Ep 16 | Christian Egalitarianism with the Sheologians
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Summary
In this episode of Relatable with me, Allie Stuckey, we discuss the dangers of Christian Egalitarians and what they believe in. We are joined by the Sheologians, Summer White and Joy B. of the podcast The Sheologian.
Transcript
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Hey guys, welcome to CRTV's Relatable with me, your beloved host, Allie Stuckey, where we break
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down relevant political and cultural topics from a conservative Christian perspective. Yes, I go
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ahead and tell you my bias outright, but I always try to do the best job that I possibly can to tell
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you multiple sides of the story and to tell you the whole truth and nothing but the truth. And
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you always have the freedom of emailing me, Allie, at the conservativemillennialblog.com
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if you feel like I'm not doing an adequate job of that, or you can send me a nice email. That
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would be great too. So I have been taking a lot of interviews on this podcast lately, which is
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actually not usual. I typically take 30 minutes or an hour somewhere in there breaking down one
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subject from multiple perspectives on my own. But there have been a few particularly deep and
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nuanced topics on which I've wanted to give the insight of other people. And I also just happen
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to know some awesome people that I've wanted to introduce you to. And today it is both. I want
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to talk about a somewhat complex topic with two people that I consider experts, and I just want
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you to meet them because I think they're great. Summer White and Joy Tim B. of the Sheologians
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podcast are here to talk about this trend of egalitarianism happening in Christianity and
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the danger that it entails. A lot of you guys probably already know the Sheologians. You might
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even follow me because you heard me on the Sheologians podcast, but I really just love them. If you're
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looking for a good Christian podcast from women who are serious about good, correct theology, not that
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overtly emotional stuff that we get from a lot of female Bible study leaders, then I definitely
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recommend their podcast. Okay. At the end, I'm going to answer one quick Bible question. I'm going
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to tell you one thing I don't get and one special something to leave you with. I'm not going to talk
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about what's going on in the news this particular podcast. I usually do, but I just don't have time
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because I want to cover this subject. There's a lot going on in the news. I'm going to have an article
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coming out about what I think about everything that's going on with civility. That's kind of the topic
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of conversation this week with people that are being harassed in the Trump administration.
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People like Maxine Waters calling for them to be harassed. Is civility dead? All of that stuff.
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I'm not going to talk about that today because I have an article coming out on Conservative Review.
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So make sure that you look out for that. Today, we're talking about egalitarianism. And before I get
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into the conversation with Summer and Joy, I'm going to give you some context. First, what the heck do I
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mean by egalitarianism? Egalitarianism in the secular sense is this idea that not only are men and women
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of equal worth, which of course they are, but egalitarianism also holds that they are able and
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should be able to perform the exact same roles pretty much. I don't disagree with that idea entirely.
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And certainly from that secular perspective, I do think that women can and should be elected and
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promoted and hired for positions of leadership and should be held to no different standards than men
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are. But egalitarianism doesn't properly account for the very real ways, even from a secular sense
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that men and women are different. They don't believe in any leadership or differing roles in
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marriage, especially, for example. It kind of blurs the lines of gender and pretends that essentially men
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and women are the same, which is exactly why egalitarianism in the context of the church
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and the context of biblical Christianity does not work. Christian egalitarianism is primarily a
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liberal movement to eliminate traditional gender roles in the church. So they believe women should
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be able to be pastors and priests, for example. And by the way, I do feel like I'm kind of getting a
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cold. So if I sound like hoarse or weird, that is why. Just FYI. Anyway, Christian egalitarians also
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take issue with male headship with a marriage. They generally believe that the call for the wife to
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submit to her husband is kind of archaic and can be a precursor for abuse, domination, things like that.
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It's basically a push by Christian feminists to put men and women on what they consider
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the same level. And I take a lot of issues with that phrase, the same level, because I don't think
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it's a very good description, but I'll get to that in a little bit. There are several other problems
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with this. Number one, first and foremost, and really the only reason that matters of why this is wrong
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is that they are biblically incorrect. There is a difference between male and female. You can read
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Genesis 1 through 3 to see that. I mean, you can read the entire Bible, but if you want to go back
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to the very beginning, you could start at the beginning of Genesis. God made them male and
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female, both in his image, but differently. God could have made two people from the dust simultaneously
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if he had wanted to. He could have made them in pretty much every way the exact same, but he chose not
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to. He made Adam first and Eve came from Adam, out of his side. Eve is described as Adam's helper.
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The Hebrew word I say is there, but when I looked it up, it says azer. So I'm going to say azer.
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This does not mean helper as in servant, since it's a word also frequently used to describe God
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himself in the Old Testament, but as a form of power and necessary strength. That's how Eve is
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described. Eve was created because it wasn't good for Adam to be alone. This means that Adam was
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insufficient by himself. He actually needed Eve. So when people, and particularly Christian feminists,
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talk about the creation story being sexist or laying the groundwork for the patriarchy, I say,
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no, not really. Eve was created from Adam for Adam to provide the help and strength that he
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desperately needed. Egalitarians would like to believe that Eve was made as a self-sufficient
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person and would take issue with the idea of being made for Adam. But I mean, there's some nuance to
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that. She wasn't made to live her life and to do her own thing, but neither was Adam. Both were made
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first and foremost and really entirely to bring glory to God. And then secondly, they were made to
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compliment one another. It was never good for man to be alone. God never meant for men and women to
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be completely self-sufficient. Also, Adam and Eve were cursed differently. While some curses after the
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fall, they shared like death and suffering. They also had separate curses. A man's specific curse
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relates to fruitlessly working and a woman's specific curse is pain and childbearing. And also very
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important that our desire will be for our husband and he will rule over you. This means that there will be a
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fight for headship in marriage. We will want his role. He will struggle with passivity. There was no
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need for ruling and submission when man and woman lived in perfect, sinless, complimentary harmony.
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But because of sin, there is. This egalitarian movement is a direct result of the curse of Genesis
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3, in my opinion. These are women and men who are struggling with male headship that God ordained,
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and they are pushing against that. It's just a consequence of sin that we're seeing this
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egalitarian movement. And not only are they pushing against it, they're doing it in the name of
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Christianity, which of course is blasphemy. Not only are men and women very different, but they do have
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different roles in the context of the church and in the context of marriage. 1 Corinthians 14, 34,
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the woman should keep silent in the churches for they are not permitted to speak, but should be in
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submission. 1 Timothy 2, 12, I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over man.
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Rather, she is to remain quiet. Now, look, I know, I know a lot of us strong-willed women
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cringe when we hear these verses. I'm not going to pretend like I read those verses and I'm like,
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oh yeah, that sounds really good. I mean, I love staying quiet. I mean, you guys know me. I don't,
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I don't ever like to stay quiet. So I understand if you hear that and you're like, oh, but I just
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want to put that in the context of the churches back then. I don't, I don't want that to be true
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today. I totally understand that resistance and that feeling, but let's back up for a second,
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because this is God's word. And because it's God's word, we have to trust that it is not only true,
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but it is also good. So let's start with, with that mentality and then go from there.
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Um, first of all, both are in the context of the church and they have specific meanings.
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I have the ESV study Bible, and I'm not saying that the study portion of it is inerrant,
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but I think typically that it is pretty spot on in its interpretation from the other research that
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I've done. I'm also a big fan of, uh, Wayne Grudem's reformed theology that helps me, um, oh,
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sorry, systematic theology, uh, that helps me make sure I'm on the right track. Um, in, uh,
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first Corinthians 14 34, Paul probably doesn't mean a complete and total prohibition of women
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speaking, um, since, or speaking in church since in chapter 11, he does permit women to pray and to
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prophesy, uh, with certain conditions. The immediate context in this verse is judging of prophecy,
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which is probably what he is saying women should not do. Um, first Timothy 2 12 means that women are
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not supposed to teach Christian doctrine to men in church, and they are not to exercise authority
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over men in church. Women teaching women, teaching children, having leadership roles outside the church
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are all permissible as far as I can see by biblical standards. Um, but these particular things in this
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verse are not, um, also in the context of marriage, uh, we can look at Ephesians 5 22 through 33.
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For one example, wives are to submit to their husbands. Husbands are meant to love their wives. In fact,
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the husband is called to love his wife as he loves his own body to nourish and cherish her, uh, the way
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that Christ does the church. The husband should be imitating Christ, the woman embodying the church.
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And I know that we hear that word submit and we're, we cringe a little bit because it's like,
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it sounds like a slave to her master. Um, but when you look down just a few verses later and you read
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the husband's role, that doesn't sound like a slave and a master relationship at all. That just sounds
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like two different roles of the husband, not only leading his wife, but serving his wife completely
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sacrificially and completely selflessly. I mean, the role of the husband is one of absolute humility.
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Yes. Does he have to, at the end of the day, uh, make the ultimate spiritual and even maybe
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sometimes financial decisions for the family? Um, yeah, but that doesn't mean that he is a ruler who
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says, okay, wife, this is the way that we're doing things. Um, not at all. This is a symbiotic
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relationship and a partnership that happens to have two different and complimentary roles. Um,
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for example, you guys know, I am a very strong-willed outspoken person. There are very few situations
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in which I do not make my opinion known. My husband, who is absolutely wonderful, who I love
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more than anything in this entire world. He is more quiet. Um, he's not quite as opinionated as I am.
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Um, so I am not constantly going to my husband and saying, husband, I'm, I'm submitting to you. Can
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you tell me what to think about this or help me form my opinion about this? That's not how the
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conversations in our house go. I mean, we, we talk about things, we talk about, uh, politics,
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we talk about decisions that we're going to make, but at the end of the day, um, I'm going to trust him
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to make decisions that either we don't come to an agreement on, or I truly don't know the direction
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to go. For example, we are in the process of becoming, um, members at a new church. That was
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a process that was led by him. And that doesn't mean that I didn't have a say in it, but he, he is
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the one that made that decision for us, that forged that road for us, that made sure, okay, we're going
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to this class to make sure that we are going to be members. Um, we're going to make sure that we do all
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of, you know, the things that we have to do to become members. He has taken, uh, he, he has taken
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leadership in that. Um, and like I said, that doesn't mean that I'm not a part of it, but I'm
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trusting him with the spiritual formation and the spiritual leadership of our family. So I don't know
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if that makes complete in total sense, just because I know that there's a lot of people that hear that
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and that hear the whole submission thing and they kind of freak out, but I don't want you to freak
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out and we should never freak out over God's word because he knows what he's talking about.
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Anyway, um, that said, I understand why feminists are pushing for egalitarianism. Despite, uh, these
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verses, they, they feel offensive. Like I said, but that comes really from misunderstanding of
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scripture and a mistrust of God. Uh, God doesn't give man the role of teacher and leader in the church
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because he loves man more or because he thinks more highly of him, but because that's the
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responsibility that he's chosen to give him. Women, um, as leaders and teachers elsewhere, as her
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husband's strong helper, if she's married, isn't less than, doesn't reflect God's glory any less.
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It's just different. And if we believe that God is good, that he loves us, then we should take him
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at his word and trust that his order and commands are also good and that they are good for us.
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And that most importantly, they give him glory. Um, most reformed Christians today are what we call
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a complimentarian, which means that men and women have different roles ordained by God to compliment
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one another. And in particular, that husbands and wives have different roles that compliment one
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another. Uh, this does not mean that all women are supposed to submit in all context to all men.
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It means that in marriage, uh, men are the humble, godly servant leaders and in the church,
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executive authority and the authority of the elders should be male. Um,
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the egalitarian push has existed for a while. There are certain denominations, um, that have
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been heading this direction for many years, factions of, uh, the Episcopalian church, factions to the
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Baptist church, factions of the Presbyterian church. Uh, but now it's being talked about in a more
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mainstream and even non-denominational way, uh, because I think in part of the Me Too movement and
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the recent fallout of the president of, uh, the Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary,
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Paige Patterson, a lot of you guys have asked me about this, who also used to be president of the
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Southern Baptist Convention, which was the largest faction of, or is the largest faction of, uh,
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Protestant Christianity. Um, he also used to be the president of Southeastern Baptist Theological
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Seminary. He played a major role. He actually probably was the forerunner for this and what was called the
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conservative resurgence of Southern Baptist, uh, people called him and still call him a fundamentalist,
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but no matter what you thought of him, he was a really big deal. He was what a lot of people
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considered a savior from liberalism for Baptists, particularly from the questioning of the inerrancy
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of scripture and of biblical gender roles. Uh, he was big on preaching the importance of female
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submission. And ironically, it was a female who ultimately led to his extremely just demise. Um,
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he, while he was the president of, I'm going to try to use, um, abbreviations here, uh, S-E-B-T-S,
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a, um, a, a woman brought forth a rape allegation to Patterson and the school board. And they not only
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did not, uh, report the rape themselves, but actually encouraged this woman to, uh, to not report it.
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And they put her on probation for letting the guy who raped her into her apartment. It was like a
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boyfriend or a guy that she was dating. They had been kissing and then he raped her. Um, but of
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course this was her fault. Uh, this was all the way back in 2003, by the way. Um, so she was actually
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punished for it. He, uh, Paige Patterson actually said in an email exchange about this whole thing
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that he was going to try to quote, break her down. He also lied about this to the board when he was
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asked about it. So yeah, that's great. Um, comments also surfaced this month, uh, by Patterson saying
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that he counseled abused women to stay with their abusing husband. Uh, he also said crude
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things to a teenage girl and he was known for criticizing the looks of, uh, seminary students
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who were female. So yeah, not a great guy. Sounds like kind of a scumbag who thought that he was
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impervious to accountability. A lot of people have spoken out about this, of course, and in particular,
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Beth Moore, who wrote an open letter documenting the sexism. Not that she's experienced, uh, from
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Paige Patterson particularly, um, but that she's just experienced as a Bible teacher in this other
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Baptist convention for decades. And, you know, I have some other thoughts about Beth Moore
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theologically. I think that she has some interesting views, but this was a good letter. Um, I also,
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I know that she said a lot about Trump, but we're not talking about her political leanings right now.
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Um, I thought this was a good letter. Um, we should be talking about sexism and discrimination
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and unfair treatment of women in the church that they are sins. Um, there is no place for
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objectification and shame of women in the body of Christ. None. And it would be the same way if it
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was towards men. And, you know, I'm actually thankful for the Me Too movement for the conversations
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that started. Uh, yes, hopefully Patterson would have been fired anyway, but you just do have to
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wonder if Me Too has at least upped the ante for these kinds of things. Um, I actually think that
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it's good that men are realizing, uh, that you're not going to be able to hide in the shadows as a
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rapist, as a harasser or abuser. Um, I say actually, because there are other very serious flaws to Me Too
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that I've discussed very thoroughly in past episodes and on my blog. Uh, but one great thing
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about it, I think is that is the bravery and the protection that it's offering women to speak up
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about their abuse and about the people who shamed them and hid their abuse. That's not only good.
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It is also biblical. Uh, God sees the abused. He cares for the abused. He hates those who inflict abuse
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and it is right for these situations to be uncovered. So victims can heal. Um, SBC Southern Baptist
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Convention had a conference a couple of weeks ago about the state of the convention. Uh, J.D. Greer
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became president, which a lot of people are happy about. And from what I've read, there was a lot of
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talk at the conference about misogyny and the need for female representation in the church, particularly
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in places of leadership. Um, I'm not saying this was advocated for, uh, by Greer or that the SBC is
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implementing strategies for female representation, but reports like in Christianity Today say that women were
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really the talk of the SBC conference. And here's what I fear in that, not just for the SBC,
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but for the church in general, that we will look to egalitarianism, to feminism, and to social justice
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as the answer to misogyny and abuse rather than description. Um, Patterson's misbehavior
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doesn't render the Bible or even his views about male headship in marriage incorrect. The Bible
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does have structures and dynamics in place. Now I think that they were misused and misinterpreted by
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Patterson, but the structures in the Bible are still ordained by God for our good. And wandering
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from those will not ultimately bring healing to the church or to any victims. Jesus will. Jesus is the
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answer to the abuse and the dejection and the injustice that we're seeing in the church. Jesus
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is the only one that's going to be able to heal and satisfy the victims of this abuse, not egalitarianism,
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not disobedience to God's word. But that is where I fear we are headed, that the pendulum is going to
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swing too far in the other direction. Um, so now that you have some context of why we're talking about
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this, why this is a relevant topic for Christians, um, here is my conversation with Joy and Summer of
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the Sheologians. Okay. Sheologians, will you please tell everyone who you guys are and what you do?
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I'm Summer. And I'm Joy. We have a podcast called Sheologians. And what do we do? Well, we have people
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like you on our show. Yes. Um, we have authors come on our show and we basically talk about the biblical
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worldview and what happens when it meets our current culture. Is that a good definition? Yeah. We talk a lot
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about feminism, feminism in the church, feminism outside of the church. Um, lots of stuff relating
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to feminism, like certainly social Marxism and intersectionality, things like that. So it does
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kind of, yeah, I guess feminism is kind of a foundation for a lot of what we do. Yes. But we
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also, um, laugh a lot or as our listeners like to say, giggle. Yes, you do. Y'all do giggle a lot.
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That's like the number one. I get that all the time. It's like, people are like, you know, I just,
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I like their show when they stop giggling. So that's like our biggest, um, complaint other than
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also we're rude. Oh, well, my favorite thing actually that we've ever, that has been that
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we've earned. Oh, we earned it. I guess is that we were put on a list of like the top 150 females on
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the internet. Yeah, we did make the list. And that's like my most proud thing. Wow, congratulations.
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I think that there's a lot of crossover probably between our two audiences because even though you
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guys don't say you are conservative and I'm not even assuming that you're politically conservative,
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but because of a lot of, a lot of the arguments that you guys make about feminism, about
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intersectionality, all of these cultural political things on the left and y'all's critiques of them,
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people do appreciate your conservatism when it comes to theological, cultural, and even sometimes
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political issues. Do you guys ever get any pushback about that? Oh yeah, a lot of pushback.
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Um, are you asking for, are we getting a lot of pushback specifically in the political discussion?
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Yeah, sure. Um, I don't, I don't know. I think that, I mean, we are conservative. Um,
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we're definitely liberal in some areas, like, uh, I would say classically liberal in some areas.
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Um, I think that, uh, sometimes I have actually very libertarian views. Right. Um, although I
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don't definitely don't go all the way with those. Um, but I think that for both of us, the foundation
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is that we are Christians and, um, I think conservative Christian is starting to have, um,
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I don't even know what people, when people say that sometimes now I ask what they mean by that.
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Yeah. Um, because I just think most of America is very middle of the road, very moderate. And I
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don't know that either of us are very moderate in any of our views. Yeah. Yeah. I think we probably
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have the same mentality when it comes to political and cultural issues is that, well, my worldview is
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biblical and that worldview determines what I think about culture and politics. And that doesn't mean
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that I'm perfect on every single thing that I articulate, or it doesn't mean that I'm not trying
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to figure out how some issues fit into my biblical worldview, but that's what determines my politics.
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So I think that's why the term conservative Christian is also a little bit misleading because
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it's like, what does that mean? I don't like a political term to describe my relationship with
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God or my faith, you know? Right. No, I totally agree. Yeah. Um, so what specifically we're going
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to talk about today, since you guys do talk about feminism a lot and really just the danger,
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danger of, uh, progressivism in the church is we're going to talk about this trend of egalitarianism
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in the church. So would you guys just first break that down and tell us what that means?
00:25:17.520
Sure. Me or you, who's doing this? Um, you can do egalitarian. Okay. Fine. Tell us what that is.
00:25:26.460
Okay. So our, our whole thing, especially when we talk about feminism and feminism and egalitarian
00:25:32.540
typically do go hand in hand. You are much more likely to find an egalitarian calling herself a
00:25:40.440
feminist than a complementarian, for example. Um, and this is all I'm talking within the church.
00:25:46.700
Um, and so our whole thing with feminism actually directly relates to this, this issue is that
00:25:53.440
we don't believe that Christians need feminism because we already have the ultimate standard.
00:25:58.860
So when God says in Genesis 127, that he made man in his image, male and female, then we believe that
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women are just as much made in the image of God as men are. And the ramifications of that are huge.
00:26:14.640
Um, that means that women are distinct, um, from men, but just as valuable. And so a lot of the
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conversation between an egalitarian viewpoint and a complementarian viewpoint comes down to,
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uh, essentially the egalitarian viewpoint says that women can function in the church the same way
00:26:34.760
that men do. Um, we believe that's not true for a lot of reasons. And I mean, we can go over the
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list of verses if you want to. Um, but the reason that it's dangerous to translate, uh, our worldview
00:26:49.340
that way is that essentially you're saying that men and women, um, they're distinct, but have the same
00:26:55.640
roles. And we would not support that in any way because we have God in his own words in the first
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chapter of Genesis making a, a distinction. Um, and then he goes on in the next couple of chapters
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to make those distinctions, to explain how the fall is going to impact men and women differently.
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And then, um, when Paul talks about this later in the new Testament, you have him talking about a,
00:27:21.160
a headship, um, that is rooted in that creation order. And so we can't understand men and men and
00:27:29.720
women as having the same roles. So a complementarian position says that men and women are separate.
00:27:37.520
Um, they're distinct from each other. Um, they're not the same. They don't have the same roles, but
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they carry the same inherent value because it's rooted in the image of God. Um, then an egalitarian
00:27:49.700
viewpoint is going to say that the roles, um, they don't have to be separate and distinct and that to
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deny a woman, a headship role is to say that she is not as valuable as a man. Right. There's definitely,
00:28:03.060
you can see some, um, idolatry over the, the headship position there. The idea is that intrinsically
00:28:11.400
the leader, the head is of more value than the person that is, um, submissive or, um, the helper.
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And so that's sort of, um, this weird view on what constitutes, uh, worth in terms of men's and
00:28:28.800
women's roles. That's kind of like the gas that the, uh, egalitarian car runs on. Right. Right. I've
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heard you guys talk about that before, that if you somehow perceive headship or leadership in the
00:28:44.080
church as, uh, as a position to be coveted as a woman and that by reaching that, that you will
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achieve the same status or value as a man, then that's not because the Bible actually says that
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it's because of your own worldly and human perception of what it actually means to be worthy
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and valuable because the Bible doesn't actually say that the reason that men are put at the head of
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the church is because, is because they're more valuable than women are or because God loves them
00:29:15.900
more. Um, that's just the way that God made it. And there's actually nothing in the Bible that says a
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woman's position is less significant than a man's position or worse than a man's position or women
00:29:27.200
just aren't as smart as men. So they can't do that. It's just what God says. Why, why do you guys
00:29:33.000
think that it's so hard for us to just submit to what God has said is good in that regard?
00:29:40.240
Well, I mean, certainly Eve started it, but Adam, Adam did the same thing. You know,
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essentially the question you're asking is a question of, of why do humans want to be autonomous?
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And we've wanted to be autonomous since Eve's answer to the snake in the garden was, you know,
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he said, did God really say? And she went, huh, great question. Um, and we've been questioning
00:30:05.740
God's standards ever since, and we've wanted our freedom ever since.
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But it's definitely increased. It seems like it, if I feel like it used to kind of be a given that,
00:30:15.080
okay, this is man's position in the church. This is woman's position in the church. Maybe women
00:30:19.620
secretly bucked against that, but it's certainly, um, an increasing phenomenon that women are starting
00:30:25.040
to say, you know what? No, that's misogyny and bigotry. That's the patriarchy. I'm standing up
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and I'm taking this position in the church. Why do you think that is? Um, I was just going to say,
00:30:35.780
I do think there was probably quite a shift, um, in terms of like when, when, um, the feminist
00:30:42.800
movement. So second, I'm going to go second wave and the sexual revolution sort of met. I think that
00:30:50.120
was a big moment where we started seeing, um, we started viewing traditional female roles as, um,
00:30:59.120
more sort of like, like the, the less worthy work. We started to see a woman, um, embracing those roles
00:31:08.520
as not meeting her full potential. And so I think there was, of course, just sort of this logical
00:31:15.640
progression to, of course, well, let's look, let's look and see, uh, where we can find, uh, women not
00:31:23.700
being allowed to meet their full potential and fully realize themselves as humans. And then, um,
00:31:30.800
instead of just embracing that those two roles are complimentary and made differently for a reason,
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what we need to find is this equality so that women can, so that they'll no longer be subject to being
00:31:43.700
half of a human because they haven't been fully realized.
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And I would blame, um, I'd be happy to put a lot of the blame on men. Um, and what I mean by that is that,
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so, you know, the, the pattern that we see in scripture is that times when women became leaders, um,
00:32:01.280
were when the men weren't leading. And so a lot of egalitarians will point to Deborah, um, who led Israel for a
00:32:09.640
time and she was a great leader. Uh, why was Deborah leading? Well, we know from the text,
00:32:15.380
it's because the men weren't, the men, the men had abdicated their role. Um, and in the vacuum that
00:32:20.540
they created with their faithlessness, um, a strong woman stood up. And, uh, I think a lot of what we're
00:32:27.500
seeing in the church is that, uh, the pastors aren't stepping up to the pulpit. They aren't preaching
00:32:33.300
the word. Um, they're, you know, the, the, they're busy making themselves popular instead of being
00:32:39.420
faithful. Um, and I think that the pulpit has been such a, made such a vacuous space in America,
00:32:46.700
uh, that when the men aren't leading the, the women will. And so I really do see, um, a failure of,
00:32:55.040
of, of men to stand and lead and to shepherd their families. And I don't think you can divorce
00:33:02.980
the, um, the sexual revolution, like Joy mentioned at all, um, from the shift that we're seeing in our
00:33:08.780
culture and the culture is bleeding into the church. Um, you've got fatherlessness. I mean,
00:33:14.260
you've got divorce rates, you've got men abdicating their roles all over the place. And, um, when men
00:33:21.740
do that, I think that women are going to see that as a failure of men and the ways in which women might
00:33:29.220
be able to do it better. Um, I'm not defending that view at all, but I am saying that when a vacuum is
00:33:37.480
left, um, I think it's natural for the women to stand up. And so I think a lot of this is a real
00:33:42.920
failure of men to lead in a godly way. And I have to wonder too, if the Me Too movement has had
00:33:50.680
something to do with it, at least in recent months, although we know that egalitarianism and feminism
00:33:56.060
in the church has been kind of festering and growing for a while, but it seems like Me Too
00:34:00.740
has almost been used as an excuse, um, by the church to say, see, and even, you know, the SBC
00:34:07.240
and some of the problems recently that we've been seeing with that, with Paige Patterson.
00:34:11.020
I think that you see some women like Beth Moore, for example, saying, see, this is what happens when,
00:34:18.120
you know, toxic masculinity runs amok. And instead of like you guys said, the solution being,
00:34:24.440
okay, we need strong male leadership. We have people calling for female leadership. Um, I just
00:34:31.420
don't see why that needs to be the opposite. Why weak male leadership needs to necessarily lead to
00:34:38.320
strong female leadership when that's not what, that's not what the Bible offers as the, as the
00:34:42.740
solution. I do think that, um, that's definitely the calling card of us humans attempting to do things
00:34:52.680
in a way that makes sense to us. We, when you start to divorce yourself from scripture,
00:34:57.840
you will see people sort of getting together and meeting and figuring out, okay, so what is the best
00:35:04.500
way to tackle misogyny in the church? And instead of opening up the scripture, um, you are instead,
00:35:12.740
I think very obviously getting these groups of people that are getting together and they're discussing
00:35:17.620
the most practical, realistic way to tackle this. But unfortunately, when a bunch of humans get
00:35:25.660
together and it's devoid of scripture and they're making massive societal decisions or accusations
00:35:31.900
against society, I, I, it's pretty easy to see that what they've come up with is the best solution
00:35:39.540
that a finite human can come up with. Right. Which is, sorry, go ahead. No, no, no, no, that's fine.
00:35:47.860
Which is exactly just what I think about kind of social justice and progressivism in general is that
00:35:53.540
the heart might be in the right place. Like you said, misogyny in the church might be an issue and
00:36:01.100
it might be something that we need to tackle. These are problems that we need to overcome. And I in no way
00:36:07.260
even want to, I don't want to say the entirety of the Me Too movement is a bad thing. I don't think
00:36:12.500
that at all. Um, but like y'all said, we don't need secular standards for what biblical Christians
00:36:21.180
have already been doing for thousands and thousands of years. We've always been promoting, um, the
00:36:27.860
equality of worth of women. We have always been promoting charity and justice, at least true Christ
00:36:33.740
followers have. Um, so what do you guys think that the danger is in Christians latching on to these
00:36:40.040
worldly movements rather than, um, latching on to the truth of the gospel?
00:36:46.980
Well, I mean, obviously Me Too is devoid of the gospel. And the problem is with that is that
00:36:52.600
essentially if you're following the Me Too lead, then you are, uh, accepting the moral, the moral
00:36:57.740
leadership of people who will also suggest that you can kill your child in the womb. Um, they have
00:37:04.020
no moral authority. Uh, they have created a culture wherein sex is so divorced from any kind of
00:37:12.360
covenantal meaning. Um, that, I mean, why, why can't someone touch who they want? Because essentially
00:37:21.740
the message of our culture is that, uh, it's, uh, it's my body, my choice and your body, if it's in
00:37:28.480
the womb, uh, doesn't matter. And, and whatever they want, you want to do to that is fine. Um,
00:37:33.880
they have no, they have no just standard by which to say when sex is right or wrong, except based on
00:37:41.320
consent. And this is going to eat itself because we've already seen cases where, um, basically any
00:37:48.420
accusation can be made, uh, that anybody wants to make. And it doesn't have to be verified. If
00:37:53.940
somebody makes an accusation, then you're guilty. And this is a sign of a very unjust society. Um,
00:38:00.560
and they have no standard by which to say any kind of sexual interaction, uh, can happen lawfully at
00:38:06.960
all. Um, and so essentially, and, and, and not just that, that's, that's its own, that's its own
00:38:12.860
topic. Uh, my biggest problem with Christians latching onto the Me Too movement is that
00:38:18.100
it's devoid of any kind of hope. Um, so a lot of Christians experience sexual abuse and I don't
00:38:26.040
know that just saying, Hey, Me Too, um, is the answer because we've been given hope in scripture
00:38:31.580
that, that can't be killed. And so if we're going to say Me Too, then it has to come with,
00:38:36.540
you know, Me Too, but God, um, look who God says I am. As someone who's been abused, God has,
00:38:42.840
God has washed me clean. God says I am not guilty. Um, God says I am redeemed. And the gospel really
00:38:50.320
removes the, the shame and the horror that comes along with sexual abuse. And the world isn't
00:38:56.640
offering any of that. They're essentially handing you a pitchfork and telling you it's going to make
00:39:01.080
you feel better. Um, but pitchforks aren't going to make you feel better. And, um, it's only through
00:39:07.000
the gospel that can, we, we can even understand why abuse is so horrible in the first place. I mean,
00:39:13.380
I don't believe that anyone hates abuse more than God does. And so abandoning his standard of how to
00:39:19.360
deal with abuse and, and view abuse and what qualifies as abuse and, um, sexual ethics,
00:39:25.620
all of these things, they have to come from God or they're utterly, um, they're utterly meaningless.
00:39:30.620
Right. And I think that's kind of my problem with feminism in general is that intersectionality is
00:39:38.060
that it stops at victimhood instead of actually talking about the solutions to your victimhood
00:39:44.000
or the solutions to your oppression or any lasting solutions. It stops at victimhood. And we are not
00:39:50.180
just stopping at victimhood, but you're defined by your victimhood and your victimhood should,
00:39:55.460
should determine every political and cultural and even spiritual choice that you make. It's your
00:40:01.520
entire identity. And that's also why I have a hard time reconciling anyone who says that they are also
00:40:07.900
a feminist and a Christian, because I'm like, well, where does your identity actually lie? Does it lie
00:40:12.720
in your victimhood and your oppression and the fact that you feel unequal or does it lie in who God says
00:40:17.780
that you are? Um, so, but I, you know, I have a lot of friends who say that they're Christian feminists
00:40:23.240
and I don't know, it's, it's, it's hard for, it's, it's really hard for me to reconcile that.
00:40:30.320
Yeah. Well, I mean, if you think about what feminism, when you say feminism, what do you think
00:40:36.660
of? I mean, none of the things that you're going to think of first and foremost are really biblical
00:40:40.180
things. Now, if you're a Christian feminist and you're saying, well, I'm a feminist because,
00:40:45.240
you know, I believe that women are valuable. Well, that's actually, you believe that if you're a
00:40:49.960
Christian who believes that you believe that women are valuable because you believe in the word of
00:40:53.180
God and you don't need this secular theory to come in and bolster what God has already, um, said about
00:40:59.300
you. And then when you think about, um, just all the things that the, the feminist movement stands
00:41:05.120
for, you know, I had someone message me today and say, well, you know, not all feminists are pro-choice.
00:41:10.220
Well, that's true. But for the feminists that aren't pro-choice, what are they even basing that on?
00:41:15.560
Um, I just, it all goes back to what's your foundation? What's your standard? Um, why are
00:41:22.940
you usurping? You can't redeem feminism. There's no reason to, you don't need it. Um, so why,
00:41:28.920
why even try? Would you argue that first wave feminists were necessary? The women who were like,
00:41:37.660
hey, we need a right to vote. Uh, okay. So I have, I think we both have different, um,
00:41:47.560
not necessarily different stances, but just, I have a few different issues with the first wave
00:41:51.880
of feminists. Uh, and so my first issue is that I think a lot of, we've whitewashed the first wave
00:41:59.400
and we've tried to say, oh no, they were all Christians and dah, dah, dah. But I mean,
00:42:03.700
the first thing you got to realize is that most people, um, at the turn of this, the last century
00:42:08.220
went to church. Um, so, okay. When you actually start reading what they were saying, um, some of
00:42:14.540
the most prominent feminists were rabidly against marriage and they considered, they considered
00:42:19.740
getting married. Yes. They considered getting married, um, this horrible, horrible thing.
00:42:25.920
Right. Um, but then also, you know, we could stand with them because they worked,
00:42:30.580
the first wave of feminists were, um, huge in drafting legislation that ended slavery. So,
00:42:36.080
I mean, great. Like I would like to, I would have liked to be a part of that if I was around then.
00:42:42.180
Um, so that's a good thing. Um, so it's the movement then I don't think I would have been a
00:42:48.220
part of as a whole. Um, I for sure they had some causes that I agreed with. Um, but I know Joy and I
00:42:54.780
both have a very unpopular opinion. Um, and that is that we, uh, we like how the original voting was
00:43:03.460
set up and that there was one vote per household. Um, and I know a lot of people are like, what in
00:43:09.300
the world? Um, but yeah. And it went to property owners, like landowners. Yeah. So, um, so you guys,
00:43:16.140
would you guys refuel the 19th amendment if you could? No, no, I wouldn't. Um, also I think it's
00:43:23.740
like, I, it would be worth mentioning that like, I'm not a landowner. Right. And I don't have a
00:43:31.400
husband, husband. So like, I would be renouncing your own right, my own right to vote. And so,
00:43:37.580
I mean, that's like almost just, this topic is like almost a show in and of itself. I think what
00:43:43.640
we're saying is, so I would definitely want some changes to the household vote because I would
00:43:48.460
consider Joy the head of her household. Right. She's single, but she is the head of her own
00:43:53.780
household. And I think she should be able to vote. Um, I did, I liked that originally it was a household
00:44:00.660
vote. Um, meaning that obviously the man went and voted cause it was a civic duty and whatever. I
00:44:07.080
don't really care about all that, but, um, I just agree that it should have been a household vote.
00:44:11.500
And people have asked us about that and been like, well, what if the husband is, you know,
00:44:14.680
a Democrat and the, the wife is a Republican. And I think that's a horrible misunderstanding of
00:44:19.260
just, uh, how monopolized the two parties are in our current system. Like it hasn't always been
00:44:25.320
this black and white. Well, what if someone's a Republican in the house and what if someone's a
00:44:28.980
Democrat in the house? Um, I'm much more interested in, are the husband and wife unified?
00:44:33.700
Right. Um, that just shows just sort of this intrinsic,
00:44:36.860
uh, miscommunication about how the roles between a married male and female would even work.
00:44:44.260
Right. And I do think that the first wave feminists, I think it's safe to say that they
00:44:48.560
saw the behavior that led to the sexual revolution and second wave feminism, which was, I would
00:44:56.100
say that the area that the time period directly before, uh, the sexual revolution, I don't think
00:45:04.100
they had a closer to a traditional view of women's roles, but I still think they got it wrong by
00:45:11.360
painting them as, um, little cute homemakers that were so excited about their microwave and,
00:45:17.660
right. And had a drink ready for their husband when they got home. Right. There's a lot of wrong
00:45:21.760
with that. Right. Which could have very easily led to the second wave, but I don't know, just worth
00:45:27.400
mentioning. Okay. I'm very interested in this because I have not heard you guys talk about
00:45:31.960
the, the whole voting thing. So I have a hypothetical question for you. So if you believe
00:45:37.420
that, and I, I, I don't know, I don't really know if I agree with you or not. I just haven't decided
00:45:42.440
yet. I'm just wondering if you believe that it was better for the head of the household. And like
00:45:50.640
you said, summer man or woman head of the house household, whoever owns the property to go and vote
00:45:55.760
most of the time that would have been the husband. It probably, maybe most of the time would still be
00:45:59.360
the husband today. Then do you think that today married couples that a wife should vote in line
00:46:06.780
with what her husband says? Because theoretically that would be the same thing. If, if that's why
00:46:13.460
you believed that back then you should go with what your husband votes. Do you believe that today,
00:46:17.900
even though I have the right to vote that I should vote with what my husband tells me to vote?
00:46:21.660
Um, okay. So that could go into a couple of different areas. My first knee jerk reaction
00:46:27.620
is to say, um, that if a woman and a, if a man and a wife had differing opinions on who they wanted
00:46:35.380
to vote for, um, and the woman had to go with his candidate, I feel like, um, that could be an area
00:46:44.560
of potentially lying. Um, cause a vote is saying, this is the person that I, you know, want to be
00:46:51.220
here. And if you're being coerced into your vote, that's, that's a, that's a sticky area. I don't
00:46:56.740
like. Um, and I think that ideally you're not going to have a husband who, um, forces you to vote a
00:47:04.520
Well, and that's what I mean. Like it, it, it does kind of like even using words like coerce and
00:47:09.320
force that indicates that there's no, there's no just like peaceful relationship. Yeah. And I
00:47:15.020
didn't say those, I didn't say those words. Oh yeah. No, no, no, no. I know. But I think,
00:47:19.380
I do think we like all of us have these little things that we still kind of, you know, we think
00:47:27.480
of things in a certain way. I mean, if he's demanding that she vote a certain way, I'm not talking about
00:47:33.480
demanding. I'm talking about say in a peaceable relationship, a godly relationship, husband,
00:47:39.720
wife, do you think that it's important for the wife to vote the same way as her husband? If you
00:47:46.480
thought it was better that the head of the household was representative of the whole house,
00:47:49.720
do you think it's better now that a wife says, you know what? I don't totally agree with him,
00:47:54.440
but at the end of the day, I trust him and I'm going to vote for who he says I should vote for.
00:47:57.840
Okay. I think if she was unsure and like, I think that there would, it would have to be preceded by
00:48:04.580
like a discussion of some kind. And I, I don't think it would be appropriate to
00:48:09.200
just be like, well, this is who you're voting for. Get used to it. But, um, but obviously there's
00:48:16.320
some, like, it would be sort of like a case by case thing. But I, I do think that, um, it makes sense
00:48:22.560
in terms of a solid complementarian marriage that they would, they would most likely come to an
00:48:32.960
agreement and have a similar outcome on who to vote for. Does that make sense? Like, I acknowledge
00:48:40.260
that there, there could be situations in which the husband would just be like, well, this is who we're
00:48:45.440
voting for. Um, but that's an interesting way to put it. I hadn't necessarily thought it's a weird,
00:48:52.080
it's a weird hypothetical. This is fun. Um, I think that to, so if, if it was a situation where
00:48:59.320
it was a single household vote, I would have no problem because I trust my husband, I would have
00:49:04.220
no problem. If we disagreed, I would expect him to want to get me on the same page and want to be
00:49:10.980
unified. And I think that because I trust my husband so much that I probably wouldn't honestly
00:49:16.580
care that much. Um, if it was the kind of thing where we both are, you know, both of us can vote.
00:49:23.120
Um, I don't think that a godly husband is going to throw a fit if you guys have a difference of
00:49:28.780
opinion on this. Um, and I, I just, that's kind of what I'm banking on and that's why choosing
00:49:34.840
who to marry is so important. Um, I just don't see this becoming a, a divisive issue. And if it is,
00:49:42.980
I think there's some other sin issues that have preceded it that should be dealt with first.
00:49:47.180
Agreed. Um, I just, I think it's possible for a man and a woman to vote in two different ways and
00:49:52.900
still, you know, be aligned with the gospel. Now it depends, of course, on certain issues like
00:49:59.420
abortion, it would be very difficult for, to understand how my husband is reading the same
00:50:05.000
gospel or the same Bible that I am. But of course, like for example, my husband wasn't a really big
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fan of Donald Trump. I mean, I was neither, but I was like, right. I'm going to vote for the guy.
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He wasn't very excited about voting for him, but at the end of the day, like we're unified. So
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right. I, and I think that's totally fine. I personally am very thankful for the 19th amendment.
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I'm very thankful that I have the right to vote. So the question I'm trying to get to,
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I'm trying to understand like if back then it was better, it was better that it was just the
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head of the household that was voting. Why wouldn't you guys right now willingly say, you know what,
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I'm not even going, I don't even care what the candidate is. I'm just going to vote for whoever
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my husband votes for it. Because if it was good in theory back then, why isn't it good in theory
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right now? Except for, I don't, I don't think that that's how it was back then. I think that still
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the household vote would have taken place like within the context of a conversation in a very
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like communal way. So I would say I, I, I wouldn't necessarily, I, I wouldn't think it would be
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better for the husband to just say, and this is who we're voting for. Um, but I would vote differently
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than your husband today. I would, I, I, I don't have a husband. Um, but I, I just for practical
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reasons, I don't see a reason why I would marry someone that I most likely wouldn't vote the same
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as, but if I really had a conviction, um, and there was some sort of, you know, if I wanted to
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vote for someone else, I would at least hope we'd be able to talk about it. Yeah. And just to be
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clear, we're not saying we want to repeal the 19th amendment. What we're saying is I think we,
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I think as, as people living in 2018, um, what we're talking about is so hard to understand
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because the family was such a bedrock, I mean, foundation of the society that you didn't even
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understand your relationship to the outside world outside of your family. So the found,
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the family was the foundation of all of civic duty. Um, and so what we're saying is that that
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wasn't such a bad idea. Um, it wasn't such a bad idea that we voted as mischaracterized
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now. Yeah. Right. That's the big reason why we commented on it. I think is that it, the whole,
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the whole purpose and context of the 19th amendment is really painted in a way that's not exactly true
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now. Right. So it was kind of described as like, well, women are so oppressed and this and that,
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and they don't have the, they don't have the right to vote. But what we're trying to point out was,
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was that it was originally written as a household vote because that's how all of civic life was
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understood. It was centered on the family. Right. And so that was really the only reason why we ever
00:52:59.480
brought it up. And, and I don't think it's such a horrible thing that civic life, the foundation of
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that was the nuclear family. And I think that we've lost a lot since we have seen the disintegration of
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our families. And so, like I said, I, I'm glad that we have the 19th amendment. I'm glad that I
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can vote. I'm glad that joy is the head of her household, even as a woman, like she's viewed that
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way. These things are great. And goodness, I don't know what I'd be doing. Right. What would she be
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doing? I guess I would just stay home. I just wanted to, I wanted to push back on that to see if we
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could get to a better understanding of what that means, because I do think that there's such a give and
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take when it comes to individualism. And that's certainly where our society has gone into, I think,
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a dangerous territory of over-individualization to where everyone is so isolated. My entire moral
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compass, my truth is completely subjective based on what I believe. We don't believe in institutions.
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We don't believe in objective morality. We don't believe in the value of the family.
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And I, so I completely agree with you that I think that's part of also why egalitarianism is on the
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rise because we all believe that we are all these little islands and we're not really connected to
00:54:10.900
any kind of, um, to any kind of bigger picture. Right. Right. We don't want to be complimentary to any,
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we don't want to pair well with anyone. We want to be our own separate thing. Yes. Yeah, exactly. What do
00:54:24.380
you guys think is the solution for women who are in the church, who are, you know, biblical,
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complementarian, and we don't want to see the church go into this progressive social justice,
00:54:38.640
feminist direction? Um, I mean, what do we do? What do we do to fight the rising tide of egalitarianism?
00:54:48.000
Yes. Um, oh my. So I think the first thing that women in particular need to do is we really need
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to understand that the role that God gave us is transformative to culture. And so I think a lot
00:55:01.440
of what's happening with the me too movement and the rise of egalitarianism is that we're,
00:55:06.860
we've been sold the idea that women behaving as men makes women better. And that's actually just not
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the case. So when we fulfill the roles that we've been designed to fill, that is the best possible
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thing that we can do. And so first and foremost, a woman's role, a Christian woman's role is to be like
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Jesus. Um, and that's the same as a man's role, but it is the foundation of what, what we're both
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called to. Um, and we need to not forget that Jesus submitted to the father's will. And that,
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um, also just like Jesus, God will use women to take what would be useless on its own and shape it
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into glory. And, um, you don't have to see that only in your role in the home, although the role in
00:55:52.900
your home is very important. Um, and so I think that a lot of what we're missing is that the role
00:56:02.020
that God gave women was beautiful. And just because there's a submission aspect to it doesn't make it
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lesser. And essentially, if you, if you start to believe that lie, um, the lie that submission might
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make you mean less, um, then essentially you are spitting on Jesus's submission, uh, to the will of
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the father. Um, and what a horrible place to be in, what a horrible thing for you to have to answer to
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at some point. And so, um, we have to believe that what Jesus says is best and what Jesus always says
00:56:36.220
is best. Um, and the order of creation and the order of the fall provides the reason that women are
00:56:41.820
not supposed to exercise authority over men in the church. Um, from the beginning, God has intended
00:56:46.400
that men are the leaders of the home and in the church. And this is not a slight to women. Um,
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and it's God's wisdom commanding what is best for his people and his world. And we need to start
00:56:58.140
believing that. Right. Right. Joy, do you have anything to add? I don't want to accidentally talk
00:57:04.960
over you. Oh, no, no, you're fine. Um, I do think that it, uh, you know, so the moments that we
00:57:14.840
are given an opportunity to be obedient, um, even though they're not broadcast for the world to see,
00:57:23.080
they're very meaningful. Uh, the reason why we're here is to glorify God and to enjoy him,
00:57:29.640
um, and to be obedient. And so, um, the moments where you, uh, fight your sinful nature,
00:57:40.400
they're very meaningful. They may not be highly publicized, but they're very meaningful. Um,
00:57:47.660
and, uh, obedience to God, especially when we don't want to be obedient or when it goes against
00:57:56.300
sort of our sinful nature or even like the, uh, philosophy of the, the day. Um, those are the
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moments where we find real, uh, true intimacy and hope, and a lot of times even healing. And
00:58:11.640
I just think that's incredibly important. Right. Right. And I, you can't go away from God's design
00:58:21.160
in one part and expect the rest of his design to fall the way that it's supposed to, which is
00:58:28.720
exactly what we've seen with progressivism. And you guys pointed this out with feminism too. It's
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like you give up one part of feminism, like being, uh, not being pro-choice and being pro-life.
00:58:39.700
And then they would tell you, well, all of feminism unravels then, which is exactly why it's best that
00:58:45.780
we just stay with God's design and everything. Yes, absolutely. Um, well you guys, y'all are the
00:58:53.720
best. I love your podcast. I'm sure that a lot of people who listen to this podcast also listen to
00:58:59.480
your podcast. And so maybe they'll get both of us in one day. Lucky them. Oh my. Um, so thank you guys
00:59:09.000
so much. I really appreciate it. Okay, guys. I hope that you enjoyed that. They're great. If you
00:59:15.980
have questions for them, you can email me or you can go to their podcast and ask them whatever you
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want to do. Okay. I am going to answer one Bible question, say one thing I don't get, and then close
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this out with something special. Those of you who watch my Instagram stories, which I'm not going to lie,
00:59:33.100
I highly recommend. You guys will recognize what I'm about to do. Um, okay. All kinds of fun stuff.
00:59:41.560
I got this question on Instagram, which is where I get most of my questions for this podcast.
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Do you believe in infant baptisms? And the answer is no, I do not. And the answer is because,
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and the answer for why is because I don't think it's biblical. Baptism is always associated with and
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followed by belief and repentance in the Bible, except for, I guess, when Jesus was baptized by
01:00:03.320
John the Baptist, because he didn't have anything to repent of, um, Matthew three, six, and they were
01:00:08.000
baptized by him in the river Jordan, confessing their sins. Mark 16, 16, whoever believes in his
01:00:13.800
baptized will be saved, but whoever does not believe will be condemned. The exhortation in acts two 38 is
01:00:19.520
to repent and be baptized. Um, acts two 41. So those who received his word were baptized and there were
01:00:25.800
added that day about 3000 souls. The great commission itself, Matthew 28, 19 says, go therefore and make
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disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the father, the son, and the Holy spirit. Um, babies
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don't repent. They don't believe therefore their baptism as babies means absolutely nothing. Um, if you
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were baptized as a baby, but like it's fine. I don't think that you're condemned at all for that. And I'm sure I
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think a lot of people probably do it for dedication purposes, not for salvation purposes, um, in the
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church, which, okay, it's just not in the Bible. If I've missed that, please feel free to email me and
01:01:08.040
tell me why, but unless I can find a reason for it in the Bible, I, I just think it's silly, especially
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when people ascribe salvation properties to it. It doesn't have that at all. Sorry. There's my take on
01:01:22.340
that. Not sorry. I'm actually not sorry. I don't know why I said sorry. I'm not anyway. Um, thing I
01:01:28.800
just don't get. Okay. Again, please don't be offended by this. It's, it's fine if you do this. I don't,
01:01:37.540
I truly don't just like, don't understand the liking of your own tweets or, um, Instagram posts. See,
01:01:50.520
I've seen people that do this and maybe this is weird on my own part, but so I think it's like,
01:01:56.440
usually when people get a certain amount of, um, likes, they will go ahead and like it because
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then they think that people can't see it. But actually when you go on Instagram, it's like,
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you know, it says the first few people that, that like it, like, it's like, Oh, so-and-so and so-and-so
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like this. Well, if you follow a particular person, that's typically the name that shows up that this
01:02:18.580
person liked this. So if I follow you and you liked your own post, I can see that you liked
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your own post. And I personally just don't understand. Like, does it, do you, is it better
01:02:29.140
to have like that one more like, because what if people see that? I don't know. Like one time I
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accidentally liked my own post and I didn't realize it until like five minutes later. And I wanted to
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cry thinking about people knowing that I liked my own post and especially tweets. Like I can definitely
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see if you like your own tweet, you just go to the little like button on someone's profile and you
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can see it. So I don't know, just, just if someone enlightened me, maybe there's like a really good
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reason. And I just don't know. So feel free to let me know. That's just something I don't get.