SNEAKO - April 19, 2023Feminist Accuses SNEAKO of Vibrating with Misogyny!
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Summary
In this episode, I'm joined by author and dating coach, Sneeko, to discuss why feminism is bad for men and why it's good for women. We discuss the role of women in society and the importance of men in society.
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People like to have a victim mindset, especially...
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It's not a victimization, I'm just saying it exists.
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That's my point, is that we hear this victimized mindset right now in order to give you a way
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to navigate the world that justifies a lot of your thoughts and beliefs.
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We're talking about race, and you're like, it's giving misogyny.
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What does calling out the victimization of the race...
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They're just here trying to make you look stupid
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So what did I say that makes you think I'm a misogynist
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No, you're trying to put your masculinity into insertive, and I don't like that.
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Yeah, I can feel it, and it's like you're trying to suppress my feminine.
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So today we have a lovely panel, including some special guests.
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I am 24 years old, and fun fact, I am a really nice guy.
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If you're a nice guy, it means there's vulnerabilities to you.
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That's how you're freaking yourself out of the bad situation.
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Fun fact about me, I've written 11 books about dating and the dating marketplace.
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Today's topic, I'm just going to get right into it
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As eradicating the importance of men in society
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Did you actually agree or were you just trying to get to the next person?
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I think that a lot of, I think the term feminism has been almost changed
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in modern day time and made into almost like women need to overpower men
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and women need to take over the world kind of energy.
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and show men the importance of women in society.
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without where would the world be without women like where would you you've come from a woman
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you've learned most of what you've growing up who brought you up was it your mother or your father
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who's who's so who's got core duties why do men go so hard so the importance of a woman is
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motherhood no not just motherhood come back to me i have to think about it but women you seem
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pretty set in stone on that i think we just saw feminism in real time you said that it's in our
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role is really important and then you just said motherhood which is that existed before the
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feminist movement motherhood has always been important yeah it's always been respected right
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you're right and it's pinnacle how do you think the world's going to continue to go on without
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motherhood we agree so would you be here if you didn't have a mother we agree 100 exactly so what
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is the feminist movement done to prove that well the feminist movement if you're talking about what
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is the problem when people want to label things.
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We have different experiences, different careers, different ones.
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So if you start saying feminism, you start labeling everybody,
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it's a problem because a black woman's freaking experience
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So when everybody's saying, oh, women, empower yourselves,
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Some women are mothers, some women are not mothers.
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It's like, don't put me under the same umbrella.
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What does a black woman, what does that have to do with feminism?
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It has to do with feminism because, for example, for me,
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just knowing the difference between my empowerment
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and the empowerment of my white girlfriends, it's very different.
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So when somebody's telling me, oh, feminism, empower yourself,
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The same way that I don't believe that racism is actually something
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because even that black experience is totally different
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depending on where you're from, what class you come from.
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Everything you're saying is why people think that feminists are just chatting
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So you don't actually get to understand what the genuine problem is
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So I already know that my experience is different
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There's a lot of ways you're victimizing yourself
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I don't really care about whether or not it was a situation
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and your immigration. Of course. You're leading
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with that. Is that your identity? You can understand that
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what you've done in the world instead of all of these other
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things? I've done a lot of things in the world. Okay, then why not lead with those?
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I'm an educator as well. Okay, cool. And I understand
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What I'm trying to say is I'm not trying to make this about racism.
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explain that. But you did. No, no, no. You certainly did.
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And let me tell you why. Because I'm making a comparison.
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Because the problems are not just caused by gender,
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the problems are caused by these other factors that you're talking about.
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Yes, but it's caused by so many different things.
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There's different elements to it, so don't box me in.
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You neglect the people that actually do need empowering.
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all of these things because when you look at us, the first thing you
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you're not going to look at me first as a TV presenter.
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coming out of your mouth because it's a poisonous thing for you to think next to feminists and i'm
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saying whatever your empowerment movement is is not the same as mine so don't actually label me
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to be in that situation and say oh women want oh i'm not labeling you i'm simply telling you what
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exactly what you said no no no no exactly what you said what do you think about feminine i said
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i'm black i'm an immigrant all this bullshit that's literally what you just said that's exactly
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let me rephrase it so you can understand it please so essentially if i stand next to a feminist
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yeah for example a white woman i don't relate to you because i'm black okay wait wait wait let me
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finish can i finish you're about to say i can't box myself in with you because i'm black that's
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not what i'm saying say it then what i'm saying is i am not the same woman as you what i want and
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what i see to be empowerment is not the same whether it's culturally whether it's racially
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whether it's professionally academically personally whatever we are all very different women cannot
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be boxed into the same box because we're not the same because you're different races because of
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But you want to have other things to complain about.
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I know the things that are not right and I know the things that are right.
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That's why I mentioned, for example, things like race is a gray area in the middle
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that makes it say, oh yeah, feminism may not actually be as accurate as people are saying.
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That is why people come across feminists and they don't know what they want
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my point is your existence is a sum of your beliefs and your thoughts and if you're always
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thinking that i'm a victim because i'm black i'm not a feminist because of this i'm an immigrant
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then you know what's going to happen you're going to stay poor you're going to stay unhappy and
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you're going to see racism everywhere at a certain level of wealth and at a certain level of status
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people never discuss things like race people never discuss like i'm an immigrant so it was hard you
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just want to get to the next point yeah that's why racism is a problem winners only see green
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Because the truth of the matter is like I own a business right have a bunch of employees
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If somebody turns up and does their job and they're profitable for my company
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I cannot afford to give a fuck about their race religion hair
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It's too hard to find people that work really hard
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So a great example of that is LeBron James has been in the NBA for years because he puts out motherfucking results
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Okay, but and he's not worried and he's not worried and living. Oh, I'm black
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I can't play in the league, but you could say that for any I know plenty of successful young black men
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And one thing I have a super big heart for is I play college football, and I cannot stand to see people put those young men in a box and tell them from the jump that they are not going to have a good shot at life just because they're black.
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That is putting them in a box from the beginning and lying to them.
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Do you think that LeBron James had the same journey as his white teammates?
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i feel left out fuck this i'm leaving no no no but i'm just saying if okay actually that's in
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america in the u in the uk it's different my problem is telling young black men that they
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don't have a shot because they're black is literally handicapping them from the jump and
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i won't stand for it in the uk it's very different my friend in the uk for example the football
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leagues they are full of white boys and the white players are actually quite physically endowed and
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they're quite talented they get they stay behind a little bit more they're not selected first
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players were the ones that were blamed and all the white
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players were the ones that were celebrated because that
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so are both of you trying to say racism doesn't exist
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Do you have a harder time succeeding than a white girl?
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I feel like it's all about mindset, to be honest.
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If you sit there and think, oh, I can't do this because of this,
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or I can't do that, then obviously that's a negative mindset to have.
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You're not going to grow and you're not going to be the best version of yourself.
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I get what you guys are trying to say in terms of
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Trying to understand is are you guys trying to say
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That's all and it's just this fantasy not as much
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people like to have and this is what wokeness does we like to have reasons to justify our
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existence and where our place in the world like we're held back because of white oppression i'm
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a feminist i'm an immigrant and this is why i'm where i'm at it makes us feel better about our
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position in life but if you let go of those attachments and just understand that the world
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is what you make it you will succeed and you will be better these ways so like racism it's all
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garbage it's all meant to keep us like down and at the bottom the black lives matter movement for
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example was all garbage all the psyop all that was a scam same with the feminist movement any of
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these ideologies that people grasp on to feel better same thing with all these people talking
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about ukraine and russia like you're not going to change it just go get some money and start a
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family and just stop attaching yourself to stuff that you have no control over and that and that's
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the point and he's dead on because like for example people get all up flustered about who
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wins a presidency oh trump's president i can't dude i don't give a fuck who wins president you
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could be president tomorrow i'm still gonna win bet your fucking ass i don't care what the
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condition is i don't care who's in the office you do any of you could be president tomorrow and i'm
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still gonna get up and go to work the next day can i tell you something very interesting do you
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know why racism actually exists because nobody said it didn't exist it's not a way to lead your
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identity it's actually very annoying because what people don't understand is that sometimes you're
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walking amongst black people or even sometimes a black person will go into a shop and the security
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guard will look at them and follow them they don't even know they're looking at prints because
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Is that, like, everyone in here just met you today?
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Listen, they, I mean, they is just the people that don't matter to me.
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And I'm just saying, this is a good sample size of people.
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Like, you know, I know we know each other, but outside of that.
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Could you be projecting insecurities onto other people,
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making assumptions about what people think about you?
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Because when I met you, I didn't think, oh, she's lower or she's anything else.
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That goes perhaps that links more into feminism
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My biggest comment is like, look at this stupid girl.
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I told Mr. King Riches that I could fix a Bentley.
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Then why not say, but why not respond to King Rich and say, because I have the skill set?
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That's why feminism as well, what the girls are trying to say.
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What I believe girls are trying to say is that, listen, don't look at the fact that I'm a girl.
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I've got the skill set so respect me for my skill set
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You were saying that like people assume that you couldn't fix
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No, it doesn't matter. That's what I'm saying. Feminism
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I'll match it because I love that. And if you can,
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a series, guys. Make sure that you subscribe to my channel.
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me fix a car i fixed the change batteries change tires fix the electric system why because i know
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how to use google very well and i brought this and i did it love it love it i think anyone who
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hasn't experienced racism shouldn't say anything about it full stop well okay cool so i grew up
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quite a while five years five years in a black neighborhood i got in a fight every other day
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for it okay because i had red hair they called me rooster i literally got in fights every day
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It's discrimination based on what it looks like.
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We were the ones that oppressed, so you can't call that racism.
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If you had a skill set that was worth something to somebody, you would be the richest fucker
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I'm not trying to belittle what happened to black people.
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Why are people in the UK talking about slavery?
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I have a lot of young black men that follow me.
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There's no fucking way on earth I'm going to let them believe that they have a lesser chance than anybody else if they just work their ass off.
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There's no way I'm letting those young men believe that shit.
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King Rich is why do people listen to you when they see you?
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can i say something it's not a thing where they hate women if anything they love women for a man
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to tell you to think positively how is that hatred the people are literally telling us that what we
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think is what's going to manifest so therefore think positive thoughts and positive things will
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happen to you you guys on this table who are talking about feminists you're all negative
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because why would you focus so much on comments why would you focus so much on who's looking at
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your hairstyle your accent or whatever and then someone comes to tell you actually focus on the
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positive, and you guys are saying they hate you.
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You can't focus on it, because just the other day, a man
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get a job because of his afro, so you can't tell us to not
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It literally happened the other day. Yeah, but that's his experience.
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with my afro, the first thing people are going to do is stare at me,
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and certain places won't want to give me the job just because I have
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if they have told me I am not giving you the job
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My point is that's going to happen point blank, period.
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, stop.
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Because they want you to believe that racism is a real problem
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It was not only on the news, it went viral on Twitter
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No, but you're saying why you saw it on the news
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And like that Afro nonsense that you saw on the news
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In order for you to believe that there's a system that's holding you back
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I didn't get the job, sat there and didn't have an, at this point, when he got on the news.
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They pick and chose to run that story because it gives people like you a reason to feel.
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They used to want to give my mom free food in the market because they didn't believe that white woman could have three little kids with afros.
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They used to give her food because they used to think that we're little African children that suffer.
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Okay, my overall point is that people like to have a victim mindset.
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It's not a victimization, I'm just saying it exists.
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That's my point, is that we hear this victimized mindset right now in order to give you a way to navigate the world that justifies a lot of your thoughts and beliefs.
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We're talking about race, and you're like, it's giving misogyny.
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What does calling out the victimization of the race, you feel the vibrations of misogyny?
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Your mentality is one of, you're a type of man.
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No, sister, they're just here trying to make you look stupid.
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So what did I say that makes you think that I'm a misogyny
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Y'all look, y'all are all smart, pretty young women
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You can do anything you want to in this fucking world
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put out into the universe are allowed to be put out in the universe that a young black man is
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going to not be able to be successful in his life because of his skin color there's no chance and i
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will sit here and you can call me whatever you want but i just know too many of them and i know
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too many that have been successful yeah but you're one of a few you're not like the majority but you
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have to understand how many people watch this show can i how many people watch your channel
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it's important no you're not can i challenge you guys but in general it does it doesn't stop you
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You know what, honestly, I think most white men...
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I believe that, and I think that there's prejudice
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and in countries like japan that are very you know homogenous homogenous they won't even let
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you in the restaurant unless you're japanese like you guys you think you've seen racism bro
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there's some places in this world i've been that are turbo racist outwardly and get away with it
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i think a black person today has a better chance than they've ever had is it completely fair no i
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don't think so but i don't think life is completely fair at all and there's no way i'm going to let
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somebody mentally handicapped themselves from the
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think it's an impairment to me. I know it made me
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it exists and it actually was an obstacle. Then for you, it's
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relationship with it. And it's the same thing. You called us victims at first, but for me,
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superwoman. Because she led with it. I'm leading with my superpower.
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What do you want me to do? Yeah, as she said, she's leading.
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Yeah, but it didn't sound like a superpower then, did it?
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No, because you didn't allow me to finish. You started saying
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know you're leading with that what does that have to do you became challenging and this is the
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problem this is why she said you guys are feeling a little bit like misogyny but that's not what
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she means it's like you're going to be very aggressive and very challenging they're just
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talking with passion because it's important it's important it's important because you have to go
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out into the world with the absolute mindset that regardless of your circumstances regardless of
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your background or your racial ethnicity or anything that you can go out and you can make
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a success of your life we all have to do that a hundred percent and that's why they're getting
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You just got offered $1,000 to see if you could fix a car.
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Should I take it black because you're a black girl?
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Actually, do you hear the black privilege, too?
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Black people and minorities in general have more freedom of speech than white people.
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Because you just said that, in my experience, white people aren't like this.
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And he's the first white guy you've ever seen act that way.
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You're able to say, and that's pattern recognition.
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If a white person said the same thing, that would be seen as racist.
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You can't make judgments about other minorities like that.
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White people have the least amount of freedom of speech right now because immediately, and especially right now, you call it saying that you're vibrating with misogyny because I'm speaking aggressively towards you.
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That victim mentality gives you a lot more free speech than you're really aware of.
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If I say something that upsets you, it's misogynistic.
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If you see patterns in different races, that's just seen as your worldview.
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view if he said the same thing oh you're the first black girl that talked that way in my experience
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you would call him a racist yeah he makes a good point because if somebody if one of us guys said
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oh this this woman over here she's she's i can feel the vibration of her toxic femininity
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you know we'd just be like cancelled immediately not really no they would just call us retarded
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that's just a retarded thing to say i think racism and all of these issues do exist but i feel like
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i agree with you guys and thank you guys because you actually gave me a new way of thinking that
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because at the end of the day what we think is what will manifest
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and you still have to go out into the world and make it work
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if racism was such this big barrier that you guys
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are exaggerating it to be why would we have black
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So in America, blacks are 13% of the population
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Poor white people than there are going to be poor black people
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So would you say that's suppression or black people's culture?
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because this is the thing now with racism because of culture and how things
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people have just been stuck in kind of like that limbo of like, okay,
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Black people are still trying to catch up with a lot of things.
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So that's why right now, yeah, it is still a cultural thing.
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And what we can do is say the things that you were saying is empower yourself
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because you are letting the cultural context ruin your prospects because you're
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And why are you acting so surprised when he said cultural?
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What genre of music advocates for murder all the time?
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You know what my problem with it is, actually, that I hate?
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It's when a young black man goes and gets successful.
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And obviously, because of the numbers and the businessmen in the world,
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He ends up working with white people, and they call him an Uncle Tom.
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I think they only call you an Uncle Tom if you're acting a certain way.
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No, no, as in, like, no, no, no, I'm not trying to be disrespectful.
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But when I've seen people call someone an Uncle Tom,
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it's in a sense where you're just, from what I've seen is they will,
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like, when I watch NWA is they made all the black guys just get on the floor
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And the black policeman is just standing for it
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A good 40-50% of people that have been incarcerated
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I think it's a high percentage for black people
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Because I know it can be awkward, especially with what happened
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Brought that into the conversation, because we're talking about
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It's always been freedom at the expense of men.
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Like the vote was one of the first things that we got, right?
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Would you agree that was a good thing that women got to vote?
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So if there's a war that breaks out, the men are the ones that have to go fight.
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So that's why women didn't want to vote because they had to be drafted in order to vote.
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Because if you're voting for in the U.S., it's the commander in chief who picks if we go to war.
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But they didn't get the responsibility that comes with it.
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In the U.S., selective service is up to $200,000 per year.
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So if they don't enlist, basically, if war breaks out and they don't sign up for the service, basically, they get fined $200,000.
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But do you know why women should still have a say?
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Because the same way that men are the ones that go to war that could get killed, it's the same way that women are then going to be left behind without a father at home or without a husband at home.
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That's why it shouldn't just be men making decisions
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So if democracy is about people, we are all people
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Then be equally drafted and go on the front lines
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But then women say, oh no, I don't want to do that
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Because you always hear the feminists talk about
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Even though we get paid more in a lot of industries
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And this is why I find feminism to be completely contradicting
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I want to be making this amount of money as men
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And then the minute they find men that's making less money than them
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It's usually, they just, I cannot stand women that complain about getting paid equal.
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Because I've worked in so many industries that are begging women to work there.
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But there are hard jobs and women don't want to work there.
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But then the women would get the job and they would quit.
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My highest paid employee in all my companies is a woman.
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And all of her health benefits, her gym membership
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Do you know what, can I say something that is really cute about feminists
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And they just want people to say, yay you, well done
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Because I realize that sometimes I'm looking at these girls
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and say, yeah, what we call rights, we want this,
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we want that, and realistically, no, you just want the man
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to be able to say to you, oh, you're a G as well,
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because you don't need that validation, you know
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That's you. No, I know, and that's why I'm saying
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most of the feminists that I've met are actually
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men, so I'm just a bit like men and trans women.
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A guy that lives by truth and just calls it how it is
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Respect and your respect means with a man and a woman
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Because you've already immediately labeled me to be a feminist.
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You said that feminism is wanting to get validation for men for being equal.
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You got mad at him for not being able to fix a car,
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and we just all gave you money up to go fix a car.
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Let me explain why you're actually just looking for an argument.
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I'm just trying to see the double standard of what you're saying.
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when in reality what they're actually looking for is just,
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Newsflash, men go to work all day, every day, and nobody thanks them.
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So I'm actually against feminism because it actually hinders me.
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I get called that all the time, and it's so annoying.
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So why did we all put up money to go fix a car if you're not exactly what you just described?
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And let me tell you why I am not a feminist in that essence.
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oh, by the way, if I tell you that I can fix a car,
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i'm saying i'm belittling the fact that feminists will stand there say equal rights we want all of
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this when in reality you're just a sweet little girl that just wants to be like well done but
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they're angry without all of those movements you wouldn't be here i would be no you wouldn't
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50 years ago yes 50 years ago dead ass no like without those women actually taking the logic
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upon themselves you know using that logic whether it was to do what meant what was the example that
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you gave when they were terrorists men have been known terrorists for a very long time we're
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talking back to the 1700s but what outcomes has that given for women has that given us good
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outcomes are we happier no or do we have more children no are we on are we're on anti we're
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on antidepressants more than ever before yes is this because we're more sexually promiscuous than
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ever before we're in less relationships than ever before more of us are childless over 30 than ever
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before what outcomes has happened that it's that are good we can point to individual things and
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say yes we're on a podcast that's fun but in society as as a whole what what good has it done
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but also the other the other issue with it is at what point you're talking about yeah 50 years ago
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but I believe there is an even playing field now
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Canada, all these Anglosphere countries, right?
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and then guys are actually being disadvantaged now.
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I do think that's the problem of modern day feminism.
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say for example like we want a man to provide for us and care for us and some people might
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want to be a housewife but then also you want the the other side of it and you want to take
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control in the relationship or vice versa yeah but she doesn't really want that like it's not
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actually equal because it's like who say for example certain areas of work like a bin man
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very few women want to be a bin man they will say it's i would say zero yeah they would say
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it's a man's job but then if you want to look at feminism you guys want equality but when it
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comes to certain jobs you don't want to do them when it comes to certain certain instances you
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don't want to be involved in them so it doesn't really i think feminists pick and choose yeah
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when it benefits them no but i think that's something i would say i think the issue here
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is you guys are not trying to like not you guys in general but just like women who are like i'm
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not a feminist but everything that you've actually being made like and alive right now i mean and
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it's back to my point of the 50 years ago 100 years ago when your ancestors and your great
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great great grandmothers are sitting there in the kitchen unable to do anything yeah like
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feminism has benefited every woman in today's society yeah i was about to say i would suspect
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those women are happier than these women currently how and how are they happy are they're not even
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here i would actually prefer to be where women was in the 20s because the pressure for me as a
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lady to work can be very exhausting so when you sit here and say that oh this is the reason why
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i'm here today most women really don't most women i'll be honest with you we do all of this work
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boss chick stuff because of the pressure that this feminist woman has put on women to not be
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lazy and to get up and work so when you sit here and say oh this is the reason why you guys are
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here and da da da da da most of us really don't want to be don't forget that you're black and
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i want freedom the first wait wait just to correct something the first female million
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it was um in the early it was in 1900 so yeah the hair shop lady no but everyone says they couldn't
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um vote or they couldn't work until like the 50s and 60s but before that there was a female
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millionaire so there someone did it yeah that's nice weren't held back well to be honest making
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money is not really that hard you know this is the thing if you are capable you can do anything
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whether you're a man or woman the problem with feminism i think is that it displaces women a
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lot of the time because you're trying to make us be something that we're not like i work for
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myself i i i do i would say i am a boss in what i do but i'm not a boss baby and i have to be
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proved to my man that i'm this woman and you i deserve certain things i all i want is not because
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i'm a feminist just because i'm a person that likes to be told well then i just want if i'm
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with a man to be like oh that's quite cool you know well done for trying that that's it but i
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don't really get anything against that i don't really get too many people sometimes especially
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the people that know me telling me things like oh you're a woman you shouldn't do this so do you
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want validation from men or not i just want i don't it's not just from men i want it from anybody
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Even women that will look at me and be like, no, you can't do that.
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So I don't want to be boxed in because I'm a woman.
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It seems like your value system is extremely external and exists in other people's minds.
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This is in terms of the context of the conversation, because I think you can tell that I don't actually need much external validation.
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But it seems like in some industries, say in London, we're in London now, right?
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I mean, if you look at media industry, if you look at advertising, certain types of like information technology and stuff like that, it's very actually female based.
00:46:38.820
You know, you've got like, say, the advertising industry, you've got more female leaders in that space than you have men.
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So it seems to me at some point we have to say, right, well, the balance has been addressed now.
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I think so. It's getting there. I think women need to just kind of like empower themselves, not request for the stuff.
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And then it goes back to what they were saying before, which is like, OK, man or woman, you've got to go out into the world and you've got to bend it to your will.
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right you've got to make it you've got to make your own narrative and not and not fall back on
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these you know victimhood things yes you you summed that up nicely i can see you've got good
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experience talking to people and making them understand the simple and basics oh i like that
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thank you for summarizing it that way but you made a good point in the sense that like when is
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that's then the thing is with feminism is never ending every week every month there's a new issue
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it's so unnecessary that these feminists won and it's just like when are you guys going to be
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satisfied that's my problem and that's when it becomes destructive but i don't think you can say
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that is unnecessary to them because if they fall away they fall away so i don't think they can
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feel stupid they can have stupid beliefs and feelings yeah but that doesn't make it reality
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just because they feel aware just because the girl feels like she was discriminated because
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of her gender it doesn't mean that she was and that's the big problem of this generation is we
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don't know how to differentiate between what we're feeling and what's actually reality like i get
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It wasn't a figure of speech. The accusation was real.
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And that's my point. We need to call that stupid
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that you label them that, that could ruin their entire
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career yeah it's a bit like it's a bit like using the term creepy isn't it and then it's sort of
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like if a woman calls a guy creepy just the fact that she said it is it's believed because she she
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says i felt that he was creepy so it's like oh right okay so therefore he was creepy because
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you're saying you felt like that but where's the where's the sort of foundational truth of that
00:49:09.840
statement right and it's like saying vibrating with misogyny okay well okay it was tense but
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we're in a debate right so what's the misogynistic element of that they were just having a debate
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If there was four guys sitting on the couch and they were making the same point.
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If we have different points of view, we are disagreeing.
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But you don't know me, so don't go against me because we could actually agree on things.
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different opinions it has nothing to do with womanhood because your boundaries of like
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aggressive like tonality in the way you speak you don't you know
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I got canceled for talking about COVID in the election had nothing to do with vibrating
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misogyny I don't know you feel a little bit aggressive I'm not gonna lie