Ep 424 ｜ Should We Beware of the Enneagram？ ｜ Q&A
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In this episode of Relatable, I answer some of your questions about what I like, what I don't like, and why I like them. I also talk about my favorite music from the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s.
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Hey guys, welcome to Relatable. Hope everyone is having a wonderful day. This is another
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one of my pre-recorded maternity episodes in which we are going to do a Q&A. I took a
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lot of your questions off of Instagram. You guys are familiar with the format now. A lot
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of times I get very serious or theological questions and I only get to about three or
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four. Today, the questions that I'm looking at on Instagram are a lot of really fun questions
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that I don't think are going to take me quite as long to answer. So hopefully I'll get through
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quite a few of them. However, you just never know because like I say, I'm very verbose.
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It might remind me of something else and then I might start talking about something else and
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then I'll loop back to actually answering the question. And so it might take me a while.
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That's just kind of how it goes. It's how my brain works. The ADD that the teachers tried
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to tell my mom that I had growing up, it actually, well, it's self-managed first of all. But I
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actually think that it has served me well in my current job because it makes me, it allows
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me to think of multiple things at once and then provide you with comprehensive explanations
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of the things that are going on or the things you guys asked me. All right, let's get into
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some of these questions. Someone asked me, what is your favorite music and why? I get a lot of
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questions about what kind of music I like. And in my old age, I can't answer this question as easily
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as I used to. See, I didn't have podcasts in high school or even in college. And so I would listen
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to music a lot more than, but now I listen to podcasts or I listen to audio books or I don't
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listen to anything. And so typically when I'm listening to music, it is like worship music.
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It's Christian music. I really like Shane and Shane. I like Chris Renzema as well. There are some other
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artists, probably like random artists that I listened to and like, but I don't do a whole
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lot of digging for music the way that I used to. I used to pride myself when I was in high school
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on like knowing different kinds or like original music that other people weren't listening to.
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That's such like a high school thing. And I was just like a little bit emo, just like a little bit,
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not like fully emo. I'm not talking about like, you know, like super thick eyeliner, anything like
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that or wearing all black clothes, but I did dye my hair black in high school. That was more just
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because I wanted to. And because I wanted to see how I would look, not really because of the emo
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thing. But as far as like the music that I listened to, it was pretty emo, pretty alternative. Now I
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still like some of that stuff. Now I'm not saying that third eye blind is emo, but it is alternative
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rock. I always really liked alternative. And I still find myself liking like nineties alternative,
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that kind of stuff. I don't go actively looking for it and I'm not like jamming to it in my car all
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the time, but I'll randomly just get a hankering for some like motorcycle drive by or something like
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that. Uh, by third eye blind, I really like the nineties, the eighties and nineties in general,
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not just for music. I just like the eighties and nineties. If you guys are ever looking for an
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interesting documentary, um, CNN, I know, I know, but they have really interesting, like, um,
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I think it's 50, I think it starts in the fifties, like decades, uh, documentary. So like fifties,
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sixties, seventies, eighties, nineties, they have these mini series and early two thousands, I think
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on every decade, like the past six or so decades, whatever it is. Um, I love those. Those are really
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interesting, but I just love the eighties and nineties. I don't know why, including the music,
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just the culture, probably cause I like Ronald Reagan too, even though I know he has some flaws.
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Um, so I guess if I were to say like, besides Christian music, my favorite kind of music,
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it'd probably be like alternative rock from the nineties. Um, but I mostly, we mostly listened
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to like Christian talk radio, Christian music, and also country music growing up. So I still
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really like nineties country. I do not like most of what passes is country music today. Most, I'm not
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trying to be a snob. I just don't like it. Like I don't like the lyrics, but I really like
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nineties, early two thousands, uh, country. And so, yeah, I hope that kind of answers your
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question. I know it's kind of boring. Like I'm just not anymore like that interested in
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searching for new music and things like that. I just kind of like hear songs that I like and I
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listen to it. And then I'm kind of passive about the whole thing. Someone asked me thoughts on
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Enneagram. So I get a lot of questions on Instagram about subjects that I've covered before. And I
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understand people are new, so you can't know everything that I have talked about in the past.
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And so I get a lot of questions about things that I have addressed a ton. Um, but one thing that you
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can do, you can go to allybethstucky.com slash podcast. And every single one of my past podcast
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episodes is categorized. And so that is really helpful. Also, you can type in on Apple podcasts
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and maybe on Spotify too, maybe on YouTube, you can just type in relatable Enneagram or relatable
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personality test. So I have an episode called personality test. I can link to it in the description
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of this episode where I talk specifically about the Enneagram, but also I talk about it pretty
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thoroughly in my book too. Um, look, it's got some weird origins. It's got origins in the new age.
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It's even got potentially demonic origins. And I'm not, I'm not just saying that I'm saying that
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the guy who actually inspired the Enneagram and popularized the Enneagram claims that he got a
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vision from a demon about this whole thing. And like I said, I write about it in my book. And so
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it's not just this like, Oh, this well-meaning psychologist in the mid 20th century came up with
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this helpful tool to, for us to better understand personalities. Like it has some strange spiritual
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new age origins, but so that's one issue with it. And again, read about it in my book. I'm not giving
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it, I'm not thoroughly analyzing it completely right now because I don't have time to do that.
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And I've talked about it so much, but I think one of the things that, um, it's troubling me about it
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right now is that Christians seem to be using their personality tests is, uh, or personality test results
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as like a justification for certain kinds of sin or certain kinds of things that they are calling
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quirks that are actually sins, or they are justifying, um, you know, particular things that they do habits
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or hangups by their personality type. And rather than reading the Bible, and I've actually gotten
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testimonies from some of you guys who you temporarily got really obsessed with the Enneagram. I was
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temporarily obsessed with the Enneagram, like towards the end of college, didn't see anything
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troubling about it at all for a very long time until I started seeing so many people at the church
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talk about their Enneagram type more than they're talking about their pursuit of Christ,
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more than they're talking about their holiness. And so some of you have sent me testimonies where you
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have, uh, you have found yourself reading the Bible and thinking about how does this apply to my
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particular personality type or like my Enneagram number, or how do I read this as a seven or as a
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two or as a three wing four or whatever you are, or like, how do I see like this, um, bad part of my
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Enneagram number coming out when I think about like my sanctification or when I think about my life in
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Christ or when I'm looking at this particular scripture passage, I don't think that the Bible
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gives us that permission. The Bible certainly doesn't give us that direction. I'm not saying that there
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aren't different kinds of personality types and that we don't do better to understand what they
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are, because I do think understanding people does help us in bettering our relationships.
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It helps us be better friends, but ultimately what we're called to do is not to be the best version
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of ourselves or the best version of our personality types. We're all called no matter what our personality
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type is, is to be like Christ. And so, um, being you like serving other people is not a personality
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type. So just because you're not a two, for example, doesn't mean that you're not called to serve people
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just as selflessly as someone who is an Enneagram two, um, is just because you're not a one or you're
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not an eight doesn't mean that you aren't called to be bold for the gospel in the way that someone who is
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a one or an eight might be just because you are not a nine doesn't mean that you are not called to be
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a peacemaker just because you don't think it comes as naturally to your personality type. And so that's
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what troubles me is that the commands that we are given by Christ, the commands that we are given in
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the Bible are not tailored to particular personality types. Like we are all called to be peacemakers.
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We are all called to be, uh, people who share and show the gospel. We are all called to be like
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Christ. We are all called to holiness. And yes, God does, does give us certain strengths and, and we
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have certain weaknesses. Absolutely. And like I said, it's okay to understand those things, but they're not
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excuses and they can't be, we can't see them as, um, uh, un-overcomable, um, like, uh, just
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insurmountable, I guess is the, is the accurate and better word, insurmountable obstacles to parts of
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the Christian life. Like we are all called to emulate the same fruit of the spirit. And, um, I do think
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that we all have different spiritual gifts, like Ephesians talks about that. The new Testament talks
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a lot about different spiritual gifts that God gives some of us and not all of us. And those are
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particular to who we are as individuals. Um, but that's not talking about our particular Enneagram
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type. So I just think that the obsession with the Enneagram in the church is a lot more unproductive
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and counterproductive than it actually is helpful. Um, again, when I get messages from people saying
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that they are interpreting scripture or reading scripture, they find themselves through the lens
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of the Enneagram rather than just as Christians filled with the Holy spirit. That's when, you know,
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like we've got a problem, like we've kind of got an idol and there's a lot of self-obsession in what I
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call trendy narcissism surrounding personality types too. Um, because there is this message in secular
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circles that says that your goal in life is to find yourself. Your goal in life is to understand
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yourself. Your goal in life is not to help other people. It's actually to help yourself, not to serve
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other people, but to serve yourself, not to love other people, but to love yourself and prioritize
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yourself. And so, as I talk about so much in my book, what my book is about is this myth that once you
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go deeper inside yourself and you fully understand yourself and you're able to love yourself and manifest
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all of your, uh, you know, inner strength and your internal goddess and all of that, you'll finally
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be happy and free and whole and fulfilled. Um, part of that is people use personality tests is kind of
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like a tool to self discovery. And that's not what the Bible calls us to like the Bible doesn't call us
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to that kind of self-obsession. We are not on a journey deeper inside of ourselves as Christians.
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We are on a journey to Christ. We are called to deny ourselves, to put off the old self and put on
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the new self created after the likeness, not of our, uh, the best version of our personality type,
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but created after the likeness of Christ. And so you might be thinking those two things aren't mutually
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exclusive. I'm telling you that when we obsess about all of our different personality traits and
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our quirks, and we are obsessed with self-fulfillment and self-discovery, it will absolutely
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inhibit, um, our self-denial and our putting off the old self and pursuing Christ and holiness. It
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does become an idol. Not everyone who uses the Enneagram is idolizing themselves or their personality
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or not everyone who uses personality tests is either, uh, is, is doing that either. Like I said,
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there may be times and there may be usefulness to some of these things, as long as they are used
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as tools and not the goal. Again, a thorough answer. I told you guys, it's so hard for me to
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stay abbreviated, but you guys ask good questions and it makes me think about things. So before you
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hit me with your anger, because a lot of people are very defensive of the Enneagram, you're welcome
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to send me those messages, but please go back and listen to my previous episode on personality tests.
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And then, um, I also did, uh, like a new age episode with Doreen Virtue that you can go listen
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to. And then also read my book about it. I have a whole segment on personality tests and specifically
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the Enneagram. If you want to know more specifically what I think about it and why I have some trouble
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with it. Um, someone asked my favorite meal right now, my favorite meal right now. That's very
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difficult. As I'm recording this, I am, um, like eight and a half weeks pregnant. Yes. Um, uh, yeah,
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I think that's how far along I am. It's hard to remember for some reason, but, and so I've had
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cravings. I've had Japanese food cravings, um, miso soup for some reason.
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I'm really liking these mixed salad bags, uh, that you can get from Target. You can also get
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them from Whole Foods. Um, ice Jenny's ice cream. You can also get Jenny's ice cream from a Whole
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Foods. If you guys haven't had Jenny's ice cream, it's really good. J E N I apostrophe S. They have
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like Bramble Berry Crisp, I think is what the flavor is called that I really like. It's my favorite
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flavor. I know this is not a meal. This is just kind of like a hodgepodge of things that I really like
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right now. I always like Tex-Mex. Um, I always like pizza, but actually like I'm kind of over
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pizza right now, but I always like Tex-Mex. I always like tacos. I always like guacamole.
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It made some good guacamole last night. I can never get tired of guacamole. You know, I'm just,
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I like carbs, carbs, especially during pregnancy. But as for my favorite one meal, it's very hard to say
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because I'm just constantly kind of wanting different kinds of things. What's my favorite
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color. My favorite color, I think is the color of like my podcast branding. I really like all forms
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of light blue. I would say like, if I have a color, that's my color, like that periwinkle color. Um,
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I like wearing it. I like looking at it. I like decorating with it. Our house is not periwinkle
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though. Don't worry. But I like that. I like all forms of light blue. It's just calming. It's just
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pretty. Um, someone said, if you're at Starbucks and they ask you for your name, do you say Allie
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or Allie Beth? I would say Allie. Um, it's just easier. It's just easier that way. I say Allie Beth
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and people's brains sometimes just malfunction. Elizabeth, Alison, Elizabeth. No, I didn't actually
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say either of those. Alison, Beth, Alice. Um, I don't know why, like when I add the Beth on there,
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I was on Fox and Friends one time and they literally called me Mary Beth. I was like,
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that's not, it's not my name. It's not my name. Um, so people get confused when I say Allie Beth,
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unless I'm like in the South, um, where they understand, like I've got tons, I've got a lot
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of friends with double names. And so it's very normal to have a double name in the South. If I
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go somewhere up North or if I'm talking to someone that is not from the South, they're very confused.
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Like why would someone have two names? So typically I just say my name is Allie when I'm talking to
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anyone that I don't really know. Um, honestly, I hardly ever tell people that my name is Allie Beth,
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just because again, it just gets too confusing for people. Um, but that is my full name. Like
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Allie Beth is my first name and I don't really have the middle name. It's kind of weird. Like
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Beth is my middle name, but it's also part of my first name. Like my parents have always called me
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Allie Beth. My teachers growing up, I'm pretty sure called me Allie Beth. I think my parents' friends
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probably call me Allie Beth. There's just different people that say Allie Beth and some people who say
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Allie. And when the Allie people call me Allie Beth, or when the Allie Beth people call me Allie,
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it sounds weird. You got to stick to one. If you're someone who says Allie, you got to stick
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to Allie. If you're someone who says Allie Beth, you got to stick to Allie Beth. But I would say,
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yeah, for the most part, I introduced myself as Allie just because it's a lot easier, but it's
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actually still difficult because people don't know how to spell the name Allie, which is not their fault
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because there are a lot of different spellings and it doesn't bother me. It doesn't bother me when
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people spell my name wrong. Some people get super uptight about that, but it just, it doesn't affect
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my life. And why would I waste my energy on getting mad about something like that?
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Let's see. Next question. How do I remain optimistic with all the constant bad news? And this is a
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question that I get asked a lot. So it's really easy to kind of get wound up, but I'm not going to
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say that I don't get wound up. Obviously I do. There are times when I'm going to sleep at night
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and I think about all the craziness that's going on in the world. And I'm like, this is awful. And I
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think about what's going to happen. And I think about the what ifs, and I think about raising our
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kids in a world like this. And it's really sad. And yes, of course, I know that ultimately,
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our hope is in heaven. Our hope is in eternity and that God is going to rule in perfect peace
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and perfect sovereignty. And I have that to look forward to. There's not going to be any injustice.
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There's not going to be any deceit. There's not going to be any corrupt bureaucracy. There's not
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going to be any sorrow. There's not going to be any sickness. And so of course I have all of that to
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look forward to and that gives me joy. But I also just like in the here and the now do believe that
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like there's a lot to be done. And I guess God just like renews the optimism and renews the energy
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for every generation that he places when and where he does, because we can't all just start out being
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completely dejected and discouraged. Maybe I have too much optimism because of my age and I'll grow
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cynical in several decades. But I just refuse to give up on the country. I refuse to give up on
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where we are. I think that we are facing unprecedented challenges worldwide to freedom
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and to human rights. And I think that we're seeing a lot of moral degeneracy. We're seeing a lot of
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corruption. We're seeing a lot of trampling of civil liberties. And of course, all of that scares me.
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When you look at the threats, both foreign and domestic. And of course, that worries me. And
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it's just constantly another story every day of something terrible happening. And then add on top
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of that, the spin that comes from people on the internet, from activists, from so-called
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journalists. That is probably the most frustrating part. It's probably not the bad things that happen.
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I mean, yes, the bad things that happen are, of course, sad and terrible. I think one of the most
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frustrating parts, though, is how we are just unable to see things as they are. That we are constantly
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trying to superimpose our preconceived narratives onto reality. That is just beyond comprehension to
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me. That we do not share a desire to see things as they are and a desire for the truth. That is
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very, it's just frustrating. And that is, I think, ultimately what prevents the left and the right
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from coming together. And you guys know I'm not a moderate. And I don't think that you have to be
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a moderate to care about truth. You guys know that I am a conservative. And yet, I get really frustrated
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when each side cannot simply want to argue things on their merit. They can't actually have any kind of
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intelligible conversation or debate about different ideas and different policies and different issues
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and different things that happen. Because we are so wedded to what we want to be true. We are so wedded
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to our foregone conclusions that we're living in different realms of reality. I think that really
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weakens us as a country. And that does, that does scare me. However, I just haven't lost hope. I have
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not lost hope for the country. I haven't lost hope that things are going to get better, that things are
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going to swing back in the other direction. As far as morality goes, as far as narratives go, I just
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haven't lost hope for that. I still believe that people have power. I believe that voices have power.
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I believe that knowledge is power. I believe that truth has power. And obviously, like I said,
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I believe that God is totally sovereign. He can do whatever the heck that he wants. And I believe
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prayer. The Bible says that a prayer of a righteous person has great power. You are made righteous by
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Christ. If you are a Christian, your prayers have great power. So it would be, I think, ungodly for me
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to give up hope. And so I guess that's what keeps my optimism. And plus, like, just remembering that
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there are things that matter more. Like, I just love my family so much. I love the things that I do
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outside of this job, even though I am thinking about the news and politics a lot. And it seems like
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everyone else is too. And so I can't really escape it. But also, I love when I go somewhere and I'm
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talking to someone and they're completely oblivious of what's going on on Twitter. Like, I love to be
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reminded that the people who are on Twitter and even on social media are a minority of people
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in the country. Most people actually are completely detached from politics and things that are going
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on. I'm not saying that's a good thing. I actually think that we all need to be really paying attention
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right now. But it is nice to have conversations with someone who aren't, they're not caught up in
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the daily drama of whatever is going on in the media headlines. So being reminded that that whole world
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exists too. And that really, if you go out in public, most people that you talk to are very kind
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and don't really care about your politics or aren't going to ask you about your politics and are willing
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to have a respectful conversation with you about whatever. Like, that's also a nice reminder.
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Someone asked me a lot of food questions. Go to Chick-fil-A order. Well, actually, it changes a lot.
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Sometimes I'm in the mood for a grilled chicken sandwich. Sometimes I'm in the mood for a grilled
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chicken cool wrap. That has probably been like my longest running order, probably literally since
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like seventh grade, grilled chicken cool wrap with creamy salsa. And so I still, that's still good.
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I hardly ever get a fried chicken sandwich. I don't know why. That's probably like the rarest thing
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for me to get. I really like their Southwest salad too. Not healthy the way I do it because I put
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creamy salsa on it. Like their tortilla soup. Let's see. And sometimes like also very rarely,
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like I just don't actually usually get their fried chicken, but very rarely I will also get chicken
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strips. Very rarely I will get like a chicken biscuit in the morning. Although I love their chicken
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biscuits, although they don't fill you up. They put something in there. That's like, I need 17
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more of these in order to be even remotely satisfied. But I don't eat 18 chicken biscuits.
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I promise. I probably could, but I don't. So go to Chick-fil-A order. Hard to say, hard to say.
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And I'm not really a lemonade gal either, but I don't, I, we also don't really drink like soft drinks
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in our house. And so that part is also difficult, but you want a little bit of carbonation if you're
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eating fries and things like that. And so I typically do, if I'm going to get a drink,
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which a lot of times I just don't, I'll get like a Coke zero. Um, let's see. Someone asked me Santa,
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Easter bunny, truth fairy, et cetera, asked me to talk about that. So I talked about Santa at Christmas
00:25:06.840
time. I have a highlight bubble, I think still on my Instagram page about Santa, how I think it's much
00:25:12.600
better to tell your kids about the real gift giver, like the real omnipresent one who actually can see
00:25:22.760
you when you're sleeping and who actually does know when you're awake. The Bible says like God
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sees you're lying down and you're waking up. He can hear, he knows your thoughts. Um, he can search
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you out and he actually is present everywhere. And he actually does know everything that we think,
00:25:40.800
say, and do. And so in, to replace who God actually is with, uh, some, uh, cheap version
00:25:49.600
of God, Santa Claus, I just think, why would we theologically confuse our kids that way? And I
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understand the reasoning. It's fun. It is magic. I was raised, you know, I was raised believing in
00:26:03.200
Santa. Although I will say I found out pretty early that Santa wasn't real. Cause I figured out the tooth
00:26:08.080
fairy, it's what happens when you have older siblings. And I knew, and so I figured out
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deductive reasoning that that must mean that Santa's not real. And I was like five or six. Um,
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and I was upset. I remember being upset with my parents about it and thinking that they lied to
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me. Not every kid is going to feel that way. Some kids are going to be totally fine with the idea
00:26:26.680
that their parents kind of perpetuated this fantasy just in order to be fun. And in order to like,
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you know, what parents call magic and things like that. So I understand, I'm not judging you if you
00:26:37.580
make a decision that is right for your family. But when I actually think about it and I peel back the
00:26:43.520
layers, I mean, Santa really is like this very legalistic version of God that he puts you on a
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naughty or nice list and apparently allocates your gifts based on the things that you have done
00:26:56.020
throughout the year. And God, the truly good and all powerful gift giver, he doesn't do that. Like
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he, he gives you gifts according to his grace and his goodness, not according to the things that he
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sees and the tallies that he makes based on the things that you did or didn't do. I also think it
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can be very manipulative to try to incentivize kids behavior based on whether or not Santa Claus can
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see them again. Like, I just think that you're setting yourself up for difficult conversations
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about God. Now, again, I know there are a lot of you who have handled it perfectly and seamlessly.
00:27:32.140
The transition was no big deal at all. Um, and so, and I'm not pretending to be like some super
00:27:37.580
experienced mom who has like 10 grown kids who can tell you everything that worked. I'm just saying,
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when I think about it from a theological perspective, do I think if, if my question is always,
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how do I make my kids love God more? Like, how do I show them who God is, how good he is,
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how big he is, how real he is and who they are according to him, does Santa Claus, Easter,
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Tooth Fairy help or hurt that? Now, maybe you think it's neutral. I think in particular,
00:28:07.280
when it comes to Santa, it can be not always, but it can actually be counterproductive. It can
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actually be very confusing spiritually for them. Easter bunny. Um, you know, I, I grew up believing
00:28:21.020
in that too. We got Easter baskets as I've kind of thought about it more as being a mom myself.
00:28:27.280
I'm like, well, hang on. Why do we even do Easter baskets? Like, why do we make something
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like the resurrection of Christ about getting presents? And I guess you could ask the same
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thing about Christmas too. Although I do think that there's a little bit of more of an alignment
00:28:42.440
there with the Christmas story than the Easter story. Um, and I, again, I'm not saying that if
00:28:49.420
you do Easter baskets for your kids, that that's like, you know, terrible or anything like that.
00:28:55.000
Honestly, I mean, our child was too young last year to even know what was going on. I'm just saying
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that this is something that I've thought about. It's like, why do we do Easter baskets? I'd be
00:29:06.500
curious to hear from some of you guys, um, why you chose to do that with your family and kind of
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how you balance, okay, the fun so-called secular parts of Easter, like Easter icons, which is all
00:29:19.740
super fun decorating Easter eggs, all super fun Easter egg baskets, things like that. Not against
00:29:26.720
that. I'm curious to know, as like a Christian parent, how do you kind of do that? And then also
00:29:32.160
say, okay, but this is what Easter is about. It's not about bunnies. It's not just about spring. It's not
00:29:36.720
about chickens. It's not about Easter icons. These all things are, these things are all well and good,
00:29:41.340
but like, here is the power of Easter. Here's why we celebrate resurrection Sunday. Do you find that
00:29:47.820
hard to balance between those two things? Are you a parent who just decided to nix all of the,
00:29:54.220
you know, um, what they, what some people would call pagan parts of Easter, uh, or have you found
00:30:01.680
a balance? I would love to hear from you guys actually on that, because I'm curious because
00:30:05.820
it hasn't really been something that we've had to think about, but I have been thinking about again,
00:30:09.960
and that question of like, if my goal is to point my kids toward Christ, what is going to best do
00:30:16.500
that? And I don't want to be a fuddy daddy either because I really like fun and I really like, you
00:30:21.540
know, the joy of Easter egg hunts and all that kind of stuff. I think it's great, but you know,
00:30:26.480
my goal is kids who love the Lord and know that the Lord loves them. How do I do that in the best way,
00:30:33.340
most productive way possible when it comes to Easter? I'd love to hear from more experienced moms when it
00:30:38.580
comes to that kind of thing. Tooth Fairy, I don't, Tooth Fairy doesn't bother me as much because
00:30:46.520
you're not talking about like trying to superimpose like a secular character on what's supposed to be
00:30:53.800
a religious holiday. Um, that I don't remember getting too upset when I learned that the Tooth Fairy
00:31:02.580
wasn't real. It was Santa. That was the really difficult one. Tooth Fairy. I mean, it just
00:31:07.760
depends, I guess, if you want to give your kids money every time their tooth falls out and your
00:31:12.160
explanation when you accidentally sleep through the night and you don't put that money under their
00:31:20.040
pillow or when they wake up, what do you do about that? I don't know. I don't remember that, but I do
00:31:26.060
remember a few times when I think the Tooth Fairy forgot. But again, I also figured it out really early.
00:31:31.240
So I guess my parents didn't really have to do that, um, for very long. Um, I know people also who give
00:31:38.720
their kids like 20 bucks for a tooth. That I can tell you we will not be doing. That sets too high of
00:31:47.520
a standard. Are you kidding me? Like a quarter is great. What are they going to spit it on? But anyway,
00:31:53.480
y'all do you. Okay. Um, let's see. Is there anything else favorite? Okay. I'll end on this
00:32:05.620
one. Favorite Blue Bell ice cream flavor. Ooh, someone asked me this the other day. Um, cookies
00:32:12.940
and cream, probably like my all-time favorite. Again, one of those, like the chicken cool wrap
00:32:19.640
from Chick-fil-A. One of those that has been in my life for a very long time. One of the constants
00:32:24.360
in my life. A couple of years ago, when you remember when people were, um, licking the tops
00:32:31.860
of ice cream because they're ghouls who I guess weren't raised correctly and they were putting it
00:32:37.980
back in the freezer and they were being caught. And thankfully they went to jail because of that,
00:32:42.120
because that's disgusting. Um, that was happening to Blue Bell. Um, and that was really troubling for
00:32:49.160
me because I really love Blue Bell. Like I said, big part of my life. So I would say that, um, is
00:32:56.220
cookie two-step one of them? I think it is. Uh, but cookies and cream definitely, but honestly,
00:33:01.460
just like Blue Bell vanilla is good. There's no better vanilla ice cream than Blue Bell vanilla ice
00:33:09.440
cream, but cookies and cream to me, it's the way to go. Chocolate chip cookie dough. It's good. It'd be
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better. I think if there were Oreos in there too. Um, yeah, you can't go wrong. You cannot go wrong
00:33:21.660
with Blue Bell. We've talked about ice cream twice on this podcast today. So if you can't tell, I really
00:33:26.260
like it. Um, okay. I think that's all I got for today. I don't think we even really talked politics,
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but those are fun questions. Thank you guys so much for sending them. I will see you guys