Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 5 ｜ The Only ＂Racial Reconciliation＂ the Church Needs is the Gospel

00:00:00.000 Hey y'all, it's Allie. What's up? Welcome to Relatable, where we break down relevant topics

00:00:06.640 every week from Christian, conservative, millennial, and yes, Relatable perspective.

00:00:12.260 So we usually do one topic per week because I like to do a deep dive into the issues that

00:00:18.100 we're facing right now. There are lots of good podcasts out there that talk about the news of

00:00:22.640 the day, but this podcast is not necessarily one of those. We like to take a step back.

00:00:27.980 I like to slow down. I like to try to put the news in the context of our lives and our faith.

00:00:33.560 I've gotten really good feedback from you guys, so I hope you continue to like it. If you do have

00:00:38.540 some constructive criticism for me though, please do let me know. My email is Allie

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00:01:12.660 if you like the podcast, please go give me five stars and tell me why you like it and tell your

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00:01:24.040 love my videos, which you can find on a weekly basis at CRTV.com slash Allie. So one thing that

00:01:32.380 you guys have told me, at least some of you, many of you have, is that you'd either like this podcast

00:01:38.760 to be longer or have two 30-minute podcasts per week. And what I just realized as I'm talking is at

00:01:46.060 the top of this show, I made it sound like usually we talk about one topic per week, but today we're

00:01:52.440 going to talk about two topics. That's not true. I don't really know why I did my voice like that.

00:01:57.280 We're still only talking about one topic today. But I want to address this desire that some of you

00:02:02.960 have expressed that you would like the podcast to be longer or you would like multiple podcasts

00:02:08.620 a week. Okay. So on the first one, the funny thing is I've never actually planned for my podcast

00:02:14.840 to be 30 minutes. I still every week don't try to make than 30 minutes. I sit down, I write my notes,

00:02:22.220 and every time it's been about 30 minutes without me even trying, which to me means that if I added

00:02:28.180 more to it, then I would be repeating myself or making insignificant points. I guess like I almost

00:02:35.040 alluded to, but didn't mean to at the beginning of the show, I could talk about more than one subject

00:02:39.380 per week. But that to me kind of defeats the purpose of me trying to get you guys to really dig

00:02:45.520 into a topic or me digging into a topic with you. And then the other option that you guys said

00:02:51.360 is me having two podcasts a week and I'm just not there quite yet. So as the podcast grows and the

00:02:59.940 demand for multiple shows a week really increases, then I can definitely assess that. But as most of

00:03:05.520 you know, I'm really new to this podcast world, so I'm just taking it slowly. I will nevertheless

00:03:11.100 though, I will try my best to make these a little bit longer, maybe one week, 30 minutes, maybe one

00:03:17.480 week, an hour, maybe one week, 45 minutes. We'll kind of just have to see. But from my Instagram

00:03:23.680 poll, my Instagram story, there was a slight majority of you who wanted it to be longer. So

00:03:29.840 I will try my best for the 51% of you. Anyway, what are we talking about today? Something that is

00:03:37.520 actually more significant than the length of my podcast. We are going to talk about race,

00:03:43.660 racism, and my take on both of these things as a Christian. So, you know, when a white conservative

00:03:52.940 talks about this subject, it's going to be interesting. Some of what I'm going to say

00:03:59.760 might surprise you. Some of it probably won't. So let's go ahead and get into it.

00:04:13.660 So the other day, I read an article on the Gospel Coalition, a site that I have really liked and from

00:04:22.080 which I've gotten a lot of great reformed insight in the past. And this was on the anniversary of

00:04:27.440 Martin Luther King's assassination. And it was an article called We Await Repentance for Assassinating

00:04:33.520 Dr. King by Tabidi and Yabwile. Okay, that title alone, We Await Repentance for Assassinating Dr. King

00:04:44.840 should probably make you say, what? We await repentance for an assassination that happened 50

00:04:53.140 years ago? Why? How? Okay. A lot of times headlines, though, are purposely provocative only to make a very

00:05:03.100 reasonable, logical point. So fine. But what does the article actually say? Well, the point of the

00:05:10.840 article, you can read the whole thing, by the way, in totality on tgc.org. So I'll just summarize it

00:05:18.540 here. The whole point is that since Dr. King was assassinated, we really haven't come very far.

00:05:25.000 In fact, he says explicitly, I've been battling my unbelief and discouragement to maintain at least a

00:05:30.560 slender hope that the commemorations would be one step, even one step in the long journey toward

00:05:36.740 reconciliation, peace and justice. In other words, this author believes, I think, I haven't talked to

00:05:43.060 the guy, but it sounds like he believes that in the last 50 years, we really haven't moved forward

00:05:48.040 very much. That we are apparently still as racist in many ways as we were 50 years ago when the MLK Jr.

00:05:55.540 was assassinated. I don't know how else to interpret what he said. That we are still basically in a Jim

00:06:02.040 Crow-like America where segregation is acceptable. I don't think that anyone with a brain would tell you 0.96

00:06:09.800 that that is true. But I can't stop there because that statement just really kind of lays a foundation

00:06:16.620 for the rest of his thinking. He then goes on to say that while James Earl Grey was guilty of King's

00:06:23.820 assassination, he wasn't actually a lone actor. He was helped by other white supremacists and racists 0.78

00:06:29.180 who did nothing and said nothing. He was aided and abetted by their cowardice. And actually, okay, 0.99

00:06:34.800 I don't really have a problem with that, really. I'm not really entirely in opposition to it.

00:06:42.260 There were certainly some people in the South in this time who hated King and the civil rights

00:06:47.060 movement. And because of their silence or even their outright hatred, this kind of thing was allowed to

00:06:52.300 happen. Maybe. Possibly. That's certainly part of it. There were definitely attitudes and general

00:06:58.540 sentiments of communities that provided a platform for injustice and probably still do. But even so,

00:07:06.160 his claim that the entirety of white society is to blame for King's assassination is just not

00:07:11.780 accurate. You think that there were no white people in the South that at that time who stood with

00:07:18.800 the civil rights movement and marched alongside King? You think those who did stand up against

00:07:23.520 injustice are still to blame for his murder? Why? Because they were white? But that's not even the 0.93

00:07:31.040 most contentious part of this whole thing. Here's the glaring hypocrisy and the irony in this. He says

00:07:36.400 at the top of one paragraph, I don't need all white people to feel guilty about the 1950s and 60s,

00:07:42.000 especially those who weren't alive. Okay, great. Wasn't planning on it. But then he concludes with,

00:07:49.820 and this statement is really what summarizes, I think, the heart of his article. He says,

00:07:57.200 my white neighbors and Christian brethren can start by at least saying their parents and grandparents

00:08:02.800 and this country are complicit in murdering a man who only preached love and justice. All right,

00:08:10.380 here it is. What he really wanted to say this whole time, but needed several paragraphs of sanctimony to

00:08:16.580 actually say. This really could have just been a tweet and it would have saved us all a lot of time.

00:08:21.080 And remember, the title of this article is, We Await Repentance for Assassinating Dr. King.

00:08:27.820 So what he means is this, white people right now today need to start by feeling guilty about what our

00:08:35.920 grandparents and parents may or may not have done in the 50s and 60s that indirectly led to the

00:08:41.800 assassination of Martin Luther King. That, he thinks, is the way to reconciliation and peace.

00:08:47.980 That, he thinks, is the important message that we need to put out. Because that, according to him,

00:08:53.500 is our big problem today. Not that the world needs more Jesus, but that we need more personal shame

00:08:58.780 and guilt over something that happened half a century ago. And if you're wondering if that

00:09:05.120 message is antithetical to the gospel, which says that Jesus is a reconciliation and that in him there

00:09:10.760 is no racial or ethnic or gender or socioeconomic divide, great job. You are correct. Yes, we should

00:09:18.860 look in sorrow at the assassination of Dr. King. We should look in disgust at the KKK,

00:09:23.980 white supremacists and racists who advocated for discrimination. We should search our own hearts 0.77

00:09:29.320 for hints of racism, which has no place in the body of Christ. Our hearts should break when we

00:09:34.420 consider the lives of black people that were snuffed out or abused or devalued because of the color of 0.92

00:09:39.240 their skin. We should feel empathy and compassion and great sadness when we consider the injustice our

00:09:45.520 country allowed. We should assess where we are as a society and how far we've come. We should ask for

00:09:51.360 mercy and for wisdom. We should seek to do all things in love and ask God that we would be able

00:09:56.860 to see people as he sees them. But we should not automatically simply because they are white

00:10:04.060 consider our parents and grandparents complicit in murder. I don't find that kind of posture

00:10:10.340 anywhere in scripture. If my parents and grandparents were somehow complicit, if they did stoke the flames of

00:10:17.560 racism in the South, which to the best of my knowledge, they never did, then that is their sin 0.96

00:10:22.100 to bear. That is their forgiveness to ask for. Me considering my predecessors indirectly guilty of

00:10:29.020 murder because of the color of their skin helps no one. There seems to be this theory, I guess both 0.86

00:10:35.880 within and outside of the church, that if white people were just ashamed enough of the past sins of 0.52

00:10:42.100 people who share our skin color, then we could reach a point of racial reconciliation. We have

00:10:47.300 conferences now about racial reconciliation, sermons dedicated to it. We have articles like this one

00:10:53.560 telling white people the ways that we can start bridging the gap. But wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:11:00.940 Isn't there something Christians already have that bridges the gap between the races? Isn't there already 0.99

00:11:07.060 a tool of reconciliation between people of all differing backgrounds? Isn't there something

00:11:12.800 that makes the color of our skin and the past sins of people in our race obsolete? Oh yeah, it's the

00:11:19.380 gospel. The gospel does that. The gospel is our peace, our shared hope, our reconciliation, our bridge.

00:11:26.260 The gospel of Jesus Christ and him crucified is what brings us together and allows us to join hands,

00:11:31.960 black, white, brown, red, whatever, in love and grace and forgiveness and mercy and hope.

00:11:36.900 The same gospel that allows a father of a teenage son killed by a drunk driver to forgive that drunk

00:11:42.980 driver. The same gospel that allows a wife to forgive a husband who walked out on her and her

00:11:48.900 kids. The same gospel that allows a person to forgive the friend that betrayed him. The same gospel that

00:11:54.580 allows the abused to forgive the abuser, the persecuted to forgive the persecutor, the rejected to forgive

00:12:00.540 the rejecter, the abandoned to forgive the one who abandoned them, the lender to forgive the one who

00:12:05.760 stole from her the same gospel that allowed jesus in all his holy perfection to forgive the people

00:12:14.240 who crucified him if jesus who knew no sin became sin so that we evil twisted corrupt sinners could

00:12:22.600 become the righteousness of god do you really think any of us black or white have any right

00:12:28.340 to hold past sins over someone's head especially sins we ourselves didn't commit

00:12:33.520 the way to racial reconciliation as it's called may indeed necessitate repentance on many of our

00:12:40.380 perhaps there is bigotry and racism in our hearts we need god to seriously work out in us but it is

00:12:46.820 not through perpetual and constant shame over what our grandparents may or may not have done

00:12:51.720 that is not the gospel and it will do far more to divide us than unite us which is exactly what

00:12:58.000 satan wants satan would love nothing more than for the body of christ to divide along racial ethnic

00:13:05.020 lines he would love for us to reflect the rest of the world in our tribalism he would love for us to

00:13:11.280 embrace intersectionality the idea that we all have our own unique oppressions that define us

00:13:16.600 and need to be addressed individually he would love for us to hop on board with these secular movements

00:13:22.600 that promise to save humanity because they distract us from the one who did save humanity jesus and maybe

00:13:29.480 there is some value to these organizations and sermons and conferences dedicated to racial reconciliation

00:13:36.800 but i just fear that we are over complicating it for us to come together as different races i don't need to

00:13:47.120 feel more guilty black people don't need to feel angrier what we both need to do is to see ourselves

00:13:53.340 as ephesians 2 19 says that we are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of god

00:14:00.140 all of us who are in christ no matter our background or skin color which means that there is no room for 0.98

00:14:07.040 racism by the way in either direction the gospel does not cannot will not coincide with racism bigotry or

00:14:15.400 discrimination of any kind it doesn't coincide with a white person demeaning a black person or a brown

00:14:20.740 person and it doesn't coincide with a black or brown person feeling antipathy towards white people

00:14:25.260 there is only room for absolute deference and love for our neighbor now listen to me i am not saying that

00:14:33.780 people don't have different perspectives and struggles based on their backgrounds we are all different god

00:14:39.180 made us all different i'm not saying we don't acknowledge differences at all and pretend like

00:14:44.600 horrible things like jim crow slavery etc doesn't exist they did exist and they were extremely low

00:14:50.740 points in american history we can talk about them even grieve them but we should not allow ourselves to

00:14:57.660 be defined by those things now we cannot allow them to continue to drive a wedge between us

00:15:04.280 and that's exactly what this whole movement of so-called intersectionality does intersectionality

00:15:11.620 is the idea that every different kind of person's oppression meets at an intersection and it seeks to

00:15:17.580 allegedly acknowledge and deconstruct the power structures that cause this oppression so my oppression

00:15:24.440 as a woman intersects your oppression as a black person and so on it might sound fairly loving and

00:15:31.640 peaceful but it's not because what we see from it is not reconciliation and unity but division and

00:15:38.260 conflict why because intersectionality doesn't actually exist to tear down oppression all it

00:15:44.640 does is point it out so intersectional feminists say that they're attempting to deconstruct these 1.00

00:15:50.040 systems that are oppressing people like the patriarchy but what are they actually doing besides just saying

00:15:55.960 that people are oppressed and when all you do is talk about problems rather than solutions

00:16:00.880 conflict arises which is why i call intersectionality the oppression olympics all that ever comes of

00:16:07.160 intersectionality is people competing against who is more oppressed than who so i might be oppressed as a

00:16:12.880 white woman but i'm not nearly as oppressed as the muslim black pansexual bisexual person so what happens

00:16:21.200 is that it's not really an intersection in which we share in each other's unique struggles it's a hierarchy

00:16:26.880 with white male being at the very very bottom i as a white woman especially one that voted for donald 0.75

00:16:32.860 trump that might just disqualify me altogether might have some oppression to bring to the table but since

00:16:39.140 it's not as much as my transgender asian lesbian neighbor i don't have that much to say that's what

00:16:45.640 intersectionality says so people are basically ascribed worth and value according to their oppression

00:16:51.980 or at the very least their willingness to sit down step back and uh so-called check my privilege

00:16:57.900 um it's almost like your level of awesomeness in the world of intersectionality is how different you

00:17:03.900 are from the mainstream which is not always necessarily tied to actual oppression by the way

00:17:10.340 sometimes the the oppression is perceived and if you don't have a unique combination of characteristics

00:17:16.300 that all have to do with race and sexuality well then they say you need to take a seat

00:17:21.680 and okay i can see how that appeals to the world i guess it's kind of like an attempt at compassion

00:17:28.620 and acknowledgement but the tragic part is it seeped into christianity and the problem is it is

00:17:35.760 incongruent with christianity so i was tweeting this is an example i was tweeting some of this stuff this

00:17:42.560 morning and a girl started getting into it with me telling me that i'm wrong about this that actually

00:17:48.140 jesus was a spearhead of intersectionality that he existed to defeat harmful systems and that we

00:17:55.100 need intersectionality in the church she asked and i'm paraphrasing did jesus not confront broken power

00:18:01.900 structures by interacting with people who it wasn't decent for him as a jew to interact with and i mean

00:18:08.740 yes she's right the woman at the well he told the parable about the good samaritan he obviously dined

00:18:14.240 with sinners and had close interaction with people on the margins of society people who were deemed not

00:18:20.660 just unpopular but unclean he did but and this is what i said his solution to these injustices was not

00:18:31.200 intersectionality it was himself it was the gospel in fact it was the opposite of intersectionality which

00:18:39.400 defines you by your oppression he freed them from the confines of oppression by giving them new hope

00:18:45.060 in him he healed the sick locked eyes with the woman caught in adultery noticed the woman at the well

00:18:50.600 and made sure that not just their physical situation was addressed but their spiritual one he didn't let

00:18:55.840 them stay as they were he didn't define them by how unfairly they'd been treated or the cards they'd been

00:19:01.380 dealt he looked straight past their skin into their heart and her answer to my 280 character version of what i

00:19:10.860 just said was the gospel has yet to stop racism and that is exactly what i've known is at the heart

00:19:24.320 of some people's desire to bring this secular idea of intersectionality and secular versions of quote

00:19:31.680 racial reconciliation into the christian church they think the gospel has yet to stop racism which means

00:19:40.800 you do not believe the gospel is sufficient this right here is what is at the core of the movement

00:19:50.080 of intersectionality both outside and within the church that the gospel jesus is not sufficient for our

00:19:56.340 problems so he needs our help he needs our worldly modern movements to give him you know like a boost the

00:20:03.660 gospel the only thing in the entire cosmos that has ever brought new hope new life new freedom is apparently

00:20:12.020 not sufficient for our modern day problems of racism so i i just want to i just want to get this straight

00:20:19.700 when people say that the gospel hasn't stopped racism so isn't enough to stop racism so we're

00:20:26.440 talking just we're talking about the same gospel i just want to be clear so this this power of of the

00:20:32.460 gospel aka the power of god himself was enough to raise jesus from the dead after he was brutally crucified

00:20:38.200 but it's not enough for racism the power of the gospel was enough to make the blind see the deaf hear the

00:20:44.840 lame walk and the prostitute clean but it's not enough for today's racism the power of the gospel

00:20:50.860 was enough to convert saul the murder of christians into paul the greatest missionary the world has ever 0.71

00:20:56.660 seen the power of the gospel is enough to save the most wicked soul from the pits of hell the power of

00:21:03.760 the gospel is enough for millions of martyrs throughout history to die for but it's not enough for racism

00:21:10.100 the power of the gospel is enough to change hate to compassion the power of the gospel is enough to

00:21:17.660 make alcoholics sober to make abusers kind to make serial killers loving to make the suicidal hopeful to

00:21:23.960 make the fearful unafraid but not enough for racism the power of the gospel is enough to transform entire

00:21:31.760 families for generations to heal nations to shine light into darkness the power of the gospel is enough

00:21:37.860 to save me from exactly what i deserve eternity without god but it's not enough for racism i don't buy that

00:21:47.380 the gospel is sufficient for all of our deficiencies including racism discrimination bigotry we do not

00:21:56.220 need intersectionality as a church we do not need any other kind of racial reconciliation beyond what is

00:22:05.080 given to us graciously and fully in christ now will racism still exist yes so will murder rape theft

00:22:15.140 extortion kidnapping all kinds of evils in the world so because evil exists do we suddenly say the gospel

00:22:23.480 isn't enough for these things no of course not the gospel is the answer to all of it to all of it

00:22:32.680 in one day the gospel will answer all of it but while we are in this life we will have trouble we will

00:22:41.440 face injustice things will be unfair things will be messy and ugly matt chandler typically refers to

00:22:48.220 this as what he calls the not yet so in the midst of our brokenness we are in the not yet do we fight

00:22:56.540 against it yes do we call it out yes but that is not going to happen by assigning blame to our brothers

00:23:03.120 and sisters in christ and drawing lines along race and ethnicity we fight against it with the power of

00:23:09.400 the gospel we fight against it with the reality that there is no significant distinction in the body of

00:23:15.500 christ so any bigotry or blame has no place both need to be repented of as they do nothing to advance

00:23:24.480 god's kingdom all this to say i vehemently disagree with the article written about mlk's death on the

00:23:31.600 gospel coalition i i wouldn't say that this person like doesn't believe in the gospel or isn't a true

00:23:38.060 christian i'm not i'm not really into that kind of thing i just think that he is misguided on this

00:23:43.900 particular issue and i think much of the church is at risk for being misguided in this for the simple

00:23:49.900 reason that we want to look more like the world christians have become so afraid i think of being 1.00

00:23:57.260 called self-righteous zealots so afraid of sounding or looking like those crazy idiot people from west 0.99

00:24:03.300 borough baptist who were holding the gays are going to hell signs that they soften not just their 0.99

00:24:09.080 approach to preaching the gospel but the gospel itself like they think that the gospel this idea

00:24:15.320 that jesus came to save us from our sins is too offensive so they just are super tolerant and nice

00:24:23.260 to people and accept everyone as they are no matter what and hey if jesus is thrown into that later on

00:24:29.800 then fine and you know what i mean they're partly right the gospel is offensive especially to today's

00:24:36.820 morally relativistic culture the idea that we all have sin and not just like some sin but sin that

00:24:43.600 sentences us to eternity in hell is very rude it's rude it's totally offensive not just because we

00:24:52.640 tend to think that we're better than we are but because society tells us that very few things are

00:24:57.400 actually right or wrong you do you as long as you're happy whatever feels good we've allowed this

00:25:05.200 what's right for you mantra trump what is right not everything is just right for you

00:25:13.240 some things are just right but the gospel totally demolishes moral relativism and this idea that

00:25:20.320 whatever feels right is right it says no actually your feelings are bad and not just that but you are 0.72

00:25:26.460 bad you're like death sentence bad you're like filthy rags bad no matter how good you think you are 0.99

00:25:32.560 the gospel doesn't work without acknowledging that first the gospel of jesus isn't a gospel worth telling 0.98

00:25:39.900 if you don't start with the existence of sin because there's no point in talking about a savior if

00:25:44.780 there's nothing to be saved from this message of unconditional tolerance and niceness is not saving

00:25:51.100 anyone the gospel because of its irresistible power and grace demands repentance it demands perfection

00:25:58.100 actually which jesus satisfied on our behalf because we can't it demands full and total surrender to christ

00:26:05.240 no matter how that feels and in fact we know that it doesn't feel good a lot of the time

00:26:10.180 we are constantly at war with our flesh with what our flesh wants our selfish ambitions our worldly

00:26:17.180 identities we are constantly battling our own sinful desire to exchange eternal fulfillment for temporary

00:26:23.640 pleasure and that is not an attractive offer to people conditioned by society to believe that being happy

00:26:30.060 right now is the only thing that really matters i think the gospel honestly is becoming harder to

00:26:37.760 accept for people and that's not because the gospel has changed but because i think society has changed

00:26:43.600 back when even our parents were young the idea of sacrifice was very familiar the idea of instant

00:26:49.940 gratification was relatively foreign people were used to the concept of laying yourself down to get a reward

00:26:56.820 down the road from writing letters to climbing corporate ladders i don't think the idea of laying down your

00:27:03.700 life for eternal glory with jesus was that difficult or that foreign of a concept to buy into i don't know

00:27:12.320 maybe i'm wrong i wasn't alive back then maybe in some way every generation thinks that about their 0.96

00:27:17.540 predecessors but i do think that's why so many churches are buying into this secular progressive crap 0.60

00:27:25.580 to make the gospel more modern and appealing to make christians look super uber tolerant uh well one 0.97

00:27:33.840 christians aren't supposed to be tolerant at least not in that sense we're not supposed to be mean and

00:27:38.520 judgmental of course we are supposed to speak truth in love and two the gospel doesn't need our help like

00:27:46.120 have i made that abundantly clear it doesn't need the help of the world or me or you or any worldly

00:27:52.040 movement it does not need to be made cool it doesn't need to be uh watered down it doesn't

00:27:57.720 need to be made less offensive it is sufficient in totality by itself okay i think i said the word

00:28:07.060 gospel like 50 11 times during that i guess it's a good thing if you're gonna say a word a lot i think

00:28:13.560 that's a good word to say so that is it for today at least the meat of it um but i always like to end

00:28:21.340 in a fun segment i'm going to end in two semi fun segments it depends on what you qualify as fun one

00:28:27.560 will be what i'm reading that is a new segment i literally make up a new segment every week and the

00:28:32.940 second will be another round of things i just don't get i did that a couple weeks ago and now it is back

00:28:39.440 by popular demand not really just by my demand so um what i am reading if you follow me on instagram

00:28:46.680 you saw that i posted a story of my bedside table not like the table but on top of the table which

00:28:53.420 has uh my books that i'm currently reading on it i have this really bad habit of starting like

00:29:00.580 16 books at once and not finishing them for like a year it's really it's not good like you don't really

00:29:06.540 retain enough information that way it's not efficient it's stupid but the one i am reading 0.74

00:29:13.800 mainly right now i am probably going to finish in like two days because it is super easy and it is

00:29:20.560 not intellectual but it's really really good it's called the president will see you now by peggy grand

00:29:25.760 i think it's grand not grande and guys i have cried like every single page and it's not even sad yet

00:29:34.460 the author was ronald reagan's executive assistant for about 10 years after he served as president and

00:29:41.380 it's basically just an account of who he was as a man all of their personal interactions his

00:29:45.700 interactions with other people her relationship with his wife nancy reagan and it really just shows

00:29:52.880 in such beautiful detail what a man of honor ronald reagan really was he was a gentleman he was a strong

00:29:59.800 christian and adept leader a sworn enemy of communism down to earth relatable humble kind a people person

00:30:07.960 obviously a great communicator since that was his nickname the great communicator he clearly loved his

00:30:14.720 wife intensely i also have a book of letters to them back and forth i'm like kind of obsessed with

00:30:19.920 the reagans he loved his country he served god and really really at least from what i have read

00:30:26.740 about him from so many people who knew him was just a truly good man in every sense of the word

00:30:33.500 i know he wasn't perfect some people definitely have issues with him but he represented to me so much of

00:30:41.660 what is good about this country and i think i've cried throughout this book because one i just have

00:30:49.420 always had this problem i guess you would call it a problem of just really easily and intensely

00:30:54.820 getting attached to the people i'm reading about like from the time i was little i've gotten so

00:30:59.680 emotionally involved with every single story that i've read that it's always been hard for me to

00:31:04.740 finish books like it was kind of honestly a problem growing up like i would get too attached to the

00:31:10.660 characters i i was reading about and i would become like a recluse it's kind of weird and even the stories

00:31:16.560 that i wrote when i was like in second grade i remember writing this story for class and i was sad to

00:31:22.900 finish the story because i would miss the characters i was writing about anyway i'm a communicator i think

00:31:29.500 that's just how god made me i guess that's just how we communicators are but anyway the other reason

00:31:36.800 is because i think there's this bit of nostalgia in me when i read it for a time that i never got to

00:31:43.680 experience one i've always loved the 80s and 90s and two i just think that patriotism if it's not

00:31:50.820 dead it's different and i'm not saying that patriotism necessarily died with reagan it died

00:31:56.800 with obama just kidding not really not really kidding but it certainly did change and no matter

00:32:03.020 how much she liked the bushes i like them as people i mean i don't know them but i feel like i do

00:32:09.780 um we've never we just never had another man in the office quite like ronald reagan no one to me

00:32:17.460 with as much integrity as him has served as the president he embodied the american dream and

00:32:23.320 optimism and hope and pride he truly believed in freedom and democracy which is why he was so

00:32:28.880 committed to spreading it to the ends of the earth so the author goes into stories of the people who

00:32:34.140 thanked him there was this romanian lady who had been freed because of him and came into his office

00:32:38.620 and literally fell to her knees and was weeping and kissed his feet i mean i'm like crying thinking

00:32:43.660 about it honestly i'm getting choked up and i think i'm reading all of these amazing stories

00:32:50.020 anticipating when i have to read about his death and that just makes me sad they're they're symbols

00:32:55.560 of an era in our country that we'll never get back i know that sounds pessimistic

00:33:03.300 but i i don't know i i just think that's i think that's where we are but i do recommend it maybe it's

00:33:10.640 not maybe we're going someplace hopeful and if that's the case either way whether we are or not

00:33:17.200 i think it's important to read this book you probably won't cry like i will because you're

00:33:20.780 probably a normal person it really is a very happy and upbeat read it's easy to read and it tells you

00:33:25.960 a lot about who reagan was as a man and what he did and like i said i think that's important in a lot

00:33:31.040 of ways to understanding where to understand where we've come from and where we could possibly go

00:33:37.060 um i have also been reading for like three months every good endeavor by tim keller it's taken me

00:33:45.280 forever because i read like a chapter every morning as part of my quiet time but i highly highly

00:33:50.940 recommend this one because it tells you how to do your work in your industry in a way that advances

00:33:55.300 god's kingdom um it's practical it's insightful it's challenging and comforting at the same time

00:34:01.240 you feel it's one of those books you feel smarter every time you read it and kind of just

00:34:05.680 better about life um it just has offered me a lot of clarity and inspired me and motivated me in a lot

00:34:13.420 of ways so those are my two books for now the president will see you now and every good endeavor

00:34:19.060 and on that i will just say as everyone's mom that is in the audience i will just say boys and girls

00:34:27.700 that everyone should read if you're not reading you are falling behind that is a true statement and i say

00:34:33.340 that is someone who does not make nearly as much time for it as i used to or as i need to i used to

00:34:39.280 read so much in high school and in college i just kind of fell off the bandwagon and i haven't ever

00:34:45.360 gotten back to reading as much as i used to but i've really tried to be more disciplined about it

00:34:50.740 this year because i truly love it and i've noticed that the more i read the better i write the better i

00:34:57.800 speak the more deeply i think the better ideas i have i truly just think it makes me a sharper

00:35:03.060 and better more empathetic more compassionate more creative person and i think that's true for

00:35:08.500 everyone so read okay last thing and this is over 30 minutes this is like 35 minutes good job i'm trying

00:35:17.180 to make it a little bit longer but still it's still always under 40 minutes it's so crazy i never planned

00:35:22.060 that um okay last segment things i don't get it's really quick uh this was also on my instagram story

00:35:27.460 but it is important to note i do not like when people say no worries when i didn't have anything

00:35:36.180 to apologize for i feel like this happens to me a lot i wonder if i kind of like if it's a female 0.97

00:35:41.740 thing like i kind of implicitly apologize when i have to remind someone of something like i say it in

00:35:48.080 a way that's kind of apologetic so it usually happens to me when another person this is usually in a

00:35:54.760 professional setting like did something wrong or like annoying or not the right way i i say

00:36:00.780 something like okay i know it's late but could you please send me that thing i asked for and if

00:36:05.500 anyone is is listening to this who works for me i am literally thinking of zero specific instances

00:36:11.340 right now that actually have to do with work this is just a hypothetical scenario i am not actually

00:36:16.880 thinking of a legitimate person so i would say something to a random person like i know it's late

00:36:21.440 but could you like please send me that thing i asked for or asked for and they're like no worries

00:36:26.540 yeah um i'm just confused about that because i know there's no worries like i have no worries and

00:36:33.920 i don't need you to reassure me i have no worries at all like you should be the one with worries and i

00:36:40.520 should be the one to tell you no worries i've been told that maybe i'm misinterpreting that which is

00:36:46.100 totally possible that maybe they're being like oh please do not be alarmed i will do that now

00:36:52.480 but i don't think so i think it's people's way of not apologizing and i don't like that i'm talking

00:36:59.600 about in mostly work settings again this is in the past this is no one that i currently work with

00:37:05.920 but it's happened to me in the past so i'm talking about mostly in the professional setting

00:37:11.360 but millennials in particular i think have a really hard time with this because they have

00:37:15.900 a hard time apologizing for things they might like correct their mistake but they're super

00:37:22.080 uncomfortable i guess i should say we but i don't feel like i am but most millennials are super

00:37:28.420 uncomfortable apologizing that is a character flaw you guys we as a generation need to get better at

00:37:33.500 that if you made a mistake you need to tell your boss or your colleague sorry you need to say sorry

00:37:39.180 not just like sorry but genuinely sorry and take ownership for it not just sorry you feel that way

00:37:44.980 or sorry you're stressed but like sorry for what you did just do it don't over apologize don't grovel

00:37:50.060 you don't want to look like a weak person but do take responsibility and say sorry this is my fault

00:37:56.220 i'll make this right right now i promise you that will get you very far i've probably learned that

00:38:01.440 the hard way at one point just a little tip for you maybe that's what i'll do maybe i'll do

00:38:06.100 professional tips at the end not that i'm some pro but i've learned a few things in my four years

00:38:12.000 out of college okay that is all for today my friends i try to make this longer it's like almost

00:38:17.420 40 minutes um follow me on instagram twitter and the conservative millennial facebook page make sure

00:38:24.980 to go to crtv.com slash ally for my weekly videos uh they're really fun i hope that you like them

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00:38:36.660 worth it okay see y'all next week bye

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Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - April 11, 2018

Ep 5 ｜ The Only ＂Racial Reconciliation＂ the Church Needs is the Gospel

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