Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 51

00:00:00.000 Hey guys, welcome to Relatable. It's Allie. Of course, you can watch this on crtv.com slash

00:00:05.380 Allie. And if you're not already subscribing on Spotify, iTunes, wherever you listen,

00:00:09.720 you should definitely do that. And you can leave me a nice review, but only if you're

00:00:13.720 going to do five stars. If you have constructive criticism, please email me,

00:00:17.920 Allie at the conservative millennial blog.com. I love your constructive criticism, but I don't

00:00:22.420 like less than five star reviews because sometimes I get four star reviews that are

00:00:27.380 completely positive in the text, but they just love me four stars. It makes me really sad.

00:00:31.560 And then you get the trolls that just leave me one star and they're like, I hate Allie.

00:00:35.560 Please don't do that. If you're listening to me, I hope that you like me and leave me a five star

00:00:40.420 review. I would really appreciate it. Okay. Today I'm going to answer some of you guys's questions.

00:00:45.300 You guys's, your, I don't know, your questions that you sent me on Instagram. I told you that

00:00:49.860 I was going to be answering a lot of questions today. So I'm going to, and I have a variety of

00:00:54.640 questions. So this is going to be a podcast that relates to everyone that's listening,

00:00:57.980 whether or not your questions were answered. We'll get into all of the topics that you like

00:01:03.260 to talk about that. I know that you guys love to talk about, but I'm going to do it through

00:01:06.620 the direct questions that were asked me. It got some very intriguing ones. So I'll be interested

00:01:12.040 to hear what you guys think. But first, actually, I'm not going to steal Ben Shapiro's ad

00:01:16.940 introduction. Just thought it would be funny for a second. But to start, I am going to tell

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00:01:41.660 on me. I don't know why. And I'm like sweating by the middle of the night. But this pillow keeps

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00:01:52.520 would not be telling you that if I didn't think it. I wouldn't be doing this ad if I didn't

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00:03:45.280 a lot of freaking money that you're saving just by typing in my name, A-L-L-I-E, bolstersleep.com,

00:03:50.920 $100 off. Start with the pillow. Maybe you'll graduate to the mattress and you'll just be

00:03:56.820 sleeping, sleeping like a baby and you'll be happy. Okay. So now we're going to get into these

00:04:05.300 questions that I was sent by you lovely people. I get lots of questions from you on Instagram.

00:04:10.000 That seems to be the number one place that I receive critiques or encouragement or whatever

00:04:17.140 it is. Sometimes I get these really crazy messages from people, mean messages from people, but most of

00:04:23.800 the time you guys send me very nice messages or you just like tell me about your day, which I really

00:04:28.760 love. One thing that I love that you guys do, I feel like I've started a trend and I definitely need

00:04:33.600 to make products that have trash person on the t-shirt or on the sweatshirt because I do call

00:04:40.220 myself a trash person because I, um, don't like to wear makeup or brush my hair or do anything like

00:04:46.800 that. And I'm totally fine going out in public that way. And I take a picture of myself and I call

00:04:50.940 myself a trash person. I post on social media and you guys seem to relate to that. So I love that I

00:04:56.520 have all of these trash people that are following this podcast and that trash people can just unite

00:05:01.360 with all of our trashy ways. So take, uh, what am I trying to say? Um, just, just be on the lookout.

00:05:08.580 That's what I'm trying to say. Be on the lookout for a trash person piece of memorabilia. I don't

00:05:14.860 know what it is yet. And if you are good at design, you can come to me and you can design it. That'll be

00:05:21.160 fun. But anyway, I get very profound messages as well, not just trash people messages. And I get really

00:05:27.600 good questions. So today I just wanted to take the time to answer a lot of your questions,

00:05:31.600 uh, because they're worth answering. And I don't always get to do that. So first question,

00:05:35.980 or one of the questions that I got that I'm going to answer first is what would you recommend to

00:05:40.280 someone with a strange relationship with God? This person says, I want to believe and be at peace,

00:05:45.920 but I am at a place in life where I feel like he almost doesn't care about me or is trying to

00:05:51.560 sabotage me. So if you were sitting in front of me and we were getting coffee, I would say,

00:05:56.680 girl, what's going on in your life? What are you thinking about? What are you reading on a daily

00:06:00.960 basis? How often are you in the word? Are you going to church? Are you in community? Are you

00:06:06.140 around fellow Christians? What's kind of filling your mind? And that's the question that we have

00:06:10.640 to ask all of ourselves. Like when I'm feeling down, when I'm feeling anxious, when I'm feeling

00:06:14.800 doubtful, which I feel all of those things probably on a daily basis, I have to ask myself, what are the

00:06:20.460 habits and what are the actions of my day that are causing these thought patterns? Or is it something

00:06:27.200 that happened to you? Maybe you are doing all of those things, but you're going through a really

00:06:31.040 hard time. Like you feel like your family's betraying you, like everyone is against you.

00:06:35.860 One thing after another just keeps going the wrong way. It's a series of unfortunate events. And you're

00:06:40.780 like, how can a good God be letting all of this bad stuff happen to me? Like, what have I done?

00:06:46.040 And I would want to hear about all of that. But I would also want to know, I would also want to know

00:06:51.940 in those times, if you're going through a hard time, what are you turning to? Are you turning to

00:06:56.440 social media? Are you turning to self-help books? Are you turning to yourself? Where are you getting

00:07:01.380 your affirmation? Are you getting your affirmation from how many likes you get on Instagram, which is

00:07:06.520 something that all of us do? Who are you turning to for advice, for truth, and for help? Because what I

00:07:13.500 see a lot of times in all of us, I've talked to you guys about a sinful and dark and hard time that

00:07:19.960 I had when I was in college, where I was drinking too much, partying too much. I had an eating disorder.

00:07:23.980 I was chasing after all of the wrong things, even though I knew better. And I was having my own

00:07:30.240 doubts about my faith. And if God really could satisfy me, if he really was as good and as

00:07:35.340 trustworthy as he said that he was. But the reason I was having those doubts is because in the midst of

00:07:40.800 my doubts, I was turning to other things for satisfaction and truth. I was really turning

00:07:45.580 to myself and my friends who I knew weren't going to tell me anything, right? And to drinking and to

00:07:50.780 all of these things that made me temporarily happy, instead of going to the word and going to the source

00:07:56.060 of truth, which is scripture. I was turning to, because I think in the midst of those times too,

00:08:03.620 when we start downing and we're going through hard things, we almost don't want to know the truth

00:08:08.840 because it's difficult. This idea that God is trustworthy, even in the midst of our adversity,

00:08:15.280 that he is good, even in the midst of hardship is difficult to understand. And it almost feels

00:08:21.160 like it's not satisfying because it's a choice that we have to make to actually believe that

00:08:25.660 it's very difficult to believe it. And it doesn't always feel good. So what I encourage you to do,

00:08:31.160 what I've had to encourage myself and other people I know to do is to win your doubting. Don't go

00:08:35.740 further away from the truth. Go towards the truth. Seek him in the midst of your doubts.

00:08:40.380 Go to the word. And specifically the passages that I want you to read that have helped me so much when

00:08:46.020 I'm feeling very insecure or down on myself is Psalm 25, Psalm 27, Psalm 37, and Psalm 139.

00:08:54.340 And Romans 8 is another good one. But all of those depict God as one aspect of his character is that

00:09:02.300 he is a warrior. He's someone who fights for us. He's someone who cares about the battles that we

00:09:06.400 have in front of us. He's someone who takes care of us, that has had a plan for us since we were in

00:09:10.820 our mother's womb before that, who is intimately acquainted with all of our ways. He does care

00:09:16.620 about you. He is not trying to sabotage you. And I can tell you right now that that is a lie from the

00:09:21.620 pit of hell. That's not who God is. He is a good God. He is a good father who cares more about you

00:09:27.020 than you could ever care about yourself, more about you than any person on earth could ever

00:09:31.640 care about you. He knows you better than anyone else does. He loves you more than anyone else does.

00:09:37.700 He loves you so much that he sent his only son to die for you, to die a brutal death on the cross,

00:09:43.360 just so you could spend forever with him. That's amazing love. The Bible says for a good person,

00:09:48.900 one might even die, but for a bad person, no one's going to die for a bad person. But that's exactly

00:09:53.660 what Jesus did for us, that while we were still weak, while we were still sinners, Christ died for

00:09:58.560 us. That's how much he loves you. There is absolutely no truth whatsoever that God does

00:10:03.620 not care about you or that he is trying to sabotage you. He loves you and he wants what's best for you,

00:10:09.240 even when life is hard. That's actually when I think when we can see him most and that we have

00:10:17.040 the greatest opportunity to draw near to him and to see the fullness of who he is, which is a comforting,

00:10:22.460 loving, loving, gracious father. So I encourage you Psalm 25, Psalm 27, Psalm 37, Psalm 139, Romans 8.

00:10:32.080 There are so many other scriptures too, but those have helped me in my own times of insecurity and

00:10:37.300 doubt, which I have had plenty of. So that's a great question. Thank you so much for asking me that.

00:10:43.600 Next question is, would you consider fostering or adopting children? I'm guessing children,

00:10:49.960 not pets, although I would do that, but I think you're talking about kids and yes, I would. I

00:10:55.820 definitely would. My sister and brother-in-law, yes, sister and brother-in-law. I always get like

00:11:03.600 how you say that wrong sometimes. Anyway, they adopted from China, little Maddox, and he's the

00:11:10.220 cutest thing ever. Not that that matters in adopting, but I've been able to kind of from afar watch that

00:11:16.540 whole process. And I have been able to see that it's a very sanctifying, very difficult process,

00:11:21.880 a process that brings you closer to Christ because you see in adoption what Christ did for us, what

00:11:30.160 God did for us through Christ, that he adopted us, that we are abandoned and without purpose and

00:11:38.220 without direction and without a home, without him. And he took us in. That's exactly what he does.

00:11:43.560 That is exactly what the gospel is. And I think it's such a beautiful depiction of that. And so

00:11:48.860 I have seen people really experience that almost for the first time through fostering and through

00:11:53.660 adoption. I think it's one of the greatest manifestations of the gospel. And of course,

00:11:59.920 the Bible tells us to take care of orphans, to take care of widows. Now, I don't know. I just don't

00:12:05.500 know. I'm not saying one way or the other. I don't know if everyone is called to adopt. I'm not sure.

00:12:11.620 I think that we're all called to take care of orphans and widows, no matter how that looks in

00:12:16.460 our life. I don't know if everyone is called to adopt. It would be amazing if everyone who could

00:12:20.740 adopt did. I think that we would have a lot fewer problems that way, but I would love to one day.

00:12:27.260 I really hope that we're able to. Next question. I thought this was interesting. I've heard it before,

00:12:33.080 but I've never really teased it out. Uh, should Christians use commentaries?

00:12:38.840 Uh, yeah. Well, I don't want to say should I do use commentaries. I like commentaries. Now,

00:12:45.860 some people say that you shouldn't because nothing is superior to or even equal to God's word. And

00:12:52.580 that's absolutely true. But I don't think that there is any problem with looking at,

00:12:59.320 looking at the wisdom of scholars who have come before us, who have taken time, years out of their

00:13:07.120 lives, decades out of their lives to study the scripture, to study the Greek and the Hebrew,

00:13:12.220 to study the history, the context of all of it. And they have done us a huge service by compiling all

00:13:18.800 of that in these books that we get to wait through. Now, every single sentence of commentary that you

00:13:24.360 read must be weighed against scripture. And I don't think that we should see commentaries as divine

00:13:31.020 commentaries are going to be fallible because they are written by men who are also fallible and they

00:13:37.560 are not the inspired word of God, the way the Bible is. So on some things, there might be two equally

00:13:45.100 technically biblical opinions that don't, that don't align, that might oppose each other because

00:13:51.260 we just haven't reached a theological consensus on this particular theological issue. And then

00:13:59.200 there are others that are just plain biblical and just plain not biblical, and you should be able to

00:14:03.720 weigh them against scripture. But we do the best that we can with what we have. Of course, praying to

00:14:09.120 God for wisdom through the Holy Spirit. Of course, weighing every commentary that we read against

00:14:14.700 scripture. And if something is contrary, that just means that you need to dig a little bit deeper.

00:14:19.180 I think the important thing is, is that we don't just read commentaries that meet our preconceived notions

00:14:25.140 and don't just fit our comfortable worldview. So if I'm a liberal, for example, just reading liberal

00:14:31.560 commentaries that say, oh, the Bible was written by, was written a long time ago, and it's up for

00:14:37.700 interpretation depending on how culture feels, that's probably not good. You're probably just going to get a

00:14:43.640 reaffirmation of what you already believe, and you might not actually be weighing those commentaries

00:14:47.820 against scripture. So it's important to also know the methodology of the commentaries. I read

00:14:55.300 systematic theology. I have the ESV study Bible. I agree with their methodology of eisegesis,

00:15:02.740 of, or exegesis, sorry, not eisegesis, of going into the scripture, analyzing the scripture in its

00:15:09.980 fullness, and then going from there. Eisegesis does the opposite. It has a purpose. It has a topic.

00:15:15.960 It has the interpretation that it wants, and then it goes into scripture to support that view. I do not

00:15:22.260 support eisegesis. Exegetical teaching is what you want. Systematic theology is what you want.

00:15:27.940 Systematic theology, the book by Wayne Grudem, actually talks about what systematic theology is

00:15:34.780 and the methodology behind it. That's what I recommend. Other people out there might also have

00:15:39.360 great recommendations. Reformed theology, I think, is actually a Instagram account. I think that's the

00:15:45.440 name of it. They have book recommendations all the time. I certainly have not read all of the books

00:15:49.860 that they recommend, but that might be a good place to start. I do read commentaries, but I also

00:15:56.460 personally love the Bible. I don't always have to read commentaries, but I have questions every day

00:16:02.720 about the Bible, and it's just a good place to go and say, okay, what does this person say who knows

00:16:06.600 more than me? Oh, what does scripture say? I like that, or not. I like that, but that is true,

00:16:11.140 or that's not true. You know, you have to have kind of analytical thinking and all of that.

00:16:16.520 Are you a sweet tea person? Very important question. I'm not. My whole family's sweet tea

00:16:22.660 people. My family's from Arkansas, Louisiana, and we've lived in Texas forever, but no, we're,

00:16:28.560 I'm not a sweet tea people. They are sweet tea people. I've just never liked tea. I don't really

00:16:32.800 like tea that much at all. I'm trying to drink tea at night. I get super stressed at night before I go to

00:16:38.100 bed. I'm thinking about all the things that I have to do. And, um, I am thinking about all the

00:16:45.460 places that I have to travel and everything that's on my to-do list. So I'm trying to drink tea at

00:16:49.160 night, but I'm not a sweet tea person. I think it's good. I think it maybe saves me some calories

00:16:54.620 because if I did like sweet tea, I'd probably drink it all the time. I am a LaCroix person. I drink a lot

00:17:01.360 of sparkling water, which I hear is actually has like a insecticides in it now has like cockroach killer in it.

00:17:07.940 I hope to gosh, that is not true because if so, I am just, I don't know, cockroaches don't take a chance

00:17:15.220 around me if that's true. Um, any advice for dealing with family that holds strongly liberal views?

00:17:22.400 That would be really hard girl or guy. Whoever sent me this, I don't remember if it was a girl or guy.

00:17:27.440 I think it was a girl. More power to you for getting to where you are. I would love to hear how you became

00:17:32.700 a conservative. I know that's got to be a very difficult thing. I don't know what it's like to

00:17:36.940 change my views from how I grew up. I was raised a conservative Christian. So that's got to be,

00:17:45.280 that's just got to be really difficult. So first of all, good for you for changing your mind. Um,

00:17:50.740 for conversations with them, I would be as kind and as loving and as non-confrontational as you can

00:17:56.880 be to maintain the relationships. That doesn't mean that you can't say what you think is true,

00:18:01.320 but I think, I think it means like gently challenging them when they say something

00:18:05.280 that you don't agree with that when they say something about abortion or Trump or whatever

00:18:09.120 it is, something that they see on the news, just asking them saying, well, why do you think that?

00:18:13.600 Or, well, actually I think this, or well, also this is true. Just kind of gently pushing back and

00:18:20.060 making them think for themselves, because that's really the goal to convert any liberal to

00:18:25.040 conservatism is just get them to start thinking for themselves. Just push back against the things

00:18:29.380 that they've been hearing constantly from every single source of information that they have.

00:18:33.420 Ask them questions and ask them why, why are you pro-choice? So, okay, you are for illegal

00:18:40.620 immigration or you are for open borders. Is there any, is, is there any amounts of illegal immigration

00:18:47.580 that you think is bad? At what point can we say, okay, these certain people are not allowed in our

00:18:52.980 country. Just start making them think about the things that they believe, but always let them know

00:18:57.620 that like you love them, that you think that they're great people. If you do think they're

00:19:01.040 great people and that you're there for them, no matter what, and that politics is secondary.

00:19:06.000 Best female role models in politics. I really, I mean, I love Nikki Haley. I think that she is

00:19:16.180 strong, that she is confident, that she is stoic when she needs to be stoic. She's passionate when she

00:19:21.120 needs to be passionate. She is not trying to not be feminine. Like she's not trying to,

00:19:28.780 to me, she doesn't seem like she's trying to be more manly or be a masculine or be masculine because

00:19:36.020 that's what she has to be to be in this powerful position. I think that she is just who she is. I

00:19:40.740 think she has strong values, that she has strong core conservative principles. I think she's done a

00:19:44.900 great job of fighting for America and America first and staying above the fray in all of this

00:19:51.380 political gossip that we've seen. If you remember, she was accused of having maybe an illicit affair

00:19:56.900 with the president in that crazy book. I don't even fire and fury maybe. And she just like rose above

00:20:03.400 that. Didn't even entertain it. I just think that she's a no nonsense person that also comes across

00:20:07.860 as empathetic. She's done a great job. I'm very sad that she's stepping down. She says that she's not

00:20:12.740 running in 2020. Probably smart. I would love for her to run after that. Now 2024 is probably going

00:20:19.900 to be a Democrat. I would love her to run at some point. I think that she would be great. And she's

00:20:24.580 got time. She's pretty young, relatively. So that would be a female role model in politics. I don't

00:20:31.740 really have female role models in political media. I love Megyn Kelly. I've always loved Megyn Kelly.

00:20:37.260 I don't agree with all of her views. I'm also not surprised that she was fired from NBC

00:20:42.520 NBC. NBC doesn't like her. And she's pushed back hard against the Kavanaugh thing. Like

00:20:47.420 she's been on the conservative side for the Kavanaugh thing. She's not particularly politically

00:20:52.220 correct. Now, I did not agree with her blackface comments. I didn't agree when she said on Fox

00:20:57.580 News that Santa and Jesus were white. Like she says things that I don't agree with. And she's

00:21:03.480 not I mean, she's not a conservative. She would say that she's not a conservative, I think. But

00:21:07.260 I just like her. I think she's so smart. I think that she is the sharpest person on television

00:21:12.160 that no one can win an argument like Megyn Kelly. I will probably never be like her. I just don't

00:21:18.420 know if I have that skill set. And plus, she was a prosecutor and all of that. I just think Megyn

00:21:22.860 Kelly is one of the smartest, smartest people in political media. I don't know her, though. So I

00:21:30.460 couldn't even exactly call her a role model. But she's just awesome to me. But that's about it.

00:21:36.680 Unfortunately, it's hard to it's hard to relate sometimes to females in media. Sometimes there

00:21:43.140 it's a dog eat dog world. That's why I live in my little cocoon in Texas away from D.C. and New York

00:21:48.880 outside of all of the drama. What narratives? I thought this question was very interesting. What

00:21:55.660 narratives? OK, I think I need to word it a little bit differently so it makes sense. What narratives are

00:22:01.440 the right pushing and what narratives are the left pushing that you think are going to be common

00:22:07.120 opinion in 20 years time? Well, first of all, the right doesn't have that great of a track record

00:22:14.320 and pushing a narrative that suddenly becomes mainstream. Maybe at one point they did. Maybe

00:22:19.440 I think what are now considered conservative opinions were mainstream at one point. But that just shows

00:22:26.400 you that it's really progressives that have the track record and pushing their opinions into the

00:22:31.940 mainstream. I think in 20 years time, there are going to be a lot of progressive opinions that

00:22:36.420 become mainstream. I hope not. And now we can push back against these with all of our might. But we're

00:22:41.740 already seeing so much censorship of ideas that go against the progressive tropes that it's hard for

00:22:47.560 me to see how they won't become mainstream. Definitely gay marriage and, you know, homosexuality in

00:22:54.960 general will be completely and totally seen as, I would say, not even a sin. I think most Christians

00:23:00.920 in 20 years will say that it's not a sin that is perfectly acceptable, just as acceptable as a straight

00:23:06.020 relationship. And I think that we will also see the whole gender debate be absolutely shut down, that

00:23:12.480 gender is completely fluid, that man and woman is just based on your subjective feelings of whether or not

00:23:18.960 you believe that you're a man or a woman. Now, the only thing that could push back against that is

00:23:24.240 another section of progressives, which is the feminists. The feminists are going to end up

00:23:29.860 being frustrated that men are still beating us at everything because of the transgender movement,

00:23:34.740 that men who are competing against us are winning all of our races, that no longer are we going to be

00:23:42.120 able to say the first woman did this, the first woman did that, because they're all going to be men

00:23:45.940 who became women. And there's going to be an uprising among feminists who say, wait, wait, wait,

00:23:51.300 we worked this hard for the patriarchy to come back in the form of transgenderism.

00:23:56.960 That's going to be interesting. But I do think that it'll become mainstream. The more and more

00:24:00.340 people will say that being that gender is completely fluid, that you choose it, or I don't even know

00:24:07.220 what the argument is. It has nothing to do with sex whatsoever. They're going to stop saying that

00:24:12.880 you're male or female at birth. And gosh, that breaks my heart. I'm like, I just want to

00:24:17.280 homeschool my children and to protect them from all of this nonsense and raise them as

00:24:23.260 conservatively as possible. And the crazy thing is, is that it's like not even conservative. It's just

00:24:28.440 normal to say, oh, yeah, there's male and female. And that's what it is. And that's what that means.

00:24:36.320 There's differences between male and female. I think that's going to be the great debate over the

00:24:40.500 next 20 years. Next, what should I do when they are teaching liberalism in my school? I go to a

00:24:48.220 Catholic school. I can't just stand by and watch. I think that's very difficult. Again, same with the

00:24:52.900 question that I answered earlier with the families. I think that you just ask seemingly innocent

00:24:58.160 questions. Ask your friends why they believe what they believe. Talk to the administration. Talk to your

00:25:02.260 parents if they're on your side. Really try to articulate your concerns in a very logical way.

00:25:07.660 Try to present your side as, look, I feel like I'm being indoctrinated by certain ideologies that

00:25:13.620 are certain opinions that I don't agree with. Here's where I stand. Here's what the Bible says.

00:25:18.940 And, you know, pick your battles. Not every fight is worth having. But talk about the things that are

00:25:24.440 important to you and push back on them in a gentle, loving, but very logical way. People might call you a

00:25:29.520 bigot. They might call you stupid. And if you have to be a little bit quieter for the next couple years

00:25:34.100 until you graduate to get good grades, that might be what you have to do. But that doesn't mean that

00:25:39.040 you should be bullied into that. If you need to reserve your opinions, I think that's OK. But

00:25:44.020 don't let them bully you. Don't let them make you feel guilty for believing what you believe. Remember

00:25:48.040 that you are not the extremist that they are. That conservatism was mainstream not that long ago.

00:25:53.560 And our views are not only normal, but they have been tried by history and have worked. So stay

00:26:00.120 strong. I'm here for you. You can always message me if you need me. How much should you worry about

00:26:05.340 your GPA? I did not. I did not worry about my GPA. Now, I made decent grades. I would say I was like

00:26:15.540 a B plus student, but I always whenever there was an opportunity to not study and go hang out with

00:26:22.020 someone, I always took that opportunity. I don't know. Maybe that was probably I don't know. It's

00:26:26.320 probably just my way of procrastinating. But I always was like, I'm not going to I'm not going

00:26:30.540 to give up on a conversation for homework. I'm glad that I did that. Now, there are a few things

00:26:35.300 I probably could have worked harder on, probably could have gotten better grades in high school

00:26:38.780 and college. But I did good at the things that I am good at. I did not so good, like, you know,

00:26:45.480 B minus on the things that I'm not very good at. And I don't care. Like, I don't look back and think,

00:26:50.640 wow, I really wish I would have done better in math. No, I don't. Or biology 101. I don't think

00:26:57.300 that. But it also depends on what you're doing in life. Like, you should worry about your GPA if

00:27:02.020 you're trying to get into med school, if you're trying to get into law school. I wasn't. But if

00:27:05.900 you're trying to do that, then yeah, you should probably worry about your GPA, because that's

00:27:09.060 going to set you up for the rest of your life. But if you're not, then do the best that you can,

00:27:14.200 because you are stewarding the gift that God has given you of getting an education, which is an

00:27:18.340 amazing privilege that not everyone in the world has. But don't find your worth in it. Don't ruin

00:27:24.420 your life over it. Don't be obsessed with it. Don't let it bring you down and steal your joy.

00:27:30.220 Do you think God is God's plan for you is going to be determined by a grade point average? It's not.

00:27:36.000 He's much bigger than that. OK, let's see how many more questions. OK, last question.

00:27:41.980 Hi, Allie. Do you have any advice for someone who is nearly conservative? My boyfriend of three years

00:27:47.700 has converted me slowly with his patient's willingness to argue and facts. I've been

00:27:52.380 following you for a few months, as well as listening to other conservative podcasts. And

00:27:55.800 for the first time in my life, I'm open to the idea of God. I'm still very apprehensive of organized

00:28:00.760 religion. I haven't had the best experiences. History, mythology and theology have always

00:28:05.100 interested in me, interested me. Is there any one right way to approach reading scripture? You're

00:28:11.760 awesome and keep on doing your thing. Well, thank you so much. I'm so glad that you've been

00:28:15.620 listening. And first of all, the fact that you are open enough to listen to conservative

00:28:19.680 podcasts and open to the idea of God, even though you've been hesitant to be open until

00:28:24.920 now, it says a lot about you. It says a lot about your intellectual curiosity and your humility.

00:28:30.240 So many people are so prideful that they're not willing to open their mind one bit to the

00:28:35.100 possibility of something else or to the possibility that they might not know the whole truth.

00:28:42.220 So good for you. Good for you for exploring and for wanting to get closer to truth. I would be

00:28:47.640 interested to hear why you are open to the idea of God. What makes you believe that there could be

00:28:54.460 a supreme being? I've talked a lot about the existence of a universal moral law that we all

00:29:01.400 have a sense inside us of right and wrong, of injustice and just. Now, some of that might be

00:29:06.820 different from person to person, but in general, we all have this idea that some things are unjust,

00:29:11.400 some things are just, and it's not based on what the government tells us. It's deeper than that.

00:29:17.180 So if that exists, then there must be some kind of moral law giver. And if there's a moral law

00:29:22.780 giver, then who is that? It's got to be some kind of supreme being. So I'd be interested to hear

00:29:28.120 what led you to that. Was it the idea of a moral law giver? I'd just be interested. So as a Christian,

00:29:35.980 and I kind of touched on this when I was talking about commentaries and theology, I personally,

00:29:43.160 if I were you, I would start with the book of John. I think it's a very good book to start with.

00:29:48.240 It really explains the gospels very well. I want you to start reading scripture, and I want you to

00:29:54.840 know that there is no stupid question. There is no question that is too basic. There is nothing that

00:30:00.980 you should be walking into this saying, oh, I should already know that. I'm not going to ask

00:30:05.300 my boyfriend, or I'm not going to look that up, or I'm not going to look into that. There is no

00:30:09.780 question that's too dumb. There's no question that's too fundamental. There's no question that's

00:30:13.400 too basic. I would start with John, and I would get the ESV study Bible. I think that that's a great

00:30:19.800 commentary. You're going to get really good theology from the commentary. It's going to break things down

00:30:24.300 for you in a very, I think, a very simplified way. And make sure that you're going to the right

00:30:31.500 kind of people. There are going to be people that tell you that what the Bible says doesn't really

00:30:35.700 matter, that you can take anything out that you don't like, that you can put anything in that you

00:30:39.940 do like, as long as it makes you happy, as long as it fits into your preconceived notions.

00:30:45.180 That's not true. That's not what the Bible is, but I'll save that for later. I recommend getting

00:30:49.620 the ESV study Bible, though. Start with John. Do chunks of verses every day. You don't have to

00:30:54.880 read a whole chapter a day. Look at the corresponding commentary, which is going to be below it, and

00:30:59.680 journal it. I love to write out what I'm thinking about it. It's okay if you're doubting. It's okay

00:31:04.540 if you write out that something doesn't make sense. That's really going to help you analyze

00:31:08.040 Scripture and understand it. I'd be interested to hear more about how this journey goes. And it's so

00:31:13.200 interesting, too, to hear how the journey towards conservatism almost always leads people to

00:31:19.400 the idea of God, because they really do go hand in hand. Conservatives believe that your rights are

00:31:25.140 inherent, that they're not given to you by the government. They're given to you by a higher

00:31:28.780 being. That higher being is God. It's very hard to be a conservative and be an atheist and to make

00:31:35.800 sense. So I just commend you for this journey. I commend you to be open and wanting to learn more.

00:31:41.960 I'm proud of you. If you have any questions, you can send them to me,

00:31:46.040 allyattheconservativemillennialblog.com, or you can message me here on Instagram like you did.

00:31:51.080 But thanks for sending that to me. I loved all of your questions. They were wonderful and very

00:31:55.460 profound. And I have a ton that I didn't answer. So I'll have to do another one of these. I hope that

00:31:59.560 you guys enjoyed it. It's almost the weekend. So enjoy the rest of your day. And I will see you next

00:32:06.820 Tuesday. Bye.

Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - November 01, 2018

Ep 51 ｜ Very Good Questions

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