Ep 817 ｜ Parenting Influencers Go All-In on Pride Propaganda
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Parenting accounts on Instagram are pushing for gender ideology this Pride Month in the name of love and openness and tolerance. Why is this such a huge problem and how do we as Christian parents respond to it? This episode is brought to you by GoodRanchers.
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Parenting accounts on Instagram are pushing for gender ideology this Pride Month in the name of
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love and openness and tolerance. Why is this such a huge problem and how do we as Christian parents
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respond to it? This episode is brought to you by our friends at Good Ranchers. Go to
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Hey guys, happy Tuesday. Hope everyone's having a wonderful week. All right. I want to talk to you
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about some Instagram accounts that a lot of us previously loved. A lot of you moms out there
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follow, but who have hook, line, and sinker fallen for left-wing ideology when it comes to sexuality
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and gender. I want to respond to some of the things that they've said and give you some encouragement
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and equipment, hopefully, and responding to these things and also talk about why it matters,
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why it's really difficult when it comes to these parenting accounts to chew the meat but spit out
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the bones, if you will, because this is really a lot bigger than just one or two posts about so-called
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Pride Month. So let's go ahead and get right into it. And I want to address one of the posts that so
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many of you sent me by Dr. Becky Kennedy. She's got 1.8 million followers. She's a mom of three,
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psychologist, founder of Good Inside. She's a number one New York Times bestselling author.
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She's, her book, Good Inside, has a podcast of the same name. And then also, I mean, right off the bat,
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we've got a little bit of an issue as Christians with this name. And I'm not saying, I'm not purporting
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to know everything that she's ever said. I haven't read her book. I haven't thoroughly listened to her
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podcast. But if I am surmising correctly, it's the belief that we are all inherently good inside,
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which is a very new age belief. It is certainly not a Christian belief. The Christian belief is that we
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are sinners, completely incapable of saving ourselves, that our righteousness is as filthy
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rags, that of course, there are good things that we can do. There are bad things that we can do
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really based on God's standards. But we are not inherently good and virtuous. Actually,
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we don't have to be taught to sin. We don't have to be taught to lie. We don't have to be taught to
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be selfish. All of these things come naturally. It's virtue that really needs to be taught to us and
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to be formed in us and to be practiced before they can actually become principles in our life.
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And we talk about this in my book, You're Not Enough and That's Okay. This kind of self-help,
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self-love idea that has become so popular in particular among women that says really inside
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is this beautiful inner goddess that just has to be released. And the way that you find her and
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release her is through this journey of self-discovery and self-fulfillment, getting out of these so-called
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toxic relationships, releasing the burden that society, your children, or your husband, or your
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job is placing on you, and just putting yourself first and doing you, finding what makes you happy
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and pursuing that with reckless abandon. Then you will finally unleash this beautiful inner goddess
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and you will attain all of the things that you have wanted for so long, but for whatever reason,
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haven't actually been able to grab onto. That's what Glennon Doyle preaches. That's a lot of what
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Brene Brown preaches. I'm not saying that those people don't also say things that can be good and
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true, but that's a lot of what we hear from the self-help and self-love world. That's why I wrote the
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book that I did, because that's not a biblical idea. It's not a biblical idea that we're good inside
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and really society has just kind of made us bad. It's that we are inherently sinful. We make society
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bad. We actually need Christ to save us. We need the Holy Spirit to guide us. We need God to tell us
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what right and wrong is. I know that I'm kind of deducing a lot just from the name of her book and
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all of that. I understand and can sympathize with this idea that people are inherently good, but it's
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just simply not true. All of human history and even everything that we see today obviously speaks to
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that. So it doesn't surprise me that she also happens to be progressive in a lot of other ways
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because she's starting from a premise that is inherently different than reality and inherently
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different than what Christians believe, which tells me that even while she may have some good advice
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in some ways, I'm not saying that you can't take any advice that she has as a psychologist and a mom,
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but we always have to discern and realize that she's starting from a different understanding
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of human nature than what is actually true. And so when she posted last week about pride and
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making sure that your kids are celebrating pride, it wasn't really surprising to me, although it was
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disappointing to a lot of you and I think rightfully so. So here's the first slide. She says things to say
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to your kids to encourage openness and acceptance, and she has several tips that we'll go through.
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But let me read her caption. She says, openness and acceptance don't develop overnight. They don't
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start when our kids are teens or when they have their first romantic relationship. The seeds of
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tolerance, openness, and acceptance are planted now in our families when our kids are young and building
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internal circuitry for how they think about themselves and others. It's certainly true in the sense that
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it is so important to instill the values that we want to instill in our children at a young age
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because that is when they're most susceptible to being taught. And they are going to listen to the
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people that have the most authority in their life, the people who have the most relationship equity,
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relational equity in their lives, to the people that they spend the most time with, the people that
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they respect the most, the people that care for them, and that is typically their parents. And so she's
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right about that, that it's important to instill values and principles at an early age. And this common
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knowledge about kids and just how malleable they are is exactly also why we see so many children's books
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pushing left-wing sexual ideology, because they understand how kids grab onto ideas and how it forms and
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shapes them. And so she's right about that. Right away, I have questions about what openness and acceptance
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mean? Openness, acceptance, and tolerance. Are we talking about unconditional openness, acceptance,
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and tolerance? We can see pretty quickly how that could lead to bad things. We don't want to be
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tolerant of everything. We don't want to accept everything and everyone into our lives. We don't
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want to be open to every idea. Again, there are good things. There are bad things. There are good
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people. There are bad people. Good people in the sense that there are people who align with God's
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standards of kindness and goodness and morality and truth and virtue and things like that. Not
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good in the sense that they're inherently good and can save themselves, just to make that distinction.
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But tolerance, openness, and acceptance, just right off the bat, are not necessarily virtues.
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Not without being defined, without having parameters around them. They're not things to which we should
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strive or encourage our kids to strive to. Tolerance of what? Openness to what? Acceptance of what?
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All of those questions have to be answered before we can say that these are things that we want to
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What we say to our kids about love matters. After all, our kids take what we say and how we act and
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form internal working models of how the world works. I think that's true. Yes, kids generalize from their
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family and infer truths about the world. True. Families that not only preach but practice tolerance,
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openness, and acceptance have kids who bring these values to life. This means kids who are
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tolerant, open, and accepting of themselves. Kids who bring curiosity and not judgment to others.
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Kids who converse with those who are different from them with the goal of understanding not being
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right. Okay, well that last part irks me. Of course we should teach our kids to be kind. Of course we
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can teach our kids over time that there are different kinds of people out there, that they are going
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to meet people that look differently than them, that may act differently than them, that may sound
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differently than them. And we want to extend kindness and we want to extend God's grace to
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everyone. But you don't want to teach your kids to be tolerant of everything. You don't want to teach
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your kids to be open to everything, to accept all things. Again, kids are looking for parameters.
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They need clarity. They need definitions. We as humans do, whether you're adults or whether you're
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kids. But if you know anything about working with children, if you've watched a child develop,
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if you've watched them go from baby to toddler to big kid, you see that they are always trying
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to put things into the proper context. They're always trying to define things. They're always
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trying to make connections. They're always seeking clarity because the whole world is new to them.
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So the whole world is confusing and chaotic. And so to make things more, uh, uh, to make things
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more understanding for them or to make things, uh, make more sense, they really need their worlds to
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be more orderly and to be smaller. And so it is a very good thing when your child at two or three
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years old starts observing gender differences and starts to say things like, oh, people have mommy and
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daddies. People have grandma and grandpas. I'm a girl. I'm a boy. I wear this. Boys wear this. Of
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course, some of it is going to be a little bit too black and white. There are some rules that they
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may think that all genders have to abide by. That is not necessarily true. Like girls can only wear pink
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or boys can only wear blue, but the nuances come with time. It's important for us to actually affirm
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those distinctions and help better explain those distinctions. And especially from a Christian
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perspective. Yes, there are mommies and daddies. God made these families. God made it good. Mommy
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and daddy came together and made you like, these are, these are good things that we want to teach
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our children and to affirm to our children as they're trying to seek clarity. Just telling our
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children that there's nothing good. There's nothing bad. There's no distinctions or definitions that is
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only going to make the world more chaotic, confusing, and overwhelming to them. It is so
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important for them to be able to orient themselves, yes, based on their gender and based on other
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people's gender in the world. There are differences between male and female, and they need to understand
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that. There are differences in how we interact as men and women with other men and women, as boys and
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girls with other boys and girls. This binary, these distinctions, these definitions, I think are very
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important for the safety of our children and for the proper development of our children. I don't think
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you have to be a psychologist to understand that. I think that you just have to have some kind of
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observation of childhood development. And even just having been a child yourself, you understand how
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these regulations and how these definitions and parameters are so important. Just like in everything
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else, our kids need guidelines. They need protection. They need some form of discipline. So they
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understand this is right. This is wrong. This is safe. This is unsafe. This is also true when we teach
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them about the world. We don't want to teach them to be open to everything, of course. And she said,
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and then this last part, I do just want to say, those who are different from them with the, or converse with
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those who are different from them without, with the goal of understanding not being right. So
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immediately my mind goes to talking to someone who is obviously a boy, who is obviously a male.
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And that person says, no, I'm a woman. If you know, your young daughter is talking to a man and this
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man who is obviously male says, no, I'm a woman. And you have to tell your child to suppress every
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instinct that they have to suppress everything that they've observed about the world, everything
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they know to be true, all of those distinctions and definitions that they have squared away in
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their minds to try to make themselves feel safe and to make things make sense. They have to deny all of
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that instinctual stuff that has been placed in their mind so naturally and just agree with what this
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person delusionally says about themselves. No, truth actually matters. Reality actually
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matters. I'm not going to teach my kids to be accepting of that, which is untrue. And none of
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you should. None of us should. Here's something I want to, I want to know. I, I know about you. You
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want to encourage openness. You want to break cycles. You want to feel confident as a parent. And this is
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all harder than it seems. And here's why. Parents have never had the resources we need and deserve to do the
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hard work of parenting while we've changed that. So good. And then she sells, she sells her stuff,
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which is fine. But I don't know if that's true. The parents have never had the resources that we
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need. I think that things are so constantly changing and the sexual revolution is so strong. And we've
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been told it's so important to include children in the sexual revolution and the gender revolution and
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the moral revolution that now these new guides to tell, to instructing kids and indoctrinating kids
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and gender ideology are necessary. And they also make a lot of money. So let's go through, let's go
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through a couple of the slides. Like, I don't want to go through all of them because it's basically my
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response is going to be the same for, for all of them. But I just want to explain why,
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why some of these ideas are wrong. Not everything that she says in here is necessarily wrong, but a
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lot of it, a lot of it is. So here's one thing that she said in the third slide. Love is love.
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This is something that she says we should say to our kids. Love is love. Have you ever heard this?
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Love can come in many forms. Every person can love and deserves love. Let's think about that. Let's
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just put our thinking caps on for a second. Why do you think it might be dangerous to tell a
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kid that love is love and love can come in many forms and that everyone can give love and everyone
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deserves love? Let's think about what we know about abusers. Let's think about what we know about
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sexual abusers. What do they typically do? This person is a psychologist. I'm sure they know the
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patterns of pedophilia, the patterns of sexual predation of children. There's a lot of manipulation
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there. There's a lot of guilt tripping. There's a lot of, if you really loved me, if you really
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respected me, if you really wanted to be my friend, you would do this and you would keep
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it a secret. They convinced that child, no, this is love. I love you. So we're going to do this.
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I love you. So I'm going to keep it a secret. I love you. So I want to do this with you,
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have a relationship with you. That's how many of these serial sexual abusers justify, not just justify
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their actions, but also convince and manipulate their victims into staying silent and to being as
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compliant as possible to causing this little trouble as possible to making sure that their
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victim remains their victim for as long as possible. So if you teach your child that love
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is love, AKA there's no definition of it. Love is love is the same exact silly, dangerous, stupid logic
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as trans women are women. It's the same circular logic. You're not actually defining anything.
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It is all love is in the eye of the beholder and woman is in the eye of the identifier or whatever.
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The person who wants to identify as a woman is a woman. Whoever says that they love really does love.
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So if you call anything love that someone says is love, then that means lust can be love.
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Um, predation can be love. Desire can be love. Declaration can be love. If you refuse to actually
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give your child clarity and definitions on what these really important things are, you are making them
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vulnerable to abuse. Definitions are a safeguard. Love is love is stupid. It's incorrect. And it can
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lead to the justification of all kinds of perversion and predation. This is one of the most dangerous
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lessons that you could teach to your child. Love is love doesn't even make any sense. It won't even
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make any sense to a child. Again, if you've been around a toddler, they don't even tolerate you just
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giving them a real definition of things. They want to know what do all the words mean in that definition
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that you just gave me. And not only that, but they want to know why. Like, why is it called that? Why
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is it called a smoke detector? What's smoke? What's a detector? Why does it detect? Where does smoke come
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from? Like they want to know, they want to know. And it is our job as parents whose brains are hopefully
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developed to be able to give as many answers as we possibly can in a way that they understand.
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It is so cruel and so stupid of us to only be able to give this kind of answer to one of the most
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important and existential questions that exists. What is love? If the best answer that you can give
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to someone because you're scared of being called a bigot is love, that love is love, then you are in
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part failing at your job as a parent. That's not the clarity that we are obligated to give our kids.
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That doesn't mean that we have to know all of the answers always. I don't sometimes have to think
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about, I don't know, what does that mean? Like, how do I explain that like very basic concept or that
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very profound concept? But I'm not going to give a secular definition. I'm going to think about it
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because that's my responsibility as a parent. Like, how can I shape their mind in a way that gives
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them the most clarity possible? This is just confusion, compounding, confusion, chaos, compounding,
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chaos, which is the way of the devil, of course. Like, he is the father of chaos. He is the father of
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lies. He loves anarchy. He loves these changing identities and the shape-shifting and the different
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definitions of things so that no one knows up from down or what two plus two equals. But God is a God of
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peace, not a God of confusion. So as people who love God and follow God, we have to be stewards of
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vessels of his peace-filled clarity for the world, but also for our children.
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And you know what the most wonderful thing is, is that while the world gives us confusion,
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confusion, the word gives us clarity. So while the world gives us confusion, the word gives us
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clarity. So love isn't love. Love is, according to 1 Corinthians 13, love is patient and kind.
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Love does not envy or boast. It is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way. It is not
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irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears
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all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. And then we
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could go on with the rest of the chapter there, but you get the picture that there is actually a
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definition of love according to scripture. And when we give our kids this definition, then when someone
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says, I love you and that's why I'm abusing you, we can say, our kids can say, no, no, no, no,
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because love is patient and kind. Love doesn't insist on its own way. It's not rude. It's not
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irritable or resentful. And it doesn't rejoice in wrongdoing. It rejoices in the truth. So even love
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has distinctive power to tell between right and wrong what's true and what's not. That's why people
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today who say, well, love is just unconditional tolerance and acceptance. Love is just affirming what
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anyone believes about themselves or what anyone wants to do. Well, that's not the definition of
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love. Love doesn't rejoice in wrongdoing. It rejoices in the truth. So love in its real definition
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defined by the God who created it actually distinguishes between what is true and what is
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not. And love without truth isn't really love. And that's why, of course, this secular ideology has
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to just say love is love because it can't actually have a standard. It certainly doesn't have a standard
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that is based in God's word. So 1 Corinthians 13 tells us what love is. And not only that,
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not only that, we read a lot about love in the New Testament in particular throughout scripture.
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But 1 John 4, 8, as we quote a lot, anyone who does not love God does not know God because God
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is love. So no, love isn't love. Love is patient and kind. It is not selfish. But God is love.
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If God is love, then he gets to define it. He gets to say what it is. It's not just whatever we want it
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to be. It's not just a feeling. It's not just a declaration. It's not just a statement. It's not
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just desire or lust. God is love. He created it. Everything that he creates, everything that he does,
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everything that he says, every parameter that he puts in place, every definition that he gives us
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is all done in love. If God is love, then nothing that he says or does can be unloving. Therefore,
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the God who is love made us male and female, Genesis 1, 27, in love. And we cannot out love him
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since we are not love. So by disagreeing with the God who is love, whether it's about gender,
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whether it's about sex, or whether it's about marriage, or whether it's about any form of morality,
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or identity, or sin, is not loving but hateful. To be opposed to the God who is love is not to
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out-compassion him or out-empathy him, but is actually to be on the side of hate. Because God
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not only is love, and he defines love, but he also created us. He also loves us. And so if we define
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love as 1 Corinthians 13 defines it, if it is seeking the best interest of someone else as God
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defines their best interest, then we are not loving them by disagreeing with what God says
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about gender and sex. We are actually hating them. We are doing the work of the devil. The devil hates
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them. The devil loves confusion. He loves to confuse people about their identity. He loves people to hate
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their bodies. He loves people to go against God's design for marriage and family and for all of these
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things. He loves to rope kids into this movement of sexual liberation. And so when we are disagreeing
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with God about these things, we're not being loving. We're actually being hateful. It's not true that love
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is love. God is love. And love is as God defines it. He defines it very clearly in 1 Corinthians 13
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and elsewhere. There's not a way to love God outside of God's definition of love.
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And so I could go through the rest of these slides, but it basically all goes back to the same
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principle, is that these are not real definitions of virtue, of morality, of love. And this will not
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teach our children to love well. It will actually teach them to be very vulnerable to all forms of
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manipulation and all forms of confusion. Again, we are not to give our children confusion and chaos
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when they are desperately seeking clarity. Thankfully, the Word of God gives us so much
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clarity that the psychologists of today can't. And again, this person fundamentally misunderstands
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human nature in general. And so it's not surprising to me that she also lands on these very just wrong,
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but also dangerous conclusions. All right, there's one more post I want to respond to. There have been
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a lot of posts that have been floating around. Parents Magazine also wrote an article, how to respond if
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your kid comes out to you. Basically, you know, it's the emotional and moral extortion that we've seen.
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If you don't affirm everyone's choices, then you are not just a bigot, but also you are going to
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encourage your child to harm themselves in some way. So this is, of course, how they wrote parents
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into allowing their child to go through some sort of body mutilation process. When they're teenagers,
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they say your child is going to commit suicide. And so you have to go along with that, even though the
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data doesn't actually show that, even the people and the children who are allowed to so-called
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transition, there's a very high suicide rate, not because of a lack of acceptance, but just because
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when you try to be something that you biologically aren't, there's a lot of distress there. And there's
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also a lot of underlying issues, typically with this gender-confused group of people in the United
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States. So there's a lot of manipulation that goes on, a lot of toxic empathy, as we like to say,
00:26:11.340
that goes on in this Parents Magazine article. All right, then there's Big Little Feelings.
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Big Little Feelings is a popular account. 3.1 million followers. I know a lot of you
00:26:22.740
watch them or follow them, whatever. Forgot the language there for a second. I don't,
00:26:29.560
I think maybe I did at one point, but I'm pretty, I've unfollowed a lot of the accounts in summer of
00:26:34.960
2020. Anyone who posts, almost anyone who posted a black square, I'm still following some people who did,
00:26:40.280
but who have since come to their senses, who posted a black square. I was like, nah, nah, nah. And some
00:26:48.320
of these accounts went after taking care of babies after it was found out that at some point they
00:26:54.120
donated to the Trump campaign and claimed, like some of these mom accounts that I unfollowed at the
00:27:00.200
time, they claimed to be her friend, but then totally threw her under the bus because they wanted
00:27:04.240
to be anti-racist allies, whatever. So I had to unfollow a lot of these parenting accounts because
00:27:12.020
really like they're progressive. I've seen, again, just a misunderstanding of human nature and
00:27:18.760
therefore like a misunderstanding of a lot of parenting. Not all of parenting. And again,
00:27:23.080
I'm not saying that there is no good advice that they've given. I'm not even necessarily telling you
00:27:28.980
to unfollow these people. Like if you're a discerning person and you really can chew the
00:27:34.420
meat, spit out the bones, I think it's difficult when like the entire body of it is kind of infected
00:27:39.180
with an erroneous view of human nature. But if that's possible for you, like I'm not saying that
00:27:44.180
you shouldn't follow them. I'm just saying to be extremely discerning.
00:28:01.060
So big little feelings. They claim to be toddler experts. They posted about Mental Health Awareness
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Month in honor of Pride Month. And they say our LGBTQ youth need us. Everyday LGBTQ
00:28:14.160
plus people face bullying, discrimination and rejection. So they partnered with the Trevor
00:28:19.540
Project and PFLAG, which is Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, two organizations to make
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this post about mental health awareness for LGBTQ plus youth so called. And so they post some
00:28:30.900
statistics. Roughly half of transgender and non-binary young people found their school to
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be gender affirming. And those who did reported lower rates of attempted suicide, affirming gender
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identity, gender affirming clothing, gender neutral bathrooms. And so they're going all in, not just on
00:28:49.200
the idea of being loving towards people and talking to people and understanding, but of children actually
00:28:54.780
being born in the wrong body and transitioning. Now, if you've ever read the story of a detransitioner,
00:29:02.140
if you've ever talked to someone who realizes that they were really just in like a delusional and
00:29:07.900
vulnerable state, when they thought that they were the opposite gender, you realize like how the social
00:29:13.240
affirmation part of it really led them to then making permanent mutilating decisions about their
00:29:20.080
bodies. And so what is being advocated for here? And again, there's that moral extortion piece that if
00:29:26.560
you do not affirm this lie, if you don't celebrate this lie, then you are going to cause someone to commit
00:29:35.240
suicide. It's they're pushing this idea that you can be the opposite sex. They're pushing this idea
00:29:42.880
that kids who think that they are the opposite sex, that you shouldn't wait it out, that you
00:29:46.400
shouldn't be patient, you shouldn't ask questions, you shouldn't try to clarify, but that you should
00:29:50.280
just affirm and that everyone else should accommodate this newfound identity. No matter what the underlying
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issues are, no matter what the home life is like, no matter if there may be other factors that are
00:30:02.640
contributing to this kind of confusion, we just need to affirm because if you don't, they're going
00:30:07.340
to commit suicide. Now, I want to talk a little bit more about the Trevor Project and PFLAG and what
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it is and why I think it's so odd that an account like Big Little Feelings would partner with them.
00:30:18.720
The Trevor Project released a study back in 2021, at the end of 2021, claiming that they had found that
00:30:28.900
so-called gender affirming hormones for children, which is this is opposite sex hormones, gender
00:30:34.180
affirming is a very Orwellian phrase, meaning the opposite of what it actually says. It was published
00:30:39.200
in the Journal of Adolescent Health in December of 2021, claiming that it gathered information from 34,000
00:30:50.300
LGBTQ youth between the ages of 13 and 24, 12,000 identified as transgender or non-binary. And what
00:31:00.780
they said was they found that among young trans and non-binary people under 18 receiving gender
00:31:08.420
affirming hormone therapy was associated with nearly 40% lower odds of having had a suicide attempt
00:31:14.580
in the past year. And they talk also about the affirmation of pronouns and things like that.
00:31:20.240
That all leads to lower rates of suicide. That's what they claim that they found. But there are many
00:31:25.680
problems with this study. Some of the problems have been outlined by journalists at places like
00:31:31.160
National Review. Genspect is an international nonprofit of professionals aimed at developing a
00:31:37.920
healthy conversation. Apparently, that's what they say in view of sex and gender. They also point out
00:31:44.260
the problems with the Trevor Project data. And by the way, this data was used on Fox News in a very
00:31:48.520
positive way in June 2022 on Dana Perino's show when they highlighted parents who were raising a girl
00:31:54.600
to be a boy. So National Review notes this, that according to the website, Trevor Project used an
00:32:01.020
online survey platform. It used targeted social media ads on Instagram and Snapchat to try to get people
00:32:06.820
who identified as LGBTQ, young people between 13 and 24, and asked them basically what they identify as
00:32:15.240
and if they are around people that are affirming and then what their suicidal ideation has been like.
00:32:26.080
The authors compare the current mental health of young people who want hormones and received hormones
00:32:30.340
with those who want but do not take hormones. The problem is that young people who identify as
00:32:35.220
transgender are frequently told by other young people and others that hormones are life-saving.
00:32:39.860
Speaking as a parent of a young person who is both anorexic and gender dysphoric, I have noted
00:32:43.900
the person from Jenspect is saying that such young people can become very anxious and fixated on
00:32:50.160
starting hormones. So they're talking about how self-reporting surveys often are not giving you
00:32:58.500
giving you a real and holistic picture of what's really going on. They didn't focus in this study
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on any other mental health problems that these kids might have or what their family life might be like
00:33:10.840
or anything else that may be going on. All they emphasized was what do you identify as? Do you have
00:33:17.100
all of these so-called affirming things around you? And are you considering suicide? And then they said,
00:33:22.980
well, these people who answered this way have lower rates of suicide. So it is because of these non-affirming
00:33:29.640
things in this person's life that they are considering suicide. Again, without looking at any of the other
00:33:34.800
potential contributing factors here. The author compares the fixation on hormones, the author, the Jenspect
00:33:42.880
author, a fixation on hormones to the fixation of someone with anorexia and says it's, you know, it's very
00:33:50.380
similar that the person who is restricting their calories with anorexia may say that they feel
00:33:55.640
better, that they hate themselves less, that they're more comfortable when they are in that kind of
00:34:00.740
calorie deficit. But it is dangerous to them. And if you prescribe that they just continue to restrict
00:34:07.520
their calories because it makes them feel better, you are still not addressing the underlying issue.
00:34:12.160
They're still believing a lie. It is the same thing with someone who thinks that they are in the wrong
00:34:16.920
body or who sees themselves as the opposite sex. They may feel better when they're on hormones.
00:34:21.720
I've talked to detransitioners, especially girls who want to transition to a boy. The testosterone that
00:34:26.620
they give you makes you feel really good. Physically, it just makes you feel strong. It makes you feel
00:34:32.280
high energy. It feels like it fixes your problems. So it's not all that surprising that for a period of
00:34:38.860
time, they may actually feel better. And again, they have been told that this is going to save your life.
00:34:44.080
So there's a little bit of a placebo effect, I think, going on there. That doesn't mean that we
00:34:48.820
should be putting kids on these hormones that irreparably change their bodies for the worse.
00:34:57.340
And they're much more likely to then lead to the actual surgical procedures and things like that.
00:35:03.080
And so Genspec says that there are challenges in interpreting the contemporaneous association
00:35:09.760
between mental health and some factor that may elicit anxiety in sample members like hormone
00:35:14.940
treatment in a trans identifying population. So there really has only been one long-term study
00:35:22.240
when it comes to this, when it comes to like the outcomes for people who decide to transition
00:35:29.420
through surgery. And that is from Sweden in 2011. They examined data from 1973 to 2003. They found that
00:35:37.680
the overall mortality for sex reassigned persons was higher during follow-up than for controls of the
00:35:43.580
same birth sex, particularly death from suicide. Sex reassigned persons also had an increased risk
00:35:49.320
for suicide attempts and psychiatric impatient care. And so in Sweden, a place that is very affirming of
00:35:56.220
people who try to transition into the opposite sex, you saw a much higher suicide rate among people who
00:36:01.540
identify as the opposite sex than you did in the rest of the population, even after, and especially after
00:36:23.320
PFLAG is the other association that Big Little Feelings partnered with in this post. It's the first
00:36:29.500
and largest organization dedicated to supporting, educating, and advocating for LGBTQ plus people
00:36:34.340
and their family. You might remember that Mario Lopez was criticized by PFLAG when he said a couple
00:36:43.440
years ago that three-year-olds should not transition their gender. Three-year-olds. And this organization that
00:36:49.380
this toddler account, Big Little Feelings is partnering with, was angry about that. They said, it's okay,
00:36:57.260
Mario Lopez. We're here to help provide more education on what being transgender means, the difference
00:37:01.460
between sexual orientation, sex, and gender, and a whole lot of other things. So they were outraged by
00:37:06.500
what he called a very, or what they called a very ignorant comment because they apparently believe that
00:37:12.820
three-year-olds absolutely can be the opposite sex, which is wicked, cruel, evil, depraved, all of the
00:37:19.040
horrible things that you can think of. PFLAG is a major advocate of child transition,
00:37:25.120
and they've been very outspoken about this, especially in the states that are trying to ban
00:37:31.260
these terrible procedures for minors. And so like this, I mean, the most radical and extreme and
00:37:39.180
most harmful parts of this movement, of this revolution, are being pushed by these major mommy
00:37:47.120
accounts, like Big Little Feelings, who are supposed to be toddler experts and are explaining to you that
00:37:55.600
your toddler may be the opposite sex so that you will one day put them on puberty blockers, force them
00:38:02.920
into perpetual adolescence because that's what puberty blockers do. Our bodies actually need puberty,
00:38:08.260
both mentally and physically, in order to form healthily. That alone can lead to lifelong infertility
00:38:16.420
and sexual dysfunction, but typically that leads to cross-sex hormones because once you're on this
00:38:20.820
train, it's really hard to hop off. That typically leads to cross-sex hormones and that typically leads
00:38:26.220
to surgery. You're much more likely, once you have social affirmation, to get on the puberty blockers,
00:38:31.720
to get on the cross-sex hormones, to then get the body mutilating surgery. And by then, you've done
00:38:37.860
irrevocable harm to your body. You've done irreparable harm to your body. You've probably rendered yourself
00:38:43.620
sterile. You've probably made yourself a lifelong slave to the medical industrial complex. This is
00:38:49.080
the opposite of what people should be doing as parents. This is the opposite of love. It is the
00:38:53.540
opposite of teaching them to accept themselves and to be thankful for who God made them to be.
00:38:58.820
The only compassionate response when someone is confused about their gender is to help them
00:39:03.160
rectify and reconcile their mind with their body, not the other way around. And it's so stupid that we
00:39:11.240
as adults have just completely abandoned our responsibility and our rational thinking because
00:39:15.460
we're so scared of being called a bigot. We're so scared of being accused of not having empathy
00:39:23.380
that we just go along with all of this madness at the expense of our children. What do we always say?
00:39:30.260
Children are always the subjects of progressive social experiments, whether it comes to gender ideology,
00:39:37.280
whether it comes to abortion, whether it comes to the rearrangement of the family, whether it comes
00:39:42.060
to COVID policy. These kids who have no voice, they have no capital, they have no power. They are
00:39:49.680
just subjects to the whims of the progressive people in charge. And all is ever asked is what do adults
00:39:57.080
want? What's best for adults? No one is ever really truly thinking of what is in the best interest of
00:40:04.740
these children. And if you think that the Trevor Project or PFLAG or any entity or account that is promoting
00:40:12.460
them, if you really think that they are caring for the best interest of the kids, you should just really look
00:40:18.260
into a lot of the money behind this as we've talked about. There's a lot of money behind child transition.
00:40:24.900
There are a lot of people making money and then all of the, as collateral damage, all of the perverts
00:40:30.520
get to be a part of it. This idea of feminizing a boy or making a girl more masculine, of puberty
00:40:41.100
blockers, of trapping someone in a child's body, like all of this is also a fetish by a lot of perverted
00:40:49.260
adults. And I'm not saying that the people who are promoting all of this on these mommy accounts know
00:40:53.880
that. I don't think that they do at all. I'm not saying that they're even, you know, knowingly
00:40:58.900
contributing to that, but that's true. We've talked about it with Genevieve Glock many times. Like
00:41:03.840
there is, there's a lot of power. There's a lot of perversion that's behind this. And again,
00:41:08.560
it's our responsibility as the protectors of our children to stand in the way of that confusion
00:41:13.740
and that chaos. That's our job. Openness, acceptance, and tolerance of evil is not right.
00:41:23.100
It's very dangerous. We can teach our kids to be kind to everyone. We can teach them the nuances of life,
00:41:28.440
the differences of people while still staying true to what the Bible says is true. And so I just want
00:41:35.220
to encourage you, like if you are not in the word regularly, if you are not plugged into a local
00:41:39.080
church, you need to be. It's a crazy world out there. There are a lot of questions that our kids
00:41:43.760
are going to have. We need to have the answers to them. We need to be the ones starting these
00:41:48.980
conversations. We need to be the ones setting the guidelines. We need to be the ones laying the
00:41:53.460
foundation for our kids so that they can be wise and strong and sure while also being loving,
00:41:59.580
but loving as God defines love, right? That's what the world needs. And don't be scared parents
00:42:06.020
or potential parents about raising your kids in this world. I know it's scary. I know it's confusing.
00:42:10.540
Maybe you feel unequipped, but every generation has faced their challenges and obstacles. And what does the
00:42:15.740
world need more than smart and wise and strong and courageous and clear thinking kids who grow up to
00:42:24.940
be all of those things as adults? That's what the world needs. Of course, it needs better people.
00:42:32.120
It needs godly people. And we can be a part of discipling the next generation to be of those
00:42:38.020
things, speaking the truth in love without wavering, without apology.
00:42:42.600
All right. That's all we've got time for today. I really wanted to respond to Jen Hatmaker's
00:42:47.980
post about Pride Month and then as well as this other erroneous study that's being posted and
00:42:54.080
floated around on progressive Christian Instagram. We're also going to talk about the Duggars and
00:43:00.320
that documentary at some point. Obviously not today. We'll find time for it. And so a lot of you
00:43:07.900
have been asking me about that. So you have that to look forward to. All right. That's all we've got
00:43:12.060
time for today. If you love this podcast, leave us a five-star review. That would mean a lot to us