SNEAKO - February 06, 2023SNEAKO & Brett Cooper Rant About Porn
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Summary
Jubilee reacts to if teen boys were 100% honest, and how she thinks about them. Also, Brent talks about porn and why he doesn't watch it anymore, and why it's bad for your hormones.
Transcript
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This is Brett reacts to if teen boys were 100% honest.
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I want to see what she thinks about teenage boys.
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Welcome back to another episode of Off The Clock.
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And I know that I have a lot of young men who watch my channel.
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I'm going to react to a Jubilee video today that is about you all, tailored to you all.
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And I'm going to see what you would say if you were actually honest.
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I would give you triplets the first night.
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I want to go tell you stuff that would make you disgusted face to face,
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but it would make you cry if you were in the same bed.
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Guys, I want to do stuff to you that's not even an urban dictionary yet.
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In college, my friend was a film minor and had to do some weird, like, short film.
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He was graduating the year before I did, so, like, as COVID was starting.
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And people were, like, freaking out moving off of campus and, you know, all of that stuff.
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And so, we had to, like, go around campus with him, like, in this mask.
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People can be afraid to express how they really feel.
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So, we brought together seven strangers, protected their identities, and asked them all seven burning audience questions.
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What will be revealed when we take the mask off?
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I didn't know there was a teen boy named Carl in 2013.
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If the answer is yes, you will flip on your light.
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If you put me on a lie detector test, I don't watch porn.
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I don't even remember the last time that I watched porn.
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However, I wake up like, boom, boom, ready to go.
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And so when people want to say, oh, it's not an issue, we don't need to talk about porn.
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We're not being real about the impacts of watching porn.
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I'm not just saying that as a woman that's like, oh, I don't want you to objectify me.
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Pointing towards where I want to do, where I want to go in life.
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I'm glad that we're starting off this video with this.
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But just know, like, I take that very, very seriously.
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Porn is not something that I think is like some flippant subject.
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I think it's actually something we really do need to address.
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Number two, on the way that it forces men to view women and view sexual encounters.
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And three, because of the sexual exploitation that happens in the production of porn.
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And because it's accessible and it's accessible and it's there, people use it.
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I think most guys can agree that they have, at least at some point, watched it.
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You know, I mean, it's, if you can enjoy it in a healthy way, if you can enjoy masturbating
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in a healthy way, I think, then like, by all means, go for it.
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Um, a lot of my teenage years, I spent a lot of time self-obsessing over it to the point
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And it took until very recently to get out of the hole of, you know, paying for porn.
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I do watch it, but I don't like that I watch it.
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I'm going to bring everyone else into the conversation.
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Chat, you know what I always, what I see a lot recently when I'm talking about the self-approvement
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People will be like, how do I stop smoking weed?
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There's people in the chat right now who are like that.
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You have to better your mindset in every single realm or you're not going to be able, if you
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are not even in control over your decisions, how are you going to be successful in life?
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How are you going to be someone that is inspiring others, that's creating new things?
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How are you going to reach your full potential if you can't even not watch porn?
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There was no one really for me to talk to about sex.
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It's so dangerous that porn is how so many young people get their information about sex.
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And obviously there's a fault in our, you know, sex ed curriculum and I have my thoughts about how politicized it gets.
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But obviously there is a conversation that young people need that is not happening.
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And I'm not saying this is somebody who, you know, is above this.
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Like, I had a really good friend in L.A. who, you know, I think started having sex when she was 12 years old.
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It was, like, very flippantly like, oh my god, you haven't watched it?
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So it's interesting hearing young men talk about it.
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But as a female, like, I know that it's prevalent with, like, my peers as well.
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And the fact that this is where, like, both men and women get their ideas about sex and what a sexual encounter should look like.
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And my heart also breaks for young men that, I don't know how old these guys are, this is like teen boys, but one just said, you know, in his earlier teen years, so I'm not sure maybe the early 20s.
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That at this age, you've already been battling an addiction?
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Like, it's getting harder for young men to reach their full potential because of all these distractions.
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I was, every single night before I went to sleep, it was routine.
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And for years and years and years, that will ruin your testosterone at the most important part of your life where you're supposed to grow it.
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So, to combat this, knowing that there are so many roadblocks trying to make you soy, trying to make you turn into one of these people, you need to go three times harder to prevent it.
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It's not just, you can't just operate in this world in the West with all the distractions we have and just expect to live a good life.
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You have to actively push away all the distractions.
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Because she's a girl, she'll get attention, stuff like that.
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You need to actively push all that shit out.
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If you aren't, if you aren't resisting, they're going to get you.
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The amount of temptations out there, it's impossible to not succumb to it if you don't have an iron mind, man.
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It's just like, are we really going to take this lightly?
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From personal experience, it messed me up because after watching it so much, you know, I'm sure we've all been there where you're on page five and, like, nothing is right.
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But your dopamine, like, receptors and everything is so messed up at this point that the same thing that we could do.
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And then your dopamine receptors are so fucked up.
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In chat, type of one of you know what I'm talking about.
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You'll be there watching the 60s video and you're not even, you're just this.
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This is where you are because you're just, look, it's like you're just digging for gold.
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It's just training your mind to be addicted to dopamine.
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I mean, if you, if you're stroking a floppy gummy, like, how are you going to have sex with a beautiful woman like Brett?
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Get you off, wouldn't get you off anymore.
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I went so deep into where me, I'm straight, man.
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Because it was just erotic in a different way that I've never seen before.
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It actually affects with your brain and the way you perceive love.
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Do you think that a lot of teenagers or teen boys are really educated on the effects of pornography?
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And it's a conversation that we refuse to have because it's still taboo, even though you can literally access it at any given moment.
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It's the number one problem that young men face, I think, in the West.
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It's the number one problem because it will affect everything in your life.
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It's like, oh, like you're stopping a Karen.
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That's probably going to have even more access to it.
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You're talking about how you keep having to make it more intense.
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Niggas is jerking off to Pokimane AI porn, chat.
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That impacts the people you are in relationships with.
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There is a reason why 56% of American divorces cite pornography as an issue.
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Because if you can't get off anymore, if you need more simulation, you can't get it from your wife, from your husband, and you're constantly seeking out other things.
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If we don't address it now, I don't know when we're going to.
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We're going to hopefully go on to another conversation now.
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We really started off with a banger, for lack of a better word, boys.
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I feel like it's easier to open up towards women, which is kind of embarrassing.
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But quite frankly, I feel like they understand emotions more.
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Because they really understand the whole crying.
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And they see of it as a way to express themselves.
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It's interesting that you said that you're more comfortable to cry in front of women.
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I had a girlfriend, and she broke up with me over text.
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And before that, we were talking, and I cried in front of her.
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Being honest, and I thought that's what you're supposed to do.
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But I guess she interpreted it as being insecure.
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And she broke up with me, and that really messed me up for a little while because...
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My heart breaks, genuinely, I'm not just saying this, for young men right now because...
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You have women telling you that you're toxic, that you're too masculine, that leaning into
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your natural biology of what you are literally...
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...created to do and lead and act, that that is awful, and you're oppressive, you're upholding
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And then on the other side of their mouth, if you act too soft, if you're too vulnerable,
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if you lean too much into what they're asking, then they're upset about it, and they're uncomfortable,
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and it's like, you probably feel like you can't win.
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Well, now I know I can't show any kind of insecurity, so I don't...
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I'd rather cry in front of some family that I trust, right?
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That's interesting because I'd rather find a stranger on the street and tell them everything
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I'm going through because I will never see them again in my life, and I feel like they
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I'd rather have a stranger and think I'm strong and my family know all my problems,
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In the feminism movement, there's so much of tearing down men or trying to put men back
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in their spot, but if the women want us men to step up, then I feel like it'd be a lot
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more productive instead of tearing down men and telling us all what we're doing wrong than
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to, on the other hand, to build us up, I guess for the sake of keeping us accountable.
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And if you said that online publicly with your face, you would have so many angry girl bosses
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Giving females more opportunities to certain things, I just think that's quite unfair.
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You got to put in certain things to earn these things.
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And it's not like women are granted less access to these jobs.
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How ironic is it that for boys to be 100% honest, they all need to go undercover?
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But if this was flipped, girls would just get lights on, blasting, you'd have a big ring
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Everybody could, all the women would just be brutally honest about how men are trash and
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how they're queens and about what makes them cry.
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For men, to be honest, the light's got to be off.
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You got to censor me because I don't want to lose everything.
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I know there's plenty of women who are in business, who are doing good things for America.
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I just find it counterintuitive that this whole feminist movement is advocating for equal
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rights in certain things when they already have access to them.
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I guess I believe in the equality of men and women.
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I think that when we talk about feminism, a lot of it boils down to employment.
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I think that the bringing down of men, you guys keep on saying bringing down men and
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If you look at any movement, there's definitely going to be like a radical portion of that
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I feel like there's a wall and we should break down that wall and focus on the human race.
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Not women, not men, not Mexicans, not this.
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I do believe in, you know, equality between men and women.
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And in that sense, if we're just leaving it at that statement, I would say that I am
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Before I learned about third wave feminism and I saw how far they went, I was proud to
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I'm going to fight to be in the room with my male peers.
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But feminism has gone so much farther than that.
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And so I think it'd be interesting to have had a more nuanced question about feminism,
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I think, because there's just so many different waves.
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Like, all right, I can say that I think feminism has gone too far while still agreeing that
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women deserve equal rights but not liking the way that they're handling things now because
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And again, I feel for guys who feel like they can't be part of this conversation, similar
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to abortion, where it's like, you don't have a uterus, you can't talk about it.
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It's like, you can't talk about feminists unless you're supporting us.
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But if you're against this movement, you don't get to speak about it because you're not a
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It's funny now, thinking about it, all the female commentators, like Brad Cooper, it's
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And they'll argue a lot for traditional gender roles.
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But then, if you look at what they do in their profession, it kind of goes against that
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And also, they're doing a masculine job, which is speaking up against things, having debates,
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But then, at the same time, they'll argue, like, traditional, traditional, traditional.
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Without feminism, like back in the 50s, you wouldn't have this channel.
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You wouldn't, you'd be at home, like, popping zannies and making burnt lasagna for your
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But, and now I think about it, I think about, uh, Brad Cooper's Instagram, and she's always
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Leia Halpern's at, like, crypto events speaking.
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She doesn't sound like that, but she's like, the World Economic Forum needs to crumble.
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Just Pearly Things is like, yeah, bitch, you're a whale.
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Come to my wife's school, and I can teach you how to be a good woman.
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Just Pearly Things came with my shit with the do-rag on, said, yo, what's up?
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Let's talk about some feminism, you whirr.
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I hate that I can't talk about other people in this space.
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I can't say that without people saying, eh, eh, eh.
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I started watching pornography, I think around the age of 11 or 12.
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And that's, you know, that's a very impressionable, vulnerable place to be in.
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So, of course, there's always these feelings about looking at your body.
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Yeah, and I think the competition is probably what affects me the most part, you know.
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It's the thing you're like, I know, good and well, there's dudes bigger than me.
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And she says it doesn't matter, but it still plays on my mental when I go to sleep at night.
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Currently, I'm not really, like, afraid of the size that I have because I am kind of becoming more confident in my body and the way that I am.
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And I don't really feel like it's going to matter nearly as much when you're with someone for 10 years as you are for, like, a one-night stand.
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So I am not personally, like, that uncomfortable with my size.
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And, like, you just need to become confident in your own self by knowing what people really look for.
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But, like, it's hard to get on Netflix and watch Euphoria and think, like, these are, like, grown-ass men playing high school people.
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And you think, like, well, that's not what I look for.
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Not just, I mean, Euphoria is, like, so, like, sexually explicit.
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But just in case people are unaware of this, like, Euphoria, like they said, it's, like, 25 to 30-year-old dudes playing high schoolers.
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I think a lot of those were in their 30s when they started.
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Bro, that girl Maddie from Euphoria is, like, 36 years old.
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...person who was an actual teenager on that show.
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And then everybody on Twitter, like, people in their late 20s are, like, I ship this couple...
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And you're invested in their fictional romantic lives.
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So, when you look at those TV shows, just know they're not actually depicting you as an 18-year-old, a 17-year-old, whatever.
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I mean, I look at, you know, some women and I'm like, oh, God, whatever.
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I'm just letting you know the reality of behind the scenes.
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And they are trying to, you know, create high school content, but tailoring them for adults, for, like, the female gaze of, like, women my age and probably older, who are going to sit on their couch and, you know, eat a pint of ice cream and watch Riverdale and be like, oh, my God, his washboard abs.
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It's, like, trying to get women to watch...
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It's softcore porn with high schoolers tailored for LGBT people and women in their late 20s.
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Bro, Euphoria Season 1, I ain't gonna lie, bro.
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It is a psyop and they are trying to normalize trans people and there's, like, an abnormal amount of gay people in the show.
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And a lot of it is part of the program or something like that.
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I did enjoy Season 1 and I can't even lie to you.
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It's player versus player and you need to be controlled.
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The trick to watching these shows that you're sure are psyops are just to watch it and hate it and just point out...
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Like, every time you see something, you gotta be like Leonardo DiCaprio and then be, oh!
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I guess growing up, I was never one of the jocks of school.
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The fact that all these teenage boys have questioned their sexuality,
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and there must be at least half the people in the chat probably fall into this category,
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when there's so many pride parades and all these rainbows everywhere,
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When in a world where that's not shoved in your face all the time,
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when jockstraps and dog ears and people on leashes aren't always in your face,
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But you go to school and they start talking about pansexual,
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they start talking about gender fluidity, and you're like, am I?
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And so growing up, you know, I was always bullied because of that,
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And so I definitely did kind of buy into what everyone else was saying,
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their peer pressure of like saying, oh, you're gay.
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This is how you're going to end up turning out because this is how you are now.
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So young people themselves are saying that there is peer pressure about your sexuality.
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I don't know if anybody NYU or NYC in here.
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And they said that they make fun of heterosexual people.
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Like, NYU is so gay that they will make fun of straight people.
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You get bullied for being straight at NYU.
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That's how weird it is to be heteronormative, which is just normal, really.
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For the people who are like, no, no, that just doesn't happen.
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especially when you deal with insecurities and you're being bullied
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and everybody around you is different than you.
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And, you know, if you end up being gay, that's totally fine.
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this is what they're, you know, being peer pressured about.
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And now these days, with young people, it's even more intense.
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And it's hard because kids being kids is going to mean
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that some of them are going to be mean to people.
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So, again, it just goes back to the culture of, like,
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the fact that this has become how we taunt people.
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I've just kind of gotten to a place where I've grown from home.
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When is Brett going to say it's all part of the matrix?
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When is she going to say this is all trickling down for some place?
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They know at Daily Wire what they can't talk about.
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People thinking that definitely, like, it gets you thinking, you know?
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You know, it's like, should I be attracted to dudes
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because I like things that are quote-unquote gay?
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Then I guess it just reveals the issue that, like...
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If I didn't go to therapy and stop being, like...
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Stop being, like, an anxious, depressed clump of a teenager.
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I'm guessing the people probably would have told me I might be a lesbian.
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I mean, my mom, at one point, I've talked about this conversation multiple times.
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We were driving through one of the canyons in L.A.
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Like, my legs spread out and my Doc Martens being all pissed off about something.
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And she was like, you are dressing like a Bush lesbian.
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But that's how you're presenting yourself to the world
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because you're dealing with internal things that you're, you know, really angry about.
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And is this how you want to present yourself and be perceived?
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And that was an important question for me to be asked.
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And that was also in that conversation that I've referenced so many times
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where she said, it is okay to be both strong and feminine.
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You can still love all the things that you love.
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You can still have the personality that, like, takes no shit,
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I saw a tweet from this girl, and she posted a picture of her when she was 10
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in a full football gear, helmet, pads, shoulder, everything.
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And she said it was because she had a brother who made fun of her
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for not being able to play football and stuff like that.
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And she was doing all this tomboy behavior when she was a kid
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because instead of cutting off her titties
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Because she wasn't trans, she just admired her brother.
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Imagine how many kids are in that same spot
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While also being like, hey, it's okay to wear a dress one time.
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Literally, y'all, I remember going to Priscilla's Coffee Shop
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I walked in and my best friend of like three years,
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it was the first time she had ever seen me wear a dress.
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Because I was like, oh my God, like that isn't me.
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Anyway, that's just from the female perspective.
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Mine didn't stem from any kind of like extra like curricular activity.
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My stuff stemmed from porn, as I mentioned before.
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It's a slippery slope when you touch your wee-wee.
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Actually, I'm going to buy a Times Square billboard.
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Keep your hand out of your pants unless you want to be trans.
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And when I started watching trans, you know, trans porn...
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And it's weird to say, but like I got really nervous.
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I got really, really nervous because I thought maybe I'd be gay.
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It's like me doing that video where I took the quiz to find out if I was gay.
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I had my own version of this, y'all, but it was in high school.
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Your parents are going through a terrible divorce.
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All the stuff I would look up with saying that give you...
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There's a lot of situations where it's necessary.
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I still attain the idea that a lot of young men, it's better for them to go and improve their life rather than go and sit and talk about it endlessly.
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Therapy, a lot of the time, ends up becoming a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
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So, of course, if there's anyone watching this and you really feel like you need it, bro, I'm not going to stop you.
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But I think there's a lot of people that don't need to go.
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You watch Transborn, you're still straight because they're women and stuff like that.
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But I'm thinking, like, what would my family think?
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I've never sought out, like, every time I talk to one, a trans woman in real life, there's no, like, actual attraction there.
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So I'm still lost in the fact of what I actually am attracted to.
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But I guess I am still straight because there aren't women.
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Quite frankly, right now, I feel happy with my sexuality.
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And I feel that it's not wrong to question your sexuality in terms of, well, in America, like, you're free to question whatever you want.
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It's just society is the things that constrains those certain things to be what's normal and what's wrong.
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I feel like there's such a strong stigma to be straight or strong, like, pushing you into it.
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But even right now, I feel the desire to, like, explain myself, even though we're anonymous right now.
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I feel like I've never been with, like, I've only been with, like, actual, like, cis women.
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Wait, that dude has never been with a cis woman?
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Because obviously you're still dealing with, like, young men that have peer pressure and there's, you know, societal pressure.
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But I, on the other hand, like, watch, you know, the content that I do and I talk about the stories that I do where I, like, literally see that this seemingly oppressed class of people has so much sway over all of the institutions, over all of our media, our entertainment, over all of our trends.
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It's like that video I reacted to the other day for a comment section episode.
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Where this guy was like, maybe he was watching trans porn, too.
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I followed all these trans women on Twitter.
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I wanted to be them, and then he ended up transitioning.
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There is, like, a social contagion part, but I think...
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It's like, we're not fully there yet because there are guys that are still like, oh, no, I can't, that's weird, I don't want to...
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But then, on the other hand, I see, like, the social and cultural influence that these people have in the way that our institutions and our big corporations and celebrities back them just, like, blindly.
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To, like, say anything against what he's saying.
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It's his personal experience, but I just think that's interesting.
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It's such a stigma that from the last, you know, 18 years of my life, that in this moment right now, I feel embarrassed and ashamed for something that should just be...
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I mean, I watch my father die, like, right before me.
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And just the idea of, like, nothing is just extremely terrifying to me.
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It's like, you don't really know what's going on.
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And as a Christian, I want to pretend that, like, I know that there's, you know, heaven and hell.
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But at the end of the day, I genuinely don't know.
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I fear being on my deathbed and regretting not taking chances.
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Does a traditional woman, like, is that her core desire?
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You don't really hear that from housewives.
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Fear being on my deathbed and regretting not taking chances that I think I should have taken.
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And not doing what I wanted to do, not making as much of an impact.
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I don't think I've actually ever talked about this before.
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Since we're all being honest here, and I've talked about my teen depressed emo years now.
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One of my, like, biggest things in my teen years was that my older brother died when he was 17 years old.
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I am the only one in my family who is younger than him.
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Not moved on, but, like, they continued to be getting older.
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Obviously, it's a totally different situation for my brother, Reed, who was his identical twin.
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So he's kind of constantly going through life knowing that he's, you know, missing his person.
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But for me, I had a really, really unique experience where, you know, he died when I was at a very young age.
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So I went through over a decade where I was still technically younger than him.
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So I got my older brother, and I still looked up to him.
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I was still kind of following in his footsteps.
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I felt like, oh, I can, you know, I'll do the same things David did.
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And then as I got closer to reaching 17, I got so freaked out.
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Nothing really, really serious, but just stuff that, you know, since that happened, we obviously, like, Spidey Sense turned on.
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And because of that, and because of the fact that he was, like, permanently solidified in time,
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I was terrified that I was going to die a week after my 17th birthday.
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It was just, like, I couldn't see life beyond that because for my entire childhood, I had looked at him as, like, the benchmark.
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And I've talked to some other friends who I have a really good friend whose brother also died, was many years older than him,
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I've talked to people who have lost their parents at a young age.
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They're doing things that their parents never did.
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It's a very, very weird and a very unique experience.
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I'll be interested if any of you guys have had that.
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And, like, the year afterwards, I mean, I was a mess.
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And still, like, February and October, even though that's my birthday month, are hard for me.
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Because I'm getting another year older that he never gets to be.
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And then his birthday and then the anniversary of his death.
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But that was, since then, I don't think I have as much of a fear.
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But, oh, my God, like, going into that, like, I was a wreck that week.
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But I was, like, something's going to happen to me.
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I thought it was, like, I shouldn't get to be here if he didn't anyway.
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But, yeah, since then, I don't really have as much of a fear of dying.
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I think I've, you know, at this point, if I did die, I've done everything that I have wanted to do in this time in my life.
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Like, I've done everything that I could in my, you know, 21 years.
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Obviously, like, haven't gotten the chance to, you know, get married, have kids, do other things that I want.
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So I feel like I'm on the right track to not deal with those regrets at the end of my life.
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And I have never seen her be that honest before.
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Every time I thought about dying, it was as an old person.
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But two years ago, when I started working as a lifeguard, this lady and her friend came to the pool.
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And, you know, I have the music going and everything.
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But then two weeks later, she, unfortunately, had another seizure while driving.
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And that's when I realized life is, like, it can happen to anyone at any point.
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And if I just die and don't do anything with my life, then that's absolutely what I'm scared of.
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I mean, as morbid as it sounds, death is a very, very powerful motivator.
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Because my brother died at such a young age that it's, like, from six years old, I knew that life wasn't certain or guaranteed.
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But he wakes up every day and he thinks about, like, what in my life is actually guaranteed today?
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And if you think about that every single day and you realize you have to be, you know, grateful for every day that you get to have those things,
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it totally changes your perspective about life and how much you can cram into your time here.
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Because I, unlike you guys, I don't really have an experience, so much hands-on experience with death.
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But I think, you know, obviously the fact that it might come way sooner than you expect is a scary thought.
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Do you guys feel like you can actually be your genuine self when you're, like, talking to a girl or hanging out with a girl?
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There's definitely a difference between, like, talking or opening up to, like, my friends that are girls versus, like, a girl that I'm interested in.
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Like, obviously, if you're trying to impress a girl, you're going to be dressed nicely.
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You're not going to, like, fart around here, right?
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But, like, when it comes to your mom, like, your mom's a girl, and I wholeheartedly trust my mom.
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I just, there's a lot of times I walk away with talking to a woman.
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Let me play a sad song for you on the world's smallest violin.
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He's kind of a womanizer, but I see him get so much, like, success.
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And every time I've done success, he's doing things that he's done, which is just putting them on the facade and telling them what they want to hear.
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And, you know, in the short term, that might work out for you.
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And if that's what you're wanting and that's what your goal is, then, you know, whatever.
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But I'm somebody that believes that I just don't think you need to waste time on people.
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That's a harsh thing to say because, you know, you learn something from every person that you interact with and you bring into your life.
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And I don't see the benefit in bringing somebody seriously into my life that I cannot be holding myself with that does not actually like me for me.
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Like, you can go around and you can, you know, say things to woo one person and be like, oh, I need to fit this mold.
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I need to be more like this for her and whatever.
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But, you know, a few months in, whenever, you know, when, you know, shit hits the fan and those walls come down and your true selves are exposed, it's like, hey, it might work.
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You guys might realize you're perfect for each other.
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But sometimes it's like, oh, my God, why have I spent three months with this person that, like, now that I'm being real, we're not, we're either not compatible.
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And if you're going in, I'm not saying it's deceptive, but if you're, like, putting on a show in a way, you're kind of setting yourself up for somebody, you know, not being there for the right reason.
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Chad, do you think, type of one, if you think it's going to be difficult for Brett to submit to a man.
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This video has really made me realize, like, she has a lot of masculine tendencies.
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And I don't know if it's true, but that's what happens when girls go through traumatic experiences.
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When men go through traumatic experiences, you become ice cold.
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You become emotionless, which can be one of the best tools you have when it goes to operating in the business world.
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When Brett has gone through traumatic experiences, it's hard in her shell.
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And when you become harder as a girl, you just become more masculine.
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I want to, you know, she's dressing like a lesbo.
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And she's going to need, and he's also going to be, she needs a really smart caveman dude in order to tame her.
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Or else she's just going to, she's going to, she's going to become fed up and she's going to resent.
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If there's any ounce of soy, any ounce of simp.
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And they're not trying to be malicious at all because they don't know any better.
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And that's something that I always keep in my mind.
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It all always goes back to that, like my time, my energy, like we're thinking about like death and that sort of thing.
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If I'm choosing to spend time with you, that means I really value you.
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And I hope that you value me too, because we're both spending time together.
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So I'm going to be as authentically myself as possible.
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It's why I think it's really important that I'm transparent on the show.
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Because if you're taking time out of your day, hours out of your week, if you watch all these videos, if you watch all of them, I'm impressed.
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Why, like, I don't want to be a fake person on here and be duping people into, you know, watching some character.
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So I take that, you know, with work and with, you know, personal relationships.
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But I understand the pressure of like wanting to fit yourself into a mold.
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I've seen her relate more to this conversation than I've seen her relate to any of the women that she puts on the screen.
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I'm not the only one who feels a certain way about things.
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It's nice and it's a step in the right direction for me in becoming more comfortable with being open and honest with everybody.
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I think just the whole open conversation, like this won't bite me in the end later.
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I'm not going to listen to this and think, oh, that guy's bad.
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I have more safety of expressing my honest opinions.
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And whether those be good opinions or bad opinions, it's like, it's a better way to express one's true self without trying to be influenced by what high school is and all the people influencing you in high school.
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Because frankly, high school is just popular culture.
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And I mean, I hate to say it, but you get out of high school and it's the same damn thing.
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Like, the peer pressure is even more intense afterwards, in my opinion.
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It is if you're trying to compete with others, which is a masculine trait.
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If you want to submit to a man, you want to cook and clean and raise kids, you don't care about that peer pressure.
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The people that you're competing with, if you're a housewife, other moms on the block and who has the better stroller?
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Who's got the better fucking, what's that boxcar, better Range Rover?
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Who has the better G-Wagon with the pink little steering wheel?
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She's competing against other YouTube, other podcasters, other people on Daily Wire.
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How many women are really competing about like, what woman?
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No, girls compete over like how pretty they are.
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You're in this world with even more influences.
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And I love the fact that, obviously, we can talk about like, broader cultural issues that might relate to political things or, you know, whatever.
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And the feminism question was really the only one that leaned more that way.
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But what I loved is that they weren't getting into identity politics.
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I've been watching Brett videos since last summer.
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And I just realized that she kind of, and you know, I don't even think, I don't think that she has a boyfriend.
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I don't think that she's even like been with a guy in a long time.
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I think she's so career oriented, competition mode.
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In one video, I started off the stream barking at her.
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I had notifications on for Instagram so I could comment first on her photos.
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Two men being honest about their struggles, about the things that they face on a daily basis.
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Exposing the fact that they feel like they cannot be their authentic selves and be this honest in their real life when they are, you know, when the mask is off basically because of, you know, the fear of cancel culture, the fear of peer pressure, not being cool enough, not pleasing women.
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And I know that, you know, this video is about men, but for girls as well, especially, you know, middle school, high school, it's a really, really hard time.
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But I do want to put special emphasis on guys because even though everybody else says that they're oppressed, at this point in time, like, I know you guys know it, but all of those people, they attack you constantly and tear you down, like they say in that video.
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And so obviously it makes sense why so many men struggle and feel like their concerns are not valid and they cannot express that.