Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 73

00:00:00.000 Hey guys, welcome to Relatable. My name is Allie Stuckey. Thank you so much for listening.

00:00:05.520 I hope that you guys have had a great week so far. So today we are going to talk about

00:00:11.240 half-truths. And we're going to talk about a particular half-truth that I saw by,

00:00:15.940 spoken by a very popular influencer and why it's actually wrong from a Christian perspective. I

00:00:22.940 might get to one piece of news at the end. It depends on how much time we have. If not,

00:00:27.180 I'll bump it to next week. And then I might, sorry, just lost my voice for a second. I might

00:00:33.460 have time to answer some of the questions that you guys sent me on Instagram. So the half-truth

00:00:39.700 that we are going to discuss today was something that I saw on Instagram, just like a couple of

00:00:44.520 weeks ago when we did the three myths that Christian women believe. I talked about a myth that I saw

00:00:49.640 posted by a particular celebrity about how you're enough, you're lovable, you're beautiful. And we

00:00:55.680 just kind of talked about how that whole mentality, although it is casted as biblical, is actually

00:01:01.660 very selfish and unbiblical. It doesn't ultimately help us because our focus should be on Christ.

00:01:07.080 And this is kind of a continuation of that, or at least another piece of that. So I want to read

00:01:15.280 you this quote, and then we are going to break down why it's not true. And the truth that I think is

00:01:21.240 far more rewarding, far more healing than, uh, what this offers. So the quote is focus on what

00:01:29.040 you think of you. So this is a quote by a Christian author that a lot of people love and follow. She's

00:01:35.520 got a podcast and I think a million followers on Instagram. People absolutely love her. She's got

00:01:41.860 some good self-help knowledge, some good, uh, business savvy that I think has helped a lot of

00:01:46.900 people. But when it comes to, uh, Christian faith, she's just not someone that we should be listening

00:01:53.360 to her point in focus on what you think of you is true. Um, don't compare yourself to other people.

00:02:01.160 Comparison is the thief of joy. That's absolutely. That's absolutely right. Uh, the 10th commandment

00:02:05.900 says, do not be envious of your neighbor's goods. In other words, do not covet. We should not be focusing

00:02:11.820 on what other people have that we do not have. Uh, that is incongruent with being joyful, with being

00:02:19.240 content with what God has given us and cultivating the talents and the blessings that God has given

00:02:25.580 us to use for his glory. So I completely agree with the sentiment behind that. Don't focus on other

00:02:31.880 people's opinions of you. Don't focus on what everyone is saying about you or else you're never

00:02:36.780 going to accomplish anything. You're never going to be able to move forward in life. I agree with the

00:02:41.320 sentiment in general, and I'm not demonizing this person, but I want to point out the insufficiency

00:02:48.800 of this statement of focusing on what you think of you. Here's the problem. Here's the problem for

00:02:55.940 Christians with that statement. If you're not a Christian, maybe that's the best you can get.

00:03:00.480 Maybe what you think of you, maybe, maybe that's, uh, the most that you can get to in a healthy way of

00:03:06.300 thinking. But for Christians, we have transcendent possibilities and they're found in God's word. So

00:03:12.000 the reason why this statement focus on what you think of you is problematic is because what you

00:03:19.500 think of you is irrelevant because it is untrustworthy. So your thoughts about yourself, my thoughts about

00:03:26.980 myself in my little pea brain are three things. They are a conditional, they are B changing, and they

00:03:35.520 are C conceited. So my thoughts of me are a conditional. Uh, they are dependent on what we do,

00:03:43.680 how we look, what we feel like this morning. Like I'm pregnant. My hormones are everywhere. Sometimes I

00:03:50.320 wake up at 7am feeling super rested. Sometimes I wake up at 4am, like stressed about everything.

00:03:56.400 Sometimes I wake up at eight 30 and I'm like, what am I doing with my life? And I just lay there and

00:04:02.340 look at my phone. If I depended on what I think of myself for confidence, I would, I would feel

00:04:09.860 really badly about myself because as a pregnant person who has already gained about 15 pounds and

00:04:14.740 who feels lazy most of the time and who oversleeps and looks at her phone for an hour in the morning,

00:04:19.280 sometimes I'm not feeling too great about myself most days. Like if I dug into my mind as the

00:04:25.880 reservoir for my confidence, I wouldn't find very much. So the problem with focusing on what I think

00:04:33.500 of me is that sometimes what I think of me isn't correct because it's completely conditional on how

00:04:40.540 I look. It is completely conditional with my hormones that morning. Like I am too unreliable for me to

00:04:49.220 focus on what I think of me. Like I will drive myself crazy because a, what I think of me is

00:04:55.740 conditional. It is conditional on a whole bunch of factors that change every day. Um, B what I think

00:05:03.420 of me is also changing. So this is very similar to conditional because our thoughts about ourselves

00:05:09.940 are conditional. They are also changing. We are not very steady people. Even if you are just kind of

00:05:15.660 this rock solid human being who is not swayed by your emotions at all, who doesn't follow your

00:05:21.780 feelings, doesn't follow your heart, you're a very logical person who follows your principles. Even so

00:05:27.540 just in general, we are not steady people. Things change. Life changes. Uh, stuff is thrown our way that

00:05:33.760 we didn't see, uh, because our opinion of ourself is conditional. It also changes changes. Uh, just think

00:05:41.720 about this. How exhausting is it? How exhausting would it be to constantly focus on what you think

00:05:50.600 of yourself? Uh, your mind is going in circles. Someone compliments you. You feel like you can take

00:05:57.160 on the world. Someone says something good about you and you say, yeah, that's true. I am really awesome.

00:06:04.460 Um, my pod, my podcast is great. You know what? I am better than all of those people. I I'm feeling

00:06:11.420 really, I'm feeling great about myself. I feel good about myself. I'm going to reward myself with

00:06:16.000 some Chick-fil-A. And then I get a mean message from someone that says you're horrible at this,

00:06:21.720 at this thing. You should stop having a podcast. This is so embarrassing. Please just end your career.

00:06:29.920 And then I hate myself and I still go get Chick-fil-A, but I'm not happy with myself.

00:06:35.840 My confidence is shot. I'm like, oh my gosh, should I, should I keep going with this? Is this

00:06:42.100 the right choice of career? Am I talented at all? So we are constantly on this pendulum between

00:06:49.020 arrogance and self-loathing, which is a really dizzying ride. You guys like if I am focusing

00:06:56.420 on what I think of myself, then I am, my head is spinning constantly. So we're on this pendulum.

00:07:04.340 One end of it is arrogance. One end of it is self-loathing. And when someone compliments me,

00:07:10.520 I swing to arrogance. When someone criticizes me, I swing to self-loathing. But guess what?

00:07:17.160 We don't have to be on that ride as Christians. We don't have to focus on what we think of ourselves

00:07:22.880 because number three or C, I think I'm using letters, C, what we think of ourselves is also

00:07:29.800 conceited. As we talked about a couple of weeks ago, both arrogance and self-loathing are symptoms

00:07:35.560 of thinking of ourselves too much, of thinking of ourselves too highly and too lowly means that we

00:07:42.940 are obsessing. We are obsessing over our strengths and our weaknesses, and we're not supposed to be

00:07:48.480 obsessing over these things. So thinking about what you think of you is going to exhaust you.

00:07:57.360 It is going to make you feel more insecure than you did before. It's going to confuse you.

00:08:03.420 Because guess what? Guess what? Besides being untrustworthy, besides being insecure, besides basically

00:08:10.520 lying to ourselves about ourselves all the time, whether it's good or bad, we just also,

00:08:19.480 well, we're just not, we're not perceptive enough. We're not perceptive enough to distinguish between

00:08:27.040 the two. We're not smart enough to decide when we're telling the truth about ourselves and when

00:08:31.780 we're feeding us lies. So focusing on what you think of you is completely, completely a terrible

00:08:40.980 pursuit. It's going to get you nowhere. And here's the good news. Here's the good news. Guess what

00:08:47.260 gives you energy rather than exhaust you? Like focusing on what you think of yourself. Guess what

00:08:53.260 gives you confidence rather than insecurity? Like focusing on what you think about yourself. Guess

00:08:58.860 what offers clarity rather than confusion. God, God does. Jesus and who he is, not just what he

00:09:07.060 thinks of you, but who he is, gives you the confidence and the energy and the clarity that

00:09:12.700 you need when you're thinking about who you are. And like I said, it's not just what Jesus thinks

00:09:19.400 about you. Because as I've said many times before, I think too many Christian female teachers paint

00:09:25.260 Jesus as this person who's just like sitting by you, braiding your hair, telling you how

00:09:29.760 awesome your highlights are and how great your personality is. So I'm not talking about that.

00:09:35.240 I'm talking about who Jesus is and because of who he is, who we are in him. So Jesus, savior,

00:09:40.860 justifier, sanctifier, beginning, in, alpha, omega, author, perfecter of faith. He is friend,

00:09:45.800 intercessor, great high priest who sympathizes with your weaknesses, a creator and sustainer of the

00:09:50.680 universe. Before time began, he was here, is coming back to take us home. His kingdom has no end. His

00:09:56.860 love does not fail. His faithfulness does not change. He is steady and steadfast and loyal and

00:10:02.000 relentless in his pursuit of us. He is transcendent. He is above everything. He is intimately acquainted

00:10:09.520 with our pain and our suffering. He is God. And yet with all of these wonderful, transcendent,

00:10:17.080 supreme, superior things about him that our little tiny minds cannot wrap around beyond all comprehension

00:10:23.720 that our finite brains can grasp. He loves us. He loves you. He loves you so much that he died for

00:10:31.960 you. And even beyond that, like sometimes that seems like too big picture for us to understand.

00:10:38.300 And it's really not. But sometimes we just fail to understand it. He also does like he has thoughts

00:10:43.960 about you. Like he considers you. He knows your name. He knows when you were born. He knows the

00:10:50.440 circumstances that you're in. He knows everything about you. It should really terrify us that he

00:10:55.220 knows the depths of our hearts. Like he knows all the ugliness in there, like all the bad intentions,

00:11:01.260 all of the hypocrisy, all of the things that we say, but we're not actually doing all of the things that

00:11:07.320 we think that we are putting on display for the world and what's actually behind them. He knows the

00:11:12.720 hollowness in our hearts, our selfishness, our ambition, all of the things that we don't want

00:11:19.580 people to know about us. The God of the universe who is perfect knows them. That should scare us,

00:11:25.040 but it should also fill us with amazing gratitude that knowing all of these things about us,

00:11:31.080 he chose to sacrifice himself on our behalf that we could be reconciled to a perfect God forever and

00:11:36.580 forever. That's incredible. That is all you need for your confidence. That's it right there. That

00:11:44.380 the God of the universe, despite the fact, and even because of the fact that you and I are so

00:11:50.540 amazingly messed up, so corrupt, so depraved in the core of our being that he died for us,

00:11:58.480 something he did not have to do, by the way. He had every right as the God of the universe to destroy

00:12:03.040 us and he actually sent a way to unite us together through Christ. That should rock your world. That

00:12:12.480 is what wakes us up in the morning with the joy that, hey, wow, I am saved and in Christ and I don't

00:12:21.100 have to pay the debt that I once owed. I don't have to have the faith that I once had. That is what

00:12:26.960 gives us our confidence. And the great thing is about that is that while what we think about

00:12:33.760 ourselves is completely untrustworthy, completely conditional, completely changing, completely

00:12:38.540 conceited, the reality that we who are in Christ are in Christ forever and Christ does not change,

00:12:46.840 that is unconditional, that is unchanging, that is unconceited. It is steadfast. It is sure. It is

00:12:52.360 selfless. I love alliterations, by the way. So how much more freeing is it for the Christian to know

00:13:00.760 that you don't have to focus on what you think about yourself and that what you think about yourself,

00:13:07.500 what you see when you look in the mirror is totally irrelevant. It's totally irrelevant.

00:13:14.360 First Corinthians 5.17 says that those of us who are in Christ are a new creation. The old has

00:13:20.420 passed, the new has come. So no matter what you look like, no matter what you've done,

00:13:24.340 no matter what you accomplished, who you are in Christ is new, cleansed, washed by the blood of the

00:13:30.820 lamb. That is your new identity. I mean, how liberating is it to know that that is what defines us?

00:13:39.300 And yes, being a new creation does have implications for our actions, how we live our lives. We should,

00:13:45.260 through the power of the Holy Spirit, be striving towards holiness, repenting of our sins,

00:13:49.060 both internal and external. We should be in his word, in constant prayer, helping those around us,

00:13:54.460 working hard at our job, stewarding the gifts that we have been given. But all of those things

00:13:59.060 flow from our identity in Christ. They are not our identity themselves. And this doesn't mean that we

00:14:05.700 don't acknowledge our talents. Like I'm not talking about living in this constant state of self

00:14:10.780 deprecation. I'm not at all. But, and I couldn't find the exact quote by C.S. Lewis, but there's some

00:14:17.820 quote by C.S. Lewis, maybe in mere Christianity, maybe it's in another book. I just don't remember

00:14:22.700 about how those who are in Christ, we are not arrogant about our strengths, but we are not also

00:14:29.260 completely down on ourselves because of our weaknesses. They're just facts to us. They're

00:14:33.920 just facts of living in this physical life. Like for a Christian, we don't need false humility.

00:14:38.960 Like we are allowed to say, yeah, God gifted me with the gift of communicating or with the gift

00:14:46.160 of writing or with the gift of drawing, with the gift of being a really good friend, with the gift

00:14:50.780 of being hospitable, with the gift of being able to organize an event plan really well, something that

00:14:55.960 I cannot do at all, by the way. It's okay to say, yeah, we have these gifts and I am using these

00:15:04.340 gifts to the best of my ability for the kingdom. I am stewarding them well. I am using my talents

00:15:09.620 well. That's not arrogance. That's just acknowledging what God has given you and that you are doing

00:15:15.500 everything you can through the power of the Holy Spirit to use those ways and use those talents in

00:15:21.160 a way that brings glory to God. Like there's nothing wrong with saying that. And there's also nothing

00:15:26.320 wrong with acknowledging our weaknesses, the things that we're bad at. And I'm not talking about sins

00:15:31.020 that we are genuinely struggling with though. Of course we can be open about that as well.

00:15:35.940 But we can also say, you know, like I'm not actually very good at hosting people or I'm not

00:15:42.140 very good at being organized or I'm not very good at singing. We can be open about our insecurities

00:15:47.400 too, because those are also just facts of being in the physical world and living the life that we live.

00:15:54.080 That's all okay. Because the freedom for us is that we know that neither our strengths nor our

00:15:59.320 weaknesses actually define us. Christ does. So we are not striving to meet the standards of the world.

00:16:06.060 We are striving to meet the perfection and the holiness that God has called us to in the Bible,

00:16:13.200 but is only accomplished through Christ and through sanctification in the Holy Spirit.

00:16:20.040 So like I said, that doesn't mean that we are self-deprecating. It also doesn't mean that we are

00:16:25.680 arrogant. We know who we are. We know the gifts that we've been given. We know our identity in

00:16:30.860 Christ and the meshing of all of those things, the intersection of all of those things means that

00:16:35.980 we are using them to bring God's kingdom here on earth. We are using them to alleviate the pain of

00:16:41.120 others, to beautify the tiny plot of earth that we have been given. Our small, our relatively small

00:16:47.560 sphere of influence that God has gifted us with. That is what we're doing. And I actually got through

00:16:53.960 all of that really quickly. So we are going to have time to do everything else. You guys responded

00:16:59.780 really well, like I said, to the three myths that Christian women believe a few weeks ago. So I'm

00:17:04.680 always going to kind of come back to that because I do think it's really important for us to break down

00:17:09.740 this me-centered, Christless gospel that we're seeing from women in the church, particularly women.

00:17:17.460 I don't see it as much on the man's side. And the thing that bothers me, the thing that bothers me

00:17:22.320 about how Christianity is represented by influencers is that on the one hand, you have

00:17:26.860 these Christian teachers, Christian female teachers who constantly coddle women. It's constantly like,

00:17:33.660 girl, you are just beautiful and perfect and awesome and amazing. And you can do no wrong.

00:17:38.800 You should feel no shame for your choices. You should feel no guilt whatsoever. Girl, if you start

00:17:44.180 feeling bad about yourself, you just tell yourself that you are Beyonce. You just look in the mirror and

00:17:48.380 you say, girl, you are looking good and perfect. And you should just be positive about yourself.

00:17:52.600 And then you should get along with your day and tell yourself that you're worthy and lovable and

00:17:56.120 adorable. That's not Christianity. Like that's not biblical. And it doesn't last because like I've

00:18:04.100 said many times before, sometimes you're not adorable. Like sometimes you're not lovable.

00:18:08.520 Sometimes you've done something that you should actually feel guilty about.

00:18:12.000 Like this self-love movement, self-care movement, self-me-me-me stuff is just another form of worldly

00:18:22.320 stupid jargon that ends in death and sin and destruction and devastation. It's just shrouded

00:18:28.640 in some decontextualized Bible verses, but it ain't going to save you. So that's one end of this

00:18:35.540 coddling stuff. And then on the other end, so that's like the Christian influencer. And then

00:18:43.920 you've got the non-Christian influencer or who is a Christian, but she's not in the Christian world.

00:18:48.920 So here's where I find myself like in the middle and why sometimes I have difficulty striking the

00:18:54.100 balance of my podcast and like knowing how far to go in either direction, because I just don't find

00:18:59.000 myself connected to either side. So you've got the majority of Christian influencers being like

00:19:04.980 cuddle, self-love girl, you're awesome. Oh, and by the way, like for some reason we link compassion

00:19:11.920 to open borders and being pro-choice, like weird. So that's one side. And you've got the other side,

00:19:17.820 you've got conservative women. And I'm talking about all conservative women, by the way,

00:19:21.520 some conservative women in the media. It's like, and this is fine. This is fine. This is not their

00:19:27.800 shtick, but it's almost like God is just kind of like a mascot for their political views. It's like

00:19:34.120 God guns and small government and faith guns and God faith family guns, whatever it is. It's like,

00:19:44.000 God is just kind of like this character that is in the play of their lives. And he's talked about in

00:19:49.640 this very like general sense, but there's not going to be a genuine sticking up for the gospel and the

00:19:55.200 exclusivity as well as the inclusivity of the gospel. And I just find myself in this in-between of

00:20:02.500 like, wait, but I want, I want to talk about theological stuff. I want to stick up for the

00:20:07.140 gospel. I don't want to pretend like I don't actually believe that Jesus is the way, the truth,

00:20:11.920 the life. Uh, but I'm also not on, I'm not just like, I'm not a Christian teacher. I don't consider

00:20:20.300 myself a Bible teacher. And I don't feel like I have to tell people how wonderful and awesome and

00:20:29.820 perfect and beautiful they are in order to encourage women. Does that make sense? I'm just

00:20:36.340 trying. I'm just trying to talk about the things that I know are true. I'm trying to, whenever I

00:20:41.720 have to describe my podcast, I say, I'm trying to help people navigate faith, culture, news,

00:20:49.180 and politics, how to fit everything into the context of their Christian faith. And I am not the

00:20:56.580 inerrant word of God. We can disagree on these political opinions and even some of these biblical

00:21:02.680 opinions, and we can all be okay and be in the same Christ family. And we can push back on each

00:21:08.820 other and have discussions about that. That's great. All I'm trying to do is to reject the lies of both

00:21:14.920 sides and bring the truth of both sides in together in this conversation about the things that are most

00:21:21.500 relevant to us. So I hope to be accomplishing that. That's why sometimes it's exclusively

00:21:26.380 political. Sometimes like today, it's exclusively about the Bible and the lies that we're hearing.

00:21:31.380 But really, in either case, we're talking about lies and the truth that should replace them.

00:21:36.020 Okay. Since we have time, I am going to, I've decided against talking about the political thing.

00:21:41.880 I wanted to talk about the Virginia legislators that proposed a bill approved of by the governor

00:21:47.480 that would allow abortion up to 40 weeks. It's terrible. Thankfully, it was struck down by

00:21:53.480 Republicans, but I might save that for next week. Or I think I am going to save it for next week,

00:21:58.520 because yeah, I just think that it deserves a little bit more time than the time that we have

00:22:05.720 right now. So I'm going to take some of the questions that I got on Instagram. So oh, yes,

00:22:10.940 I love getting relationship questions. Just FYI. I just I just love it. I had a girl recently

00:22:17.100 send me this whole long explanation. Not too long if you're listening, girl. Long explanation of the

00:22:23.200 fight that she had with her boyfriend. And it was great. We went back and forth and I gave her all

00:22:26.460 of this kind of advice. I'm not necessarily a guru, but I've been in plenty of relationships myself.

00:22:31.860 I probably know what you're going through. So here is the question. I recently got rejected by my

00:22:37.560 former crush. Could you give some advice on how to cope? Girl, that sucks. I'm not going to lie to you.

00:22:43.560 Like, I'm not going to sugarcoat it. Being rejected is one of the worst feelings in the

00:22:49.260 world because you put yourself out there. You're vulnerable and you're told that you're going to

00:22:53.280 feel better for being honest. And then you just basically get slapped in the face, hopefully

00:22:57.320 not literally, but at least metaphorically. That just is the worst. It's the worst feeling ever.

00:23:03.500 So just know that it's OK that you feel sad. Like you probably aren't feeling too great about

00:23:07.980 yourself right now. But I want you to have big picture. I'm just I don't know how old you are.

00:23:12.180 I'm judging by your picture that you're pretty young. Think about big picture if you can. And I

00:23:18.620 don't want to sound like a mom, but knowing what I know, being out of college, being out of high

00:23:24.620 school, I have been rejected. I've been broken up with. I do not think I do not think about my ex

00:23:32.200 boyfriends from high school like ever, ever. I never think about them. They are literally the smallest

00:23:38.640 specs on the span of my life that just like do not affect me. So you have to if you can,

00:23:45.940 you have to realize that it's OK to be sad and then take a step back and realize, you know what?

00:23:50.520 That was just a small misstep in the grand scheme of things. He's not going to affect you what he

00:23:55.160 thinks about you, what he likes or doesn't like about you. One, it doesn't define you. That's what we

00:24:02.700 kind of just talked about in this in this in this podcast. But also, like, it's just not going to

00:24:10.340 matter. He's just this random, immature guy that doesn't know anything. And your past probably

00:24:15.980 aren't going to cross that much for the rest of your life. And so you just kind of have to take

00:24:20.040 a deep breath and remember you are who God says that you are and who he is is far more important

00:24:25.140 than whoever this guy is. And in the grand scheme of things, you're not going to remember him.

00:24:29.900 He will be if but a footnote in the autobiography that you write of your life.

00:24:37.200 What are some healthy ways to relieve stress? I am so not the person to ask about that. I

00:24:43.360 shouldn't have even read this because I am stressed. I am a stressed person. I stress out really easily.

00:24:50.920 I worry about things really easily. I don't have actual anxiety. I just am an overthinker. I inherited

00:24:57.860 it from my mother. So you can imagine how many times I Googled things when I was in my first

00:25:02.860 trimester of pregnancy. Like, can I eat yogurt? Like, can I sit down with my legs crossed? Is

00:25:09.200 everything going to be OK? Not I would not recommend my mode of thinking. Now, I typically get most stressed

00:25:16.500 at night or when I wake up in the middle of the night, I start thinking about all the conflicts that

00:25:20.280 I have in my life, all the things that I need to get resolved. And praying is trite as it sounds.

00:25:26.860 Well, it doesn't sound trite. Sometimes it sounds trite, but it's obviously not trite.

00:25:31.160 Praying and remembering, again, the grand scheme of things, the bigger picture,

00:25:35.260 what's going to matter in eternity versus what matters tomorrow. It really does help.

00:25:40.140 It gives you that peace that passes understanding. And even if you don't know how something is going to

00:25:44.380 be resolved, how something is going to be fixed, how something is going to turn out,

00:25:48.400 how you're going to get all of this stuff done by Friday, there's just no way. Just reminding

00:25:54.420 yourself what's important and that things do get done. The amazing thing is the thing is that things

00:25:58.960 do get done. I'll give you an example. I am writing a book that is due April 1st. I'm kind of freaking

00:26:05.600 out about that. Like April 1st is soon. That's really soon. And I'm really excited about it. Wow. I just

00:26:12.740 stopped being able to talk for a second. That also stresses me out. I'm really excited about the book.

00:26:18.140 It should come out, I think, January of 2020 sometime next year in 2020. So I'm really excited,

00:26:23.240 but I'm so stressed about that. I just have to remember that it's going to get done. I have to

00:26:27.140 prioritize my time, something that I'm not good at. And I have to pray and I have to accept that

00:26:33.640 peace that passes all understanding and just realize that it's going to be okay. It does take

00:26:38.600 some, it does take some pep talk sometimes though. What names are y'all thinking about? Okay. So we

00:26:45.680 are not, I am not going to share the name of my child on social media ever. So I'm really sorry,

00:26:52.540 but you guys aren't going to know the name of my child. And it's not because of you guys who are

00:26:56.320 listening to this podcast. It's because of the creepers and the haters out there. People, I don't,

00:27:01.680 I already don't like the people on Twitter who, when I say something that they don't like, say,

00:27:06.700 I feel bad for your daughter that you're bringing into this world. You're going to be such a horrible

00:27:10.920 parent. I already don't like that. Not because it criticizes me because who cares? They're trolls

00:27:16.100 living in their mom's basement and they're criticizing me. Okay. Um, but because it brings my child into it,

00:27:22.680 like I already don't like that people using my child as a weapon. And I don't think I can

00:27:29.200 emotionally bear seeing my child's name being used in that way. So I'm not going to share my

00:27:36.040 child's name a lot. Yeah. I'm not even sharing. It's not just on social media. Like I haven't even

00:27:40.480 told my family yet. I will tell them obviously, but well, I also don't want to hear people's

00:27:46.340 opinions. Like people always have opinions about names. Like I don't really care what you think of

00:27:53.020 my child's name, but I promise I won't name them something weird. So, and I'm also not going to,

00:27:57.380 someone else ask me if I'm going to post pictures of my child. No, I I'm not going to post pictures

00:28:03.160 of my child's face. That's another thing. Like people are weird with Photoshop, the things that

00:28:07.240 they do. I know I'm not, I'm not going to exploit my child in that way. Not that other people who do

00:28:13.720 post pictures of their child are exploiting their child. I just know for me that there are creepers

00:28:18.840 that are going to do bad stuff. And I just, I don't want that. I don't think I can bear that.

00:28:24.780 Um, okay. Would you ever do a meetup in Dallas? Maybe, maybe, maybe so. Um, another question.

00:28:36.060 Why do you think most celebrities are Democrats? Uh, Hollywood has always kind of leaned to the

00:28:41.300 laughter at least for the better part of their history that I've been aware of Hollywood. They

00:28:45.260 have leaned to the left, um, because I think it's better to ask why they're liberal because they're

00:28:52.480 typically not moral people. And in order to justify the things that they glorify in Hollywood,

00:28:57.440 like all kinds of sexual promiscuity and basically having no morality whatsoever,

00:29:01.680 it's kind of hard to admit that there is some kind of higher transcendent truth or morality.

00:29:06.920 And so it's better to just be, it's easier for them to just be a liberal and typically liberalism,

00:29:12.880 uh, today's progressivism is just kind of, there is no such thing as truth, except what the

00:29:18.400 government says is truth. There is no, uh, there is no right or wrong except for what social justice

00:29:24.720 says is right or wrong. It kind of gives a pass to any kind of, uh, sin that you can think of as long

00:29:30.960 as you are saying that the government should take care of people. It's a lot easier for liberals to

00:29:35.700 have that. They're typically godless or did I say liberals? I meant to say celebrities. Uh,

00:29:40.760 they're typically godless. They typically don't really have a moral compass, not all of them,

00:29:44.800 but a lot of them. And, um, that's what happens when you don't believe in truth. You almost always

00:29:52.520 become a progressive. Like it's very rare that you've got a born again, strong Christian who also

00:29:58.880 really knows politics and is a progressive. It's just rare. It's hard. It's hard. It's really hard to

00:30:05.040 be that. Um, Oh, here's the question based on what I kind of just said, engage in conversation with

00:30:11.260 those believers who vote for unbiblical policies. So they probably don't know a lot about what they're

00:30:18.480 voting for. Now, I don't think that you have to be a Republican to be a Christian, but I don't see

00:30:25.240 how you can be a Democrat. Does that make sense? Like if you're a Christian and you're trying to

00:30:29.480 decide what political party you are going to be a part of, I understand if you have some contention

00:30:34.920 with the Republican party, especially the current Republican party and what they're actually doing,

00:30:39.640 not just what they say, they say, they stand for, but what they're actually doing. If you're like,

00:30:43.700 look, I'm just not going to be a part of that. I think that's respectable. I think that we can have

00:30:47.400 that conversation, but I don't understand how you can be a Democrat. I mean, these are the people that

00:30:51.800 are advocating for abortion up to 40 weeks who believe in the redistribution of wealth, who believe

00:30:56.200 in socialism, which has led to all kinds of human rights travesties throughout history.

00:31:01.280 Usually those people who are voting Democrat, who are born again, Christians, I'm not questioning

00:31:05.580 their salvation. I'm questioning how much they actually know about the policies they're

00:31:09.420 voting for. I mean, if you look at a lot of the Christians, a lot of the Christian responses to

00:31:14.880 the New York bill, we did have plenty of women who I think were used to be kind of silent on the issue

00:31:21.260 of abortion, speak up and say, look, this is too far. This is not okay. But then you had other

00:31:26.900 Christians that were like, look, this is about the life of the mother and you need to just adopt.

00:31:32.580 If you're going to ever talk about being pro-life, that's just ignorant. Like that's just ignorant.

00:31:36.500 They don't know anything about the bill. The bill decriminalizes abortion up to nine months. So if a

00:31:42.180 man stabs a woman in the stomach, kills her unborn child, but she survives, the man is only charged

00:31:48.180 with assault, not with homicide. You can just look at the bill. I'm just getting this information from

00:31:52.060 the bill. An unborn child was redefined, not as a, not as a person anymore. So you have to be born and

00:31:58.660 alive to be a person, which is weird. So just like dead adults aren't people anymore. I don't know what

00:32:02.720 they become, but that's just a philosophical question for Andrew Cuomo genius. Um, so I think

00:32:09.060 most people that vote that way who are Christians, it's that they either don't know their Bibles or

00:32:16.060 they don't know politics. And typically it's the latter. They just don't know what they're voting

00:32:21.080 for. They're told they're voting for compassionate policies. They're told a Medicare for all is more

00:32:25.620 compassionate. That's an, I'll do that in actual episode on that. They're told socialism is more

00:32:30.740 compassionate. They're told open borders is more compassionate and they buy it. Why? Because

00:32:34.740 it's so easy to think that way if you're not thinking very hard. So that's my take on that.

00:32:39.880 That's all that I time for. I got tons of questions though. And so now I have them, uh, in my back

00:32:45.020 pocket, I'll be able to answer them later on. Thank you guys so much for listening. I would love your

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Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - January 31, 2019

Ep 73 ｜ Half-Truth from Hell

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