Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 817 ｜ Parenting Influencers Go All-In on Pride Propaganda

00:00:00.540 Parenting accounts on Instagram are pushing for gender ideology this Pride Month in the name of 0.93

00:00:07.280 love and openness and tolerance. Why is this such a huge problem and how do we as Christian parents

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00:00:30.000 Hey guys, happy Tuesday. Hope everyone's having a wonderful week. All right. I want to talk to you

00:00:39.260 about some Instagram accounts that a lot of us previously loved. A lot of you moms out there

00:00:46.380 follow, but who have hook, line, and sinker fallen for left-wing ideology when it comes to sexuality

00:00:54.180 and gender. I want to respond to some of the things that they've said and give you some encouragement

00:00:59.680 and equipment, hopefully, and responding to these things and also talk about why it matters,

00:01:04.180 why it's really difficult when it comes to these parenting accounts to chew the meat but spit out

00:01:09.760 the bones, if you will, because this is really a lot bigger than just one or two posts about so-called

00:01:16.760 Pride Month. So let's go ahead and get right into it. And I want to address one of the posts that so

00:01:24.180 many of you sent me by Dr. Becky Kennedy. She's got 1.8 million followers. She's a mom of three,

00:01:32.000 psychologist, founder of Good Inside. She's a number one New York Times bestselling author.

00:01:38.140 She's, her book, Good Inside, has a podcast of the same name. And then also, I mean, right off the bat,

00:01:44.740 we've got a little bit of an issue as Christians with this name. And I'm not saying, I'm not purporting

00:01:50.760 to know everything that she's ever said. I haven't read her book. I haven't thoroughly listened to her

00:01:55.820 podcast. But if I am surmising correctly, it's the belief that we are all inherently good inside,

00:02:04.320 which is a very new age belief. It is certainly not a Christian belief. The Christian belief is that we

00:02:10.080 are sinners, completely incapable of saving ourselves, that our righteousness is as filthy

00:02:15.760 rags, that of course, there are good things that we can do. There are bad things that we can do

00:02:21.060 really based on God's standards. But we are not inherently good and virtuous. Actually,

00:02:29.320 we don't have to be taught to sin. We don't have to be taught to lie. We don't have to be taught to

00:02:34.080 be selfish. All of these things come naturally. It's virtue that really needs to be taught to us and

00:02:39.920 to be formed in us and to be practiced before they can actually become principles in our life.

00:02:46.800 And we talk about this in my book, You're Not Enough and That's Okay. This kind of self-help,

00:02:54.260 self-love idea that has become so popular in particular among women that says really inside

00:03:00.320 is this beautiful inner goddess that just has to be released. And the way that you find her and

00:03:05.540 release her is through this journey of self-discovery and self-fulfillment, getting out of these so-called

00:03:11.020 toxic relationships, releasing the burden that society, your children, or your husband, or your

00:03:15.920 job is placing on you, and just putting yourself first and doing you, finding what makes you happy

00:03:21.980 and pursuing that with reckless abandon. Then you will finally unleash this beautiful inner goddess

00:03:27.560 and you will attain all of the things that you have wanted for so long, but for whatever reason,

00:03:33.020 haven't actually been able to grab onto. That's what Glennon Doyle preaches. That's a lot of what

00:03:38.380 Brene Brown preaches. I'm not saying that those people don't also say things that can be good and

00:03:43.860 true, but that's a lot of what we hear from the self-help and self-love world. That's why I wrote the

00:03:49.040 book that I did, because that's not a biblical idea. It's not a biblical idea that we're good inside

00:03:53.760 and really society has just kind of made us bad. It's that we are inherently sinful. We make society

00:04:00.160 bad. We actually need Christ to save us. We need the Holy Spirit to guide us. We need God to tell us

00:04:07.580 what right and wrong is. I know that I'm kind of deducing a lot just from the name of her book and

00:04:14.940 all of that. I understand and can sympathize with this idea that people are inherently good, but it's

00:04:21.960 just simply not true. All of human history and even everything that we see today obviously speaks to

00:04:28.260 that. So it doesn't surprise me that she also happens to be progressive in a lot of other ways

00:04:32.920 because she's starting from a premise that is inherently different than reality and inherently

00:04:40.700 different than what Christians believe, which tells me that even while she may have some good advice 1.00

00:04:47.200 in some ways, I'm not saying that you can't take any advice that she has as a psychologist and a mom,

00:04:53.000 but we always have to discern and realize that she's starting from a different understanding

00:04:58.140 of human nature than what is actually true. And so when she posted last week about pride and

00:05:05.760 making sure that your kids are celebrating pride, it wasn't really surprising to me, although it was

00:05:11.920 disappointing to a lot of you and I think rightfully so. So here's the first slide. She says things to say

00:05:17.300 to your kids to encourage openness and acceptance, and she has several tips that we'll go through.

00:05:23.860 But let me read her caption. She says, openness and acceptance don't develop overnight. They don't

00:05:28.740 start when our kids are teens or when they have their first romantic relationship. The seeds of

00:05:32.580 tolerance, openness, and acceptance are planted now in our families when our kids are young and building

00:05:36.980 internal circuitry for how they think about themselves and others. It's certainly true in the sense that

00:05:43.020 it is so important to instill the values that we want to instill in our children at a young age

00:05:47.980 because that is when they're most susceptible to being taught. And they are going to listen to the

00:05:56.080 people that have the most authority in their life, the people who have the most relationship equity,

00:06:01.360 relational equity in their lives, to the people that they spend the most time with, the people that

00:06:04.680 they respect the most, the people that care for them, and that is typically their parents. And so she's

00:06:10.720 right about that, that it's important to instill values and principles at an early age. And this common

00:06:17.200 knowledge about kids and just how malleable they are is exactly also why we see so many children's books

00:06:23.420 pushing left-wing sexual ideology, because they understand how kids grab onto ideas and how it forms and

00:06:31.360 shapes them. And so she's right about that. Right away, I have questions about what openness and acceptance

00:06:36.620 mean? Openness, acceptance, and tolerance. Are we talking about unconditional openness, acceptance,

00:06:42.580 and tolerance? We can see pretty quickly how that could lead to bad things. We don't want to be

00:06:48.220 tolerant of everything. We don't want to accept everything and everyone into our lives. We don't

00:06:53.540 want to be open to every idea. Again, there are good things. There are bad things. There are good

00:06:58.380 people. There are bad people. Good people in the sense that there are people who align with God's

00:07:03.720 standards of kindness and goodness and morality and truth and virtue and things like that. Not

00:07:08.120 good in the sense that they're inherently good and can save themselves, just to make that distinction.

00:07:14.100 But tolerance, openness, and acceptance, just right off the bat, are not necessarily virtues.

00:07:20.000 Not without being defined, without having parameters around them. They're not things to which we should

00:07:26.560 strive or encourage our kids to strive to. Tolerance of what? Openness to what? Acceptance of what?

00:07:35.020 All of those questions have to be answered before we can say that these are things that we want to

00:07:39.920 teach our children.

00:07:42.180 Then she goes on to say,

00:07:56.640 What we say to our kids about love matters. After all, our kids take what we say and how we act and

00:08:01.480 form internal working models of how the world works. I think that's true. Yes, kids generalize from their

00:08:06.060 family and infer truths about the world. True. Families that not only preach but practice tolerance,

00:08:11.700 openness, and acceptance have kids who bring these values to life. This means kids who are

00:08:15.980 tolerant, open, and accepting of themselves. Kids who bring curiosity and not judgment to others.

00:08:20.420 Kids who converse with those who are different from them with the goal of understanding not being

00:08:25.740 right. Okay, well that last part irks me. Of course we should teach our kids to be kind. Of course we

00:08:33.300 can teach our kids over time that there are different kinds of people out there, that they are going

00:08:38.180 to meet people that look differently than them, that may act differently than them, that may sound

00:08:43.060 differently than them. And we want to extend kindness and we want to extend God's grace to

00:08:47.980 everyone. But you don't want to teach your kids to be tolerant of everything. You don't want to teach

00:08:53.420 your kids to be open to everything, to accept all things. Again, kids are looking for parameters.

00:08:59.720 They need clarity. They need definitions. We as humans do, whether you're adults or whether you're

00:09:04.180 kids. But if you know anything about working with children, if you've watched a child develop,

00:09:10.140 if you've watched them go from baby to toddler to big kid, you see that they are always trying

00:09:17.000 to put things into the proper context. They're always trying to define things. They're always

00:09:21.880 trying to make connections. They're always seeking clarity because the whole world is new to them.

00:09:26.980 So the whole world is confusing and chaotic. And so to make things more, uh, uh, to make things

00:09:35.280 more understanding for them or to make things, uh, make more sense, they really need their worlds to

00:09:42.480 be more orderly and to be smaller. And so it is a very good thing when your child at two or three

00:09:50.440 years old starts observing gender differences and starts to say things like, oh, people have mommy and

00:09:56.780 daddies. People have grandma and grandpas. I'm a girl. I'm a boy. I wear this. Boys wear this. Of

00:10:04.080 course, some of it is going to be a little bit too black and white. There are some rules that they

00:10:08.580 may think that all genders have to abide by. That is not necessarily true. Like girls can only wear pink 1.00

00:10:14.600 or boys can only wear blue, but the nuances come with time. It's important for us to actually affirm

00:10:20.820 those distinctions and help better explain those distinctions. And especially from a Christian

00:10:25.060 perspective. Yes, there are mommies and daddies. God made these families. God made it good. Mommy

00:10:31.360 and daddy came together and made you like, these are, these are good things that we want to teach

00:10:36.480 our children and to affirm to our children as they're trying to seek clarity. Just telling our

00:10:43.340 children that there's nothing good. There's nothing bad. There's no distinctions or definitions that is

00:10:49.540 only going to make the world more chaotic, confusing, and overwhelming to them. It is so

00:10:54.620 important for them to be able to orient themselves, yes, based on their gender and based on other

00:11:00.520 people's gender in the world. There are differences between male and female, and they need to understand

00:11:07.240 that. There are differences in how we interact as men and women with other men and women, as boys and

00:11:13.060 girls with other boys and girls. This binary, these distinctions, these definitions, I think are very

00:11:19.680 important for the safety of our children and for the proper development of our children. I don't think

00:11:24.920 you have to be a psychologist to understand that. I think that you just have to have some kind of

00:11:29.580 observation of childhood development. And even just having been a child yourself, you understand how

00:11:35.080 these regulations and how these definitions and parameters are so important. Just like in everything

00:11:40.360 else, our kids need guidelines. They need protection. They need some form of discipline. So they

00:11:48.360 understand this is right. This is wrong. This is safe. This is unsafe. This is also true when we teach

00:11:56.120 them about the world. We don't want to teach them to be open to everything, of course. And she said,

00:12:02.840 and then this last part, I do just want to say, those who are different from them with the, or converse with

00:12:09.700 those who are different from them without, with the goal of understanding not being right. So 0.80

00:12:14.760 immediately my mind goes to talking to someone who is obviously a boy, who is obviously a male.

00:12:21.420 And that person says, no, I'm a woman. If you know, your young daughter is talking to a man and this

00:12:27.640 man who is obviously male says, no, I'm a woman. And you have to tell your child to suppress every

00:12:36.800 instinct that they have to suppress everything that they've observed about the world, everything

00:12:41.180 they know to be true, all of those distinctions and definitions that they have squared away in

00:12:45.860 their minds to try to make themselves feel safe and to make things make sense. They have to deny all of

00:12:51.740 that instinctual stuff that has been placed in their mind so naturally and just agree with what this

00:13:00.460 person delusionally says about themselves. No, truth actually matters. Reality actually

00:13:07.540 matters. I'm not going to teach my kids to be accepting of that, which is untrue. And none of

00:13:14.500 you should. None of us should. Here's something I want to, I want to know. I, I know about you. You

00:13:21.260 want to encourage openness. You want to break cycles. You want to feel confident as a parent. And this is

00:13:25.120 all harder than it seems. And here's why. Parents have never had the resources we need and deserve to do the

00:13:29.800 hard work of parenting while we've changed that. So good. And then she sells, she sells her stuff, 1.00

00:13:36.840 which is fine. But I don't know if that's true. The parents have never had the resources that we

00:13:41.840 need. I think that things are so constantly changing and the sexual revolution is so strong. And we've

00:13:48.000 been told it's so important to include children in the sexual revolution and the gender revolution and

00:13:52.700 the moral revolution that now these new guides to tell, to instructing kids and indoctrinating kids

00:14:00.980 and gender ideology are necessary. And they also make a lot of money. So let's go through, let's go

00:14:06.980 through a couple of the slides. Like, I don't want to go through all of them because it's basically my

00:14:11.360 response is going to be the same for, for all of them. But I just want to explain why,

00:14:16.540 why some of these ideas are wrong. Not everything that she says in here is necessarily wrong, but a

00:14:24.300 lot of it, a lot of it is. So here's one thing that she said in the third slide. Love is love.

00:14:30.620 This is something that she says we should say to our kids. Love is love. Have you ever heard this?

00:14:34.760 Love can come in many forms. Every person can love and deserves love. Let's think about that. Let's

00:14:41.580 just put our thinking caps on for a second. Why do you think it might be dangerous to tell a

00:14:46.500 kid that love is love and love can come in many forms and that everyone can give love and everyone

00:14:52.480 deserves love? Let's think about what we know about abusers. Let's think about what we know about

00:14:57.720 sexual abusers. What do they typically do? This person is a psychologist. I'm sure they know the

00:15:03.560 patterns of pedophilia, the patterns of sexual predation of children. There's a lot of manipulation

00:15:09.400 there. There's a lot of guilt tripping. There's a lot of, if you really loved me, if you really

00:15:15.580 respected me, if you really wanted to be my friend, you would do this and you would keep

00:15:19.860 it a secret. They convinced that child, no, this is love. I love you. So we're going to do this.

00:15:27.600 I love you. So I'm going to keep it a secret. I love you. So I want to do this with you,

00:15:32.500 have a relationship with you. That's how many of these serial sexual abusers justify, not just justify

00:15:39.700 their actions, but also convince and manipulate their victims into staying silent and to being as

00:15:46.520 compliant as possible to causing this little trouble as possible to making sure that their

00:15:52.700 victim remains their victim for as long as possible. So if you teach your child that love

00:15:59.600 is love, AKA there's no definition of it. Love is love is the same exact silly, dangerous, stupid logic

00:16:06.280 as trans women are women. It's the same circular logic. You're not actually defining anything.

00:16:11.840 It is all love is in the eye of the beholder and woman is in the eye of the identifier or whatever.

00:16:20.520 The person who wants to identify as a woman is a woman. Whoever says that they love really does love. 0.95

00:16:26.160 So if you call anything love that someone says is love, then that means lust can be love.

00:16:33.520 Um, predation can be love. Desire can be love. Declaration can be love. If you refuse to actually

00:16:41.760 give your child clarity and definitions on what these really important things are, you are making them

00:16:47.960 vulnerable to abuse. Definitions are a safeguard. Love is love is stupid. It's incorrect. And it can

00:17:01.700 lead to the justification of all kinds of perversion and predation. This is one of the most dangerous

00:17:09.640 lessons that you could teach to your child. Love is love doesn't even make any sense. It won't even

00:17:16.100 make any sense to a child. Again, if you've been around a toddler, they don't even tolerate you just

00:17:21.340 giving them a real definition of things. They want to know what do all the words mean in that definition

00:17:26.160 that you just gave me. And not only that, but they want to know why. Like, why is it called that? Why

00:17:31.260 is it called a smoke detector? What's smoke? What's a detector? Why does it detect? Where does smoke come

00:17:36.080 from? Like they want to know, they want to know. And it is our job as parents whose brains are hopefully

00:17:42.840 developed to be able to give as many answers as we possibly can in a way that they understand.

00:17:47.760 It is so cruel and so stupid of us to only be able to give this kind of answer to one of the most

00:17:55.020 important and existential questions that exists. What is love? If the best answer that you can give

00:18:02.320 to someone because you're scared of being called a bigot is love, that love is love, then you are in

00:18:09.240 part failing at your job as a parent. That's not the clarity that we are obligated to give our kids.

00:18:17.060 That doesn't mean that we have to know all of the answers always. I don't sometimes have to think

00:18:22.020 about, I don't know, what does that mean? Like, how do I explain that like very basic concept or that

00:18:27.340 very profound concept? But I'm not going to give a secular definition. I'm going to think about it

00:18:32.600 because that's my responsibility as a parent. Like, how can I shape their mind in a way that gives

00:18:38.740 them the most clarity possible? This is just confusion, compounding, confusion, chaos, compounding,

00:18:44.620 chaos, which is the way of the devil, of course. Like, he is the father of chaos. He is the father of

00:18:52.180 lies. He loves anarchy. He loves these changing identities and the shape-shifting and the different

00:18:58.120 definitions of things so that no one knows up from down or what two plus two equals. But God is a God of

00:19:03.940 peace, not a God of confusion. So as people who love God and follow God, we have to be stewards of

00:19:10.260 vessels of his peace-filled clarity for the world, but also for our children.

00:19:27.380 And you know what the most wonderful thing is, is that while the world gives us confusion,

00:19:32.940 confusion, the word gives us clarity. So while the world gives us confusion, the word gives us

00:19:39.920 clarity. So love isn't love. Love is, according to 1 Corinthians 13, love is patient and kind.

00:19:48.320 Love does not envy or boast. It is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way. It is not

00:19:53.380 irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears

00:19:58.060 all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. And then we

00:20:05.240 could go on with the rest of the chapter there, but you get the picture that there is actually a

00:20:11.320 definition of love according to scripture. And when we give our kids this definition, then when someone

00:20:16.840 says, I love you and that's why I'm abusing you, we can say, our kids can say, no, no, no, no,

00:20:22.500 because love is patient and kind. Love doesn't insist on its own way. It's not rude. It's not

00:20:28.720 irritable or resentful. And it doesn't rejoice in wrongdoing. It rejoices in the truth. So even love

00:20:34.340 has distinctive power to tell between right and wrong what's true and what's not. That's why people

00:20:42.700 today who say, well, love is just unconditional tolerance and acceptance. Love is just affirming what

00:20:49.520 anyone believes about themselves or what anyone wants to do. Well, that's not the definition of

00:20:55.460 love. Love doesn't rejoice in wrongdoing. It rejoices in the truth. So love in its real definition

00:21:01.660 defined by the God who created it actually distinguishes between what is true and what is

00:21:06.900 not. And love without truth isn't really love. And that's why, of course, this secular ideology has

00:21:14.100 to just say love is love because it can't actually have a standard. It certainly doesn't have a standard

00:21:18.780 that is based in God's word. So 1 Corinthians 13 tells us what love is. And not only that,

00:21:24.560 not only that, we read a lot about love in the New Testament in particular throughout scripture.

00:21:31.480 But 1 John 4, 8, as we quote a lot, anyone who does not love God does not know God because God

00:21:37.720 is love. So no, love isn't love. Love is patient and kind. It is not selfish. But God is love.

00:21:47.180 If God is love, then he gets to define it. He gets to say what it is. It's not just whatever we want it

00:21:54.780 to be. It's not just a feeling. It's not just a declaration. It's not just a statement. It's not

00:21:59.320 just desire or lust. God is love. He created it. Everything that he creates, everything that he does,

00:22:08.740 everything that he says, every parameter that he puts in place, every definition that he gives us

00:22:14.680 is all done in love. If God is love, then nothing that he says or does can be unloving. Therefore,

00:22:21.700 the God who is love made us male and female, Genesis 1, 27, in love. And we cannot out love him

00:22:30.600 since we are not love. So by disagreeing with the God who is love, whether it's about gender,

00:22:36.400 whether it's about sex, or whether it's about marriage, or whether it's about any form of morality,

00:22:40.860 or identity, or sin, is not loving but hateful. To be opposed to the God who is love is not to

00:22:49.580 out-compassion him or out-empathy him, but is actually to be on the side of hate. Because God

00:22:56.720 not only is love, and he defines love, but he also created us. He also loves us. And so if we define

00:23:05.180 love as 1 Corinthians 13 defines it, if it is seeking the best interest of someone else as God

00:23:12.400 defines their best interest, then we are not loving them by disagreeing with what God says

00:23:18.360 about gender and sex. We are actually hating them. We are doing the work of the devil. The devil hates

00:23:24.820 them. The devil loves confusion. He loves to confuse people about their identity. He loves people to hate

00:23:30.840 their bodies. He loves people to go against God's design for marriage and family and for all of these

00:23:35.420 things. He loves to rope kids into this movement of sexual liberation. And so when we are disagreeing

00:23:42.300 with God about these things, we're not being loving. We're actually being hateful. It's not true that love

00:23:48.460 is love. God is love. And love is as God defines it. He defines it very clearly in 1 Corinthians 13

00:23:55.420 and elsewhere. There's not a way to love God outside of God's definition of love.

00:24:03.100 And so I could go through the rest of these slides, but it basically all goes back to the same

00:24:07.820 principle, is that these are not real definitions of virtue, of morality, of love. And this will not

00:24:18.740 teach our children to love well. It will actually teach them to be very vulnerable to all forms of

00:24:25.160 manipulation and all forms of confusion. Again, we are not to give our children confusion and chaos

00:24:32.380 when they are desperately seeking clarity. Thankfully, the Word of God gives us so much

00:24:37.500 clarity that the psychologists of today can't. And again, this person fundamentally misunderstands

00:24:43.740 human nature in general. And so it's not surprising to me that she also lands on these very just wrong,

00:24:50.900 but also dangerous conclusions. All right, there's one more post I want to respond to. There have been

00:24:57.860 a lot of posts that have been floating around. Parents Magazine also wrote an article, how to respond if

00:25:06.920 your kid comes out to you. Basically, you know, it's the emotional and moral extortion that we've seen.

00:25:14.680 If you don't affirm everyone's choices, then you are not just a bigot, but also you are going to

00:25:22.240 encourage your child to harm themselves in some way. So this is, of course, how they wrote parents

00:25:30.440 into allowing their child to go through some sort of body mutilation process. When they're teenagers,

00:25:37.220 they say your child is going to commit suicide. And so you have to go along with that, even though the

00:25:42.100 data doesn't actually show that, even the people and the children who are allowed to so-called

00:25:47.180 transition, there's a very high suicide rate, not because of a lack of acceptance, but just because

00:25:52.300 when you try to be something that you biologically aren't, there's a lot of distress there. And there's

00:25:57.720 also a lot of underlying issues, typically with this gender-confused group of people in the United

00:26:04.720 States. So there's a lot of manipulation that goes on, a lot of toxic empathy, as we like to say,

00:26:11.340 that goes on in this Parents Magazine article. All right, then there's Big Little Feelings.

00:26:17.640 Big Little Feelings is a popular account. 3.1 million followers. I know a lot of you

00:26:22.740 watch them or follow them, whatever. Forgot the language there for a second. I don't,

00:26:29.560 I think maybe I did at one point, but I'm pretty, I've unfollowed a lot of the accounts in summer of

00:26:34.960 2020. Anyone who posts, almost anyone who posted a black square, I'm still following some people who did, 0.95

00:26:40.280 but who have since come to their senses, who posted a black square. I was like, nah, nah, nah. And some 0.76

00:26:48.320 of these accounts went after taking care of babies after it was found out that at some point they

00:26:54.120 donated to the Trump campaign and claimed, like some of these mom accounts that I unfollowed at the

00:27:00.200 time, they claimed to be her friend, but then totally threw her under the bus because they wanted 0.61

00:27:04.240 to be anti-racist allies, whatever. So I had to unfollow a lot of these parenting accounts because

00:27:12.020 really like they're progressive. I've seen, again, just a misunderstanding of human nature and

00:27:18.760 therefore like a misunderstanding of a lot of parenting. Not all of parenting. And again,

00:27:23.080 I'm not saying that there is no good advice that they've given. I'm not even necessarily telling you

00:27:28.980 to unfollow these people. Like if you're a discerning person and you really can chew the

00:27:34.420 meat, spit out the bones, I think it's difficult when like the entire body of it is kind of infected

00:27:39.180 with an erroneous view of human nature. But if that's possible for you, like I'm not saying that

00:27:44.180 you shouldn't follow them. I'm just saying to be extremely discerning.

00:28:01.060 So big little feelings. They claim to be toddler experts. They posted about Mental Health Awareness

00:28:07.860 Month in honor of Pride Month. And they say our LGBTQ youth need us. Everyday LGBTQ

00:28:14.160 plus people face bullying, discrimination and rejection. So they partnered with the Trevor

00:28:19.540 Project and PFLAG, which is Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, two organizations to make

00:28:24.500 this post about mental health awareness for LGBTQ plus youth so called. And so they post some 0.60

00:28:30.900 statistics. Roughly half of transgender and non-binary young people found their school to

00:28:35.360 be gender affirming. And those who did reported lower rates of attempted suicide, affirming gender

00:28:40.720 identity, gender affirming clothing, gender neutral bathrooms. And so they're going all in, not just on

00:28:49.200 the idea of being loving towards people and talking to people and understanding, but of children actually

00:28:54.780 being born in the wrong body and transitioning. Now, if you've ever read the story of a detransitioner, 1.00

00:29:02.140 if you've ever talked to someone who realizes that they were really just in like a delusional and

00:29:07.900 vulnerable state, when they thought that they were the opposite gender, you realize like how the social

00:29:13.240 affirmation part of it really led them to then making permanent mutilating decisions about their

00:29:20.080 bodies. And so what is being advocated for here? And again, there's that moral extortion piece that if

00:29:26.560 you do not affirm this lie, if you don't celebrate this lie, then you are going to cause someone to commit

00:29:35.240 suicide. It's they're pushing this idea that you can be the opposite sex. They're pushing this idea

00:29:42.880 that kids who think that they are the opposite sex, that you shouldn't wait it out, that you

00:29:46.400 shouldn't be patient, you shouldn't ask questions, you shouldn't try to clarify, but that you should

00:29:50.280 just affirm and that everyone else should accommodate this newfound identity. No matter what the underlying

00:29:57.200 issues are, no matter what the home life is like, no matter if there may be other factors that are

00:30:02.640 contributing to this kind of confusion, we just need to affirm because if you don't, they're going

00:30:07.340 to commit suicide. Now, I want to talk a little bit more about the Trevor Project and PFLAG and what

00:30:13.740 it is and why I think it's so odd that an account like Big Little Feelings would partner with them.

00:30:18.720 The Trevor Project released a study back in 2021, at the end of 2021, claiming that they had found that

00:30:28.900 so-called gender affirming hormones for children, which is this is opposite sex hormones, gender

00:30:34.180 affirming is a very Orwellian phrase, meaning the opposite of what it actually says. It was published

00:30:39.200 in the Journal of Adolescent Health in December of 2021, claiming that it gathered information from 34,000

00:30:50.300 LGBTQ youth between the ages of 13 and 24, 12,000 identified as transgender or non-binary. And what

00:31:00.780 they said was they found that among young trans and non-binary people under 18 receiving gender

00:31:08.420 affirming hormone therapy was associated with nearly 40% lower odds of having had a suicide attempt

00:31:14.580 in the past year. And they talk also about the affirmation of pronouns and things like that.

00:31:20.240 That all leads to lower rates of suicide. That's what they claim that they found. But there are many

00:31:25.680 problems with this study. Some of the problems have been outlined by journalists at places like

00:31:31.160 National Review. Genspect is an international nonprofit of professionals aimed at developing a

00:31:37.920 healthy conversation. Apparently, that's what they say in view of sex and gender. They also point out

00:31:44.260 the problems with the Trevor Project data. And by the way, this data was used on Fox News in a very

00:31:48.520 positive way in June 2022 on Dana Perino's show when they highlighted parents who were raising a girl

00:31:54.600 to be a boy. So National Review notes this, that according to the website, Trevor Project used an

00:32:01.020 online survey platform. It used targeted social media ads on Instagram and Snapchat to try to get people

00:32:06.820 who identified as LGBTQ, young people between 13 and 24, and asked them basically what they identify as

00:32:15.240 and if they are around people that are affirming and then what their suicidal ideation has been like.

00:32:22.340 Jenspect talks about why this is problematic.

00:32:26.080 The authors compare the current mental health of young people who want hormones and received hormones

00:32:30.340 with those who want but do not take hormones. The problem is that young people who identify as 0.69

00:32:35.220 transgender are frequently told by other young people and others that hormones are life-saving.

00:32:39.860 Speaking as a parent of a young person who is both anorexic and gender dysphoric, I have noted

00:32:43.900 the person from Jenspect is saying that such young people can become very anxious and fixated on

00:32:50.160 starting hormones. So they're talking about how self-reporting surveys often are not giving you

00:32:58.500 giving you a real and holistic picture of what's really going on. They didn't focus in this study

00:33:04.960 on any other mental health problems that these kids might have or what their family life might be like

00:33:10.840 or anything else that may be going on. All they emphasized was what do you identify as? Do you have

00:33:17.100 all of these so-called affirming things around you? And are you considering suicide? And then they said,

00:33:22.980 well, these people who answered this way have lower rates of suicide. So it is because of these non-affirming 0.75

00:33:29.640 things in this person's life that they are considering suicide. Again, without looking at any of the other

00:33:34.800 potential contributing factors here. The author compares the fixation on hormones, the author, the Jenspect

00:33:42.880 author, a fixation on hormones to the fixation of someone with anorexia and says it's, you know, it's very

00:33:50.380 similar that the person who is restricting their calories with anorexia may say that they feel

00:33:55.640 better, that they hate themselves less, that they're more comfortable when they are in that kind of

00:34:00.740 calorie deficit. But it is dangerous to them. And if you prescribe that they just continue to restrict

00:34:07.520 their calories because it makes them feel better, you are still not addressing the underlying issue.

00:34:12.160 They're still believing a lie. It is the same thing with someone who thinks that they are in the wrong

00:34:16.920 body or who sees themselves as the opposite sex. They may feel better when they're on hormones. 0.93

00:34:21.720 I've talked to detransitioners, especially girls who want to transition to a boy. The testosterone that 0.99

00:34:26.620 they give you makes you feel really good. Physically, it just makes you feel strong. It makes you feel

00:34:32.280 high energy. It feels like it fixes your problems. So it's not all that surprising that for a period of

00:34:38.860 time, they may actually feel better. And again, they have been told that this is going to save your life.

00:34:44.080 So there's a little bit of a placebo effect, I think, going on there. That doesn't mean that we

00:34:48.820 should be putting kids on these hormones that irreparably change their bodies for the worse. 1.00

00:34:57.340 And they're much more likely to then lead to the actual surgical procedures and things like that.

00:35:03.080 And so Genspec says that there are challenges in interpreting the contemporaneous association

00:35:09.760 between mental health and some factor that may elicit anxiety in sample members like hormone

00:35:14.940 treatment in a trans identifying population. So there really has only been one long-term study

00:35:22.240 when it comes to this, when it comes to like the outcomes for people who decide to transition

00:35:29.420 through surgery. And that is from Sweden in 2011. They examined data from 1973 to 2003. They found that

00:35:37.680 the overall mortality for sex reassigned persons was higher during follow-up than for controls of the

00:35:43.580 same birth sex, particularly death from suicide. Sex reassigned persons also had an increased risk

00:35:49.320 for suicide attempts and psychiatric impatient care. And so in Sweden, a place that is very affirming of

00:35:56.220 people who try to transition into the opposite sex, you saw a much higher suicide rate among people who

00:36:01.540 identify as the opposite sex than you did in the rest of the population, even after, and especially after 0.78

00:36:09.440 they have transitioned.

00:36:23.320 PFLAG is the other association that Big Little Feelings partnered with in this post. It's the first

00:36:29.500 and largest organization dedicated to supporting, educating, and advocating for LGBTQ plus people

00:36:34.340 and their family. You might remember that Mario Lopez was criticized by PFLAG when he said a couple

00:36:43.440 years ago that three-year-olds should not transition their gender. Three-year-olds. And this organization that

00:36:49.380 this toddler account, Big Little Feelings is partnering with, was angry about that. They said, it's okay,

00:36:57.260 Mario Lopez. We're here to help provide more education on what being transgender means, the difference

00:37:01.460 between sexual orientation, sex, and gender, and a whole lot of other things. So they were outraged by

00:37:06.500 what he called a very, or what they called a very ignorant comment because they apparently believe that

00:37:12.820 three-year-olds absolutely can be the opposite sex, which is wicked, cruel, evil, depraved, all of the 1.00

00:37:19.040 horrible things that you can think of. PFLAG is a major advocate of child transition,

00:37:25.120 and they've been very outspoken about this, especially in the states that are trying to ban

00:37:31.260 these terrible procedures for minors. And so like this, I mean, the most radical and extreme and

00:37:39.180 most harmful parts of this movement, of this revolution, are being pushed by these major mommy 0.97

00:37:47.120 accounts, like Big Little Feelings, who are supposed to be toddler experts and are explaining to you that

00:37:55.600 your toddler may be the opposite sex so that you will one day put them on puberty blockers, force them 1.00

00:38:02.920 into perpetual adolescence because that's what puberty blockers do. Our bodies actually need puberty,

00:38:08.260 both mentally and physically, in order to form healthily. That alone can lead to lifelong infertility

00:38:16.420 and sexual dysfunction, but typically that leads to cross-sex hormones because once you're on this

00:38:20.820 train, it's really hard to hop off. That typically leads to cross-sex hormones and that typically leads

00:38:26.220 to surgery. You're much more likely, once you have social affirmation, to get on the puberty blockers,

00:38:31.720 to get on the cross-sex hormones, to then get the body mutilating surgery. And by then, you've done

00:38:37.860 irrevocable harm to your body. You've done irreparable harm to your body. You've probably rendered yourself

00:38:43.620 sterile. You've probably made yourself a lifelong slave to the medical industrial complex. This is

00:38:49.080 the opposite of what people should be doing as parents. This is the opposite of love. It is the

00:38:53.540 opposite of teaching them to accept themselves and to be thankful for who God made them to be.

00:38:58.820 The only compassionate response when someone is confused about their gender is to help them

00:39:03.160 rectify and reconcile their mind with their body, not the other way around. And it's so stupid that we

00:39:11.240 as adults have just completely abandoned our responsibility and our rational thinking because

00:39:15.460 we're so scared of being called a bigot. We're so scared of being accused of not having empathy

00:39:23.380 that we just go along with all of this madness at the expense of our children. What do we always say?

00:39:30.260 Children are always the subjects of progressive social experiments, whether it comes to gender ideology,

00:39:37.280 whether it comes to abortion, whether it comes to the rearrangement of the family, whether it comes

00:39:42.060 to COVID policy. These kids who have no voice, they have no capital, they have no power. They are

00:39:49.680 just subjects to the whims of the progressive people in charge. And all is ever asked is what do adults

00:39:57.080 want? What's best for adults? No one is ever really truly thinking of what is in the best interest of

00:40:04.740 these children. And if you think that the Trevor Project or PFLAG or any entity or account that is promoting

00:40:12.460 them, if you really think that they are caring for the best interest of the kids, you should just really look

00:40:18.260 into a lot of the money behind this as we've talked about. There's a lot of money behind child transition.

00:40:24.900 There are a lot of people making money and then all of the, as collateral damage, all of the perverts

00:40:30.520 get to be a part of it. This idea of feminizing a boy or making a girl more masculine, of puberty

00:40:41.100 blockers, of trapping someone in a child's body, like all of this is also a fetish by a lot of perverted

00:40:49.260 adults. And I'm not saying that the people who are promoting all of this on these mommy accounts know

00:40:53.880 that. I don't think that they do at all. I'm not saying that they're even, you know, knowingly

00:40:58.900 contributing to that, but that's true. We've talked about it with Genevieve Glock many times. Like

00:41:03.840 there is, there's a lot of power. There's a lot of perversion that's behind this. And again,

00:41:08.560 it's our responsibility as the protectors of our children to stand in the way of that confusion

00:41:13.740 and that chaos. That's our job. Openness, acceptance, and tolerance of evil is not right.

00:41:23.100 It's very dangerous. We can teach our kids to be kind to everyone. We can teach them the nuances of life,

00:41:28.440 the differences of people while still staying true to what the Bible says is true. And so I just want

00:41:35.220 to encourage you, like if you are not in the word regularly, if you are not plugged into a local

00:41:39.080 church, you need to be. It's a crazy world out there. There are a lot of questions that our kids

00:41:43.760 are going to have. We need to have the answers to them. We need to be the ones starting these

00:41:48.980 conversations. We need to be the ones setting the guidelines. We need to be the ones laying the

00:41:53.460 foundation for our kids so that they can be wise and strong and sure while also being loving,

00:41:59.580 but loving as God defines love, right? That's what the world needs. And don't be scared parents

00:42:06.020 or potential parents about raising your kids in this world. I know it's scary. I know it's confusing.

00:42:10.540 Maybe you feel unequipped, but every generation has faced their challenges and obstacles. And what does the

00:42:15.740 world need more than smart and wise and strong and courageous and clear thinking kids who grow up to

00:42:24.940 be all of those things as adults? That's what the world needs. Of course, it needs better people.

00:42:32.120 It needs godly people. And we can be a part of discipling the next generation to be of those

00:42:38.020 things, speaking the truth in love without wavering, without apology.

00:42:42.600 All right. That's all we've got time for today. I really wanted to respond to Jen Hatmaker's

00:42:47.980 post about Pride Month and then as well as this other erroneous study that's being posted and

00:42:54.080 floated around on progressive Christian Instagram. We're also going to talk about the Duggars and 0.90

00:43:00.320 that documentary at some point. Obviously not today. We'll find time for it. And so a lot of you

00:43:07.900 have been asking me about that. So you have that to look forward to. All right. That's all we've got

00:43:12.060 time for today. If you love this podcast, leave us a five-star review. That would mean a lot to us

00:43:15.740 and we will see you back here tomorrow.

Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - June 06, 2023

Ep 817 ｜ Parenting Influencers Go All-In on Pride Propaganda

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