Ep 189 ｜ Is Passive-Aggressiveness a Sin？ And Other Q&A
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In this episode, I answer some of your questions and talk about some of the things you have been thinking about or considering having a child. I also talk about the joys and challenges of being a mom and how it has changed my perspective on life.
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Hey guys, welcome to Relatable. Happy Friday. I hope everyone has had an awesome week. I am so
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excited about next week. I think I said this on Wednesday and I'm saying it again. I'm so excited
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about next week. I'm so excited for Thanksgiving and all of the good food. I'm supposed to bring
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celery with pimento cheese in it. So that tells you how reliable my family sees me when it comes
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to food and making things. And it's true. I don't traditionally haven't really made anything
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for holidays. I think it's partly being baby of the family. Baby of the family, it's given a whole
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lot of obligations. My husband and I are both babies of the family and I just don't have a
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whole lot of experience in cooking that kind of stuff. I'm a decent cook. I'm an okay cook. I'm
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not fancy with it. I don't like following a recipe. I like things that are super straightforward,
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common sense and easy. But my husband is actually a much better cook than I am. And typically he's
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the one that cooks dinner for that reason. While I am taking care of baby girl, he is cooking dinner
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and it's better off that way because like I said, he's better. So I'm bringing celery. Celery and
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pimento cheese. I will make probably the pimento cheese because my mother-in-law has an awesome recipe
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for it that I just love. And so I'll be doing that for Thanksgiving. And I'm really excited. We've got
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some family coming in this weekend. Lots of kids going to be running around the house. So
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really looking forward to that. I can't wait to hear what you guys are doing for Thanksgiving.
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Just FYI, I should tell you beforehand, we are going to have a new episode on Monday and we'll
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have a new episode on Wednesday. And next Friday, we'll be doing a replay of one of our most popular
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episodes. And so if you haven't heard every single episode, most of you have at least skipped a
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couple. You might want to tune into that. But because I'll be kind of on vacation and taking
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a break, we won't be recording a new episode for that day. On Monday, we will be talking about a
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very controversial subject, but one that I think is really important and that is anthropomorphism.
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What? What did I just say? It is this trend that I have seen, especially among millennials and
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Generation Z, the younger generation, of ascribing personhood to animals and our seeming over
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obsession with animals and how we should be looking at that from a biblical perspective.
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It's going to be good, you guys. We're going to talk about veganism. We're going to talk about
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all that. So I know some of you animal lovers out there, you're really worried about this episode.
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Don't be worried. Don't be worried. You can always disagree with me,
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but I think that you will find the insight or the perspective that I bring to the table at least
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helpful as you are shaping your worldview on all of this as we go into God's word. Okay.
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Today, I know I said at the end of Wednesday's episode that we are going to do an interview.
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Change of plans. We're not doing an interview, obviously. Today, I'm going to answer some of
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your questions and you guys sent me some really good questions. And so I'm going to answer a lot of
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the things that probably quite a few of you have been thinking about or considering. Now I am going
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to answer some of your questions. Okay. First question that I have is just right at the top
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of the list. And that is what has surprised you the most about having a child? I may have answered
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this question before, but I might have a new answer today that I didn't have a few weeks ago when I
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answered this. So I'll just answer it again. I think it is how much, and I don't mean this in a
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negative way. So let me explain it. But how much time a child that basically can't really move or
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can't crawl, can't walk yet, uh, takes how much time they take, how much attention they take it.
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I thought that, okay, I'm just going to be able to kind of set her down. She'll play and I will be
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able to, you know, work all day and it'll be easy. I'll be able to write my book when she's just sitting
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there, but it's just not like that. Now that's not to say that she's crying all the time. When
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I lay her down, she is very good at entertaining herself. And at this age, they're like discovering
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everything and she's rolling over and grabbing toys and all of that kind of stuff. So she can't
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kind of entertain herself, but I can't explain it. If you're not a mom, it's hard to explain how
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even in those moments, they're still demanding some of your attention. And you really can't just kind
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of when you're with them compartmentalize what's going on. And let me just say that is the privilege
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and the honor of my life to be her mom. Like I love spending time with her. I love that I get to
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work from home and I get to be with her and I get to see her all of the time. I just didn't know how
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difficult it would be to manage my time. I've had a lot of late nights since she's been born trying to
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finish my book and prepare for podcasts and, and different things like that, because that's really the
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only time when I can really dedicate to doing what I need to do. Now I do like have help during the day,
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like my mom helps, we get help a few hours a week. Uh, so I can, you know, record this podcast like
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I'm doing right now. Um, but there are still a lot of hours during the day when I just don't have,
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you know, dedicated time to write or something like that. And like I said, I love it. I love it.
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I love spending all my time with her. I'm just learning how to be more effective or trying to
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learn how to be more effective and more efficient in managing my time. And that has been surprising
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and a little difficult. Um, being a mom is still the best thing ever. I just, my husband and I all
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the time, and I know you parents feel like this too. We're like, does anyone else have as perfect
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of a child as we, I don't think so. Does everyone else love their kid as much as we do? And I know you
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guys do. I know you're thinking the same thing about your babies and all babies are precious
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and I love them, but I love my baby. She's amazing. And we just love being parents. And I genuinely
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love, she doesn't sleep very much or she sleeps at night, but she doesn't sleep very much during
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the day. She's not, um, I don't want to say she's a bad napper. That to me sounds kind of mean.
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She's an efficient napper. So she naps like for 20 minutes, unless you're holding her,
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then she'll nap for a long time, which is another reason I can't just put her down and go,
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you know, clean the kitchen or something like that. Um, but what was I going to say? What was
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I going to say with that? Oh yeah. When she wakes up, I'm like so excited that she's awake and I get
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to go get her. I, my favorite thing in the world, it happened this morning. She's crying. She's
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fussing. I went in to go get her from sleeping, uh, sleeping at night and she's, you know, ready to get
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out. She's grumpy, she's screaming. And then I go in there and I see her little face through the mesh
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on the side of the pack and play, just light up and smile. And I'm like, this is the, this is my,
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this is the best part of the day. Um, so I love it. Surprising things every day, of course, because
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this is the first time that I'm a mom, but I just, I love her and I love being in her presence. Um,
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even if it does mean that I can't do anything else when I'm holding her. Okay. Next question,
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a little bit different. Should Christians colonize Mars? You know, there's a lot logistically
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that goes into that. I don't think that I am going to be the person to spearhead, uh, that,
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but if there are some people that want to go before me and go before us and let us know how
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it goes, maybe kind of be the guinea pigs on that. I'm not, I'm certainly not against it. I don't know.
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I don't know if there's any kind of biblical command that we shouldn't be colonizing Mars
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or that we can't colonize another planet. So if, if that's the next frontier for Christians,
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sure. I'm, I'm open to it. That's all I'm saying. I'm open to it. Now I don't even like flying to
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Oklahoma. So I can't imagine liking very much getting in a spaceship with my family and going
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to Mars. Like, I don't even know if I can make the trip there, but if y'all establish a nice
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nation country community there in Mars, where we can just be free and enjoy being Christians,
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then I will consider it. Let me know though, in like a few decades, um, topical Bible studies,
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are they dangerous to use exclusively? So exclusively I would say, so I can't speak for
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all topical Bible studies, but here's kind of my rule of thumb when I am looking at a Bible study
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or when I'm looking at any study, uh, who is the center of this study? Is it me? Is it the reader?
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Or is it Jesus? So any teaching, any sermon, any, um, any topical Bible study that uses a story in
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the Bible as exclusively a metaphor for us rather than a way to point to Jesus. I would just have
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some questions about that. For example, I've used this example before. I'm certainly not the only
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person to use this example. I've heard other pastors use it. Uh, you might hear a pastor say,
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uh, the story of David and Goliath, uh, is a metaphor for us that we are David. We're slaying
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our giants and God is giving us, uh, a stone and a slingshot, our equipment to be able to slay our
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giants. That is this supposed to be this inspirational biblical message, but that is not the message of
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David and Goliath. As we study, as we study the story of David and Goliath, we don't see ourselves
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as the hero. We see Jesus as the hero. Jesus is the true and better David who, uh, defeated the real
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ultimate giant of sin and death forever on our behalf. And that is such a better and more God
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glorifying way to look at that story than inserting ourselves into the biblical narrative where we don't
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belong. We are not the heroes of the Bible. We are not the stars of the show. We are not the leading
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role. Jesus is the hero of the Bible. He takes center stage in everything. So any topical Bible
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study or sermon that puts humans, um, as the hero of the story or makes humans, the, the starring role
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of things, then we need to question that. We need to say, okay, is this Bible study glorifying us?
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Is it about us? Is it about affirming our emotions, making us feel better, comforting us, making us
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feel like heroes, even just making us feel beautiful and talented and awesome. Or is this about our
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rightful place as worshipers of the God of the universe, who through Christ reconciled us to
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himself in undeserving, unworthy people. So is it emphasizing the gospel or is it emphasizing the God of
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self? The, that I think those are the discerning questions that we need to ask ourselves when we're
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listening to anything, when we're listening to anyone talk about the Bible, not just topical Bible
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studies specifically. Although, uh, of course I would say that that applies to that. I will say
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that any pastor that is only preaching topically every Sunday. So who says today we are going to talk
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about, I'll just use the David and Goliath thing again. Today we are going to talk about slaying
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your giants. And here is the story of David and Goliath. If that is, if that is what is happening,
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then I would say that's not an expository pastor. That's not an exegetical pastor. Um, but that is
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an eisegetical pastor that is a pastor who decides what he is going to say, make his point. And then he
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finds verses, um, to back that up and decontextualizes verses that don't actually prove the
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point that he's trying to make, but he makes them prove the point that he's trying to make
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through his own subjective interpretation. That is not a pastor that you want to listen to.
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When it comes to the leader of your church, the person who is preaching on Sundays and really just
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the leadership in a church in general, you want someone who goes to the word of God and who says,
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okay, what does this mean in context, cultural context, historical context, literary context,
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in context with the rest of the Bible? What does this mean? What does this say about God? What does
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this say about sin, salvation, and sanctification? And how does this apply to ourselves? Is there a
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sin that we need to repent from? Is there an action that we need to do? Is there a way that we need to
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reorient our lives around whatever theme this particular passage is telling us?
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So these are the kind of questions that we need to ask ourselves when we're looking at a topical
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Bible study or when we're listening to any pastor. Again, the question is who is really getting the
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glory here? Is it God as our redeemer and savior, or is it us? Is this casting God as a genie who grants
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our wishes when we say the right thing, when we pray the right prayer, when we have enough faith,
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or is this viewing God as the all sovereign, all powerful king of the universe that he is?
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Old news, but thoughts on Lauren Daigle. So I actually did probably over a year ago now,
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I would say almost a year and a half ago, I did a YouTube video on that. I think it has Lauren Daigle
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in the title. So you can just Google that and it will tell you my thoughts on it, or the video will
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tell you my thoughts on it. What will it take to get you to come speak at Baylor? So I always, well,
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first of all, thank you. I would love to come speak, but I will say that there's, there's a
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process. So you just have to email me. I can give you the email. If you message me, I can give you the
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email of the person who coordinates my speaking engagement, who will work out logistics and all
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that kind of stuff. But I get this kind of question a lot. Like, why won't you come speak here?
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Like, what does it take to have you come speak here? I'm like, well, have you asked me? And I'm
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talking about you specifically who asked this question, but I get this, I get this a lot. So
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I have to actually be invited. Like I don't, I won't just show up at a, at a college and be like,
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who wants to hear me? I have to be invited. And then you just go through a process and I love going
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to speak. And so if I am available and if everything works out, then of course I would love to come speak
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at Baylor and elsewhere. Um, how should one deal with manipulative people? Well, there's a lot of,
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there's, there's a lot of context that I would say is needed with a question like that, because
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there are a variety of manipulative people. I would say the kind of manipulative people that I
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have experienced the most. And plus we're all guilty of being manipulative at some point using
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deceit to get what you want, which I think is the definition of being manipulative. Um, but there
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might be more serially manipulative people in your life. Maybe it's a boss, maybe it's a coworker,
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maybe it's a friend, maybe it's a significant other. And if someone is continually using deceit
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to get what they want, so to, so they're buttering you up or they're flattering you, or they're making
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you think that whatever option they want you to choose is the only option that you have when that's not
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really true, then you need to confront them about that. You need to speak the truth in love and you
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need to say, look, this is manipulation. This is how, this is how this is manipulation. And this is
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why I don't appreciate it. Here's the truth about the situation. Here's the truth about the options
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that I have. Here's how I feel. Here's how I think. And if, if you want something, or if you want to
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have a conversation about whatever it is you're trying to manipulate me to do, uh, then let's have a
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conversation, but it needs to be based in truth and based in morality and based in the best interest
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and having the best interest for the other person. Someone who is manipulating you is looking out for
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themselves and not for you. And if you are dating someone who is continually manipulative, I'm not
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talking about just one time, because like I said, we're probably all guilty of that. Then you need to
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get out of that relationship. That's not a relationship that you need to be in because it's very easy to,
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um, start allowing that person to ascribe you value, to ascribe you worth, to make you think that
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they are the only person that you could ever be with or ever be happy with the only person that's
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ever going to love you. And that is not a relationship that you want to be in. There are
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also spiritually manipulative people who will decontextualize Bible verses, or they will use
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quasi biblical themes to make you think that what they want you to do is righteous when really it's
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just something that subjectively they want you to do. Um, and that's not right either. And we need
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to evaluate our own lives to make sure that we are not being, that we are not being manipulative. I'm
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thinking about situations in which I've probably, I mean, actually I'm not thinking about my own
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situations, but I'm thinking about situations in which people are made to feel guilty, uh, made to feel
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guilty for something that they shouldn't feel guilty for because the other person wants them to do
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something. I've been probably on both ends of that spectrum before, and that is wrong. Um, I think
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all you can do is speak the truth and speak it in love. And if it's a relationship, I don't mean to be
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all like new agey, but if it truly is a toxic relationship where that person is lying to you,
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then you don't need to be in that. You don't need to be in that relationship anymore, whether it's
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platonic or romantic or whatever it is. If it's a family member, if it's a spouse, and that's really
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obviously you can't get out of, then you just need to have a conversation about that. Um, and you
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need to, like I said, evaluate your own wife as well. This reminds me though, of one other topic,
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and that is, um, passive aggressiveness. Gosh, that is something that we are definitely all guilty of.
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Um, that is something that I believe that Christians, especially Christian women really need to confront
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in our own lives. That, uh, passive aggressiveness, I believe is a sin. Uh, I think that it is a form
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of lying and a form of manipulation. And it is also a way of self-protection and to promote self-interest
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because you are scared of feeling awkward. You're scared of hurting someone's feelings,
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not necessarily for their sake, because you're obviously telling them whatever it is you want to
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tell them in a roundabout way, but really for your sake, you don't want to be seen as mean. You don't
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want to be seen as confrontational. You don't want to be seen as aggressive or assertive. I'm talking
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specifically really about women here, but men are guilty of this too. And so you beat around the bush
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and what ends up happening is that everyone ends up getting way more hurt. Um, I've been passive
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aggressive. I've been the recipient of passive aggressiveness and it never helps a situation when
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there is like tension there that is, that needs to just be talked out and needs to be cut through
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with truth. Passive aggressiveness just builds and builds and builds until the person who is holding
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it in explodes or the other person who doesn't realize maybe why you're mad or why you have,
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you know, something against them. They just grow resentful. They grow cold. They grow unmotivated
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to talk to you about your concerns because all you're doing is putting up walls and pretending like
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everything is fine when everything's not fine. And so I think we as Christians, passive aggressiveness
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is a sin that we need to confront. If we mean something, we need to say what we mean and we need
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to mean what we say. That doesn't mean that we have to be rude. That doesn't mean that you have to be
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completely heartless about it. Of course not. I think that there's a way to have empathy. There is a way
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to phrase your confrontation or your concern in a way that is loving. And what I try to do
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and gosh, I'm such a failure at this so often, but what I try to do, I'll say this. I am better
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at confronting people and responding to people when I do this. When I say, okay, have I done something
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that is similar to what this person has done? Have I thought something that is similar to what this
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person has thought? Am I guilty of some of the same things that this person is doing that's making me
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mad or whatever? And if I were in their position, do I really think that that person is intentionally
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hurting me or intentionally trying to do something? When we rashly jump to the conclusion that everyone
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is out to get us and that typically ends in passive aggressiveness or resentment or bitterness and that
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does not please God. So when I am trying to confront someone, I try to put myself in their position and to
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remember that I am in need of probably more grace than they are. And like I said, I fail at that
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probably every day, but things always work out better when I go that direction rather than just
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putting up my defensive defenses and passive aggressiveness. What's a good personhood argument
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against Christians who are pro-choice? So I'll just direct you to a podcast episode that I did on
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this rather than spending too much time here. But I have a podcast episode called Abortion Ain't Biblical
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where I refute this argument of this person who actually tried to build the case that abortion was
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okay from a biblical perspective. Democratic candidate Pete Buttigieg is trying to do the same thing. It's
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totally inane. I mean, the mental gymnastics that you have to do, the moral hula hoops that you have to
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jump through in order to try to even come close to making a coherent argument. It's insane. It's much
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easier to rest on the word of God that says that God knit us together in our mother's womb, that we
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were made in his image and he created life to start at the point of conception onward. What's your view on
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the death penalty from a biblical point of view? I actually just talked about this last week.
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Um, how often will you eat Chick-fil-A from now on? You know, I'm a little bitter. I'm a little
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bitter about Chick-fil-A still. So I don't know. I haven't eaten a Chick-fil-A since. But like I said,
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I'm not necessarily, I'm not boycotting. I'm not asking you guys to boycott. I did get a message
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from someone speaking of Chick-fil-A, um, who, uh, who actually works there and works, I guess,
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at Chick-fil-A corporate who said that this really is not a political decision at all, that it's being
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cast that way by the media, but it's not. And I believe that that person is being honest with me.
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I still have, I still have questions, but I do want you to hear that side, that people on the inside
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are saying this is not a political decision. It doesn't have to do with the backlash, that it
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really is just a restructuring of charitable giving. They really are trying to be more focused
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on particular organizations and charities and that it has nothing to do with everything the
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media is saying that it has to do with their misquoting or they're taking things out of context.
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And, um, I think that if that is, you know, if that's the side that you land on, that's totally
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fine too. Like I said, I'm not calling for any kind of all out boycott on Chick-fil-A. It doesn't
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look good. It just doesn't, it doesn't look good. And it does seem like they kowtowed to the leftist
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opposition because it was hindering growth. But like I said, there are people on the inside who
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say that's just not the case. And maybe you take what I say with a grain of salt and you trust their
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authority more than mine. Question, would you send your daughter to public school? No, no. Now I've
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heard Christian arguments for it, that it's better to be, to be plugged in and to make a difference and
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to be involved, to know who's on your school board, to be involved and to speak up and have
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a say and all of that. So you are helping not just your child, but future children, the children
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around them. And I understand that. And I don't think that I would have said definitively five
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or 10 years ago, certainly that I wouldn't send my child to public school. This is not an elitist
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thing. It's not about education, although that is part of it, but it's not primarily about that.
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It's about values. It's about what is being indoctrinated into our children nowadays. And I
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just, I don't know that I am willing to sacrifice my child's well-being in order to be involved in
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public school. I just, I'm just not sure I can do that. I can still know who's on the school board
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and care about that stuff without my child being in public school. I just don't want her to be subject
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to that. And of course, we're going to be the kind of parents that when she comes home,
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like she is going to know our values. She's going to know what we believe. She's going to
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know the word of God if we have anything to do with it. But how confusing and how exhausting for her
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that she is going to go to school and hear all day a worldview that is totally antithetical to what
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we teach and to have to be quiet about her views or to be bullied for her views or to be punished
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by teachers, maybe not directly, but indirectly for her views. And then to come home to be exhausted
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by all that and to hear something completely contradictory from her parents. No, I just, I don't
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want that for her. I don't want that for her. I don't know what that's going to look like in a few
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years. But as of right now, no, I don't think that we are going to be sending our children to
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public school. Socialism versus capitalism. Did an episode on that titled Socialism over the
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summer? Will you invite Kanye on your podcast? Yes, that's the reason I haven't had Kanye on my
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podcast yet because I haven't had I haven't invited him. He's been waiting for my invitation. I'm just
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kidding. I would love to have Kanye on my podcast. That would be awesome. I would ask him a lot of
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questions like just genuinely, genuinely curious about his walk and his plans for the future and his
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family and all that stuff. I don't think somehow I don't think that that is a viable option for a
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guest anytime soon. He seems like he's a little busy. But one day, maybe so you you never you never
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know what I have learned is that I cannot predict the future. Could you touch? Oh, someone asked me,
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could you touch on why putting yourself in the Bible is wrong? I answered that a little bit earlier.
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What did you go to college for? Communication studies. Thoughts on long engagements. So I'm
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thinking I'm I'm guessing that you're talking about marital engagements. So there are a variety of
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reasons why people might be engaged for a long time that are totally legitimate reasons. My personal
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preference. I mean, we were engaged for four months. That's not good for everyone. Some people need longer
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than that to plan a wedding, to figure out logistics, whatever's going on in their life just makes
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that impossible. I personally think in an ideal situation that marriage or that engagements should
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be six months or shorter. I think the shorter you can do, the better, especially if you are waiting
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for marriage, just gets harder and harder the closer you get to your wedding to not have sex,
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if that's what you're trying not to do. So the longer of an engagement that you have, the more
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difficult that is. I think if you know that you're going to marry someone, the quicker, the better,
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the shorter the engagement, the better. It's my personal opinion on that. The Bible doesn't,
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you know, specifically say how long your engagements have to be, but I would say if your
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priority is sexual purity, then you should just try to get married as long as you know that,
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you know, that's the person that you want to marry. Is it wrong? This is an interesting question.
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Is it wrong to pray that the Lord's dear man's heart to like me or is that weird? Well, I know what
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you're saying and I understand that feeling so much. I'm not, I can't say it's necessarily a sin
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to ask God to change someone's heart. I would, but what I would do is I would evaluate your own heart
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and I would ask yourself, why are you idolizing this person that you believe, I'm guessing you
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believe is your source of happiness or your source of incontentment and satisfaction of this person
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does not want you and you find yourself fixated on them. Then that is probably an issue that's going
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on in your own heart, not his heart that you need to bring to the Lord. My recommendation would be
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to pray that God satisfies you with himself, that he gives you wisdom and discernment, that he gives
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you the strength to be able to prioritize him above anyone else and that you would work. And this is
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hard. And I say, this is someone who has been there. Like we've all been that person who has been
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in this situation of unrequited love, where you want someone to like you or want you who doesn't.
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So I get it. Um, the best thing that you can do in that situation is to not fixate on them,
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to not obsess over them and to not wonder what they're doing, not constantly check their Instagram
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stories or see if they've looked at yours. I would, I would recommend that you not do those things
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and that you focus not on what's going on in their heart, but what's going on in your heart.
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Why do you feel like this person is your source of happiness? Why do you feel like this poor
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person is the source of your satisfaction? And why are you spending all your time on someone who
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doesn't right now, doesn't want you? If that person is the one for you, I promise a sovereign God
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is, is not going to, is not going to, uh, change or waver based on whether or not you pray for that
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person's heart to be changed. God is in control. You can trust in that, that he works all things
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together for the good of those who love him. That does not mean that we get everything that
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we think that we want. That means that all things work together for his glory and our ultimate good.
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That is the privilege and the freedom that we have as Christians. What do you think about
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Christians doing yoga? So I really want to do a whole episode. This is my last question, by the way,
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I really want to do a whole episode on this because I'll be honest with you. It's not something I
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ever thought about. I never thought about whether or not it is biblical to do yoga. I mean, I did yoga
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when I was pregnant. I never thought about it. And then I started getting messages and emails,
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comments asking me why I think it's okay to do yoga. And so it's something that I've been thinking
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about, something that I've been reading about and studying. And I don't want to give away too much
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of my answer before I am finished looking through all this stuff. But gosh, there are so many things
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that I've been wrong on in the past. And so I am not afraid to say whenever this episode does come
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out, if this is the case that I was totally wrong on it, I understand the concerns because it's part of
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this new age phenomenon that's going on with crystals and healing and healing alters and basically
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self-worship. It's total idolatry. And yoga is part of this kind of Eastern mysticism thing.
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We talked about it a little bit when we talked about the Enneagram. The Enneagram is a part of
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that as well. I did an episode titled Personality Test. You can go back and listen to that from a few
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weeks ago. And so I totally see how yoga is a part of that whole system. Now, it's a little bit
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difficult for me. It seems a little absurd to say that yoga is not okay, but Pilates is okay.
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Because when it comes down to it, yes, you can say the whole thing about yoga, like the meditation
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and all of that is wrong and something that Christians shouldn't do. Not that meditation in
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general or meditating on God's word, obviously that's good. But all the stuff that comes with the
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healing magic power, the inner self, the chi, all of that that comes with yoga, I definitely see how
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that is this kind of weird mystical thing. But it's hard for me to see how just like the physical
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positions of doing yoga is any different than doing Pilates just because it's called yoga.
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Does that make sense? Like, doesn't it seem a little bit legalistic? And I'm not one to use that term
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very often because people apply legalistic to too many things. But it doesn't seem a little bit
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legalistic to say, okay, I can get in a lunge, but I can't call it warrior one. Seems a little weird.
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So like I said, I'm thinking through it. I want to come at this from a biblical perspective that
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doesn't just attach. I'm not just trying to attach myself to what either side is saying. I'm really
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trying to be thoughtful about it, to be nuanced, if you will. That's another word that I hate.
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Anyway, that's all I have time for. Love you guys. Happy Friday. I hope that you have a wonderful
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weekend. I will be back here on Monday to talk about animals.