RFK Jr. The Defender - March 26, 2021


Underestimated with Jenny McCarthy and JB Handley


Episode Stats

Length

1 hour and 5 minutes

Words per Minute

164.38544

Word Count

10,833

Sentence Count

755

Misogynist Sentences

1

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary

In this episode, we discuss J.B.'s new book, Underestimated: An Autism Miracle, written with his son, Jamie, who is a non-speaker. Jamie has had autism since he was a very young, and for the first 18 years of his life, his father, Bobby, thought that his son was mentally retarded. And then, one day, something happened that changed his entire outlook on his son's future. He realized that Jamie was not only smart, but could communicate with people who are non-verbal, who are also not verbal. And that is what led to the creation of a school designed for kids with autism in Portland, Oregon, called The Victory School, which has since become a world-renowned center for the development of non- verbal students with autism. In this episode we discuss this amazing discovery, and how it changed the trajectory of Jamie's life, and the lives of many others like him, who have been left behind in the traditional education system. We also discuss the role of teachers with autism and how they can help unlock the full potential of a child with a disability like Jamie's. And, of course, we talk about vaccines and the role they play in the development and treatment of children on the spectrum. This episode is sponsored by Safe Schools, a leading non-profit organization dedicated to educating, caring and equipping children with the necessary tools to learn and grow their potential for success in the 21st century school systems. Visit Safe Schools to find out more about their mission, services, and programs to help students achieve their full potential in the best possible education, and to make the most of their potential and access to the opportunities they can access the best education and services they can receive. Visit safeschools.org/safeschools to learn more about what they can do to improve their opportunities to learn, and access the most effective and access their best opportunities to achieve the best learning opportunities, and get the most out of their day-to-day learning opportunities and practices. Learn more about the programs and services to support their most valuable resource, including early intervention programs, and support their success in life and services, including the support they receive, to help them achieve the most meaningful learning opportunities. You can find a list of resources to support the most impactful learning opportunities for students on the most challenging areas of the school system, at Safe Schools and the programs they need to be most effective in the field of education.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 like we are live on Facebook.
00:00:29.000 We're live.
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00:00:33.000 All right.
00:00:34.000 Hi, guys.
00:00:36.000 Hey, Jan.
00:00:37.000 Hi, Jamie.
00:00:39.000 I want the camera to see him, too, so everyone can see.
00:00:42.000 There he is.
00:00:42.000 Hey, Jamie.
00:00:45.000 First of all, congratulations on the success thus far out of the gate, JB, in this book, Underestimated, An Autism Miracle.
00:00:55.000 Bobby, I'm so glad that you, when you popped on, you said you just read it and were blown away by it.
00:01:00.000 Why don't we just dive right into it with your thoughts, Bobby?
00:01:03.000 You know, I, because I knew about it because I talked to...
00:01:08.000 And J.B., on and off while it was happening and was listening to this, you know, the tremendous excite.
00:01:14.000 And what really...
00:01:16.000 A couple of things really struck me about the book.
00:01:19.000 People should know J.B., who I've been friends with for many years, is a Portland, Oregon businessman.
00:01:29.000 Very successful.
00:01:31.000 His son, Jamie...
00:01:34.000 is a non-speaker who's had autism from when he was very young.
00:01:40.000 JB has also been one of the people who kind of brought me into the movement for safer vaccines and for medical freedom.
00:01:52.000 And he's been one of the really most articulate, sensible, common sense voices on this issue for many, many years, and has mentored many people in the movement just through his own conduct.
00:02:07.000 And we're all, I've been actually to the Victory School, Which is the school that JB created, or helped create, organized the creation, and I think probably funded a lot himself, although I don't exactly know what the details are, up in Portland, and that Jamie has attended all of his life.
00:02:29.000 And it's a school that's designed for kids who are non-speakers and kids who have autism.
00:02:37.000 And, you know, Jamie, I think, I hope you'll excuse me when I describe what Jamie's impression of his son was for the first 18 years of his life.
00:02:51.000 He believed his son was mentally retarded.
00:02:54.000 And he believed not only was he impaired by autism, but he had the intellectual disability, severe debilitating intellectual disability that was stopping him from speaking.
00:03:08.000 And at one point he called me and he explained this new process which had just been created by these incredibly intuitive teachers who developed this This ability to communicate with people who are non-speakers on whiteboards.
00:03:29.000 And what he told me then, which is one of the stories that's told in the book, is that this extraordinary discovery that these children Have absolutely exquisitely functioning minds and that their difficulty is motor coordination, particularly in small skills.
00:03:53.000 And so they aren't able to communicate, not because they're not having very sophisticated and profound thoughts, But because they can't force their tongue, which has all these nerves and muscles in it to actually articulate that, and their bodies are completely out of their control.
00:04:14.000 And essentially, the book, which is short, I read it in a single night, describes this incredible discovery of a loving father, devoted father, The son that he's known for all these years is actually a complete person who's probably smarter than any of us.
00:04:41.000 He learned to do calculus in essentially a day and his calculus teacher said, I can't teach him anymore.
00:04:51.000 You need a college level teacher because he's too fast.
00:04:55.000 And then the sensitivity and the kind of purity and the clarity of his initial communications with his father in which he's saying to him, you know, he's saying, I've been waiting to say these words to you for so long that I'm grateful for.
00:05:16.000 I know that this illness that I have has been as hard on you as it has been on me.
00:05:23.000 And I want to thank you for your patience and for your devotion and for the love that you've given me for all of these years.
00:05:30.000 And then, you know, that was just the beginning.
00:05:32.000 And then just this flood of extraordinarily acute observations about other people.
00:05:40.000 About teachers who were failing him, about the cruelty of the system that is used by many teachers, by the traditional format for teaching these children.
00:05:55.000 And one of the incredible stories in this book is, you know, there's this system called BCBA, which I don't know much about.
00:06:06.000 It's essentially an association of teachers who are certified in a certain way of teaching children with autism, and it's a very kind of authoritarian way of teaching that is a risk and reward that, you know, you get punished if you don't meet certain thresholds, and then you get rewarded for others.
00:06:29.000 And it's a very meticulous and extremely controlled and rigorous A method with all kinds of prescriptions that these people take years to learn.
00:06:39.000 And then JB has hired all these people for his school.
00:06:44.000 They're now running it.
00:06:46.000 And when he comes back from this trip with a, you know, utterly new enlightenment and saying, and Jamie starts talking to his teachers, And telling them, the way that you're teaching is not, you know, helping us.
00:07:04.000 It's a cruel way of, and we all ought to be on these letter boards.
00:07:11.000 And they are making up stories and saying, you know, this is, he's not really talking.
00:07:18.000 He's not really communicating.
00:07:19.000 And he'll tell them things that only he and they could know.
00:07:24.000 And that JB didn't know.
00:07:28.000 And yet they maintain this sort of delusion.
00:07:32.000 And it was reminiscent in a lot of ways of, you know, these orthodoxies, these mindsets that JB and I have run into and you've run into, Jenny, of course, in the vaccine space where you run into pediatricians who have been doing these things for many years that are very damaging to the kids.
00:07:54.000 And the evidence is finally complete.
00:07:57.000 You know, we have the studies here, we have the data that shows you should not be doing this, and they cannot come to the terms with the fact that all of the things that they've been doing for many, many years are damaging and are not helpful and are actually cruel and somewhat, I would say, barbaric, given what we know today.
00:08:19.000 Correct.
00:08:20.000 And I just want to jump in and say, it is shocking when you went back to the school, JB, and said, look at this miraculous method that has worked for Jamie.
00:08:29.000 It wasn't like the Lovos technique where they were electrocuting these kids.
00:08:34.000 It doesn't harm them at all.
00:08:37.000 It should have been like the 4th of July with everybody celebrating, and instead there was this just...
00:08:43.000 The bristling air of hostility and anger.
00:08:49.000 I know it must have been familiar to you, JB, that running up against a wall of bureaucracy and institutional ignorance.
00:09:02.000 Yeah.
00:09:03.000 Well, first off, Bobby and Jenny, thank you guys so much for Being here to celebrate in the book coming out yesterday.
00:09:10.000 So Bobby, just to build on a few things you said.
00:09:12.000 So a BCBA is somebody who is certified in Applied Behavioral Analysis or ABA. So ABA is effectively the autism industrial complex for treating children with autism.
00:09:24.000 And it deserves to be scrutinized a lot more than it has been.
00:09:27.000 Now, I'm not the first parent of a child with autism to come back and say that my child felt that ABA was torturous In terms of how they do it.
00:09:36.000 And, you know, at times ABA can be analogous to kind of like dog training, like it's very behaviorally oriented.
00:09:43.000 It inhibits the children from behaviors that may in fact be helping them stay regulated, etc.
00:09:48.000 And so what happened at Jamie's very well intended school, the women who run the school are well intended and they're not BCBAs and they were celebrating like the 4th of July As all this fluency came back with Jamie.
00:10:02.000 But what was happening within the school was with about two thirds of the teachers, every time we'd share these amazing stories, we'd get nothing back.
00:10:09.000 We'd hear nothing.
00:10:10.000 And we started to put together what was happening.
00:10:13.000 And thankfully for Jamie, the teacher who runs the high academic class at his school is not a BCBA. She did celebrate like it was the 4th of July.
00:10:23.000 She embraced everything that Jamie was doing immediately.
00:10:26.000 And she took him under her wing and really protected him from the rest of the school.
00:10:30.000 And it gets even worse.
00:10:34.000 Jamie's school has to have at least two thirds of their teachers with a BCBA next to their name in order for parents to get insurance to pay for the school.
00:10:42.000 It's wired all the way through the system.
00:10:46.000 They have been indoctrinated.
00:10:48.000 What they believe is that the letter board that Jamie spells on, they believe that this is a Ouija board and that the communication partner is the one who's actually, it's actually their words coming out of the board.
00:11:01.000 They actually take it even further.
00:11:03.000 They go, this is cruel because you're giving hope to families and you're You know, you're taking advantage of this poor child who's not capable of doing any of this, right?
00:11:13.000 Like, it's sort of a triple compounding of awful thoughts that they go through.
00:11:18.000 And what's so maddening about that, Bobby and Jenny, is how easy it is to disprove that.
00:11:23.000 And I talk about it in my book.
00:11:25.000 I have a whole chapter on this, even though I didn't want to write about it, honestly, because it's so stupid.
00:11:31.000 Like you said, Bobby, Jamie has shared things with different communication partners that he's had that they couldn't have possibly known.
00:11:37.000 He's shared things with me about his school day that I couldn't have possibly known.
00:11:41.000 But even more so, a number of these kids go from the letter board to a keyboard, which is what Jamie's working on now.
00:11:52.000 And the keyboard right now is one that I hold, and Jamie spells.
00:11:57.000 But then they go to a fixed...
00:12:00.000 Which means they're at that point an independent communicator.
00:12:03.000 And those kids already exist.
00:12:05.000 And so my simple comment for any hater out there trying to say, oh, this isn't really real, or it's a Ouija board is like, how many of the kids on the fixed boards do you need to tell you that the letter board was the transitional communication device that got them to the finish line?
00:12:19.000 How many do you need?
00:12:20.000 Do you need one?
00:12:21.000 Do you need 10?
00:12:23.000 And just to preface this, JB, Jamie's not the only one.
00:12:27.000 There are thousands that have successfully gone through this program, right?
00:12:33.000 Absolutely.
00:12:34.000 Elizabeth Vossler, who founded Spelling to Communicate, says that there are somewhere between 1,000 and 1,500 There are fluent spellers in the world, a number of whom have gone through college.
00:12:48.000 In some cases, they've done so with what we call a communication partner.
00:12:52.000 In other cases, they've become independent and largely done it themselves.
00:12:57.000 Jamie's not a pioneer.
00:12:58.000 Really, he's riding the coattails of these amazing families that have already done this.
00:13:04.000 Many colleges have bent over backwards to accommodate these spellers.
00:13:08.000 What I can tell you is that Like in our school, which again is a well-intended school, Jamie was in a class of non-speakers and after we had this amazing miracle with him, obviously we wanted every other family to know what had happened.
00:13:22.000 And so we did.
00:13:23.000 We reached out to each family of a non-speaker and then a BCBA teacher went in behind us and talked each of them out of doing it.
00:13:31.000 It was pretty amazing.
00:13:33.000 Months went by, the lockdown happened, and then we realized what had happened.
00:13:37.000 We didn't know.
00:13:38.000 At some point, the parents have to take the initiative.
00:13:43.000 Months went by, and we realized what had happened, so we started inviting these families over to our house.
00:13:48.000 Sometimes people don't really appreciate what I'm talking about.
00:13:51.000 If you read the book, you will.
00:13:53.000 You realize the depth of what Jamie is capable of expressing.
00:13:56.000 Some people think, oh, he's hitting images on an iPad or Getting his basic needs met.
00:14:01.000 It's like, no, no, we have full, complex communication on any topic.
00:14:06.000 He can write a term paper, right?
00:14:09.000 He can express his deepest emotions.
00:14:12.000 He can analyze a situation.
00:14:14.000 And when parents sit in a room with Jamie for the first time, and they have a non-speaker, and they watch him start spelling, I mean, as you can imagine, it is a deeply, deeply moving spiritual thing.
00:14:28.000 Event.
00:14:29.000 There are tears flowing everywhere.
00:14:30.000 We've had parents who've just sat on either side of Jamie and just wanted to like soak in every movement of what he's doing.
00:14:36.000 They immediately engage directly with him and realize that nobody needs to interpret anything.
00:14:41.000 They can just ask him a question and it comes back out on the board.
00:14:44.000 And it's not until that moment that they really realize what we're talking about and we say like we've had the miracle of getting our son back.
00:14:52.000 So I just want to make that point to families who will invariably encounter skepticism.
00:14:58.000 I've already heard plenty.
00:14:59.000 You know, somebody posts, oh, this is just a Ouija board, this or that.
00:15:04.000 It's harmful and hurtful, and it's easily disproven for anybody with even a modicum of curiosity.
00:15:09.000 And Bobby, you mentioned it earlier.
00:15:12.000 This is orthodoxy.
00:15:14.000 And when you invest all your time in getting a BCBA and commit yourself to ABA therapy, This refutes much of the tenets of ABA. And I want to talk about something that I think is one of the most important points.
00:15:29.000 And I mentioned this in the book, but, you know, Jamie and I were told about this therapy by a mom named Honey Renacella outside of Philadelphia.
00:15:37.000 And she was experiencing a miracle with her son, Vince, and he was spelling all these amazing things.
00:15:42.000 And This was in December of 2019.
00:15:45.000 And so we got on an airplane and flew back to Northern Virginia to Growing Kids Therapy Center where Elizabeth Vossler invented Spelling to Communicate.
00:15:52.000 And I'd been told ahead of time, look, the core tenet of Growing Kids is the presumption of competence.
00:15:59.000 And this sounds kind of wonky.
00:16:01.000 What it means is Just presume that every kid is brilliant.
00:16:05.000 Okay?
00:16:06.000 Just think that always.
00:16:08.000 And when you go to growing kids, they don't even address the parent.
00:16:11.000 They walk right up and address the child.
00:16:13.000 They talk to them in a normal cadence.
00:16:15.000 They don't talk to them slow.
00:16:17.000 All the parents of S2C kids, they read their kids age-appropriate material and they teach them age-appropriate academics.
00:16:26.000 And It's such a beautiful and simple concept, and yet it's missing from 99% of how kids who are non-speakers with autism are taught.
00:16:34.000 People look at their mannerisms, they see the lack of eye contact, they see that they're not speaking, and they slow down their speech and they make these presumptions of incompetence.
00:16:44.000 And ABA is founded on a presumption of incompetence, and S2C is founded on a presumption of competence.
00:16:52.000 This really manifested itself in a simple and beautiful way.
00:16:54.000 So Jamie and I go into this clinic and I have no idea what's going on.
00:16:57.000 My head is still spinning and I'm fighting between hope and despair and fear and worry and what if it's not for him and maybe this isn't real and all these other feelings.
00:17:06.000 And Elizabeth Vossler brings Jamie into a room to introduce spelling to communicate to him and she turns to him and she puts her hand on his shoulder and she says, Jamie, I know how smart you are.
00:17:21.000 And literally, no one had ever said that to Jamie with that depth of sincerity and realness before.
00:17:28.000 And I've asked Jamie about that moment later, and he says the most amazing thing.
00:17:34.000 The first thing he said was, I thought to myself, how does she know that?
00:17:41.000 It's like he'd been sitting on this secret this whole time, kind of watching the world go by, watching people treat him like he's stupid.
00:17:51.000 And so he said, I thought to myself, how did she know that?
00:17:53.000 He said, and then I said, or then Jamie said to me, I thought to myself, she is the most adorablest person in the whole world.
00:18:04.000 Right?
00:18:05.000 And Elizabeth went on.
00:18:07.000 It was such a beautiful thing.
00:18:08.000 And the reason I can repeat it so perfectly in the book is because it's all on videotape.
00:18:12.000 This is every session Jamie's ever done was going to communicate.
00:18:15.000 And she basically explained to Jamie, Jamie, You know, I got lucky.
00:18:21.000 I was born and I could talk.
00:18:22.000 And for whatever reason, that part of your brain and your mouth did not connect.
00:18:26.000 And that's been really frustrating for you.
00:18:28.000 And she went through and explained how, just as Bobby said, autism is really a motor disability, not a cognitive disability.
00:18:37.000 She knows that speaking and typing and moving his eyes are really hard for Jamie, but she's going to give him a method to communicate that doesn't put as much pressure on those areas that are hard.
00:18:46.000 And it's going to be a way for you to be able to connect with the world.
00:18:50.000 And I really can't emphasize that simple concept enough because it's so important.
00:18:56.000 Just imagine for a moment if what Elizabeth is saying is actually true.
00:19:00.000 Imagine that there are three to five million children in the United States alone, which is the roughly 40% non-speakers within ASD. Imagine for a moment If they're all like Jamie.
00:19:11.000 Imagine if they're all cognitively brilliant.
00:19:14.000 Imagine if they're all being underestimated, as the book is called, and mistreated.
00:19:18.000 And imagine if they could all be unlocked with the right amount of patients and therapy and everything else.
00:19:23.000 And on the one hand, it is profoundly heartbreaking to imagine that we've missed it by that much.
00:19:31.000 And the scale of mistreatment alone.
00:19:34.000 I mean...
00:19:36.000 I'm just thinking about my own son, who was in a school with the best of intentions, who had teachers who loved him, had parents who loved him.
00:19:48.000 And yet, as the years were going on, he was becoming more and more and more frustrated.
00:19:54.000 And the number one reason was nobody believed in him, in his real intelligence.
00:20:01.000 And I think about that compounded over three to five million children and young adults.
00:20:06.000 And their families.
00:20:07.000 It's mystifying that we may have missed things that badly.
00:20:11.000 Jamie is certain that they're all like him.
00:20:13.000 Jamie is certain that every one of them is just like him.
00:20:16.000 Some may have more complex motor challenges.
00:20:18.000 Some may take longer to learn a way to communicate.
00:20:21.000 But he is certain that cognitively they're all like him.
00:20:26.000 JB, the center that you went to, didn't they tell you that they haven't met one child yet?
00:20:35.000 So I was, excuse me, yes, exactly.
00:20:37.000 So I was still, you know, we only went there for two days.
00:20:41.000 And I was really struggling with the scale.
00:20:45.000 What I was realizing was plausible.
00:20:48.000 And by the way, I'm just going to take a little side here.
00:20:51.000 So Jamie just said a funny little word to me.
00:20:53.000 And I've asked him about this, because this is kind of a thing that we do, where he'll say a word that's not really a word, and I'll repeat it back to him.
00:21:01.000 And so, you know, like a million other examples, I asked Jamie, so why do you do that?
00:21:08.000 Just like that, right?
00:21:10.000 Why do you do that?
00:21:11.000 Or what's the point?
00:21:13.000 He said, the point is, you repeat it, and I know you love me.
00:21:20.000 So you better say it right now, Jamie.
00:21:22.000 Exactly.
00:21:22.000 Sorry, I lost my train of thought.
00:21:30.000 No, so I was really like questioning all this and starting to internalize the potential ramifications of this.
00:21:38.000 And so I asked Elizabeth, I said, you know, have you ever had a kid who's come to Growing Kids Therapy Center with the autism label, non-speaker, and they actually were cognitively disabled.
00:21:49.000 Right?
00:21:50.000 Literally, low IQ, mind of a three-year-old, whatever terrible terms they use to describe our kids.
00:21:56.000 And she said, not yet.
00:21:59.000 Wow.
00:22:01.000 It's shocking.
00:22:04.000 So I want to read.
00:22:06.000 There are some comments coming in.
00:22:07.000 I want to read one because it's...
00:22:08.000 Before you start...
00:22:10.000 Go ahead, Bobby.
00:22:11.000 Maybe, will you just explain to the people who are watching...
00:22:17.000 Exactly.
00:22:18.000 How do you get around the motor skills issue?
00:22:21.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:22:22.000 So it's such an important question.
00:22:26.000 Okay, so let's just presume that The shared disability is one of motor planning or motor function or motor cortex, whatever term you want to use.
00:22:35.000 And the kinds of things you'll hear from the non-speakers is they'll say, my body is not my friend.
00:22:39.000 I can't get my body to do what I want.
00:22:42.000 You know, I want to fly to Hawaii, but my body goes to Alaska.
00:22:46.000 Like, I've heard a lot of different ways for kids to describe this.
00:22:49.000 And importantly, fine motor seems to be where things are the most challenged.
00:22:53.000 And one of the areas that I didn't appreciate at all that Virtually every kid I've seen is true, is ocular apraxia.
00:23:00.000 Being able to move your eyes properly.
00:23:02.000 So imagine trying to get up and down this letter board and point things in various corners when you literally have a hard time getting your eyes to even work, okay?
00:23:11.000 So what Spelling to Communicate does is they take it out a fine motor, fingers, mouth, and they put it in a gross motor.
00:23:19.000 You're moving your shoulder to point at a board.
00:23:22.000 And they have a whole brain map and explain this in a much better way than I ever could.
00:23:26.000 But what they basically say is when you do that, it's much easier for a child to get their thoughts out.
00:23:31.000 It's very hard for a non-speaker to retrieve words and bring them out their mouth, even if they can articulate.
00:23:38.000 There's like a block there, and Jamie experiences this and explains it to me.
00:23:41.000 But when they're not as taxed, when they're just moving that shoulder and really nothing else, it starts to flow.
00:23:47.000 And I want to be really careful to explain this.
00:23:50.000 The best analogy for me is somebody with a stroke and they lose the ability to move a part of their body.
00:23:56.000 Then they have to go through very rigorous therapy.
00:23:58.000 And what happens is basically a new map builds in the brain because you have neuroplasticity.
00:24:03.000 So a new movement area myelinates and then they slowly regain that ability to move because of neuroplasticity.
00:24:10.000 That's exactly what they're doing here.
00:24:12.000 They're building neural maps that didn't previously exist and myelinating them.
00:24:17.000 Just like you practice a golf swing and one day it becomes like second nature or anything else.
00:24:21.000 And so slowly pushing on gross motor with a ton of repetition, and I want to emphasize that, we worked with Jamie every single day on this.
00:24:30.000 He just slowly, slowly, slowly got better and better at pointing at letters.
00:24:35.000 And what they do is they take the kids through lessons on different topics and they ask the child to spell words from those lessons.
00:24:46.000 And then very slowly over time, they go from asking them to spell words to ask them to answer questions about the lessons.
00:24:53.000 Then they go from asking them to answer questions about the lessons to the magic threshold, which is they ask them to give their opinion about the lessons.
00:25:02.000 And that's sort of when you hit Nirvana.
00:25:04.000 Yes.
00:25:05.000 I'm going to tell this story really quickly because it is a great story and illustrative.
00:25:09.000 So Jamie learned how to spell from Elizabeth Vossler in December.
00:25:13.000 We went away and worked really hard and by late January we were down in Southern California with a woman named Dawn Marie Gavin who's another practitioner and Jamie was doing a lesson on the Boston Red Sox when they won the World Series back in 06 and he was spelling Fenway Park and all this other stuff and my dad was in the room and we were sitting there and I'm a diehard Yankee fan so I was suffering my way through the lesson and we got to the end and Dawn Marie Was on a 26-letter board,
00:25:43.000 which is needed to be able to spell any independent thought.
00:25:45.000 And she said to Jamie, Jamie, what did you think of that lesson?
00:25:49.000 And I was like, wait a minute.
00:25:51.000 No one's ever asked Jamie.
00:25:53.000 That doesn't have an answer.
00:25:54.000 That's an opinion.
00:25:55.000 Right.
00:25:56.000 You know, I look at my dad like, whoa, what's going on here?
00:25:59.000 And Jamie spells, and I'll never forget it, the Sox won, but the Yankees are champs in my family.
00:26:08.000 And, I mean, I was dead.
00:26:13.000 My dad was dead.
00:26:14.000 And it was the moment where the last barriers of hope or whatever came cascading down.
00:26:24.000 Where I was now a full-on believer that the world had changed in our family and in Jamie's life forever, and he knew it too.
00:26:33.000 I love that story so much.
00:26:35.000 And I just want to ask you, JB, just to reiterate, there's no age limit for this, correct?
00:26:41.000 I mean, so I know a story.
00:26:43.000 His name is Danny Witte, and he's got videos up now.
00:26:47.000 He's down in San Diego.
00:26:48.000 He's this beautiful, amazing man.
00:26:50.000 I've seen him, and I believe he began S2C at 33 or 34.
00:26:58.000 Much as a 70-year-old stroke victim can regain the ability to do certain things through repetition, there's no reason to think that a non-speaker of any age wouldn't be capable of doing this.
00:27:08.000 And if anything, I don't ever want to dissuade someone from starting early, but it seems like as they hit their teens, it becomes easier and easier.
00:27:17.000 Again, I don't want to say that it's easy, all right?
00:27:20.000 Because some kids may take a year to get to where Jamie got in three months.
00:27:25.000 I think the most important reframe that we parents can do for our children, and it's not an easy task, is to believe.
00:27:32.000 Is to firmly believe.
00:27:34.000 And I was surrounded by some amazing parents who I've credited and talked about explicitly in the book, who they kind of bridged hope and they bridged belief for me.
00:27:46.000 And even A day after Honey Renacella called me and I was I had already talked to another mom who was very schooled and was going to communicate and she'd really opened my eyes to this whole idea of treating the children age appropriately and teaching them age appropriately and I just decided to look at Jamie a little differently and never alter my cadence again.
00:28:08.000 Always presume he understands everything I'm doing.
00:28:10.000 You know they tell you um Jenny you appreciate this a little more because you're a parent.
00:28:14.000 Bobby they tell you These kids with autism never, ever, ever read body language.
00:28:20.000 Never read body language, right?
00:28:22.000 And that's where I think ABA has great fault.
00:28:25.000 You know, in ABA, they want the kids to look and behave like us, if you will.
00:28:29.000 Normal, whatever the hell that means.
00:28:31.000 And, you know, look into my eyes.
00:28:33.000 Put your hands down.
00:28:35.000 You know, Jamie tells me when my hands are shaking up in the air, I'm regulating myself.
00:28:38.000 I'm doing that to calm down, to make myself feel better.
00:28:41.000 So imagine being in the middle of something that allows you to maintain Your headspace in a room, and the teacher's snapping at you to cut it out and have quiet hands, as they like to say.
00:28:50.000 And what I say is, when the kid is bouncing the ball off the wall, picking his nose, looking out the window, making funny noises, they're listening the whole time.
00:28:58.000 These are the best listeners in the whole world.
00:29:01.000 Just let them be.
00:29:02.000 Just let them do their thing.
00:29:03.000 Learn to teach them within that environment.
00:29:06.000 And they're the keenest observers.
00:29:08.000 I mean, Jamie...
00:29:09.000 Jimmy knows Spanish because his brother and sister took Spanish in school and we would drill them in the family room and he's just sitting there absorbing everything.
00:29:19.000 Jennifer Larson One of the great stories I want to hear the rest of what you're saying Great stories in your book is that one of the first questions they ask them is they're telling them a story about popcorn and then they're Giving him a quiz to understand what his comprehension level was.
00:29:43.000 And he answers everything perfectly.
00:29:47.000 And then they say to him, where do you eat popcorn?
00:29:50.000 He says, there's a movie theater.
00:29:51.000 How did he know that?
00:29:53.000 And then he's gluten-free, so he doesn't even eat popcorn or Cracker Jacks.
00:30:00.000 Oh, Cracker Jacks, yeah, exactly.
00:30:01.000 And you say to him, what do you eat when you go to a baseball game?
00:30:06.000 And he immediately says Cracker Jacks, and he's never had Cracker Jacks.
00:30:13.000 There are, I mean, you know, it still amazes me, the millions of things.
00:30:20.000 You know, again, Elizabeth Vossler taught me, these are the keenest observers in the world.
00:30:26.000 I think there's something about the loss of one sense.
00:30:29.000 I don't want to speculate why.
00:30:31.000 I just know it's true in the case of Jamie and certainly other kids who I've met.
00:30:35.000 They don't miss a thing.
00:30:37.000 They don't miss a thing.
00:30:39.000 There's all these terrible stereotypes about autism, about lack of affection, this and that.
00:30:45.000 One of the many amazing things about Jamie is he cares more about his friends and family than anything in the world.
00:30:53.000 If a friend of his is down and out at school, That's all he wants to talk about, right?
00:30:59.000 His sense of priority for what matters in the world.
00:31:03.000 He doesn't do social media.
00:31:04.000 He's not on a computer.
00:31:06.000 Those things are too hard on his eyes, right?
00:31:08.000 Because he does have ocular challenges, like they all do.
00:31:12.000 He's in nature all the time, and he just loves his family.
00:31:16.000 He loves his big brother.
00:31:17.000 When his big brother goes away to college, he's devastated, wants to talk to him, loves his baby sister.
00:31:22.000 He's got a bunch of cousins and aunts and uncles around here.
00:31:25.000 That's what matters to Jamie.
00:31:27.000 And he grounds all of us.
00:31:29.000 He grounds all of us with his prioritization of what really matters in life.
00:31:34.000 And he's got a bunch of buddies on letter boards and they meet once a week.
00:31:38.000 They're all like him.
00:31:40.000 They're all so- The Dude Bro Social Club.
00:31:44.000 And many of them chose to write essays for the book.
00:31:47.000 This was a very exciting time in our weekly Zoom calls where we introduced this idea of this book.
00:31:53.000 And each boy was given the opportunity, if they wanted, to share some of their thoughts with the world.
00:31:58.000 And of course, we put those into its own chapter.
00:32:00.000 And I mean, some of the remarkable language that you see in terms of how these boys express themselves.
00:32:05.000 And I think that's something else that I want to touch on that is a little bit of a pet peeve of mine.
00:32:11.000 And Jamie has affirmed it for me, too.
00:32:14.000 There's a remarkable, a great book called The Reason I Jump.
00:32:17.000 And it's a Japanese boy who learned to spell on a letter board, right?
00:32:21.000 The only issue I take with the book is the way it's positioned.
00:32:25.000 It's positioned as like they found a Martian, like inside the mind of a boy with autism, like one in a billion that this happened.
00:32:32.000 We somehow got into their brain, right?
00:32:35.000 It kind of discourages other parents from giving it a go.
00:32:39.000 It's like, oh, okay, this was like a real anomaly.
00:32:42.000 Something weird happened.
00:32:43.000 No, it didn't.
00:32:44.000 Nothing weird happened.
00:32:47.000 And moreover, It's not a book about the autistic mind or whatever frames they use.
00:32:53.000 It's that kid's mind.
00:32:54.000 Like, if I wrote a book about my philosophy on the world, it wouldn't be a human's view of the world.
00:33:00.000 It would be J.B. Hanley's view of the world, right?
00:33:02.000 And Jamie takes real exception to that, too.
00:33:05.000 Like, first of all, he doesn't identify as autism.
00:33:07.000 He says, I'm a non-speaker, right?
00:33:09.000 I'm a non-speaker.
00:33:10.000 And moreover, I'm just me.
00:33:12.000 And I can tell you, like, being on the phone on a weekly basis with six of these boys, they have some shared values.
00:33:19.000 They're all different.
00:33:21.000 They're all different.
00:33:22.000 They're not all the same.
00:33:23.000 Why have we categorized these kids, right?
00:33:27.000 Oh, this is how people with autism think.
00:33:29.000 No, it's not.
00:33:30.000 That's how that kid thinks.
00:33:32.000 And so it just, it drives me bananas.
00:33:35.000 I've seen what beautiful individuals they are, just like the three of us don't agree on everything and have different views of the world and everything else.
00:33:42.000 Why do people do that?
00:33:43.000 Why do they have to over-categorize our kids?
00:33:45.000 So that's just a little rant of mine.
00:33:47.000 And Jamie's definitely affirmed it with me, that it bothers him as well, just to be, you know, they, oh, you have autism, therefore you think this way.
00:33:54.000 No, he doesn't.
00:33:55.000 He's just Jamie.
00:33:57.000 That's right.
00:33:58.000 I don't want to be a spoiler, but one of the most exciting things about the book is that the first half is written by you, Jamie, but the second half is written by Jamie.
00:34:10.000 And the interview there with him is, I've never read an interview that is poignant and just the clarity of thought and the purity of his soul just comes through and his humor and his power of observation and his constant engagement and the depth and the The profundity of his understanding of what's happening in his environment and
00:34:41.000 in the interactions, the social interactions of people around him.
00:34:46.000 You know, one of the things when people describe kids with autism or have Asperger's, one of the first things they say is that they have no social cues.
00:34:56.000 They can't read social cues.
00:34:59.000 And yet his capacity To understand these very complex social interactions at a really high level and the eloquence with which he addresses them is really beyond comprehension.
00:35:16.000 They all are extraordinarily sensitive.
00:35:21.000 Every kid I've met, I should say.
00:35:23.000 I shouldn't generalize.
00:35:24.000 The kids I've met are extraordinarily sensitive.
00:35:26.000 Jamie is extraordinarily sensitive.
00:35:29.000 Jamie is able to categorize people at his school as believers or non-believers in him.
00:35:35.000 Right?
00:35:36.000 Yeah, of course.
00:35:38.000 He picks up on it and he's declined going into certain classes because it's being taught by a non-believer.
00:35:45.000 You know, we share these observations with the school, right?
00:35:48.000 And it's a process.
00:35:50.000 And so, yeah, when they talk about like a lack of picking up on social cues or whatever, I mean, give me a break.
00:35:57.000 Right.
00:35:57.000 Give me a break.
00:35:58.000 And And again, that's what I go back to.
00:36:00.000 This was really Jamie's idea to write the book, and Jamie really wanted to write the book just to reach other non-speakers, right?
00:36:06.000 He refers to the experience he had for 17 years as being in a prison of silence, right, which is a really heavy way to think about it.
00:36:17.000 What struck me was just the scale and how we might have just gotten the whole thing wrong, and I just don't know if people can really wrap their heads around this like, Millions of non-speakers.
00:36:29.000 Three to five million people.
00:36:31.000 Right.
00:36:32.000 I mean, it's unbelievable.
00:36:34.000 And like so many things, there's pedigrees and money and brittle ways of thinking and non-open-mindedness that are keeping this from happening faster.
00:36:46.000 You have the American Speech and Hearing Association coming out with a repudiation of these methods a couple of years ago, which basically rendered...
00:36:56.000 All but the most bold SLPs.
00:36:59.000 SLPs are speech language pathologists who are very, very important to these kids.
00:37:02.000 It rendered all but the most bold of them unable to do this method with kids, even though, I mean, Jamie was on this touch icon device that he was carrying around his school.
00:37:17.000 He had this thing for four years, all right?
00:37:19.000 It got to the point where he could, like, touch enough pictograms to say a sentence they asked him to say, He never used it spontaneously to get his needs met.
00:37:27.000 In two months or three months, he's hyper-fluent with spelling to communicate, right?
00:37:32.000 We spent like eight grand on this device, right?
00:37:34.000 I mean, this thing was...
00:37:36.000 And, you know, we asked him, do you want to see this thing?
00:37:40.000 You know, no, he wanted to roof test it.
00:37:41.000 Like, I never want to see this thing again.
00:37:45.000 Right?
00:37:46.000 And like...
00:37:47.000 You present, I present this, like, present this information to the head speech pathologist at the school who'd introduced all these devices, and the poor guy, I mean, he's got, like, steam coming out of his head, and he just falls back on the Asha statement that what Jamie's doing isn't real.
00:38:00.000 You see how this, like, circular negative spiral can happen when these idiotic organizations Do what they're doing.
00:38:09.000 It's true.
00:38:09.000 And you know, one of the things that's, you know, a collective concern in the autism community with, as far as parents, is who's going to take care of my child after I die?
00:38:19.000 You know, who's going to be there?
00:38:21.000 This gives them a future.
00:38:24.000 This opens, this is a game changer.
00:38:27.000 If we're talking 3 million non-speakers have the same or similar cognitive ability as all of us, I want to give, I got to tell a story.
00:38:37.000 I don't think this one's in the book, but my wife and I had been organizing a farm-based living environment across from his school where we were imagining kind of handing him off for the adult years, you know, and being a part of that.
00:38:51.000 And because it's really hard to gauge what Jamie wants to do with his time after school when he can't tell us.
00:39:00.000 We're left to sort of divine it from like smiles when he does certain activities.
00:39:04.000 You know, what are we going to do?
00:39:05.000 So we're like, well, we'll create this community of others like him and all the parents will get involved.
00:39:10.000 And to the very thing you're talking about, Jenny, that intense fear of what happens when we're gone.
00:39:15.000 So we're pretty far along with these plans, right?
00:39:19.000 Now, Jamie's observed us doing all this over the years, right?
00:39:22.000 We could never get his feedback.
00:39:24.000 But so finally, we're at a point where we can ask him anything.
00:39:27.000 And so we're like, you know, Jamie, what do you think about the farm, right?
00:39:30.000 He knows.
00:39:31.000 He's like, yeah, I don't want to do that at all.
00:39:33.000 I mean, all I could do was laugh joyfully.
00:39:44.000 Absolutely.
00:39:45.000 What do we want as parents?
00:39:46.000 We just want our children to be happy doing what they want.
00:39:48.000 And, you know, Jamie's goal 10 years out is to be speaking and married.
00:39:55.000 I love it.
00:39:57.000 I saw one of the great parts of the book is when he's giving dating advice to one of his dude bros.
00:40:05.000 Yes.
00:40:06.000 Yes.
00:40:07.000 You know what?
00:40:08.000 They are...
00:40:09.000 You really see it...
00:40:11.000 I mean, this shouldn't be any surprise after everything you've already heard, but they drop into teenager cadence.
00:40:17.000 Right?
00:40:18.000 They drop teen lingo and...
00:40:21.000 You know, it's beautiful, right?
00:40:23.000 And they think about things that all teenagers...
00:40:24.000 Because again, these are...
00:40:27.000 I hate to use the word normal.
00:40:29.000 These are cognitively fully developed beings with a motor deficit that makes it hard for them to control their bodies.
00:40:38.000 And Bobby, I really think neurologists need to appreciate this because to me, they're giving a target within the brain for where the problem is.
00:40:49.000 I can't say when or how it develops exactly.
00:40:53.000 I don't know the answer to that.
00:40:55.000 But I know what Jamie tells me about what's hard for him to do.
00:40:59.000 I'm going to tell another quick story.
00:41:01.000 And this is kind of next level.
00:41:03.000 And this isn't in the book.
00:41:04.000 But I know there's a lot of parents who are listening.
00:41:06.000 And it's something that we're really working on now.
00:41:10.000 And I've written about this on jbhanleyblog.com.
00:41:13.000 But basically, Jamie's now doing therapy on something that they call initiation, which is basically that this brain-body disconnect also inhibits their ability to initiate.
00:41:23.000 Just initiate, just to do things you want to do for the very reason that, you know, imagine you had all this stuff you wanted to do with your day and you couldn't get out of the chair, right?
00:41:31.000 So Jamie does this exercise where we put three objects in front of him on a desk and then he spells on a letter board and the objects can be as simple as like, you know, coffee cup, iPhone, scotch tape.
00:41:46.000 Jamie spells on a letter board, I will pick up the coffee cup, okay?
00:41:49.000 Okay.
00:41:52.000 Then, my job is just to sit there, not to say anything.
00:41:55.000 Now remember, he's only spelled it on the board, right?
00:41:58.000 There's no verbal command from dad that he's very used to.
00:42:02.000 And then we'll ask him, how long do you want us to wait?
00:42:05.000 And he'll say, one minute, okay?
00:42:07.000 So we all just sit there and wait.
00:42:09.000 And Jamie sits there, and he just kind of sits there at first, when we first started doing this therapy.
00:42:14.000 After a minute, his therapist would say, eyes down.
00:42:17.000 Jamie would look down, see the object, then he'd grab it.
00:42:20.000 Everybody would celebrate.
00:42:22.000 And what Jamie explained to us is for that entire minute, I was trying to pick it up.
00:42:28.000 Wow.
00:42:29.000 I was trying to pick it up the whole time.
00:42:31.000 Okay?
00:42:33.000 If that's a shared disability by three to five million people, imagine how many ways that's misinterpreted.
00:42:40.000 That's right.
00:42:40.000 Imagine how many ways...
00:42:43.000 Jen Larson told me a story of...
00:42:47.000 Being down in San Diego, working with her son on letterboarding, and she went to put the room service stuff in the hallway, and the door closed behind her.
00:42:55.000 Son Cade is in the room by himself.
00:42:57.000 She starts banging on the door, right?
00:42:59.000 We can all picture the scene.
00:43:01.000 Well, Cade's already fluent on a letterboard, okay?
00:43:04.000 Cade's one of Jamie's best friends.
00:43:05.000 They have Zoom calls together.
00:43:06.000 He's amazing.
00:43:07.000 He knows exactly what's going on.
00:43:09.000 His mom is banging on the door, his mother that he loves.
00:43:11.000 She's a little panicked.
00:43:12.000 He never comes to the door.
00:43:14.000 OK, so she's able to get in, you know, calls the general manager or whatever.
00:43:18.000 She sits down with Cade.
00:43:20.000 What was going on?
00:43:21.000 Well, it turns out when there's a little bit of anxiety in the mix, that initiation thing gets even harder.
00:43:26.000 So imagine a child like Jamie or Cade under duress in a school environment being asked to choose between two simple objects.
00:43:35.000 He can't even figure out which block is red.
00:43:38.000 Right.
00:43:39.000 Like imagine how many ways this initiation disability is being misinterpreted as as a lack of intelligence by well-intended but misinformed caregivers.
00:43:50.000 And the epilogue for Jamie is that as the months have gone by through initiation therapy, he's now got objects across the room that he says, I will pick that up and put it on the desk, and he goes and does it.
00:44:02.000 And then what we see is...
00:44:05.000 Much more frequently, he picks up the letter board to get needs met from us.
00:44:09.000 And so we're seeing even initiation therapy can make it better and can help these children.
00:44:15.000 But imagine, this insight was so new to me, despite how many years I've spent trying to do the right thing by Jamie.
00:44:22.000 It was so new to me.
00:44:23.000 And then it was deeply disturbing to imagine all the times that he may have wanted to do things and simply could not get his body to do it.
00:44:30.000 Let me ask you something.
00:44:34.000 Because the test that you just described seemed to be like absolute indisputable proofs that the letter board is real, it's not a Ouija board, because it's a non-verbal communication.
00:44:51.000 You can write down which one he's going to grab, and he grabs the right one every time.
00:44:59.000 Have you ever Shown a demonstration like that to one of the people who are resisting.
00:45:06.000 And, you know, my real question is, have you ever been able to get through?
00:45:12.000 It took you 17 years to get through to your child.
00:45:14.000 Have you ever been able to get through to one of those people who was completely subsumed in that orthodoxy and just resistant?
00:45:22.000 Because, you know, that's what they were trying to do.
00:45:27.000 I want to try to put this in context.
00:45:29.000 In the last...
00:45:30.000 15 months, 99% of our energy has been dedicated to getting Jamie better.
00:45:35.000 And one of the things that we refuse to do is ever kind of choose, use Jamie as like the proof monkey, if you will.
00:45:42.000 Right?
00:45:43.000 And we have chosen not to engage with the haters.
00:45:48.000 We have chosen to let Jamie be a model and an example at school.
00:45:52.000 And the amazing teacher who brought Jamie in Is now training to be an S2C practitioner.
00:46:00.000 Wow.
00:46:02.000 Okay.
00:46:03.000 Every classmate who's in the high academic class with Jamie and they're all speakers have embraced him and they've recognized all his intelligence.
00:46:12.000 Rather than feel compelled to try to convince an idiot of what's obviously true, we're just going to manifest and let Jamie be the best student he can be.
00:46:24.000 And, you know, they can get on the train before it leaves the station if they want or they can't.
00:46:28.000 But I will be damned if I will sit in a room and try to talk someone with that scale of idiocy into something that is so patently obvious.
00:46:34.000 And it's beneath Jamie to ever utilize him in that fashion.
00:46:37.000 So the quick answer is no.
00:46:39.000 You also got the longer answer.
00:46:41.000 And it's embarrassing.
00:46:43.000 It's embarrassing.
00:46:44.000 The people who deny this, they're going to wake up one day.
00:46:48.000 It's unbelievable.
00:46:50.000 Elizabeth Vossler, she repudiated the statement from Asha with one of the most beautiful essays I've ever read.
00:46:57.000 You can Google Asha statement Elizabeth Vossler rebuttal.
00:47:01.000 And what she basically says is, when you sit down and bear witness to one of these children's spelling, you have a choice to make in that moment.
00:47:08.000 You have a choice to make, right?
00:47:11.000 You can either stay on the path of denialism, or you can recognize that what you're seeing is real.
00:47:18.000 And all the implications of that.
00:47:19.000 That choice needs to be made.
00:47:21.000 The people who can't make it, you know, they're the same people who were doing dances and believe that's why the sun came up in the morning.
00:47:27.000 I just don't even have time for them.
00:47:30.000 And some will come around and many won't.
00:47:33.000 But here's the thing.
00:47:34.000 The energy of a parent and a family who has a child come out the other side of this as a speller is so profound.
00:47:46.000 And if we just get a few more of those, there is no way all these schools and all these ABA caregivers will be able to survive.
00:47:52.000 And I want to be really clear about something.
00:47:56.000 ABA is the autism industrial complex here, okay?
00:48:01.000 They control the insurance, right?
00:48:02.000 Because they're the quote-unquote proven science.
00:48:06.000 And ABA therapists are really into their data, right?
00:48:09.000 They're really into their data.
00:48:10.000 And when Jamie was having behavioral issues at school, They had this fucked up Rube Goldberg like chart.
00:48:16.000 You know, if he sits for five minutes and he can put one foot outside for 10, but then he has to go back in and then he can do this.
00:48:22.000 And like, this was the way to like, he was having some outbursts in the outfit.
00:48:26.000 So this was their whole way to do it, right?
00:48:28.000 So we go away and do this spelling to communicate and we come back.
00:48:32.000 All of Jamie's behavioral issues are gone because guess why?
00:48:36.000 They were treating him like an idiot and that's why he was acting out.
00:48:39.000 So their stupid little decision tree It was completely useless.
00:48:43.000 At some point, people need to call out, like, this is just stupid.
00:48:46.000 Like, what you're doing is stupid.
00:48:48.000 You misunderstand these children, and many of the letter boarders, and I'll let each of them speak for themselves, because that's the beautiful thing about this community now.
00:48:56.000 These children are very eloquent, and young adults.
00:48:59.000 Most of them say ABA is torture and inhumane.
00:49:02.000 Okay, now that doesn't mean that there's not going to be a family who says, hey, it saved my child when they were two, three, and four, and I'm not about to say that we should throw all of it out.
00:49:11.000 What I can tell you is that many of the communicators who were non-speakers say it's inhumane.
00:49:17.000 Jamie says you have to be...
00:49:18.000 What was the word he used?
00:49:20.000 I don't want to misquote him.
00:49:22.000 People who do ABA are mean-spirited.
00:49:24.000 When I interviewed him, he said...
00:49:26.000 Look, I don't think that's true across the board by any stretch.
00:49:30.000 But I will tell you right now, Bobby, someone like you who's a little bit more objective...
00:49:34.000 I think knowing what you now know about these non-speakers, if you bore witness to an ABA session, it would probably turn your stomach because it looks like dog training.
00:49:44.000 It's very, very admonishing and curbing of behaviors, and that's not normal.
00:49:55.000 There's a lot of pushing their head for eye contact.
00:49:58.000 Oh, my God.
00:49:59.000 And I've seen them in the corner.
00:50:00.000 I've caught Evan with a therapist pushed up against a corner with the table against him.
00:50:05.000 I mean, that's the thing.
00:50:06.000 And, you know, they had some...
00:50:09.000 My wife, they had some aviation therapists show up in our house in California back when Jamie was two or three.
00:50:15.000 And they started doing this really kind of like, like, not corporal punishment, but like really like firm and aggressive.
00:50:24.000 And Lisa was like, you're out of here.
00:50:26.000 There's no fucking way this can be good for a kid.
00:50:28.000 Like she just, pardon my language, by the way, everybody.
00:50:30.000 She just knew that this couldn't be right.
00:50:33.000 So I just think that, and you know, the S2C people have been shouting this from the rooftops.
00:50:38.000 They just don't really have a platform, but they've been shouting this from the rooftops because, you know, Elizabeth and there are other spelling methods like RPM that's also been amazing for many children.
00:50:49.000 They're hearing from all the non-speakers.
00:50:51.000 They're just taking the data from the children who received the behavior.
00:50:55.000 And when you start to think about it from their perspective that they're brilliant, you start to realize, oh my God, can you imagine how torturous that really is?
00:51:03.000 You know, JB... You can buy JB's book because a lot of people are asking right now where to get it.
00:51:10.000 You can buy his book at HanleyBook.com.
00:51:17.000 I'm very proud that it's part of CHD Books, Children's Health Defense.
00:51:22.000 We have our own publishing company, our own imprint.
00:51:28.000 Many of you read some of our other books, but this one is just fantastic.
00:51:35.000 Are they selling it on Amazon?
00:51:37.000 It's on Amazon.
00:51:39.000 It's number one in the bunch of categories today.
00:51:41.000 That's me and Jamie signing one.
00:51:43.000 So at handlybook.com, you can get your own signed copy.
00:51:46.000 If you don't want a signed copy, then go to Amazon and get it.
00:51:50.000 Jamie and I, we got our stack of books, so we're signing them today.
00:51:56.000 We're signing them too.
00:51:57.000 And Jamie, how did we do in this little interview?
00:52:00.000 Did we bore you or was it good?
00:52:04.000 Okay, so I want to give a little bit of a frame as we let Jamie, you know, he's been obviously sitting here listening to everything.
00:52:12.000 Yeah, but I want to, like, I just need to give a little context because the one thing I never want to do is kind of like do something that might be discouraging for a parent later.
00:52:21.000 So this is like graduate level board, okay?
00:52:26.000 They actually start, I don't have one with me, with like an eight letter stencil board and It's really big, right?
00:52:32.000 And I mean, like everything, it's like training wheels and then you keep moving up.
00:52:35.000 So this is what we call a laminate in S2C land.
00:52:38.000 Okay.
00:52:39.000 And Jamie literally just like, you know, points and you call out the letters and when he's done, he hits done.
00:52:44.000 And that's how you know what he said.
00:52:46.000 But Jamie was very clear right before the book was launched that he only wanted to work off his keyboard, which is his new communication device.
00:52:54.000 And so what we have is a magic keyboard from Apple.
00:52:58.000 Got a little ring on the back so that I can hold the keyboard because he still wants it held in front of him.
00:53:03.000 I have an iPad right here.
00:53:07.000 And there's an app called Proloquo for text.
00:53:12.000 So it's P-R-O-L-O-Q-U-O for the number and then text.
00:53:17.000 And Jamie has become a lot more prolific in spelling ever since he's gotten Proloquo.
00:53:24.000 And the reason for that is I think that he gets the Immediate feedback mechanism from the iPad and he can really see it.
00:53:31.000 The other thing that's amazing, and again, I don't like to in any way, we're not doing this to prove the doubters wrong.
00:53:38.000 I just, I really refuse to kind of like go down that path.
00:53:41.000 But all I can say is like when you watch Jamie spell on the iPad, he's going to look at the keyboard and look at the iPad because he watches very carefully what he's spelling.
00:53:50.000 And he uses the delete key and he uses the space bar because he's spelling, right?
00:53:55.000 Just like we all do.
00:53:56.000 And then he hits return and what's really cool about it for him is when he hits return it says what he wrote so his dad doesn't have to and so it's a little bit more of an intimate interaction with other people because he doesn't have a human between them right it's all kind of him and as soon as Jamie started doing this only about a month ago he realized like oh this can get me independent and he's already said like I don't think we're going to need my communication partner much longer And he's told me explicitly
00:54:26.000 I want to be independent by summer, right?
00:54:29.000 And who's to doubt him?
00:54:30.000 So, Jamie, Jenny's question was, how are they doing so far?
00:54:36.000 Go ahead.
00:54:39.000 Our guys are awesome.
00:55:01.000 He said our guys are awesome.
00:55:04.000 What state are you in?
00:55:06.000 Are you in Florida?
00:55:07.000 We're in Milwaukee right now.
00:55:09.000 You're in Milwaukee?
00:55:10.000 We're in Hawaii right now.
00:55:13.000 We're very far from Milwaukee, Bobby.
00:55:15.000 I don't want to live in that Milwaukee.
00:55:18.000 We are on Maui.
00:55:20.000 It's 11 in the morning.
00:55:26.000 You know, I've been watching some of the questions, and there is one that's kind of reoccurring, which is about, does this program help a verbal child that is not 100% conversational?
00:55:35.000 Yeah, yeah, for sure.
00:55:37.000 And it's such a great question.
00:55:38.000 So what Spelling to Communicate people will say, F2C people will say, is that this is really for non-speakers and unreliable speakers.
00:55:47.000 And I think what unreliable really means is that You can get into these motor loops, right?
00:55:52.000 And so like, for example, if I ask Jamie a question, he'll typically answer yes, because it's just sort of been drilled into him, right?
00:55:57.000 That's not a reliable answer.
00:55:58.000 He may not want to do that thing at all, right?
00:56:00.000 And that's really confusing.
00:56:02.000 It's a motor loop, a verbal motor loop.
00:56:04.000 And so the board is reliable, meaning that what comes out of the board is what the child's actually thinking.
00:56:10.000 And so for unreliable speakers, S2C can be amazing.
00:56:15.000 Glad you answered that.
00:56:19.000 Well...
00:56:20.000 Any other questions?
00:56:22.000 How do you like Maui, Amy?
00:56:25.000 Oh, sorry.
00:56:31.000 Let me...
00:56:33.000 You got it.
00:56:37.000 You're doing great.
00:56:45.000 I love it.
00:57:06.000 I want to leave here.
00:57:08.000 Me too.
00:57:10.000 So I want to mention something because this is a source of criticism sometimes and misunderstanding.
00:57:19.000 So I'm literally holding the keyboard, right?
00:57:21.000 You can see his eyes going back and forth as he's spelling.
00:57:25.000 And when When kids first begin spelling to communicate, the practitioner who you work with is very, very likely to prompt much more using verbal prompts and using prompts with their hand.
00:57:41.000 They won't touch the child.
00:57:43.000 They'll never go hand over hand, which is what's called facilitated communication.
00:57:47.000 And so people will often mistakenly This is facilitated communication, and it's not.
00:57:54.000 But what you can see with me is that my prompts have really, really faded.
00:57:57.000 I'm basically down to going, mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
00:58:01.000 I'm just giving him a little support underneath his typing.
00:58:05.000 You know, no different than a coach does with a player.
00:58:08.000 Because we're fading towards independence.
00:58:10.000 So if you get in a room for the first time, and you see that the practitioner is really, really, really prompting your child, it's because they're just trying to train their body.
00:58:19.000 This is not about cognition.
00:58:21.000 It's about motor planning, and verbal prompts help begin that process.
00:58:26.000 So I just want to make that clear to people.
00:58:28.000 Somebody asked, so handleybook.com is where you can get a signed copy.
00:58:35.000 Amazon, Barnes& Noble, most other booksellers are also selling the book right now.
00:58:41.000 S2C is not the same as Proloquo.
00:58:45.000 No, it's its own different thing.
00:58:47.000 There's an app called Proloquo for text, but I want to be really clear about this.
00:58:53.000 We're at PhD level with Jamie now.
00:58:56.000 If you begin S2C, you're going to begin on a letter board.
00:59:00.000 You're not going to have an iPad because fine motor is the thing that's really text.
00:59:05.000 And so it takes a lot of time to get to where we've gotten with Jamie, okay?
00:59:10.000 So this is different.
00:59:12.000 This does confuse people.
00:59:13.000 I think the other thing that confuses parents is they just don't realize the depths of communication that we're able to get out of Jamie and that, hey, we're not the only ones.
00:59:22.000 I just want to be clear.
00:59:24.000 I think if you read the book and you start to read his words, you're like, oh, okay.
00:59:28.000 Now I get it.
00:59:28.000 This isn't like a kid who can spell a word here and there to get a need met.
00:59:31.000 This is like a fully formed adult with a beautiful mind, able to express all his thoughts.
00:59:37.000 That's what we're really talking about.
00:59:38.000 Let me ask Jamie one more question.
00:59:43.000 I love reading about Sam.
00:59:45.000 Sam, like both J.B. and his wife were college athletes and his sports are very big for him.
00:59:54.000 Sam is also kind of a A very, very high level lacrosse player.
01:00:00.000 What's your favorite part of having Sam home?
01:00:04.000 Look at that smile.
01:00:21.000 Thinking about your bro.
01:00:27.000 Go ahead.
01:00:29.000 He makes me laugh.
01:00:33.000 Saw that big smile.
01:00:34.000 Bobby, can I just ask a real quick question for parents?
01:00:37.000 What can we maybe legally do to get these organizations to shift?
01:00:44.000 Yeah, so a couple things.
01:00:47.000 First of all, if you want to find a practitioner, go to i-asc.org.
01:00:53.000 International Association of Spelling to Communicate, i-asc.org.
01:00:58.000 There's more practitioners being trained every day.
01:01:00.000 They knew this book was coming out.
01:01:02.000 They're like trying to catch up.
01:01:05.000 I think that what's going to need to happen is that parents are going to need to submit expenses for spelling to communicate lessons to insurance.
01:01:16.000 Insurance is going to deny those expenses and then they're going to need to sue them.
01:01:19.000 And then that's going to force litigation To prove that this is a valid method.
01:01:25.000 We have science out of the University of Virginia.
01:01:29.000 About a year ago, it was an eye tracking study that affirmed very clearly, scientifically published in Nature, that it's the children choosing the letters.
01:01:38.000 Okay, so this was like the first of its kind, you know, to silence the doubters.
01:01:42.000 Again, I don't want to spend my time that way, but I think that's going to have to happen.
01:01:46.000 The method needs to be validated by the insurance companies so that they will Pay for this and for schools as well.
01:01:54.000 And so I don't doubt for a minute that it will take litigation to get to that point.
01:02:01.000 Agree with that, Bobby.
01:02:03.000 How do you answer that question?
01:02:07.000 Somebody says here, I also highly recommend Ido Kedar's book, Ido in Autism Land.
01:02:14.000 I mean, this is what's amazing.
01:02:15.000 Jamie is not a pioneer.
01:02:17.000 Ido is a pioneer.
01:02:18.000 He did a method called RPM, which is similar to S2C that we didn't do, but that many parents swear by.
01:02:24.000 And I think that's what's really important.
01:02:26.000 People are figuring out ways to get to these children.
01:02:28.000 And then people like Ido, he went off to college and wrote a book.
01:02:32.000 He's just like Jamie, meaning he's a speller and a non-speaker.
01:02:36.000 These beautiful stories exist for years past.
01:02:39.000 All we're doing is maybe getting this out a little bit broader into the community, but we are not the pioneers of this.
01:02:46.000 It's amazing to me that I didn't know about it, or that I didn't understand not just the applicability, but the scale of what we were talking about.
01:02:54.000 So I want to make that point clear to parents, because there's a lot of RPM parents who've been doing this for years, and their voices and their kids' voices deserve to be heard.
01:03:04.000 Can I read one comment that I saw that I really liked?
01:03:08.000 Sorry, I'm just scanning.
01:03:10.000 Yeah.
01:03:11.000 Sorry, we've got a bunch of comments now, which is awesome.
01:03:18.000 And people are saying left and right, like, hey, we've got a spelling group.
01:03:22.000 We've got a bunch of spellers.
01:03:24.000 I mean, I'm telling you, this is not, it's out there.
01:03:28.000 Just after my interview yesterday, there were people contacting me talking about their child that has gone through STC and it's working and amazing.
01:03:40.000 Again, we've never claimed to be the pioneers.
01:03:43.000 I'm just telling the story we have.
01:03:45.000 But what's amazing is you can go validate it with so many other people.
01:03:48.000 Like, here we go.
01:03:49.000 This was the post I was thinking of.
01:03:50.000 We have a whole group of non-speaking spellers on Long Island.
01:03:54.000 They're brilliant and I believe there are many thousands of them at the very least.
01:03:58.000 So Elizabeth Vosser says 1500 to 2000.
01:04:00.000 I don't know.
01:04:00.000 That's a data point worth gathering.
01:04:03.000 My son is one of them.
01:04:04.000 We didn't find out until he was 19 five years ago.
01:04:08.000 Totally life-changing.
01:04:09.000 This is obviously our experience too.
01:04:11.000 We use RPM developed by Soma for her son Tito, who has now authored several books.
01:04:16.000 But all these programs all work off the same premise.
01:04:19.000 Presume competence.
01:04:21.000 So beautiful.
01:04:22.000 It's happening.
01:04:23.000 And again, once it happens to you, you just want every other kid to have the chance.
01:04:27.000 So it's so cool for me to know that there's a whole group of these spellers in Long Island, because I can tell you that for community, all Jamie wants is his dude bros.
01:04:35.000 He likes to be with other spellers just like him.
01:04:38.000 Well said.
01:04:40.000 Well said.
01:04:42.000 Well, with that, do you guys want to wrap it up?
01:04:46.000 Jamie's probably like, yep.
01:04:48.000 Oh yeah, yeah.
01:04:50.000 He's enjoyed these interviews a lot and he'd also like to get back to like hanging out at the ocean.
01:04:55.000 We're on spring break right now, so...
01:04:59.000 Thank you, Jamie, for again helping change the world along with JB and Robbie.
01:05:05.000 As I'm looking at the computer, I'm looking at you guys going, I'm so grateful and so lucky to all of you.
01:05:11.000 Like, honestly.
01:05:13.000 You too, Jenny.
01:05:14.000 Thank you.
01:05:15.000 Underestimated, you guys.
01:05:16.000 Spread the word.
01:05:18.000 Shout it from the rooftops.
01:05:19.000 Let's make some change.
01:05:20.000 Let's do it.
01:05:22.000 We can do it.
01:05:22.000 And make it a bestseller.
01:05:24.000 Why not?
01:05:25.000 Come on.
01:05:26.000 Thank you so much, you guys.
01:05:27.000 You know, I'll just say it's a really quick read, and it was meant to be.
01:05:30.000 So if you got two hours, you can get through the book.
01:05:33.000 Absolutely.
01:05:34.000 Spread the word.
01:05:34.000 I love you, Jamie.
01:05:36.000 Love you too, Jamie.
01:05:38.000 She loves you guys.
01:05:39.000 You know that.
01:05:40.000 So, Jamie, you want to give a wave?
01:05:42.000 Yeah.
01:05:44.000 All right, you guys.
01:05:45.000 Jenny, Poppy, thank you guys so much.
01:05:47.000 To all the parents out there, don't believe the deniers.
01:05:50.000 Just give it a try for yourself.
01:05:51.000 That's right.
01:05:52.000 Parents always know the truth.
01:05:53.000 Much love, everybody.