Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 1324 ｜ Christian's Viral Post About His Wife’s Past Sparks HUGE Backlash. She Responds

00:00:00.540 Trevor and Ashley Sheets went viral this week because of a post that Trevor put on X about

00:00:07.220 part of his wife's testimony saying that she was formerly promiscuous before she became

00:00:11.740 a Christian.

00:00:12.660 He was a virgin.

00:00:13.700 They got married both as new creations in Christ.

00:00:17.940 And this post went viral, got lots of backlash, not only from non-believers, but also from

00:00:24.860 professing Christians and conservatives saying that this was disrespectful, rude, people

00:00:29.620 calling his wife all sorts of names just because of common Christian vulnerability and sharing a

00:00:37.060 person's testimony and the power of the gospel. Well, I was completely taken aback by this

00:00:43.140 backlash and I wanted to give Ashley the opportunity on Relatable to share her testimony

00:00:48.260 for herself. So Ashley is here today to talk about how she came out of the new age and darkness

00:00:53.980 and all kinds of demonic oppression into the light of Christ.

00:00:58.440 It is a powerful story here on Relatable today.

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00:01:16.560 Hey, y'all.

00:01:17.380 Welcome to Relatable.

00:01:18.220 We've got a special guest episode today.

00:01:20.140 I wanted to make sure that you heard this testimony as soon as possible.

00:01:24.460 We have Ashley Sheets, and she has gone viral because her husband has gone viral because

00:01:29.600 of an ex post about his relationship with his wife regaining sexual purity after having

00:01:35.600 a past of promiscuity and marrying a virgin.

00:01:39.860 Ashley has a storied past before she knew Christ that included demonic activity and

00:01:46.720 the new age, even maybe forms of witchcraft and, um, lots of sexual immorality that she has been

00:01:54.920 very open about. And her husband, Trevor was a virgin when they got married and he posted this

00:02:01.480 on X and got so much backlash and 34 million views. He said, my wife was formerly promiscuous.

00:02:09.620 I was a virgin. She was then radically born again, committed to church, evangelized constantly

00:02:13.680 puritan books in her bedroom prayer journals grief over past sexual sin etc we got to know each other

00:02:19.060 for well over a year dated for four months engaged for two and a half and didn't sin sexually with

00:02:23.840 one another our first kiss with each other was at the altar on our wedding day we've been married

00:02:28.600 for over five years now he says and she's been the most wonderful and godly wife mother to our

00:02:32.340 three children and homemaker you could imagine she's more pure than most virgins as biblical

00:02:36.020 purity has less to do with past sins though they matter and more to do with one's current posture

00:02:40.520 of the heart and daily decisions to honor the Lord, Matthew 5.8. We're far too quick to forget

00:02:45.200 the story of the woman labeled as a known sinner, likely a prostitute, in Luke 7.36-50, who was

00:02:50.900 washing Jesus' feet with her tears while kissing them too. The Pharisees were shocked that Jesus

00:02:55.840 let a public sinner do this. Jesus responded with a parable about debts being forgiven and ended with

00:03:01.400 this powerful conclusion. Her many sins have been forgiven. That's why she loved much. But the one

00:03:06.920 who is forgiven little loves little. Super powerful. He also quotes 1 Corinthians 1,

00:03:14.020 which is one of my favorite passages, and 2 Corinthians 5, 17. If anyone is in Christ,

00:03:19.320 they are a new creation. He also goes on to say, everyone seems to highlight the benefits of

00:03:25.040 virginity. It certainly is a blessing, but we forget to highlight the benefits of being forgiven

00:03:29.140 much as well. My wife knows the depths of Jesus's forgiveness. A woman or man's past sexual sin

00:03:34.820 matters. But what matters far more when it comes to deciding who to marry is if the person is truly

00:03:39.760 born again, if their repentance is real, if they truly have a heart for Christ, if they truly

00:03:44.780 follow Jesus and obey his commands. So I read this post on X and I saw that it had thousands

00:03:51.380 and thousands of replies. And usually when a post has thousands of replies, it's like some kind of

00:03:57.520 engagement bait where people are trying to stoke outrage or say something ridiculous. So a bunch

00:04:02.280 of people respond or a question and a lot of people answered. So I immediately wanted to read

00:04:08.440 the post. It had to have been something ridiculous, something that I was really going to disagree with

00:04:13.500 because that's the other reason why a post would have that many replies is if they said something

00:04:18.180 really dumb, really bad, really controversial. I read the post and I was like, okay, that is,

00:04:25.320 you know, standard Christian testimony. That is standard Christian theology. I don't understand

00:04:31.040 what's controversial about this. It must just be a bunch of secular progressives who are angry

00:04:36.540 about a Christian testimony. The demons are screeching. That could be the only explanation

00:04:41.860 for this being considered controversial. I read it. I didn't find anything controversial in it

00:04:46.420 whatsoever. But then I was so surprised to see conservative Christians responding negatively

00:04:53.880 to this. I saw Robbie Starbuck, for example, and these are not personal attacks on these people.

00:04:59.020 I was just surprised to see their response.

00:05:01.380 He said, dude, dot, dot, dot, delete this.

00:05:04.000 And then I saw my friends at Daily Wire also disagree with how this person worded this

00:05:10.360 testimony.

00:05:10.980 For example, here is Michael Knowles, thought one.

00:05:13.320 Purity ultimately has more to do with one's present state.

00:05:17.220 As long as we're oriented toward God, as long as our desire is turned toward God and we're

00:05:21.880 moving in that direction, that's what God really wants.

00:05:23.760 That's what delights God.

00:05:24.980 And if we're moving in the opposite direction or we're despairing or giving up or whatever,

00:05:27.940 that's a big problem.

00:05:29.020 But all of that said, I agree with so many of the points he's making.

00:05:33.040 And yet, there's something wrong with this post, right?

00:05:37.840 You shouldn't call your wife a whore on social media.

00:05:40.200 I think you don't need to talk about your past sins all the time.

00:05:44.620 Sometimes that can be powerful testimony.

00:05:47.640 But sometimes it's a little awkward and weird.

00:05:49.920 Sometimes it can be humiliating.

00:05:51.740 Sometimes it can serve selfish purposes.

00:05:54.660 Okay, so he goes on.

00:05:56.060 you can, you know, find his whole monologue for the entire context on this, but he also said this

00:06:00.380 on X. I saw a lot of people saying that, that, okay, fine, well, and good, but you're humiliating

00:06:06.020 your wife and you are lacking discretion. And Michael even says right there, sometimes it's

00:06:11.800 fine, but a lot of times it's not. Well, as far as I know, these people don't talk about this all

00:06:15.980 the time. I went through Trevor's tweets. I had never seen him tweet before, but I don't see him

00:06:21.080 talking about his wife's storied past or her promiscuity a lot. He felt compelled to share

00:06:26.820 her testimony. She felt compelled to share her testimony publicly. And so they decided to do

00:06:33.140 that. And I thought that it was beautiful. And to see so many professing Christians and

00:06:38.580 conservatives, I'm not just talking about Michael Knowles, but a lot of people with a lot more

00:06:43.860 intense negative reactions. I mean, I saw a lot of Theobros out there saying, wow, you're calling

00:06:50.140 your wife a whore on the internet. That's the one I saw over and over again. Oh, this is so sad for

00:06:55.960 the young men out there who are going to think, I'm using their words, who think that you have to

00:06:59.900 marry a whore. I can't believe you just called your wife that. And I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa.

00:07:04.300 He did not call his wife that. You called his wife that. You called another man's wife that.

00:07:09.380 You called a new creation that. Like you called a person who has been redeemed by Christ, who has

00:07:14.740 been sanctified and made new and is pure as the driven snow because of Christ, a whore. That is

00:07:20.340 on you. That is not on her husband. Okay. And so just the hyper patriarchy bros who call themselves

00:07:29.600 Christians out there who just want to take any opportunity, not only to denigrate women, but

00:07:34.460 to denigrate the work of the gospel. It's just, it's just insane. It's like this very obvious

00:07:41.180 tenet of Christianity that you have become a new creation is now like, oh, well, maybe that's just

00:07:46.740 maybe it's a little nuanced. And then, of course, you do have people which, okay, who say, yeah,

00:07:52.380 all that's well and good, but still, like, we shouldn't be promoting this kind of thing.

00:07:57.620 Virginity matters and all of that. Again, I would say Trevor said that. Trevor didn't say anything

00:08:01.900 against virginity. He didn't say that that doesn't matter. He didn't say that sexual sin doesn't

00:08:06.060 matter. He just said that his wife has been made new. And that is true. That is true. Like, think,

00:08:13.040 let's hold multiple thoughts in our minds at the same time. I believe in some of you out there. I

00:08:17.920 really do. I mean, sometimes you make me want to lose my belief in you, but I'm really trying to

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00:09:30.100 I just thought that it was interesting that this testimony became fodder for a lot of

00:09:38.380 conservatives out there, that even if you are not a Christian, there is an understanding of

00:09:44.860 the testimony that Christians give when we say, okay, this is how we were when we were dead in

00:09:50.200 our sin. And this is who we are now by grace through faith. And because I am a new creature

00:09:56.300 and a new creation. The old has passed. The new has come. I have a new identity. I am a new person

00:10:03.000 because of Christ. That is what I read from this post. And then you have someone like Dr. Kevin

00:10:07.720 Young. This is coming from the progressive side. He's a very progressive guy. He says,

00:10:11.900 he posted a screenshot and just highlighted the first line. My wife was formerly promiscuous. I

00:10:17.680 was a virgin. Dr. Kevin Young says, nothing after this line matters. There's no reason ever under

00:10:22.040 any circumstances in any universe where it is appropriate for a man to make this statement

00:10:25.940 about his wife, true or not, with or without her permission. This is her story, not theirs. This

00:10:30.940 is what is wrong with evangelicalism. Look, this is just a misunderstanding of marriage, of the

00:10:38.920 situation, of what went on here, of this person's consent to her sharing her testimony. There are

00:10:45.080 so many assumptions going on that he is pimping out his wife's story for money. That is not what

00:10:52.220 is happening here because you can see if you go to her social media how often she has shared this

00:10:57.780 story publicly now there are a lot of christians who are supporting them like my friend samuel say

00:11:03.220 he says professing christians who are offended by this are telling on themselves jesus is going to

00:11:07.320 marry a formerly promiscuous bride the church hello some of you are acting like you won't be a

00:11:13.540 part of the wedding mic drop samuel continued quoting proverbs 18 22 and saying he who finds

00:11:19.940 a wife finds favor with the Lord. He advised users to take their advice, Twitter users,

00:11:24.560 ex-users, take their advice from God over fools on social media. Owen Stram also defended Ashley

00:11:32.960 and Trevor and also pointed out that Ashley shared her testimony publicly on an online platform

00:11:42.080 in 2020. So this is certainly not the first time again that her testimony has circulated.

00:11:49.860 She's gotten all kinds of insults.

00:11:51.960 She's been denigrated in all kinds of ways, just because not only her vulnerability, but

00:11:57.720 because her husband, along with her, but on his account, also shared her story.

00:12:04.160 And yeah, that's going to seem scandalous to the world because most people can't understand

00:12:09.040 that level of honesty and transparency and the lack of shame that you have once you are

00:12:14.600 in Christ.

00:12:15.520 I, for one, thought it was a beautiful testimony.

00:12:18.260 I think Ashley's testimony points to the grace and redemption and the opportunity that each

00:12:24.120 and every one of us has in Christ.

00:12:26.600 And I'm so thankful for her courage.

00:12:29.360 She posted, becoming a Christian in general opens you up to ridicule, slander, and shame,

00:12:34.360 but it is worth it for the sake of the gospel.

00:12:36.900 Jesus is worthy.

00:12:38.600 Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you.

00:12:41.540 She's quoting Matthew 5.11 and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.

00:12:47.240 So that is her perspective on all of this.

00:12:50.240 Praise God.

00:12:51.600 Ashley is here today to share her testimony with us coming out of the darkness of abuse

00:12:58.020 and the new age and promiscuity and into the light of Christ.

00:13:03.140 Without further ado, here's our friend Ashley Sheets.

00:13:10.440 Ashley, thank you so much for taking the time to join us.

00:13:13.500 So first, I just want to hear from you.

00:13:15.220 what was your reaction when you saw your husband's post go viral and then get so much backlash?

00:13:22.460 Thank you so much for having me. I was, I was surprised, you know, when Trevor told me

00:13:28.380 that he made this post and it's really doing well. I was like, okay, like he's, he's done

00:13:34.380 great posts before and that have gained traction before. So I didn't really think of anything of

00:13:41.140 it but then it just kept getting more and more traction and it's reaching millions of views

00:13:48.400 and it was shocking but I wasn't embarrassed at all by it because again I've been sharing my

00:13:57.100 testimony for years it was more of a praise God praise God that my testimony is being seen

00:14:07.040 by millions of people, millions of unsaved people, and the gospel is being magnified in that.

00:14:16.820 I'm zero shame. I, and my husband knows I do not mind him at all sharing any aspects of my

00:14:25.120 testimony. He's a wise, godly man. I trust what he does, and he is discreet when he needs to be,

00:14:33.500 And I had no issues with it.

00:14:37.460 And even though there's been a lot of backlash,

00:14:41.100 again, I always praise God

00:14:43.760 when I'm reviled and persecuted for righteousness sake

00:14:47.840 as Jesus talks about in the Beatitudes.

00:14:50.760 It is a blessing.

00:14:52.080 It's hard, but it's still a blessing.

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00:16:01.080 i've already talked about this with my audience at the beginning of the episode but i was really

00:16:08.640 taken aback not only that the post went viral because i read it it's a beautiful post but i'm

00:16:13.380 like this is a you know the christian testimony we hear these kinds of things a lot christians

00:16:17.980 are very famously vulnerable open about what their past looked like how god redeemed them

00:16:22.820 so i just thought this is another great christian testimony but i not only saw secular progressives

00:16:28.140 saying, wow, this is so weird, which I've come to expect after years on X. But then also like

00:16:33.540 professing Christians, people in the conservative world saying, this is embarrassing. How could you

00:16:38.820 throw your wife under the bus like that? Was that hard to see? It might have even been people that

00:16:43.100 you were fans of. Yes, yes. It's been hard to see, you know, other people you've looked up to

00:16:51.700 in the past that like, yeah, this is absolutely horrible. And, you know, calling me derogatory

00:16:56.280 words, which Trevor never said that. Sure, the word was promiscuous and you can relate it to

00:17:04.460 that horrible word, but still he never called me that. And it's in and of itself, that word

00:17:11.500 is derogatory. So, uh, yeah, it was, it was, it's hard again, but it's been a blessing.

00:17:21.860 Yeah. So we've seen all of the public backlash, but has there been anything privately, either bad or good, that has surprised you? Messages that you've received, conversations that you've been able to have?

00:17:33.380 um so of course it's been i'd say more backlash than anything of course it's reached

00:17:43.000 over 34 million people yeah i'm totally gonna expect that because ali as you know the way

00:17:50.640 is narrow in the christian walk and this is a dark dark world why would i expect

00:17:58.880 to be praised and admired by over 34 million people when Jesus himself was hated for his

00:18:07.780 message. And, uh, it was shocking in the sense that, uh, you know, as a human, it's, it's hard

00:18:16.180 to be persecuted and, um, even attacked for my looks and all, just all the worst words that you

00:18:26.540 could think but I have also received such beautiful messages from people saying I am so happy that I

00:18:35.580 found you and that God led me to you and your testimony because I have a similar past and I

00:18:42.780 never thought I could experience the blessings that you've experienced now with you know having

00:18:48.380 a godly husband and um just people messaging me that they're just been crying from reading

00:18:56.960 my testimony and have been blessed by that and even that just cancels out like all the bad you

00:19:05.240 know and um you know you probably know the scripture I can't think of it off the top of

00:19:11.660 my head, but how heaven just rejoices when one sinner repents over all the righteous people,

00:19:20.380 you know? Totally. And praise God for that. And there will be stories like that that you never

00:19:25.660 even see until you get to the other side of glory. There will be someone you meet in eternity in

00:19:30.700 heaven who will say, you don't know me, but I heard your testimony through this crazy viral post. And

00:19:37.240 when it seems like God is doing one thing, he's actually doing a million things. And

00:19:41.600 so often we can't, we can't actually see what those things are. And I know that you're not

00:19:46.700 fishing for compliments, but you are really, really beautiful. Not only just beautiful in

00:19:51.900 your face, but just beautiful because I really see the light of Christ and the peace of him

00:19:57.440 shining through you. A lot of people would be broken over what they're seeing on the internet

00:20:02.420 about them. As you said, it's really hard, but you have peace because of Christ. And so I just

00:20:07.440 want to hear your testimony. It is incredible. You've shared it in the past. You're so open

00:20:11.940 about it. Take us back to the very beginning because the hardship that you went through in

00:20:18.540 your life really starts when you were little, right? Yes, yes. So I never grew up in a religious

00:20:25.360 household at all. I never knew who Jesus was. And I grew up in a family, a broken family,

00:20:33.120 really. My mom and my dad were never married. In fact, they split up when I was about three

00:20:38.080 years old. So I have no memory of them ever even really being together. And both my dad and my mom

00:20:44.840 are, they don't have any religion. So I never grew up with like religious or, you know, virtues to

00:20:54.240 really practice. It's just all about living your life now. And you figure it out as you go. But

00:21:01.200 I actually, I have always had a sense, maybe this is just the Lord's hand over my life,

00:21:08.860 always had a sense that this world is not it. I never really believed that I'm just going to live

00:21:17.500 this life and I, I wanted to seek truth, but I never believed in God either. I had no,

00:21:28.620 again, like I said, I'd never really dove into researching different religions when I was

00:21:36.040 younger. But when I was about 15, I ended up wandering into a Barnes and Noble section and

00:21:43.860 was really drawn into the spirituality section really just new age mysticism and self-help

00:21:50.160 all about you all about lifting you up all about enlightenment and it's just such a focus on you

00:21:57.800 so of course I was drawn into that so I ended up gathering like so many books reading them

00:22:04.340 front to back all the time thinking I was just this amazing spiritual guru I got really into

00:22:12.240 yoga and different religions. Of course, every religion but Jesus. Again, never went into

00:22:21.080 Christianity. Never picked up a Bible. Did you have like a natural distaste for Christianity

00:22:25.280 or was it just not one that you had considered? I did. I did. And I never even knew who Jesus was.

00:22:32.020 And I've talked about this with my sister before because she was with me at the time. I remember

00:22:37.460 when I was a teenager and we were walking through like a senior living home because my grandma lived

00:22:45.460 there and there was like a Christian sign on the door just about how Jesus saves. And I remember

00:22:52.520 just saying, Jesus isn't here. Jesus can't save you. I'm like, I don't even know who Jesus was.

00:22:57.860 And I'm just saying that. And when I look back on it, it's like, it's so much demonic

00:23:05.420 influence in the world that just keeps you from seeing the light of Christ yeah it when I look

00:23:12.180 back on those memories it just it makes me smile now because it just shows you the realness of

00:23:18.960 Jesus you bring up every other religion in the world and no one bats an eye but you start talking

00:23:24.760 about Jesus and everyone is like why would you start saying that name you know

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00:24:34.660 15% on your first order. paleovalley.com. Code Allie. So you turned to new age Hinduism. You

00:24:46.800 considered yourself a very spiritual person. This is when you were a teenager. You said about like

00:24:50.880 15, 16. And then you started turning to partying, psychedelics, things like that, right?

00:24:56.760 Yes. Yes. That path led me down to what the first line says, being a promiscuous woman.

00:25:03.920 And I became heavily addicted to drugs and psychedelics. And I thought these psychedelics

00:25:10.620 and these drugs were leading me into enlightenment. I was just seeking such a

00:25:16.120 crazy experience, I guess, with being spiritual. I thought this was leading me closer to knowing

00:25:24.220 whatever truth was out there. And, um, and yes, I saw worth and satisfaction and men and all these

00:25:34.440 different religions and, um, these books that just puff you up so much. And I ended up being

00:25:44.820 with just the wrong crowd of people. They were all into drugs thinking and telling me as well

00:25:51.260 that you have to take these drugs, you know, to become enlightened and that you had experienced

00:25:56.900 this wonderful experience with God or source or whatever you want to call it. That's what

00:26:03.260 new age mystics will call. Oh, oh, or the universe. Okay. I can't forget that. Right.

00:26:07.660 The universe. You want this experience with the universe. And again, I became really addicted

00:26:14.660 to these drugs. I was taking them almost every day at some point. And mind you, I'm underage.

00:26:24.560 I was living with my mom at the time. My mom and my dad were split up and my dad was actually a

00:26:29.860 police officer at the time as well. But I, since I was living with my mom, I was able to get away

00:26:35.320 with a lot. I love my mom, but she, she just wasn't, she was a bit naive in the sense that

00:26:42.980 she believed everything i said and i i was a horrible liar and i like to um talk about my

00:26:53.880 testimony from the point or making clear that this is not like a sob story of oh see you how

00:27:03.700 jesus saved this poor victim i was an absolute culprit and this is my testimony on how a gracious

00:27:13.260 loving merciful god took a culprit from the pit yeah yeah and i had very long dreadlocks i considered

00:27:22.960 myself just this enlightened hippie free spirit yeah yes spiritual uh very yeah these long dreadlocks

00:27:32.780 I, after my dad said that to me, that shook me up. And when I got to the hospital, I cut all my

00:27:40.820 dreadlocks off. I thought this was going to be like a new beginning, right? And of course it

00:27:46.960 wasn't because it was with my own strength. I thought I was going to be able to have this new

00:27:53.600 life. And what do we think happened a few months later? I ended up going to another festival and

00:28:01.420 getting back into drugs finding a new boyfriend and the same pattern continued and was this just

00:28:08.540 to get my timeline was this the you had a boyfriend who was 50 when you were um a teenager

00:28:17.220 correct you've talked about that go ahead yes i i didn't i wouldn't consider him a boyfriend okay

00:28:23.860 um he was he had his own made religion this guy was very manipulative in my life very brainwashing

00:28:35.900 i was abused by him many times but i felt like i couldn't get out and this was an angry man and

00:28:46.200 any um person who tried to help me escape from him he was angry and would yell and like I was

00:28:54.260 his possession in a sense and I never wanted to be with this man it was just it was a it was just

00:29:02.880 a horrible situation he was basically like a cult leader he was uh it was absolutely a cult leader

00:29:09.920 No doubt. He still has it to this day. We looked at it not too long ago to see if it was still a

00:29:19.360 thing. And yeah, still has this whole main religion, probably still deceiving people,

00:29:24.520 and immense hatred for Jesus, immense hatred for Christianity.

00:29:31.520 Yeah. Wow. And you talk about also within this period, both before and after your near-death

00:29:37.380 experience before and after the dreadlocks, like experiencing demonic activity and feeling like a

00:29:47.140 sense of demonic oppression. Can you talk more about that? Because a lot of people, they don't

00:29:51.260 believe that or they just don't really even know what that means. Yes, definitely. I was very

00:29:58.500 suicidal in this season of my life as well. So on the outward, you know, I appear like I'm this

00:30:05.560 a spiritual, a happy hippie, everything's free spirit and love. And yet on the inside, I was

00:30:13.360 extremely having dark thoughts. I was self-harming as well. I was cutting myself. I still have scars

00:30:21.780 to this day. And I consider that such a demonic influence as well from just everything I was

00:30:30.180 also reading and um consuming I remember I was listening to like dark screamo heavy metal music

00:30:39.400 and then I would self-harm and I um I yes I was suicidal I was just didn't um see any

00:30:51.760 joy, real joy in life. I was also having like dark nightmares all the time. And

00:31:02.160 yeah, just just darkness all around, really. Yeah. And you had moved to New Mexico with your

00:31:12.820 boyfriend around age 18. And you continued, you know, doing drugs, yoga, and then online

00:31:19.120 prostitution as well yes yeah when I moved to New Mexico I lived with yeah that boyfriend for a

00:31:28.920 couple months and then money was just a rough thing at the time and I remember I was following

00:31:37.160 different it wasn't even OnlyFans back then it was something else but all the you know some models

00:31:45.700 and that um line of work it is basically only fans but a whole different kind of website so

00:31:54.040 I remember telling my boyfriend you know what I could do this for a few months that's fine

00:31:57.500 um and yeah I did that I made different videos and I was just trying I didn't have like a huge

00:32:06.440 online presence or anything but it was just in the background something I would do and um I didn't

00:32:13.880 I didn't even think that was wrong at the time and which is crazy when I look back upon it because

00:32:21.900 this is just such a public thing and yeah so I did do like if you call that online prostitution

00:32:31.440 as well then yes yeah and that was around the time that you overdosed and you were having seizures

00:32:37.280 and you found yourself in the hospital where your dad met you right yep so this is all the year

00:32:43.060 2017 oh yeah I was actually I was 18 so thank you I got it mixed up with I thought I was 17

00:32:49.040 it's hard to remember but yes um after years of just being promiscuous and going into drugs I

00:32:59.960 ended up coming close to death multiple times I had a really big overdose when I was about 17

00:33:08.000 and so close to death.

00:33:12.180 I was, I can barely remember the experience

00:33:16.240 just from going out of consciousness.

00:33:18.660 I was having seizures and I woke up in the hospital

00:33:23.380 and my dad, who was a police officer at the time,

00:33:29.160 came to be with me.

00:33:31.700 And when I woke up, he looked me in the face and said,

00:33:35.400 Ashley, I've seen this so many times. And if you continue this path, you are going to die.

00:33:42.840 That is your destiny if you continue down this path.

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00:35:00.460 today. Go to joinadf.com slash Allie. Okay. So your dad in the hospital said you have to change

00:35:11.740 something or you're going to die. You cut off your dreadlocks. You were like, okay, I'm going

00:35:16.500 to change something, but you were relying on yourself. You were so relying on things like

00:35:21.060 yoga, self-help, the new age after that, you got back into drugs. And so the whole, like,

00:35:28.960 I'm going to pull myself up by my own spirituality didn't work. What led you to Christ?

00:35:34.620 Yes. So yes, I ended up going back into festivals in the month of August, I believe. And then I

00:35:46.320 moved out with another boyfriend who I met at this festival to Oregon for a month. And

00:35:54.860 I actually had a yoga retreat planned for the entire month of October. So I had to leave Oregon

00:36:04.940 and because I was going to be gone the whole month to be trained to be a certified yoga teacher.

00:36:09.480 So I left to Guatemala and actually the day before I left to Guatemala, I remember just praying on my knees.

00:36:21.620 I was feeling really just lost and hopeless.

00:36:25.260 And I remember a video that I came across before going to Guatemala, just a random YouTube video.

00:36:34.760 and it was talking about how chakras and eastern meditation and this false spirituality is all

00:36:44.300 hiding Jesus from you and that really pricked my heart. I feel like that was just the Holy Spirit

00:36:52.580 starting to lead me to Jesus and after that video I was on my knees just praying to the God I didn't

00:36:58.920 know at the time I was just praying. I don't know who you are or what you are, but I please

00:37:06.160 just show me the truth. I just want to know the truth. I don't care whatever it takes. I just

00:37:11.680 want to know the truth. And then I went on this yoga retreat for an entire month. It was, I didn't

00:37:19.720 have cell phone connection. It was just me every single day practicing yoga. And I ended up getting

00:37:27.120 certified after that month. And when I came back home in God's providence, I came across another

00:37:36.100 YouTube video. And it was, this is from me searching too. So that first video was in my

00:37:44.020 head about Jesus. So this started leading me down a rabbit trail of looking into who Jesus even was

00:37:51.860 in what the Bible actually is. So when I came across the second video, this time it was all

00:37:58.460 about how Jesus alone is the truth, the way, and the life. And no one comes to the Father but

00:38:03.180 through Him, which is in the Gospels. And different verses just about Jesus being God and the one true

00:38:14.700 God. And I remember just breaking down in tears. I was crying and I, I truly feel like I felt

00:38:25.460 the Holy Spirit's presence with me in that moment. And I, after that video, I was just crying and

00:38:34.800 crying and I called up the only Christian I knew. I had no Christian friends. I had, I, yeah, I know,

00:38:42.580 I didn't know any Christians really, except this one man who has been in my life because he was

00:38:49.780 friends with my sister and he got radically saved from being in a gang and would come over and share

00:38:56.060 the gospel. I was so young, so I didn't really, um, understand what he was saying, but he was

00:39:01.920 the one Christian I knew. And I called him after that video, just crying and asking if he could

00:39:08.040 help me understand who this Jesus is and the Bible. And that I was just so confused. I feel

00:39:17.820 like my whole life has been a lie and I don't know how to comprehend it. And he ended up coming

00:39:25.320 over, cleared out his busy, busy schedule for me, talked with me for 10 hours straight. And he

00:39:32.540 showed me like you have gravely sinned against God you know we went through my promiscuity we

00:39:40.580 went through my lying and I've broken all of the 10 commandments I've sinned so greatly against God

00:39:48.860 and I recognized that and he showed me that I was in great need of a savior I cannot get to heaven

00:39:59.920 by my own works. There's no good works here. It's God. He showed me that Jesus came

00:40:09.120 in the form. God came in the form of Jesus and he lived the perfect life that I couldn't live.

00:40:19.140 And he died on that cross for me, all my sins upon Jesus. And he rose from the grave three

00:40:29.660 days later. And all I had to have to do is to repent, actually turn from my sin, give my all

00:40:38.100 to Jesus Christ, believe in the gospel, and I will be saved. And he walked me through all my questions

00:40:45.040 as well. And that night I gave my life to the Lord. I confessed my sin. I committed myself to

00:40:52.360 Jesus. And I said, whatever it takes, Lord, I want to follow you. I want Jesus. I want the true

00:41:01.840 living God, no matter what it takes. And my life completely changed. I got rid of my library of

00:41:08.340 new age books that night. My family thought I was absolutely bonkers, but I've lost my mind.

00:41:16.200 And I threw it all in the trash.

00:41:18.980 Threw out all these like new age spiritual idols in the trash.

00:41:23.120 I got really into Hinduism.

00:41:24.520 So I have this Hindu false god on my arm.

00:41:28.760 And I threw it all away.

00:41:31.480 It was just me and my Bible in a bare room.

00:41:35.520 And I read through that Bible so fast, Allie.

00:41:40.120 It was like within a month that Bible was done.

00:41:44.120 and my life radically changed.

00:41:46.980 I've never went back into that life again.

00:41:50.040 And I've been saved for nearly 10 years now.

00:41:52.720 Praise God.

00:41:53.240 And you got baptized.

00:41:54.920 There's a picture of you.

00:41:56.380 Quickly.

00:41:57.000 Yes.

00:41:57.700 Getting baptized.

00:41:58.740 Beautiful.

00:41:59.380 I love that so much.

00:42:00.940 I mean, you can just see like the renewal

00:42:03.020 shining from you because of Christ.

00:42:05.640 And just, I know that we can't go into detail

00:42:07.740 about what the last 10 years have been like,

00:42:09.640 but I would love just to hear a little bit of an overview

00:42:12.100 of your walk in sanctification and then how you met your husband.

00:42:17.040 Yeah. So I got saved that December of 2017. And the man who led me to the Lord brought me to church

00:42:25.040 that first weekend. And I'm still at that same church to this day. And I was going every week,

00:42:32.880 reading my Bible constantly. This man, he was pouring into me. He was such a great brother,

00:42:41.480 just instantly brought me into such amazing solid theological um or showed me amazing theological

00:42:52.280 men and pastors to read and I was reading John MacArthur right away and um Paul Washer is my

00:43:00.320 absolute favorite preacher and just solid solid men and brought me to a solid church right off

00:43:07.220 the bat. And I truly believe that that is what helped me grow in such a great degree in the span

00:43:16.900 of that first year of being a Christian. Reading godly books constantly, like my whole, my love

00:43:24.100 for reading, as you can see, ended up going into a good direction. So my whole library filled with

00:43:30.200 just the best godly books. Yeah. That you could think of. I just kept putting my eyes on Christ

00:43:38.660 and learning what it means to be a godly woman and a woman after God's heart. And I know I desired

00:43:47.640 to be a wife after I became a Christian. I never thought I would be a wife or even desire that

00:43:54.760 before I was a Christian, but after reading, you know, what God desires for a woman in the

00:44:00.860 scriptures, that became my desire. I was like, man, I would love to be a mom and a wife at home

00:44:10.420 and a homemaker. And, but I also knew I needed to focus on Jesus. And that whole first year was

00:44:18.420 focused completely on Jesus. I met Trevor that first year I was saved, actually. My friend who

00:44:26.340 led me to the Lord introduced me to him. We were in the same small group, and he was the only one

00:44:33.480 in that small group who was really answering all the questions about the Bible. And he just had

00:44:40.000 such a heart for Jesus and a love for Jesus more than I'd seen any man around me. Like such a deep

00:44:49.420 love and a deep knowledge of the scriptures. They called him a Bible encyclopedia because you ask

00:44:54.460 him anything and it's like he knew the scripture to it. And I just loved that about him. So I ended

00:45:01.180 up talking to him more. So we kept in touch here and there. I would ask him or I would text him a

00:45:09.140 few questions, um, about the Bible and ask him like his favorite sermons or pastors to listen to.

00:45:17.600 And, um, so we never hung out like one-on-one or anything, but this is the whole year of 2018.

00:45:24.220 This is, this is what I call like the year of really diving deep and pursuing godliness above all.

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00:47:09.220 The end of 2018, in December, Trevor was good friends with the family I was living with

00:47:19.400 at the time. It was a family from my church. They took me in. I really wanted a mentor.

00:47:24.960 and that the woman I was living with,

00:47:28.900 she just poured into me for like six months.

00:47:32.920 Just, I was under her roof.

00:47:36.400 She was teaching me cleaning and homemaking.

00:47:38.760 We were diving into the word together pretty much every day.

00:47:41.880 Such a sweet woman.

00:47:44.320 And Trevor actually lived with them before too.

00:47:48.260 And we had no idea about this.

00:47:50.660 So in a day in December,

00:47:53.240 he wanted to visit that family and I happened to be there. And when he came to see me, I was

00:48:02.360 showing him around in my room and he, me and him just really hit it off. We had such an amazing

00:48:11.400 connection and just a mutual deep love for Jesus. It's all we would talk about with each other is

00:48:19.180 just how much we have been forgiven and how much we love Jesus. And we loved evangelism as well.

00:48:28.660 And he ended up coming out again to see me after that day, maybe only a couple days later. And we

00:48:37.160 spent like the whole day together with the woman who was mentoring me. So we were never like alone

00:48:43.820 together. That was a conviction of ours. We just wanted to get to know each other around friends.

00:48:51.540 And Trevor, he also felt that deep connection with me. And he wanted to meet up with me again

00:49:03.180 after that. And I texted him asking, is it your conviction as well to have a chaperone

00:49:10.580 around us wherever we go and then he said in his head that was like oh my goodness I think this

00:49:18.700 actually might be turning into something I need to clear the air immediately and he FaceTimed me

00:49:27.740 a couple days later and just laid out his feelings and he said I want to pursue you

00:49:36.980 I think you are a godly woman and obviously we have this connection

00:49:43.380 but I only want this to be an intentional friendship this is not a relationship I'm

00:49:53.740 interested in you but I want to get to know you as a friend first and he had a year time frame

00:50:02.380 in his mind. So we were intentional friends for this whole year. Um, this is the whole year of

00:50:11.100 2019. Um, you know, never holding hands, nothing romantic, just always hanging out with each other,

00:50:19.080 um, either with an older, older godly person around us, chaperone, wherever we went, there

00:50:27.560 was always someone, we were never alone in the car together. It was just a big conviction of

00:50:31.640 ours. We wanted this to be solely focusing on being friends. And that's what we did that whole

00:50:40.640 entire year. And it was hard because obviously our affections were being more and more drawn to each

00:50:47.120 other. And it was hard to not want to like hug on him or hold his hand. It got difficult in that

00:50:54.900 sense. But he was he was very adamant about that. And I'm so grateful for that. Yeah. Yeah. And I

00:51:02.740 just have a I just have a couple more couple more questions for you. I mean, after that year, y'all

00:51:08.120 eventually you got engaged and of course got married. But going back to kind of what he said

00:51:14.020 in the post that he was very open, he was a virgin. Obviously, you have the past that you've

00:51:19.440 just shared with us. Can you just tell us like, what was that like sharing those things with him

00:51:26.660 and how did he respond? Because people who are listening to your story might think I could never

00:51:32.300 tell someone like I'm a Christian now, but I could never tell the person I'm going to marry

00:51:37.100 all of these things. What if they don't love me anymore? Don't want me anymore. So tell me how

00:51:41.300 you kind of overcame those fears and had that conversation. That's a great question. Even

00:51:48.240 Even from when I first got saved, I was even clear about my testimony and the baptism of,

00:51:57.040 and he went to the same church as me, of course.

00:51:59.800 So I was reading like a page long thing of my testimony and just also how I was into drugs

00:52:06.420 and lived this promiscuous life and everything else.

00:52:11.560 I didn't go into too much detail, but he knew about my past from that as well.

00:52:17.040 And of course, in our intentional friendship, it came up as well, of course.

00:52:25.620 But I wasn't afraid to tell him because honestly, I just saw God's redemptive hand in my life.

00:52:40.680 I didn't think it would be something that would repel a godly man.

00:52:49.260 The reason why I wasn't ashamed to tell him my past as much, and I want to clear this too.

00:52:58.160 I think virginity is a wonderful thing.

00:53:02.860 And that's what all Christian women who aren't married should be pursuing.

00:53:07.400 I have experienced so much pain. I experienced so much pain in that life and was hurt so much

00:53:15.420 and it brought me so much grief and pain and never, you know, lasting joy. If anything,

00:53:25.820 it brought me way more pain and scars than anything. It's not a life to live and it's not

00:53:32.180 this life that you can just go into and have fun and then you can just repent of it and be

00:53:38.920 forgiven and you're just that's it's easy to do because you had all that fun like

00:53:44.420 no it it was horrible even being in it you're being used and abused by men and all you want

00:53:53.060 is like a real love and you're not getting it because you're searching it in all the wrong

00:53:59.480 things. And with sin comes always destruction. Sin always brings some form of death. And I just

00:54:08.640 want to make that clear. There have also been challenges in my marriage in the first few years.

00:54:13.540 I was having just flashbacks of when I was abused sexually, and it was hard for us to work through

00:54:24.760 that and or even in the beginning of our marriage for me to feel like this is wrong like to be with

00:54:32.420 my husband like I felt like I couldn't even be with him sexually in a marriage so we had to work

00:54:38.780 through those things and I totally recognize that you're not going to have those issues if you're

00:54:44.260 both virgins and that's beautiful and that's something that you should pursue as a Christian

00:54:49.640 woman. And, um, it's a beautiful thing, but onto the question, um, I, Trevor has always been

00:55:02.820 such a sweet, godly understanding man. And anytime I ever told him anything of my past,

00:55:12.580 he has only met me with just grace and just wow look at what God has done in your life

00:55:21.360 he is all about the gospel all about Jesus and he saw how much Jesus changed me and the key thing

00:55:30.720 is that person who I was is not me anymore and he recognizes that spiritual truth um you know

00:55:41.600 Romans 6 11 says, we are dead to sin and alive in Christ Jesus. And Galatians 2 20 says, I have

00:55:50.260 been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And Trevor

00:55:56.220 understands that spiritual truth. That Ashley is no more. She is gone. She is a new creation

00:56:06.000 in Christ. And he only saw me as that. And that's how I saw myself. So that is why I wasn't afraid

00:56:15.160 or ashamed to tell in my past, because although that's a very real part of my life, it is not who

00:56:22.180 I am. I am a new creation. I'm brand new. Thank you so much, Ashley, for just being vulnerable

00:56:31.420 and sharing your testimony.

00:56:34.280 And now you are on social media

00:56:36.380 and you are sharing the gospel

00:56:38.660 and just sharing your life as a wife and mom

00:56:41.000 with other women who need it.

00:56:42.700 So where can they follow you?

00:56:45.600 I'm on X and Instagram.

00:56:47.820 It's just Ashley Sheets.

00:56:49.700 Yeah.

00:56:50.280 Well, thank you so much.

00:56:51.480 And I just encourage people to support you

00:56:53.320 and pray for you

00:56:54.080 because there will continue to be commentary

00:56:56.560 around that tweet.

00:56:58.020 But, you know, as you mentioned,

00:57:00.400 God can do anything.

00:57:01.280 and he uses people's testimonies to bring glory to himself.

00:57:04.500 And so thank you for just being a vessel for that.

00:57:06.640 And I'm very grateful that you took the time

00:57:08.340 out of your busy day to come on the show

00:57:10.940 and to encourage people.

00:57:12.480 So thank you so much.

00:57:14.200 Thank you so much.

00:57:15.160 I'm seriously honored to be on your show as well.

00:57:18.160 Thank you, Ashley.

00:57:18.880 Thank you.

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Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - March 27, 2026

Ep 1324 ｜ Christian's Viral Post About His Wife’s Past Sparks HUGE Backlash. She Responds ｜ Ashley Sheatz

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