SNEAKO - December 14, 2023SNEAKO Interviews Brute De Force
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about how to deal with the pressures of being at the top of the game, and how to overcome the obstacles that stand in the way of your success. We also talk about the importance of mental health and how important it is to take care of yourself in order to achieve your goals.
Transcript
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but i'm outlifting everybody i'm putting up more numbers than your guys did mcgregor ever recover
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no no chance no chance because he got paid when you are number one there is a bullseye on your
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head who stands in the way of john jones john jones look at the streaming game we had this
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conversation yesterday right if you're the number one streamer in the world there's fucking thousand
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guys behind you gunning for your position guys have to figure out what they naturally want to
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do already and find a way to incorporate money into it not the other way around so are you saying
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that successful people are in a constant state of depression and that the pursuit of success is
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just trying to distract 100 so you think you think all the most all the winners are all are in a
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constant state of depression the biggest winners are in a constant state of low level depression
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and somewhat of like a malaise and like a misery deep down 100 because it's success is unnatural
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right as a species as humans by definition it's unnatural to go outside the middle and become an
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outlier and become the best at something to strive for greatness is extremely an unnatural endeavor
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and it's very unhealthy right a lot of these great athletes these superstars that we look up to
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they have a lot of mental issues they're mentally very sick but they're the best at their craft and
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so they juggle those two things and they balance them and so the people that never learn how to
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juggle those elements never break free from that sort of centralized normal state where look as
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humans let's be honest what are we born naturally to do survive survive so lay around in the sun
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fucking make some art procreate maybe migrate a couple fucking kilometers a day search for a
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little bit of grub go to sleep rinse and repeat right so all success is unnatural extremely
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unnatural and that's why everybody loves the underdog story of the guy who comes from nothing
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and become something because everybody knows what that takes everyone knows that means that you're
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breaking outside the confines and the rules of the game nature has preset the game to make it
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very difficult to succeed it's very difficult right you have to bear an enormous burden to be
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at the to be at the top of the like when you are number one there is a bullseye on your head
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and i truly believe that's why you see a lot of these like mma guys john jones
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who stands in the way of john jones john jones yeah he's the only the only guy who can stand in
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the way of a guy like that is himself right so my point is there's a lot of pressure that mounts on
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you when you're at the top and everyone's gunning for that position everyone wants that championship
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belt and i think a lot of these guys they get tired of having all that pressure on their shoulders
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and they end up succumbing and intentionally sabotaging and going back down the ladder where
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they can just get a little bit of peace at night because it's it's tough being number one everyone's
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gunning for you right look at the streaming game we had this conversation yesterday right if you're
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the number one streamer in the world there's fucking a thousand guys behind you gunning for
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your position so the minute you get caught slipping snakes and ladders that game shoots
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and ladders you played as a kid it's a metaphor for life that's exactly how life works so your
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your biggest obstacle when you find success is yourself 100 i think john jones talked about that
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Like, when one of his title defense fights, he was having this nightmare of getting knocked out in the first round.
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And he kept having these dreams over and over again.
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And then he went in this state of prayer right before that fight where he just kind of, like, curled up into a ball and started sweating.
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And then he imagined himself, like, as a feather man, he said.
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And that's why, like, he started off the fight, like, grabbing the fence and, like, crawling.
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And then he crawled up to his opponent because in the dream he was always standing when he got knocked out.
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so the feather man was like was started off crawling and it seemed like that obstacle of
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his own dream was was a bigger threat than i don't even remember who the opponent was exactly but i
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remember the dream exactly so the the whole the whole adage like you are your own worst enemy
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that's that's that's factually true especially when you get to when you get to the top how do
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you how do you like look too here's what's interesting right have you noticed any top
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fighter or or who's taken remember ronda rousey yeah she was the best jiu-jitsu fighter she was
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she was a cage fighter yeah she was undefeated the minute the first fight she lost she never
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ever recaptured or reclaimed that magic touch wiped out and that happens to a lot of the best
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like jose aldo a lot of the best fighters once they get that first knockout they never recover
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that self-image they're never the same it permanently permanently like reduces them
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from the from the throne do you think it's their aura and public perception or is it something
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internal 100 everyone's living up to public perception and that's that's the difficult
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part to manage that's the heart that's the that is the game right there is managing the public
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perception because everyone's got you on that pedestal but then you have to live up to the
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the persona that you're projecting out there can can mcgregor ever recover no no chance no chance
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because he got paid that's the other thing too it's like once you get the bag at that level
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there's something weird in human nature where your motivation just gets clapped done there's
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zero spark or fire to ever do that again it's like the one hit wonder thing right in music
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like guys drop a fucking platinum album and it's very few have been able to keep that street going
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the drakes the drays all those guys like that's that's those are outliers but it depends on what
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you're chasing success for khabib said in that press conference against mcgregor
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he said i'm doing this for legacy you're doing this for money exactly exactly 100 but that's
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that's a cultural thing so like his upbringing you know the motherfucker was like fighting bears
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and caves and shit yeah like his he's doing it for honor ancestral honor whereas the american way
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you know what i mean the bling the mansions the this is a more much more capitalistic thing irish
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You also said that the first way to become successful in America is to be loud and boisterous first.
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You have to make a lot of noise and then the success comes.
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Like you can't find wealth without being loud first.
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If you're shy in America, you're royally fucked.
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If you're shy in this land, this is the land of fanaticism, right?
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Like, the pioneers that came here, it was the fanatics and the artists and the dreamers who had the balls to make the voyage here to find the new world, right?
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So, the guys who will not put themselves out there get devoured by the guys who are making the most noise.
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Everyone likes to say that it's all bark, no bite, but the bark is what puts you on the map in a lot of ways.
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do you think that's you can just keep the camera steady do you think that's why elon must started
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becoming loud and embracing that fanaticism 100 he calls the shots that's what the best do the
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best call their shots publicly they like being behind the eight ball right he's behind the eight
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ball he's got himself kind of in a corner now and then he likes to dig himself out and prove
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everybody right a lot of people use this tactic you know there's there's a common thing on twitter
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in our corner people will say keep your goals to yourself don't ever discuss your goals publicly
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because you get a dopamine hit from it and then you're less likely to achieve them people say
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they're going to go to the gym and then don't exactly i think it's the opposite i think if you
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make yourself accountable publicly yeah then you you're forced you add pressure 100 and the ones
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that rise to the pressure are the ones who get everything so why do a lot of people declare
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their goals and never do anything about them i know so many people like recently i got this guy
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computer because he says like oh i'm gonna start live streaming texted him yesterday like did you
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get the computer it's like no like it's still like i gave him crypto he's like it's just sitting in
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the coin but he said like he kept talking about how he wants to do this it's been years and i'm
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like i just tried to give him that that extra push and he's just letting it sit you know he's
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not really doing it why what separates the people because i was like that you know i always publicly
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declared videos when i was like 14 15 saying like what i wanted to do when i wanted to be
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Why do so many people not get out of the comfort zone?
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So like one of my favorite tweets that I ever put out there
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is I said that you can never outperform your self-image
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No, I think it's important to view yourself as the opposite.
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How do you build that without starting at zero?
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and it goes back to my tagline i the tagline on my twitter before the one now benjamin franklin
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disrespecter was transcendence through intensity i remember yeah yeah and that was my favorite one
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because i got i i came up with that idea when i saw the movie the revenant i don't know if you've
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seen that movie wrestling the bears yes so that movie is incredible because it's about it's about
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the human spirit that guy literally does not break he gets mauled by a bear he's crippled he's broken
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he's in the middle of the forest by himself and it's a it's a survival story the guy's clinging
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on for life but he has no external assistance he has no crutches figuratively and literally right
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it's just him and his human spirit and his willpower willing him forward now in the modern
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world and your computer example is a great example of this everyone thinks you have to have the best
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equipment before you start the game yeah right it's always the guy in the gym who comes to me
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and is like how do i get strong the first thing they'll do and this is a this is a stall tactic
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because they don't actually want to get in there and do the work they'll be like what what uh what
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do i get nike or adidas uh fucking lifting shoes what kind of belt do i get and i'm like bro you're
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already so fucked because you're going in there with the mindset that the equipment makes the man
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and it's not the equipment that makes the man every journey right starts with nothing low tech
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you just go in there and you put in the work so it's like like brazilian soccer players they
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start playing on the road in the favelas exactly and then when they get on a turf field they're
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like look how much easier they're kicking stones around in place of a soccer ball right so um and
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I used to go in there and train and everybody would tell me and I was putting up elite numbers, objectively elite Olympic lifting numbers nationally in the country.
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And when I would go in there, all the coaches would always be like, you're not using the right gear.
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You're not using the right equipment, but I'm outlifting everybody.
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and so you want to talk about capitalism and marketing has infected people's minds in this
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it's the whole air jordan thing right guys literally were psyoped in the 90s thinking
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that if you bought a pair of jordans you were going to play like mike you can start hooping
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you can start hooping and it was never about the shoes it's not about the belt it's not about the
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fucking kicks it's none of that matters it's not about the computer you could have given that
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motherfucker a tablet and he would have figured it out right if he really wanted it so everyone
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thinks you got to get the best equipment best camera to be a photographer it's like no dude
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you could literally start with a fucking crazer from 1993 that blurry ass camera and just start
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snapping pics yeah i always remember mr beast telling me that he got to 100 000 subscribers
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using his iphone exactly like an iphone 5 exactly it's because these people don't want to start they
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just want to find every excuse to stall and your philosophy is that the ideal iq is like 80 or like
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85 as a man where you don't have to we're overthinking is like some of the biggest
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problems that people have did you notice that like going into powerlifting competitions where
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like if people are too living too existing too internally and thinking introspectively
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they are hindering their performance because you psych yourself out you psych yourself out you
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fake yourself out so if you if you are at that point right now say you're somebody who thinks
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very introspectively you're like you're an overthinker how do you turn that voice off so
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that you can just live in first person mode like a caveman how do you dial back your iq so that
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your performance is better you got to take risk you got to actually have skin invested in in a
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project doesn't have to be betting gambling those that's just a metaphor anything you have to put
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your heart on the line for something and fail for real how do you bro failure is i have failed
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more than anybody that i know by a long stretch i have fucked up royally catastrophically so many
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fucking times in my life literally more than everybody that i personally know combined
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catastrophic failure over and over and over again but my wins and my highs that i get
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are unlike anybody that i know as well so when i do actually get a breakthrough my breakthroughs
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are absurd i'm flying through fucking barriers when i get my breakthroughs because i'm relentless
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so like i'll commit myself to a process and i'll get my ass kicked and i'm just right back on the
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saddle the next day bring like bring it on give me more most people go insane like that having
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highs and lows insane how do you how do you maintain well bro that's the secret is you have
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to be slightly fucking insane to make it in this life you have to you have to have a slight degree
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of craziness right the mad the mad genius but that's the whole thing it's all branding right
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because the the maniac who successfully pulls it off and on the hundredth swing finally hits the
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grand slam and wins the game everyone calls him a genius but the guy who fails a hundred times and
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never gets the w he's seen as fuck as as as crazy as eccentric right it's all branding so
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you by winning you are able to sort of rebrand these personal personality traits where people
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are widely accepting of them it's all about it's all about the win man like you have to win in the
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end have to um good transition you said winners are always having fun exclusively as a rule what
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they find fun the average person does not they can be entangled in the most disparaging horror
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show circus of a situation and find enjoyment in it they see everything as a game and all games
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winnable i think you're right completely if you look at like how competitive michael jordan uh
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conor regregor all these people are like they'll take a ping pong game and then put their whole
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ego and reputation on the line yeah do you think they see everything do you even think they see
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family having kids stuff like that do they see everything as a as a game 100 100 like they'll
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be they'll be embroiled in a very very classically what you would call like sick situation like they
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could be in a very explosive fight with their woman or going through a horrible fucking breakup
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or whatever but they find some like sick enjoyment in the process of just like sitting in it and
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basking it and like they look they're they're fucking avid learners bro they're learning from
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everything it's like their misfortune they almost get like a kind of a kick out of it yeah because
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it's like how can i disentangle myself from this mess that i created and that's that's really what
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the winning mentality is it's about because as you're taking risks and as you're ascending the
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ladder you're gonna find yourself in messes right do you think that's what the insanity is because
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you you nailed that when i've had really difficult situations in life there was always like a little
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like voice in my head that was enjoying the moment enjoying exactly like dropping out of school not
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knowing what to do exactly or you know like even like small things like fights with my girlfriend
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stuff like that i'm thinking like this is just this shitty situation is like how am i going to
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get out of this i kind of enjoy the process i don't think a lot of people think that way and
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i've been i've never voiced that or uh communicated that with other people but there was always some
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sort of satisfaction there's a satisfaction in anything that you're in because you're just you
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always find an angle there's because dude that's the crazy thing about being a man there's always
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a way out there's just always a there's always as long as you're living and breathing there's
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always something you can do to to to twist and fucking wiggle yourself through something
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there's always a way to get out on the other side that's the incredible part about life
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but most people will never try or put themselves in a contorted position where they even have to
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figure that the fuck out you know what i mean like i've lost millions of dollars gambling and
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had nothing and had to rebuild from literally fucking zero and then even when you're at that
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point you still kind of had that like sick like how am i gonna get back to 100 bro there were
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nights where i'm eating a two thousand dollar dinner king crab fucking legs a4 wagyu
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sleeping in a penthouse the next day i'm so broke i'm hitting up motherfuckers to go sleep on their
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couch. The disparity, like on top of the world one night and the next morning I am in the bottom
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of the gutter in 24 hours. And I always found a way to get back into the suite. That's my point
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because you can almost take any risk in life if you're willing to commit.
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It's all about the commitment. And I'm just not a quitter. It's not in my nature.
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I don't give up on people. I don't give up on anything that I, and that's the thing, man,
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is like, I am, I take everything very seriously,
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but I've noticed the people that take things so seriously
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You almost have to have that kind of dark comedic humor
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I did a cross-country road trip, and on the way back to New York, I was in Colorado.
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I didn't know where I was going to stay that night.
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I remember, like, sitting in the car with my brother, and, like, they're towing the car.
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I'm in the middle of the country, like, and I'm broke, not in school.
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but that laughter, I've never realized that like that laughter is, is part of his understanding
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that you're good, that you're going to find a way out of it. Always, always. I've never,
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the thing is you only rise to the level of the problems that you have. Right. And so most people,
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the biggest problem they'll ever have is being $1,200 late on rent. Right. That's the biggest
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problem they have but to them that is the world and to them when they when they're late on their
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rent payment they feel like the world is crumbling on their shoulders but they don't understand
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there's men out there that are built of the same constitution they are same blood same structure
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that before they've even woken up in the morning they're going through a fiery divorce their
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empires their businesses are exploding collapsing they're being sued they're going through bankruptcy
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their cars are being repoed and those guys are laughing knowing that it's going to be okay
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and they're going to get it all back right and it's like you got another motherfucker over here
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that's tripping because he can't pay his priests there's there's levels to all this shit yeah
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there's dudes that are dealing with fucking demons and monsters that are so outrageously
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incomprehensible for the average person and they're successfully dealing with it on a daily basis
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those are the guys that win because they put more on their plate and when you put more on your plate
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and you have more pressure you're always going to respond to the to the pressure so if you don't
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have enough pressure men do not do jack shit unless they have to that's what i've noticed
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unless they actually fucking have to they don't know who they are yet right and that's what the
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problem with the modern man is is like they have no pressure they have no zero pressure to do
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anything survival is easy we've hacked the matrix it's life's easy man it's life is abundant in 2024
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for. You can blindfolded do a half ass job at any gig and pay your rent. Let's be honest. Food is
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dirt cheap. Clothes are cheap. You're not going to die in the modern world. You're never going to
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starve. Never. You'll figure that out. You'll figure it out for sure. And you'll figure out
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a roof too. So like people don't take these risks and try to progress because they convinced
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themselves. What if I die? What if my survival is in jeopardy? That's never the problem. It's about
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you are afraid to become a different person and go through the transformation of going through
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that process. Cause you might come out of that process and not recognize who you were when you
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started. And that terrifies people. I'm a completely different guy than I was when I was a
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kid. I'm living proof. I'm a Testament that the way you're born and your genetic cards that you're
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dealt are completely malleable and can be transcended they can be steve jobs has a quote
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where he said the way he views the world is it's like when he pokes at something there's a ripple
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effect he describes it really plainly like if you the way you are as a man i think it's it's just
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life as a man you can affect the world if you actually if you can change the universe that's
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around you and a lot of people don't understand that like very simple concept like the same way
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that you can affect the world in minecraft like you can make buildings and you can change the
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whole you can change the weather and the you have that every man every individual man has that power
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to make a ripple effect on the on the entire universe 100 and the only thing that separates
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the innovators from the people that you know die and no one remembers them the only difference is
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that commitment you're saying that self-belief that's it that's literally it that's it goes back
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to the revenant story it's about that spirit it's a spiritual these are spiritual principles
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this is like a level of spirituality that you actually have to ingrain in yourself
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because the human spirit bro will take you to the most incredible heights in life it's all about
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your heart everything's about the male heart the heart is the most masculine organ in the in the
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body. Everyone thinks it's the head. Women live in their head. Women are the ones with the crazy
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racing thoughts all the time and hyper analyze shit and freak out and panic. Men live from their
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heart and their soul because that's the shit that you're born with. Whatever's in your heart as a
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man, you're born with that. And nobody can take that away from you. Your desires, your impulses,
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your dreams, your visions, the things that you like, things that you have a natural affinity
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towards. You're born with that. And so no one can rip that out of you. But the head, the head shit,
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The guys that live in their head, they can't access this.
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That's why they convince themselves they can never get started on a project or an endeavor.
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So it's just the number one problem I've seen with every single guy.
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But how do you connect more with your heart as a man?
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How do you get out of your head and live more first-person mode,
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like a caveman acting from your heart's desires?
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So one trick to go unconscious and put the conscious mind to sleep is volume,
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like if you're a guy who doesn't get women you're talking to so many women that eventually
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the fucking beast inside you just starts doing the talking like you're no longer worrying about
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cues and what to say and flinching and all that shit you're literally you are you have so many
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shots out there that one of them is going to land just like writing you write so much until your
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hand falls off that you break the rust in the process and you get the breakthrough you stop
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thinking about it you're just riding and riding and riding until your fucking hand basically has
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arthritis and then you're fucking you hit the ground running and you get the breakthrough and
00:24:16.960
it's over i like this one too you said i said weeks ago if you fall through the trap door of
00:24:24.900
depression a whole new world opens up to you a little more pain here a little more sprinkled
00:24:29.660
there and now you're back on your feet laughing it's stagnation at depression that kills you
00:24:34.080
keep falling. And I remember when I, when I was stagnant for a long time, so I've been doing
00:24:40.560
YouTube like content creation for like 11 years, like the main thing I do. And I hit a stagnation
00:24:45.980
point for about three years where I was only posting like every couple of months and I wasn't
00:24:50.320
actively pursuing it. But I knew that it was always like the dream that I had, like at the
00:24:53.880
back of my head and I wasn't pursuing it. And it was only like at my lowest point that I decided
00:24:59.240
the next day to get back on it. And then I haven't stopped since then. And that was maybe like six
00:25:03.880
years ago it was at like the lowest point you know staring at the wall freaking out mental breakdown
00:25:09.040
how do you pivot that depression to someplace positive because most people get to that point
00:25:15.720
you know a lot of people can end up in a mental hospital a lot of people will end up quitting a
00:25:19.100
lot of people will stay with their mom's house forever how do you use that depression and that
00:25:24.080
breaking point to your advantage yeah so it's it's it's like you stagnation is ultimately what
00:25:31.240
fucks everybody. It's the stagnation. It's like staying in an emotional state for too long is
00:25:37.700
very dangerous for all men. Any kind of emotional state that you're lingering in and not moving out
00:25:43.160
of becomes dangerous after a while. Um, there's a good, there's, there's good data and literature
00:25:48.560
on the fact that in war, in times of war, suicide rates plummet harder than they ever do before.
00:25:55.980
basically nobody commits suicide when there's a war and you got to defend territory in a nation
00:26:01.360
and it's like you start to think about that and you're like okay it makes sense as soon as a
00:26:05.640
motherfucker has a mission you fly right out of that depression right so the people who end up
00:26:11.840
killing themselves and end up having suicidal tendencies and thoughts and really really going
00:26:16.000
into a dark place have no mission they have no mission but they also don't realize that they
00:26:21.800
need to keep moving and keep failing even because going down, going down and losing more and going
00:26:29.440
even lower is better than staying in that place because you have movement. So movement either way
00:26:35.540
is always better than stagnation because there's a wraparound effect. If you go too low, you'll end
00:26:42.100
up wrapping around towards the top and horseshoeing back into abundant mentality. You know what I
00:26:47.100
me like have you ever been so on such a losing streak in your life nothing's clicking nothing's
00:26:52.580
sticking you're just you fuck up after fuck up after fuck up after a while you get so fed up
00:26:57.060
that you immediately your mindset just automatically changes into absolute abundance you stop giving a
00:27:04.380
fuck and you start taking shots and then things start working again and you're back on your feet
00:27:08.020
that's how that phenomenon works and the reason why it worked is because you kept going lower and
00:27:12.560
lower and lower and lower until you rebounded so you never want to sit with the feelings or
00:27:18.500
sit with the failure sit with the loss you got to put up the next shot very quickly so it seems
00:27:24.420
like the common denominator is perseverance 100 100 and that's why iq i think is malleable
00:27:30.340
iq is not a finite thing people talk about intelligence i mean look i think grit and
00:27:34.840
and tenacity and guile and what you just said resilience is a part of iq it's a huge factor
00:27:42.600
in it that's not quantifiable because if you get a guy like that on a battlefield or in a project
00:27:49.160
or in a fucking business room he's gonna look fucking smart at some point let me roll a cigarette
00:28:25.040
you might have if um if i have one too yeah oh thanks man you roll that just now
00:28:39.320
he describes things in a way i'm asking you needles like he describes things in a way like
00:28:51.900
he puts things into the perspective that, like, you know that you haven't really been able to
00:28:55.280
contextualize properly, right? He works things, like, really easy to, like, conceptualize.
00:29:00.980
Like, simple things that we know that you kind of distract yourself from. And I think, like,
00:29:05.420
stuff like this is important in the digital age where people are becoming more internalized.
00:29:11.800
okay here's one i'm curious to see how you explain you said never consciously learned a
00:29:22.740
skill in my life anything extremely difficult i've ever done was just biting off way more than
00:29:27.400
i could chew and fingering it out on the go common denominator was always fun fun is the only true
00:29:33.160
compass for acquiring anything worthwhile that i also agree with that completely like i've often
00:29:39.380
felt the pressure. Like people are like, what skills do you have? And I think back, like I'm
00:29:42.700
wildly successful, but I don't think I've like completely nailed or like mastered anything.
00:29:49.880
You know, everything that I've done that I've been successful at, it's because I found a level
00:29:53.320
of enjoyment in it. And if I don't enjoy doing it, I'm not going to do it. Same here. One thing
00:29:57.120
that I got really good at, uh, that some people might say I've mastered like something like
00:30:01.220
editing videos. And I only came, became really good at that because I was, I, you reach a flow
00:30:06.480
state where where it's not work and it's not you mastering a skill it's not you you know studying
00:30:11.460
for an exam you're just doing it because it's something that you're passionate about and you've
00:30:15.240
reached a point where it just it naturally starts like a like beethoven playing the keys on a piano
00:30:20.420
it just starts like flowing out of you how do you how do you find that because a lot of people feel
00:30:26.380
the pressure that they need to perform that they have to work yeah everybody's been taught that
00:30:31.540
you have to go against the grain and that's the opposite of leaning into your nature which is like
00:30:36.280
my philosophy my whole core philosophy is leaning into your nature as a man whatever the fuck you
00:30:42.420
are naturally engineered and designed to do is what you should be leaning into and for example
00:30:49.000
like my speaking on my spaces that i host it's it's people will be like how do i speak like you
00:30:54.540
how do i become a better speaker i'm like bro get different parents it's fucking genetic like i'm
00:30:59.700
just running with whatever the fuck i got and i'm if you if you go all in on your strengths by the
00:31:04.920
way it will eventually eclipse all your weaknesses and you never have to work like people are always
00:31:10.740
like yeah but why don't you focus on your weaknesses so you can be well-rounded it's like
00:31:14.900
the goal is not to be well-rounded because what is that's the literal term well-rounded means you
00:31:20.320
have no edge right it's all about keeping your edge as a man so i never dealt with weaknesses
00:31:27.320
i would always let them fall to the wayside and if you just get good at one thing and you crush it
00:31:31.920
no one gives a fuck about your weaknesses because you're so fucking good at one thing
00:31:36.940
and so that's i've always just run with what i've naturally been geared at
00:31:40.660
which is speaking writing never fucking took a writing class in my life never fucking popped
00:31:48.300
a thesaurus never opened a dictionary i just have fucking strong reading comprehension so i ran with
00:31:53.480
it so everybody knows what's what what they have inside everyone knows what they're good at
00:31:59.500
naturally but everyone wants to resist it and get into other shit that they're not that it's like
00:32:04.160
why the fuck would i compete at something that's going to take me 10 years to get just as good as
00:32:10.660
the guy who's born with the gift i'm not gonna burn 10 years of my life trying to be a piano
00:32:15.940
player when another there's a motherfucker who has that natural talent who's gonna fucking run
00:32:20.340
with it and be 100 times better than me i want to be the best at whatever it is that i do and i
00:32:25.860
don't care if I fall short my goal is to be the best how do you personally reach that flow state
00:32:31.500
I know a lot of people have different ways of getting there I don't even know how to like
00:32:36.040
describe mine I'm thinking about it now but how do you get to that point where your work and what
00:32:41.460
you're good at doesn't feel like work and it just it's something that's fun so that's the thing is
00:32:46.340
like that's what I was saying is the fun is the compass the fun is the north star like if I
00:32:51.420
genuinely don't enjoy it i don't care if i'm gonna lose money over it i'm not gonna fucking do it
00:32:56.560
and like it goes back to my whole thing about you have to find the lifestyle before you find the
00:33:03.860
money and this is where people get it really fucked up and twisted people go for the money
00:33:08.400
try to get rich first at like 21 years old now they have a bunch of money but they don't have
00:33:13.180
the lifestyle so they don't know how to fit in the lifestyle and they start doing dorky quirky
00:33:17.400
shit that doesn't fit and it's super incongruent i was living how i wanted to live when i was broke
00:33:23.040
yeah i mean so i was still doing whatever the fuck i wanted to do when i had nothing
00:33:26.560
so you put money on top of that you're a powerhouse you're a force to be reckoned with
00:33:32.460
because you already had the lifestyle so it's like guys have to figure out what they naturally
00:33:37.000
want to do already and find a way to incorporate money into it not the other way around play to
00:33:42.980
your strengths play to your fucking strengths all the time let the weaknesses fall away because if
00:33:46.900
you get so good at it it'll overshadow all the weaknesses you said uh if you ever take a swing
00:33:55.340
at an opportunity and feel like you have to nail it first try you don't really want it
00:33:59.360
you convince yourself you do when you really want something your whole engine will calibrate for it
00:34:03.840
you have an infinity clip you are careless because you know it's already yours um that's one of my
00:34:11.100
favorites yeah can you can you explain that one yeah so what i'm saying is is it's like if you
00:34:19.720
already know that you got it and you already know you're destined to be what you're supposed to be
00:34:24.460
because your nature is that strong you can fail a billion fucking times and it ain't no thing it
00:34:30.120
just rolls off your shoulders because you already know you're going to get there so you're not
00:34:35.040
taking it too personally when things don't work out you don't have to land your dream girl the
00:34:40.200
first time because you already know that's coming you don't have to get secure the bag the first
00:34:44.240
try you don't have to knock it out of the park the first investment that you make because you
00:34:47.700
know you're going to get it eventually so you can have fun with the process and enjoy going through
00:34:52.900
the motions so you have the infinity clip you can just keep putting up shots until the end of time
00:34:57.500
it's like there's some guys who they go to a bar and they talk to a girl and they get rejected
00:35:01.600
it destroys them for two months and there's other guys who just immediately start talking to other
00:35:09.060
women and those are the guys that i told you have the wraparound effect and end up rebounding into
00:35:14.360
the abundance mentality yeah because they don't internalize it they don't internalize it that's
00:35:22.380
been my biggest strength i think is i don't internalize anything i don't take anything
00:35:26.340
personal i know i get a redo you get a mulligan as a guy you wake up the next morning you draw
00:35:33.880
another breath you're in the game right you're always in the game how do you how do you teach
00:35:42.320
people to how does someone who's not thinking that way how do they start thinking that way
00:35:46.620
so i think the confidence really comes from standing on your own two feet first
00:35:50.460
i think that's where a lot of people go wrong is like as a man as early as possible you have
00:35:56.040
to prove to yourself that you can support yourself and make a living and feed yourself
00:36:00.240
and fend for yourself in the wild without relying on your parents and in the modern culture brother
00:36:05.420
we we see fucking there's guys that are living at home at 38 telling themselves that in three years
00:36:11.580
when the timing's right during the crypto bull run they're gonna move out and they never do
00:36:16.440
they're still there because you have to be disgusted with yourself to make changes and that's
00:36:24.400
that's like a very taboo topic but nobody no man ever makes a change until they can barely look in
00:36:31.460
the mirror they're so fucking sick and tired of being sick and tired until you're until you get
00:36:38.040
200 pounds and you're obese and you're looking in the mirror and you are absolutely disgusted with
00:36:43.220
the state of being that you've allowed yourself to get to it's only use using that disgusted state
00:36:48.960
that catapults you to really make big changes right it's like a lot of people try to make
00:36:55.580
changes for other people you got people that are overweight maybe they want to lose weight
00:37:00.040
but other people are in their ear telling them to lose the weight and they start doing it for
00:37:04.640
other people to make them happy and they never the weight never goes anywhere right because
00:37:09.060
they ain't doing it for the right reason yeah i know fat people they get told by their friend
00:37:12.300
group all the time oh you're a fat piece of shit you're a fat piece of shit they laugh it off and
00:37:16.560
And then it becomes a joke because they're not actually disgusted with themselves.
00:37:23.240
It's the only way to make true change is to get to a point of absolute disgust
00:37:27.560
where you cannot imagine living another day in these conditions.
00:37:40.520
but when I was in high school and college, I used to take psychedelics.
00:37:43.440
and if you're not in the right mental state if there's anything that's i that's what i realized
00:37:49.600
like taking lsd it was like or shrooms if there's anything that i was like pushing away or trying to
00:37:54.240
ignore it becomes fully present when you're in that psychedelic state and after like not after
00:37:59.660
procrastinating and i was just drinking every weekend wasting my life away like i had this trip
00:38:05.140
and all of it just came it became very i was very hyper aware of everything that i was doing
00:38:10.440
and i became like i started panicking that i was wasting my life away and i was wasting my time
00:38:15.520
away and i couldn't stand another moment when i would waste any time because time is the only
00:38:19.720
currency that you can't get back you can always make more money uh that's why that's never really
00:38:23.800
worried me it's never been a concern i could always make more money you can't ever make time
00:38:28.280
uh and that realizing that i'm never going to get that back and that my youth is fleeting
00:38:33.080
that made me panic and i just stopped wasting it from that moment on it was it was just like
00:38:38.440
something switched in my head like this comfort zone is is the the biggest trap in the world
00:38:44.400
you know you know they used to cure alcoholism with lsd in the 70s they would make people
00:38:50.400
hallucinate because and it wasn't the lsd that would cure the alcoholism it was that when people
00:38:55.120
would go on lsd they would literally be able to see what they were doing to themselves yeah like
00:38:59.920
you just said and then they would make the change when they would snap out of it but a lot of people
00:39:03.440
have like they will go into that state and not come out of it they become schizophrenic so i
00:39:08.780
I bet there might be some people watching right now like, oh, maybe I should do it.
00:39:14.180
But it's never going to happen until you get fucking disgusted.
00:39:27.120
Slamming phones in a fluorescent lit cubicle all fucking day.
00:39:32.560
In basically a concrete barrier on a fucking computer with a headset.
00:39:36.480
just on rotary dial, just fucking slamming calls, slamming calls. And I was so fucking disgusted
00:39:43.920
after like two months of doing the shit 40 hours a week. I sabotaged the job and I got myself fired
00:39:50.660
and it was the best day of my fucking life because I realized in that moment, the day that I got
00:39:55.360
fired, that I no longer had any excuses and I had to go out and do what I really wanted to do. And I
00:40:00.040
had no fallback plan anymore. Now the game was on and it was up to me now to actually go and pursue
00:40:05.680
what it is that i wanted to and take ownership for that yeah i recommend always recommend people
00:40:10.380
to get rid of that safety net as quickly as possible as quickly as possible you always say
00:40:13.980
that you need to kill the boy like you're not actually but you need to like kill that innocence
00:40:18.240
so whatever safety net you have whatever comfort zone you have you don't get rid of that immediately
00:40:22.240
you're going to fall into a trap that's much harder to get out 100 and i even even um needles
00:40:28.020
my cameraman he was telling me this story the other day about he used to work at chipotle
00:40:31.020
and like after a long day of making like what 10 50 an hour or something like that just like like
00:40:37.020
staring at your ceiling like thinking like is this is this life is this my life and then that
00:40:41.380
something was switching you when you're fully like is this really like everything my parents
00:40:45.360
gave birth to me so that my existence is working for ten dollars an hour chipotle like scooping up
00:40:51.340
burrito bowls for people that disgust will will propel you um and most people so many people like
00:40:59.100
I just, I think this is the number one problem that men have nowadays. They won't ever realize
00:41:03.440
that because they have a safety net. They have something to fall back on. So you can't really
00:41:07.700
hit that point of absolute disgust. You'll never hit, you'll never realize, you'll never be fully
00:41:11.680
humiliated with yourself or fully disgusted with yourself because you're never going to,
00:41:15.160
you're never going to see yourself at that. And it's actually a beautiful place to be in.
00:41:18.640
It's a beautiful place to be. It's when you really get to understand,
00:41:22.580
you get to understand yourself and what you need to work on. Yeah, I had that.
00:41:28.580
because then the next step becomes very clear yeah once you get to that point of disgust like
00:41:32.680
the next there's no more bullshitting yourself it's very fucking clear and there's you cross
00:41:37.340
the rubicon there's no going back but you also believe in this reminded me you say that men
00:41:43.260
shouldn't fully understand themselves but i think i started to fully understand myself like once i
00:41:48.600
was completely disgusted why do you think that men shouldn't fully understand themselves men should
00:41:53.040
not analyze why they're good at what they're good at is the nuance because once you start to really
00:42:02.420
try to reverse engineer why you're doing is working it stops working right it's like the
00:42:08.100
guy who realizes that he's funny starts trying to be more funny and now no one's laughing at
00:42:12.940
the jokes anymore but there's guys that are just naturally hilarious and they never stop to to
00:42:19.120
wonder or worry about why they have that kind of superpower it's like the more you try to
00:42:24.160
understand why you're good at what you're what you do the more you fuck it up it's better to
00:42:30.100
just go in there and go unconscious and just perform at the highest level it's just totally
00:42:35.160
unconscious second nature to you so you men have to be in a constant state of of high performance
00:42:44.120
dude 100 percent taking on more responsibility because you can't let people down
00:42:51.840
the stakes get higher and ironically this cures a lot of mental illness in society a lot of people
00:43:00.100
that are self-destructive and self-sabotage the reason they do that is because they don't have
00:43:03.920
kids they don't have a family they don't have anything to they don't nobody's relying on no
00:43:07.800
ones relying on them. So then, so then why does that guy like you, you know, obviously there's
00:43:11.860
an outlier. Why does that guy who is in crippling debt in Turkey, I've seen this video, like he
00:43:16.360
couldn't feed his family anymore. He ends up jumping off, um, a bridge in a mall. Like even
00:43:21.140
though he has to provide for his family, how does a man get to that state? Because nature doesn't
00:43:25.280
guarantee it. That's the whole trick about this whole thing is that suffering gives you the best
00:43:30.540
chance. It gives you the best odds to break free from your situation. Some, some people never
00:43:37.040
mentally recover unfortunately right not everyone's going to be a winner not everyone's going to be a
00:43:41.780
fucking fortune 500 ceo not everyone's going to be the best streamer in the world it's not going
00:43:45.840
to happen for 99 but the point is as a man is you have to at least make the attempt to really
00:43:52.600
because every goal as a man starts as a fucking delusion starts as a lie right you you wanted to
00:43:59.380
be a streamer when you were a kid they call you crazy they call you fucking nuts everyone everyone
00:44:03.340
called me insane and then you start to succeed and then they call you a genius and then they
00:44:06.480
applaud you exactly after you get the result but it started as a complete lie it wasn't even real
00:44:10.960
and you made it real you made it real which is what a man's job is the more a man can make the
00:44:17.580
visions in his head become a reality the higher you go that's literally the game of life you got
00:44:23.360
to make all your fantasies actually come true and the guys that sit there and just fantasize all day
00:44:28.540
and never try to actually bring it to real life those are the guys who suffer the most and never
00:44:33.560
break out of it and it's ironic because when women get to live like that that's when they're
00:44:37.220
at their happiest they're at their best they have their delusions and they never have to see them
00:44:40.760
because they get to live internally and their delusions make them happy oh like crystals are
00:44:45.340
making me exactly my astrology stuff uh i'm gonna start like they are happiest when they get to be
00:44:51.620
in a little bit and they get to live in la la land completely when men live in la la land and
00:44:55.660
there's no results that's when they they crumble totally fucking crumble because that's how
00:45:00.360
everybody measures you as a man ultimately like did you make your fantasies real then no one can
00:45:07.480
say a word to you right like if you if you can make it happen just you silence the critics
00:45:13.820
do you ever get lazy dude all the time what is it i'm like a lion bro i'm pretty much just
00:45:22.320
just chilling chilling chilling i get inspiration i get a vision and i act immediately and implement
00:45:27.540
minute. That's my whole life. Like bowl rushes. I get everything done and just like quick little
00:45:33.500
bursts of like bowl rushes. And then I go rest again. Everything in my life is like a sprint.
00:45:38.660
Knock it out. Got to send an email. Boom. I'll put my best foot forward. 15 minutes done.
00:45:43.500
Never to be returned to again. You're not a marathon 5k runner. Not at all. Why? Not at all.
00:45:49.340
It's just not in my nature. I'm a fast twitch motherfucker. I'm an explosive thinker. Everything
00:45:53.720
I do is explosive the way I train the way I think my financial strategy they my whole life is
00:45:59.280
congruent because the way I gamble is the way I lift weights the way I lift weights is the way I
00:46:03.900
gamble the way I gamble the way I lift weights is the way I think it's all connected everything I
00:46:09.600
do is maximum capacity fast twitch impulsive ADHD like 100 100 and so like for me
00:46:17.860
being a bodybuilder and going in the gym and training my muscles slow and fucking doing the
00:46:24.040
slow contractions would actually slow me down mentally because it's incongruent with my
00:46:29.460
lifestyle right so you're not doing the 15 rep like slow nothing just because my thinking my
00:46:36.280
career my profession requires me to be constantly fucking turning my gears i constantly have to
00:46:43.640
troubleshoot, find answers to problems. And so the way I train, it's all, I have a very holistic
00:46:50.100
approach. They all compliment each other. You know what I mean? Like if you're a slow moving
00:46:55.640
motherfucker, then it makes sense that your whole life should be like that. But if it's fast,
00:47:00.240
everything should be fast because everything reinforces the machine.
00:47:06.400
Like that's the, that's been the biggest benefit of weightlifting for me. It's not about the
00:47:10.340
the training. It's about the reinforcement of that explosive lifestyle. Being explosive is a
00:47:16.480
lifestyle. You know, I get forceful thoughts and I immediately fucking implement them and take
00:47:22.620
action. I don't sit on my desires. Like I gratify my whims. What do you do when you get a negative
00:47:29.760
thought? Are you like that? Yeah. Like if you want something, no matter how petty you're going
00:47:33.460
to go get it. That's, that's how I've always lived. Yeah, me too. I don't like, um, I need
00:47:39.100
to have the absolute best and now and right now yeah yeah i want results right now i don't like
00:47:44.340
delayed i want to see it happen right now because it is possible like other people are getting it
00:47:49.400
so like why why can't i get dude it's complete that's what's so crazy like 24 hours is an
00:47:53.800
eternity you can fall in love i i truly believe this you can fall in absolute deep love with
00:47:59.960
someone in less than 24 hours you can have a whole relationship you can have a whole relationship in
00:48:03.360
under a day if the fucking cocktails are right and everything's mixing the correct way
00:48:08.640
that can happen empires get built in a day people get rich in a day yeah it happens every fucking
00:48:13.540
day the most incredible fucking barriers and oceans move for people on a daily basis
00:48:18.780
so people don't view time correctly they think 24 hours is a very short period of time when
00:48:24.900
in reality it's an entire life you can live a whole life in one day so what do you think about
00:48:30.600
delayed gratification not a fan at all doesn't work for me but certainly you have to have some
00:48:39.300
sort of long term yeah it's built into the game but like i'm not accepting of it is what i'm trying
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to say okay people often say that like the way to have a positive mindset to beat depression
00:48:51.240
and i think i don't know i haven't seen you talk about that but i think you're similar to me where
00:48:56.340
i think i am depressed the way a lot of people are depressed but i just don't act on it i just
00:49:03.080
don't think about it exactly like i think i think a lot of people who have a similar frame of the
00:49:08.460
world like they come from um like a place of misery but i just don't choose to think about
00:49:13.240
it i i push it away 100 repressing it yeah i'm in the same state a constant state of repressing
00:49:19.100
misery 100 i don't know a single honestly bro i don't know a single person in america who's not
00:49:25.040
depressed truly deep down like there's some level of it there's just some level what does depression
00:49:33.420
mean to you fuck man it's it's just the awareness that you constantly have to move it's the
00:49:42.820
awareness that you can't you can never rest on your laurels or everything collapses yeah you
00:49:48.200
know what i mean that creates like a sort of like low level anxiety depression in people yeah like
00:49:52.880
as a man right you can go to the gym for 20 years and lay off the gas pedal and look like a piece
00:49:57.840
of shit in in one year like you'll just lose everything if you take your foot off the gas
00:50:03.520
pedal entropy like you got to fight off fucking decay as a man constantly and like you'll lose
00:50:11.520
your mental faculties too if you stop challenging yourself i think that's the biggest thing too is
00:50:16.540
like as a man you always have to have be biting something off more than you can chew
00:50:22.100
and then figuring it out like taking on the most towering challenges and tackling
00:50:27.380
challenges that are way over your head and then trying to figure it out and i've always been like
00:50:32.780
that and that's how i've learned goes back to your question about my tweet about how i never
00:50:38.920
consciously learned a skill the way i got good at anything was just going in to something that
00:50:44.960
was way over my head that i had no concept of even how to do it and then injecting myself and
00:50:50.680
immersing myself in it and then figuring it the fuck out and you'll get pretty good at shit if
00:50:55.360
you do that enough times yeah it's like the the most amount of studying i ever got done was when
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i push it off to the last second and i just had to perform because the exam's the next day and
00:51:06.100
then it's amazing how you just start retaining everything right you got like two hour deadline
00:51:10.120
all of a sudden we get done all of a sudden you're rain man you're just everything you read
00:51:15.180
is just getting fucking hard written into the dome then how different do you think men are
00:51:21.160
do you think all men are pretty much i hold the belief that pretty much all men are the same
00:51:25.900
we all have the same imperatives we all have the desire to conquer to be great to be respected
00:51:31.140
do you think that anybody is really that much different not at all i 100 agree with you i think
00:51:38.340
we're all literally built the exact fucking same when it's all said and done god deals very fair
00:51:44.480
hands that's just how it is the hands that you get dealt are pretty fucking fair everyone has a
00:51:51.680
glaring achilles heel weakness right mike tyson was the greatest power puncher in the world but
00:51:58.720
look at his voice right but nobody talks about it because of how because of how good he was
00:52:03.860
so you talk about overshadowing your weaknesses which was my point earlier right you become so
00:52:08.640
good at something people will completely forego your weaknesses you know but if he wasn't the
00:52:14.900
best power puncher in the world that motherfucker would have been bullied and and looked down on
00:52:18.980
and derided the rest of his life he would have been made fun of right he would have been a
00:52:23.320
caricature of himself so my point is it doesn't matter how naturally blessed or gifted or talented
00:52:29.220
a man is there's always a fucking glaring weakness everyone has the the fucking achilles heel
00:52:35.960
and we all know what that is we all know what our genuine fucking vices and weaknesses are that we
00:52:41.060
the demons that we just can't beat within us we all have them but you have to perform better than
00:52:47.560
you have to perform better than than you have to counteract it with such force and
00:52:51.980
overwhelmingness that it can't defeat you and that's where the pressure of being a high performer
00:52:58.500
that's why that's the only game worth playing like the only thing that you should be doing
00:53:05.160
as a man is trying to be great because in that process it doesn't even matter if you don't hit
00:53:11.420
the goal if you come up with the loftiest craziest goal and you actually commit to the journey with
00:53:18.200
full force and you fail it doesn't matter it's about who you became in the process of chasing
00:53:25.460
that goal that's at the end of the day it's about who you become on the other side what kind of man
00:53:31.220
you became and so that's why it's a worthy endeavor to you know they say shoot for the stars and who
00:53:37.820
cares if you miss you're on top of the mountain that's true that's real shit last time we spoke
00:53:44.340
i told you how you're like um you kind of embody that like rogue american like you're like the guy
00:53:50.940
in the american spirit cigarette box that's kind of what i think when i think about boot to force
00:53:55.240
what do you think and you've said that a couple times uh just now you're saying that everybody
00:53:59.520
in america you don't know anybody in america that's not depressed um i know you spent some
00:54:03.660
time and you've you've pretty well traveled right what is the difference between that american
00:54:08.720
mentality and why do we have more more of a need we americans have more way more highs and lows
00:54:15.940
than people in other places i think i think people in europe like an italian would be more
00:54:22.240
comfortable with the hand-rolled cigarettes and a couple glasses of wine and a cannoli they can
00:54:27.540
turn off uh that constant need to perform more like in spain for example they have lunch from
00:54:33.160
3 to 7 p.m it's insane they're just eating pasta drinking wine for four hours what is the difference
00:54:38.660
between that american spirit and the european spirit it all has to do with competition and
00:54:43.940
innovation the competition here is so steep as a man right like let's take miami for example
00:54:50.420
in miami if you want to make it in miami you probably have to be fit have your money in check
00:54:55.660
You got to tick a lot of fucking boxes in order to probably lock down the baddest girl in Miami.
00:55:00.580
Yeah. Right. Yeah. You can't be slacking in any department.
00:55:04.620
And America offers the opportunity to compete at the highest levels in any game that you want to play.
00:55:10.140
It's a very gamified society, whereas the other societies, the European societies, they're a little more primitive.
00:55:16.580
They're a little more primal. You know what I'm saying?
00:55:19.500
Capitalism isn't really like the driving force in those countries. They're about the siesta life.
00:55:23.500
they want to sit around they're more in touch with their nature and the fucking
00:55:27.460
the dionysian you know the god of wine they just want to fucking fucking drink wine and make art
00:55:33.200
and listen to music and shit like that um but if you're a gamer and you have that that fucking
00:55:39.500
that alligator blood where you wake up in the morning and you just absolutely have to get after
00:55:45.660
it this is the best place to be because if you want to perform at the highest levels
00:55:50.180
you're gonna find a market here for that any game that you want to play in america you can either
00:55:56.380
create the game invent the game or compete in the game so all bases are covered there's nothing in
00:56:02.420
your wildest imagination that you cannot produce here you can make it happen it's possible it ain't
00:56:10.300
possible in those other places because no one has the drive the baseline there's like an invisible
00:56:14.700
cultural kind of spell kind of malaise like a fog almost that kind of hovers over the town where
00:56:19.600
no one really is trying to be worth hundreds of millions in italy like you know what i'm saying
00:56:25.080
that's a general consensus here everybody wants the bag everybody wants the bag so it raises it
00:56:33.080
kind of raises the standards which like i said winners are always having fun that should be fun
00:56:40.580
knowing that you have that opportunity every day you should wake up and never be truly fucking
00:56:45.660
destabilized or immobilized you think you're ever gonna reach that point sometimes i think about
00:56:52.900
that i'm not ever satisfied i've always wanted more like every accomplishment i had was fun for
00:56:59.500
like a couple i mean was like satisfying for a bit and then it was always on to the next thing
00:57:03.760
always i speak to my dad about this and he's like that sort of lifestyle is exhausting to him
00:57:09.640
thinking that it's a constant pursuit and grind like some people just want to like
00:57:13.780
open up a book and, you know, look at the backyard, mow the lawn. Do you think that
00:57:19.520
you're going to ever be able to turn off that hunger for the game? No, no. And I've accepted it.
00:57:27.920
I'm at peace with it. It brings me peace and alleviation to know that that's never going to
00:57:32.420
go away. The work is never done. But I have kind of like a Taoist kind of like Eastern philosophy
00:57:41.140
with this where i do realize that you have to you have to go get you have to get rich just to prove
00:57:47.520
to yourself that it never mattered yeah you got to go get the fucking best girl on the planet to
00:57:52.280
realize that it's just you have to you have to achieve every goal on your list just to prove
00:57:56.000
to yourself that it's worthless in the end and that's the best part about life is that's actually
00:58:01.500
what happens like you get you hit that milestone and you're like it's whatever so what do you think
00:58:07.620
the point is? Of life? Yeah. To push yourself as far as you can possibly go than what you were
00:58:14.020
supposed to be on paper. Like what your genetic hard cap was supposed to be, what everybody said
00:58:20.380
you were supposed to cap out at. Your job, I believe, is to exceed that. It's very simple.
00:58:26.200
I think life is simple. I think as a man, we're born to go as far and try to climb as high as
00:58:31.280
you can possibly go see how far you can take it but the daoist principle like that a lot of that
00:58:38.380
eastern philosophy is sort of acceptance of everything they they meditate they get which i
00:58:42.540
don't fuck with at all by the way yeah i don't fuck with that stuff at all because you're taking
00:58:47.220
a class of people that are already invisible and already doing nothing and you're telling them to
00:58:51.580
sit there in a room and meditate but like true meditation is when you're under actual fire
00:58:56.620
you have actual horrific stress on your shoulders and you can be in a zen place
00:59:01.620
that's like an active state of meditation like my best meditations are when i have the most
00:59:06.120
pressure on my shoulders that's when i'm the most calm anybody can be calm in a candle lit room
00:59:12.400
right with feng shui anyone can do that how many motherfuckers can truly keep that
00:59:18.160
calm state of mind and that grace under fire when the world's crumbling on you
00:59:22.760
that's true meditation to me so what parts of that the eastern philosophy do you resonate with
00:59:29.220
because that's what i've always associated like the buddha just the whole kind of idea that i've
00:59:33.460
kind of i've kind of twisted this in my own fashion but the whole idea that the terrain is flat
00:59:37.540
like people think it's the mountain to success is so fucking arduous and you got to keep climbing
00:59:44.460
climbing everything's relatively pretty fucking flat life is relatively easy if you lean into your
00:59:49.560
nature and what you're naturally good at it things are pretty effortless like this the process of
00:59:55.580
success right like you're going through it now you've been doing this shit so long you're going
01:00:00.040
on a stream for a couple hours it's just a walk in the it's as simple as you walking to your car
01:00:04.340
it's just totally fucking ingrained you don't have to ever fucking think about it you got the
01:00:10.580
gift you can flick on a camera and you can talk shit for fucking five hours if you have to yeah
01:00:14.940
and i always forget how anxiety inducing that is for most people because like this whole day
01:00:20.240
like stream snipers coming up or like um the girls that i had on stream it's like you put a camera on
01:00:25.120
them and you they're they're fucking shaking shaking like like these four mexican kids came
01:00:29.800
up and they were just that this this whole thing was completely horrifying you often forget how
01:00:34.420
um it becomes second nature when you you lean into what you're good at for so long exactly
01:00:39.160
it's effortless now for you yeah yeah this workout this power legend workout is going to
01:00:45.120
be difficult it's going to be a big test it's going to be a challenge how long did it take
01:00:49.800
to get good at it i'd say probably like six months that's it yeah but i was going i was doing two a
01:00:55.380
days so like i would go in there i would i was i was i already had a pretty strong base i was a
01:01:00.640
fighter in italy yeah i had smokers i had 12 muay thai smokers and i was doing muay thai up there
01:01:06.960
for a while and playing high stakes poker. And when I came back to the States, I actually broke
01:01:11.460
my hand in my last fight and I had a compound fracture. My bone was sticking out of my wrist
01:01:17.320
and I had to go to the hospital and they said, you need pins and screws in your hand or your
01:01:22.400
hand will never be the same. And I said, fuck you. And I walked out and I was like, I'm going to go
01:01:29.340
on the craziest journey to figure this out on my own, because I think there's a better way to do
01:01:33.220
it. And I got into strength training and by learning strength training, I happened to come
01:01:39.160
across physical therapy. And I figured out that if you get a strong knowledge of strength training
01:01:44.260
combined with physical therapy, you can almost treat any injury yourself. But the bottom line
01:01:49.840
is I ended up working with this guy who was like, bro, if you fucking do these specific exercises
01:01:54.920
that I'm going to show you how to do, obviously I was in a cast for like nine months, but my rehab
01:01:59.240
protocol bro I fixed my hand by myself and it is a perfectly brand new hand I have zero fucking
01:02:05.800
limitations and had I listened to the doctor I'd have fucking metal plates in my wrist
01:02:10.000
and so I took that same ethos in strength training and I ran with it and I was training twice a day
01:02:18.440
because I was so addicted to the to the benefits that I was getting from it my hand was just
01:02:22.040
getting better and better and even gripping the bar gripping the bar was just getting better and
01:02:27.040
that's sort of the other thing that i learned about movement and how movement is truly the
01:02:31.960
panacea for life like if you go through a heartbreak as a man if you keep moving it doesn't
01:02:38.100
hurt as bad when you have a severe injury and you and you move with it and you figure out a way to
01:02:43.160
to work around it but you still are trying to find ways to be active you feel better you you heal
01:02:48.860
quicker life is very much like that and so by doing these these things even though it was brutal pain
01:02:54.140
i was healing at like a 50 faster rate than i was supposed to because i just kept fucking
01:03:00.800
exercising i was training my body you have to use your hand you have to fucking use your hand again
01:03:06.280
so your body adapts the same way 100 situation it's the same thing that i talked about the
01:03:12.020
metaphor of the revenant that guy didn't have medical attention his legs were broken
01:03:16.020
but by moving and forcing himself even though he could only move one one moment at a time even
01:03:23.180
sometimes a centimeter at a time he was teaching his body that it has to recover you have no choice
01:03:28.660
you're gonna die if you don't fucking force your body to respond to the pressure that it's under
01:03:32.780
and it's no different with us and so i learned that firsthand no pun intended and uh bro it's
01:03:40.720
a brand new hand and so i just got addicted to the process and it never gets old getting stronger
01:03:45.180
people are like isn't it boring you've been training for 20 years i'm like bro getting
01:03:49.520
stronger never gets old. It's addicting. It's addicting because you're seeing progress every
01:03:54.600
time you go. And, uh, I had a very unusual, unorthodox approach to it. I went in there
01:04:01.160
with the mentality that if I train every day to my maximum capacity, I'm going to get stronger.
01:04:07.500
And people were like, you mean to tell me you don't have a workout plan? You don't write down
01:04:12.320
your reps. You don't, you don't follow a structure. And I was like, no, I go in there and I put heavy
01:04:17.580
things over my head every day, you're going to get strong as fuck. It's that simple. And that's
01:04:23.200
what I did. And in six months, I surpassed everybody in my gym who'd been training for
01:04:29.440
like four years because I just had that ruthless mentality that I was going to go in there and I
01:04:34.400
was competitive. I wanted to be better than everybody. Get some water. Yeah, for sure.