SNEAKO - May 22, 2023Melina Responds to Moistcr1tikal...
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about abuse in relationships and how to deal with it. We also talk about how to handle it and what to do when it happens in a marriage. We also discuss how to get out of a toxic marriage and what you should do if it happens to you.
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okay okay but what do you think about this and this is what i think john was trying to get at
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yeah why is it that like physical abuse and i just said a finger on the arm why is this the
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worst possible thing that could happen in a relationship i don't think that is they don't
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talk about the like the defense where's the defense for like the emotional abuse i mean
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emotional abuse is probably that's probably a real thing too yeah but you ever see like
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bill burr had this bit you ever see like an old man and his old wife like why is his face just
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in a perpetual state of fear of he's just like it's just of wearing him down after you need to
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go pick this up and then put the coaster down put your feet down wait what are you talking about
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right now and then slowly like a husband like an old married couple you look at the the man and the
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woman the man just has like his face just stuck
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is this like a real situation hey hey kids i'm here with the wife
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it's just him resisting all the times that he wanted to be like shut the fuck up and he didn't
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get to shut the shut the fuck up it's just where it ages you okay if you're with someone that you
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just can't stand why the fuck are you with them
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okay so this is uh i want to watch this after oh no this is your video yeah it's my video so your boy
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um moist penguin zero why does he have like multiple names i don't know this is most in paris
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most embarrassing podcast discussion and uh and mel made it and so did mld to um of our
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wait he was here what did he say about that because i'm i'm like he was gonna hate me oh mld
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yeah um same stuff he disagreed to what he said on the podcast i didn't hear him after he didn't
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take it back i didn't i don't know what was his take on that this is an embarrassing thing to admit
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out loud he saw his voice is so you think so no no no but i'm all about love speech you could fall
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asleep to that it's it's too it's just embarrassing thing to admit out loud but i've recently found a
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great guilty pleasure that i've been consuming like junk food it's those ridiculously you know
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cringe podcasts he should totally go on these shows and argue with them instead of making videos he's
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not gonna do it he should i think i want to see it criticizing him and obviously i love everyone
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and everything but like he won't so it's the type of person like that will just sit in his room and
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then just criticize other people but never really engage in real life conversations like that just i
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want to see him on he won't do it i want to see him on them though there's zero chance he would do
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it i mean if he would then it would surprise me it's like being the chef of junk food if he actually
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is on it you know why do you say that because he said that he he's because assuming you like junk food
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for a few dudes pseudo intellectuals bring on a bunch of women and have the worst debates of all time
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it's a forsaken wasteland where normal thinking goes to die a thunderdome of delusion it is brain
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melting it reminds me of those old psas for the dangers of smoking cigarettes and they'll like
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open up someone's chest and be like this is what your lungs look like when you smoke and it's like
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yellow and oozing covered in this like disgusting slime and it's very fucking yucky this is like that
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but instead of showing you your lungs on cigarettes it's your brain when watching this content and
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it's fucking revolting like it is actual brain rot i don't this type of humor is not really my thing
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either this type of humor yeah like the dry explaining it like it's like when i had a piece
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of diarrhea in my poop and i ripped it out that's how bad this game was like you should totally make a
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video like that wait are you laughing at that diarrhea thing or the okay i think you should make a video
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like this and goes into a marriage and has kids when they're like 18 19 20 and then um a year into
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the relationship it gets really really abusive from you from both this is so anyone anyone really
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i feel like i always have to say i always have to say both because otherwise they're just gonna
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assume that i'm like you're telling you're saying that men are amazing it might be rare assume we
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i haven't seen this i already just find this painful she's asking a very simple question and
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setting it up talking about abuse and already the the dudes here are like this is ridiculous this is
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exceptionally rare this is damn near science fiction abuse never even heard of it that's like winning
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the lottery twice level of astronomical odds abuse is it is very uncommon very rare as a way of trying
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to like abuse is so unrare it's like digging into your diarrhea and finding a quarter and a needle
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of a haystack i can't believe that i think it's just already like you're choosing something very fringe
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and outlandish abuses chat wl on abusing your wife it's like a unicorn it almost doesn't exist
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but anyway crazy lady go on with your hypothetical abuse thing or whatever you called it is just
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trying to downplay it which i think is just cringe if it would happen what would you recommend for
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those people to do would they divorce or do you want them to keep going in the relationship
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keep going you can't divorce i mean that's not a real thing uh you can like divorce is not a real
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thing his catholic background shines chat saying w abuse what do you think about that
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i mean they're in agreement with the men in the past i described it this way when i was reacting
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to this okay i was just like i feel like hogwarts would be more real to them than divorce
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you can separate but you can't actually divorce that's not a real thing even though it might be
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like physically abusive you got to endure people are too you want to stick in people are just i mean
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look i'm gonna be honest are just everybody quits hey you're very specific about physical abuse too i
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don't know maybe he didn't hear you say that i do think they know it's too hard i'm this xyz this is
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why i'm special so i can fuck up this entire situation based upon me being special the clown
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puts himself front and center here you're looking at the chief entertainment for this episode
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fucking discount walmart brand sal from impractical jokers here his name's jonathan and let me just tell
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you it's not a john mld he's got some opinions and man oh man are they a stinker so the question is
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very simple if there's an abusive relationship an abusive marriage should the marriage end you know
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if the woman is being abused or even if the man is being abused the woman who asked the question her
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name is melina and she doesn't just make it exclusive to women getting abused men can also
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be victims of abuse something that jonathan heavily disagrees with we'll get to that later on
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but he is saying that oh if it's an abusive relationship you have to endure this is the problem
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with snowflake society now everyone's such a pussy so they'll ruin a marriage because they think
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they're so special would you go on a would you go on a date with them no what is that my type
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why not just not no chemistry how do you know because i met him oh where was the why was the
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chemistry off uh i i just don't think we're in the same universe of interests or well very clearly
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you're in the same universe both content creation talking about yeah but i mean he's like in another
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area of content like we're in content creation like you can be in content creation so like yeah i could
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have a conversation but i don't i just i think there's like a very specific kind of person that i
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would get down with what's the type of person um i like funny charismatics intelligent people you
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don't think he's either you know he's none of those things not in the sort of like okay you know
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funny charismatic intelligent what's his name he has a lot of subscribers have you seen nathan for
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you uh yeah that guy he's my type okay what about him would you rather go on a date with
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uh penguin or mld probably charlie right what's wrong with mld well
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no i i just don't i just think we're way too different
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yeah it's just i'm not i'm not tracking him okay you absolute fucking troglodyte
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it's not about being special it's about not getting beat the fuck up in a marriage
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there's there's no excuse for abusing your spouse whether it's physical or mental
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you think there's no you can't say that okay you want me to there's a fair reason to beat up your
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partner you know what it does say in the quran but before you laugh before you laugh what's always
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the final result of any argument of any dispute is violence no matter what in a marriage in a
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disagreement with anybody with any human interaction the final thing is violence is violence and the
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quran doesn't excuse that it doesn't say do that but it's saying like if there is an argument like
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that that's what's necessary but don't never go to the face but if it gets to that point that's what
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inevitably happens basically if you're like screaming at someone get a fuck out of my house
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over and over again and they're not doing it and no one's listening and like she's screaming and
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she's grabbing you and that's you know like a clear cut i feel like it's a bit different though
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when it comes to partners a little bit nope why because actually it might be even more realistic
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i mean like i think like if someone is getting really heated and they want to be left alone you
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should probably separate but like trying to get it to like a physical point it's probably not no no
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no one said trying but that's always the last scenario i mean yeah it is the last scenario or you die
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so you said that's never that you should probably not do like if you're getting to that point
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well no no one wants to get to that point if it's like if it's right up you know it's like
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right about to happen you should probably divorce right it's probably not the best to stick around
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in that relationship right you should probably not do that you should but you shouldn't let it go that
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far that's my point don't no no don't do it nico so right before i beat my wife don't do it sign
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the divorce paper yes if it's if you feel like that's that's gonna i don't feel like i don't ever
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want that to happen i obviously never want that to happen but you should probably not get it to
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physical stuff because that's yeah no one wants to do that i'm not you're not you're saying here's
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the thing here's the thing i feel like there's probably a lot of really clear signs before that
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happens that it's probably divorce time because it's probably like a lot of fights that can be pretty
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mental abusive happening before that i feel like it is the final state as you said yeah okay what's
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better for the relationship one slap and she gets in line or divorce one slap you know not continued
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that's how it works no that is how it works no don't even say you're not you're saying no to a
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hypothetical right now okay let me here's a hypothetical right you and destiny are in a big fight huge fight
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you're screaming you're ah you're like clawing him you're like breaking his streaming computer and
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everything like that that's really bad it's really bad oh yeah right technically it's not abuse
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i mean it's a structure of property it's not abuse it's not abuse it's a structure of property so
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are you destroying your streaming computer it's destroying the other person's shit let me just
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okay you're not abusing him but you're destroying it's not physical abuse let me say five things
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don't clip that i'm telling him i'm gonna tell he's gonna he's gonna see that anyway so you're
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in a fight with destiny right you're destroying your streaming laptop you're screaming at each other
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you're calling each other terrible names what's better for the marriage destiny gives you one hit here
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and you get in line or you sign divorce papers right there divorce papers right there
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get in line it doesn't work like that's not how it works how would you know i mean you you like
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that you like that women should be in line and like be a certain way like act like i like wifely
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duties and all that shit wait wait so you say it ironically yes i like when women act in line
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and i like when women yeah i know wifely duties yeah exactly well i don't like that you don't
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like performing wifely duties no no really not for not for like this it sounds like you're having
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like a bang made i i don't really like that idea i didn't even say that like slappers so she turns
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into the bang me about it i didn't i didn't even say that you said you just said you don't like
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well basically you're telling you're saying that a wife should follow your orders right yes yeah we
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don't we don't agree on that you should follow the contract of the relationship that you guys have
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both agreed on that's true but okay but just following orders because you're a guy no i don't
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disagree with that it's not really beating or hitting in islam is not even a slap that's forbidden
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it's like one finger hit or touch that's what i said i said nothing on the face and that's it just a
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little just a little right there no just not good don't that like you just destroyed the cops right
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now you just destroyed his computer you were screaming in his face that's really bad too you should
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not do that you should divorce before you start destroying someone's computer holy shit destroying
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someone's stuff is really bad too that's awful that's not good what's worse what's worse
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insulting his mother destroying his computer or one finger to the arm
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i feel like physical abuse is probably the worst it's probably the end of everything
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because you're hurting someone physically it's pretty bad but i mean the other stuff is really bad
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why is that the worst thing if i had to pick between him like destroying my computer or insulting
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my mom instead of hitting me i would probably say insult my mother and destroy my computer then a
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finger on the arm but that's not this is not abuse did i just abuse you technically you're saying
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physically that's what it's hurting you like if i started to punch the shit out of you that would be
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who said punch i said what's worse what if what if i start cutting you or something i didn't say that
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you're see you you're going away with the hypothetical i'm talking hypothetical we're sorry we're talking
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about physical abuse right yeah and this is the limitation of the physical abuse i don't think
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that's true that's what it just that's what it says that's it get in line let's google physical
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abuse here so we can get a good definition i think it's like when you hurt someone right
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i mean i can i can do that pretty hard like it's the most there is a right answer to this question
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and the answer is yes the marriage should end if it's abusive a hundred percent whether it's the
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woman or the man being abused it should straight up end there's no enduring this isn't one of those
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situations where it's like ah you know there's greener pastures once you get through a couple
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of the black eyes and broken bones you know my husband may have beat the fuck out of me a couple
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nights ago but he also took me to a really fancy steakhouse and i had an absolute banging filet so
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you know all of the abuse was worth it and i'm a little happier today but it's ridiculous
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this is honestly making icy fury penguin says i feel like destiny's wife is similar to i dub's
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wife that's why they both become so liberal i'm actually going to react that perfect don't
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appreciate you ice for a good ten dollars because right after i know that it's a little bit low energy
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but i want to watch his i dub situation we don't need to watch the whole thing but i want to react
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to twitter reacting to his take me concerned my heart is breaking for whatever woman he's in a
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relationship with i'm imagining this guy treating relationships like it's whenever he plays
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videos i just want to like skip his parts are you salty and then just go to the salty about his
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voice i don't like his voice it really triggers me maybe you're right it's a little bit uh what do
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you think when you hear this are you like tuned in or are you like oh i think he's all right
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sounds like a dude that talks no strong opinion at all nice he just he's just like a youtube dude
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that's like his category for me youtube guy i think he has a hamster he brought it to a party
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i think i'm not sure i think it was him fight club if my partner can't roll with my knuckle sandwiches
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without crying about it and she wants to leave for it well then good riddance to her toots
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jesus christ special snowflakes can't handle a few of my right hooks ridiculous that's frightening that is
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a frightening mentality that you're telling someone to just endure physical or even mental abuse in a
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relationship and calling them like like a special snowflake or a pussy if they they don't that's
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crazy and also his cohort there the goofball he's in cahoots with who's like man divorce isn't real
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divorce is make-believe it's it's hocus pocus there's no such thing as divorce yes if you're getting
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abused you can't okay i don't know if i could do this okay it's just hard times in relationship i'm
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sure you guys had hard times in relationship any relationship has hard time and it is what it is
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you need to push through and you need to endure because we're in this hold on because what we're
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in this situation now like where everybody's just creating this like super nuanced like one percent
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example of like well what if the kid's transgender black and abused and he's a black lives matter
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supporter one percent example of your kid being black like cool okay i get like that one
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a lot of diarrhea fell out of his mouth on this one here so there's there's a lot to break down he
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had a like an actual episode of psychosis there he just started spitting shit that never even came up
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it's a very simple question it really wasn't nuanced she just said in an abusive relationship
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should the marriage end it really doesn't get more simple than that a fucking child could
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understand the question there wasn't anything about like all these nuance that you bring up
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but anyway smash mouth has his meltdown there for a second but his message is still the same no matter
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what you got to endure you got to endure the abuse he even has the chutzpah to equate abuse to just a
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hard time in a relationship as if it's just some little obstacle little hiccup that every relationship
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goes through brother abuse is not a hard time in a relationship that is a fucking crime that is when
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a relationship ends should end i wouldn't want my daughter in that situation quite frankly and i
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understand the argument what do you think about domestic abuse to endure because i have people
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close to me who grew up in abusive households and it lasted for periods of time and it was a phase
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and they endured through it and they ended up raising healthy successful families their face is
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really tell the whole story here this this reaction's pretty on par with that statement
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abuse is not a phase it shouldn't be a phase this isn't a normal thing there's there's no reason to
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start normalizing abusive relationships as something every couple needs to go through or will go
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through abuse isn't acceptable full stop like that's that's where this is a really easy slam dunk for
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these do w domestic abuse abuse melina okay okay but what do you think about this and this is what
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i think john was trying to get at yeah why is it that like physical abuse and i just said a finger
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on the arm why is this the worst possible thing that could happen in a relationship i don't think
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that is they don't talk about the like the defense where's the defense for like the emotional
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abuse i mean emotional abuse is probably that's probably a real thing too right yeah but you ever see
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like bill burr had this bit you ever see like an old man and his old wife like why is his face just
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in a perpetual state of fear of he's just like it's just of wearing him down after you need to go pick
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this up and then put the coaster down put your feet down what are you talking about right now and then
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slowly like a husband like an old married couple you look at the the man and the woman the man just
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has like his face is just stuck is this like a real situation hey hey kids i'm here with the wife
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it's just him resisting all the times that he wanted to be like shut the fuck up and he didn't get to
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shut the shut the fuck up it's just where it ages you okay if you're with someone that you just
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can't stand why the fuck are you with them why why wouldn't you ask that instead because it's not
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that easy to just like getting remarried at a certain age is not as easy like that's so much
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easier than just having like that's all day instead of that but that's him holding back all the times
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that society is demonizing physical abuse is the worst a finger on the arm is the worst possible
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thing you could do like i think it's a lot more simple than that if you're unhappy in a relationship
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you just don't be together anymore that's or you can get her in line again with one little
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no it's not gonna help anything no it's not you're gonna go to jail because you can't do that
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anymore but it's why women are in charge women run relationships no one would be happy with that
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happening i don't think you want to beat that oh that's not true you know how many women on tiktok
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would be celebrating good riddance that piece of shit and all your friends are gonna be like yeah
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he was a piece of shit anyway i hated him you think that women should abuse men or that's like fine
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women do abuse men that's not okay either jesus yeah but there's no grade for that there's no jail
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time probably there's no criminal record thing i fully agree with you on that one fuck that shit i hate
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that there's like men that's getting abused by their women out there and no one fucking takes
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it seriously people are your side and people on my side are not taking you serious they fucking suck
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no men go to jail for physical abuse men are always yeah i think women should do the exact same they
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should also go to jail okay so we're in agreement women should go to jail for being cunts
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for physical abuse no no for for abusing men and for taking it down
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we're committing a crime like a physical crime which should be a physical crime women going you should do
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what about that what about that i don't think i don't think people go to jail for mental abuse
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either like i think it should be pretty equal there like it's it's i actually hate how much
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people don't take things like that seriously or have people just trust women right away
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we agree jail time jail for anyone that yeah hit someone jail for feminists for feminism yeah what
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about that we're equal behind bars felony wait what are you saying right now i'm saying we should
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jail feminists for being annoying if we are punishing men for just for snapping and then
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one little annoying we agree we agree feminists fuck that fuck women yes yeah
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it's well time should a marriage end when it gets abusive whether for the woman or the man and the
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answer is easy it's yes a relationship isn't something where there should be an abusive phase
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if there is an abusive partner that partner needs to seek legitimate help and get help for controlling
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whatever violent urges or impulses they have but that doesn't mean that the other partner needs to
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stay in the relationship while they're getting that help especially not if there's children in the
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household because not only is it dangerous for the partner it's dangerous for the kid to be around
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as well i think it's very simple i don't think it's that nuance abuse just isn't acceptable like
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that's a super easy thing for a normal person to answer but we've cultivated this culture online where
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everything needs to be like a debate even on the simplest topics like you just saw smash mouth have
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that meltdown like oh you're getting into all this crazy 0.1 percent example nuance of abuse and then
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all of these other factors like out of nowhere when that wasn't even what was discussed it is the
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easiest black and white question to an extent so you would say that to stick in those relationships
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that might be abusive to everyone involved and a child if there's i'm not saying like hey stick in
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the relationship and get the shit out of you i'm just asking you what you believe i'm just telling
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you i'm not telling you extreme thing i'm just asking you what you think if you just stick in that
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relationship or not it's it's it's such it is such an extreme example that i can't give a prescription
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for what other people should do there is there is an element god damn it it's not even an extreme
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example if you just google it for like 15 seconds there's so many different studies conducted on the
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topic and according to a lot of the different numbers all of which are a little different but
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most of them agree that at least 20 of all marriages are abusive at some point in time and that's just
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in reported cases what did you think about his taking this video uh agree on it i mean he's saying
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like i mean it's a pretty popular opinion you know that abuses bad yeah yeah like it's not an extreme
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example it's really not but even if it was it doesn't even change the question like even in the
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extreme example here it's still a very easy answer that yes that marriage should end there is a problem
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okay this video's not even halfway over i think we saw enough right yeah is it really what else did
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you say you watched it's about the cheating thing of course like cheating is really bad i think you
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should divorce if there's cheating going on as well clearly but like the guys thought that yeah like
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if someone is cheating it's divorce time right away but physical abuse you should uh injure you know
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so well i think they mean cheating on the women's side but cheating on the man's side i mean i don't even
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know i don't know if they think the same i didn't ask that specifically i i didn't really
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specify like with women and men much i was just asking in general because i was curious