what they got back in return is ridiculous.
00:47:54.980
They got an aging former superstar in Anthony Davis and then some other small pieces.
00:48:04.500
And some other small pieces and maybe a couple draft picks, but like they could have gotten
00:48:07.980
They could have gotten a king's ransom for him and they barely got, you know, anything.
00:48:11.340
And so it brings up the conspiracy theories and I'm all for your conspiracy theories.
00:48:15.840
So if you have a theory or somebody like your husband has a theory, you want to send it
00:48:20.280
Just like, I want to hear all the theories because I cannot believe that is a pure basketball
00:48:29.520
I've heard things about it potentially being, you know, new owners of the Mavs.
00:48:34.140
They really want to bring sports betting into Texas.
00:48:37.560
I believe it's the Adelsons and I believe it's from Las Vegas Sands.
00:48:41.580
If that's not the case, then please correct me or take it out.
00:48:47.100
So they are trying to bring sports betting into the state of Texas.
00:48:52.100
The legislature of Texas has fortunately kept that from happening.
00:48:57.040
And so there's some conspiracies around like maybe potential sabotage.
00:49:00.800
It's like, okay, if we sabotage the team, then maybe they will allow us to move the team
00:49:05.220
to Vegas because enough of the fans will get angry.
00:49:12.060
Oh, see, that's the missing piece that I did not realize.
00:49:15.000
Yeah, move the Mavs to Vegas and then there would be a new team that would take over for
00:49:19.320
But the team that owns the current ownership would move their team to Dallas.
00:49:22.940
Or put their thumb on the scales enough to try to get sports betting legal in Texas.
00:49:27.660
And I just, my other take, kind of my old man yells at clouds, which I don't think is
00:49:32.640
I think it's a true take on sports betting is that it's just, I don't like it.
00:49:41.760
Yeah, I think that it's wrong morally and against what we should be doing as Christians.
00:49:46.500
But then also I do believe as well that there's some other consequences, both for the culture
00:49:51.400
and how, you know, we're allowing this type of behavior, this allowing this type of, you
00:49:56.260
know, risky, you know, gambling or whatever to take place.
00:49:59.120
You have families being destroyed because of it and because you're overextending yourself.
00:50:03.280
And you might make the argument, oh, it's just like having any other type of entertainment
00:50:11.260
And so I do think that we have laws around certain moralities for particular reasons.
00:50:16.060
And so I do think that sports betting is something that is pretty detrimental to society.
00:50:22.580
And then the third thing is that it warps sports media.
00:50:27.100
I used to really enjoy being able to turn on SportsCenter and just watch sports and watch
00:50:43.320
And I want my sports podcast to just be, you know, talk about the game, talk about what's
00:50:48.780
I used to watch SportsCenter, you know, as every kid, every boy growing up in the 90s,
00:50:53.440
like I used to watch it for in the summer, like for four times, like just keep on playing
00:51:01.320
They have their own, you know, betting that they have to do and betting app that they have
00:51:06.000
And so I think there's a lot of ways that it has warped the sports media and has changed
00:51:10.180
the way that, you know, we kind of consume sports.
00:51:12.940
And as somebody that consumes a lot of sports, I don't really like that.
00:51:17.280
I just think it's degenerate and it takes like the pure fun out of sports.
00:51:22.600
As someone who like doesn't know that much about sports, I totally agree with you.
00:51:28.080
I feel like it is like walking to a city and smelling weed.
00:51:34.420
Just like basketball is still great or baseball is still great.
00:51:36.860
But now it's just got this stench that just kind of ruins it.
00:51:43.380
And there's an obvious take, too, that you can just think, oh, how will this affect the
00:51:52.720
And, you know, you'll have the proponents of sports betting say, oh, no, it doesn't it
00:51:58.540
Well, literally, there have been professional basketball players that has been betting on games
00:52:03.820
to the point to where he would go in at halftime.
00:52:10.160
But so like he would be able to tell his buddies, you know, put in a bet.
00:52:13.540
Hey, the coach isn't going to put me back in the second half.
00:52:17.300
So meaning I think that he would score fewer than a certain amount of points.
00:52:20.300
Bet the under on my point total because I'm not going back out.
00:52:23.480
And so there's you could see there's these huge influxes of cash on this player's particular
00:52:28.240
He's a player that's not getting a lot of minutes.
00:52:30.220
So it's like, why is this person getting a lot of bets put on him?
00:52:33.860
You know, it makes sense for people to bet on LeBron James because he plays almost every
00:52:38.440
But this guy, why would you bet on what he's going to do?
00:52:40.980
And so it turns out it was him, you know, kind of maybe directing his buddies and other
00:52:44.780
And so that takes away the legitimacy of the game.
00:52:47.980
Umpire for MLB just got fired because he was sharing a betting account with another buddy.
00:52:54.600
And basically he was saying that he didn't bet on his games.
00:52:57.260
But the account that he shared, admittedly, did bet on the games.
00:53:03.900
So as a sports purist as well, there's that side of it, too.
00:53:16.080
Is there anything else that we didn't cover that we want to say for a Valentine's Day episode?
00:53:24.540
If I didn't get to, since I talked a lot about sports betting, Luka trade, devastating.
00:53:42.060
And, yeah, you get to grow with the person and don't settle for anything less than the
00:53:50.240
Also the person that's following Christ, but the person that you really like and love.
00:53:54.420
And I'm just very thankful this Valentine's Day and every Valentine's Day that I get that
00:53:59.400
and that I've gotten to spend every year since I was 22.
00:54:04.980
Yeah, 22 when we were just dating with the love of my life.