Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 60

00:00:00.000 Hey guys, it's Allie. Welcome to the podcast. This is Relatable. Thank you guys so much for

00:00:05.640 listening. So today we are going to cover some of the most absurd stories of the week. I asked

00:00:10.840 you guys on Instagram to send me the craziest things you've heard in the news, and you did.

00:00:16.360 A lot of you sent me the same things, which means that these are stories that people are talking

00:00:20.720 about that they are shocked by. So I'm going to give you my take on these absolutely absurd things

00:00:28.360 that are happening in our world. And then I promised if we have time that I would answer

00:00:32.940 some of the questions that you sent. I asked specifically if you guys had any personal

00:00:40.540 questions to ask, because in the past you guys have sent me emails asking me to do that kind

00:00:45.020 of segment more. So I would be happy to. Thank you guys. To those of you who sent me questions,

00:00:50.400 you can always do that. Email me, Allie, at the conservativemillennialblog.com. Or you can,

00:00:55.960 of course, message me on Instagram, which many of you do. One thing before we get started

00:01:00.820 with all of that, I am at, I think I have 820 reviews on iTunes right now. So that's pretty

00:01:07.700 good. But before the end of the year, I would really like a thousand reviews on iTunes. That

00:01:14.160 would just really make my year. That would make 2018 just round out so beautifully. If you

00:01:20.540 would send me, I'm going to give you a caveat, positive five-star reviews on iTunes. Now there's

00:01:27.620 a, there's a peeve of mine, uh, that some people do, and it is leaving me a four-star review,

00:01:33.120 but leaving a positive comment. So it's one thing if you leave a four-star review and you say,

00:01:37.840 I love this podcast, but Allie's voice is really annoying. I love this podcast, but she likes cats and

00:01:45.280 cats are awful. I really liked this podcast, but she likes Chili's chicken fingers too much.

00:01:51.500 Okay. That's fine. You can give me four stars, even though I prefer that you email me those things,

00:01:56.000 but I've done this before. Once upon a time, when I was a lowly publicist, I, uh, gave a four-star

00:02:03.600 review to a catering company that actually did a service for our client and got ripped to shreds

00:02:09.520 because I left a positive comment, but left four stars. It was the first four-star review they'd

00:02:13.340 ever gotten. It messed up their whole thing. And since then I've realized the power of a five-star

00:02:18.040 review, please. If you like my podcast, even just a little bit, please leave me a five-star review.

00:02:22.880 Of course, I don't want you to be dishonest. If you don't like my podcast or you have constructive

00:02:26.780 criticism, you can still leave a five-star review, but just email me. Like I said,

00:02:31.420 Elliot, the conservative millennial blog.com. I take your criticism and your feedback seriously.

00:02:35.960 I might not always agree with you, uh, but I do my best to take it into consideration. And if,

00:02:42.200 if it is a worthy criticism, then I will absolutely do it. For example, I had a couple of people say,

00:02:49.320 you know what you've cussed, like you've said, uh, you know, bad day or something like that on

00:02:54.540 your podcast. And I would really appreciate if you didn't do that because I've got kids in the car.

00:02:59.500 So at first I listened to that and I was like, Oh man, I mean, you know, those are just casual words,

00:03:04.520 but then not only did I stop doing that because that's important to me that you guys can listen to

00:03:10.300 this wherever. And you don't have to worry about, um, Oh, I'm going to have to cover my,

00:03:14.480 my kid's ears. But also because I, I realized that that's not a godly or biblical thing to do.

00:03:20.200 We're supposed to not engage in crude joking. We're not supposed to talk like that. And so I

00:03:24.560 was actually being disobedient just in and of itself by using those kinds of words. So know that I do take

00:03:31.480 what you say seriously, and I do take your feedback and I do take your criticism. Like I said,

00:03:37.940 I might not always agree, but, uh, I promise you that I will think about them and, and pray over

00:03:43.560 these things and I will apply them if necessary. So just FYI, but please leave a positive review on

00:03:49.560 iTunes. I would absolutely love that. Okay. So once, before we go into all of the absurd stories that

00:03:56.540 you guys sent me, just want to note really quickly that, uh, George HW Bush, uh, he had his funeral

00:04:02.880 yesterday. It was a state funeral. So not every president or every notable figure in American

00:04:08.660 history has had a state, uh, state funeral. I believe that this was only the 19th state funeral

00:04:14.000 in us history. Not even George Washington had it. Uh, now some people have different opinions about if

00:04:20.320 we should even have state funerals, particularly for a president who didn't die tragically. Um, because

00:04:26.060 it kind of is, uh, people think that it harkens back to when we lived under the monarchy of England.

00:04:33.280 It's more of a, uh, Royalist type tradition. Of course, that's not how we regard it today. Um,

00:04:40.640 there have been, uh, plenty of notable presidents and American heroes that have had, uh, state funerals,

00:04:46.980 which, uh, solicits a national day of mourning. And we regard it as now an American tradition. And that's

00:04:54.660 what it was when we honored George HW Bush yesterday. Like I said, there are different

00:05:00.020 opinions in that regardless of what you believe about these, uh, elaborate state funerals. It was

00:05:05.740 a very beautiful service. I watched some of it on Fox news and I watched George W Bush. Of course,

00:05:11.780 the 43rd president of the United States, uh, HW Bush was the 41st. He delivered the eulogy,

00:05:19.860 a beautiful speech. I don't know how sons and daughters do this in, in front of the world.

00:05:25.120 Of course, he has a lot of experience speaking in front of the world as a former president,

00:05:29.020 but I just thought he did a great job. He is witty. He is charming. He is thoughtful.

00:05:34.300 I think that he is profound in a very relatable way. And, uh, it was, it was a meaningful speech.

00:05:42.160 So I just want to play you the last little bit of the speech, which made me especially emotional.

00:05:47.060 Well, dad, we're going to remember you for exactly that and much more,

00:05:51.820 and we're going to miss you. Your decency, sincerity, and kind soul will stay with us forever.

00:05:59.460 So through our tears, let us know the blessings of knowing and loving you,

00:06:04.280 a great and noble man, the best father, a son, or daughter could have.

00:06:12.820 And in our grief, let us smile, knowing that dad is hugging Robin and holding mom's hand again.

00:06:20.280 So I don't know about you, but whenever I see someone cry, especially like that,

00:06:34.140 just with that much spontaneous emotion, I immediately cry. It's like an involuntary reaction.

00:06:40.680 Both my husband and I were sitting and watching the speech and we just started, we started crying.

00:06:45.360 We welled up with tears. Um, he held it together so well. And then in that last moment, I'm sure it

00:06:51.100 was because, you know, he was heading towards the end of, uh, of the speech. The last time he would

00:06:58.280 formally honor his dad. And of course, talking about his dad being in heaven with his, uh, with

00:07:04.260 his sister who died when she was young and with George W sister who died when she was young. And also

00:07:09.680 with Barbara Bush, that's a very, uh, emotional picture. That's a very emotional thing to say.

00:07:14.620 So God bless the Bush family, uh, praying for them, praying that he would comfort them and that

00:07:19.040 everyone who was involved in this whole thing and who, who witnessed this funeral would come to know

00:07:24.100 Christ and that Christ would be glorified through all of that. So George A. Shubby Bush, American hero

00:07:30.500 served his country really well, really bravely and really steadfastly. And he's a member of the

00:07:36.260 greatest generation that all of us, no matter our political leanings, uh, can learn from. So I want

00:07:42.300 to shift gears entirely, entirely different tone from somewhat, uh, somber memorializing, uh, former

00:07:50.320 president to absurdity. Uh, you guys asked me to cover some of these crazy stories that are happening

00:07:57.420 in the news. So this is going to be, this is going to be a fun episode. Okay. This is going to be

00:08:02.040 you banging your head against your steering wheel. If you are driving or banging your head against the

00:08:08.020 sidewalk, if you are walking, because you are going to be thinking, Oh my gosh, is this really

00:08:13.640 what our world is coming to? Is this stuff becoming mainstream? And we don't know, but we can at least

00:08:19.300 laugh at it together because what are we going to do? We, we have the choice between crying or laughing.

00:08:23.620 We might as well laugh at least for now. So first story is from the Huffington post, the, um,

00:08:30.040 you know, the, the arbiter of all truth, the, uh, purveyor of credible news HuffPo says this,

00:08:39.560 this is, this is the headline. Okay. Yes. This pastor is melting purity rings into a golden vagina

00:08:48.460 sculpture. Yes. You heard exactly what I said. That is not a game of Mad Libs that you heard.

00:08:56.680 That is not me drawing a random words out of a hat and putting it together. I don't think that's

00:09:03.040 what happened with HuffPo. I think this is a legitimate story. I mean, there are like pictures

00:09:08.000 and there's like this person involved that is actually like an actual person. So here's a line

00:09:12.620 from this HuffPo story. What should Christian feminists do? I already have a problem with this

00:09:18.720 sentence. What should Christian feminists do with their old quote purity rings and put quote around

00:09:25.320 purity. Cause I guess that's the figure of speech to them, uh, symbols of a patriarchal theology.

00:09:31.040 Like I cannot get through this entire sentence without peeling all of my eyelashes out. Um,

00:09:37.720 patriarchal theology that has harmed countless women melt them down says progressive. Oh,

00:09:45.240 that's not a question. Sorry. They're saying that definitively melt them down says progressive

00:09:49.860 Christian author and, uh, creates something completely new. Okay. Let me say that again.

00:09:56.880 So you can understand what is being said. What should a Christian feminists do with their old

00:10:00.720 purity rings symbols of a patriarchal theology that has harmed countless women melt them down

00:10:05.340 says progressive Christian author and theologian Nadia Bowles Weber Weber. I don't know.

00:10:09.780 And create something completely new. Okay. So I've read this article now a few,

00:10:16.680 or I've read, uh, different articles about this a few times because people like you keep sending it

00:10:21.880 to me. Apparently you guys think this is the kind of stuff that I like to hear. It's not. This makes

00:10:27.380 me want to claw my eyes out, take my eardrums out and throw them across a football field and then go

00:10:33.460 bury myself in a hole and live there forever in my own little underground lair, because this worries

00:10:42.660 me for the future of humanity. Now this person is not new. She's actually been around for a little

00:10:48.920 bit. So I did some research on, uh, miss Nadia here. She's actually written two books. One is called

00:10:53.800 accidental saints and the upcoming book that she had is called shameless and shameless is of course

00:10:59.000 about how this patriarchal Christianity has just shamed women and has made sexuality something that

00:11:05.260 it wasn't supposed to be. And so I've, uh, read some excerpts from this accidental saints book that

00:11:10.720 she read it or that she wrote in 2015. I've read some reviews of it from people that I trust and

00:11:16.140 here's who she is. So this is a, um, in this, I'm not saying that tattoos are bad. I'm just kind of

00:11:23.300 giving you a mental picture. This is a head to toe tattooed punk rock looking person. Now that in and

00:11:30.080 of itself does not mean that you were unchristian at all, or that you were not godly or not holy,

00:11:35.320 but I'm just giving you a mental picture of what this so-called pastor is like. She fancies herself

00:11:42.500 a rebel and not just outwardly, but also theologically, if you can even call it

00:11:48.240 theology, even, uh, religiously, she fancies herself a rebel. So accidental saints was running

00:11:54.620 into, was about running into God and people that she didn't expect. So she talks about running into

00:11:59.040 a drag queen that showed her God running into non-Christians that showed her God and just how

00:12:04.060 awesome it is to be irreverent, how awesome it is to live this ungodly and sinful life and how

00:12:09.300 it's totally fine to be blasphemous. It's totally fine to be crude. And actually it's awesome. It's

00:12:15.640 a liberating that way. Um, here's an excerpt from her, from, uh, accidental saints. This is a pastor,

00:12:21.640 by the way, who claims to also be a theologian who Huffington Post calls a Christian and a Christian

00:12:27.260 author. Okay. Here's an excerpt from accidental saints from this lady. I dug out a scarf from my bag and

00:12:33.860 made a remark about this effing, except she says it effing air conditioning. As we listened to the

00:12:39.760 prelude for the service to follow. And by listened to, I made, I mean, made fun of Bruce. Is this

00:12:45.460 prelude helping us or hurting us? You think there is something about drop dropping F bombs and making

00:12:50.840 fun of worship music with a Bishop that makes me feel warm and fuzzy. Oh man, man. See this,

00:12:58.700 she thinks that she is innovative people like this. They think that they're innovative with her new

00:13:03.220 book. Shameless. Of course, she's talking about how God really doesn't call us to so-called purity,

00:13:08.440 how that's really just a form of oppression. It's a form of misogyny. It's really weighing human

00:13:12.540 beings down women and men just needs to be liberated. We just need to do whatever we want

00:13:17.500 with our bodies. That's really what God intended. And the church just created this awful structure that

00:13:22.320 is holding us back, which of course, again, is not biblical. Um, she thinks that she is new.

00:13:27.520 She thinks that she is cutting edge. She thinks that she is innovative, that she is a rebel.

00:13:32.160 Listen, when I say the Bible does not call us to be edgy, it calls us to be obedient. We are not

00:13:40.800 called to be quote rebellious Christians. Uh, we are called to be obedient Christians. It is not cool.

00:13:49.080 It is not Christian. It is not godly. It is not biblical to rebel against the Bible. And there are a lot

00:13:56.100 of people who think like this. I know that Ms. Nadia thinks that she's probably the first one,

00:14:00.520 but actually in their own forms, Jen Hatmaker does the same thing. Rachel Held Evans does the same

00:14:05.840 thing. You could make the argument that Rachel Hollis does the same thing. This kind of making

00:14:10.640 a sinfulness, a virtue, making not really knowing or following the Bible of virtue, making it like,

00:14:17.240 yeah, we're these cool women that don't even listen to the patriarchy of the Bible.

00:14:21.020 No, that just means you're not a Christian. That that's all that means. Now I'm not saying that

00:14:25.980 Rachel Hollis isn't necessarily a Christian. I'm just saying that the thing, some of the things that

00:14:30.900 she promotes is kind of like that. It's like, you know, I'm just a free spirit. I don't have to follow

00:14:35.640 anyone. And just because I don't do what the Bible tells me, that doesn't mean that I'm a bad Christian.

00:14:41.140 Well, that's not actually something to glorify. Yes, of course we are all sinful and we can be

00:14:45.100 transparent about that. We should be vulnerable about the things that we are truly struggling with,

00:14:49.840 but should I glorify my sin? Should I say, oh, I am, you know, I'm an awesome hypocrite.

00:14:57.460 And should we be happy if our friend says, oh, you know, I'm just a really good liar. It's just

00:15:03.580 kind of who I am. No, of course not. That's not something that we should be excited about. That's not

00:15:08.180 something that we should rejoice over. In the same way, we shouldn't be rejoicing over a lack of purity.

00:15:14.520 We shouldn't be rejoicing over dropping F-bombs in church and being completely irreverent. That

00:15:19.360 means that you don't love, respect, or fear God. People really try hard to make Christianity seem

00:15:24.980 cooler or more attractive to the secular world by making Christianity more secular. And you're not

00:15:32.840 actually helping anyone because again, that just proves that you don't believe that God is good,

00:15:37.220 that he's not really who he says that he is, that the word of God can't be trusted,

00:15:41.140 and that you actually are a better person to follow. Your ideology, your sinfulness is more

00:15:48.740 helpful to someone who needs to be saved than the God of the Bible is. And that is no different than

00:15:55.200 idolatry. You are an unbeliever in thinking that. We don't need to let God off the hook. We don't need

00:16:03.120 to make him softer. We don't need to make him more attractive. We don't need to make him more appealing.

00:16:08.060 We don't need to make him cooler. We don't need to make Christianity seem edgier. We need to speak

00:16:13.040 the truth. We need to share the gospel. We need to point people to scripture, which says that God is

00:16:17.700 a God of wrath and a God of love, and that we will pay the price for our sins if we don't believe and

00:16:22.960 confess that Jesus paid the price for our sins on our behalf, on the cross. If we do not believe that,

00:16:30.260 then we get to suffer the wrath of God for all of eternity. That is the loving thing to say,

00:16:36.480 because that's the truth. And if we love people, we'll share that truth and share the grace that

00:16:41.600 is offered to us through Christ. Okay. So that's the first absolutely absurd story with this

00:16:48.740 Bowles Weber person. She is probably, I can't say in her heart of hearts, I don't see from the fruit

00:16:56.280 or the words in her life that she is a Christian. Christian feminist is a paradox. Throwing away

00:17:02.360 purity rings is not going to help anything. Patriarchal theology, there's really no such

00:17:07.580 thing as that. A progressive Christian, I have a hard time with that juxtaposition. You know that.

00:17:13.780 So let's move on to the next thing. Next absurdity that's happening in the, it's also in the Christian

00:17:20.580 world. In the Christian world, this is from Fox News, Veggie Tales is a racist. Yes, you are right.

00:17:26.740 Veggie Tales. Veggie Tales. Vegetable Tales. The characters in it are vegetables.

00:17:31.920 You might be wondering, I don't remember there being an African-American cucumber. I don't

00:17:38.800 remember there being a Mexican potato. I don't remember there being a white squash. And you would

00:17:43.640 be absolutely right. But you are still wrong because you were thinking logically and logic

00:17:48.340 doesn't work in this world. Okay. So Cal State San Marcos is a project. Cal State San Marcos is a

00:17:55.740 project. Okay. Oh, okay. I'm kind of confused about this line. So in Cal State San Marcos,

00:18:03.300 there is a project from Professor Dreama? Dreama Moon? Dreama Moon. Dreama Moon's class titled

00:18:09.160 the... Oh, God, I got it. I got it. I got the sentence now. At Cal State San Marcos is a project

00:18:14.500 from Professor Dreama Moon's class titled The Communication of Whiteness. It sounds like a great

00:18:19.480 productive class. Students called various things racist, including the NFL, women who support

00:18:24.420 President Trump. Just women, though. And the popular animated cartoon that started in 1993,

00:18:30.780 you know, with Bob and Larry, the tomato and the cucumber. A female student in this project

00:18:36.000 made the claim that by humanizing vegetables, this is real. Okay. This is not the Babylon Bee.

00:18:41.520 It's not the onion. This is not one of my videos. This is real. A female student made the claim that by

00:18:47.580 humanizing vegetables, the creators of VeggieTales were using the children's programming to promote

00:18:52.220 racial stereotypes by making the villains racial minorities. Okay. It says, when supremacists aim to

00:19:01.140 taint the way children think of people of color, it will work. The poster titled Children in the Church

00:19:07.060 reads, okay, people. Okay. So this is the definition of insanity. This is making up something

00:19:16.960 that is just not true. It has no attachment to reality. It has no allegiance to the truth

00:19:24.320 whatsoever. There is no logical thinking that is required in a class or a project like this.

00:19:29.120 There is absolutely no deductive reasoning that goes along with something like this.

00:19:33.700 I remember VeggieTales. We watched VeggieTales in school, actually, when I was in elementary school.

00:19:40.020 VeggieTales is awesome. And it's funny. I think that if I watched it now, I would still probably laugh.

00:19:44.640 It is clever. I mean, I don't remember there being negative stereotypes of racial minorities

00:19:52.320 as the villains. I highly doubt that's true. That's probably why the creators of VeggieTales

00:19:57.600 created VeggieTales, vegetables, so there wouldn't be any problem with race. But this is exactly where

00:20:05.000 progressivism and intersectionality leads. Everything is about race. Everything is about oppression,

00:20:10.340 the oppressor versus the oppressed. There has to be some kind of unfair, unjust dynamic in the social

00:20:18.360 justice world. It can't just be. It can't just be, actually. I'll just end it there. It can't just be.

00:20:25.540 Something can't just be funny. Something can't just be educational. Really, the only reason why they

00:20:30.380 found something racist in this is because it is Christian and because it purports values that they

00:20:36.020 don't like. If this was any other kind of entertainment that purported progressive values,

00:20:42.280 they wouldn't say anything about it. Meanwhile, these are the same kind of people that are okay

00:20:46.680 with drag queen reading hour. I don't know if you've seen stories about that, where drag queens go and read

00:20:52.980 to lower school students or elementary school students their stories. They're totally fine with

00:20:58.560 indoctrinating them with that. They're fine with the anti-America propaganda that we're now seeing in

00:21:04.280 public schools. They're okay with the pro-gay agenda in the public schools. They're fine with

00:21:08.900 that. What they're not fine with is vegetables acting out Bible stories because that's racist.

00:21:15.620 Like I said, this is the definition of insanity, but so is progressivism and intersectionality.

00:21:21.380 That's it. It is the definite. They are insanity because they create this alternate reality in which

00:21:27.720 people are oppressed based on their skin color and their gender in 2018 in America when that's just not

00:21:34.100 systemically true. It's just not. And so they really operate on offense. Offense is their fuel.

00:21:40.380 That's how they keep going. If no one's offended, then there is no need for progressivism. There's

00:21:45.480 no need for intersectionality. So they have to find ways to be offended, no matter how equal and awesome

00:21:51.220 our society is, so they can keep this stuff going. It's a very sick relationship. And unfortunately,

00:21:58.140 it's infecting the minds of people that go to college. More and more, I'm realizing that it might be

00:22:03.640 better for people just to not go to college. I'm a big fan of my college experience. I want people

00:22:08.860 to get as educated as possible, but at the very least, be smart about where you go and what classes

00:22:13.640 you pick, please. Next ridiculous story that we've got going, Fox News, fresh moors over freshmen at

00:22:22.800 Appalachian State in North Carolina. So they're trying to be more inclusive. So they are calling people

00:22:27.560 fresh moors instead of freshmen. Here's my thing. And it kind of goes back to what we were just

00:22:31.760 talking about. How did we survive as a human race for so long without being offended?

00:22:38.620 How did we get by? How did people just live happy lives and be productive citizens, start businesses,

00:22:45.540 have families, die happy, save their money, and somehow avoid being perpetually offended by

00:22:54.100 everything? How did I live through my freshman years of high school and college without thinking,

00:23:00.380 wow, I'm not a man. How dare you exclude me from this? No, I never thought that. It never crossed

00:23:06.240 my mind. And guess what? I graduated from college with honors. I never felt discriminated against.

00:23:10.720 And I bet you didn't either. If you went to college, I just, are there like, are there trolls?

00:23:16.640 Are there gnomes around? Are there little offense fairies that fly around and go to these people and

00:23:22.840 just say, you're offended by this? Please remember when you wake up in the morning, you are offended by

00:23:28.120 this. What happens to people? Does your mind just corrode? And as it corrodes, it's replaced with

00:23:33.740 just these little offense neurons. What happens? I need to know what happens and how these people are

00:23:40.120 spending their time. When do you come to the realization that you're offended by something

00:23:43.800 that's been around forever and ever? Like we're offended by statues now. We're offended by Christmas.

00:23:49.260 We are offended by Rudolph the red-nosed reindeer. We're offended by all of these things that

00:23:54.520 for so long. We were completely, we were completely fine with like Rudolph the red-nosed reindeer is now

00:24:01.220 being, uh, it's problematic because it is, um, I don't know. It justifies bullying minorities

00:24:09.040 when that's not the case at all. My parents never had to sit me down and talk to me about Rudolph

00:24:14.080 the red-nosed reindeer being problematic. And I survived. And I know that bullying is bad. In fact,

00:24:19.420 I hate bullies probably more than anyone else on this earth. Uh, so how, how did these generations

00:24:25.060 just go on in, in live normal lives without these social justice warriors telling us that we need

00:24:31.060 to be offended and that we're oppressed? It's amazing. And you know what? I don't think that

00:24:36.100 it's actually, uh, a coincidence that these young people, millennials that are constantly offended by

00:24:41.880 everything are also the most depressed, the most suicidal, the most anxious, uh, generation that has

00:24:47.320 ever lived. It's almost like when you're perpetually offended, you're not happy. Crazy, crazy. Okay.

00:24:53.860 Last one. I have a little bit of a different view on this one. Baby, it's cold outside. Apparently

00:24:58.100 it was taken off the radio on a particular radio station. People are freaking out about it. Of

00:25:02.420 course, conservatives are freaking out about it. Um, saying, Oh, this is censorship. This is so stupid.

00:25:07.460 And the reason why it was taken off is because of the me too movement. And they're saying it actually

00:25:12.140 glorifies date rape, which I don't think that the song does, but here's my thought about it.

00:25:17.300 So I agree. It's really stupid to take it off air, especially when you have rap music that is,

00:25:22.840 uh, that it objectifies women constantly. And that is completely inappropriate and pushes values that

00:25:29.460 are anti woman every single day and also promote capitalism, which progressives hate. So if you're

00:25:36.900 going to take baby, it's cold outside off of the radio, you should also take all of Kanye West,

00:25:41.740 all of Jay-Z, all of DJ Khaled, whatever his name is. I don't even know. Um, you should definitely

00:25:49.500 take those off the radio too, because they don't perpetuate good values. If you're going to take

00:25:53.240 off baby, it's cold outside. But at the same time, like, here's my thing. I'm not going to die on this

00:25:58.760 hill. I'm not going to die on the hill of baby. It's cold outside because it's like, it's not a good

00:26:02.500 song in the values that it promotes. It doesn't actually promote great song or a great values.

00:26:07.260 Like it, I mean, it does glorify at least getting drunk and staying over with someone that you

00:26:14.340 didn't want to stay over with. So it's not like it promotes a good behavior and conservatives and

00:26:19.980 Christians shouldn't be like fighting for baby. It's cold outside, maybe for the principle of it

00:26:24.980 and for against the hypocrisy of the left. Uh, but we shouldn't be fighting for like, this is an

00:26:30.020 awesome, innocent song. It's not necessarily, we just need to have an even standard across the board.

00:26:35.640 Um, of course there are now defenders of it on the left too. Variety is saying,

00:26:39.880 oh, it's so awesome. It's actually about female empowerment. Okay. Well, you just took it too far.

00:26:46.860 I mean, they are always, progressivism is always eating itself. Um, so those are all the absurd,

00:26:52.860 absurd stories that I have. We live in a very interesting world. Um, yeah. So now I'm going to

00:26:59.440 read some of the questions that you guys sent me and I'm looking down at my phone because I'm trying to

00:27:04.560 find them. Okay. So I want to address this one first because I thought it was really interesting

00:27:10.940 and I'm very thankful that this person decided to, um, decided to ask me this because I think it

00:27:19.160 probably takes a lot of bravery. So this person asked me, I'm struggling with infidelity and I just

00:27:24.320 realized, uh, I already suggested you talk about that today. I was listening to your podcast about

00:27:28.440 repentance and it's about the unbeliever believing. Uh, I think God is calling me back. And so this

00:27:34.820 person, uh, wants advice and wants a reminder. One, I want to tell you that God loves you and that

00:27:43.300 there is grace. And just like the prodigal son, when the prodigal son started running towards his

00:27:47.760 father, uh, the prodigal son, if you don't know the story, it's in the book of Luke. Um, he, the

00:27:53.660 prodigal son, uh, took his inheritance from his father and he ran off and he squandered his

00:27:58.500 inheritance. He spent everything. And after squandering his inheritance, he ended up eating

00:28:03.140 and sleeping with the pigs. And once he realized like, Oh my gosh, my life is absolutely awful.

00:28:08.300 I could be one of my father's servants and live a better life than this. He runs back to his dad.

00:28:12.980 And, uh, the, the story says that when his dad saw his son from a distance, the son that betrayed

00:28:19.540 him, that ran away from him, that took his entire inheritance and basically spat in his face

00:28:23.440 by doing that. He saw his son from a long way off and he ran towards him. He ran towards

00:28:29.320 him and he embraced him and he brought him in and he gave him a feast. That is a depiction

00:28:34.000 of the grace of God. When we turn towards him, uh, there was a, a turning and a returning

00:28:40.300 of the prodigal son, this rebellious son. And he came towards his father and his father ran

00:28:45.280 towards him and embraced him. Didn't chastise him and didn't say, wow, I can't believe you did

00:28:49.680 all this stuff. Pay me back immediately. He said, no, uh, get, uh, get the, the finest,

00:28:55.560 the finest food for him. Let's have an abundant feast and celebrate his return because the son

00:29:01.400 that I once thought that I lost is now home. And that's what it is like when a sinner repents,

00:29:07.160 that's what it is like. When we go back to the Lord, he is excited to see us. Uh, that doesn't

00:29:12.560 mean that there isn't, uh, there aren't repercussions for what we do, especially something like infidelity.

00:29:17.800 There is, and we are asked to do really hard things, uh, like to confess our sin and to

00:29:23.800 say, Hey, I've been doing this and I need help. And it also requires that we turn away from that

00:29:28.780 sin and that we don't do it anymore, but you're not in that process of repentance alone. You are

00:29:34.380 with the Holy spirit who promises to help you through all of that and who you actually, you

00:29:38.840 actually can't repent properly without the Holy spirit, but do it because God loves you. Not

00:29:43.680 because, um, not because you are afraid of punishment. And like I said, there are real

00:29:49.540 life consequences that you should, you should think about and that you should consider. Um,

00:29:54.180 but God loves you and he has something way better for you than that. And he thinks that you are worth

00:29:59.660 more than that. And ultimately the path of infidelity is going to destroy you. I don't know if you, uh,

00:30:05.040 are married and have kids, but it's going to destroy your family and you have to stop being selfish.

00:30:10.680 You have to, you have to stop only thinking about yourself and you have to think about

00:30:15.040 not only your obedience to Christ, but also the wellbeing of the people around you. Life is not

00:30:20.340 about you. It's not about you feeling good. It's not about you getting affirmation from other men.

00:30:25.320 It is about glorifying Christ and your confidence coming from Christ and your joy coming from Christ

00:30:30.960 and loving him and loving those around you. And infidelity does not fit into that. You are going to

00:30:36.900 be so much better off. Um, of course, the most important thing is that you're going to be

00:30:41.620 honoring Christ by being obedient right now. You're walking in sin and walking in disobedience,

00:30:45.520 but you are going to, um, be so much more satisfied, um, in that repentance and in walking with God.

00:30:52.820 I, uh, also recommend that you, uh, get plugged in if you're not already with a local church body,

00:30:59.380 that you ask church elders for help, possibly, uh, that you get involved in to,

00:31:04.720 in a small group and that you ask for accountability, that you have godly women in your life that are

00:31:10.300 holding you accountable, that are texting you, that are calling you, that are in your life,

00:31:13.940 that are annoying you out of your sin. Uh, that's something that we can all learn from and that

00:31:19.700 not a lot of us are very good at. I don't like accountability because you know, it pulls me out

00:31:25.680 of my complacency, uh, but you need that right now. And I will pray for you and thank you for coming to

00:31:31.380 me because it, uh, is a really hard thing to talk about. And the fact that you came to me

00:31:36.480 shows me that God is, um, you know, he's working on your heart. You don't, you obviously realize

00:31:43.100 that there's something wrong with this, which shows me that the Holy spirit is convicting you

00:31:47.180 and that he has something much better for you than this. So, um, the other question I got,

00:31:51.440 I actually got two identical questions on this, which is really interesting. And, um, I think I'll

00:31:57.440 just answer them all at once. So two people asked me about interacting with their in-laws and what

00:32:02.700 that has been like in any advice that I have. Well, uh, I am very lucky. My husband was raised

00:32:08.880 in a very similar way as I was. He has two older sisters. I have two older brothers. Uh, we both

00:32:13.620 went to the same kind of schools, both of our parents, conservative Christians. Uh, we had pretty,

00:32:17.800 uh, sheltered, I would say. I don't mean that in a negative way, but just pretty sheltered upbringings.

00:32:22.600 And so we were both raised in a very similar way. There hasn't been a lot of conflict as far as,

00:32:28.280 whoa, your family values that my family values this that's totally different. Now there are

00:32:33.160 differences between our families. My family doesn't spend as much quality time together.

00:32:37.380 We, when we are together, we're even, we're like in our own separate worlds. His family

00:32:41.940 loves to spend a lot of quality time together. And there is a, you just kind of get used to those

00:32:47.580 different things. Not neither one is necessarily bad. They're just different. I enjoy aspects of both

00:32:52.580 but you do have to get used to those things. And here's one thing that I will just give you.

00:32:58.980 Um, there will be things that your in-laws do that your family, that your in-law family does

00:33:03.500 that you don't get that you think, why are we doing this? I I'm not saying if my in-laws are

00:33:08.220 listening to this, I'm not saying that I've done this. I'm just saying, um, that you will think,

00:33:12.400 why are we doing this? Why are we going to this place? Or why do we have to do it like this?

00:33:16.180 My family does it this way. And your husband or wife will do the same thing. They'll look at your family

00:33:21.180 and say, why, why does your family do things like this? Why do they talk like that? Whatever

00:33:27.080 it is. And your job in those situations, unless it is like dire, dire, some kind of immoral,

00:33:35.020 horrible thing that you really have to talk about your job. And that is to lay down your pride,

00:33:40.220 to lay down your complaints, to shut up and just do it. If it is a small trivial thing,

00:33:44.860 you don't understand why his family is inefficient. They, he doesn't understand why your family's more

00:33:48.680 quiet. You don't understand why you don't spend more time together, where you have to spend so

00:33:52.580 much time together. Of course, there are boundaries that you need to strike and your husband or wife

00:33:57.300 need to be the couriers to their own families to make sure that those boundaries are set up.

00:34:03.020 Like it shouldn't be your job to go to your mother-in-law and say, I need these boundaries.

00:34:06.880 It shouldn't be his job to go to the father-in-law and say, I need these boundaries. Like you need to

00:34:11.560 be the messengers to your own families. And I just kind of lost my train of thought. I kind of

00:34:16.680 forgot what I was trying to say, but basically when it's something small, when you have a complaint

00:34:22.140 that it's not completely life altering, and it's not a matter of like, Whoa, you just completely

00:34:27.160 assaulted my boundaries. Just go with it. There are going to be things that you don't get.

00:34:31.840 There are going to be kind of holidays that you don't like to celebrate the way they do.

00:34:36.080 Just go with it. Don't complain, pick your battles, pick your battles. When it comes to your in-laws,

00:34:41.620 don't personally attack. Like if you're talking to your husband,

00:34:44.580 do not personally attack any of their in-laws. Do not speak to their character as much as you can

00:34:50.280 be as gracious, be as patient, be as empathetic and be as understanding as you can, that your

00:34:55.640 in-laws might be different than you. Like I said, I'm extremely lucky. That's not the case for

00:35:00.360 everyone. You could be married into a family where they are unbelievers, where they are completely

00:35:05.580 different political bins. And that of course is a lot harder, but your job as a Christian, of course,

00:35:09.760 is to be an ambassador of Christ and to love them as much as you possibly can. I do agree that

00:35:14.180 it's important to set up boundaries though. You and your family are much more important now

00:35:18.800 to each other. Like you and your husband, you and your wife are much more important to each other

00:35:23.120 than your relationship with your parents or with your siblings. Now you have to remember that you

00:35:28.940 and your husband are now one flesh. You are not one flesh with anyone else in your family. So you go

00:35:34.000 to bat for your husband, he goes to bat for you, and that's the way it is. You don't go to bat for

00:35:38.540 anyone else. So you're on each other's team. Okay. That's all I have time for today. Love you guys.

00:35:45.320 I will see you next week.

Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - December 06, 2018

Ep 60 ｜ The Height of Absurdity

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