Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 62 ｜ Girls & Boys

00:00:00.000 Hey guys, what's up? It's Ali. Today we are going to talk about the difference between men and women 1.00

00:00:07.680 and how this very basic truth is being assaulted by regressive progressives. And we're going to

00:00:17.260 talk about a couple stories in which this is on full display. We're going to talk about why the

00:00:23.040 left is doing this, kind of where this came from and what their reasoning is, if you can even call

00:00:27.240 it that. And then of course, we're going to refute all of their silly myths about gender fluidity.

00:00:31.980 So there are two stories that have brought this whole gender fluid movement to mind. And one of

00:00:37.920 them is about the Boy Scouts. So there was an article a few days ago by the Washington Post and

00:00:43.340 the headline of the article is this. Scouts recruitment war raises questions about what it

00:00:48.260 means to be a girl or a boy. Very interesting headline for a publication like the Washington

00:00:55.500 Post, which tends to lean to the left. The fact that it is digging into that question,

00:01:00.140 which so many people haven't even been brave enough to ask what it actually means to be a boy

00:01:05.780 or a girl. Like we haven't even able as a mainstream culture, of course, you and I have, but the mainstream

00:01:11.440 hasn't been willing to even wrestle with that question because even wrestling with the question

00:01:16.080 of what it means to be a boy or a girl is seen as transphobic, especially if you end up when you

00:01:22.920 are wrestling on that question with the side of science. The side of science obviously says that

00:01:28.120 your biology actually dictates your sex, obviously, and that your sex, you know, beyond that, your sex

00:01:34.800 also dictates 99.9% of the time what gender you are. Of course, there is intersex, that tiny percentage 0.99

00:01:43.620 of society that was actually born with ambiguous biology. But for the most part, unless you have some

00:01:51.780 kind of dysphoria, like gender dysphoria, which is actually a disorder, then your sex actually

00:01:58.080 determines your gender, what you identify as. But the line of so-called reasoning right now is that

00:02:05.800 your sex is completely independent from your gender, that you can totally choose what you want

00:02:10.960 to be, how you want to be, and that has nothing to do with your biology whatsoever. The idea that your

00:02:16.440 body determines how you behave, how you think, and the choices you make is now seen as bigoted.

00:02:22.940 It's now seen as wrong despite thousands of years of science, psychology, and sociology that proves

00:02:28.560 that your body does indeed affect in large part, not completely, but in large part how you behave and

00:02:34.220 what priorities that you have. Your gender determines a lot of the way you act. But of course, we're not 0.97

00:02:40.860 allowed to say that anymore, which is why the Washington Post is wrestling with this question.

00:02:46.620 Scouts recruitment war raises questions about what it means to be a girl or a boy. So if you don't know,

00:02:53.420 Boy Scouts of America has started accepting girls into their ranks. They are no longer going to be

00:03:00.340 exclusive to boys. They already, a few years ago, started letting gay people or gay men be in Boy Scouts and

00:03:08.660 actually lead Boy Scout troops. That was a battle that was fought for a long time, but they ended up

00:03:13.460 giving into that. And now they're going to step further to say, okay, well, we're not going to

00:03:18.260 close our doors to girls either. Now, Girl Scouts of America is not happy about this. They are actually

00:03:23.220 suing Boy Scouts of America because they are taking what it means to be a Girl Scout. Now, Girl Scouts are

00:03:30.480 not doing this because they are socially conservative. They're not. They have been part of the feminist 1.00

00:03:34.560 movement for a while. But the Girl Scouts now represents an old kind of feminism, which actually 1.00

00:03:41.700 says it's unique and important to be a girl. But they are pushing back against Boy Scouts of America, not

00:03:47.160 primarily for social reasons or certainly not for moral reasons, but really for marketing reasons and for

00:03:52.740 business reasons, because they're afraid that boys are going to take all their customers. They want to remain a

00:03:58.860 unique girl-only organization because that's where they've been able to make their money. That's how 1.00

00:04:06.440 they've been able to remain an organization. They are afraid, of course, that Boy Scouts of America,

00:04:11.660 if they accept girls, is going to make them obscure. So they're having this whole battle over this.

00:04:17.600 Girl Scouts is trying to change to offer some of the things that Boy Scouts does. Boy Scouts is trying

00:04:22.120 to accommodate girls. But within that, there is a question. There's a question of what girls like and what

00:04:27.720 boys like and are those things different. And what we are finding out through this story and through

00:04:32.540 even the morphing of these two organizations to try to meet the needs and the desires of boys and

00:04:37.180 girls is that girls and boys are very different. They like different things. They're motivated by

00:04:42.400 different things. They're entertained by different things. That doesn't mean that some girls don't like 0.99

00:04:47.040 some things that boys do. It doesn't mean that boys don't like some things that girls do. But it does 0.99

00:04:51.920 mean, in general, that boys and girls behave very differently. They value different things.

00:04:57.060 They have fun doing different things. The things that actually build up a girl to be 0.97

00:05:02.160 a responsible woman can be different than the things that build up a boy to be a responsible 0.99

00:05:06.600 man. And they're trying very hard. The Boy and the Girl Scouts, both pretty progressive organizations

00:05:11.860 now, trying very hard to deny those differences while also pushing them in our faces by showing us

00:05:18.640 the changes that they're making within the organizations to try to accommodate both genders.

00:05:24.260 So it's really interesting because it does ask us the question what it actually means to be a boy

00:05:30.060 or a girl. Can you just say that you are a boy and be a boy? Can you just say that you are a girl

00:05:37.560 and be a girl? Are there real differences between boys and girls or is it just some meaningless social

00:05:43.000 construct? That is what the culture is wrestling with right now. And the reason why I say it's the

00:05:48.340 regressive, progressive left is because this is a question that has been answered for literally

00:05:54.860 millennia. And now we're asking it. And I'll say again, something I've said before, this is one of

00:05:59.940 the reasons why the left and the right are so far apart. Not because our differences are more complex

00:06:04.480 than they used to be, but because they're more fundamental. Things that we agreed on forever,

00:06:09.180 things that had already been proven, we question now. For example,

00:06:13.020 is killing a life inside of the womb actually killing a life? When a woman becomes pregnant 1.00

00:06:19.340 with a baby, is it actually a baby or is it a clump of cells? Does it have any value whatsoever?

00:06:24.200 The answer used to be, well, obviously that's true. Even when Roe v. Wade passed, it was, 0.86

00:06:30.380 yeah, we still believe that life inside the womb is a life. And if science actually advances,

00:06:36.220 then we'll know that it's a human baby and we won't be able to do this anymore. Of course,

00:06:40.560 that's not the line of reasoning anymore. The line of reasoning is that the life inside the womb is 0.91

00:06:44.420 not a life, it's just a clump of cells. And then we have this kind of conversation where we say,

00:06:49.260 okay, are boys and girls really different? Does the testosterone in boys and the estrogen in girls

00:06:55.320 have any kind of social implications whatsoever or not? That used to be, yes, of course it does.

00:07:00.520 Now the question is, I don't know. Of course, we disagree on things like borders. It used to be

00:07:04.500 accepted across the board that, of course, borders are good. Of course, you have to have

00:07:08.140 some kind of sovereign country now that's being questioned. So all of these things that used to

00:07:12.960 be accepted on both sides of the aisle are now becoming points of contention. Now we don't agree

00:07:19.340 on these things anymore. So it is because our differences between the right and the left are

00:07:23.340 so fundamental. That is why we are so far apart, not because of the complexity of our disagreements,

00:07:29.400 but because of the simplicity of the fundamental nature of our disagreements. And this war on gender

00:07:34.800 is just one of those. There's this other story that brings the problems of the transgender gender 1.00

00:07:40.560 fluidity movement to the forefront. And that is the story that I'm sure that you guys have heard about

00:07:45.540 the twin boys who live in Texas. They're from divorced parents. They're six years old right now.

00:07:51.680 The mom is a pediatrician. She has decided that one of her boys is going to be a girl. I might have

00:07:57.580 actually talked about this on the podcast before, has decided that one of the boys is going to be a

00:08:02.120 girl, has called the boy Lola, dresses up the boy in girl clothes, the other boy she allows to be a 0.95

00:08:08.760 boy. Now the problem is when this boy is with his dad or at school, he chooses to be a boy. He goes by

00:08:14.780 the name of James. He wears boy clothes. He wants to act like a boy. Other people in his life, his teachers

00:08:21.900 and people in different parts of his life where he either does activities or whatever it is,

00:08:28.920 says that he acts like a normal six-year-old boy. Nevertheless, this mother is not only planning

00:08:35.120 to start chemical castration to this boy when he turns eight, so putting him on some kind of hormone

00:08:40.640 therapy that essentially castrates him and has affirmed what she believes is his gender identity,

00:08:47.300 but she is also suing the dad for full rights to her child, suing the dad for child abuse, for not

00:08:53.040 affirming this kid's transgender identity that really his mom has just put on him. She sends him to this 0.97

00:08:59.480 gender dysphoria counselor that, of course, is affirming of transgenderism, but she said in, she said

00:09:05.980 herself that actually he does not show persistent signs, inconsistent signs of gender dysphoria, that he

00:09:12.680 actually goes back and forth between, oh, I am going to choose to be a girl when my mom's in the room, but I'm

00:09:17.800 going to choose to be a boy when my dad's in the room because he's a six-year-old kid that just wants to

00:09:21.920 please his parents, as if divorce isn't hard enough for kids. Now he's dealing with a psychotic

00:09:26.340 mother who wants a daughter, basically, and is ruining this poor kid's life. So that brings up 0.57

00:09:35.200 other problems to the forefront, is that this whole gender fluidity movement is actually the social

00:09:42.180 construct. So we have these people who are advocates of the gender fluidity movement saying that gender

00:09:48.460 and the differentiations between the sexes are just social constructs, when the reality is that

00:09:53.040 we see not just in this story, but also in other parts of the world that we'll get into, this whole

00:09:57.140 idea of trying to mix the genders into just being one large gender, that is actually the social

00:10:03.020 construct with no science behind it whatsoever. And I think we're going to see more stories like the

00:10:07.420 one that we see in Texas, where parents are forcing their kids into an identity that they

00:10:14.880 don't, that they aren't actually, that they don't identify with, which is very sad. Of course,

00:10:20.660 I believe that mother should be thrown in jail for child abuse, but we have some liberal courts here 0.99

00:10:26.360 in Texas. Unfortunately, I'm praying for that family. But again, it brings up this question that

00:10:31.580 we're dealing with. What does it mean to be a boy or a girl? Of course, we who have functioning brains,

00:10:39.000 we who are, you can even call it conservative, but it shouldn't even be conservative,

00:10:43.680 who are just in touch with reality. Of course, we know that there are differences between boys and

00:10:47.580 girls. But the popular message on the left is that there's really not. And here's what's behind

00:10:53.640 that. Here's what's behind the gender fluidity movement that's pushed by feminists, third wave 1.00

00:10:57.880 feminists. And I won't even actually say third wave. It's been pushed for a long time. Here's what's

00:11:02.720 behind it. They believe that if we push this gender fluidity myth, that gender is this thing that just

00:11:12.100 oscillates depending on the day, depending on what you feel, that there is no gender that's actually

00:11:17.760 tied to a certain anatomy, no gender that's tied to another anatomy, that there's no behavior that

00:11:24.380 a woman prefers. There is no kind of jobs that a woman prefers. Same thing for men. This is all a 1.00

00:11:29.920 social construct that needs to be deconstructed. It's called patriarchy. Feminists believe that if 1.00

00:11:35.460 they tear down all of these differences between men and women, and they make us just into this 0.89

00:11:39.480 one big blob of one gender, then finally we will reach our egalitarian paradise. There will be 0.99

00:11:45.600 no domestic abuse or no abuse, at least from men to women. There's not going to be a gender pay gap.

00:11:52.740 There's not going to be inequity of any kind. We're all just going to be equal. All of the abuses and all

00:11:58.020 of the discrimination and the sexism and the horrible disparities that we see between men and women

00:12:03.540 are no longer going to exist if we just convince people that men and women are the same. 0.59

00:12:08.400 Of course, how you do that is that you convince women to take on more masculine traits and you 0.97

00:12:13.400 convince men to take on more feminine traits. That is part of the push behind abortion, for example, 0.95

00:12:20.080 because if men are able to walk away from unwanted pregnancies, then women should be able to walk

00:12:25.700 away from unwanted pregnancies too. So that's what feminists have been doing for a long time is 1.00

00:12:30.880 making men more like women and making women more like men to create one big gender and this one 0.97

00:12:35.900 egalitarian in paradise. Gloria Steinem, who is a very famous feminist, she's in her 80s now,

00:12:41.680 so she might have even started with the first wave feminists and the suffragettes. She's so old. 0.88

00:12:47.600 But she was in a PBS interview a few years back and she was asked by the interviewer about biological

00:12:54.140 differences between men and women. She says, even if they're right, even if these people who are 0.97

00:12:59.460 asserting that biological differences exist between men and women, even if they're right, 1.00

00:13:03.420 it doesn't have to continue to be so. So what we see by the so-called side of science,

00:13:10.060 the so-called ideology of science, that they are desirous to overcome science in order to put in

00:13:18.120 their social construct. Of course, they say that everything they believe is scientific,

00:13:22.540 but we see from Gloria Steinem's mouth that it's actually not. It doesn't actually matter if there's a

00:13:27.540 scientific difference between men and women. What matters, what's most important is the social 0.69

00:13:33.420 reality we want, this egalitarian utopia, which we really know as a dystopia that we desire.

00:13:41.420 That's more important than the scientific differences. We can overcome the scientific

00:13:45.560 differences between men and women to have the future that we want because they believe that

00:13:51.580 eliminating or pretending to eliminate the differences between men and women is going to 0.93

00:13:57.200 actually eliminate discord, eliminate inequality, eliminate discrimination. So that's why they see

00:14:04.280 this gender fluid movement as a human rights movement, as good for women. But here's the trap

00:14:11.560 that they're getting into. So in doing that, they set the stage for the transgender movement. Because if

00:14:16.900 men can be just like women and women can be just like men and no one can tell you any differently,

00:14:22.400 then why can't women be men? And why can't men be women? Well, the feminists would say that's a really 0.99

00:14:29.440 good question. So they've opened the door to this transgender movement, which basically says,

00:14:34.360 if I feel like a woman today, then I am a woman. It doesn't matter what my anatomy is. And if I feel

00:14:39.500 like a man today, then I'm a man. It doesn't matter what my anatomy is. But here's the problem that

00:14:43.960 feminists are running into. They're running into the fact that all of the work that they say they've put 1.00

00:14:48.540 in for women to accomplish things, to be in Congress, to be in boardrooms, to be president 0.97

00:14:56.280 of the United States. Well, all of that's going to be mood when all of the people who become the

00:15:00.240 first woman are actually biological men. Men are going to end up being better women than women are. 0.98

00:15:07.740 So that's really going to suck when all of the people that take the titles that feminists say that 1.00

00:15:12.760 they have worked so hard for women to achieve are actually biological men. I don't think feminists are 0.98

00:15:18.480 going to be very excited about that. They talk so much about the unique experiences of women,

00:15:23.220 the sexism women have dealt with, all of the biological things the women have to go through, 1.00

00:15:28.080 which quite honestly suck. And they talk about the unique strength that women have because we are 0.97

00:15:33.560 women because of our unique experiences. Well, these biological men have not gone through those

00:15:37.980 experiences, and yet they are going to get all the accolades and achievements that we women have been

00:15:42.680 working towards, that feminists say that they have been working towards, and they haven't had any of the 1.00

00:15:47.380 same experiences as we do. Okay, well, that's interesting. I mean, think about it. Why can't

00:15:53.500 President Trump tomorrow say that he's a woman and say that he's the first woman president? Then Hillary 1.00

00:15:58.840 Clinton or Kamala Harris, whoever becomes president next, isn't going to be able to say that they're the

00:16:05.200 first president. Why not? Why can't President Trump say that? And then it's no longer going to be

00:16:10.480 someone that they hail a hero on the left who becomes the first woman president and who accomplishes

00:16:15.380 this thing. It's actually going to be a biological male who has lived his whole life as a biologically

00:16:19.880 rich male. But now he says that he's a woman. So he's actually the first woman president.

00:16:24.700 I'm not so sure that the feminists are going to be excited about that. I mean, say goodbye to female 1.00

00:16:30.240 athletics. Really? I mean, say that there's a transgender man that plays basketball against

00:16:35.680 women, that runs track, that plays soccer, wrestling, any of those sports that are the side that's 1.00

00:16:44.600 reserved for women, is infiltrated by biological men. We don't stand a chance. Women do not stand 1.00

00:16:50.340 a chance in this whole thing of identifying as whatever gender you want to. That is how the

00:16:55.320 patriarchy is going to end up winning over women. It's going to be that they infiltrate womanhood by 1.00

00:17:02.680 being transgender because it will mean nothing to be a woman anymore. It will have no significance 1.00

00:17:09.640 whatsoever. You can give birth. OK, whatever. Men and women can give birth. You experience sexism from

00:17:19.180 a young age. OK, whatever. Men and women both do. It doesn't mean anything to be a woman. And I'm not 0.98

00:17:25.240 sure that feminists are going to end up being very happy with that. But there are also obviously much 1.00

00:17:31.000 bigger problems with this whole gender fluid movement that have nothing to do with feminism, 1.00

00:17:35.800 because quite frankly, I don't really care about the plight of feminism very much. There's obviously 0.86

00:17:40.940 sociological and psychological perspectives in this or problems with this, that it just doesn't

00:17:48.640 work because men and women are different, because women have more estrogen than men do. Men have more 0.94

00:17:54.880 testosterone than women do. And that actually affects how you behave. Your brains are actually created 1.00

00:18:00.420 differently. Women tend to be more nurturing, more nourishing, better communicators. We are better

00:18:05.920 at handling crises. We are better at multitasking than men are. Men happen to usually be more aggressive,

00:18:14.740 more willing to fight, protect, defend. They're better at compartmentalizing. In situations, they're

00:18:19.960 better at actually fixing the problem than just analyzing the problem. Men and women complement each other 1.00

00:18:25.160 really well. But we complement each other because of our differences. And we are actually biologically

00:18:29.780 made that way. Now, the caveat to that is, of course, that just because you are a man doesn't

00:18:34.780 mean that you have to be overly aggressive or always wanting to fight or riding four-wheelers and

00:18:39.780 fishing and hunting all the time. That's not what it means to be a man. That is not even, in my opinion,

00:18:44.960 what it means to be masculine. You don't have to necessarily be physically strong to be a masculine man.

00:18:50.920 In a way, gender is a, if you want to call it a spectrum, it is in some ways. And that there are

00:18:58.700 women who want to just be moms, and I don't mean just, but want to only be moms and to nurture and 1.00

00:19:06.400 nourish and to help and to cook their whole lives. There are also women who want to be CEOs and want 1.00

00:19:11.920 to be president and who are career-oriented. There is a spectrum there. The same thing with men. There

00:19:18.440 are male dancers. Then there are male wrestlers, whatever it is. There is a spectrum on both sides 0.96

00:19:27.000 of gender that says, okay, you don't have to be one way. You don't have to fit into a compartment. 0.99

00:19:31.480 But if you look throughout time and history, throughout every single culture, there are very

00:19:36.580 real differences between men and women that just can't be denied. Men are always, in virtually every 0.99

00:19:43.140 single society, for as long as humans have existed, the ones who hunt and the ones who defend and protect

00:19:50.880 and provide. That's what men do in tribes, in societies, in nations. That's what they do.

00:19:56.860 Women don't. Women typically stay back. They typically raise the children. They typically 1.00

00:20:00.560 cook, and they garden, and they gather, they nurture, and they beautify. That's just what women 1.00

00:20:04.880 do. They're good at cultivating. They're good at maximizing. They're good at taking something

00:20:08.840 and making it grow, making it better. Men are really good at conquering and destroying and then

00:20:14.740 building something back up. That's how men and women complement each other. That's how they've

00:20:18.580 complemented each other throughout history. So the way to know if something is true is to say,

00:20:24.080 is this true throughout time, throughout history, in multiple societies? Like, this isn't just a

00:20:29.900 Western thing. It's not just an Eastern thing. And that is true of men and women, the differences 0.96

00:20:34.060 between men and women, the aggression that men show, the capacity for nurturing that women show.

00:20:39.200 It has been true forever. So it doesn't make sense that it is a social construct because it's not

00:20:44.520 just part of one or a few societies. It's been a part of every society. Now, that's not to say

00:20:49.520 every society has been exactly the same, that every society has been patriarchal per se, or every

00:20:56.200 society has had the exact same gender hierarchy. But in general, the rules have been separate and the

00:21:02.160 rules have been between hunting and defending, doing things with your hands, and nurturing and

00:21:09.680 growing. Women, men, different. And if you even look today, so for example, Sweden, so they're one 0.96

00:21:20.200 of the most egalitarian, I believe, yes, it's Sweden and Norway, all of the Scandinavian countries.

00:21:25.520 Sweden is one of the most egalitarian countries in that it has a nationwide commitment to ending the

00:21:33.240 gender wage gap, whatever that means. They also have equal and very generous paternal and maternal

00:21:45.480 leave, so parental leave. But what's interesting about that is even with their nationwide commitment

00:21:50.960 to gender pay equality, even though they have a very generous parental leave program for men and for

00:21:57.920 women. Men still work a lot more than women do in Sweden. And women still have more part-time jobs as

00:22:05.140 opposed to full-time jobs than men do. Women still take up 75% of the parental leave allocation. 90% of

00:22:13.420 those who work part-time to care for family are women. And men still make more than women do. And this

00:22:20.700 is in a very egalitarian society where the laws are egalitarian, where the laws are set up to include

00:22:26.020 women at every single level that men are included. And what do we see? We see that men choose different

00:22:31.840 things than women do. That men still work more than women do. That women work less than men do because 0.99

00:22:37.180 they choose to stay home. So it has nothing to do with society. It has nothing to do with laws. We're

00:22:42.320 not going to be able to legislate away the differences between men and women. We're just not. Sweden is a very 0.98

00:22:48.580 progressive place. It's a very leftist place. And yet what we see is that there is an inherent,

00:22:54.300 there is an innate distinction between men and women that just cannot and will not be overcome.

00:23:02.700 We see in this study by Psychological Science found that countries that are more egalitarian have

00:23:08.880 fewer women working in the STEM field, despite massive efforts to attract women to STEM. And

00:23:14.680 Professor Stowett, someone who was a part of this study, said, it's important to take into account that

00:23:19.300 girls are choosing not to study STEM for what they feel are valid reasons. So campaigns that target 0.93

00:23:24.180 all girls may be a waste of energy and resources. What that shows is that women just have different 1.00

00:23:30.480 priorities, different inclinations, and at times different talents than men do. The reason they

00:23:35.640 don't choose STEM is because they don't want to go into STEM. It's not because of the patriarchy. It's

00:23:39.900 not because men are holding them back. It's not because they're intimidated. They want to have kids 0.96

00:23:44.540 a lot of times. I'm not saying all the time, but they want to have families. They don't want to have

00:23:48.480 to work all the time. They don't like the idea of having to provide for their family for the next 55 years.

00:23:53.280 Women are just different than men. And again, this is a generalization. Not all women are exactly like

00:23:58.960 this. Not all men are exactly like this. But the vast majority of the time, enough to make it a rule 0.96

00:24:04.280 that men are different than women. And the statistics show that, not just throughout history, but also 1.00

00:24:08.840 now, even in the most egalitarian places. In the United States, the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics

00:24:14.440 listed the most dangerous jobs of 2017, meaning the most fatalities that occur within a job,

00:24:21.040 logging, fishing, mining, all of those kind of things that are just very precarious,

00:24:26.120 dominated by men. Dominated completely. I don't want to say 100%, but very dominated. Some of them

00:24:33.480 had 99, I think it was like fishing jobs, 99.9% men. Now, the left likes to say anywhere that there's

00:24:39.940 a gap, that means there's discrimination. Couldn't be for any other factor. Couldn't certainly be for an

00:24:45.320 inherent biological factor. No, that's sexism. So are you trying to tell me that the fishing industry

00:24:50.520 is discriminating against women? That the fishing industry is leaving out women? You really think so?

00:24:56.660 You think people are tearing down the door to be in the fishing industry? You think the mining industry

00:25:02.180 is turning down women? No, I don't think so. It's because women don't want to do that. We don't want to 1.00

00:25:08.600 mine. We don't want to be in the fishing industry. We don't want to do all, we don't want to be loggers.

00:25:14.180 We don't want to, in general, be carpenters. We don't want to do that. Why? Because that's just not

00:25:19.520 what women are good at. That's not what we're inclined to do. Because there's a difference between 1.00

00:25:24.400 men and women. Feminists will not believe that because it ruins, like I said, their whole egalitarian 1.00

00:25:31.120 idea of what the future should be. If we just eliminated these differences, then there will be no abuse.

00:25:36.520 There will be no disparity. There will be no discrimination whatsoever. That's just not

00:25:41.220 going to happen. Now, I don't think abuse is good. I don't think discrimination is good. But the reason

00:25:46.480 those things exist is because men and women are sinful. And anytime human beings are around or 0.99

00:25:53.780 involved in something, there is going to be sin. There's going to be abuse of power. And yes, of course,

00:25:59.720 men have abused their power of women. They have abused their physical superiority over women. And that's

00:26:06.020 wrong. But that's never not going to happen. Being a more, quote, egalitarian society is not going to

00:26:12.640 make men less strong. It's not going to make them equal in strength to women. It's just not going to 0.89

00:26:18.480 happen. Men and women will always be different. And so rather than trying to stifle those things,

00:26:23.800 rather than trying to repress those things, we should teach men how to be good men, how to be

00:26:28.600 responsible men, how to take care of their families, how to take ownership, how to take responsibility,

00:26:33.460 how to stay put when they make choices where their baby mama ended up with an unwanted pregnancy.

00:26:42.660 Like, we should be teaching them to be good dads, to be hard workers. We shouldn't have a welfare

00:26:46.920 system that incentivizes fatherlessness. And for the woman to have more kids, we should have a system 1.00

00:26:53.280 and we should have a country. We should have a society that encourages responsibility, whether you

00:26:58.040 are a man or a woman, and lifts up the unique strengths of men and women. Because men and women

00:27:03.240 do complement each other. There are so many things that women are better at than men are. And there

00:27:07.360 are a lot of things that men are better at than women are. I'm not the kind of person that says women 1.00

00:27:11.540 shouldn't try to be CEOs, that we shouldn't run for office, that we shouldn't be doing things that

00:27:16.980 are at the forefront. Obviously, I believe that I should have a platform and I'm okay with being

00:27:22.200 outspoken. But at the end of the day, I also know that my priorities and my responsibilities are

00:27:27.520 different than my husband. Now, I don't want to speak for every single marriage out there,

00:27:32.680 particularly if you're not a Christian, because this is a biblical perspective. But there's also

00:27:36.980 sociological and psychological evidence behind this. Like I said, at the end of the day,

00:27:42.020 my husband is responsible for providing for our family. If we both lose our job, he's the one that's

00:27:48.780 going out and getting a job. And if we have kids, I'm the one taking care of our kids.

00:27:54.280 That's just, and again, that's not for every single family. I definitely know stay-at-home dads,

00:27:58.840 there's nothing wrong with that. But I'm saying at the end of the day, if we had to choose,

00:28:03.260 if the choice was put upon us, he's going to be the one that's responsible for making sure that we

00:28:08.940 have a roof over our heads and that we've got food to eat. That's just how it is. And I'm good with

00:28:14.520 that. I love being a woman because at the end of the day, I know that he takes responsibility for

00:28:19.440 those things. I love working. I love doing what I do. But I'm also very confident in being a woman

00:28:25.940 and having the unique strengths that I have. And I don't want to be a man and I don't want to be like

00:28:29.980 a man. And whether you are single, whether you are married, whether you are not a mom, whether you

00:28:34.400 are a mom, or if you're a guy and you fill those roles as well, it's not about necessarily

00:28:40.760 being a mother to be more like a woman or being a wife to be more like a woman. It's just owning

00:28:46.460 your unique strengths and not denying them because you think that being a woman is weak or being a

00:28:52.820 man that you might have guilt for being strong. It's owning those unique strengths that God has

00:28:58.220 given us and using them to the best of your ability in whatever capacity you can and whatever field you

00:29:03.220 can. Feminists don't want that because they see that as discrimination and inequality. 1.00

00:29:08.020 So that's basically all I have to say about all of that, just to dispel all of the gender 1.00

00:29:14.400 fluid myths and kind of outline where they came from and how we got here and why they're so

00:29:21.280 detrimental to society. They're obviously anti-family, they're anti-science, they're anti-reality.

00:29:26.580 And it's going to take a number, especially, I think, on our men. And who loses in that battle

00:29:31.320 of trying to emasculate men? We both do. Both men and women do. Because again,

00:29:35.780 it's not good for the family and passive men make for torn apart families and broken down

00:29:41.460 communities, which leads to torn apart nations. So those are the implications for that. If you

00:29:47.120 have any questions, have any feedback, have any criticisms, let me know. Allie at the

00:29:51.960 conservativemillennialblog.com. Of course, you can message me on Instagram. Don't forget to leave

00:29:56.580 me a five-star review if you like this podcast at all. Thank you guys for listening, and I will see you

00:30:00.820 next week.

Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - December 13, 2018

Ep 62 ｜ Girls & Boys

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