REPLAY： Three MORE Myths Christian Women Believe
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In this episode, we rehash the 3 myths that Christian women believe in 2019 and discuss the biblical truth behind them. I hope this episode encourages and challenges you to be a better Christian in 2020. I know it did for me.
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Hey guys, welcome to Relatable. I hope everyone had an awesome Christmas and an awesome new year.
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We really didn't do very much. We got together with my family and we kind of reflected over the
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past decade. So much has changed. I don't know if you guys kind of took the time to think about that,
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especially if you're my age. Like 10 years ago, I was still in high school. You were still in high
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school. But I guess for anyone, a lot can change over the decade. But especially those of us who
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are in our 20s over the past 10 years, you have probably graduated from high school,
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graduated from college, maybe gotten married, had a kid or two. I could not, I don't think I could
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have anticipated or planned everything that has happened, even with my career. Just personally,
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I wouldn't have been able to guess it. So it's been kind of crazy to be able to look back and then
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think what's going to happen from now until 2029. What is the next decade going to hold? I am very
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hopeful, not just my personal life, but just in general. I am optimistic. As crazy as things are,
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I'm optimistic about the future because we always kind of have to be at least to a certain degree.
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Okay, that's not what we're talking about today. We kind of already talked about a recap of the past
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year and like what our goals are going to be and resolutions and different things like that.
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I asked a bunch of you guys on Instagram what your goals are for 2020. You have so many wonderful
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goals and I share a lot with you. And actually the goals that I don't have that you guys have,
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it made me rethink my priorities and maybe add some to my list. I think we all have the goal of reading
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the Bible more, becoming more joyful, more loving, more hospitable Christians. That's certainly true
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for me. I want to do a better job of being a peacemaker in 2020 while not forsaking the truth. I think
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peace and truth can go hand in hand, but I think we all have the tendency, especially on social media,
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to get into conversations that just aren't fruitful. I certainly do that and I want to do a better job
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of that and also be peaceful in my thinking, peaceful in my attitude. I have the tendency to
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kind of worry, be anxious, and be fearful. And so I want to be a peacemaker, to be a peaceful
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person, to be a peace dweller, want to dwell on the peace of Christ and let the peace of Christ rule
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in my heart, as scripture says. And so a lot of your goals also challenged me. And so that was fun
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to be able to do that on Instagram. If you have any more goals, please let me know them. I like to
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encourage people and their goals if they are worthy goals to reach, whether it is some kind of career
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goal or spiritual goal. I like to hear them. They're encouraging and motivating to me. Okay, to start off
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the new year, what we are going to do, we're actually going to do a continuation, a sequel of
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a podcast that we did a full calendar year ago, January of 2019. It was called Three Myths That
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Christian Women Believe. And it was the most popular episode of Relatable for many months,
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the most downloaded episode. And then it was eclipsed by some other episodes that we did more
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recently. But it really struck a nerve in a really good way. It resonated with a lot of you. I bet that
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it's still probably the most shared episode, like the episode that the most of you either texted or
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tweeted or just showed to one of your friends. It just happened to speak to a lot of the things and a
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lot of the lies that young women, especially young Christian women, are hearing in culture right now.
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So today I am going to do three more myths that Christian women believe. I really could do
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four or five or 15 more myths that Christian women believe, but I'm going to stick to three.
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Three is a good number. I'm going to rehash the myths that we did a year ago. Even if you have
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listened to that episode or if you've listened to a replay of that episode, I still think it'll be
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beneficial for you to rehear the three myths that I talked about a year ago. And then we'll go into
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the three more myths that Christian women believe. And then what is the biblical truth behind those
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myths? So when we see these good sounding, maybe even biblical sounding things perpetuated by popular
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pseudo Christian teachers or actual Christian teachers or secular teachers, we can have a biblical
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perspective to approach them and then tear down those arguments either internally or in a loving
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way externally. Okay. So to rehash the lies that we talked about last year, the three myths that
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Christian women believe that we tackled a year ago on Relatable, I think it's episode 69. If you want
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to go back and listen to the episode in full, but I'm going to kind of give a brief summary of those
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lies. So the first lie that we tackled was you are enough. You've probably seen this on Instagram.
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Maybe you've seen it on Pinterest. Maybe you have seen even your favorite Bible study leader or
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Christian mom, influencer, blogger, whoever it is, maybe fitness guru. You have heard someone say this,
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have seen someone say this, I am sure in popular culture, you are enough. And even though this is a
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well-intentioned saying, we as Christians know that this is not true, you are not enough. It is so
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crucial for us as Christians to not just recognize, but to embrace and to rejoice over our not enoughness.
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This is actually the premise, shameless, totally shameless plug here. It's the premise of my book
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that's coming out in May. You are not enough. I'm not enough. And that's okay. And actually it's more
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than just, okay, it's a wonderful thing. Because as 2 Corinthians 12, 9 says, Jesus's grace is
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sufficient for us. His power is perfected in our weakness, not in our power, not in our strength,
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not in our goodness, but in our weakness. The entire biblical narrative points to Jesus's
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sufficiency and our insufficiency, our inadequacy. In every turn, at every turn in the biblical text
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and in our own lives, we are met with some form or another of our ineptitude. We are faced with our
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inability to see the future, to make effective or successful plans, to be righteous, to be obedient,
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to make good decisions, to save ourselves, to meet the standards of either the world or of God
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himself. We are lacking. We are wayward. We are corrupt and depraved, lost, confused, weak,
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and needy. We are not enough. Now, I understand that the people who encourage women by saying that
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we are enough, typically, they definitely mean well, but they typically mean that our bodies or
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our capabilities, et cetera, are enough and that we shouldn't be comparing ourselves or feeling like
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we can't be a good mom or employee, whatever. And I get that. But my response to that is still this.
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The answer to our insecurity is not our sufficiency. The answer to our insecurity is not our own
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sufficiency. It is God's. So knowing that the creator of the universe knit us together in our
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mother's wombs with purpose and care and redeemed us through his son and chose us before the foundation
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of the world, says Ephesians 1.4, this is the knowledge that alleviates our insecurity,
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that the God who made and chose and shepherds us, sees us and hears us and cares for us,
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and he meets us in our weaknesses, and his power is perfected through that weakness.
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God made us, you and I, he made us not enough. If we were enough, we wouldn't need the cross. If we
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were enough, we wouldn't need his word. And even just pragmatically speaking, if we were enough,
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we wouldn't need family or friends or the church or community or prayer. 1 Corinthians 12, as most of
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you know, depicts the church of Christ as a body with many members, with many different parts. To
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put the passage into the context of what we're talking about here, a hand isn't enough on its own.
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A foot or an eye or an elbow isn't enough on its own. They are all dependent on the rest of the body
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to properly function. So you and I are not enough in any way, and that's okay. That's okay because
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Christ, our sufficiency, our strength, our salvation, the head of the body that is the church,
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is enough. He is enough. And because of that, we rejoice in all that we lack. So myth number one,
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you are enough. Reality, you are not enough. I'm not enough. That's okay. Myth number two that we
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tackled. You have to love yourself before you can love other people. We have talked about this
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particular myth a lot because it is so popular and so pervasive in modern culture. And guess what?
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It's not new. You can go back and you can look, for example, John Piper was writing sermons and
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writing articles about the myth of self-love in the 1970s and 80s. And so this idea of trendy narcissism,
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as I've called it many times, is not new. Now it's probably waxed and waned in our society,
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and it's definitely made a swift comeback and a powerful comeback, especially through social media.
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So maybe it's more ubiquitous than it was in the 1970s, but it's always been around because we've
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always been naturally selfish and prideful people. And modern psychology, and by modern, I mean over
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the past 50 years, has obsessed over this idea that all bad behavior goes back to a lack of self-esteem.
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And there's really, there aren't very many studies, if any, legitimate studies that back up
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that a lack of self-esteem is the root cause of all bad behavior. That's just not true.
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So we've talked about this myth a lot because even Christians, we hear say, well, Jesus said to love
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your neighbor as yourself. As yourself, they say, is a command. You have to love yourself before you can
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love other people. But grammatically, that's not even what that means. If you read it in English,
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or if you go back to the original, the original text, the original language, you're not going to
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find that this is a command to love ourselves. This is a given. This doesn't mean that we are
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always affectionate towards ourselves, that we always look in the mirror and think that we're so
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awesome and pretty and talented. It means that we all are born with this natural, this inherent
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drive for self-preservation. And that is how Jesus is telling us that we should love other people in
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the same way that you seek to nourish your own body, that you seek to alleviate yourself from pain,
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that you seek to provide for yourself, that kind, you should feel that kind of natural driver. You
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should have that kind of relentless drive towards other people in the same way that you feed yourself
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when you're hungry. You should feed someone else when they're hungry in the same way that you drink
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when you're thirsty. You should offer someone something to drink when they are thirsty. That is the kind
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of love your neighbor as yourself that Jesus is talking about. He's not talking about that we
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need to wake up in the morning, tell ourselves we're Beyonce before we can go out and serve other
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people. I think that if we break down that logic, it's pretty obvious to see that this is not what
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the God of the universe who bled and died for us meant by that. And by the way, I do want to say
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this does not mean I always feel like I need to clarify this. This does not mean that you should
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be self-loathing. Self-love and self-loathing are two sides of the same self-focused, self-obsessed
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coin. We are constantly swinging in this pendulum between self-love and self-loathing. And so the option
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or the antidote to self-loathing is not actually self-love. It is self-forgetfulness and God's love.
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And so that's what I always tell people because I get messages, I get whatever people saying,
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oh, well, God doesn't tell us that we should love ourselves less. The Bible never says that. Well,
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yeah, because the Bible never says that we should love ourselves, period, because we are born
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with a drive for self-preservation. And we do not at any point, the Bible never tells us to love
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ourselves. The Bible never tells us that we need to focus on self-esteem. The Bible never tells us that
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we need to build ourselves up. In fact, it's just the opposite, not self-deprecation,
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but self-forgetfulness. So it is a lie from the pit of hell that you have to love yourself before
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you can love other people. This comes in many forms that you can't pour out an empty cup. And so you
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have to focus on self-care before you can serve other people. That's not true either. Yes, our bodies
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do need rest. There's nothing. I get this question a lot. Like, is it wrong for me to go get my nails
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done? No, our bodies do need rest. God did create us for balance. He did create us for leisure. He did
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create us for rest as well as for work. I mean, we see that even reflected in the creation story. We
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are to take a Sabbath. Human beings are not naturally and automatically rejuvenating. We actually have to
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recharge. And so there's nothing wrong with rest for the purpose of being able to work more efficiently
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and more effectively. But this idea that we need self-care or we need self-love in order to care
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for or love other people is wrong. And it shows a lack of dependence on our good shepherd who loves
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and cares for us totally sufficiently. Thank goodness we don't have to depend on self-love and
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self-care, which is totally unreliable in order to care for and love other people, or else we would
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never care for or love other people effectively. So that was myth number two. You have to love yourself
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before you can love other people. And I have an entire episode, I think, dedicated to that specific
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myth. And it's called the myth of self-love. So you can go back and listen to that as well.
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Third myth that we tackled a year ago on Three Myths Christian Women Believe is be you. So you've
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probably heard you do you, don't be sorry for who you are. And authenticity can be and often is a very
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good thing in that you are confident in the abilities that God has given you and you are
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working to use those for his glory and the good of those around you. We are certainly not called to
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pretend to have different talents than we have or to lie about the talents that we have. Lying about
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who we are or what we can do would certainly be a sin. But it's a big but here. But authenticity is
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not a good thing when it is used as an excuse to sin. When it is used to embrace unbiblical
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sexuality, for example, or even to write off certain sins as simply quirks of our personality
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type or to refuse to obey God because we think something is not in our wheelhouse. God is not
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limited by our Enneagram type. He's not limited by our Myers-Briggs type. He's not limited by our
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For consider your calling, brothers. Not many of you were wise according to worldly standards. Not
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many were powerful. Not many were of noble birth. But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame
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the wise. God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong. God chose what is low and despised
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in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are, so that no human being
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might boast in the presence of God. And because of him, you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us
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wisdom from God, righteousness and sanctification and redemption, so that as it is written, let the
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one who boasts, boast in the Lord. He is not interested in what we think or what the Enneagram
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or any personality test says that we are likely to do. That doesn't mean that our personalities
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don't give us propensity towards something. Of course, I think I have the natural propensity
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to do what I am doing, whereas other people have other personalities that make them better suited for
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something else. But all I'm saying is that God's plan is not limited by that. I am sure that Moses
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didn't think that he had the personality type to be used the way that God used him. And it was probably
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true of David as well. God chooses very unlikely and seemingly unequipped people to accomplish his
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purposes very often. Okay, that is the refresher for the three myths that Christian women believe.
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And here are the next three. Obviously, I'll go one by one. These are really three pieces of advice
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that we are given, particularly as Christian women, that sound good, but aren't good.
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Myth number one today is maybe a little controversial, but just go with me here. Myth number one is give
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yourself grace. This is a directive that we're given a lot in Christian and non-Christian circles.
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Give yourself grace. Now, you're probably wondering what could possibly be wrong with this. Are we not
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supposed to give ourselves grace? Are we really just supposed to criticize ourselves all the time?
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Well, obviously, I'm going to explain. But first, let me establish this. And this is something that I
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hadn't thought about until recently. The Bible never tells us to do this. The Bible never tells us to
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give ourselves grace. The Bible doesn't even say that it's possible for us to forgive ourselves.
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We are not expected or called to give ourselves grace, not because we should beat ourselves up,
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but because it is God who gives grace. It is God who extends mercy. It is God who offers
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ultimate forgiveness. It is God who shows patience to us. And this is so much better than us showing
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grace to ourselves because the grace that we show to ourselves is limited and conditional. And of
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course, we can also show grace to other people and people can show grace to us. But the ultimate
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grace and the most meaningful grace and the most eternal, the only eternal grace that we can be
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shown is from God himself. Therefore, it is the only healing grace that really exists.
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We are, as I was talking about earlier when I was discussing the myth of self-love, we are constantly
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swinging on this pendulum between arrogance and self-hatred.
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And if our stability is dependent upon us loving ourselves or giving ourselves grace,
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then we are in big trouble. And that's why this matters. So in the same way that I said,
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self-love and self-loathing are two sides of the same self-focused coin. And that the antidote to this
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going back and forth from one extreme to another is not. So the antidote to self-loathing is not
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self-love, but it's actually self-forgiftfulness and God's love. In the same way, self-forgiveness
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and self-deprecation are two sides of the same self-focused coin. Therefore, the antidote to
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self-deprecation or constant self-criticism is not self-forgiveness, but again, self-forgiftfulness.
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It is not more self-forgiveness that we need, but God's forgiveness that we need. Remember,
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2 Corinthians 12, 9 says that his grace is sufficient to you, for you. Not your grace,
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but his grace. It is sufficient. You don't need to give yourself grace because God has given you
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grace and his grace is way better than yours. It is complete. It is sufficient for you. His grace has
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power. It actually does something. A grace for yourself may make you feel better, but his grace
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actually does something. I have an alliteration for what God's grace does that our own grace cannot.
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So God's grace saves through faith. It sanctifies, it strengthens, and it sustains. It's not really
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an alliteration because an alliteration, well, it kind of is. They all start with an S, but it's a
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little bit different than an alliteration, but it saves, it sanctifies, it strengthens, and it sustains.
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A grace you give yourself cannot do that. You're not even capable of giving yourself a kind of grace
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that can save you, that can strengthen you, that can sustain you, and that can sanctify you.
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The only thing that you and I are capable of in the realm of so-called giving yourself
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grace is making excuses for ourselves. Now, sometimes these excuses that we make for ourselves
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are totally legitimate, and sometimes they're not. Either way, they're not enough to give
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us the lasting contentment and peace that we are looking for and that we find in the grace
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of God. There's another point in this myth that I want to highlight. Sometimes the directive
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to give ourselves grace is used in a way that goes something like this. Shame is from the devil.
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Shame is from Satan. Shame is from the pit of hell. And then that extends to you shouldn't
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feel guilty. You shouldn't have regrets. You don't have any regrets at all. You just learn
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from your mistakes. You have experiences. You have learning experiences. But that is a myth.
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Not all shame is from Satan. As Christians, we should be ashamed of our sins, both past
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and present. That doesn't mean that we wallow in shame. Certainly that temptation is from
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Satan. But it means that when we remember or when we acknowledge how we have sinned against
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God, we are not just ashamed of these sins. We actually hate these sins. And this hatred
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of our sins actually compels us to worship God in more earnest, that he would make a way
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for us in our shameful sinfulness to be forgiven, for our slates to be wiped clean. Here's one example
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of the word shame being used towards Christians in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 6, 1 through 5.
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When one of you has a grievance against another, does he dare go to the law before the unrighteous
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instead of the saints? Or do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world
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is to be judged by you, are you incompetent to try trivial cases? Do you not know that we are to
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judge angels? How much more than matters pertaining to this life? So if you have such cases, why do you
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lay them before those who have no standing in the church? I say this to your shame. So the point of
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this passage is obviously not shame. But the point that I'm trying to make is that Paul,
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in admonishing Christians in Corinth, he is saying you should be ashamed of this behavior
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that you are taking part of right now, that you instead of working out a dispute among yourselves,
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you're actually going to the civil courts who are unbelievers. If you are incompetent to judge
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matters among yourselves, how can you actually be expected to judge angels one day, which Paul is
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saying that we will do? And he says this to our shame. And so Corinthians in this passage are
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supposed to be, in this context, are supposed to be ashamed of the bad behavior that they are
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engaging in, of the sins that they are engaging in. That is a good thing. They should be ashamed of
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ungodly behavior. Paul also talks about that godly grief, we hear that godly grief should lead to
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repentance, that godly grief is therefore a good thing. 2 Corinthians 7, 9 says the Corinthians were
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grieved into repenting. This is a different passage. Two verses later,
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for see what earnestness this godly grief has produced in you, but also what eagerness to clear
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yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what longing, what zeal, what punishment. So while we don't wallow
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in shame, because in Christ we are new creations, the old has passed and the new has come, we do mourn over
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the sins that we have and the sins that we struggle against. In that, we are actively fighting against
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them because they are shameful. We hate them. And we are given grace to save us, sanctify us, strengthen
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us, and sustain us. But as Romans 6 says, we do not keep sinning that grace may abound. That grace
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actually produces in us a sadness and a sorrow and even a shame over sin that we might be moved to
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repentance. And so if this myth, give yourself grace, which the Bible doesn't actually say is
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possible and which doesn't actually have any power in our lives, if this myth is being used to excuse
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sin or to say that we shouldn't feel any sadness over past or present sin, then it needs to be completely
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ignored. And even if it's not being used for that, what we need to do is to redirect our energy from
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trying to give grace to ourselves and remembering that God, the God of the universe, the holy and just
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God who has every right to show his wrath to us, has redeemed us through his son and in that way has
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shown us incredible grace. And that grace is sufficient for our confidence, not any grace that we can give
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ourselves. So number two, the second mythical directive that we are given in popular culture
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today is to take up space. Take up space. How many times have we heard this one? Give yourself
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permission to take up space, to show up, to stop apologizing, to make yourself room at the table,
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to stop asking people to invite you, to just say, I'm here and I have my place at the table, etc. We're
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told this kind of stuff all the time. It's supposed to be super empowering. This is a calling to
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assert yourself. It is a worldly calling, though. And like most worldly callings, it sounds really
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good. And there might be, there might be even a little bit of truth to it. We don't need to
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constantly apologize for our presence. We don't need to be embarrassed about the strengths that
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God has given us or the weaknesses that God has given us. We don't need to vie for the affirmation,
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the attention, and the invitation of other people. So that much is absolutely true. But this lie of
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self-assertion is just like all of the other lies in this toxic culture of self-love. It doesn't
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offer the right solutions if our problem is that we are stuck in a rut of belittling ourselves.
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The answer then is not to assert ourselves. Self-assertion and self-belittling are two sides
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of the same self-centered coin. The antidote to our constant self-belittling or our constant
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self-criticism is not self-assertion, but again, self-forgetfulness. We do not need to assert
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ourselves into every space we occupy, but rather assert God and his gospel into every space we
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occupy. John 3.30, he must increase and I must decrease. Talk about a countercultural verse that we
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tend to disregard today, especially as women who feel like we have to be empowered in order to be
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important or to have value. It is completely countercultural, John 3.30, in today's age of
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trendy narcissism. This doesn't say that a God should increase and I must increase or not. The bigger I
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make God in my life, the bigger I will be, which is what the prosperity gospel teaches. But as God
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increases in my life, as his authority increases in every area of my life, I decrease. So my personal
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dreams, my personal wants, my personal ambitions, my personal desires and insistence upon my own way,
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they get smaller and smaller. Essentially, I take up less and less space. And here's the thing.
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If you are walking with God, if you are aiming to live your life in obedience to him, you don't have
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to worry about taking up space or telling other people to scoot over or asserting yourself. He doesn't
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need you to make room for yourself. He is working in and through you and will make a way for exactly
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what he wants to accomplish. So that's not your responsibility to make sure that you're taking
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up space. And that's a huge relief. And that is what you can find confidence in, that we are to love
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the Lord, our God, with all our heart, mind, soul, and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves.
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That's it. We're not called to take up space. That's what the woman of God is called to do.
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Uh, what business does the woman of God have taking up space when a, our calling is to become
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less as God becomes more and B, uh, we are loved and noticed and cared for by the King of Kings.
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Why do we need to take up space to have confidence or to have value? Uh, we are free to be small.
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We are free to not take up space. We are free to humble ourselves. We are free to let others take
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up space while we learn to decrease as God increases. That is good news. Uh, constantly
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trying to assert ourselves is tiring as is all worship of the God of self. By the way,
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a God's yoke is easy and his burden is light. He promises that, but the yoke and burden of the God
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of self is difficult and heavy. So be free from trying to, uh, feeling like you constantly have to
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assert yourself and take up space. Be content with God being glorified in your life. That is a much
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grander adventure than self-assertion will ever grant you. Uh, myth number three, final myth,
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your feelings are valid. Now we've talked about this a lot as well. We actually did a whole
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episode. I think it's called all the feels. It was a couple of weeks ago. And so I won't spend too
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much time on this particular myth, but I do want to add some thoughts that I didn't add in the episode.
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If you do want to listen to that episode, uh, please go back and listen to it. But myth number
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three, your feelings are valid. Uh, yes, your feelings are real because they exist, but they
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are not all valid. Valid literally means having a grounding in reality and truth. And I think
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all of us, if we're honest, know that not every single one of our feelings has a grounding in
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reality or truth. Some of our feelings are downright irrational. Emotions are not inherently bad.
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They're actually part of our human makeup as image bearers of God. God himself shows emotions
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throughout the Bible from anger and regret, as Genesis 6 says, to joy and to sympathy. Uh,
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but they can lead us astray. Jeremiah 17, 9 says that the heart is desperately wicked or sick and
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that we can't understand it. So we can acknowledge our emotions without following our hearts. And we
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discern which emotions are valid and which are not by weighing them against the word of God. We discern
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which emotions are good and which are not by weighing them against the word of God. Um, I got
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an interesting email the other day from someone who told me that their emotions and living in this
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constant, uh, this constant self-love over emotional kind of toxic place in their life where they're almost,
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um, they're almost obsessed with not everyone obviously who is depressed is like this, but
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unfortunately a lot of young women are brought into this world of obsessing over depression or wanting
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to be depressed or wanting to be anxious or being addicted to therapy in some way. And again, this
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certainly is not true for everyone who goes to therapy. I've been helped by counseling, but it's almost
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become trendy sadly to be depressed and anxious and all of this. And I got an email from someone saying,
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I realized looking back that the music that I was listening to, uh, was kind of keeping me in this
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pit of depression and self-obsession and all of that. And I think it's true that our emotions can be
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so manipulated by the things that we listen to, by the things that we read. I was talking to someone
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the other day. I don't remember who I was talking to, but I was obsessed with twilight when I was 15.
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This was like when twilight first came out. So I had to like wait for new moon and whatever
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the third book was to come out. And I was obsessed with these books, totally obsessed with them,
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but I was also like emotionally invested. I remember I had to go on some kind of road trip
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with my family and I was reading the second twilight book and I was on the verge of tears
00:31:15.920
the entire trip, the entire time we were there, the entire time we were in the car,
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because I was so emotionally invested in these books. And that's not rational. Like those feelings
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aren't valid and they actually had some kind of tangible effect on my life in my mind. They can
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very easily warp how we see reality. And so instead of following our hearts, instead of validating all
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of our feelings, we have to keep them in check. I mean, thank goodness we have a King of our hearts
00:31:43.900
who is also the source of truth. And so instead of following our feelings, we get to subject our
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feelings to Christ, which again is a huge burden lifted off of our shoulders. The world wants to
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tell you that worshiping the God of self will make you free, will make you happy. It's the same kind
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of lie that Satan gave Eve in the garden of Eden, but really it's so much more burdenful because you
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are not a good God and you are not worth your worship. You are not worth your following. You don't know
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up from down, right from wrong, true from false, but God does. And his burden is easy. His yoke is easy
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and his burden is light. So these are three more myths that Christian women believe today. And maybe
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I'll have three more next year or even before that. There are so many myths. I won't give away too many
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myths because I have other myths that I'm going to be tackling in my book that I want you to buy
00:32:31.740
May 5th. And that's all I have today. The next couple of weeks are going to be a little bit different.
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We're transitioning a little bit over on relatable podcasts behind the scenes. And so as we are kind of
00:32:45.780
gearing up for the new year, it's going to be a little, a little bit deferred before we really
00:32:51.520
launch into 2020, there are going to be new episodes released. There are going to be a couple
00:32:57.020
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00:33:08.140
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