SNEAKO - July 12, 2022


Andrew Tate Might Actually be Right!


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Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

230.4848

Word Count

2,618

Sentence Count

223

Misogynist Sentences

40

Hate Speech Sentences

29


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In this episode of the Sexless Marriage podcast, I sit down with my good friend and online dating coach, Jai Singh, to talk about how to not get walked all over by women and how to be a better man.

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00:00:00.000 How to not get walked all over by women.
00:00:02.000 And I think that, actually, I'd be curious to get your take on this,
00:00:04.860 because I know I really like what you've said about managing women
00:00:08.720 in some of your videos and content.
00:00:11.140 But you talked about a lot of times the guy,
00:00:14.520 especially in the Western world, in the sexless marriage,
00:00:17.040 being walked all over.
00:00:18.760 How does a guy turn around this or prevent that from happening?
00:00:23.100 How does he get into a relationship where he stays the man,
00:00:27.900 where he is the king, let's say?
00:00:29.720 Because a lot of guys today, and this is something,
00:00:32.540 a lot of the red pill guys and stuff,
00:00:34.100 they want to blame women for all this shit.
00:00:35.820 They want to say, oh, women are thoughts today.
00:00:37.900 And it's like women have always been women throughout history.
00:00:41.200 They've always, in the absence of masculinity, become masculine.
00:00:44.480 This is just their characteristics.
00:00:46.580 So I like to blame the man.
00:00:49.020 I like to say if a woman is treating you wrong,
00:00:51.220 if you've got all this shit that happens.
00:00:53.660 Yeah, it's our fault.
00:00:55.100 It's our fault for giving too much attention to hoes.
00:00:57.420 It's our fault for giving too much attention to women that don't deserve it.
00:01:00.920 It's social media.
00:01:01.920 It's the program we give.
00:01:03.340 It's a currency now.
00:01:04.400 So we need to take responsibility for it because they don't want to improve,
00:01:07.360 and they will never fix it.
00:01:08.080 To you, it's because of you.
00:01:09.680 So how does the man become the guy that doesn't have this shit happen to him?
00:01:13.780 I 1,000% agree with you, friend.
00:01:15.540 I 1,000% agree.
00:01:16.940 So like I have, anyone who doesn't know me knows I used to run a webcam studio.
00:01:22.160 So I had 75 women working for me, and they were talking to guys online
00:01:27.160 and taking money from all the Democrats and Betas,
00:01:30.200 sending them money, and the money went to me.
00:01:31.760 This is how I first made big money.
00:01:33.280 So I kind of understand intersexual dynamics from a very unique perspective
00:01:37.360 because you had me at the top.
00:01:38.580 You had 75 women underneath, and you had thousands of men underneath them
00:01:41.840 giving them the money, which kind of went to me.
00:01:43.420 So it was kind of like a weird dynamic.
00:01:45.460 So yeah, here's the truth about male-female relationships.
00:01:49.740 Women fuck men they respect.
00:01:52.520 That's it.
00:01:53.340 They don't fuck men they like.
00:01:55.800 They don't fuck men they love.
00:01:57.280 They fuck men they respect.
00:01:58.680 If she loves you and likes you and doesn't respect you,
00:02:00.760 she will not have sex with you.
00:02:02.300 I have women who respect me and fucking hate me,
00:02:04.800 but they're here every time I call.
00:02:06.000 If you can get them emotional,
00:02:08.220 like don't get afraid if she starts getting angry or like,
00:02:10.580 I used to think that if she,
00:02:11.840 if I made her upset, then she was going to hate me.
00:02:14.360 But if you can make them emotional, that's what they want.
00:02:17.180 For a woman, hate and love is kind of the same thing.
00:02:19.060 It's just a spectrum.
00:02:20.200 If they respect you, they're going to sleep with you.
00:02:22.540 And this is something that's biological and evolutionary.
00:02:24.500 They fuck men they respect.
00:02:25.840 So how do you make women respect you?
00:02:27.300 Well, first, you have to be worthy of respect as an individual.
00:02:29.380 There's no hack.
00:02:30.440 If you're worthy of respect, you're worthy of respect.
00:02:31.920 But secondly, you cannot allow blatant disrespect.
00:02:36.000 So if you allow her to blatantly disrespect you,
00:02:38.000 she's going to keep on doing it.
00:02:39.300 She will not that they're like children.
00:02:41.540 They're like children.
00:02:43.220 If you don't discipline them,
00:02:44.540 if you don't show that there's consequences,
00:02:46.300 they'll keep doing it.
00:02:47.280 You tolerate that.
00:02:48.560 Then you're setting a precedent,
00:02:49.680 which means, well,
00:02:50.880 why would I respect this guy in the first place?
00:02:52.920 I say this to guys all the time.
00:02:54.340 I've had loads of guys who come to me for like coaching and stuff.
00:02:56.680 And they say, you know,
00:02:57.180 my woman doesn't respect me.
00:02:58.260 And I say, look,
00:02:59.780 it's much harder to fix something that's broken
00:03:02.300 than just never let it go wrong in the first place.
00:03:04.140 From the second you got together,
00:03:06.000 you should have been a man and you can be,
00:03:07.460 you haven't got to be an asshole.
00:03:08.960 You haven't got to be aggressive.
00:03:10.100 I'll sit with a girl and very politely say,
00:03:11.680 look, if we're going to be in a relationship,
00:03:13.320 if I'm going to take you seriously,
00:03:14.840 you're not going to have male friends.
00:03:16.020 If you want to hang around with a whole bunch of men,
00:03:17.860 then I'm not going to take you seriously.
00:03:19.760 What do you mean you won't take me seriously?
00:03:20.880 I mean, we can fuck.
00:03:21.920 But he's just my friend.
00:03:23.160 Okay.
00:03:23.940 Do you ever pay?
00:03:25.000 No.
00:03:25.700 Does he pay?
00:03:26.480 Yeah.
00:03:27.020 So it's a date?
00:03:28.160 No, because I don't like him.
00:03:29.760 Okay.
00:03:30.100 But does he like you?
00:03:31.240 Yeah, but it doesn't matter.
00:03:32.320 But how does that mean you're friends
00:03:33.880 if he wants to have sex with you,
00:03:35.240 but you don't?
00:03:36.100 Well, it's just my friend.
00:03:38.040 I'm not going to be,
00:03:38.800 I'm never going to look at you as serious material.
00:03:40.920 So the idea, the decision is on you.
00:03:44.020 If you want to be serious,
00:03:45.000 you're not going to talk to those guys.
00:03:45.940 You want to talk to those guys?
00:03:46.740 I'll fuck you sometimes.
00:03:47.620 You decide.
00:03:49.080 And I lay on them.
00:03:50.220 And now if they choose to keep all their male friends,
00:03:53.000 then that means she's chosen these friendships over me,
00:03:55.320 which means sooner or later,
00:03:56.620 she was going to cheat anyway.
00:03:57.600 Like how long until she jumps on a new dick anyway?
00:03:59.700 So why would-
00:04:00.560 As soon as you show weakness,
00:04:01.540 she'll jump to those friends.
00:04:03.400 But I'd be upset about it.
00:04:05.160 But most men are too scared
00:04:06.480 to just put the ultimatum down.
00:04:08.360 And not, you haven't got to put the ultimatum down
00:04:09.720 in some scary, big, brash way.
00:04:11.560 Just be clear.
00:04:12.220 Look, any woman I'm with who I take seriously
00:04:13.900 doesn't hang around with other men.
00:04:15.340 So it's your choice.
00:04:17.640 And this is the point.
00:04:19.040 But most men don't say anything.
00:04:20.480 They let it slide
00:04:21.180 and they let it get completely broken.
00:04:22.600 And they come to me and say,
00:04:23.400 well, how do I fix it?
00:04:24.220 It's like, well, you have to make it,
00:04:25.180 not let it get broken in the first place.
00:04:27.260 You need to understand your boundaries
00:04:28.900 and expectations as a man.
00:04:30.340 And you have to set them.
00:04:31.360 And you have to make sure she complies
00:04:32.800 and sticks to them.
00:04:33.620 And if she doesn't,
00:04:34.380 you're going to have to find somebody else.
00:04:35.940 And this is another thing I talk about
00:04:37.340 being a playboy.
00:04:38.880 I have lots of guys come to me and say,
00:04:40.040 oh, Tate,
00:04:40.900 but I don't want to be a playboy like you.
00:04:42.820 I say, look,
00:04:43.300 if you want to be happily married,
00:04:44.420 the best thing you can be first is a playboy.
00:04:46.840 The best thing you can do
00:04:47.960 because you're going to learn
00:04:48.580 a whole bunch about women.
00:04:49.820 You need to womanize.
00:04:51.200 You need to be with a lot of women
00:04:52.280 to understand them.
00:04:53.700 And you need to not give a fuck about them
00:04:55.180 to really see what they are at their core.
00:04:58.960 That's why women will never understand us.
00:05:00.940 But that womanizing,
00:05:01.940 that playboy phase
00:05:02.740 will like let you tap into their true nature.
00:05:06.460 And what they really think,
00:05:08.540 la la land,
00:05:09.660 I just want a flower picnic
00:05:11.080 and I'm pretty
00:05:12.800 and that's cute
00:05:13.820 and makeup
00:05:14.700 and why would you say that?
00:05:16.360 That's toxic.
00:05:17.300 And you're like,
00:05:17.740 oh, now I get it.
00:05:18.960 You just are run by your emotions.
00:05:21.340 You're going to have a whole bunch of choices
00:05:22.600 to choose for a wife.
00:05:23.660 If you're stuck with one option,
00:05:25.160 the one chick you met,
00:05:27.020 you know,
00:05:27.440 she might be a dickhead.
00:05:28.920 Some women are just dickheads.
00:05:30.260 Yep.
00:05:30.460 You know,
00:05:31.180 you know,
00:05:31.520 some women have been fucked too hard.
00:05:32.940 Don't save her.
00:05:34.160 She don't want to be sad.
00:05:35.480 Don't save her.
00:05:36.760 She don't want to be sad.
00:05:38.040 Too many times
00:05:38.720 with too many big scary guys
00:05:40.080 and they just don't want to listen to them.
00:05:41.700 So like,
00:05:42.780 the more dick she takes,
00:05:44.100 the less she makes sense.
00:05:45.080 I'm sorry,
00:05:45.640 but body count does matter.
00:05:46.920 The world really would be a better place
00:05:48.580 if we could all write it all day heads, bro.
00:05:50.700 The more dick she takes,
00:05:52.780 the more crazy you get.
00:05:54.100 Being a playboy is important.
00:05:56.020 But yeah,
00:05:56.620 absolutely.
00:05:57.200 For setting your boundaries and stuff
00:05:58.700 and making sure you're not respected.
00:06:00.200 The key is this as a man,
00:06:01.440 and this is the bottom,
00:06:02.200 bottom,
00:06:02.500 bottom line.
00:06:03.840 Most men
00:06:04.620 are not prepared to walk away.
00:06:07.000 Mm-hmm.
00:06:07.500 Mm-hmm.
00:06:07.980 Yep.
00:06:08.260 And if you're not prepared to walk away,
00:06:10.440 you don't have any weapons.
00:06:12.760 Exactly.
00:06:13.040 If she knows no matter what,
00:06:14.680 you won't leave,
00:06:16.140 then she's going to keep disrespecting,
00:06:18.280 going crazy,
00:06:19.080 acting wild.
00:06:20.380 You need to have options.
00:06:21.940 A roast,
00:06:22.220 she'll act like a child,
00:06:23.440 like a misbehaved child
00:06:24.640 and toys are roast
00:06:25.320 throwing a tantrum.
00:06:25.980 What weapons do you have?
00:06:27.500 Anything you say,
00:06:28.580 shouting,
00:06:29.140 screaming,
00:06:29.720 yelling,
00:06:30.540 going out away for a few days,
00:06:33.060 whatever.
00:06:33.620 She knows you're going to come back.
00:06:35.220 You have no weapons.
00:06:36.520 The second,
00:06:37.460 imagine a girl came to you
00:06:38.680 and she said,
00:06:39.160 no matter what you do,
00:06:40.020 no matter how many times you cheat,
00:06:40.900 no matter what,
00:06:41.380 da, da, da,
00:06:41.740 I will never,
00:06:42.680 never leave.
00:06:43.760 Right.
00:06:43.860 Think of all the shit you do.
00:06:46.120 Think of what?
00:06:46.880 I know I do.
00:06:48.380 Yeah.
00:06:48.660 So this is the point.
00:06:49.660 So as a man,
00:06:50.560 if you're never prepared to walk away,
00:06:52.160 you're never going to be respected.
00:06:53.540 Respect.
00:06:54.380 And the woman thinking,
00:06:55.620 you know what?
00:06:56.260 He might just leave.
00:06:58.040 Are linked.
00:06:59.460 They have to be there.
00:07:01.180 So you have to mean what you say.
00:07:02.800 You have to let her know,
00:07:03.800 look,
00:07:03.980 there's some things I won't tolerate.
00:07:05.120 And if you fuck with me,
00:07:05.720 I'm going to walk away.
00:07:06.260 And if you walk away
00:07:07.100 and she doesn't chase you,
00:07:08.220 then,
00:07:08.920 then she's gone.
00:07:09.880 At least you saved yourself
00:07:11.160 a fucking nasty divorce
00:07:12.420 and getting cheated on
00:07:13.480 and all that shit.
00:07:14.520 Just end it then and there
00:07:15.580 and save yourself a bunch of time.
00:07:17.360 But men are too afraid
00:07:18.360 to pull the plug on it
00:07:19.420 because they get addicted to the pussy
00:07:20.600 and they don't believe
00:07:21.160 they can get any more pussy
00:07:22.060 and they get all messed up.
00:07:23.460 That's why we put up with so much.
00:07:25.120 I still want to hear
00:07:26.880 she has nice boobs.
00:07:29.000 Just boobs, bro.
00:07:30.540 Not worth all those problems.
00:07:31.840 And this is one of the advantages
00:07:32.760 of being a playboy.
00:07:33.820 I can leave any chick
00:07:34.860 because I got 10 more.
00:07:36.920 Yeah.
00:07:37.400 So if she doesn't act right,
00:07:38.660 I'll just replace her for the night
00:07:39.760 and I'll feel better by the next day.
00:07:41.660 I go through a breakup a week.
00:07:43.360 Look at the look in this guy's eyes
00:07:45.060 on the left.
00:07:45.580 He's supposed to be
00:07:46.620 the not toxic.
00:07:49.220 At least he's rational
00:07:50.420 and he's not so aggressive.
00:07:51.860 But look at the look in his eyes.
00:07:52.920 He's like, yeah, whoa.
00:07:55.060 Like he inherently,
00:07:57.120 like what he's saying
00:07:58.580 is stuff that all men
00:07:59.900 really agree with
00:08:00.980 if you think about it
00:08:01.620 and if you've dealt with women.
00:08:02.880 And he's like, oh my God,
00:08:03.820 you're saying
00:08:04.420 what I really have thought
00:08:05.820 my whole life.
00:08:06.420 I don't give a shit.
00:08:08.300 And it's just like,
00:08:09.060 this is part of the game.
00:08:09.940 So you have to be prepared
00:08:10.760 to walk away as a man.
00:08:11.720 So you have to look at
00:08:12.280 any relationship you're in
00:08:13.100 and say, okay,
00:08:13.980 I'm a nice guy.
00:08:14.640 I love her.
00:08:15.060 She loves me,
00:08:15.580 but I have boundaries
00:08:16.220 and if she fucks with him,
00:08:17.020 I'm going to have to walk away.
00:08:18.320 And that's the truth.
00:08:18.880 Otherwise,
00:08:19.160 you're never going to be respected.
00:08:20.440 Yeah.
00:08:20.720 I call it non-attachment, right?
00:08:22.540 Like having this ability
00:08:23.440 to be fully open, right?
00:08:25.420 Because it's not just being
00:08:26.340 a cold, heartless bastard or asshole.
00:08:30.080 It's being fully open,
00:08:31.140 but also at the same time
00:08:32.180 being willing to walk away,
00:08:33.140 just being saying,
00:08:33.920 hey, you know,
00:08:34.520 I'm not attached.
00:08:35.540 Like, you know,
00:08:36.240 I can express myself,
00:08:37.940 you know,
00:08:38.220 can even fall in love.
00:08:39.160 That's fine.
00:08:39.600 But I'm willing to walk away
00:08:41.380 because my worth
00:08:42.780 is so much greater
00:08:44.200 and I have options.
00:08:45.460 I'm better than you.
00:08:46.420 And I'm never going to time.
00:08:47.300 No, what he's saying
00:08:48.160 in a lot of words
00:08:48.920 is I'm better than you.
00:08:51.320 Myself up into one,
00:08:52.700 one single option
00:08:54.080 that I have
00:08:54.780 and putting my worth
00:08:55.760 or identity into that.
00:08:57.160 I've been head over heels
00:08:58.200 in love with women
00:08:58.900 and left them
00:09:00.060 and never got them back
00:09:01.300 and they never knew.
00:09:02.540 Yep.
00:09:02.920 That's life.
00:09:03.920 That's how it goes.
00:09:04.680 I've been head over heels
00:09:05.360 in love with women.
00:09:05.960 I didn't want to lose them
00:09:06.760 and they weren't listening.
00:09:07.620 So I walked away
00:09:08.300 and they didn't chase me
00:09:09.280 and I lost them.
00:09:10.220 But that's it.
00:09:10.940 My honor's intact.
00:09:11.880 My pride's intact.
00:09:12.840 And now I don't give a fuck anymore
00:09:13.980 because time's a hero.
00:09:14.800 That's life.
00:09:15.700 So it's better
00:09:16.740 than staying in a relationship
00:09:17.600 which I'm not happy in
00:09:18.480 because she starts acting
00:09:19.140 like a fucking fool.
00:09:20.500 And it's kind of like,
00:09:21.760 I use chess analogies a lot,
00:09:23.160 but it's kind of like chess.
00:09:24.100 If you're playing a game of chess
00:09:25.960 and you're in a losing position
00:09:27.020 and the only hope you have
00:09:28.640 of winning is a big sacrifice,
00:09:29.980 you give up your queen.
00:09:31.060 And you don't know
00:09:31.620 if it's going to work or not,
00:09:32.400 but it's the only hope.
00:09:33.760 You're better off
00:09:34.280 making the sacrifice
00:09:35.100 even if you lose
00:09:36.000 because if you don't,
00:09:36.780 you're just going to slowly
00:09:37.560 get ground down
00:09:38.440 and definitely lose in the end.
00:09:40.580 Like, do you love that pussy so much
00:09:42.420 you'd rather delay the breakup
00:09:43.920 by seven months
00:09:44.740 and lose without any pride or honor
00:09:46.360 and leave without any pride or honor
00:09:48.260 while she cheats on you?
00:09:49.120 Isn't it better just to say
00:09:49.840 right hand in the air,
00:09:50.500 you're not talking to that guy anymore?
00:09:52.100 Like, the end is coming.
00:09:54.140 If she chooses to talk
00:09:55.140 to that dude over you,
00:09:56.320 the end is certain.
00:09:57.740 So can you have enough balls
00:09:58.940 to just say bye
00:09:59.840 and at least leave
00:10:00.720 with your head held high?
00:10:02.140 But this is another thing, man.
00:10:03.540 It's crazy.
00:10:04.260 These men have never been through
00:10:05.940 any kind of emotional trauma.
00:10:07.980 So the idea of breaking up
00:10:09.080 with a woman is big to them.
00:10:11.500 I've been through,
00:10:12.360 when you've been through real shit,
00:10:14.420 a breakup just doesn't become
00:10:15.840 that real anymore.
00:10:16.860 You know, I've had people
00:10:17.480 try to kill me.
00:10:18.380 I have stab wounds.
00:10:19.680 Tell me again about this girl
00:10:20.840 who doesn't text you back.
00:10:22.120 Like, who gives a shit?
00:10:23.840 But she was hot.
00:10:26.460 But she's so,
00:10:27.540 she listened to my feelings.
00:10:29.740 There's people in Syria
00:10:30.800 getting bombed.
00:10:32.540 Yeah.
00:10:32.740 You have to get some perspective
00:10:34.440 and just realize
00:10:35.300 you're being, like,
00:10:36.120 there's real trauma
00:10:37.240 out here in the world.
00:10:38.500 Terrible things happen
00:10:39.440 day after day.
00:10:41.040 And here you are, alive.
00:10:42.680 But she was special.
00:10:44.260 And breathing
00:10:44.760 and perfectly healthy.
00:10:46.100 And you're going to cry
00:10:46.680 over some bitch?
00:10:48.080 Just man up.
00:10:49.340 But I liked her a lot.
00:10:50.920 And we would hold hands
00:10:52.460 and we went on a picnic.
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