SNEAKO - SNEAKO, Mohammed Hijab, Ali Dawah, & Warner Full Podcast

00:00:00.000 what huh okay yeah no problem we are we are live now

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00:00:28.900 sit there wherever you guys

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00:00:33.320 it's a nice studio yeah to be honest i i rent it it's not mine

00:00:40.240 i just i pay them like an hourly rate yeah yeah it's good yeah they're good man everything yeah

00:00:45.060 because i if i was to do something like this it'll cost a lot of money it'll have that kind of money

00:00:48.080 so yeah they look after me yeah they're my everything's really uh we're live yeah we're

00:00:53.160 live i'm just doing some i was just doing some fundraising while two guys come for this project

00:00:56.860 so you know the one i was talking to you about yesterday yeah i know yeah do you have an actual

00:01:00.120 one yeah i've got one like it's it's here i can give you one as well because i know

00:01:03.460 you're you're new to praying as well and you've just you said you just you know sort of fatia now

00:01:07.460 yeah uh i nearly nearly one is helping me he's helping me good good good that's good

00:01:12.060 my voice is good i think my pronunciation is okay

00:01:14.080 it'll be good man it took me quite a bit as well i can remember when i first came to islam

00:01:17.500 say that again 0.67

00:01:19.640 okay we've got 900 people watching what is this

00:01:23.700 so so the salah plus project is something that actually muhammad hijab we found it

00:01:27.120 um five years ago uh this project is something because it was just more general that was me

00:01:31.460 muhammad hijab uh ustad adnan rashid sheikh muhammad we started off as like a movement just

00:01:35.960 giving dawah which we do in speaker's corner but we launched this project about a year and a half

00:01:39.820 ago uh so um this is basically because we realize it's it's really difficult for new muslims when

00:01:44.860 they come to islam when it comes to salah because it's like so much bold like how do i pray there's

00:01:49.120 a lot of your toe back properly or when to put exactly yeah exactly and then you've got you've

00:01:53.140 got your uncles who come and tell you in the masjid oh don't do this don't it's so daunting it's

00:01:57.340 like well i don't even know how to pray now you're bloody having a go at me my hand should be 0.66

00:02:00.420 here or don't do this so as a new muslim i can remember 11 years ago when i first learned how to

00:02:04.540 pray i know how difficult it was so launching this project i'm a trustee so i'm a volunteer

00:02:09.340 i just i volunteer i don't get paid for this so the the team are doing an amazing job so these

00:02:13.380 prayer mats all they do is just that if you accept islam you can start praying immediately why because 0.99

00:02:19.020 you just put this in front of you and it shows you the movements it shows you the transliteration

00:02:23.160 of what to say so you can start praying immediately and we know for example something

00:02:27.160 we didn't talk about yesterday in your life is that we talk about like food nutrition when it

00:02:31.200 comes to look i'd i'm i could do a lot of sports boxing uh jogging uh you know um i'm trying to

00:02:36.480 cut down ramadan too yes i i to me i believe this is a thing in the mind to me four years ago because

00:02:42.800 i do jogging every week two times a week yeah so i do about 4k to 5k jogging so i can remember it

00:02:48.080 was a 19 hour 19 and a half hour fast this was three years ago yeah so it was long hours so about

00:02:53.060 half an hour before i would call for a jog and i thought you know what i haven't eaten

00:02:55.660 i'm proper weak let me i'll do i'll do 2k jog instead of 4k so i started jogging so i did 1k

00:03:01.720 so i'm feeling good i did 2k so i feel good i did 3k i did 4k i did 5k bro i don't usually do 5k

00:03:08.680 bro i felt and i thought to myself you know what bro this is all in the mind just because i was not

00:03:12.700 eating i was thinking i'm weak we our bodies are not created to eat all the time bro when you're

00:03:16.880 fasting it actually renews your cells so to me i noticed it's all in the mind so now i had my boxing

00:03:21.700 training last friday and my coach was like should i take it a bit easy i said no

00:03:24.560 like an hour nine no no nine in the morning so i had eight hours to to break my fast no water the

00:03:30.760 whole time i don't know i when i box i get like i look like i jumped in the pool okay hamdallah

00:03:34.740 you know with me one thing it maybe might be specific to me i don't get thirsty i don't really

00:03:39.140 get that thirsty so i did my training uh huh no no i did my training in the morning 9 a.m and my coach

00:03:46.500 was like should we go a bit light today i said no do 10 rounds of skipping boom then we'll do the

00:03:49.740 pad work boom then do a little circuit and then he was coming down and he saw me on the stairmaster

00:03:53.520 he's like brother you okay i said no i'm good man i believe it's in the mind bro i just genuinely

00:03:57.240 believe it's in the mind and when it comes to training like you see khabib or some of them 0.95

00:04:00.360 like when it's when they fight they're fasting bro even some of them playing football they're

00:04:03.760 fasting so to me bro which is very important another thing sneak over for me like what i

00:04:08.620 learned was having that intimate relationship with allah so when it comes to allah we think

00:04:12.440 we need to go to allah when we're stuck or we're going through a difficulty the sahaba the

00:04:16.660 companions of the prophet peace be upon him they would go and ask allah's guidance when

00:04:20.820 they're picking clothes so they'll be thinking okay i've got white colorful or green colorful

00:04:25.420 both beautiful oh yeah you know what they'll say look you might find this they'll say allah

00:04:28.980 allow me to find allow me to pick the one that has more blessing for me and you think to yourself

00:04:34.660 something so little but but that's the relationship that had both that allah was to that for them

00:04:40.140 to go to for anything and everything do you get it so to me it's really really profound so just

00:04:45.000 coming back to this project like i said before like you know we're just teaching people how to

00:04:48.360 pray salah we have these mats that we send out for free so you can go to salahplus.com you're a

00:04:53.200 new muslim or even there's born muslims who are ashamed of learning how to pray yeah you order we

00:04:57.240 send it to you yeah and if you want an instructor so me dawud and a couple of brothers and we have a

00:05:01.760 sisters team if you want to learn how to pray we teach you over zoom so we've had peep sisters in

00:05:06.620 jamaica there was a sister who accepted islam bomba cloud yeah yeah so we we taught how to pray 0.99

00:05:14.800 online if you're in london we teach you so that's what the project is about i was just doing the

00:05:18.720 fundraising but you know i was thinking to do the topic today i was going to make it uh you're looking

00:05:22.380 to get married aren't you sneaker inshallah come on so so to me i've got a project i've been working

00:05:28.900 on for quite a bit time it's called my marriage documentary so it's me documenting when i first

00:05:33.740 came to islam my journey to finding my wife you're married i'm married yeah yeah yeah so it's my

00:05:38.900 documentary of me as a orthodox muslim because we don't do dating we don't do none of the haram

00:05:43.220 stuff yeah so it's me trying to find my wife so i documented it like everything you know when i

00:05:47.700 have marriage meetings i'll i'll record like if there's permission obviously we don't show you

00:05:51.780 filmed your marriage meetings so some of them some of them there's we filmed it i talk about okay i

00:05:56.160 met this sister this is what happened meeting the dad and the brother yeah yeah there's one actually

00:05:59.880 there was there was a really nice guy like an uncle i went to really appreciate that i like the

00:06:03.500 fact that you came to me and asked for my permission so i talk about my experience for all that like

00:06:07.900 it took me like good three four years yeah you probably normalize an uncomfortable situation say that

00:06:12.340 yeah you're normalizing an uncomfortable yes somewhat awkward situation exactly exactly i'm

00:06:16.940 not really sure how to approach that exactly exactly i've been kind of just putting it off and

00:06:20.280 trying to stay on my dean exactly so i know where you was at so i would like to share my experience

00:06:25.460 with you this is a great topic and i think we want we want sneaker to find his wife are you married

00:06:30.580 no yeah what we're gonna get two brothers married how are you not married bro

00:06:36.220 honestly i'm focusing on my goals right now are you sure you sure the sisters are i think the

00:06:40.680 sisters are blinded where you're from brother they're not they're not they're not looking

00:06:43.620 they don't engage too much

00:06:45.580 okay i see that oh you haven't reviewed them yet okay you know what i think today's topic should be

00:06:53.300 is how to find your wife in in in in a proper way because it's not easy i know but to me it was it was

00:07:00.460 it was nightmare bro like i went through some madness bro but like i got catfished yeah but it wasn't a

00:07:07.200 man it was actually a real woman it was a real woman but i didn't see her but she was she used 1.00

00:07:11.840 she was did you say it

00:07:13.260 not it can be these days you couldn't expect anything i was speaking to a trans hindu two

00:07:20.840 days ago yeah not for marriage so anyways guys if you're watching this the donation link is there

00:07:26.600 you guys can donate as we talk today's topic we're going to have inshallah i think it's important

00:07:29.760 we'll have hijab steak as well he's got some funny stories bro he's got some funny what was the

00:07:34.600 tapish story so you shut up and oh bro did she not fit in her job bro i did not meet her ever 0.87

00:07:38.740 she was using pictures that was not of her so every time i would say because i'm not about this dating 0.80

00:07:44.500 business so to me it's like look i need to get to know you for a little bit to a certain amount

00:07:47.700 after i need to speak to your father bro i'm just i need if you don't let me speak to your father

00:07:51.660 i that's alarm bells let me ask something but how do you even get pictures i thought you're not

00:07:55.760 supposed to see her like no you can't pictures of her in the copy like bro i'm gonna give you some

00:08:00.040 cheat codes yeah well are you ready for the sneaker so i follow the opinion

00:08:02.520 is that when you okay so this is how it works so let's say i'm speaking to a sister

00:08:07.300 and i'm interested in marriage so obviously there's some questions you need to ask first

00:08:10.940 to get the gist if you're compatible so once you've done that obviously not prolonging like

00:08:14.960 i'm speaking to for weeks no no just a couple of days ask some basic questions let's see if we're

00:08:18.180 in the same wavelength and then after that i'll say look i want to speak to your dad to ask his

00:08:22.680 permission so his dad will say okay you know what thanks for coming to me okay i will get to my son

00:08:27.240 so anytime you guys want to have a meeting or whatever for that matter um you guys can get to know

00:08:31.220 each other now as you're getting to know her and things get a bit serious you have every right

00:08:35.540 to ask for a picture the prophet peace be upon him a man came that he was saying that he was getting

00:08:39.240 to know someone for marriage and he said to have you seen her he said no he said to see her for you

00:08:43.340 might see something that will incline you to marry her you you are allowed to see her that's why we

00:08:47.720 live in islam you can cover everywhere except your hands and your face now the school of what i 0.95

00:08:51.640 follow they take this hadith and they say hold on a second we can take a few things from this so

00:08:55.540 some say you can see like um even you can even see the hair i don't know if you heard this yeah

00:09:02.260 you can if she if she wants to only if you're propositioning for marriage if you're proposition

00:09:06.960 for marriage and it's at the stage where it's getting a bit serious and you're like you know

00:09:10.040 what do you mind if i see you with your hair yeah right it's it's what would you do the opinion

00:09:14.640 that i follow is quite a strong sneaker keep it down yeah okay what would you do if she uh 0.98

00:09:19.020 she was bald or she had if she's bald there's always uh solutions uh there's always someone 0.93

00:09:24.660 out there for her so it's not

00:09:26.160 no no no it it it it really it really depends but i'll be honest with you yeah

00:09:32.920 which one this one it's not working no no you gotta be careful no you're just far away from it

00:09:39.480 look he's got his fist ready already okay let me know if it's working yeah so yeah like um you can

00:09:46.140 see certain like for example some say you can see up to you know like the forearm or the calves because

00:09:51.300 it gives you an idea of her body mass if that makes sense yeah yeah you can see up like from

00:09:56.260 here for me so she can wear certain clothing that give you an idea and a gist of how she may look 0.99

00:10:02.180 because you might wait in front of her family as well right no no of course yeah no no not just you

00:10:06.180 did you do that so when you met you got to see like a wrist okay there was a situation where there

00:10:10.320 was a uh yemeni a sister that's what it is yeah after so there was a situation where there was a

00:10:15.860 yemeni sister i was getting to know for marriage in birmingham and i i traveled there i met the

00:10:19.380 family and i requested if i can see her without uh without a hijab and yeah she came and to me i'll

00:10:24.180 be honest like to me it was just like it just and it's interesting because the prophet peace be upon him

00:10:27.540 said see for something that might incline you further and i and that to me like was like okay

00:10:32.740 like i was okay you saw yeah yeah some good hair but yeah yeah obviously but you know but you know

00:10:37.380 do test one two have no fear the warner is here oh i like that have no fear the warner is here

00:10:46.180 you should get t-shirts like that yeah you don't have headphones no

00:10:53.140 no he's not coming through no we can share our mic no no no no if not come sit here

00:10:59.540 yeah come come so guys okay hamdulillah

00:11:01.220 which camera or what do we look at bro no camera we look at each other okay yeah yeah we're having

00:11:05.460 like a nice chat inshallah come at me so yeah so uh you can you can see certain stuff like because

00:11:10.820 at the end of the day you know one thing like for example when we come from that background yeah

00:11:14.340 i know how it is yeah because we can like talk to girls on the street do you get it it depends 0.75

00:11:18.340 like i the background that i came from like not that i'm this is ramadan not that i'm trying to

00:11:22.580 praise you have no fear it was like you know bro you don't you don't know nothing about lowering

00:11:25.300 your gaze yeah there's no lowering your gaze you're chatting to girls left right center so you're coming

00:11:29.860 with baggage so um that's why it's like there's certain trace that you need to work on etc because

00:11:34.740 not lowering the gaze can be quite problematic and it's one of the hardest things for us men

00:11:38.340 you know that's why uh when allah subhanahu says in the quran that he created man weak

00:11:42.020 one scholar said imagine how weak man is that he looks at something that he cannot gain

00:11:48.340 and he gets nothing from it except you know just it's just making you more horny or whatever and you're

00:11:53.540 still looking that's how weak a man is do you get what i'm trying to say so to us obviously lowering

00:11:57.540 the gaze it's very important but yeah you can you can see man like have you had any marriage meetings

00:12:04.420 yeah yeah yeah okay what's what's what's what are the obstacles that you say it's like

00:12:10.260 that all things that you're a bit like i don't know man i've been going from from what i mean from

00:12:14.580 dating it's uh it's hard to get to know someone you know i think uh just how much you can speak to

00:12:23.540 the girl before it's considered dating you know how much you can get to know her um

00:12:29.140 in a in a respectful way before it's like okay well maybe you should just get married already

00:12:33.460 like i'm used to i'm used to dating and exactly yeah it's just completely different it's completely

00:12:38.980 it is it is and then just hear you hearing you explain like looking at an ankle or a wrist yeah

00:12:43.940 to try to get an idea of what the rest of her body's like it's like um i can't help but think that's 1.00

00:12:48.580 like silly you know like kind of like you're looking at her ankle thinking like how big are

00:12:52.020 her you know like but yeah okay it's a whole it's a whole different it is it is but you know you know 0.79

00:12:57.460 what this matter is very important yeah it's like again we yesterday was talking about having trust in

00:13:02.420 allah yeah when i look let me be honest i went through a lot of obstacles and difficulties throughout

00:13:06.660 my marriage journey look bro i got like talking to catfish to time wasters to being rejected by

00:13:12.580 racism by the way you're getting to know a certain culture was a white girl no no no no these these were

00:13:17.540 like i don't want to give because some people get upset yeah i don't want to go into where they

00:13:20.500 were from yeah but i'll be rejected because i'm not from that part of the world yeah um so to me it

00:13:26.740 was very difficult but one thing that i learned was this year when you stay persistent to allah and

00:13:30.580 you stay true to his word and you do not involve or indulge in haram and even if you indulge in haram

00:13:35.620 you repent yeah once you do that bro like when i met my wife and like with my wife like obviously um i didn't

00:13:42.660 i i did speak to her and as i was getting serious i did ask for her like to see if i can see without

00:13:48.340 hijab and yeah she like she sent me a picture i saw it and from there onwards i'll be honest with you

00:13:52.580 bro my wife was like uh like you know some sisters i was getting to know for marriage etc bro like i

00:13:56.820 would say yeah they were a seven out of ten when i met my wife my wife was a 20 out of 10 for me

00:14:00.340 for me so what it's as if allah was saying to me listen ali you went through a lot of madness you

00:14:05.780 could have gone about the haram where you could have gone link them date them commit to zina you

00:14:10.100 didn't you didn't do that you stayed firm here's your gift here's your reward and to my wife obviously

00:14:14.980 i don't want to talk too much because i know i i don't agree with social media couples that make

00:14:18.660 their marriage seem as if something is not and it gives this false perception of reality to people

00:14:22.740 yeah i believe this is um it's not right you know you don't get this couple do that everything

00:14:26.740 looks so amazing keep it private marriage has ups and downs keep your life private yeah but to me

00:14:31.620 bro let me be honest when you stick true to allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allah gives you what

00:14:35.540 you want bro i'm telling you and you know when it comes to prayer one thing that you need to know

00:14:42.260 imagine you go to a king so you have this king that invites you to his kingdom he owns the whole

00:14:46.820 earth and he comes to you and he says to you sneaker what do you want from me and you go i want an 0.99

00:14:52.340 apple what do you think he'll do to you probably give it to me no he'll kill you bro for an apple yeah 0.97

00:14:59.380 you know why because he'll be like you're insulting me you're coming to my kingdom i own everything and 0.97

00:15:02.820 you want an apple you're coming to my kingdom and you're you're basically it's like it's you're

00:15:07.460 degrading me in front of uh do you get what i'm trying to say ask me for something ask me for a 0.91

00:15:11.940 bloody building ask me do you get what i'm trying to say because he's the king if you ask him for 0.63

00:15:15.860 apple he's gonna think this guy's degrading me so that when you go to allah ask for whatever you

00:15:20.660 want bro when you're making do it i would be very specific in my prayers when it comes to what kind of

00:15:24.820 a woman i want i'm talking body parts to like i would be in detail i want this kind of hair 1.00

00:15:34.740 i mean i'll be honest same goes with you bro bro you have to you have never test that you have to

00:15:40.660 be bro go into detail this is allah bro you know it's crazy i saw in your face right now you visualize

00:15:45.380 like a spanish like like latino woman like i mean the thing is like you know i'm you know she has

00:15:52.820 she has to have something else i might break her you know no no no no no exactly but that's that's

00:15:57.460 your type so like to me to me to me i have a specific look yeah and by the way look to me i

00:16:02.980 have a specific that i looked for yeah okay so there's many people i've met for marriage and a lot

00:16:06.980 okay i was looking for three four years okay it was getting peak yeah especially when you live in

00:16:10.980 the west bro you can't have sex outside of marriage bro it is peak in summertime everyone's

00:16:17.060 half naked bro lower your so lower your gaze even on the floor there's fitna there's a floor in the

00:16:22.020 fit but when i look down i have to look to the sky to see nothing yeah okay i have to walk we're

00:16:25.540 looking in the uh to the sky so it was really repeat but the point is this bro is that i usually

00:16:30.500 put mirrors on my shoes

00:16:35.300 bro no we just came straight away brother yeah you know something else so yeah i would say be very

00:16:39.700 specific with the prayer and uh allah will give you what you want so when it comes to the stuff of

00:16:43.700 the unseen like for example okay i don't know how her body looks i don't know do you get what

00:16:48.100 i'm trying to say and it's it's kind of risky how does she look with without hijab do you get it 0.99

00:16:51.380 some some girls look really good with hijab when the hijab comes off you're like okay it's not 1.00

00:16:56.980 it looks it's it's mad it's like right like you know you look totally different or some of them

00:17:00.740 they are different their hand color is different to their face bro right you're thinking bro

00:17:03.860 your face color is different because of the makeup three four years is a long time to be looking for a

00:17:08.260 wife well i have been praying for it i don't know like in islamic sources like speak about what you

00:17:12.900 pray for but even when i went for umrah that was like pretty consistent but i wasn't like i'm not in

00:17:18.260 a rush you know it's just something i was just saying that when it's ready i do trust in a lot

00:17:22.900 but when i'm ready or when he's ready it's gonna happen so 100 that's true you should it's it's good

00:17:28.500 that you submit to that you know but you need to understand that your body also is going to start

00:17:32.340 acting on your wife like do you get it so it's good that you have that uh but once if you are a man

00:17:36.980 like for example when you come to islam and you're not going to having sex outside of marriage 0.78

00:17:40.660 um then your body's going to start be like you know what look you need to start looking and that's

00:17:43.860 why i say like it's very important actually i even tell men when you're getting to know a sister for

00:17:47.700 marriage etc make sure you that marriage meeting happens when you're not overly horny why because

00:17:54.660 you know it's my rush into a decision yeah because it it clouds your decision making factors

00:17:58.740 you're the most impulsive one exactly so so it's very important i some people might think oh my gosh look

00:18:03.380 it's a reality us men we're visual creatures so make sure that you're you're you're a bit calm

00:18:07.700 so you can make a rational decision because i want to look i know a lot of brothers

00:18:13.300 needles okay bro what are you asking for each of the cables

00:18:16.580 ethernet cable they had it take videos soon yeah yeah yeah do that okay yeah you'll be good

00:18:21.860 do that if you want to get it you said you want to get it yeah yeah it's fine it's fine yeah yeah

00:18:26.580 islam bro like some come oh is it come come sit down

00:18:35.460 huh oh um we still we still got time let's do let's do around like five

00:18:42.980 no it's fine you guys got time you are not combining yeah we can just double up right yeah

00:18:46.180 you can join it before things so guys in the meantime um

00:18:49.140 let's try if not share that put that down did you ask him for ethernet cable

00:18:58.580 no no no but he had one here no no he had one here hip hip um put that day

00:19:05.700 yeah i'll email hungry bro don't put your hand in front of my face i'm invited

00:19:09.220 yeah so we're just talking about like marriage i was giving some advice talking about that in the

00:19:17.060 car too we're yeah uh how to handle that that's not working maybe you can share that oh okay

00:19:28.580 what was you guys talking about in the car about how to manage wives and how

00:19:32.020 like how much to give attention i would love to hear that advice well you've heard it all before

00:19:37.460 man this is a pretty off-camera conversation i would say

00:19:41.460 yeah well he was he was there he knows it was my story

00:19:47.460 did you tell him about the one where you start kicking a punch in your leg i want to hear this one

00:19:52.020 is it fixed are we getting this one no this is before you go right he's gonna tell you why

00:19:55.780 he's punching his feet i used to try and help myself deter the attention somewhere oh you punch

00:20:02.580 yourself in the leg to oh okay self-inflicted did it work

00:20:14.500 yeah let's just wait i realize how through fasting though how much i take food for granted

00:20:19.380 number one oh how entitled i am to food yeah film it while it's not working like yesterday we're

00:20:25.300 when we're in that place in five pillars uh they know the event we went to yeah and the food was

00:20:30.660 late i was actually starting to get really mad you know really this is this is like half an hour late

00:20:38.020 and we're fasting yeah so and then i thought i looked around and i realized there was an ethan

00:20:44.340 last time and the somalian food was much better in my opinion yeah yeah no that's not a good

00:20:49.220 representation yeah because it was made in bulk yeah usually when it's made in bulk like you don't

00:20:57.060 get the flavors yeah yeah but you used

00:21:03.780 booked it wait is there a good restaurant yes very nice

00:21:06.820 special okay why are you too nervous no because the way this guy

00:21:13.060 i'm for him

00:21:14.740 no no no you know the thing with turks i'm gonna

00:21:17.700 wallah really

00:21:18.740 the prayer took a long time so we didn't eat till like 7 30 almost power return

00:21:34.900 yeah another thing is like all the other tables were getting food first

00:21:37.460 yeah like you know the song i was like hey give it to me like you know give me that plate you know

00:21:41.380 like no we have to serve those over there bro

00:21:45.700 maybe maybe it's not grilled

00:21:48.740 when it comes to the stuff yeah yeah yeah

00:21:52.740 try the lamb soup as well yeah just the same plot in it they're going to probably bring a big

00:21:57.620 big plow we'll all have that yeah i'm going to have a skander

00:22:01.940 skander you know that one oh they do skander yeah yeah you like it with the bread

00:22:05.460 diced bread and uh yeah creamy this and that something new okay all right

00:22:11.780 might have a bit of everything you know yeah that's a good one

00:22:18.980 yeah we'll go there now after we'll go to leto somewhere that's a dessert place

00:22:22.420 it's a dessert place nice do you like ice ice coffee do you guys like yeah i do

00:22:26.660 yeah they do really nice spanish ice latte great really like very nice but you like well i'm pretty

00:22:31.300 sure that place gonna be flat uh you have to reserve it or something you can't i know that

00:22:37.460 place yeah no no there's there's they have one in soho they have one in nice bridge so we'll go to

00:22:42.260 one of them we'll see because this one you can't reserve it's like a cafe it's like one of those kind

00:22:45.300 of closure yeah it's nice so we should have space they've also got enl there so bear in mind it's monday

00:22:50.740 today he won't be busy it's monday today bear in mind so we won't be that busy today's monday

00:22:55.060 it's not like a friday saturday if it was a friday saturday oh martin yeah yeah it is i don't know

00:23:01.540 how to is it working uh testing testing one two three testing testing one two three yeah

00:23:11.380 but the guys that in east london did a good job of like the food was good it's london where did you

00:23:17.540 that's oh you're talking about that yesterday oh yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah they don't have to

00:23:22.340 take care of us yeah oh uh the place that we were at yeah yeah yeah yeah what's your favorite cuisine

00:23:32.820 a little steak oh you like steak okay i like wagyu steak oh if you like that we should get

00:23:37.940 i know a place for steak on the green very nice yeah maybe six things tomorrow or later tonight yeah

00:23:43.620 it's pretty twice and i only once or twice in the past two days yeah yeah he hasn't been eating

00:23:49.300 surgery yeah really same same bro i like sleeping either 11 p.m boom and then i just wake up fudge

00:23:54.180 and go back to sleep i don't do so

00:24:05.700 it's tough the waiting until marriage thing i don't know we're glad we're not on the stream but like

00:24:09.140 yeah not committing zina that's a huge one for me bro it is it is it's it's um this is this is why

00:24:15.220 you know with this kind of stuff here let me be honest when i first came to islam this is one of

00:24:17.700 the things i like i fear the most like going back to my old way especially with like girls and we knew

00:24:23.140 you know it's very interesting because in in surah talaq allah says that if you fear me i will give you

00:24:28.180 a way out from places you can never imagine well your glasses are scratched up yeah yeah i know you know

00:24:32.660 what happened i'll finish training it was in my pocket it fell on the floor and i stepped on it

00:24:37.140 so i had to send the other glasses off they're getting a new lens and i'm going to send these off

00:24:41.300 so yeah so yeah when it when it comes to this bro i was very frightened bro going back to girls and

00:24:46.260 all that kind of stuff but well let me be honest here genuinely man if you fear allah you know it's

00:24:51.700 as if someone sedated me bro for a year and a half when i first came to islam yeah i went into the dawah

00:24:57.620 i just said oh like i just hate this sin and just keep me away from it but well i felt as if i went in

00:25:02.660 a coma for about a year and a half and i and i remembered this about a year into the dawah

00:25:06.580 and i thought to myself man i used i used to have this problem and then it's just as if allah bro

00:25:11.780 just reset my brain wouldn't you say that dawah keeps you away from sin bro bro look i got basically

00:25:16.740 what happens i was a new muslim i got into the dawah i was i was thinking fearing that i'm going to go

00:25:20.980 back to my old ways with the girls and that kind of stuff yeah what i know is just i got into the

00:25:24.340 dawah i think something really fast about a year into it then i thought to myself bro i had this problem

00:25:28.740 like you know of girls and stuff like that dawah bro look dawah keeps me away from sins bro dawah keeps me in check

00:25:34.820 you know why because if i'm not doing dawah i don't know what i'll be doing so when you're

00:25:37.300 involved with the kind of stuff you have to be around people that do it do you get it you have

00:25:40.180 to read books pertaining to it and you're you're involved in dawah in the streets you get it so

00:25:44.580 allah always gives you a way out it's hard don't get twisted it's one of the most hardest things you

00:25:48.260 can ever go through but bro allah will definitely give you a way out

00:25:57.940 that's fine so we'll share that mic that's fine that's fine let's just go live

00:26:06.100 this cable yeah just take that one out why

00:26:10.500 so then let's just put this down and just put that in the middle and they use it

00:26:13.300 how else are we gonna fit that in let me just move the table oh wouldn't that reach you yeah

00:26:19.060 that's what i'm saying wouldn't that reach you yeah i like that

00:26:24.900 would that reach yeah

00:26:32.180 is it okay are we live right now i have no idea

00:26:35.460 yeah you've been like oh thank you for everybody yeah i've been thank you

00:26:43.700 i didn't say anything

00:26:46.500 i'm gonna say the same thing anyways now okay so we still have how many people watching

00:26:51.620 okay that's fine i just want to guys

00:26:53.460 oh at the meantime while we're doing this i just want to give you guys a reminder about something

00:26:56.340 a project that uh salam was started actually from mohammed hijab myself we was the founders all

00:27:00.820 together uh but we've launched this project which is the salah plus project uh sneakers here um and

00:27:06.020 um obviously he knows how hard it is when you're learning how to play salah how difficult it is

00:27:10.580 and you're still learning and you're still learning yeah i don't know how difficult it is for myself

00:27:13.300 as well when i first came because you have to like go sit comfortably sit no no no you don't have

00:27:17.620 to do that bro people always make you seem like you have to it's it's not it's you can do it

00:27:20.900 you're not sinful if you don't so sit in a place you're comfortable i know how it is bro

00:27:24.660 sitting in a specific position your legs hurt and then you don't like praying you don't want

00:27:28.500 that feeling sit comfortably bro sit it's hard to focus on praying when i'm thinking about my

00:27:31.700 toes thank you do you see what i mean so i know where you're coming from because i was there 0.77

00:27:35.060 do you get it bro sit comfortably wherever you're comfortable bro on your like left buttocks or your 0.77

00:27:40.260 right or you just sit i put my legs like that like flat do you get what i'm trying to say so bear that

00:27:44.900 in mind inshallah so guys if you're watching this salahplus.com you can order your guided prayer mat

00:27:48.820 if you are new muslim yeah the the prayer mats are there not only that we have guided salah

00:27:53.140 instructors so if somebody wants to learn how to pray salah i was talking about the sister katan

00:27:57.220 from jamaica what did you say yeah so we've got our people ordering this around the world

00:28:03.460 last year we taught about up to 10 000 people directly or indirectly how to pray salah you can

00:28:08.660 book a salah instructor or your guided prayer mat and not only that we're trying to take this project

00:28:11.940 around europe to open salah hubs so they'll be dedicated place in masajid and community centers

00:28:16.420 anyone that wants to learn how to pray salah they can come and we have quran instructors who will teach

00:28:21.060 you surah fatih and you said you've slowly getting over the the surah fatih yeah exactly so uh

00:28:26.740 sneaker knows the struggle i know the struggle but yeah we're going to get back into the topic

00:28:30.100 inshallah it's about finding sneaker and uh the wuna uh a wife inshallah yeah okay so we're going to get

00:28:35.460 some advice from yeah yeah that's what we're doing today

00:28:38.420 it looks like he woke up it's like an expression shot right in his face yeah bro one second i just

00:28:54.340 remember take a pillow man sorry i'm taking your teeth what do i do with it you're more comfortable

00:28:59.940 oh okay okay okay so so hijab how was the marriage seeking process for you can you just tell us your

00:29:11.460 story of here punching your leg no listen let me tell you something i had a different life for you

00:29:15.940 guys i was obviously um born and raised muslim so i didn't have a jahlia frankly what is that i didn't

00:29:24.340 really have i didn't before i got married i didn't get involved in promiscuity yeah because he was born

00:29:29.620 muslim right yeah even then let's say there were other things i mistakes i made but it was that

00:29:35.380 wasn't one of them actually so alhamdulillah that was uh i just got married um i got first married

00:29:41.460 got married to someone that was in my school i got married at the age of 20 years old and i've been

00:29:46.500 married for 11 years i've got three kids you know yeah um but let me tell you something look the

00:29:50.980 marriage seeking process is now people talk about arranged marriage like i was talking to some

00:29:56.660 a non-believer one time yeah and he was talking to us about arranged marriages yeah yeah it was like

00:30:01.940 how do you guys do like arranged marriages and stuff yeah and i was like well you can move it you can

00:30:06.260 move it back we've got different cable it's good enough yeah it's working okay perfect all right yes

00:30:11.300 of course the service is much less here

00:30:20.420 the cable's not even on brother look at this look at this thing this is

00:30:26.900 this is an industrial estate and the dungeon that we've come in here and the cable's not working

00:30:32.420 i thought we were gonna get killed in that elevator yeah yeah yeah yeah we do we do a couple of

00:30:37.620 kidnappings a year that's right what's not all right so i was gonna say is that disbeliever yeah 0.99

00:30:42.660 he was telling me about arranged marriage and how do you want to do arranged marriage i said listen

00:30:46.100 i'm gonna tell you something yeah i said um i was on the tube underground london and i saw match.com

00:30:53.140 that was that that was the advert on it match.com i said what is match.com he said it's a website

00:31:00.500 which sets people up i said how's it do it so you know you put your whatever it is and then it

00:31:05.300 arranges a marriage i said so you guys believe in a range marriage as well you just got a different

00:31:08.260 way of doing it exactly just let the ai do it

00:31:16.660 but they have a misconception that arranged marriages is false like you know like in in

00:31:20.660 islam that i was talking about the i follow the opinion that you are allowed to see the

00:31:23.940 woman with the without the hijab yeah and something you can see the you know the 0.96

00:31:27.140 wrists and they don't follow the hasma opinion that so you can see the whole body naked no

00:31:36.180 that's a very minority opinion

00:31:39.460 yeah yeah but that that even that says that i said that you have you can like sneak and look at

00:31:43.140 her like yeah yeah yeah it's yeah that's what that's it's nico that's not the i'll keep it i'll

00:31:48.340 stay with the wrist for now yeah yeah exactly so yeah i was just telling you that for example

00:31:53.540 for some people it is for some people when i see it they're like what where do you get this opinion

00:31:59.140 from it's this and for me like there was an instance where i was getting to know a yemeni

00:32:02.740 sister for marriage in birmingham and i went to the family's house and i said can i see she came

00:32:05.860 with no hijab yeah yeah so the thing is it's it's normal but you know like i was saying to you 1.00

00:32:10.260 before snico like when it comes to coming from that jahlia and to explain that word because

00:32:14.900 jahlia is that for example time of time of ignorance i want to say dinner yeah

00:32:21.780 a hot girl summer yeah it's the time of ignorance before islam so uh when it when it comes that it 1.00

00:32:27.380 was really really hard because when you think about you're living a lifestyle with no islam 1.00

00:32:31.460 you're talking to girls left right center it's this happy days bro you're not lowering your

00:32:34.660 gaze or you're looking at everyone and anything yeah because you don't know this concept of lowering

00:32:38.100 your gaze for what do you get it you're speaking to girls left right center etc yes you can talk

00:32:42.500 about it comes with pros of yeah you get the rears you know how to talk to girls you've got the 0.99

00:32:46.260 confidence those things yes you get that there might be a pro for that uh yeah you learn how to

00:32:51.780 talk to promiscuous women you're not learning how to speak to good women exactly but what that does 1.00

00:32:55.460 is that builds that builds a huge difference true and actually when you when you come around a good 0.87

00:32:59.780 conservative woman like you kind of get really anxious and frozen you freeze up just like let me tell you 1.00

00:33:05.220 something sneaker yeah you should find very interesting when i came to islam what i did is all that very

00:33:10.020 interesting it is it is it is it is but i have a real life experience that happened to me yeah

00:33:14.100 is the following i came from that jahili assault speaking the girls left i said it was just it's

00:33:17.620 just happy days you get it you build a a confidence to yourself okay

00:33:23.540 and by the way i love the way you guys are girls like it sounds like you guys are talking about

00:33:27.700 something else you know so yeah yeah exactly so so to me obviously when i say this it's not something

00:33:32.820 to be proud of be ashamed of it's just to give you guys a thing so when you come back this is one

00:33:36.820 thing we make a mistake from yeah and you've mentioned this so it shows it's not i was thinking

00:33:39.940 it's only me so when you come and you get to know a hijabi for marriage you it's like i resetted my 0.62

00:33:44.580 factory settings so i was like you know what all this you know the rears or how to speak to girls i 0.78

00:33:49.140 said no no no this is a whole different ball game it doesn't apply like all the tactics and the stuff

00:33:53.140 you've learned from sleeping with 50 women let me tell you this yeah let me tell you this when i was

00:33:56.980 getting to know certain sisters for marriage you know what i realized they're all wired the same 0.99

00:34:01.700 the only difference is one wears a mini skirt the one is a niqaba hijab when i'm in wiring there's a deep 0.59

00:34:06.420 inner wiring of a woman that does not change so i realized me moving in a certain way and thinking

00:34:12.820 you know what let's go about this you know like in a pure there's nothing wrong with it but you need

00:34:17.380 that halal game it works hello game you need that i'm just letting you know i'm just letting you know

00:34:23.140 bro you need that so don't let go of it in the sense where look look look sign up to my course under a

00:34:29.940 thousand dollars use discount code sneaker 50 so so it does work sneaker in the way because why

00:34:38.020 every woman wants a man that's confident who is do you get what i'm trying to say who i just realized

00:34:42.500 uh i realized the difference just now is that most of the game uh haram game if you will yeah it's all

00:34:48.900 a lie because you're you're selling this dream and you're kind of like pretending yeah that is

00:34:53.620 pretending that you're gonna commit to a girl and you're making her think that that making her

00:34:57.620 feel comfortable for the fact that she's gonna give up her body for a night is that what is that

00:35:01.220 how you do it you need to understand how the haram game works just for uh well yeah because

00:35:07.220 as a player or whatever like you're you're not trying to commit to the girl so you're selling

00:35:11.620 her this idea like oh okay we'll get sushi next week or like we'll go on a date and then yeah you

00:35:16.660 know like oh i have work in the morning i need to call you an uber i'll see you later today and then

00:35:20.020 you never see her again so the whole thing is like it's kind of sleazy you kind of feel like a car

00:35:24.020 salesman yeah that that aspect of it we don't we're not talking about that we're talking about

00:35:28.100 those the the experience that you had there the confidence that it's given you as a man and who

00:35:31.540 you are because you need to understand you need to have a certain demeanor and the way you talk

00:35:34.820 and the way you approach that a woman finds it interesting it's definitely transferable so we're

00:35:40.580 not talking about the lies the only thing maybe you can maybe you can lie about i don't know is

00:35:44.820 maybe if she says you know how to make you want a second wife comfortable but maybe the only thing that 1.00

00:35:48.580 you might that way it's more about the sins and stuff like exactly you don't want to you don't

00:35:52.980 want to um you can lie about that as a man or a woman yes yes yes exactly exactly so yeah a woman

00:35:58.340 who's has had like let's say for example she's done dinner and she doesn't want anyone to know about 0.90

00:36:03.300 that and she knows that if she goes and tells a man about this that he will not marry her whatever 0.97

00:36:07.940 it may be she doesn't need to reveal that sin really well what if he asks her and she lies to him

00:36:14.340 well she's not i don't i don't personally think that she's sinning if she does that okay but what

00:36:18.420 if he finds out later that what if he doesn't look does he ever write look this this is what i find

00:36:22.900 really interesting on this point bro there is classic uh scholarship yeah yeah says that she can lie 1.00

00:36:29.220 about okay but what if he wants a virgin what if he says i want a virgin yeah yeah well i mean you

00:36:34.340 don't have to look if you want a virgin there's no way of finding out 100 sure is there true so you have

00:36:39.380 to look at the karate and you have to look at the things which make you think that this person that i'm

00:36:42.740 going to be married to is a virgin like let's see the family that she comes from stuff whatever 1.00

00:36:46.660 if you go through all the checklists and you know that she's a person who's like from her demeanor

00:36:51.620 she doesn't seem like a mysterious woman from her family she seems like she's like all the things

00:36:55.780 in the right place yet it turns out she's had this experience and there's something outside of the

00:37:00.420 control it is it is it is but like let's be honest let's let's be fair here yeah like okay if

00:37:05.460 a woman wants a virgin man she wants a man who's never been with a woman before there's no actual way of her 1.00

00:37:10.580 finding that out yeah it's impossible and and and if he says look i don't want to well you need to

00:37:15.300 understand for a man and a woman different things i would argue that there is a way for a woman to 1.00

00:37:20.340 tell if a man's a virgin because a man that's a virgin he he behaves completely differently really

00:37:25.540 than a man that's experienced not in the muslim world am i from what i noticed i notice a lot of

00:37:30.100 like i would say in the zinner world if a guy's a virgin he's really like like acting autistic and 0.82

00:37:35.060 nervous and stuff like that but i noticed like muslim men who are proud of that because in the

00:37:39.060 zinner world it's something that you're ashamed of like when a guy's a virgin it's something that 0.81

00:37:42.820 you don't want to tell anybody because it's like a badge of honor to lose it yes but in the muslim

00:37:46.260 world like even my friend that um i don't want to say is i don't want to expose people but a lot of

00:37:50.500 these people like the young muslims here that are virgins they're like kind of proud of it and that was 0.99

00:37:54.020 weird to hearing the first time like because it was kind of like a flex that they that they never

00:37:57.860 committed zinner before it doesn't change their their demeanor if you if you're on your dean i think that's

00:38:03.860 that's a good point as well bro because like i'll be honest growing up it was like an initiation for

00:38:08.900 young people i remember my classmates without mentioning any names like they were all it was

00:38:13.540 it was it was seen as a badge of honor it was embarrassing if you didn't have intercourse at

00:38:18.260 a certain age girl exactly it was embarrassing but for me it wasn't about no one put me down for it

00:38:23.700 because they knew what i was trying what life i was trying to live right it's true but the thing

00:38:27.780 is you know what it is it's very important because i was watching a video yeah and it was of these

00:38:32.020 two girls who were basically reading a story of this this guy married this girl and then he found out

00:38:36.900 that she's had a promiscuous background muslim girl and then three months before they got married

00:38:41.860 she was actually she committed zinner so now obviously you might be sinful for going and 0.98

00:38:45.300 spying on that matter that's not permissible yeah but the matter is that the woman were there bro 0.90

00:38:50.900 finishing the guy why are you why are you stalking her for it's her pastor but let's just flip this

00:38:55.940 around because they say oh you shouldn't judge it okay no problem what if a guy is getting to know

00:39:00.100 a girl for marriage yeah and this and this sister asks him do you want to get do you want to get a

00:39:03.700 second wife and he says yeah which woman would marry him they would judge him based on his future

00:39:08.180 but when he judges her based on a past he's wrong so the point is this for different for us we judge

00:39:13.060 a woman by her past not i'm saying we should go and like when i'm in judge i'm saying the decision

00:39:17.380 to say i would like to marry or not you have a go at a man for doing that but you are the same woman 0.97

00:39:22.180 that if a man if you came to the let's say you're getting to know sneaker for marriage and you say 0.80

00:39:26.180 are you looking to get married again and he says yeah you're gonna start thinking oh my gosh why not

00:39:30.260 only that if he was to do that while being married to you and one of the second wife your friends

00:39:35.060 will be saying divorce him divorce him so when it's a man doing it because of her past he's bad

00:39:39.380 and he shouldn't but when it's you guys doing it it's okay it's hypocrisy to me you know

00:39:44.100 everyone can have everything in his life exactly if a man can if you want thank you

00:39:47.460 yeah yeah the issue just to make this point clear because some people will say like what's the evidence

00:39:52.260 and stuff yeah yeah because the in islam you're not allowed to you're not allowed to uh for a muslim 1.00

00:39:57.380 person unless you're a non-muslim who's had a life there's there are exceptions or you've had

00:40:01.940 the jahili life whatever but generally speaking if you are practicing muslim and you commit the sin 1.00

00:40:06.340 you shouldn't take yes you shouldn't yes generally so if that because there's clear hadith on that yes

00:40:11.620 scholars have struggled with two things okay do you be honest if someone asks you if you commit the

00:40:16.260 sin fully or do you say something which is a lie but it's a lesser of two evils yeah because yeah

00:40:21.540 there's two evils there's there's a concept called the lesser of two evils there's two evils

00:40:25.300 revealing your sin is an evil yeah and lying is an evil we accept both of them yeah things

00:40:30.100 so if a woman is to be asked now like were you promiscuous in a in a way in a way before and

00:40:38.180 she says yes uh i was promiscuous now she's falling into a sin which is she's revealing her major sins

00:40:44.980 whereas if she said she lies she's also falling into a sin but this sin might be less than this one yeah

00:40:49.780 so that's what these scholars say i'm sure some other scholars say the other thing but that's the opinion

00:40:54.420 that i follow the second thing is actually and this might sound a bit crude but in islam the idea

00:41:00.500 of sex and promiscuity is um is defined in a very specific way yeah so there's levels of it yeah um 0.99

00:41:08.260 a man having oral sex of a woman is not the same as a vaginal sex or uh anal sex yeah 0.99

00:41:15.540 so if a woman does would it be classified as breaking your virginity in a strict islamic way 0.99

00:41:22.260 if i'm not saying anyone this is this is a major sin still yeah but is it as bad if someone committed 0.99

00:41:27.860 oral sex versus uh vaginal or anal sex no vaginal anal sex have their separate rulings yeah so that's 0.96

00:41:36.100 clear the pen going into the ink has a separate ruling right so would would it be fair to say that i've 0.97

00:41:43.460 remained to a certain extent yeah chased uh if they've done one sin but not the other it would be so

00:41:49.940 even that is a nuance in high school uh with the christian girls we will call that the poop hole 1.00

00:41:54.980 loophole because it's not technically if you sleep with a girl anally it's not technically like real 0.99

00:42:01.060 sex so you know it's because it's worse right no it's yeah it's haram it's hard to do that you

00:42:07.140 can't even do that with your wife yeah yeah it's completely forbidden that's the only frankly that's

00:42:11.140 the only thing that was mentioned specifically specifically you can pretty much do anything else

00:42:15.620 you know it's very interesting in high school i remember in sex ed they would tell girls like

00:42:20.340 hey if you want to keep your virginity just have them do you yeah you know yeah yeah like it's it's

00:42:25.140 you know instead yeah yeah well yeah let's go back to the topic of uh finding uh finding uh yes

00:42:32.820 yeah we can get some calls but pertaining to the topic yeah but in the meantime guys just to remind

00:42:35.860 of you guys inshallah there's a donation again can you put like a finger um just that hundred pounds

00:42:40.900 teaches 10 to 30 people how to pray salah so guys if you're watching this uh we're also fundraising

00:42:45.940 at the same time with brother here with sneaker mohammed hijab and the wuna inshallah uh we're

00:42:50.180 trying to teach people how to pray salah so a hundred pounds can teach 10 to 30 people how to do wudu

00:42:54.500 how to pray salah and even we teach them surah fatiha surah ikhlas surah nas and surah

00:42:58.580 for new muslims who do not know so that's what we're fundraising for brahman sisters the donation link is on

00:43:02.820 the chat chat of pindit if you want to ask questions pertaining to this topic we're discussion discussion

00:43:07.620 now to get sneaker and the wuna married off inshallah um so um there's got to be a way of

00:43:11.860 doing it properly like this yeah no we're talking about giving them advice not like getting them

00:43:15.780 uh uh well okay i don't mind yeah yeah well let me tell you what what do you look for look let me

00:43:24.420 ask you we've got an email that we can send we can send all the other cvs to them yeah i was wondering

00:43:28.420 where you're saying cvs what is that marriage cvs so i don't know like how should we do this it's

00:43:32.100 like a cover letter yeah so she'll tell you what she where she's from she'll tell you like you know like

00:43:36.500 uh how old she is she'll tell you like all the major like bullet points or what she is it's like 1.00

00:43:40.900 a cv you got at work it's a marriage one so anything like the stuff that she looks for let's let's 0.95

00:43:45.060 first start with their marriage cv what do you what do you what do you look let's start with what you

00:43:48.100 look for tell us some things that you look for in a woman like what is it that you look for where 0.79

00:43:52.020 you're like okay this is a man of negotiation first so cvs like i could have an email or like no you

00:43:56.580 write that imagine imagine you have a word document yeah your name how tall you are your hobbies what

00:44:00.980 you like what you're looking for you know negotiables and a picture without a picture it's always a

00:44:05.540 time yeah absolutely i'm sorry to say i i know many of you are modest and all that stuff yeah

00:44:10.340 but don't waste our time

00:44:14.980 i can't see how you're gonna judge how we're gonna judge you can cc your dad and start into that

00:44:20.260 yeah whatever if you if you want to be yeah well yeah inshallah so let's let's find out what's what's

00:44:24.900 the how i've been like kind of doing i don't spend that much time on it but like if i see a girl that

00:44:30.260 you know i like i'll talk to her a little bit like a couple messages and then if it's like i'll try to

00:44:34.340 to escalate like okay look can i speak to your brother speak to your your father and then okay

00:44:37.540 so has has muslim woman been approaching you have you been like have you tried like like me if i

00:44:41.540 found it if i saw a sister on instagram that if i like into i would message her yes that's what it's

00:44:45.540 been like just girls on social media see that's the problem though because okay like it can get really 0.97

00:44:50.740 it can get bad yeah you speak uh privately well i try to keep it brief no no no but not about how

00:44:57.060 so for example the initiation process hello yes but in for example i was i was speaking to some people

00:45:02.100 i'm not mistaken so the initiation is this salam alaikum sorry i came across your profile yeah i find

00:45:08.100 a liking i would like to get to know you for marriage and i would like to speak to your father

00:45:11.300 that's exactly what can i ask some questions so just some just some not like a it's best to do it in

00:45:15.700 uh like in a place of public of course of course yes like for example yes let's be frank yeah like

00:45:23.060 you know a sneaker is a big yeah yes yes yes especially be

00:45:26.340 it's imagine imagine what kind of leverage a person has yeah if you're proposing marriage to

00:45:34.260 them on a dm like it can be it can be i i i think you're right but when it comes to public figures we

00:45:40.980 need to be very careful because you know i'll be honest there were people who were trying to would

00:45:43.860 message me talk to me in a certain way to catch me out yeah so so yeah oh see sneaker was talking to

00:45:49.780 me in that way so the thing is with that i'm very careful but it has worked but again you have to be

00:45:55.060 careful especially with public figures there's nothing wrong with it because you're approaching

00:45:57.700 in a halal manner but you have to be careful yeah exactly exactly because you want to get to a 0.98

00:46:02.500 point where like okay this is let's talk about it yeah exactly we just had some we just had some

00:46:07.140 meetings you know what i mean yeah so just give you guys they just give some updates abdullah

00:46:11.620 ali just donated 200 pounds yeah 10 pounds bro you know you know abdul ali we've got we've got

00:46:17.540 a scoreboard out there we have like a top donors he gave total five thousand five hundred pounds

00:46:21.700 yeah and we just had this man's a good man gave 255 us dollars so what that means is 200 pounds

00:46:28.580 200 pounds can help teach 20 to 60 people how to do wudu how to pray salah and memorize

00:46:33.140 surafati inshallah yeah can i donate as well yeah we'll appreciate whenever you want to

00:46:37.060 may allah bless you

00:46:38.340 so the donations are coming up we're on our way to the 27 000 pound mark but yeah so sneaker with

00:46:47.460 you so you've had these so what kind of how do they approach you i want to know what he

00:46:51.540 i started off with him but sneaker i started off with you first let me ask you first and then you

00:46:56.180 change the whole topic yeah i mean i i don't know i've never really thought about talking about this

00:47:00.100 too much but i think it's it seems modest uh a couple some of your girls have messaged me and then

00:47:04.340 we'll speak it's pretty much exactly like that like assalamu alaikum how are you like where are

00:47:08.020 you from okay like are you married yeah i just it's very brief like informational we're not like

00:47:13.060 flirting or something like that like where are you from are you looking to get married

00:47:16.740 bing bam boom uh some girls that i've um a message like i know from from twitter and i i propositioned 1.00

00:47:23.300 this one girl and she's i don't even i have no idea what she looks like her profile picture is her in a 0.98

00:47:27.380 burka and she's a posting picture of her of her meals like her cooking and stuff like that you 0.97

00:47:31.540 you were attracted to that it's her prayers like just like what she was saying was like was

00:47:35.700 attractive like she was very clearly very feminine um but you you want to look you want to definitely

00:47:40.580 see her face yeah i do yeah and you were allowed to buy that that's why i after i like she looked

00:47:45.140 like her cooking was really good so i wanted to so is that is that one thing for you the cooking like

00:47:49.700 what is it for you like is the cooking i didn't that wasn't if you asked me to write something for

00:47:53.860 my criteria i would not have thought of that but her meals would look really good okay one second 0.61

00:47:57.940 before we come to your criteria i want you to think i'm gonna come i'm gonna come back to you

00:48:02.340 think of i'm gonna come back to you i'm gonna go to wanna think of three things that you

00:48:06.580 definitely need in a woman yeah i'm gonna come back to you think about it yeah that's a good

00:48:09.940 question let's go to so what what is it for you what is the thing where you're like oh she must have

00:48:14.500 this or like three things number one is obedience right obedience okay he has a vaporizer brother

00:48:21.860 yeah yeah obedient i think any woman i think any woman that just looks at you will be uh 0.80

00:48:25.780 automatically asked about obedience yeah yeah pure what do you mean by pure like here like she's not

00:48:31.940 corrupted what do you mean by that are you talking about for example like we talked about virginity

00:48:35.300 are you talking about because no no but because a a person who has had promiscuous past if they

00:48:40.260 repent it's as if they do you get what i'm trying to say so what do we mean by that no no i don't

00:48:43.540 want her to have a past okay yeah okay that's that's that's your right that's your preference yeah just as a

00:48:48.580 sister who says i don't want a man who wants for myself at the end of the day i want the best for

00:48:52.020 myself for me that's not the best for myself perfect so you were so the first was uh first

00:48:56.900 is obedience obedience then you want her to not have a past pure you're a person yeah a pure woman you 0.99

00:49:01.540 know that that her her femininity has been preserved perfect it hasn't been damaged you know because i

00:49:08.260 believe through trauma that her femininity gets damaged yes i don't want a traumatized woman i want 1.00

00:49:13.780 a woman that hasn't been traumatized i want a woman that has been able to be protected

00:49:18.740 by her father by her brothers and then inshallah the father and the brothers are going to be

00:49:24.100 giving her to me and then she's going to be under my care inshallah inshallah and thirdly anything

00:49:29.300 and third is it like like beauty beauty okay beauty is there a specific look you go for like is it

00:49:34.740 like a specific color is it a specific look yeah yeah look it can be like um i i think i prefer pakistani i

00:49:41.540 prefer pakistani uh that's something i think i would prefer okay so again but i'm open but i i think my

00:49:47.460 preference will be both okay so for those brother and sister watching this brother the warner is not

00:49:52.180 married sneaker is not married so if there are proposals in a a decent manner etc you are looking

00:49:57.300 to get married inshallah inshallah yeah so there is inshallah yeah so uh going back to uh sneaker we're

00:50:02.020 going to bounce between you two inshallah yeah and then we'll talk about me and the hijabs 0.71

00:50:05.140 no i don't know before marriage preferences yeah uh i know we don't get killed i don't really have

00:50:12.180 like i don't have a preference like racially or so you don't mind racially are you sure any specific

00:50:16.740 type of girl not really but i don't want her to be fat i think like main thing like fitness just 1.00

00:50:21.220 needs to be important to her so are you talking about like skinny or are you talking about maybe

00:50:24.900 curvy no fitness like oh fitness yeah she needs to be in shape like i want like good body fat 1.00

00:50:30.180 percentage like where the that is on her body i don't really care too much uh i don't have like 0.79

00:50:34.980 when you're asking i'm trying to like visualize my wife i don't have an image you don't have an image

00:50:38.580 no okay i don't what about what about certain things where you're like she like you talked

00:50:42.180 about cooking is cooking an important thing for you yeah it's a very important i think that's

00:50:45.700 a given though it seems like the bare minimum it's like it's like oh like if a woman wants 0.66

00:50:49.140 a husband that he makes money yeah what kind of food you like bro i don't know that girl that i

00:50:53.540 saw cooking on twitter it was like it was like a there's some vegetables and the steak was looking

00:50:57.380 good every day there was a new meal okay i didn't even know a lot of what the meals were but it's

00:51:00.740 like a good it has to have a variety of good variety yeah it surprised me you know i don't want to get

00:51:05.220 bored with the casserole every night okay what are the things where are red flags for you where

00:51:08.820 you're like you know what you only get you only go to two things but he said that's the only thing

00:51:13.700 yeah again femininity is very important that she preserves that and that's like the the main 1.00

00:51:17.780 forefront i'm tired of like a lot of women in the west they they think that in order to be um 1.00

00:51:22.660 feminine that they need to be a sorry to curse a bad b-word yeah uh you know what i'm talking about 1.00

00:51:28.020 a boss all this type of thing i'm really tired of hearing that from from women so a woman who knows 1.00

00:51:32.740 that her power comes from her femininity she doesn't need to act like a man in order to be 1.00

00:51:36.900 powerful there's there's a lot of power and leaning into her feminine nature absolutely that it's okay 1.00

00:51:41.860 like you know there's power and being submissive and having a good man and cooking and nurturing

00:51:46.740 all those things are very important and powerful under god uh red flags i would say before we go to

00:51:52.340 the red flags yeah we just abdullah ali you got him excited just donated 400 pounds

00:51:57.940 abdallah

00:52:02.420 raja ilyas gave 100 pounds and zubair ali gave 25 years you go

00:52:06.180 abdul ali i said to him i said to him i'll jump in that because i do ice bath challenge here

00:52:10.420 if anybody donates 500 pounds i jump in the ice bath okay i said if anybody donates a thousand pounds i

00:52:14.980 jump in the ice with my clothes on not today though okay but yes i can carry on red flags yeah so guys

00:52:19.220 if you want to donate the link is there inshallah help teach someone how to pray salah uh yes red

00:52:22.820 flags will red flags they all stem from i think for women it's factors that are external from her 1.00

00:52:29.380 i think her decision making i think women are always going to be programmed by the masculine 1.00

00:52:33.620 essence that's around them so if they don't if a girl doesn't have a father she's going to be 0.99

00:52:37.380 programmed by um by the culture by the media when you're talking about match.com earlier it's funny

00:52:43.380 that you're saying it's pretty much arranged and i'm thinking about who's arranging it it's the it's

00:52:47.620 the zionists that control those those dating sites it's the people that um behind the scenes that

00:52:52.660 they like the fact that they can play and that they can put their hand and manipulate the

00:52:56.820 relationships that they're not involved in everyone is an arranged marriage within two families it's

00:53:02.260 the father that's the fathers that are in charge and that's that's much better than having like these

00:53:06.100 people who have nefarious intentions okay what about you red flags a masculine woman big time red flag what 1.00

00:53:13.540 makes you like what what would she say or do that you're black this woman's masculine i mean i just 1.00

00:53:17.540 i i'm not i'm not a homosexual so i want 0.91

00:53:26.660 have you noticed why is it guys who are big have this massive love have you noticed these two

00:53:31.300 the way they laugh you can hear them from the distance

00:53:34.980 he doesn't want an androgynous one 0.98

00:53:36.900 no i mean what does that mean i want the opposite

00:53:38.740 androgynous is like a manly woman oh okay all right it's true i'm not i'm not homosexual so i 0.80

00:53:44.420 want someone the opposite of myself you know what i mean i don't want someone similar to myself you

00:53:49.300 know i want the opposite can i interrupt you quickly yeah i think the reason that you see the big guys

00:53:53.460 laugh so loud is the same we were talking over here about how feminist they end up wanting to be

00:53:57.300 dominated the most like women who act like girl bosses and shave their hair yeah and have blue hair 1.00

00:54:01.860 they're the ones that really that you know they adopt those traits yeah they do because when they're

00:54:06.260 always like looking for power in public they want to relinquish that power in private so same thing

00:54:10.180 like when you have like these big guys over here they're like intimidating other people all the

00:54:13.620 time when they get time to laugh man they just want to let it out and giggle like a like a kid

00:54:19.380 okay interesting all right any other red flags for you yeah um if she has like a weak father uh 1.00

00:54:24.740 that's that's definitely you're still in mind no i know but it's gonna it's gonna affect her

00:54:32.180 what do you mean by a weak father like if when i meet the family i i judge the father immediately

00:54:36.580 and i judge the mother immediately okay that's that's quite profound so when you see a weak

00:54:39.780 father are you talking about a father that might have some kind of feminine traits because i'm not

00:54:42.980 gonna lie i think you're onto something there so if there's it because if she's used to seeing her

00:54:46.660 mother take control yeah this is very important yeah like if i'm going to meet the family and the

00:54:51.780 mother is doing majority of the talking the father just sitting there immediately i already know how

00:54:56.500 she's gonna be like she's been trained by her mother to behave like her oh that's profound you

00:55:01.940 know what they say in my culture they say look at the mom and marry the daughter yeah yeah

00:55:06.020 so if the mom is talking too much and the dad's not even talking at all that's a big red flag

00:55:10.020 to me you know i'm not gonna lie that's that's actually quite profound that's very actually

00:55:13.700 that's very quite profound okay interesting all right we have to bring the water well we have to

00:55:20.660 but you're right that's the quickest way a girl's gonna become traumatized if she has to

00:55:24.740 make up for the her missing father a weak father she's gonna big problem man she'll make up for 0.97

00:55:28.820 that missing puzzle piece big problem man there is big problem and uh another thing is that she 0.99

00:55:33.860 doesn't respect authority if she doesn't respect authority then that tells a lot about her you

00:55:38.500 know she wants to be in charge she wants to be in control and she doesn't want to be a woman she 1.00

00:55:43.940 wants to be a man you know yeah you can't do that man and marrying marrying a woman like i can

00:55:48.100 remember have you seen my video confronting britain first no so there was this woman with the red hair

00:55:52.740 she was like a proper masculine she's saying some good stuff about pakistan nowadays well of course 0.97

00:55:56.820 she is yeah she is because she's she's she's she's anti-semitic now she's anti-semitic that's why 0.98

00:56:00.900 yeah she hates them yeah

00:56:02.180 he's just saying allah because we are the donation

00:56:13.860 look at that amazing donation

00:56:15.060 brahman sisters if you want to donate inshallah carry on 100 pounds can teach 10 to 30 people how to

00:56:19.060 place salah the link is there guys inshallah please help donate i know you guys are enjoying

00:56:22.580 this you guys are watching this uh we're going to get some callers in a minute to see what they

00:56:25.540 have to say i think i know the feminist that you're talking about she has the glass she's like the 1.00

00:56:28.740 archetypal feminist there's this other one yeah i was thinking to myself imagine i go out i do

00:56:33.140 dao and i'm confronting people like that and i come home to another one like that yeah so imagine to

00:56:37.220 us and that's why i think shaykh uthamayn or shaykh shaykh salih al-fawzan wrote a book he said it's so

00:56:40.900 important for a day to have a good woman because bro we can mash you up imagine you're dealing with all 1.00

00:56:46.260 those crackheads outside and you're coming to another crackhead at home yeah bro it's so

00:56:51.780 fundamental for public figures who are in the cause of allah to have good women and wallahi it's so 0.98

00:56:55.860 profound and it brings the best out of you bro like my wife may allah bless her like we have

00:56:59.220 our ups and downs i don't want it to come across as like we have this hunky dory we have ups and

00:57:02.580 downs bro we have our fights arguments like normal people do but wallahi may allah bless her it's

00:57:08.100 because of her how she makes my life easy that i can do the things that i'm doing imagine i'm coming

00:57:12.180 here and i'm organizing this and i've got another woman who's a rebellious woman at home and i need to 0.59

00:57:15.540 think of this i don't want to go home let me have iftar outside do you get what i'm trying to say

00:57:18.980 it's very important uh for us to have that let's get some calls how many people watching

00:57:24.660 okay so guys about 2 000 people are watching may allah bless and preserve you guys but wallahi i

00:57:28.500 would really appreciate if we hit 30 000 pounds before we go because we're going to be we're going

00:57:31.940 to be going in about 45 minutes here we're going to get some callers but pertaining to the topic

00:57:36.020 please yeah if you want to talk about marriage uh that kind of stuff please let us know inshallah

00:57:39.700 any question for sneaker for the warner for hijab uh inshallah please guys also we're fundraising for

00:57:44.260 the salah plus program which is to help teach new muslim and born muslims how to pray salah

00:57:48.260 we have this guided prayer mats guided mats look we're printing 20 000 of these in turkey by the

00:57:52.820 way we paid 126 000 pounds yeah we are printing 20 000 of these bro wallahi i wish i had this when

00:57:59.300 i came to islam because i was taught how to pray salah in islam the masjid but you forget you have to go

00:58:04.260 over again you don't know what he said you said it right or wrong and it's not just towards the mats

00:58:07.780 you know it's not just towards the mats hijab we also have salah instructors imagine imagine bro

00:58:12.180 imagine the kind of reward someone will get yeah helping someone pray yes all the all the

00:58:17.620 all the doing wudu teaching them how to do wudu yeah and not only that i'll just let you guys know

00:58:22.020 aki we had a catholic sister call in yeah her sister her husband is a reaver so her husband has a health

00:58:27.940 issue he couldn't pray tara withstanding so she's a catholic woman calling the studio asking a question on 1.00

00:58:33.620 behalf of her husband about taraweeh oh she's jazelle she's here yeah she took a shahada but guess

00:58:38.580 what oh great i was gonna say we just found that we found out that her husband is you know

00:58:42.820 daud daud is one of our salah instructors daud is the one who taught her husband how to pray

00:58:46.180 salah and then she accepts islam and then we said to her look why don't you use your husband's 0.94

00:58:50.820 salama she goes no i want my own one yeah so may allah bless them she's here on the chat as well

00:58:54.820 may allah bless sister jazelle she came to islam and now our sister's team is teaching her how to

00:58:58.820 pray salah for absolutely free do we have any callers bro can we try to go for callers that

00:59:04.180 show their face so there's no trolls bro yeah please i want to skip the trolls yeah please

00:59:08.820 please i've got time for the trolls let's let's get the first call too hungry to do yeah exactly yeah

00:59:16.100 okay all right try to show your face guys you have anyone that's trustworthy can we go to

00:59:22.260 okay let's let's go to let's go to one and let's see inshallah so guys the link is there to donate

00:59:25.620 a hundred pounds can teach 10 to 30 people how to press you took it off it was on youtube just

00:59:30.500 now yeah yeah yeah yeah that's what they do you got to delete the live afterwards yeah yeah yeah

00:59:34.900 no i always do that anyways but yeah maybe we shouldn't take callers but don't get calls

00:59:37.860 forget the calls man no cause no cause someone played porn they do that they jeopardize the

00:59:42.180 life the whole channel the channel can get yeah but it shows you know what that shows me it shows

00:59:46.660 me the power of islam you know how many shows we get like this wallahi bro so many people are

00:59:49.780 coming to islam and we're teaching them wallahi you have to imagine sometimes we don't get calls for

00:59:53.940 two hours they are waiting there for hours just to do that can you imagine what kind of person you

00:59:58.340 have to be but you have no life it's unbelievable but yes because what they're trying to do is uh

01:00:03.620 when they play pornography yeah then the channel gets like yeah yeah exactly hamdulillah we've got

01:00:10.660 some more donations coming in off 100 pounds 10 pounds uh 64 us dollars guys and let those donations

01:00:16.180 come in inshallah slowly please remember to delete the live after we end no no i do i do i'll put it on

01:00:20.340 a private immediately no no delete it don't if it's right if it's on private they can still report

01:00:24.100 it oh is it that's how they got yeah oh okay all right okay i'll probably download it yeah okay so

01:00:29.140 yeah um hijab um how was your marriage seeking journey it was quite smooth man i think it was

01:00:34.100 quite smooth after punching your leg yeah honestly for me i don't know about all this um game and all

01:00:40.180 this stuff and i don't know about all this stuff so for me it was just a very uh straightforward

01:00:46.100 protocol it's quite similar to a job interview

01:00:52.980 so how did how did you come across like like your wife was it from family was it like it's from

01:00:57.460 school my school oh okay so you went to the same school yeah okay so i knew her brother so i went to

01:01:02.660 her brother and i said let's uh let me get to know your sister

01:01:06.500 that's very honorable actually let me tell you what actually apparently she wanted you know 0.73

01:01:16.900 to get married so i think he was trying to hint it in it so i was like okay oh he came to you yeah

01:01:22.420 so she had she had interest in you or she was looking to get married but he mentioned why would

01:01:26.020 he mention it to me unless there was interest i mean the man like this coming one second one

01:01:29.540 second let's look at the face come and zoom in please

01:01:37.060 so anyway um after that what happened was um yeah i said i was very i was actually way more

01:01:42.420 staunch than i was i was more staunch yeah then than i am now way more strict like i wasn't like

01:01:49.380 in terms of a sound opinion that was four of the hardest harshest opinions on every single matter

01:01:53.860 well okay now i'm not like that because it's very difficult to live a life like that yes it is so

01:01:57.940 for the process that if you make your religion harder than you will over yes i wouldn't recommend

01:02:02.340 my my approach but what i had done and i was like 20 years old at the time was i wanted to be very

01:02:08.020 clear and that and i went to the house and uh uh if what i didn't want to communicate with her on a

01:02:14.180 whatsapp group or on any um anything like that because i knew that that even yes even if it's a group

01:02:21.380 something could happen it's one step away from being a private even in a group yeah i'm not saying it's haram

01:02:27.700 yeah it's just it's just for you i'm not saying i'm just saying me in it went back the way i

01:02:30.900 communicated with her was through emails okay and i cc'd her brother okay brilliant perfect into

01:02:36.900 every single one of my emails it's like you know you put cc yeah and i'd call him and say to him

01:02:41.540 do you are you reading it like i was very strict on this honestly i was very strict yeah i wanted it

01:02:46.100 i wanted it to be like properly done i thought to myself i'm going to come into this marriage i want to

01:02:50.420 come in baraka yes great blessings and um to be honest the good thing about this is that it allowed

01:02:57.700 me and this was i was a young guy yeah so i was 20 years old i didn't have any money at this time yeah

01:03:02.420 i was in fact i was an undergraduate yeah so i was trying to expedite the process because i've been i've

01:03:10.500 been you know holding myself for many years yeah i was trying to expedite supposed to make it quicker

01:03:15.860 so i pushed it and it's like always the get to know period i tried to make that as sure as possible

01:03:20.740 i don't know how many months it was maybe two months that's not bad i knew her from school anyway 0.78

01:03:24.340 same same same my wife i knew it's like i knew her brother for years do you know what i mean i knew

01:03:28.900 her family for years so same my wife i think it was two and a half three months we was getting to

01:03:32.340 know each other yeah for me i think it was two months well okay yeah something like that maybe it

01:03:35.780 was a bit more or less and then um and then uh we've done that again we got married and uh how was

01:03:41.780 your nikah was it like how was it was big was it small moroccan so it's it's pretty if they have 0.96

01:03:46.500 like multiple ones and stuff like that and you know the only one i trust is jiselle and she said

01:03:53.300 say that again did she want to speak yeah okay we'll go to inshallah just finish the hijab finish 0.95

01:03:58.180 and we'll go to jiselle yeah so it was it was uh it was it was okay i would say it was like a medium

01:04:03.140 size in it wow mashallah medium size that's good man that's you know i find that really beautiful you

01:04:07.940 know why because you don't have that jahiliya you need to understand because we when we come

01:04:11.620 we come with baggages and that can really traumatize and sabotage your marriage because

01:04:15.380 we come from this whole different paradigm and to come it does for you to come and like for example

01:04:20.420 it's your first experience bro this is why i believe marriages are breaking down because men

01:04:25.540 and women are so much experience in so many angles you've got so much to compare the thing is there 1.00

01:04:30.100 are weaknesses of it as well so like as a muslim man that hasn't had any experience with women in the

01:04:34.900 past yeah yeah when you first get into a marriage like that what happens is that you you don't know what

01:04:40.660 how women behave yeah like in a romantic setting that will but every time you talk abdul ali donates

01:04:45.060 another 400 pounds

01:04:45.860 all right jiselle can wait let him keep going

01:04:55.460 so i'll be honest like in the first when i got married at 20 years so um it took me a while to

01:05:01.140 understand the nature of how a woman behaves in a romantic setting because i obviously i had

01:05:07.460 uh experience with my sisters my mother or my nieces it's not the same it's not the same

01:05:11.860 there are there are there are obviously flesh that joins all those experiences but i'm saying that

01:05:15.700 in general it took me on this like what is this behavior you know yeah yeah is this

01:05:21.780 what's these mood swings how do i how do i implement control how do i control the situation

01:05:28.740 how much affection do i show these are all questions i didn't know how to it's very true because if you

01:05:33.700 show too much affection it's about it's very bad very true but if you show too little affection

01:05:38.580 it's also very bad it has to be a balance when to show when to initiate affection given when to remove

01:05:42.820 the affection given when to uh how to show that you're upset yes anger was another one because in

01:05:49.060 the beginning when something i yeah anger was something like i've done this anger results when

01:05:56.500 somebody when someone does something that is against your expectations yes yeah so if someone does

01:06:01.860 something against your expectations you get angry yeah but so i used to get angry and the way i'm an

01:06:08.100 extroverted person sometimes i'd raise my voice and this and that get into an argument get into a

01:06:11.700 debate yeah i realized that that was not the approach that you take with a wife really yeah

01:06:16.980 for me it's a sign of weakness to get into prolonged argumentation so i didn't know that

01:06:22.420 you know to get into a prolonged argumentation yeah and the same thing that i think so these are

01:06:27.540 things that it took me some time to kind of understand the ropes of a proper long-term

01:06:31.940 marriage romantic relationship and uh you're still with the same woman yeah so you're married

01:06:36.900 at 20 yeah yeah yeah that's that's that's brilliant man well it's it's so profound but we're going to

01:06:43.620 come to why that's important as well let's get sister giselle because she came to islam a couple of 0.99

01:06:47.300 weeks ago let's see what she has to say inshallah uh asalaamu alaikum sister giselle

01:06:55.940 that's fine she's a new muslim that's fine inshallah asalaamu alaikum 0.73

01:07:01.380 how are you sister giselle how are you

01:07:04.580 can you hear us yes i can can you hear me how you doing yeah good is erin there

01:07:09.540 yes he just woke up um his machine um broke down last night um but he's fine um

01:07:22.660 i cannot help but uh be interested in the conversation that um brothers nico brother

01:07:31.220 the hijab brother um warner the warner yep and you are talking about and

01:07:42.820 will it be all right if i put on my two cents yeah sure sure sure we need we need

01:07:48.180 yeah sure i think brother warner wants to ask you something um did i trigger you no um well

01:07:55.140 before i answer a trigger trigger can be um we can choose to use the word trigger in um in a positive

01:08:08.980 way no it doesn't always have to be negative it's it's it can be a source of more uh conversation

01:08:20.340 okay um what i do want to um say something about is with uh is it hijab yeah you were um you were

01:08:33.220 the one between on your right side ali right i'm sorry guys i just kind of got yeah yeah

01:08:41.140 mohammed hijab yes yes yes okay um you were talking about earlier um like how how would you

01:08:52.340 know when to be um more affectionate or when to hold it when to um all those things and the one thing that

01:09:03.620 that popped popped into my head is ask like um question like ask ask the person let's say for example

01:09:18.020 um how you said how do i show when i'm upset how do i show when i'm angry um or how do you know when

01:09:25.860 someone is angry um in my in my case you can just say um i feel upset today and if you find

01:09:40.100 that person that woman who has the emotional intelligence then she would ask you i'm sorry to hear that

01:09:48.660 um what has happened and if you want someone to tell you or if you feel that someone is upset or

01:09:57.700 angry then you just ask them i think you're saying more like it's important to be clear communication

01:10:04.420 because you know sometimes sisters are covert like sometimes they they don't and it's very important

01:10:08.820 because sometimes our wives are not very direct that's how their natures are they say it in indirect 1.00

01:10:13.460 way so you're basically saying it's very important for us to express directly how we feel uh but also

01:10:18.580 to bear that in mind sometimes sometimes sisters don't really they they come from an angle where 0.99

01:10:22.420 they're like they want you to know which is another thing a lot of women do is they expect you to know 1.00

01:10:26.100 and we're like we don't know so but i think yeah you made some like very valid points like may allah

01:10:30.260 bless you inshallah um there's there should be a balance there should be a balance you know with

01:10:33.860 everything and boundaries uh but yeah may allah bless you inshallah for your for your core sister

01:10:38.180 uh we're fundraising inshallah so how's your how's it going with your um

01:10:41.700 uh have you been learn how to pray salah yes um however i have only memorized um

01:10:50.580 the last two with the um

01:10:58.420 as-salamu alaykum are you talking about salam oh salam alaykum you're giving greetings okay mashallah

01:11:03.700 so um is your husband praying they're teaching how to pray salah has has our sisters team got in contact

01:11:08.740 with you yeah i don't want to get anybody in trouble but um yeah okay all right so because

01:11:16.740 it's quite busy we've had a lot of requests what i'm going to do is i'm going to but erin is helping

01:11:22.420 you erin she erin learned how to pray salah for dawud yeah so he's helping you but inshallah and what i'm

01:11:27.140 going to do is i'm going to speed up inshallah because we for this is the reason why we're doing

01:11:29.780 these funds because we have a limited amount of sisters that we can pay subhanallah so that's

01:11:33.620 that's the reason why there's such a demand like subhanallah so definitely sister we're going to do

01:11:36.900 that may allah bless you inshallah look after yourself and give salam to your husband erin

01:11:40.420 inshallah yeah and brother wanna wants to welcome you to islam and yeah i just want to say sister

01:11:46.020 mashallah you know may allah bless you may allah reward you as you know islam is a massive blessing

01:11:51.620 and i watched the video where you took your shahada so may allah bless you tremendously welcome to the

01:11:56.500 family and you're never alone okay you have two billion brothers uh brothers and sisters across the world so

01:12:02.180 you're never alone and you have allah on your side as well okay and we love you tremendously

01:12:06.580 may allah bless you sister inshallah thank you may allah bless may allah preserve you sister take

01:12:11.460 it inshallah so guys as you can see that is sister giselle uh this is real life situations guys um her

01:12:16.500 husband learned how to pray salah for our salah instructors dawud and then she came to this

01:12:20.820 show to ask a question about taraweeh for her husband then she accepts islam and now inshallah 1.00

01:12:26.100 we've sent her a guided prayer mat or she's using her husband's one in the meantime

01:12:29.780 and inshallah one of our teams salah instructors will get in contact with her if you've noticed

01:12:33.540 she said our sister's team haven't gone in contact with her and she this was about a week ago why

01:12:38.020 because there's such a demand even i was chasing up another sister who's like look when can i get

01:12:41.860 the salah instructors this to me makes me so happy you know why it shows people are eager eager to learn

01:12:46.260 so we want to expand the team guys so we can have more sisters catering to more sisters brothers

01:12:50.660 team to increase that inshallah because we want to make this a worldwide mission the link is there guys

01:12:54.980 a hundred pounds can teach from 10 minimum 10 to 30 people how to do wudu for the first time how

01:13:00.100 to pray salah and even surah fatih we are dedicating a quran teacher every week that people who reverts 0.77

01:13:06.500 or muslims around the world can tune into and go through surah fatih inshallah so bear that in mind

01:13:10.820 inshallah uh coming back to our topic of uh marriage we've got about maybe 30 minutes where we need to

01:13:17.220 start heading off to the restaurant up off the table don't worry yes we're gonna make sure you do you

01:13:20.340 don't you don't worry about that too yeah okay you don't worry about that you don't worry about

01:13:24.340 that too inshallah yeah so yeah he was talking about your marriage that's that's really good man

01:13:28.020 um yeah so um we've learned a few things from that but you know like the one thing that is very

01:13:33.940 profound of what sneko said um which i think is very interesting bro because we were talking in

01:13:40.180 the car about like the red pill stuff yeah yeah and um there's a book that's written i think we all

01:13:45.060 read it it's it's called rational mail by uh you read it yeah i've read that one yeah

01:13:50.020 well bro tomasi is like one of the figures of like the red pill movement and one of those

01:13:54.180 things that he keeps talking about is have you interacted with him before yeah i have he

01:13:58.900 embarrassed him bro the side of him that came out like i truly feel like i don't think he wrote the

01:14:06.740 book based on looking at the guy no way like it's like someone else wrote no i need to watch that

01:14:12.100 bro yeah it's a funny debate it's really bro what was it on on fresh and fit actually no but what was

01:14:17.540 it about like what was the topic he was really upset with me about i don't honestly no it was

01:14:23.540 the fact that he was talking about um encouraging men to get vasectomies saying a high value man

01:14:28.500 is rich uh childless gets a vasectomy in his 20s yeah i'm really against that like i'm really pro

01:14:34.980 baby yeah have babies like that's that's the most beautiful thing yeah i think it's i can compare a

01:14:41.060 vasectomy to a transgender surgery you know you're effectively you're changing your your output and your 0.96

01:14:45.620 purpose in life so i'm really against that and he was saying he was saying that it wasn't like the

01:14:50.820 problem with red pill is that you can reverse it probably but the reversal rate is like three

01:14:55.300 percent or something and it decreases as the years go by the reversal rate lowers and lowers and lower

01:15:00.020 so it just don't get a vasectomy absolutely there's no circumstance the problem with the red

01:15:03.620 pills they say that it's not an ideology it's praxeology which means it's like it's a response to

01:15:09.220 how the world is so basically in his terminology is that's like a coping mechanism to feminism

01:15:15.620 that's what red pill is it's just a response to how i know he says that but he offers prescriptions

01:15:20.420 that's the difference like you know in usually in ethics you know um in ethics if something becomes

01:15:25.460 prescriptive at any point even if it's suggestive yeah then it does become really an ideology now i

01:15:30.340 know he says it's not an ideology and i've said but it is there is an ideology because the moment you

01:15:35.780 start giving suggestions and recommendations is the moment you start moving into ideological thinking

01:15:41.060 what you would call teleological ethics that's really what distinguishes like say virtue ethics

01:15:46.500 from teleological ethics it's just the prescriptive aspect of it so you know so for example he's got

01:15:51.300 these i don't know what he calls them iron laws or rules or something is in the back of his book

01:15:55.300 yeah the iron laws of tomorrow laws right don't listen to that like like it should just look at him

01:16:02.180 that's all i said just look at what he looks like i have no problem with the guy like i mean he's

01:16:06.180 he's a kind of guy i mean you can see from his writing style that he's he's got intelligence

01:16:10.180 it's not it's not a fool but i mean it's just claims like these which is like for example of

01:16:15.700 praxology or ideology it's not a practice it's actually an ideology because it's prescriptive

01:16:20.900 in that sense the second thing is what you've touched upon today was really powerful because one

01:16:24.980 of the things i stuck out to in the beginning of this book bro he kept talking about this thing about

01:16:29.460 body count and i think it has permeated a little bit bro into the muslim community especially with

01:16:33.700 muslim men that there is this kind of feeling oh we need to get more and more experience with

01:16:38.580 different bodies and different women yeah there is that idea and obviously maybe they'll disguise it 0.99

01:16:44.500 in a marriage format or whatever it will be yeah but it's the idea that you'll get more experience

01:16:49.380 you become more confident you become stronger if you have intercourse with multiple ladies now firstly i 0.80

01:16:55.540 was looking at some of the studies relating to uh casual sex and its effect on men and women

01:17:01.460 yeah there's there's multiple studies on this by the way it harms more women than men so that's

01:17:05.940 that is almost consensus can we get into that what are the harms of that but it harms men too like i

01:17:11.060 know it does so it ruins this it ruins your your connection and bond the more that you have these this

01:17:15.780 bond which is a really emotional tie with somebody the more that you just do it uh recreationally

01:17:20.500 you're not going to be able to have a pair bond that's true but i think maybe it's nico you're

01:17:24.740 talking about numbers of 20 30 40 50 of course it's it's the reason it's on a smaller scale the reason it

01:17:30.180 doesn't affect us much is because we are we are we are polygamists by nature that's because we are

01:17:35.060 programmed to have multiple women it would only be wrong imagine allah's allowing us to do that but 1.00

01:17:39.700 at the same time when we do that we are harming ourselves so that's why it affects women more 0.98

01:17:43.460 than men of course it does men as well but it harms women more than men because women are monogamous by 1.00

01:17:47.540 nature all the studies said that i mean all the studies that i said said it affects it harms women more

01:17:52.820 than it harms men yeah every single study i think there's that is one thing the question of whether it harms

01:17:58.020 men is actually controversial because i'm sure there is somehow some studies say it harms men

01:18:03.380 like what sneaker said some studies say it doesn't harm or benefit and some studies say it gives them

01:18:08.980 more confidence because you know why for us to have intimacy with another woman it's like for women 0.76

01:18:12.740 it's like attachment bro for us it means nothing but the point i was making about this thing about

01:18:18.580 this like multiple bodies and he i think he says you have to have i don't know sex with 50 women i don't

01:18:23.220 know if it's 50. he says 50. i don't know what the arbitrary number from i don't know it's a block

01:18:27.860 number or something like also keep in mind america it's very easy to get laid like it's very easy

01:18:33.540 he would argue that it's not actually that it's harder that you need to be like especially if you

01:18:36.580 pay for it i guess yeah if you're a certain type of guy especially if you pay for it i keep forgetting

01:18:40.260 well it's not recommended and let's be honest bro and a lot of these uh sorry to say uh figures of red 0.95

01:18:46.340 pill they will go to an escort just to increase their body they'll go to women who are pseudo escorts and 1.00

01:18:51.700 prostitutes or something like that i mean dating is pretty much prostitution it's not that far

01:18:55.780 it is it is it is you're exchanging your time and you're giving her fun stories and taking her 0.99

01:19:00.100 out to a restaurant it's getting a hotel you're spending money to get in sex and it's not with no

01:19:06.100 commitment it's the biggest fraud for women like imagine for a woman it's the biggest food out there 1.00

01:19:10.020 man you are you know my teacher said this and i found it like obviously he goes if you think about

01:19:15.860 they're like uh walking toilets why because would you look think about when you need to relieve

01:19:20.500 yourself where do you need to go this is james sulu mentioned something like that no no this is me

01:19:24.100 don't don't get credit to someone else yeah okay just think about yeah when you need to go to toilet

01:19:29.140 number one or two like you need to go to the toilet to relieve yourself so there are men out there who

01:19:33.300 are horny who are like i need to relieve myself in someone yes and they are going and doing you're 0.99

01:19:38.180 treating these women like toilets you're like they're a toilet can i just use you for a little bit 1.00

01:19:41.860 okay thank you can go now you are destroying and dismantling these women like as muslim men we are 1.00

01:19:46.020 taught to be protectors and providers not misguiders and destroyers yeah you're misguided and 0.87

01:19:50.740 destroying this woman and then what happens is and i don't know the cycle that's why i kind of

01:19:54.420 disagree with myron because it's like this perpetual cycle of um you know steep around you're destroying

01:20:00.100 and then you complain does he say the same thing and then you complain and say oh he's the 50

01:20:04.900 but i don't understand that promiscuity you have a problem with i want a virgin but you are causing 0.64

01:20:09.620 things then then again so the question is how to what extent if any what evidence is there that

01:20:15.860 the increased body count that you think you're yeah is going to increase your confidence whatever it is

01:20:20.500 yeah that's going to lead to a uh more resilience in your part b that you're going to be able to deal

01:20:26.500 with women in a relationship saying you can even make the argument of the opposite let me explain why 0.87

01:20:31.140 because if you're used to just getting sex for women without having to put work into a relationship

01:20:36.500 yeah so now when you're in a long-term relationship and emotions become volatile

01:20:41.140 and it becomes a tempestuous situation exactly so now you're used to just getting sex whenever you

01:20:46.020 want you're used to just getting this and that it's all transactional for you when you're not getting

01:20:49.460 it how are you going to react exactly are you able to deal use your prefrontal cortex and your

01:20:54.820 hippocampus rather than your amygdala which in other words are you able to use those areas and centers

01:20:59.940 of the brain which which operate on long-term horizon thinking he's not using his brain but he's using his

01:21:06.020 private and that's oppression of um the sexual appetites no because you've just trained yourself 0.93

01:21:13.300 number one you've trained yourself of getting sex whenever you want of using women in a transactional 0.51

01:21:18.580 way of not working hard in a relationship you will not value it bro it's simple as that if imagine like 0.96

01:21:24.020 donald trump said you know my father just lent me a million dollars yeah it's like bro who would you

01:21:28.820 respect more somebody who's money being gifted to him or somebody who worked his way up it's true

01:21:32.660 and how you're going to value if imagine you're given this and that you're never going to value

01:21:35.380 this stuff that's why it's so important that you know like even allah says in the quran with

01:21:39.780 hardship comes ease this concept is very important on this point it's very poignant because they'll

01:21:45.860 mention people like genghis khan or they'll mention like conquerors of the past there's something which

01:21:51.140 differentiates genghis khan and the conquerors of the past yes true true who's paying for sex let's be 0.90

01:21:56.180 honest exactly or doing the the equivalent of that which is which is this yeah they fought in wars

01:22:02.180 exactly then they conquered so they first had to go through a very difficult ordeal yeah which life

01:22:08.740 or death situation and then they collected the war booty and had slave women and all that kind of stuff 0.99

01:22:13.700 it's different from and they had kids with them like a lot of the the sex with women in the west now 1.00

01:22:18.260 they're on birth control you're pulling out it's it's sterile it's just it's kind of like home it's 0.98

01:22:22.980 kind of like gay sex if you think a lot of the guys that when you sleep around with women you're 0.99

01:22:26.740 just doing it for pleasure and you're not doing it for the function that sex was created a lot 0.99

01:22:31.300 we're supposed to have sex to have children that's the whole point and not only that you get rewarded 0.76

01:22:34.340 for it like the companions came to the prophet peace be upon him and the prophet said you get 0.97

01:22:38.260 rewarded for uh having sex with the wife he said really and that's why he said he said it's a

01:22:42.660 charity he said it's a charity he said that's why i'm a very generous donor

01:22:49.700 even more than

01:22:50.340 so the thing is here alhamdulillah is in a halal setting so it's nothing wrong with your wife

01:23:00.260 yeah the point is this though yeah i don't think anyone is the right book in comparison

01:23:02.820 again the prophet peace be upon him said do you not get a sin for committing zina he said yeah then 0.99

01:23:07.140 he said then how could you not get a good reward for doing intimacy with your wife

01:23:10.340 do you get what i'm trying to say because if one is a sin that'll be a thing now talking about

01:23:13.620 kids i want to ask you guys a question when do you think you should have kids so let's suppose

01:23:16.500 you got married by the way how old do i look first i would say well you said you reverted uh 12 years

01:23:22.820 ago 11 years ago 11 years ago and you've been married for how many quite a bit yes

01:23:31.940 yeah 34 yeah i'm exactly 34 34 yeah but but they say i look 26 you're well these i'm 25

01:23:40.340 25 yeah that's for the cv guys yeah i'm yeah i'm 34 i'm gonna be 35 in april is it yeah

01:23:46.500 mashallah two questions i want to ask you guys firstly yeah uh do you got do you both want second

01:23:50.900 wives we'll come to that later but uh don't get in trouble please yeah no no i can't answer that

01:23:56.180 the first one when do you think you should have kids so imagine you guys got married and you're

01:23:59.860 three months into your marriage when would you want to have kids i thought i would have kids by now

01:24:03.940 when i was uh a teenager i always wanted to be a young father i thought that by like 24 25 i would have

01:24:09.460 okay if you got married let's say three months ago when would you would you want to start having

01:24:14.020 kids immediately pretty soon yeah okay i would say i would recommend what about you for me i mean the

01:24:18.900 only one of the major reasons i want to get married is to have children i don't want to just get married

01:24:23.540 just for pleasure you know okay because yeah i just i want to get married to have children okay i would

01:24:28.100 personally say do not have kids for two years the reason being is because you know why let me tell you

01:24:34.420 why let me tell you why yeah if you if you marry look let me tell you something you do not know a

01:24:37.860 person's true character until you spend about two years with them imagine you are married to an

01:24:41.300 absolute shaitan and you have kids with them and you're going to see them for the rest of your life 0.99

01:24:44.980 yeah no no no i'm telling you yeah i'm telling you guys yeah if you marry somebody who is absolutely 0.80

01:24:50.020 a nutcase yeah this goes for both men and women now you are stuck with that person for the rest of your

01:24:55.380 life for the rest of your life and you're gonna have to see their face and the kids are gonna suffer

01:25:00.500 and then if you marry this woman by in today's age that'll stop you from seeing your kids that's 0.76

01:25:04.580 traumatic and i know men who are on the verge of suicide because of this i disagree i don't think

01:25:08.100 it takes two years to figure out if somebody's a shaitan what would you say roughly how long would

01:25:12.180 you say i think you could tell pretty pretty quickly really oh no man there's some there's

01:25:16.660 some good shaitans out there that are i mean that are deceiving she's from a good family she's 1.00

01:25:20.740 pure and she's on her bro bro bro don't let me tell you something one thing sneaker yeah i'll give

01:25:24.020 you advice you're a reaver yeah do not ever fall for the niqab or the hijab or she's let me say something 1.00

01:25:28.900 no do not do not ever let me tell you something i from my experience yeah oh she wears a hijab she 0.97

01:25:34.340 has a niqab she says that doesn't guarantee that she's a good girl don't because you know why i 1.00

01:25:38.900 fell into that where it's like you let your guards down you're thinking this time you find out like

01:25:42.820 she's um hi she's she's she's just to see yeah please yeah and guys we are look we've got we've got

01:25:52.100 about 25 minutes to go we're just under 2 000 pounds away hijab okay so you're saying how would

01:26:08.340 you get to know if she's a nutcase it's pretty easy to tell if a woman's a nutcase it's not that hard 1.00

01:26:15.380 oh man it comes out after you uh uh i don't know i don't know is there any ways we can find out like

01:26:20.740 if a woman or a man before or after the marriage after after the marriage actually i have some i

01:26:25.300 have some advice regarding that for me i mean um i believe you get to know people right away through

01:26:30.260 traveling with them so yes i would say immediately when you get with her go on a very long honeymoon

01:26:36.180 and you really get to see her through the airplane rides you know you're a little bit tired how she

01:26:41.700 behaves in certain situations interacting with the waitress you speed up the process a lot faster when

01:26:47.380 you travel with an individual you get to know yes very quickly and all that you know facade it

01:26:52.900 disappears uh during travels it's good what are you looking for because for for me the one of the

01:26:58.820 worst things you know you know in a woman or wife is a shamelessness like actually it's a real put off 0.85

01:27:04.500 you know what's your definition of shameless um so the opposite of modesty in this case oh yeah

01:27:09.060 modesty is the virtue i think shamelessness is the vice do you know what i mean so if a woman is too 1.00

01:27:14.100 talkative with other men and stuff like that it's a real pull oh yeah 100 it's a real pull for me 0.65

01:27:18.900 bro 100 because like that is that's a disrespect to me bro yeah for me a shameless woman is the most 1.00

01:27:25.700 dangerous woman yeah yeah a shameless woman that means she's willing to do anything that's what the 1.00

01:27:30.420 process i'm saying if you have no shame do as you please yeah yeah yeah so when you see those women 0.96

01:27:36.100 out there that have no problem like exposing all their body parts and walk out like with just like a

01:27:41.300 little thing that is we're not even talking about that i mean for for me personally like you know

01:27:46.820 uh we're talking about behavior rather than the attire because the attire would have already been

01:27:51.060 set you you can fix the attire but you can't fix the mentality the attire is uh is like a red line

01:27:56.180 it's like if you don't for me personally once again i'm a bit more stormed if you don't do this

01:28:00.260 then mr divorce i'm not going to be absolutely absolutely i'm sorry to say like but i'm not saying

01:28:04.580 that should be for everybody yeah some people will like for example if a river came to islam

01:28:09.380 um and she's taking time to get to you know to that's a different situation but if she's established

01:28:15.860 muslim you know it's a different situation for me yeah i'll be quick to cut it off too yeah yeah yeah 1.00

01:28:21.540 but um and so and when i say immodesty i'm talking about this kind of like the way she fraternizes with 0.54

01:28:26.820 opposite gender if she does so in a very immodest shameless manner for me the kind of anger that i can 1.00

01:28:34.580 feel from that dangerous levels of anger it's um i wouldn't be able to live with that we just had

01:28:38.900 a donation of 255 us dollars from true red crime and then 173 canadian dollars from the sake of

01:28:45.060 allah halima abdullah abdul halim 10 us dollars muhammad you serve 20 us dollars and several hundred

01:28:50.500 pounds so we are we are nearly we're just about 1655 pounds away easy well yeah okay all right

01:28:57.220 interesting so we've got guys about i would say 15 20 minutes more before you have another thing is

01:29:01.540 um sorry say dirty if she's dirty hygienic most women are hygienic most women are hygienic you'd be 1.00

01:29:07.700 surprised man oh sneaker to tell us some stories i don't want to you've said enough

01:29:18.580 for me that's a disqualifying it's a red it's a red card yeah you have a red flag it's a red card

01:29:23.940 it's a red card honestly forget that but it's like you know um another thing is um

01:29:29.060 rude but that one you know we've got to be careful with that one because 0.99

01:29:35.140 when someone's cantankerous you know wow that's an amazing i've never heard that in my life 0.83

01:29:39.220 slubber the gullion have you ever slubber the gullion no a pusillanimous huh you haven't heard

01:29:44.500 of that that's actually what does pusillanimous mean cowardly yeah it's actually what it's

01:29:48.500 it's it's not calling someone a p-u-s-s-y call him a pusillanimous yeah and what was the other

01:29:53.060 one slubber the gullion this isn't this isn't that british guys are different this one's

01:29:57.780 dictionary this no no one uses this these don't use this what does love the gullion mean cantankerous

01:30:01.780 cantankerous is used by all i think so yeah what does that mean cantankerous is someone who

01:30:07.700 is overly polemical

01:30:18.980 someone who like basically argues too much okay but rudely argues in a rude manner um if a woman 1.00

01:30:25.460 does that all the time um that is actually a horrible behavior bro i'm sorry that is actually

01:30:30.740 you know you know one thing i can't tolerate and i think no man can and there's a hadith of

01:30:33.540 the prophet peace be upon him is an ungrateful woman and the fingers they make up the majority 1.00

01:30:37.780 of the hellfire yeah okay just give me context it is true the prophet no it's true it's true the

01:30:41.460 prophet peace be upon him went to hellfire and he saw majority of them and he said you do he said

01:30:44.740 use the word kufr yeah four in the last year yes which means that they are ungrateful to their husband 1.00

01:30:49.460 and the companion said are they ungrateful to allah i said no rather to the husband this is very

01:30:52.580 interesting because he said the husband will do so much good if he was to do one thing that he doesn't

01:30:56.500 like he will say i've never seen any good from you this is something i believe a lot of women are they have 1.00

01:31:01.300 this innate it's just why it's why i think that is it that is a thing about women in general that's 1.00

01:31:05.860 how they are and that's how they are i know it might sound bad but it's um that there is something

01:31:11.540 in psychology called the big five yeah yeah it's the gold standard of understanding a person's makeup

01:31:16.740 and so on and there are five traits you know openness and conscientiousness and uh so on and so

01:31:25.780 forth but one of them is called neuroticism neuroticism is when someone sees the negative and bad

01:31:30.340 situations all the time well it's linked to gratitude it has to be yeah so if you're if

01:31:35.300 you're an ingrate you're more likely to be yes trait neurotic yeah yes well almost all the studies

01:31:40.900 i've ever seen yeah that have looked at uh cross-culturally different women from different cultures yeah 1.00

01:31:47.540 have shown that women have a higher degree of neuroticism than men well okay which it indicates okay 1.00

01:31:53.540 so how is that going to play out in terms of gratitude it plays out in terms of in gratitude of course so

01:31:58.980 it's a thing which women have to struggle just like men are yes in other areas yes we're weaker in 0.99

01:32:03.540 terms of allowing our gaze in terms of sexuality well you know the human being has been created weak

01:32:12.820 that's the verse in the quran yes that the human being has been created weak the more festers in the 0.99

01:32:16.980 the exegetes say about that it's man is very weak when it comes to sexuality yeah man in particular

01:32:21.940 it's true that a human being but man in particular we're weak when it comes to sexuality

01:32:25.380 yeah so ingratitude is one of those things where you're going to deal with if you get married

01:32:29.620 yeah but there are remedies for that yeah and that's and the remedies that what are the remedies

01:32:33.700 what remedies for that bro is um so i have these kind of things that i do with my family yeah we're

01:32:38.820 bringing them all together oh bro i i'm by the way i'm going to start implementing that in my family

01:32:42.820 because i think it's very beautiful yeah for first of all let's implement it for ourselves yes

01:32:46.660 yes so we are told to do tahmid on it like in tahmid means say alhamdulillah so which means to

01:32:52.900 alhamdulillah you've heard it before habib has used it and other people yes which means all praise and

01:32:56.580 thanks be to be to god and when i say alhamdulillah say for example i'm saying alhamdulillah i think about

01:33:01.380 one thing that god has given me so for example alhamdulillah for my eyesight alhamdulillah for my

01:33:05.540 hearing alhamdulillah for this handle for that for this provision i've been given research has shown when

01:33:11.300 you do that you actually get into an elevated dopaminergic state

01:33:16.660 it helps you there's there's good evidence to show that when you do that it's actually good

01:33:20.100 for you of course so the first thing i do is we sit as a family yeah all my kids and stuff like

01:33:25.060 that and i'll say to them oh my gosh someone just made a massive donation oh how much sorry forgive

01:33:28.900 me is that abdullah abdullah ali just donated 800 pounds

01:33:31.860 keep him talking keep him talking we're going to get to the 30s he's more charitable than you

01:33:42.020 in all aspects

01:33:46.980 so when you sit down so we say alhamdulillah

01:33:48.900 allah is given nearly seven thousand or eight thousand pounds since we started like not just

01:33:55.620 today he's going in bro i told him but this way because i go in the ice bar i'm going to present

01:33:59.700 in the ice bar from now on so you're saying alhamdulillah now when i say alhamdulillah i think

01:34:05.380 okay i gave me family i like it me good health i love you with this i was in a bad position before

01:34:10.500 i give me islam alone and that puts me in a bad position i said to my kids what are you grateful for

01:34:15.300 it's a very nice game it's amazing it's not like i'm absolved of it it's not i don't need it

01:34:19.380 now after we've done that that's round one round two is okay tell me what you're grateful for person b

01:34:24.500 for so because the prophet said whoever does not thank the people does not thank allah

01:34:31.860 so tell me what you're thankful for me for and i'll tell you what i'm thankful to you for

01:34:37.460 because when you verbalize it when a woman says i'm thankful to my husband for providing for me for 0.98

01:34:41.540 protecting me well like it means so much to us it means so much and vice versa bro yes and vice

01:34:46.420 versa so it's a very good thing to do this yes with the child with the family with this kind of

01:34:51.460 thing we've got to make sure that we reinforce that so that's one aspect of it and the other

01:34:56.420 when it goes too bad that's you should make cards of these like games you said mohammed hijab family

01:35:00.260 game yeah the second tier of it yeah yeah you came up with some good stuff i want i want royalties

01:35:06.580 bro i want royalties you're gonna invest already don't forget halal game too if it gets bad

01:35:14.340 though if ingratitude becomes bad yeah then the thing that the best thing is removal sorry to say

01:35:19.940 so what do you remember so if someone is taking from the room

01:35:23.620 removal of attention of the thing if someone's taking something or someone for granted you have to

01:35:28.900 take that thing away from them so they can feel how it live how it is to live without it then it

01:35:33.860 starts great this is this is very fascinating it's exactly that it's like that man gratitude is very

01:35:38.660 very important supana that's what allah says in the quran if you are grateful i will increase you

01:35:42.180 yeah increase you and what a lot of people when they hear this ayah they think oh you know if i'm

01:35:45.540 grateful for the money i have allah will increase me allah say illah doesn't mention what he increases

01:35:49.460 you in it can be that he increases you in more gratitude and if you're more grateful the more you're

01:35:53.860 happy you are you get it so it's very very important guys we have got literally 15 minutes because we're

01:35:58.340 going to end the show because we want to make sure we reach the restaurant on time uh the brothers

01:36:01.220 are really hungry yeah oh we're literally seven 695 pounds away bro yeah don't be surprised

01:36:08.500 brother abdalli just coming with a knockout blow yeah bro bro he doesn't mess around i'm telling you

01:36:13.140 what else who's the other guy the other guy the other name red line something no the second person

01:36:17.540 giselle no no one second russian oh um let me get the name for you you're talking about

01:36:26.500 get the porno guy to donate some 600. make up for the copyright

01:36:31.620 uh one second you're talking about nahru fatrodovich yeah fatrovich fatrovich

01:36:39.380 fatrovich let's do it okay oh we're getting close hamdulillah yeah this is absolutely phenomenal

01:36:46.660 hamdulillah five five thousand we've nearly raised five thousand pounds just in a matter of a couple of

01:36:50.500 hours guys yeah may allah bless and preserve you guys inshallah so we've got 15 minutes to go guys

01:36:54.500 um is there any questions on the chat bro maybe you want to ask is there anything you guys want to

01:36:57.540 uh 10-15 minutes to get callers or no callers i think we already learned our lesson no no we

01:37:03.620 learned our lesson you know and the prophet peace be upon him said the believer doesn't get bit from

01:37:06.180 the same hole twice so we're going to inshallah it's got a lot of things the same you know uh

01:37:10.980 it's already well i liked um i think we need to exploit more of your insights both of you actually

01:37:17.460 when it comes to uh this whole red pill discussion because from the haram world the gender stuff

01:37:22.900 yeah you guys have got masha'Allah good insights so we want to ask about that yeah i mean

01:37:27.060 women are not in the west are not ever they don't show gratitude ever they're supposed to not 1.00

01:37:32.980 they think that their existence is to extract resources from men and then they get encouraged

01:37:37.940 if you listen to that if you dissect the lyrics and all the music and if you look at the the women 0.99

01:37:42.020 that they look up to that's that's all they brag about all this and it's not even subtle anymore 0.87

01:37:45.700 if you look at the the main rappers that these girls look up to i mean all of them are strippers 1.00

01:37:49.620 first off if you look at their concerts they literally just get naked and they talk about

01:37:53.460 like how much they can get uh the lyrics are so explicit i don't want to repeat them but they

01:37:58.420 brag about how much they can get a man to do uh they want to take that they see that as a kind of

01:38:04.420 power yeah they they are encouraging women to take the power away from men completely through financial 0.98

01:38:10.740 extraction financial and by using sex uh like basically they're bragging about how big of a 0.99

01:38:16.340 prostitute they are yeah oh this guy's offering me this well this guy's i got a broken bag for 0.99

01:38:21.460 this i got that's that's why they're hypergamous yeah yeah yeah but that's that's the reason why 0.98

01:38:27.700 the reason why they're hypergamous they do that to show off though it's like you know and the thing

01:38:31.380 is if you think about it i think that's the reason why allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has set the

01:38:35.700 biological clock for a woman limited not for a man right because we don't have those characters 0.99

01:38:40.260 it gets kind of sad when you see it when i was on a podcast with this um it was a jewish girl

01:38:44.580 um sofia franklin she has a big podcast called call her daddy and she was saying that whenever 0.90

01:38:49.700 she goes on a first date the first thing she asks is for a man to show his bank account to her

01:38:54.420 i'm not joking it sounds it sounds like a joke and i asked her about it she was she was dead serious

01:38:58.980 but then it gets to the point like she has a birkin bag but she has no children and then she's 35 36

01:39:03.860 and all she can do is she can flex these uh material at 35 this is her requirement she's 35 yeah 0.98

01:39:09.380 you know you know what you know where the delusion is coming from sneak out delusions coming from put

01:39:12.820 your hand like we're public figures yeah we will understand this i only understood this when i

01:39:16.420 became alidawa yeah because you need to understand the psychology of a woman a woman is sought after 1.00

01:39:22.020 so just imagine you are a guy that walks down the road and there are girls just trying to trying it

01:39:25.780 with you you go to your messages you're getting messages from girls left by center you got all of

01:39:29.300 these women to pick from it gives you it gives you a reality it gives you a false sense of reality 1.00

01:39:37.460 this is why women have this entitlement issues you know why because they think i've always been 1.00

01:39:41.140 so after men have always been chasing me look every woman because of social media yeah the 0.75

01:39:46.820 average woman thinks like the famous man exactly exactly yes bro women every woman in the west now

01:39:52.420 because of instagram thinks the way a celebrity male does thank you because they get propositions as

01:39:57.620 much as like the most famous thank you now do you remember yeah okay depends okay pretty much but

01:40:04.100 you know what you just said is important that's why i said to you when i became alidawa i got an idea

01:40:07.620 from the reality living in because when you become a public figure you got more sisters now proposing 0.99

01:40:11.700 to marriage my criteria went from here to there because i was like i have more options to pick

01:40:16.980 from when i was looking to get married because i was like bro hold on a second i can get this kind

01:40:20.900 of sister i can marry this kind of sister i went into this endless cycle bro where i was not happy with

01:40:25.700 nobody you know why because i was like i've got a pool of women to pick from your price for marriage 1.00

01:40:30.340 that i was and i thought to myself oh my gosh this is exactly how women think you get into this 1.00

01:40:34.660 pedal store where you're thinking you know what no i could deserve better i want our decision

01:40:38.180 part yes that's why that's why when you asked me earlier like what are the three things you wanted

01:40:42.660 or what that's why like i don't really like like to think about that too much because i don't want

01:40:45.540 to get clouded by things like oh she needs to be this age this body count this like whatever i just

01:40:50.500 like if she fits into my life and i fit into hers and i think that's the best would you what about

01:40:54.980 if there's a sister that a non-muslim woman who you find this character and she's like i want to

01:40:58.820 accept islam are you open to that that she won't accept islam she said she will accept islam so she says she's

01:41:04.260 she's a western woman i've heard so many women say that to me like in miami especially like women 1.00

01:41:08.340 like yeah i'll be a muslim for you like all this stuff for you no yeah i don't i don't i don't think

01:41:22.820 i don't even think women would find islam without a man anyway i think they would only do it really for 1.00

01:41:27.860 a man i i especially i don't think that women can have a connection to god without a man explaining it to

01:41:33.460 her i don't know yeah like would a woman really pick up the quran and take her shahada on her own 1.00

01:41:40.420 ever that's unless she's been through some traumatic experiences yeah like in generally yeah they can

01:41:45.700 like what do you mean like can women come to islam without a man do you mean well according to the 0.84

01:41:49.060 statistics uh more women are coming to islam than men i don't know yeah really for every man there's

01:41:55.220 four women but why you're saying but why you're saying is right because that's the reason why a muslim 0.99

01:41:59.220 woman cannot marry a christian or a jew or hindu but we are allowed to marry a christian or a jew because 0.99

01:42:03.140 they're going to become muslim exactly because we have the influence a woman can be easily uh 1.00

01:42:07.220 influenced but even these women that are taking their shahadas they're still being led by sheikhs 1.00

01:42:10.900 they're still being led by the men who are explaining it to them they're never going to find god without

01:42:14.900 a man they need they yeah yeah because it's true in a sense because we've got prophets

01:42:20.980 little men no no no but the is he speaking from that angle like for men

01:42:31.460 the reason i bring it up is because you're asking um what i mean like they need some kind of

01:42:35.380 a masculine guidance yeah they need masculine guidance and you're asking like would i accept

01:42:38.900 a woman if she said that she wanted to become a muslim um to be in a relationship i hear that like 0.75

01:42:43.140 quite a bit but i don't take any of it seriously because as soon as i say no they lose interest in islam

01:42:47.620 so their whole interest in islam is just because they want a relationship yeah yeah yeah so yeah

01:42:51.620 inshallah i think we'll find you man yeah yeah yeah you know what you need to do go for like uh

01:42:56.900 like even like my wife my wife was not a fan we're going to send the cv's the marriage cv's uh

01:43:01.620 send it to the the bitter truth show at gmail.com inshallah and we will yeah they can the bitter

01:43:07.460 truth show at gmail.com if you send it i'll forward it to the brothers at the same time though i think it i

01:43:12.340 see a lot of um strength and power and ignoring that for some time i spent so much of my youth

01:43:17.940 ever since i turned i had that pressure in high school like oh you're 16 like you're still a virgin

01:43:22.500 like oh like basically call me a wimp because i was 16 and so i felt the pressure in order to

01:43:28.020 to commit zina and spending so much of my youth and in college and afterwards like chasing women that was 0.98

01:43:33.460 like probably 95 of my time for the past 10 years well it's fun for a decade like literally just

01:43:37.860 thinking about women dating them taking them out thinking about them yeah thinking about like the

01:43:42.020 roster and all this like um and it's just it's such a giant waste of energy and time that i've noticed

01:43:47.940 like since i reverted and just focusing on what i'm supposed to do in my work my output level has

01:43:52.820 multiplied by like 10 well easily so i i would actually recommend to young guys and i like what

01:43:57.700 you said like you should wait two years but i would recommend like have like maybe those two years to

01:44:01.940 just focus on what you're supposed to do especially for reverts who are coming out of that lifestyle 1.00

01:44:06.180 it's a good time to be able to reset your brain and pretty much make voodoo on your soul

01:44:10.580 women you know cleanse yourself of that and i'm noticing a lot of benefits and and i'm i don't

01:44:16.660 i'm not rushing into a to a marriage i obviously i wanted to when i was younger but there's a lot

01:44:21.460 of benefit as a revert as well like me going back then i would have never started looking for marriage

01:44:26.100 i need the two three years to myself to cleanse myself of the bad traits that i had from the slam 0.81

01:44:29.860 because i could have ruined somebody else's life from jahili yeah so guys okay we're gonna end

01:44:34.180 the show in literally six minutes we're just 528 pounds away do you think somebody could do that

01:44:39.540 maybe speak to your uh sneak call the winner the zionists who showed porn to try to corrupt us 0.99

01:44:52.580 how much we need 528 pounds to end the in the live inshallah and by the way that money which we're not

01:44:57.380 asking you to give it to end the show 500 pounds can teach anywhere from 50 to 150 people how to do

01:45:02.580 how to pray sarah and remember surah fati inshallah so guys if you are watching this inshallah it's a

01:45:06.420 for you guys the prophet peace be upon him said the son of adam's deeds all come to an end when he

01:45:11.540 dies except three ongoing charity this is ongoing charity beneficial knowledge this is beneficial

01:45:16.500 knowledge and the child that supplicates for their parents inshallah so guys we're here inshallah

01:45:20.980 we're going to be ending in exactly five minutes inshallah it would be phenomenal if we reached

01:45:24.580 at 30 000 pound mark we're just 528 pounds away we can have just 10 of you guys 50 50 pounds

01:45:30.660 yes so inshallah hey look can you send um 200 i'll pay you back all right

01:45:36.660 no no we'll take okay is that cheating no no it's not cheating no it's no you

01:45:40.740 no it's brin sneaker pledged uh 200 200 200 dollars yeah uh you said you wanted to donate as well

01:45:48.500 whatever you want to donate okay may allah bless you guys that means we are just

01:45:51.380 three hundred and twenty five pounds away so unless he's gonna reach but i've got a feeling

01:45:55.300 i've got a feeling you know abdul ali bro anytime i do this appeal yeah any figure i mentioned bro

01:45:59.940 bang bro literally some people wait where are you gonna sleep abdullah

01:46:06.180 literally i've got a feeling he's probably typing down inshallah yeah so any last one is 500 left

01:46:11.060 and we've got literally uh so the 200 you pledged it's that i'll do the rest 300 huh i got it i got the rest

01:46:17.540 are you sure yeah okay easy may allah bless you okay okay i appreciate okay can i just

01:46:28.260 i'm hungry i want to let's start let's start let's start heading out inshallah and sneaker knows the uh

01:46:34.020 the struggles of learning how to pray and subhanallah may allah bless me he's pledged the the remaining

01:46:38.340 but let's say abdul ali will still come but guys hope you enjoyed it inshallah if you have any questions

01:46:42.340 uh obviously uh with the show is finished now uh where can they follow you rumble rumble yeah

01:46:47.860 yeah rumble uh inshallah guys this is watching you saw i just have 500 to give away so yeah

01:46:53.380 so when it comes to maher you can ask for 50 000

01:46:57.540 yeah yeah the bit of truth show at gmail.com inshallah

01:46:59.940 what's the word you use maher the maher is basically the dowry that's like a dowry right 0.98

01:47:03.940 yeah yeah so since you've mentioned those donations you're gonna have sisters telling me they want

01:47:06.900 50 000 now for maher but don't worry you have a right to reject you have a right to say no

01:47:11.620 don't worry is that common in in the uk no bro don't marry no uk it's the us they're more like

01:47:20.180 greedy is it yeah really because it seems like there's not as much money over here as it is in

01:47:25.540 america yeah but america muslims in america are bowling anyways we're gonna end the live inshallah 0.61

01:47:32.980 guys it's been phenomenal amazing may allah bless the brother the winner uh sneak all it's been a

01:47:37.060 pleasure we're gonna go thank you for having me i appreciate it inshallah may allah bless you guys

01:47:41.060 inshallah make dua for us may allah accept our efforts get close to him this ramadan

01:47:45.460 and make it a new beginning for all of you guys inshallah this is my 11th ramadan first one first

01:47:49.940 ramadan it's i don't know it's been a long long time right uh how are you 20 30 seconds

01:47:57.220 so next time assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh carry on donating the link below

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SNEAKO - March 20, 2024

SNEAKO, Mohammed Hijab, Ali Dawah, & Warner Full Podcast

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