SNEAKO - Why Men Are Becoming Lonelier

00:00:00.000 men are not happy. Jeffrey's the average young man. He has no ambitions. He indulges in instant

00:00:04.840 gratification activities like video games, porn, and junk food. And he works a dead-end job. Jeffrey

00:00:09.100 would feel so much more depressed and hopeless if he actually allowed himself to face his life. But

00:00:14.560 through constant stimulation, Jeffrey never realizes one brutal fact. He is deeply unhappy.

00:00:21.980 Adonis. Adonis has reached the pinnacle of manhood. He never even shows it off to you,

00:00:27.780 but we can observe it. He's there with his beautiful feminine wife who respects him so

00:00:32.220 dearly. He's successful, wealthy, happy, but he's also humble. And look what he's doing.

00:00:36.960 He's helping Jeffrey. Modern men are not happy. Not because of toxic masculinity or because they

00:00:41.940 conceal their own. But because they're suppressing it. Because you're not supposed to act and you're

00:00:45.220 not supposed to do what you want to do. Men are not happy because we're told to be a slave and 0.54

00:00:49.240 most men came into the shaming tactics. I think guilt, and actually shout out to Justin Waller,

00:00:54.060 one of the war room commanders and one of Andrew's close friends. Justin Waller explained it perfectly

00:00:59.500 when we were in Bucharest. And he's like, the guilt is how they get most men. The shaming tactics.

00:01:05.720 And you've seen how that happened to me. Like the swinger party shit or a lot of the shit that 1.00

00:01:10.720 I've done because of the guilt and the shame. You can't let that suppress what you naturally want to 1.00

00:01:17.000 do. Like people calling me arrogant when I was 14 for wanting to be a YouTuber or speaking

00:01:22.000 provocatively or offending people. I didn't let that get to me. But that is the number one tactic

00:01:27.400 the Matrix uses to prevent men from finding their true power level. Emotions. But because they have

00:01:33.860 lost that which made them men. Our modern lifestyle is a recipe for depression and unhappiness for both

00:01:40.160 men and women. Men and women both have very big problems these days. But as a man, I can speak for

00:01:44.920 other men. And from what I've seen in the world, men aren't happy. Now, of course, as you go through

00:01:49.160 your own self-improvement journey, you've been going to the gym and setting some goals and

00:01:52.460 achieving them, you start to feel happier and happier and happier. But you look to your right,

00:01:56.080 you look to your left. And most of the other guys that you see day to day in the gym, as you walk

00:02:00.780 past them, you see them in the cars, they look so sad. Why are men so unhappy? Look around. That guy

00:02:06.920 that you see who seems so depressed today, you know, he's a 40 year old, he's kind of chubby. He hasn't

00:02:10.980 had sex with his wife in four months. He can't remember the last time he woke up with morning water.

00:02:15.320 And then they tell you the solution to this is that you have mental health problems and you need

00:02:18.880 to go to therapy and you need to take Xanax, antidepressants, that you have anxiety. No,

00:02:24.080 it's because you're just not living based on your masculine imperative. You're not doing what you

00:02:27.440 want to do. His stomach keeps getting bigger and bigger, but his arms get smaller and smaller.

00:02:31.340 And this isn't to body shame him or to make him feel bad for us to be mean. But this is like his

00:02:35.020 own observations. This man, of course, wakes up every day, looks into the mirror and can't help but feel

00:02:39.260 upset. Why is it so hard to maintain an okay physique? He goes to the gym three, four times a week still.

00:02:44.180 Sure, he should take more responsibility, but is there something bigger going on? Perhaps the

00:02:48.140 destruction of men's testosterone? How about that teen over there? 14 years old. He should be having

00:02:52.800 a good life, right? He's still pretty much a child. He should be, you know, full of life and happiness.

00:02:56.440 Well, he's got a TikTok addiction. In fact, how much he uses TikTok has got to the point that

00:03:00.720 Yo, did you see that little sneak? Oh, hey! This young man, this 14 year old boy has actually developed

00:03:06.400 Tourette's. And I don't say this as a funny joke or anything. This isn't funny. What I'm about to say

00:03:10.500 is not funny. But this boy and the girls around him, they genuinely can't help themselves to have

00:03:15.160 like some kind of TikTok Tourette's. Well, they'll just be like studying and just out of nowhere do 0.52

00:03:18.480 like a dance move without even meaning to.

00:03:20.320 That's funny, bro. You're studying and you fucking... 1.00

00:03:24.980 He's broke. Yo, that's some bot shit, bro. If you just malfunction, you're just there to be like, 1.00

00:03:29.380 oh shit. 0.99

00:03:31.040 ...his attention span from this endless... Is that real? 1.00

00:03:34.240 But let's go younger because, you know, children are full of life. That eight-year-old boy, he's eight

00:03:37.700 years old. He's going to go play with his friend, isn't he? That eight-year-old boy has a porn addiction.

00:03:41.940 We live in some dark times. You know, Andrew Tate took the world by storm, didn't he? He really,

00:03:46.340 really garnered a lot of attention. And there's like people who like him, people who hate him,

00:03:50.320 everything, right? The kind of people who really disliked him and said he was a misogynist and a

00:03:54.240 bad role model for men. They said that, you know, he's a symbol of the patriarchy and that he's evil

00:03:58.420 and all this. I'm not sure. I don't think he symbolizes toxic masculinity. I don't think he

00:04:02.980 became popular because of this narrative of like, yeah, we live in the patriarchy. I think he became

00:04:07.260 popular because there isn't enough masculinity. You see men like Andrew Tate, myself, Sneeko,

00:04:12.540 Iman Gaji, like, you know, these like young- And you guys were hating on Iman Gaji so much,

00:04:16.360 bro. Yo, yo, yo, bro. Imagine that collab. Hamza, I don't know why you don't want to do it. This

00:04:21.320 guy's so busy doing Taekwondo and shit. Iman wants us to pull up to Cape Town and do that collab, 0.98

00:04:25.780 which would be so necessary right now with Andrew in jail, bro. You see men like Andrew Tate,

00:04:30.780 myself, Sneeko, Iman Gaji, like, you know, these like young male role models who seem to- Tell Hamza that

00:04:36.420 we got to do this collab, bro. Be very controversial. I'm quite sure that if the men of the world were happy,

00:04:41.960 we'd all be unemployed. Oh, you know, we'd go do something else. But we wouldn't have gained like the

00:04:45.600 popularity, the attention that we have, you know, with this message of, you know, men improving

00:04:49.400 themselves, becoming strong again. If men were happy and just completely fine with their lives, why did

00:04:53.920 we reach 1.5 million subscribers? In the self-improvement niche that very rarely goes this

00:04:59.080 high, why did we get to 1.5 million when just two months ago we celebrated 1 million? Why are we

00:05:04.260 growing so fast? Is it because of the animations at the start? You know, Jeffrey Adonis, they're pretty nice.

00:05:08.100 They're really nice, actually. And that really helps people to like digest the message, makes it kind of

00:05:11.400 entertaining and stuff. Is it me, sat in a bathrobe? I think I'm like pretty inspiring when I talk in,

00:05:15.740 you know, this kind of like manner of, yeah, like let's go do some push-ups. But I don't think the

00:05:18.920 majority of our success has come just because I'm so amazing. And you know, this bathrobe makes me

00:05:23.200 look so good. Or like, oh yeah, those cartoons of Jeffrey and Adonis are so good. If we made this

00:05:26.760 channel 10 years ago, I don't think we would have popped off anywhere near as much as we did.

00:05:30.540 No. It's because men aren't happy. It's because a man's life in this modern day isn't actually that

00:05:35.280 valuable. It's because they- That's why I had that Pink Floyd poster back in Brooklyn right behind me,

00:05:39.800 because, uh, what's the quote? Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way.

00:05:48.280 What is it? Men lead lives of quiet desperation. Men suffer in silence and they don't really know

00:05:53.540 what the problem is, but it's just not, it's just not doing what you want to do. It's that simple.

00:05:58.520 It isn't actually that much good, that much hope, a reason to live for a lot of-

00:06:02.840 You know, Myron's coming on 20 minutes, by the way. So we're going to have a W rant. He's going

00:06:05.920 to be yelling about the shit. And it gets dark when we talk about this. Thanks for the five, 1.00

00:06:09.360 Mavencio. Just wanted to remind you to see God, I've been watching you for years and you have

00:06:13.580 helped me in my life tremendously. You're a good part of history. I could not care less of other

00:06:16.340 disagreed. Thank you, bro. Thanks a lot. Because as much as we don't want men to do anything to

00:06:20.040 hurt themselves, the truth is, quite frankly, a lot of guys actually don't have much to live for.

00:06:24.800 I don't say that to be condescending, but I want you to think of like an average guy's life.

00:06:28.160 He's single. He doesn't have a wife or kids. And you know, there's a lot of guys who say they don't

00:06:31.260 want to get in a relationship. They don't want kids and stuff. Yeah, I was going to make a separate video

00:06:34.120 about this, but I'll just tell you very quickly now. I've been traveling around last year quite a

00:06:37.840 lot. I think I went to like eight countries, right? For the first time in my life, I actually

00:06:40.480 like really traveled, went to different countries, different cultures. I went to a bunch of places.

00:06:43.880 I saw a bunch of different kinds of people, different cultures, ages, demographics, everything,

00:06:47.880 right? I saw a lot of variety in people. You know, one thing I really picked up of is there's the

00:06:52.080 same problem. Men have the same issues all over the world. Most people didn't seem happy. There was one

00:06:58.760 particular point when I would see happiness and joy in people around me in all these different

00:07:03.800 countries and all these different cultures. There was usually one theme where when I'd walk past

00:07:08.400 people, they seemed happy and they would smile. And that was if they were with family or friends.

00:07:12.940 I can't even tell you if I ever... I noticed this too when I did those meetups. I don't know if

00:07:16.880 anybody in the chat came to them. I did meetups in five countries. And shout out to Athens for that

00:07:21.340 free top G chain. Athens was the most fun one. That's my intro video, like a bunch of videos

00:07:24.720 from that Athens meetup. But I did one in Barcelona, in London, Modestoraki in Athens.

00:07:33.800 Amsterdam. And I forgot the last one, but I don't want to keep thinking. But yeah, there was a common

00:07:40.560 theme and I noticed the exact same thing. And I did Q&As in all these places. And that's even my

00:07:46.180 profile picture on Twitter, me sitting down in London talking to people. And there's this common

00:07:51.120 theme. There's like a wave of depression throughout pretty much everybody. That everybody's trying to

00:07:57.760 look for something greater in life. Everybody wants to find some bigger meaning. Everybody is a little

00:08:04.180 bit unhappy. They're like, what do I do? Like, I don't really know. What's wrong? Like, there's something

00:08:09.720 wrong.

00:08:10.640 I saw a singular person, like, you know, just an individual going somewhere looking happy with a smile on his face.

00:08:16.940 But consistently, the happiest people that I saw were families. And also sometimes I'd see like friends,

00:08:22.060 two guys or a couple of girls or something laughing, giggling. A lot of people have abandoned the

00:08:25.600 importance of family these days. And it might not seem important to you. Maybe it's just not in your

00:08:29.240 mind right now. You're focused on other things, which can be good. You know, develop yourself up

00:08:32.220 before you consider that. But just a hundred years ago, for all of mankind, we actually got into

00:08:37.920 families at age 18, 20. From the caveman days to the industrial revolution, we started our family

00:08:43.440 with a woman and children, early 20s at the latest. For a lot of cultures, it was actually like teens,

00:08:48.920 mid-teens, late-teens. That seems like really weird and barbaric and stuff. And I think perhaps a part of,

00:08:53.440 you know, the reason why that seems too early these days is financial. But let's just think,

00:08:57.080 for all of our history as men, we would have had a woman and children, age 18, 19. And that's just

00:09:02.360 we're all financial slaves now. Changed in the last 100 years. What's that going to do to us?

00:09:06.160 It seems kind of nice. Oh, yeah, no, yeah. I don't want kids right now. Okay, fair enough. It seems

00:09:09.140 nice. But just think about this for a second. You would have left school or left, you know,

00:09:12.340 some kind of training and known that you were probably going to get married within two to three years

00:09:16.440 from now. Just think about how hard you would have worked. Do you really think you would have come

00:09:20.500 home and just slacked and, you know, just wasted time? Or do you think you would have been really

00:09:24.160 disciplined and purposeful? A couple of years later, okay, you actually meet the woman you can

00:09:27.500 have children with. You get married in a religious way, mostly, you know, through the cultures. For

00:09:31.140 the last like 2,000 years, it's all been religious. You have a wife that you've married, officially

00:09:34.920 married in front of the eyes of God, in front of everyone in your town. They're all celebrating.

00:09:40.300 There's no such thing as a divorce. You can't get divorced if God's what you marry. And now you're

00:09:43.640 going to have your first child, your second child, your third child, age 21. And it seems really scary,

00:09:47.700 of course, because that seems really young to us now. But of course, when we knew that it was going

00:09:51.460 to be at this age, of course, you know, you kind of mature faster, don't you? Imagine age 21 having

00:09:55.680 three children back when you would have been able to actually support them with your 21-year-old

00:09:59.760 salary in some like factory or some farm or something. Do you genuinely think that that

00:10:03.520 would have been a bad thing? I think only if we hold our current bias of what the world is like

00:10:07.700 right now. And, you know, if I think back to when I was 21, I think, no, no, I couldn't have had

00:10:10.700 children. Never mind three children. I was a drunk. I was just partying. I was just playing video

00:10:13.660 games. I was just trying to like sleep with girls and stuff. Yeah, of course. But if I knew from birth, okay,

00:10:17.180 you know, I'm going to get married at age 18. I wouldn't have much...

00:10:19.220 Yo, Kansas City Mac put a quote right here from 808s and Heartbreak. My friend showed me

00:10:23.620 pictures of his kids and all I could show him was pictures of my cribs because that's what

00:10:29.000 makes us happiest. It's family. It's community. It's having people around you. And Chad, that's

00:10:36.240 why we're a family, man. That's why we're a family. That's why we're not lonely. Right,

00:10:40.340 this is cringe.

00:10:41.100 That kind of lifestyle would have changed everything for us because I don't know the exact statistics

00:10:46.340 on this. But from what I can kind of imagine, if you saw some data of like, you know, humans

00:10:50.120 happiness, we would have seen it at a good level around the 1900s, late 1900s. It just

00:10:55.100 starts to go down and down and down and down and down and down. Suicide starts slow. Late

00:10:59.780 1900s goes up and up and up and up. Year 2000, 2010, 2020 sharp rise. So is this all just one

00:11:06.380 big coincidence? And yeah, family's not important. You know, there's just something else that's

00:11:09.260 making us unhappy or something. That's for you to figure out for yourself. I'm not going to

00:11:12.000 pressure you to, you know, have children right now. 100% don't have them up until you're

00:11:15.240 absolutely ready. But this is just in my mind of what probably could be one of the major

00:11:19.020 sources of unhappiness for us. But there's more to talk about because remember I mentioned

00:11:22.860 testosterone before. That guy that we imagined, some 40-year-old guy who's pretty overweight

00:11:27.420 and he wakes up day in, day out without morning wood. He notices his arms are just getting smaller.

00:11:31.700 He doesn't pack on muscle mass like he used to. He just feels weak and tired. He's got more

00:11:35.220 anxiety, depressive thoughts in his mind, which are symptoms of low testosterone. It doesn't

00:11:39.200 seem so crazy for a 40-year-old to be like this, right? But I think what is crazy is that

00:11:43.340 there's 20-year-olds with those symptoms. There's 20-year-olds who wake up with no more

00:11:47.620 We gym, Chad. No, 10 push-ups right now, Chad. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I don't want

00:11:51.280 to be a fat, skinny, fat sore boy. 16-year-olds, 15-year-olds, 14-year-olds, men going through 0.92

00:11:56.760 puberty that have such elevated levels of estrogen or however the hormones work, they have developed

00:12:01.800 breasts. I was literally one of these kids, age 14, 15. I developed man boobs and not from like

00:12:06.880 fat. I wasn't a fat kid. I was, you know, a little bit chubby, but it wasn't fat. It was literally 0.95

00:12:10.000 like breast mass that I developed because my hormones were all messed up. I wasn't developing

00:12:13.840 like how a male should. Do you think I would have been happy around that time? 15 years old,

00:12:17.600 seeing everyone else grow up. The girls are growing up and they're developing in the right

00:12:21.000 way. Some of the guys are growing up, developing. You know, like there's that one guy in your high

00:12:23.980 school class who had like a full beard, grew up to like six foot two at like age 14 when everyone

00:12:28.400 else still looks like little boys. He's there doing like multiple rounds with their future wife,

00:12:32.300 bro. And we also need to get a little bit blackpilled here because there's a lot of guys out

00:12:36.460 there who are getting absolutely no intimacy, affection, attention, attraction from women.

00:12:43.600 None. You know, it used to be a hundred years ago that if you were a hard worker and at least

00:12:47.320 not like physically deformed, that you'd be fine as a guy who get married. And even those 1.00

00:12:51.480 guys who were like literally deformed, I don't say this is an insulting way. You're not just,

00:12:54.840 I imagine, I don't know statistics or anything, but even those guys that literally were disabled

00:12:58.460 and everything, they were still getting married. Chat, you done? Who's done? Average dreams to good

00:13:02.260 women. These days, it seems to be the case that you need to be at least six foot higher income 1.00

00:13:05.900 than 90% of the entire world, nevermind just your country. You know, the standards to be

00:13:10.080 eligible for a woman's attraction seem to be very high these days. And so a large amount of guys

00:13:14.800 are blackpilled. The black pill is kind of this term where a guy feels like there's absolutely no

00:13:19.560 hope that he can get girls. It's where he thinks, okay, even if I get into self-improvement and I

00:13:23.980 build a really nice body, there's still no chance for me. Usually this is related to his genetics as

00:13:28.240 well. So it might be a guy who's, for example, five foot three, really short. And he said, okay,

00:13:31.600 no, even if I build like a 10 out of 10 really muscular body, girls are still not going to be 1.00

00:13:34.920 attracted to me. So there's no points. I don't agree with that message at all. I think even if

00:13:38.180 a guy is five foot three, if he makes progress to a, like a 10 out of 10 body for him, which is,

00:13:43.000 you know, like lean, muscular, not like huge bodybuilder, but you know, like lean and athletic

00:13:46.720 that women consistently rate most attractive in men, it would certainly increase his chances.

00:13:50.740 It wouldn't guarantee him anything, but if his chances to attract a woman were like 0.85%,

00:13:55.060 maybe it'd go up to like 1.5%, for example, which is still like a double boost. Couple that then with

00:13:59.580 the personality change that he would go through from years of dis-

00:14:02.840 Yo, Myra's here. 0.98

00:14:09.160 That's it.

00:14:09.700 Is this your job?

SNEAKO - January 18, 2023

Why Men Are Becoming Lonelier

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