SNEAKO - August 28, 2022


Why Tinder Is Ruining GEN Z


Episode Stats

Length

22 minutes

Words per Minute

199.23914

Word Count

4,504

Sentence Count

186

Misogynist Sentences

18

Hate Speech Sentences

15


Summary

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Tinder is a multi-billion dollar industry profiting from your loneliness and doing everything they can to keep it that way. But what if you didn t have to turn to Tinder? What if your emotions weren t cut up and sold back to you for a profit?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 actually let's watch this one let this icon represent 100 000 tinder users
00:00:06.960 this is what 1 million tinder users looks like this is what all the girls on tinder looks like
00:00:13.520 and this is what all the guys on tinder looks like
00:00:22.640 that's why how many of you have paid for the tinder premium and then there's you
00:00:28.000 how do they do it you ask yourself seeing all those couples all those instagram pics all those
00:00:33.600 love stories it baffles you it makes you angry they got lucky it's a rigged game they were born
00:00:38.880 with good genetics they're not happy i don't want a relationship anyway i just don't have the time
00:00:42.560 i'm an introvert i'm unlucky love hi getting married that all seems like a distant dream
00:00:48.960 so as a last resort you download tinder because it's better this than nothing you tell yourself
00:00:53.360 maybe this will be fun maybe you'll finally feel something maybe you'll find the one
00:00:57.280 some hope with fancy photos and tactical pickup lines they'll find love through sheer force others
00:01:02.000 hope by fitting a dad-shaped hole they'll become confident and empowered and the rest they're
00:01:06.400 falling down the spiral of loneliness self-doubt depression or divorce desperate to feel that
00:01:10.160 spark they thought before you look for quick fixes you look for apps to find love because deep down
00:01:18.080 you're living a life of quiet desperation but meanwhile all you really want is someone to
00:01:22.080 laugh with someone to share those memories with and you don't have long until it's too late but
00:01:25.680 But as the months and years go by, you come to a harsh realisation.
00:01:29.680 Those dreams you had of meeting that girl, travelling around the world,
00:01:32.680 escaping your virtual reality, having your own family,
00:01:34.680 they'll forever remain that way.
00:01:36.680 Just dreams.
00:01:37.680 Nothing more, nothing less.
00:01:40.680 Damn, bro!
00:01:42.680 You still got me crying on a Thursday, son!
00:01:45.680 Tinder is creating...
00:01:48.680 Why does she want me, man?!
00:01:51.680 Why does she gotta be a bot, man?!
00:01:55.680 I'm buying Tinder Plus.
00:01:58.580 And the biggest psychological and technological change in human society.
00:02:03.440 And you, you're on the losing side of it.
00:02:08.220 But what if I told you, you were wrong?
00:02:12.320 What if you didn't have your emotions cut up and sold back to you for a profit?
00:02:16.100 What if you didn't have to turn to Tinder?
00:02:17.560 What if you didn't have to always send...
00:02:19.060 Look at this fucking bot who just donated.
00:02:21.400 Me personally, I can never get Tinder Premium.
00:02:23.300 I'm straight on my three OS subscriptions.
00:02:25.680 Are you flexing the fact that you don't pay for Tinder, and you pay for three girls OnlyFans?
00:02:31.920 Get the fuck out of my stream!
00:02:33.920 What do you call it Goofies for?
00:02:35.800 You're the goofiest motherfucker here!
00:02:37.800 At least Tinder you can get some real pussy from it!
00:02:39.800 OnlyFans you can't get shit but sadder, idiot!
00:02:43.800 Get out bro!
00:02:44.800 I'm straight with my bathwater, I'm good on that.
00:02:46.800 Bro how the fuck are you flexing bathwater?
00:02:49.800 Oh my lord.
00:02:51.800 Mess just grasping at straws.
00:02:53.240 What if you didn't have to abandon those dreams you had of traveling the world with that girl or having a happy family?
00:02:57.640 By the end of this video, you will understand there's a side to the coin that you're not being shown.
00:03:02.040 But I warn you, the road is tough.
00:03:04.740 Dating apps are a multi-billion dollar industry.
00:03:07.480 They are profiting from your loneliness and doing everything they can to keep it that way.
00:03:11.740 L.Brandon in the chat. It's always an L.Brandon, huh?
00:03:14.440 Their main goal is to reprogram your mind to think that you need an app to date,
00:03:17.840 that you need the next swipe and the next match,
00:03:19.740 All whilst giving them billions and leaving you more alone and isolated.
00:03:23.560 The road out to the online dating world is becoming harder by the day.
00:03:26.820 But at the end of this road lies relationships beyond what you thought you could attain.
00:03:30.700 At the end of that road lies the ingredients for a healthier, happier, and more socially connected life.
00:03:37.640 Okay, if you was trolling, I'm the bot.
00:03:39.580 But it doesn't look like a troll, in my opinion.
00:03:44.960 I knew he was joking.
00:03:45.840 52%
00:03:46.580 I knew he was joking.
00:03:48.440 Yeah, me too.
00:03:48.980 yeah i knew he was joking all the time of course what do you call us goofy what am i a bot oh you're
00:03:55.580 all goofy you are actually the one of the end of the part of the joke of then shut up who buys
00:04:00.540 24 year olds and 13 million 30 to 44 year olds are on tinder at the same time the number of
00:04:08.000 single adults in the u.s and many other nations is unprecedented with reports estimating that
00:04:13.100 one in four people will be single for their entire life.
00:04:17.040 Why?
00:04:17.960 Truth is, the media and society have a habit of telling you
00:04:20.340 that being single is empowering,
00:04:21.880 that being atomized is healthy,
00:04:23.500 that not having children is stopping climate change,
00:04:25.440 that-
00:04:25.520 Nah, I'm single right now.
00:04:27.100 I got a couple of things,
00:04:28.580 but being in a relationship is objectively better
00:04:31.420 than being single.
00:04:32.920 But it's just really, really, really difficult
00:04:35.360 to maintain a stable relationship.
00:04:38.140 It's a part-time job, but when it's good, it's great.
00:04:40.440 Tenderous-
00:04:40.920 Huh?
00:04:41.360 I think if you're good at being single
00:04:43.160 It could be better than being in a relationship
00:04:44.740 Yeah for now
00:04:48.860 We're in our 20s but
00:04:50.680 Overall long term it's better
00:04:53.460 To be working towards a relationship that you
00:04:55.480 Hold for the rest of your life than being single
00:04:57.340 I don't know I'm working towards a kid that's it
00:04:59.560 So you need a relationship
00:05:00.920 No you don't bro
00:05:02.100 That's just bullshit Chad
00:05:04.180 You should have a good relationship to have a kid
00:05:07.320 You should
00:05:08.540 It's better
00:05:09.600 to be in a relationship bro you there's so much evidence that having a nuclear family
00:05:16.460 having a male and a female a mom and a dad raising a kid is the best advantage a kid could have
00:05:20.420 there's so much evidence showing that co-parenting is a bunch of bullshit that's a modern
00:05:24.380 gen z bullshit you shouldn't do that it's better to have a nuclear family objectively i'm built
00:05:29.660 different i could raise that kid on my own it's gonna be better and he's trying to be funny right
00:05:32.680 now but objectively no have a have a nuclear family for real helping you that tinder is
00:05:37.880 changing dating for the better and that Tinder is empowering. The question is, have you bought
00:05:42.500 into these ideas? In the longest study on what makes a good life, they found loneliness is the
00:05:48.040 biggest indicator of a shortened lifespan. It turns out that people who are more socially connected
00:05:53.720 to family, to friends, to community, are happier, they're physically healthier, and they live longer
00:06:01.680 than people who are less well connected. All religions since the dawn of man have known this.
00:06:07.240 Taoism, Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Islam, Christianity, Paganism.
00:06:12.000 But instead, our society will tell you that long-term relationships and meaningful lives can be found on apps like Tinder.
00:06:17.400 Society tells you being alone is a virtue, to abandon monogamous relationships for the toxic hellscape of online dating.
00:06:23.580 And that's when you might take the bait and trust these new ideas in your head.
00:06:26.780 Maybe you should get Tinder, maybe it's worth it.
00:06:28.780 Everyone else is doing it, maybe that's the only way.
00:06:30.860 And that is when you become blind to the traps the line wait.
00:06:36.960 yeah don't download tinder chat meet girls in real life put a smile on your face learn how to
00:06:42.540 smile when you feel uncomfortable and you don't know someone make people feel comfortable with
00:06:46.420 you before you feel comfortable with them yeah blue shirt advice right there we go
00:06:50.400 no but it's objectively better i think to meet a girl in real life than to meet a girl through
00:06:54.140 an algorithm there are three traps on tinder and if you download tinder you will inevitably fall
00:07:02.920 into one or more of these traps. The first trap, the self-help route. Now I'm not talking about
00:07:07.820 authentic self-help. I'm not talking about the people like Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, David
00:07:12.100 Goggins or whatever. I'm talking about the world of dating gurus, dating forums and all the other
00:07:15.980 quick fixes. So you do your research, you watch all the dating gurus and fall down the rabbit
00:07:21.220 hole of self-help and after every self-help post that you read, after every self-help video that
00:07:25.500 you watch, there is a shot of doping adonis rushing through your brain. You go on and on
00:07:30.580 using these texting games on tinder girls you race to get more of that dopamine rush every single
00:07:35.460 time the online dating world can put you under a massive illusion the illusion of progress after
00:07:40.660 watching that video you feel accomplished after getting that match you feel accomplished you feel
00:07:44.820 like you're moving closer to your romantic dreams you're motivated by the matches you watch the
00:07:48.660 next video read the next post but it's only when you take a moment to pause and reflect when you
00:07:52.820 realize you're just addicted to the feeling of progress and this is why tinder is a facade for
00:08:00.340 for the real he's making me think that when i was in relationships and i constantly
00:08:04.400 uh thought about cheating also my dad didn't leave when i constantly thought about cheating
00:08:10.300 in relationships maybe i was just being manipulated by social media maybe i was constantly seeing
00:08:16.240 more and more and thinking like that i can't settle and thinking the what if and that maybe
00:08:22.820 i should keep chasing i think i mean red pill we always talk online a lot about how men are
00:08:29.580 naturally polygamous and stuff like that i think we are but at the same time tinder instagram and
00:08:34.920 always seeing more than that that dopamine quick dopamine satisfaction you get from like a quick
00:08:40.340 nut or some approval some validation maybe that's not hardwired and meant maybe that's trained in us
00:08:48.120 from being on our phones chronically and i think now he's making me realize that
00:08:53.520 a lot of times what i was like constantly like thinking bro i just have to cheat maybe i was
00:08:57.840 just like addicted to my phone you think that could be true uh yeah because when people were
00:09:03.980 saying that humans were polygamists they didn't have access to as many people as we did they
00:09:07.320 didn't have a phone to look at and see a thousand girls where they're like yeah i could definitely
00:09:10.460 cheat with you i think your phone definitely plays a big part in it i think it just helps
00:09:15.620 with the temptation but i think the underlying core value is you don't want to settle with one
00:09:20.200 girl for 40 years yeah but phone is literally constant temptation every five seconds it's like
00:09:26.200 any extreme isn't good.
00:09:56.200 but as this process continues the dopamine rush from self-help and tinder slowly fades
00:10:03.060 tinder dries up your matches by design the rejections pile up you may start to conclude
00:10:07.200 that you just can't do it anymore that finding a partner is a waste of time and energy you put
00:10:10.840 so much work into getting this right and yet you have nothing to show for it maybe they were right
00:10:15.140 maybe love is an illusion maybe you're ugly maybe you're just better off on your own way
00:10:19.240 and then see how that turns out when you're 60. so let this be your first warning you don't need
00:10:23.640 You don't need to read every post.
00:10:24.640 You don't need to overthink every text, every movement, and every action you take.
00:10:27.640 You don't need an app.
00:10:28.960 This is the first trap that so many guys get lost in, and it has dramatic consequences
00:10:32.460 at the end of it all.
00:10:33.800 Tinder becomes a substitute for the action you need to take in the real world.
00:10:37.200 Going on Tinder will only make you more lonely, more insecure.
00:10:40.160 With this trap ultimately leading you to the gut-wrenching realization that you haven't
00:10:43.600 made any progress.
00:10:45.100 You only got better at convincing yourself that you did.
00:10:47.160 this shit's really fucking this shit is hitting harder than a movie bro
00:10:55.540 i wonder if tinder is actually designed like that to dry up your it is it is just like any
00:11:02.820 social media bro every social media every site should be open source code what does that mean
00:11:09.060 like everybody should be able to read exactly what the code is and what it's doing i mean we know if
00:11:13.640 you if you just look at the app and the way it's designed very clearly it's meant to keep you
00:11:16.580 addicted and to give you as much dopamine as possible and to make you constantly seek validation
00:11:20.140 so that you stay longer in the app. It just makes sense if they want to have you on forever,
00:11:23.740 what are they going to do to design it so that you get addicted to it? The second and most
00:11:27.260 dangerous trap, the hedonist trap. Let's say you're doing well on Tinder. You've got tons of
00:11:31.660 matches coming in. You feel confident. You're taking people out for dinner. You've never had
00:11:34.940 it so easy. All these people, all this potential, all this dopamine. Your ego swells. People want
00:11:39.620 you when you want them. Tinder is great. This is what was missing in your life. Untold matches,
00:11:44.060 coffee dates, bar dates, so many one night stands. It feels too good to be true. It's what society
00:11:48.600 tells you to do. Be empowered, be sexually liberated, be adventurous. Tinder one night
00:11:54.880 stands an ingrained part of modern dating, which makes this trap so dangerous and so hard to escape.
00:12:03.360 But the engine behind this is Tinder's design itself. The endless amounts of profiles you find
00:12:07.620 on Tinder creates an infinite choice conundrum. You think to yourself that you just need one more
00:12:11.540 swipe before you find the perfect match one more hot match to feel like a baller one more date to
00:12:15.500 find that goal one more one night stand to feel connection and so on and so on and so on you end
00:12:20.280 up always chasing the dragon for the next perfect match or the next potential lover paralyzing you
00:12:24.640 from finding a deep relationship with so many options to choose from people find it very
00:12:30.640 difficult to choose at all no funny shit bro real talk bro i miss being in a relationship
00:12:37.680 single life is fun
00:12:39.180 real talk bro
00:12:41.680 no one clip this please
00:12:43.200 no funny shit bro
00:12:45.180 like yeah more productive
00:12:46.840 everything is better but it's just like
00:12:49.140 all that waste being in a relationship
00:12:51.440 for so long all that connection and bonding
00:12:53.660 and picnics and shit
00:12:55.080 it's better than a one night stand
00:12:57.440 it is
00:12:58.760 think objectively bro
00:13:01.800 that was how long was that
00:13:03.120 that was two years
00:13:03.920 in the grand scheme of things
00:13:07.620 It's not that long of a time.
00:13:08.720 You're going to have more.
00:13:10.020 You're still young.
00:13:11.520 Yeah, I know.
00:13:12.000 But then I got to meet another person.
00:13:14.760 And then it's like, I got to meet another family.
00:13:17.460 That's not fun?
00:13:18.720 No, I don't care about your family.
00:13:21.060 I don't want to meet another mom.
00:13:23.440 I've already met my last bitch's mom.
00:13:25.280 Like, I just met two moms.
00:13:26.920 You know what I'm saying?
00:13:28.220 I got to do all this shit again.
00:13:29.320 I got to go out and pick it again and hear about your childhood again.
00:13:32.000 What if the next mom's cool as fuck?
00:13:35.080 Ugh.
00:13:35.400 they're calling me simp they're calling me limp i don't clip that i don't feel like to put it in
00:13:42.420 the work right now i'd rather stream i'd rather work i'd rather make videos i don't want to have
00:13:46.480 to spend the time to get to know somebody else again so you don't even want a girl bro you just
00:13:50.920 want the relationship like with i don't know you just want the comfort that she gave you at that
00:13:54.800 time you don't even want a girlfriend you just miss the comfort that's what it being having a
00:13:58.820 girlfriend is. Yeah, that sounds very, like, psychopathic. I don't care about a family,
00:14:06.280 I don't care about a child, I don't care about anything, but I just miss her being there.
00:14:09.280 Brett Cooper, I need you. Oh, word. Brett, you mine.
00:14:17.580 The business of online dating knows this. The fact they rely on this to keep you hooked. Oh,
00:14:21.620 and they're very aware of how addicting infinite choice can be. One of the schedules is very
00:14:25.580 effective with rats or pigeons is what we call a variable ratio schedule and that is at the heart
00:14:32.480 of all gambling devices and has the same effect. A pigeon can become a pathological gambler just
00:14:38.380 as a person can. And even if you're one of the lucky ones who does sustain a long-term relationship
00:14:42.780 from Tinder, your chances of breaking up are almost 30% higher than those you met outside of
00:14:47.100 Tinder. When there are lots of alternatives to consider, it is easy to imagine the attractive
00:14:53.880 features of alternatives that you reject uh that make it you less satisfied with the alternative
00:15:00.340 that you've chosen one of my favorite authors dostoevsky wrote that if you had nothing to do
00:15:05.420 but eat cakes and busy yourself with the continuation of the species you would eventually
00:15:09.140 want to smash all these bubbles of bliss for something unique to happen easy pleasure makes
00:15:13.180 life miserable because what makes you happy right now that's what i'm saying going to the club and
00:15:18.160 like the hookups and like meeting a new bitch and doing the rotation and meeting dm in another
00:15:22.820 bitch and flying a bitch out it's just simple satisfaction it's like you're not building
00:15:28.280 anything meaningful it's like it's not that much better than beating your meat it's not that much
00:15:34.500 better it's debatable it's better but it's really ultimately this it's better but it's still simple
00:15:42.500 satisfaction you're not building anything with it and i hate when girls try to build something
00:15:48.120 after they gave you the simple satisfaction which actually it's so backwards like the last story
00:15:53.620 that i just had meaningless sex with the club after that she's texting me like i love you like
00:15:57.300 i'm telling other friends that i have a boyfriend like trying to make jokes about us dating like
00:16:01.880 you can't do that after you already let me hit the first night when we were drunk i don't want
00:16:05.460 to do that with you anymore and they think like you're still gonna wife him after that and i had
00:16:09.840 to hit her with the straight facts like yo i'm not gonna wife you i hope you know that like we're
00:16:13.140 not gonna date but you can come through here we can spend the weekend i'll smash and you can go
00:16:16.880 home, and I still won't text you all the time
00:16:18.820 and won't reply to you, and you can, like, triple text me.
00:16:20.600 Bro, you're just still a fuckboy, man. No, it's not
00:16:22.900 it, bro. You just have to make me work for it.
00:16:25.240 Okay, that makes no sense, bro.
00:16:26.980 Like, I like fucking a bitch, and then
00:16:29.020 finding out if I actually like her.
00:16:31.000 Bro, he's just constantly, yeah, you're a fuckboy, because
00:16:32.820 you constantly want to chase.
00:16:35.200 Really? Yeah.
00:16:36.580 You are literally saying you just want to chase.
00:16:39.480 No, bro, I want to have to get
00:16:40.820 to know you before I, like, see that you're a thot.
00:16:43.500 But you also want to fuck.
00:16:45.200 Yeah, but at the right time.
00:16:46.880 You sound like a female, bro, I don't understand what you're talking about.
00:16:50.020 When makes you happy in the next hour?
00:16:52.500 So here's your next warning.
00:16:53.820 The online dating industry is a huge business,
00:16:56.220 and it relies on you not being content for you to continue consuming its services.
00:17:00.420 Be careful.
00:17:01.820 Question how Tinder is making you feel over the long term.
00:17:04.540 Question the real value of all these matches and one-night stands you have.
00:17:07.540 Ask yourself, what did I gain from any of this?
00:17:16.880 The final trap, the self-doubt trap.
00:17:21.480 This is the trap lying in wait for the vast majority of people on Tinder.
00:17:24.900 The people who don't get matches like their friend.
00:17:26.880 The people who struggle to keep a superficial conversation going through text.
00:17:30.040 The 80% of men who are made to feel against the odds.
00:17:32.660 The ones who are made to feel that they will never have a chance of finding a normal girl.
00:17:36.160 Male users of the popular dating app Tinder appear to have lower levels of self esteem
00:17:40.400 and all users appear to have more negative perception of body image than people who don't
00:17:44.820 use the app at all.
00:17:45.820 Men who were actively involved with Tinder reported significantly lower levels of self-esteem than...
00:17:51.440 There you go, these apps, OF, Prime, Tinder, Instagram, it just drains you.
00:17:56.580 Just makes you sadder for the majority of the population.
00:17:59.800 Female users.
00:18:00.900 And yet, this trap doesn't just apply to men.
00:18:03.460 Far from it.
00:18:04.240 This trap may even be worse for all the women who can't find a guy that wants more than a pump and dump.
00:18:08.080 The women who are made to feel that to find a partner, they have to be promiscuous.
00:18:11.800 They have to have a one-night stand on a first date for them to retain any of their value.
00:18:15.100 they have to pause. It doesn't matter which trap you fall in, all of them are taking you to the
00:18:19.660 same place. Each of these traps rely on your addiction to this depressing drug dispenser,
00:18:23.500 this drug shut up chat, I'm reading all the super chats, what do you want me to say to them?
00:18:27.020 that inhibits you from the rewards of real connection. But what if Tinder success is
00:18:31.420 only symptomatic of a much larger endemic problem of society? Tinder usage is increasing in the
00:18:36.380 millions every single year and at the same time more than one in five Americans will report
00:18:42.460 that they're lonely. Which poses the question, how do you escape these traps? How do you get
00:18:48.200 these deep social connections? Well, the possibilities are practically endless. It
00:18:52.740 might start off as something as simple as replacing screen time with people. I'm ending in the poll
00:18:55.960 right when it's at 51% L-Cast. Got that W. Got that W. Look, Cass, you're just in a constant
00:19:01.900 state of chasing. That doesn't mean anything to me, bro. What? You're in a constant state of chasing.
00:19:05.440 I'm not in a constant state of chasing. You are. If girls are so easy to give it up to you,
00:19:09.780 you kind of lose the value of what you were chasing in the beginning like i have to get to
00:19:13.080 know you first don't just fuck me because then what is there after that like that's how that's
00:19:19.100 exactly why you're in a constant state of chasing all traditional bro you think girls should just
00:19:23.020 be giving it out on the first date every time yeah so then i could decide if it's actually
00:19:25.620 so i get the sex out of the way see if it smells bad see if it's worth it and then i'll get to know
00:19:30.960 you and then i don't see just and then i'm not deluded to see like oh maybe i just liked you
00:19:35.100 for your pussy. You get the post-nut clarity away. Once you nut, then you're like, oh,
00:19:39.640 and if she doesn't piss you off, you're like, hmm, maybe I actually like you and I wasn't
00:19:42.740 deluded by my nut. But you can't know that in the first night, bro. Yeah, you can. Post-nut clarity
00:19:47.160 is very, is very, very telling. It can mean going to an event, going to a hiking group,
00:19:52.740 a running group, a gaming group, a meditation group, going to meetup.com and finding people
00:19:56.140 similar to you. It could mean just taking that call to adventure. It involves transformation.
00:20:00.320 It means grappling with your fears of being rejected. It means grappling with your social
00:20:04.460 anxiety means grappling with your laziness and excuses the people in our 75 year study who were
00:20:11.320 the happiest in retirement were the people who had actively worked to replace workmates with new
00:20:17.760 playmates you see loneliness isn't just about being alone and struggling to find a partner or
00:20:21.920 get a hot match it's not the number of friends you have and it's not whether or not you're in a
00:20:25.200 committed relationship but it's the quality of your close relationships that matters in life
00:20:29.740 you need someone to communicate with you need someone to tie yourself with so your lives make
00:20:33.540 rope. You need someone to communicate with when times are good and share your triumphs. You need
00:20:37.940 someone to share your catastrophes. You need a framework that's stable, and it's strenuous and
00:20:41.840 hard. You will face heartbreaks. You will face anger, annoyance, sadness, despair, and moments
00:20:45.620 of self-loathing. So then, what was all this for, anyway?
00:20:50.120 Got only two minutes left, then we're gonna watch T-Talk right after. I want to see this
00:20:53.240 self-improvement, happy-go-lucky ending. Your life.
00:20:58.140 from the start this was never about tinder escaping your virtual reality meeting that girl
00:21:07.220 hi hi traveling around the world having a family it was the real life experiences you were looking
00:21:17.420 for it was a feeling a sensation the ability to look back on your life without ever having
00:21:21.760 to cast a thought towards why didn't i live life to its fullest have i wasted my life how did i
00:21:26.820 become so lonely and depressed would i ever get to see my kids smile the most important lesson
00:21:34.560 from this video was never about tinder it was about the one thing you will never regret having
00:21:38.900 the most love valuable thing in your life relationships has tinder ever helped you what
00:21:45.140 i got it love it it's the same shit shut the fuck up bro it's the same shit is your life
00:21:49.980 swiping texting briefly meeting waking up the next day and repeating the same cycle for years
00:21:56.260 How many experiences, how many chances to grow do you let slip through because of this pattern?
00:22:05.860 Well, perhaps you're fine with that reality.
00:22:07.920 And if that's the case, there's nothing to worry about.
00:22:10.360 The most you got from this video was a little entertainment and maybe a change in perspective.
00:22:14.180 But there are those of you that understand the other side.
00:22:16.640 Those of you that understand the price of cheap fixes.
00:22:18.980 The value of never needing to worry about what you didn't do.
00:22:21.880 If you're going into your 20s or 30s, you only have one shot at this.
00:22:25.960 Let finding a strong relationship be the meaningful struggle of your life.
00:22:29.460 Does it mean you'll be happy at the end of this road?
00:22:31.520 Only you can answer that question.
00:22:33.000 But if your struggle is meaningful, then perhaps it's worth pursuing.