Ep 967 | 'Vanderpump Rules' & the 'No Baby Daddy' Tragedy
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1 hour and 10 minutes
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154.94633
Summary
Vanderpump Rules star Lala Kent has announced that she is pregnant via sperm donor. There are many facets and layers to this story that are important for us to think through as it comes to the rights of children. Also, speaking of children, the cover of New York Magazine has an article arguing that all kids, no matter their age, should be able to, quote, "change their sex." We have found out some disturbing details about the author and his background and his motivations for pushing this sick and depraved ideology.
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Vanderpump Rules star Lala Kent has announced that she is pregnant via sperm donor.
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There are many facets and layers to this story that are important for us to think through
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Also, speaking of children, the cover of New York Magazine is an article arguing that all
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kids, no matter their age, should be able to, quote, unquote, change their sex.
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We have found out some really disturbing details about this author and his background and the
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motivations for pushing the sick and depraved ideology.
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Really important for us to know about this and make sure that we are prepared to fight
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This episode is brought to you by our friends at Good Ranchers.
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Hope everyone's having a wonderful week so far.
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Okay, y'all, like I'm still going down this rabbit hole with Kate Middleton.
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There's been more that I've seen over the last 24 hours.
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We don't have time to get into all of the new stuff that I'm seeing.
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It seems like you guys were really interested in that, too.
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Like, the internet and the people on the internet and how they spend their time.
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Sometimes it's kind of sad, but it's also very impressive.
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So I'll work on that, then I'll come back to you with an update sometime soon.
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Go listen to yesterday's episode or watch it if you haven't already.
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I find myself very genuinely concerned about Kate and just hoping that she and her family are okay.
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Okay, before we get into today's episode, just a reminder, we've got some new merch.
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You're not enough on the front and then on the back.
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But Jesus is another great opportunity, I think, for an evangelistic conversation.
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Same thing with our last month's drop, which was self-love won't save you.
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We've got these crew neck sweatshirts as well as the comfort colors t-shirts.
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I say that name and you're like, yes, I know exactly who you're talking about.
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But last week, I started getting several messages from you guys sending the post that she has been
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putting up about her new pregnancy, which came about via sperm donation.
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And so we're going to talk about some of the stuff that she has said about her pregnancy,
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said about her child and some of her background that she's shared that makes this story, I think,
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really relevant and helps us just, again, think through this issue.
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When someone announces their pregnancy, it's so easy to just say, yay, life, yay, babies.
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And of course, those things are worth celebrating.
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But as we've talked about many times at this point, we have to be a little bit more thoughtful
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about how babies are conceived and how they're treated.
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And this particular story has several layers to it that I think are worth us talking about
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Now, Lala Kent, she is a star on the show Vanderpump Rules.
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And I'm going to have to bring in pop culture expert Brie to talk about Vanderpump Rules because
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I'm guessing what I've deduced is that it is reality, right?
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So Vanderpump Rules is a spinoff of one of the Real Housewives show.
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So one of the Real Housewives is like a restaurant mogul, however you say that.
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And she has a bunch of restaurants that she then hires staff at, obviously.
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Her name is Lisa Vanderpump, hence the name of the show.
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And so the show is about the staff, the young, attractive staff at her restaurant in L.A.
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I thought it was more like Sunset Boulevard or Selling Sunset type thing.
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It's been very successful because it is very dramatic.
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Which is where all the other Housewives shows are.
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Last year, actually, this show was in the news quite a bit because a scandal happened
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And it became, I think, the most talked about scandal in reality show history.
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Just one of the people on the show cheated on their partner of 10 years with her best friend.
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And people reacted who weren't even watching the show in a very extreme way.
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So a lot of people, that's why a lot of people have heard of this show and maybe not other
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You just started to pick up on Vanderpump Rules.
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Someone told me it was really dramatic and interesting.
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Yeah, Lala Kent came on the show in like season three or four, I think.
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And she very immediately was like not a likable person on the show.
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And people blamed her a lot for not revealing what was actually happening in her life when
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the rest of them were putting it all on camera.
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There were rumors when she started on the show that she was dating this rich man who people
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And now we know he was actually married when she was dating him.
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Because I know that everyone kind of gets their favorites in any of these shows.
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Um, I don't think that I think that the charm, if you will, of Vanderpump Rules is that no
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one really is likable on it, except for the person who was cheated on in the scandal.
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Um, and so she's kind of they're all kind of like, they're morally questionable.
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Okay, so it's not that surprising that she has now come out and said, I'm using a sperm
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It's not like we thought that she had the same worldview as us.
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But this, because this is being widely celebrated, I even saw some people that I follow liking
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her post announcing that she is pregnant via sperm donation.
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Bri did a great job of telling us who, who she is.
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Let me give you a little bit, uh, further information.
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Lala Kent joined the hit Bravo reality series Vanderpump Rules in 2014.
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That is an important point that we will raise in just a little bit.
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Then she later started dating filmmaker Randall Emmett while he was married.
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They postponed their wedding due to the pandemic, but they welcomed their daughter, whose name
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So she and the previously married guy and separated amid cheating allegations.
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Randall is currently in the midst of accusations of sexual abuse and offering acting jobs in
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So the cheating allegations in this, Bri, it's being, those are the allegations against
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Although she has also admitted on the show that she also has cheated on him.
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They're in the midst of a custody battle for their daughter, Ocean.
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Kent announced last week that she is pregnant with a baby, consumed via sperm donor.
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She said so that she will always have full control of that child.
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She will be able to say, this child is fully mine.
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No one else can ever take ownership of this child because she is now realizing the trauma
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of going through a custody battle with your child.
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And she is having to share her child with someone who she no longer loves.
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This child is being used, as all children always are in these divorce situations, being
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And she wants another child, but she doesn't want that situation again.
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A lot of people have been wondering, who is the baby daddy?
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And I just want to say the best part about my baby daddy is that he does not exist.
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I have been pretty open about wanting to really have full control of, I guess, not my child,
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But for me, my child will never be up for grabs again.
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Okay, so full control over the time spent with her child.
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So Lala says in that video, which was on an Amazon Live, and I saw that clip on Instagram,
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she says, the best part of my baby daddy is that he does not exist because she used a sperm
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He is just a man who will never know his child and a man that this child will never know.
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She'll never have that full answer because Lala is purposely creating a fatherless child
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because she wants a child whose time she can control.
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And so she understands the difficulty of custody battles.
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She understands the trauma that that can create both for her and for her child.
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She understands that it's going to be very difficult for her daughter to have to split
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And yet she is forcing her second child into an equally tumultuous and an equally vulnerable
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position by saying, you can't even have half of the time with your father.
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At least her first daughter knows who her father is, can see her father's face, and can see herself
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At least she can spend time with her father sometimes, even if it's just on the weekends
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But this second child will not have the privilege and will not have the opportunity to do this.
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And this is coming from someone, Lala, who mourned the death of her own father, who realizes
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the significance, the unique importance that her father played in her own life, in her own
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And yet she is robbing her child of that opportunity.
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And she wants a child whose time she can fully control.
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And yes, the desire to have a child can be a very noble one.
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And I'm sure that she loves her children very much.
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I'm not even doubting her abilities in some ways as a mother.
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I am saying, though, that this form of conception, this way and method of bringing life into the
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Because you're saying, I do not want you to have the privilege that I did of having a father, of being
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able to know your dad, knowing where half of your DNA comes from, half of your family history, half of
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I am going to take that away from you, child, and purposely create you as fatherless.
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She goes on to say, I just feel like going the donor route is the right decision for me.
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Now, I understand because, again, she's realizing the repercussions of a broken parenting relationship
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with the father of her first child, and she doesn't want to go through that again.
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But you are still introducing this child into a traumatic life.
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And what's going to happen, as she mentions, there's a possibility that she'll have a boyfriend,
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You're just introducing strangers into your child's life.
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They are going to forever be seeking their father.
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They are going to be looking for the person to whom they belong, the father to whom they belong.
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They will, at the very least, be looking for that father figure.
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And as she goes through boyfriends, as she goes through her relationships,
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as she potentially goes through marriages, that child is going to be re-traumatized.
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We've heard from so many children that are born via sperm and egg donation,
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that they are longing to know to whom they belong and from where they come.
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That is a question that all of us seek to answer in a spiritual way.
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Is there some higher power, of course, that's found in the God who created the universe,
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But we also long for that in a physical way, in a much more tangible way.
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I don't think that any of us who have had the privilege of being raised by two biological parents
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understand the security and the stability that that has given us.
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I don't think that it can even be fully quantified.
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But we do understand that there is a primal wound.
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Even in the beautifully redemptive process of adoption, there is a primal wound there.
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Now, people, I get some pushback when I talk about this.
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But I have talked to many adoptees and many adoptive parents
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I mean, wonderful, not in the sense that it's always easy
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but in the sense that it's redeeming a broken situation.
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And they will confirm to you that, yes, there is a primal wound there.
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Even if everyone is happy and healthy their whole lives,
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the fact that you are taking a child away from his or her birth mother
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is going to create some kind of trauma and some kind of separation there
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The ideal situation for every child is to be raised by a married, loving mother and father.
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and that mother feels that she cannot take care of that child.
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And so there's another loving couple that comes in and says,
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I'm not saying that all adoption situations are perfect or smooth
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or that no one takes advantage of that situation.
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We know that there is corruption even in that industry
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adoption is the redemption of a broken situation,
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whereas sperm and egg donation and surrogacy is the creation.
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Yes, there is some kind of trauma that occurs even in adoption.
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Whether or not that child feels that growing up, they may not.
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by forcefully separating the child from his mother.
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It is making a better situation out of a less than ideal situation.
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you are purposely creating a child with the intention of taking them away
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And of course, as we've talked about many times in the case of surrogacy,
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that he or she has bonded with for nine months.
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There is a physiological, psychological, and emotional bond that is created there
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that is necessary for the healthy development of the baby,
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like neonatal development and the physiological bonds that are created there.
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And so we have no idea what we're doing with all of these kids
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that we are creating via sperm and egg donation.
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because these people are making a lot of money from that.
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We have no idea what we're doing through surrogacy.
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We are simply doing exactly what Lala Kent is doing
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And if it causes some pain seen or unseen in my child,
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well, it's worth it because that's what I wanted to do.
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So we are forcing children to make a sacrifice on behalf of parents' wants.
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when you have a child who was purposely created to be raised by two men
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or purposely created to be raised by a single dad or a single mom.
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because it's uncomfortable to know what we're really doing.
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We're just assuming that because it's inconvenient to say
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that we're inflicting this purposeful, very primal pain on a child.
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because children don't have the power and ability
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and they used a surrogate to create their children.
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And he told the media, probably not even thinking
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that he was so sad because in the first couple of years
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of his kids' lives, they wouldn't cuddle with him.
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Because you robbed these children of their mother
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and every child deserves, has a right to a mother and father.
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When we read in scripture about fatherlessness,
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here I'll go again, doing the hardest part of my job,
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we always see it exclusively as a category of vulnerability,
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a category of people whose cause we need to take up,
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But God says, no, I will defend the fatherless.
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father of the fatherless and protector of widows
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These two categories of people don't have a defender,
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And you see throughout the law giving to Israel,
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you shall not mistreat any widow or fatherless child.
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that children are bearing because of their own sins.
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I'm just saying it is always talked about negatively
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the fatherless child is fatherless by happenstance.
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All of this would have been egregious to the Lord.
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It's always spoken of as a form of vulnerability
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So for us to be purposely creating fatherless children
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because mothers so rarely abandoned their children.