Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 205 ｜ You Can't Have It All

00:00:00.000 Hey guys, welcome to Relatable.

00:00:02.060 I am so glad to be here.

00:00:04.980 So it's been a little weird for the past few weeks

00:00:07.760 because we've had a lot of replays,

00:00:09.400 not last week, but the one before we had a new episode

00:00:12.960 on Monday, then the one before that

00:00:14.400 we had a new episode on Monday,

00:00:15.700 and then it was Christmas and New Year and all of that.

00:00:19.400 But it's been off because we had some personnel changes

00:00:23.120 at Relatable, all good changes and transitions,

00:00:25.800 but that caused us not to be able to have new episodes.

00:00:30.700 Some of you even emailed me who aren't on Instagram

00:00:33.360 because I did talk about this on Instagram,

00:00:35.040 but some of you emailed me saying like, are you okay?

00:00:37.760 Yes, I am okay.

00:00:39.320 It was just kind of a little bit of a forced break,

00:00:42.360 which was actually good.

00:00:43.780 We went to Atlanta.

00:00:45.560 I spoke at G3, which was awesome.

00:00:48.100 It was very much an honor to get to speak there.

00:00:50.400 And then my family and I went to go see

00:00:52.540 my husband's family in Georgia,

00:00:54.000 and that was all good and fun.

00:00:55.900 But I missed you guys.

00:00:57.400 I missed being able to talk about all of the things

00:00:59.660 that are going on,

00:01:00.500 and there are a lot of things that are going on.

00:01:02.900 We did two Instagram Lives a couple weeks ago.

00:01:06.440 Those were my first ever,

00:01:07.500 but you guys were so engaging and so fun,

00:01:09.640 and I really enjoyed them.

00:01:11.420 I will try to do more going forward,

00:01:14.320 but sometimes they take a long time

00:01:16.200 because I end up getting carried away.

00:01:17.920 And so it's like an hour and a half of Instagram Live-ing,

00:01:20.980 and I can't do that every night.

00:01:22.280 So sometime in the future, we will.

00:01:25.500 We also will be,

00:01:27.140 I asked you guys about this on Instagram,

00:01:29.100 we will be starting a ladies-only book club

00:01:32.840 on Facebook and Instagram.

00:01:34.840 I said that was going to be February 1st.

00:01:37.580 I can't believe it's the end of January.

00:01:39.180 It's gone by so fast,

00:01:40.500 but I will figure out when and how we are going to do that,

00:01:43.940 and I'm really excited for it,

00:01:45.540 and you guys have given me lots of suggestions

00:01:47.480 about what you want to read

00:01:48.820 and what the format will look like,

00:01:50.940 and so I'm so excited about it.

00:01:53.420 So we're going to be talking

00:01:54.980 about a few different subjects today.

00:01:56.980 Now, those of you who listen to Relatable regularly

00:01:59.480 know that Monday is typically Theology Mondays,

00:02:02.240 and this is going to be a little bit different.

00:02:04.360 The reason for that is

00:02:05.400 I want to try a little bit of a different format.

00:02:08.960 So don't be disappointed,

00:02:10.260 those of you who really love Theology Mondays

00:02:12.780 the way that they are.

00:02:13.620 I know for some of you,

00:02:14.820 this is your favorite episode of the week,

00:02:17.660 but what I'm going to try to do,

00:02:20.960 a thing that I think is going to add more value

00:02:23.940 to your life and to your worldview three times a week

00:02:28.200 is if I integrate stories about what's going on.

00:02:32.340 So, you know, cultural trends, political stories,

00:02:36.680 the news, something that some Christian said on Instagram,

00:02:40.320 that's something we talk about a lot,

00:02:41.580 integrate it with what the Word of God

00:02:43.880 actually says about this

00:02:44.900 or just what the Christian worldview is

00:02:46.920 on a particular issue,

00:02:48.100 rather than splitting up,

00:02:50.100 okay, this is Bible Mondays, Theology Mondays,

00:02:52.620 this is News Wednesdays,

00:02:53.760 this is Interview Fridays.

00:02:54.960 We'll keep the interviews on Fridays,

00:02:56.540 but for the rest of the time,

00:02:57.920 I want to try to kind of intertwine these things.

00:03:00.560 Now, it might not work.

00:03:01.660 If you hate it, we can always go back.

00:03:03.760 The only people that truly determine 0.94

00:03:05.440 what this podcast talks about is you and me.

00:03:08.800 So if you don't like it,

00:03:10.180 if you want to go back to the,

00:03:12.500 you know, set in stone categories

00:03:15.440 or the more clean cut categories,

00:03:17.680 Monday, Wednesday, Friday,

00:03:18.860 we can do that.

00:03:19.420 That's totally fine.

00:03:20.260 But give it a few weeks,

00:03:21.780 see how you like it,

00:03:22.860 see how I do,

00:03:24.080 give me feedback,

00:03:25.180 send me Instagram messages

00:03:26.480 or send me an email

00:03:29.260 and we can talk about it

00:03:30.500 and we can rearrange this

00:03:31.900 however is best for you.

00:03:33.700 My goal is for this show

00:03:35.120 to add as much value to your life

00:03:36.960 as humanly possible.

00:03:38.820 That is my goal in 2020.

00:03:40.380 That is always my goal in Relatable.

00:03:42.520 Okay, today we're going to talk about

00:03:43.880 a few things with this new format.

00:03:45.860 We're going to talk about

00:03:46.480 President Trump at the March for Life

00:03:48.260 and some of the media coverage about that.

00:03:50.380 We're going to talk about this lie

00:03:52.220 that I've seen perpetuated,

00:03:53.800 whether it's in Christian circles or not.

00:03:55.660 And that is a lie that you can have it all.

00:03:58.720 We're going to talk about why leftism,

00:04:01.020 parts of leftism, of course,

00:04:02.460 maybe not all of it,

00:04:03.520 but leftism at its core,

00:04:05.660 fights so hard against family

00:04:07.000 and the children

00:04:07.740 and why I want to talk about that today,

00:04:09.740 I'll bring up.

00:04:10.700 And then we're going to talk about

00:04:11.400 Julianne Hough and demon worship,

00:04:13.780 crazy stuff that seems to be going on

00:04:15.960 in her life and on her Instagram.

00:04:18.060 Let us get in to today's podcast.

00:04:21.260 So President Trump was the first president ever,

00:04:25.200 the first president ever,

00:04:26.260 to speak at the March for Life.

00:04:28.560 And the media coverage of this

00:04:30.420 was pretty predictable.

00:04:32.080 Now, there were,

00:04:34.540 I would say there were some articles,

00:04:36.400 there were some outlets

00:04:37.440 that covered this pretty fairly.

00:04:39.740 But you see this phrase

00:04:41.860 that is meant as a pejorative

00:04:43.540 from the left,

00:04:45.260 which the majority of the media,

00:04:46.900 I think that we can acknowledge,

00:04:48.900 is on the left side of the political aisle.

00:04:50.800 They call it anti-abortion

00:04:52.360 or anti-choice.

00:04:54.000 And I know that they mean this

00:04:56.120 to be offensive.

00:04:57.260 They don't want to ascribe pro-life to us

00:04:59.440 because they repeat this trope

00:05:01.460 that has no grounding in reality whatsoever,

00:05:03.460 that we're not really pro-life,

00:05:05.900 that we're just pro-forced birth,

00:05:07.920 that we're just pro-babies inside the womb.

00:05:10.980 They say all of this terrible stuff

00:05:12.620 about us caring, about fetuses.

00:05:14.900 That's another word they use

00:05:16.140 to try to dehumanize babies inside the womb 0.99

00:05:18.320 as if it's not Latin for a little one.

00:05:20.680 They try to say that we're not really pro-life

00:05:22.400 because we don't care about babies born,

00:05:24.240 or we don't care about babies after they're born,

00:05:27.080 which, of course, isn't true.

00:05:28.660 If you look at any study

00:05:29.980 of who actually gives more to charity,

00:05:32.120 who actually spends more of their own resources

00:05:35.000 helping the poor and helping the least of these,

00:05:37.600 it is not, for the most part,

00:05:39.840 again, this isn't true of all Democrats,

00:05:41.920 but for the most part,

00:05:42.780 it's not the Democratic side.

00:05:44.180 It's not the left side.

00:05:45.340 It is not, by association,

00:05:47.100 the pro-choice side.

00:05:48.860 It is pro-lifers.

00:05:49.880 It is, for the most part,

00:05:51.620 Christian conservatives

00:05:52.440 that are running these pregnancy centers 0.99

00:05:54.740 in which they are providing

00:05:57.220 not just pregnancy tests or STI tests or sonograms,

00:06:02.700 but they're also offering free parenting classes

00:06:04.860 or affordable parenting classes.

00:06:06.740 They're helping women in crisis

00:06:08.160 get to some kind of refuge.

00:06:10.860 They try to save them from abusive situations.

00:06:14.060 I know pregnancy centers

00:06:15.120 that have helped women who are not citizens

00:06:18.400 get their citizenship status

00:06:20.580 or get a legal status

00:06:22.540 so they can actually remain in the United States.

00:06:25.220 Pregnancy centers,

00:06:26.140 who are not on the left side of the political aisle,

00:06:29.040 the people that these pro-choicers are saying only care,

00:06:32.280 those are the only people

00:06:33.100 that care about kids after they're born,

00:06:35.780 it is Christian conservatives,

00:06:37.700 mostly, definitely conservatives,

00:06:39.580 definitely pro-lifers

00:06:40.700 that are running these pregnancy centers 0.99

00:06:43.340 that are helping women, 0.62

00:06:45.100 not just their children,

00:06:46.120 but also women

00:06:47.000 and are helping people who are in poor,

00:06:49.340 who are in vulnerable communities.

00:06:51.120 And so it is just this lie.

00:06:52.920 It is just this myth

00:06:53.860 that all of these people marching

00:06:55.320 at the March for Life,

00:06:56.580 they only care about the children inside the womb. 0.99

00:06:58.500 They don't care about anyone outside of the womb. 0.94

00:07:00.460 That's just fundamentally untrue.

00:07:02.160 It's not backed by any fact,

00:07:04.100 any study whatsoever.

00:07:05.900 And I just praise the Lord

00:07:07.760 for all of these people

00:07:08.920 who marched the March for Life,

00:07:10.940 who, unlike the people at the Women's March,

00:07:13.380 aren't marching for their own self-interest.

00:07:15.240 Like all of these people,

00:07:16.960 all of the people marching

00:07:18.220 already survived abortion.

00:07:19.660 We already survived abortion.

00:07:21.240 So we're not marching for ourselves.

00:07:22.920 They're marching for those not yet born. 0.98

00:07:26.040 They're marching for women

00:07:27.440 who feel coerced

00:07:29.220 or who feel manipulated into abortion,

00:07:31.900 which by the way,

00:07:32.680 if you go listen to my interview

00:07:33.920 that I did with Abby Johnson,

00:07:35.420 that happens a lot

00:07:36.580 where women are manipulated into abortion 0.89

00:07:39.080 saying there's no way

00:07:39.940 you could raise a child and go to college.

00:07:41.560 Like there's no way

00:07:42.800 that you could raise a child

00:07:44.220 and chase your dreams

00:07:45.560 and do all the things you need to do.

00:07:47.120 You definitely just need

00:07:48.360 to not worry about this.

00:07:49.480 There's no way

00:07:50.100 you could raise a third child.

00:07:51.860 Women are given this kind of rhetoric 1.00

00:07:53.740 because abortion makes money 1.00

00:07:55.500 for Planned Parenthood.

00:07:56.980 And so all of the people

00:07:58.080 that are marching

00:07:58.820 in March for Life

00:08:00.400 or who marched,

00:08:01.420 they don't have any profit incentive.

00:08:03.140 They don't have any incentive

00:08:05.180 really for themselves.

00:08:06.560 They are doing it for someone else

00:08:08.400 who can't repay them

00:08:09.400 in any way, by the way.

00:08:10.760 If we want to talk about

00:08:11.760 the least of these,

00:08:12.440 if we want to talk about

00:08:13.240 the most vulnerable,

00:08:14.500 the most defenseless,

00:08:15.760 defenseless,

00:08:16.880 wow, defenseless class

00:08:18.860 of humans that exist,

00:08:20.360 we can talk about unborn children.

00:08:22.860 And so I got to go

00:08:23.620 to the March for Life last year

00:08:24.840 when I was pregnant.

00:08:25.840 I was with my mom.

00:08:27.660 I got to speak the night before

00:08:29.180 at an event for Save the Stork,

00:08:30.960 to Save the Stork Ball.

00:08:32.540 And that was wonderful.

00:08:34.000 And we got to March.

00:08:35.220 And this year,

00:08:36.460 I was actually supposed to,

00:08:37.960 I was supposed to be

00:08:40.780 at the March for Life

00:08:41.640 Youth Rally to speak.

00:08:42.980 And I was so excited about it.

00:08:44.560 I've been committed

00:08:45.180 to that for months.

00:08:46.620 And my whole family last week,

00:08:48.740 after we got back

00:08:49.780 from visiting my husband's family

00:08:51.460 in Georgia,

00:08:52.500 we came down

00:08:53.760 with a stomach bug.

00:08:54.940 So as you can imagine,

00:08:57.180 flying,

00:08:58.160 or we actually had to drive

00:08:59.740 to the airport two hours.

00:09:01.400 So my husband

00:09:02.340 got the stomach bug first.

00:09:03.540 I was feeling queasy.

00:09:04.780 My husband felt terrible.

00:09:06.980 So baby was okay.

00:09:08.640 We had to drive two hours.

00:09:10.440 We had to take all of our stuff.

00:09:11.700 And if you've ever traveled

00:09:12.640 with a baby,

00:09:13.340 as small as they are,

00:09:14.560 they got a ton of stuff.

00:09:16.020 They have so much stuff.

00:09:17.100 You've got your stroller.

00:09:18.160 You've got your car seat.

00:09:19.300 You've got a million bags.

00:09:20.720 Plus we were gone

00:09:21.540 for almost a week.

00:09:22.300 So we had a lot of stuff.

00:09:23.580 So we're going

00:09:24.300 through the airport,

00:09:25.420 sick, baby, bags,

00:09:27.400 all of this stuff.

00:09:28.520 And then I,

00:09:29.900 all of a sudden,

00:09:30.580 it just hits me.

00:09:31.640 And I'm like,

00:09:32.500 I have the stomach bug too.

00:09:33.680 I was praying

00:09:34.640 that my husband

00:09:35.240 had just eaten something.

00:09:36.380 So I get the stomach bug.

00:09:39.240 I don't want to go

00:09:39.900 into too many details

00:09:41.140 about all that,

00:09:42.800 but I'll just tell you,

00:09:43.920 I was sick.

00:09:45.100 Not just waiting

00:09:45.820 in the airport

00:09:46.280 for two hours,

00:09:47.080 but also on the plane,

00:09:49.160 middle seat,

00:09:50.200 not a good experience,

00:09:51.960 carrying a baby

00:09:52.980 who,

00:09:53.660 babies don't really like 0.91

00:09:54.500 being on the plane.

00:09:55.340 Praise God,

00:09:56.080 she actually slapped 0.99

00:09:56.980 for a lot of the flight.

00:09:59.160 So that was terrible.

00:10:00.280 And then we were just praying.

00:10:01.460 We were like,

00:10:01.820 okay,

00:10:02.540 you know,

00:10:02.740 I pray that she doesn't get it,

00:10:05.100 that the baby doesn't get sick

00:10:07.160 because she hasn't been sick.

00:10:09.280 And I was like,

00:10:10.240 you know,

00:10:10.600 she's strong immune system. 1.00

00:10:11.680 It'll be fine.

00:10:12.780 Unfortunately,

00:10:13.820 baby also came down

00:10:15.140 with the stomach virus

00:10:16.500 and that was terrible.

00:10:18.720 We are all good.

00:10:19.440 We are all totally fine now.

00:10:21.060 We've been fine for several days.

00:10:23.240 But the reason why I didn't go

00:10:25.180 is because she was still on the mend. 1.00

00:10:27.420 She had had a fever

00:10:28.480 and there was just no way,

00:10:31.780 it didn't make any sense to me

00:10:33.040 to leave my baby,

00:10:36.300 to go to a pro-life rally,

00:10:38.600 to speak even though

00:10:39.380 it was something

00:10:39.880 that I had been committed to,

00:10:41.400 but to leave my own family

00:10:42.700 and to leave my own child

00:10:43.720 to go talk about vulnerable babies,

00:10:45.400 it didn't make any sense to me.

00:10:47.320 And plus,

00:10:47.680 I wanted to stay with her

00:10:49.980 and I find it to be a privilege

00:10:52.440 and something that I am

00:10:54.480 extremely grateful to get to do

00:10:56.100 that I got to stay home

00:10:57.220 and to take care of her.

00:10:59.780 Yes, of course,

00:11:00.640 I believe in honoring commitments

00:11:01.960 that we make

00:11:02.940 no matter what realm they are,

00:11:05.080 personal or professional,

00:11:06.140 but I made the commitment

00:11:07.220 to be her mom

00:11:08.120 far before I made any commitment

00:11:09.440 to speak anywhere

00:11:10.220 and it's far more important.

00:11:12.480 So I was sad

00:11:13.280 that I didn't get to be there,

00:11:14.760 but I also was thanking God

00:11:18.320 for the privilege,

00:11:19.120 for the ability

00:11:19.720 to be able to stay home

00:11:21.120 and to take care of her.

00:11:23.700 And I also praise God

00:11:24.680 that we are all better now.

00:11:27.040 And that everyone is all good.

00:11:29.600 I am very thankful

00:11:30.780 for our immune systems.

00:11:33.240 We didn't have to,

00:11:33.860 you know,

00:11:34.120 take any medicine

00:11:34.840 or anything like that.

00:11:36.880 I am thankful

00:11:37.520 for pediatricians.

00:11:38.780 I am thankful

00:11:39.460 for all of these gifts

00:11:40.960 of common grace.

00:11:41.900 And thank you

00:11:42.300 to all of you who prayed.

00:11:43.600 I posted on Instagram

00:11:44.920 asking for prayer requests.

00:11:47.100 But I am also praying for,

00:11:49.540 I'm also praying for all of you

00:11:50.740 who have sick kids

00:11:51.880 and who are sick yourselves. 0.94

00:11:53.340 Like,

00:11:53.700 I kind of feel like

00:11:54.520 it was a rite of passage

00:11:55.720 into parenthood

00:11:56.440 that I took care

00:11:57.620 of a sick baby

00:11:58.260 like while I was also sick.

00:12:01.680 It was just like,

00:12:02.700 yeah,

00:12:03.040 this is,

00:12:03.700 this is what,

00:12:04.660 this is what motherhood is. 0.97

00:12:05.980 You really don't get a break.

00:12:07.120 And it's beautiful.

00:12:08.180 It's hard

00:12:09.080 and it's awesome.

00:12:10.180 And I'm praying

00:12:11.180 for all of you

00:12:11.820 who have babies

00:12:12.460 who have RSV,

00:12:13.880 who have the flu.

00:12:15.160 It's just going around this year.

00:12:17.320 Maybe it's every year,

00:12:18.400 but it's really difficult.

00:12:19.900 And I might not even know

00:12:21.520 the extent of it.

00:12:22.200 Some of you have babies

00:12:22.940 in the hospital

00:12:23.620 and gosh,

00:12:24.220 I'm just so,

00:12:25.220 I'm so sorry

00:12:25.800 that you're going through that.

00:12:26.640 And I really,

00:12:27.340 I actually did.

00:12:28.600 I'm not just saying

00:12:29.380 I'm praying for you.

00:12:30.120 Like I took time last night

00:12:31.380 and I just laid there

00:12:32.380 and was like,

00:12:33.360 God,

00:12:33.740 please be with all of the moms

00:12:35.160 and the dads

00:12:35.860 whose babies are suffering right now

00:12:38.500 and who are sick

00:12:39.420 and the anxiety

00:12:40.120 and the fear

00:12:40.700 that comes with all of that.

00:12:41.720 But I just want you to know

00:12:42.640 in all of that,

00:12:43.980 that if you weren't able

00:12:44.780 to march for life

00:12:46.580 over the weekend,

00:12:47.160 if you weren't able

00:12:47.840 to do any activism,

00:12:48.840 if you weren't able

00:12:49.800 to go anywhere

00:12:50.640 and to show your support

00:12:53.480 in some kind of public

00:12:54.900 or tangible way

00:12:55.880 for vulnerable babies

00:12:58.140 because you were at home

00:12:59.320 taking care of your own babies,

00:13:00.980 like that is pro-life work.

00:13:02.820 That is a pro-life cause.

00:13:05.140 And that is your calling.

00:13:06.500 That is my calling

00:13:07.300 to be a wife and a mom.

00:13:08.640 That is my calling.

00:13:09.760 That is your calling

00:13:10.920 if you are a wife and a mom.

00:13:12.700 This whole like new agey,

00:13:15.260 weird, glorified,

00:13:17.260 narcissistic thing 0.51

00:13:18.280 that you need to find

00:13:19.480 your identity

00:13:20.160 and you need to find yourself

00:13:21.760 outside of being a wife

00:13:23.340 and a mom

00:13:23.820 in order to have any confidence

00:13:25.800 or to be worthy

00:13:27.020 or to be, you know,

00:13:28.680 a substantive part of society.

00:13:30.460 It's all a lie.

00:13:31.420 It's not biblical at all.

00:13:33.000 And I'm very thankful

00:13:34.500 for those of you

00:13:35.240 who respond to the calling

00:13:36.580 who of being a mom and a wife.

00:13:38.380 If you are a mom and a wife,

00:13:39.800 I'm very thankful

00:13:40.540 for those of you

00:13:41.160 who do that well.

00:13:42.640 And I'm thankful

00:13:43.040 for the grace of God

00:13:43.960 that allows us to do that.

00:13:45.860 Those of us

00:13:46.360 who are in that position.

00:13:47.560 Let me loop back

00:13:48.500 really fast though

00:13:49.340 to the actual March for Life

00:13:50.840 because I do want to play you

00:13:52.440 a little bit

00:13:53.400 of President Trump's speech.

00:13:56.560 But we know this.

00:13:58.360 Every life brings love

00:14:00.400 into this world.

00:14:01.720 Every child brings joy

00:14:03.860 to a family.

00:14:05.280 Every person

00:14:06.240 is worth protecting.

00:14:08.060 And above all,

00:14:09.820 we know

00:14:10.660 that every human soul

00:14:12.720 is divine

00:14:13.500 and every human life

00:14:15.060 born and unborn

00:14:16.540 is made

00:14:17.800 in the holy image

00:14:19.180 of almighty God.

00:14:20.660 That was awesome.

00:14:22.160 Like I said,

00:14:22.600 he was the first

00:14:23.820 president ever

00:14:25.320 to speak

00:14:27.200 of the March for Life,

00:14:28.120 which is kind of crazy.

00:14:29.080 I mean,

00:14:29.300 it's been going on

00:14:30.460 since I believe 1974.

00:14:31.680 So the year after

00:14:32.700 Roe v. Wade

00:14:33.560 and no president

00:14:34.260 has ever spoken there,

00:14:35.360 including Ronald Reagan.

00:14:37.500 You guys know

00:14:37.960 I love Ronald Reagan.

00:14:39.340 Favorite president.

00:14:39.920 Someone who I believe

00:14:41.040 was at the core

00:14:42.520 of who he was

00:14:43.860 pro-life.

00:14:44.520 Like he was actually

00:14:45.140 ideologically pro-life,

00:14:46.560 whereas President Trump

00:14:47.960 several years ago

00:14:48.860 said he was pro-choice

00:14:50.280 and maybe he has genuinely

00:14:51.280 switched his position,

00:14:52.360 which is awesome.

00:14:53.420 But as far as policy goes,

00:14:55.140 Trump's administration

00:14:55.800 has been extremely pro-life

00:14:57.520 and that's one reason,

00:14:59.460 a major reason,

00:15:00.760 if not the main reason

00:15:02.860 why evangelicals support him

00:15:04.480 despite all of his

00:15:06.480 bad habits and hang-ups

00:15:08.160 and the things he says

00:15:09.920 on Twitter,

00:15:10.580 his lack of decorum,

00:15:11.720 some things that we wish

00:15:12.680 that he didn't say or do

00:15:13.720 that is huge

00:15:15.080 is being for the babies

00:15:17.640 inside of the womb.

00:15:18.800 There is just not going

00:15:20.200 to be an evangelical Christian

00:15:22.820 who is,

00:15:24.360 I mean,

00:15:24.660 for the most part,

00:15:25.780 who is going to vote

00:15:27.560 for someone who is

00:15:28.720 for the slaughter

00:15:29.620 of babies inside the womb,

00:15:30.920 especially the current

00:15:31.720 Democratic Party

00:15:32.640 who supports virtually

00:15:34.100 no regulation

00:15:35.060 on abortion at all.

00:15:36.120 So we're talking about,

00:15:37.020 I mean,

00:15:37.640 sometimes I just have to,

00:15:39.700 it just strikes me

00:15:41.140 what we're talking about.

00:15:42.480 Like,

00:15:42.820 it's kind of crazy

00:15:43.720 when you just sit there

00:15:44.860 for a second

00:15:45.300 and you're saying,

00:15:45.860 okay,

00:15:46.120 wait,

00:15:46.820 we're actually talking

00:15:48.040 about this

00:15:48.580 as if it's a policy debate,

00:15:50.700 whether or not 1.00

00:15:51.620 it's okay to kill a baby 0.97

00:15:53.160 at nine months gestation 0.85

00:15:54.720 anytime is wrong,

00:15:56.460 but we're talking about

00:15:57.860 a living,

00:15:59.240 moving,

00:16:00.500 kicking,

00:16:01.360 feeling baby

00:16:02.680 that could survive

00:16:03.520 outside the womb

00:16:04.280 like there are actually

00:16:05.280 people who believe

00:16:06.620 ideologically

00:16:07.480 that that's okay.

00:16:09.400 It's crazy that we're

00:16:10.380 even having that debate

00:16:11.480 when you sit back

00:16:12.260 and actually think about it.

00:16:13.420 This is not just

00:16:13.920 a clump of cells,

00:16:14.640 like this is a human being,

00:16:16.120 this is a baby.

00:16:17.640 It's crazy that we

00:16:19.120 are even going there,

00:16:20.760 but no evangelical Christian

00:16:22.540 is going to be on board

00:16:24.240 with a party

00:16:24.800 or a candidate

00:16:25.620 who represents that party

00:16:27.080 who is okay with that.

00:16:28.660 And so President Trump

00:16:29.480 being the only president

00:16:30.960 who has ever spoken

00:16:32.040 at this event

00:16:33.720 really is,

00:16:34.800 it really is a big deal,

00:16:35.920 but it's not just

00:16:36.800 speaking at this event

00:16:39.120 that is a big deal.

00:16:39.920 He has also done things

00:16:41.060 policy-wise

00:16:41.880 in the way

00:16:43.280 of the pro-life cause

00:16:44.340 that are very good.

00:16:45.440 Now,

00:16:45.740 did Congress

00:16:46.220 just pass a spending bill

00:16:47.320 that still funds

00:16:48.540 Planned Parenthood,

00:16:49.360 the largest abortion mill

00:16:50.400 in the nation?

00:16:51.400 Yes,

00:16:51.800 they did,

00:16:52.400 which is a problem.

00:16:53.500 But remember

00:16:54.380 that the Trump administration

00:16:55.380 also did something

00:16:56.540 pretty amazing.

00:16:57.900 I covered this on

00:16:58.700 episode 154 of Relatable

00:17:00.960 if you want to listen

00:17:01.720 to this explanation in full.

00:17:04.060 But they also did something,

00:17:06.040 like I said,

00:17:06.680 last year that hurt

00:17:08.000 Planned Parenthood.

00:17:08.920 They made a rule

00:17:09.540 that said health facilities

00:17:10.660 have to physically

00:17:11.360 and financially

00:17:12.480 completely separate

00:17:13.460 abortion services

00:17:14.360 from the rest of their services

00:17:15.980 in order to receive

00:17:17.040 Title X funds.

00:17:18.540 Planned Parenthood

00:17:19.160 refused to do so

00:17:20.640 forgoing more than

00:17:22.300 $60 million.

00:17:23.800 The administration

00:17:24.440 also said

00:17:25.540 that Planned Parenthood

00:17:26.280 or any healthcare provider

00:17:29.120 or any healthcare facility

00:17:32.140 cannot expressly

00:17:33.560 recommend abortion. 0.90

00:17:35.160 They can offer it.

00:17:36.380 They can say

00:17:37.040 that abortion exists

00:17:38.080 as an option,

00:17:38.720 but they can't say

00:17:39.380 you should get an abortion. 1.00

00:17:41.820 And Planned Parenthood

00:17:42.620 calls this a gag rule.

00:17:43.980 It's not a gag rule.

00:17:45.020 Like I said,

00:17:45.500 you can listen

00:17:45.980 to the explanation

00:17:46.820 for that on episode 154,

00:17:48.940 but that's a really big deal.

00:17:50.260 That was their way

00:17:51.160 of trying to cut funding

00:17:52.240 in a way

00:17:52.980 from Planned Parenthood

00:17:54.320 instead of going

00:17:56.760 through the spending bill,

00:17:58.340 which obviously

00:17:58.940 is something that failed

00:18:00.180 and like I said,

00:18:01.300 is a problem.

00:18:02.260 They have also,

00:18:03.320 the Trump administration

00:18:03.920 has also done

00:18:04.680 other things

00:18:05.420 to help unborn babies

00:18:06.500 and to find that information,

00:18:08.400 all you have to do

00:18:08.980 is to look at

00:18:09.940 Planned Parenthood's

00:18:10.820 own website.

00:18:12.060 So here's what

00:18:12.680 the Trump administration

00:18:13.340 has done

00:18:13.920 that is so egregious

00:18:14.980 to Planned Parenthood.

00:18:15.960 And if it's egregious

00:18:16.800 to Planned Parenthood,

00:18:17.740 then it is godly

00:18:18.700 and righteous and good.

00:18:20.240 He has nominated

00:18:21.720 more than 150 federal judges,

00:18:23.400 nominating, of course,

00:18:24.580 two Supreme Court justices,

00:18:26.380 changes to Title 10,

00:18:27.640 which we just talked about,

00:18:28.940 expanded the Mexico City policy,

00:18:30.880 which says

00:18:31.320 foreign organizations

00:18:32.460 receiving U.S. health assistance

00:18:34.100 can't make abortion referrals, 1.00

00:18:36.460 a Department of Health

00:18:37.120 and Human Services

00:18:38.000 strategic plan

00:18:39.360 sets forth,

00:18:40.680 that is something

00:18:41.120 that sets forth policy goals

00:18:42.640 until 2022,

00:18:44.960 explicitly defines life

00:18:46.420 as starting at conception.

00:18:47.680 And I think it's so funny

00:18:48.560 that Planned Parenthood

00:18:50.040 includes that as like,

00:18:51.300 oh no, science.

00:18:52.660 So praise God,

00:18:54.280 praise God

00:18:55.080 for the Trump administration.

00:18:56.800 And yes,

00:18:57.940 Trump, of course, 0.96

00:18:58.820 is flawed. 0.60

00:18:59.360 I've talked about that

00:19:00.100 several times on this podcast.

00:19:01.560 I know some of you

00:19:02.140 don't like when I bring that up

00:19:03.780 and some of you

00:19:04.420 are on the opposite end.

00:19:05.380 You think I don't bring it up enough.

00:19:07.260 But yes,

00:19:08.020 of course,

00:19:08.480 Trump has his flaws

00:19:09.860 and there are people who say,

00:19:11.600 how can you support this person

00:19:12.840 who is so ungodly?

00:19:13.740 Well, it's not even really

00:19:14.600 supporting Trump,

00:19:15.420 at least not for me.

00:19:16.660 It's supporting his administration

00:19:17.900 and what they've been able

00:19:18.820 to accomplish,

00:19:19.580 which is not just

00:19:20.320 in the way of,

00:19:21.220 you know,

00:19:21.440 pro-life,

00:19:22.160 but they've accomplished

00:19:23.120 a lot of good things

00:19:24.040 that we've talked about

00:19:24.660 on this podcast.

00:19:25.200 And I think

00:19:26.100 that it's something

00:19:27.420 that we should celebrate

00:19:28.360 when there are celebrations

00:19:29.540 to be had.

00:19:30.220 So praise God

00:19:30.920 for the Trump administration

00:19:32.520 to advocacy on this issue,

00:19:34.000 for how they thought

00:19:34.700 on this issue.

00:19:35.220 And I pray,

00:19:35.780 I truly pray

00:19:36.860 that they continue to do so.

00:19:38.820 We've talked about before,

00:19:40.260 abortion breaks God's heart.

00:19:41.980 That's just the end of the story.

00:19:43.520 Of course,

00:19:43.940 it breaks God's heart.

00:19:44.900 Now,

00:19:45.080 some people are going to say,

00:19:46.060 well,

00:19:46.540 so does rape,

00:19:47.660 so does incest.

00:19:48.420 Yes,

00:19:48.800 it does.

00:19:49.680 But so does abortion.

00:19:51.000 It doesn't negate.

00:19:52.180 One doesn't negate the other.

00:19:53.920 I've done several podcasts on this.

00:19:55.620 I'll list them

00:19:56.300 in case you guys

00:19:57.160 want to go back

00:19:58.140 and listen to them.

00:19:59.600 One is titled

00:20:00.640 Abortion Ain't Biblical. 0.94

00:20:02.120 Another is titled

00:20:02.880 Just Abortion, 1.00

00:20:03.880 where we go through

00:20:04.580 the entire issue.

00:20:06.040 Another is titled

00:20:06.700 Calling Evil Good.

00:20:08.300 Another is an interview

00:20:09.340 that I did

00:20:10.020 with my friend

00:20:10.600 Virgil Walker,

00:20:11.520 who also hosts

00:20:12.140 the podcast

00:20:12.680 Just Thinking,

00:20:13.920 where we talk about

00:20:14.680 what you can actually do

00:20:15.820 in the fight

00:20:16.240 against abortion.

00:20:17.300 I have also interviewed

00:20:18.240 Abby Johnson.

00:20:19.060 As I said earlier,

00:20:20.060 I interviewed her

00:20:20.940 a few weeks ago.

00:20:22.260 And then the most

00:20:22.820 listened to episode

00:20:23.680 of Relatable

00:20:24.320 ever in Relatables

00:20:25.880 existence

00:20:26.400 is titled

00:20:27.060 My Pro-Life

00:20:28.240 Fight Against

00:20:29.060 or in Congress,

00:20:30.100 where I recapped

00:20:32.100 the congressional hearing

00:20:33.180 in which I was called

00:20:34.040 to be a witness

00:20:35.080 regarding abortion

00:20:36.040 legislation.

00:20:37.280 I highly recommend,

00:20:38.520 if I do say so myself,

00:20:39.800 all of these episodes

00:20:40.960 to equip you

00:20:42.260 with knowledge

00:20:42.840 on scientifically

00:20:43.660 what an abortion is, 1.00

00:20:45.140 why biblically

00:20:46.300 and morally

00:20:47.080 it is wrong

00:20:48.420 legislatively

00:20:49.540 what has been done

00:20:50.480 and can be done,

00:20:51.760 all of these episodes

00:20:53.060 will make you feel

00:20:53.860 outraged,

00:20:54.620 they will make you

00:20:55.020 feel sad,

00:20:55.660 but they should also

00:20:56.340 make you feel

00:20:56.960 hopeful and equipped.

00:20:58.320 That is my goal.

00:21:00.600 We know from Psalm 139

00:21:02.280 that God takes care

00:21:03.700 to create all of us

00:21:04.740 inside of our mother's wombs,

00:21:05.940 that he knits us together

00:21:07.080 with attention to detail.

00:21:10.220 We know from the creation account

00:21:11.840 that human beings

00:21:12.560 are uniquely made

00:21:13.580 in the image of God.

00:21:14.400 We have souls

00:21:15.060 that live forever.

00:21:16.460 We are set apart

00:21:17.160 from animals and plants

00:21:18.380 because of this.

00:21:19.600 We are uniquely included

00:21:21.020 in his plan of redemption.

00:21:22.900 We know from Jesus' life

00:21:24.200 and words that God cares

00:21:25.460 for the least of these.

00:21:26.440 We know that Jesus

00:21:27.080 specifically cares

00:21:28.760 for children.

00:21:29.980 He cares for the vulnerable.

00:21:31.340 He cares for the defenseless.

00:21:32.780 And as we have stated

00:21:33.520 many times,

00:21:34.460 there really is no

00:21:35.620 more vulnerable

00:21:36.980 or defenseless

00:21:38.060 than an unborn child.

00:21:40.140 Fighting for unborn children

00:21:41.360 is a great way

00:21:42.480 to seek justice,

00:21:43.920 to love mercy,

00:21:44.740 and to walk humbly with God.

00:21:46.380 It's not the only way

00:21:47.360 to do that,

00:21:47.900 but it is a great way

00:21:49.160 to do that.

00:21:50.560 Okay,

00:21:51.400 that is the March for Life

00:21:53.860 and we're going to move on

00:21:55.660 to this second thing

00:21:57.080 that I want to discuss

00:21:58.220 that really I was supposed

00:21:59.280 to intertwine

00:21:59.880 a little bit better,

00:22:00.900 but I kind of went out of order

00:22:02.400 when I talked about

00:22:03.240 our family having a stomach bug.

00:22:05.340 So I'm going to have to

00:22:06.520 kind of like do a call back

00:22:08.400 and then I'm going

00:22:09.240 to link it together.

00:22:10.200 So like I said,

00:22:11.940 the reason that I didn't go

00:22:13.360 to the March for Life

00:22:14.460 youth rally

00:22:15.220 was because we were hit

00:22:16.880 with the stomach bug

00:22:18.360 and we're all better

00:22:20.360 and I took care of my baby

00:22:22.000 which was a privilege

00:22:23.020 to be able to do,

00:22:24.620 but I saw,

00:22:25.760 so the reason why

00:22:26.660 I thought about this idea

00:22:28.480 that you can have it all

00:22:29.660 or you can do everything

00:22:30.660 or that you don't have to choose,

00:22:32.600 that's a really big thing.

00:22:33.720 It's been a big thing

00:22:34.400 for a long time,

00:22:35.160 but especially nowadays

00:22:36.600 and it's kind of like wedded

00:22:38.360 and conservative thought

00:22:40.060 of wanting to have a family

00:22:42.240 and progressive thought

00:22:43.680 of women have to go out 1.00

00:22:45.800 and have a full-time job

00:22:48.060 in order to be valuable

00:22:49.240 and so those two ideas

00:22:51.420 have kind of come together

00:22:52.440 into this pseudo-feminist, 0.62

00:22:55.180 pseudo-conservative idea

00:22:56.660 that you can have it all,

00:22:58.400 that you can do everything,

00:22:59.780 that you don't have to choose

00:23:00.740 between family and a job,

00:23:02.340 which in some ways is true.

00:23:05.780 Of course, it is possible

00:23:07.240 for women to be able 1.00

00:23:08.640 to balance work

00:23:09.960 that they have to do

00:23:11.060 with their,

00:23:12.580 what I believe,

00:23:13.300 if you are a wife and a mom,

00:23:14.780 your true and higher calling

00:23:16.340 to be a wife and a mom.

00:23:18.800 Balance is necessary

00:23:20.120 and balance is possible

00:23:22.000 as long as your job

00:23:23.860 isn't taking you away

00:23:25.000 from your primary role

00:23:26.500 if you are a wife and a mom,

00:23:28.520 but this idea

00:23:29.300 that you can have it all.

00:23:30.300 So this is why I thought about this

00:23:32.080 because Kim Kardashian

00:23:33.100 posted this picture

00:23:34.120 of her and her beautiful,

00:23:36.720 gorgeous family

00:23:37.460 eating breakfast

00:23:38.820 and it said like Monday Madness

00:23:40.320 or something like that.

00:23:41.060 and she makes it look like

00:23:44.580 you really can have everything.

00:23:46.580 Like you can have this

00:23:47.740 awesome, wonderful family.

00:23:49.160 Like you can have four kids,

00:23:50.400 you can be a mom

00:23:51.160 and you can also be on the cover

00:23:52.440 of every magazine,

00:23:53.280 millions of followers

00:23:54.120 and travel as much as she does,

00:23:56.220 go to as many parties as she does,

00:23:57.980 have as many photo shoots

00:23:59.180 as she does.

00:24:00.440 One, I think logistically,

00:24:01.900 we all know that most of us

00:24:03.180 are not as rich as Kim Kardashian,

00:24:05.100 so we don't have as much actual help

00:24:06.900 as Kim Kardashian does.

00:24:07.940 She has lots and lots of help

00:24:09.540 that most of us cannot afford

00:24:11.040 and would not, you know,

00:24:12.640 purchase even if we had the money.

00:24:14.860 So that's just one logistical thing

00:24:16.680 of why it's unrealistic

00:24:17.620 to look at that person's life

00:24:19.020 and to say,

00:24:19.500 oh, we can do everything that she can.

00:24:21.720 But also it's not possible.

00:24:23.960 It is not possible

00:24:25.200 to be a full-time mom

00:24:26.940 and to work full-time.

00:24:28.340 Like something's just got to give.

00:24:30.320 I've realized that in my own life.

00:24:31.760 I have taken a huge,

00:24:34.060 multiple big steps back from my job

00:24:36.960 while still fulfilling

00:24:38.180 the responsibilities that I have

00:24:40.480 to the commitment

00:24:41.080 that I have made to work

00:24:42.600 and I love this job.

00:24:43.840 Like I love doing this podcast

00:24:45.440 and I get to do it

00:24:46.460 and I get to do it from home.

00:24:48.580 So that's awesome

00:24:49.540 and I am totally privileged

00:24:51.420 to be able to do that

00:24:52.280 and I am so glad.

00:24:53.400 But there have been so many things

00:24:55.420 that I have said no to

00:24:57.540 that I've decided not to do.

00:24:59.560 The part of my brain

00:25:00.980 that used to fear

00:25:02.360 missing out on things

00:25:03.760 has just died.

00:25:04.720 It's just gone away.

00:25:05.640 I don't even know where it is

00:25:07.340 and when I think about it,

00:25:09.000 the fear of missing out

00:25:09.700 is really ungodly anyway

00:25:11.440 no matter what stage of life

00:25:12.620 that you're in

00:25:13.200 because you're not trusting

00:25:14.000 in God's sovereignty.

00:25:15.240 You're not trusting

00:25:15.700 in God's control over your life.

00:25:17.080 You're not trusting

00:25:17.600 that God knows better.

00:25:19.000 You are anxious

00:25:19.820 and thinking erroneously

00:25:21.680 that you are in control.

00:25:23.780 So God thankfully

00:25:24.640 has used motherhood

00:25:25.920 to show me what's important

00:25:27.900 and to show me

00:25:29.540 that I don't constantly

00:25:30.640 have to be worried

00:25:31.960 about what opportunities

00:25:33.000 that I don't have,

00:25:34.340 that other people have,

00:25:35.640 because I am constantly

00:25:38.320 reminded by him

00:25:39.800 of what is important

00:25:41.300 and I've realized

00:25:42.120 I cannot do it all.

00:25:43.560 I can't.

00:25:44.320 And it goes back to

00:25:45.260 the title of my book

00:25:46.800 and the theme

00:25:47.340 that we talk about so much,

00:25:48.720 this lie that Christian women, 1.00

00:25:50.400 that secular women 0.99

00:25:51.100 are told that you are enough.

00:25:53.400 No, you're not enough.

00:25:54.780 You're not enough.

00:25:55.780 You are not enough.

00:25:56.680 You don't have

00:25:57.340 all the capabilities

00:25:58.060 to be a good mom,

00:26:00.020 to be a solid worker,

00:26:01.880 to be a perfect wife,

00:26:03.380 to be all the things

00:26:04.280 that you have to be.

00:26:05.280 As a woman,

00:26:05.980 you've got a million

00:26:06.700 different roles

00:26:07.300 that you have to fill

00:26:07.940 in your life

00:26:08.360 and you don't have

00:26:09.200 the capacity,

00:26:10.060 you don't have the talent,

00:26:11.000 you don't have the ability,

00:26:12.080 you don't have the know-how

00:26:13.080 to do all of it

00:26:14.040 and neither do I

00:26:14.860 and that is amazing.

00:26:16.020 That's why 2 Corinthians 12, 9,

00:26:18.160 or that's not why,

00:26:19.500 but that's why we can

00:26:20.720 find solace

00:26:21.940 in 2 Corinthians 12, 9,

00:26:23.820 that God's power

00:26:24.700 is perfected

00:26:25.640 in our weakness.

00:26:26.760 God made us fallible.

00:26:27.980 God made us weak.

00:26:29.860 God made us needy.

00:26:31.360 God made us incomplete.

00:26:33.320 God made us to need a Sabbath. 0.98

00:26:34.860 God made us to need sleep.

00:26:36.260 God made us to need other people.

00:26:38.080 God made us most importantly

00:26:39.480 and most fundamentally

00:26:40.360 to need Him.

00:26:42.100 And so,

00:26:42.680 no, you are not enough

00:26:43.820 and that's okay

00:26:44.820 because God is enough.

00:26:47.240 That is from whom

00:26:48.660 we find our sufficiency

00:26:49.980 and that is why

00:26:50.860 we talk so much about

00:26:51.860 the problem with self-care

00:26:54.760 and self-love

00:26:55.460 and all of these things.

00:26:56.340 Is it because you're supposed

00:26:57.460 to hate yourself?

00:26:58.520 Is it because you're supposed

00:26:59.500 to never get your nails done?

00:27:00.740 No.

00:27:01.180 That's not why self-love

00:27:02.380 and self-care

00:27:02.920 in that whole world is wrong.

00:27:04.520 The reason

00:27:05.200 why all of that stuff

00:27:06.600 is faulty

00:27:07.220 is because

00:27:08.100 it doesn't show you

00:27:09.660 the source of satisfaction.

00:27:12.160 Does it bring you

00:27:12.740 to the well

00:27:13.200 that never runs dry,

00:27:14.240 never brings you

00:27:14.940 to the bread of life

00:27:16.300 which satisfies forever?

00:27:17.740 It goes to you

00:27:18.760 to care for yourself.

00:27:19.960 It goes to you

00:27:20.700 to love yourself

00:27:21.560 and you can't find

00:27:23.020 the love and the care

00:27:23.960 that you need

00:27:24.640 inside yourself.

00:27:25.800 You just can't.

00:27:27.380 And so that's something

00:27:28.280 that I was very much

00:27:29.840 reminded of

00:27:30.620 as I was sick myself

00:27:32.280 trying to care

00:27:33.180 for my sick child

00:27:35.360 and coming to the end

00:27:36.840 of myself

00:27:37.520 and realizing

00:27:38.780 that no amount

00:27:39.500 of self-love,

00:27:40.420 no amount of self-care,

00:27:41.820 no amount of

00:27:43.760 self-empowering mantras

00:27:45.580 or whatever it is

00:27:46.780 is ever going

00:27:49.520 to give me enough energy

00:27:51.780 or give me the capacity

00:27:53.440 to be able

00:27:54.240 to fulfill the roles

00:27:55.620 that I need.

00:27:56.700 I had to say no

00:27:57.900 to not just one

00:27:59.100 but two prior commitments

00:28:00.960 that I had

00:28:01.760 for work

00:28:02.880 and say,

00:28:03.680 you know,

00:28:04.220 there's just no way

00:28:05.560 that I'm going

00:28:05.980 to be able to do that

00:28:06.660 and I have said no

00:28:08.240 many, many times

00:28:09.840 professionally

00:28:10.540 over the past few months

00:28:11.540 and it truly is.

00:28:13.180 It's my joy to do it.

00:28:14.820 I'm going to say no

00:28:15.600 a million more times

00:28:16.980 and realize that

00:28:17.780 that's just,

00:28:18.420 you know,

00:28:18.780 my season of life.

00:28:20.340 It's just my season

00:28:21.060 of life right now

00:28:21.780 and really,

00:28:22.240 like I said,

00:28:23.200 my true calling

00:28:25.180 and everything else

00:28:26.200 just kind of

00:28:27.120 goes underneath it

00:28:28.180 and I'm learning that

00:28:29.100 and God has given me

00:28:30.100 the grace to learn that

00:28:30.980 and I pray that he gives you

00:28:32.000 the grace to learn that too.

00:28:33.440 It's very difficult

00:28:34.100 in a world that says

00:28:35.060 not just that you

00:28:35.980 can have it all

00:28:36.860 but that you have

00:28:37.760 to have it all

00:28:38.380 in order to be fulfilled.

00:28:39.900 That you have to have

00:28:41.280 all the things

00:28:42.260 that you have to be enough

00:28:43.480 all the time

00:28:44.760 that you have to love yourself

00:28:45.920 and care for yourself enough

00:28:47.080 and find yourself enough

00:28:48.040 and empower yourself enough

00:28:49.220 and be enough

00:28:50.820 in order to be fully satisfied

00:28:53.080 and be fully fulfilled

00:28:54.580 and as rejuvenating,

00:28:59.520 I guess,

00:29:00.000 as that might sound,

00:29:00.960 it's actually very tiring

00:29:02.500 to try to muster

00:29:04.340 all of the strength

00:29:05.040 inside yourself

00:29:06.020 to be all those things.

00:29:07.900 You just don't have it.

00:29:09.280 That's why Jesus says

00:29:10.180 his yoke is easy

00:29:11.280 and his burden is light

00:29:12.320 because he calls us

00:29:13.740 to deny ourselves,

00:29:14.960 to take up our cross

00:29:15.660 and to follow him,

00:29:17.200 which is difficult.

00:29:18.760 Yes, that's why he asks us

00:29:19.880 to count the cost

00:29:21.320 of discipleship,

00:29:22.480 but also it is liberating

00:29:24.180 and it is freeing

00:29:25.120 and knowing that

00:29:26.260 our lives are not up to us

00:29:28.300 but up to him

00:29:29.080 and that we are free

00:29:30.380 to be weak

00:29:31.220 because he is our strength.

00:29:34.100 So that is just something

00:29:35.560 that I was reminded of

00:29:36.700 when I was looking

00:29:37.520 at that Kim Kardashian

00:29:38.640 Instagram picture.

00:29:41.060 It makes it seem like

00:29:42.240 you can have it all.

00:29:43.120 You can't have it all.

00:29:44.280 Something's always got to give

00:29:45.460 and I learned that

00:29:46.500 very tangibly this week

00:29:48.580 and I'm thankful for it.

00:29:50.540 I'm very,

00:29:51.020 I'm very thankful for it

00:29:52.280 and I pray that God

00:29:53.180 would continue

00:29:54.020 to make me thankful

00:29:54.880 for those things

00:29:55.480 because it's,

00:29:56.360 it's not fun

00:29:57.780 being stressed

00:29:59.200 and being sick

00:30:00.140 and all of those things.

00:30:02.240 Okay,

00:30:02.840 speaking in the same thing

00:30:04.460 of the self-love,

00:30:06.200 self-empowerment stuff,

00:30:07.240 I want to finally get to,

00:30:09.860 oh,

00:30:10.340 well,

00:30:10.540 I was actually going to talk

00:30:11.480 about something else

00:30:12.400 in between.

00:30:13.440 Hmm.

00:30:14.280 Okay,

00:30:14.680 well,

00:30:15.060 I don't have that much more time.

00:30:16.260 I want to talk about

00:30:16.980 this Julianne Hough thing.

00:30:18.240 I was going to talk about

00:30:19.160 leftism against the family,

00:30:20.920 but maybe I'll just save that

00:30:21.940 for Wednesday.

00:30:22.920 I really want to talk about

00:30:24.420 this Julianne Hough thing.

00:30:25.580 So Julianne Hough

00:30:27.000 has been on quite the journey

00:30:28.960 to discover herself,

00:30:31.740 it seems like,

00:30:33.060 for a while.

00:30:34.980 She was in Davos,

00:30:36.580 Switzerland,

00:30:38.020 you know,

00:30:38.660 at the economic summit

00:30:39.980 and she was doing something.

00:30:44.900 I don't even know

00:30:45.840 how to describe it.

00:30:47.080 She was doing the demonstration

00:30:48.140 with the doctor,

00:30:49.020 Dr. John Amaral,

00:30:50.780 and he is a,

00:30:51.600 quote,

00:30:51.780 body healing expert

00:30:53.580 and he is endorsed

00:30:54.960 by Gwyneth Paltrow,

00:30:57.880 you know,

00:30:58.140 the woman who just made 1.00

00:30:58.980 a candle that's supposed

00:31:00.180 to smell like her hoo-ha? 0.99

00:31:01.440 That woman? 1.00

00:31:02.520 Yes,

00:31:02.900 she apparently is the person

00:31:04.560 that we need to be looking to

00:31:05.940 for life advice.

00:31:08.000 Well,

00:31:08.560 she likes this guy,

00:31:09.640 Dr. John Amaral,

00:31:11.380 and Julianne Hough does too.

00:31:14.160 He said,

00:31:15.180 so this is what he said.

00:31:16.280 So I don't want to play the video

00:31:17.940 because it's disturbing,

00:31:19.620 honestly,

00:31:20.280 and there's no,

00:31:21.100 well,

00:31:21.500 maybe there is sound.

00:31:22.520 She's like screaming in it 0.99

00:31:23.840 and it's really weird,

00:31:24.760 but I don't think I want to,

00:31:26.140 I don't,

00:31:26.600 I don't want to put that

00:31:27.440 on my podcast.

00:31:28.120 Anyway,

00:31:28.640 she's laying face down

00:31:29.660 on this table

00:31:30.260 and he is like not touching her,

00:31:32.840 but he is waving

00:31:34.680 his hands over her.

00:31:35.560 It looks like he's pulling 0.85

00:31:36.760 something out of her behind.

00:31:38.960 It's really, 0.89

00:31:40.080 really weird.

00:31:40.540 So here's what he says.

00:31:41.880 When energy was stored

00:31:43.340 and bound up in the muscles,

00:31:44.340 it gets to dissipate.

00:31:45.360 And if we're really free

00:31:46.480 to express and allow energy

00:31:48.120 that's been bound

00:31:49.640 in our bodies to move through,

00:31:51.080 this woman is like 1.00

00:31:51.960 an incredible dancer,

00:31:52.980 actress,

00:31:53.400 just human being.

00:31:54.740 And she has practiced

00:31:55.580 just allowing things

00:31:56.720 to move through.

00:31:58.100 Okay,

00:31:58.660 so apparently it is supposed

00:32:00.100 to, you know,

00:32:00.580 like release energy,

00:32:01.700 make you feel better.

00:32:02.900 I mean,

00:32:03.180 the world is all about this

00:32:04.860 and this is all in the culture

00:32:06.640 of self-love

00:32:07.560 and self-empowerment

00:32:08.320 that we've been talking about.

00:32:09.540 What this is,

00:32:10.160 is a kundalini spirit.

00:32:11.960 So I've learned about this,

00:32:13.000 a kundalini spirit.

00:32:14.660 And this is a Hindu term.

00:32:17.120 It is a form of divine energy

00:32:19.140 believed to be located

00:32:20.620 at the base of the spine.

00:32:22.880 So kundalini actually means

00:32:24.380 coiled snake.

00:32:26.300 And so it's energy

00:32:28.020 based at the spine

00:32:29.200 and what this guy does,

00:32:30.660 this doctor,

00:32:31.380 he's supposed to release it

00:32:32.500 and it's supposed to

00:32:33.000 make you feel better.

00:32:33.680 But it looks like

00:32:34.780 an exorcism.

00:32:36.300 That is what it,

00:32:37.660 and she has to be acting.

00:32:39.060 Like it's not real.

00:32:40.420 It's really weird.

00:32:41.460 But this is,

00:32:42.580 I'm not trying to be dramatic.

00:32:43.880 Like I'm really not trying

00:32:45.060 to take this to a level

00:32:46.240 where it doesn't actually exist.

00:32:47.580 But it truly is pagan worship.

00:32:49.520 That's what all of this is.

00:32:51.300 You should go back

00:32:52.180 and listen to the episode

00:32:53.040 titled Personality Test.

00:32:55.140 Where we talk about the Enneagram,

00:32:56.500 we talk about personality test

00:32:58.100 and how it all got started

00:32:59.560 and how it really is

00:33:01.040 Eastern mysticism.

00:33:02.660 And Eastern mysticism

00:33:03.740 has been making its way

00:33:05.260 to the United States

00:33:06.520 through a lot of different practices,

00:33:08.160 including yoga.

00:33:09.200 And I just recently

00:33:10.480 have learned a lot about this

00:33:12.240 and have kind of changed

00:33:13.340 my mind about yoga

00:33:14.640 because I didn't actually

00:33:15.880 ever think anything of it.

00:33:17.600 And I've realized

00:33:19.160 that all of this

00:33:20.380 is Eastern mysticism

00:33:21.420 making its way

00:33:22.200 over to the West.

00:33:23.120 And all of it really is

00:33:24.320 a journey to the self,

00:33:25.800 a journey to find

00:33:28.360 who you truly are.

00:33:29.900 It's this idea

00:33:30.560 that who you are

00:33:31.300 in the inside

00:33:31.920 is really perfect.

00:33:33.220 And that if you can just

00:33:34.260 release all these expectations,

00:33:36.740 release all these layers

00:33:38.120 that society has put on you,

00:33:39.680 that life has put on you,

00:33:40.840 that responsibilities

00:33:41.480 have put on you,

00:33:42.800 then you will be happy.

00:33:44.080 Then you will be fulfilled.

00:33:45.360 And it goes back

00:33:46.560 to the lie that we are hearing

00:33:48.140 from a culture at large

00:33:50.900 that you can find happiness

00:33:52.840 and peace

00:33:53.480 and empowerment

00:33:54.120 inside yourself.

00:33:55.340 And I think that

00:33:56.280 we can all agree

00:33:57.060 that that is not biblical.

00:33:59.240 It's this idea

00:34:00.180 that you have to,

00:34:01.500 like I said,

00:34:02.240 shed these layers

00:34:03.000 but also empty yourself

00:34:04.540 in order to find peace.

00:34:06.560 Well, that's not

00:34:07.280 a biblical idea at all.

00:34:08.780 The idea that you have

00:34:09.640 to empty your mind

00:34:10.840 to find peace.

00:34:12.960 The Bible actually says

00:34:14.500 that we need to fill

00:34:16.160 our minds with good things

00:34:17.620 in order to have peace,

00:34:19.780 in order to have joy.

00:34:21.860 Romans 15, 13 says,

00:34:23.520 may the God of hope

00:34:24.800 fill you with all joy

00:34:26.440 and peace and believing

00:34:27.200 so that by the power

00:34:28.160 of the Holy Spirit

00:34:28.780 you may abound in hope.

00:34:31.100 Emptying your mind

00:34:32.020 is not actually possible.

00:34:33.360 All you're doing

00:34:33.940 when you're emptying your mind

00:34:35.340 is making yourself

00:34:36.620 vulnerable to Satan's deceit.

00:34:39.020 Philippians 4 says,

00:34:40.200 whatever is true,

00:34:40.960 whatever is honorable,

00:34:42.060 whatever is just,

00:34:42.920 whatever is pure,

00:34:44.360 whatever is lovely,

00:34:46.260 whatever is commendable,

00:34:47.120 if there's any excellence,

00:34:48.180 if anything is worthy

00:34:48.860 of praise,

00:34:49.660 think about these things

00:34:51.600 and the God of peace

00:34:52.740 will be with you.

00:34:53.940 So we are not called

00:34:54.800 to empty ourselves.

00:34:55.840 We are called to fill ourselves

00:34:57.760 with good things.

00:34:58.760 We are called to be filled

00:35:00.220 with the Holy Spirit.

00:35:01.620 So that idea is incongruent

00:35:04.260 with biblical Christianity.

00:35:05.940 We don't need to commit

00:35:08.240 to any of these kind of practices

00:35:09.740 and we're also not called

00:35:11.200 to find ourselves.

00:35:12.080 We're also not called

00:35:12.800 to shed these layers

00:35:13.800 to find who we really are

00:35:16.420 on the inside.

00:35:17.380 When we are in Christ,

00:35:18.180 we become a new creation.

00:35:19.280 So we're not looking for new

00:35:20.460 and better versions of ourselves.

00:35:22.220 We're not looking for our best self.

00:35:26.760 We are a new self

00:35:28.140 to follow in the likeness of Christ,

00:35:30.560 to become more like Christ

00:35:32.520 through the power

00:35:33.280 of the Holy Spirit.

00:35:34.980 We are not called

00:35:36.100 to find ourselves,

00:35:37.320 to empower ourselves,

00:35:38.300 to shed off these layers,

00:35:39.620 to find our best self.

00:35:41.100 And who you really are

00:35:42.560 on the inside

00:35:43.280 isn't this unvarnished goddess.

00:35:46.740 That's another thing

00:35:47.720 that celebrities like

00:35:48.660 to talk about

00:35:49.360 is like goddess circles.

00:35:50.900 You're not this unvarnished goddess

00:35:52.500 on the inside.

00:35:53.120 Who you are apart from Christ

00:35:54.260 is dead in your sin. 1.00

00:35:55.860 You are totally depraved 1.00

00:35:57.020 in need of a savior. 1.00

00:35:58.680 So if you go inside yourself

00:36:00.680 looking for some kind of hope,

00:36:04.000 for some kind of satisfaction,

00:36:05.900 for some kind of source of love,

00:36:07.440 you are going to be

00:36:08.040 sorely disappointed.

00:36:09.040 The Bible says,

00:36:09.840 Jeremiah 17, 9,

00:36:11.380 that our hearts

00:36:11.960 are desperately wicked.

00:36:13.180 We don't have good hearts.

00:36:14.080 We don't need to follow our hearts.

00:36:15.500 But that's what this whole culture

00:36:17.760 of what I call

00:36:18.300 trendy narcissism is about.

00:36:20.160 It is Eastern mysticism.

00:36:22.060 It is new age.

00:36:23.540 It is journey to the self.

00:36:25.360 And there has been

00:36:26.980 this wedding

00:36:27.640 I've talked about before

00:36:28.700 of like Western capitalism

00:36:30.400 and individualism

00:36:31.440 with Eastern mysticism.

00:36:33.260 And it is melt.

00:36:34.260 It is, I guess, melted,

00:36:35.860 but it is met

00:36:36.720 in the world of self-help.

00:36:38.540 And so you see it

00:36:39.780 in places like

00:36:40.600 Girl, Wash Your Face 1.00

00:36:41.620 that you wouldn't say,

00:36:42.780 oh, that's not

00:36:43.180 Eastern mysticism.

00:36:44.220 No, but it is

00:36:46.500 taking on this idea

00:36:47.980 that we have to shed

00:36:48.920 all of these

00:36:49.540 external expectations

00:36:50.740 in order to find

00:36:51.540 our true unvarnished self.

00:36:53.160 And when we finally do,

00:36:54.540 then we'll reach our dreams.

00:36:55.800 Then we'll be fulfilled.

00:36:57.300 That's just not biblical.

00:36:58.660 It's just not biblical.

00:37:00.100 And like I've said many times,

00:37:01.440 God shows us a better way.

00:37:03.080 His way is so much

00:37:04.360 more satisfying.

00:37:05.560 His way and his way alone

00:37:06.980 is abundant life.

00:37:08.520 God gives us two options.

00:37:10.200 So you've got the thief

00:37:11.360 who comes to steal, 0.99

00:37:12.740 kill, and destroy. 0.98

00:37:13.340 And you've got God 1.00

00:37:14.580 who gives life

00:37:15.920 and life to the full.

00:37:17.280 So if you are not

00:37:18.640 following God

00:37:19.320 who gives abundant life,

00:37:20.900 then on the other side

00:37:21.840 of that,

00:37:22.460 you are following the thief

00:37:23.480 who kills, steals,

00:37:25.120 and destroys.

00:37:26.640 And just a note,

00:37:28.380 I mean, this is very sad.

00:37:29.700 I'm certainly not

00:37:30.540 rejoicing over this,

00:37:31.440 but Julianne Hoff,

00:37:32.560 who we're talking about,

00:37:33.680 she talks a lot

00:37:34.540 about self-love.

00:37:35.480 I actually talk about

00:37:36.840 this particular quote

00:37:38.060 in my book,

00:37:38.760 but she quoted this.

00:37:40.940 She said,

00:37:41.240 I think every girl

00:37:41.980 needs to love herself

00:37:42.880 regardless of anything.

00:37:43.840 Like if you're having

00:37:44.540 a bad day,

00:37:45.180 if you don't like your hair,

00:37:46.260 if you don't have

00:37:47.100 the best family situation,

00:37:48.020 whatever,

00:37:48.300 you have to love yourself

00:37:49.160 and you can't do anything

00:37:49.980 until you love yourself first.

00:37:51.480 You can't do anything,

00:37:52.540 she says,

00:37:53.200 until you love yourself first.

00:37:54.500 So self-love,

00:37:55.620 she is saying,

00:37:56.080 is the solution

00:37:56.780 to all of your problems,

00:37:57.880 which of course

00:37:58.460 is a very on-trend thing

00:38:00.680 to believe and to say.

00:38:02.460 She's talked a lot

00:38:03.300 about putting yourself first,

00:38:04.640 putting your priorities,

00:38:06.000 or putting yourself

00:38:07.140 at the top

00:38:07.620 of your priority list.

00:38:08.760 And her husband

00:38:10.880 or ex-husband

00:38:11.680 has said the same thing.

00:38:12.600 Unfortunately,

00:38:13.060 there was news

00:38:13.900 of them separating.

00:38:16.080 She also recently came out

00:38:18.220 and said that she is not straight,

00:38:21.440 which seems to be another road

00:38:24.120 on her path to self-discovery.

00:38:26.180 And then you have Miley Cyrus

00:38:27.360 who told Elle magazine,

00:38:29.600 I think just before

00:38:31.620 she and Liam got divorced,

00:38:34.180 that if you love yourself,

00:38:35.540 it means that you come first.

00:38:37.100 I think that this,

00:38:38.580 as well as the lives

00:38:39.920 of many other people

00:38:40.860 who perpetuate this myth

00:38:42.460 that you have to love yourself

00:38:43.920 before you can love other people,

00:38:45.520 they should serve

00:38:46.120 as an example for us.

00:38:47.560 That self-love

00:38:48.700 breaks apart relationships

00:38:50.120 and ultimately,

00:38:51.200 it will make you miserable.

00:38:53.060 This self-obsession, 0.92

00:38:54.240 this trendy narcissism,

00:38:55.740 it doesn't work out,

00:38:57.540 which is why,

00:38:58.740 as we say so many times,

00:39:01.000 God's way is so much better.

00:39:03.040 Okay, I think that's all

00:39:04.340 we're going to have time for today.

00:39:05.400 I wanted to talk about this crazy tweet

00:39:07.420 about being a traditional wife

00:39:08.940 and how they talked about us

00:39:10.120 like we're Neanderthals,

00:39:12.000 but I think I'll talk about that

00:39:13.060 on Wednesday.

00:39:13.580 I think we covered enough for today.

00:39:15.420 And my poll that I sent out

00:39:18.120 said that you guys said

00:39:20.000 that you like this podcast

00:39:21.420 to be between 30 and 40 minutes,

00:39:23.100 and I'm already past that.

00:39:24.600 So that is wrapping it up for today.

00:39:27.140 Let me know what you guys think

00:39:29.220 about this format,

00:39:31.360 and I will be back here on Wednesday.

00:39:35.060 We'll be right back.

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Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - January 27, 2020

Ep 205 ｜ You Can't Have It All

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