Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 1350 ｜ Call Her Mommy？ Alex Cooper’s Pregnancy Gives False Hope

00:00:00.840 Alex Cooper, the host of the sex podcast, Call Her Daddy, is now pregnant with her husband.

00:00:07.580 But what happens if you really buy what Alex Cooper is selling?

00:00:13.180 Also, is Florida close to declaring surrogacy, slavery?

00:00:18.160 We've got all of that plus some lifestyle motherhood pitter patter on today's episode of Relatable.

00:00:30.000 Hey, guys. Welcome to Relatable. Happy Wednesday. Hope everyone is having a wonderful week so far.

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00:01:11.000 Nutrition. All right. Before I give all of my thoughts on this latest Alex Cooper story, I want

00:01:16.400 to lead into this by making the point that I believe, despite what the polls say, despite what 0.76

00:01:22.740 stats are telling us about the liberalization of young women, the man hatingness of young women

00:01:29.020 and the feminism, truly the toxic feminism that we see on Instagram and TikTok, just talking about

00:01:35.640 how terrible husbands are and how terrible men are and all of these things. Despite all of this 0.88

00:01:40.760 propaganda, I think that women in their heart of hearts still want a quote unquote traditional man,

00:01:48.540 A man who is going to protect them, a man who is going to provide for them, a man who is going to take charge and lead them.

00:01:55.740 The reaction that I have seen to Dylan Sprouse and his wife, Barbara Palvin, announcing her pregnancy, announcing their expectation of their first child, the arrival of their first child, has demonstrated this to me even more.

00:02:11.280 So last month, reports surfaced that Dylan Sprouse, you know him from The Sweet Life of Zach and Cody.

00:02:16.940 I have no idea if he was Zach or Cody.

00:02:18.580 Does anyone in this room know?

00:02:20.840 He was Cody.

00:02:21.800 Okay.

00:02:22.420 Stu, I didn't think that you were going to be the one to tell us.

00:02:25.640 He was Zach.

00:02:28.020 Stu was wrong.

00:02:29.880 Okay.

00:02:30.380 So he was Zach from Zach and Cody fame.

00:02:34.440 He tackled a trespasser and held him at gunpoint until police arrived after his wife, Barbara Palvin,

00:02:40.960 noticed a creepy man on their property shortly after midnight. And they were asked about it on

00:02:46.180 the red carpet for the Devil Wears Prada 2, where Dylan kind of just made light of the incident at

00:02:51.300 Sop 5. I know we had a scary incident happen soon. Are you guys doing okay? We're good. We're happy.

00:02:59.400 that's it yay

00:03:09.840 no we're just happy for the distraction you know okay whatever um people liked people liked what

00:03:19.040 he did and people online had a very positive reaction to him taking charge and tackling this

00:03:24.100 person and taking this threat seriously. But this took on this incident and them talking about it

00:03:29.460 took on an entirely new light after the couple announced that they are expecting their first

00:03:34.680 child. And so we can see we've got a little voice over here. She looks absolutely beautiful. So

00:03:39.540 they're at the Cannes Film Festival in France. And you can see there she's pregnant pretty far

00:03:44.900 along. I mean, she looks like a glowing angel. Am I the only person, by the way, who thinks that 1.00

00:03:49.680 they look alike. I think that they look alike, but they are a beautiful couple. And you've got

00:03:55.940 this picture here. You've got a couple of pictures of them just looking at each other completely in

00:04:01.380 love. This news, yes, there's one beautiful. There's another one of them gazing into each

00:04:07.420 other's eyes. I love it. They literally look like a prince and princess. So beautiful. So this news

00:04:13.960 This comes less than a year after Barbara underwent surgery related to her endometriosis diagnosis.

00:04:21.280 Endometriosis, it is, I don't have to go into what it is, but it can actually prevent you from being able to get pregnant and carry a pregnancy all the way through in a healthy way.

00:04:32.200 And so now people on Reddit, Reddit, the most progressive and degenerative places on the Internet, they're making comments like this on the story.

00:04:40.500 no wonder he busted out the gun because she is pregnant and so has to protect not only his woman

00:04:46.120 but also his baby another comment said that baby is never going to stop hearing about this and you

00:04:51.260 know what deserved even in these photos this redditor says i can feel how protective he is

00:04:56.700 towards her right now women want this and you know how i also know that women want this because

00:05:03.520 yes there is a lot of absolute trash out there when it comes to movies when it comes to shows 1.00

00:05:09.620 when it comes to podcasts, when it comes to Instagram and TikTok content, and when it comes 1.00

00:05:14.120 to fiction out there that women are reading. But you know what the common theme is, especially in

00:05:19.780 those fiction books? The guy is strong. The guy takes charge. The guy basically shows up and says,

00:05:25.900 I'm the boss. I'm going to take care of this. You don't have to worry about anything. I'm going to

00:05:30.260 sweep you off your feet. You know, I've said very often that human nature and really just truth,

00:05:36.400 biological truth, moral truth, biblical truth. It's like a beach ball. And you can try to push

00:05:41.140 it down from the surface of the water, but it's going to keep popping back up. And so despite all

00:05:46.780 of the feminist propaganda, the reaction to stories like this, even from women who call themselves

00:05:52.860 anti-man and who claim that they don't want to get married and they don't want a traditional life

00:05:58.480 and they just want to have fun for the next 10 years, in their heart of hearts, they don't want 0.72

00:06:03.900 a she-man. They don't. They don't want a wimp as a husband. They're not attracted to that. 1.00

00:06:10.360 They want a man who says, this is what we're going to do. I'm going to protect you. And of

00:06:14.780 course, who respects her and loves her and sees her as valuable and values her opinion and her

00:06:20.960 wisdom and all of that, absolutely. But at the end of the day, women want someone who is going to 0.97

00:06:26.460 protect them and be strong. Even the chief promiscuity podcaster, Alex Cooper. So Alex 1.00

00:06:35.860 Cooper is the 31-year-old host of the podcast Call Her Daddy. It is the most listened to podcast by

00:06:42.440 women, according to Spotify. This has been a podcast that has existed for a long time. She

00:06:47.960 used to have a co-host, I think named Sophia. It was on Barstool Sports, but then she took it over. 1.00

00:06:53.440 This was a very big, dramatic thing when she left Barstool, and she has made an empire. 0.95

00:06:58.860 She also owns a couple other companies, but the entire premise of the show is sex and

00:07:04.320 talking about their sexcapades and detail, talking about how they have basically hoed

00:07:11.100 around for years, and now she doesn't have a co-host.

00:07:13.960 It's just her talking about these things.

00:07:16.200 She has lots and lots of celebrities on her show, very famous people.

00:07:19.900 She had Kamala Harris on her show when she was running for president.

00:07:23.440 I don't think she asked Kamala Harris about anything sexual, please, Lord, no. 0.99

00:07:29.460 But she typically does ask celebrities these very verboten, inappropriate questions.

00:07:36.260 So that is still what her podcast is about, in addition to just drama.

00:07:40.920 But she asks very detailed, sexually explicit questions to her guests. 1.00

00:07:46.980 And this is what a lot of young women are listening to. 1.00

00:07:50.300 Well, she just announced that she is pregnant, okay? 0.62

00:07:54.220 So she's got this picture that she posted on Instagram.

00:07:58.840 Her caption, she missed an opportunity to caption it,

00:08:01.960 call her mommy.

00:08:02.980 I don't know why, but I forget what she said.

00:08:06.380 Oh, our family, that's what she said.

00:08:08.240 She posted this with her husband.

00:08:10.860 He's a film producer, Matt Kaplan, okay?

00:08:13.640 So she is married.

00:08:14.740 She got married a few years ago,

00:08:16.760 looked beautiful on her wedding day,

00:08:18.620 and now she is is pregnant okay we searched for some clips that we could play you that would just

00:08:24.760 give you uh like a demonstration of who she is and the things that she talks about but i i really

00:08:31.600 can't like we could go all the way back to like 2018 when she had the co-host and the things that

00:08:37.040 they were talking about but it's just it's too much like there's nothing really that we can play

00:08:41.920 on here, even today, that the things that she talks about, you get the idea. It's a sex gossip

00:08:49.300 podcast. So I think that it kind of surprised people when a couple years ago, she announced,

00:08:56.420 okay, I'm actually going to be leading that trad life in her 20s. She decided to get married to

00:09:02.500 a man named Matt Kaplan. And she talked a lot about why she decided to make this big commitment

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00:10:19.320 Okay, so she at one point had said that she was not interested in marriage. She said this. She

00:10:26.120 said, I had always been a cynic when it came to marriage, but from the beginning of our

00:10:31.780 relationship i was honest with matt and i told him i might be more interested in the whole life

00:10:35.860 partner route growing up i witnessed my parents live the once in a lifetime love they're still

00:10:40.380 together 40 years this year i was convinced i would never find what they had and so i didn't

00:10:45.120 expect it and i didn't look for it little did i know i just needed to find my matt kaplan she said

00:10:51.000 that to vogue she waited until about six weeks after the engagement to tell her audience until

00:10:56.800 then, they had only known him as Mr. Sexy Zoom Man, because they apparently originally met on

00:11:03.120 a Zoom work call. And then she also discussed that after she got married, she went off birth

00:11:11.460 control for the first time since she was 16. So again, we see this very traditional trajectory

00:11:19.140 that she is not preaching to her audience. She said in a January episode of the podcast that

00:11:24.180 though she didn't want kids in her 20s she now wanted them because she'd done quote unquote

00:11:28.560 self-work so too i don't want kids if that's what you're asking do you want kids i do i think when

00:11:34.140 i was if i think if you asked me in my 20s i really didn't think i did that's interesting

00:11:40.640 because most people know i did not most people know early on and they stick with that no okay

00:11:45.880 okay so i didn't think i wanted to get married and i didn't think i want to have kids now i got

00:11:49.560 married and i i want kids you want kids okay but it it really changed for me and i think it was

00:11:53.580 just like a lot of self-work that I had to do on myself not saying that like you have to do self-work

00:11:56.420 to want to have kids it just for me in the place I was in my life I couldn't even fathom it yes and

00:12:01.700 then something changed and I think that's okay that I was just like you know what I actually

00:12:06.100 think I do yes and so I don't know when and timeline but like for right now I'm like this

00:12:10.880 is something I definitely know I want and I wasn't sure of she is wrong most people if you are a woman

00:12:16.600 in your 20s and you are hooking up with a bunch of guys of course you don't want kids because you

00:12:21.580 don't feel safe. You don't feel loved. You don't feel cared for. Like your cortisol is up all the

00:12:27.520 time because you are not only, you know, scrapping for yourself, but you also are giving your heart

00:12:33.400 and your body away to all of these people. Of course, your mind and your body and your heart

00:12:37.900 is not in the right place to want to have kids and to sacrifice your body and yourself and your

00:12:43.560 money for that child. I think that most women have to either be able to imagine or actually 1.00

00:12:49.600 feel in that moment, a sense of safety and security. And so you really can't know if you

00:12:55.960 want kids in a particular stage of life. I think for a lot of women, they have to meet the right 1.00

00:13:01.240 person and feel that sense of security in order to have kids. But certainly if you're leading a 1.00

00:13:06.380 totally promiscuous lifestyle, I think it goes hand in hand with not wanting to put anyone else

00:13:11.900 first and not wanting to sacrifice in any way for a little human. So again, I think it's so

00:13:19.020 interesting that as she has foregone her old advice and the things that she told so many women

00:13:26.120 as she has abandoned her old way of life that she is still promoting to so many women she has

00:13:31.780 decided to get married to stay with one person forever interesting that she comes from a marriage

00:13:36.620 where her parents stayed together forever and I just wonder if she's a little bit more traditional

00:13:42.300 deep down and has always been a little bit more traditional deep down than she has let on and if

00:13:47.940 a lot of this is because she just realized what people have realized for a very long time that

00:13:53.200 sex sells and this is what works and so it would be really hard to stop talking about things like

00:13:59.980 that when that is what has made you millions and millions of dollars um conversely to where she

00:14:05.860 found joy so she found joy in matrimony and then having children alex recently i can't play this

00:14:12.380 clip, but Alex recently trended, she trended online for advising women to kiss or even sleep

00:14:18.700 with men on the first date. And I have the clip in front of me, but it's really crass and I just

00:14:23.420 don't want to play it. But this is the advice that she continues to give women. And so it's not like, 0.68

00:14:28.800 okay, she realized that that was a dead end and she changed her ways. She is continuing to sell

00:14:35.120 this kind of advice. I just think it's crazy. Just a couple quick things. I think it's crazy

00:14:40.460 how mainstream Alex Cooper is, that she is not considered by the mainstream world to be scandalous

00:14:46.480 at all. She is not too far into the sex world for a presidential candidate to come on the podcast 0.87

00:14:53.900 and to have a conversation with them. Remember, Kamala Harris came on the podcast. If you look 1.00

00:14:58.760 at the comments, you see a lot of celebrities, a lot of self-help people. You'll probably see

00:15:03.540 some of your friends liking her post, not just the pregnancy post, but others. You would be

00:15:08.520 surprised by the people in your life who call themselves Christians who are fans of Alex Cooper. 0.64

00:15:14.160 Now compare that to how a Christian is treated or someone who's like, yeah, who plays, you know, 0.51

00:15:19.280 for the MLB, for example, and doesn't want to celebrate Pride Night. They make headlines for

00:15:23.320 that. They're ostracized for that. I remember Gina Carano. She questioned the COVID narrative

00:15:28.440 and she was fired by Disney several years ago. Like if you are not part of the liberal side of

00:15:35.260 things, then you are considered just too radical and too extreme. But no matter how far left you

00:15:42.900 are when it comes to the left side of things, you are considered mainstream. Not just people

00:15:48.120 like Alex Cooper, who is basically a podcast prostitute, but also people like Hassan Piker, 0.96

00:15:56.380 who talks about regularly the need to spill blood and to kill the people in charge of our 0.90

00:16:03.100 health care system and who justifies this kind of murderous violence in the name of socialism

00:16:09.140 and communism. That can be platformed by the New York Times. That can be softened. That can be

00:16:17.020 accepted as mainstream. But if you're a little too Christian or you take the Bible seriously,

00:16:23.300 or if you're conservative and you just don't go along with the mainstream narrative about things

00:16:28.560 like COVID, then you're marginalized. It should go without saying, but apparently it doesn't,

00:16:34.900 that Christians should not be fans of Alex Cooper. You should pray for her, but you shouldn't be 0.61

00:16:39.740 listening to her podcast. You shouldn't be watching her stuff. You shouldn't be following her.

00:16:44.500 Ephesians 5, 11 through 12 is really clear about this. Take no part in the unfruitful works of

00:16:49.380 darkness, but instead expose them for it is shameful even to speak of the things that they

00:16:54.020 do in secret. And that's what she does. She speaks of the things that are supposed to be intimate,

00:16:57.920 that are supposed to be sacred, that are supposed to be hidden, that are supposed to be between a

00:17:02.120 man and a woman in holy matrimony. Sex is a gift that was given to us by God. It is not a commodity

00:17:08.140 to be sold on Spotify or in a brothel. It's basically the same thing. There is an irony 0.87

00:17:16.680 in all of this, and I just want to use this opportunity for any of you who maybe you don't

00:17:22.600 see the problem with this, or maybe you know someone in your life, a young woman in her 20s

00:17:27.000 who doesn't see the problem with what Alex Cooper promotes.

00:17:29.920 And maybe they believe that they can go along the same path that Alex Cooper has.

00:17:36.360 The problem is it's not a promise that can be made good on.

00:17:41.400 All right, I'll get to that in just a second.

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00:19:35.980 So this is a warning. This is my warning to the young women who follow Alex Cooper. 0.98

00:19:40.920 Most women who follow Cooper's advice will not end up with a marriage proposal. 0.99

00:19:46.000 You will not end up having a beautiful wedding, wearing white, then getting pregnant a few years later. 0.81

00:19:51.600 Most women who have multiple sexual partners, pursue unregulated sexual pleasure, have a series of unhealthy, unserious relationships, and one-night stands will end up with STDs and broken hearts and a long list of regrets by the time they reach 35. 0.93

00:20:05.380 life. No marriage prospects and a personal crisis when they realize that their window for fertility 0.95

00:20:10.300 is closing and there is no potential father on the horizon. That is the typical practical

00:20:15.980 consequence of living this kind of life. Alex Cooper has been able to rich and famous her way

00:20:21.100 out of those consequences. If she was your average girl without wealth or power, she likely would not 1.00

00:20:26.640 have the life that she has now. The result of her life will make you believe that it's a given that

00:20:32.740 You can also live 15 years of total promiscuity and that as soon as you want to stop, as soon

00:20:38.220 as you decide you want your life to change and that the trad life is now for you, you'll

00:20:42.420 be able to find a man and settle down.

00:20:44.360 That is possible, but it's not plausible.

00:20:47.380 And the longer you pursue that life and the older you get, the less plausible that kind

00:20:51.980 of sudden switch becomes.

00:20:53.640 And you might think that your beauty will ensure that you avoid the consequences of

00:20:58.180 those long-term choices.

00:20:59.960 And physical beauty does help.

00:21:01.760 I won't lie.

00:21:02.200 It does help. It absolutely widens the prospect field. But beauty fades, and you cannot rely on

00:21:08.020 it as your guarantee of finding a husband whenever you get bored of partying in your 30s.

00:21:12.720 I know beautiful women who have pursued that life for a very long time, and they 0.72

00:21:16.400 want to get married, and they honestly believe that continuing to have these series of hookups

00:21:21.900 will somehow lead them to their future husband. But it's a lie. It's a lie of the devil. It leads

00:21:26.720 to a dead end every time. So just from a practical, tough love standpoint, not from a judgmental

00:21:33.820 standpoint, but from a, if I were your big sister, this is what I would tell you perspective. Do not

00:21:40.320 listen to Alex Cooper for anything. Your heart will be broken. Your body will be used. And here's

00:21:47.340 why this matters. It's not just because it lessens your chances of marriage and children, which are

00:21:52.000 two wonderful blessings that god created for his glory and our good but because you were created

00:21:57.920 for his glory and for the good of other people you are too valuable to be used as an object of

00:22:04.180 sexual pleasure by men your purpose is so much bigger than doing what feels good to you at any

00:22:09.560 given moment you were created by you are known by you are seen by you are loved by a god who made

00:22:15.660 your body he made it to be protected to be cherished to be honored to be cared for and the

00:22:21.180 reason that sex is designed for marriage and only marriage is because that is the only place it can

00:22:26.580 happen safely without consequences. This is protective for women especially. Marriage is 0.80

00:22:32.500 protective for children too who need both a mom and a dad to nurture and protect them. God knew

00:22:38.860 what he was doing when he created the family and the strict parameters surrounding sex. He created 0.51

00:22:44.620 these things because he loves us and because he knows what's best for us. The creator of anything

00:22:50.280 knows how it works. God created our bodies. He knows how our bodies work. He knows best how to

00:22:56.720 take care of them. And sex is so incredibly powerful and it can be a power for good or a

00:23:04.400 power for harm. And the reason that it has to be harnessed, the reason that it has to be regulated

00:23:09.980 is so that it can actually be productive and fruitful and beautiful and intimate and connecting

00:23:16.560 rather than the opposite of all of those things,

00:23:19.000 which is what it becomes

00:23:19.940 when it's taken out of the bounds of marriage.

00:23:22.600 And I do wanna speak also just to the woman

00:23:25.020 who has already gone down that path.

00:23:27.640 I wanna tell you this.

00:23:29.160 I wanna tell you some hopefully comforting things to hear,

00:23:33.620 but also something that might be a little bit

00:23:35.860 counter-cultural and difficult for you to hear.

00:23:37.800 The first is really, really good news.

00:23:39.980 And this is true, not just for you, but for all of us,

00:23:42.220 is that you are not too far gone.

00:23:44.280 You are not beyond forgiveness or redemption.

00:23:46.920 Jesus is in the business of making us new.

00:23:50.100 He gives us a new identity.

00:23:51.840 He wipes our slate clean.

00:23:53.160 He does away with all of our past sins so that when we stand before God, we stand before

00:23:58.840 him completely and totally spotless, like no blemish at all.

00:24:02.780 There's nothing that you have done that makes you beyond his reach or his love for you.

00:24:07.700 Some people will tell you, and this is the little bit of a hard thing to hear.

00:24:11.300 I think even Christian women, women who are already following Christ have a hard time

00:24:16.300 hearing this.

00:24:17.040 The Alex Coopers of the world will tell you this, that shame is bad.

00:24:22.080 Shame is always bad, that you should never feel bad about what you do.

00:24:25.840 You should just push that down.

00:24:28.120 That is wrong.

00:24:29.480 Look, if you feel shame over what you have done, there is a reason for that.

00:24:33.760 That is a actually good and healthy mechanism.

00:24:36.120 That's a really good sign.

00:24:37.020 It's a signal to you that something's gone wrong.

00:24:39.980 That shame that you feel is called conviction, and it is telling you something.

00:24:44.920 It's communicating something to you.

00:24:47.140 It is telling you that you're guilty, as we all have been, by the way.

00:24:51.440 It's telling you that that road is not one you should go down, that there is a better way.

00:24:56.560 Jesus offers the better way.

00:24:59.160 His death on the cross paid for all of your sins.

00:25:01.420 His word gives you the guide for how to live a life of purpose, of joy, of purity, of fulfillment,

00:25:06.900 it so that you no longer feel the drive to look for love in all the wrong places you know that

00:25:13.280 those are all dead ends don't go down those roads and if you already have you can stop no matter

00:25:19.600 where you are on your path as a woman no matter what your sin struggle is whether it's promiscuity

00:25:23.800 or not it is not too late to turn around god offers a free gift of grace you can't earn it

00:25:29.540 to those who put their faith in jesus's sacrifice for you by grace through faith okay you don't have

00:25:35.020 to clean yourself up first. You don't have to start reading your Bible first. You don't have

00:25:38.080 to pray a prayer first. You don't have to look a certain way first. You first go to God. You ask

00:25:44.400 for forgiveness. You ask for the ability to change your ways. You ask him to give you grace. You ask

00:25:52.320 him for wisdom. And God gives abundantly to those who seek him. And he gives it for free through

00:25:59.520 Jesus Christ. He's got a new way of life for all of those who would follow him. And God is a

00:26:05.840 forgiving God, no matter what you have done because of Christ and because of your faith in Christ,

00:26:12.500 he no longer sees those things. He wants a relationship with you. He wants to be reconciled

00:26:17.220 to you. He wants to be friends with you. That's really good news. And you know what? I pray that

00:26:24.420 somehow through motherhood, God would show Alex Cooper the truth of the gospel.

00:26:29.660 And I hope that at one point, because of that conviction, that she sees the pain that she

00:26:34.700 has caused through her promotion of degeneracy. And I pray that her audience would wake up to

00:26:39.420 the truth, that they'd repent, that they would walk in a way that is good and right and true.

00:26:44.520 Isaiah 520 has a very serious warning for all of us. It says,

00:26:50.340 woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness,

00:26:55.160 who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter. It's exactly what she's doing. That's what the

00:26:59.480 world does when they hoist her up as good and they denigrate pro-lifers as evil. 0.56

00:27:06.400 1 Corinthians 6.18, flee from sexual immorality. Don't be entertained by it.

00:27:11.580 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body,

00:27:15.360 but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

00:27:19.960 Hebrews 13, four, let marriage be held in honor among all

00:27:23.000 and let the marriage bed be undefiled

00:27:24.720 for God will judge the sexually immoral and the adulterous.

00:27:28.560 Wow, God really cares about that.

00:27:30.900 He cares about that a whole lot because he hates sin.

00:27:35.040 He hates it because he's perfect first and foremost,

00:27:37.600 but I think he also hates it because it hurts us.

00:27:40.900 And so her podcast is not neutral.

00:27:43.100 Her message is not neutral.

00:27:44.220 It's hurting you.

00:27:45.040 It's hurting your soul.

00:27:46.020 It's hurting your heart.

00:27:46.700 It's hurting body.

00:27:48.100 So I just pray that people would turn away from it.

00:27:51.640 And I pray that she would see the light as well.

00:27:54.340 All right.

00:27:54.860 We're going to stay on the kind of pregnancy subject, but something entirely different.

00:27:59.540 In the state of Florida, they are declaring surrogacy slavery.

00:28:04.520 Is this really true?

00:28:06.700 Is it really akin to slavery?

00:28:09.040 Well, we've talked about surrogacy a lot.

00:28:10.900 And I am amazed at how fast the perception, the public opinion, and policy perspective of surrogacy has changed in the last five years.

00:28:21.020 We'll get to that in just a second.

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00:29:32.280 go to preborn.com slash Allie. Okay, so this is a fascinating story. Last August, a gay couple

00:29:43.000 from France appeared before a Broward County court in Florida for a surrogacy case. The two

00:29:47.300 men had contracted with a Florida woman to carry a child and as the due date approached, petitioned

00:29:54.860 for early parental rights. This is according to the Tampa Bay Times and you'll notice something

00:29:59.940 right away, France and surrogacy, surrogacy and France rather is highly regulated, if not

00:30:05.320 completely illegal. That is the case in most places in Europe. America is the wild, wild west

00:30:11.540 for reproductive technology because it is extremely lucrative. And so it's basically

00:30:17.480 unregulated. You don't have to have a background check. You can, for example, if you're a couple

00:30:22.960 that works with the CCP and you want your child to have American citizenship, they can get birth

00:30:28.420 right citizenship here in the United States just by being birthed by a surrogate. There are all

00:30:35.140 kinds of issues. That actually happens. That's not just a hypothetical. There are all kinds of

00:30:39.300 issues. You could be a child trafficker. You could be a pedophile. There's not this intense

00:30:43.720 background scrutiny for surrogacy, for egg sperm purchasing and all of this, the way there is for

00:30:50.440 foster care and the way there is for adoption. And so children pay the price. In this case,

00:30:56.800 the judge granted the request, but he also issued an opinion suggesting that surrogacy itself may

00:31:02.920 be unconstitutional. Judge Marlon Weiss argued that if unborn children are legally entitled to

00:31:08.500 personhood, then they cannot legally be part of a contractual arrangement that treats them as

00:31:13.720 property. In November, Florida Attorney General James Uthmeyer moved to intervene shortly after

00:31:19.520 the child's birth. The attorney general's office argues that surrogacy resembles slavery,

00:31:23.820 violates the 13th Amendment and should therefore be declared unconstitutional.

00:31:28.820 If you read the 13th Amendment, it says neither slavery nor involuntary servitude

00:31:33.920 except as a punishment for crime, wherever the party shall have been duly convicted,

00:31:38.120 shall exist within the United States or any subject in their jurisdiction.

00:31:41.580 Section 2, Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.

00:31:46.180 A.G. Yuthmeyer posted on X,

00:31:48.380 Today, registered sex offenders and foreigners, including Chinese nationals,

00:31:52.880 by thousands of babies from U.S. surrogacy companies, true, this modern-day slavery is 0.57

00:31:58.440 morally wrong, endangers children, and threatens national security. It must be stopped. So the

00:32:04.460 dispute is now before Florida's Fourth Circuit Court of Appeal. The child has remained with the

00:32:09.400 two men since birth and is likely to be removed from their care. Because Uthmeyer's arguments are

00:32:15.800 based on the personhood of the unborn, if he gets the court to agree with him, it could affect areas

00:32:21.780 beyond surrogacy, such as IVF, such as abortion. All right, so there's a custody battle going on

00:32:28.900 here. I saw some couple the other day, actually, this person randomly messaged me angry about

00:32:35.720 something that I said about someone else talking about, you'll remember, I think I talked about

00:32:40.280 this on the show, maybe I just posted about it on Instagram, this man was talking on a podcast,

00:32:45.000 gay man, he had procured his child via surrogacy, and he was crying, talking about how he had robbed 0.84

00:32:49.440 his child of a mother. This guy had had a great mother. Now the child won't have a mother. It's 0.92

00:32:54.100 like, yes, light bulb goes off. That is a good revelation to have. It's still very sad, but it's

00:32:58.140 a good revelation. You are intentionally robbing a child of a mother when you are two men purchasing 0.99

00:33:05.300 a child through surrogacy. That is exactly what happens. Well, this person randomly messaged me, 0.91

00:33:10.480 calls me all these nasty names, is absolutely vile, tells me I'm a terrible person for saying

00:33:15.520 that children have a right to a mom and a dad. And surrogacy is unethical, especially when you

00:33:20.120 are intentionally taking a child away from their genetic mom or dad, intentionally creating them

00:33:26.200 to take them away from their genetic mom or dad. And I looked at this person's profile, lots of

00:33:30.480 followers, and has been going around the UK talking about all of the unfair regulations that the UK

00:33:36.820 has that the US does not have, and the background checks and the home searches and all of that

00:33:42.640 of the people who procure a child through surrogacy.

00:33:46.820 And so he is trying to deregulate it.

00:33:48.560 He is trying to take away those safeguards.

00:33:51.140 And so it's not even just a matter of,

00:33:53.300 hey, we should have a right to be able to have this child.

00:33:55.820 It's like, we want it to be as easy as possible.

00:33:57.800 We don't want children who are procured via surrogacy

00:34:01.180 to even have any government safeguards

00:34:04.140 or regulations in place.

00:34:05.580 That's the direction that it's going.

00:34:07.760 I am so glad that there are some people

00:34:09.700 in the United States like this judge

00:34:11.920 and like this AG who are waking up and who are calling it what it is because it is akin to

00:34:20.580 slavery. Like if we genuinely believe that the unborn are human beings, it follows that buying

00:34:25.600 and selling them is slavery. And that is what is happening during surrogacy, especially when it is 0.90

00:34:31.560 the surrogacy that is by two men, because you have to purchase the eggs of one woman and rent 0.59

00:34:37.960 the womb of another woman. And so you are purchasing half of the DNA of that child from 0.71

00:34:44.760 the genetic mother. And even in the case where you have biological parents that are using a

00:34:51.860 surrogate for whatever reason, you are still taking that child away from the only body,

00:35:00.020 the only heartbeat, the only smell, the only home that that child ever has. And it's different than

00:35:06.020 adoption because adoption redeems an already broken situation. Whereas surrogacy, sperm

00:35:11.960 selling, egg selling, that creates the broken situation intentionally. Children, no matter

00:35:17.820 their age, should not be bought and sold as commodities. The Bible describes children as

00:35:22.200 a gift or a heritage from the Lord, not a right. Psalm 127.3. I think we believe some people that

00:35:29.040 because babies are great and having kids is great, that you should be able to get them no matter the

00:35:35.940 cost. Even if you have to go through eugenics via IVF, even if you have to take them away from

00:35:41.560 their genetic mom or dad via sperm and egg selling, even if you have to commodify the body of a woman 0.92

00:35:47.780 by renting her womb. Because you want a child, you should be able to get a child. But you don't 0.89

00:35:52.420 have a right to a child no matter the cost. That is the slavery mentality. Oh, because you want a 0.82

00:35:58.180 human being, you can get a human being no matter what. And as long as you can pay, then that's

00:36:03.920 no I'm sorry I mean yes wanting children is beautiful and I think it's a good desire to

00:36:10.600 have but it's not in ends justify the means desire um adoption is also a beautiful option I'm not

00:36:19.100 saying it's without its corruption in every single way of course that process can be corrupted but

00:36:24.980 again that in general redeems an already broken situation rather than creates the broken situation

00:36:32.020 from conception. Psalm 127.3 says, Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit

00:36:37.820 of the womb, a reward, not a right. People are making billions of dollars buying and selling

00:36:43.480 children through surrogacy, again, so often without any guardrails whatsoever. The surrogacy

00:36:48.840 market has expanded at a staggering pace, growing from less than $10 billion in 2020 to more than

00:36:54.700 $30 billion this year. So if you want to know why there's just not a whole lot of political will to

00:37:00.320 do something about this. One, it puts you in jeopardy with the LGBTQ caucus and no one 1.00

00:37:06.800 wants to have that group with their sights set on them, especially now as more of them are 0.98

00:37:13.380 identifying as politically independent and Republican. You're going to have a lot of

00:37:17.180 people in the center and on the right just not want to touch that. And it's sad that child

00:37:21.800 production tends to come second to adult wants. That's a disordered society. We're never going to

00:37:28.940 get anywhere with that. Projections suggest that it could surpass $100 billion for the next five

00:37:35.060 years. I mean, that is a form of child slavery. It's just, it is, it's a form of, it's a form

00:37:42.340 of trafficking. I'm not saying all of those children will literally after birth be harmed

00:37:47.700 or be trafficked or be abused in some way, but it is a way of commodifying women's bodies and 1.00

00:37:54.860 children. It is. It is a way of saying, I don't care what you have to go through. I want this 1.00

00:38:00.200 child. We had a woman named Brittany on a couple of years ago now, and she was carrying a surrogacy

00:38:07.780 baby for a gay couple. She was then diagnosed with cancer when she was about 20 or so weeks pregnant,

00:38:14.160 and the couple urged her to abort her child. And she didn't want to have an abortion. Actually,

00:38:21.920 the doctors told her, you know, it's okay if you just deliver early, you can deliver early

00:38:26.580 around, you know, I think it was maybe 28 weeks and, uh, we can treat you and give you the

00:38:32.620 chemotherapy that you need after that. Um, and then we can, you know, do our best to help this

00:38:38.260 baby survive after the age of viability. And the men said, no, the men said, we don't want a child

00:38:44.280 who is going to be premature. And, um, it was a very like complicated story. She did end up giving

00:38:51.080 birth and the child died she did end up you know having chemotherapy but there were the dads one

00:38:56.800 of whom was biologically related to this baby didn't even show up at the hospital not to check

00:39:01.400 on her not to hold the baby the baby died in the arms of the family member of the woman the surrogate

00:39:09.100 who was giving birth i'm telling you that kind of story is so common many times in these surrogacy

00:39:13.720 contracts these women are obligated to say they will get an abortion if the intended parents want 0.70

00:39:18.300 an abortion i think that happens far more often than we realize these babies have no rights

00:39:23.560 so i don't think that you can be pro-life and pro-surrogacy because you are basically saying

00:39:29.780 yeah babies have rights but only after after they're born that's the same argument as abortion

00:39:35.980 we're just talking about a different kind of harm and so for the sake of kids like we need to be

00:39:41.880 speaking up about this i praise the lord that relatable through the power of the holy spirit

00:39:47.140 has changed people's minds on this.

00:39:50.460 And people like Katie Faust

00:39:51.700 have been working on this for so long

00:39:53.160 and I'm so, so thankful for that.

00:39:56.180 We got a lot of work to do here

00:39:57.700 in the United States though.

00:40:00.180 I do appreciate someone like Nancy Mace. 1.00

00:40:04.160 She's a little bit all over the place, 0.99

00:40:06.160 but she did introduce a bill 0.99

00:40:08.280 to ban registered sex offenders

00:40:09.840 from obtaining children

00:40:10.900 through surrogacy arrangements.

00:40:12.620 I mean, how sad is that,

00:40:13.900 that that's something

00:40:14.520 that we even need to do?

00:40:16.760 like need to discuss um you know she's also been pro lgbtq advocate i mean when you say that two 0.97

00:40:23.360 men can get married then why why if they can get married and they constitute you know basically a

00:40:30.980 husband and a wife and they are just as married as anyone else like what moral case can you make

00:40:37.280 that two men cannot procure a child through any means that they want to you don't really have a

00:40:43.520 moral case for it. And last year saying, well, two men aren't the same as a man and a woman,

00:40:48.040 in which case, why did we redefine marriage in the first place? Like the slippery slope is

00:40:53.120 undefeated. But I do appreciate this. This is a different thing than LGBTQ. And I do appreciate

00:40:58.540 that she wants to ban registered sex offenders from obtaining children through surrogacy

00:41:01.560 arrangements. Duh. Duh. That should be the biggest duh ever. And so I appreciate that.

00:41:07.040 Continue to pray for justice here. Thank you to A.G. Uthmeyer for speaking the truth on this and

00:41:11.780 for that judge for speaking the truth on this because it's absolutely true we should also at

00:41:15.740 the very least ban people anyone who lives in any other country from using american surrogates and

00:41:23.060 to claim birthright citizenship based on that are you joking like that you're not a great country

00:41:28.680 you're not america first if you believe in things like that but the love of money is the root of all

00:41:33.980 kinds of evil and it is very difficult once something is making a lot of money to break it 0.99

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00:43:02.880 me and hillary my girl for some lifestyle pitter patter so i just have some motherhood musings that

00:43:17.720 i want to share with you and i am curious if the more seasoned mothers out there would agree with

00:43:23.740 my assessment and i hope my observation will be encouraging and give some wisdom especially to

00:43:30.420 the new moms out there. I kind of wish someone had told me this. And given my perspective, when

00:43:36.280 we found out that I was pregnant with our first daughter, my husband and I are parents of three

00:43:43.420 girls. We have so much fun as girl parents. We enjoy it so much. We also have nine nephews.

00:43:49.920 And so while we don't have experience yet of parenting boys, we do have ample opportunity

00:43:55.980 to assess the differences in raising sons and raising daughters.

00:44:00.100 And how I like to summarize the differences is this,

00:44:03.580 is that raising girls is relationship management

00:44:06.280 and raising boys is injury management.

00:44:08.840 Both girls and boys break things.

00:44:11.020 Boys break bones, they break furniture, they break toys, 0.96

00:44:13.700 they break each other, and girls break hearts.

00:44:16.200 Their heart gets broken and they break others' hearts as well.

00:44:19.580 And when girls and boys are small,

00:44:22.180 these broken things are frequent,

00:44:23.960 but they're insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

00:44:26.440 So when you're dealing with a toddler girl,

00:44:28.260 heartbreak happens when their sister

00:44:29.640 won't take off their favorite princess shoes.

00:44:32.520 I mean, it's immediate tears, so much emotion.

00:44:35.480 And with boys, they'll break their car

00:44:37.900 by throwing it over the balcony.

00:44:39.700 And then when kids are a little older,

00:44:41.940 the breaks get less frequent, but they get more significant.

00:44:44.660 So for girls, by the time they hit kindergarten,

00:44:47.280 their relationship management expands

00:44:48.880 from family relationships to friendships.

00:44:51.540 And then with that comes exclusion

00:44:53.360 and misunderstandings and miscommunications and hurt feelings and a desire to fit in and to be

00:44:59.340 liked comparison. And your six-year-old may come home from school and cry about a friend who

00:45:05.140 wouldn't let her play tag at recess, which is a small heartbreak, but bigger than the ones that

00:45:10.680 she experienced at three. And for boys, it's no longer a broken toy car. It's a broken arm from

00:45:16.160 wrestling or a broken window from baseball. Insignificant in the grand scheme of things,

00:45:21.340 but bigger than the breaks that he experienced as a toddler.

00:45:25.540 And then the pattern just seems to continue.

00:45:27.420 The older girls get as they grow into teenagers and young women, as I remember.

00:45:32.620 The harder relationships, the friendships, and sometimes the dating relationships can be complicated.

00:45:39.060 Things become more complex.

00:45:41.340 The stakes get higher for boys, too.

00:45:43.600 The sports get tougher.

00:45:44.820 The remote car becomes a real pickup truck.

00:45:47.560 And so the risk for true danger gets higher.

00:45:50.660 it increases. And something I've been thinking about a lot lately is how we help our kids

00:45:57.160 navigate brokenness when they're little. Broken hearts, broken bones, broken objects, I think

00:46:03.540 can really impact how they navigate brokenness when they're big. Modeling reconciliation and

00:46:09.960 restoration and forgiveness, the understanding of cause and effect, consequences, choosing good

00:46:15.840 company, compassion. There is also a balance that I think we as parents are tasked with that

00:46:21.620 I have not perfectly mastered. And that is in preventing the breaking and also allowing the

00:46:29.320 breaking because there are lessons to be learned in both directions. We cannot always prevent

00:46:34.660 injury, whether it's relational injury or physical injury, and we actually shouldn't. We don't want

00:46:40.480 our kids just to be safe. I remember reading this from Jordan Peterson a long time ago when I was

00:46:45.260 pregnant and I didn't like it then, but I've learned how true it is, is that you don't just

00:46:49.560 want your kids to be safe. We also want them to be strong. And strength builds through the

00:46:55.560 exercise of muscles, which requires strain and pain. And the same is true of life. And at the

00:47:01.780 same time, we don't want them to have to learn from all of their own mistakes. We want them to

00:47:07.560 be able to apply our wisdom and to avoid painful mistakes. You see a lot of that in Proverbs,

00:47:13.860 Like, listen to me, this road is not going to lead you in a good direction.

00:47:18.380 You don't need to try it.

00:47:19.500 Just I'm telling you now here are the consequences.

00:47:21.740 And so we want to model that Proverbs like wisdom as well.

00:47:26.040 But also there is value in learning from the mistakes that you make.

00:47:32.220 And to me, when they're young and the stakes are low, that is a really good time to, within

00:47:38.940 reason, allow the little heartbreaks to happen, the little toy breaks to happen, to help them

00:47:43.840 navigate those emotions and those incidents and to teach them cause and effect. Because all of

00:47:49.720 that is a foundation for either avoiding or dealing with the broken things later on. I mean,

00:47:54.540 that is life. Something will get broken. And on the girl side of things, one thing that my mom did

00:48:01.060 so well was never dismissing my hurt feelings. Or when I was in high school, my feelings for

00:48:07.720 a crush I had and all that came with that. She always took my emotions seriously. And she also

00:48:13.900 offered perspective. So she wasn't dismissive, but she also didn't match my level of drama in

00:48:19.880 her reaction, which also would have been unproductive. She comforted me, which is what

00:48:24.000 we're all seeking when we go to our moms. But she also gave me the perspective that this is not

00:48:29.420 going to be the biggest thing that happens in life. And I think it's really important for us

00:48:33.700 to do that, even when our boys and girls are little. Avoiding being dismissive or ignoring

00:48:39.360 the pain or whatever happened without meeting them at their emotional level. My oldest and I

00:48:46.400 have been discussing this term, this idea of bittersweet. When you feel happy and sad at the

00:48:52.200 same time, that's how I've described it for her. That's how she feels about her school year ending.

00:48:57.320 It's hard. It's hard to feel both. That's a lot of emotion. And when they're learning to regulate

00:49:02.880 her emotions. She said something the other day, I feel like I'm going to cry, but I don't want to.

00:49:08.920 Like they'll break your own heart when they get to the age of like, oh my gosh, you're not

00:49:12.800 a little, little kid anymore. You're not a baby. You're not a toddler. You're learning how to

00:49:17.040 express the difficulty of self-control and managing emotions. Not that it's bad to cry,

00:49:24.040 but having that conflicting feeling of feeling sad, but not wanting to let it out in the moment

00:49:29.000 that we've all felt, being able to articulate that, I mean, just as a parent, it's such an

00:49:34.840 opportunity for us to be able to help them give words to that. When you feel all of the things

00:49:42.320 when you're six, like you're excited for summer, but you're sad that you won't see your friends

00:49:46.220 all the time, it would be really easy for us as adults to be like, it's fine. Like it's kindergarten.

00:49:53.180 And we're going to have so many fun things to do this summer.

00:49:56.620 But really, I want to acknowledge that, yes, it is okay to be sad and to miss your friends.

00:50:02.140 That just means that you love your friends.

00:50:04.400 And at the same time, we're going to have a blast this summer.

00:50:07.660 So it truly is bittersweet.

00:50:09.760 It's a little heartbreak.

00:50:10.960 It's a big emotion.

00:50:12.060 And I just find that it's a really good opportunity for us as parents to walk with our kids through these moments to help them gain perspective.

00:50:19.600 It's also just a lesson in emotional regulation ourselves.

00:50:23.180 Um, it's also a lesson in pointing them to the Lord, pointing ourselves to the Lord who has good plans for us and who is our comfort when we, when we need him.

00:50:35.020 And, uh, that's just something that I think I would have loved to hear when I was, uh, when I was just starting out being a mom, just the anticipation of all of that.

00:50:47.140 If you are a girl mom, the emotions start way early.

00:50:50.600 If you have multiple girls, the emotions in relationship, friendship stuff happens way

00:50:56.120 earlier than you think. 0.67

00:50:57.920 I was reading some of my old diaries, which I don't recommend if you respect yourself

00:51:04.520 and you want to continue to respect yourself.

00:51:06.340 Don't read your diary from when you were 11 years old. 0.99

00:51:09.100 I was reading it out loud to my husband because it was just so ridiculous. 0.96

00:51:13.400 He was like, so many emotions. 0.85

00:51:15.760 You were 11.

00:51:16.800 How did you feel all of these things?

00:51:18.900 And this was before social media.

00:51:20.080 I didn't even have access to what other people were saying and feeling.

00:51:23.140 So it wasn't even a social contagion.

00:51:25.000 I'm just like this preteen girl, like thinking so many things about my parents' rules and

00:51:28.840 leaving church camp and this friend who said something rude to me at church.

00:51:32.860 And I'm like, you know what, Lauren, as hard as I thought these things were when I was

00:51:37.180 a preteen and a teenager, one, I had a good mom, like I said, who walked me through all

00:51:41.000 of those things.

00:51:41.640 But two, you were preparing me to be a girl mom.

00:51:45.060 Like I feel, because of all of those things, very equipped, of course, with the Lord's

00:51:50.040 help to help my girls navigate all of those emotions, but it starts early.

00:51:55.320 And I don't have to tell you if you are a boy mom or a boy parent, that the injuries

00:51:59.860 and the energy and all of that good stuff, like God made all of that stuff in boys to

00:52:05.420 be good and harnessed for good, and that aggression can be harnessed for good, all of that starts

00:52:09.720 really early too. And I can't say whether one is easier than the other. I certainly wouldn't say

00:52:15.680 whether one is better than the other. I think God gives us exactly what we need for the kids that we

00:52:20.680 have, injury management and relationship management, breaking in either direction.

00:52:26.880 And our job is to help them with that brokenness and to navigate it in a godly way. All right,

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