REPLAY： 3 Myths Christian Women Believe
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In this episode, I talk about 3 myths that many christian women believe, and why I believe them. I also talk about a recent photo of Hailey Baldwin Bieber and how she is struggling to be confident in her own beauty, and how God created her for a specific purpose and purpose for each and every human created by God.
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what's up guys happy thursday i hope that you guys are having a great week i am in dc right now
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i know it doesn't look like i am because i'm not recording this in dc but as you're listening to
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this podcast i will be in dc for the stork ball and the march for life if you guys are there
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tomorrow as you're listening to this so friday please come say hi i will actually be with my
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mom i'm excited to be there this is actually the first time i've actually marched for life i know
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the people in march for life i know a lot of the people associated with movement i'm really excited
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to hear ben shapiro speak he is such an amazing and logical advocate for pre-born life and i'm
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really excited about that so anyway today that's not what we're going to talk about we i might talk
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about it a little bit at the end if we have time i'm going to talk about three myths that christian
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women believe and this was actually inspired by someone who sent me a message on instagram
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and um it is a caption of hayley bieber who used to be hayley baldwin she's a model married to justin
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bieber it is a caption that hayley baldwin bieber put on instagram and this person had a question about
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a few things that she had said specifically this idea that we see in a lot of christian female circles
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that you are enough so i thought about this and i realized this is one of a few myths quite a few
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myths that particularly christian women believe not as much christian men i've had a problem for a
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while with female bible studies and the way that a lot of women not all christian women but a lot of
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women preach the bible with this kind of me first or me centered mentality that everything in the bible
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is about them and they kind of reduce jesus to this uh emotionally supportive boyfriend that is
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almost like their uh almost like their gal pal who just sits around and tell them tells them how awesome
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their hair is and how great their personality is i've always really disliked that about female
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christianity because that's not who jesus is jesus is the same for men as he is to women now that's not to
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say there are differences between men and women there are differences between men and women in
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the bible and there might even be differences in how men and women approach theology in some ways just
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because our minds do work differently but the answer should be the same who we see god as should be the
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same and how god relates to us essentially is the same there is this mentality that i see and i'm going
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to get into what the caption actually was but just to set it up there's this mentality that god is this
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kind of morphing thing that changes depending on on what our personality is uh that changes depending
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on what our preferences are that god's word changes depending on how we see it and that's just not
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true that is whether you believe this or not or whether you think you believe this or not that is
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you saying that you are god and that god actually bends to you and that his will bends to you that's why i have
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i like personality tests but that's why i am wary about them and that's why i can be cautious about
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them and even recently i kind of found myself promoting enneagram a little bit too much um and
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i realized hey this could actually encourage idolatry just a little bit because i i get worried when we view
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ourselves through this lens of i am special because yes you are in some ways but in some ways you're just
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you're not and if our constant focus is on how different and special and how unique we are
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and not on how great and special and awesome and unique god is then i'm afraid that our theology is
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going to be thwarted and that's what i think that i see in hailey hailey baldwin bieber's instagram
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caption so it's long i'm not going to read the whole thing this is just an excerpt um she says i am
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insecure i'm fragile i'm hurting i have fears i have doubts i have anxiety i get sad i get angry i
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have had more days than i can count where i found myself scrolling through instagram comparing myself
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comparing my looks feeling like i'm not good enough like i lack so many things and really
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struggling to be confident in who i am because i constantly feel like i'm just not good enough dot
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dot dot dot um that's i'm adding that in what i do know is god made us individuals for a reason
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with our own beauty our own personalities and our own story because there's a specific plan
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and purpose for each and every human created and he makes no mistakes so this year i'm going to do
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my very best to just be me and be confident with who i am because i am enough and i'm loved and you
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are enough and you're loved so this sounds really good and i don't want it to seem like i am slamming
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hailey baldwin or hailey bieber as this uh awful heretic she might be at a particular place in her
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sanctification where she is still learning uh about theology and this is just where she is and i
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commend her for uh being vulnerable sadly this social media world has created a world in which
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comparison um and insecurity is probably i don't know this for sure but it seems to be a little bit
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higher than it has been in the past it's interesting i actually was having a conversation with this uh
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with my friend about this the other day about how you always hear and again this is not a
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generalization or a wholesale judgment on fashion bloggers i follow a ton of fashion bloggers that i
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think are awesome they're the opposite of trash people which is like really cool um you always
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hear them talk about anxiety it's almost like every single fashion blogger or design lifestyle blogger
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always talks about anxiety and i just think yeah that that would be really anxiety inducing if your
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entire career and your entire livelihood was based on how many likes you get on a photo because that
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determines how many advertisers you have how many how much you get paid for your sponsored posts
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and there are so many other people like you promoting the same products as you promoting the
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same kind of brand that would be really anxiety inducing and so i think what hayley baldwin says
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here is uh extremely telling of just kind of where we are as a culture and quite frankly i think it's
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very sad we all fall into this trap it's so easy to do in the social media world but my problem is not
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with the problems that she has because i'm glad that she's being honest about that especially
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because she is so beautiful and so what so many people would would see as perfect and is married
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to justin bieber so i think it's good that she's having this kind of transparency my problem is the way
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that she comforts herself is actually the way that a lot of christian females comfort themselves
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so she says with our own beauty god made us with our own beauty our own personalities our own story
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because there's a specific plan for each and every human being created and he makes no mistakes okay
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true uh so this year i'm going to do my very best to just be me and be confident in who i am because
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i am enough and i am loved and you are enough and you are loved so there are a few myths in there
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that if we're not critically thinking people we are going to miss um and i think for whatever reason
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we give celebrity christians a pass but we shouldn't be just excited when a celebrity says
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the word god or says that they pray without taking stock of okay like let's look at their
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let's let's look at their lives and judge with as much wisdom and grace as we possibly can um what
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they're what that looks like same with president trump same with anyone that doesn't mean that we
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know their whole hearts that doesn't mean that we know their whole lives that doesn't mean that we
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sit here and say you're going to hell because we don't know that but we are able to use
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discernment and to use our eyes and to use our ears and say okay okay okay you pray that's good
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okay there are some other things that we need to talk about and it's the same thing with this
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hailey bieber baldwin post the way that she comforts herself or filled with these myths that are not
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actually theologically true so let's go into that a little bit um she talks about how finding yourself
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is hard uh also in this whole thing and how she just needs to be me she needs to be confident who
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she is um she is enough you see this a lot in popular celebrity christianity you see it with
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jen hatmaker you see it with rachel hollis uh you see it sometimes with beth moore with a lot of
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christian influencers out there uh this seems to be like i said almost an exclusively female thing
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this just need we have to hear that we are enough um but quite frankly the way that hailey baldwin
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bieber is comforting herself the way that i see a lot of these rachel hollises the lot of these
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jen hat makers a lot of these female bible leaders uh comforting themselves and comforting insecurities
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and comforting lack of confidence and uh this whole comparison trap that we find ourselves in the
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comfort that they give themselves is wrong it is worldly it is not biblical and therefore it is
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insufficient so here's myth number one myth number one is you are enough um no you're not you're
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actually not enough the bible never says that you are enough you are not enough actually we are severely
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lacking i am lacking i am incomplete i will never be enough i will never be good enough i am not kind
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i am am not righteous i am not generous i am not beautiful enough i am not talented enough i'm not
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strong enough i'm not healthy enough i'm not organized enough i will never be enough ever ever and that
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is okay and it's not the comfort in that is not that yes i am i'm enough in all of my inadequacies
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the comfort is that no i'm not but jesus is that jesus is enough and in him i find my sufficiency
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in him i find myself complete in him i find myself good uh not because of anything that i have done
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but because what he did for me on the cross that he made my slate clean and that has nothing to do
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with what i did no i am not enough but god the two greatest words in the bible that are that are put
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together but god but god in ephesians 2 it says be rich in mercy with the great love with which he has
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loved us made us alive together with christ by grace you have been saved but god no you are not enough
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you will never be enough you will never be good enough there's always going to be someone better than
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you but god jesus is enough for you first corinthians 12 9 my grace is sufficient for you my power is
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made perfect in weakness it's not about not being weak it's not about telling yourself that you are
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enough it's not about telling yourself that you are strong beautiful and important you're not
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you are completely incomplete you are completely undeserving of god's love but god because he is
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gracious because he is kind because he is strong because he is able he sent jesus to die for you so
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that when he looks at you he doesn't look at you and all of your insufficiencies he looks at jesus
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that is the comfort the comfort for your insecurity the comfort uh for your fear your anxiety your
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comparison trap that you're finding yourself in isn't you and your sufficiency it is god and his
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sufficiency it is knowing that every day when i wake up even though i'm never going to be good enough
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even though i'm never going to be the prettiest woman in the world even though i'm never going
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to be the best mom best wife most organized person in the world god is perfect he is perfect and he has
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chosen to die for me and reconcile uh reconcile me to him because he loves me not because i'm good
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it's actually because i am not good that he did that so the rest of first corinthians 12 9 says
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therefore i will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses so that the power of christ may rest
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upon me for the sake of christ then i am content with weaknesses insults hardships persecutions and
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calamities for when i am weak then i am strong you see there that he doesn't say no i i'm actually not
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weak no no no that's bad self-talk i'm gonna motivate myself with a good pep talk that talks about
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really how awesome i am no you're not i'm not awesome you're not awesome but god is so we can
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boast in our weaknesses and say no i'm not enough i'll never be enough not to the world standards not
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to god's standards i am completely totally broken and shattered and i will never have enough to offer
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i'm completely insufficient but god but god is and think think the lord that in his mercy he decided
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to look upon me this wretched sinner who deserves absolutely nothing and say i will save you simply
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because i'm good that is the comfort so the first myth is that you are enough no you're not but jesus is
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the second myth is that you have to love yourself either period or sometimes it continues on you have
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to love yourself before you love other people no can you find the verse for that now some people will
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say um the bible says to love others as you love yourself yes love yourself is not a commandment
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love yourself is a given um it says as you love yourself because that is assumed because everyone
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loves themselves even the people who struggle with self-loathing and insecurity it is often because
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we think about ourselves too much when i have been in my most insecure and down phases i won't say that
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i've ever truly struggled with depression um but whenever i've been in my most insecure and anxious stages
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you know what i'm thinking about the most it's not other people it's me i'm thinking about myself the
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most i'm thinking about what i look like what i sound like what i appear like to other people
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i'm thinking about myself and i remember there's a specific season in college when i was a sophomore
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in college where i just like looked in the mirror in the mornings and i was like you are ugly and gross
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and everyone is better than you and skinnier than you um and i was not satisfied with looking at
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psalm 139 and saying wow god is awesome for knitting me together in my mother's womb and uh i am i i am
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confident because of who he is i was not content with that i wanted to hear that i was uh physically
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superficially beautiful i wanted to know that i was prettier than other people i wanted to be as skinny
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as other people so it i didn't need to hear that i was enough or that i needed to love myself i need to
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hear stop thinking about yourself and focus on god what we need as a generation who struggles with
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anxiety is not more self-love it is god's love if you find yourself unable to love other people
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it's not because you don't love yourself it's because you don't know god's love that's what we
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need to understand that's what we need to get deeper into you don't need to love yourself more you
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need to understand how god loves you he loved you so much that he gave his only son to die for you
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that he did he would do anything for you and he did do everything for you something he didn't have
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to do it's not because you're lovable it's because he is love so if we struggle with uh our own
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confidence if we struggle with loving and serving other people it's because we don't understand god's
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love and i know that from experience myself as someone who has struggled with insecurity and
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who does struggle with worrying i worry a lot i overthink a lot who does struggle with being selfish
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who struggles with not wanting to get out of my comfort zone like i've been thinking about that
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a lot recently is that how i preach these values and um i i don't often uh get off the couch and
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actually go out and help other people i talk about it that's not right that is not because i don't love
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myself that's because i have a deficiency in understanding god's love for me so i am not preaching
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this to you as someone who doesn't struggle with this myself so hear me when i say it is not more
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self-love that you need you do not need to love yourself before you can love other people what you
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need is the gospel what you need is the gospel which as i've just said is that for god so loved the
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world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have
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everlasting life he did that because of his grace by grace you have been saved through faith says
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ephesians 2 you need the gospel if you are depressed you need the gospel if you are lonely
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you need the gospel if you are anxious if you are self-loathing if you are paranoid if you are
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insecure now i've already spoken in the past that i'm just as a little parenthetical caveat here i am
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not against medicine if you are depressed if you are anxious uh if you truly have an anxiety disorder
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um i think that is a gift of common grace technology and medicine can be gifts of common
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grace if that is something that you truly need so i am not saying that if you are depressed or if you
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are anxious it's because you're not praying enough i'm i don't want you to hear me say that sometimes
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there are imbalances in our brains that really need to be fixed by medicine just like any other disease
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but this idea that your problem is that you don't love yourself enough is not true that's not biblical
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whether you are on medication for depression or not it is still important for us to dive deeper into
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who god is and his love for us more than it is to dive deeper into ourselves and how much we love
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ourselves we do not need to love ourselves anymore god's got that for us he loves us way more than we
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ever could he knows us we way way better than we ever could um he has chosen us those of us who are
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saved more it's it's a love that we can't even fathom so for those of us who deal with insecurity
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and anxiety it is um it is not a matter of not loving ourselves enough it is not understanding god's
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love so that's myth number two uh myth number three is be you um we hear this uh in the
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forms of you do you don't apologize for who you are just be unapologetically you god doesn't make
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mistakes again there is truth in this to some degree yes you shouldn't be pretending to be
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something that you're not but what i am afraid of is that that kind of covers sin too that um oh if god
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made you for example we hear this with homosexuality a lot or we hear this with transgenderism
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god doesn't make mistakes so if you you are born a boy but you feel that you're a woman then you
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should be that because you're being truly who you are um if you are attracted to if you are a man who
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is attracted to men who also calls yourself a christian you should pursue that lifestyle uh because
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god doesn't make mistakes you should just be who you are when that's not true sin as for a christian
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is not part of who you are anymore you are not um a you might be someone who sins but you are a saint
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who sins who are a member of the household of god if you can tell i really like ephesians so i
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quote from them a lot um but we are called away from that life and romans 8 talks about uh dying to
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the flesh and being alive in christ we are no longer slave to fall back into the spirit of fear
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but we are uh born of the spirit we have a spirit of or we have uh we are children of god by which we
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can call out abba father we are different we are not defined by our sin that is not who we are
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in christ we are a new creation so i think it's important to distinguish between who you are personality
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wise which i agree um can be used in unique ways for the kingdom of god and who you are sin wise which
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needs to die which needs to be crucified that's true of all of us whether it's selfishness or
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homosexuality whether it is lying or cheating or stealing or um transgenders whatever it is
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we are asked to deny those things we are asked to kill those things we are asked to crucify those
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things so i'm not really interested in being who i am i am interested in being who god calls me to be
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and again bringing in the whole personality test thing and how that can sometimes lead to idolatry i i do
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i do think that sometimes we focus too much on the intricacies of our personality
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like we view everything through that lens rather than the lens of the gospel rather than the lens of
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the bible and i think that that really inhibits us because we say well no i couldn't be called to do
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that or i couldn't do that because i'm i'm an enneagram eight um i i couldn't do that because well i'm an
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infp so no that's not for me this is for me um now there are spiritual gifts in the bible you could
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be a shepherder shepherder you can be a shepherd you could be a teacher there are different things
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that god has gifted you to do however god calls us however he wants to call us so i think it can be
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limiting to say well this is who i am and this is just me and what i want to do well i don't know
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about that i mean how many of us would have said moses would have been a great leader this stuttering
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uh former prince of egypt who uh went out into the wilderness and spoke to a burning bush like
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what this guy god this guy like he can barely form words he's gonna what he's gonna free us from
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captivity what he's gonna take us through the the what sea how's he gonna do that he's he's going
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to get away from from pharaoh how okay god okay right sure why don't you give us someone who can
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actually put a coherent sentence together and yet god did god used moses to lead the people eventually
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to the promised land but god uh first corinthians 126 through 31 says uh he it talks about the the just
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illogical in human in human terms the illogical way that god uses people says uh first corinthians
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for uh sorry i just said this first corinthians 126 through 31 for consider your calling brothers
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not many of you were wise according to worldly standards not many were powerful not many were
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of noble birth but god but god there it is i didn't even know but god chose what is foolish in
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the world to shame the wise god chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong god chose what is
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low and despised in the world even things that are not to bring to nothing things that are so that no
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human being might boast in the presence of god and because of him you are in christ jesus i could cry
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this is amazing who became to us wisdom from god righteousness and sanctification and redemption so
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that as it is written let the one who boasts boasts in the lord you know when you read a passage
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for the millionth time and you're just hit with the beauty of it let the one who boasts boast in the
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lord so it's not about doing you it's not about being you it's about being who you are in christ
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yes god gave you uh certain personality traits he gave you certain gifts that should be used to their
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fullness for his glory but they're not meant to be limiting they're not meant to define you
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and uh they are not meant if they are there are parts of us that are also inherently sinful they
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are not meant to be lived out if they are against god's will um so it's not about doing you it's about
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being like christ it's about being obedient it's about being holy and righteous and bold no matter
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what your personality type is no matter what your propensity is towards a particular sin we are all
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called to repentance we are all called to holiness we are all called called to share the gospel we are
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all called to serve and give to the poor so that's it that's that's uh our identity is in christ and
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that's where we operate from i don't uh identify as an eight and operate from a point of view of an
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eight i identify as a christian in christ and i operate from there now an eight might inform being an eight
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i am an enneagram eight might inform some of the ways that i think might help me understand a little
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bit how i relate to people but that is not who i am that is not my identity that does not define
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how i speak to people it does not uh define how i go about my life jesus does so these are the three
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myths number one being you are enough you're not enough jesus is enough number two you have to love
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yourself you have to love yourself before you love other people is the other variation of that
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no it's not about self-love it's uh about god's love and number three be you uh don't be you if being
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you means sinning um don't find your identity in yourself find your identity in christ uh that's a
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huge problem that we have particularly as female christians is this me sinner theology
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in which our comfort at the end of the day is that you are beautiful and enough and awesome
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no your comfort is in christ and what he did for you on calvary and i'm just afraid that we're
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replacing a christ-centered gospel with a me-centered gospel and it doesn't save and it doesn't sanctify
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and it's only going to make you a more selfish and self-aggrandizing person yes you might accomplish
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some goals you might lose some weight for example you might be more organized you might uh do some
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things that you feel are fueled by your newly found self-confidence that you read from a particular book
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from gin hat maker or whatever some instagram influencer hayley baldwin bieber um but that's not
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sanctification that's not what god calls us to none of those things are bad per se um but it's not the
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gospel so that's what i wanted to that's my main message for today so i also promised this is a
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completely different subject i also promised that i would talk about the gillette ad that talked about
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toxic masculinity so gillette did an ad they came out with an ad on i think i first saw it on monday
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and i'm gonna play a little bit for you it's really visual more than anything so if you're not
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watching it might not have the same impact but here you go
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we can't hide from it sexual harassment is taking over it's been going on far too long
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what i actually think she's trying to say making the same old excuses
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boys will be boys boys will be boys but something finally changed
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allegations regarding sexual assault and sexual harassment
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okay so the whole thing basically is about like men this is not who we are and they show
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they show men like um harassing women or condescending women in the workroom they show
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a tv show where someone is like pinching a woman's butt and how men are laughing and watching it
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they're basically talking about how toxic masculinity has really uh infected the world it even shows this
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one part about uh of these two boys fighting in a yard and the fathers being like boys will be boys
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they're showing all of that is negative and they're saying that good men are the ones who stick up for
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women and to uh defend women against harassment and assault the reason why i have a hard time with
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this is because i don't believe that toxic masculinity exists i believe that sin exists
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and every single person is corrupt if you want to say there's toxic masculinity well there's toxic
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femininity too you can go back to the garden of eden and find that but really it's not toxic
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masculinity or toxic femininity it is sin that manifests itself in varying ways um yes men are more
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physically they're more physically powerful than women are and so there are some sins that have a
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greater effect on society that men execute than women do simply because we just physically aren't
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able to carry out the the same things that men do and we're just not inclined to we don't have
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testosterone we don't have the same aggression my problem is is that you see kind of the first half
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of the thing first half of the ad talking about harassing women condescending women uh and boys playing
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in a yard so what they're doing is they are conflating uh boy aggression with male toxicity or male predation
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and i have a significant problem with conflating aggression or assertiveness or rough and tumble
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with predation and then the cognitive dissonance of saying that those two things are somehow connected but
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also saying that good men are the ones who stick up for women which i agree with by the way there's so much
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dissonance there because they don't realize that you you don't create passive boys and get strong men
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you don't create boys that um don't fight each other aren't rough with each other when they're you know
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six to ten years old who grow up to be uh who grow up to be these strong men who are going to be
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heroes and defend women now i'm not saying that boys need to necessarily fight and be uh rough with
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each other i'm not saying that but if you're saying that boys will be boys as bad that boys um you know
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like having some uh having some good-hearted rough and tumble when they're when they're six and seven
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years old if you're saying that that is bad that that is toxic and that we need to make boys what
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uh less aggressive in that way more passive in that way more feminine more gentle in that way
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and then those boys are going to be the ones who grow up to to uh to be the ones to stand up for
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women not going to happen you're not because if you make boys more passive and more feminine when
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they're boys they are not going to grow up to know that they need to stick up for girls because you're
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basically saying there's no difference between boys and girls and that's the other cognitive dissonance
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in all of this is that the same kind of people who say there's no difference between men and
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women we're all basically the same also say that in order for men to be good men they need to stand
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up for women well if men and women are inherently the same then why can't women stand up for themselves
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um which i obviously believe that men and women are different and that men should stand up for
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women they should be protectors they should be providers um they should be they should be the one
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to take responsibility at the end of the day and to land a punch on a bully who is um you know
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picking on someone who is smaller than their size or picking on a woman whatever it is
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i do believe that men should be the ones to do that but you don't get that by stifling their
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aggression you get that by training it you don't say hey be less assertive be less of a man be less
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masculine you say no use those good god-given things use that testosterone use that assertiveness
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to be a protector to be a provider to be the things that women need you to be yes i said need
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need a lot of women have a hard time with that oh we don't need no man well even if you're not
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married which i think is perfectly fine i've talked about that before the bible says paul says it is
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better to be single than to be married so i'm not saying you have to be married to be complete
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certainly not from a christian perspective but yes society in general does need men men are different
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than women uh we already saw gillette probably didn't mean to show the inherent inherent differences
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between men and women in that ad but they did um so yes we need men women need men we need the
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strength of men we need the assertiveness of men we need the aggression of men a lot of times people
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think aggression is inherently wrong well it's not unless it's used for abuse unless it's used for
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condescension um it doesn't have to be it can be used in a very good in a very protective in a very
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defensive way so just this entire idea that masculinity is toxic is absolutely crazy to me
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these from the same people too it's so funny these from the same people that saying that all kind of
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sexual choices that you make is is totally fine now they're showing that it's wrong to watch a show
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where a man is like pinching a woman's butt which i agreed that is wrong but christians have been
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sounding this alarm for a long time that hey maybe sexual purity is something that we should talk about
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and promote and they all laughed at us but now uh purity in at least some sense is important when it
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pushes the feminist cause or something and if your mind can't wrap around that that's because you are
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logically thinking person and you are confused by all of this crazy stuff it's okay me too the american
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psychology association i think it's what it's called they just put out this um amazing amazing study
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saying that traditional masculinity is wrong it's bad for society well there was this great article
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in psychology today basically in a very calm and factual way saying that this is a stupid study
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it bases it on uh social and political ideologies rather than on scientific fact um and they even
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defended themselves the apa said well we're just talking about the extreme behaviors of a few men we're not
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talking about men in general okay so again they're talking about sin like it's not about masculinity
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it's just about sin that manifests itself differently in different people because we are different
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oh man i mean progressivism is just eating itself just take solace in the fact that the bible
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it's the bible is clear and the bible gives you a great guidebook and the bible tells you exactly what
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you need to know about gender about culture about the differences and all of those things and as long as
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you abide by that you don't have to worry too much about the crazy and the complication in the world
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um okay thank you guys so much for listening if you are at march for life tomorrow i will be there