Ep 1223 | The Forrest Frank Formula: Why Christian Music Is Trending
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1 hour and 7 minutes
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Summary
Brie gets new glasses and discovers she's losing her sight. Plus, Cosmo is worried about the impact Relatable is having on women, and we look at a story about reborn dolls. Thanks to our sponsor, Olive, for sponsoring this episode.
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HHS Secretary RFK Jr. just announced findings from an investigation that revealed a very
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dark side to organ donation. We've got a representative of the HHS here today, Dr.
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Raymond Lynch, to talk about these very disturbing findings, as well as the potential for amazing
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hope and redemption that we can find in organ donation. But first, we're going to talk about
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some happy news. Number one, Cosmo is worried about the impact that Relatable is having on women.
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That's a good thing. Number two, Christian music is making a huge splash and is having an incredible
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effect on the mainstream. And then we have to look, unfortunately, at this Wall Street Journal
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story about reborn dolls. I think this makes a huge statement about where our country is spiritually.
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We've got all of this and much more on today's episode of Relatable. It's brought to you by our
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app store. Hey guys, welcome to Relatable. Happy Monday. Hope everyone is having a wonderful day
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and that you had a great weekend. First, very important point of order, very important piece
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of business. Brie got new glasses and we need to talk about the new glasses. Can we pull up Brie,
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please? Brie, I love your new glasses. I noticed them as soon as I walked in. They stopped me in my
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tracks. Thank you so much. How long did you have your old glasses? Like two years. I've been really
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putting off. That's not that long. Well, yeah, I guess people, some people wait longer, but I've been
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really putting off going to the eye doctor and finally I did. So you said you're blind. Is that true?
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Yeah. Oh, I can't see anything without my glasses. Really? That's why I wear them all the time.
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Have you always had glasses? Um, since like middle school. Yeah. Really? Yeah. Wow. And I can't even
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wear contacts because they're, they're too like itchy. That's how bad my eyesight is. Yeah. I went
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through a stage in high school of wearing colored contacts just for fun and they like burned my eyes.
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It was terrible, but I was like, must have blue eyes. Yeah. The blue eye phase. Yeah.
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Um, my vision, I wonder if this is true for anyone else out there. My vision has gotten considerably
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worse after my pregnancies. So you can look forward to that one day that you might even become more
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blind after. I don't know what it is, but your body changes a lot and I cannot see far away. And so I
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also need to go to the eye doctor. Oh, how long has it been for you? Two years. Yeah. But I can see most
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things. I don't need reading glasses. It's when I'm driving, which is great. Um, but I just have a
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hard time. Like everything is kind of blurry from, from far away. And I didn't really notice it until
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like my daughter started being able to read and she would be like reading a sign. And I'm like,
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how in the world can you see that? And then I was like, Oh, I am losing my eyesight. And maybe it's
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just getting older too. Yeah. It might be that, but okay. I just wanted to say cute glasses. So
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everyone leave a comment of affirmation for Brie. Um, okay. A couple other things I wanted to say.
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I would get her one of each. All right. Relatable had some mentions in the media over the weekend.
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And I just want to talk about that because I am very thankful that the things we talk about here,
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raising a respectful ruckus for the things that matter, trying as best we can to navigate the
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chaos and confusion and cowardice of our culture with as much clarity and courage as we possibly can,
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that that message is also being conveyed to an audience who is not used to what we have to say
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about the biblical reality of truth and morality and marriage and gender and the dignity of life.
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I had that New York Times interview just a couple weeks ago that came out. And then there was another
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New York Times piece that came out that was very negative and completely inaccurate about the
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very straightforward argument of toxic empathy. It was also included in a negative article by David
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French, but what else is new in the New York Times? But this article that came out in Cosmo was,
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I wouldn't say it was positive, but it was more fair than some of the recent articles that have come
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out. That one interview that I did with the New York Times was with Ross, that was very fair. But some of
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the subsequent articles after that were not. This, however, I thought was such an interesting
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description. And I want to just go through some of the things that they said and what message this
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particular journalist is probably trying to convey. So she wrote this article in Cosmo. Now, mind you,
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Cosmo was the outlet that just a couple of years ago put up a how-to on Instagram for instructions for a
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satanic ritual abortion. All right. And so they're probably not down for the most part with the
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things that we are saying on Relatable. Here's the title of this article. Meet the new wave of
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femininity influencers who want you to abandon feminism as you know it. Some of you pointed out
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that they're already kind of categorizing me as new when really I've been doing this for 10 years. I'm not
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new. I've talked about all the same things that I've always talked about. It just is never ending.
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The need to talk about these things. So here's how they open this up. And this might sound like a
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puff piece that we gave them this language ourselves. In the recording studio, Allie Beth
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Stuckey sits on a cream sofa, her blonde hair perfectly tousled. Wow. She leans into the microphone
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and speaks. Okay. Listen to this. I just think this is so, it's so funny how they describe it. And it's
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sweet. But then you get into what, you know, the message that they're really trying to convey.
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She's chatty and fun, interspersing the serious with the silly. And at first glance, she's just
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like any other podcaster. Just at first glance, though. In many ways, Stuckey's entire brand is
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built on being a regular girl's girl. Her hair is impeccably blow-dried. She hates matcha, wears floral
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dresses, and throws in pop culture references like she's just another millennial in the group chat.
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Her podcast is called Relatable, and that's exactly what she wants to be to our listeners. But Stuckey
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isn't just here to chat. She's here to convert. And this is where she gets into, okay, Allie Beth
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Stuckey is emblematic of this very frightening, the left would say, movement to try to convince women
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of a particular message that is not progressivism. But that is true. Those last lines are true. I am not
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just here to chat. I am here. I don't know if I would say convert, although that's true. I do want
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people to convert to Christianity. Absolutely. That is my number one desire. But to convince,
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that is absolutely true. Every single podcast episode I do is meant to be persuasive. Yes,
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encouraging. Yes, emboldening. Yes, edifying. But I wanted to persuade people. I wanted to change
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people's minds. And I'm very grateful. I'm so grateful for the messages that I get from people
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saying, I thought this, and now I think this. So here's how this journalist frames this.
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There's a new women's movement emerging, one directly reacting to all that's come before it.
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Those who are part of it, to varying degrees, believe the decades of feminism have harmed us
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and made us more miserable. That marriage modesty and motherhood is the way out of our discontent.
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Stuckey is at the more radical end of the scale. Her podcast is unapologetically right-wing
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and Christian, encouraging women to lean out of all that we've been taught and let men take
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charge again. Now, obviously, I do believe that men should be leaders. Men should especially be
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leaders within the church, leaders in the family. But I wouldn't say that that is like a huge part
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of the message that I'm conveying on a daily basis. Many episodes involve deep dives into scripture,
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the promotion of, she says, quote unquote, biblical womanhood, a belief about gender norms.
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Others center around political discussion, often focusing on abortion, which Stuckey opposes
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in all circumstances. This is true. She lightens the tone with edgy, edgy, and sarcastic takedowns
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of pop culture and discussions on parenting. Now, here's where she thinks. So she also discusses
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Alex Clark and she talks about Louise Perry. She's an author, a very interesting person that I've had
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on this podcast before. She talked to Alex Clark and she mentions that being palatable is key.
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Both Stuckey and Clark promote traditional Christian marriage, oppose abortion, and berate
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hormonal contraception. True. They sell a lifestyle that looks very close to that of trad wives.
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Yada, yada, yada. But a cynic might say they understand that rejecting the trad wifery of current
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discourse is a way for them to appeal to a wider audience. So she believes that we're pushing,
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basically, trad wife lifestyle, but we're hedging a little bit because we're afraid that it's going
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to lose us followers. And she admits that that is a cynical take. Of course, that is not true. I
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think I've been very consistent that biblical womanhood and the trad wife trend that we see
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that is largely superficial and a little bit fetishistic on social media, they're not the same
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thing. There are good parts of being a quote-unquote traditional wife, but being a biblical wife is
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better. That might include some things that look traditional. It very often does, but it is not
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synonymous. Those ideas are not interchangeable because you can be going to hell and be a trad wife.
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Okay? So they're different things. She mentioned Stuckey has even gone as far as saying that some
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trad wife content lacks moral substance and has referred to it as straight up 1950s fetishized
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cosplay. That is true. It does lack moral substance. And then this article, it's actually
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interesting. I would encourage you to read it because it is a pretty fair perspective from a left
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wing angle of the fear of conservatism and the fear of Christian motherhood and womanhood and the fear
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that we might be appealing to women and a demographic that progressives dominate right now and have
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historically dominated. And there's a paragraph in here, and I don't have it in front of me, but
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they cite someone by the name of Dr. K. And she says that the fear is that women will start mirroring
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the voting patterns of the men who have been affected by the manosphere. And I say, oh my goodness,
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from Cosmo's lips to God's ears, that would be wonderful. That's not my primary objective to change
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how people vote. I want to help by the power of the Holy Spirit change how people think, how we see the
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world the best that we can from a biblical perspective. And that, of course, will affect
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how we vote. And that's a good thing. Politics matter because policy matters, because people
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matter. Politics affects policy. Policy affect people. And people matter. People matter to God,
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and people matter to us. And Jesus is King is an all-accompassing statement. God made the heavens
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and the earth in the beginning. God made the heavens and the earth. That means He's the authority over
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all of it so we don't get to compartmentalize what we think about God and what we think about morality
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and what we think about politics. And really, no one does. Whether you're a secularist or whether you
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are a Christian, what you think about God and who is in charge and therefore what is right and wrong
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inevitably and must affect your politics. And so while I'm not talking every day about what's going on in
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the news at this moment, I'm not talking every day about what's going on in politics. I'm trying
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the best I can, again, to navigate this crazy world from a biblical perspective, taking you along with
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me. That will, yes, affect how we think and affect how we involve ourselves politically. And I would say
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that's a very good thing. We also have some encouraging news, something that is going on in the Christian
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music world that I got to talk about on the news over the weekend. And it has to do with one of
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Okay, Christian music making a comeback. So for the first time since 2014, over 10 years,
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two Christian artists have songs charting on the Billboard Top 100, which ranks the most popular
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songs across all genres based on streaming activity from digital platforms. Forrest Frank's
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Your Way Is Better reached number 61, has been on the chart for 13 weeks. That is awesome.
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While Brandon Lake's Hard Fought Hallelujah peaked at number 40 and has charted for 22 weeks. That is
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awesome. I'm so excited about this. And Bree, you went to Forrest Frank a few weeks ago. I went to
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Forrest Frank, my chief related bro and I and our oldest daughter. We loved it. There were so many
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kids there. Very family friendly and like legitimately a big concert that wasn't just for kids. But you went
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with a friend. What did you think about it? I thought it was so much fun. I thought I think
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you said that you left a little bit early. I know at the end, I felt like that. I mean,
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he gave like a very clear gospel presentation. And he was very clear throughout the whole thing that
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like this was like a night of worship. It was probably the biggest night of worship in that city
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that night. And so, yeah, I just thought it was really, it was really great. I actually didn't
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know that much of his music before I went though. So it was kind of a new experience for me. And
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yeah, I thought it was great. It's just like he got the kids involved too, which I think was fun.
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Yeah. He's calling people up on stage and stuff. So it's a fun experience.
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I might've said this last time, but I, um, he, you know, he posts a lot of videos on Instagram
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and we'll play one in a second, but he posted one a few months ago where he was responding to a
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comment, maybe on Tik TOK where it said like, would you ever cuss in any of your songs or something
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like that? And he just said, I think he just shook his head or just said no. And then it was a
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montage of all of the different kids that come to his concerts. And I just thought that that was
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so sweet. Now, obviously he's honoring God first and foremost, but as a mom, someone thinking about
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that when he could so easily not, he could so easily say, well, this is not for kids. I don't
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make songs for kids. I'm not the Wiggles, but he's thinking, okay, these people, I care about them
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and I want to build them up. And I just thought that was, I thought that was really, really sweet.
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So, um, I was on Fox news this weekend and I was asked about this on Fox and friends,
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just this trend of, um, really popular Christian music that is entering into the mainstream.
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And I gave my take on it, but then Forrest Frank, who has like 4 million followers on Instagram,
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he kind of reacted to it on his profile, which I thought was really fun. Here's that one.
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The first time multiple Christian musicians are charting on the Billboard Hot 100 at the same time
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and staying there for weeks. Gen Z is becoming more Christian. In fact, the most Christian
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generation in quite some time. What is causing this? A 60% global increase in Christian music
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I think it's the increase in an interest in meaning and fulfillment and specifically Christianity
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in the satisfaction that Jesus Christ brings, but also Christian artists are making really good music.
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I went to a Forrest Frank concert with my husband and our oldest daughter who is six. And let me tell
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you, it's not only that the Holy Spirit was present. There was a beautiful night of worship,
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but it was also genuinely a good experience. And so I'm just so thankful to see this collision
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of awesome talent and a desire to glorify God. Honestly, praise God that people are starting to
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listen to things that aren't degenerate and awful and ugly and shallow.
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So I just thought that was sweet of him to share. Now, some of the comments, unfortunately,
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were like, Charlie Kirk, Charlie Kirk and Alice Stucky. He wasn't making any kind of political
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statement. I'm sure he didn't know at all who I was. Maybe he knew who Charlie Kirk was. So people
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can just pipe down about that. But truly, I am so grateful to see this collision. I really am. There
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are people who are just so talented. They're using that talent for the glory of God. And that is what we
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want. And I am so thankful for every artist who says, I want to not only do Christian music,
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but I want it to be excellent. I want it to be really good. While at the same time understanding,
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and I'm not saying that any of those artists don't understand this, but just a reminder for
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all of us that mainstream approval is not the measure of our approval before God. That just because
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whatever you are doing is not gaining more popularity or isn't getting the platform,
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that you want it to, or is not crossing into the mainstream in whatever realm that you're in,
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that doesn't mean that God is not giving you favor. That does not mean that God doesn't approve
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of what you're doing. That doesn't mean that you're not giving glory to God. There are millions and
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millions of moments that happen among Christians every day that are unseen and unsung and will never
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make headlines and will never get any approval by the mainstream that God is looking down and saying,
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yes, well done, my good and faithful servant. So just understand that we're happy when Christianity
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is seen in the mainstream because we want more people to come to Christ and God can use that as a
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megaphone. Also understand that he uses your seemingly small obedience to bring people to himself and that
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God's eternal plan of redemption is always going off without a hitch, no matter what is going on in the news,
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what is going on in politics, and we can trust in that and rest in that. All right, this is going to be a little
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bit of a jarring transition, Brie, because for some reason my team keeps bringing me these stories that are
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very disturbing. So I wanted to start with something happy and positive before we get into this next story
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about reborn dolls. But it's an important story because now it's hit the mainstream media. Now it's in the
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Wall Street Journal. Previously, they were just these weird TikToks about people who have these very
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realistic babies. And people ask me, Ali, why do you care about this? Why do you talk about this if
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it's making people happy? I will tell you why I care about it and show you we got a lot of work to do
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as Christians because while good things are happening, very dystopian and scary things are
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Okay, Brie, what is going on with the realistic baby doll world? I feel like you must follow it because
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you're always the one that's sending me the TikToks to react to. This has actually become
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a thing now, according to the Wall Street Journal. Yeah. First of all, to clear the air. I don't have
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one of these dolls. I've never bought one of these dolls. No, oh my gosh. That would be grounds for,
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can I say that? Grounds for five? Yeah, I couldn't work here anymore. Yeah, no, they,
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I guess my algorithm thinks that I'm one of those people, which is also offensive. No,
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it's just because you probably clicked on one and now they're like, she loves it. She loves it.
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And you know what? I do because I show them to you every time I see one. Yeah, no, these are dolls
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that are like very expensive. The Wall Street Journal posted this article basically revealing
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how lucrative this industry is. Before, I just thought it was kind of a thing that some people
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did, but it's like really a whole industry. There are like expos, conferences specifically about
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these kinds of dolls. Yeah, that's a, that's a one table at the, what's it called? The Dolls of the
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World Expo. And so it's this huge conference where people go and like buy dolls and look at what people
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have created. So. I never thought that I'd be the kind of person who is now saying, just get it,
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just get a dog. Just get a cat. Just get it. You can get a pit bull if you want to. I would
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rather you do that. I think. Yes, I would. I would rather you do that than get the reborn doll.
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It's bad to replace your, replace kids with pets. It's bad to elevate pets to the level of human,
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but at least they are animate. Yeah. At least they have brains and they can have emotion and you can
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have a real bond. But when we're talking about an inanimate object, I mean, we are talking about
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real true idolatry in some cases. And I know some people are going to say, no, no, no, you're taking
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it too far. That's not what this is. This is just making people happy. It's not happy and it's not
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harming anyone. I beg to differ. Okay. Let me get into the story. Why is it being reported by the
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Wall Street Journal? As Bree said, this is no longer just like a trend that you see random people do on
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TikTok. This is an entire industry. What does this say about our hearts and our souls? The state
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of our nation. The Wall Street Journal published this article on the reborn doll community on July
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23rd. It's titled, Why People Are Buying $8,000. Lifelike Baby Dolls Do Not Tell Me People Aren't
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Having Kids Because They Can't Afford It. Okay. Not only this, but we also see people paying thousands
00:28:59.920
and thousands of dollars to keep their 13-year-old shih tzus alive. Okay. It is not because people can't
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afford to have kids. It is a matter of priorities. It is a matter of culture. So reborn dolls are
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hyper-realistic baby dolls, sometimes costing up to $10,000 that are often treated by their owners
00:29:19.140
as real infants. The reborn doll phenomenon started in the early 2000s has recently become a worldwide
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trend. Collectors consider themselves parents and range in age from small children to senior citizens,
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not the dolls, but the collectors, right? There's not like reborn old people, right? I sure hope not,
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but there are reborn toddlers. Okay. I'm disturbed. There are even expos and conventions celebrating the
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hobby, including the Dolls of the World Expo that took place in June with 1,500 attendees at a
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convention center in Greensboro, North Carolina. We already put up that picture. We can put up the
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picture again, just so we can talk about it. Like you can see how realistic this is. And a lot of
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the people, I do see like a child in the picture, but it looks like a lot of the people looking that
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they are, um, that they're grownups. We're not talking about, like, I remember when I was little,
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we had those baby dolls that felt like real babies. They were heavy and they looked realistic.
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I mean, these look really, really real. The dolls are made in a labor-intensive process,
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which is part of the reason for the hefty price tag. According to WSJ, many of the artists are
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women who work in home studios, who hand paint the dolls veins, root individual hairs, and use
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expensive materials like silicone and glass eyes to make the dolls lifelike. Supplies for one doll
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can cost more than $500. You add the labor on top of that, but you're still, if you're selling it for
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$8,000, you are making a good profit. Collectors argue that the dolls can be therapeutic for women who
00:30:51.480
have lost babies or suffered miscarriages. But according to the Wall Street Journal,
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some of the collectors have real children and grandchildren. I don't think that this is a form
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of redemption and therapy for people who have lost or who have struggled with infertility. In fact,
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I know it's not because it is a fake replacement for something that is real. And it is a fake bomb for a real
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deep wound. I couldn't even say that it's like putting a band-aid on a head gash. I would say
00:31:23.180
it's like doing something harmful to it. I don't even know. Putting dirt in it, making it worse. I
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actually think that you are creating an infection that is going to infest your heart and your soul
00:31:35.800
by trying to attach to and put hope and belonging into an inanimate object. That will only lead to
00:31:45.000
further heartbreak because at some point the humanity inside you, the conscience you have,
00:31:51.440
the real grief you're feeling will collide with the reality that this is not a real person who is not
00:31:57.760
living, who is not growing, who does not depend upon you. It is okay to have that feeling of loss. It is
00:32:04.180
okay to feel immense pain. I think it's even okay to be tempted to see, will this fill that void?
00:32:13.260
I understand where that feeling comes from, but this is asking an object to do that which it never
00:32:21.420
can. And I disagree with this assertion that it hurts no one. I think it's bad for your soul and I
00:32:28.260
care for people's souls. And by the way, if people can replace a real child that has needs, that has
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demands, that requires sacrifice and discomfort and inconvenience and creates growth in the individual
00:32:45.160
and causes us to reorder society to protect this very vulnerable and helpless person, if people can
00:32:51.880
just skirt all of that in favor of this object that is cute and that you can play with, but that you can
00:32:59.640
toss aside whenever you don't want it anymore, then we've got a problem that creates disorder.
00:33:09.460
I would say that successful and healthy societies are ordered around caring for the most vulnerable.
00:33:16.260
I'm not talking about a welfare state, that the welfare state has to take money from those who have
00:33:22.220
and forcibly give it to the have-nots. I'm not talking necessarily about politics primarily.
00:33:30.400
I'm talking about how we order our communities, how we order our own lives, our own churches,
00:33:35.840
how we create these systems of care, what we sacrifice for, whom we sacrifice for.
00:33:43.660
It is healthy when we sacrifice for, give dignity to, and care for those who can't help themselves,
00:33:49.860
babies and children and older people and the vulnerable. It is disordered when we say, well,
00:33:57.900
we are actually going to sacrifice the needs of children on behalf of adult desires, which we see
00:34:03.800
in so many different ways. And in this way, I think people are ignoring their responsibility to care
00:34:11.700
for real children, whether they're their own children or they're orphans or they're poor children
00:34:16.240
or they're foster children or children who need help in some other way because they are pouring all
00:34:21.140
their resources and their time into these fake things. Okay, this is real. This is how people are
00:34:27.980
ordering their lives and spending their time and money while they're actual children who need our help.
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And therefore, I do believe that it's a form of idolatry.
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And you might ask, well, what's the difference in spending this time and this energy on a real person?
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If it's the same amount of time and energy spent, then how is one idolatry?
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And then when you're taking care of a real child, it's not.
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Because taking care of a real child is stewardship.
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It is taking care of a gift that God has given you, a real soul that will live forever in one of two places.
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Your responsibility for that child, for their physical and spiritual well-being, has both a temporal and eternal impact.
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But the care and the resources and the time and the energy given to an inanimate object, it is a dead end.
00:36:14.560
And therefore, it is wasting the one precious life that you have as a person.
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We are not put on this earth just to feel good, just to gain pleasure, just to fill our own voids, just to have all of our desires and even some of our needs met.
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We have been put on earth to glorify God and to love other people, to make better the space that we occupy, this tiny speck of eternity on which God has providentially placed us.
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We are called to make it better for the glory of God and for the good of other people.
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This is operating in a way that really only cares about the self.
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And I simply don't think loss is a justification for this.
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I just need a distraction from all of the madness
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So this is simply not a healthy way to cope with that kind of pain.
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It elevates those who are not made in the image of God