SHNEAKO - July 07, 2022


How Much Do You Lie？

Why Experience is the Most Valuable Currency THE POWER OF SOCIAL MEDIA

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Length

14 minutes

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188.59

Word count

2,748

Sentence count

104

People

Also mentioned:
Envy Desiring

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

22

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Hate speech

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about lying, lying, hiding, and how to deal with it. We also talk about how women can handle the truth and how men can't handle it, and why it's so important to be honest.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 and even like the sexual relationship with him is one of the best i had in my life and it's why
00:00:06.080 all the time i came back with him because i think that i'm not gonna i'm not gonna have
00:00:11.120 better with someone else i could change your mind i could change your mind on that i can
00:00:16.320 you can change your mind i can change your mind yeah which way just watch what's your number
00:00:30.000 how good is your English I think so so I can do my best I think your English is
00:00:41.280 better than my French so we'll do English oh okay let's see how much do you lie how
00:00:46.240 much do I lie lie less as possible yeah so you don't lie a lot
00:00:59.600 as little as possible okay yes as little as possible yeah when do you lie if you're not
00:01:05.220 if you're lying as little as possible when are you lying uh it's not really a lie but it's hide
00:01:13.200 and i don't know some people consider hide as a lie not telling the full truth yes yeah he's not
00:01:20.440 lying to you uh not really you you saying that you hide things to protect the truth but i'm
00:01:28.400 guessing you also get mad if somebody does the same thing to you. That's crazy because at the
00:01:33.000 moment I'm extremely mad because of the situation of my boyfriends. I mean my ex-boyfriends. So he
00:01:40.100 starts our relationship with lie all the time. Lie, lie, lie. What was he lying about? So when I
00:01:49.120 meet him in 2019, he introduced himself as a bachelor, as a single guy. So we start to flirt
00:01:56.080 together. Yeah, we start to flood together. I fell in love for him. One month later, he
00:02:01.800 texts me and say, oh, I need to tell you something. I have a relationship since six years. I didn't
00:02:08.380 speak with him. I didn't answer to his text because I don't see the point. What I can
00:02:12.120 reply. But he came back to me and say beautiful things, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:02:18.180 And you fell for it?
00:02:19.400 Again.
00:02:20.220 Is lying wrong?
00:02:21.800 No, I don't think so. Sometimes.
00:02:22.920 When you know it's going to hurt someone deeply, and you don't want to hurt it, so you lie.
00:02:26.800 To protect them.
00:02:27.560 To protect their feelings.
00:02:28.500 Exactly.
00:02:29.120 Who do you usually have to protect the truth from?
00:02:31.260 Girlfriend.
00:02:32.220 Yeah.
00:02:34.160 Do you think that women can handle the truth? 1.00
00:02:38.060 Nah.
00:02:38.700 They say they can, but they hate it.
00:02:40.200 Yeah.
00:02:40.700 But they want to hear the truth, right?
00:02:41.780 They want it, but they can't handle it.
00:02:43.960 They can't handle it.
00:02:44.980 Yeah.
00:02:45.420 And I excused him, and again, I discovered another lie, and after another lie, and another
00:02:50.180 lie.
00:02:50.540 Why were you surprised at that point? 0.84
00:02:51.820 If he was lying about something that big, you probably should have expected that he was going to be a liar.
00:02:56.400 Because, you know, sometimes when you have this crazy connection with someone, you want to believe of the relationship.
00:03:02.360 You want to excuse him in the way that, okay, maybe his relationship wasn't good.
00:03:07.000 Maybe he's complicated and maybe you were making excuses for him.
00:03:10.320 All the time, until maybe one week ago, Wednesday, he's going to celebrate his 30 years old.
00:03:17.500 No, tomorrow of the 15th of June.
00:03:19.580 and he will he he's in Ibiza to celebrate his birthday without his
00:03:26.540 girlfriends so it was like a cherry on the cake you know do you think men can 0.66
00:03:31.940 handle the truth mostly yeah I do yeah who do you think is more hurtful men or
00:03:37.360 women women they say like the most deep cutting stuff in the middle of an 1.00
00:03:42.660 argument yeah yeah yeah so it's the same in London as it is in New York yeah
00:03:46.760 Did you break up with him or did he break up with you?
00:03:51.040 I broke up with him, yeah.
00:03:52.780 How did you break up with him?
00:03:55.100 I just say to him, okay, you know what, I'm tired.
00:03:59.480 Go anywhere you want.
00:04:01.420 Go Ibiza.
00:04:02.380 Go celebrate your birthday, fine.
00:04:04.800 But when you come back, I'm not here anymore.
00:04:07.340 What was the Ibiza situation?
00:04:10.060 Just, yeah, celebrate his birthday and just have fun, you know.
00:04:14.520 so he used to send me a long mail you know like because i block him everywhere and he used to
00:04:21.440 tell me like oh no i'm not gonna flirt with one girl don't worry i'm gonna flirt with all of the
00:04:27.000 girls i fake i fake my like emotions or like my opinions why because they can't take the truth
00:04:39.780 so you just gotta you gotta feed them what they want and if they can like 0.89
00:04:43.380 suss the bullshit then you're honest with them what's an opinion that you lie about 0.94
00:04:48.000 like when you're enjoying your time with someone you just sometimes just gotta like 0.99
00:04:53.740 bullshit your way through and then if they like suss the cap then you're like yeah do you know 0.85
00:04:57.200 what yeah a lot of political stuff as well like what what political opinions if you're near like 0.99
00:05:01.940 liberals or like left-leaning people you can't just come out and say like controversial stuff
00:05:06.040 in front of them because you're gonna get like cancelled or like so what's an opinion you hold 1.00
00:05:09.700 that you can't tell your friends be honest right now a lot of shit man a lot of shit tell me one 1.00
00:05:13.320 tell me one uh fuck i don't know i can't say because like you can't even say your opinions 1.00
00:05:19.320 right now because you're afraid to hurt the left yeah or like it's not gonna go nowhere but like 0.99
00:05:24.360 i fear that that's that's the image that you're gonna have like oh this person thinks so and so
00:05:29.460 therefore yeah do you ever get jealous well if someone will have a hard girlfriend yeah i would 0.98
00:05:37.940 be a little bit jealous. You can take her. Nah, that's cheeky. That's cheeky, yeah, not like that. 0.69
00:05:47.300 It's his effort. He done it the first point, so let him enjoy it. I'm not jealous personally.
00:05:55.620 I'm quite confident, but because you build relationship with a lie, it creates you like
00:06:01.760 insecurities and obviously you become jealous. What if you don't like the guy?
00:06:07.940 well it's none of my business anyway but the girl could be a business well no boys have different
00:06:16.940 priorities as well i mean when you when you are at the age of 20 18 19 20 yeah this this could be
00:06:22.160 your business but when you are getting older over 25 30 then yeah you get other priorities so girls 1.00
00:06:28.400 are not anymore business their life partner but they're not business anymore do you think that
00:06:32.400 you can fix the relationship after it's built on that or is it stuck is it always going to be
00:06:36.380 insecure after that i think um i need to fix myself first because all the bad things he done
00:06:46.140 to me uh and i definitely cannot excuse him after everything he done so you did excuse him
00:06:53.720 did excuse him for a long time yeah but like i said it's like the sherry on the cake this time
00:07:00.200 with ibiza things you know i'm just thinking in my experience i think girls become more attracted
00:07:04.980 to a guy that's lying and who's not telling the full truth i think girls like oh my why would you
00:07:09.900 do that to me why would you do that to me i don't think so like okay in my opinion uh i'm not never
00:07:18.340 looking for a guy who lies no way no way but sometimes when you are in a toxic relationship
00:07:24.400 you know you are like it's not constant you are like that when it's nice it's super nice and when
00:07:30.240 it's down it's fucking down it's really exciting no but sometimes it's not exciting but sometimes 0.92
00:07:35.040 it's just an addiction it's exciting yeah addiction is exciting maybe but um it's crazy 0.99
00:07:40.520 it's great like some crazy emotions you don't ask me questions all right how much do you lie
00:07:46.460 never never lie maybe the tiniest white lie to hurt someone if someone asks me a direct question
00:07:54.020 lying is the worst thing in the world it may it's like giving a people a jigsaw puzzle with 0.99
00:07:59.400 and saying that all the pieces are there and they aren't all there so you fuck with someone else's 0.97
00:08:03.540 world i hate lying you asked me the perfect question i definitely not looking for a guy 0.97
00:08:08.300 who lies like say that now but that's what the girl heart tends to gravitates toward i think i
00:08:13.340 think girls hearts end up being attached to that guy why would he lie to me why would and then you 1.00
00:08:17.520 end up wanting him really badly because he's lying because he's a piece of shit you want to 0.99
00:08:21.520 and you can't get over the competition right you're thinking about the girls in abiza why does he 1.00
00:08:25.940 like these girls more and then you kind of want to improve on that that's love that's being in
00:08:30.640 love you think it's like real love or you think it's maybe more addiction or maybe competition
00:08:35.200 well that's what love is being in love is obsession is addiction it's all the same thing 0.96
00:08:39.320 what do you hate so much about lying you hate bullshitters i think that no i think that the 0.96
00:08:42.780 people are i don't mind bullshitters people that praise themselves up that think they're the 0.97
00:08:46.660 greatest person in the world that isn't lying lying is saying something that you know is exactly
00:08:51.420 isn't true and you're screwing with someone else's reality because they
00:08:55.200 can't put the pieces together people lie very successfully to me I can't
00:08:59.220 believe that people are lying I cannot think of people in life that are that
00:09:03.160 they're lying I cannot deal in lies it makes life more easy if you don't lie it
00:09:09.960 makes life more easy one person lied to me in the in life a long time ago
00:09:15.540 regarding her parents she said that her parents are doctor but it wasn't so she
00:09:21.240 had to build that up for like six eight months continue that like telling oh my mom is going to
00:09:27.780 a hospital my dad is going to the hospital they have a different shift this that but they were
00:09:31.480 completely different uh background our father was working in a car manufacturing company and
00:09:37.180 mother was a teacher so imagine the scenario when you build up for nine months when you have
00:09:41.660 when you think about it when you go backward how many all many lies all many lies due to only one
00:09:48.380 lie she had to support how did you catch her she didn't tell me herself she she asked her one of 0.51
00:09:53.800 her friend to tell me what about the is this a lie say you're supposed to go to a party and you're
00:09:59.100 running late and you're in the shower and then you call and you say oh i'm five minutes away but
00:10:03.160 you're really in the bathroom it's a little you know i have lied like that that's what i call
00:10:06.720 this slight white lie just to make it more comfortable for the other person a little or
00:10:10.780 say there's something a cat the difference between a white lie and a bigger lie it's a massive it
00:10:15.200 It doesn't affect the other person's world to know that you were just a late...
00:10:19.040 It affects the party, the attendance or something?
00:10:20.840 I have to say I feel my skin start to crawl even with that sort of lie.
00:10:24.840 I don't feel comfortable even with that sort of lie, no.
00:10:28.220 But you justified it.
00:10:29.600 I just, well, I don't, you know, I don't...
00:10:32.240 How much do you lie?
00:10:33.920 Um, probably a few times a year.
00:10:39.080 What was the last thing you lied about?
00:10:41.340 I said I was fine when I wasn't.
00:10:44.000 I'm fine!
00:10:45.200 I said I was fine, but I wasn't fine at all.
00:10:49.120 But nobody believed you when you said that.
00:10:51.520 That's not really a lie, that's just something everyone says.
00:10:54.100 No, no, it's a lie, it's just a common lie.
00:10:56.760 When people say they're fine and they're not fine, it's a common lie.
00:10:59.960 It's just people would like to say I'm fine because it feels more comfortable.
00:11:02.840 What are you usually protecting?
00:11:03.920 Whose feelings are you protecting when you lie?
00:11:06.660 I think maybe mine, in the sense that I wouldn't want to say
00:11:10.660 if I'm saying I'm late and I'm giving a wrong reason.
00:11:12.940 and I'm protecting myself going through a more painful experience
00:11:16.640 and admitting I just forgot that I was meant to come and see you altogether.
00:11:20.660 Do you ever get jealous?
00:11:23.680 Jealousy, do you mean by jealousy?
00:11:25.720 Because a lot of people confuse jealousy and envy, right?
00:11:29.340 Envy is like I want to have a Tesla or something.
00:11:34.020 I envy the guy with the Tesla or the pretty girlfriend or the good looks or whatever, right?
00:11:39.880 That's envy.
00:11:40.860 Is that what you mean or do you mean jealousy?
00:11:42.480 I thought that was the same thing, you're educating me now
00:11:45.040 No, the word is changing
00:11:46.580 Jealousy is growing to mean envy and jealousy
00:11:49.080 But in the old definition of these words
00:11:51.640 Envy is what
00:11:53.000 Desiring someone else's belongings
00:11:54.500 Your neighbors
00:11:55.820 I'm not a very religious person
00:11:58.200 But that's what it is, don't covet your neighbor's wife 0.99
00:12:00.220 His house
00:12:00.740 Jealousy is the fear of losing love
00:12:04.360 In other words, jealousy
00:12:06.000 If I have my girlfriend and I see my girlfriend
00:12:08.080 Laughing and enjoying the company of another man
00:12:10.320 and I see that she's going to be attracted to this guy
00:12:13.320 and I start to fear losing her, that's jealousy.
00:12:17.480 I jealously guard this lovely machine
00:12:20.220 because it's what I make my podcast.
00:12:21.940 I don't want to lose it.
00:12:22.840 I don't want it stolen.
00:12:24.020 I jealously guard it.
00:12:25.120 You can use it like that as well.
00:12:26.780 I fear losing it.
00:12:28.000 You never get jealous?
00:12:29.740 No, I don't do that.
00:12:31.300 No, I don't get jealous.
00:12:32.720 I don't get fear that I'm going to lose something
00:12:34.740 or I lose this friend.
00:12:35.720 As a child, I did, but I've grown out of that.
00:12:37.980 You understand jealousy as envy.
00:12:40.320 Every now and then, you know, for example, I was invited to a friend's house in Mallorca and I said, I didn't know what his house was or anything.
00:12:50.220 He picked me up from the station. I said, what's your car like? He said, no, I'll see you. Don't worry.
00:12:53.960 I said, just tell me your car. What's your car? He says, all right, it's a red Rolls Royce convertible.
00:12:57.760 All right. So then he was driving me on this beautiful island and I'm thinking, oh, I wouldn't mind living on this island, you know, having a Rolls Royce.
00:13:06.620 But then I thought I'm here now. I'm sitting in the Rolls-Royce and I'm on the island. I'm enjoying what am I thinking?
00:13:12.840 I'd like this. I'm here now in it
00:13:23.140 To drop out yeah, it doesn't matter what the fuck right or wrong. It's a it's a voice. It's a camera
00:13:28.120 It's just entertainment
00:13:29.860 It's not the Bible 0.99
00:13:31.860 I never say listen to what I just try to be entertaining
00:13:37.800 That's what YouTube is you still drop them gems for people to listen up like you said because that makes a good video because people watch it go
00:13:47.220 They only give a niggas plus one so I never pull up to the man. Yeah, I got some merch samples out who wants them 1.00
00:13:53.560 No honest opinion cuz we're just here right now. What do you think of the new samples right now?
00:13:56.840 Do you like the design or not?
00:13:59.180 Don't just lie because I'm here.
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