SNEAKO - January 18, 2023


Why Men Are Becoming Lonelier

Topics
black pill
Hosted by
Nicolas Kenn De Balinthazy
Mentioned
Jeffrey Adonis Andrew Tate Iman Gaji Justin Waller Sneeko Tell Hamza Pink Floyd Myron Chad Myra
Andrew Tate Is Almost Out Of Jail! Adin’s Going To See Andrew In Jail!

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Length

14 minutes

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243.37

Word count

3,449

Sentence count

293

Harmful content

Misogyny

4

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Toxicity

10

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Hate speech

5

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Summary

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Our modern lifestyle is a recipe for depression and unhappiness for both men and women. Why are men so unhappy? Why do they suppress their own emotions? Is it because they are told to be a slave to the Matrix? Or is there something bigger going on?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 men are not happy. Jeffrey's the average young man. He has no ambitions. He indulges in instant
00:00:04.840 gratification activities like video games, porn, and junk food. And he works a dead-end job. Jeffrey
00:00:09.100 would feel so much more depressed and hopeless if he actually allowed himself to face his life. But
00:00:14.560 through constant stimulation, Jeffrey never realizes one brutal fact. He is deeply unhappy.
00:00:21.980 Adonis. Adonis has reached the pinnacle of manhood. He never even shows it off to you,
00:00:27.780 but we can observe it. He's there with his beautiful feminine wife who respects him so
00:00:32.220 dearly. He's successful, wealthy, happy, but he's also humble. And look what he's doing.
00:00:36.960 He's helping Jeffrey. Modern men are not happy. Not because of toxic masculinity or because they
00:00:41.940 conceal their own. But because they're suppressing it. Because you're not supposed to act and you're
00:00:45.220 not supposed to do what you want to do. Men are not happy because we're told to be a slave and 0.54
00:00:49.240 most men came into the shaming tactics. I think guilt, and actually shout out to Justin Waller,
00:00:54.060 one of the war room commanders and one of Andrew's close friends. Justin Waller explained it perfectly
00:00:59.500 when we were in Bucharest. And he's like, the guilt is how they get most men. The shaming tactics.
00:01:05.720 And you've seen how that happened to me. Like the swinger party shit or a lot of the shit that 1.00
00:01:10.720 I've done because of the guilt and the shame. You can't let that suppress what you naturally want to 1.00
00:01:17.000 do. Like people calling me arrogant when I was 14 for wanting to be a YouTuber or speaking
00:01:22.000 provocatively or offending people. I didn't let that get to me. But that is the number one tactic
00:01:27.400 the Matrix uses to prevent men from finding their true power level. Emotions. But because they have
00:01:33.860 lost that which made them men. Our modern lifestyle is a recipe for depression and unhappiness for both
00:01:40.160 men and women. Men and women both have very big problems these days. But as a man, I can speak for
00:01:44.920 other men. And from what I've seen in the world, men aren't happy. Now, of course, as you go through
00:01:49.160 your own self-improvement journey, you've been going to the gym and setting some goals and
00:01:52.460 achieving them, you start to feel happier and happier and happier. But you look to your right,
00:01:56.080 you look to your left. And most of the other guys that you see day to day in the gym, as you walk
00:02:00.780 past them, you see them in the cars, they look so sad. Why are men so unhappy? Look around. That guy
00:02:06.920 that you see who seems so depressed today, you know, he's a 40 year old, he's kind of chubby. He hasn't
00:02:10.980 had sex with his wife in four months. He can't remember the last time he woke up with morning water.
00:02:15.320 And then they tell you the solution to this is that you have mental health problems and you need
00:02:18.880 to go to therapy and you need to take Xanax, antidepressants, that you have anxiety. No,
00:02:24.080 it's because you're just not living based on your masculine imperative. You're not doing what you
00:02:27.440 want to do. His stomach keeps getting bigger and bigger, but his arms get smaller and smaller.
00:02:31.340 And this isn't to body shame him or to make him feel bad for us to be mean. But this is like his
00:02:35.020 own observations. This man, of course, wakes up every day, looks into the mirror and can't help but feel
00:02:39.260 upset. Why is it so hard to maintain an okay physique? He goes to the gym three, four times a week still.
00:02:44.180 Sure, he should take more responsibility, but is there something bigger going on? Perhaps the
00:02:48.140 destruction of men's testosterone? How about that teen over there? 14 years old. He should be having
00:02:52.800 a good life, right? He's still pretty much a child. He should be, you know, full of life and happiness.
00:02:56.440 Well, he's got a TikTok addiction. In fact, how much he uses TikTok has got to the point that
00:03:00.720 Yo, did you see that little sneak? Oh, hey! This young man, this 14 year old boy has actually developed
00:03:06.400 Tourette's. And I don't say this as a funny joke or anything. This isn't funny. What I'm about to say
00:03:10.500 is not funny. But this boy and the girls around him, they genuinely can't help themselves to have
00:03:15.160 like some kind of TikTok Tourette's. Well, they'll just be like studying and just out of nowhere do 0.52
00:03:18.480 like a dance move without even meaning to.
00:03:20.320 That's funny, bro. You're studying and you fucking... 1.00
00:03:24.980 He's broke. Yo, that's some bot shit, bro. If you just malfunction, you're just there to be like, 1.00
00:03:29.380 oh shit. 0.99
00:03:31.040 ...his attention span from this endless... Is that real? 1.00
00:03:34.240 But let's go younger because, you know, children are full of life. That eight-year-old boy, he's eight
00:03:37.700 years old. He's going to go play with his friend, isn't he? That eight-year-old boy has a porn addiction.
00:03:41.940 We live in some dark times. You know, Andrew Tate took the world by storm, didn't he? He really,
00:03:46.340 really garnered a lot of attention. And there's like people who like him, people who hate him,
00:03:50.320 everything, right? The kind of people who really disliked him and said he was a misogynist and a
00:03:54.240 bad role model for men. They said that, you know, he's a symbol of the patriarchy and that he's evil
00:03:58.420 and all this. I'm not sure. I don't think he symbolizes toxic masculinity. I don't think he
00:04:02.980 became popular because of this narrative of like, yeah, we live in the patriarchy. I think he became
00:04:07.260 popular because there isn't enough masculinity. You see men like Andrew Tate, myself, Sneeko,
00:04:12.540 Iman Gaji, like, you know, these like young- And you guys were hating on Iman Gaji so much,
00:04:16.360 bro. Yo, yo, yo, bro. Imagine that collab. Hamza, I don't know why you don't want to do it. This
00:04:21.320 guy's so busy doing Taekwondo and shit. Iman wants us to pull up to Cape Town and do that collab, 0.98
00:04:25.780 which would be so necessary right now with Andrew in jail, bro. You see men like Andrew Tate,
00:04:30.780 myself, Sneeko, Iman Gaji, like, you know, these like young male role models who seem to- Tell Hamza that
00:04:36.420 we got to do this collab, bro. Be very controversial. I'm quite sure that if the men of the world were happy,
00:04:41.960 we'd all be unemployed. Oh, you know, we'd go do something else. But we wouldn't have gained like the
00:04:45.600 popularity, the attention that we have, you know, with this message of, you know, men improving
00:04:49.400 themselves, becoming strong again. If men were happy and just completely fine with their lives, why did
00:04:53.920 we reach 1.5 million subscribers? In the self-improvement niche that very rarely goes this
00:04:59.080 high, why did we get to 1.5 million when just two months ago we celebrated 1 million? Why are we
00:05:04.260 growing so fast? Is it because of the animations at the start? You know, Jeffrey Adonis, they're pretty nice.
00:05:08.100 They're really nice, actually. And that really helps people to like digest the message, makes it kind of
00:05:11.400 entertaining and stuff. Is it me, sat in a bathrobe? I think I'm like pretty inspiring when I talk in,
00:05:15.740 you know, this kind of like manner of, yeah, like let's go do some push-ups. But I don't think the
00:05:18.920 majority of our success has come just because I'm so amazing. And you know, this bathrobe makes me
00:05:23.200 look so good. Or like, oh yeah, those cartoons of Jeffrey and Adonis are so good. If we made this
00:05:26.760 channel 10 years ago, I don't think we would have popped off anywhere near as much as we did.
00:05:30.540 No. It's because men aren't happy. It's because a man's life in this modern day isn't actually that
00:05:35.280 valuable. It's because they- That's why I had that Pink Floyd poster back in Brooklyn right behind me,
00:05:39.800 because, uh, what's the quote? Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way.
00:05:48.280 What is it? Men lead lives of quiet desperation. Men suffer in silence and they don't really know
00:05:53.540 what the problem is, but it's just not, it's just not doing what you want to do. It's that simple.
00:05:58.520 It isn't actually that much good, that much hope, a reason to live for a lot of-
00:06:02.840 You know, Myron's coming on 20 minutes, by the way. So we're going to have a W rant. He's going
00:06:05.920 to be yelling about the shit. And it gets dark when we talk about this. Thanks for the five, 1.00
00:06:09.360 Mavencio. Just wanted to remind you to see God, I've been watching you for years and you have
00:06:13.580 helped me in my life tremendously. You're a good part of history. I could not care less of other
00:06:16.340 disagreed. Thank you, bro. Thanks a lot. Because as much as we don't want men to do anything to
00:06:20.040 hurt themselves, the truth is, quite frankly, a lot of guys actually don't have much to live for.
00:06:24.800 I don't say that to be condescending, but I want you to think of like an average guy's life.
00:06:28.160 He's single. He doesn't have a wife or kids. And you know, there's a lot of guys who say they don't
00:06:31.260 want to get in a relationship. They don't want kids and stuff. Yeah, I was going to make a separate video
00:06:34.120 about this, but I'll just tell you very quickly now. I've been traveling around last year quite a
00:06:37.840 lot. I think I went to like eight countries, right? For the first time in my life, I actually
00:06:40.480 like really traveled, went to different countries, different cultures. I went to a bunch of places.
00:06:43.880 I saw a bunch of different kinds of people, different cultures, ages, demographics, everything,
00:06:47.880 right? I saw a lot of variety in people. You know, one thing I really picked up of is there's the
00:06:52.080 same problem. Men have the same issues all over the world. Most people didn't seem happy. There was one
00:06:58.760 particular point when I would see happiness and joy in people around me in all these different
00:07:03.800 countries and all these different cultures. There was usually one theme where when I'd walk past
00:07:08.400 people, they seemed happy and they would smile. And that was if they were with family or friends.
00:07:12.940 I can't even tell you if I ever... I noticed this too when I did those meetups. I don't know if
00:07:16.880 anybody in the chat came to them. I did meetups in five countries. And shout out to Athens for that
00:07:21.340 free top G chain. Athens was the most fun one. That's my intro video, like a bunch of videos
00:07:24.720 from that Athens meetup. But I did one in Barcelona, in London, Modestoraki in Athens.
00:07:33.800 Amsterdam. And I forgot the last one, but I don't want to keep thinking. But yeah, there was a common
00:07:40.560 theme and I noticed the exact same thing. And I did Q&As in all these places. And that's even my
00:07:46.180 profile picture on Twitter, me sitting down in London talking to people. And there's this common
00:07:51.120 theme. There's like a wave of depression throughout pretty much everybody. That everybody's trying to
00:07:57.760 look for something greater in life. Everybody wants to find some bigger meaning. Everybody is a little
00:08:04.180 bit unhappy. They're like, what do I do? Like, I don't really know. What's wrong? Like, there's something
00:08:09.720 wrong.
00:08:10.640 I saw a singular person, like, you know, just an individual going somewhere looking happy with a smile on his face.
00:08:16.940 But consistently, the happiest people that I saw were families. And also sometimes I'd see like friends,
00:08:22.060 two guys or a couple of girls or something laughing, giggling. A lot of people have abandoned the
00:08:25.600 importance of family these days. And it might not seem important to you. Maybe it's just not in your
00:08:29.240 mind right now. You're focused on other things, which can be good. You know, develop yourself up
00:08:32.220 before you consider that. But just a hundred years ago, for all of mankind, we actually got into
00:08:37.920 families at age 18, 20. From the caveman days to the industrial revolution, we started our family
00:08:43.440 with a woman and children, early 20s at the latest. For a lot of cultures, it was actually like teens,
00:08:48.920 mid-teens, late-teens. That seems like really weird and barbaric and stuff. And I think perhaps a part of,
00:08:53.440 you know, the reason why that seems too early these days is financial. But let's just think,
00:08:57.080 for all of our history as men, we would have had a woman and children, age 18, 19. And that's just
00:09:02.360 we're all financial slaves now. Changed in the last 100 years. What's that going to do to us?
00:09:06.160 It seems kind of nice. Oh, yeah, no, yeah. I don't want kids right now. Okay, fair enough. It seems
00:09:09.140 nice. But just think about this for a second. You would have left school or left, you know,
00:09:12.340 some kind of training and known that you were probably going to get married within two to three years
00:09:16.440 from now. Just think about how hard you would have worked. Do you really think you would have come
00:09:20.500 home and just slacked and, you know, just wasted time? Or do you think you would have been really
00:09:24.160 disciplined and purposeful? A couple of years later, okay, you actually meet the woman you can
00:09:27.500 have children with. You get married in a religious way, mostly, you know, through the cultures. For
00:09:31.140 the last like 2,000 years, it's all been religious. You have a wife that you've married, officially
00:09:34.920 married in front of the eyes of God, in front of everyone in your town. They're all celebrating.
00:09:40.300 There's no such thing as a divorce. You can't get divorced if God's what you marry. And now you're
00:09:43.640 going to have your first child, your second child, your third child, age 21. And it seems really scary,
00:09:47.700 of course, because that seems really young to us now. But of course, when we knew that it was going
00:09:51.460 to be at this age, of course, you know, you kind of mature faster, don't you? Imagine age 21 having
00:09:55.680 three children back when you would have been able to actually support them with your 21-year-old
00:09:59.760 salary in some like factory or some farm or something. Do you genuinely think that that
00:10:03.520 would have been a bad thing? I think only if we hold our current bias of what the world is like
00:10:07.700 right now. And, you know, if I think back to when I was 21, I think, no, no, I couldn't have had
00:10:10.700 children. Never mind three children. I was a drunk. I was just partying. I was just playing video
00:10:13.660 games. I was just trying to like sleep with girls and stuff. Yeah, of course. But if I knew from birth, okay,
00:10:17.180 you know, I'm going to get married at age 18. I wouldn't have much...
00:10:19.220 Yo, Kansas City Mac put a quote right here from 808s and Heartbreak. My friend showed me
00:10:23.620 pictures of his kids and all I could show him was pictures of my cribs because that's what
00:10:29.000 makes us happiest. It's family. It's community. It's having people around you. And Chad, that's
00:10:36.240 why we're a family, man. That's why we're a family. That's why we're not lonely. Right,
00:10:40.340 this is cringe.
00:10:41.100 That kind of lifestyle would have changed everything for us because I don't know the exact statistics
00:10:46.340 on this. But from what I can kind of imagine, if you saw some data of like, you know, humans
00:10:50.120 happiness, we would have seen it at a good level around the 1900s, late 1900s. It just
00:10:55.100 starts to go down and down and down and down and down and down. Suicide starts slow. Late
00:10:59.780 1900s goes up and up and up and up. Year 2000, 2010, 2020 sharp rise. So is this all just one
00:11:06.380 big coincidence? And yeah, family's not important. You know, there's just something else that's
00:11:09.260 making us unhappy or something. That's for you to figure out for yourself. I'm not going to
00:11:12.000 pressure you to, you know, have children right now. 100% don't have them up until you're
00:11:15.240 absolutely ready. But this is just in my mind of what probably could be one of the major
00:11:19.020 sources of unhappiness for us. But there's more to talk about because remember I mentioned
00:11:22.860 testosterone before. That guy that we imagined, some 40-year-old guy who's pretty overweight
00:11:27.420 and he wakes up day in, day out without morning wood. He notices his arms are just getting smaller.
00:11:31.700 He doesn't pack on muscle mass like he used to. He just feels weak and tired. He's got more
00:11:35.220 anxiety, depressive thoughts in his mind, which are symptoms of low testosterone. It doesn't
00:11:39.200 seem so crazy for a 40-year-old to be like this, right? But I think what is crazy is that
00:11:43.340 there's 20-year-olds with those symptoms. There's 20-year-olds who wake up with no more
00:11:47.620 We gym, Chad. No, 10 push-ups right now, Chad. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I don't want
00:11:51.280 to be a fat, skinny, fat sore boy. 16-year-olds, 15-year-olds, 14-year-olds, men going through 0.92
00:11:56.760 puberty that have such elevated levels of estrogen or however the hormones work, they have developed
00:12:01.800 breasts. I was literally one of these kids, age 14, 15. I developed man boobs and not from like
00:12:06.880 fat. I wasn't a fat kid. I was, you know, a little bit chubby, but it wasn't fat. It was literally 0.95
00:12:10.000 like breast mass that I developed because my hormones were all messed up. I wasn't developing
00:12:13.840 like how a male should. Do you think I would have been happy around that time? 15 years old,
00:12:17.600 seeing everyone else grow up. The girls are growing up and they're developing in the right
00:12:21.000 way. Some of the guys are growing up, developing. You know, like there's that one guy in your high
00:12:23.980 school class who had like a full beard, grew up to like six foot two at like age 14 when everyone
00:12:28.400 else still looks like little boys. He's there doing like multiple rounds with their future wife,
00:12:32.300 bro. And we also need to get a little bit blackpilled here because there's a lot of guys out
00:12:36.460 there who are getting absolutely no intimacy, affection, attention, attraction from women.
00:12:43.600 None. You know, it used to be a hundred years ago that if you were a hard worker and at least
00:12:47.320 not like physically deformed, that you'd be fine as a guy who get married. And even those 1.00
00:12:51.480 guys who were like literally deformed, I don't say this is an insulting way. You're not just,
00:12:54.840 I imagine, I don't know statistics or anything, but even those guys that literally were disabled
00:12:58.460 and everything, they were still getting married. Chat, you done? Who's done? Average dreams to good
00:13:02.260 women. These days, it seems to be the case that you need to be at least six foot higher income 1.00
00:13:05.900 than 90% of the entire world, nevermind just your country. You know, the standards to be
00:13:10.080 eligible for a woman's attraction seem to be very high these days. And so a large amount of guys
00:13:14.800 are blackpilled. The black pill is kind of this term where a guy feels like there's absolutely no
00:13:19.560 hope that he can get girls. It's where he thinks, okay, even if I get into self-improvement and I
00:13:23.980 build a really nice body, there's still no chance for me. Usually this is related to his genetics as
00:13:28.240 well. So it might be a guy who's, for example, five foot three, really short. And he said, okay,
00:13:31.600 no, even if I build like a 10 out of 10 really muscular body, girls are still not going to be 1.00
00:13:34.920 attracted to me. So there's no points. I don't agree with that message at all. I think even if
00:13:38.180 a guy is five foot three, if he makes progress to a, like a 10 out of 10 body for him, which is,
00:13:43.000 you know, like lean, muscular, not like huge bodybuilder, but you know, like lean and athletic
00:13:46.720 that women consistently rate most attractive in men, it would certainly increase his chances.
00:13:50.740 It wouldn't guarantee him anything, but if his chances to attract a woman were like 0.85%,
00:13:55.060 maybe it'd go up to like 1.5%, for example, which is still like a double boost. Couple that then with
00:13:59.580 the personality change that he would go through from years of dis-
00:14:02.840 Yo, Myra's here. 0.98
00:14:09.160 That's it.
00:14:09.700 Is this your job?