Ep 887 ｜ What Do We Do with Frozen Embryos？ ｜ Q&A
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In this episode of Relatable, I answer some of your questions about artificial intelligence in the pulpit, including: Should pastors use AI to help them write their sermons? What was my favorite part of my wedding day? What do I think about my biggest struggle in high school? How do I feel about embryo adoption? We will be covering all of this and more on this week's episode of RELatable, which is brought to you by GoodRanchers.
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What do I think about pastors using artificial intelligence to write their sermons?
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We will be covering all of this and more on this episode of Relatable, which is brought
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Hope everyone's having a great day and a great week.
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Today, I'm going to answer some of the questions that you guys sent.
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First question, what are my thoughts on pastors using AI, artificial intelligence, to help them
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Oh my goodness, what day and age are we living in?
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I mean, I don't personally like it, but you're talking to someone who also refuses to allow
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It's very common, and I'm not saying it's unethical or anything, but it's very common for authors
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within my space to use a ghostwriter or to hire a researcher to write large chunks of
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But I am so incredibly particular about my voice coming across in my writing and how writing
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And I was taught to write in such a particular way growing up that I can't do it.
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I cannot allow someone else to write for me unless they came along and they were able
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to really, really capture my voice and what I wanted to say.
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I would accept help in that realm, but you will never find me using a ghostwriter.
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I don't have someone that writes my monologues or anything like that.
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Other conservative commentators or conservative hosts, most of them, I would say, write their
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own monologues that they put into the teleprompter because it's really difficult for someone to
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be able to, no matter how good they are at their job, to be able to capture what you exactly
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want to say and the exact words that you would use to describe something.
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Do I think pastors should hire or use artificial intelligence to write their sermons?
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I don't know if it's entirely unethical for them to use artificial intelligence to help
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them in some ways, I guess, come up with some references, but I've never used chat GPT.
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I don't want to feed the monster, but my understanding of how it works is that it wouldn't just be a
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research tool, but that they would be supplying you with certain ideas that you didn't come up
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I guess I'm just now thinking about this, so I can't exactly put my finger on the reason why.
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I think that that's just a little sketchy, especially if they're coming up with the words
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And it feels like relying on, in a sense, a higher power that is not the Lord.
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Um, and so I, I just, I don't really like it, but you know, a lot of pastors out there, they
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They, um, they talk to each other or they listen to a sermon and then they will use very similar
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metaphors or similar anecdotes, actually not even similar, the same in their own sermons as say
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their friend, uh, did in their sermon across the country.
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I think you should come up with your own stuff.
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It's not, it's not that tough to come up with a good sermon because you have the word of God.
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There are so many amazing commentaries out there.
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There's so much good material, so many good resources.
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The word of God itself is so rich with meaning and substance.
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And if you do need AI, then you also might just need help in your ability to study scripture
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And that might take some self-analysis for you.
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I do think that pastors, while it's not necessary to be an excellent, eloquent speaker, I think
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that there's a biblical basis for that, that it's okay if you don't know every nook and
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cranny of every second and third tier theological issue in order to be a good pastor and to shepherd
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But I do think that there should be a greater emphasis placed on communication development
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for pastors, for preachers, for people behind the pulpit, that that actually matters, that
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you can be really smart, you can be a really good shepherd, you can really know your Bible
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and still fail to deliver a message in a clear way.
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And I do wonder if a lot of pastors, maybe pastors who like being in front of people and
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they feel like they like communicating, they like the word of God, if they just don't think
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that they really need help with communication development.
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I do wish more pastors would focus on that because there is a way to communicate clearly
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There are sermons that are better than others based on how they're delivered.
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And so, I don't know, as someone who loves communication, as someone who is not called
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to be a pastor, I do, I do just, sometimes I'm like, I really wish though that some pastors
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that they would just focus more on their communication skills and the formation of their sermon.
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I think it would be better to reach out to someone who is really good at that kind of thing
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rather than AI seems like a better resource there, a better connection to make, and then
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you can actually get godly wisdom from someone who is perhaps more experienced or more skilled
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And then also like AI, it's run by people who probably are ideologically, religiously,
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So how much can you really trust artificial intelligence to give you a solid interpretation of scripture?
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Anyway, long-winded answer to that question, but it's an interesting one.
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How has this pregnancy compared to your previous pregnancy?
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So by the time this comes out, I probably already had the baby.
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But this pregnancy has been, I don't know, in some ways easier, in some ways harder.
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It definitely went by a lot faster than my previous pregnancies.
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That's just what happens because the more kids you have, the busier you are, and so things
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I mean, as I'm recording this right now, I'm a little over 30 weeks, and it's hard for me
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It's so hard for me to believe that I'm this far along.
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We've got some things coming up, and then after that's done, it's like, oh my gosh, the
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I was more nauseous the first trimester than the first two, and as of now, I don't know
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We are keeping it a surprise, and so of course, I'm analyzing all my different symptoms, wondering
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Aches and pains come a little bit sooner, I would say, in subsequent pregnancies, but
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This is the first pregnancy that I've worked out, past pregnancies, I just didn't, and I'm
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I'm doing lower intensity, like bar Pilates type workouts, but I still think it helps,
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Being in your third trimester in the dead heat of the summer is not the easiest thing
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in the world, but it's also nice because you can wear loose clothing, and you don't have
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At this point, I'm super excited to nest and to be in that stage of pregnancy and to get
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It's so crazy, the nesting instinct that happens, especially towards the end of your pregnancy.
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I actually felt it at the beginning, but I'm feeling it now towards the end too, that I
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just want to clean everything out of my cabinets and my closets and just make everything nice
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It really is like an instinct that God gives you while you're pregnant to do things that
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you could have done for the past however many years when you weren't pregnant, but for some
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reason, growing a human inside you makes you want to clean your house and get things ready.
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We don't, as of right now, we don't have even a tiny part of the room ready for the baby.
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But then you also realize the more pregnancies you have, how little you need those first few
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weeks, you really don't, if you want to, great, not shaming that, but you really don't have
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Like you don't have to have all the decor set up.
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People with this being a surprise gender, they're like, how do you know what you need?
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Like, aren't you going to have to go out and buy all of this stuff if, you know, depending
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And the first few weeks, they're wearing a gray or white onesie.
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So I'm trying to, I have a, you know, it took a lot of work to prepare for what I call maternity
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leave because I still have to get a certain number of episodes out for the year, which
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means we prerecorded all these episodes, which was a lot of work.
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So it was like five days a week of recording and planning and all of that on top of, you
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And so, yeah, I forgot what the pregnancy brain, I forgot why I was even saying that.
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And I guess, oh, what I was trying to say is that I'm trying not to stress myself out
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about things that don't need to be stressed out about.
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Like, okay, I've got a lot to do before the baby comes, before I go on maternity leave.
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And so I'm not going to stress out about onesies.
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I'm not going to stress out about having it like a perfect nursery.
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I'm not going to stress out about things that just don't require my energy right now.
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And please don't hear this as like, you know, I'm saying this as from a place of gratitude,
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not from a place of arrogance at all, because it has nothing to do with me.
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But I'm just, I'm very thankful that I have had, this is my third pregnancy.
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And I haven't had any kind of complications in my pregnancies.
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Thankfully, didn't have very many complications.
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And my past two births, the first two births were not great.
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Things did not go as planned, but I did have healthy babies.
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And there are so many difficulties and traumas surrounding getting pregnant, being pregnant,
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And I just, I was thinking, I just really am so grateful that thus far I've had three
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pregnancies that are uneventful, which is what you want when it comes to pregnancy and birth.
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Someone asked, biggest struggle in high school, biggest struggle in high school.
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Ooh, you know, I was thinking about this the other day, just about, you know, personality
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And earlier this week when we were recording the episodes for the actual week I'm recording
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in, it's the end of June as I'm recording this, we were talking about, you know, middle
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school and high school and how we were and all of that.
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And I'm just so thankful that I graduated from high school in 2010.
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So when this was like right before the dawn of social media, I mean, we had Facebook, we had
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MySpace, we had AIM, which they, you know, were sources of distraction and comparison and
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It wasn't Snapchat, it wasn't Instagram, it certainly wasn't TikTok.
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And so it was a lot more contained to certain parts of the internet.
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And so we just didn't have all the pressures of social media in addition to the awkwardness
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and difficulty of adolescence and coming into your own and being secure in your body and
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So I would think that, I think that that would have, I would say that that was my biggest
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struggle in that I have always been opinionated.
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I'm not necessarily confrontational, but I'm not afraid to say, well, this is what I think
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Literally, since I could talk, I've been that way.
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And just with my parents getting into debates, getting into discussions, never taking anyone's
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just authoritative word at face value, always wanting to wonder why, always pushing back
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against teachers, which is a very difficult way to be.
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And so I think I struggled with that, especially as a girl, knowing how do I use these strengths
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in a way that are feminine, that are godly, because we're told in scripture that women
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And so what does that look like when God has very clearly given someone the gift of talking
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and the gift of debating and discussing and argumentation and persuasion, communication,
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rhetoric, all of these things that I've always loved to do, I've always been passionate about
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doing. I've always just known deep in my heart that I was supposed to do something with these
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gifts. When I gave the commencement speech in college, I just remember this moment, this
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almost like transcendent moment, looking out into the crowd, delivering the speech, saying,
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this is what I want to do for the rest of my life.
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I remember that moment so specifically at my college graduation.
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And so what does it look like to have a gentle and quiet spirit, to be submissive to the Lord,
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to be a wife that is submissive to my husband, even as he loves me as Christ loves the church?
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What does that look like? And I struggled, I think, in high school and college,
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thinking that I needed to just pretend that I wasn't these things, that I didn't have strong
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opinions, that I didn't like to speak up, that I wasn't strong-willed, that I didn't have a
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particular perspective that I wanted to be shared. I, even in college, because of a relationship that
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I was in, tried to pretend that I didn't want to do this, that I didn't want to do any form of
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communications because I conflated and confused godliness with basically pretending to be something
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that I'm not. Godliness is harnessing the strengths that God has given you for his glory,
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putting them in the proper context that he ordained through scripture. And that doesn't
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mean that all parts of our personalities are great and wonderful and should be flaunted all of the
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time, but the strengths that God has given us, they can be used for his glory. We don't have to
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pretend that we don't have them in order to fit our own convoluted idea of what it means to be a godly
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woman or a godly man. So I think I was just insecure about, I didn't want to be seen as aggressive.
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I didn't want to be seen as masculine. I didn't want to be seen as a diva or whatever it is that
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women struggle with when it comes to identity and when you are very outspoken person. And so
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I would say that was my struggle. And also, my dad always said that I was born 26. And I think that
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that's true. And now, I mean, I just still feel, I've always felt old for my age. Someone said,
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can you believe in nine years, you're going to be 40? To me the other day, I was like,
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girl, I already feel 40. I don't like that doesn't, I've always felt in some ways, like old. And so that
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was a struggle also in high school is that I'm, you know, immature still because you're 16 years old,
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your frontal lobe isn't developed. You don't know anything. You're super, you know, underdeveloped
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in a lot of ways. And yet I always just, I didn't like adolescence. Like I didn't like everything
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that came with, you know, being a, being a kid. People, I don't understand when I hear people say
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like, oh, being an adult is so hard. It's so sad. You have so much more responsibility. I'm like,
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it is awesome. I love being an adult. So let me just give you an encouragement. If you who asked me
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this or in high school, it is so much better being an adult than being a kid. So much better.
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It is so much better being in the real world than it is being in high school or college.
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Do not believe the lie that those have to be the best years of your life, that you're always going
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to want to go back to high school or college. If you do, there's a problem. There's a problem there.
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Like we should be excited. And every different stage is difficult. Of course, it comes with different
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struggles and different difficulties, but gosh, there's so much more freedom as an adult that
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you didn't have growing up. And yeah, there's a lot more responsibility. There's always more
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responsibility and more wisdom required of you and more sacrifice and discomfort required of you when
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there is more freedom. But I wouldn't trade that for the world. Like I wouldn't trade the hardships
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and the responsibilities that come with the freedom of adulthood for the lack of responsibility
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and the lack of sacrifice that came with adolescence and childhood. I would never do it for anything.
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I would never do it. So if you're in high school, it's awkward. It's supposed to be. It's difficult.
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You're supposed to feel too big and too big for school and too small for the world. Like it's supposed
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to be a transitional period. It's okay if you don't have your best friends in the world. It's okay if this
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is not the greatest time in your life. It's okay if you don't love all of your classes. It's okay if you
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don't know what you want to do. It's okay if you're figuring out your personality. It's okay if you
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don't really like your body. It's okay if you used box dye on your hair and it ended up looking terrible.
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Only saying that from experience. And it's okay in college too. It's okay in college if you don't
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get in the sorority that you want to. Or if you do, that doesn't make your life. And if you don't,
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it's not going to break your life. It's okay if you don't find your spouse in college or immediately
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after college. It's okay if you go through college not knowing what you want to do for the next 25
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years. It's okay if you get out of college and you don't find your dream job right away. And that's
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making $100,000 a year and uses all the talents that God has given you. I certainly didn't. That's
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okay. It's okay. The only thing you can do is the next right thing. Don't think that your identity and
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your worth and the rest of your future rises and falls on what happens to you, what grades you get,
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what friends you have, what even some of what choices you make. Of course, some choices last
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forever. But a lot of the choices that you make in high school and college will be ultimately
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inconsequential. There is a God that is much bigger than you. His plan, his purpose, his providence is
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much bigger than you. You making a bad grade, not getting in the sorority you want, not being accepted
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by who you want to be accepted by, not being asked to homecoming, none of those things are big enough
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to thwart his plan and purpose for you. Do the next right thing. Cultivate wisdom. Try to cultivate
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deep, lasting friendships if you can, rather than focusing on temporary romantic relationships.
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That's my advice. Try to own the strengths that God has given you and use them for his glory rather
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than trying to be, you know, personality-wise, strengths-wise, something that you're not. Also,
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I know your teachers are trying to convince you that you're going to use physics and math one day.
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You're probably not. So, um, just, it's, it's okay if you don't do well in those, in those classes.
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Let's see. Someone says, why do we question dinosaurs? Well, there's a lot to question when
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it comes to dinosaurs. That's all I'll say. I don't know if at this point we've played the Kim Ham
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episode. Um, if so, you'll see why I have some questions about dinosaurs. If you have no idea
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what I'm talking about, uh, it's because I think, well, it's because we've never found a full dinosaur
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skeleton that we've been able to put all together. We definitely don't know the scales that they have.
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We definitely don't know that they had spikes or how long all of their tails were. We don't know
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what they sounded like. Apparently we don't even know how they made it. Like if you look at the,
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like anatomy, the drawings of, uh, some dinosaurs, you're like, how did you procreate? How exactly
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did that go down? Um, I think that there's a lot of questions about dinosaurs. I'm not saying that
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dinosaur-like creatures never existed. Uh, I'm just saying that I think that we have a lot of
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reason to be skeptical about the depictions that we've been given by so-called science,
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uh, scientists today that we just don't actually have evidence for a lot of what we hear dinosaurs
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were like and looked like. Now, some people think that they were completely and totally a myth in order
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to affirm, uh, Darwinianism, the idea that animals existed for thousands, millions of years before
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humans did. I don't, I don't know. Kim, Kim Ham, who, whom I trust when it comes to these issues,
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he doesn't believe that that's, uh, a conflict, uh, and he does believe that there were dinosaur-like
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creatures. And so, I don't know. My, my faith doesn't rise or fall, uh, on that, but I think that
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we should approach paleontology or we should just approach, like, dinosaur discoveries and dinosaur
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depictions with a healthy dose of skepticism. That's all I'm saying. People get so mad when I
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say that as it, like, okay, if your identity is wrapped up in, like, uh, stethosaurus, that's your
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problem, not mine. Um, okay. Let's see. A lot of people asking me to have, uh, certain people on.
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I always try to get the most, uh, interesting people. So, I get this question a lot, though.
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Uh, have you talked about how people freeze embryos and then don't end up using them? Yes,
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we've talked about that several times. We've talked about that with Jennifer Law. We've probably talked
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about that with Katie Faust. We've probably talked about it with Libby Emmons. Probably talked about it
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myself. The first time I talked about IVF and the ethical issues with, you know, uh, freezing your
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embryos and egg selling and sperm selling and surrogacy was all the way back in 2020 and birth
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control too, all the way back in 2020. And so you can go listen to those episodes, although I've learned
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a lot since then. So you might listen to them and be like, oh, this is kind of incomplete. I've learned
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a lot from Jennifer Law and, uh, Katie Faust and a lot of people who have been talking about the
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reproductive industry for a long time. Um, so obviously I'm against people freezing. I'm
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against people freezing embryos, period. I mean, these are, if we believe, especially as Christian
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pro-lifers, a lot of Christian pro-lifers have frozen embryos and maybe you froze your embryos
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before you thought about the, uh, ethical quandary that it creates, that now there's a human being
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made in the image of God and it's embryonic stage on ice. And, um, I don't know, is that like, is that
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a perpetual state that we should keep human beings in because we didn't want to implant them or we
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couldn't implant them? There are a lot of questions about that. Now, some people implant all of the
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embryos that they fertilize. I still think that there are ethical questions, always going to be
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ethical questions when you separate sex and conception. There just are. What do we always say
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when technology takes us from what's natural to what's possible? There are always questions that
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we should ask about if it's moral or ethical. And so, and there are also complications and a lot of
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health risks, uh, that can come with IVF. There's also like a very high attrition rate and that it is,
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um, it is very likely that not all of the eggs that are fertilized will, will one, that they're
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implanted, but also that they survive. And so you go into it knowing the, how high the risk is,
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not just for the mother and some of the health complications there, but also for the little
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lives that you're creating. So, and I know that's a very sensitive topic and I get that. I totally
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understand that's a sensitive topic. Please don't hear me coming from a place of hatred or condemnation
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of you. Um, I think a lot of us were never told to think through these issues. We were never told
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that there are any questions about them. We're told over and over again, that the only thing that
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matters is that you want to be a parent. You want to be a mom. And we're even told that that desire
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is indicative of God's will. Our desires are not indicative of God's will for our lives. We have to
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think a little bit more critically than that. But of course, if your babies were born out of IVF,
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they have just as much worth or just as much made in the image of God. And I know you love your
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kids so much. So I'm not questioning your quality of motherhood because of those things. I am
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questioning the ethics of IVF and just reproductive technology in general. Um, IUI, a little bit of a
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different story, but, um, there's still, I mean, still questions when you, anytime you separate sex,
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just like when you separate sex from marriage, there are ethical questions about that ethical issues
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that come with that. And then when you separate conception from sex, there are also going to be
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ethical questions to ask about that. So the question then that follows is, okay, well, what about all
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these embryos that are frozen? What do we do with them? Should we adopt them? And I don't, I,
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I don't think it's wrong to adopt a frozen embryo. That is for sure. I do not think it is wrong. I don't
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think it's unethical to adopt a frozen embryo. I think it can be very redemptive and very good. And I do
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believe that those are human beings that have value. And there are more than a million souls
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on ice right now because of this reproductive industry. And it's such a cash cow for the
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reproductive industry. I mean, people, because they don't know what to do, they, they also know that
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these are their children. They don't want to abandon them. Well, they don't want to, uh, allow
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them to be killed. They are in a sense, just kind of abandoned because they're in a freezer, but
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they, they don't want to trash them. They're scared to put them up for adoption. They don't
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know what to do. And they're now dealing with the ethical quandary of this. And I don't wish that on
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anyone either. That's part of the issue is that some people don't think about the problems with
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IVF until after they've done it. And now they don't know what to do with these little souls that
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they've created on ice. Um, so over a million in the country, just making so much money for some
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people. And it's very sad. And so of course the question of, should we adopt them again? You can,
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there are also children who have a very low likelihood of ever being adopted, who have already gone
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through the pain of rejection, who have already experienced the trauma of separation, who are
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already going through the difficulty of foster care, um, that need your love. Again, I'm not saying
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that you shouldn't adopt an embryo, but I also don't think that we should avoid, if you are called
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to adopt, avoid adopting the five-year-old, the 10-year-old just because, oh, you don't get to
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experience pregnancy. I think there, we should look at our heart behind that. Like, do you just want
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to adopt an embryo because you feel like, um, it's easier that way or because you really want to
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experience pregnancy and that's why? So there are some questions about that. Again, our desires are
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not necessarily indicative of God's will. So I think we need to assess that. And now this person does
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say, gosh, don't freeze embryos, freeze your eggs. Well, yes, in the sense that eggs are not human
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beings. They have human DNA, but they're not fertilized. And so they're not human beings, but
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I still like, except in some cases, like I understand there are cancer cases. There are
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very sad cases in which women, they have to freeze their eggs if they want to have like any hope one
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day of having a child. Again, there's still ethical questions with that, but I understand that
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more than someone just freezing their eggs or selling their eggs because of career, because they
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want to there, but there are questions about that. Like there are moral questions about when you take
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your eggs out and then you freeze them. And then the process that you have to go through to then
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fertilize them and implant them perhaps with a surrogate. There are questions about that. There
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are questions about the risks to the embryo, about the risks to the woman or the women involved. Um,
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and so I wouldn't say that that's just the easy alternative. Freezing eggs, sure,
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better than freezing embryos, but still has the potential for some, uh, complications.
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I'll end on this one, which is fun. Favorite thing about my wedding day. Ooh, I loved our wedding.
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I loved our wedding and it was, let's see how many years ago was it now? Eight years ago.
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And I still think that it was a beautiful wedding. It was very, very classic. That's,
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that's when it pays to be like a simple gal who is not super trendy. Um, everything was like very
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timeless. Our dress, our flowers, our decor, it was outdoors, which I don't necessarily recommend
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on Labor Day weekend, but it was in the evening and it was in the shade. And so it was okay. And it was
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like, it was very beautiful. Gosh, it was a really fun day. My friend did my makeup and she did a great
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job. I still think about what a great job Ansley did on my makeup. Um, but honestly, it was probably
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after the ceremony, I did not cry walking down the aisle. I was very emotional, but you know,
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sometimes the adrenaline is high that stops you from crying. My husband was crying a lot,
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which was really sweet. Um, honestly, our ceremony was amazing because the person who married us
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was, did probably, I could actually tear up now thinking about it, the best delivery of the gospel,
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um, that I've ever heard at a wedding. Oh, maybe also at the pulpit from a pulpit. But every, that's
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what everyone said after that. I've never heard the gospel explained to like that. I've never heard
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the gospel explained so clearly. And like praise, there's still people who will tell us, oh my gosh,
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I remember your wedding. And the guy who did your wedding, who married y'all, I still think about
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what he said. And I'm like, that's, that's praise God. If everything else had gone wrong that day,
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that would have been enough. So I'm so thankful for that. That was really, really important to us.
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Um, also gosh, the guy who sang during our ceremony acoustic on the guitar was so good.
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Um, but okay, probably my favorite part. Like one of the most fun parts was after the ceremony,
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before the reception. So we did all of the pictures. I, the first time he saw me, we didn't do a first
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look. We just did a, we, he saw me for the first time coming down the aisle, which I would not change
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for the world because his reaction was absolutely, it was just priceless. And so, but we did all of
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the like bridesmaids and groomsmen pictures, all of those pictures before the ceremony. And then
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after the ceremony, but before the reception, he and I did our pictures, but we made sure that
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everyone had a place to sit at the reception, that everyone had shade, that everyone had food,
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that everyone had drinks, because it is the worst when you have to stand around in your high heels
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and you have to wait for food and drink for like an hour. So the wedding party and everyone
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could do their, could do their picture. So that was very important to me. Um, so we did that.
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And then I would say the moment that was like super fun was right after we came into the reception
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and everyone ate dinner, we went into a room with our dinner, like with full plates of dinner,
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like by ourselves in the house where we were, we got married in Athens, Georgia.
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And we ate, like, we got to actually eat. We ate our dinner like in private by ourselves and just
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got to be like, Oh my gosh, we're married. And then, then we went to the reception and then we
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sat with everyone and we had a band and it was really fun. Um, it's a great wedding, a great
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wedding. And then we went to Cancun the next day and that was really fun. And we still want to go back
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to the same place that we went and we just haven't, um, every year we're like, let's go back to the place
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where we stayed. And we still haven't one day. Stop having them kids. We'll be able to go.
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We'll go back to our honeymoon place. So yeah, I hope that answers your question. Uh, make sure you
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take lots of mental pictures the day of don't separate from your spouse at the reception.
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Don't go talk to people independently, stay together because then you could get separated
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forever and have lots of moments where it's just y'all too. Cause that's what it's really about.
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I really don't remember everyone that I saw or everyone I talked to at my reception,
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but I remember being with him the whole time. And that's really what matters. Uh, all right. Okay.
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