SHNEAKO - BYSTANDER EFFECT

00:00:00.000 This is Coney Island's Stillwell Station, the station where the lady was burned alive.

00:00:04.380 And I think the saddest part is that they still haven't identified who she is.

00:00:07.940 In sociology, it's called the bystander effect.

00:00:10.500 It's a whole lot of people in a group, and they're watching something.

00:00:14.320 And everybody's got their hands in their pocket or their arms full and say,

00:00:17.920 gee, somebody should do something, you know?

00:00:20.400 They don't want to take responsibility.

00:00:22.140 And that's called the bystander effect.

00:00:23.860 There are no candles here and more news stations and cameramen

00:00:27.260 than there are participants of the vigil.

00:00:29.080 new york is a good place but it has to be safer enough is enough

00:00:35.320 it's that time of year where you have to start thinking about the next one

00:00:39.800 what could we do better now that the calendar changes and it's a new year the first episode

00:00:44.440 look at the problems of 2024 which were over socialization we are now starting to currently

00:00:50.600 see the long-term effects of social media what happens when we live life equally through here

00:00:55.640 than we do out there if daniel penny wasn't facing so much scrutiny do you think that somebody would

00:01:01.080 have stepped in to save this burning lady you know if you see something say something and sometimes

00:01:06.680 you don't know what's going on between the minds of people and the minds of people especially in

00:01:10.760 our city but we need to have more people more heroes more people to step in to do something

00:01:17.960 do you consider daniel penny to be a hero prosecutors are trying to prove penny was

00:01:22.600 reckless and argued though his intentions were good he used excessive force keeping neely in a

00:01:27.240 choke hold for nearly six minutes i considered him to do what was right at that time i'm not

00:01:34.440 really too much sure about the situation i just know that the particular gentleman

00:01:39.160 had been on the train for quite some time suffering from multiple mental health illnesses

00:01:43.640 so the gentleman did what was right who knows the gentleman on the train might have done some harm

00:01:48.440 with more people, which you have done for in the past.

00:01:50.800 The Unabomber Ted Kaczynski wrote about over-socialization

00:01:54.180 in his Unabomber manifesto.

00:01:56.720 He predicted all the problems that we saw this year.

00:01:59.280 The best example is the bystander effect.

00:02:01.920 It's like this street in New York City.

00:02:04.140 If you were unfortunate enough to be the victim of a crime

00:02:07.520 or taken ill unexpectedly,

00:02:10.040 you might think that surrounded by all these people,

00:02:13.040 someone would intervene.

00:02:14.640 After all, isn't there safety in numbers?

00:02:17.060 Psychologists say no.

00:02:18.720 This is a sheep NPC problem 1.00

00:02:20.920 where if we see one person ignore a woman on fire,

00:02:25.040 everybody ignores it too.

00:02:26.560 When people are in a crowd,

00:02:27.920 it's easier to pass the buck.

00:02:29.920 It's what psychologists call

00:02:31.220 the diffusion of responsibility.

00:02:34.480 The problem of living in the most densely populated area

00:02:37.640 in the world, Manhattan,

00:02:39.260 and not knowing a single one of your neighbors. 0.99

00:02:41.940 I can literally see a naked woman's breast 1.00

00:02:44.240 in eyesight right now. 0.83

00:02:45.860 I'm not gonna show you. 0.97

00:02:46.500 And if the person that owns those breasts died tomorrow, 1.00

00:02:49.340 my life wouldn't change for a second.

00:02:51.100 The difference is in a village of 1,000 people,

00:02:54.280 every neighbor knows the other neighbor.

00:02:56.340 By socializing less, they end up socializing more

00:02:59.220 and intimately knowing the people that live next door.

00:03:01.880 You know the intimate details of maybe 1,000 people

00:03:04.520 that you follow on X, their mind and their life,

00:03:06.960 but how many of them did you say Merry Christmas to?

00:03:09.280 In the 70s, when the Unabomber wrote that manifesto,

00:03:12.040 he was talking about the problems of technology then.

00:03:14.600 Look at what we have today.

00:03:16.500 Maybe the dystopian answer is every day

00:03:18.320 we're taking steps further away from humanity

00:03:20.520 and closer to artificial intelligence.

00:03:22.860 Very soon we need to ask ourselves,

00:03:24.400 what will be the difference between humanity and AI?

00:03:27.060 But I don't get pessimistic about this problem

00:03:28.800 like a Black Mirror episode.

00:03:30.120 I think we can fix this problem

00:03:31.600 the same way that we started it.

00:03:32.840 In 2025, we can use these dangerous tools

00:03:35.580 and take us as a couple steps back into people

00:03:38.380 rather than software.

00:03:39.560 Unknown to these passers by, Peter is an actor.

00:03:43.240 How long before he gets help?

00:03:55.240 Helping would be inconvenient or even risky.

00:03:58.240 He lies there for more than 20 minutes and no one raises an eyebrow.

00:04:13.240 When I was 17

00:04:20.640 It was a very good year

00:04:27.860 It was a very good year

00:04:33.540 For small town girls 0.92

00:04:36.900 And soft summer nights

00:04:40.000 T'was the day after Christmas, I know you see some people, but West Village considerably

00:04:55.660 is absolutely deserted.

00:05:13.420 When I was

00:05:16.040 21

00:05:17.020 It was

00:05:22.160 a very good year

00:05:24.800 It was a very good year for city girls

00:05:32.860 Who lived up the stairs

00:05:36.900 With all that perfumed hair

00:05:42.860 There's a certain lull type of calmness over the city

00:05:49.720 that I haven't seen in a long time.

00:05:51.420 This should be mayhem right now

00:05:53.460 and any other circumstance people feel sedated it's like the whole city took a xanax

00:06:09.860 this is coney island stillwell station the station where the lady was burned alive

00:06:14.180 and i think the saddest part is that they still haven't identified who she is the difficult part

00:06:18.820 she has no property she has nothing really under her name so there's a

00:06:22.740 candlelight vigil for her but we don't even know who she is

00:06:27.700 another there's supposed to be a candlelight vigil for the staff

00:06:34.660 okay it doesn't look like there's anybody here but reporters and police

00:06:38.260 most new yorkers are only a few months away from being homeless

00:06:42.180 how you doing the vigil's supposed to be here uh i believe so closed stone already i believe

00:06:46.340 there's no candles i'm not sure it's uh nowhere everybody else knows that it's supposed to be here

00:06:51.620 after four that's all i mean so they identified a woman yet you know i'm not sure yeah that's a

00:06:56.740 little disappointing there's a candlelight vigil and no vigil or candles but there's throw-ups

00:07:06.420 let's go bro are you from coney island i am did you hear about the lady that got

00:07:12.180 I thought it was it was it was hard man it was tough I think it was like real

00:07:16.180 heartbreaking because you see situations like the Daniel Penny one he steps in

00:07:19.860 and does something and then he's hated by the far left you see a guy who's

00:07:23.380 lighting a woman on fire and then that happened after people aren't stepping in

00:07:26.820 maybe because they don't want to get in trouble I think we should all learn

00:07:29.820 jujitsu next time I see somebody on fire triangle choke but you know it's crazy

00:07:34.800 there's there's a candlelight visual here there's nobody here what do you think

00:07:37.860 the solution is to this problem because you saw Daniel Penny for example he

00:07:40.420 stepped in and choked the woman out. Let me just, let me just, let me just, wait a minute. I know

00:07:44.140 a lot, I'm not an ordinary person, I have to tell you. I'm a news hound. Okay. I don't think he was

00:07:49.220 a hero. I don't think he was a villain. He certainly wasn't a vigilante. A vigilante is

00:07:52.920 somebody who goes around looking like he's going to, he's going to do something to somebody. Right.

00:07:57.120 That doesn't, who am I looking at the camera? That's not what he was. He acted on instinct.

00:08:01.440 The people who were in that car said they were scared more than they've ever been and that they

00:08:05.840 were afraid that they were going to die. In terms of what he did, I'm glad that somebody was there.

00:08:11.140 He did take action.

00:08:12.800 My problem with what he did was the last 30 seconds.

00:08:15.400 The last 30 seconds, Mr. Neely, the young man, fell unconscious.

00:08:19.780 I personally think the last 30 seconds have a problem with him.

00:08:22.660 I don't have a problem with Donnie and Penny stepping forward.

00:08:25.760 Why is he not a hero?

00:08:26.960 Because Neely died.

00:08:28.160 So what are we supposed to do about this fire situation?

00:08:30.280 Do you think part of the reason nobody stepped in is because of what happened to Penny?

00:08:33.840 No.

00:08:34.460 No, that's not a fair answer.

00:08:35.340 Why did nobody step in to the fire?

00:08:36.500 This is an old, this is, in terms of psychology and sociology, it's called the bystander effect.

00:08:42.460 It has to do with the kind of society we're living in.

00:08:45.800 People don't feel connected.

00:08:47.700 Here we are in the richest country on earth, in the richest, one of the richest cities on earth,

00:08:52.300 where people are living in 100 stories up in the air, lives of luxury,

00:08:56.980 and then down below at street level, we have people living in absolute destitution.

00:09:01.900 Very close to death, homeless.

00:09:04.100 We're not that far apart.

00:09:04.980 We're not that far away from this.

00:09:05.900 We're right here.

00:09:06.500 we are right here right here we could you are i don't know you you don't know

00:09:13.540 millions of new yorkers rides and trains every day i'm realizing i'm part of the problem there

00:09:18.900 are no candles here and more news stations and cameramen than there are participants in the

00:09:23.700 vigil this this is this is kind of dark and i'm part of it yep this is a realization here

00:09:31.060 look at all look at all these news vans double parked on the street

00:09:36.500 Can I ask you your opinion on everything that happened?

00:09:53.500 Tragedy.

00:09:54.500 Tragedy.

00:09:55.500 Such a tragedy.

00:09:56.500 Life taken just so suddenly.

00:09:58.500 We pray that God have mercy on the soul and also have mercy upon the person that did this.

00:10:03.500 Everyone on the train.

00:10:04.500 We just need to be safe.

00:10:05.500 the city. How do we prevent something like this from happening again? We have to get in contact

00:10:10.320 with the powers that be. The mayor's office, the governor, it's time for them now to step up and do

00:10:14.380 some help. Very important they actually step in now to work and to keep New Yorkers safe. New York

00:10:19.340 is a good place, but it has to be safer. Enough is enough. You should take your job. What's your

00:10:24.840 name? My name's Sinan. Right when I got off the train to edit this video, a girl yelled fuck you

00:10:30.900 to me as soon as the doors opened. She said hello to me when she got on her stop and didn't say 0.99

00:10:35.480 a word for 30 minutes then finally when there was a degree of separation she decided to yell 0.99

00:10:40.680 something negative as i'm standing over the gap halfway between the train and ready to leave i

00:10:44.760 look at her and say you waited that whole time to yell you to me she's looking at me laughs and

00:10:49.560 nods and i say you could have had the balls to say that when we were face to face perfect example

00:10:54.520 of the degree of separation we now have maybe she was trying to get a clip maybe she just wanted to 0.92

00:10:59.960 say something negative without the repercussions but she didn't see me as a person that interaction

00:11:04.840 was fraudulent because she tweeted at me in real life instead of using all that time on the train

00:11:10.680 to have a conversation with somebody that she hated. Maybe we could have talked out our

00:11:14.620 differences and maybe we could have even hugged it out. Instead, she's just another person in the

00:11:18.680 ether that I'll never see again that I know hates me. What if I left and that train derailed and

00:11:23.240 that's the last thing she said? God forbid, what if I got hit by her car while leaving and that

00:11:27.540 was the last thing someone said to me? The likelihood I'll ever see her again is minimal.

00:11:31.540 But lady on the train, if I ever do, I'm gonna talk to you.

00:11:35.140 This year, my New Year's resolutions were very personal

00:11:37.360 because in 2022, I was in student loan debt.

00:11:40.060 In 2023, I became a millionaire.

00:11:41.960 In 2024, I closed four houses all cash.

00:11:45.280 I'm good.

00:11:46.120 2025 is all about creating something new.

00:11:49.200 My goal with Project X is to upload

00:11:51.140 every single day this year.

00:11:53.080 Since I started a month ago,

00:11:54.260 I only missed Christmas to spend time with my family.

00:11:56.560 For the past three years, my goals have been very selfish

00:11:58.920 and reasonably so,

00:11:59.900 but 2025 is all about doing something

00:12:02.380 that I think is good for humanity.

00:12:04.180 That's what makes a holiday like Christmas

00:12:05.880 so valuable to me because I feel the societal pressure

00:12:08.940 to spend time with my Catholic family no matter what.

00:12:12.120 Wherever you are in the world,

00:12:13.360 you're supposed to be eating dinner

00:12:14.780 with your family on that day.

00:12:16.080 You're not communicating in the family WhatsApp group.

00:12:18.680 You're talking to them face-to-face sharing a meal.

00:12:21.280 It removes that false degree of separation

00:12:23.420 and makes you smell their bad breath

00:12:25.220 and hear their terrible jokes face-to-face.

00:12:28.140 the bystander effect is proof that we think as a collective in 2025 if we don't work together

00:12:34.460 to fix this problem of socialization humanity is doomed mochi mochi

SHNEAKO - December 20, 2025

BYSTANDER EFFECT

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