SNEAKO - September 15, 2022Social Media is Distorting Reality
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with a good friend of mine to talk about dating, social media, and how dating has changed dating in the past, present, and future. We talk about the impact of social media on dating, how dating apps have changed dating, and whether or not dating apps are bad or good.
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social media and fixing men it's complicated do you think social media has changed dating
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hell yeah yes it has how so because women get all the attention and men give away
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all their attention l-stream l-stream l-stream l-stream l-stream l-stream l-stream it
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it creates a very stereotypical view on dating like let's say for example there's a couple on
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social media right they're posting all of these things of traveling and what they're wearing
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and it does take a toll on other people social media does have an influence on that
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because people think like oh my relationship sucks because I'm not out traveling the world
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with my significant other when it shouldn't be that way it should be up to the people
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it should be like up to the couple that's doing it like you shouldn't rely on somebody else's
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relationship to make yours better I think there's a lot of expectations you get on there and compare
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yourself i think being self-aware helps but you know i feel like being virtually bombarded with
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all of you know perfect women perfect relationships i think you might start to get a little high
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expectations at my yes every girl thinks that they deserve the top percent man not be as realistic
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because everything is very you know it's filtered they show you the highlights and not the bullshit
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so i think it has has being online given you a greater quantity and quality of men to choose
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from yes quality also yeah i think so yeah um quantity yes quality no well i feel like over
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the years you know i'm 29 now and i would say 10 years ago before smartphones and instagram and
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social media started really taking off i feel like dating was a little easier it was kind of
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like a give and take exchange and boom you're in a relationship i feel like in today's era at 2020
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people are starting to set unrealistic expectations of what they expect from their partners
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and that may prevent them from getting into a relationship
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every girl thinks that they deserve a guy who makes six figures
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if you summarize everything that they demand in a relationship
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experienced no kids they all want that they all demand that they all think that they're good
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enough for that and they don't do anything to go and try and get that just be for existing
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they think they deserve that standards for their spouse do you think that dating apps have killed
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romance i don't think dating apps have killed romance i think they've inspired false hope
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because when you look at the statistics of how many girls are swiping right on guys compared to
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how many guys swiping right on girls a girl can go on tinder any day and pick up 50 guys a guy can
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go on tinder and unless he's super balling with a yacht he could pick up maybe one two three and
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they may not even be the best looking i mean this text messaging shit like i personally don't even
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like text messaging like you can't even get the real vibe like nobody nobody vibes with nobody
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it's just you texting do you think that what is he selling chad nobody nobody what is this fit
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Social media is inherently bad or rather a symptom of a larger problem.
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You could use social media for better things, but that's not cool.
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And the companies that own it are just encouraging shitty, posting porn, posting toxic relationships as memes.
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encourage you to get dumber getting you addicted to likes they want you to be on there chronically
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as long as possible so no it is inherently bad you should use it to your advantage and realize
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what it is and use it properly but if you don't realize what's going on you can get sucked up
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into it real quick and then have an npc personality do you feel that dating apps have killed romance
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a little bit yes how so i think that when you first meet someone and you make eye contact with
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them and you have that first initial chemistry i i look for that when i when i meet people so
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and it's different when you go on like a dating app date so yes i believe it's in between because
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it has its ups and it has its downs like you can benefit from it by promotion like
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it's promotional but it's still bad because it could be a mixed mixed bag or whatever right
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Yeah, it's a lot of stuff that shouldn't be on there.
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Have you ever used Tinder or dating apps before?
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Why do you think women typically get far more matches than men?
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Because men swipe right on like 90% of the women on there, bro.
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Bro, I've uninstalled and reinstalled Tinder so many times
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Last second when I got nothing else going on for that night
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Does she have the right to get upset if guys are just contacting her for hookups?
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Does she have the right to get upset if guys are just contacting her for hookups?
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can you compare a man photoshopping his tinder photos to a woman that wears too much makeup
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no because photoshop is fake makeup is fake artificially put artificial is fake
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on you just found a different word for fake bro what the fuck you talking about can you compare
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a man photoshopping his tinder photos to a woman that wears too much makeup it's the same shit
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you're not gonna get like a photoshop man like he can't photoshop his no no no why not because
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like that's changing you if you just put makeup is changing you huh makeup that's who you are
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yeah well i said we're wearing too much makeup okay too much makeup yes why is there so much
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talk about video game addiction for men but we barely even touch upon social media addiction
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for women that's a good question right there that's a nice question yeah women get to get
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mad at you stop playing 2k get off of the ps4 you turn the ps4 on you like they hear that noise
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immediately bro it could be quiet as fuck for like six hours you ain't say a word to you bitch
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you're both just sitting down you turn on the noise you don't love me anymore why don't you
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love me why don't we watch a movie come put your leg on my leg here's a cup of tea let's go sit
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down and have a picnic right now fuck but when she's on here i'm making a tiktok come stand with
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me and do a tiktok i'm gonna go okay i'm gonna do a boyfriend tiktok let's do a makeup challenge
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you can't say no i mean you you should say no most guys don't look okay booby okay booby boo
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put me on tiktok and make fun of me what are your what are your you don't have an answer
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I feel like social media addiction is a problem for everyone.
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But I also feel like women that play video games get a lot of attention because they're attractive.
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Okay, don't women just generally get attention for being attractive?
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No matter what, they get attention on social media.
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What is the difference between nurturing and nagging?
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It's just the whole point of view of where that's coming from.
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Nurturing is, hmm, maybe you should have played.
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Or maybe I'll let you go play right now because I'm actually annoyed.
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I think nurturing is important, but I also feel like I just never nag.
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Nurturing, I think, is good because just as a mother, I feel like it comes very naturally to me.
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You can clip that out of context and not see the part where the nag.
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Nurturing, I think, is good because just as a mother,
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I don't think it's right or a good thing to do, but yes.
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Why do women often get involved with somebody who needs fixing?
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Why do women often want sympathy rather than solutions?
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Because they operate based on feelings, not action.
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I think that we should always look for solutions and not sympathy.
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I feel like women are not victims, and I feel like...
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Well, you act like victims, and you're also very not capable of searching for solutions when you're emotional.
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but I feel like with the narrative as women being strong, independent, not needing a man,
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I feel like it's very important for us not to...
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Do you think men often get in relationships hoping the woman won't change while women hope the man will change?
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Do you see any difference between the woman who wants to turn the dishonest player guy into a monogamous man
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and the man who wants to turn the gold-digging whore into a housewife?
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Can you change a dishonest player guy into a monogamous guy?
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Is it fair to say that women are attracted to men with status and high social value?
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yes why is it acceptable for that behavior but it is often frowned upon when an older man takes on
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a trophy wife good question because women are always the victim it's always your fault men
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90 men it's always your fault good question i think naturally as women we want someone that
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can provide for us and i think that goes back to cave women days and so i i don't think it makes
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people opportunity in some situations yes but i feel like there should be more to the attraction
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than just social status for sure why is it acceptable for that behavior but it is often
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frowned upon when an older man takes on a trophy wife i don't think there's anything wrong with
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that what is the difference between responding and reacting reacting is emotional emotions
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responding is off compromising i think reacting is acting on impulse and i think responding is
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taking a minute to reflect before you men have to respond women react answer yeah thank you uh
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how emotional is too emotional i think when you let your emotions lead i think that is too
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emotional i think that consider your emotions feel them but i think emotions are fleeting and
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Do you believe that being emotional entitles women to sympathy or special treatment?
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Where is the line between being very emotional and being bipolar?
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I'm curious on this one because you're a single mom.
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Okay, do you think it's harder to give birth or to raise a child?
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If the answer is parenting, shouldn't single dads deserve the same credit as single moms?
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Do you find it ironic that the women who expect to be taken care of
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are somehow able to manage supporting two people when they become a single mom?
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I think that the first half is expectations and a want,
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and I feel like the second half of that is a need for survival.
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and i feel like you that kind of clicks on when you know like you have no other choice so
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why do so many women act like it's their duty to have kids i don't know because it is
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that's the whole purpose here right oh i've always thought it was
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like a privilege and just a part of life that i wanted to experience i never felt it as a duty but
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i think society implements that onto women hell that nah bro it's a natural desire it's what
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we're supposed to do it's why we're here what is the number one thing you don't understand about
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women uh i think i don't know i think i i think i it's pretty dumb and arrogant to say i figured
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it out but there's nothing that really surprised me at this point why they so complicated yeah
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because they lead off of emotion there's your answer because they're emotional creatures why
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they judge why they judge so much oh okay hold on i want to ask you that okay uh i gotta ask you
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the judging question. Give me one second here because that's a great question. Okay, do you
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think women are more judgmental than men? Absolutely. Okay, are the things we judge
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people on, is that natural or learned behavior? Learned behavior or you trying to, an insecurity
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of your own that you trying to project on somebody else. Why do you think women seem
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to have a problem when women judge other women, but not so much when it comes to women judging
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men same same gender uh-huh okay uh why don't the good decent women in the world regularly call out
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or shame the trash women for how they treat men that's not the cool thing to do who do you think
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is more judgmental men or women women women okay are the things that we judge people on is that
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natural or learned behavior both i think some things are learned and then some things are just
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natural like women like deeper voices you women are judgmental because they encourage strong men
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if they weren't judgmental then we wouldn't need to become better a lot of what makes us
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want to be better is so that they can we never hear the insults when they never call us broke
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one more time they never call us a piece of shit they never call us a pussy they don't say we're
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gay that's why we got to improve is because they're well you didn't they encourage strong
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men by being judgmental bitches usually because it means you have more testosterone and so i think
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that like subconsciously you know it registers and i think same with men as well why do women
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seem to have a problem when women judge other women but not so much when it comes to women
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judging men because we don't care about man feelings when women judge women though you made
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her feel bad and i can feel the feeling that she felt but they don't even consider the fact that
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we have feelings nobody cares that's a good question that's a great question huh
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I think because women, we feel competitive, maybe.
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I feel like it's more of an us versus them mentality when it's men,
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but I feel like when it's women, it's kind of like you got to do what you got to do.
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Why don't the good, decent women in the world regularly call out
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or shame the trash women for how they treat men?
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I see a little bit on Twitter, but I feel like they should more.
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Why is it that women just can't remember to leave the damn toilet seat up?
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Would you agree that the natural sexual dynamic between two people is dominant and submissive?
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Yes, in every relationship, even gay relationships.
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Someone needs to lead, someone needs to follow.
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that's bullshit that's brainwashing that's feminist garbage yes when do women want to be
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dominated and when do they want control oh that's a good one they want control when the man's not
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capable of taking control but they pretty much always want to be in their feminine nature they
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always want to be submissive just like how men always want to be dominant um i think women
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ultimately rule a relationship but shut up i also feel like um i'm a very feminine woman and so i
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think it's important to have a very so then how do you control the relationship a masculine man
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so I think that there is a balance um I don't know a specific interaction but I think it's
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good to have a balance I think it bounce off of each other women like to be dominated during
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sexual activities they like to be in control in public they want to be dominating that bed
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And they want control as far as being on your side, I guess, or maybe helping you out and you acknowledging that they want to be acknowledged.
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Between a woman who says she is a strong feminist but wants to be submissive to a strong alpha male.
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I don't know if there's as much of a contradiction.
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you only because i feel like i have maybe like the second wave of feminism but now i think that
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i have all the rights that i need so i don't feel like i have there you go
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l wage gap bro there's nothing that you don't have to really fight for anything and i appreciate
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a dominant man so i don't but i i think it there can be a a contradiction yes what would you say
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to nice guys who would say that they never want to be dominant in a relationship out of respect
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for the woman? Be me. What would you say? Be me and I think be dominant. I feel like
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depends on who you're with, of course, but I feel like
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like if some guy was coming up to me and he's a very nice guy, I always
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will end the day if he's too nice and I'm like, yeah, like he was just, he was
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too nice. I like a man that can take the lead, so. Nice guys, you gotta man up.
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Man, where the pants in the relationship? We the breadwinners. You gotta
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got to grip your balls sometimes you know and she wants that trust me she wants that
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maybe nice guys finish last yeah they do unfortunately profit i can say women are
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attracted more to profit than natural love if women are strong and independent and don't need
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no man look at all like yeah baby i get profit why does the ddg before the fame pressure of
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marriage and commitment typically come from women good question because men we like being single
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we like where it's at bro is everything's fine we get cushy why do you need to go settle down
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why we got to change this dynamic it's going great no answer okay um i think women and men
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both need each other equally i feel like there is naturally a pressure because i feel like that's
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is what society has been used to over like however long but i feel like we do need each other so i
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feel like it's it's not entirely wrong why is it often said that a woman doesn't need no man
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yet a man is nothing without a woman because women get to live in the pride women's self-esteem
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is all delusion right now all the media you consume is telling you that you a boss babe
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bitch you don't need no man they're high off of attention they're destroying the relationship with
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this false ideology women think that they don't need to be in a relationship to be happy they're
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running around wild taking dick until they get to the point where they're 40 then they get a bunch
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of cats because they've been told that they don't need a man when that's what's make us that's what
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makes us happiest we need a good relationship we need to be with each other men well imagine
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okay so then don't women need men then that's true if they need stability they need exactly
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yeah that's true okay why is it often said that a woman doesn't need a man yet a man is nothing
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without a woman i think that was made by women absolutely for sure it wasn't made by women see
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that's the number one misconception about this feminism was invented by the elites and was
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trickled down to make women feel like they need to be equal to us so that they can get all this
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power so that they could have more power so that they could destroy the relationship from the inside
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out feminism was made by these rich people let's brainwash these bots this will make them feel woke
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and then we'll take all the women and they'll get sadder with feminists and they'll think it's
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important okay if women don't need men why do women date men delusion um they're fun they're
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a good time. It's fun. Shut up. Imagine if men said that. Yeah, I date women because
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it's fun. We date women because we need to. I like to have a good time. Okay. Why do
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so many women think they have the golden pussy when every woman has one? Exactly. You tell
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me. You tell me. Delusion. Okay. Are women good at taking criticism? Some are. I was
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not okay i was not if a woman criticizes men does that make her a man hater no if a man criticizes
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women does that make him a misogynist pretty much no absolutely not if you dislike hey i'm
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criticizing him i'm criticizing feminism what do they call me every single day what do they call
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me every single day misogynist toxic problematic insecure toxic gay you incel misogynist behavior
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does that mean that you hate children no does restraining someone's behavior mean that you're
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oppressing them no yes what is the difference between constructive criticism and bullying
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i feel like constructive criticism offers a solution and a better way to do things i feel
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like bullying is belittling someone great answers thank you love that um do you believe we are in
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a transitional phase between women being now she's attracted to him you see their eyes change yo it's
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complicated you clap that after dm me fashion and also being empowered and independent
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Yes, I wish that people would understand that you can do both
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Why would there be any incentive for women to change
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when they can currently pick and choose the best of both worlds?
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I think people aren't happy, and they just look for something
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Married or don't have children or looking to fill a void,
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but I think that is some reason why some women are.
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Do you think that a woman's level of physical attractiveness
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In American society, I believe it definitely does
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Especially nowadays, you know, when you have the trends
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And all this shit you can put on your face to look younger
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And then you see what, keeping up with the Kardashians
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People are, now young women are starting to compare themselves
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power moves off of it so i can appreciate them it they're they live very differently than me
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but i admire them i feel like they're they're strong people why it's true okay
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this is what you want you want to be cardi b drugging and robbing you admire them take it
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strong and independent that's what you want right you're gonna be my wife
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but i admire them i feel like they're they're strong people why is it that a rich man would
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sooner change a broke woman's life but a rich woman is less likely to give a broke man a chance
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hypergamy she's looking for that rich she's trying to get more rich she don't know how to
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