00:07:25.160And my heart also breaks for young men that, I don't know how old these guys are, this is like teen boys, but one just said, you know, in his earlier teen years, so I'm not sure maybe the early 20s.
00:07:32.500That at this age, you've already been battling an addiction?
00:08:01.860And for years and years and years, that will ruin your testosterone at the most important part of your life where you're supposed to grow it.
00:08:10.340So, to combat this, knowing that there are so many roadblocks trying to make you soy, trying to make you turn into one of these people, you need to go three times harder to prevent it.
00:09:41.720It's just like, are we really going to take this lightly?
00:09:44.840From personal experience, it messed me up because after watching it so much, you know, I'm sure we've all been there where you're on page five and, like, nothing is right.
00:09:56.240Like, you're looking for that right video.
00:09:58.980But your dopamine, like, receptors and everything is so messed up at this point that the same thing that we could do.
00:10:05.500And then your dopamine receptors are so fucked up.
00:10:08.360In chat, type of one of you know what I'm talking about.
00:10:10.240You'll be there watching the 60s video and you're not even, you're just this.
00:10:14.740And you're just stroking a floppy little worm.
00:10:18.460This is where you are because you're just, look, it's like you're just digging for gold.
00:13:05.360That impacts the people you are in relationships with.
00:13:08.120There is a reason why 56% of American divorces cite pornography as an issue.
00:13:13.400Because if you can't get off anymore, if you need more simulation, you can't get it from your wife, from your husband, and you're constantly seeking out other things.
00:21:31.200And that's, you know, that's a very impressionable, vulnerable place to be in.
00:21:35.960So, of course, there's always these feelings about looking at your body.
00:21:40.220Yeah, and I think the competition is probably what affects me the most part, you know.
00:21:43.940It's the thing you're like, I know, good and well, there's dudes bigger than me.
00:21:47.720And she says it doesn't matter, but it still plays on my mental when I go to sleep at night.
00:21:52.220Currently, I'm not really, like, afraid of the size that I have because I am kind of becoming more confident in my body and the way that I am.
00:22:02.940And I don't really feel like it's going to matter nearly as much when you're with someone for 10 years as you are for, like, a one-night stand.
00:22:10.260So I am not personally, like, that uncomfortable with my size.
00:22:15.280Everything that you just said, like, is true.
00:22:17.100And, like, you just need to become confident in your own self by knowing what people really look for.
00:22:22.220But, like, it's hard to get on Netflix and watch Euphoria and think, like, these are, like, grown-ass men playing high school people.
00:22:28.940And you think, like, well, that's not what I look for.
00:23:47.480And they are trying to, you know, create high school content, but tailoring them for adults, for, like, the female gaze of, like, women my age and probably older, who are going to sit on their couch and, you know, eat a pint of ice cream and watch Riverdale and be like, oh, my God, his washboard abs.
00:33:42.120I still attain the idea that a lot of young men, it's better for them to go and improve their life rather than go and sit and talk about it endlessly.
00:33:50.420Therapy, a lot of the time, ends up becoming a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
00:35:21.520Because obviously you're still dealing with, like, young men that have peer pressure and there's, you know, societal pressure.
00:35:25.860But I, on the other hand, like, watch, you know, the content that I do and I talk about the stories that I do where I, like, literally see that this seemingly oppressed class of people has so much sway over all of the institutions, over all of our media, our entertainment, over all of our trends.
00:35:43.820It's like that video I reacted to the other day for a comment section episode.
00:36:19.920But then, on the other hand, I see, like, the social and cultural influence that these people have in the way that our institutions and our big corporations and celebrities back them just, like, blindly.
00:36:45.600To, like, say anything against what he's saying.
00:36:47.580It's his personal experience, but I just think that's interesting.
00:36:49.680It's such a stigma that from the last, you know, 18 years of my life, that in this moment right now, I feel embarrassed and ashamed for something that should just be...
00:43:11.700And if you think about that every single day and you realize you have to be, you know, grateful for every day that you get to have those things,
00:43:17.080it totally changes your perspective about life and how much you can cram into your time here.
00:43:44.460Do you guys feel like you can actually be your genuine self when you're, like, talking to a girl or hanging out with a girl?
00:43:51.520There's definitely a difference between, like, talking or opening up to, like, my friends that are girls versus, like, a girl that I'm interested in.
00:43:58.600Like, obviously, if you're trying to impress a girl, you're going to be dressed nicely.
00:44:23.000He's kind of a womanizer, but I see him get so much, like, success.
00:44:26.800And every time I've done success, he's doing things that he's done, which is just putting them on the facade and telling them what they want to hear.
00:44:32.060And, you know, in the short term, that might work out for you.
00:44:36.600And if that's what you're wanting and that's what your goal is, then, you know, whatever.
00:44:40.920But I'm somebody that believes that I just don't think you need to waste time on people.
00:44:48.200That's a harsh thing to say because, you know, you learn something from every person that you interact with and you bring into your life.
00:44:54.220But your time and your energy is priceless.
00:45:00.220It is, like, the most valuable currency.
00:45:03.760And I don't see the benefit in bringing somebody seriously into my life that I cannot be holding myself with that does not actually like me for me.
00:45:16.100Like, you can go around and you can, you know, say things to woo one person and be like, oh, I need to fit this mold.
00:45:21.400I need to be more like this for her and whatever.
00:45:23.120But, you know, a few months in, whenever, you know, when, you know, shit hits the fan and those walls come down and your true selves are exposed, it's like, hey, it might work.
00:45:32.980You guys might realize you're perfect for each other.
00:45:35.220But sometimes it's like, oh, my God, why have I spent three months with this person that, like, now that I'm being real, we're not, we're either not compatible.
00:45:44.160And if you're going in, I'm not saying it's deceptive, but if you're, like, putting on a show in a way, you're kind of setting yourself up for somebody, you know, not being there for the right reason.
00:45:55.440Chad, do you think, type of one, if you think it's going to be difficult for Brett to submit to a man.
00:46:01.120This video has really made me realize, like, she has a lot of masculine tendencies.
00:46:09.020And I don't know if it's true, but that's what happens when girls go through traumatic experiences.
00:46:15.240When men go through traumatic experiences, you become ice cold.
00:47:25.220And that's something that I always keep in my mind.
00:47:27.080It all always goes back to that, like my time, my energy, like we're thinking about like death and that sort of thing.
00:47:34.380That's something I can't get back at all.
00:47:36.580If I'm choosing to spend time with you, that means I really value you.
00:47:40.060And I hope that you value me too, because we're both spending time together.
00:47:44.100So I'm going to be as authentically myself as possible.
00:47:46.900It's why I think it's really important that I'm transparent on the show.
00:47:49.980Because if you're taking time out of your day, hours out of your week, if you watch all these videos, if you watch all of them, I'm impressed.
00:47:57.760Why, like, I don't want to be a fake person on here and be duping people into, you know, watching some character.
00:48:38.680I'm not going to listen to this and think, oh, that guy's bad.
00:48:41.660I have more safety of expressing my honest opinions.
00:48:44.820And whether those be good opinions or bad opinions, it's like, it's a better way to express one's true self without trying to be influenced by what high school is and all the people influencing you in high school.
00:48:55.760Because frankly, high school is just popular culture.
00:50:14.740And I love the fact that, obviously, we can talk about like, broader cultural issues that might relate to political things or, you know, whatever.
00:50:23.280And the feminism question was really the only one that leaned more that way.
00:50:26.740But what I loved is that they weren't getting into identity politics.
00:50:31.380They literally couldn't see each other.
00:51:39.980Two men being honest about their struggles, about the things that they face on a daily basis.
00:51:44.500Exposing the fact that they feel like they cannot be their authentic selves and be this honest in their real life when they are, you know, when the mask is off basically because of, you know, the fear of cancel culture, the fear of peer pressure, not being cool enough, not pleasing women.
00:52:02.520And I know that, you know, this video is about men, but for girls as well, especially, you know, middle school, high school, it's a really, really hard time.
00:52:08.400But I do want to put special emphasis on guys because even though everybody else says that they're oppressed, at this point in time, like, I know you guys know it, but all of those people, they attack you constantly and tear you down, like they say in that video.
00:52:24.760And so obviously it makes sense why so many men struggle and feel like their concerns are not valid and they cannot express that.