Candice Cameron-Bure joins Allie on The Relatable Couch to talk about how she became a Christian, how she got started in her faith journey, and what it was like growing up in a Christian home.
00:12:23.740And so we were all shocked when we actually came back for season two because they were really giving us a shot.
00:12:30.740They also changed the day and time that we were airing.
00:12:35.240I think we started on a Tuesday night and then they changed the lineup to TGIF Friday nights, which was such a massive, huge success for family television.
00:12:43.760And there was something about Full House that so many families related to, and that's why it was so beloved.
00:12:50.980And we wrapped every episode up in 30 minutes with a bow and a hug.
00:12:56.840But that was the very thing that everyone loved about it is that they truly saw conflict being resolved within family who loved each other.
00:13:06.800And they talked about it in a way that was open and honest and loving.
00:13:13.260And isn't it interesting because if you were to just describe Full House, it doesn't really sound like a show that would resonate with the traditional audience.
00:13:33.980Because, okay, this is a family living in San Francisco, like with three men.
00:13:38.700And so it's not your traditional, like, the Cosby show or something like that.
00:13:43.600And yet it did bring that feeling of normalcy and stability and good-hearted values that people really loved.
00:13:54.780Which is interesting that it was relatable to an audience that probably couldn't relate completely to the familial situation.
00:14:02.480But I feel like there were so many in that, you know, the premise of that show is that the mom died in a car accident.
00:14:09.120So the dad needs help raising his three daughters.
00:14:12.080So he asks his best friend and his brother-in-law to move in.
00:14:15.460And I feel like, especially, there's so many families today where grandparents are raising their children.
00:14:45.320It's part of the reason why I'm still in the entertainment industry today.
00:14:48.600Because that show, for me, set the foundation of my work experience.
00:14:54.380And you're, as a child, you're going to either love it or hate it.
00:14:59.140And obviously, there's other factors that go into it with how your parents lead you through that as a child.
00:15:08.140But I had really good, have really good, honest parents who always kept family at the core, not work, and were very protective of work situations.
00:15:19.660And I had this amazing cast and crew that we genuinely loved each other.
00:17:47.540And so when people fell in love with the show, they were expecting Bob to be the exact same person as Danny Tanner.
00:17:55.840And yet there are so many qualities that Bob truly had as Danny Tanner.
00:18:01.440But then if they went to a comedy show, they were like rocked off their seat because they went, oh my gosh, this is like filth coming out of his mouth.
00:40:34.080So even working for three seasons on that show, I was maybe working two to three days a week.
00:40:40.000And so it still gave me a balance that I felt confident in being able to work and still being a prominent teacher and parent in my kids' lives.
00:40:56.520And sometimes I just find the conversation about working mom versus stay-at-home mom as if they are like these nice, neat, and clean categories.
00:41:06.540I kind of find it unhelpful because there's guilt on either side of it.
00:42:55.260And that's just an easy way to know if the man or the woman that you're dating in your life is, you know, just accessible and at ease with young people.
00:43:20.120It is, I feel extremely blessed to be able to have the flexibility to be at home as much as I am while also, you know, talking about things, doing something that I love.
00:43:31.020And I would love to hear from you, just like, I don't know, it's hard to narrow down, but maybe just one big lesson or a couple tips that you would give someone who is kind of just starting out their motherhood journey or something that you wish that you knew early on.
00:43:50.980The biggest thing I wish more people had told me was to take the pressure off myself, especially in our Instagram world.
00:44:03.620We see the best of everything and we see everyone multitasking all the time.
00:44:12.980And I love, I know you've heard this analogy before.
00:44:16.360It's a simple one, but I really love it.
00:44:18.300And it's, it's about how do you manage all of the things in your life that you want to do.
00:44:25.540And if you, if you took a jar, if you fill it with rocks first up to the top, it looks like it's full.
00:44:35.060But yet you could throw pebbles in there and it would fill in all the cracks.
00:44:39.000So you're still adding more and it looks like it's full.
00:44:42.540And yet you could still then throw sand in there and it would fill in even the smaller cracks.
00:44:49.240You could fill that up to the top and then it's solid and it's full.
00:44:53.240And the moral of the story is, it's the order in which the, the ingredients go in.
00:45:02.260So if you had put the sand in first and then tried to add the pebbles and then the big rocks, there would be no room for the big rocks anymore.
00:45:12.700So the order in which you prioritize your life is especially important.
00:45:17.700Make sure you, you have decided what the big rocks are in your life because you can only do all of the other little things that fit in is if you prioritize the big ones.
00:45:28.280So if you're a mom and you've got little kids and you say, my priority is caring for my children and my husband and, um, and my time with God every day.
00:46:03.100And if you get to them, great, but they're not going to change the core of your life if you don't get your gym time in.
00:46:09.280And for all you young moms out there, I always tell you like, who cares about the gym when your kids are young?
00:46:15.320Go for a walk with them, put them in a stroller, go to the playground, do the monkey bars with them.
00:46:21.120Like get your exercise in that way, play tag with them.
00:46:23.700Those are all ways you can feel that way that you're getting movement and exercise without feeling stressed that you didn't get your one hour at the gym.
00:46:35.480And then maybe with, with the, the, the sand you go, but I have all these friends and I, and there's school and there's crafts and there's PTA and there's whatever.
00:46:46.160And it's like, those are all great things, but they're not the priority.
00:46:53.020And I promise you, you're going to have other seasons of life.
00:46:55.960They're going to, they're all going to come back around and you get to choose what you want to participate in, but just figure out what your big priorities, what the big stones in are in your life.
00:47:06.840And it will, it will change the way in which you manage your day without changing who you are and what you want your values to be.
00:47:16.140I found it helpful to remember that there are seasons for things, that it's not always going to be this way.
00:47:24.900It's not always going to be this sleepless.
00:47:28.940It's not always going to be this needy.
00:47:32.480And I don't mean that in a bad way when it comes to this stage of motherhood, but just literally your children need you physically and emotionally in every way at every hour of the day.
00:47:44.120And there's like, you can see that both ways.
00:47:55.320They're not always going to be this little.
00:47:56.860They're not always going to need me this much.
00:47:58.700So it's like the relief and the sadness that comes with it.
00:48:03.460And I think remembering the temporal part of it can both kind of give us the endurance to keep going, but also remind us like that these difficult moments are really precious.
00:48:15.260They're really precious and they're so fleeting.
00:48:17.880It's even just having my oldest is only four and a half.
00:48:20.920But even being there, it's like I do see that what everyone said when I was pregnant for the first time, it goes by so fast.
00:49:03.420One thing you mentioned, I want to ask a question about, you mentioned like, you know, going to the gym, things like that.
00:49:09.380One thing that I love following you for is you talk a lot about your fitness routine and being a healthy eater.
00:49:16.120I am not in the stage of life right now of working out as much as I used to or as much as I would like to one day.
00:49:25.040Hopefully that will change in the next couple of years.
00:49:28.160But I do still love watching you for that.
00:49:31.760Tell me about navigating Hollywood and the beauty standards that are inherent in Hollywood and in the entertainment industry as a Christian.
00:49:43.880Obviously, there's nothing wrong with caring about your appearance and being healthy and all of those things.
00:49:49.100But as you know, better than the rest of us do, there are unrealistic and unhealthy beauty standards in the entertainment industry that I'm sure that you kind of had to battle against or maybe still have to.
00:50:39.000There is definitely a pressure that is on you.
00:50:43.600And I wouldn't, for me now, I will honestly say that I don't have outside pressure of people telling me that I have to look this way or be a certain weight or dress this way.
00:50:54.540But the pressure is so ingrained, a lot of the pressure just comes from myself because I've grown up in it.
00:51:02.320And I don't always know how to not feel that pressure.
00:51:08.560And I've been very public and open about having an eating disorder, which has been, like, really good for the last, I'm trying to, probably, you know, 20 years.
00:51:20.860But I still mentally battle it all the time, just not as much as I used to.
00:51:25.380And I have tools in place that help me.
00:51:28.460But these are, like, the crazy thoughts that still go through my head.
00:51:31.540And they're so dumb and they're so unrealistic.
00:52:28.420If you could just talk about, like, a couple of the tools that you just mentioned that you have in place when you feel that pull or feel that temptation.
00:52:36.760I also understand that I struggled with an eating disorder in college.
00:52:39.940So what are some of the things that have helped you?
00:54:08.300But then through, you know, I've talked to health professionals that have said, well, trying to get to the root of some of those issues.
00:54:19.000So I kind of remind myself often when I'm having a pull of a decision that would be a bad decision, I walk myself through some steps and say, okay, if I choose to do this right now, I'm going to remind myself how I'm going to feel.
00:54:37.940I'm going to remind myself of, like, every physicality that's going to, whether my stomach's going to feel bloated, whether my eyes and my face are going to hurt.
00:54:46.840I mean, I was bulimic for a long time.
00:54:49.260So you remind myself, I remind myself the things that feel awful and the consequences of it.
00:54:56.540And that often will snap me right back into reality of, like, no, I don't want to feel that way.
00:56:22.060Well, you I mean, you are so beautiful and you are so youthful.
00:56:25.640And I'm sure that there are a lot of people that are sitting out there shocked that you have a child who is married and that you have adult children because you do look so young.
00:56:34.840And you are young, but you look even younger than you are.
00:56:37.220So but there is I mean, there is a temptation for I'm almost 32 there.
00:56:44.120You know, I am just now in the past couple of years seeing my face change and like being able to look back when you're 25 and you look at yourself when you're 18.
00:56:52.920You're like, oh, I kind of look better that actually than I did when I was 18 because I don't look like a kid anymore.
00:56:58.200And you finally look like a woman, but you don't have wrinkles.
00:57:01.100But now I'm looking back at 25 and I'm like, oh, man, like I didn't have the smile lines or things like that.
00:57:08.740And so that is something that I think a lot of people struggle with, whether they're in front of the camera or not.
00:58:54.320There's a reality check when you're like, when you see the new wrinkles popping up.
00:58:59.360But at the same time, I look at my parents and I'm like, well, if this is how I'm going to age, then I'm okay with that.
00:59:04.960And if this is the exchange that I have to make for having another year and having another year with my kids and my husband, not everyone gets to see 32 or 42 or 52 and so on.
00:59:21.680Before we talk about some of the things that you're doing now and in the future, I do just want to rewind briefly because a lot of people, even though if they knew you on Full House,
00:59:31.680they definitely, so they followed you for a while, but I think you came into a lot of people's sphere again, when they saw you standing up for your values on the view.
00:59:46.320And so they knew you from Hallmark, but especially when you were on the view, the spotlight was on you because you were the opposing voice there.
00:59:57.840And you were not just a conservative because they've had people like, you know, Meghan McCain on there, who I also really admire, but you're walking in there, this like angel of Christian light.
01:00:08.160And you're like, actually, I think abortion is bad.
01:01:31.620Like that is felt very comfortable for me.
01:01:35.260So I thought if I can stay in that lane, I'm good.
01:01:38.480And I'll kind of figure out the politics part of it.
01:01:42.600And that, that show took everything out of me.
01:01:47.140I was also commuting from L.A. to New York every single week because we shoot, that show is shot live in L.A., in New York.
01:01:57.360And I was living in L.A. and I didn't want to permanently move.
01:01:59.940My children were in L.A. and in school and all the things.
01:02:03.720So I was pretty wiped out on top of trying to learn and navigate how to talk about these hot topics through a show and even interview people.
01:02:42.000Of course it does, because you're holding down the fort for one perspective when pretty much everyone else is going to agree on the other side of it.
01:03:30.920And so tell me just in general, not just The View, what it's been like to kind of be in that hostile environment and speaking up as a Christian.
01:03:43.080And we won't get into like the specific conflicts that have come up over the years.
01:03:47.500But in the last couple of years, you have kind of been under fire just for having Christian values and being outspoken about that.
01:03:54.380And even if you're not political, it seems to somehow like bleed over into politics and the culture war.
01:04:35.620And I recognize that within my job in the entertainment industry, I am to entertain people.
01:04:45.680That also means that people like you to some degree.
01:04:49.280Now, it is tough to live in a world where you need people to like you when you don't always share the same worldview or have the same opinions as others or are not complacent to just let, you know, live and let live.
01:05:06.340Do whatever you want and not really care about anything.
01:05:09.480It's challenging to do that, but yet I've always believed in family entertainment.
01:05:18.460I've been intentional about living my entertainment life in the family space.
01:05:25.860And the older I've gotten, it's been more and more important to live it in the faith and family space.
01:05:34.200And so, yeah, the last few years have been challenging.
01:05:38.260And I'm not I'm not trying to upset people.
01:07:20.200And I think, I mean, I haven't really talked about it much in detail, but it was a more challenging decision than anyone's known.
01:07:31.620And I had a wonderful, great 14 years at the Hallmark Channel.
01:07:37.140And there are still so many people in terms of the actors and everyone that's there that I still love and have so much respect for.
01:07:49.060However, there was a change of guard at the Hallmark Channel.
01:07:56.360And there were different relationships there.
01:08:02.780And that's where it got a little challenging.
01:08:05.780I kind of felt like the old guard and the new guard came in.
01:08:10.900And it definitely influenced the decisions that I made to start talking to Great American Family Channel.
01:08:20.920And what I loved in talking to them, and for those of you that don't know, Bill Abbott is the CEO of Great American Family Channel, who was the former CEO of the Hallmark Channel.
01:08:34.680And under his leadership, I had, it was great.
01:08:39.160And so Great American Family gave me an opportunity to help build something that I've been praying about for a really long time.
01:08:53.160So while I'm an actress and I'm a producer, I've been an entrepreneur for a very long time.
01:08:59.400So I have my hands in a lot of things within business.
01:09:03.360And building and growing a network has been on my prayer list for about 15 years.
01:09:11.300And this gave me the opportunity to start from the ground up and build something really great.
01:09:17.760And that was what was most attractive to me.
01:09:22.600And I will tell everyone, I took a pay cut to go to Great American Family Channel.
01:09:29.400Okay, it wasn't about offering more money or anything like that.
01:09:35.040I liked the idea of building something great and that had a focus on family and faith.
01:09:42.360And that for me is what was missing even under the leadership of Bill at Hallmark Channel.
01:09:49.100Then was that, and you know, he has bosses above him.
01:09:53.400But the faith wasn't really a part of that channel.
01:09:57.100And as I've gotten older, I want that to be a part of my catalog of the movies I produce and I'm in because they're important to me.
01:10:06.060And there was much more opportunity to do that at Great American Family.
01:10:58.460We signed him to a multi-picture deal.
01:11:02.080We're very happy to have Mario at the channel.
01:11:05.640And so, and I, you know, it just makes it great when people believe in the mission.
01:11:11.780And it's really just all about family.
01:11:14.440But we want faith to be in there more and not just a place where we talk about God in lowercase g, which could be any kind of God that feels very universal.
01:11:25.720I want to say the name of Jesus in my movies.
01:11:28.040And we're saying that at Great American Family.