SNEAKO - The Reason Why You Should NEVER Live With Your Girlfriend

00:00:00.000 What is your phone number?

00:00:02.600 I'll give it to you after.

00:00:04.040 It's a French number, though.

00:00:05.800 There's no problem.

00:00:06.880 French Riz. 0.98

00:00:08.280 Thank you very much. 0.99

00:00:09.080 Yeah, I do fantasize about weird shit. 0.77

00:00:11.040 That does not mean that I want to do them. 0.99

00:00:13.120 You fantasize about it,

00:00:14.120 but there's interesting fantasizing

00:00:15.080 and actually doing it in real life.

00:00:15.920 Yeah, right?

00:00:16.720 Exactly. You contradicted yourself.

00:00:18.280 I think we just had a prime example.

00:00:19.920 She's saying what she wants, right?

00:00:21.480 But she just gave him the number

00:00:22.760 and he's saying exactly everything

00:00:23.960 she's saying she don't want. 1.00

00:00:25.120 Oh, shit. 1.00

00:00:25.720 So that's a contradiction. 1.00

00:00:26.920 Are you mad?

00:00:27.920 Are you a little mad?

00:00:28.920 Oh, don't play with me, baby. 1.00

00:00:30.000 Don't fucking play with me. 1.00

00:00:31.040 Are you mad? 1.00

00:00:31.640 Don't play with me.

00:00:32.040 It's just a question.

00:00:32.760 I was making an example.

00:00:34.040 Baby, I'm not mad.

00:00:35.200 You're pretty.

00:00:35.880 Thank you, you too.

00:00:37.080 Right, but what I'm saying is

00:00:38.640 you said you like a nice guy.

00:00:41.040 Yeah, maybe he's really nice.

00:00:42.720 Maybe he's nice.

00:00:43.440 Maybe he's just spitting your problems.

00:00:45.040 Don't play with me, though.

00:00:46.480 No, but I'm not.

00:00:47.280 But you're coming super aggressive.

00:00:48.960 Check your men. 0.99

00:00:49.920 Don't fucking check me. 1.00

00:00:51.120 Check your men. 1.00

00:00:52.160 So speaking of hypocrisy,

00:00:53.520 as you can see right here,

00:00:54.320 that the one-sided arrangement

00:00:55.200 does not work very clearly.

00:00:56.560 You can see the problems

00:00:57.600 that result from this.

00:00:58.600 Stop. Both of you.

00:00:59.760 Stop. Okay, y'all.

00:01:00.960 What the fuck is going on, man? 0.99

00:01:06.000 No, see, go. 1.00

00:01:08.000 I'm not telling you what, man, nigga. 1.00

00:01:09.440 What the fuck is going on? 0.99

00:01:13.280 So, uh, Destiny, you had a question, 0.99

00:01:14.800 so I'll turn it to you, my friend.

00:01:15.760 Go ahead.

00:01:16.400 I have a question for the ladies on the panel. 1.00

00:01:17.840 Please. Right.

00:01:19.040 Would you guys date a man

00:01:20.720 that said he would never live with you,

00:01:22.240 but instead wanted to live

00:01:23.040 with all of his boys instead? 0.99

00:01:24.320 Damn, long term, but he tells you, 1.00

00:01:26.720 I'm never going to live with you. 1.00

00:01:28.320 You can have sleepovers and stuff,

00:01:29.520 but we're never going to live together.

00:01:30.560 But he's like a cool guy otherwise.

00:01:31.600 I'm just curious.

00:01:32.560 I have a follow-up question

00:01:33.120 after we go answer this one.

00:01:34.000 Okay.

00:01:34.400 To combat this one.

00:01:35.200 That's fine. That's fine.

00:01:36.000 Uh, we'll start here with Miss Paris. 1.00

00:01:38.000 Uh, would you live with a guy who...

00:01:40.240 Or not live with a guy, date a guy.

00:01:41.600 Oh yeah. Okay.

00:01:42.400 Excuse me.

00:01:43.040 Would you date a guy seriously

00:01:44.400 that said he doesn't want to live with you?

00:01:45.680 Uh, if I'm dating you seriously

00:01:47.600 and you don't want to live with me,

00:01:49.120 I think that it's a little weird

00:01:50.560 because it's sketchy.

00:01:51.760 I mean, that you kind of have something to hide.

00:01:54.400 So no.

00:01:54.960 Okay.

00:01:55.760 Okay.

00:01:56.240 Yeah.

00:01:56.640 It's fair.

00:01:57.680 Okay.

00:01:58.400 Yes.

00:02:01.680 Okay. You would agree with that.

00:02:02.560 Okay.

00:02:02.880 W.

00:02:03.760 All right.

00:02:04.560 What about you?

00:02:05.520 Um, personally,

00:02:06.880 I don't think I would actually live with anyone

00:02:09.440 until I'm engaged.

00:02:11.280 So that would be like a deal breaker.

00:02:13.040 If he was like, I'll never live with you.

00:02:15.680 Yeah.

00:02:15.840 I'm not going for that.

00:02:16.560 No, but while you're dating, that's fine.

00:02:18.240 Well, but we're saying forever.

00:02:19.360 So that's cool.

00:02:19.840 No, no.

00:02:20.560 He said forever.

00:02:21.360 He said, I will never live with you.

00:02:23.200 Like, ever.

00:02:24.480 She listens.

00:02:25.520 Okay.

00:02:26.240 You can learn something.

00:02:26.960 I'm not about to graduate law school for nothing.

00:02:30.400 No.

00:02:30.720 All right.

00:02:30.960 So that's a no from you.

00:02:31.760 What about you?

00:02:32.160 That is scary.

00:02:32.720 Yeah, I agree.

00:02:33.680 And, uh, logistically,

00:02:35.280 especially long term for like the family unit.

00:02:37.520 That's probably not going to be the best thing.

00:02:45.920 It depends on like the definition of like dating,

00:02:48.880 but like me personally,

00:02:50.080 I had a bad experience living with the guy that I was dating.

00:02:53.760 So I personally would not do it again.

00:02:56.000 I rather just like,

00:02:57.600 so you'd be okay with that.

00:02:58.880 Of course.

00:02:59.440 Living in different locations.

00:03:00.880 All right.

00:03:01.200 What about you?

00:03:01.600 I think I would be okay with it if it was like his own house,

00:03:07.280 but like the fact that it's with like other guys,

00:03:10.160 I don't know about that.

00:03:11.040 Is that required in the, in the, uh,

00:03:12.640 Well, because you would be living with other high value men,

00:03:14.560 of course.

00:03:14.960 So, you know, you'd be networked.

00:03:16.240 Of course.

00:03:16.640 Yeah, of course.

00:03:17.760 This guy.

00:03:18.320 Okay.

00:03:18.880 So you, you would say, you would say yes,

00:03:20.400 but if he's little, other guys, no.

00:03:21.760 Yeah.

00:03:22.240 Okay.

00:03:23.920 Would you think it's a little sus or?

00:03:25.200 Yeah.

00:03:26.240 Unless he had like, you know,

00:03:27.360 he was running like a YouTube channel in there and we like work together or something.

00:03:30.560 Oh, interesting.

00:03:31.120 Oh, work.

00:03:31.440 Okay.

00:03:31.760 Content house.

00:03:32.400 Oh, okay.

00:03:33.280 Okay.

00:03:33.600 So that's a yes then.

00:03:34.480 That's a yes.

00:03:34.960 What about you?

00:03:36.000 Um, dating?

00:03:36.800 Yes.

00:03:37.200 Married?

00:03:37.600 No.

00:03:37.840 Because when I want to have kids, I want a two parent household.

00:03:40.800 Okay.

00:03:41.120 Mm-hmm.

00:03:42.480 All right.

00:03:42.800 Okay.

00:03:43.200 I wouldn't do that.

00:03:44.480 No?

00:03:44.960 No.

00:03:45.280 What about when you're on your period?

00:03:47.920 Do I have to be in the house with you?

00:03:51.680 Especially not.

00:03:52.480 I think.

00:03:54.000 I could take a week off in the apartment.

00:03:55.680 Maybe.

00:03:58.400 All right.

00:03:59.200 That's a compromise.

00:04:01.360 It's a religious thing for him.

00:04:02.480 He can't be near women that are menstruating. 1.00

00:04:03.920 Absolutely not.

00:04:04.480 Yeah.

00:04:04.720 Yeah.

00:04:05.280 Really?

00:04:05.680 At all?

00:04:06.720 Stop for Allah. 0.98

00:04:07.120 Stop for Allah. 0.98

00:04:07.520 You can't be around your wives while they're bleeding. 0.97

00:04:10.400 Haram!

00:04:10.960 You gotta follow that Quran all the way, bro. 0.96

00:04:12.880 Oh, he doesn't eat pork or anything.

00:04:14.240 I'm watching you.

00:04:14.800 Yeah.

00:04:15.120 Watch.

00:04:15.520 All right.

00:04:17.600 Angie. 0.93

00:04:18.000 I think it's better that way.

00:04:19.040 Yeah.

00:04:19.360 I think that's completely fine.

00:04:21.200 He can leave with whoever he wants.

00:04:22.640 That'll be my right.

00:04:23.680 I mean, if he doesn't.

00:04:25.680 You know, Chris, you said it directly, bro.

00:04:30.000 Man.

00:04:30.400 It's too obvious now.

00:04:31.440 You can say to Chris, man.

00:04:32.480 What?

00:04:32.880 That was obvious.

00:04:33.680 Continue on, Angie.

00:04:34.960 Ignore him.

00:04:35.360 You guys can't.

00:04:35.920 You should grow up, man.

00:04:37.360 Yeah.

00:04:37.520 Seriously.

00:04:37.840 You should grow up.

00:04:38.560 Go ahead.

00:04:39.600 Yeah.

00:04:39.920 Like, it's better if he doesn't leave with me.

00:04:42.400 You know?

00:04:42.720 Like, it's just better for their relationship.

00:04:44.800 So.

00:04:45.040 Okay.

00:04:45.280 Now you got a follow up question, Nico?

00:04:47.280 Yes.

00:04:47.680 Go ahead.

00:04:48.080 Which way do you want to start?

00:04:49.040 Oh, we can start with Angie and then work our way. 1.00

00:04:50.400 Angie, could you take a man seriously that sucks dick? 1.00

00:04:54.320 Whoa. 1.00

00:04:55.920 Whoa.

00:04:56.720 Whoa.

00:04:57.040 Whoa.

00:04:58.000 Don't be sneaker.

00:04:58.480 Don't be sneaker.

00:04:59.600 Don't be sneaker.

00:05:00.000 Do you have a question?

00:05:00.400 Could you?

00:05:00.800 Okay.

00:05:00.960 Let's simplify the question.

00:05:01.920 Could you date a man?

00:05:02.800 Seriously?

00:05:03.920 That's bisexual. 0.96

00:05:04.800 Yeah.

00:05:05.440 Absolutely not.

00:05:07.200 Okay.

00:05:07.840 I don't.

00:05:09.200 I don't like that.

00:05:10.640 Okay.

00:05:11.120 No, Maricoon.

00:05:11.840 I just feel like if that's what you do, then I'll never satisfy you as a woman.

00:05:15.680 You're going to always want a man. 1.00

00:05:17.120 That's what I think.

00:05:18.240 Right.

00:05:18.560 Maybe you could tag team it, you know?

00:05:20.400 Mm-hmm.

00:05:21.520 I don't think so.

00:05:22.240 Okay.

00:05:22.480 Oh, you're good.

00:05:23.120 Is that what you think about tag teaming a sneaker?

00:05:24.480 Go call me.

00:05:25.200 Oh, you're good. 0.55

00:05:25.920 A bisexual man, it's not completely masculine.

00:05:29.760 That's right.

00:05:30.160 Yeah.

00:05:30.800 That's true.

00:05:31.760 Yep.

00:05:31.840 What about you?

00:05:32.640 That's true.

00:05:33.920 Um, probably not just because I feel like I would be scared to catch something.

00:05:39.120 I don't know. 0.88

00:05:40.240 That's like having sex with a flu. 0.98

00:05:42.320 A flu? 0.99

00:05:43.280 Like, I don't know.

00:05:44.720 An STD?

00:05:45.200 Yeah, an STD.

00:05:45.920 I would be scared.

00:05:46.800 What about you?

00:05:47.600 Yeah, a hundred percent.

00:05:48.800 No.

00:05:49.600 That's weird.

00:05:50.320 Yeah.

00:05:50.720 Okay.

00:05:51.120 Okay. 0.81

00:05:51.920 Nerd.

00:05:52.320 Nerd. 0.96

00:05:52.880 Nerd. 0.96

00:05:53.360 Nerd. 0.96

00:05:53.840 Nerd. 0.79

00:05:54.320 What about you? 0.94

00:05:56.800 Nerd.

00:05:57.200 Nerd. 0.75

00:05:58.240 No. 0.53

00:05:58.640 No.

00:05:59.120 Zina. 0.80

00:06:00.640 Haram.

00:06:01.280 Okay.

00:06:02.000 Haram.

00:06:02.720 No, I wouldn't date.

00:06:04.160 Well, so there wasn't one that was okay with that, but the living with high value man thing,

00:06:08.400 which you were kind of insinuating is gay, that men want to live with other men.

00:06:11.360 The panel was pretty 50-50 on that.

00:06:13.200 Some of them were okay with the compromise.

00:06:14.560 It's work.

00:06:15.040 They understand.

00:06:15.680 Depends on what level of the relationship.

00:06:17.200 But when it comes to bisexuality, not one woman here is okay with that.

00:06:22.000 What do you think?

00:06:22.640 No person in a serious relationship would be okay with never living with their partner.

00:06:25.760 That's a joke.

00:06:27.040 Like, even the people that sat on the panel, they'd be okay with it.

00:06:28.960 They wouldn't be okay with in a serious long-term relationship.

00:06:30.400 They just said they would be.

00:06:31.440 That's fine that they say it, but don't you guys also say women lie all the time? 0.99

00:06:34.080 You think they lie?

00:06:34.400 Nobody who's like 32 who is talking to their friends like, oh, you're dating this guy?

00:06:37.920 Yeah, we dated for like eight years.

00:06:38.880 I'm really excited because tomorrow I'm going to go have a sleepover at his house.

00:06:41.920 Nobody would be okay with that.

00:06:43.040 That's a joke.

00:06:43.600 But definitely, that would mean they would all lie on every answer.

00:06:46.960 So this means it's not good a basement of judgment.

00:06:49.520 That's true.

00:06:50.080 You never know.

00:06:51.040 I do want to say this so that it makes more sense.

00:06:53.120 Because just so you guys know, he asked that question to make fun of us.

00:06:56.080 Because we were saying earlier that you shouldn't live with your girl.

00:06:58.160 When I said that, what I mean is in like, you should get a house.

00:07:01.920 Like, let's say y'all have a family.

00:07:02.880 Y'all have kids or whatever.

00:07:04.000 You buy a house for her and the kids and you're there.

00:07:06.880 But you should not be spending all your time there is my point.

00:07:09.920 You should have another address that you can go to at times to create, you know, some space.

00:07:14.720 I think space makes things very important and it makes the heart grow fonder, space.

00:07:19.280 So I should have qualified.

00:07:20.720 We were actually saying the two house strategy.

00:07:22.560 That's who you're going for.

00:07:23.440 Yes.

00:07:23.840 Yeah, because you didn't ask for more detail.

00:07:25.440 But that would be the strategy in that situation where like, if you have a family and it's serious.

00:07:29.520 Yes, you have a house for her and the children.

00:07:31.200 You come in periodically and do what you need to do.

00:07:33.280 You obviously support the family because I think the man should be the breadwinner.

00:07:35.760 But you have another address that you actually stay at.

00:07:38.640 Because I think living with a woman does make you soft as a man. 1.00

00:07:41.280 But when you're going to get to your other address, you're going to like, it's sketchy.

00:07:45.120 It's weird.

00:07:45.600 Yeah, I mean, well, there's a couple of reasons for for that.

00:07:49.760 And I'd be happy to go into it if you guys want me to. 0.99

00:07:51.520 But before I do, it was did you guys have anything on that situation with the whole penis licking and 0.99

00:07:58.560 living somewhere else? 0.99

00:08:00.000 Any I mean, I just it's interesting because you guys talk about like getting to know a woman or whatever.

00:08:04.400 Yeah, but I feel like for me personally, I don't consider relationships real until people are living with each other

00:08:08.240 because you don't know shit about your partner until you have to spend every day with them to 0.73

00:08:11.440 like really figure out what's going on. 0.91

00:08:12.800 Of course.

00:08:13.200 And when you can choose when to see your partner on only your best days, it's hard to know what

00:08:17.040 the person's really like.

00:08:18.000 I agree.

00:08:18.480 Yeah, I agree.

00:08:19.200 Yeah.

00:08:19.600 But I can also argue if we live in separate houses, I'm going to see her all the time anyway.

00:08:23.840 Why would you see her all the time?

00:08:24.640 You live in separate houses.

00:08:25.520 Yeah, but we'll meet up for dinner for, you know, you can live right down the street next door.

00:08:31.760 But that's like essentially just picking and choosing when you want to like be around.

00:08:36.320 And I don't think that is like what a long term relationship is supposed to be about.

00:08:42.080 That's more casual dating.

00:08:45.040 And I would think that casual dating most of the time is happier.

00:08:47.680 A lot of marriages end up sexless.

00:08:48.960 A lot of marriages end up miserable.

00:08:50.560 If you could pick and choose when to spend time, that means that the time you spend together is

00:08:53.600 going to be ultra quality because you want to show you want to show your best self.

00:08:56.320 You want to be meaningful early on in a relationship.

00:08:58.320 People always dress up nice.

00:08:59.440 They put a nice cologne.

00:09:00.480 You should have the best talking points.

00:09:01.840 You try to entertain each other.

00:09:02.960 You're trying to make each other as happy as possible because you want to impress them.

00:09:05.680 Yeah, it's a honeymoon phase.

00:09:06.960 It's smoke and mirrors.

00:09:08.000 Why?

00:09:08.320 Why would you give up the honeymoon phase?

00:09:09.760 You should try to keep upkeep that as much as possible.

00:09:11.680 If you can upkeep that 30 years down the line, that's going to be a happier marriage

00:09:14.800 than two people who are just annoyed by their presence.

00:09:16.800 Is that possible?

00:09:17.920 I think you necessarily have to be annoyed with the person.

00:09:22.000 I was in a relationship for eight years and six years I was living with my men.

00:09:27.280 And sometimes, yeah, we were like all of each other faces and it was annoying.

00:09:32.480 But most of the times we get to know each other, like our default, like, I don't know.

00:09:37.840 I feel like it's more real when you can see the bad, the ugly, and then you appreciate more

00:09:43.920 the beautiful.

00:09:44.400 I think when you do the casual dating, you're not meeting the person.

00:09:47.680 You're only seeing the representative, right?

00:09:49.600 When you do casual dating, you're seeing the person at the...

00:09:51.440 You're not even really seeing them.

00:09:52.560 They could be putting on a front.

00:09:53.440 That's true.

00:09:53.680 But when you live with somebody, like you said, like outside of all the flashy cologne and the

00:09:56.800 dresses and everything, you get to see the person really is.

00:09:58.880 And if you want to fall in love with somebody, I think you need that part more than just like

00:10:01.920 You are living with her for a period of time.

00:10:03.040 It's just that it's segmented.

00:10:04.080 It's like, okay, three days I spent with her.

00:10:06.160 Boom.

00:10:06.400 Now I'm going to go home and have my space.

00:10:07.840 You are living with her and seeing that side, it might take you, you know, you would have

00:10:10.400 been able to find maybe certain things in, uh, you know, two months that you would have

00:10:13.520 taken you maybe seven or eight months living together every single day.

00:10:16.080 But you still find these traits out and still get to know the person.

00:10:18.400 But the main reason why I say guys need to live in a separate location isn't

00:10:22.080 necessarily for the woman.

00:10:23.600 It's for the guy.

00:10:24.640 Yeah, but why not find a woman that like synergizes with you, that can help you, that can build 1.00

00:10:27.840 you up, but you guys work as a partner, as a team, and she's going to drag you down. 1.00

00:10:30.320 As a team on what?

00:10:31.360 What are we going to, hold on, what are we going to work on together?

00:10:33.680 Me and my mom?

00:10:34.400 Literally anything.

00:10:35.040 You guys can do health stuff together.

00:10:36.480 You can do meals together.

00:10:37.360 You can go out and have fun together.

00:10:38.480 You can watch TV shows together.

00:10:39.520 You can work on projects together.

00:10:40.240 So we can go out together.

00:10:41.200 I don't want to cook with her.

00:10:42.240 Why would you want to do that? 1.00

00:10:43.280 Because it's fun as fuck. 0.99

00:10:44.240 What do you mean? 0.99

00:10:44.560 That's a super fun activity.

00:10:45.280 Cooking is fun?

00:10:46.080 With a significant other, anything can be fun.

00:10:47.440 Yeah.

00:10:47.840 Everything becomes fun when you're with somebody that you love, so like watching a boring 0.78

00:10:53.840 ass movie can be super like entertaining with someone that you love. 0.81

00:10:57.200 Okay. 0.98

00:10:57.440 Okay.

00:10:57.680 Look, look, look, ladies. 1.00

00:10:58.480 So the re, cause you guys keep looking at it from a female perspective, right? 0.90

00:11:01.920 Of like, Hey, I get to be on my man, et cetera.

00:11:03.920 And you guys are looking at it from there.

00:11:04.960 But the reason why I'm saying to, and I'm advising men, by the way, why they shouldn't 0.92

00:11:08.880 do it is because men typically become lazy when they live with their girl.

00:11:12.560 And what I mean by that is they don't have the same sharpness that they used to have

00:11:15.920 when they attracted the girl in the first place.

00:11:17.600 They're not as diligent about the gym.

00:11:18.720 A lot of the times they start to get lazy.

00:11:20.720 They don't work as hard as they used to, et cetera, because women are very comforting, 1.00

00:11:23.840 right? 0.82

00:11:24.400 And on top of that, let's be a thousand women are inherently lazy in general. 1.00

00:11:27.520 So they're going to go ahead and encourage you to be lazy. 0.59

00:11:29.840 Oh no.

00:11:30.320 Stay inside and hang out with me.

00:11:31.760 Let's have some ice cream.

00:11:33.040 Let's watch a movie, blah, blah, blah.

00:11:34.480 So I don't want guys right to live in an environment that's too comfortable, right?

00:11:38.800 AKA their girl and get soft. 0.95

00:11:41.040 I want guys to stay sharp, to be the man that she fell in love with in the first place.

00:11:44.800 And you're going to maintain that edge and that sharpness by not living with her.

00:11:47.920 Right.

00:11:48.080 Not only would I disagree, I would actually use, I'd use a stat earlier, actually,

00:11:51.040 that I think actually contradicts that.

00:11:52.320 I think in some ways women can keep men sharper. 1.00

00:11:54.160 One of the things you brought up that was only one of the points that was true about men doing 0.97

00:11:57.440 worse after divorce is that when men get married through all facets of life,

00:12:01.760 they tend to commit less crime.

00:12:02.960 And as soon as a man gets divorced, the likelihood for him to do more crime starts to increase

00:12:06.800 again because they don't have anybody like a stable environment holding them down.

00:12:08.800 So you should have good friends around you.

00:12:10.320 You should have iron sharpens iron. 0.99

00:12:11.680 Iron does not get sharpened by a feather and women are feathers. 1.00

00:12:13.600 The relationship, now I can't speak for you because I don't know if you do gay relationships.

00:12:16.480 I don't, so I don't have experience with that.

00:12:17.440 You said you do.

00:12:18.000 The way I don't, I don't date men.

00:12:19.280 Now, if you're dating a man, it might be like that, but the relationship that you have,

00:12:23.280 the relationship that you have with a woman when you're dating a woman is 0.85

00:12:25.280 different than the relationship you have with your bros when you're with bros.

00:12:27.680 Your woman should be arguably more invested with you and in you than any of your guy friends are 0.87

00:12:31.920 because they don't have to live with you.

00:12:32.560 They're not building a life with you.

00:12:33.520 They're just being a friend to you. 1.00

00:12:34.560 You can be friends with guys that do crazy fucking shit. 1.00

00:12:37.360 Your friend can become an alcoholic. 1.00

00:12:38.640 You can ruin his fucking life because you're just friends. 1.00

00:12:40.000 Don't be friends with them. 1.00

00:12:40.560 Yeah, that's fine.

00:12:40.960 But I'm saying, but with a woman, 1.00

00:12:41.840 she's invested in your success as much as you should be invested in your success.

00:12:44.480 She can still be an asset though, just living somewhere else.

00:12:46.880 Yeah.

00:12:47.280 But that doesn't have to be with me.

00:12:48.480 So then why can't she be your best friend?

00:12:50.080 And then once again, adding to that as well, let's say I live with a woman, right?

00:12:53.200 We can see each other all the time.

00:12:55.040 It's going to become boring.

00:12:56.160 If it's time away, then she can miss me and want me more.

00:12:59.120 And it's meaningful.

00:12:59.760 But I agree in this sense.

00:13:02.560 I agree in the sense of like before marriage.

00:13:05.040 Yes, I agree with that.

00:13:06.240 Yeah.

00:13:06.800 Once you're married and you have children and you're building a family dynamic.

00:13:11.120 Do I want my husband going in and out my kids lives because he needs space for three days? 0.94

00:13:15.840 No, he's not going anywhere.

00:13:18.240 Living in a separate house.

00:13:19.520 Like, like, I don't agree with that in a marriage.

00:13:22.720 What's the difference if he's working or he's overseas working?

00:13:25.680 Like, he's a high businessman.

00:13:26.800 Like, he's not going to be there all the time.

00:13:27.520 Because he's not overseas working.

00:13:28.560 He's living in a house down the street.

00:13:29.840 He's living in a house down the street.

00:13:31.360 And my dad is a lawyer and he went on business trips and he had to travel a lot.

00:13:35.760 He did not have a separate house down the street from my family home.

00:13:39.520 He was a very present, active dad that still handled business and was a provider and did everything.

00:13:44.480 I mean, he could do the same thing, just not live there.

00:13:46.880 Your dad went away, right?

00:13:47.920 To travel for a couple of days.

00:13:49.200 He wasn't there all the time.

00:13:50.400 Yeah, but he was on business, not, oh, my dad had to leave the house and go down the street for three days because he needed space.

00:13:56.960 Well, once again, the same scenario there, he's not there.

00:13:59.680 However, the context is different.

00:14:01.040 Because he's working to make money to pay for our lives.

00:14:04.400 I'm sure he's working our lives.

00:14:04.960 That's what you tell the kids.

00:14:05.760 You don't tell them he lives in a separate house.

00:14:07.520 Like, he's smart.

00:14:07.920 Why would you lie to your kids about your dad having to leave the house because he just needs three days of space for mom every week?

00:14:13.360 I mean, if your kids are four years old and they hear you upstairs, you know, doing what adults do.

00:14:17.600 Are you going to tell them? 0.99

00:14:18.160 Oh, yeah, we were fucking. 1.00

00:14:19.120 No, you're going to lie. 1.00

00:14:20.160 Oh, mommy and daddy were playing a game.

00:14:23.120 Okay.

00:14:23.440 And then not even to mention, the biggest thing here is nobody would trust a guy not to cheat if that was the rancher as well.

00:14:28.480 Right.

00:14:28.640 Like if your guy's leaving for three or four days at a time and then you come back.

00:14:31.360 It's easy.

00:14:31.680 Like, I, I, I can't see any long term relationship ever working out that way.

00:14:34.800 That's just not in my mind.

00:14:35.840 You're looking at it in a monogamous sense.

00:14:37.120 This is the best way that a man is going to be able to upkeep his masculinity.

00:14:40.160 This is the way that he's iron sharpens iron.

00:14:42.000 And you asked, like, what is the team that you're talking about with a man and a wife?

00:14:45.120 And you said watching TV together, cooking together.

00:14:47.760 You said a bunch of feminine activities. 1.00

00:14:49.200 And right now, all the women are agreeing with you, but they also disagreed with being in a relationship with you.

00:14:53.120 They said they wouldn't want to be with the bisexual guy.

00:14:54.800 I'm not trying to date any of the women here. 0.85

00:14:56.320 Number one, I don't care about dating.

00:14:57.520 Okay, but they agree with their relationship ideas, but they don't agree with.

00:15:00.400 Number two, the way that you guys describe things is like doing fun things to significant others. 0.99

00:15:04.560 Being feminine is like the, again, the gayest shit I've ever heard in my life. 1.00

00:15:07.520 Why would spending time with your girlfriend or wife be feminine? 1.00

00:15:10.720 You can spend time with, but I want to do things that are actually fun to me.

00:15:13.360 Cooking is not fun to me.

00:15:14.320 Watching TV and watching Netflix with Booby Bear, cuddling.

00:15:16.400 Okay, what are fun things to you?

00:15:17.520 What is fun to you?

00:15:19.360 Maybe we can go skydiving.

00:15:20.400 Maybe we can go camel riding.

00:15:21.760 You can do that with girls. 0.74

00:15:24.640 We can do that living in separate homes.

00:15:27.280 Yeah, but why do you while living in the same house too?

00:15:30.160 Why can't your woman be your best friend also? 1.00

00:15:32.000 Why can't she encourage you?

00:15:33.120 Women and men are never going to be friends the same way that men are going to be friends.

00:15:35.360 What if she likes guy stuff too though?

00:15:37.040 Like what if she likes video games?

00:15:38.320 I like anime, I like video games. 1.00

00:15:39.920 You said you don't want to be a guy that sucks dick and now you want a guy who's gay? 1.00

00:15:42.160 Who's video gay? 1.00

00:15:42.960 What's gay about playing video games? 1.00

00:15:44.160 How do we think of your partner? 0.67

00:15:45.200 Yeah, I like all that stuff.

00:15:46.160 You want a game with your husband? 1.00

00:15:47.680 Yes, I like games. 0.99

00:15:49.120 You want a bisexual guy.

00:15:50.240 No, I don't.

00:15:50.960 So how many of you here, right, know someone that's married?

00:15:54.240 Raise your hand.

00:15:54.800 I'm sorry, what was your question?

00:15:55.840 You know someone that's married, personally?

00:15:57.360 Yes.

00:15:57.920 Are they truly happy?

00:15:59.040 Yeah.

00:16:00.000 No.

00:16:00.240 Yeah.

00:16:00.640 No, no.

00:16:01.280 Be honest, are they really happy living together?

00:16:03.600 No.

00:16:03.760 My parents are literally high school sweethearts and they are actually happy.

00:16:07.600 Okay, anybody else?

00:16:08.720 Yes.

00:16:09.200 My aunt and uncle are also high school sweethearts.

00:16:11.280 They actually are happy.

00:16:12.320 Anybody else?

00:16:12.880 Yeah.

00:16:13.440 Like, I was raised around very healthy marriages.

00:16:16.480 Okay, outside of your family.

00:16:17.680 Anybody else?

00:16:18.720 All of my friends, my parents, I grew up around, same thing.

00:16:22.160 Still married today.

00:16:22.960 Happy as hell.

00:16:23.520 Still married today.

00:16:24.240 Still happy.

00:16:24.720 30 plus years, yes.

00:16:26.240 I would argue that they argue multiple times a month.

00:16:30.400 And ultimately speaking-

00:16:31.280 Conflict is actually healthy.

00:16:32.320 That's part of a relationship.

00:16:34.160 But stepping away and come back to that person is even better because-

00:16:37.760 That's not better.

00:16:38.240 That's the worst thing in the world.

00:16:39.280 It shows you can't even resolve conflict.

00:16:40.320 Not in marriage.

00:16:41.280 Not in marriage.

00:16:41.760 If you had a partner and you're like, listen, we're fighting.

00:16:43.600 I'm leaving for three days and I'll come back.

00:16:44.960 That's like the worst thing you could do.

00:16:46.160 Can I make an ad?

00:16:46.640 There's a difference between like avoidance and blowing off like steam, right?

00:16:49.840 Hold on, hold on.

00:16:50.320 Destiny, can I make an ad hominem? 1.00

00:16:52.000 Is it about sucking dick again? 1.00

00:16:53.120 No, it's not. 1.00

00:16:53.840 But you don't live with your wife all the time.

00:16:55.440 I literally do.

00:16:56.400 No, you don't.

00:16:57.040 We travel sometimes.

00:16:58.000 We live together like 95% of the time.

00:16:59.520 Yeah, we travel every place.

00:17:00.480 Doesn't you have an apartment in Austin?

00:17:02.160 Yeah, that she goes to like, I think she's been there like two weeks of the past year.

00:17:05.200 But I went with her last time.

00:17:06.240 We live together.

00:17:06.880 She just told me that she went to Hawaii with like.

00:17:09.360 Yeah, she was in Hawaii for a week too.

00:17:10.480 And I traveled too.

00:17:11.040 But we live together.

00:17:11.840 We don't have separate houses.

00:17:12.880 Listen, nobody here, like she said with her dad, sometimes people travel.

00:17:15.520 That's fine.

00:17:16.080 But when we're both at home, why would I want to live apart from my wife?

00:17:19.040 I love being with her.

00:17:19.760 I like spending time with her.

00:17:20.320 I like waking up in the morning.

00:17:21.680 I like drinking coffee with her.

00:17:22.480 I like hanging on the bathroom.

00:17:23.120 But you get fed up with her eventually.

00:17:24.240 And then you go your separate ways.

00:17:25.200 No, no, no, no.

00:17:25.760 I don't get fed up with her.

00:17:26.800 There are just things I like to do with other people too.

00:17:28.240 But I'm never like, I'm sick of you.

00:17:29.840 I need to get away from you.

00:17:30.720 But that's kind of what it is.

00:17:32.160 And Fresh's ultimate point.

00:17:33.200 That's not what it is at all.

00:17:34.080 If you spend 100% of your time with your significant other,

00:17:36.400 you're both going to bring each other down.

00:17:38.000 Then you end up relying on each other.

00:17:39.280 You get complacent.

00:17:40.080 You get too comfortable.

00:17:40.720 This is true.

00:17:41.440 100% of the time versus living in a separate house,

00:17:43.600 the two totally different things.

00:17:45.040 You can be together in a house and not be crowding each other all the time.

00:17:49.040 But a lot of times when Mel is at her corner of the house,

00:17:50.560 and I'm at my corner of the house doing emails, doing work, 0.99

00:17:52.000 and she's like working on her fucking Instagram and shit, right? 0.99

00:17:53.920 There are times when we're working on different things. 1.00

00:17:55.040 We're not crowding each other.

00:17:56.080 Like you can do that in the same house as possible.

00:17:57.920 Here's the thing.

00:17:58.800 Yeah.

00:17:59.120 There's three main reasons why I think you need to live a park.

00:18:01.760 Always with the list.

00:18:02.480 It's, yeah, well, you got to be able to outline that.

00:18:04.720 Is this real nice or not?

00:18:05.920 Yeah.

00:18:06.320 So number one, like I said before, it keeps the guy sharp, right? 0.99

00:18:09.680 Like he's going to be, he's going to fucking, he's going to stay sharp. 0.97

00:18:12.720 Number two, it promotes productivity. 0.99

00:18:14.160 And then number three, which is going to be kind of toxic.

00:18:17.280 It keeps the girl guessing.

00:18:18.320 Like here's the thing with women, right? 1.00

00:18:19.760 Women, once they get bored with you, that's the beginning of the end. 1.00

00:18:23.280 And when she doesn't necessarily know what you're up to all the time,

00:18:25.600 keeps her mind racing.

00:18:26.640 She's like, what's he doing?

00:18:27.440 Blah, blah, blah.

00:18:28.160 And I've always said it.

00:18:28.880 A woman's imagination is your best friend.

00:18:30.800 Being too available for being able to see what you're doing all the time.

00:18:33.520 It makes you less attractive to her because men and women are different.

00:18:36.720 But this also, like women need to feel like they're getting the best 0.97

00:18:40.880 man that they can get and they can't have them all the time. 0.99

00:18:43.040 It sucks. 0.90

00:18:43.600 But that's a necessary component for women to be attracted and aroused by you. 1.00

00:18:46.880 So again, I get where you guys are saying like, hey, for the relationship,

00:18:50.320 what the girl wants, blah, blah. 1.00

00:18:51.280 But I'm speaking from the male perspective.

00:18:53.120 How you maintain attraction in the relationship is to not always be available.

00:18:56.560 And that's the other biggest thing, too, is when she doesn't know where you're at all the time,

00:18:59.520 it has her mind racing, which is to your benefit.

00:19:01.600 You say that.

00:19:02.640 And I think in some really weird, hyper red pill world, that might be true with some women. 1.00

00:19:06.240 But the reality is, listen, you thought you were a fucking federal investigator. 1.00

00:19:10.000 A woman that is suspicious is the like most keen, crazy fucking investigator in the world. 1.00

00:19:13.680 Of course. 0.99

00:19:13.840 She's going to be driving outside your apartment. 1.00

00:19:15.280 She's going to have like a second cell phone with a SIM card. 1.00

00:19:17.280 Why the fuck would you want a relationship like that? 1.00

00:19:19.600 Hold on, hold on. 0.99

00:19:20.240 But if she's invested, right, and doing all that, what does that mean? 1.00

00:19:22.640 That means your relationship fucking sucks. 1.00

00:19:24.400 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. 1.00

00:19:25.600 That's the worst relationship ever.

00:19:26.320 That's not at all.

00:19:27.280 When a girl is chasing you, that's what I want. 1.00

00:19:30.720 I want the woman to be chasing the guy. 1.00

00:19:32.400 That's a psycho, that's a psychopath. 1.00

00:19:34.720 Because women, hold on, hold on. 1.00

00:19:35.920 When women are chasing your validation, and they're stalking you, and they're making all 1.00

00:19:38.640 these investments, that means they, number one, love you.

00:19:41.200 Number two, they care. 0.98

00:19:42.080 And number three, they're less likely to do bullshit and go off with another guy because 0.99

00:19:45.120 she's too busy chasing your validation. 0.98

00:19:46.400 Yeah, but then you're going to be like DJ acting in the lobby with a girl,

00:19:49.040 like you're hitting another girl, like you're talking to somebody.

00:19:51.520 My point is, I want the man to maintain the leverage where the girl likes him more than 0.96

00:19:55.440 she likes, more than he likes her.

00:19:56.720 And the reason for that, even though girls might hear, might say that's toxic, is because

00:20:00.320 women have so many options nowadays. 1.00

00:20:01.760 The only way that you can circumvent female hypergamy and them having all these options 1.00

00:20:05.040 is you need, she needs to like you more than you like her.

00:20:07.680 That's what it is.

00:20:08.320 That's, that's when women are the happiest, when they feel like they got the prize. 1.00

00:20:10.880 Yeah.

00:20:11.280 And for you to feel that way, you have to exemplify traits and be not living with her

00:20:14.880 allows you to have that air of mystery.

00:20:16.400 I don't think most of them would like it, but yeah,

00:20:17.760 I think that it's called playing games.

00:20:20.480 Yeah.

00:20:20.880 Like you want her to be crazy about you.

00:20:23.440 Why don't you want her to? 1.00

00:20:24.720 Okay.

00:20:24.960 So men wants women to bring them peace, right? 0.97

00:20:27.520 So why can't you bring?

00:20:28.400 Okay.

00:20:28.640 So you said playing games, right?

00:20:29.680 Yeah. 0.98

00:20:30.240 Here's the thing that sucks. 0.98

00:20:32.720 See, I wish we could be honest with women. 0.99

00:20:34.720 But the thing with women is that you guys are attracted to toxic things. 0.95

00:20:37.760 No.

00:20:38.560 Oh, really?

00:20:40.880 What's the highest selling book for females? 1.00

00:20:42.880 For females.

00:20:43.520 I'm a woman.

00:20:44.240 Fifty Shades of Grey.

00:20:45.760 Yeah.

00:20:46.320 You are a female. 1.00

00:20:47.040 But it's a fantasy.

00:20:47.680 Everybody has fantasy.

00:20:48.800 That does not have a way.

00:20:50.880 No, no, no, hold on, hold on.

00:20:52.000 Why is Fifty Shades of Grey the most popular female book? 1.00

00:20:54.560 Because girls love to be dominated. 1.00

00:20:56.960 Oh, okay.

00:20:58.240 No, hold on, hold on.

00:20:58.960 Wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:20:59.600 We forgot some other things.

00:21:00.160 No, but it's only sexual.

00:21:01.040 It's not sexual in a relationship.

00:21:04.160 It's two different things.

00:21:05.040 Yeah, but that's how you maintain sexual attraction in the relationship is you have to have the things

00:21:08.800 that Christian Grey has.

00:21:10.000 Dominant, assertive, successful.

00:21:12.160 He's the one running the relationship.

00:21:13.440 She likes him more than he likes her.

00:21:14.560 Women find these things attractive, right? 1.00

00:21:16.800 Right.

00:21:17.040 Universally.

00:21:17.520 Yeah, okay.

00:21:18.160 Maybe some women are not at all. 1.00

00:21:19.520 I get it that you guys might say, I don't like this.

00:21:20.160 It's toxic or blah, blah, blah.

00:21:21.760 But the reality is you're aroused and attracted to it.

00:21:24.000 And that's what I'm telling guys to be.

00:21:25.440 Because being a nice guy, you know, being with your girl all the time, always being available,

00:21:29.600 it's not attractive.

00:21:30.320 Okay.

00:21:30.480 Okay.

00:21:30.880 Can I tell you something?

00:21:32.480 Yeah, sure.

00:21:32.800 Okay.

00:21:33.040 So, for example, I like boring, nice guy.

00:21:37.040 I don't like...

00:21:39.360 I do.

00:21:39.840 I don't like bad guys.

00:21:40.960 I don't like...

00:21:41.920 You were in a relationship for eight years living with them.

00:21:43.760 Eight years.

00:21:43.840 What happened?

00:21:44.240 Yeah.

00:21:44.560 Oh my God.

00:21:45.600 Do you want me to tell you why we broke up?

00:21:47.920 It's pretty personal, but it was pretty much my fault.

00:21:52.000 I was pretty...

00:21:53.200 I had a...

00:21:54.560 I was pretty toxic at some point.

00:21:56.160 So you had a nice guy and you didn't like it.

00:21:57.600 No, that's not what happened.

00:21:59.520 What, you cheated?

00:22:00.160 So why are we toxic?

00:22:00.800 No, I didn't cheat.

00:22:01.600 He was nice. 0.55

00:22:02.080 So why are you toxic?

00:22:02.960 Okay, so not to give out all the story, but...

00:22:06.960 We...

00:22:08.160 No, but...

00:22:10.000 I had a phase in my life when I was a little bit toxic.

00:22:13.680 She belongs to the streets. 0.92

00:22:14.800 Don't say that.

00:22:16.720 Wait, it's funny.

00:22:17.600 You just said that you don't want toxic, that you want something calm.

00:22:20.000 I was with him.

00:22:20.640 You had a calm relationship and you started being toxic.

00:22:22.640 There's more to a relationship than just whether or not they're calm.

00:22:25.040 I was with him for eight years, so it was a roller coaster.

00:22:29.840 You know, it's not always perfect, but I was with him for eight years.

00:22:33.760 I loved him for eight years.

00:22:35.360 What did you do that was toxic?

00:22:36.560 What did I do that was toxic?

00:22:38.560 I don't want to go into that.

00:22:40.000 Okay, but basically women like drama. 1.00

00:22:42.160 Women really like drama. 1.00

00:22:43.920 Women need to be emotionally involved. 1.00

00:22:46.000 They need to be invested like they're watching a drama movie.

00:22:48.800 Yeah, but this is how you approach high school relationships and how you approach healthy,

00:22:52.720 long-term relationships. 0.98

00:22:53.440 She's a short-ass woman. 1.00

00:22:54.240 What happened? 0.98

00:22:54.640 Yeah, she was probably the longest relationship with this entire table. 0.89

00:22:58.880 Like...

00:22:59.280 It was deep.

00:22:59.920 It was a really deep stuff, family stuff.

00:23:02.720 It was like a big deal.

00:23:03.680 So it was...

00:23:04.560 I'm not going to explain and go into detail, but it was a valid reason.

00:23:08.960 But it was not like I was looking for drama.

00:23:10.800 It was like...

00:23:11.280 You said you were toxic.

00:23:13.280 Yeah, yeah, but sometimes stuff happened, you know?

00:23:15.920 So...

00:23:16.480 Well, I don't think that would have happened if he was living in a different place and

00:23:18.800 you weren't getting his attention all the time.

00:23:20.160 You probably would not have acted so toxic.

00:23:21.760 You probably started acting toxic because you got bored.

00:23:24.320 You got bored.

00:23:24.880 You needed some emotional involvement.

00:23:27.760 No, that's not true.

00:23:28.880 I started acting toxic because of my trauma, some stuff that happened.

00:23:32.240 Sometimes I do some stuff.

00:23:34.000 Emotional damage.

00:23:36.160 Sometimes I do some stuff, but everybody has their trauma.

00:23:41.200 Everybody reacts.

00:23:42.480 Everybody gets triggered and like...

00:23:44.640 So let me get it straight.

00:23:45.520 You had a nice guy that was there for you, cared for you.

00:23:47.840 Yeah.

00:23:48.160 And all of a sudden...

00:23:48.800 I was living with him.

00:23:49.680 I loved him.

00:23:50.720 He loved me.

00:23:52.080 Yeah, all of a sudden...

00:23:53.840 But it was...

00:23:54.480 No, but it was eight years.

00:23:56.640 You cannot say that.

00:23:57.760 Eight years of a good relationship.

00:23:59.120 Eight years of a nice guy.

00:24:00.000 Living together.

00:24:00.880 Randomly this traumatized feelings, this trauma came out of nowhere.

00:24:04.160 You got triggered.

00:24:04.880 Randomly.

00:24:05.280 Nothing that he did.

00:24:06.480 Nothing.

00:24:06.960 And then you ruined the relationship.

00:24:08.320 Okay, so some stuff that he was doing was triggering me into some...

00:24:11.680 What?

00:24:11.920 He got caught too hard?

00:24:12.880 I thought he was peaceful.

00:24:15.360 I don't want to go into detail because I respect that.

00:24:18.560 That's fine.

00:24:18.960 You don't have to go into detail.

00:24:19.920 My point is this.

00:24:20.720 Nice guys...

00:24:21.440 There's a reason why they say nice guys finish last.

00:24:23.680 Not always being available makes you more attractive.

00:24:26.080 That's just...

00:24:26.560 That's not true.

00:24:27.280 I'm with a nice guy right now, and I've literally left every toxic guy because they were toxic.

00:24:32.160 I come from a family that isn't the healthiest, so I want something that's healthy.

00:24:36.480 Okay, look.

00:24:36.960 You do realize that your own personal experiences don't necessarily reflect the realities of the world?

00:24:41.120 How can you say that?

00:24:43.600 We can't correlate it to the reality of the world.

00:24:45.920 Just because you're saying you like nice guys doesn't mean that a majority of women like nice guys.

00:24:49.200 So then I'm different.

00:24:50.000 Okay.

00:24:50.400 So then that means women can be different. 1.00

00:24:51.600 Congratulations.

00:24:51.680 You might be an exception to the rule, but a lot of women don't like nice guys and punish nice guys. 1.00

00:24:55.600 Okay, so who likes nice guys at the table?

00:24:57.600 Okay, just asking who likes nice guys at the table?

00:24:59.600 Raise your hand. 1.00

00:25:00.560 None of you guys said you wanted a guy who sucks dick. 1.00

00:25:02.160 My boyfriend's a nice guy. 1.00

00:25:03.040 That doesn't mean it's the same thing.

00:25:05.760 That's the furthest nice guy pill.

00:25:08.080 I have a question.

00:25:09.040 I like nice guys.

00:25:09.360 There's a reason why nice guys finish last has stood the test of time,

00:25:12.160 and it's a saying because women punish men that pedestalize them. 1.00

00:25:14.960 That's the point.

00:25:15.600 Just because you don't punish your guy for pedestalizing you doesn't mean that a majority of women aren't. 1.00

00:25:19.440 Okay, that's fair.

00:25:19.920 Nice guys finish last is a saying that simps use to try to justify why they don't have a woman.

00:25:24.240 You could be a nice guy.

00:25:25.040 No, they're not. 1.00

00:25:26.720 They're losers usually. 0.99

00:25:27.840 Yeah. 0.93

00:25:28.080 And they're people that are nice.

00:25:29.120 No, no, no, no, no, no. 0.99

00:25:30.240 There's nothing nice about being a clingy, desperate loser. 0.99

00:25:33.120 I agree. 0.89

00:25:33.840 They're nice guys to women.

00:25:35.200 No, no, no, they're not nice.

00:25:36.160 Women don't like that. 1.00

00:25:36.720 They're actually very annoying. 0.99

00:25:37.760 They're super annoying.

00:25:38.640 Nobody likes that.

00:25:39.440 I definitely agree.

00:25:40.320 So they're nice guys for a reason.

00:25:41.680 They want to smash without saying it directly.

00:25:43.920 That's why they're nice.

00:25:44.800 Which is because they're a simps.

00:25:46.160 So they're being fake nice.

00:25:47.680 Yes, yes.

00:25:48.640 But actual nice guys do pretty well.

00:25:50.560 Kind of is.

00:25:50.960 Because most people like being respected.

00:25:52.560 I agree.

00:25:53.840 But that's what the phrase is about though.

00:25:55.040 That is what the phrase is about.

00:25:55.920 When people say, anytime you hear a guy be like, nice guys, finish last. 0.92

00:25:58.800 It's usually some loser that's creepy, clingy, and has nothing going on for them. 0.93

00:26:02.720 Listen, bro. 0.98

00:26:03.200 I'm a nice guy.

00:26:04.480 But I have an edge to me, which means to be not as nice.

00:26:06.880 Sure.

00:26:07.280 You're saying simps are nice guys.

00:26:09.920 Right?

00:26:10.160 I'm saying that nice guys finish last is not necessarily true.

00:26:12.800 Yeah. 1.00

00:26:13.200 People like people that, when people say, here's a saying that people say, women like assholes. 1.00

00:26:16.640 No, they don't. 1.00

00:26:17.200 They like guys that can be confident and aggressive, but it doesn't even have to be a dick. 0.98

00:26:20.560 Right? 0.94

00:26:20.880 Like I can tell like an edgy joke to a woman where I joke about like a dress or something. 0.99

00:26:24.480 That's going to hit a lot differently calling one fat and old.

00:26:26.720 Right?

00:26:27.200 Yeah.

00:26:27.280 One of those is like aggressive and confident and edgy. 0.99

00:26:29.280 And it was just fucking me. 1.00

00:26:30.160 Nobody wants to be an actual asshole. 1.00

00:26:31.680 That's not like a fun experience. 0.99

00:26:32.880 You just want to be something that's confident has an edge to them.

00:26:34.800 Yeah. 0.93

00:26:35.120 You have a better, you have a better chance being a not being a dick than being a nice 0.92

00:26:39.200 guy is the point. 0.90

00:26:39.680 If we have to go off two extremes, the point is this, this is the bottom line.

00:26:42.400 Don't pedestalize women. 1.00

00:26:43.520 Sure.

00:26:43.840 I agree with that.

00:26:44.640 But I don't think literally your wife is pedestalized.

00:26:46.480 Can I just say real quick, spending all your time with your chick is pedestalizing. 1.00

00:26:50.880 Can I just say one, one thing I like.

00:26:53.920 Okay.

00:26:54.320 So I get what you guys are saying.

00:26:55.520 Definitely makes sense.

00:26:56.640 Like when you separate with someone, when you're in the heat of an argument and that

00:26:59.760 can diffuse things and it can also cause you to not pedestalize your woman. 0.79

00:27:03.440 But should we really be doing that and making these ridiculous, you know, uh, rules like

00:27:07.920 we need to live separately versus just learning how to personally develop ourselves to have

00:27:11.440 these conversations in our relationships and actually work through these hardships and difficult

00:27:15.520 times versus needing to literally vacate and go to a whole separate place just to diffuse

00:27:21.040 the tension or not.

00:27:22.080 Like, isn't this something that we can learn intrinsically just one-on-one in relationships?

00:27:26.720 A lot of those conversations are just for the women. 1.00

00:27:29.120 It's for women to talk it out because she's feeling emotional so that you can bring the 0.97

00:27:32.240 man down to an emotional level.

00:27:33.680 That's going to make me more beta.

00:27:36.480 It's going to make me, my energy is going to be lower.

00:27:39.120 I'm going to be at your level.

00:27:40.240 You're going to cry.

00:27:40.960 I'm going to have to talk it out.

00:27:41.920 We're going to watch a thing.

00:27:42.640 We're going to cuddle and that's, I'm not going to be at my perfect self. 0.99

00:27:48.080 I'm going to be gay. 0.98

00:27:48.720 I don't want to be gay. 1.00

00:27:50.800 I'd rather be at my, I'm not being able to talk to women, not being able to live with 1.00

00:27:54.320 women like this is what you're talking about. 1.00

00:27:57.120 You're describing gay. 0.82

00:27:58.240 I want to be, I want to be able to talk to my woman, but a lot of those conversations 0.89

00:28:03.520 that you're talking about where you need to get to know them all the time, you want to

00:28:05.840 see the good and the bad.

00:28:06.960 I want to see all, I want to see the real you.

00:28:08.960 I don't want to see all the bad stuff.

00:28:10.640 I want to know about it, but why do I have to deal with that?

00:28:12.800 A good relationship is about putting your best foot forward at all times and making

00:28:16.080 each other happier.

00:28:17.600 Hold up.

00:28:17.920 Why does love for a lot of these people equate to being, showing your bad stuff too, crying

00:28:23.120 all the time, arguing.

00:28:24.160 That's the real, no, it doesn't have to be that.

00:28:26.000 Why can't we just put our best foot forward at all times?

00:28:28.000 You don't do that in every relationship.

00:28:30.400 You don't do that with your friendships either.

00:28:31.520 You don't do that with your family.

00:28:32.240 Ideally you do.

00:28:33.040 No, absolutely not.

00:28:34.240 That's the most ideal friendship.

00:28:35.200 Friends are supposed to be there for you when you're down too.

00:28:37.280 Not just like only my best foot forward, right?

00:28:39.360 Okay, look, look, look.

00:28:40.560 This is going to end all.

00:28:41.520 The bottom line is this simply, why you should not live with your girl. 0.53

00:28:44.960 It makes you more attractive as a man, period.

00:28:47.600 None of y'all can argue that because you're working on yourself.

00:28:50.320 You're busy.

00:28:51.040 You're not always available.

00:28:52.160 These are things that are inherently attractive.

00:28:54.240 So therefore you will be more attractive to your girl, even though she doesn't like it.

00:28:57.680 That's the bottom line.

00:28:58.560 Why you should not live with the girl.

00:28:59.520 It's not from the female perspective.

00:29:00.880 It's from the male perspective, but you being a more attractive mate, not always being available.

00:29:04.800 All right.

00:29:06.000 At a deeper level, as a man, we're on YouTube and Rumble guys.

00:29:10.800 Come on over.

00:29:11.200 Let's say we argue, right?

00:29:12.320 And we become at odds.

00:29:14.400 And you say, you know what? 1.00

00:29:15.360 Fuck this nigga. 1.00

00:29:16.080 I'm going to call the police and say that he hit me. 1.00

00:29:18.000 Guess what?

00:29:19.040 Now I'm on the house and you can stay in the house for free.

00:29:21.840 So ultimately speaking, it could be in a man's not best interest to live with you because

00:29:25.520 you can mess him up at any point in time.

00:29:27.040 But that's with a toxic girl that would call the police. 1.00

00:29:30.000 Toxic has multiple meanings and what she's saying is that she's more so talking about

00:29:40.240 is that sometimes you develop self-sabotaging behavior and you become aware of it and you

00:29:50.000 try to heal and grow and learn.

00:29:52.240 So now the next time that she comes into a serious relationship, she'll be more aware

00:29:57.600 of those things that trigger her and she'll be able to better move through those feelings.

00:30:00.720 But wait, time out.

00:30:03.120 What I wanted to say before was that you yourself said, oh, you can't apply this standard to

00:30:08.960 the world universally.

00:30:10.320 But then here you are trying to apply standards universally to all women.

00:30:13.440 So that's a neutral perspective.

00:30:15.200 You cannot apply universal things.

00:30:19.120 The bottom line is that I will have my dating preferences and I will have my standards and

00:30:23.680 I will have my expectations.

00:30:25.120 And the girl next to me might have completely different ones.

00:30:27.440 The man across you might have completely different ones.

00:30:29.680 We don't need to compare and contrast.

00:30:31.760 I'm going to look for somebody that aligns with my sets, whatever they are.

00:30:36.000 You're going to look for somebody that aligns with yours.

00:30:37.840 And we're both going to live full, happy lives.

00:30:40.720 Like there's the debate and the argument of like you trying to get people to agree.

00:30:45.440 Like what we're trying to agree on is not going to ever be agreeable because we're all

00:30:50.000 different people.

00:30:51.680 So it's like you're applying universal thinking.

00:30:54.320 Yeah, but there are things that women are universally attracted to and not being available 1.00

00:30:57.920 is definitely one of them.

00:30:59.280 There is a difference between like when you open a relationship versus like when you're

00:31:04.960 married, right?

00:31:05.920 Like if you're, for instance, if you're like just getting to know a girl, even all agree

00:31:09.280 that there are certain things you could keep in mind.

00:31:10.720 So for instance, not responding to her text immediately or some shit like that, there are

00:31:13.680 some games you could play that might be understandable to make it so more desirable. 0.67

00:31:16.640 But at this point, like if I text my wife or she texts me, we have to respond instantly. 0.99

00:31:19.680 Why the fuck are we playing games with each other? 1.00

00:31:20.880 We're fucking married. 1.00

00:31:21.440 We're past that shit. 1.00

00:31:22.320 Right? 1.00

00:31:22.640 I feel like once you get past the early game shit, you should be able to just be open 0.97

00:31:25.360 and open and open and open and open and open and open and open and open and open. 0.98

00:31:27.760 You got to keep playing it, bro.

00:31:28.880 That's it.

00:31:29.280 See, that's why so many guys get in battle and get divorced. 0.82

00:31:31.680 Like, yo, you got to keep playing the game even when you're in the relationship with

00:31:35.120 a girl, because the thing with women is that they're emotional creatures. 1.00

00:31:37.280 You got to constantly stimulate their emotions.

00:31:38.720 But that's so true for you, because you always have your guard up.

00:31:41.600 Why don't you get your guard down?

00:31:43.200 If you always play games with a girl, you're like, the reason why men have to play games 1.00

00:31:47.440 with women is because women's are the fucking, like, they literally play the games. 1.00

00:31:50.960 They start the games. 1.00

00:31:53.280 What are the ones that say, oh, I'm not going to text them back, or let me pretend to try

00:31:56.720 hard and not try hard?

00:31:57.280 Some women does that. 1.00

00:31:58.160 Some men does that. 0.68

00:31:59.120 A lot of women play games. 1.00

00:32:00.320 The reason why, yo, I wish we could walk up to girls like, I find you attractive. 1.00

00:32:04.720 Let's fornicate. 1.00

00:32:05.520 But that would never work, because women don't operate that way. 1.00

00:32:08.240 You guys don't operate on direct communication.

00:32:10.000 I wish I could go up to y'all and tell you what I really think, but I can't.

00:32:12.640 I have to play games.

00:32:13.520 I have to pretend like I'm attracted to you. 1.00

00:32:14.960 I have to pretend like I'm going to go ahead and care about your fucking problems. 1.00

00:32:17.360 I got to take you on three dates. 1.00

00:32:18.560 I got to hear your shit, blah, blah, blah. 1.00

00:32:20.160 I got to bring you back to my place. 1.00

00:32:21.280 Make sure the place is clean.

00:32:22.080 You don't want to do that?

00:32:23.200 It's called being in a relationship.

00:32:24.880 No, no, no, no.

00:32:25.600 It's called dating.

00:32:26.640 What I'm trying to say is that women want the game, so you have to play the game. 1.00

00:32:29.680 So the thing is that you got to play the game better than them.

00:32:31.680 And the big part to play the game is to maintain and leverage, make sure she likes you more 1.00

00:32:34.800 than you like her, and make sure that you stay attractive.

00:32:36.880 But staying attractive a lot of times comes in from not always being available.

00:32:39.920 That's what I want to ask.

00:32:40.400 Okay, can I ask one question and I'll give you all the floor.

00:32:42.480 Can we go around the table?

00:32:43.200 How many girls here have been in a decently long-term relationship? 1.00

00:32:45.360 So we'll say six months plus that have enjoyed having a guy like, 1.00

00:32:48.800 fuck with your head like this, where you're like, oh yeah, 1.00

00:32:50.720 like he's not responding for a week or whatever. 1.00

00:32:52.320 They're not going to admit it, bro.

00:32:53.040 They're not going to admit that, bro.

00:32:54.080 Okay.

00:32:54.480 It's a toxic trait.

00:32:55.680 They're not going to admit it.

00:32:56.880 They're not going to admit it.

00:32:57.680 Who would?

00:32:58.320 I've talked to a lot of women. 1.00

00:33:00.000 I've never heard somebody say, yeah, like my boyfriend, he didn't text me back for like

00:33:03.600 three days.

00:33:04.080 And that was just like the best thing.

00:33:05.200 They won't.

00:33:05.680 They won't like that.

00:33:06.240 They won't like that.

00:33:06.880 Especially on camera, they won't say it.

00:33:08.720 Most women are addicted to emotions, so it's a stimulant. 1.00

00:33:11.120 What is most women are addicted to emotions? 1.00

00:33:12.880 Everybody's addicted to emotions.

00:33:13.920 We're emotional creatures.

00:33:14.880 It's a stimulant because you don't get complacent in it if you're constantly wondering like, 1.00

00:33:18.480 damn, does this nigga fuck with me? 1.00

00:33:19.280 Okay, that's fine, but if you live your life- 1.00

00:33:20.640 That keeps you literally focused on one person instead of getting attention from other people.

00:33:24.960 It doesn't.

00:33:25.280 She'll lose interest.

00:33:26.400 She's not going to stay with you if you play games with it, number one. 0.72

00:33:28.240 And number two, the only types of girls that will maintain interest are the girls are going 1.00

00:33:31.760 to show up at 6 a.m. slash your tires.

00:33:33.440 That's the type of girls that you're picking for. 1.00

00:33:35.920 If you're a man and you have a frame, she's going to respect you and not be that crazy.

00:33:38.400 No, she won't respect you.

00:33:39.360 My man can't even live with me?

00:33:40.560 My man can't even live with me?

00:33:41.760 You think she's going to respect that?

00:33:42.720 That's insane.

00:33:43.200 That's where a frame comes in.

00:33:44.160 What is the frame?

00:33:45.040 If a woman respects you.

00:33:45.760 The frame is I can't be around you for more than four days in a row without like being weak.

00:33:48.640 The frame is his dominance and knowing to put you in your place because

00:33:51.040 What is your place?

00:33:51.840 They're placed in a separate house. 1.00

00:33:53.280 If you show up to his fucking house unannounced, he's going to be like, yo, this is done. 1.00

00:33:56.640 That's where frame comes in. 1.00

00:33:57.680 She understands that you hate her, that you're there to fuck. 1.00

00:34:02.400 These are like the most adversarial relationships I've ever heard in my life. 1.00

00:34:05.280 What?

00:34:05.840 These relationships are adversarial.

00:34:07.520 Are you serious right now?

00:34:09.040 Yeah.

00:34:09.760 Are you serious right now?

00:34:11.600 Is he serious right now?

00:34:13.040 If you respect somebody, it doesn't matter how crazy you get, you get in your emotions. 0.99

00:34:17.040 You aren't going to just pull up to their fucking house with unannounced without their permission, 0.98

00:34:21.440 because you're going to know he's going to he's not going to tolerate that. 0.99

00:34:24.240 That's what frame is knowing that he's the leader.

00:34:26.560 He's in charge.

00:34:27.360 You don't go over there unless he announced like he tells you to come.

00:34:30.880 Okay.

00:34:31.280 Well, I think in a relationship where two people love each other,

00:34:33.120 I think showing up unannounced can be like a fun surprise sometimes.

00:34:35.440 But I guess you guys like.

00:34:36.160 No, man shows up on a woman. 1.00

00:34:38.080 That's the man.

00:34:38.720 That's the serenading.

00:34:39.680 The man shows up on the woman unannounced.

00:34:41.200 It's the woman should never show up on the man unannounced. 0.97

00:34:43.200 Okay.

00:34:43.440 Yeah.

00:34:44.000 I'm sorry.

00:34:44.400 That's crazy.

00:34:45.040 And I would say relationships.

00:34:46.640 I mean, if you look at like what men want, first of all, women want, it's inherently adversarial. 0.77

00:34:50.880 And the reason why is because men are looking for sex. 0.99

00:34:53.040 Women are looking for resources, time and attention. 1.00

00:34:54.880 And it's a dance between the two genders to get the other commodity from the other 1.00

00:34:58.640 without giving up there.

00:34:59.520 So, for example.

00:35:00.080 That's not even true, though.

00:35:01.200 Really?

00:35:01.840 Really?

00:35:02.240 Let me explain.

00:35:02.880 Well, no, no, wait.

00:35:03.440 Hold on.

00:35:03.760 Before you do your explanation.

00:35:05.120 This is the easiest thing in the world.

00:35:06.160 Okay.

00:35:06.640 If you.

00:35:07.280 I can make so many personal texts here and I'm not doing it.

00:35:09.120 I might be so personal with that.

00:35:10.320 I want you to.

00:35:11.120 I want you to.

00:35:12.240 Listen, if you go and you find an incel.

00:35:14.800 Okay.

00:35:15.040 An actual incel.

00:35:16.080 All right.

00:35:16.560 What is the thing they're looking for most in life?

00:35:18.080 I mean.

00:35:18.960 A hug.

00:35:19.600 It's not sex.

00:35:20.480 They want the love and warmth and compassion of being in a relationship, right?

00:35:23.360 That's what people, that's what guys and the sex.

00:35:25.360 Sure.

00:35:25.760 But not just sex, but the idea that somebody loves them and accepts them enough to have 0.99

00:35:28.400 sex with them. 0.99

00:35:29.040 That's why you can't tell an incel. 1.00

00:35:30.240 Yo, just go buy a prostitute and go fuck her for a night. 1.00

00:35:32.160 Or that's why you can't tell any man. 1.00

00:35:33.360 Like if you make enough money, just fuck a different hooker every night. 1.00

00:35:35.120 Because you don't want to fuck hooker. 1.00

00:35:36.000 You want somebody that loves and accepts you. 1.00

00:35:37.040 That's part of being in a relationship.

00:35:38.000 Here's the thing, you didn't refute what I was trying to say was the two genders are 0.98

00:35:42.320 adversarial in general.

00:35:43.280 And the reason why is because both parties want something from the other without necessarily

00:35:46.480 giving up their situation.

00:35:47.440 I'll give you, if you got a court to grow, right?

00:35:49.360 She wants time, attention, and resources from that man before she gives him sex, right? 1.00

00:35:53.440 And I guess, how do I say this?

00:35:55.920 An indicator of a man having good game is being able to not give all that up while simultaneously 0.83

00:35:59.760 getting sex. 0.68

00:36:00.240 That's the parameter that guys use to establish if a guy has good game. 0.58

00:36:03.120 So what I'm saying is that the two genders want the commodity that the other one has 1.00

00:36:06.720 without giving up their commodity.

00:36:08.080 So it's inherently adversarial.

00:36:09.520 Now, I get what you're saying.

00:36:10.320 Oh, well, you're in a relationship, et cetera.

00:36:12.000 You still have to play the game when you're with your wife. 0.96

00:36:13.600 I think the goal is that if you're with a person, you enjoy giving them the time,

00:36:18.000 the attention, the resources, because it makes both of you happy.

00:36:19.760 But if you give it to them in an abundant fashion, they don't respect it anymore.

00:36:22.480 And here's the thing, dude, I wish it wasn't like that.

00:36:24.160 But women don't respect you when they have leverage. 1.00

00:36:26.160 I think when you're selecting for crazy women like this, maybe, but for most women, 1.00

00:36:29.840 I think they want you to want to spend time and attention and resources on it. 0.94

00:36:32.560 Because it's fun.

00:36:33.120 To get the best out of your girl, to get the best out of your girl where she's super loyal to you.

00:36:36.640 She's not doing anything else on the side. 0.97

00:36:38.160 She fucking only loves, admires, respects you. 1.00

00:36:39.760 There's no fuck shit. 1.00

00:36:40.560 And she stays loyal to you. 1.00

00:36:41.840 You must have the leverage as the man.

00:36:43.120 She must have the fear of God that if you leave her, 0.99

00:36:45.920 her life is going to suck significantly more. 0.90

00:36:47.680 So what's she going to do? 0.99

00:36:48.400 I'm telling you, women operate the best when they're stepping on eggshells, 1.00

00:36:52.160 not trying to get you mad or get broken up with.

00:36:54.320 I think if you spend three days a week away from your woman, 1.00

00:36:56.480 she's going to be sucking up her dick in like two months. 1.00

00:36:58.240 That's not true. 1.00

00:37:06.960 Can I ask a question?

00:37:07.520 Actually, the ultimate question, okay?

00:37:09.120 The best way to get loyalty then, it should be military men, 0.99

00:37:11.200 because they're leaving for fucking years at a time, 0.98

00:37:12.960 and they get cheated on in like two weeks after they step out of the house. 0.99

00:37:14.960 It's not about how much time you spend away.

00:37:16.400 Loyalty to your country versus loyalty to a woman are two different things. 1.00

00:37:18.320 It's not about how much time, come on, man.

00:37:20.640 Years is different than a couple days.

00:37:22.720 Bumble clock.

00:37:24.080 Bad argument.

00:37:25.040 Okay, you have a question or we can move on?

00:37:26.320 Yeah, someone else has some.

00:37:27.440 I did, if it's okay.

00:37:29.120 I'm genuinely curious, Myron,

00:37:30.400 because I saw a little clip of yours that went through,

00:37:32.080 and I'm wondering if maybe where it's getting tripped up is that,

00:37:36.800 you know, we're talking about normal people's perception of like dating

00:37:40.000 versus you guys are trying to instill the high value perspective, right?

00:37:43.600 Yeah.

00:37:43.920 One of the clips I saw you basically said that like,

00:37:45.840 you should never actually fall in love with your woman.

00:37:48.160 Yeah.

00:37:48.400 I don't know if I misconstrued that.

00:37:49.680 Could you like elaborate on that a little bit more and maybe explain

00:37:52.320 like how that maybe correlates to what you're talking about here?

00:37:54.960 You shouldn't pedestalize her and think that you're in love the way that movies tell you

00:37:58.800 to be in love.

00:37:59.680 Like, she's your world.

00:38:00.640 Like, she's your everything where you give everything away to her,

00:38:03.200 because then you end up living with her for eight years,

00:38:05.200 and then she talks about triggering and trauma,

00:38:07.200 and she'll end the relationship for no reason.

00:38:08.880 Like, you can invest everything into a relationship,

00:38:11.040 but that's not inherently what women want. 1.00

00:38:13.680 Women want to constantly try to chase your validation. 1.00

00:38:16.000 It is what it is.

00:38:16.720 You call it game.

00:38:17.680 You're playing games.

00:38:18.560 There's a reason why it's called game when you try to pick up a girl. 0.99

00:38:20.960 It's always a game.

00:38:21.920 Love is a back and forth.

00:38:22.880 You say it's adversarial, but you are always in competition to some extent. 1.00

00:38:26.400 Women will constantly shit test you. 1.00

00:38:27.840 They always want to see if you're the man that's capable of leading. 1.00

00:38:29.920 They want to see if you're the guy in charge.

00:38:31.440 If you're spending eight years with her all the time,

00:38:33.360 you're going to lose your frame.

00:38:34.480 You're going to lose that masculine essence about you.

00:38:36.560 That's what attracted her to you in the first place.

00:38:38.720 That's not true.

00:38:39.840 All right, so I think she asked me, but it's okay.

00:38:44.000 My thing is, I say you don't fall in love with a woman. 0.99

00:38:46.160 You have love for a woman, and the reason why I say you don't fall in love

00:38:48.320 is because when a man falls in love,

00:38:49.600 what ends up happening is the rational thought is gone.

00:38:51.520 Now they're acting off of emotion, and the last thing you want to be as a man

00:38:54.160 is acting off of emotion with your woman.

00:38:55.760 That's her job to fall in love and be emotional. 1.00

00:38:57.680 Women need that. 1.00

00:38:58.480 Men don't need that. 1.00

00:38:59.200 Men need to be in a rational mindset at all times, even when dealing with their girl, 1.00

00:39:02.160 because the thing is is that when you're with a girl and she does stupid 1.00

00:39:04.640 shit or pisses you off or she disobeys you or whatever, 1.00

00:39:06.800 you need to be in the rational frame to be like, 1.00

00:39:08.720 that wasn't acceptable behavior.

00:39:10.080 This needs to be corrected right now.

00:39:11.280 But you can't operate and tell your girl that if you're in love with her.

00:39:13.840 Right.

00:39:14.160 You don't but don't you feel like guys are so much more logical anyway?

00:39:17.840 Just naturally that that they can supersede that even if they have feminized men nowadays 0.99

00:39:22.560 that think that falling in love is the way to go.

00:39:24.160 And the reality is, no, you don't fall in love.

00:39:25.600 You're not a woman. 1.00

00:39:26.480 You need to be the leader in the relationship,

00:39:28.240 always have frame and be the dominant.

00:39:29.600 And by doing to do that, you have to have love for her and not fall in love with her.

00:39:32.560 But guys nowadays are extremely feminized

00:39:34.240 and they think that they can love a woman the same way she loves him.

00:39:36.480 And that's not going to work.

00:39:37.680 Do you want your woman to fall in love with you? 0.74

00:39:39.360 Yes, that's how it's got to go.

00:39:40.560 So then you have to be true to who you actually are and not pretend.

00:39:43.200 You have to be able to be a human and let her love you as a human,

00:39:46.160 because that's a bigger game.

00:39:47.280 If we can solve your brain and figure out what's actually in your head.

00:39:50.400 So even if you have fantasies.

00:39:52.080 You can't solve our brain though.

00:39:53.040 That's the problem.

00:39:53.360 But we can help you become a better man.

00:39:55.200 So that's a better game.

00:39:56.240 No, you can't.

00:39:56.800 That's a better game for us to change.

00:39:58.240 Hold on, hold on.

00:39:58.880 This is why you're wrong.

00:39:59.680 Because women love men opportunistically for what they provide. 1.00

00:40:02.160 You wouldn't even give me a chance if I wasn't the man in the first place.

00:40:04.400 Maybe you have to provide more than just finances.

00:40:05.840 You might be able to help me come in and make me a little bit better,

00:40:07.520 but you're not going to make me the man.

00:40:09.280 I was already the man, which is why you fell in love with me in the first place.

00:40:11.440 But if you can't be a man while living with me,

00:40:13.120 are you really the man if you don't have control?

00:40:15.520 What do you mean?

00:40:15.920 I do have control.

00:40:16.480 You don't have control.

00:40:17.040 That's why I'm leaving the house and going to my other one.

00:40:18.160 But you have to leave.

00:40:19.040 So you're running from your own self-control.

00:40:21.280 Oh, that's a nice reframe.

00:40:22.240 I'm not running.

00:40:22.720 I'm choosing to leave because I want to leave and I don't want to be around you all the time.

00:40:25.360 Do you not have the self-control?

00:40:26.160 It's not about self-control.

00:40:27.120 It's about I know what women are attracted to, 1.00

00:40:28.720 and I know what's best for the relationship to last.

00:40:30.720 So I'm not going to give my girl all my time and attention at all times because women don't respect that. 1.00

00:40:35.200 But you're saying men become weak when they live with their women. 0.98

00:40:37.280 They do.

00:40:37.760 Then that's their fault.

00:40:38.960 That's not the woman's fault. 0.84

00:40:39.760 That's the man's fault.

00:40:40.480 No, no.

00:40:40.880 But see, here's the thing.

00:40:41.440 You got to set yourself up in an environment to win sometimes.

00:40:43.760 Being around your girl all the time is going to make you softer.

00:40:46.000 There's a reason why men that get married to have kids, their testosterone drops.

00:40:49.360 You have to do things sometimes overtly to make sure that you still maintain the edge.

00:40:53.200 I want to say something.

00:40:54.400 I think it happens because when a man is spending the most time with the women, 0.99

00:41:02.400 they're always on their feminine side. 1.00

00:41:04.960 Because as a woman, you always want to stay home. 1.00

00:41:07.360 Well, most of the time you want to stay home and you want to be on your feminine. 0.91

00:41:10.800 So if the man is always at home, they're not complimenting themselves.

00:41:17.440 They're always on their feminine with the women. 1.00

00:41:20.160 So we as women, we always want the masculine side of the men.

00:41:24.320 And we want to stay like 100% all the time.

00:41:26.480 So that's why they, yeah, basically they'll need space inside for themselves to keep like

00:41:32.000 that masculine in.

00:41:33.040 Right.

00:41:33.680 You know what I mean?

00:41:34.320 Can I just, on that note, I think it's this ideology that if you live with your woman, 0.99

00:41:39.680 you suddenly have no other outside life and your lives just completely merged together.

00:41:43.680 Both parties should still be independent.

00:41:45.840 You should still have friends.

00:41:46.880 You should still have a job.

00:41:48.400 Like if you have to travel for work, like these are other outlets that you're not around

00:41:52.880 just women all the time. 1.00

00:41:54.000 Like you still have male friends.

00:41:55.600 I mean, yes, of course, but if you're living with your partner all the time,

00:42:00.560 you're going to spend a hundred percent.

00:42:02.240 Well, most of the time with your partner.

00:42:04.160 So that is not true.

00:42:05.520 I mean, you know, when you live together with a partner, you have,

00:42:08.720 unless you're literally in like fucking New York City and like a box with each other, 0.98

00:42:11.920 like you have different parts of the house you hang out in. 0.89

00:42:13.920 Just because you're living together doesn't mean you spend every waking moment together.

00:42:16.480 It's the same space though.

00:42:18.240 It doesn't matter.

00:42:18.880 It doesn't mean you're right next to each other.

00:42:20.080 For a healthy relationship.

00:42:20.960 Unless you look at a big ass mansion, she's on the other side. 1.00

00:42:22.480 You're going to see her destiny. 0.96

00:42:22.960 I don't need a big, bro.

00:42:23.520 I live in Miami just like you do, okay? 0.99

00:42:25.040 I don't have a fucking mansion out here, okay? 0.99

00:42:26.320 You're going to see her. 0.99

00:42:26.960 You could be, yeah, you're going to see her, but that's okay.

00:42:28.640 You should be able to be around each other and not be in each other's face 100% of the time.

00:42:32.240 But like really basic things like being able to sleep together every day,

00:42:35.040 being able to wake up in the morning and see each other.

00:42:36.400 Like these are things you can do without like encroaching in each other's space.

00:42:38.480 Like it's a fine thing.

00:42:39.120 But if you're sleeping, you're definitely encroaching on their space.

00:42:41.840 You're sleeping with them every day.

00:42:43.600 It's literally your bed right there.

00:42:45.120 That's your space.

00:42:45.760 What's wrong with it?

00:42:46.320 If they're satisfying you.

00:42:48.160 Again, they won't be all the time.

00:42:49.440 Again, ladies, ladies, you guys are failing to realize that I'm talking about the man maintaining

00:42:53.280 attraction with the woman.

00:42:54.560 Always being available for your girl is going to make you less attractive, period. 0.99

00:42:59.520 But I mean, I see you're saying we're failing to understand something and other

00:43:03.600 women are just disagreeing and expressing that we're attracted to other things. 1.00

00:43:07.200 And maybe we fall in this exception that you're talking about.

00:43:10.080 Hold on, hold on.

00:43:10.400 Let me stop you real quick. 0.99

00:43:11.040 What women say they're attracted to and what they're aroused by are two different things. 0.94

00:43:13.600 Women typically give politically correct answers when it comes to what they're attracted to. 1.00

00:43:16.720 They will never say the truth about I like you to spank me and, you know,

00:43:19.920 pull my hair. 0.99

00:43:20.320 And choke you. 1.00

00:43:21.120 I want you to choke me. 1.00

00:43:22.080 Oh, I want you to ignore me. 0.97

00:43:23.360 I want you to have other women so that I feel like I'm the one being picked versus that.

00:43:26.080 Women will never actually admit what they're really 1.00

00:43:28.400 attracted to and what they're aroused by because it's politically-

00:43:30.240 You can say that, but you're never going to find women outside of these

00:43:33.360 very hyper niche red pill spaces that are like, oh yeah,

00:43:35.600 like I found a really good guy.

00:43:36.720 He leaves like half the week every week.

00:43:38.000 That's never going to happen.

00:43:39.280 I'm going to admit that.

00:43:39.920 That's my point.

00:43:40.640 No, no.

00:43:41.200 Those relations don't exist.

00:43:42.320 No, they don't exist.

00:43:42.960 They don't exist.

00:43:43.680 They don't exist.

00:43:44.720 No, no, no.

00:43:44.880 They don't exist.

00:43:45.280 Most guys just don't have the ability to do so.

00:43:47.280 If most guys don't have the ability to do it, then most relations aren't like that by default.

00:43:49.840 Most guys don't have the ability to do it.

00:43:51.120 So they have to go ahead and do what?

00:43:52.320 Submit to the woman's will. 0.99

00:43:53.360 Live with her.

00:43:53.920 Give her all this attention. 0.50

00:43:54.880 Why do you say submit to the woman's will? 0.94

00:43:55.840 Maybe you both enjoy it.

00:43:56.800 That's not what men are in here.

00:43:58.800 What they're talking about is probably mercy subconscious as well.

00:44:02.400 Because like, for example, my ex, when he would leave and like go away to work somewhere

00:44:05.520 for like a week, I would miss him so fucking much while he was gone, like so much.

00:44:10.080 And so like, I see the point. 0.93

00:44:11.760 I get what you're saying, Destiny, but it's not like, oh,

00:44:14.240 I'm going to blatantly do this just to avert this reaction.

00:44:17.200 It's just something that naturally happens.

00:44:18.800 Yeah, no, no.

00:44:19.360 But what you're saying is true when people go on trips and stuff, you do that.

00:44:21.600 But that's different than like, we've got it structured.

00:44:23.200 So I'm gone 180 days of the year.

00:44:25.200 That's what I'm saying.

00:44:26.480 Like, I agree with you in that regard.

00:44:27.760 But psychologically, what they're saying makes sense.

00:44:29.440 No, no, no, no, no, no, hold on.

00:44:30.640 Psychologically, what they're saying doesn't make sense.

00:44:31.840 Because it's a big difference between my man wants to go somewhere for a week

00:44:34.400 because he's got responsibilities or whatever.

00:44:35.760 Versus I'm putting four days of space between us

00:44:37.680 because I've decided that's what I need to do to make you like it.

00:44:41.520 Planning that, true, but ultimately the outcome is the same.

00:44:44.080 When someone is away and you miss them.

00:44:45.520 No, no, no.

00:44:45.920 The same, the same.

00:44:47.280 But okay, again, the intention, I completely agree with what you're saying there.

00:44:51.840 Okay, thank you, okay.

00:44:52.480 But it doesn't have to be structured like I'm going to spend exactly,

00:44:54.720 you don't have to write out the calendar days of when you're going to go spend time.

00:44:57.040 It really doesn't matter how much.

00:44:58.800 If you were to tell your woman, listen, on Saturday, 0.94

00:45:00.720 I'm going to leave the house.

00:45:01.360 And she's like, well, what's up?

00:45:02.000 It's like, I just want to like get away from you for a day.

00:45:03.920 No, no, you don't say that.

00:45:04.800 You don't say that.

00:45:05.920 So now you're lying about why you're leaving the house every week.

00:45:08.000 Here's the thing, you don't explain yourself.

00:45:09.440 That's another thing too.

00:45:10.160 Like, bro, I don't explain myself to women.

00:45:12.560 I'm just going to do this.

00:45:13.280 I'll see you later.

00:45:13.840 That's it.

00:45:14.400 I don't sit here and negotiate or any of the stuff.

00:45:16.160 I'm the leader.

00:45:16.880 She's a subordinate. 1.00

00:45:18.080 I don't owe her a fucking answer. 0.99

00:45:18.960 It's either she falls into frame or she doesn't, 0.99

00:45:20.640 or the relationship is not going to work.

00:45:22.080 We're not equal.

00:45:23.040 I already know the answer, but just to ask,

00:45:24.240 like if the woman would said the same thing,

00:45:25.440 she's like, okay, well, I'm going to be gone on Sunday.

00:45:26.800 That would be acceptable.

00:45:27.600 You would need to know that.

00:45:29.040 And the reason, here's the reason why I need to know.

00:45:30.640 I'm the authority in the relationship.

00:45:32.160 I am the leader.

00:45:32.800 I'm the protector.

00:45:33.440 So I must know.

00:45:34.480 Her on the other hand, she is a subordinate. 1.00

00:45:35.920 So therefore we have different roles in the, in the situation.

00:45:38.880 She must tell me where she's going.

00:45:40.160 I must know.

00:45:40.560 Cause I'm responsible for her safety.

00:45:41.920 She's not responsible for my safety. 1.00

00:45:43.120 So I don't have to tell her shit. 0.99

00:45:43.920 Well, are you my, are you my parent? 1.00

00:45:47.120 Are you my caregiver?

00:45:48.160 No, he's my parent.

00:45:49.280 No, no, no.

00:45:49.840 But here's the thing.

00:45:52.240 This is where this is coming from.

00:45:53.360 You guys think men and women are equal.

00:45:54.800 I'm saying we're not.

00:46:01.440 That's it.

00:46:01.840 Is this your job?

SNEAKO - May 11, 2023

The Reason Why You Should NEVER Live With Your Girlfriend

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