Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 47 ｜ The Toxicity of Feminism

00:00:00.000 What's up, guys? Happy Thursday. This is Relatable. My name is Allie Stuckey. This is a podcast by CRTV.

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00:00:33.740 spend on Starbucks every month. And plus, you're getting smarter every time you listen to us, or at

00:00:39.280 least I hope so. If you feel like you're getting dumber every time you listen to my podcast, you

00:00:43.640 should stop listening to this podcast. I am going to go ahead and not just give you the ability to do

00:00:49.800 that by allowing you to do it, but I'm going to encourage you to stop listening to this podcast

00:00:53.280 if you feel dumber after you listen to it. I really hope not. I've never gotten a message

00:00:58.240 that has said that they feel dumber after they listen to my podcast. All of the messages,

00:01:02.440 most of the messages that I get from you are extremely positive, and I really appreciate

00:01:06.840 that. On that note, I want to say thank you guys so much for all of the messages that you

00:01:11.480 send me. I don't always get to respond to them, but I'm very thankful for them. You guys send

00:01:19.280 me the nicest messages, and what I hear over and over again is really why I do this podcast

00:01:25.160 and why I do what I do. I hear from so many of you who live in a liberal state, go to a

00:01:30.420 liberal school, teach at a liberal business, whatever it is, and you just feel scared.

00:01:35.660 You just feel alone. You feel like you don't have a voice, like you're thinking these things,

00:01:39.680 but your brain doesn't even let you fully articulate them because you know that you're not able to

00:01:44.300 say them out loud or post them on social media. And for whatever reason, you stumbled upon my

00:01:49.920 podcast and it helps you feel like you're not alone. That is the best thing that you could ever

00:01:55.580 tell me. I think, God, every day for the opportunity to get to do this, if there were only two of you

00:02:01.820 out there who felt that way, only two of you who listen to my podcast, I would still want to do the

00:02:05.740 podcast. Now, CRTV probably wouldn't sponsor it because I wouldn't be making that much money.

00:02:09.280 But even that, just even hearing that from one person, two people, it's enough to motivate me

00:02:16.200 to keep doing this. You guys are why I do this. The young men, young women, or older men, older

00:02:22.640 women, it doesn't really matter, that listen to this podcast that tell me that they don't feel so 0.97

00:02:27.920 alone and they feel that their thoughts are affirmed and actually articulated and represented in the

00:02:34.780 in the media actually helps you. That means so much to me. So thank you so much for the messages

00:02:40.640 that I received that tell me that. If you feel that way, feel free to reach out to me. Of course,

00:02:45.220 you certainly don't have to. You can email me, ali at the conservative millennial blog.com.

00:02:49.600 You can leave me a nice review on iTunes. That would be wonderful. And you can message me on

00:02:55.620 Instagram, which is what most of you do. So I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you for that.

00:02:59.860 And to let you know that even if I haven't responded to your message, I probably saw it.

00:03:04.960 I'm not able to respond to every single one, probably because I'm kind of wordy if you haven't

00:03:08.760 noticed. And I take a long time to respond to things. But I also think that I owe you guys a

00:03:14.800 little bit of an apology or maybe just kind of own up to something that I've noticed myself do recently

00:03:23.460 is that I get super sassy and sarcastic and snappy about certain things. Like when people leave me

00:03:31.500 mean comments or when they send me a message that I don't like, instead of just kind of letting it

00:03:35.280 go, sometimes I really clap back. And that's not a very godly attitude to have. And I've done it on

00:03:42.720 Twitter too. I think with the whole Kavanaugh thing, I got so worked up that I was kind of mean

00:03:47.520 in some ways to people. I don't want to be that. So if you've noticed that, I hope that you'll forgive

00:03:53.400 me and realize I'm a very imperfect person, but I should be holding myself up to a higher standard

00:04:02.500 because I know I'm in public and I talk a lot about Christianity. And I should always strive to

00:04:06.680 be a good representation of that and to be a kind representation of that. And I fall short very often.

00:04:11.880 I get caught up in this tribalism, this incivility of the political sphere. And my job is to remove

00:04:17.560 myself from that and to remember my main identity, which is who I am in Christ. So I just want to ask

00:04:23.260 for your forgiveness for that, for trolling people, for being rude to people. If I snapped back at you,

00:04:30.900 probably not. You probably wouldn't be listening to this anymore. If I snapped back at you at one point

00:04:35.220 for saying something to me that I didn't like, I'm sorry for that. I definitely can get defensive.

00:04:41.080 I definitely can get sarcastic. We talk on this podcast and in social media about biblical sass

00:04:48.040 versus unbiblical sass. I am so guilty of unbiblical sass. Biblical sass is what you see in the Bible 0.99

00:04:53.820 when Jesus kind of asks rhetorical questions or responds in a sarcastic way. Paul also is sarcastic

00:05:01.120 at times. And I think that can sometimes be a powerful and good rhetorical tool. I think

00:05:06.720 there is a place possibly for kind sass if you're trying to speak the truth and use it as a tool to

00:05:13.880 do that. However, there's some sass that's just degrading and just rude. And I am certainly guilty

00:05:20.740 of that. That is unbiblical. That is ungodly. That's not Christ-like. So I just want to say that

00:05:26.940 I'm sorry for that. And I'm going to do my best through the power of the Holy Spirit to repent from

00:05:31.520 that and to be kinder. Because, sorry, I got something caught in my throat. Because at the

00:05:36.500 end of the day, none of this political stuff matters. None of this cultural stuff matters

00:05:41.700 in the grand scheme of things, in the eternal perspective. Yes, of course, I think this is

00:05:47.280 important. I care about America. I'm thankful to God that he allowed us to live in America and has

00:05:51.980 given me this platform to speak to you guys. Of course, I think it's important. That's why I do it.

00:05:57.140 However, in the eternal scheme of the universe, political parties don't matter. And they're not

00:06:06.740 going to exist in the new heaven and the new earth. When Jesus comes back, all of these political

00:06:12.680 arguments and these cultural discussions that we had aren't going to matter. What's going to matter is

00:06:19.340 how we shared the gospel, how we treated other people, what we actually did to advance the kingdom

00:06:25.260 of God and obey the Lord by taking this message to all nations. So I have to remember that and remind

00:06:33.020 myself of that just as much as anyone else does. That the beauty of it all, we can get frustrated and

00:06:39.380 we can get scared. We can get worried about what's to come. We can get caught up in the tribalism and the

00:06:46.440 pettiness like I do on social media. But we also, we have to remember, we have to remember what's

00:06:53.500 important. And what's important is that we are ambassadors for Christ, that we are the aroma of

00:06:57.900 Christ. And that is what matters more than anything else. So again, I'm sorry for being a bad

00:07:04.060 representation of that. You guys are free to call me out in a kind way and I won't clap back at you

00:07:10.160 again. I'm sorry if I ever have. I just get, I get sassy. Like that's my go-to. When I was growing

00:07:18.220 up, when I was in high school, when I was with my parents, that would be the number one thing that I

00:07:23.400 would get in trouble for was being disrespectful. It wasn't lying. It wasn't causing trouble. It was

00:07:30.100 being disrespectful because I always thought when I was little that I knew just as much as the adults

00:07:35.880 did. Not true. Never true. It's never true that a six and eight year old know anything really,

00:07:42.960 especially when you get to that age and you think that you know everything, you're just such an

00:07:46.880 annoying little brat. And I really was. Fun fact, I was not a good student or a good person to have

00:07:55.860 in class. I've never liked school. I've never liked structure. I've never liked authority,

00:08:00.020 anything like that. And that's why I do this job because I can basically do whatever I want to.

00:08:04.520 But I commend you to be, I recommend that you are different than me if you are in school and stay

00:08:11.320 in school. I did stay in school, but respect your teachers and do your homework. I wish I had been

00:08:16.340 better at that kind of stuff, but that's okay. I ended up here. So what I'm going to talk about

00:08:21.300 today, I'm going to talk about a couple of things. I'm going to talk about an article that I read

00:08:26.160 about a bill that was actually vetoed by governor Brown in California. Wow. He did one good thing.

00:08:32.260 And then I'm going to answer a lot of your questions. As I talked about on Tuesday, I'm

00:08:35.640 actually in California right now. I am pre-recording this. I'm in California to speak at UC Berkeley.

00:08:41.760 My husband is also in San Francisco with me, which is really fun. If you guys have recommendations as

00:08:47.240 you're listening to this, we will still have one more day. Feel free to text me, message me,

00:08:52.320 whatever it is. So this article that I want to cover this bill, I think it was SB320.

00:09:00.460 If I remember it, yes, SB320. That was going to make it absolutely mandatory. Absolutely mandatory.

00:09:07.640 I didn't have to say that. It was going to be mandatory for state schools to offer abortion 0.99

00:09:11.480 services on college campuses, medical abortion. So that means taking a pill and poisoning the child 0.72

00:09:16.520 inside your womb. This was a bill that feminists obviously tried to pass in California and governor 1.00

00:09:22.860 Brown vetoed it saying that it was unnecessary. There was an article in Teen Vogue by someone who

00:09:28.260 tried to push the importance of this bill who said that it was absolutely ridiculous that it was

00:09:33.280 vetoed because women need access to abortive care and going off campus is prohibitive both logistically 1.00

00:09:43.640 and financially. And my response to that is, of course, that it's supposed to be prohibitive.

00:09:51.140 We're supposed to be putting walls up before abortion because it's supposed to be rare. It's supposed to be 1.00

00:09:57.060 the last choice, whether you're on the right or the left. Now, I already talked about abortion on

00:10:00.940 Tuesday. I'm not going to get all into that again. But there are supposed to be prohibitions to being

00:10:07.580 able to get an abortion. California is so backwards in absolutely everything it does. I commend Jerry

00:10:15.520 Brown for not making it this easy for a 18, 19 year old girl whose brain isn't even developed to walk to 0.98

00:10:24.600 their school clinic and get abortion medicine to abort her child. Like, I can't imagine how many more 1.00

00:10:32.560 abortions we would have. Someone wakes up still hungover, probably not even sober yet. Shoot, had

00:10:40.080 well, no, I guess that doesn't work like that. I guess that would probably be I guess that would

00:10:45.660 probably be plan B. That's not OK. Whatever. Forget the hungover part. But you find out that you're

00:10:53.220 pregnant four weeks after you hook up with someone, you're all emotional, you're scared, you're alone,

00:10:59.400 you're in college, you feel like, oh, my gosh, there's no way I can do this. Of course, if you

00:11:04.260 can easily walk over to an abortion clinic that is just on your campus, you're probably going to get

00:11:08.920 an abortion. But we don't want it to be that easy. Like abortion should not be something that's

00:11:14.380 just a decision that you wake up one morning and decide to do and say, hey, I'm going to go get an

00:11:18.780 abortion today. No, if it prevents an abortion that someone logistically can't get to an abortion

00:11:24.660 clinic in L.A., which I'm sure it's not that difficult, if it prevents someone to get an

00:11:28.140 abortion because it's a little bit more financially burdensome, that's a good thing. Like we should be

00:11:34.280 putting up as many barriers as possible to limit the possibility that a woman will say, hey, I'm just 1.00

00:11:42.240 going to go and kill my child. I don't understand why on the right and the left, you wouldn't agree

00:11:48.320 on that. But, you know, that is a very corrupt and sad and depraved part of the feminist movement. 1.00

00:11:54.680 If you guys haven't read the book, The Flipside of Feminism, I really recommend that you do that.

00:12:02.320 It really kind of breaks down all of the fallacies of feminism and all of the false promises that it 1.00

00:12:09.820 gives. It says that it's about female empowerment, that all of the equality that women have been able

00:12:14.860 to achieve has been because of people like Gloria Steinem and the feminist movement, the second and 0.95

00:12:19.660 third wave. And that's really just not true. Women were doing very well even before feminism came 0.97

00:12:26.120 about. And sure, society has changed, but feminism is not to is does not take the credit for all of the 1.00

00:12:34.000 equality that women have. And in fact, it's taken women back in so many ways because feminism 1.00

00:12:39.280 feminism denies the unique and wonderful and beautiful and preferred reality of women being 1.00

00:12:46.420 being matriarchs of a family, of having kids and taking care of their kids. That's why they push for 1.00

00:12:53.940 things like universal health care that is completely paid for. That's why they push for things like

00:13:00.100 paternity leave. I'm not saying paternity leave is inherently a bad thing. So that's why they push 1.00

00:13:04.680 for abortion because they believe that a woman having a child makes her or puts her at a disadvantage

00:13:11.760 to men who don't have a child. It gives her an extra layer of responsibility that she has that

00:13:16.960 a man doesn't have because he's not carrying a child. Of course, we believe that men are just as

00:13:21.680 responsible for that child as a woman is. But at the end of the day, he can walk away. She can't really 1.00

00:13:26.420 walk away unless she has an abortion. And that is why feminists are great with abortion. They want to give 1.00

00:13:32.660 the woman the same option that a man has to walk away. But I say to you, I'm sorry. You don't get

00:13:40.760 that option. Yes, it's horrible when deadbeat dads walk away from the responsibility of the child that

00:13:47.400 his woman is pregnant with. And he does have the physical ability to walk away in a way that a woman 0.99

00:13:54.580 doesn't. But abortion doesn't make that any better. It sounds like it does. But in reality, a woman is left 1.00

00:14:01.020 with this emotional and physical toll that still doesn't make her equal to a man. Because while a

00:14:06.120 man can walk away, a woman has to have a horrific procedure where a child is dismembered inside her 1.00

00:14:12.040 womb in order to gain that same equality. So maybe we should be asking ourselves if something so

00:14:17.740 unnatural, so painful, so awful is necessary to reach this so-called feminist equality that they say 1.00

00:14:24.420 that they're fighting for. Maybe it's not the right thing to do. And hey, maybe there's an inherent

00:14:29.440 difference between men and women that we should be celebrating rather than trying to eliminate.

00:14:34.880 And that's another thing about feminism. They think that in order to accomplish this egalitarian 1.00

00:14:40.640 society that they purport to be fighting for, then we have to deny all differences between men and

00:14:48.600 women. We have to make sure that men realize that any natural drive that they feel is all a social

00:14:57.340 construct and that they should really be more like women and women, any natural drive that you feel 0.80

00:15:02.420 to, I don't know, have kids, raise a family, nurture, beautify all of the things that women are better 1.00

00:15:08.720 at than men are, that you should deny those things and try to be more like men. Women should be more 0.80

00:15:14.060 corporate. Men should be more domestic. And then we can just all have these shared characteristics and 0.71

00:15:19.520 live in this egalitarian, gender fluid society and there will be no more patriarchy. It's all

00:15:26.080 BS. And when I say BS, I'm not even thinking the cuss word in my mind. I just use abbreviations,

00:15:33.340 just FYI. It's all absolute craziness. You have to wonder what this feminist movement that's pushing 1.00

00:15:40.140 abortion, pushing gender fluidity and the so-called egalitarian society. I say so-called because they 0.95

00:15:46.140 really want a matriarchy more than anything else. You have to wonder if they ever ask themselves, 1.00

00:15:53.340 hey, if there's really, if gender really is a social construct, why haven't other societies

00:16:01.740 throughout time figured this out? Like if you want to, if you want to establish a universal reality,

00:16:10.040 you look at multiple cultures, multiple times in history. And what we see is that in general,

00:16:17.300 probably more than 90% of the cases, probably 99% of the cases in every time period in history,

00:16:25.120 in every culture in history, men fall into a certain aggressive category. Women fall into a certain 0.98

00:16:32.900 nourishing category. That tells us, or nourishing and nurturing, but nurturing is what I actually

00:16:39.520 meant to say. That tells us that there are probably inherent, real, biological, scientific

00:16:45.980 differences between men and women that don't just have to do with anatomy, but have to do with how our

00:16:51.220 brains work. Like if men and women have fallen into these very traditional masculine and feminine 0.98

00:16:55.840 categories and having these characteristics throughout all of time and history and various cultures,

00:17:02.180 then doesn't that go to show that these are actual, real differences? And if we try to deny those

00:17:10.220 differences, that it's not going to work, that it's probably going to end in a lot of trauma.

00:17:16.360 Gloria Steinem was interviewed a few years ago and the interviewer asked her, hey, what do you think

00:17:26.660 about the study that just came out that said that there is a difference between female brains and male

00:17:31.380 brains, that there are very real biological differences? And Gloria Steinem said, oh, well,

00:17:36.280 it doesn't have to be that way. It doesn't have to be that way. We can overcome that. What? You're going

00:17:43.000 to overcome biology? You're going to overcome how our brain works? Yes, that's how feminists think, 1.00

00:17:49.340 that they can overcome inconvenient scientific facts with a social narrative. And feminists have been 1.00

00:17:56.840 very effective in that. They've been very effective in pushing their feminist matriarchal narrative and 1.00

00:18:03.420 casting it as, oh, this is just progress for all women. This is just good for everyone. It has nothing 1.00

00:18:10.620 to do with feminism. But the truth is, feminism is not about advancing women. That's why you never 0.98

00:18:17.160 hear a feminist tout the accomplishments of someone like Condoleezza Rice or any conservative woman that has 1.00

00:18:25.340 advanced the ball. You never hear them talking about Carly Fiorina, besides the fact that they've

00:18:29.500 taken responsibility and done amazing things, have been the first women to accomplish a lot of the 0.85

00:18:35.640 things that they've accomplished. You never hear them talking about that because the feminist movement 1.00

00:18:39.440 is not about women. It's actually done nothing for women. If anything, it's hurt us tremendously.

00:18:44.640 There, we even conservatives have a fear of saying that, have a fear of saying that feminism is bad 1.00

00:18:50.180 because we say, well, what about first wave feminism, the suffragettes? At least we have the right to vote, 1.00

00:18:54.760 all of this stuff. No, they weren't feminists. They didn't call themselves feminists. Feminism 1.00

00:18:59.020 wasn't really a term that came around until the mid-20th century. They were suffragettes. They 1.00

00:19:04.400 were fighting for the right to vote. And from what I've read, there's been some varying research on

00:19:08.600 this. Some people say that they were anti-family. There probably were some of them that were anti-family,

00:19:13.040 but in general, they were pro-life. They were pro-family. They just believed that they had the same voice

00:19:17.660 that a man had. It was also a very different time. But this whole thing of pushing free birth control,

00:19:23.280 of pushing abortion that happened in the 60s and 70s was really just a projection of some

00:19:28.900 miserable housewives that thought that their own misery in their marriage and their raising of kids 1.00

00:19:35.240 was actually true of every housewife. And that's not true. The majority of people who were housewives

00:19:39.860 in the 60s and 70s were very happy to be that. And actually, women worked outside the home and were 1.00

00:19:45.300 very happy and successful working outside the home before feminism happened. All they did was push

00:19:49.980 legislation in order to try to make women, quote, equal to men. And really, it was just about

00:19:56.760 female power. That is what feminism is about. And I just don't agree with it. And this Teen Vogue 1.00

00:20:03.200 article that talks about pushing SB 320 so women can get abortions on college campuses is just the next 0.99

00:20:10.880 stage of that. It is just another indicator that they think that this is an important part of the

00:20:16.020 equality, egalitarian movement. And it's not. OK, now I'm going to move on to some of your questions

00:20:23.880 that you guys gave me. OK, this one is from someone from Denmark, and he's moving to the States to go to

00:20:35.240 college. So let's see. When it comes to having right wing values and a huge pile of left wingers,

00:20:42.260 both the students, professors, and perhaps even the content I'm learning will be left wing. Any

00:20:47.840 suggestions? OK, so she's asking how to not feel alone with your conservative views. That's obviously

00:20:55.020 extremely difficult. I haven't had that problem quite as much. I grew up in Texas. My parents are

00:21:00.600 both conservative Christians. I went to school in South Carolina. The school itself, I would say the

00:21:05.000 professors are pretty progressive. I would say the vast majority of them are progressive. But the student

00:21:11.080 body was pretty conservative. And so I didn't feel too much like I was ostracized or marginalized for

00:21:16.800 being a conservative. And it just wasn't as much of a partisan time, believe it or not. I graduated

00:21:21.580 in 2014, not that long ago. And even though we had the election between Barack Obama and Mitt Romney,

00:21:28.340 it just wasn't as I don't remember it being as partisan and as tribalistic as it is now. So I feel for

00:21:35.800 all of you who are in college now, especially those of you who go to left leaning colleges,

00:21:39.920 you know, not like a Liberty University. I really feel for you because you feel like you can't speak

00:21:45.020 up in class. I talk to college students all the time who say, you know, I wrote this paper on

00:21:50.180 something that I don't actually believe in, pretended that I believed it, argued for a certain

00:21:54.580 way just so I could get a good grade. I really feel for you. And I don't know what the right answer

00:21:59.000 is. Some people say some people ask me when I go to these college campuses, should I lie or should I

00:22:04.200 tell the truth and just get a bad grade? That's really difficult. Like, I don't want to encourage anyone

00:22:08.620 to purposely get a bad grade and be a martyr for the conservative cause and not be able to

00:22:14.480 get into the grad school you want to get into or whatever that is. I'm not sure if it's worth all

00:22:19.540 of that. Of course, I think it would be wonderful if you were able to fight for your conservative

00:22:24.500 views, if you were able to speak up and be bold, go to the administration, say it's not fair that I'm

00:22:29.060 getting a bad grade for being a conservative and win that battle. Of course, I think that would be

00:22:33.340 better because that's not just better for you. It's better for students that come after you.

00:22:37.180 And it's good that these universities realize that there are students that think differently,

00:22:41.440 that that's OK, that colleges should be teaching kids how to think, not what to think.

00:22:45.880 However, if that's just not feasible for you, if that's not something that you want to do,

00:22:50.700 if you feel equipped to do, and if that is going to be a losing battle and you're going to just

00:22:55.160 have horrible grades and post-grad is not going to work out for you if you get all these horrible

00:23:01.360 grades for being a conservative, I'm not going to be the one to tell you to die on that hill.

00:23:05.600 Be as bold as you can while still using discernment. I never think it's OK to lie.

00:23:12.220 So I don't encourage you to lie either. But I don't think that you necessarily have to be

00:23:17.920 outspoken as a conservative. That means sacrificing all of your success in school, if that makes sense.

00:23:26.280 But my recommendation to you, if you are a conservative that goes to a left-leaning school,

00:23:31.080 you feel ostracized, find, if you can, a group that thinks the same way you do. So find a college

00:23:38.120 Republicans. Find maybe a church that is a biblically grounded, gospel-centered church.

00:23:44.440 Find college conservatives. Maybe you should start a turning point chapter, young Republicans,

00:23:51.680 whatever it is. Start that chapter at your college. I guarantee you there will be people who come out

00:23:55.920 of the woodworks who say, oh, I'm a conservative, too. I had no idea. It will help you so much if

00:24:01.300 you are surrounded by and you seek out people that think the same way you do. That's so important,

00:24:05.440 not just to not feel alone, but to stay true in your values. To be honest, it's going to be really

00:24:09.920 hard when you go to college and you think that you're so strong in your views, but then other people

00:24:14.980 push you a certain way and you're like, oh, yeah, sure, I'm not pro-life. I know, God,

00:24:20.580 oh, no, because you're embarrassed. And then you end up believing all of the things that you

00:24:25.540 have felt pressured to believe. I went into college strong Christian, strong conservative. I stayed that

00:24:32.220 way for three and a half years. My last semester of college, I've talked about this before on my

00:24:36.900 podcast. I went through a lot of different things. I went through a bad breakup. I was, I don't want to

00:24:42.800 say depressed because I don't want to demean or trivialize people who have really suffered from

00:24:48.560 clinical depression, but I felt depressed, very anxious. I developed an eating disorder. First,

00:24:53.480 it was anorexia. Then it was bulimia. I started drinking a lot. I started going out with the wrong

00:24:59.760 people who preached to me a message that was not true that, hey, this is your last semester of

00:25:05.180 college. You should live it up. You should, you know, pay attention to all these guys that are paying

00:25:09.200 attention to you. You should go out with us three nights a week. Yeah, you should get drunk. It's fine.

00:25:13.180 It's good. Let loose. Don't worry. After college, you'll get serious. Yeah. All of

00:25:18.540 that's a lie. And the sad thing is, was that I knew better, but I did allow myself and I'm not

00:25:23.540 blaming this. I take responsibility for this, but I allowed myself to start believing things that

00:25:28.160 weren't true because it was no longer convenient for me to believe in biblical truth. It was more

00:25:34.400 convenient for me and honestly, a lot more fun for me to believe the things that my friends were

00:25:39.320 telling me this postmodern idea that morality doesn't really exist. And the only thing that matters

00:25:43.540 is that you're happy and you have fun. And the thing is, even when I was pursuing all of these

00:25:47.880 things that I thought were going to make me happy, I wasn't actually happy. I was making

00:25:52.660 really bad decisions. I was hanging out with people. I shouldn't have hung out with guys.

00:25:56.740 It was guys that I shouldn't have hung out with that put me in bad situations that I really regret

00:26:01.400 now. Like I look back at that semester in college and I regret so much. I almost made it. Like I almost

00:26:08.880 made it through college, making good decisions and being able to look back at my collegiate career and

00:26:13.500 having just an entire four years to be proud of. And I completely squandered it. And that's how Satan

00:26:18.280 works. He takes the people that are, I was very unlikely to be the party girl. He takes them and

00:26:24.440 puts them in a situation, tests their faith and says, are you going to stand? Or are you going to,

00:26:29.760 are you going to fall? I fell and I don't recommend that. You will be so proud of yourself

00:26:35.720 if you remain true to your values throughout your college career. And one thing that would have

00:26:41.460 prevented me from falling into temptation and having an entire semester that I really regret

00:26:45.920 would have been allowing other Christians to speak into my life. There were Christians in

00:26:50.600 college who tried to speak into my life and said, Allie, what are you doing? Like, why are you doing

00:26:55.020 this? This isn't you. You were literally chaplain in your sorority. Why are you doing this? And I

00:27:00.000 didn't want to listen to them because it wasn't fun to listen to them. It didn't feel good to listen to

00:27:03.600 them. But it took months after college, me sitting in a counselor's office and her telling me that I was

00:27:09.540 going to die from bulimia, uh, before I woke up and was like, shoot, wow, this is not who I am.

00:27:17.200 This is not how, who God made me to be. This is not what Christ saved me for, to ruin my life

00:27:21.900 for something like this crazy. And thankfully in God's redemption and his grace, he saved me out of

00:27:27.980 that, saved me from myself and pursued me when I didn't deserve to be pursued. And he could do the

00:27:34.160 same thing for you too. Like if you're listening to this, I know I went on a completely different

00:27:37.540 tangent than the question, but if you're listening to this and you worry that you're too far gone,

00:27:42.780 or you are considering like, Hey, maybe I should start partying, hooking up this year. That sounds

00:27:47.680 fun. Uh, my recommendation is no, don't do it. Nothing good happens from it. No fruit will bear

00:27:55.740 from it. And honestly, I'm still dealing with the regret from four years ago. It is not worth it. And you

00:28:02.320 are never too far off to save. So just remember that Jesus loves you again, different direction

00:28:09.080 for this message. Uh, but I just wanted to make sure that I reiterated that. Okay. Maybe a couple

00:28:15.640 more questions, a couple more minutes. One question. This is a fun question. Not quite as deep.

00:28:21.000 If you could only eat one cuisine for the rest of your life, which would it be? And why? I don't think

00:28:24.760 I answered this. If I did, I'm sorry, but I just love food questions. I feel like I ask this to people

00:28:30.900 all the time. Like what would be your last meal that you would eat? I would have like a five course

00:28:36.460 meal. If I could only eat one cuisine for the rest of my life. Okay. I'm adding the caveat to this,

00:28:41.800 that I wouldn't gain weight. If I, if that didn't matter, like if calories didn't matter,

00:28:49.060 there is this dish called sunset style fajitas from a chain Mexican restaurant that's here in Texas,

00:28:56.600 but it's also in Georgia, I think now in Atlanta, it's called me casino. It's not even the best

00:29:02.240 Mexican restaurant. I don't think that we have here in Dallas. There are plenty of other better

00:29:06.720 ones, probably more authentic, but sunset style fajitas. So good. You get this like huge dish of

00:29:13.200 chicken and fried onions in the middle. And there is this spicy queso. I know that you who don't live in

00:29:20.620 Texas call this cheese dip. It's called queso. Whoa. I just got caught in my throat because I got

00:29:26.040 so excited talking about queso. It's called queso and it's amazing. And then you get the flour tortillas

00:29:33.700 that are warm and you put all of it in the tortillas and they just make amazing fajitas. It's so good.

00:29:40.420 I'd probably eat that for the rest of my life. If it didn't matter that I wasn't getting proper

00:29:45.300 nutrients and if it didn't matter that I was probably going to gain 5,000 pounds, I guess I

00:29:51.720 would probably eat that if I was going to still be healthy. That's a great question. Thank you so

00:29:57.540 much. Uh, anyway, I love you guys so much. Thank you so much for listening. Feel free to reach out to

00:30:04.900 me. Like I said, if you've got questions, if you've got feedback, also one thing for those of you who are

00:30:09.860 still listening, you probably turn it off by now. For those of you who are still listening, if you know

00:30:14.120 someone who was born 1925 or earlier, who was still alive, who you think has an interesting

00:30:18.880 story, please email me about them. Allie at the conservative millennial blog.com. Okay. Love

00:30:24.320 you. Have a great weekend. See you next week.

Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - October 18, 2018

Ep 47 ｜ The Toxicity of Feminism

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